Hard when it’s your mother,. I have finally accepted she has a disorder, still hard to deal with at times. I have to go low contact or no contact at times.
That’s true, I stood up to a narcissist every day, for decades. It’s soul destroying and ruins your life and health. Best advice I can give is, nip it in the bud and walk away.
O - O - O YES THEY DO! THEY SURE DO BECOME NERVOUS! I'M TALKING FROM EXPERIENCE! THAT IS THE REASON, WHY I'M LOOKING @ THIS TAPE. THEY JUST HIDE THEIR EMOTIONS, DARN GOOD! WHAT THEY CAN'T STAND IS, W H A T I G O T! PATIENCE AND VERY STRONG TOLLERANCE, TO THEIR FACELESS ACTIONS, AGAINST ME! I WORK AGAINST THEM SO, AND PRACTICALY, I REPELLED THEM, LIKE RAIN, FROM A TRENCH COAT?! WELL, WHO EVER READS THIS, USE THIS TACTIC? IT WORKED & WORKES FOR ME, IT MIGHT WORK, TO SOME OF YOU TOO?!! -HEY? TRY IT, YOU'LL LIKE IT??!
When my narc sisters were done with me I’ve gotten the silent treatment for 2 years. I have no idea why I always showed them loyalty love and respect. This was right after our son died and they didn’t even attend his funeral. I can’t even begin to describe the hurt. One is the malignant one and other 2 are her flying monkey. I don’t want them in my Life, they’ve shown me who they are! Good riddance
Toddler like temper tantrums when caught lying, they hate it when you call em out, they thrash and flail like fish on a hook 😂 they throw things, yell, even try to attack you, and hate when you take the moral high ground, dont sink to their level, and you will be in control
YES, EXACTLY. - IT WASN'T EASY, BUT SLOWLY & EVENTALY, I GOT RIDD OF THEM. GENTLY & SLOWLY, BUT I DID IT! SOME TOLD ME, I WAS TOO TAXTFUL, TO MUCH OF A GENTLEMAN. COULDN'T CARE LESS / MORE, BUT - BUT IT WORKEDFOR ME! + NOW FOR OVER 41/2 MOTHS.USE MY STYLE, IN TH NEXT TAPE, SOME HOW? SOME MEY GET A USE OUT OF IT??!
The only thing they're sorry for is that people have figured them out for who they really are, and they'll attempt to destroy anybody who could expose their lies and deception, even with solid proof of their actions. They don't care how many lives they have to destroy in the process, including their own children.
Yes, I can still see narcissists staying in my life because they want to express their low self-esteem to me and their hate speech. I have so many good things going on because I worked hard. And I guess that's their hard work in talent. Oh well. Nothing I can do for them. :( - EM1
If your lucky they will find some shiny new friends to give them supply and they won't even give you a backward glance, count yourself lucky and pick up the pieces, don't take them back under any circumstances.
This is amazing! I'm currently having issues with a roommate's boyfriend. My gut told me, immediately, he was BAD. He's got everyone else here wrapped up in his crap, but he's never been able to get anything over on me. He only talks down to me when no one else is around. Then tries to make me look crazy, after he's baited me. He's about to find out what happens when he pushes me too far.
They'll feel even more threatened when you call them on their bullshit in front of your mutual boss, by telling your boss, "The reason I was doing X using method A instead of method B which you suggested was because coworker told me method A was faster regardless of portion spec." Narcissists hate being thrown under the bus.
Narcissist are quite weak, they are in actual fact the co dependents too needing others to survive (but finding co dependents who they get in a relationship with, then plunder them) , because if they have no one, they implode.
And take your mail, open your mail, have you looked upon as crazy so as to ultimately deny you your constitutional right to a trial; attempt to frame you; take over your life and right to choose for yourself; harass you; traffick you; withhold information;smear campaign; contact your contacts; scapegoat you; identity theft and fraud; reroute your calls; and much much more.
We are already smarter than they are. The key is to not allow what makes us more evolved, our emotional maturity, cause for us to have so much empathy for them that we allow for them to abuse us. Most times, it is this empathy that gets us in trouble. We don’t respond the way we should at the first sign of misconduct because we assume that we are incorrect in our judgment. We are smart enough to know that if someone is damaged they are going to act out and mistreat others. So, we are more patient with them. This is where the problem comes in. Our caring and ability to identify with a person’s pain causes for us to fall victim to their callous behavior. We move the boundary for them because we believe if we do, we can help them. We believe that all they need is love. The problem is, they don’t really want it. They just wanted us to move the boundary. They literally want to see if they can continue to make us do things we not wish to do. They want to see if they can cause a reaction that is out of character. They want to watch us unravel. It makes them feel powerful. Moreover, if you feel sure that your husband might never cheat on you, you might have to rethink. Most wives in marriages are shocked when they find out their husband cheating, and it happens more with people who never thought they would cheat. This is why you have to take the tiniest suspicion carefully. If your husband is cheating on you, the best and probably the only guaranteed way to catch him is to spy on their phones. However, spying on a phone is not something you can do without any external help unless you have the James bond level of spy skills. In such case you will need an expert phone spyier Metaspyhub@gmail. com for the purpose,,,
This video is 100% accurate it both reaffirms things to me and teaches me about.. some of my questions. Unfortunately I am surrounded by them because it can run in families. Keep away from any that you suspect because you may well have their family after your blood aswell
Agree. I have a family next door like this. Mother and twin daughters are all like this. Absolutely no reason for them to consider themselves superior to others. If anything not that bright, rich or attractive etc. They also marry narcissists or a sucker. Fake as f...
YES, IT IS A GOOD ADVICE, TO RUN AWAY, BUT I CIFRONTED THE PROBLEM, HEAD ON! CALMLY, VERY LITTLE TALK - AND CONSISTANTLY, I SAYED THINGS, AS THEY WERE & ARE?! WOOHHH? THEY ALMOST GOT HIVES FROM ME! THANK GOODNESS, I'M A CALM & PANTIENT NATURED PERSON. THEY GOT VERYUPSET, AND LATER, THEY - THEM - THEY ACTUALY WANTED TO AVOID ME, INSTEAD OF, TARGETING ME?!! - THIS STYLE COULD / SHOULD WORK FOR SOME OTHERS TOO. YES, HERE ARE SOME GOOD ADVICES HER. THANK YOU.
I can't run away, they live beside me, and my parents are old, they will overtake my parents, I have to fight back, I learned to not fall for their bullshit, fact find them, or do things differently, not needing their help. Speak truth, do things honest,
@@RandyMcgough one more thing , if I were you , I would bore them . If the abuse you show No emotions just be silent . They will get bored of you eventually .
The armor of God and Alcoholics Anonymous 12 step program protects me now from these sad humans. I thank God for my empathy. Being raised and surrounded by Narcissists was not easy. The narc fleas are gone too. I pray for all who are suffering.
I gave up everything for my peace. Its so worth it. It also showed me weak relationships in my life. while they are trying to create a lying image of you. Once you win against them, beware, they will take any opportunity for the rest if their lives to get even. Cut them and anyone connected in any way. No exceptions. It is hard but possible and so worth it
I agree 💯, I'm at peace with it all , I love myself and have God in my heart, I'm free. I gave him so much love and trust, and he put me down. He lost a good lady. 😊 He is a lonely lost soul, that will never be happy. I feel sorry for his son, but 1 day he'll see it.
@Eveline68 I'm sure in some cases, but not all. When a person knows that they are kind, caring, giving, compassionate, and forgiving, and are abused by anyone for no reason at all, it's a fact that you are dealing with a narrist, bipolar, are schizophrenic person if you understand these disorders, and these traits. I learned about them after the fact, and gained knowledge, and studied them. Before, I would just say they crazy. Never knew about narististism until a few years back. And really think this subject should be taught in school, woman and men shelters that are abused. And trust me, me and my kids lived in many of them.
Same. I didn’t say happy Mother’s Day at all this year. Mine is very vindictive. She posted something on social media about how happy she is celebrating with her other daughter. lol
Wow 😲 really ! She did that. That's why we start treating them the same way they treat us I didn't tell my mother happy md neither and I don't fill at all bad about she didn't wish me a happy birthday 🎂 or nothing when my birthday came yet her & my 2 sister s always go out to eat and exchange gifts when ever there bday come around. I am so done with kissing they a** and I feel SOOOOO GOOD that I don't play into there bullsh** anymore. What go around come back around 💯 I'm only doing to them what was done to me for many years now I just stay far away from them and I'm much much Happier now 😁😁😁
I have to be careful about setting boundaries. Explicitly stating boundaries can be used by them as a roadmap to laser-focus their needling. So I try to be just inconsistent enough that my boundaries can’t be defined. I’ve found that stealthily withholding attention and attributing it to something else that doesn’t center the narcissist works best (they want to be centered, positive OR negative it doesn’t matter)
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Got discarded 3 months ago and finally realized I was victim of a narcissist relationship. After these months of complete silence, this person took their account back on my same social media after years of inactivity, and they've started contacting my friends. Also they've started posting so many stories to attract attention. None of my friends are taking them seriously. And it's so satisfying
I completely agree. - But narcos, D O adjust to circumstances, very quick & very well. It's nothing nwe, but cut down the discussing to minimal, once a while controdit them or say it's the other way / not so etc. That came in, to me. It does work,maybe ina long shot? but it does work! Try it?
Everyone's kind and loving. If anyone leaves, it's about compatibility, in my opinion. Conversation is also about compatibility. How brain is wired and degree of so many things... Relationship is quite complicated.
I was too strong for my ex narc. I would throw him off balance. I never depended on him for anything. I finally dumped him and he couldn’t accept it. Always trying to compete with me, He really was ridiculous
Same. I’m the person who always spit out the truth. He can’t stand it and broke up with me, said emotionally only i need him, he doesn’t, he wants his freedom back. So I let him go peacefully. He aggressively blocked me. But after the day we broke up, he unblocked me and started trying to get my attention back, sent me messages about something funny. I just ignored him. Cause he is a jerk. 5 days after, he sent me a message “so you don’t want to talk to me anymore, babe?” I responded “who gave you the right to call me babe? I would kick yo ass if you do this again.” And he said,” I want to be friend with you”. I still ignored him. He started to invite my girlfriends to hang out, 1 rejected, 1 went with him and started to meet him every single day. She has a boyfriend, started to date him and cheating with him, talking about me on my back with him, but pretended that she was still my friend. Guess what, she’s narc too. I just kicked her out and blocked both of them.
There is only one limit with a covert narcissist - no contact (no at all). Everything else is BS. You can't draw a real line for a psychopath. He doesn't care about your bondaries. If they listened to you temporarily, they would start abusing you in another way. They are very resourceful.
I agree with this to a point. I take it very personal when they get to the point of wanting to harm me. I saw this threat up close. The jealousy was so intense I was being stalked. I had to tell others and seek protection, so don't say its not about me personally.
So many comments following the emotional push to run away, which may be for the best, but often it may be better to study emotional development and meditate to understand yourselves better and grow, then yeah leave if they’re aggressively resistant to positive change.
Those who can't control themselves are the ones who wants to control others, and that's for me what defines a narcissistic person. Government agencies requires narcissistic persons only and the way to keep that facade is through the power of fire power of a strong government.
num 3 is priceless... basically let the narc filter the people in your immediate surroundings.... it's gonna be painful..yes.. it's going to be ugly..yes ...that may bring you down for a moment ... absolutely....but remember this if someone who you consider close friend or family is easley sway that you are bad by another person brused ego....well that's not a "friend" who you wanna keep around you... imagine how much they know you if they're perception about you is soo fragile that anyone can shattered it.... Heal move on and don't ever stop hoping that you will surround your self with true people.. because you will it's inevitable just....after dark there always comes ligh it's a cycle
Don’t state targets are attracting perpetrators into their lives. That’s victim blaming and as bad as telling sexual assault victims it was what they wore that caused the attack. The only thing that makes people violent is the choice to be violent. There are plenty of people around humans with the same feelings or frustrations, yet don’t attack. The difference is their decisions.
There is very little out thee about convert narcissism as it is less spottable and more complex than overt narcissism. This is a very concise explanation of their behaviour.
Thank you for describing my situation for the past 20 years, I always knew this behavior was not normal and I for sure know am not crazy. Everything you exposed here has been done to me by a man who claims to love me. I just removed my rings and earrings, all gifts that my partner has given me throughout the years as a symbol of my freedom. I just broke the chains that kept me with him, he did it last night to our daughter, who took a stand for me and her, he was simply unable to recognize the truth and unwilling to accept his responsibility in hurting our family with his strange behaviors, trying to put the blame on her who is 13. That’s when I woke up. Also feeling the support of my daughter gave me the strength I was lacking to put and end to such a toxic situation, I thought leaving him would hurt her but I realize staying has done so probably more than it was necessary. I am grateful for this content which reassured me of what I have always known to be the truth.
Even though, way at the beginning, thats what he liked about me…I had “spunk” was what he said. Eventually, when I became accomplished in something, he NEVER was supportive.
Good video.. especially the end conclusion regarding healing, and setting boundaries. The healing/recovery process may take awhile...but well worth it. ✌️
For people saying you can’t walk away from a narcissist if they’re a family, my question to you is why not? The only way I would continue to deal with a narcissist is if they’re a minor child, but once that child is an adult you should say goodbye.
@@maureenikeakhe1429 say good bye. I know it’s difficult, my sister is a narcissist but after being the victim for years I still chose to walk and away to live a healthier life. You can too.
Since I like comedy very much, & I combined the situatin with it, I just told to this narc. - hey darling? i miss you as much as a - G - in my lasagna? they didn't get it, only I met with her, i abot 4 days, and she told it to me. Yet I ignored her, totaly!! I guess, she got my point by now??!
They nourish their egos, by mentally & emotionally dominating the weak. Weakness is to them what spinach was to Popeye. So when I stood against foolishness & required that my so called friend take accountability for his poor behavior, he bailed. Now he lives to turn others against me. The jealousy & gaslighting are UNMATCHED! Whoever wants to believe whatever he says can feel free to do so. They will find out. He will do them the same way. But my life is far less dramatic without that poisonous group of vipers. I used to live a life of migraines….in the 6 months since we broke ties, I have NOT had a single one! This speaks volumes❤❤❤
OMG toxic narcissistic MIL - so relatable. They destroy you and what is more, they make you feel guilty for their destructive behaviour, they never apologize and they show they didn't do anything wrong and the victim is the one to blame.
I sought civil restraining order and was granted In court. Upstairs neighbor thinks I'm his property and I shall tolerate his biligerant foul mouth. Temper tantrums and violence is what he's into and he's got zero maturity at age 59 as well as substance abuse. He's finally evicted this month
I felt bad because i thought i was not good enough for him. But Because he was mirroring me. I realized i was too good for him, for him to have to change to be like me to like him. Then he showed his true colors. Then i realized i love me not him. That me it easy to live for me not for evil.
I also want to learn to read peoples mind by seeing Instagram photos correctly so that my mind will be aware of those person whether to be friend with them or not
You can learn to dowsing with a pendulum, then you can decide very fast if someone is a good match for you or not 🙏... Everyone should dowse 😂.. Could even Change the energy of narcissistic people that way. Check out Raymon Grace if you're interested. 👍
This is all a long list of aggressions against a victim. Why would anyone want a narc to see them as strong? It starts a campaign to destroy you. Isn’t it better then for the narcissist to not see you as strong and lose interest?
My father passed away a few days ago. And when he was in a hospital, he showed up in my dream during sleep. He taught me how to shoot a hunting gun because his hobby was hunting. And the bullets in that dream were strangely nails. And I nailed in that dream. Dreams come true. We thank us, - EM1
the only way to deal with the narcissist is to just be you and if you know yourself than you know how to walk away from them or even if they are around just be you and ignore them... we can¨t change them, and the choices is always your own.
People who keep track will try to put their tag on every good thing. Thats what they showed through colour play and painting every good thing with the colour which they associated themselves.
I remember my narcissist wife once telling me during the early days of our relationship, "I usually scold people easily, but with you, you're different and it's hard. It's like a challenge to me," and she laughed. I was too naive at the time to realize she was actually a narcissist.
🙄🙄 AW I’ve An ex friend of mines was a complainer, a classic narcissist & always denied it when I’d call her out for it.. the type of person who thinks they’re opinions & voices are more valid & true than everyone else’s.. they’re also prone to bullying (not me, bc I’d not stand for it, but others who have a little less self esteem maybe & due to that think that it’s normal for folk with bitchy attitudes to belittle you in front of others.. Not me, I’m more the type who would ask the victimised person if they’re ok & then tell the person, usually right in front of the shy/traumatised individual, it’s not ok to do that to someone/speak to someone like that.. You’ve no idea what they’ve went through today, or even in the last 24 hours leading up to coming here, to then be met with you’re bombardments of bitchiness. There’s just no need..🤨🤨 Also & quite often, when it was me & her she was awfully NICE.. but the minute there was ANYONE ELSE she could use that as “an audience” & out came those same mean nasty jibes.. But the best of all, was I’d ALWAYS CALL HER OUT ON IT.😊 Oh & she did not like that.. I’d get threats, like “if you want us to stay friends, then you should learn to button it Jen” 😆 So I’d say “Yeah but you were nice as pie to me before so & so came in,,& that’s not right” She’d usually reluctantly apologise.. 😆 But like I’ve mentioned above,if she was giving someone abusive or bitchy comments in my presence, I’d get warned for that too. With “what right have you got to but into that conversation-you’ve no rights to undermine me in my own house” so I’d say stuff like “yeah, I’m sorry but he/she was clearly upset& I was just letting them know it’s ok & not to be scared, or whatever” 🤨 BUT THIS WOMEN I SWEAR TO GOD HAD AN ANSWER FOR EVERYTHING,, THE OTHER THING WAS MOST FOLKS WOULD PANDER TO HER CHILDISH BITCHY & IGNORANT BEHAVIOUR.. (folks would usually say to me, Jen, how are you not scared of her, how do you do that, meaning stand up for myself & others.. my answer would usually always be the same.) Remember at school there’d be a bully, usually surrounded by their minions..who usually didn’t rlly like the bully person but where too scared to stand up to them bc then they’d be outcasts & No1 wants that in school, every kid wants to be pals with 1 of the popular kids..😊 BUT IF YOU RLLY KNOW YOURSELF-LIKE MY MUM TAUGHT ALL OF US.. NO1 CAN TELL YOU THAT YOURE ANYTHING OTHER THAN YOURSELF.. IF THEY TRY TO INTIMIDATE YOU, WALK AWAY OR EVEN LAUGH AT THEM..😊 LETS FACE IT WHATS THE WORST THATS GONNA HAPPEN, THE POPULAR KIDS WONT LIKE YOU, BUT I BET ANY MONEY SOME OF THE GROUP WILL SECRETLY ADMIRE YOU, BC YOU’VE HAD THE GUTS TO STAND FIRM IN YOUR BELIEFS OF KNOWING YOURSELF.🥰 The other & main reason I stuck around was bc id been friends with her since our kids where at preschool together, so I’d known her a very long time.. I watched her health slowly deteriorating & to me, as a caring sort of person..(who’s not so caring, I wont take anyones shit)..but she WAS ELDERLY & GETTING MORE INFIRM & I always remember a rlly bit of good advice my gran gave me, always help others Jen, and if poss try to encourage them to help themselves.. (so,in case your asking WHY DIDNT I JUST ABADON HER) well, I did her house work, went grocery shopping with her & other places like to the doctors surgery etc., bc she did have huge swollen leaky legs..I’m sure it’s called cellulitis, a nasty infection in the deep layers of skin & also needed to use a walker & was about the age of my own mother.. (also all my other family lived over 50 miles away)..So when I did eventually move closer to my family, some may think I’ve no place in doing this, but I had stern words with both of her adult sons, who both have cars & live very close by to their mother.. Also, I didn’t feel guilty bc I know there where other girls as well as her sons wife’s mother, who was very close to her also & for about 2-3 years before I’d left she was great at helping her, as much as I did..(also bc she was her daughter in laws mother aka her sons mother in law-yeah strange set up) but I do remember a few deep conversations with her on me planning on leaving..WHICH HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH OUR FRIENDSHIP..IT WAS DUE TO THE FACT THAT I WAS DEEPLY LONELY BEING OVER 50miles away from my family,,also due to my partner passing away after a long continuous illnesses, the main 1 being TB, which he got in 2011- then bronchiectasis, which was horrific he was constantly in & out of hospital for sometimes days, other times weeks to try multiple medications/procedures etc to stop him from coughing up blood every day,. 🥺🥺 Clearly they couldn’t & bc of his daft attitude against stopping drinking he was just a ticking time bomb..so obv the cirrhosis of his liver got worse..Then kidney problems started & at 41 his body just couldn’t take it all anymore.. 💔💔💔 OBVIOUSLY ILL NEVER FORGET SCOTT-as defiant as he was he was my best friend as we knew each other since high school..went our sep ways+ had daughters to other partners & then in 2001,we reunited❣️ The rlly sweet thing regarding his death was our street was a new build (after they had dismantled & regenerated my whole local area) So our new street was made & we all moved in 2009 & twas sweet bc most folks had already been neighbours from the blocks which where demolished) So on the day of Scott’s funeral all the cars came into our street which was a rlly cute cul-de-sac & all of our neighbours stood on their doorsteps, some even brought flowers over,just before all the family gotten into the funeral cars,,I felt so touched by that, as a few of our closest neighbours also came along to the service.Which Scott would’ve liked.. (🙄 SO SORRY I WENT WAY OFF SUBJECT THERE..)But the ONLY REASON I LEFT MY ADORABLE & TBH, EVERY DAY I STILL MISS IT & sometimes feel I’ve made a huge mistake,,but the 3bedroom house,which was a brand new build, like I’ve mentioned..It was for me,Scott,my daughter who was 15,almost 16 & the other spare room was for his 2 daughters..who are 1 & 2 years younger than mines.. 💞💞 SADLY THO, & AGAIN IM SORRY IVE TYPED POSS WAY TOO MUCH INFO. AS THIS WAS MEANT TO ME JUST A REPLY ON NARCISSIST EX FRIEND!!! 🥰 So thanx to you all who did take the time I’m reading this,esp the extra personal bits of info at the bottom..🥰 As much as I do, on most days miss my 3bedroom front/back garden house, on the outskirts of Edinburgh. My man’s no longer there & my daughters & step daughters have all moved on with their lives. 2 are married & 1 travels the world, I think she writes travel blogs,, it’s been a few years since I last spoke to them. But the plus side of all of this IS IVE SURVIVED NARCISSISTIC ABUSE (as some like to call it).. And I’m now living in the same town, in the beautiful Scottish Borders within walking distance to my 4 brothers, my mum, my daughter & my 4 nieces & my nephew is at Uni.. 🥰🎊 SO ITS ALL TURNED OUT THE WAY THE UNIVERSE INTENDED IT TO BE..🥰 WHOEVER YOU ARE- WHATEVER LIFE THROWS AT YOU, REMEMBER TOMORROW IS POSS GONNA BE A BETTER DAY..❣️ (ONLY LOOK BACK, IF YOUR REMEMBERING LESSONS LEARNED & YOU TAKE SOME OF THAT FORWARD ON YOUR YET TO LIVE JOURNEY) 🤍 SHARE LOVE FOLKS-THERES TOO MUCH HATE IN THE WORLD🤍
I have a freind who's ex husband is a narcissist. He blows up every time he sees me. He will throw out threats like I know people who will make your life hell. I just look at them and say OK and. He loses it all over again. I know one of these days he will do this in front of the wrong person.
Yes, they will and they will send a psychopath your way! God will come in a LARGE way for them when they least expect it!! I pray for them ALL, that they will change their hearts and it’s not too late! Glory be to God!!🙏🎚️❤️🕊🎶🌟
True my frind, very true, but we the targeted people, we also have to use the blessings, and use them, against those, who are trasspassing against us?!! I'm sure, you mean well. give it a very strong try? out psiche them??! -
You can't defeat a narcissist but you can ignore them, they will still think they are victorious over you because you are trying to avoid them and the argument and battle they were hoping to instigate. The way you all should look at life is you are either the hammer or the nail getting smashed into the wall until you break. it's better to be the offender than always be the target that's always offended , if they offend you once they will continue to do so forever because its amusing and fun and always too easy you will always be their entertainment. Being too sensitive or being too kind won't stop people from taking advantage of you anyway, and won't stop them from continuing to not care about you at all, or stop them from continuing to disrespect you anyway because you are a wimp and a pushover who's too worried about not bothering and offending people.
I set some boundaries when I've been questioned like i didn't know how to do a simple job knowing I've been trained efficiently i under stand I've mistakes we all have but i ain't trying to compeat with anyone or steal their thunder or whatever....i have my own strengths just like they do as far as taking their behaviors to the extreme that's where i keep my mouth shut don't say nothing and avoid conflicts. I'm done playing with their mind games i understand the rules and consequences of the dlightest miscalculations this fool named Jamal i use to work with was a pain in the pass he would be codependent, passive aggressive like a manic even act like he's all that to be superior i don't work with him anymore...but i'd try to stay away from him as much as i can...as far as undermining me to fabricating things ,i would be at fault for him repeating himself as i made things worst but I'm learning the hard way..I'd try to avoid engaging in drama that may lead to dramatic arugements...no body wants to fight with me or go to war with me I'm being real nice it's best to not take me there.
@kathyhansen2820 that sucks it sounds like you were doing dealing a stalker and a crazy psychotic fool I'm sorry that happened to you I hope he'll never bother you again. You hang in there ok? if he bothers yoy again reported to the police or taking fighting lessons against him.
This is so funny to watch my friend helped me with a narcissist, she was really strong and stood up for herself, the narcissist in the end had a mental breakdown and huge foot stamping tantrum showing their true colours just because she couldn't manipulate my friend and by extension me, thankfully the narcissist is out of my life forever
The only problem is if the person isn't a narcissist these methods can severely harm the person. Too often people believe their partners are narcissistic when in reality the problems are misplaced anger or emotional problems that go unaddressed
I ve been stuck in an abusive friendship for a very long time. Every time I try and distance myself or say my part it results in this person being very abusive and invalidating. I end up doubting and questioning my own reality. I don’t know how to put a final boundary that is clear
After watching this video, I think I need to change my living environment. Those narcissistic traits fit, more or less, pretty much everyone around me at any job I take and why I can't get a cue about anything anybody does around me. When interacting with someone, I always felt that I am never on the same page with anyone and I tend to get some sort of "brain error" while talking with people. This error comes usually in form of thoughts, like: "is this guy serious or just trolling me?", "bro, I literally have no idea what do you want from me" and then I tend to look at them like one would look at something that caught his interest and trying figuring them out. I was told that I am just antisocial or retarded but I never actually took that as an insult (I mean, one cannot take seriously such words if he has similar feelings towards a person that speaks such word towards him, am I right?). Thanks for this video, I think I found some new information that I was lacking. I hope you have a great day, cuz you've certainly made my day a bit better!
They run away when you stand up for yourself.
they do! thye run and hide for weeks on end!
Nah... my ex looked at as a challenge. I moved away changed my number and didn't look back.
You changed name too?@@TheTruthAlwaysRevealsItself
They don't run away, they ghost you and spread rumors behind your back before comming back to stab you when you lower the gard.
hmm no, some get mad and start blaming one for stuff instead?
The only way to defeat a narcissist is to leave them and never look back.
You have to deal with narcissists everyday all day. You can't leave them all. For me, I have to learn to deal with them.
Hard when it’s your mother,. I have finally accepted she has a disorder, still hard to deal with at times. I have to go low contact or no contact at times.
U can't if they are your parents, spouse or children 😢😢😢😢
Amen 🖤
That’s true, I stood up to a narcissist every day, for decades. It’s soul destroying and ruins your life and health.
Best advice I can give is, nip it in the bud and walk away.
The narcissist becomes not confident, nervous, and restless when they know you're strong.
Now I know why my ex crush being nervous hahahaha
I was called difficult when she's the one acting bitchy and entitled to me 😂
They swing between narcissistic arrogance and codependency.
O - O - O YES THEY DO! THEY SURE DO BECOME NERVOUS! I'M TALKING FROM EXPERIENCE! THAT IS THE REASON, WHY I'M LOOKING @ THIS TAPE. THEY JUST HIDE THEIR EMOTIONS, DARN GOOD! WHAT THEY CAN'T STAND IS, W H A T I G O T! PATIENCE AND VERY STRONG TOLLERANCE, TO THEIR FACELESS ACTIONS, AGAINST ME! I WORK AGAINST THEM SO, AND PRACTICALY, I REPELLED THEM, LIKE RAIN, FROM A TRENCH COAT?! WELL, WHO EVER READS THIS, USE THIS TACTIC? IT WORKED & WORKES FOR ME, IT MIGHT WORK, TO SOME OF YOU TOO?!! -HEY? TRY IT, YOU'LL LIKE IT??!
I will try what you say. I think it will help me, and not them, thanks
SILENCE is your greatest weapon, observe
When my narc sisters were done with me I’ve gotten the silent treatment for 2 years. I have no idea why I always showed them loyalty love and respect. This was right after our son died and they didn’t even attend his funeral. I can’t even begin to describe the hurt. One is the malignant one and other 2 are her flying monkey. I don’t want them in my
Life, they’ve shown me who they are! Good riddance
@@donnahatchett1787So sorry to hear about your son and then the unsupportive family. Hope that you're doing better now
And give them that look, just look mean, like you know what they are doing.
Im a big mouth and yes I AM A THREAT...TO....tell ya later
This video is ABSOLUTELY correct when it says that, at some point, they will try to RUIN YOUR REPUTATION.
Funny thing is that, when you don't have a reputation ( why should you? ), they can't destroy it. They just destroy themselves.
@@pascals.4432 Thanks. It sounds great, I can't see how that is true though. But it feels comforting.
Indeed
@@pascals.4432 this approach is great!
@markthomas2436 Ruin your reputation with whom? Their friends? Who cares.
When you stand up for yourself, a narcissist will lose their shit. They'll twist it, get offended, deflect, and gaslight you.
Toddler like temper tantrums when caught lying, they hate it when you call em out, they thrash and flail like fish on a hook 😂 they throw things, yell, even try to attack you, and hate when you take the moral high ground, dont sink to their level, and you will be in control
YES, EXACTLY. - IT WASN'T EASY, BUT SLOWLY & EVENTALY, I GOT RIDD OF THEM. GENTLY & SLOWLY, BUT I DID IT! SOME TOLD ME, I WAS TOO TAXTFUL, TO MUCH OF A GENTLEMAN. COULDN'T CARE LESS / MORE, BUT - BUT IT WORKEDFOR ME! + NOW FOR OVER 41/2 MOTHS.USE MY STYLE, IN TH NEXT TAPE, SOME HOW? SOME MEY GET A USE OUT OF IT??!
They get real jumpy & panic, over-react & can't wait to talk bad about you with someone else. I have a "sister" like this. What's up BECKY.
Hahahaha the greeting a the end killed me!
Omg this is exactly how my sister acts when I come around her ! All the time I’m so sick of it !! Sarah ,777
I just did battle with a narcissist for 6 months. Her name.....Becky.
I don’t know Sarah, Becky’s not on the Internet trying to get sympathy points from strangers🎉
@@Handle70770 I don’t think she’s seeking sympathy, healing feels amazing
‘When that shift happens, you won’t miss it’ - spot on
They only care about themselves. Zero empathy, zero remorse.
The only thing they're sorry for is that people have figured them out for who they really are, and they'll attempt to destroy anybody who could expose their lies and deception, even with solid proof of their actions. They don't care how many lives they have to destroy in the process, including their own children.
And they don't even really care for themselves. Sad creatures.
"quit expecting to be enough for people who aren't even enough for themselves"
Boundaries are everything, only you can PSYCHOLOGICALLY SEE THEM.
Yes, I can still see narcissists staying in my life because they want to express their low self-esteem to me and their hate speech. I have so many good things going on because I worked hard. And I guess that's their hard work in talent. Oh well. Nothing I can do for them. :(
- EM1
No matter what you do w a narc = a disaster. Narcs are ridiculous.
Move on and start over. Cut your losses and start again.
If your lucky they will find some shiny new friends to give them supply and they won't even give you a backward glance, count yourself lucky and pick up the pieces, don't take them back under any circumstances.
So true
Shiny new friend😂 so true😂😂😂 exactly what happened
We were once a shiny new friend
This is amazing! I'm currently having issues with a roommate's boyfriend. My gut told me, immediately, he was BAD. He's got everyone else here wrapped up in his crap, but he's never been able to get anything over on me. He only talks down to me when no one else is around. Then tries to make me look crazy, after he's baited me. He's about to find out what happens when he pushes me too far.
Do not give him your reaction, just ignore or gray rock. it is better and it feels even better to not react to these people.
If his ain't on the lease....
@@matthewlynch903We had one who wasn't an owner in the building bullying owners. He legally could have been barred from owners meetings.
My husband behaves like this . He talk so bad in alone and he behaves so good in front of others that no one believes me
@@HinaTariq-hg5ssI hear you my spouse is a narc too
Speech is silver but Silence is golden. The best weapon in dealing with a Narcissist k!
They will enlist other people to be their allies by saying bad things about you to them.
You are absolutely right... And at the end their behaviour make their allies to run away too
🐒 flying monkeys
Won't runaway...
Rather...butt fudging each other.
This.
They'll feel even more threatened when you call them on their bullshit in front of your mutual boss, by telling your boss, "The reason I was doing X using method A instead of method B which you suggested was because coworker told me method A was faster regardless of portion spec." Narcissists hate being thrown under the bus.
Narcissist are quite weak, they are in actual fact the co dependents too needing others to survive (but finding co dependents who they get in a relationship with, then plunder them) , because if they have no one, they implode.
They need you more than you need them.
Spot on. They will even have you stalked on false pretense.
And take your mail, open your mail, have you looked upon as crazy so as to ultimately deny you your constitutional right to a trial; attempt to frame you; take over your life and right to choose for yourself; harass you; traffick you; withhold information;smear campaign; contact your contacts; scapegoat you; identity theft and fraud; reroute your calls; and much much more.
🎯 sending their flying monkeys to spy on you, the innocent survivor.
Yes, I spotted that too.
@@FaithfulandTrue949 are you one of the stalkers?
@anotherday8106 why, are you? I'm an innocent survivor...
We are already smarter than they are. The key is to not allow what makes us more evolved, our emotional maturity, cause for us to have so much empathy for them that we allow for them to abuse us. Most times, it is this empathy that gets us in trouble. We don’t respond the way we should at the first sign of misconduct because we assume that we are incorrect in our judgment. We are smart enough to know that if someone is damaged they are going to act out and mistreat others. So, we are more patient with them. This is where the problem comes in. Our caring and ability to identify with a person’s pain causes for us to fall victim to their callous behavior. We move the boundary for them because we believe if we do, we can help them. We believe that all they need is love. The problem is, they don’t really want it. They just wanted us to move the boundary. They literally want to see if they can continue to make us do things we not wish to do. They want to see if they can cause a reaction that is out of character. They want to watch us unravel. It makes them feel powerful. Moreover, if you feel sure that your husband might never cheat on you, you might have to rethink. Most wives in marriages are shocked when they find out their husband cheating, and it happens more with people who never thought they would cheat. This is why you have to take the tiniest suspicion carefully. If your husband is cheating on you, the best and probably the only guaranteed way to catch him is to spy on their phones. However, spying on a phone is not something you can do without any external help unless you have the James bond level of spy skills. In such case you will need an expert phone spyier Metaspyhub@gmail. com for the purpose,,,
Spot on.
@@laura-2 They have many demons in them. They see our light and hate that they don't have it, so they try their best to destroy it.
This video is 100% accurate it both reaffirms things to me and teaches me about.. some of my questions. Unfortunately I am surrounded by them because it can run in families. Keep away from any that you suspect because you may well have their family after your blood aswell
💯 They live in the matrix and will fight to protect it. 0:20
Tell me about it. Women can be pieces of work.
Just to add...I completely understand why most women hate themselves. If I were to think like most females, I'd hate myself too.
...and what they will do to a woman they feel as though they can't compete with...the devil has nothing on them.
Agree. I have a family next door like this. Mother and twin daughters are all like this. Absolutely no reason for them to consider themselves superior to others. If anything not that bright, rich or attractive etc. They also marry narcissists or a sucker. Fake as f...
This is why you just RUN AWAY.
They are hollow people
Agree I did it like that
YES, IT IS A GOOD ADVICE, TO RUN AWAY, BUT I CIFRONTED THE PROBLEM, HEAD ON! CALMLY, VERY LITTLE TALK - AND CONSISTANTLY, I SAYED THINGS, AS THEY WERE & ARE?! WOOHHH? THEY ALMOST GOT HIVES FROM ME! THANK GOODNESS, I'M A CALM & PANTIENT NATURED PERSON. THEY GOT VERYUPSET, AND LATER, THEY - THEM - THEY ACTUALY WANTED TO AVOID ME, INSTEAD OF, TARGETING ME?!! - THIS STYLE COULD / SHOULD WORK FOR SOME OTHERS TOO. YES, HERE ARE SOME GOOD ADVICES HER. THANK YOU.
I can't run away, they live beside me, and my parents are old, they will overtake my parents, I have to fight back, I learned to not fall for their bullshit, fact find them, or do things differently, not needing their help. Speak truth, do things honest,
@@RandyMcgough one more thing , if I were you , I would bore them . If the abuse you show No emotions just be silent . They will get bored of you eventually .
Masters at putting on a front
Absolutely.
True @@TheMazinoz
The armor of God and Alcoholics Anonymous 12 step program protects me now from these sad humans. I thank God for my empathy. Being raised and surrounded by Narcissists was not easy. The narc fleas are gone too. I pray for all who are suffering.
This was very informative and 100% true. No contact is mental protection for our minds. Good luck.😊
I wish so much! We have 3 kids together 😔
I gave up everything for my peace. Its so worth it. It also showed me weak relationships in my life. while they are trying to create a lying image of you. Once you win against them, beware, they will take any opportunity for the rest if their lives to get even. Cut them and anyone connected in any way. No exceptions. It is hard but possible and so worth it
I agree 💯, I'm at peace with it all , I love myself and have God in my heart, I'm free.
I gave him so much love and trust, and he put me down.
He lost a good lady. 😊
He is a lonely lost soul, that will never be happy.
I feel sorry for his son, but 1 day he'll see it.
It's a very popular subject. I think this is the narcist era. Accusing people of narcism makes people forget to see their own narcism.
@Eveline68 I'm sure in some cases, but not all. When a person knows that they are kind, caring, giving, compassionate, and forgiving, and are abused by anyone for no reason at all, it's a fact that you are dealing with a narrist, bipolar, are schizophrenic person if you understand these disorders, and these traits. I learned about them after the fact, and gained knowledge, and studied them. Before, I would just say they crazy. Never knew about narististism until a few years back. And really think this subject should be taught in school, woman and men shelters that are abused. And trust me, me and my kids lived in many of them.
My mother the covert narcissist, plays the victim, runs smear campaigns on me and all the things that narcissists do.
Mines is the same way. She won't be getting a happy mother's day from Me this year. NO WAY 🚫
Same. I didn’t say happy Mother’s Day at all this year. Mine is very vindictive. She posted something on social media about how happy she is celebrating with her other daughter. lol
Wow 😲 really ! She did that. That's why we start treating them the same way they treat us I didn't tell my mother happy md neither and I don't fill at all bad about she didn't wish me a happy birthday 🎂 or nothing when my birthday came yet her & my 2 sister s always go out to eat and exchange gifts when ever there bday come around. I am so done with kissing they a** and I feel SOOOOO GOOD that I don't play into there bullsh** anymore. What go around come back around 💯 I'm only doing to them what was done to me for many years now I just stay far away from them and I'm much much Happier now 😁😁😁
Mine too.
Mine too.. I move to live with my grandma
Peace is the goal, anything charming or trying to be convincing wants to break that. Protect your peace at all costs.
I have to be careful about setting boundaries. Explicitly stating boundaries can be used by them as a roadmap to laser-focus their needling. So I try to be just inconsistent enough that my boundaries can’t be defined. I’ve found that stealthily withholding attention and attributing it to something else that doesn’t center the narcissist works best (they want to be centered, positive OR negative it doesn’t matter)
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Yes he is. dr.sporessss
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
Can Dr. sporessss send to me in UK?
Got discarded 3 months ago and finally realized I was victim of a narcissist relationship. After these months of complete silence, this person took their account back on my same social media after years of inactivity, and they've started contacting my friends. Also they've started posting so many stories to attract attention. None of my friends are taking them seriously. And it's so satisfying
If you don’t care and are always paying attention you will make them mad without even trying. Having real confidence is also very important
Spread love ❤ not hate…. If someone doesn’t recognise true love then leave as it is
Absolutely.
I completely agree. - But narcos, D O adjust to circumstances, very quick & very well. It's nothing nwe, but cut down the discussing to minimal, once a while controdit them or say it's the other way / not so etc. That came in, to me. It does work,maybe ina long shot? but it does work! Try it?
Everyone's kind and loving. If anyone leaves, it's about compatibility, in my opinion. Conversation is also about compatibility. How brain is wired and degree of so many things... Relationship is quite complicated.
@@alfredbenedek3398 Relationship is not a math science. Lol
I was too strong for my ex narc. I would throw him off balance. I never depended on him for anything. I finally dumped him and he couldn’t accept it. Always trying to compete with me, He really was ridiculous
You do notice that you sound just like a narc?
No they don't. Independence is not a narc trait.
@@1985reeza Gtfo you need therapy 😂
She doesn't sound like a narc
Same. I’m the person who always spit out the truth. He can’t stand it and broke up with me, said emotionally only i need him, he doesn’t, he wants his freedom back. So I let him go peacefully. He aggressively blocked me.
But after the day we broke up, he unblocked me and started trying to get my attention back, sent me messages about something funny. I just ignored him. Cause he is a jerk. 5 days after, he sent me a message “so you don’t want to talk to me anymore, babe?” I responded “who gave you the right to call me babe? I would kick yo ass if you do this again.” And he said,” I want to be friend with you”. I still ignored him.
He started to invite my girlfriends to hang out, 1 rejected, 1 went with him and started to meet him every single day. She has a boyfriend, started to date him and cheating with him, talking about me on my back with him, but pretended that she was still my friend. Guess what, she’s narc too.
I just kicked her out and blocked both of them.
This video feels so appropriate for me. Thanks RUclips gods for connecting me with such information. It really is amazing sometimes.😊
We should be aware of this narcissistic sociopath
Awareness and boundaries is important
and when possible ignore them completely or just ran away .
Hey, Greg. I’m still here, rich, and laughing at you.
Well done ❤
😍
Greg can suck it! 😂🖕
This is EXACTLY my current situation with my college teacher.
Set boundaries
They treat boundaries like assault courses
There is only one limit with a covert narcissist - no contact (no at all). Everything else is BS. You can't draw a real line for a psychopath. He doesn't care about your bondaries. If they listened to you temporarily, they would start abusing you in another way. They are very resourceful.
They don't care about boundaries, they don't recognise them
I agree with this to a point. I take it very personal when they get to the point of wanting to harm me. I saw this threat up close. The jealousy was so intense I was being stalked. I had to tell others and seek protection, so don't say its not about me personally.
So many comments following the emotional push to run away, which may be for the best, but often it may be better to study emotional development and meditate to understand yourselves better and grow, then yeah leave if they’re aggressively resistant to positive change.
This video absolutely describes my covert narcissist mother and brother with strong narcissistic traits, learned from our mother.
Those who can't control themselves are the ones who wants to control others, and that's for me what defines a narcissistic person.
Government agencies requires narcissistic persons only and the way to keep that facade is through the power of fire power of a strong government.
num 3 is priceless... basically let the narc filter the people in your immediate surroundings.... it's gonna be painful..yes.. it's going to be ugly..yes ...that may bring you down for a moment ... absolutely....but remember this if someone who you consider close friend or family is easley sway that you are bad by another person brused ego....well that's not a "friend" who you wanna keep around you... imagine how much they know you if they're perception about you is soo fragile that anyone can shattered it.... Heal move on and don't ever stop hoping that you will surround your self with true people.. because you will it's inevitable just....after dark there always comes ligh it's a cycle
Don’t state targets are attracting perpetrators into their lives. That’s victim blaming and as bad as telling sexual assault victims it was what they wore that caused the attack. The only thing that makes people violent is the choice to be violent. There are plenty of people around humans with the same feelings or frustrations, yet don’t attack. The difference is their decisions.
There is some truth to this. I think its a compliment. They are attracted to people who do well so they can try and take credit for your success
Thank you,that was helpful.
There is very little out thee about convert narcissism as it is less spottable and more complex than overt narcissism. This is a very concise explanation of their behaviour.
Thank you for describing my situation for the past 20 years, I always knew this behavior was not normal and I for sure know am not crazy. Everything you exposed here has been done to me by a man who claims to love me. I just removed my rings and earrings, all gifts that my partner has given me throughout the years as a symbol of my freedom. I just broke the chains that kept me with him, he did it last night to our daughter, who took a stand for me and her, he was simply unable to recognize the truth and unwilling to accept his responsibility in hurting our family with his strange behaviors, trying to put the blame on her who is 13. That’s when I woke up. Also feeling the support of my daughter gave me the strength I was lacking to put and end to such a toxic situation, I thought leaving him would hurt her but I realize staying has done so probably more than it was necessary. I am grateful for this content which reassured me of what I have always known to be the truth.
Don’t look back
My exact story. Also with my 13 yr old daughter and 16 yr old daughter who has been ready for me to get away from their own father
They try to break you . Only think to do is leave
Narcissists nonsense! You hit the nail!!
I realized that someone in my life was a narcissist when I told them of my recent accomplishment, and they told me, "I've done that."
Even though, way at the beginning, thats what he liked about me…I had “spunk” was what he said. Eventually, when I became accomplished in something, he NEVER was supportive.
Never! Or even if they try it’s almost impossible for them to get out the words of even being fake nice.
Good video.. especially the end conclusion regarding healing, and setting boundaries. The healing/recovery process may take awhile...but well worth it. ✌️
For people saying you can’t walk away from a narcissist if they’re a family, my question to you is why not?
The only way I would continue to deal with a narcissist is if they’re a minor child, but once that child is an adult you should say goodbye.
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@@maureenikeakhe1429 say good bye. I know it’s difficult, my sister is a narcissist but after being the victim for years I still chose to walk and away to live a healthier life. You can too.
When u don’t feel respect from anyone for who u are.. tell them karma is like position 69.. it comes back..
Since I like comedy very much, & I combined the situatin with it, I just told to this narc. - hey darling? i miss you as much as a - G - in my lasagna? they didn't get it, only I met with her, i abot 4 days, and she told it to me. Yet I ignored her, totaly!! I guess, she got my point by now??!
Study the connection they transfer as they speak. If it breaks down when it's your time to reply....beware.
They'll over play their own hands. No contact
THANK YOU SO MUCH. I LEARNED A LOT.
They nourish their egos, by mentally & emotionally dominating the weak. Weakness is to them what spinach was to Popeye. So when I stood against foolishness & required that my so called friend take accountability for his poor behavior, he bailed. Now he lives to turn others against me. The jealousy & gaslighting are UNMATCHED! Whoever wants to believe whatever he says can feel free to do so. They will find out. He will do them the same way. But my life is far less dramatic without that poisonous group of vipers. I used to live a life of migraines….in the 6 months since we broke ties, I have NOT had a single one! This speaks volumes❤❤❤
OMG toxic narcissistic MIL - so relatable.
They destroy you and what is more, they make you feel guilty for their destructive behaviour, they never apologize and they show they didn't do anything wrong and the victim is the one to blame.
@@d.c.v.6 Exactly 💯 👏
Yes ,silence is the best weapon against them
I have a boss like that...she tries to discredit me dayly,but she will not get rid of me,without a fight
Don’t bother fighting, find a better job and tell them you are leaving for a breed job.
I sought civil restraining order and was granted In court. Upstairs neighbor thinks I'm his property and I shall tolerate his biligerant foul mouth. Temper tantrums and violence is what he's into and he's got zero maturity at age 59 as well as substance abuse. He's finally evicted this month
I felt bad because i thought i was not good enough for him. But Because he was mirroring me. I realized i was too good for him, for him to have to change to be like me to like him. Then he showed his true colors. Then i realized i love me not him. That me it easy to live for me not for evil.
nicely presented the true picture of narcissists.
This is the first time I ever watched a video without skipping. I subscribed.
I subscribed!!
Awesome video!! ❤
I also want to learn to read peoples mind by seeing Instagram photos correctly so that my mind will be aware of those person whether to be friend with them or not
You can learn to dowsing with a pendulum, then you can decide very fast if someone is a good match for you or not 🙏... Everyone should dowse 😂.. Could even Change the energy of narcissistic people that way. Check out Raymon Grace if you're interested. 👍
This is all a long list of aggressions against a victim. Why would anyone want a narc to see them as strong? It starts a campaign to destroy you. Isn’t it better then for the narcissist to not see you as strong and lose interest?
They will destroy you either way if you’re close to them.
Thing is, if you are strong and authentic you cannot seem timid unless you are disloyal to yourself and become as false as them.
If you’re weak or they think you are they’ll bully you and demolish your self esteem with that too. They don’t care
Hit it on the Nail.
Confirmation
💯💪Keep going☀️🌞🌅😎🕶️
You’re Shining & that’s when they have to throw Shade 🤭✨
My father passed away a few days ago. And when he was in a hospital, he showed up in my dream during sleep. He taught me how to shoot a hunting gun because his hobby was hunting. And the bullets in that dream were strangely nails. And I nailed in that dream. Dreams come true.
We thank us,
- EM1
the only way to deal with the narcissist is to just be you and if you know yourself than you know how to walk away from them or even if they are around just be you and ignore them... we can¨t change them, and the choices is always your own.
I subscribed. THANK YOU!! Trying to break away now!! Almost there. :) Looking forward to the peace!!
Hey I am also dealing with covert narcissist, hope I you and me will be able to left this narcissist
nobody cares :D
People who keep track will try to put their tag on every good thing. Thats what they showed through colour play and painting every good thing with the colour which they associated themselves.
This is all absolutely correct...happened to me last week!!! I blocked her and walked away....
I remember my narcissist wife once telling me during the early days of our relationship, "I usually scold people easily, but with you, you're different and it's hard. It's like a challenge to me," and she laughed. I was too naive at the time to realize she was actually a narcissist.
🙄🙄 AW I’ve An ex friend of mines was a complainer, a classic narcissist & always denied it when I’d call her out for it.. the type of person who thinks they’re opinions & voices are more valid & true than everyone else’s.. they’re also prone to bullying (not me, bc I’d not stand for it, but others who have a little less self esteem maybe & due to that think that it’s normal for folk with bitchy attitudes to belittle you in front of others.. Not me, I’m more the type who would ask the victimised person if they’re ok & then tell the person, usually right in front of the shy/traumatised individual, it’s not ok to do that to someone/speak to someone like that.. You’ve no idea what they’ve went through today, or even in the last 24 hours leading up to coming here, to then be met with you’re bombardments of bitchiness. There’s just no need..🤨🤨
Also & quite often, when it was me & her she was awfully NICE.. but the minute there was ANYONE ELSE she could use that as “an audience” & out came those same mean nasty jibes.. But the best of all, was I’d ALWAYS CALL HER OUT ON IT.😊 Oh & she did not like that.. I’d get threats, like “if you want us to stay friends, then you should learn to button it Jen” 😆 So I’d say “Yeah but you were nice as pie to me before so & so came in,,& that’s not right” She’d usually reluctantly apologise.. 😆 But like I’ve mentioned above,if she was giving someone abusive or bitchy comments in my presence, I’d get warned for that too. With “what right have you got to but into that conversation-you’ve no rights to undermine me in my own house” so I’d say stuff like “yeah, I’m sorry but he/she was clearly upset& I was just letting them know it’s ok & not to be scared, or whatever” 🤨 BUT THIS WOMEN I SWEAR TO GOD HAD AN ANSWER FOR EVERYTHING,, THE OTHER THING WAS MOST FOLKS WOULD PANDER TO HER CHILDISH BITCHY & IGNORANT BEHAVIOUR.. (folks would usually say to me, Jen, how are you not scared of her, how do you do that, meaning stand up for myself & others.. my answer would usually always be the same.) Remember at school there’d be a bully, usually surrounded by their minions..who usually didn’t rlly like the bully person but where too scared to stand up to them bc then they’d be outcasts & No1 wants that in school, every kid wants to be pals with 1 of the popular kids..😊 BUT IF YOU RLLY KNOW YOURSELF-LIKE MY MUM TAUGHT ALL OF US.. NO1 CAN TELL YOU THAT YOURE ANYTHING OTHER THAN YOURSELF.. IF THEY TRY TO INTIMIDATE YOU, WALK AWAY OR EVEN LAUGH AT THEM..😊 LETS FACE IT WHATS THE WORST THATS GONNA HAPPEN, THE POPULAR KIDS WONT LIKE YOU, BUT I BET ANY MONEY SOME OF THE GROUP WILL SECRETLY ADMIRE YOU, BC YOU’VE HAD THE GUTS TO STAND FIRM IN YOUR BELIEFS OF KNOWING YOURSELF.🥰
The other & main reason I stuck around was bc id been friends with her since our kids where at preschool together, so I’d known her a very long time.. I watched her health slowly deteriorating & to me, as a caring sort of person..(who’s not so caring, I wont take anyones shit)..but she WAS ELDERLY & GETTING MORE INFIRM & I always remember a rlly bit of good advice my gran gave me, always help others Jen, and if poss try to encourage them to help themselves.. (so,in case your asking WHY DIDNT I JUST ABADON HER) well, I did her house work, went grocery shopping with her & other places like to the doctors surgery etc., bc she did have huge swollen leaky legs..I’m sure it’s called cellulitis, a nasty infection in the deep layers of skin & also needed to use a walker & was about the age of my own mother.. (also all my other family lived over 50 miles away)..So when I did eventually move closer to my family, some may think I’ve no place in doing this, but I had stern words with both of her adult sons, who both have cars & live very close by to their mother.. Also, I didn’t feel guilty bc I know there where other girls as well as her sons wife’s mother, who was very close to her also & for about 2-3 years before I’d left she was great at helping her, as much as I did..(also bc she was her daughter in laws mother aka her sons mother in law-yeah strange set up) but I do remember a few deep conversations with her on me planning on leaving..WHICH HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH OUR FRIENDSHIP..IT WAS DUE TO THE FACT THAT I WAS DEEPLY LONELY BEING OVER 50miles away from my family,,also due to my partner passing away after a long continuous illnesses, the main 1 being TB, which he got in 2011- then bronchiectasis, which was horrific he was constantly in & out of hospital for sometimes days, other times weeks to try multiple medications/procedures etc to stop him from coughing up blood every day,. 🥺🥺 Clearly they couldn’t & bc of his daft attitude against stopping drinking he was just a ticking time bomb..so obv the cirrhosis of his liver got worse..Then kidney problems started & at 41 his body just couldn’t take it all anymore.. 💔💔💔 OBVIOUSLY ILL NEVER FORGET SCOTT-as defiant as he was he was my best friend as we knew each other since high school..went our sep ways+ had daughters to other partners & then in 2001,we reunited❣️ The rlly sweet thing regarding his death was our street was a new build (after they had dismantled & regenerated my whole local area) So our new street was made & we all moved in 2009 & twas sweet bc most folks had already been neighbours from the blocks which where demolished) So on the day of Scott’s funeral all the cars came into our street which was a rlly cute cul-de-sac & all of our neighbours stood on their doorsteps, some even brought flowers over,just before all the family gotten into the funeral cars,,I felt so touched by that, as a few of our closest neighbours also came along to the service.Which Scott would’ve liked..
(🙄 SO SORRY I WENT WAY OFF SUBJECT THERE..)But the ONLY REASON I LEFT MY ADORABLE & TBH, EVERY DAY I STILL MISS IT & sometimes feel I’ve made a huge mistake,,but the 3bedroom house,which was a brand new build, like I’ve mentioned..It was for me,Scott,my daughter who was 15,almost 16 & the other spare room was for his 2 daughters..who are 1 & 2 years younger than mines.. 💞💞
SADLY THO, & AGAIN IM SORRY IVE TYPED POSS WAY TOO MUCH INFO. AS THIS WAS MEANT TO ME JUST A REPLY ON NARCISSIST EX FRIEND!!! 🥰 So thanx to you all who did take the time I’m reading this,esp the extra personal bits of info at the bottom..🥰 As much as I do, on most days miss my 3bedroom front/back garden house, on the outskirts of Edinburgh. My man’s no longer there & my daughters & step daughters have all moved on with their lives. 2 are married & 1 travels the world, I think she writes travel blogs,, it’s been a few years since I last spoke to them. But the plus side of all of this IS IVE SURVIVED NARCISSISTIC ABUSE (as some like to call it).. And I’m now living in the same town, in the beautiful Scottish Borders within walking distance to my 4 brothers, my mum, my daughter & my 4 nieces & my nephew is at Uni.. 🥰🎊 SO ITS ALL TURNED OUT THE WAY THE UNIVERSE INTENDED IT TO BE..🥰 WHOEVER YOU ARE- WHATEVER LIFE THROWS AT YOU, REMEMBER TOMORROW IS POSS GONNA BE A BETTER DAY..❣️ (ONLY LOOK BACK, IF YOUR REMEMBERING LESSONS LEARNED & YOU TAKE SOME OF THAT FORWARD ON YOUR YET TO LIVE JOURNEY) 🤍 SHARE LOVE FOLKS-THERES TOO MUCH HATE IN THE WORLD🤍
Amazing. Concise. Precise.
I have a freind who's ex husband is a narcissist. He blows up every time he sees me. He will throw out threats like I know people who will make your life hell. I just look at them and say OK and. He loses it all over again. I know one of these days he will do this in front of the wrong person.
This is very good.
Yes, they will and they will send a psychopath your way!
God will come in a LARGE way for them when they least expect it!!
I pray for them ALL, that they will change their hearts and it’s not too late!
Glory be to God!!🙏🎚️❤️🕊🎶🌟
True my frind, very true, but we the targeted people, we also have to use the blessings, and use them, against those, who are trasspassing against us?!! I'm sure, you mean well. give it a very strong try? out psiche them??! -
Amen ❤
Glory be to God Almighty 🙏🙏
Great video... describes everything I am dealing with to a "T".. facts 💯
I subscribed!😊
Same here
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You can't defeat a narcissist but you can ignore them, they will still think they are victorious over you because you are trying to avoid them and the argument and battle they were hoping to instigate.
The way you all should look at life is you are either the hammer or the nail getting smashed into the wall until you break. it's better to be the offender than always be the target that's always offended , if they offend you once they will continue to do so forever because its amusing and fun and always too easy you will always be their entertainment.
Being too sensitive or being too kind won't stop people from taking advantage of you anyway, and won't stop them from continuing to not care about you at all, or stop them from continuing to disrespect you anyway because you are a wimp and a pushover who's too worried about not bothering and offending people.
Their weaknesses are the same as ChatGPT. Probability talk gives you the right to fight back.
I love this video!
I set some boundaries when I've been questioned like i didn't know how to do a simple job knowing I've been trained efficiently i under stand I've mistakes we all have but i ain't trying to compeat with anyone or steal their thunder or whatever....i have my own strengths just like they do as far as taking their behaviors to the extreme that's where i keep my mouth shut don't say nothing and avoid conflicts.
I'm done playing with their mind games i understand the rules and consequences of the dlightest miscalculations this fool named Jamal i use to work with was a pain in the pass he would be codependent, passive aggressive like a manic even act like he's all that to be superior i don't work with him anymore...but i'd try to stay away from him as much as i can...as far as undermining me to fabricating things ,i would be at fault for him repeating himself as i made things worst but I'm learning the hard way..I'd try to avoid engaging in drama that may lead to dramatic arugements...no body wants to fight with me or go to war with me I'm being real nice it's best to not take me there.
I had one that was threatening to come to my house. I said please do, I'm here. Crickets and then he hung up.
@kathyhansen2820 that sucks it sounds like you were doing dealing a stalker and a crazy psychotic fool I'm sorry that happened to you I hope he'll never bother you again.
You hang in there ok? if he bothers yoy again reported to the police or taking fighting lessons against him.
They back right down.
Thanks for the information, and have a Nice Day 😉👍
This is so funny to watch my friend helped me with a narcissist, she was really strong and stood up for herself, the narcissist in the end had a mental breakdown and huge foot stamping tantrum showing their true colours just because she couldn't manipulate my friend and by extension me, thankfully the narcissist is out of my life forever
The only problem is if the person isn't a narcissist these methods can severely harm the person. Too often people believe their partners are narcissistic when in reality the problems are misplaced anger or emotional problems that go unaddressed
passive- aggressive people are narcissists themselves.
I ve been stuck in an abusive friendship for a very long time. Every time I try and distance myself or say my part it results in this person being very abusive and invalidating. I end up doubting and questioning my own reality. I don’t know how to put a final boundary that is clear
How about a video on the practical business of setting boundaries?
Initiaating self preservation low vibration mode Now!
In my experience the people who spend the most time announcing how strong, empowered or amazing they are tend to BE the narcissists.
Yep! They're deeply insecure.
not really...usually they don't show their true colours to other people & they walk on eggshells all the time.
Won’t be the first won’t be the last… in a world full of narcissism it’s just something you gotta deal with day in day out…
Definitely 💯 true.
3:50 "Like Devil himself"
After watching this video, I think I need to change my living environment. Those narcissistic traits fit, more or less, pretty much everyone around me at any job I take and why I can't get a cue about anything anybody does around me. When interacting with someone, I always felt that I am never on the same page with anyone and I tend to get some sort of "brain error" while talking with people. This error comes usually in form of thoughts, like: "is this guy serious or just trolling me?", "bro, I literally have no idea what do you want from me" and then I tend to look at them like one would look at something that caught his interest and trying figuring them out. I was told that I am just antisocial or retarded but I never actually took that as an insult (I mean, one cannot take seriously such words if he has similar feelings towards a person that speaks such word towards him, am I right?). Thanks for this video, I think I found some new information that I was lacking. I hope you have a great day, cuz you've certainly made my day a bit better!
GODDAMMITT !!! More and faster please! I am disabled and my Narc. Wife is taking full advantage ! I need tools !