I noticed this. I was thinking on my head, that finally we were making progress she is actually talking to me about her needs instead of yelling at me. She was actually listening to my needs and taking me she understood. 2 weeks later on my way to work she left for someone else. Completely destroyed me. She told me how horrible I was and how great he was and then blocked me. Hard to describe that kind of pain
The discard isnt always the end. They'll come back and blame you for blocking you. Then pretend they want to try again...just so they can discard you again.
no its got nothing to do with blocking you its got to do with takeinf over my phonw playing games with the phone doing everthing in your power to humitiat me be little me would you block a peorson that does that to you i now iys not you pushing the buttons but you are the manager calling the shots behind the game
@@angelwolf5089 Because the narcissist always wants more contact, on some level, to feed their own ego. But as the victim, YOU have the power to not allow that. This is (at least) one time when "ghosting" someone is a good thing. I was involved with a narcissist, and having a hard time dealing with the post breakup "friendship", where she was still keeping me at arms length. During a text conversation, she finally admitted that she had been seeing someone for "some months" and that for us to spend any time together would be disrespectful to him, etc. I read that, considered a response, and then decided, Nope, not gonna say a word. I found out a little later, from her mother, with whom I'm still close, that she bawled her eyes out that I ignored her text, but of course, she wouldn't admit to her mother what she'd actually said to me. But she was just crying for the sake of her own hurt ego, b/c two months later, she has not yet reached back out to offer an apology, or even so much as an explanation for her behavior. Despite telling me, even a week prior, how much she really appreciates me and wanted to be able to come to me for advice about stuff. Long story short: I am the one who dealt the final discard. And doing so allows me to walk away with a preserved sense of dignity. Do I still lover her? Absolutely. But the relationship was never "real", as this video describes, and I know that to allow her back into my life, in ANY capacity, is to invite pain and frustration and anger back into my life. Not going to happen.
BETTER YET?! WHY DON'T SOME ONE, SUCH AS THIS PSYCHIATRIST, OF THIS TAPE, TELL THEM NARCISSISTS ; = = - # D O N' T L E T T H E T H E M N A R C I S S I S TS LABER - TERRORIZE - PEOPLE COWARDLY AND UN REASONABY?? # = =
It can be difficult to explain narcissistic abuse to people who have never experienced it. They are usually puzzled about how you could let this happen and not see it coming and why you stayed in the relationship after the abuse started. Some people may think that you are exaggerating. It is especially hard to explain when your narcissistic mate can project an image to other people of being smart, calm, and caring. In the end, you may have to settle for accepting that some people will simply not be able to imagine how you suffered or how badly you were treated.
You just in one paragraph explained the last 42 years of my life. He has everyone thinking he is a great guy! I have stopped trying to explain anything about him to anyone. I did go to therapy and it was extremely helpful, but I did find a great Dr. I learned to stop saying I’m sorry 20 times a day, just to appease this man. There is no appeasing him. Speak when you are spoken to and very little. I used to try to put things right by confronting his lies. Pointless. He chooses to rewrite history to make himself blameless in every situation. Grey Rock is the only way I can live with him. I want to s ream I never said that I never did that! But I learned not to. If I get angry he gets very calm and says I am mentally ill. There is no way out for me. I am old and sick and trapped. Never wrong, never sorry. There is no bigger A hole on the planet than a Covert Narcissist. And no one would believe you.
It starts when they find someone else,then your done!Why because all they care about is them,If you take them back,they will do it again,once a cheater always a cheater!!
Please, do NOT shame the victim of the narcissist -- for being caring and trusting. It's who we are. It's how we can lean into our strength and over come their demonic presence.
BLAME THEM PREDITORS! THE NARCISSITS!! NOT THE ABUSED PRAYES OF A NARCISSITS? DON'T DRINK TOO MUCH WATER? WHY? YOU THINK, IT WILL TURN INTO WINE, IN YOUR STUMACH, OR WHAT??!
We are exactly the kind of people they victimize. Empathetic, trusting, loving. They pull you in and over the years shred your personality. You lose your friends and rarely see your family. They have a way of ruining any good time you dare to have. One look across a room if you are talking to someone at a party and you know your ride home will be hell. We live in hell with these people. Toxic is not even a bad enough word.
I dated a narcissist and the genesis of her issues are a horrendous childhood, filled with rage, violence and emotional abandonment. Of course, I didn't know this going in. She seems normal, at first. Then "emotional". Then it's just WTF. The thing that kept me hanging around were those brief moments of seeing the soft, gentle person who was buried beneath the layers of angry bitterness. You tell yourself, THAT'S who I see her to be, who I know she Can be. But trust me, it's a losing battle, b/c even when they Know they are the problem - as she admitted during our post breakup period, they just don't have the power, or perhaps even the willingness, to change. And their anger will Chew. You. Up.
I know it's hard to believe, but that soft underbelly you thought was "the real her" is just a performance for manipulation. None of what they present to the world is who they actually are. They actually hate themselves.
I'm literally going through this right now with the woman I love with all of my heart. Literally almost identical to you what you just said, except this time she is accusing me of being the narcissist and putting me in a no contact , I'm not giving up though because that's what anyone who has went through trauma expects and that is what they are defending themselves against show them that you love them and won't leave as long as major lines aren't crossed and that's when true change will start. Some situations I understand but most people are so quick to give up and just blame somebody or make someone a villain or victim it's disgusting. I mean doesn't that make people feel like shit? Do you know how much better it feels to help someone who is deemed unhelpable or to actually do good for somebody instead of just pointing fingers? Try it. Be the change. Stop hurting each other.
@@antonessheesh6511 Sweet sweet person, I too am exactly like you! I gave this person 4 years of my life. FOUR! I went to couple’s therapy bc he said he’d change for US. And he was lying to the therapist & the group too. Then the therapist himself said I think he has either Narcissistic Dissociative Disorder or he’s a sociopath “in which case I can treat him but not cure him & it’s best if you break up bc it’ll take more of a toll than you’ve already experienced, especially if I’m correct not only will he discard you, but he will already have moved on to the next source, which it looks like he is meeting people & lying about what he’s actually doing”. I stopped going to that therapist bc my fiancé said “he’s trying to break us up so he’s not a good therapist” I believed my narcissist so much bc I NEEDED to believe that I wasn’t wrong to love this “rejected, hurt & abandoned adopted meth baby who grew up with everyone bullying him. He deserves love” My sweet internet soul, they do deserve to be loved! You have done everything you can in your huge heart to love your partner. Unfortunately, we are nothing more than objects that serve a purpose for them. Whatever that purpose is. For mine, I believed in him when no one else did. I gave him confidence. Made him push past his anxiety of not being accepted. And now he’s moved on to MANY more women. He even pays for sex & favors now. But he doesn’t come home for weeks, doesn’t text at all & when he shows up he acts like I don’t exist. He showers me with about 15 minutes of attention if I ignore him. As soon as he sees me smiling he says, I gtg take a nap sorry. I love you though. Then leaves for weeks again. I was STILL trying to figure out what was happening thinking I SHOULD NOT LEAVE HIM BC HES DEVELOPING schizophrenia. Till I just saw this video 😢 Please understand you are right! Do not ever give up easily on anyone. But understand, you are valuable & important too. The world needs people like us that care. But let’s remember who we are, and that we can love other people who will thrive from what we give. Take time to heal! Much love & lots of luck! Your internet friend wishing you don’t give up on yourself, ever, Emmy :)
The discard is never permanent. They’ll hoover and find a way back in for more supply. Don’t give them the opportunity unless you know what you’re doing. 😊
If you shamed them publicly or confronted/called out their behaviour it begins a process called narcissistic mortification, wherein they will generally resent you and never return, they may actually endeavour to forever punish you whenever they can. I called my ex out and shamed her somewhat publicly, now she loves to flaunt her affair parner in front of me whenever I am present. Refer to professor Sam Vaknin if you want to understand the psychology, no one else on this platform even comes close to his assessments. He actually is a diagnosed/self aware narcissist.
I once dated a love-bomber narcissist for a couple of weeks. I am a widow of three years and this was the first time that I had dated since my husband passed. The man was really pushy and didn’t listen when I asked him to slow down a bit. You may think this is silly but one evening I was texting him and while doing so, spellcheck kept bringing up the word “evil” several times. Even when I wasn’t texting a word that was even close to “evil.” I know in my deepest heart that this was my deceased husband warning me of this man. Turns out, the man was truly evil! Not having dated in over 40 years, I did not see the red flags. The love of my life saved me!
My ex girlfriend was a raging narcissist And an alcoholic. Their whole drive is to control your emotions. That’s where they get a fix. Bank robbers, steal money from banks, Car thieves, steel cars, Drug addicts, do drugs and narcissist control emotions…. If you want to repel a narcissist do this: Stare at them when they yell at you. Just sit there and smile. Be happy, help others. Find enjoyment in your career. Remain levelheaded at all times. Set limits Always questioning what they’re doing Pretty soon they’ll get bored and leave. Their ego is insatiable and as long as you keep feeding it, they will stay.
Narcissists are thieves more than anything, they steal your time as well as your emotions. Their control over you only lasts as long as their mask. Uncovering who they are changes the dynamic for good and takes away much of their power and control. But I think in order to totally strip them of power you need to reach the point of 'radical acceptance', as 'they' say. For me it wasn't enough to learn who she was. I had to learn why I was the enabling sort. If you've had a narcissistic lover, the you had a narcissistic mother.
@@karenbrister9191 Hello Karen , Narcissistic Word Salad is a bunch of jumble words strung together in such a way to keep you confused, tired, on the defense, and playing into the fight they are determined to rope you into. They do this when you ask them a question or make a statement and they don’t want to answer and want to start a fight. Word Salad Example: (The Narc would deny, lie, ect. after I ask a question ) My question: For the past 6 months you speak horrible about your ex, yet all the sudden you are best friends? Response from Narc: “Why are you jealous? I thought you have unshakable confidence? Why have you lied to me? I am happy you finally admitted you are a jealous person over me having a friend. You are pathetic, I am tired, and I can’t deal with this chaos you cause daily. (2 hours later…) You need help and I don’t know if that is possible, why we are on this topic, did you remove my towel in the bathroom? It had to be you, you are jealous of everything I have!”… Hope this helps.
With a narcissist it's never really over unless YOU block THEM for good. They are never truly done with their victims. Once they've handpicked you to be a victim, narcissistic supply, minion or flying monkey, you're stuck there unless YOU get away from them and end ALL COMMUNICATION for good. Otherwise, they'll try to keep their foot in the door and use you any way they can.
Yes mine said it’s over, we are not supposed to be together, I need to heal (from who ????) and then I said okay so will you never reach out again? And he avoided answering like 5 times and then he finally said “maybe never” and I knew he’s so full of shit. Why couldn’t he say he never would? Because he shelved me. He’s so predictable
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Youre right about the heart attitude of calling a narc a demon but the truth is there is very much a spiritual element to this and it is DEMONIC. we need to live in and state the truth.
If there is something demonic in narcissists then we have to be open to the likelihood that the victims also posses something demonic, or else why become attracted to the narcs and let them wreak havoc?
Exactly this is what my husband did. He pushed me to get pregnant, we tried for 2 years it was all his problems with diabetes but he kept blaming me that because of me he doesn’t have children. Once I got pregnant by IVF he dumped me in couple of months when I was on bedrest and bleeding. He left me alone in United States where I have no family, he went to India to sleep with his virtual lover. Obviously he failed there with his performance and he broke up with her. Now he is back everyday fighting with me saying I pushed him into these affairs.
Yes they beat you till you can't walk and go out houering no food could not stand they are women haters. Misoginists secrete gay life my malignant narc husband.
THE QUESTION CAME UP. WHERE DID NARCISSISTICBEAVIOR CAOMES FROM? WHEN PEOPLE WANTED TO ACHIEVE MORE, THAN THE OTHER? WHEN THEY ARE BOASTY, AND THINK OF THEMSELF, AS IF THE DETERMIN DAILY, THAT THEY ARE ACTUALY THE CENTER OF THE EARTH / UNIVERS - WHEN THEY FIRST TRICK OTHERS / MANIPULET OTHERS! JUST TO GET 1 AND A 1/2 DROP OF WATER . . . EVERY ONE HAS THOSE EMOTIONS. BUT MOST PEOPLE HAS THEM, IN MUCH LOWER WAY YET OTHERS CANT IMAGINE, TO LIVE ANY OTHER WAY! - THAN BEING A STRON ARROGANT NARCISSIST?!! SELFISHNESS!! = WHAT YOUR - A I - WOULDN'T UNDERSTA / KNOW, JUST BY MEMORY OR BY MEMORY OF MANU!!
I LOVE that this video touches on how the narc takes on your personality. It's so off putting. But this is how I knew my ex bf found another woman to date before we were broken up. His vernacular changed!! I knew exactly who he was into based on the new things he started saying. He stopped using my vernacular and started using this girl's, who was "just a friend"; The day after we broke up, he got with her yet tried to claim nothing started until we were over, as if I'm dumb. The worst part is after it didn't work out, he blamed me then tried to get my sympathy for it not working out lol The most bizarre and hurtful experience I've had with a partner, and I have been hit in the face by one. I'd rather have that hit any day!! That's how painful this behavior was to me. Also a tactic the narc uses to discard will often be something to make you break up with them, on purpose, so they can use it for sympathy to get their new partner. And so nobody can judge them for moving on so quickly because "they're in pain''; It's all bs and if you aren't aware of the games they play, it can be incredibly confusing/heart wrenching.
Thanks for the good points. The narcissist is described in the Holy Bible. James 3:16 For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. Jesus saves❤️✝️
Yes. It’s the wicked man of the Bible. It is the Cain response to the fall, unbelieving. The core of narcissism is unbelief in a Good God and therefore unbelief in the value of the self as made in the image of this Good God. The true self and the true God are rejected through unbelief. Then, the true self empowers a false self and becomes its own god which in trim lets the devil takeover the is entity of the person. Jealousy of “normal” people (people who have a relationship and are accepted by the true God like Abel) and hatred of them ensue. Murder (real or by words) follows along with every evil work, because the narcissist can’t feel or give love. All love is deflected to their false idol of self. Then, addictions abound as they search for meaning and satisfaction in life. Those only goal is to satisfy that idol of self which is an impossibility. They must humble themselves and submit to the true God. They must resist evil for it to flee from them. They believe their own lies, so this never happens. It could. They choose not to. Very very sad.
I'm not religious, although I come from a multi-faith family. I don't buy into the whole story of Jesus and the immaculate conception, which is to say that I don't take it literally. Something about the idea of a spirit entity that is so great and powerful that it created the universe and everything in it makes me question why this entity would make such an exception to humans above all other creations, and if humans were made in his/it's own image then why did we appear so late on in the history of the world? Can man really communicate directly with such a force of nature, and could humans be able to interpret the word of God? More importantly if the second coming happened tomorrow and we were approached by a stranger in the pub who claimed to have spoken to God, would we be as quick to believe them as we are to believe the 2000 year old claim from people who are strangers to us? Unfortunately my mind then goes to biology and questions how a great powerful spirit entity that has no human form could still physically inseminate a woman and succeed in getting her pregnant first time when most couples find this quite impossible. Furthermore, how did Mary not make a big fuss about having been violated in such a way? Why was she so accepting of the situation after hearing that the baby would be the son of Christ? How come Joseph didn't kick up a fuss and question his wife's behaviours and whereabouts when he wasn't around to keep an eye on her? And strangers still, how was Mary married to Joseph and still a virgin??? I cannot accept a story like this and take it literally. But as a means of understanding and accepting a situation that no human will likely be able to explain ever, this kind of fictional story is a great method for educating us without getting us stuck down a rabbit hole of 'Whatif's'. But I don't dismiss the narrative, or those who do believe it and take it literally. Much less was known about the world, life and science 2000 years ago and I can only imagine how unmeasured the power of the unknown was back then. So I can appreciate how important stories would have been because it's a way of demonstrating a real and valid situation and the philosophy or practise used to resolve the situation or to help understand something that isn't obvious. The Bible seems more like a manual, with God being more of a concept or the embodiment and characterisation of humanity, or simply just a symbol of everyone that has ever been. When people talk about recovery and thank God or Jesus for helping them get to where they needed to go, it feels more like an acknowledgement of one's self and their community as well as the generations before them who each made their contribution to the society.
I like the ending. YES! This was actually all my fault. I ignored all the red flags and warning signs. Why I do not know. She was beautiful. The more I got pushed away, the harder I tried to hold it together, and once I realized that I was just enabling this person, I finally saw a way out. It was like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. So yeah, the narcissist is evil, but we cannot blame them. We can only blame ourselves for staying. RUN!!!! As fast as you can. Go dark. Disappear. Do NOT try to reason with them. It won’t work! You are just playing right into their hands. So leave and never looked back. I’m free!!!
Quite frankly, I started out firmly believing I was the narcissist. Fitting most criteria with the exception of empathy and so much regret for who I have been. In the midst of that conviction, I'm finding healing. I needed to be broken to start that journey out of disfunction. So ya, God took something horrific and is using it to my good. I look forward to the day I can help someone else do the same. God bless.
U hit it on the head. I've been there and done that, but i discarded him, and he said, "Oh well, you when so u lose some." Worst relationship, no situation ever. I learned to trust intuition and make the 1st red flag ur last. It's my fault being involved. I wanted to see his mind set. The relationship was more like a case study for me. I can start my own channel with the events i went through with him. And he was 64. I went against what i knew to be true immediately because my girl said, "Give him a try." And lower my guard. He spoke bad about every woman in his life, so i know he is doing the same to me. Dont care. I feel. Light from and healed😊
Me to I discarded him they come back stalk travel 100 miles I got police. This freek I married bought his pure down grade in my home. Wants you start doing nothing for them and stop talking to them that's it he said to me nothing there is the I waked away in another room why should you be nice when you proof of 2 women one was the upstairs neighbour another 2 kids with wile we were married scum of this earth
I pray for this. My ex was diagnosed by 2 different court ordered psychiatrist. I left him 1 1/2 years ago. He still stalks me and tells certain people we “are working” on things. Yet, while we were married for 11 years he cheated constantly, degraded me daily, physically abused me at times, described being home with me and the kids as being in prison, went to the bar alone for several hours 365 days a year, through all of my traumas in my face, went away to watch a football game when I was in the hospital having an organ transplant, slept in a different room half the time, didn’t touch me for 3 years, made fun of my family tragiccly losing their lives, then when I was off planning the funeral he slept with my “friend”, and on and on. However, he thinks he owns me and he can put me on and off the shelf whenever he can’t find anyone else. All this and he is still convinced that I love him and am just pretending I don’t because I’m trying to hurt him. He is so full of himself that he cannot comprehend that I genuinely think he is a garbage human being and don’t feel any attraction to him at all.
I'm so sorry for how this piece of garbage treated you ! It goes beyond human logic how a so called human can be devoid of love, compassion , & kindness ! And if that's not bad enough, it's sad & tragic to know that there are many other good people all around us dealing with a similar monster ! Best wishes in your healing journey 🤗🙏🙏🙏🌹
Yep. I'm still in the grip of this guy. You know, when you place restraining order or want to go; a super-psycho can smell you are planning to escape, it's so much more dangerous this time period . If I had money to move I'd be gone..but they rip into your everythings. I have had annoyed paramedics also tell me there are shelters. Well I was celibate for seven years for a reason. The previous perfect guy snapped on me. Did the shelter thing. It's so ass backwards this fake help.... ended up couch surfing. Stayed celibate. Then found another psycho who I would not have sex with for a year. He was patient. Now it's a death march. I told my nurse if I die it's him. People don't get it unless they are stalked and poisoned and threatened and theses super scary people destroy everything good about us. The police laugh at my neurosis. He's charming. Best to you❤
Typically, narcissists display manipulation, disregard for empathy, or even betrayal that signals the “end of the game” in a relationship. These signals often become apparent when they lose control or power over another person, and their destructive behavior ultimately leads to a breakup or end to the relationship.
I have dealt with a couple of narcissists in my day and it is pretty fucking difficult to navigate and can be very easy to get lost in your head wondering how things turned out to be the way that they have wondering what you did wrong or what you could have done differently wondering they never loved you at any point in the relationship. But one thing that keeps me going that I always keep in mind is that it is good to show your love and I hope it's reciprocated but you got to keep this in mind you're the pilot of your journey everybody else is along for the ride so in essence with that being said you fall in love with yourself and you share that love
They cant be honest for nothing,play alot head games,and they seem so miserable ,and always somebody's else's fault,they stay in a bad mood, If they have these signs RUN ,you can love them, they hate you more because they know and is jealous that you have that kind of love in you even if its loving them,i know twisted, just RUN its not gong to change there mind, loving them they will still play with you,if your strong there not going to want you,which is a Blessing,it will take time to get over them at the beginning because in your head you say to yourself no one this bad,or,selfish,or mean,they might just bad mood today or maybe they went through something this week and there trying to handle it themselves,No they are really like that its Rare to find 1, but there out there,can they change that's rare too,but it can happen,but its best to let them deal with there own demons because we all know demons come in all forms,the main Red Flag you look for is,If you need them and they dont come through or least reach out,2 if you are around them and your happy but they want to upset or you can fee that bad energy there 1, just let them be and move on, you can miss out on your blessing staying with them,trust me it can Happen
You are so spot on with the main Red Flag. When you need them and they don't come through for you. I had a subarachnoid brain haemmorage. My kids told by Drs there was a chance I wouldn't make it.Just came out of intensive care after four days and he tells me he's going on a surfing trip with his friend because I'm in the best place. Just heartbreaking...and shock.
See past the false confidence and arrogance. Deep down they think less of themselves than that of their victims. That means if you're 'nothing' to him, then he must see himself as worth 'less than nothing'. They only chose people of worth to make their victims. Otherwise they've nothing to get from you.
Mine did withhold intimacy, it was awful,I had to beg for her attention not my idea of a relationship. She had endless time for cyber strangers,that was strange also
NO - NO?!! WE, EVENTUALY WILL & DO RECOVER, OF THEIR UGLY TREATMENTS! = WE / THE INOCENT PRAYERS, WE WIN!! = THEY NEVER EVER CHANGE - THEY DON'T INTENDTO CHANGE AND THEY SELFDISTRUCT THEMSELVES! = THEY LOSE!! = BUT THIS / THESE HAPPEN MANY TIME, IN A VERY LONG SPAN OF TIME TOO!!
Not true, they already lost a long time ago! All they are doing is trying to convince themselves that they haven't lost by bringing everyone else down to their level, and they can't even succeed in doing that!
Their chameleons, what was hard for me to grasp was ,the woman I fell in love with “Never Existed” They always have someone new but they’ll keep you as their primary supply as long as they can can get a reaction out of you. Educate yourself on the traits of a narcissist.
He is the way he is but I really love him and it hurts more than I can take. I don't even want to live anymore. I didn't know people like that existed.
Sickening isn't it!! I wish I knew before I fell so hard😢.. he's not even trying to hide his creepy ways, leaving evidence, not answering phone or text, not coming home, first time in four years he wasn't there at night, 10p-12:30a waited like a fool.. of course I'll never know where he was or who he was with.. I do know he def wasn't in church and he wasn't alone!!
‼️‼️‼️AB👏🏻SO👏🏻LUTE👏🏻LY👏🏻‼️‼️‼️ Another way you can tell that they're moving on to another person while they're still with you. Is that thing they do by mimicking someone when they first get involved with them. You will start to notice that they have new quirks that they have never done before. My narcissist started wearing different colored boxer briefs out of nowhere for no reason, and after the first couple of years(2006) of me asking him why he still wears tighty whities. The next thing he did was start watching TV series, and specific ones. Also out of nowhere he was interested in certain movies, and only certain movies like someone had mentioned that they like those movies first.
Yes! And songs on repeat. Very specific songs. As if they’re trying to convince themselves these are their new favorite songs just so they can be “the perfect mate” for their new supply. And new songs out of nowhere that when YOU suggested them he/she said “eww I hate that artist”. All of a sudden they’ve “always loved that artist & you’re crazy for suggesting otherwise” Y’know… bc it’s always us, not them who are or have a problem.
Wow,can I identify, I am tried of games, lies, wanting me to supply their needs, they care less about the giver, it's what the giver can do for them, person that is a giver, could be in need of empathy, forget that they have an emptiness in their being to help!!!!! It's the truth , and it can cut like a knife, they are out for themselves, believe me you don't want to experience there way, it's tixic!!!!
Yourself is amazing & the light that you radiate attracts them because you are a empathetic person. Don’t change for no one! Take as experience & no with wisdom on the next one that approaches! Use your light to attract another light! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Not you. Just your decisions. Knowing is more than half the battle. Once you truly learn about narcissists the hard way then it's impossible to un-learn and it'll be the first thing you consider in the future. Most narcs know what they are and they work tirelessly to make sure others don't find out. If they suspect that their victim has figured them out or is too close now to be stopped, then the narcissist begins to execute their exit strategy. They always have one eye on the exit.
I appreciate this video and also shining a light back on why we might have chosen them to begin with. Humbling and a bit of..,”oh sh*t.” I am an adopted child always hoping to be “good enough to be loved.” Just as a kid..”if I do my homework, if I keep my room clean and bed made and my clothes free of dirt…” maybe just maybe I will be good enough to still be loved and not hit. As an adult…it’s sadly no different. I hate this about myself. I left a multi multi millionaire because I knew I would wind up hurting myself if I didn’t leave him. I had no hope left inside. So..here I am…1 month later in the middle of Montana lol where the skiing isn’t that great nor the golf and I knew I would be safe from him following me since if the skiing or golf isn’t his type of quality he is used to belonging to…and the 1 lane roads…and…bears…and…die hard republicans with guns (which has been scary for me too lol) but on a serious note…he hasn’t followed me despite his anger and disgust. And you are right… upon seeing his texts..emails to old girlfriends (and new) he is all about making sure everyone knows what a BIG DEAL he is. (Meh.) Me? I just want to get a pulse on me. That’s all I want. I finally went to a grocery store. Zero interest I talking with anyone. Like male or female. I need friends but trying to heal mentally has been difficult. So…thanks for these videos. They help those of us that can’t go to restaurants or church let alone a bar. I just want to keep curling up in a ball trying to figure out how to stop the mental bleeding. 😢
I lived with a female covert narcissist and told her to stop contacting me recently because she would not stop putting me down and attacking me, would not stop trying to get me angry by insulted me and saying bizarre things about me to every one... so it had to end and I had to cut off all communication with her...no empathy at all... I had a year where she trying to crawl back into my life...she had not changed just more full of hate and anger....and had not learned anything in the 14 years we had been apart...
Mine lied manipulated. Smoke screened. No financial responsibility. Argued over petty stuff. Called the law 9 times trying to get me arrested. The ninth time accused me of rape. My eyes were opened up to this dangerous person. Went and got order of protection against her and not looking back. Fortunately for me the officers saw right through her and helped me too see her for who she really is. She will never be around me again. Her son acted like this was my fault. Family of narcissists I guess.
Wow!! Love this thank you so much I divorce my first husband didn't know anything about narcissist.and now am married to another one .definitely leaving .
it has happend to me two times! After the first very hurtful break up with the most dangerous narcissist I've met in my life, I thought never ever will this happen to me again. So with the second one it ended almost like the first one... he is not that psychopathic, but they use the same patterns AGAINST me! I don't know whats wrong with me ? I've never heard from such people before and now, there are so many?! Whats wrong with you? Is this a new way of dating? Make the girls extremely dependent from you and then push them away with such hatred? Emotionally I am at my limit because of that!
Most of what you said, I agree with however, calling them demons is exactly what it is. You can't take the spiritual component out of this if they are a true narcissist Best believe they have demonic attachments You? Have to understand the spiritual side of narcissism. True narcissism. It is demonic and you better understand what you're dealing with and have disarmament. Thank you blessings.😊
I gave in and allowed her to come back. I fell in love with the mask and stupidly held on to the moments in the beginning. She ended up using me. Forcing me into debt and left again. Only to move down the hall from me and finally get a job that she can support herself. This happened twice. Lol I know shame on me. Im an adult idiot.
Im an empath currentlyin relationship with narcist this video explanations got me shock because all of this is a definition of his behabiour .but im trying my best to renew him and change his mindset but really stubborn he believes on himself toomuch and never care of other people.he is sweet but he is slfish childish stubborn
I am sadly been with a narcissist for 28 years, she pretended to like and feel like I did, after our 1st child it was okay. After the birth of our 2nd child, she brought in her narcissistic/ gangster oriented family. It is getting worse, she even turned one child into a carbon copy of her and her family. The youngest, tells me many things about what the Mother in Law and the family up her sleeve, luckily for me. It's a living hell
@@JJ-pf3ok A somatic narcissist is one who lures you in with their body. My somatic narcissist was 45yrs old with the body of a 30yr old. They use sex and they know how to dress for you.
You didn’t answer the question in your title clearly; AND whilst I agree we all need to be accountable & conscious for our life choices, the last minutes were very preachy & guilting people who have been targeted by narcs.
How do they get away with it I wad fooled by someone I truly loved for 10 years he proposed he was everything I dreamed of physically and emotionally he was I thought my best friend lover and soulmate then after all the lies and betrayal of trust he left it went from exstacy to hate and resentment he was abused as a child and lived in a loveless marriage he came into my life and there was an instant connection it was like switching a light bulb on electric I fell in love with him but did he really love me or was he just obsessed if itwax love he would be here but he left me after I lost my daughter so I gues I’ll never know haven’t seen him since 👍🏻😊
Unfortunatelly, they are great actors. They know really well what you want and give it to you at the beginning. Then you always crave for what you once had, but never ever get that again. You live on breadcrums and its crazymaking. You always look for your own mistakes and would do anything to get it back. Its really cruel. But it was never love. They are not capable of love. They are parasites who live from others. It seems like they are always on hunt for something "better" and never satisfied.
Unfortunately, I was with a narc for 13 yrs - didn't know what narcissism was at the time. Saw a few red flags but ignored them due to his traumatic childhood. Always remember the "situationship" they had with you was nothing more than smoke & mirrors - an act! In short, you were USED! They are TAKERS, never GIVERS! They take while we give & that's what it's all about! They are selfish, self centered a**holes that prey on & get pleasure from torturing & sucking the life out of people! I've been free of him for almost 5 yrs & it was the best thing I ever did! I finally have peace & loving life again!
narcissism is a personality disorder, its not a choice. while most narcissistic people dont seek help or therapy etc, the ones who do go to therapy only use it to their advantage and use all these new words and meanings to justify what they are doing. Narcissistic people are narcissistic not by choice. They may notice, try to change, but they never do There are cases where people with mental illnesses or people who need therapy exhibit signs of narcissistic behaviour and may get blamed for being a narcissist from their behaviour, when really those people can change but they need the right help and resources for them
Set clear boundaries, and keep them! Know what you are looking for in a relationship, and what you simply will not tolerate. Then, work on YOURSELF. Keep doing the NEXT RIGHT THING -over and over. Be PATIENT and persevere! "Suffer, and endure" used to be my motto, but WHY SUFFER while you're doing it? Why not Soul Search and figure out WHO YOU ARE and WHAT YOU WANT to do with your life-- and then DO THOSE things!! ❤️ Go live your best life! Create an awesome vision of what you want your life to look like, and then keep doing the next right thing. What are you waiting for, You Beautiful Soul?!?? Go!!
@@irinaivanovic9792 not sure what happened with your experience...but i said not all luv... The narc i dealt with stay trying to come back...there was times i fell for the i love yous the you're the only one blah blah. But enough was enough i dead that situation and still the narc wont give up. So idk maybe its a good thing the narc you was with isn't coming back its a good thing for you because it's freaking draining....but i tell you this just be prepared.
@@irinaivanovic9792 there's even some RUclipsr claiming exposing the narc will make them leave you for good...hunty that's proving to also being a lie because i have exposed over and again even allegantly keyed up the narc truck after being caught up...the narc still trying to contact me...even had his high school ex reaching out to me saying how he speaks highly of me this that and the third...Chi boo i ain't falling this time its all lies on repeat. But stay strong luv they always come back its just a matter of time...
Wow thank u for all that information.. to know all my exes before were never narcissists after all helps alot. But my most recents ex girlfriend well it hit the nail on the head with her. I really hate it also because her and i could have made it work had she not had been a narcissist. Smdh its just a waste actually.
They only gaslight parts of themselves when they fall into their own pits, when they show you who they really are don't put in the rose colored glasses, they breakdown behind the scenes and lose close relationships and financial assets
here to Say. Yes. But i Purposly Ignored them 🚩 . 9 years into this one... on my way to healing though. And yes. the breakaway has begun... kind of at a stalemate on Whom will leave. he has Multiple places and i have my lil car... to Whit he knows is all breaking down. and i Believe is waiting for me to b Stuck. but. Ain gonna Happen 🙌✔️👀
I found out I am a narcissist not so long ago and I agree there are those dark tendencies, lots of grudge and syuff, but I think it is a lie that I am unable to love or relate, it is something that may seem from the point of external observation but from my point of view we just misread a lot of things like getting less attention signals danger and possible abandonment . You know people aren't born rvil and stuff, to produce a narcissist is not so difficult- people have to be treated with narcissistic abuse for ling enough, especially in their childhood and then they turn into that as the natural response of narcissistic victim to narcissistic abuse is very much the same as narcissists, I am a narcissist because I grew up in a family of narcissists ... I really opose this dehumanizstion of narcissists because it can happen to anyone - narcissist is basically a past victim of a narcissist. I really feel like being aware of my condition helped me a lit to be self aware and see myself for how I treat people and make amends, it helped me to relate to narcissists and diminish my hatered towards them and come to terms with my tendencies.. I really want to be a good person, but consrantly dehumanizing the kinds of me isn't really helpful.
I agree with you, but the heartbreaking thing is, you can put years into the relationship and it makes no difference. They are incapable of growth and positive change, in my experience.
Worst people I have ever encountered
Count yourself very lucky they have moved on . Love yourself more to never look or go back to a person who cannot possibly love...❤
They will discard anybody and everybody in their life, which it is a blessing at the end.
They will usually stop arguing and you may feel like things are better than ever. But really they are making their plan.
Yes how to destroy u
I noticed this. I was thinking on my head, that finally we were making progress she is actually talking to me about her needs instead of yelling at me. She was actually listening to my needs and taking me she understood. 2 weeks later on my way to work she left for someone else. Completely destroyed me. She told me how horrible I was and how great he was and then blocked me. Hard to describe that kind of pain
IF the narcissists if done with someone that's a blessing !!!!!!!!
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Hear hear
Amen!
unfortunately they stick like crazy glue by that time they will be stuck to a skeleton
I agree
Let us empaths work together for a better tomorrow and forget about the narcissist's of this world
They prey on empathetic people.
To feminine for my strong side..and wierd how you can be so intemidated my woman...
Amen to that 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Schools are the best place to start. That is the right time and place to make the biggest difference.
Here here.
AMEN ❤
The discard isnt always the end. They'll come back and blame you for blocking you. Then pretend they want to try again...just so they can discard you again.
Yup, the point is to not care about a narc once you know what you are dealing with recognize they a ball of b.s. they’re smoke
very true...
you all over
no its got nothing to do with blocking you its got to do with takeinf over my phonw playing games with the phone doing everthing in your power to humitiat me be little me would you block a peorson that does that to you i now iys not you pushing the buttons but you are the manager calling the shots behind the game
Hahaha.. not normal.not healthy not han
Only the victim can do the final discard.
the victim is best to go no contact and refuse all further contact with the narcissist, no matter how much they try reeling the person back in
How do you figure
@@angelwolf5089 Because the narcissist always wants more contact, on some level, to feed their own ego. But as the victim, YOU have the power to not allow that. This is (at least) one time when "ghosting" someone is a good thing. I was involved with a narcissist, and having a hard time dealing with the post breakup "friendship", where she was still keeping me at arms length.
During a text conversation, she finally admitted that she had been seeing someone for "some months" and that for us to spend any time together would be disrespectful to him, etc. I read that, considered a response, and then decided, Nope, not gonna say a word. I found out a little later, from her mother, with whom I'm still close, that she bawled her eyes out that I ignored her text, but of course, she wouldn't admit to her mother what she'd actually said to me. But she was just crying for the sake of her own hurt ego, b/c two months later, she has not yet reached back out to offer an apology, or even so much as an explanation for her behavior. Despite telling me, even a week prior, how much she really appreciates me and wanted to be able to come to me for advice about stuff.
Long story short: I am the one who dealt the final discard. And doing so allows me to walk away with a preserved sense of dignity. Do I still lover her? Absolutely. But the relationship was never "real", as this video describes, and I know that to allow her back into my life, in ANY capacity, is to invite pain and frustration and anger back into my life. Not going to happen.
That is the only way they will leave you alone
Yep, they always keep the door open.
i am tired of the statement that we shouldnt label people. if the behavior matches it matches, if it walks like a duck it is likely a duck
Thank you 👏👏👏
I identify as a duck. Qwak!
Exactly!
BETTER YET?! WHY DON'T SOME ONE, SUCH AS THIS PSYCHIATRIST, OF THIS TAPE, TELL THEM NARCISSISTS ; = = - # D O N' T L E T T H E T H E M N A R C I S S I S TS LABER - TERRORIZE - PEOPLE COWARDLY AND UN REASONABY?? # = =
Agree!
It can be difficult to explain narcissistic abuse to people who have never experienced it. They are usually puzzled about how you could let this happen and not see it coming and why you stayed in the relationship after the abuse started. Some people may think that you are exaggerating. It is especially hard to explain when your narcissistic mate can project an image to other people of being smart, calm, and caring. In the end, you may have to settle for accepting that some people will simply not be able to imagine how you suffered or how badly you were treated.
Exactley not to mention the trauma bond. And this fellour on here blaming us the suvivors
You just in one paragraph explained the last 42 years of my life. He has everyone thinking he is a great guy! I have stopped trying to explain anything about him to anyone. I did go to therapy and it was extremely helpful, but I did find a great Dr. I learned to stop saying I’m sorry 20 times a day, just to appease this man. There is no appeasing him. Speak when you are spoken to and very little. I used to try to put things right by confronting his lies. Pointless. He chooses to rewrite history to make himself blameless in every situation. Grey Rock is the only way I can live with him. I want to s ream I never said that I never did that! But I learned not to. If I get angry he gets very calm and says I am mentally ill. There is no way out for me. I am old and sick and trapped. Never wrong, never sorry. There is no bigger A hole on the planet than a Covert Narcissist. And no one would believe you.
Well put
I could see something was coming, I just didn't know it was narcissism.
@@roberttruman8444 Right
It starts when they find someone else,then your done!Why because all they care about is them,If you take them back,they will do it again,once a cheater always a cheater!!
So true, don't be fooled!!!!!
Please, do NOT shame the victim of the narcissist -- for being caring and trusting. It's who we are. It's how we can lean into our strength and over come their demonic presence.
BLAME THEM PREDITORS! THE NARCISSITS!! NOT THE ABUSED PRAYES OF A NARCISSITS? DON'T DRINK TOO MUCH WATER? WHY? YOU THINK, IT WILL TURN INTO WINE, IN YOUR STUMACH, OR WHAT??!
Ano not all narcs the evil malignant wernt abused they were molly coddled. Most them I know I married a malignant monsters
Stop sticking up for narcs we didn't know what we were getting in to listen to yourself look at you do one
i agree, we should not be shamed for expecting another human to be respectful and a decent human being...thats on them
We are exactly the kind of people they victimize. Empathetic, trusting, loving. They pull you in and over the years shred your personality. You lose your friends and rarely see your family. They have a way of ruining any good time you dare to have. One look across a room if you are talking to someone at a party and you know your ride home will be hell. We live in hell with these people. Toxic is not even a bad enough word.
I met one. The evil is more than I could even imagined. So pitiful
My only sibling is one.
My oldest sibling is one. @@rosalindr4975
My ex narc beat me up for 3 days & he was like I didn't do anything
Married one. Could never tell he was one unless you spend every day with him.
I dated a narcissist and the genesis of her issues are a horrendous childhood, filled with rage, violence and emotional abandonment. Of course, I didn't know this going in. She seems normal, at first. Then "emotional". Then it's just WTF. The thing that kept me hanging around were those brief moments of seeing the soft, gentle person who was buried beneath the layers of angry bitterness. You tell yourself, THAT'S who I see her to be, who I know she Can be. But trust me, it's a losing battle, b/c even when they Know they are the problem - as she admitted during our post breakup period, they just don't have the power, or perhaps even the willingness, to change. And their anger will Chew. You. Up.
This hits the nail on the head
Exactly.. spot on to what I just got myself out of after 3 years
I know it's hard to believe, but that soft underbelly you thought was "the real her" is just a performance for manipulation. None of what they present to the world is who they actually are. They actually hate themselves.
I'm literally going through this right now with the woman I love with all of my heart. Literally almost identical to you what you just said, except this time she is accusing me of being the narcissist and putting me in a no contact , I'm not giving up though because that's what anyone who has went through trauma expects and that is what they are defending themselves against show them that you love them and won't leave as long as major lines aren't crossed and that's when true change will start. Some situations I understand but most people are so quick to give up and just blame somebody or make someone a villain or victim it's disgusting. I mean doesn't that make people feel like shit? Do you know how much better it feels to help someone who is deemed unhelpable or to actually do good for somebody instead of just pointing fingers? Try it. Be the change. Stop hurting each other.
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Sweet sweet person, I too am exactly like you! I gave this person 4 years of my life. FOUR! I went to couple’s therapy bc he said he’d change for US. And he was lying to the therapist & the group too. Then the therapist himself said I think he has either Narcissistic Dissociative Disorder or he’s a sociopath “in which case I can treat him but not cure him & it’s best if you break up bc it’ll take more of a toll than you’ve already experienced, especially if I’m correct not only will he discard you, but he will already have moved on to the next source, which it looks like he is meeting people & lying about what he’s actually doing”. I stopped going to that therapist bc my fiancé said “he’s trying to break us up so he’s not a good therapist” I believed my narcissist so much bc I NEEDED to believe that I wasn’t wrong to love this “rejected, hurt & abandoned adopted meth baby who grew up with everyone bullying him. He deserves love”
My sweet internet soul, they do deserve to be loved! You have done everything you can in your huge heart to love your partner. Unfortunately, we are nothing more than objects that serve a purpose for them. Whatever that purpose is. For mine, I believed in him when no one else did. I gave him confidence. Made him push past his anxiety of not being accepted. And now he’s moved on to MANY more women. He even pays for sex & favors now. But he doesn’t come home for weeks, doesn’t text at all & when he shows up he acts like I don’t exist. He showers me with about 15 minutes of attention if I ignore him. As soon as he sees me smiling he says, I gtg take a nap sorry. I love you though. Then leaves for weeks again. I was STILL trying to figure out what was happening thinking I SHOULD NOT LEAVE HIM BC HES DEVELOPING schizophrenia. Till I just saw this video 😢 Please understand you are right! Do not ever give up easily on anyone. But understand, you are valuable & important too. The world needs people like us that care. But let’s remember who we are, and that we can love other people who will thrive from what we give. Take time to heal! Much love & lots of luck! Your internet friend wishing you don’t give up on yourself, ever, Emmy :)
Narcissist will also gaslight their victims.
@@mccm_ You are absolutely correct.
So true my ex husband did that when I caught him having and affair
The discard is never permanent. They’ll hoover and find a way back in for more supply. Don’t give them the opportunity unless you know what you’re doing. 😊
Not if you cheated on them. That injury sent him away for good 30days no contact😂
Not all of them desire to come back.
@@LynnLynn-r3cyup you hurt his ego by that 😂😂😂
If you shamed them publicly or confronted/called out their behaviour it begins a process called narcissistic mortification, wherein they will generally resent you and never return, they may actually endeavour to forever punish you whenever they can.
I called my ex out and shamed her somewhat publicly, now she loves to flaunt her affair parner in front of me whenever I am present.
Refer to professor Sam Vaknin if you want to understand the psychology, no one else on this platform even comes close to his assessments. He actually is a diagnosed/self aware narcissist.
Once their shine wears off or they think they've got you, watch out!
Im so scared😢😢😢
Should i call the law...
They screwed me over and filed a thing in my name ...what should i do...forged my name....😮
Someone ..i need some advice
Pay attention to the red flags early on on the friendship or relationship
I sadly missed them 9 years ago.
I once dated a love-bomber narcissist for a couple of weeks. I am a widow of three years and this was the first time that I had dated since my husband passed. The man was really pushy and didn’t listen when I asked him to slow down a bit. You may think this is silly but one evening I was texting him and while doing so, spellcheck kept bringing up the word “evil” several times. Even when I wasn’t texting a word that was even close to “evil.” I know in my deepest heart that this was my deceased husband warning me of this man. Turns out, the man was truly evil! Not having dated in over 40 years, I did not see the red flags. The love of my life saved me!
My ex girlfriend was a raging narcissist And an alcoholic. Their whole drive is to control your emotions. That’s where they get a fix. Bank robbers, steal money from banks, Car thieves, steel cars, Drug addicts, do drugs and narcissist control emotions….
If you want to repel a narcissist do this:
Stare at them when they yell at you. Just sit there and smile.
Be happy, help others.
Find enjoyment in your career.
Remain levelheaded at all times.
Set limits
Always questioning what they’re doing
Pretty soon they’ll get bored and leave. Their ego is insatiable and as long as you keep feeding it, they will stay.
Narcissists are thieves more than anything, they steal your time as well as your emotions. Their control over you only lasts as long as their mask. Uncovering who they are changes the dynamic for good and takes away much of their power and control. But I think in order to totally strip them of power you need to reach the point of 'radical acceptance', as 'they' say. For me it wasn't enough to learn who she was. I had to learn why I was the enabling sort.
If you've had a narcissistic lover, the you had a narcissistic mother.
Nope. Do not sit and listen to all the abuse. Put your fingers in your ears and repeat, "lalalalalala..." until they stop talking.
“Gaslighting” and “Word Salad” is a covert Narcs favorite thing!
What is Word Salad
@@karenbrister9191 Hello Karen , Narcissistic Word Salad is a bunch of jumble words strung together in such a way to keep you confused, tired, on the defense, and playing into the fight they are determined to rope you into. They do this when you ask them a question or make a statement and they don’t want to answer and want to start a fight.
Word Salad Example: (The Narc would deny, lie, ect. after I ask a question )
My question: For the past 6 months you speak horrible about your ex, yet all the sudden you are best friends?
Response from Narc: “Why are you jealous? I thought you have unshakable confidence? Why have you lied to me? I am happy you finally admitted you are a jealous person over me having a friend. You are pathetic, I am tired, and I can’t deal with this chaos you cause daily. (2 hours later…)
You need help and I don’t know if that is possible, why we are on this topic, did you remove my towel in the bathroom? It had to be you, you are jealous of everything I have!”…
Hope this helps.
@@karenbrister9191a bunch of bullshit lies. Because I had to learn a this whole new vocabulary. They lie CHEAT steal AND take...
And passive aggression. So cowardly
@@heartofglass6697 👍🏻, exactly!
With a narcissist it's never really over unless YOU block THEM for good. They are never truly done with their victims. Once they've handpicked you to be a victim, narcissistic supply, minion or flying monkey, you're stuck there unless YOU get away from them and end ALL COMMUNICATION for good. Otherwise, they'll try to keep their foot in the door and use you any way they can.
Yes mine said it’s over, we are not supposed to be together, I need to heal (from who ????) and then I said okay so will you never reach out again? And he avoided answering like 5 times and then he finally said “maybe never” and I knew he’s so full of shit. Why couldn’t he say he never would? Because he shelved me. He’s so predictable
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Revenge is mine, saith The Lord 😅😅
Good one psychology element!! I love the end. Labeling narcs as demons, are we really progressing!!
I like these options of self development better
Youre right about the heart attitude of calling a narc a demon but the truth is there is very much a spiritual element to this and it is DEMONIC. we need to live in and state the truth.
If there is something demonic in narcissists then we have to be open to the likelihood that the victims also posses something demonic, or else why become attracted to the narcs and let them wreak havoc?
I dont even know him!!! It was definatly an ILLUSION IN MY HEAD...
If they are done with you be grateful you made it out of the crap they put you in
Exactly this is what my husband did. He pushed me to get pregnant, we tried for 2 years it was all his problems with diabetes but he kept blaming me that because of me he doesn’t have children. Once I got pregnant by IVF he dumped me in couple of months when I was on bedrest and bleeding. He left me alone in United States where I have no family, he went to India to sleep with his virtual lover. Obviously he failed there with his performance and he broke up with her. Now he is back everyday fighting with me saying I pushed him into these affairs.
Yes they beat you till you can't walk and go out houering no food could not stand they are women haters. Misoginists secrete gay life my malignant narc husband.
Are you still with him?
It will only get worse
@@gabrielleaumont3971 as of now yes.
I used to ignore red flags, but Im much older and much wiser.
THE QUESTION CAME UP. WHERE DID NARCISSISTICBEAVIOR CAOMES FROM? WHEN PEOPLE WANTED TO ACHIEVE MORE, THAN THE OTHER? WHEN THEY ARE BOASTY, AND THINK OF THEMSELF, AS IF THE DETERMIN DAILY, THAT THEY ARE ACTUALY THE CENTER OF THE EARTH / UNIVERS - WHEN THEY FIRST TRICK OTHERS / MANIPULET OTHERS! JUST TO GET 1 AND A 1/2 DROP OF WATER . . . EVERY ONE HAS THOSE EMOTIONS. BUT MOST PEOPLE HAS THEM, IN MUCH LOWER WAY YET OTHERS CANT IMAGINE, TO LIVE ANY OTHER WAY! - THAN BEING A STRON ARROGANT NARCISSIST?!! SELFISHNESS!! = WHAT YOUR - A I - WOULDN'T UNDERSTA / KNOW, JUST BY MEMORY OR BY MEMORY OF MANU!!
The connection was never really there! 🎉 thank you for saying that out loud.
I LOVE that this video touches on how the narc takes on your personality. It's so off putting. But this is how I knew my ex bf found another woman to date before we were broken up. His vernacular changed!! I knew exactly who he was into based on the new things he started saying. He stopped using my vernacular and started using this girl's, who was "just a friend"; The day after we broke up, he got with her yet tried to claim nothing started until we were over, as if I'm dumb. The worst part is after it didn't work out, he blamed me then tried to get my sympathy for it not working out lol The most bizarre and hurtful experience I've had with a partner, and I have been hit in the face by one. I'd rather have that hit any day!! That's how painful this behavior was to me.
Also a tactic the narc uses to discard will often be something to make you break up with them, on purpose, so they can use it for sympathy to get their new partner. And so nobody can judge them for moving on so quickly because "they're in pain''; It's all bs and if you aren't aware of the games they play, it can be incredibly confusing/heart wrenching.
Thanks for the good points.
The narcissist is described in the Holy Bible.
James 3:16
For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.
Jesus saves❤️✝️
Yes. It’s the wicked man of the Bible. It is the Cain response to the fall, unbelieving. The core of narcissism is unbelief in a Good God and therefore unbelief in the value of the self as made in the image of this Good God. The true self and the true God are rejected through unbelief. Then, the true self empowers a false self and becomes its own god which in trim lets the devil takeover the is entity of the person. Jealousy of “normal” people (people who have a relationship and are accepted by the true God like Abel) and hatred of them ensue. Murder (real or by words) follows along with every evil work, because the narcissist can’t feel or give love. All love is deflected to their false idol of self. Then, addictions abound as they search for meaning and satisfaction in life. Those only goal is to satisfy that idol of self which is an impossibility. They must humble themselves and submit to the true God. They must resist evil for it to flee from them. They believe their own lies, so this never happens. It could. They choose not to. Very very sad.
Thank you.
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👍God bless you
I'm not religious, although I come from a multi-faith family. I don't buy into the whole story of Jesus and the immaculate conception, which is to say that I don't take it literally. Something about the idea of a spirit entity that is so great and powerful that it created the universe and everything in it makes me question why this entity would make such an exception to humans above all other creations, and if humans were made in his/it's own image then why did we appear so late on in the history of the world? Can man really communicate directly with such a force of nature, and could humans be able to interpret the word of God? More importantly if the second coming happened tomorrow and we were approached by a stranger in the pub who claimed to have spoken to God, would we be as quick to believe them as we are to believe the 2000 year old claim from people who are strangers to us? Unfortunately my mind then goes to biology and questions how a great powerful spirit entity that has no human form could still physically inseminate a woman and succeed in getting her pregnant first time when most couples find this quite impossible. Furthermore, how did Mary not make a big fuss about having been violated in such a way? Why was she so accepting of the situation after hearing that the baby would be the son of Christ? How come Joseph didn't kick up a fuss and question his wife's behaviours and whereabouts when he wasn't around to keep an eye on her? And strangers still, how was Mary married to Joseph and still a virgin??? I cannot accept a story like this and take it literally. But as a means of understanding and accepting a situation that no human will likely be able to explain ever, this kind of fictional story is a great method for educating us without getting us stuck down a rabbit hole of 'Whatif's'.
But I don't dismiss the narrative, or those who do believe it and take it literally. Much less was known about the world, life and science 2000 years ago and I can only imagine how unmeasured the power of the unknown was back then. So I can appreciate how important stories would have been because it's a way of demonstrating a real and valid situation and the philosophy or practise used to resolve the situation or to help understand something that isn't obvious. The Bible seems more like a manual, with God being more of a concept or the embodiment and characterisation of humanity, or simply just a symbol of everyone that has ever been. When people talk about recovery and thank God or Jesus for helping them get to where they needed to go, it feels more like an acknowledgement of one's self and their community as well as the generations before them who each made their contribution to the society.
Yes I been thur so much im.done
Run 🏃♀️ they the devil can’t change won’t change
Fact's 💯💯🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
You see that mask off and 👺.
I like the ending. YES! This was actually all my fault. I ignored all the red flags and warning signs. Why I do not know. She was beautiful. The more I got pushed away, the harder I tried to hold it together, and once I realized that I was just enabling this person, I finally saw a way out. It was like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders.
So yeah, the narcissist is evil, but we cannot blame them. We can only blame ourselves for staying. RUN!!!! As fast as you can. Go dark. Disappear. Do NOT try to reason with them. It won’t work! You are just playing right into their hands. So leave and never looked back.
I’m free!!!
Quite frankly, I started out firmly believing I was the narcissist. Fitting most criteria with the exception of empathy and so much regret for who I have been. In the midst of that conviction, I'm finding healing. I needed to be broken to start that journey out of disfunction. So ya, God took something horrific and is using it to my good. I look forward to the day I can help someone else do the same. God bless.
“It’s a painful reality “ no it’s not it’s a blessing relief you just gotta shake it….trust me they’ll be back but you’ll be long gone and healed
U hit it on the head. I've been there and done that, but i discarded him, and he said, "Oh well, you when so u lose some." Worst relationship, no situation ever. I learned to trust intuition and make the 1st red flag ur last. It's my fault being involved. I wanted to see his mind set. The relationship was more like a case study for me. I can start my own channel with the events i went through with him. And he was 64. I went against what i knew to be true immediately because my girl said, "Give him a try." And lower my guard. He spoke bad about every woman in his life, so i know he is doing the same to me. Dont care. I feel. Light from and healed😊
Me to I discarded him they come back stalk travel 100 miles I got police. This freek I married bought his pure down grade in my home.
Wants you start doing nothing for them and stop talking to them that's it he said to me nothing there is the I waked away in another room why should you be nice when you proof of 2 women one was the upstairs neighbour another 2 kids with wile we were married scum of this earth
Ok, this is where I'm at! It sucks
They ALWAYS come back
Mark My Words Sis
Not true.
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I pray for this. My ex was diagnosed by 2 different court ordered psychiatrist. I left him 1 1/2 years ago. He still stalks me and tells certain people we “are working” on things. Yet, while we were married for 11 years he cheated constantly, degraded me daily, physically abused me at times, described being home with me and the kids as being in prison, went to the bar alone for several hours 365 days a year, through all of my traumas in my face, went away to watch a football game when I was in the hospital having an organ transplant, slept in a different room half the time, didn’t touch me for 3 years, made fun of my family tragiccly losing their lives, then when I was off planning the funeral he slept with my “friend”, and on and on. However, he thinks he owns me and he can put me on and off the shelf whenever he can’t find anyone else. All this and he is still convinced that I love him and am just pretending I don’t because I’m trying to hurt him. He is so full of himself that he cannot comprehend that I genuinely think he is a garbage human being and don’t feel any attraction to him at all.
I'm so sorry for how this piece of garbage treated you ! It goes beyond human logic how a so called human can be devoid of love, compassion , & kindness ! And if that's not bad enough, it's sad & tragic to know that there are many other good people all around us dealing with a similar monster ! Best wishes in your healing journey 🤗🙏🙏🙏🌹
Yep. I'm still in the grip of this guy. You know, when you place restraining order or want to go; a super-psycho can smell you are planning to escape, it's so much more dangerous this time period . If I had money to move I'd be gone..but they rip into your everythings.
I have had annoyed paramedics also tell me there are shelters.
Well I was celibate for seven years for a reason. The previous perfect guy snapped on me. Did the shelter thing. It's so ass backwards this fake help.... ended up couch surfing. Stayed celibate.
Then found another psycho who I would not have sex with for a year. He was patient. Now it's a death march. I told my nurse if I die it's him. People don't get it unless they are stalked and poisoned and threatened and theses super scary people destroy everything good about us.
The police laugh at my neurosis. He's charming.
Best to you❤
Typically, narcissists display manipulation, disregard for empathy, or even betrayal that signals the “end of the game” in a relationship. These signals often become apparent when they lose control or power over another person, and their destructive behavior ultimately leads to a breakup or end to the relationship.
I'm just coming out of a 2 year marriage with a woman who had covert traumatic narcissism.And it was one of the worst experiences of my life
I have dealt with a couple of narcissists in my day and it is pretty fucking difficult to navigate and can be very easy to get lost in your head wondering how things turned out to be the way that they have wondering what you did wrong or what you could have done differently wondering they never loved you at any point in the relationship. But one thing that keeps me going that I always keep in mind is that it is good to show your love and I hope it's reciprocated but you got to keep this in mind you're the pilot of your journey everybody else is along for the ride so in essence with that being said you fall in love with yourself and you share that love
They cant be honest for nothing,play alot head games,and they seem so miserable ,and always somebody's else's fault,they stay in a bad mood, If they have these signs RUN ,you can love them, they hate you more because they know and is jealous that you have that kind of love in you even if its loving them,i know twisted, just RUN its not gong to change there mind, loving them they will still play with you,if your strong there not going to want you,which is a Blessing,it will take time to get over them at the beginning because in your head you say to yourself no one this bad,or,selfish,or mean,they might just bad mood today or maybe they went through something this week and there trying to handle it themselves,No they are really like that its Rare to find 1, but there out there,can they change that's rare too,but it can happen,but its best to let them deal with there own demons because we all know demons come in all forms,the main Red Flag you look for is,If you need them and they dont come through or least reach out,2 if you are around them and your happy but they want to upset or you can fee that bad energy there 1, just let them be and move on, you can miss out on your blessing staying with them,trust me it can Happen
You are so spot on with the main Red Flag. When you need them and they don't come through for you. I had a subarachnoid brain haemmorage. My kids told by Drs there was a chance I wouldn't make it.Just came out of intensive care after four days and he tells me he's going on a surfing trip with his friend because I'm in the best place. Just heartbreaking...and shock.
So broken 💔 cant believe after almost 5 years i ain't nothing to this man
See past the false confidence and arrogance. Deep down they think less of themselves than that of their victims. That means if you're 'nothing' to him, then he must see himself as worth 'less than nothing'. They only chose people of worth to make their victims. Otherwise they've nothing to get from you.
The h### with him
I had two kids and ten years..
@@BrandyTexas214 but at least you got ten years and two kids out of them!
I wasted 21 years of my life on something that wasn't real. You have got a whole new life ahead of you.
Withholding intimacy and getting their own needs met watching porm
Mine did withhold intimacy, it was awful,I had to beg for her attention not my idea of a relationship. She had endless time for cyber strangers,that was strange also
...ok, well. I _genuinely_ don't know how, in my case.
Feel it
I must give myself the kindness i give to others. I owe me & so do they
The most sicking thing is...they win and we recover once knowing one!
They dont win. Karma is real.
NO - NO?!! WE, EVENTUALY WILL & DO RECOVER, OF THEIR UGLY TREATMENTS! = WE / THE INOCENT PRAYERS, WE WIN!! = THEY NEVER EVER CHANGE - THEY DON'T INTENDTO CHANGE AND THEY SELFDISTRUCT THEMSELVES! = THEY LOSE!! = BUT THIS / THESE HAPPEN MANY TIME, IN A VERY LONG SPAN OF TIME TOO!!
Not true, they already lost a long time ago! All they are doing is trying to convince themselves that they haven't lost by bringing everyone else down to their level, and they can't even succeed in doing that!
Their chameleons, what was hard for me to grasp was ,the woman I fell in love with “Never Existed” They always have someone new but they’ll keep you as their primary supply as long as they can can get a reaction out of you. Educate yourself on the traits of a narcissist.
Worst when your whole Sibling is narcissist and pass it on to their children.they carbon copy.its worst nightmare.😢
I feel you. I still am trying to accept this is /has been real life. Stay strong 🐦🔥
He is the way he is but I really love him and it hurts more than I can take. I don't even want to live anymore. I didn't know people like that existed.
Sickening isn't it!! I wish I knew before I fell so hard😢.. he's not even trying to hide his creepy ways, leaving evidence, not answering phone or text, not coming home, first time in four years he wasn't there at night, 10p-12:30a waited like a fool.. of course I'll never know where he was or who he was with.. I do know he def wasn't in church and he wasn't alone!!
if someone has changed their last name to King, they are most definitely a narcissist
Haha
He is right about the inward stuff...codependent here...I am awake
In learning about him, I've learned much about myself...co dependent 😔
'what? narcissist want to end our relation? yeah! Let's have a HUGE celebration !' 💃💃👯
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Another way you can tell that they're moving on to another person while they're still with you. Is that thing they do by mimicking someone when they first get involved with them. You will start to notice that they have new quirks that they have never done before. My narcissist started wearing different colored boxer briefs out of nowhere for no reason, and after the first couple of years(2006) of me asking him why he still wears tighty whities. The next thing he did was start watching TV series, and specific ones. Also out of nowhere he was interested in certain movies, and only certain movies like someone had mentioned that they like those movies first.
Yes! And songs on repeat. Very specific songs. As if they’re trying to convince themselves these are their new favorite songs just so they can be “the perfect mate” for their new supply. And new songs out of nowhere that when YOU suggested them he/she said “eww I hate that artist”. All of a sudden they’ve “always loved that artist & you’re crazy for suggesting otherwise” Y’know… bc it’s always us, not them who are or have a problem.
Thank you...for this,most informative information and CONFIRMATION!!!! BUT GOD!!!
Victim blaming lost me...I was a successful woman at 50 before I got targeted by mine.. once and once only...
Wow,can I identify, I am tried of games, lies, wanting me to supply their needs, they care less about the giver, it's what the giver can do for them, person that is a giver, could be in need of empathy, forget that they have an emptiness in their being to help!!!!! It's the truth , and it can cut like a knife, they are out for themselves, believe me you don't want to experience there way, it's tixic!!!!
Yes I do need to work on my self something most be wrong with me to attract them .
Yourself is amazing & the light that you radiate attracts them because you are a empathetic person. Don’t change for no one! Take as experience & no with wisdom on the next one that approaches! Use your light to attract another light! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Not you. Just your decisions. Knowing is more than half the battle. Once you truly learn about narcissists the hard way then it's impossible to un-learn and it'll be the first thing you consider in the future. Most narcs know what they are and they work tirelessly to make sure others don't find out. If they suspect that their victim has figured them out or is too close now to be stopped, then the narcissist begins to execute their exit strategy. They always have one eye on the exit.
I ran a family business with a narcissist. She drained our bank account and left a trail of lies and deception. I hope my second life will be better.
I appreciate this video and also shining a light back on why we might have chosen them to begin with. Humbling and a bit of..,”oh sh*t.” I am an adopted child always hoping to be “good enough to be loved.” Just as a kid..”if I do my homework, if I keep my room clean and bed made and my clothes free of dirt…” maybe just maybe I will be good enough to still be loved and not hit. As an adult…it’s sadly no different. I hate this about myself. I left a multi multi millionaire because I knew I would wind up hurting myself if I didn’t leave him. I had no hope left inside. So..here I am…1 month later in the middle of Montana lol where the skiing isn’t that great nor the golf and I knew I would be safe from him following me since if the skiing or golf isn’t his type of quality he is used to belonging to…and the 1 lane roads…and…bears…and…die hard republicans with guns (which has been scary for me too lol) but on a serious note…he hasn’t followed me despite his anger and disgust. And you are right… upon seeing his texts..emails to old girlfriends (and new) he is all about making sure everyone knows what a BIG DEAL he is. (Meh.)
Me? I just want to get a pulse on me. That’s all I want. I finally went to a grocery store. Zero interest I talking with anyone. Like male or female. I need friends but trying to heal mentally has been difficult.
So…thanks for these videos. They help those of us that can’t go to restaurants or church let alone a bar.
I just want to keep curling up in a ball trying to figure out how to stop the mental bleeding.
😢
I lived with a female covert narcissist and told her to stop contacting me recently because she would not stop putting me down and attacking me, would not stop trying to get me angry by insulted me and saying bizarre things about me to every one... so it had to end and I had to cut off all communication with her...no empathy at all... I had a year where she trying to crawl back into my life...she had not changed just more full of hate and anger....and had not learned anything in the 14 years we had been apart...
Mine lied manipulated. Smoke screened. No financial responsibility. Argued over petty stuff. Called the law 9 times trying to get me arrested. The ninth time accused me of rape. My eyes were opened up to this dangerous person. Went and got order of protection against her and not looking back. Fortunately for me the officers saw right through her and helped me too see her for who she really is. She will never be around me again. Her son acted like this was my fault. Family of narcissists I guess.
holy fuck. you def gave your ex-GF 8 more chances to get you arrested than i would have given.
@@carparthero yes. Stupid me.
Thank you do very much .needed to gear this
I just finished watching this video and I still don't know what the "one thing" it is that they do that signals it is the end!
Wow!! Love this thank you so much I divorce my first husband didn't know anything about narcissist.and now am married to another one .definitely leaving .
it has happend to me two times! After the first very hurtful break up with the most dangerous narcissist I've met in my life, I thought never ever will this happen to me again. So with the second one it ended almost like the first one... he is not that psychopathic, but they use the same patterns AGAINST me! I don't know whats wrong with me ? I've never heard from such people before and now, there are so many?! Whats wrong with you? Is this a new way of dating? Make the girls extremely dependent from you and then push them away with such hatred? Emotionally I am at my limit because of that!
They simply will not hush, I will share enough drama making ,no maker how get away from them,no matter what role they pretend to play in your life
yes learnt alot domt label people you dont have to tell them whobthey are they tokd you them self yes always lookinf
My mother has been caught in my narcissist crossfire and it's my mothers loss because of my narcissist
im a super empath thats being abused by a dl narcissistic man for 25 years now he won’t leave me
The narcissist can only manipulate those who don't know who they are,know who you are and protect yourself from those people and still love them.
Most of what you said, I agree with however, calling them demons is exactly what it is. You can't take the spiritual component out of this if they are a true narcissist Best believe they have demonic attachments You?
Have to understand the spiritual side of narcissism. True narcissism. It is demonic and you better understand what you're dealing with and have disarmament. Thank you blessings.😊
I gave in and allowed her to come back. I fell in love with the mask and stupidly held on to the moments in the beginning. She ended up using me. Forcing me into debt and left again. Only to move down the hall from me and finally get a job that she can support herself. This happened twice. Lol I know shame on me. Im an adult idiot.
Im an empath currentlyin relationship with narcist this video explanations got me shock because all of this is a definition of his behabiour .but im trying my best to renew him and change his mindset but really stubborn he believes on himself toomuch and never care of other people.he is sweet but he is slfish childish stubborn
Forget about it, narcissists cannot change. Plus you've never met the real version of them. You've met just one of their characters.
I am sadly been with a narcissist for 28 years, she pretended to like and feel like I did, after our 1st child it was okay. After the birth of our 2nd child, she brought in her narcissistic/ gangster oriented family. It is getting worse, she even turned one child into a carbon copy of her and her family. The youngest, tells me many things about what the Mother in Law and the family up her sleeve, luckily for me.
It's a living hell
Yes. Describe behaviors.
Not label. That's a diagnosis. Left for the professionals.
Narcissists are straight from the “Pit Of HELL! I know I was married to a somatic narcissist for 5 years 😮
What is a somatic narcissist?
@@JJ-pf3ok A somatic narcissist is one who lures you in with their body. My somatic narcissist was 45yrs old with the body of a 30yr old. They use sex and they know how to dress for you.
You didn’t answer the question in your title clearly; AND whilst I agree we all need to be accountable & conscious for our life choices, the last minutes were very preachy & guilting people who have been targeted by narcs.
How do they get away with it I wad fooled by someone I truly loved for 10 years he proposed he was everything I dreamed of physically and emotionally he was I thought my best friend lover and soulmate then after all the lies and betrayal of trust he left it went from exstacy to hate and resentment he was abused as a child and lived in a loveless marriage he came into my life and there was an instant connection it was like switching a light bulb on electric I fell in love with him but did he really love me or was he just obsessed if itwax love he would be here but he left me after I lost my daughter so I gues I’ll never know haven’t seen him since 👍🏻😊
Unfortunatelly, they are great actors. They know really well what you want and give it to you at the beginning. Then you always crave for what you once had, but never ever get that again. You live on breadcrums and its crazymaking. You always look for your own mistakes and would do anything to get it back. Its really cruel. But it was never love. They are not capable of love. They are parasites who live from others. It seems like they are always on hunt for something "better" and never satisfied.
@@martinahavelkova9828
Exactly!
Unfortunately, I was with a narc for 13 yrs - didn't know what narcissism was at the time. Saw a few red flags but ignored them due to his traumatic childhood. Always remember the "situationship" they had with you was nothing more than smoke & mirrors - an act! In short, you were USED! They are TAKERS, never GIVERS! They take while we give & that's what it's all about! They are selfish, self centered a**holes that prey on & get pleasure from torturing & sucking the life out of people! I've been free of him for almost 5 yrs & it was the best thing I ever did! I finally have peace & loving life again!
Awesome explaination❤
I never got the answer just the definition and then advice at the end? Title seemed like a click bait
What ever the reason is but being a narcissist is completely choice
narcissism is a personality disorder, its not a choice.
while most narcissistic people dont seek help or therapy etc, the ones who do go to therapy only use it to their advantage and use all these new words and meanings to justify what they are doing.
Narcissistic people are narcissistic not by choice. They may notice, try to change, but they never do
There are cases where people with mental illnesses or people who need therapy exhibit signs of narcissistic behaviour and may get blamed for being a narcissist from their behaviour, when really those people can change but they need the right help and resources for them
Set clear boundaries, and keep them!
Know what you are looking for in a relationship,
and what you simply will not tolerate.
Then, work on YOURSELF. Keep doing the NEXT RIGHT THING
-over and over.
Be PATIENT
and persevere!
"Suffer, and endure" used to be my motto, but WHY SUFFER while you're doing it? Why not Soul Search and figure out WHO YOU ARE and WHAT YOU WANT to do with your life--
and then DO THOSE things!! ❤️
Go live your best life!
Create an awesome vision of what you want your life to look like,
and then keep doing the next right thing.
What are you waiting for, You Beautiful Soul?!??
Go!!
Not all narcs are actually done with you...they come back....stay strong and don't go back.
Not true.
@@irinaivanovic9792 not sure what happened with your experience...but i said not all luv... The narc i dealt with stay trying to come back...there was times i fell for the i love yous the you're the only one blah blah. But enough was enough i dead that situation and still the narc wont give up. So idk maybe its a good thing the narc you was with isn't coming back its a good thing for you because it's freaking draining....but i tell you this just be prepared.
@@irinaivanovic9792 there's even some RUclipsr claiming exposing the narc will make them leave you for good...hunty that's proving to also being a lie because i have exposed over and again even allegantly keyed up the narc truck after being caught up...the narc still trying to contact me...even had his high school ex reaching out to me saying how he speaks highly of me this that and the third...Chi boo i ain't falling this time its all lies on repeat. But stay strong luv they always come back its just a matter of time...
God bless you ! Thanks !
Thank you.
Wow thank u for all that information.. to know all my exes before were never narcissists after all helps alot. But my most recents ex girlfriend well it hit the nail on the head with her. I really hate it also because her and i could have made it work had she not had been a narcissist. Smdh its just a waste actually.
Why do they do a reverse discard
How did he discard me but keep bothering me
With this lie that he misses me 🙄🙄🙄🙄so sick of it
Listened to the whole video and didn’t hear the one sign they are done. Did I miss it or is it not in the video ?
BS ends at 5:33
They only gaslight parts of themselves when they fall into their own pits, when they show you who they really are don't put in the rose colored glasses, they breakdown behind the scenes and lose close relationships and financial assets
This mans voice is enough red flag arogant
I hate to break it to you... but thats not a mans voice, its a computer generated voice, its simply just AI
@@Josh-dm5sx naughty that
It's a blessing in disguise.
I suffer fron one and stuck
Umm the point is im done with them!
I would say the same, but unfortunately I feel I'm done with everyone else too.
This is spot on!!! 💯💯💯👏🏽
here to Say. Yes. But i Purposly Ignored them 🚩 . 9 years into this one... on my way to healing though. And yes. the breakaway has begun... kind of at a stalemate on Whom will leave. he has Multiple places and i have my lil car... to Whit he knows is all breaking down. and i Believe is waiting for me to b Stuck. but. Ain gonna Happen 🙌✔️👀
I found out I am a narcissist not so long ago and I agree there are those dark tendencies, lots of grudge and syuff, but I think it is a lie that I am unable to love or relate, it is something that may seem from the point of external observation but from my point of view we just misread a lot of things like getting less attention signals danger and possible abandonment .
You know people aren't born rvil and stuff, to produce a narcissist is not so difficult- people have to be treated with narcissistic abuse for ling enough, especially in their childhood and then they turn into that as the natural response of narcissistic victim to narcissistic abuse is very much the same as narcissists, I am a narcissist because I grew up in a family of narcissists ...
I really opose this dehumanizstion of narcissists because it can happen to anyone - narcissist is basically a past victim of a narcissist.
I really feel like being aware of my condition helped me a lit to be self aware and see myself for how I treat people and make amends, it helped me to relate to narcissists and diminish my hatered towards them and come to terms with my tendencies.. I really want to be a good person, but consrantly dehumanizing the kinds of me isn't really helpful.
I agree with you, but the heartbreaking thing is, you can put years into the relationship and it makes no difference. They are incapable of growth and positive change, in my experience.
Abusing people is a choice narcs know there abusing us to get supply abuse is abuse end of Mr narcissist
Are you playing victim?
@moe_ramz no I am a suvivor .you play that buy yourself