Narcissistic infidelity differs from "normal cheating", because a narcissist feels no shame or remorse for what they've committed! In fact, they convince themselves it's your fault, and actually lead the new partner to believe they're a victim of you. A narcissist will talk about marriage and having kids with you, while sleeping with another person. They'll give you the silent treatment and punish you, trying to make you feel bad for their own bad behavior. Survivors often wonder "why wasn't I good enough?" or "why is the new partner better than me?" because the narcissist will shamelessly wave this person in your face and parade the new target around on social media. Every second you spend comparing yourself to this person will erode your self-worth and fill you with feelings of inadequacy and rejection. How did they replace you so quickly, immediately making all the same promises to another person? The answer is simple: Cluster-B disorders all stem from the inability to attach. They never attached to you, which is why they try to intensely manufacture all the normal feelings of love and bonding, and it's also why they are able to detach and do the same thing to someone else in one day. Because they never successfully attached to you, despite all of their sweeping words. Sociopaths and narcissists are incapable of attaching to other human beings, so they hone all of these other skills like seduction, flattery, mirroring-all in an attempt to mimic what they see other people doing: loving each other. The problem is, they see "love" as receiving constant attention and adoration. This is what they give to you, and this is what they want to receive in return. The NY Times describes it this way. "Narcissistic alexithymia: The inability to understand or describe the emotions in the self. Unable to know themselves, sufferers are unable to understand, relate or attach to others. To prove their own existence, they hunger for endless attention from outside." Narcissistic "supply" is really just a distraction from this condition. When you fail to relieve this (because no external factor can), you are punished and replaced. No matter how caring and kind you were, they still don't feel good, and their disorder convinces them that a new partner will be the magical fix to everything. This is when you get "split" as the crazy bad person so they can justify their sudden change of heart. Even though they blame you, I hope you can see that this process has literally nothing to do with you. You can follow their new relationship, hope it fails, analyze yourself, analyze them, try to be more perfect, prove yourself, figure out whose fault it was, etc. All you're doing is hurting yourself. Turn your focus from external to internal. What do you feel? Inadequacy? Shame? Rejection? Betrayal? These are your feelings, and those are what matter. You need to work with these feelings, understand them, and learn to offer yourself the comfort and love needed to heal them. Otherwise you're just left with an unresolved mess of pain from an impossible situation, and a frightened heart that believes it's at fault. Left untended, it'll eventually just fade into a numb obscurity. Work with this pain, understand it, talk with it, communicate with your body. This is the most important thing you can do. Every time you're tempted to check on them, ask yourself what you're feeling. A void? Emptiness? Loneliness? Resentment? Numbness? These issues cannot be resolved through searching externally. Yes, they were created by an external factor, but it's your wound now, whether you want it or not. You are the only person who can decide to nurture these wounds and build a loving relationship with your emotions. Additionally, You can remotely spy on your narc partner without leaving any evidence or traces and you’ll be getting their text from their phone to your phone. This can only be accomplished by hiring a private investigator Metaspyhub@gmail. com who can help you hack into their device and uncover whatever they are hiding from you.
Thats a clear and true description and how it is with a narc, borderline, sociopath and psychopath...you just have to run away and heal your own wounds, even you have kids with a narc. I had to leave and also leave my 6 year old daughter behind with the narc because the narc convinced the police and the judge I was the culprit...I live in denmark and my daughter is now living with her narc mother in the philippines in my house...its very heartbreaking to watch what is now going on for my daughter being destroyed by an insane mother without me being able to help my daughter
That's so sad. I'm so sorry. I hope you have her again one day. My narc ex's ex wife has emigrated with a new man and sends money to her child, who lives with the grandparents. Now I know what he's like I'm not surprised she's left the country. Urgh. He's absolutely disgusting. He probably cheated from the word go with her and married her anyway. I feel so bad for her.
Not all STDs are curable, don't take a chance. Once you suspect this stupidity, get the hell out. If they can careless about themselves, what of you? Run for your life..
1. Polar opposite of what they claim to be 2. Last minute changes 3. Disregard sexual health (STD) 4. Alter their sexual behavior 5. Alter personal hygiene routine ( preoccupied with looks) 6. Claim ex spouse is jealous
I am just leaving my 57 year marriage with a narcissist. Everything you said in the last episode fits him over the top. When I was listening to the last episode about cheating your message stopped me instantly - every single item you talked about opened my mind and I clearly see that I wasn’t nuts. I know that at 75 I’ll probably spent the rest of my life alone, but I was alone for the past 57 years. I’d rather live alone forever than face that nightmare again. Lies, lies, lies……………
I was married to my narc husband for 28 years I can imagine the pain you went through . I am so sorry for your pain. May God bless you and I wish you peace for the rest of your life.
You are better off with your friends, than a cold hearted liar, you go girl! I was three years with a narcissist and I healed from his toxic behavior, so can you!
I’ve been married 26 years, and i filed for a divorce 5 weeks ago and boy oh boy , have I ever seen the true person once i filed for the divorce. People think they know the person they’ve been with for soo long . Eye opening to say the least. You don’t know them until you divorce them and you see everything soo crystal clear and then you start seeing things that you didn’t even know existed. Cheating wasn’t something I’m dealing with . But discard , checked out , avoidance / no contact , being greedy with money is what I’m dealing with at this phase. Disconnect, no communication, no show of love or affection, neglecting your needs, making you feel like you are the one who’s the problem, they have to be the victim and you’re the bad guy .
They play the victim while making you look insane while the whole time they ghost you or hangup on you all the time when you are trying to have a conversation them
Never let them know you know who they really are under their facade. They will strike in ways you’d never imagine they’re capable of doing to hurt you at your very core. Who they were isn’t who they are and NEVER will be. Once you get it, get out as quickly and quietly as possible. I know, I lived it.
Welp. I let her know and YUP....it hurt. Alot. I ended up being ghosted after 5 years together. She thought she'd killed me...yet I live. Yet, I'm alive.
Progress report! I'm boxing up my shit and I'm gone. Whatever life I find will be better than this. I haven't had a affectionate touch or peck on the cheek much less sex in at least 6 fuckin years. There are lifers in Pelican Bay who get far more sex than I have had. The first one in line is going to need to take a couple sick days when I'm finished. Seriously, I just want to know what happiness is like. Two decades! I can't remember being happy. I can't. When someone you love deeply tells you that you're a piece of shit loser that everyone hates and that you are so disgusting that I'm not allowed to touch anyone, especially her. You start to believe that shit. The sight of her and my best friend arm in arm looking at me and laughing caused something inside me to suddenly realize what a pathetic joke I'd been. She kept me angry. This wasn't anger. It was the worst hurt I've ever felt and still feel. I'm scared to death that she's going to show up here.
Being with my ex narc for the past 10 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
Completely accurate. Their behavior is predictable once you learn that you’re dealing with one. I’ve heard so many bs excuses that I look back wishing I would have known this personality disorder even existed. Even telling me that our neighbor was too ugly to have sex with. I believed that one because I thought she was. I’m not sure if all narcs sleep with their best friends wives for the thrill of it or just the one I had. It always amazed me that the husbands would not only forgive him, but somehow turn them into seeing me as the villain. They absolutely will try to make you out to be crazy to deflect attention to all of the terrible behavior they inflict on others, usually without the people even being aware of how bad the situation the narc has put them in. I used to think my ex never lied, but in the end realized it’s because they lied all the time. I strongly suggest learning everything you can to protect yourself from ever falling into this trap again. They don’t look for partners, they look for targets. 💜
People like you should really speak out against Anime and Manga, especially those which promote Narcissists like Asuka Langley Soryu from Neon Genesis Evangelion. Seriously entire generations of youth, teens and other people are being brainwashed into either becoming Narcissists, condoning Narcissists and falling victim to Narcissists.
I have been married To a narcissist for 30 years, what you have said is all so true. It is a difficult life, my first husband was an alcoholic. I can’t win
You have to pray and walk out . People can’t respect you when they disrespect you and you stay . Idk your situation but when my ex narc now at the time cheated I walked out went NO CONTACT! Hope you get the strength to leave and live your life fully with your dreams realized
I was married 25 yrs. To a vicious narcissist. He tried everything to break me down,in every way. Then our 2 children told me he had a mistress 14 yrs !!! I found out it was true. No telling if there were likely more women. I divorced him at a terrible loss of money, children, Daddy had all the money hidden, they stayed with the $$. I got a job transfer to Hawaii.There on and off for 30 yrs.2,500 miles away from him. He got bone cancer, his mistress ran away. Sad. Narcisists are Incapable of being honest with themselves.I went to ALANON group meetings,other meetings. I learned, WE didn't Cause it, WE can't CURE it & WE cannot CONTROL it. Addictions or personality disorders. Get on with your Best Life !!! You can't fix them.Only loose yourself. 🙏🕊🙏
When I read some of your stories on the comment section : i feel for most of you. ❤ God comfort all of you and deliver you from all narcissistic toxic trauma bonding / and all spiritual, emotional and physical soul ties in JESUS name. God release angels to minister for you. I am so grateful that GOD delivered me from a “stronghold”. This is what God called it - a stronghold. May God, who is faithful and caring : deliver you from toxic wicked people. Stay happy and a fruitful 2023. 🎉
Thank GOD I did not end up in marriage with him. The Lord said : I the Lord have delivered you from a stronghold or it would have completely destroyed you”. 🌿Praise the Lord🌹! Live a happy life all of you precious women and men who have gone through such horrific abuse. May Your spirit , soul and body be kept in perfect peace and divine health in JESUS name. Amen 🙏 😊
It is so important to go and stay no contact! They will Hoover until they get you back and start the entire process all over again. I dealt with this for a year and a half. I was in disbelief when I first started listening to these RUclips channels. Everything is accurate as I started keeping notes on his behavior. I was never in a relationship like this so I had no idea what was happening. I was in a fog because I was constantly gaslighted. He would say he was on his way to my house and never show up. I would be so upset thinking something happened and be up all night worrying because he wouldn’t answer my texts or calls. In the morning I would get a “Hey beautiful” and gaslighted about what happened….ran out of gas, phone got shut off and he couldn’t call, had an emergency and got caught up. I believed this garbage because I was worn down and in a fog because I was so sleep deprived. I couldn’t focus. Once I went no contact I started seeing exactly what was going on. It was difficult because I was in love with this person. The love was fake. I was in love with the person he pretended to be in the beginning when I was love bombed and future faked. Please go no contact for your sanity and health. This effected me in the worse way. I became a person I didn’t know. I was strong and vibrant and was broken down. I became depressed and anxious. It is the worse abuse I have ever experienced. Going no contact has helped. Stay strong survivors.
Reading this many months later and totally agree, your experience was like you wrote my story word for word. These people are destructive to the core. I only had 6 mths of it but was so intense and now the comebacks as a) in a foreign country so really don't know many people b) very small community and he's the local person .. Nightmare. I wish you all the best and keep strong .
Coming from a narcissistic marriage is actually a tragedy. Once I realized it was all lies I seriously wanted to kill myself from the despair my narc husband had caused me. It was so hard to believe the deception was so deep and cruel. I believed all his lies and he took my trust and love and just used it against me. Even now after being separated for 4 years I still feel the pain and humiliation every single day. It is so hard for me to trust men and to form a relationship with someone else. He was so charming he fooled me so well I lost trust in myself. These people are evil there is no other way to describe them. They have no heart no soul. The best thing to do is educate oneself love bombing if this happens early in a relationship be very careful you may be dealing with a narc. Don’t believe what they say test them. They are great at manipulating you. Never show your vulnerabilities they will use it against you. Narcs are liars they also talk bad about others and boast about how great they are. They are also humble braggers. Be careful they will destroy you if you don’t see them for what they truly are.
The way a narc make you crazy is they will withold whatever it is once they know you want that thing from them. What a sick creature. My ex cheated on me i confronted him. I finally completely lost feeling. Infidelity is such a big thing for me that it cuts all the ties and any kind of bonding with him very easily.
Everthing you said is exactly what I've experienced over a period of 35 years with my narcissistic spouse, now I simply go deep, detach, dont explain, don't become personal and I do not discuss my emotions, it's a sad way to live but it works not giving in to the demands of a narcissist, they are like a bottomless pit, never, ever satisfied with anything
How do you live this way? I’m just catching on that he is def a narc. But he has emotionally cheated already and I’m still messed up about it, everytime I ask a question that could somewhat be about the past he flips the script, denies (although he’s admitted it in the past) deflects, blames shifts and makes me feel awful, followed by a week of silence. I’m insane. Almost certifiable. Finally had a therapist point out in being emotionally abused and if led me down the path and figuring him out. I can’t leave. Not yet anyway. Just one day of being distant is killing me.. so .how do you do it? 😢
@@christen587 every day you will get stronger. It takes about a year or so to get over this thing but I did it and you can to. I remember feeling like you do and don't want to let go but it's for your best interest not to let yourself be disrespected any more. That's basically how you have to look at it. You have to say no ! I'm not letting myself get treated like that any more. It important that you love yourself enough to say that you're not going back because it only gets worse everytime you take them back. So go no contact and learn about npd. Be strong and rededicate your life to Jesus Christ! He's the only reason that I was able to make to through no contact for four years now! I hope you learn from your mistakes and share your testimony to others that are still discovering what they are really dealing with. I had no idea theses people actually are out there waiting with smiles on their face and death behind their eyes. God bless you and may his peace be with you always amen!
@@christen587I don’t mean to be flippant but once you grasp that the narcissist is a deeply damaged individual who wants company in his/her misery . They suck the joy out of you. When they know you are suffering they can feel good/better about themselves. They will make it your fault, they won’t take any responsibility for their actions and the pain and suffering they have caused you. They believe you deserved it. They justify it in their heads. They project their self hatred into you. Their hatred stems from their hatred for their mother. It’s not your fault! So now you can choose to stay in the place of utter misery and pain, which is where you’ve been manoeuvred into or you can chose to start moving out to a happier place, psychologically emotionally and physically. It won’t be easy he’s unlikely to let you go even though he’ll most likely behave like you mean nothing to him and never have which is what you just cannot believe. You have to learn to break the trauma bond. It’s not love 💗
How long did it take to feel better? I’m 7 months after 12 years and I still feel hurt , betrayed, and can’t believe anyone could use someone that was so good to them for so many years , it is truly the most devastating and unimaginable form of abuse and betrayal. She always said “ I despise cheating and lying “ and would look at my phone almost every single day ….. probably projection of her shame for being dishonest.
I agreed with you. Take your emotions to God Almighty. Allowing them to see your emotions,they use it against you . Remember, your happiness source it's from God Almighty.
I was married to the narc. He cheated on me with my friend. I filed for divorce and kicked him out. He beat me so bad. I called my mom and she called the police. They arrested him but he said he would change. The judge put him on 1 1/2 years probation. We lived on eggshells for almost that time frame. A week before the probation was up I filed. He left because he knew he could go to jail. A month later he said he wanted to see the dogs. He brought coffee for me to make. I sat down and the first thing out of his mouth. It was all your fault. I was so scared, got up and told him people know your here. He left...that week I was so sick and lost 30 pounds. He poisoned me. So please be careful. Now my son is married to a narcissist for over 27 years. I haven't seen my son in 4 years. He lives 2 hours away. But I make sure I text him 3-4 times a week. He is broken, I'm worried. She tried to make me feel sorry for her and bad mouth my son. I'm 72 and soon I will go and get my son. He's 54 she's 58. Please God help my son.
Everything he said is 110% true he didn't miss a beat yes they do give you hints under their breath nothing that screams but their actions speak louder than words... Narcissistic are serial cheater's.
Yes, the little hints under their breath or said casually in passing..I've finally caught on, these last 3-4 months. And now it's Blatantly obvious; the nights he always spent with his son - he no longer does. The three nights a week he had his son overnight - is only one now. " Our" regular nights were Tues, Friday and Sunday. Now, he has important things he has to do those nights, except for Sunday. And although he's not in any way attractive, when I see him now, after he's been " busy" for a few hours, he's wearing a new shirt and nice shorts. And he has begun, after 10 years(!!!) of not giving, has begun giving me small gifts for no reason; out of the blue. If only he realized HOW transparent his behaviors are
Yes, the little hints under their breath or said casually in passing..I've finally caught on, these last 3-4 months. And now it's Blatantly obvious; the nights he always spent with his son - he no longer does. The three nights a week he had his son overnight - is only one now. " Our" regular nights were Tues, Friday and Sunday. Now, he has important things he has to do those nights, except for Sunday. And although he's not in any way attractive, when I see him now, after he's been " busy" for a few hours, he's wearing a new shirt and nice shorts. And he has begun, after 10 years(!!!) of not giving, has begun giving me small gifts for no reason; out of the blue. If only he realized HOW transparent his behaviors are
Horribly sad when you finally reach the realization that someone that close to you is actually more like an enemy. 'Betrayed' feels like an understatement. Barely have the words for it.
Oh my God! Yes! My wife was the last person to ever suspect this she was the most humble down to earth person. I was never a cheater and my wife would always accuse and make stupid accusations, and eventually I just got use to it- one day o discovered after 20 plus years marriage a beautiful happy daughter I discovered she had affair with some loser security guard at her work- when I found out she got angry at me , blamed me, and made it sound like no big deal. She said she had no regrets
Accusing me. Extremely jealous and possessive. He was jealous of my teddy bear 🐻. But I CAUGHT him with someone. And I tested positive for sn STD when I wasn't cheating. And one of his mistress took their own lives, left a note mention his name. He told me she had one of those incurable STD's. So glad I had stopped sleeping with him by then. In a different room. He even threatened to have me followed because he thought I was meeting someone when I went to exercise. They're impossible. I still wonder if he's gay because he would occasionally bring up butt stuff knowing it's never going to happen with me. He isn't any good at normal sex.
💯 %% Rushed into marriage, he changed the day we said I do. 3 years later, divorce is in the work!! He lost 50 pounds 6 months into the marriage, caught hi. Cheating on our 2 year anniversary in our home with a 19 year old boy from an app! He tracked my car, my phone, so he'd know where I was at all times so he wouldn't get caught, but I had a feeling, borrowed my daughters car and left my cell phone, he was SHOCKED! Thank you, Jesus. I am not in a mental facility, but I sure could've been. My advice is, if you're debating whether to stay with your narcissist or not, RUN! I've got a lot of work to do to get back to me, but at least I'm out. Good luck 🙏🙏
Listening to your channel, totally opened my eyes! I’ve wasted my precious time with a man I met on a Paid Dating site! He would blame it all on his Ex, for cheating on him. ( which was a red flag). But, he’s 62, and would tell me that he looks much younger than his age, and that these much younger women would hit on him, because he looks so young! I was thinking to myself: so, the grey mustache doesn’t give away your age???!!! I’m DONE with him! Lessons learned! Thank you for your insights on Narcissistic people.❤
Me too, it’s a cruel situation to be in. However, there’s always away out, once you know what your dealing with. This is a great video, education is the way to go. Thank you, Behind The Scene 🙏
For some, death is the only way out. Some lost all they had because of their narcissist. I’ve lost all my belongings, twice, and my entire “support” system is now dead. Btw, my parents were also narcissists. I have nothing, I have no one.
@@povertylevelphilanthropy1524 Sorry to hear that, don’t give up on finding help,I know it’s hard. Some narcissists are alcoholics, you could go to a Al-non meeting and get support from them, you’d meet some lovely helpful people, that share their stories with you. It’s just a gold coin donation. Just a thought 🙏
Once my narc suddenly lashed out at me saying, "Your best friend and maid of honor told me not to marry you." I stared back at his stare and immediately said, "She told me not to marry YOU ! " HE WAS SO SHOCKED he quickly put his head down and scurried away.
Good ,what I say is "KEEP ON MOVING JERK OFF " the mentality of many individuals to me is you need to put your NAPPY ON THE RIGHT WAY , IT'S BACK TO FRONT. LOL
I can't tell you how much I appreciate this video. Its been very enlightening. I've been racking my brain trying to make sense of ex. Replaying all the fighting that didn't make sense, the Gaslighting, the lying, the cheating, the betrayals, manipulations, welching on every deal she's made with me, & everything she promised me she gave to others. Replaying all this ad nauseum has caused me to hav actual PTSD, which is something I thought only soldiers got, returning from war. & the PTSD & trauma from all this gave me ADD. I admit, I had lost myself in that relationship in a way that has never happened to me before. I had no idea what a Narcissist even was until after our relationship when I started looking up some of her actions that didn't make sense to me. So, I was completely unprepared & caught off guard. I have found other sources that explained some of it. But this video actually covers alot of the sexual aspects & how they use that to psychologically control & harm their partners. Thats something that most other sources on Narcissists don't really touch on. & that has been her most effective weapon against me. I still find myself unconditionally attracted to her. & I mistakenly thought she was trustworthy. I fell hard for her. & boy, oh boy, did she make me pay for that. I need more videos like this. Has anyone ever figured out how to get a Narcissist back for all the damage they've inflicted? I feel like she owes me a massive karmic debt.
I'm still overcoming trauma from one i dealt with for years. I get what youre talking about it was hard not to be obssessed even just a tad. I still struggle with the trauma responses I developed after Its like a never ending cycle of paranoia. even if my current partner wouldnt do anything like that to me. I'm scared near every day that i'll fall back into a trap again. or i'm trapped and dont know it.
No, and neither would I want to. Healing is needed and thoughts of revenge will keep you bonded. And imagine if your revenge failed and they found out about it... Instead, use that energy to improve yourself and forget about them 👍
This is the absolute best video that I have ever found that describes this whole entire scenario and the narcissist to a T. Every single paragraph I was nodding my head to. Knowing that I ran into these people a few times, I'm really tired of meeting the same people in different bodies. This information was so Dead on. It's scary to think that these people are out there. But they are. These videos, it helps to know ahead of time the pattern of narcissism. Thank you I see said the blind man I see
Omg 23 years of BS & Suffering here. No more !!!! I'm done !!!! Taking back my life & POWER !!!!!!!!! Thank you for this video The Best explanation yet I found on here.
You are so on point... my ex became fixated on his looks weight and type of clothes he started buying... he started body shaming me...and i realized this was not normal...his out of my life...thank god they are sick people...
I’m so happy someone else took interest in me cause now I’m not worried about my narcissistic person. Once someone told me I’m beautiful inside and out and he adored me it was then that the narcissist didn’t have control over me anymore
The narcissist I was with would leave me for a few days. Telling me he had to help his best friend. We would have sex once a month. He told me I didn't attract him anymore I told him to leave.
This video is spot on for anyone whom has had the displeasure of being in a relationship with a Narc. The fact that as they age they still think that they are 'hot" is pathetic as even the most unattractive woman can find some sucker to shag her. They will also live with their STDs while you have sought medical care or treatment. Then their minds go where the body went... into the gutter. Can't imagine how many of these toxic people are out there yet i believe that there is many more than the 5% max that is claimed. Run Forest Run (and don't look back). Life is too short to not be with a loyal companion
They hurt themselves and it's so destructive yet it's the same shit they did to you they do to everybody else! Be glad it's not you anymore! Buy the new supply a drink! Because they are gonna need it!
Yes got accused of cheating usually when she had been cheating. I’d get that gut feeling, but then be accused of being paranoid. She was 54 but looked 60. But we still borrow our 18-year-old daughters clothes and looked hideous, but said she felt 30 it’s finished now and I’m glad to say it’s done
happened to me. Ex wife was showing signs, but gaslighted me for years, my gut told me what was happening, but she said I was paranoid, I was the one cheating, etc. changed her hair, shaved down south after not for years, never available at work or just "riding around". She contracted herpies and tried to give it to me, then insisted I see her Dr and get tested so she could blame me for giving it to her. I was clean, Life is MUCH better now. Always a victimhood mentality too. Hope this helps somebody.
People like you should really speak out against Anime and Manga, especially those which promote Narcissists like Asuka Langley Soryu from Neon Genesis Evangelion. Seriously entire generations of youth, teens and other people are being brainwashed into either becoming Narcissists, condoning Narcissists and falling victim to Narcissists.
Im a little late on all of this. My husband of 12 years was giving me the silent treatment, when i asked what was going on,he said work was stressful. Ya ,well. Screwing the secretary and then coming home to your wife would stress me out too. He brutally discarded me in May to go shack up with her. Evil & malicious
My ex narcissist gave me a std while i was pregnant and that's how i found out i had a std! And then when i confronted him he had the audacity to say i must have had the std before we met,which i knew was a boatload of crap because i got my pills for free at planned parenthood at the time and in order to get them free the stipulation was they automatically tested se*ually active people twice a year for the common stds which was clamydia,gonorrhea and syphilis and i had tested positive for clamydia! And prior to getting pregnant i wasn't with anyone else! It was heartbreaking and i felt humiliated on top of being pregnant and then being blamed for it! Narcissists are straight up evil people who care about no one! My ex could have given me anything! I thank god it was something curable but it haunts me that he could be so thoughtless as to put my life at risk and his baby's life at risk! This was just one of the many unspeakable things he did to me throughout our 16 year relationship! He stabbed me in the back more times than i care to remember!
Always saying "I will not make a commitment" this video is so applicable! Thank you for sharing. Last words were "if you want to come up to see me you can come,' what a joke. I am so angry that I was do gullible. I know he thinks I am a joke but believe me I am a lot better off without him. No contact for two months!!
Absolutely tuue. He works out 5 days a week. Talks to all the women on the phone all day and night. And your rig But he is acting like he's 29 years old and he's going on 50 . actually its sheer insanity on every level. !!!
having never cheated when that topic comes up I let them know "I'm not a cheater, I'm a leaver." they love bringing up the hypothetical and working you up to worry, F that - you do what you gotta do baby, I'll do the same.
I feel as if iv been in a narcissist relationship. I would offended wonder why he would say almost the same thing I was saying about him. But instead he was saying it was me. He would tell me all he wanted was happiness. But in the same breath be so miserable. An unhappy. Would ruin my whole day. He would get all excited to go do something even brag about headed to where ever we maybe going. But within a few hours he would ruin the whole day by his words. Then it dawn on me. An I said to him. You always saying all you want is happiness. What you are really saying is all you want to do is take someone happiness. How I figured out that he was cheating on me. He would text or call me up saying that I was across the street from his house. Or I was in town with another man. He would come up with all kinds of things. That wasn't true. At first I thought he was losing his mind. I wanted him to get some type of mental help. Cause yes I felt bad cause I thought he really thought these things about me. An it hurt my feelings so I had thought surely it hurt his feelings to. Come to find out when he said I was in town with another man. That's the reason why he had me to leave his house. He went out on a date with someone that weekend. When he said I was across the street from his house. He had another women over. He said all those things about me. Only for me to focus on what he had to say about me. Instead of what was really going on. he was manipulating me. An I thought he was going insane.
My dad would cheat on my mom, tell me the lurid details and tell me not to tell her. Very conflicting and painful loneliness for me. He acted entitled. She had to be loyal to him. He's not worth getting upset over: she divorced him!
Undermining your identity in order to discredit you is a sadistic pleasure to them. It is that particular cruelty that is an earmark of the devil. A trademark of a worthy partner is wanting you to want the higher good for yourself (to share with others). True charity is a sign of Godly love. Keep in mind these traits when trusting your heart to someone. 🤍
Narcissists that I have met unfortunately are con artists who play their role and they will show you their real personality and real self that you will find out this truth later in the future end of your relationship with this false friend!
I came from a broken dysfunctional home, so i was an easy target, my first ever relationship was with a women like this, i was 21, graduated uni, got a job, decided to finally date someone, first ever relationship kiss, sex etc. didnt know how relationships worked, she was cheating on me the entire 3 years, with neighbors, friends, ex's, school friends, her professor, random guys; woke up to her having sex with me, taking pictures of my dick, got into bdsm randomly someday, new sex positions; would be cheating on me while i was at work, would pick up fights with me put me in a state of distress and emotional devastation; go somewhere for a couple of hours, giving me the silent treatment; put her phone on DND and went cheating with someone else; her room mates and her friends were helping her. My first relationship, its honestly so messed up. So effing messed up. I just want to be alone; this is so messed up. Like fk
Narcissists that i have unfortunately been involved with are very dangerous and dishonest people that use people like me or who ever they come into contact with with love bombing and false friendships and use what ever they can against you! I decided not to change my issues and problems with these dishonest people that were in my life ! I felt emotionally drained by these awful people who used me for whatever i had of mine! 😢No contact is the best thing ever for me!😅
My husband did exactly everything you described to I literally was even told by everyone he could never & I was crazy…wow…even caught with own eyes I still was just tripping acting crazy. Thank you.
I’m dealing with one right now whenever I have a genuine problem she immediately snaps and flips everything on me by saying I’m “disrespecting” her storms out at every little disagreement and doesn’t say where she’s been for hours or even a day… I don’t wanna believe she’s doing things behind my back because she claims to be so loyal but honestly.. I do not believe she’s loyal at this point
You have described my 30 year relationship with a narcissist to a T. I am grateful for this video. He would lie and deny and that tell me it was all in my head. I sometimes blame myself for being naive and taken in by his charm prior to marriage then the Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde personality began to surface and I felt used. It is taking a long time for me to heal and regain my self esteem. He played victim to his family and our common friends. I have cut off any socializing with them. Unfortunately the family keeps contact with the children.
I've put up with the silent treatment for 10 years! Along with the cheating, the lying, the stealing, the smear campaign, the victimizing, the flying monkeys, denied of sex, brought STD's, tracked by my phone. and chased down the street every time I'd go to his place as he had her linked to my phone too. He knows where I'm staying with friends and I can't move and have nowhere to go no contact. Now what?
Thank you. This was very helpful to me. He did instantly get me to trust him and feel sorry for him because he told me how badly the cheating of his father and his ex wife had hurt him. All the others were true too. For the last one, his ex wife isn't around but he definitely just continued to lie about the woman he cheated with. He made out she'd stopped talking to him, but he showed me no evidence of this. Whilst we were still talking it out before i moved on i caught him openly chasing about 30 women on an app he didn't expect me to find him on. He totally lost face and realised it was fully game over.
A narcissist will always blame their victims for their own selfish behavior and actions! Remember narcissist needs to blame someone because they cannot take responsibility for their behavior and actions! And they are self motivated and not honest with you or themselves! They will always blame their past relationships this is gaslighting you! The narcissist will deny the fact that they are to blame for the breakup of their past relationships!the narcissist cares only for himself and not you!the narcissist will deny anything to Escape the reality that they are the reason why this relationship fails! These people have no respect or Morals or Empathy for you or anybody else!
I knew she was cheating for months, spending tons on shoes makup clothes salon treatments late nights out, rooftop hotels and multihundred dollar dinners, none of it for me. Thought i could still fix it. When it finally came up, she tried to make me feel guilty, ashamed, like it was my fault, "i should be able to do whatever i want, like sleep with someone else." That was the "aha" moment after nearly a decade together. I almost fell for it, and THAT was the wake-up call. We were divorced within 60 days.
He does know what is doing to himself! They are lost because no one listened to his negative thoughts! Thank you for explaining what they action. Yes, i noticed him, he is not interested on you! He just want to destroy you!
Yes this is what I, m going through now and I just know that, s how I know that it, s him and I just keep dealing with man who, s so unfaithful and I can, t keep doing this to myself but God has given me some very good advice every dog has they day
He purposely set things ip for me to find, then deny it... The Rage .. I felt his guilt one day... She is hidden... I saw her car leave his driveway... he still denies it... I'm crazy... I stand my ground.... I don't give in to his gaslighting
I was married to a narcissist for 20 years. And when I finally divorce him and found freedom. Yup you know it. I was found by another one and didn't even realize it before I married him. Going through the angry silent treatment right now.
I haven't been allowed to touch her in years. She's going somewhere for it. I can tell you for sure that never receiving affection or physical contact can drive you insane.
My ex said I Was too big. In other ways too if you get what I mean. But now he's with a girl that's way bigger than me. I never knew about narcissist until now. They have no remorse. All they do is think about themselves 247 sad but true. But thank God I got out .
So freaking spot on. I tried reconciliation, because 21 year marriage, but she did everything described to a tee. Talk about getting hurt in the end!! I thought I was losing my mind due to her complete flip once she had her new supply lined up. Luckily, the kids helped me and did some online therapy where I found that I am recovering from NPD abuse. Even the erectile dysfunction is due to it. Slowly getting better and better. Divorce is almost over, and then that evil b@tch will forever be out of my life and hopefully my mind completely.
Unfortunately many people are just never satisfied with the partner they are with and they become selfish and irrational and irresponsible to what they already have in their life,in the end they did you a big favour by removing themselves from your life for the best reasons in the end for your sanity it does become more visible that it happened for a reason and that is because in the long-term you're better off without them .
This is exactly my story from living with a husband that did all kinds of horrors to me for years...I finally got a divorce but it's had a serious affect on my life.. Get away from the narcissist the first time they do that.They only get worse when they see they're getting awY with it with no consequences...
Narcissist's are Evils! All their wrong doings are your fault's. They've no empathy, no remorse with their victims. Parting your way is the only best solution to stop further psychological trauma and damages. Getting healed is a very challenging task. Everyone, please stay safe!
We would go out the night before. I'd be terribly hung over. He'd be up, showering, new underwear etc. Leaving me to either catch up or not at all. Then he'd come back and go home. Later I'd got to the point where I took him to to court for assault. I found out from the court he had been done twice before for similar. Two years after, he's married and got a new child. Yes he was seeing someone in my town and ended up moving near me. Good luck to that women, poor child. 🙏🏻 I'm free thank the lord. 🙏🏻
He goes silent and MIA for hours to days. The lies never ends, even when he was caught red handed. On our first date, he told me his ex-wife was crazy!
I am working on a book about their behavior. Instead of being the blame for an argument, i had excused myself I said ok, ill leave as i don't want to argue. As i was walking out the door i was grabbed and choked. That surprised me as he said he would never put his hands on me. He dragged me back in while still choking me as a result from this trauma i hear voices. He tells me in mean tones you will never just Walk out on me omg. He also mentioned don't even bother to ever call the cops on me you will regret it. And so on. 🥴
They scare of being alone! Its better to ignore them like a wall! He is talking to his ego that he is man, egotistical attitude! They do disrespect you ! Please do not deal with them!
Everything from the beginning to the end that has been described as a narcissist is exactly what my wife does and without any feelings from her heart, she walked out leaving me ,lost, hurt, broken with nothing left with me. I loved her so much that I had sacrificed everything for her. After all, I deserved to be hurt extremely and depressed now.
No Sir, narcissist don’t sneak or hide, they don’t give damn if you find out or not,,,, they will blame you for their infidelity though,,,, but they are obvious, there are no signs to look for
People like you should really speak out against Anime and Manga, especially those which promote Narcissists like Asuka Langley Soryu from Neon Genesis Evangelion. Seriously entire generations of youth, teens and other people are being brainwashed into either becoming Narcissists, condoning Narcissists and falling victim to Narcissists.
Cheating accusations, vainest man I’ve ever known, cheating with multiple women, lived at the urologist’s office because of constant infections, accusations of my mental problems…not allowing me to see my family, making me fear that he would take my children away from me if I should leave him..making me feel unworthy of love and care, and feeling completely insecure about everything..always my fault.. It took me 2 years after leaving him before I could speak to any man..no relationships work as there is no trust in my heart anymore..
Im in a new relationship and im seeing things that are very odd in her reasoning. She is a covert, sweet, helpful nice. In the beginning. Now its ALL about her, her wants, her dinner, her her her. Im kickin her to the curb
My disgusting narc ex did indeed cheat on me and gave me a STD but didn't claim that I cheated on him. However, he lied to me right to my face and claimed that somehow his previous partner must have been diseased and passed it on to him, and then that was how I got it. I was young and naïve at the time and gave him the benefit of the doubt and stayed with him for more than 10 years after that! I always knew that there was no way some random ex gave it to him. He cheated on me (he was looking at dating apps during that time) and I will have to deal with it for the rest of my life. At least it will be a life without him!
Thankfully i had 2 years of oretty good dating . We got married, had 5 months of ok marriage, 2 months of wicked discard. He moved in with someone immediately whole we were still married tryng to fix or divorce. His mew supply deserves him!
Narcissistic infidelity differs from "normal cheating", because a narcissist feels no shame or remorse for what they've committed! In fact, they convince themselves it's your fault, and actually lead the new partner to believe they're a victim of you. A narcissist will talk about marriage and having kids with you, while sleeping with another person. They'll give you the silent treatment and punish you, trying to make you feel bad for their own bad behavior. Survivors often wonder "why wasn't I good enough?" or "why is the new partner better than me?" because the narcissist will shamelessly wave this person in your face and parade the new target around on social media. Every second you spend comparing yourself to this person will erode your self-worth and fill you with feelings of inadequacy and rejection. How did they replace you so quickly, immediately making all the same promises to another person? The answer is simple: Cluster-B disorders all stem from the inability to attach. They never attached to you, which is why they try to intensely manufacture all the normal feelings of love and bonding, and it's also why they are able to detach and do the same thing to someone else in one day. Because they never successfully attached to you, despite all of their sweeping words. Sociopaths and narcissists are incapable of attaching to other human beings, so they hone all of these other skills like seduction, flattery, mirroring-all in an attempt to mimic what they see other people doing: loving each other. The problem is, they see "love" as receiving constant attention and adoration. This is what they give to you, and this is what they want to receive in return. The NY Times describes it this way. "Narcissistic alexithymia: The inability to understand or describe the emotions in the self. Unable to know themselves, sufferers are unable to understand, relate or attach to others. To prove their own existence, they hunger for endless attention from outside." Narcissistic "supply" is really just a distraction from this condition. When you fail to relieve this (because no external factor can), you are punished and replaced. No matter how caring and kind you were, they still don't feel good, and their disorder convinces them that a new partner will be the magical fix to everything. This is when you get "split" as the crazy bad person so they can justify their sudden change of heart. Even though they blame you, I hope you can see that this process has literally nothing to do with you. You can follow their new relationship, hope it fails, analyze yourself, analyze them, try to be more perfect, prove yourself, figure out whose fault it was, etc. All you're doing is hurting yourself. Turn your focus from external to internal. What do you feel? Inadequacy? Shame? Rejection? Betrayal? These are your feelings, and those are what matter. You need to work with these feelings, understand them, and learn to offer yourself the comfort and love needed to heal them. Otherwise you're just left with an unresolved mess of pain from an impossible situation, and a frightened heart that believes it's at fault. Left untended, it'll eventually just fade into a numb obscurity. Work with this pain, understand it, talk with it, communicate with your body. This is the most important thing you can do. Every time you're tempted to check on them, ask yourself what you're feeling. A void? Emptiness? Loneliness? Resentment? Numbness? These issues cannot be resolved through searching externally. Yes, they were created by an external factor, but it's your wound now, whether you want it or not. You are the only person who can decide to nurture these wounds and build a loving relationship with your emotions. Additionally, You can remotely spy on your narc partner without leaving any evidence or traces and you’ll be getting their text from their phone to your phone. This can only be accomplished by hiring a private investigator Metaspyhub@gmail. com who can help you hack into their device and uncover whatever they are hiding from you.
Thats a clear and true description and how it is with a narc, borderline, sociopath and psychopath...you just have to run away and heal your own wounds, even you have kids with a narc. I had to leave and also leave my 6 year old daughter behind with the narc because the narc convinced the police and the judge I was the culprit...I live in denmark and my daughter is now living with her narc mother in the philippines in my house...its very heartbreaking to watch what is now going on for my daughter being destroyed by an insane mother without me being able to help my daughter
That's so sad. I'm so sorry. I hope you have her again one day. My narc ex's ex wife has emigrated with a new man and sends money to her child, who lives with the grandparents. Now I know what he's like I'm not surprised she's left the country. Urgh. He's absolutely disgusting. He probably cheated from the word go with her and married her anyway. I feel so bad for her.
Not all STDs are curable, don't take a chance. Once you suspect this stupidity, get the hell out. If they can careless about themselves, what of you? Run for your life..
I agree dirty mfs don't care at all
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It's not about suspicion but consistency and the obvious
1. Polar opposite of what they claim to be
2. Last minute changes
3. Disregard sexual health (STD)
4. Alter their sexual behavior
5. Alter personal hygiene routine ( preoccupied with looks)
6. Claim ex spouse is jealous
I am just leaving my 57 year marriage with a narcissist. Everything you said in the last episode fits him over the top. When I was listening to the last episode about cheating your message stopped me instantly - every single item you talked about opened my mind and I clearly see that I wasn’t nuts.
I know that at 75 I’ll probably spent the rest of my life alone, but I was alone for the past 57 years. I’d rather live alone forever than face that nightmare again. Lies, lies, lies……………
Alone or not at least you will have peace ❤
So sorry that you had to go through that for such a long time. May God bless you always.
I was married to my narc husband for 28 years I can imagine the pain you went through . I am so sorry for your pain. May God bless you and I wish you peace for the rest of your life.
You are better off with your friends, than a cold hearted liar, you go girl! I was three years with a narcissist and I healed from his toxic behavior, so can you!
I’ve been married 26 years, and i filed for a divorce 5 weeks ago and boy oh boy , have I ever seen the true person once i filed for the divorce. People think they know the person they’ve been with for soo long . Eye opening to say the least. You don’t know them until you divorce them and you see everything soo crystal clear and then you start seeing things that you didn’t even know existed. Cheating wasn’t something I’m dealing with . But discard , checked out , avoidance / no contact , being greedy with money is what I’m dealing with at this phase. Disconnect, no communication, no show of love or affection, neglecting your needs, making you feel like you are the one who’s the problem, they have to be the victim and you’re the bad guy .
Cheating is the least of your worries. In fact you should wish them to find someone else. 😂
No shit huh😂
This is so true!’
Always open to a new supply especially when they realize you've figured them out.
They play the victim while making you look insane while the whole time they ghost you or hangup on you all the time when you are trying to have a conversation them
Hello 👋 help me
Never let them know you know who they really are under their facade. They will strike in ways you’d never imagine they’re capable of doing to hurt you at your very core. Who they were isn’t who they are and NEVER will be. Once you get it, get out as quickly and quietly as possible. I know, I lived it.
Omg! I already did. It didn't go well.
What can I do?
Welp. I let her know and YUP....it hurt. Alot. I ended up being ghosted after 5 years together. She thought she'd killed me...yet I live. Yet, I'm alive.
Progress report! I'm boxing up my shit and I'm gone. Whatever life I find will be better than this. I haven't had a affectionate touch or peck on the cheek much less sex in at least 6 fuckin years. There are lifers in Pelican Bay who get far more sex than I have had. The first one in line is going to need to take a couple sick days when I'm finished.
Seriously, I just want to know what happiness is like. Two decades! I can't remember being happy. I can't. When someone you love deeply tells you that you're a piece of shit loser that everyone hates and that you are so disgusting that I'm not allowed to touch anyone, especially her. You start to believe that shit. The sight of her and my best friend arm in arm looking at me and laughing caused something inside me to suddenly realize what a pathetic joke I'd been. She kept me angry. This wasn't anger. It was the worst hurt I've ever felt and still feel. I'm scared to death that she's going to show up here.
@@whiskeybuilder6335go to the store leave everything and never come back!!! Just start over!!
Me too! Big mistake.
Being with my ex narc for the past 10 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
How much do you hate yourself to stat with a man like that? That's worse than him.
Completely accurate. Their behavior is predictable once you learn that you’re dealing with one. I’ve heard so many bs excuses that I look back wishing I would have known this personality disorder even existed. Even telling me that our neighbor was too ugly to have sex with. I believed that one because I thought she was. I’m not sure if all narcs sleep with their best friends wives for the thrill of it or just the one I had. It always amazed me that the husbands would not only forgive him, but somehow turn them into seeing me as the villain. They absolutely will try to make you out to be crazy to deflect attention to all of the terrible behavior they inflict on others, usually without the people even being aware of how bad the situation the narc has put them in. I used to think my ex never lied, but in the end realized it’s because they lied all the time. I strongly suggest learning everything you can to protect yourself from ever falling into this trap again. They don’t look for partners, they look for targets. 💜
People like you should really speak out against Anime and Manga, especially those which promote Narcissists like Asuka Langley Soryu from Neon Genesis Evangelion. Seriously entire generations of youth, teens and other people are being brainwashed into either becoming Narcissists, condoning Narcissists and falling victim to Narcissists.
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Really explains why my ex loved that series so much. I loved it too for the sci fi aspect of it. But he was into mind games and I finally see it
I have been married To a narcissist for 30 years, what you have said is all so true. It is a difficult life, my first husband was an alcoholic. I can’t win
You have to pray and walk out . People can’t respect you when they disrespect you and you stay . Idk your situation but when my ex narc now at the time cheated I walked out went NO CONTACT! Hope you get the strength to leave and live your life fully with your dreams realized
I was married 25 yrs. To a vicious narcissist.
He tried everything to break me down,in every way. Then our 2 children told me he had a mistress 14 yrs !!! I found out it was true. No telling if there were likely more women. I divorced him at a terrible loss of money, children, Daddy had all the money hidden, they stayed with the $$. I got a job transfer to Hawaii.There on and off for 30 yrs.2,500 miles away from him. He got bone cancer, his mistress ran away.
Sad. Narcisists are Incapable of being honest with themselves.I went to ALANON group meetings,other meetings. I learned, WE didn't Cause it,
WE can't CURE it & WE cannot CONTROL it.
Addictions or personality disorders. Get on with your Best Life !!! You can't fix them.Only loose yourself. 🙏🕊🙏
Keep your head up! Be more aware of who you let in to your life! You know God would not give you something you can't handle. Don't give up!
When I read some of your stories on the comment section : i feel for most of you. ❤
God comfort all of you and deliver you from all narcissistic toxic trauma bonding / and all spiritual, emotional and physical soul ties in JESUS name.
God release angels to minister for you.
I am so grateful that GOD delivered me from a “stronghold”. This is what God called it - a stronghold.
May God, who is faithful and caring : deliver you from toxic wicked people.
Stay happy and a fruitful 2023. 🎉
Thank GOD I did not end up in marriage with him.
The Lord said : I the Lord have delivered you from a stronghold or it would have completely destroyed you”.
🌿Praise the Lord🌹!
Live a happy life all of you precious women and men who have gone through such horrific abuse.
May
Your spirit , soul and body be kept in perfect peace and divine health in JESUS name. Amen 🙏 😊
It is so important to go and stay no contact! They will Hoover until they get you back and start the entire process all over again. I dealt with this for a year and a half. I was in disbelief when I first started listening to these RUclips channels. Everything is accurate as I started keeping notes on his behavior. I was never in a relationship like this so I had no idea what was happening. I was in a fog because I was constantly gaslighted. He would say he was on his way to my house and never show up. I would be so upset thinking something happened and be up all night worrying because he wouldn’t answer my texts or calls. In the morning I would get a “Hey beautiful” and gaslighted about what happened….ran out of gas, phone got shut off and he couldn’t call, had an emergency and got caught up. I believed this garbage because I was worn down and in a fog because I was so sleep deprived. I couldn’t focus. Once I went no contact I started seeing exactly what was going on. It was difficult because I was in love with this person. The love was fake. I was in love with the person he pretended to be in the beginning when I was love bombed and future faked. Please go no contact for your sanity and health. This effected me in the worse way. I became a person I didn’t know. I was strong and vibrant and was broken down. I became depressed and anxious. It is the worse abuse I have ever experienced. Going no contact has helped. Stay strong survivors.
Reading this many months later and totally agree, your experience was like you wrote my story word for word. These people are destructive to the core. I only had 6 mths of it but was so intense and now the comebacks as a) in a foreign country so really don't know many people b) very small community and he's the local person .. Nightmare. I wish you all the best and keep strong .
Omg this is my story and yes I gotta get through it cuz it’s a nightmare
@@lasalle2407 block and stay no contact! They make sane people crazy!!!!!
Ty for posting this comment, I feel validated. I’m not crazy I am truly being abused and read this like it was my story.
Coming from a narcissistic marriage is actually a tragedy. Once I realized it was all lies I seriously wanted to kill myself from the despair my narc husband had caused me. It was so hard to believe the deception was so deep and cruel. I believed all his lies and he took my trust and love and just used it against me. Even now after being separated for 4 years I still feel the pain and humiliation every single day. It is so hard for me to trust men and to form a relationship with someone else. He was so charming he fooled me so well I lost trust in myself. These people are evil there is no other way to describe them. They have no heart no soul. The best thing to do is educate oneself love bombing if this happens early in a relationship be very careful you may be dealing with a narc. Don’t believe what they say test them. They are great at manipulating you. Never show your vulnerabilities they will use it against you. Narcs are liars they also talk bad about others and boast about how great they are. They are also humble braggers. Be careful they will destroy you if you don’t see them for what they truly are.
Yes Narcissists will always betray you this is the truth. GOD-BLESS.
The way a narc make you crazy is they will withold whatever it is once they know you want that thing from them. What a sick creature. My ex cheated on me i confronted him. I finally completely lost feeling. Infidelity is such a big thing for me that it cuts all the ties and any kind of bonding with him very easily.
Yeah they find out what you want and then give you the exact opposite. Shady pieces of s--.
Everthing you said is exactly what I've experienced over a period of 35 years with my narcissistic spouse, now I simply go deep, detach, dont explain, don't become personal and I do not discuss my emotions, it's a sad way to live but it works not giving in to the demands of a narcissist, they are like a bottomless pit, never, ever satisfied with anything
How do you live this way? I’m just catching on that he is def a narc. But he has emotionally cheated already and I’m still messed up about it, everytime I ask a question that could somewhat be about the past he flips the script, denies (although he’s admitted it in the past) deflects, blames shifts and makes me feel awful, followed by a week of silence. I’m insane. Almost certifiable. Finally had a therapist point out in being emotionally abused and if led me down the path and figuring him out. I can’t leave. Not yet anyway. Just one day of being distant is killing me.. so .how do you do it? 😢
@@christen587 every day you will get stronger. It takes about a year or so to get over this thing but I did it and you can to. I remember feeling like you do and don't want to let go but it's for your best interest not to let yourself be disrespected any more. That's basically how you have to look at it. You have to say no ! I'm not letting myself get treated like that any more. It important that you love yourself enough to say that you're not going back because it only gets worse everytime you take them back. So go no contact and learn about npd. Be strong and rededicate your life to Jesus Christ! He's the only reason that I was able to make to through no contact for four years now! I hope you learn from your mistakes and share your testimony to others that are still discovering what they are really dealing with. I had no idea theses people actually are out there waiting with smiles on their face and death behind their eyes. God bless you and may his peace be with you always amen!
@@christen587I don’t mean to be flippant but once you grasp that the narcissist is a deeply damaged individual who wants company in his/her misery . They suck the joy out of you. When they know you are suffering they can feel good/better about themselves. They will make it your fault, they won’t take any responsibility for their actions and the pain and suffering they have caused you. They believe you deserved it. They justify it in their heads. They project their self hatred into you. Their hatred stems from their hatred for their mother. It’s not your fault! So now you can choose to stay in the place of utter misery and pain, which is where you’ve been manoeuvred into or you can chose to start moving out to a happier place, psychologically emotionally and physically. It won’t be easy he’s unlikely to let you go even though he’ll most likely behave like you mean nothing to him and never have which is what you just cannot believe. You have to learn to break the trauma bond. It’s not love 💗
How long did it take to feel better? I’m 7 months after 12 years and I still feel hurt , betrayed, and can’t believe anyone could use someone that was so good to them for so many years , it is truly the most devastating and unimaginable form of abuse and betrayal. She always said “ I despise cheating and lying “ and would look at my phone almost every single day ….. probably projection of her shame for being dishonest.
I agreed with you. Take your emotions to God Almighty. Allowing them to see your emotions,they use it against you . Remember, your happiness source it's from God Almighty.
I was married to the narc. He cheated on me with my friend. I filed for divorce and kicked him out. He beat me so bad. I called my mom and she called the police. They arrested him but he said he would change. The judge put him on 1 1/2 years probation. We lived on eggshells for almost that time frame. A week before the probation was up I filed. He left because he knew he could go to jail. A month later he said he wanted to see the dogs. He brought coffee for me to make. I sat down and the first thing out of his mouth. It was all your fault. I was so scared, got up and told him people know your here. He left...that week I was so sick and lost 30 pounds. He poisoned me. So please be careful. Now my son is married to a narcissist for over 27 years. I haven't seen my son in 4 years. He lives 2 hours away. But I make sure I text him 3-4 times a week. He is broken, I'm worried. She tried to make me feel sorry for her and bad mouth my son. I'm 72 and soon I will go and get my son. He's 54 she's 58. Please God help my son.
Praying for you and your son. Thanks for being so honest!
Look after yrself🙏
Everything he said is 110% true he didn't miss a beat yes they do give you hints under their breath nothing that screams but their actions speak louder than words... Narcissistic are serial cheater's.
Yes, the little hints under their breath or said casually in passing..I've finally caught on, these last 3-4 months. And now it's Blatantly obvious; the nights he always spent with his son - he no longer does.
The three nights a week he had his son overnight - is only one now.
" Our" regular nights were Tues, Friday and Sunday. Now, he has important things he has to do those nights, except for Sunday.
And although he's not in any way attractive, when I see him now, after he's been " busy" for a few hours, he's wearing a new shirt and nice shorts. And he has begun, after 10 years(!!!) of not giving, has begun giving me small gifts for no reason; out of the blue.
If only he realized HOW transparent his behaviors are
Yes, the little hints under their breath or said casually in passing..I've finally caught on, these last 3-4 months. And now it's Blatantly obvious; the nights he always spent with his son - he no longer does.
The three nights a week he had his son overnight - is only one now.
" Our" regular nights were Tues, Friday and Sunday. Now, he has important things he has to do those nights, except for Sunday.
And although he's not in any way attractive, when I see him now, after he's been " busy" for a few hours, he's wearing a new shirt and nice shorts. And he has begun, after 10 years(!!!) of not giving, has begun giving me small gifts for no reason; out of the blue.
If only he realized HOW transparent his behaviors are
If she’s asking for space she’s cheating 😂🤣
Horribly sad when you finally reach the realization that someone that close to you is actually more like an enemy. 'Betrayed' feels like an understatement. Barely have the words for it.
they accuse you of cheating
All. The. Time.
My ex always accused me of cheating even though I never did.
@@MegaRose1958me too she had my texts, phone calls, emails & social media password I was somehow cheating 🤦🏼♂️🙈😂
Oh my God! Yes! My wife was the last person to ever suspect this she was the most humble down to earth person. I was never a cheater and my wife would always accuse and make stupid accusations, and eventually I just got use to it- one day o discovered after 20 plus years marriage a beautiful happy daughter I discovered she had affair with some loser security guard at her work- when I found out she got angry at me , blamed me, and made it sound like no big deal. She said she had no regrets
Accusing me. Extremely jealous and possessive. He was jealous of my teddy bear 🐻. But I CAUGHT him with someone. And I tested positive for sn STD when I wasn't cheating. And one of his mistress took their own lives, left a note mention his name. He told me she had one of those incurable STD's. So glad I had stopped sleeping with him by then. In a different room.
He even threatened to have me followed because he thought I was meeting someone when I went to exercise. They're impossible. I still wonder if he's gay because he would occasionally bring up butt stuff knowing it's never going to happen with me. He isn't any good at normal sex.
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Rushed into marriage, he changed the day we said I do. 3 years later, divorce is in the work!! He lost 50 pounds 6 months into the marriage, caught hi. Cheating on our 2 year anniversary in our home with a 19 year old boy from an app! He tracked my car, my phone, so he'd know where I was at all times so he wouldn't get caught, but I had a feeling, borrowed my daughters car and left my cell phone, he was SHOCKED!
Thank you, Jesus. I am not in a mental facility, but I sure could've been. My advice is, if you're debating whether to stay with your narcissist or not, RUN! I've got a lot of work to do to get back to me, but at least I'm out. Good luck 🙏🙏
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I couldn’t stay in our home. I moved out & getting a divorce. He doesn’t want to see me growing in my career, but he wanted my income.
Listening to your channel, totally opened my eyes! I’ve wasted my precious time with a man I met on a Paid Dating site! He would blame it all on his Ex, for cheating on him. ( which was a red flag). But, he’s 62, and would tell me that he looks much younger than his age, and that these much younger women would hit on him, because he looks so young! I was thinking to myself: so, the grey mustache doesn’t give away your age???!!! I’m
DONE with him! Lessons learned! Thank you for your insights on Narcissistic people.❤
Yes that's the key knowing what your dealing with, these ppl are from the devil himself,evil and they love it, RUN for your life and sanity
Me too, it’s a cruel situation to be in. However, there’s always away out, once you know what your dealing with. This is a great video, education is the way to go. Thank you, Behind The Scene 🙏
There is always a way out 💥🎯💥
For some, death is the only way out. Some lost all they had because of their narcissist. I’ve lost all my belongings, twice, and my entire “support” system is now dead. Btw, my parents were also narcissists. I have nothing, I have no one.
@@povertylevelphilanthropy1524 Sorry to hear that, don’t give up on finding help,I know it’s hard.
Some narcissists are alcoholics, you could go to a Al-non meeting and get support from them, you’d meet some lovely helpful people, that share their stories with you. It’s just a gold coin donation. Just a thought 🙏
Gotta get out or be miserable run 🏃
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Once my narc suddenly lashed out at me saying, "Your best friend and maid of honor told me not to marry you." I stared back at his stare and immediately said, "She told me not to marry YOU ! " HE WAS SO SHOCKED he quickly put his head down and scurried away.
@Dash Roy Thank you so very much for this link. It is exactly what I needed to return to moving in a healthy direction for my own well-being.
Good ,what I say is "KEEP ON MOVING JERK OFF " the mentality of many individuals to me is you need to put your NAPPY ON THE RIGHT WAY , IT'S BACK TO FRONT.
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The best response to a narc is what you did. Feed it right back and let them taste what they were trying to feed you. Don’t fall for the triggers.
I can't tell you how much I appreciate this video. Its been very enlightening. I've been racking my brain trying to make sense of ex. Replaying all the fighting that didn't make sense, the Gaslighting, the lying, the cheating, the betrayals, manipulations, welching on every deal she's made with me, & everything she promised me she gave to others. Replaying all this ad nauseum has caused me to hav actual PTSD, which is something I thought only soldiers got, returning from war. & the PTSD & trauma from all this gave me ADD.
I admit, I had lost myself in that relationship in a way that has never happened to me before. I had no idea what a Narcissist even was until after our relationship when I started looking up some of her actions that didn't make sense to me. So, I was completely unprepared & caught off guard.
I have found other sources that explained some of it. But this video actually covers alot of the sexual aspects & how they use that to psychologically control & harm their partners. Thats something that most other sources on Narcissists don't really touch on. & that has been her most effective weapon against me. I still find myself unconditionally attracted to her. & I mistakenly thought she was trustworthy. I fell hard for her. & boy, oh boy, did she make me pay for that.
I need more videos like this. Has anyone ever figured out how to get a Narcissist back for all the damage they've inflicted? I feel like she owes me a massive karmic debt.
I'm still overcoming trauma from one i dealt with for years. I get what youre talking about it was hard not to be obssessed even just a tad. I still struggle with the trauma responses I developed after Its like a never ending cycle of paranoia. even if my current partner wouldnt do anything like that to me. I'm scared near every day that i'll fall back into a trap again. or i'm trapped and dont know it.
You are trauma bonded.
No, and neither would I want to. Healing is needed and thoughts of revenge will keep you bonded.
And imagine if your revenge failed and they found out about it...
Instead, use that energy to improve yourself and forget about them 👍
This is the absolute best video that I have ever found that describes this whole entire scenario and the narcissist to a T. Every single paragraph I was nodding my head to. Knowing that I ran into these people a few times, I'm really tired of meeting the same people in different bodies. This information was so Dead on. It's scary to think that these people are out there. But they are. These videos, it helps to know ahead of time the pattern of narcissism. Thank you I see said the blind man I see
If there a Narcissist your 100% guarantee there cheating on you. Ghost them immediately!
Omg 23 years of BS & Suffering here. No more !!!! I'm done !!!! Taking back my life & POWER !!!!!!!!! Thank you for this video The Best explanation yet I found on here.
You are so on point... my ex became fixated on his looks weight and type of clothes he started buying... he started body shaming me...and i realized this was not normal...his out of my life...thank god they are sick people...
I’m so happy someone else took interest in me cause now I’m not worried about my narcissistic person. Once someone told me I’m beautiful inside and out and he adored me it was then that the narcissist didn’t have control over me anymore
Another comment was "you will take a long time to get over me!" To anyone reading this be aware of the ego plus the alcohol. Very hurtful
The narcissist I was with would leave me for a few days. Telling me he had to help his best friend. We would have sex once a month. He told me I didn't attract him anymore
I told him to leave.
You deserve so much better❤
I've gone through the same😥
...Wow! So sorry!
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It's probably better to stay single. In heaven there is no marriage.
Good POINT
This video is spot on for anyone whom has had the displeasure of being in a relationship with a Narc. The fact that as they age they still think that they are 'hot" is pathetic as even the most unattractive woman can find some sucker to shag her. They will also live with their STDs while you have sought medical care or treatment. Then their minds go where the body went... into the gutter. Can't imagine how many of these toxic people are out there yet i believe that there is many more than the 5% max that is claimed. Run Forest Run (and don't look back). Life is too short to not be with a loyal companion
They hurt themselves and it's so destructive yet it's the same shit they did to you they do to everybody else! Be glad it's not you anymore! Buy the new supply a drink! Because they are gonna need it!
Yes got accused of cheating usually when she had been cheating. I’d get that gut feeling, but then be accused of being paranoid. She was 54 but looked 60. But we still borrow our 18-year-old daughters clothes and looked hideous, but said she felt 30 it’s finished now and I’m glad to say it’s done
I have said goodbye to this player. I knew earlier. Bye forever.
happened to me. Ex wife was showing signs, but gaslighted me for years, my gut told me what was happening, but she said I was paranoid, I was the one cheating, etc.
changed her hair, shaved down south after not for years, never available at work or just "riding around". She contracted herpies and tried to give it to me, then insisted I
see her Dr and get tested so she could blame me for giving it to her. I was clean, Life is MUCH better now. Always a victimhood mentality too. Hope this helps somebody.
People like you should really speak out against Anime and Manga, especially those which promote Narcissists like Asuka Langley Soryu from Neon Genesis Evangelion. Seriously entire generations of youth, teens and other people are being brainwashed into either becoming Narcissists, condoning Narcissists and falling victim to Narcissists.
Spot on. Lying, manipulative, egotistical people, weaken! Un loyal men x
Im a little late on all of this. My husband of 12 years was giving me the silent treatment, when i asked what was going on,he said work was stressful. Ya ,well. Screwing the secretary and then coming home to your wife would stress me out too. He brutally discarded me in May to go shack up with her. Evil & malicious
My ex narcissist gave me a std while i was pregnant and that's how i found out i had a std! And then when i confronted him he had the audacity to say i must have had the std before we met,which i knew was a boatload of crap because i got my pills for free at planned parenthood at the time and in order to get them free the stipulation was they automatically tested se*ually active people twice a year for the common stds which was clamydia,gonorrhea and syphilis and i had tested positive for clamydia! And prior to getting pregnant i wasn't with anyone else! It was heartbreaking and i felt humiliated on top of being pregnant and then being blamed for it! Narcissists are straight up evil people who care about no one! My ex could have given me anything! I thank god it was something curable but it haunts me that he could be so thoughtless as to put my life at risk and his baby's life at risk! This was just one of the many unspeakable things he did to me throughout our 16 year relationship! He stabbed me in the back more times than i care to remember!
I am just glad that im no longer with my narc ex. Better be alone with a fool there is no companionship.
Record them. It saved my life after 28 years.
It's effective, then make copies and secure them with various people, just in case.
Always saying "I will not make a commitment" this video is so applicable! Thank you for sharing. Last words were "if you want to come up to see me you can come,' what a joke. I am so angry that I was do gullible. I know he thinks I am a joke but believe me I am a lot better off without him. No contact for two months!!
Hell yeah great job!! I’m 2 weeks no contact after 6 years of hell. I am also very angry at myself for staying so long and actually believed his bs.
You described it very accurate! I wish I’ve known this information years ago
Absolutely tuue. He works out 5 days a week. Talks to all the women on the phone all day and night. And your rig
But he is acting like he's 29 years old and he's going on 50 . actually its sheer insanity on every level. !!!
having never cheated when that topic comes up I let them know "I'm not a cheater, I'm a leaver." they love bringing up the hypothetical and working you up to worry, F that - you do what you gotta do baby, I'll do the same.
Holy crap!. You hit the nail on the head with all of it!!.
I feel as if iv been in a narcissist relationship. I would offended wonder why he would say almost the same thing I was saying about him. But instead he was saying it was me. He would tell me all he wanted was happiness. But in the same breath be so miserable. An unhappy. Would ruin my whole day. He would get all excited to go do something even brag about headed to where ever we maybe going. But within a few hours he would ruin the whole day by his words. Then it dawn on me. An I said to him. You always saying all you want is happiness. What you are really saying is all you want to do is take someone happiness. How I figured out that he was cheating on me. He would text or call me up saying that I was across the street from his house. Or I was in town with another man. He would come up with all kinds of things. That wasn't true. At first I thought he was losing his mind. I wanted him to get some type of mental help. Cause yes I felt bad cause I thought he really thought these things about me. An it hurt my feelings so I had thought surely it hurt his feelings to. Come to find out when he said I was in town with another man. That's the reason why he had me to leave his house. He went out on a date with someone that weekend. When he said I was across the street from his house. He had another women over. He said all those things about me. Only for me to focus on what he had to say about me. Instead of what was really going on. he was manipulating me. An I thought he was going insane.
Wow!!! That’s my husband, he’s a narcissist and thinks he 20 and in his 50s. So pathetic!!
Well honey, hang on to your hat .. it only gets worse as they age 🤦♀️ RUN!!! NOW!! ❤
My dad would cheat on my mom, tell me the lurid details and tell me not to tell her. Very conflicting and painful loneliness for me. He acted entitled. She had to be loyal to him. He's not worth getting upset over: she divorced him!
She had about 14 years around and with him, 11 of them, married to him. She kicked out the jackass via a divorce decree! Yay!
This is so true… I watched my Narcissistic ex do these things for 10 years before i found out he was a Narcissist.
Undermining your identity in order to discredit you is a sadistic pleasure to them. It is that particular cruelty that is an earmark of the devil.
A trademark of a worthy partner is wanting you to want the higher good for yourself (to share with others).
True charity is a sign of Godly love. Keep in mind these traits when trusting your heart to someone. 🤍
Fool me once shame on you
Fool me twice shame on ME
Eight times is a charm🤮
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Yes this is so so true!!! Wow exactly what he did to me!!
This is completely accurate!
Narcissists that I have met unfortunately are con artists who play their role and they will show you their real personality and real self that you will find out this truth later in the future end of your relationship with this false friend!
I came from a broken dysfunctional home, so i was an easy target, my first ever relationship was with a women like this, i was 21, graduated uni, got a job, decided to finally date someone, first ever relationship kiss, sex etc. didnt know how relationships worked, she was cheating on me the entire 3 years, with neighbors, friends, ex's, school friends, her professor, random guys; woke up to her having sex with me, taking pictures of my dick, got into bdsm randomly someday, new sex positions; would be cheating on me while i was at work, would pick up fights with me put me in a state of distress and emotional devastation; go somewhere for a couple of hours, giving me the silent treatment; put her phone on DND and went cheating with someone else; her room mates and her friends were helping her. My first relationship, its honestly so messed up. So effing messed up. I just want to be alone; this is so messed up. Like fk
Narcissists that i have unfortunately been involved with are very dangerous and dishonest people that use people like me or who ever they come into contact with with love bombing and false friendships and use what ever they can against you! I decided not to change my issues and problems with these dishonest people that were in my life ! I felt emotionally drained by these awful people who used me for whatever i had of mine! 😢No contact is the best thing ever for me!😅
Me too I’ve was married to one for 40 years !
Wow! All happened to me 😢 I finally left and feel better.
My husband did exactly everything you described to I literally was even told by everyone he could never & I was crazy…wow…even caught with own eyes I still was just tripping acting crazy. Thank you.
I’m dealing with one right now whenever I have a genuine problem she immediately snaps and flips everything on me by saying I’m “disrespecting” her storms out at every little disagreement and doesn’t say where she’s been for hours or even a day… I don’t wanna believe she’s doing things behind my back because she claims to be so loyal but honestly.. I do not believe she’s loyal at this point
my narc has brought down....14 days no contact
You have described my 30 year relationship with a narcissist to a T. I am grateful for this video. He would lie and deny and that tell me it was all in my head. I sometimes blame myself for being naive and taken in by his charm prior to marriage then the Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde personality began to surface and I felt used. It is taking a long time for me to heal and regain my self esteem. He played victim to his family and our common friends. I have cut off any socializing with them. Unfortunately the family keeps contact with the children.
I've put up with the silent treatment for 10 years! Along with the cheating, the lying, the stealing, the smear campaign, the victimizing, the flying monkeys, denied of sex, brought STD's, tracked by my phone. and chased down the street every time I'd go to his place as he had her linked to my phone too. He knows where I'm staying with friends and I can't move and have nowhere to go no contact. Now what?
I've been trying to find that very answer myself
Please be strong. Speak to the police.
At this point the police would have to be involved. Narcissist are scary af.
Thank you. This was very helpful to me. He did instantly get me to trust him and feel sorry for him because he told me how badly the cheating of his father and his ex wife had hurt him. All the others were true too. For the last one, his ex wife isn't around but he definitely just continued to lie about the woman he cheated with. He made out she'd stopped talking to him, but he showed me no evidence of this. Whilst we were still talking it out before i moved on i caught him openly chasing about 30 women on an app he didn't expect me to find him on. He totally lost face and realised it was fully game over.
A narcissist will always blame their victims for their own selfish behavior and actions! Remember narcissist needs to blame someone because they cannot take responsibility for their behavior and actions! And they are self motivated and not honest with you or themselves! They will always blame their past relationships this is gaslighting you! The narcissist will deny the fact that they are to blame for the breakup of their past relationships!the narcissist cares only for himself and not you!the narcissist will deny anything to Escape the reality that they are the reason why this relationship fails! These people have no respect or Morals or Empathy for you or anybody else!
I knew she was cheating for months, spending tons on shoes makup clothes salon treatments late nights out, rooftop hotels and multihundred dollar dinners, none of it for me. Thought i could still fix it. When it finally came up, she tried to make me feel guilty, ashamed, like it was my fault, "i should be able to do whatever i want, like sleep with someone else." That was the "aha" moment after nearly a decade together. I almost fell for it, and THAT was the wake-up call. We were divorced within 60 days.
Appearance and much younger than they are it’s crazy it’s really sad
He does know what is doing to himself! They are lost because no one listened to his negative thoughts! Thank you for explaining what they action. Yes, i noticed him, he is not interested on you! He just want to destroy you!
Yes this is what I, m going through now and I just know that, s how I know that it, s him and I just keep dealing with man who, s so unfaithful and I can, t keep doing this to myself but God has given me some very good advice every dog has they day
He purposely set things ip for me to find, then deny it... The Rage .. I felt his guilt one day...
She is hidden... I saw her car leave his driveway... he still denies it... I'm crazy...
I stand my ground.... I don't give in to his gaslighting
I was married to a narcissist for 20 years. And when I finally divorce him and found freedom. Yup you know it. I was found by another one and didn't even realize it before I married him. Going through the angry silent treatment right now.
Wow!! This is the most accurate thing I have heard.
I haven't been allowed to touch her in years. She's going somewhere for it. I can tell you for sure that never receiving affection or physical contact can drive you insane.
My ex said I Was too big. In other ways too if you get what I mean. But now he's with a girl that's way bigger than me. I never knew about narcissist until now. They have no remorse. All they do is think about themselves 247 sad but true. But thank God I got out .
Yes. I. Just. Broke. Up. With. One. She. Done. Everything. You. Just. Went. Through. I'm. Doing. A lot. Better. Know. Been. Away. For. 2. Months. An. Feel. Great. Just. Scared. To. Start. Dating. Again.
So freaking spot on. I tried reconciliation, because 21 year marriage, but she did everything described to a tee. Talk about getting hurt in the end!! I thought I was losing my mind due to her complete flip once she had her new supply lined up. Luckily, the kids helped me and did some online therapy where I found that I am recovering from NPD abuse. Even the erectile dysfunction is due to it. Slowly getting better and better. Divorce is almost over, and then that evil b@tch will forever be out of my life and hopefully my mind completely.
I understand how you feel so much. I'm sorry for your experience.
Unfortunately many people are just never satisfied with the partner they are with and they become selfish and irrational and irresponsible to what they already have in their life,in the end they did you a big favour by removing themselves from your life for the best reasons in the end for your sanity it does become more visible that it happened for a reason and that is because in the long-term you're better off without them .
I am so sorry I know exactly how you feel!!!!
Evil doesn't cover it ,they are on another level of DEMONIC and like I said I'm not interested that they are even dead 😡😡😡
I know what ya talking about!
This is exactly my story from living with a husband that did all kinds of horrors to me for years...I finally got a divorce but it's had a serious affect on my life.. Get away from the narcissist the first time they do that.They only get worse when they see they're getting awY with it with no consequences...
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When I caught my ex cheating I was told it was my fault for finding out...wtf ?
Narcissist's are Evils! All their wrong doings are your fault's. They've no empathy, no remorse with their victims. Parting your way is the only best solution to stop further psychological trauma and damages. Getting healed is a very challenging task.
Everyone, please stay safe!
We would go out the night before. I'd be terribly hung over. He'd be up, showering, new underwear etc. Leaving me to either catch up or not at all. Then he'd come back and go home. Later I'd got to the point where I took him to to court for assault. I found out from the court he had been done twice before for similar. Two years after, he's married and got a new child. Yes he was seeing someone in my town and ended up moving near me. Good luck to that women, poor child. 🙏🏻 I'm free thank the lord. 🙏🏻
He goes silent and MIA for hours to days. The lies never ends, even when he was caught red handed. On our first date, he told me his ex-wife was crazy!
Oh so true. My narc of 35 yrs - you must have met him. So evil and sad.
Now that I know what is going on. NO ONE WILL BREAK ME
Emotional deprivation 🎯
They can never see anyone as a person, only a extension of themselves. You are just a toy or a way to get something.
However i dated a girl with bpd for a while. Wanted her to be at my side for life. She struggled, but she tried so hard. Ill never stop loving her.
They always have back up like courts and police help them destroy u
I am working on a book about their behavior. Instead of being the blame for an argument, i had excused myself
I said ok, ill leave as i don't want to argue. As i was walking out the door i was grabbed and choked. That surprised me as he said he would never put his hands on me. He dragged me back in while still choking me as a result from this trauma i hear voices. He tells me in mean tones you will never just Walk out on me omg. He also mentioned don't even bother to ever call the cops on me you will regret it. And so on. 🥴
Always try to protect yourself, they are crazy. I just hope you are safe
They scare of being alone! Its better to ignore them like a wall! He is talking to his ego that he is man, egotistical attitude! They do disrespect you ! Please do not deal with them!
Everything from the beginning to the end that has been described as a narcissist is exactly what my wife does and without any feelings from her heart, she walked out leaving me ,lost, hurt, broken with nothing left with me. I loved her so much that I had sacrificed everything for her. After all, I deserved to be hurt extremely and depressed now.
U have to be happy at least she left you.... U described who she is. So u are blessed
No Sir, narcissist don’t sneak or hide, they don’t give damn if you find out or not,,,, they will blame you for their infidelity though,,,, but they are obvious, there are no signs to look for
People like you should really speak out against Anime and Manga, especially those which promote Narcissists like Asuka Langley Soryu from Neon Genesis Evangelion. Seriously entire generations of youth, teens and other people are being brainwashed into either becoming Narcissists, condoning Narcissists and falling victim to Narcissists.
How you know you must be a narcissist urself 🤔
Cheating accusations, vainest man I’ve ever known, cheating with multiple women, lived at the urologist’s office because of constant infections, accusations of my mental problems…not allowing me to see my family, making me fear that he would take my children away from me if I should leave him..making me feel unworthy of love and care, and feeling completely insecure about everything..always my fault..
It took me 2 years after leaving him before I could speak to any man..no relationships work as there is no trust in my heart anymore..
Im in a new relationship and im seeing things that are very odd in her reasoning. She is a covert, sweet, helpful nice. In the beginning. Now its ALL about her, her wants, her dinner, her her her.
Im kickin her to the curb
My disgusting narc ex did indeed cheat on me and gave me a STD but didn't claim that I cheated on him. However, he lied to me right to my face and claimed that somehow his previous partner must have been diseased and passed it on to him, and then that was how I got it. I was young and naïve at the time and gave him the benefit of the doubt and stayed with him for more than 10 years after that! I always knew that there was no way some random ex gave it to him. He cheated on me (he was looking at dating apps during that time) and I will have to deal with it for the rest of my life. At least it will be a life without him!
Thankfully i had 2 years of oretty good dating . We got married, had 5 months of ok marriage, 2 months of wicked discard. He moved in with someone immediately whole we were still married tryng to fix or divorce. His mew supply deserves him!