When a Narcissist Can't Control You, They Try These 3 Tricks

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  • Have you ever noticed how a narcissist reacts when they start losing control over you?
    It's almost as if the very foundation of their world begins to crumble, and they’ll do anything to regain their grip.
    But what exactly happens when their usual manipulation tactics stop working?
    In today’s video, we’re diving into the three sneaky tricks narcissists turn to when they realized, they can't control you anymore.
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  • @Kris_Reece
    @Kris_Reece  28 дней назад +118

    FREE Narcissist Survival Guide
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    • @zenaidarodriguez332
      @zenaidarodriguez332 27 дней назад +9

      I am always bei g blame for everything everything is all my fault even when my mom passed this year

    • @jeffreyoliver4735
      @jeffreyoliver4735 27 дней назад +4

      Kris why does it choke us up when we pray a prayer admitting our sins to him and other people. I have taken responsibility my share of the problems in our marriage but I am finding mostly silence. If I am the problem why not just tell me and I can ask God to work on the problem through prayer.

    • @NoGMOGod
      @NoGMOGod 26 дней назад +3

      @@Kris_Reece" FREE narcsisist Survial Guide"...I found this to be very humourous for some reason. My Mom ..yikes...is a control freak. I pray for her.

    • @NoGMOGod
      @NoGMOGod 26 дней назад +1

      ​​@@zenaidarodriguez332 I'm presently awaiting my turn at being guilted after my mom passes. I left. Didnt care about inheritence, nothing. My mental health and dignity cant be bought.

    • @yamonagajraj8561
      @yamonagajraj8561 25 дней назад

      N

  • @sandrathomas2893
    @sandrathomas2893 24 дня назад +487

    No empathy
    No regard
    No remorse
    No accountability
    No conscience
    IS VERY DANGEROUS!

  • @michaelmartin9335
    @michaelmartin9335 26 дней назад +422

    I was married to a narcissist who was hoarder for 35 years. I was diagnosed with cancer and I could no longer live in that house safely. They wouldn’t treat me until I found a safe place to go at that point she filed for divorce when she found out she could no longer control me. Praise God I’m free from the night nightmare I’m free from cancer now.

    • @kellymccance1342
      @kellymccance1342 20 дней назад +26

      What a beautiful gift! Another chance! 🙏👏❤️🥛🍯

    • @ardellasmith6169
      @ardellasmith6169 19 дней назад

      @@michaelmartin9335 Amen ❤️

    • @sherricharles8149
      @sherricharles8149 19 дней назад +12

      Praise God!!!

    • @debbievoss3496
      @debbievoss3496 19 дней назад +11

      Cancer came to me too. Enough is enough.

    • @cheanarchist2381
      @cheanarchist2381 17 дней назад

      @@michaelmartin9335 your blessed u got out that easy , I was framed & sent to Prison & had both sons legally kidnapped at 3 & 7 , while I lost everything at 27 , I hope your doing well & recovered well from all you’ve faced with health , in Jesus name honey .

  • @heathermixson1265
    @heathermixson1265 28 дней назад +495

    Their mere presence is exhausting

  • @maaikw7645
    @maaikw7645 20 дней назад +251

    When a narcisist thinks they are punishing you by giving you the silent treatment but you feel hopeful and happy because he finally respected your boundaries by giving you the space you need 😂

    • @teresagarcia7580
      @teresagarcia7580 17 дней назад +5

      I just got a community discard lol😂 I think lol😂

    • @-norsecode-
      @-norsecode- 17 дней назад +3

      PREACH.

    • @MrsMayf
      @MrsMayf 16 дней назад +13

      Yup😅😂 that's my sister, haven't spoken to her since last summer. I'm so happy. I don't think she thinks she's respected my boundaries, I think she thinks she's punishing me lol

    • @Theresa-zl4pp
      @Theresa-zl4pp 15 дней назад +6

      @@maaikw7645 Perfectly said lol I couldn't have said any better 😂😂😂🤣🤣

    • @tammyday2422
      @tammyday2422 15 дней назад +7

      @maaikw7645 I clicked to read in case there was a surprise attack was a thing. I've watched NY weight go down and Blood pressure drop to normal. Anxiety gone due to leaving and just not caring at all!

  • @RachelAnne32
    @RachelAnne32 6 дней назад +50

    The accuracy is insane there isn’t one single word here that I didn’t experience first hand. The smear campaign is so real!! It’s sickening!

  • @nonab2
    @nonab2 27 дней назад +461

    “Do not take your hurts to a narcissist”. Take it to God, He will fight this battle for me and I will be blessed and vindicated, 🙏

    • @janinesmith369
      @janinesmith369 26 дней назад +10

      Beautiful

    • @lydia8572
      @lydia8572 23 дня назад +6

      @@nonab2 indeed

    • @jkw5374
      @jkw5374 22 дня назад +9

      Amen. They don't care and as Kris says 'take away' something from you - in my case silently, for months, refusing to do something they said they would do and I'm not strong or tech enough to do myself.

    • @katherinemenagh7474
      @katherinemenagh7474 21 день назад +11

      So true. Don’t give them any ammunition to use against you.

    • @GoatsOut4Justice
      @GoatsOut4Justice 21 день назад

      Faith in religion only enables things like child trafficking, mass programming, and division and war

  • @JAZZLlFE
    @JAZZLlFE 28 дней назад +562

    The very kindness and understanding you give to a narc thinking it will help them heal are the very things that feeds the beast that is out to destroy you! Your compassion is their weapon!

  • @pamelamism
    @pamelamism 12 дней назад +59

    One thing I’ve noticed is they ask questions as though they’re interested, but actually just fishing to get some dirt , either on you or on someone else. They love gossip. Their questions is only a fishing exercise.

    • @jcubed821
      @jcubed821 10 дней назад +2

      @@pamelamism Thank you for your comment! I never realized what he was really doing and why. You explained it perfectly.

    • @terileef8272
      @terileef8272 8 дней назад +4

      The more they dig the more they will use it against you.

    • @cherryte689
      @cherryte689 4 дня назад +2

      Oh when narcs questions more likely it's more than fishing around.
      They shameful people

    • @CollectivelyCraig
      @CollectivelyCraig 3 дня назад

      ​@@cherryte689 but youll all be socratic method ?? Logos and socratic I am ? No thats gasligjting
      Intensifying my tactic

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      In Mandaeism, Hayyi Rabbi (Neo-Mandaic; Classical Mandaic: ࡄࡉࡉࡀ ࡓࡁࡉࡀ, romanized: Hiia Rbia, lit. 'The Great Life'), 'The Great Living God',[1] is the supreme God from which all things emanate.
      Hayyi RabbiOther namesHayyi, Life, The Great Life, The First Life, Lord of Greatness (Mara ḏ-Rabuta), King of Light, The Great Mind, TruthAbodeWorld of LightSymbolLight, Living Water (Yardena)EquivalentsManichaean equivalentFather of GreatnessGnostic equivalentMonad
      Hayyi Rabbi is also known as "The First Life", since during the creation of the material world, Yushamin emanated from Hayyi Rabbi as the 'Second Life'.[2] According to Qais Al-Saadi,
      [T]he principles of the Mandaean doctrine: the belief of the only one great God, Hayyi Rabbi, to whom all absolute properties belong; He created all the worlds, formed the soul through his power, and placed it by means of angels into the human body. So He created Adam and Eve, the first man and woman.[3]
      Mandaeans recognize God to be the eternal, creator of all, the one and only in domination, who has no partner.[4] "God is worshiped alone and praised as the Supreme Force of the universe. He presides over all the worlds and all of creation."[5]: 40  In Mandaeism, sahduta is the belief in One God [5]: 43  (c.f. Middle Aramaic שָׂהֲדוּתָא "testimony"[6]).
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      Hayyi Rabbi is also referred to in Mandaean scriptures as Hiia Rbia Qadmaiia ࡄࡉࡉࡀ ࡓࡁࡉࡀ ࡒࡀࡃࡌࡀࡉࡉࡀ ('The First Great Life') or Hiia Rbia Nukraiia ࡄࡉࡉࡀ ࡓࡁࡉࡀ ࡍࡅࡊࡓࡀࡉࡉࡀ ('The Alien/Transcendental Great Life').[7] Other names used are Mara ḏ-Rabuta ࡌࡀࡓࡀ ࡖࡓࡀࡁࡅࡕࡀ ('Lord of Greatness' or 'The Great Lord'), Mana Rabba ࡌࡀࡍࡀ ࡓࡁࡀ ('The Great Mind'), Malka ḏ-Nhura ࡌࡀࡋࡊࡀ ࡖࡍࡄࡅࡓࡀ ('King of Light') and Hayyi Qadmaiyi ࡄࡉࡉࡀ ࡒࡀࡃࡌࡀࡉࡉࡀ ('The First Life').[8][9] Kušṭa ('Truth', ࡊࡅࡔࡈࡀ) is also another name for Hayyi Rabbi, as well as Parṣupa Rba ('Great Immanence, Great Countenance'[10]: 1 ). In the Ginza Rabba (in Right Ginza books 1 and 2.1), the divine countenance of Hayyi Rabbi is referred to as the "Great Countenance of Glory" (ࡐࡀࡓࡑࡅࡐࡀ ࡓࡁࡀ ࡖࡏࡒࡀࡓࡀ, parṣufa in Neo-Mandaic).[11] In the Asut Malkia, a commonly recited Mandaean prayer, another name for Hayyi Rabbi is Aba Rba ḏ-ʿqara (ࡀࡁࡀ ࡓࡁࡀ ࡖࡏࡒࡀࡓࡀ 'Great Father of Glory').[12]
      According to E. S. Drower, the name Great Mind or Great Mana refers to the "over-soul" or "over-mind", the earliest manifestation of Hayyi, from which the soul of a human might be seen as a spark or temporarily detached part.[13] In book three of the Right Ginza, Hayyi is said to have "formed Himself in the likeness of the Great Mana, from which He emerged".[14]
      Brikha Nasoraia writes:
      Sabian Mandaeism is clearly a monotheistic religion but it treats the subject in its own unique way. The Sabian Mandaean view of God differs from the Abrahamic religions in an important way in that God is not the creator of this earthly world but the creator of the Light World[s] (Almia ḏ-Nhura). God is the First Cause of the creation of everything. He creates life as the 'First' manifestation. This First Life grows and emerges in various forms, levels and dimensions. God creates the 'Divine Primordial Elements' from which and by which the formation of the worlds and lives in all formed and emanated. God is worshiped alone and praised as the Supreme Force of the universe. He presides over all the worlds and all of creation. Yet the Sabian Mandaeans believe that the creation of the earthly life comes about through the command of God, but it is entrusted to a lesser emanation, also known as the fourth life (Ptahil) with the assistance of Gabriel (Hibil Ziwa) and other Beings... God has no father, no mother, no son, no brother. He is the First and the Last, because He is the Eternal One - the Pure Radiance and the Great Infinite Light. For the Sabian Mandaeans, God/Hiia [Hayyi] is the Creator of the Worlds of Light and the One who oversees every other aspect of creation. Although He is not the literal creator of the earthly world, He, nevertheless, is directly involved in the process of its salvation. When the world was created, it was not perfect as it was not created by the First Perfect Being (Hiia) [Hayyi]. Therefore, God (Hiia) [Hayyi] was moved by His compassion for life to inject Light, Life and Ethereal Water into the world in order for the earthly beings to gain redemption.[5]: 39-41 
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    • @CollectivelyCraig
      @CollectivelyCraig 3 дня назад

      Kissing a man in supreme court. I finally all he can maybe do is make it. The wisdom is nothing. What we have for Jesus. Just in case. A flood. I dont hav3 a hedge of protection or an inner voice or baited. By who? I wish. Who?

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      "Ex nihilo" redirects here. For creation from pre-existing matter, see Creatio ex materia.
      Creatio ex nihilo (Latin for "creation out of nothing") is the doctrine that matter is not eternal but had to be created by some divine creative act.[1] It is a theistic answer to the question of how the universe came to exist. It is in contrast to creation ex materia, sometimes framed in terms of the dictum Ex nihilo nihil fit or "nothing comes from nothing", meaning all things were formed ex materia (that is, from pre-existing things).
      Tree of Life by Eli Content at the Joods Historisch Museum. The Tree of Life, or Etz haChayim (עץ החיים) in Hebrew, is a mystical symbol used in the Kabbalah of esoteric Judaism to describe the path to HaShem and the manner in which he created the world ex nihilo (out of nothing).
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  • @tanyaharkins5449
    @tanyaharkins5449 9 дней назад +65

    Yes. A covert narcissist cult of two… God knows, and finally, so do I. Hardest truth I have ever faced in my 70 years. Watched my son stand over my grandsons, behind my back, unaware of my presence in the doorway, attack my character, accusing me of mental illness, of needing help, for my faith in God. I think narcissism is rooted in demonic spirits.

    • @allthings73hs1yf
      @allthings73hs1yf 5 дней назад +9

      @@tanyaharkins5449 EXACTLY. We battle against principalitiesnot flesh and blood.

    • @deebee4622
      @deebee4622 4 дня назад +7

      Absolutely spiritual warfare from Satan, however you will prevail because greater is He that is in you than he that’s in the world. Our God is an awesome God!

    • @sandrathomas2893
      @sandrathomas2893 4 дня назад

      @@tanyaharkins5449 Jezebel and Leviathan spirits working together. Highest ranking principalities. They come only to steal kill and destroy.
      GBY 🙏⚔️🙌

    • @sandrathomas2893
      @sandrathomas2893 4 дня назад +2

      @@deebee4622 AMEN 🙏

    • @melissagresham8763
      @melissagresham8763 3 дня назад +1

      There's hope for me and my mom yet! I'm 47, she's 78.
      I got pocket calls from my ex . He was speaking with his previous ex-wife and heard lie after lie. Another time he called and I didn't answer. It was obvious call was unintentional. He was having a conversation with a woman about my many flaws, lack of intelligence, etc.

  • @dianaanderson4453
    @dianaanderson4453 4 дня назад +16

    We want closure, we want to show the narcissist we’re onto them. But Kris is so correct that it only backfires on you. Your only closure comes from going no contact.
    And don’t ever defend yourself against any accusation they throw at you. You don’t owe them a response.

  • @laridion7901
    @laridion7901 28 дней назад +321

    Passive aggressive covert narcissistic 🙋‍♀️ I no longer look for closure. Fully trusting God for my closure, truth, and comfort. 👍

    • @heatherl.3919
      @heatherl.3919 27 дней назад +8

      Yes...Me too ❤🙏🦋

    • @hmmmhmmm2477
      @hmmmhmmm2477 27 дней назад +13

      And me. You will never have closure because the change too often, erratic emotions have no reasoning.

    • @janiecepoush1904
      @janiecepoush1904 27 дней назад

      I studied extensively 6,000+ Hours. YES, you CAN have Closure… The Same as an obese Person can lose 2-500 pounds & develop Abdominal Muscles… If they take the correct steps, & are Consistent!
      I strive to Turn away from the PAIN & only use that pain as a CLUE, NOT a DESTINATION or INDITEMENT, for my Life!
      Then, I strive to fill my Life with JOY, Spiritual & Temporal, by Choosing Healthy People to Surround Me.
      But, my best Blessings, come from my pursuit of fulfilling: Hobbies, Interests, Work, & Passions! I strive to Cleanse my Inner-Heart, by not only Sweeping out the Toxic & Malignant, but then Filling my Life, my Heart, my Psyche, & my SPIRIT, with GOD’s JOYS!
      I try to Remember… My Life is a Journey toward Self-Actualization, which is a FULL LIFE, of my BEST POSSIBLE! An EMPTY HOUSE is NOT a HAPPY HOUSE. To accomplish anything worthwhile - I must TAKE ACTION. Even FAITH, is the ACTIONs of the HEART & MIND!
      🙏🏻Closure -Go Forward & Only Look Back for Learning & A Measure of your Current Change & JOY! 🙏🏻🌸☀️🕊🍃

    • @NoGMOGod
      @NoGMOGod 26 дней назад +11

      Amen. Ive tried to be the most decent person I know how to be....it took me a LONG TIME to even believe God loved me. Finally........FINALLY I can believe it.
      And KNOW that he loves you so much too.

    • @shainanash8518
      @shainanash8518 24 дня назад +3

      yay, for you. You are strong....

  • @BOBBY-FRANKY
    @BOBBY-FRANKY 3 дня назад +10

    The greatest problem, though, is when they gaslight you behind your back.
    Love to all who are here. ❤

  • @cindyhunker6474
    @cindyhunker6474 19 дней назад +110

    I married one. Went from he worshipped the ground I walked on to 3 years of. Degrading , physical abuse, cheating , left Pennsylvania and drove to California, palms springs, till I felt I could deal with it. I am not worthless, God is good to me😊

    • @elenabuiles1370
      @elenabuiles1370 14 дней назад +6

      You are so worthy.. “Narcs” they try to take away your self esteem. Make you believe you’re worthless, dumb etc, to gain control. I know exactly how you feel..
      I was married to a “narc” but we don’t know any better.
      I’m so glad you left..
      just keep telling yourself how amazing you are!! Start programming your “Mind set” you’re strong 💪 God bless you and stay positive and motivated..

    • @Techier868
      @Techier868 8 дней назад +2

      🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @Myamiler
      @Myamiler 8 дней назад +2

      worshiped the ground u walked on for 3 years........RIGHT....

    • @patriciaalbertson5183
      @patriciaalbertson5183 8 дней назад +3

      ​@@MyamilerExactly... "Love Bombing" First sign.... Too much, too fast, an act!

    • @user-sg2vt7kr3i
      @user-sg2vt7kr3i 6 дней назад +3

      You got THAT right! None of God's children are worthless....never!

  • @williamloree905
    @williamloree905 20 дней назад +60

    They think their needs are more important than yours- I have to learn to take care of myself.

    • @SuzanMiller-ou5kq
      @SuzanMiller-ou5kq 13 дней назад +1

      I have acquired some health issues since living with a narcissist and he is a doctor. He has told me he will not help me. He knows I am stuck here. I am not in a relationship with him thank goodness but still being in the same House with him is literally killing me.

    • @teri7206
      @teri7206 6 дней назад +1

      @@williamloree905 They hate you for taking care of yourself. Even seem confused about the very idea.

  • @Newtonwilson-yw4kg
    @Newtonwilson-yw4kg 10 дней назад +226

    Perfect marriages or relationships don't really exist; each one is special. What works for one person might not work for another. But I've come to realize that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years back, my wife and I were close to getting divorced because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to make things right. It was hard, but we got through it.

    • @oglaskubuot
      @oglaskubuot 10 дней назад +1

      I genuinely want to find happiness too. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart at the moment, I can't imagine my life without her; my love for her is big. I really want her to return, and I'm fully committed to making it happen. We've tried different ways, like therapy, to mend things.

    • @Newtonwilson-yw4kg
      @Newtonwilson-yw4kg 10 дней назад

      Saying farewell to someone you love dearly is never easy, but in my case, I had the assistance of a spiritual counselor who saved my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

    • @oglaskubuot
      @oglaskubuot 10 дней назад

      I'm thankful for this guidance. I'll immediately search for her online. I appreciate it. I'm hopeful that adopting this strategy will also bring about positive changes for me; I miss her deeply.

    • @Newtonwilson-yw4kg
      @Newtonwilson-yw4kg 10 дней назад

      You should..She is amazing

    • @JulieGreilh
      @JulieGreilh 7 дней назад +2

      One solution could be divorce.

  • @reneeantoniou9502
    @reneeantoniou9502 28 дней назад +137

    Playing the victim. Telling others they’re the victim. Then say they’re going to pray about it.

    • @km_6181
      @km_6181 28 дней назад +5

      And never pray about it

    • @annickmathe9463
      @annickmathe9463 27 дней назад

      ​@@km_6181or pray fake prayers,.i.e. manipulating.and send curse with inappropriate out.of.context prayers and.verses

    • @brg2743
      @brg2743 27 дней назад +11

      Or they are going to pray for you. Yeah right.

    • @DominieRobinson
      @DominieRobinson 27 дней назад +4

      Yepp !

    • @CXtheproducer1
      @CXtheproducer1 21 день назад +3

      @@brg2743her favorite words

  • @AlfredaJones-ei2bs
    @AlfredaJones-ei2bs 28 дней назад +138

    Narcissists are just like Judas can't be trusted they have too much darkness if you know God he will bring it to the light because God is light🙏🙏🙏

    • @JillLeVin-lg8qn
      @JillLeVin-lg8qn 26 дней назад +7

      Please give a segment on how to help the young children in the family who are in the wake of this dysfunction.😢

    • @AlfredaJones-ei2bs
      @AlfredaJones-ei2bs 26 дней назад +2

      Look for the normal things that they never did before that's awakening in the family learn how to trust them and don't just focus on their behavior all the time and do some good research on good motivation from coming out of awake dysfunction it's a lot of materials and resources out there 😃.

    • @sandrathomas2893
      @sandrathomas2893 20 дней назад +2

      @@AlfredaJones-ei2bs Dr. George K Simon( author In Sheep's Clothing) authored a great book 'The Judas Syndrome' A Christian perspective on narcissism.
      I highly recommend all his books. He's the authority on this subject IMHO.
      Psychology and RUclipsrs group everyone that aligns with a narcissist as codependent and that's not the case at all so they never get the proper knowledge needed to avoid becoming ensnared by these folks.

    • @ruthvickrey4930
      @ruthvickrey4930 17 дней назад +2

      Same. If they are teens show this video with them.

    • @Yvell
      @Yvell 16 дней назад +2

      Descendants of Cain.

  • @heatherl.3919
    @heatherl.3919 27 дней назад +113

    "I miss you"..."is there any way we could get back together?"...I said NO!

    • @TS-ns6zm
      @TS-ns6zm 26 дней назад +9

      @@heatherl.3919 yup, that's what was said to me. Now I know it was love bombing

    • @NoGMOGod
      @NoGMOGod 26 дней назад +8

      Lol! I know its not funny....but I loved your comment. We all have our limit on bull pucky. Humor is one of the things That has saved me.❤

    • @NoGMOGod
      @NoGMOGod 26 дней назад +2

      ​@@TS-ns6zmThank you!!! YES that is what she does,!!!

    • @CoCreatewithMe2
      @CoCreatewithMe2 20 дней назад +7

      If he finds a PTSD therapist would I see him for an hour a week while he gets treatment. There is no rehab for narcissists. We are their drug

    • @KabirSingh-dy5hf
      @KabirSingh-dy5hf 19 дней назад +1

      ​@@CoCreatewithMe2 well said 👍

  • @andreatocknell593
    @andreatocknell593 21 день назад +75

    Married to a covert narcissist for 25 years
    Dating a grandiose narcissist two and a half years. He’s even worse than my ex husband and just as abusive just not physically. Literally nothing left of me anymore
    About to leave at 54 and terrified this video has helped SOOOOO much. Thank you

    • @lorihoop3831
      @lorihoop3831 20 дней назад +7

      I'm 54and same situation. There is victory in Jesus. He's got this and He's got us. I know you're tired like me. It is time to rest and restore, walking with Jesus the entire time.
      He will prepare a table for us amongst our enemies, and we will eat well and be merry.
      Thank you Jesus for helping us. I love you!🙏🙏🙏❤

    • @cheebasbass-ment9673
      @cheebasbass-ment9673 17 дней назад +6

      Hang tough, you'll make it

    • @ruthvickrey4930
      @ruthvickrey4930 17 дней назад +8

      Pray hard and get out!
      I had no idea about narcissism but I had a dream that woke me up to him discarding me like an old pair of boots! A year later I got out! Just b4 $1 mil life insurance policy was put on my life!

    • @paulstevenson789
      @paulstevenson789 17 дней назад +7

      Don't worry, if you hang around long enough he will get physical!! Pray about it and Get Out while you can.

    • @sandrathomas2893
      @sandrathomas2893 15 дней назад

      @@andreatocknell593 that's where God does His best work! Only the Word can heal you from narcissist abuse.
      GBY 🙏⚔️🙌

  • @susieq4123
    @susieq4123 11 дней назад +13

    Married to someone like this who had complete control over me. When the last child married and moved out I told him he was not going to control me ever again. The explosion was unbelievable with him accusing me of every vile thing one can image. I left the next day and never looked back. Got counseling I needed and treatment for depression. The freedom I felt was undescribable.

  • @laridion7901
    @laridion7901 28 дней назад +108

    My favorite is, "That's not what I said," when it was very clearly something that was stated. 🙄😒

    • @melaniewilliamson318
      @melaniewilliamson318 26 дней назад +9

      OR when they attribute words or meanings to you that you did not say or clearly did not mean,

    • @marquesmarques8611
      @marquesmarques8611 17 дней назад

      @laridion7901 do you get I meant to say it this way too?

    • @-norsecode-
      @-norsecode- 17 дней назад +7

      Along with, "It's all in your head."

    • @laurieduncan6096
      @laurieduncan6096 10 дней назад +3

      Mine would say, “I’m sorry you perceived it that way”, whenever he would be hurtful. Like I was the problem. Then the flip side was , he is Mr. Sensitive and is hurt left and right, and YOU’RE the terrible person when he would twist my words.

    • @rossothecrimson7
      @rossothecrimson7 8 дней назад

      @laridion7901 😅 Mine said that the first month of dating. He said something smart, thinking I didn't hear or see his mouth moving. That was almost 10 years ago. Why am I here still.

  • @sandralogue1774
    @sandralogue1774 28 дней назад +132

    Denial of Affection is a very popular weapon used by Narcissists.
    With a Malignant it becomes a way of life.
    There is NOTHING you can do to change this,they will devalue you quicker than the value drop of driving a new car off a car lot.
    I was with a malevolent Narcissist for 18 years,I came out with complex PTSD,and Emotionally Unstable Personality disorder.
    Regardless of the subtype,once the discard phase starts,there is no mercy and no turning back,it will not get better.
    If you leave,cut them off,no contact period,any contact will be taken by the Narcissist the possibility of getting you back.
    They will say and promise anything to get you back,and the if you go back,it will be much worse.
    The thing that gets me through is remembering the relationship was built on a lie,nothing was true or real...
    Remember above all else, YOU are a child of GOD...

    • @metanoia5671
      @metanoia5671 28 дней назад +9

      My husband denies me affection. It’s his favorite tool for abuse

    • @lisehrby2565
      @lisehrby2565 28 дней назад +13

      Sounds extremely hard to endure this for 18 yrs. So sorry for you 😢. I only endured 4 yrs. I remember myself too, that all was a lie and of cause i was not in peace or happy, because i was not safe. Still healing from the gaslight. My trust in men is unfortunatly gone. I want to shout to the world Who he really is...but i know it not my job. I give it up to God

    • @lisehrby2565
      @lisehrby2565 28 дней назад +7

      ​@@metanoia5671 so sorry you are going through this. The fact you're listening to this, is sign, that you are aware. I was not. He also withheld affection. Get out while you're still sane ❤

    • @sandralogue1774
      @sandralogue1774 28 дней назад

      ​@@lisehrby2565 It took me a long time to become aware,a lot of reading and research and soul searching.
      And yeah,18 years was a long time,trauma bonding and isolation can paralyze you.
      I was fortunate that I had a therapist who could recognize the PTSD and trauma bonding.
      I'm a veteran,and was fortunate to see a therapist who was versed in PTSD,and Trauma bonding.
      If it weren't for my faith in God and the diligence of my therapist I wouldn't be here now.
      Part of the emotional instability is suicidal ideation.
      I attempted four times to make the anguish stop.
      I was in so much pain emotionally,and in such a mindset that I felt the world would be a better place with me gone.
      After the last time,I came home and sobbed for hours.
      I finally asked God to take it,and he did.
      For me there is absolutely no doubt we have a loving God and he asks so little of us.
      I consider myself a small miracle,and give our Lord thanks each day,even if things aren't going well,because they could be so much worse.

    • @belindaturner3899
      @belindaturner3899 26 дней назад +4

      It is very hard to live with somebody who shows no affection No Love No kindness don't know the truth about that until you're already involved in it my husband is a narcissistic man denies affection he denies me a normal life oh my gosh it is worse I wanted divorce but he tells me he will tear the house apart everything is mine I have been taking care of him for 15 years he's a Latino with no papers I don't know what I've done to myself but I hate it I hate this life

  • @JDog-tn8we
    @JDog-tn8we 27 дней назад +177

    40 years of being married to a covert narcissist. Anniversary is literally one month away.
    I am done.
    I’m trauma bonded to a sick and twisted person with addictions to boot.
    My advice to everyone: get away from them- put physical distance between you and them.
    Limit or cut off communication.
    Gather a few people who you trust implicitly to be your support system and use them.
    Don’t wait 40 years to realize that you’re in an abusive relationship that isn’t going to change.

    • @DS-ge5ym
      @DS-ge5ym 24 дня назад +10

      @@JDog-tn8we I did 6 years w a covert & I am drained, you poor thing- prayers for you my friend

    • @denisevalley9021
      @denisevalley9021 23 дня назад +10

      30 years for me with a covert narc!

    • @jkw5374
      @jkw5374 22 дня назад +12

      I'd like to do that, but I am now 77 and so much of my life and family are set that I can't picture a good outcome.

    • @sergeantfury785
      @sergeantfury785 21 день назад +6

      I am 32 years in. I feel your pain.

    • @JDog-tn8we
      @JDog-tn8we 20 дней назад

      @@jkw5374 I understand. I’m 62. I felt the same way but I’ve been in another state far away for 5 weeks now and have found my old self again and know if I go back I will die an early death - death by a thousand cuts.
      I have no idea how I’m going to support myself but I will figure it out.
      It has already changed the dynamic of our family but I still won’t and can’t go back and pretend. I was a zombie like shell of myself and my body and health has suffered so severely that I can’t choose that any more.

  • @design2c436
    @design2c436 18 дней назад +20

    For me, it was learning they lack empathy.
    I simply could not understand this and struggle still to understand how functioning adults can lack what seems normal human caring, understanding--LOVE.
    It absolutley has an evil side to it....this inability to empathize/care.

    • @JoelGranquist-n1y
      @JoelGranquist-n1y 4 дня назад +3

      Yes indeed! They destroy the best thing in life worth living for: LOVE. Stay strong .

  • @JannietaHanekom
    @JannietaHanekom 11 дней назад +15

    Your video was the most clearest explanation of a narssicist and how best to react to them, i've listened to

  • @DominieRobinson
    @DominieRobinson 27 дней назад +65

    I just saw a documentary about a young woman stranded with no gas and dead cell phone offered a ride by a trucker who held a gun on her threatening to rape her she fought for her life , got out of the truck ran for help and someone stopped to help her offering their phone, there she was on the highway, missing one shoe from her desperate flight, blood running down her face, an ambulance came for her and Law enforcement caught up to the trucker, in an interview with the detective, the trucker claimed she was "trying to rob him" and painted himself as "the victim" authorities later found the bloody clothes of other women, weapons, firearms, bloody rope, handcuffs, hunting knives, a taser, and and entire ledger full of the names and locations of other women and children in several different states. It was absolutely chilling , but in the interview with the Detective, he went to Great lengths to convince the Detective that " he was just trying to help somebody out, and he was the victim ..."

    • @deborahgloria3867
      @deborahgloria3867 10 дней назад +5

      Evil mind ungodly

    • @3imaginaryboys1972
      @3imaginaryboys1972 8 дней назад +8

      That's a psychopath not a narcasist

    • @posyplanter
      @posyplanter 3 дня назад

      Unbelievable

    • @lylux4985
      @lylux4985 2 дня назад +2

      @@3imaginaryboys1972 A Psychopath can also be a Narcissist. It will be part of their cluster.

    • @jjlove13only1
      @jjlove13only1 День назад

      ​@@3imaginaryboys1972 Narcissists are definitely Psychopaths/Sociopaths.

  • @sheilagibson510
    @sheilagibson510 22 дня назад +150

    Oh dear God! Do not go to counseling with the narcissist!!! Talk about giving them all the ammunition they need! One of the worst things I've done.

    • @CXtheproducer1
      @CXtheproducer1 21 день назад

      @@sheilagibson510 My covert Narc ex girlfriend manipulated her therapist

    • @ruthvickrey4930
      @ruthvickrey4930 17 дней назад +9

      I wish I knew that 20 years ago that I was marrying one. Counseling did nothing except allowed him space to scream at me.

    • @healthsy485
      @healthsy485 16 дней назад +2

      Your description of the nar is amazingly true.
      In my case, my husband can be very kind and generous if I dont confront him.
      Should I ignore his behavior now that I understand he's a sick person who deserves pity n not punishment

    • @kacheenasvariety9414
      @kacheenasvariety9414 14 дней назад +2

      I did this a few times. My mom went to the "your my first born" excuse for being controlling "protective" it was a stressful session and she smear campaigns me and assume when I go on vacation I'm meeting men. Then it amps up to "you always do this!" Do what? Live my life away from you? 😑

    • @lifeisgood7740
      @lifeisgood7740 13 дней назад +6

      Well, before I knew I was dealing with a BPD/NPD husband, we went to therapy. The doctor said that he wanted to see us separately next time. He wanted me first. I walked in and he handed me a copy of the book, I Hate You, Don't Leave Me." So, in this instance, therapy was an awakening. God, give me the strength to leave this man.

  • @lukasjacobi627
    @lukasjacobi627 28 дней назад +94

    AMEN. THEY HAVE SHOWN ME REPEATEDLY THEY DO NOT CARE. AMEN.

    • @anneyoung2310
      @anneyoung2310 27 дней назад +2

      100's of times.

    • @lorihoop3831
      @lorihoop3831 20 дней назад +4

      Yes, they have. I can take a hint and will not bother them again

  • @theliftexpert
    @theliftexpert 8 дней назад +12

    I’m so sorry that we all had a sick tiger as a father,mother,sibling,intimate partner,boss, coworker or friend but ,
    When they try to suck you back into their jungle by criticizing,shaming,blaming,stonewalling,gaslighting and playing the victim,while pretending they are just a little wounded house cat .🐈
    Remember that they are a really mentally disturbed jungle tiger 🐅, that is baiting you in again as their prey.
    You don’t stand a chance against a mentally disturbed tiger 🐅, so don’t get tricked into going into their jungle ……
    They have exposed themselves as a sick tiger , so let’s all get it through our empathetic minds that the only way for us to survive and thrive is to pack our bags and leave the jungle forever.
    Best wishes all .

    • @usedscar
      @usedscar 13 часов назад

      You are literally insulting tigers! And you named every relationship except the child🤔 It's a whole new horrible.

  • @user-rq2du3vj4j
    @user-rq2du3vj4j 15 дней назад +16

    I've gained 30 lbs in 7 years from the roller-coaster ride!
    Do not take your hurts to the Nar!

    • @ninjacat508
      @ninjacat508 13 дней назад

      @user-rq2du3vj4j you can lose some here and there, slowly and in a healthy way. Just a little less of this, then tomorrow a little less of that. I know how snacking helps when stressed and traumatized. I gained weight too. Took it off a little at a time. I also started saving a bit of money, here and there, whenever I could. A year later and I had enough saved to move out and went back down to my real natural size. I had also saved a bit to get a few new clothes. I started going back to church and found a small apartment for myself and my dog.
      It wasn't easy but I was determined that he couldn't ruin me. I also completely cut alcohol out of my life. I really only had a drink once a month, every two months... So that wasn't a big deal for me but I realized it's a toxin, makes you gain weight and is expensive.
      Now my life is simple but better than its ever been at 58.
      Before when things were dire I had always intended on making those changes but constant stress, tension and issues ... you know how it is.
      Then I had a dream. A friend of mine was upset with me saying "A year ago you said you were going to save money, lose weight, get yourself together and you haven't started". That's what sparked it, that dream. Because that was truth. It was my procrastination delaying my much needed changes.
      It was difficult but it was God that gave me the strength and determination to end the abuse, and get my mind and body to a healthier level.
      Bless you 🙏

  • @lizetbosch754
    @lizetbosch754 27 дней назад +51

    Once you understand the evil in yourself you realize that the narcissistic is ONLY EVIL!!! There is no getting around it. Call evil what it is and stop making excuses for it. God have mercy on us. Thank you Lord 🙏🏻

    • @lizetbosch754
      @lizetbosch754 23 дня назад +5

      O ja, Narcs don’t want love but worship !!!

    • @324cmac
      @324cmac 20 дней назад +7

      One Narcissist can damage so many people. It's so sad.

    • @lorihoop3831
      @lorihoop3831 20 дней назад +5

      One narc can destroy an entire family. I've seen it, it's pure evil

  • @lukasjacobi627
    @lukasjacobi627 28 дней назад +113

    PRAYER IS THE ONE & ONLY THING TO DO.

    • @sandralogue1774
      @sandralogue1774 28 дней назад +8

      Praying helps,but that alone won't save you.
      You need to act to save yourself,find a way out.
      You're fooling yourself if you think prayer will change the Narcissist,it will not,because they don't believe anything they are doing to you is wrong,they truly believe you deserve everything they do to you.
      There is a phrase God helps those who help themselves.
      By all means pray and have faith.
      I did,and it's the only thing that kept me alive until my Mo literally rescued me through my psychiatrist.

    • @lukasjacobi627
      @lukasjacobi627 28 дней назад

      ​@sandralogue1774 ur experience

    • @JAZZLlFE
      @JAZZLlFE 23 дня назад

      @@sandralogue1774 🎯Spot on! We have one weapon they do not...the power to change our lives!

    • @rockyp32
      @rockyp32 22 дня назад

      @@sandralogue1774 he means prayer to solve the issue. Not fix them

  • @ValerieAshen
    @ValerieAshen 24 дня назад +65

    There is nothing equivalent to how much I feel grateful to you. I will be 78 on the 27th this month and I live alone estranged from my family but am content now, very happy it's all behind me now Thank The Lord. If only, if only, I had known what you've just taught me long ago 1964 when I was snared by a very devious family even though I knew the were a danger to me, I was tricked. I made the best of things up until my two children left home to start their own lives. Everthing you talked about was exactly howyou explained, even my own family believed the lies they were told, my own family!!! It is too late for me now, but I pass my time contentedly now. Thank You So Very Much. God Bless You. 36:14

    • @user-rg3et8lz8d
      @user-rg3et8lz8d 20 дней назад +4

      @ValerieAshen Dear, it is never to late!!!

  • @beverlyfelton8700
    @beverlyfelton8700 7 дней назад +3

    I have fallen into that trap of trying to get the truth out of them.

  • @Noshitsherlock67
    @Noshitsherlock67 20 дней назад +12

    Every single thing youve said is true. Ive been there, suffered that and unfortunately bought the t-shirt. That being said, I eventually gathered my strength and after 18 years of misery, I kicked him to the kerb and have spent the last 27 years single but with peace of mind. His loss. He had a good woman but threw it all away.

  • @lukasjacobi627
    @lukasjacobi627 28 дней назад +126

    I totally changed discussion with prayer. It is 100% spiritual.

    • @diginandpitchin
      @diginandpitchin 28 дней назад

      @@lukasjacobi627 🙏🏾

    • @Kat1791
      @Kat1791 28 дней назад +33

      I agree! It is spiritual! and demonic. I don't think I'd still be alive if it wasn't for prayer.

    • @Amberwavesoftruth
      @Amberwavesoftruth 28 дней назад +21

      @@lukasjacobi627 we not dealing with flesh and blood .💛🙏🏼💛

    • @lukasjacobi627
      @lukasjacobi627 28 дней назад +9

      @@Amberwavesoftruth absolutely

    • @lukasjacobi627
      @lukasjacobi627 28 дней назад +7

      @@Kat1791 Amen

  •  24 дня назад +41

    Called out a Narc boss, RAGE, gaslighting, Held MY Ground.
    Uncomfortable, but I see how he operates. Looking to bail.

  • @KMG829
    @KMG829 28 дней назад +57

    42 years then discarded cause I couldn't go along anymore even though I tried. I stayed too long to my detriment. I now see the reality of my life. While in a toxic relationship, you don't see the extent of what is going on. On the other side it is devastating when you start peeling back layers of your life. I have a hope and a future.....

    • @lisa.s.headley7
      @lisa.s.headley7 28 дней назад +8

      ❤ You do have a hope and a future. Amen.

    • @janinesmith369
      @janinesmith369 26 дней назад +3

      Know what you mean, my face only after four years is on the ground everyday. I just cannot wait until I save the money to leave my narc and not continue to deal with the unhappy everyday with him. There’s definitely better on the other side of this 💯

    • @missvegan1967
      @missvegan1967 23 дня назад

      Are you still married.?

    • @lorihoop3831
      @lorihoop3831 15 дней назад +1

      @lisa.s.headley7 yes! "For I know the plans I have for you, declares The Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to prosper you and NOT to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future."
      Jeremiah 29:11

  • @Blessedwmn
    @Blessedwmn 21 день назад +9

    Wow I never realized they don’t have their own identity but it makes so much sense.They copy everything about you. Will go out and buy the exact same outfit. Repeat your ideas/thoughts back to you as if the idea/thought didn’t originate with you in the first place…sir/ma’am, I told you the very thing you are now telling me last week. I don’t hate them but I can’t stand to be around them. Everything seems contrived. I’m so happy the Lord freed me from that situation. 🙏🏾❤️

  • @aprilboykin4607
    @aprilboykin4607 21 день назад +15

    Yep- when we bring what hurts us to them they use it even more to hurt us more. Such a sick game they play.

    • @324cmac
      @324cmac 20 дней назад +1

      It gives them power.

  • @janeenwatson427
    @janeenwatson427 28 дней назад +44

    Do not take your hurt to the narcissist! Amen! 🙏❤️💯 👍 Q & A! Moving right along! 🙌

  • @ChildoftheLIGHT
    @ChildoftheLIGHT 28 дней назад +45

    playing victim is the go-to...totally agree, Kris!

  • @mariaallgood1420
    @mariaallgood1420 26 дней назад +27

    Yes I'm dealing with a passive aggressive covert narcissist-with addiction issues! High School sweetheart-39 years of marriage-tried to divorce 2 twice-praying this 3rd time will stick. I finally understand the evil I'm dealing with. He uses my Christian faith to manipulate me-to top it off-he calls me the narcissist-the ultimate gaslight! I cling to Christ-my only hope❤

    • @sandrathomas2893
      @sandrathomas2893 24 дня назад +5

      The enemy INVERTS everything

    • @rosanocetti1916
      @rosanocetti1916 17 дней назад

      They twist everything I’m going violent has began hitting me

  • @kimberlymorgan1767
    @kimberlymorgan1767 16 дней назад +7

    The first man was my husband for 34 years. Everything had to be his way or a fight ensued. He wanted admiration from people outside the home, but was cruel to me and the kids. He always made fun of me, nothing I did was good enough, he would make a joke about me and laugh. He purposely would hurt my feelings and when I said he hurt my feelings he would say I was too sensitive. He was never there emotionally. He would come home from work and sit in his recliner watching TV all night without conversation. Then tell me I was depressed after I did all the household chores. He expected me to do all the inside chores and help him with the outside chores. He liked showing off all his belongings to people outside I house and I had to host many gatherings making sure the house was immaculate and a lot of food was prepared.
    He decided I didn't make enough money and started online dating. Told me he would stop contacting women if I took a job 9 hrs away that made a lot more money. He went from online dating to in person dating while I had to pay for an appointment and half of the mortgage. He would yell at the kids but not interact with them in any positive way. He would say he supported the family he always worked. He would insult me causing a reactive reaction from me. He then would swing at me like he was punching me. I could feel the wind as his knuckles swing by my nose. Then he would laugh saying the next time he was going to make contact if I didn't stop being stupid. He jerked my son out of his recliner and held him up on the wall by his neck with his feet off the floor because our son was sitting in his recliner. I had to attack him from behind to make him let the child go. He in turn attacked me flinging me across the room and making threats. Once I was doing dishes and he pulled a gun on me, pointed it directly at me, pulled the trigger and said I was lucky it wasn't loaded. Then laughed.
    After the divorce I've encountered other men the same as him. Am I part of the problem? Am I narcissistic? He always said it was me. All of them have said it was me that is the problem. I keep my feelings inside till I can't take it anymore. Then something triggers me and it all spews out. I can't forget wrong doing that has occurred to me. I can't contain it. This is a repeating pattern of mine. I take and take and when I can't to take anymore I lose it when triggered by the next time I'm verbally or physically attacked. How can I fix my behavior?
    The guy that has been living with/off of my income for 7 years is intelligent but won't work. He's all talk. He also find everything wrong with me and picks at me. He also makes jokes about me and how I never do anything right or the way he expects things done. He complained about my cooking so I stopped cooking. He then complained because I didn't cook. When I would say something I cooked could have been better if I had added another ingredient so I could make it better the next time he would say I was being negative. I like to improve my skills and discuss how I can make it better, but he would say that's negativity. He says I'm negative about everything. I plan how to make things better but he says that's negativity. He and the ex husband were physically and mentally abusive and emotionally negligent. I repeatedly asked the guy in the long term relationship to get a job, but he was always sick, had PTSD, had knee problems, ankle problems, back problems, stomach problems, dental infections, nausea, etc. Everytime I would ask him to get even a part time job he would say he was sick and I'm a terrible person to even ask. Yet expected me to buy his cigars and alcohol so he could smoke n drink at his whim while I be went to work every day for up to 16 hours. Then he would complain I didn't care about him because I was never home. Said I was avoiding him. Said I was with my family and that I didn't provide gas for him to drive 1.5 miles for him to see his family. Told me he wanted to meet colleagues in a town 1.5 hrs away and he had to take my car, but I wasn't allowed to go because they we wouldn't do business with a woman tagging along. They keep women out of business. I said no he couldn't take my car so he said I was keeping him from getting a job. He became aggressive verbally, physically, and emotionally. I had to flee to my kids house with bruises. Many other incidents...
    He finally left....why do I miss him? What's wrong with me? We still talking on the phone. I paid him to work on my car for things he was supposed to have fixed on my car over many years of me supporting him. He expected me to pay him for him fixing my car. I did pay him as it was cheaper than other mechanics by less than half. I'm living in a salvaged camper ge forced me to buy so he had somewhere to live as where he was living told him to move out. Now I'm alone with this camper that needs a lot of repairs and I don't know how to proceed with my life. I'm lonely. My kids shunned me because of him and they have their own lives. I need guidance.
    Thank you for your knowledge.

    • @MeryVarmaxidis
      @MeryVarmaxidis 13 дней назад +2

      PRAYER IS POWERFULLY KIMBERLY! God is in control!❤️🙏🏻

  • @lynettewatson5328
    @lynettewatson5328 12 дней назад +5

    Thank you for explaining the characters of toxic Narcissistic behaviours. Also, thank you for the heartfelt prayers. Amen 🙏🏽

  • @sherryanderson-y2p
    @sherryanderson-y2p 22 дня назад +283

    This intriguing video serves as a poignant reminder of the heartache I've been enduring since my 7 year relationship came to an end 4 months ago. My cherished partner, the love of my life, made the difficult decision to part ways, leaving me consumed by thoughts of him. Despite my earnest attempts to win him back, I find myself facing frustration and an overwhelming sense of emptiness, unable to envision a life without his presence. Despite my efforts to move on, I'm compelled to confess my lingering feelings and longing for him here.

    • @erikalane-d1e
      @erikalane-d1e 22 дня назад +2

      The process of releasing a loved one can be an uphill battle. I can relate, having navigated a similar journey when my 8 year relationship dissolved. Despite the heartache, I refused to relinquish hope and embarked on a quest to win him back. Turning to a spiritual counselor for assistance, I found guidance that ultimately led to our reconciliation.

    • @sherryanderson-y2p
      @sherryanderson-y2p 22 дня назад +2

      Impressive! How did you manage to connect with a spiritual counselor, and what's the process for me to reach out to her?

    • @erikalane-d1e
      @erikalane-d1e 22 дня назад +2

      Allow me to introduce Suzanne Ann Walters, a highly skilled spiritual counselor known for her expertise in rekindling past relationships.

    • @sherryanderson-y2p
      @sherryanderson-y2p 22 дня назад +2

      Thank you for this invaluable information; I've just checked her out online. Very impressive indeed!

    • @janm9610
      @janm9610 21 день назад +14

      @@erikalane-d1e be careful, don't rekindle a toxic relationship. You are on this thread discussing toxic relationships 🤷

  • @SusanB44
    @SusanB44 28 дней назад +73

    So you're saying... Satan is the ultimate narcissist. I can apply this wisdom to the enemy.... When he can no longer control you with fear or unforgiveness, he pushes all those other buttons, lies and strongholds. Really great stuff and wisdom for such manipulative people. Thanks for taking on this complicated (in every facet of the word) topic!

    • @Daizey57
      @Daizey57 26 дней назад +1

      AGREED & AMEN!!❤

    • @Daizey57
      @Daizey57 26 дней назад +1

      AGREED & AMEN!!❤

    • @LolaAileenVanslette
      @LolaAileenVanslette 26 дней назад +6

      @@SusanB44 Satan IS the original narcissist!

  • @ChrisKRay
    @ChrisKRay 24 дня назад +24

    I’m hurting so much after being punished for taking a stand for Truth, but this helped me realize others have been attacked the same way; and have overcome it through His grace.

  • @SageSuede
    @SageSuede 12 дней назад +6

    I've gotten this for years. Usually they call you insane over-and-over again until you publish it abroad to 33 million people.

  • @cindyaspden3982
    @cindyaspden3982 20 дней назад +7

    "Everything you say, can and will be used against you". Lived that for 17 years. I prayed to God to help us, me and him. Things continued to worsen as I learned to set boundaries. I eventually needed help and protection from family and then police to leave as he had escalated to being more dangerous than usual. I have gone no contact now for 4 months and he is stalking and going to my family (who he never had anything to do with before). I'm thinking this again, is escalation of his behaviour for having lost control. I prayed and prayed and neeeded to listen. God does not want me where Im going to be hurt.

  • @metanoia5671
    @metanoia5671 28 дней назад +32

    My husband gossips about me, is kind to others. Does not have any compassion to me. Tells me that he does not believe he has done anything wrong. Has treated me with emotional abuse for months and then is surprised that I have had reactive “abuse”

    • @simplymeeh2509
      @simplymeeh2509 21 день назад +1

      I feel you,same be strong

    • @ruthvickrey4930
      @ruthvickrey4930 17 дней назад +1

      Take youself and ur kids if possible out to a safe home for women and children!

    • @ArtNLuv444
      @ArtNLuv444 14 дней назад +4

      He's not surprised at all by your "reactive abuse."
      He's been waiting for that so he can "prove" that he's the victim.
      Gray Rock until you can go No Contact.
      He's playing a game you don't have the rules for... Because the rules change according to his whims and feelings. The only way to win is by NOT PLAYING.

    • @jesusrules9925
      @jesusrules9925 4 дня назад

      @@metanoia5671 yep. You gotta get away from him. He is abusive and even if he changed which he probably won’t the damage is done. You’re better off alone with God and waiting for someone who will value you for who you are.

  • @Kat1791
    @Kat1791 28 дней назад +28

    Thank you, Kris for the survival guide. I'm the sole caretaker of my elderly narc mom, and I'm certainly in the lion's den. It's rough. She's insane and severely out to punish me for whatever she thinks I've done, or for breathing, or whatever. Lot's of love going your way.

    • @brg2743
      @brg2743 27 дней назад +5

      Hopefully you can sit on porch away from here as much as possible.

    • @ArtNLuv444
      @ArtNLuv444 14 дней назад

      Leave her to her own wicked devices. You don't owe her a single thing when she's trying to destroy you. She went insane as karma for the harm she does to others. You can literally walk out the door and never look back. Again, you owe her no loyalty despite what she has trained you to believe.
      When we stay with them, we receive their karma right alongside them. Do you deserve that? NO!

    • @user-zm6vb2jr5e
      @user-zm6vb2jr5e 5 дней назад

      Been there and been through it. My female DNA donor was a N. Asked for help at 15 and left home begging to be institutionalized to get help to cope. Kept the witch at arms’ length. When the step dad passed the female DNA donor tried to commit suicide. She wasn’t able to take care of her finances so I stepped up after both uncles refused to have anything to do with her. She wanted to stay in a nursing home thinking she was going to be treated like a queen. I told her I’d take care of her in her own home because she’d wind up lying in her own s - - t. She wouldn’t listen and went into the nursing home and died there. Glad she’s gone. I didn’t cry a tear.

  • @TechViewOpinions
    @TechViewOpinions 27 дней назад +15

    This is a blueprint of how my marriage deteriorated and the community helped me realize that I was in a narcissistic relationship. I learned what narcissistic personality was in the first place. I called it out and got the pathetic excuses. I got them on video. I replay those and remember why the divorce was the best solution.

    • @lorihoop3831
      @lorihoop3831 20 дней назад +2

      I wrote down every time I was betrayed and talked down to, it keeps me sane, not questioning myself or wanting any communication any longer. I no longer need their approval and I have boundaries now that I am very protective of.

  • @SunnySunShine175
    @SunnySunShine175 11 часов назад +1

    Married to a narcissist for 18 years. He is an expert at gas lighting, controlling , and playing the victim . It's a nasty, nasty cycle, he has sucked me back in a number of times. 😢😢This time I am trying to stand strong.

  • @ms.carter1296
    @ms.carter1296 12 дней назад +3

    Thank you, thank you, thank you! Dear God, someone understands this narcissistic abuse; it literally feels like a nightmare, and I can't wake up. Thank you, Kris Reece.

  • @rebeccablakey2637
    @rebeccablakey2637 28 дней назад +18

    I really appreciate hearing about narcissist personality disorder from a Christian perspective. My family meet a narcissist about 3 yrs. appreciate. He was a man with a position of authority and used it to his advantage. Now almost 2 years after we cut all contact with him we finally will be going to court with him so he is held accountable for his actions. Thank you for helping myself and so many others to understand this toxic personality and how God will deal with it . I genuinely feel that God has helped me to see this person for who they are and will always be.

    • @sandrathomas2893
      @sandrathomas2893 24 дня назад

      It's ALWAYS the abuse of a position of authority. = Power and control. vs leadership

  • @magi22091972
    @magi22091972 28 дней назад +53

    Yes, that's my husband polite for others and abusive for me. Always blame me gasslighting, smearing, and punishing by silence treatment .7 months like that, and as you say, getting more intense and awful

    • @mightyobserver12
      @mightyobserver12 28 дней назад +2

      Get out

    • @robertstrayhall7386
      @robertstrayhall7386 25 дней назад +3

      Get out of that it will get worse got that for 17 years I almost lost my mind thank the lord he made me mentally tough and they will blame yep they'll accuse u that your the narc yes they Will okay leave if u can god bless

    • @sandrathomas2893
      @sandrathomas2893 24 дня назад +2

      Street angel 😇
      House devil 👿
      It only gets worse unfortunately.

    • @simplymeeh2509
      @simplymeeh2509 21 день назад +1

      Same my spouse d same always nicely to others😏

  • @1215112601040513
    @1215112601040513 28 дней назад +33

    I left my narcissists husband many times but I always come back hoping for change or to at least get along for our kids but still nothing changes

    • @kingdomkindred9503
      @kingdomkindred9503 28 дней назад

      @@1215112601040513 I am in pretty much the same boat. I'm at the stage where I have had enough. I am becoming more knowledgeable because of people like Kris. I am so grateful for the lessons. 🫂❤️
      May Our Father give you the strength you need, to do what is required according to His perfect will for your life. ❤️🫂 Blessings in Messiah ❤️

    • @anais457
      @anais457 27 дней назад +9

      I understand. I have left many times and returned nothing changed. He then made me feel guilty for leaving. I have left again but got a divorce this time. He still says he was a good husband and I had issues. My life has been nothing but peace and happiness. I did no contact when I left. I am now learning me over again and doing things I had stop doing to make him happy.

    • @lorihoop3831
      @lorihoop3831 20 дней назад +1

      I'm in a situation where I have completely emotionally withdrawn to protect myself as I go through this process. Time and time again I am left feeling rejected, I will not bother them anymore.

    • @JesusSaves-LovesU
      @JesusSaves-LovesU 20 дней назад +1

      ​@@Amberwavesoftruthreiki is witchcraft.

    • @Amberwavesoftruth
      @Amberwavesoftruth 20 дней назад +1

      @@JesusSaves-LovesU I just this week realized that. The deceit that was sold to me in the name of healing and that Jesus said his people will do as he could and greater , really left the door open to liars to use that to deceive me I believe. I’m so sick of the lies in most everything. Spiritually minded people are such targets to be deceived.

  • @TaraMontgomery69
    @TaraMontgomery69 7 часов назад

    Spot on I have lived all of this and more. What has kept me sane is knowing I will never behave or think like they do and I am so truly grateful for that 🙏

  • @lifeinthemo2372
    @lifeinthemo2372 15 дней назад +9

    My mother narcissist has been bashing me and just trashing my character and even had my entire family chose her (which I don’t even know why it was a choice). I didn’t invite her to my daughter’s bday party bc it’s my daughters a day and I’ve had it with just having this horrible pit in my gut the whole time she’s present. It’s my baby’s day I should be able to enjoy it. Well, NOONE in my entire family showed up. NOONE. AND she swung by. Stopped right in front of my house for a second, honked her honk and then drove off. I was beyond hurt, humiliated (because everyone on my husbands side of the family saw that no one was there from my family.

    • @ericwilliams626
      @ericwilliams626 7 дней назад +2

      Sounds like a clown show. Gain the higher ground and laugh at the Stephen King characters they are.

  • @AlizaXYZ
    @AlizaXYZ 28 дней назад +24

    Today, I discovered this channel by chance. I heard so much about narcissist behavior, but I learned the prayer in one of your shorts. I completely wrote word to word in my new notebook. I never thought about that angle of prayer. Thank you 😊 God bless you 💖

  • @heatherl.3919
    @heatherl.3919 27 дней назад +13

    You teach those of us, being pulled out of the pit, by Jesus, to know "we're gonna be better than OK" ♥️

  • @cynthialucasmoore6106
    @cynthialucasmoore6106 28 дней назад +14

    This is my first time here,,,,in a live discussion. I love you Kris💕 I'm learning so much,,from you and everyone who posts of their experiences

  • @keldealmeida5768
    @keldealmeida5768 9 дней назад +2

    I've subscribed many other great channels about the narcissistic topic, but this video has to me the far most concise and precise information about my experience. The other experts are also great, but I got all in one in this video.

  • @monarc1640
    @monarc1640 21 день назад +5

    Kris, I cannot believe how many examples you have given, and they are "dead on" with what I have experienced. Even some of the phrases used by the narcissist are word for word, as well as the tactics used over and over. I've been out of the relationship for 1 1/2 years, and the divorce proceedings have just recently begun. Just prior to that, he filed an Order of Protection against ME. I was shocked beyond belief. I am now in the process of learning how to forgive and trust in God every step of the way. So, in the midst of almost 20 years of hell, the wonderful result is how God made a way for me to leave and finally be free, and therefore, I am able to seek Him deeper. Thank you for always confirming so many things that I experienced, because that helps me to move on in the healing process. God bless you, Kris.

  • @truthreigns369
    @truthreigns369 27 дней назад +12

    I’m very grateful I found your channel! I was married to a narcissist and a family of them that he came from. Wow lots of trauma bonding now I’m on the healing path.❤

  • @sonja5954
    @sonja5954 24 дня назад +16

    I did, I took my hurt to the narcissist.My daughter and I know now I have created her. I often wonder myself if i'm not a narcissist. But I don't want to hurt her.I want to fix things she doesn't.She never has wanted to fix things with me. I've begged her to tell me what I did. The only thing she says is I yelled. Doesn't every mother yell a little? It wasn't like I was yelling directly at her. It was at the situation being a single mother. My other daughter having special needs. I was overwhelmed at times I've tried to explain that.
    And that I'm truly sorry. If I hurt her, but that's never my intention. And then she says she's mad because I kicked her out at 22 years old because of lies... I'm literally broken
    Please pray for us both

    • @TheFvtampa
      @TheFvtampa 19 дней назад +3

      @@sonja5954 I am in the same situation.

    • @sonja5954
      @sonja5954 19 дней назад +1

      @TheFvtampa it's horrible the rt out lies even when you have poof I'm so sorry for you. It's heartbreaking this is the worst pain I've ever felt her father left state after he couldn't control me anymore told our daughter he couldn't be in her life because I left him 💔 wasn't in her life but a couple years with limited contact because he's out of state before my daughter started blaming me for everything I said 5 years but it's been more live 6.5. Things have been the worst in the last 5 years even worst these last couple I can't and won't anymore I love her but I'm broken 💔

    • @rosanocetti1916
      @rosanocetti1916 17 дней назад +3

      She’s gaslighting you

    • @sonja5954
      @sonja5954 17 дней назад +1

      @@rosanocetti1916 😥 I know. I just wished I understood why

  • @MicheleBianco-qq7kr
    @MicheleBianco-qq7kr 26 дней назад +11

    DO NOT take your hurt to your narcissistic husband. Trust in the Lord with all your heart

  • @carolynnilsen9270
    @carolynnilsen9270 19 дней назад +4

    My ex only cared about what other's thought and would abandon us to impress another.

  • @HennieZietsman-l3f
    @HennieZietsman-l3f 16 дней назад +5

    The one thing they dont like is when you ask if there is anything else when they belittle you

  • @1215112601040513
    @1215112601040513 28 дней назад +20

    My husband always admit it and say sorry but still goes right back to doing it again which is so weird

    • @melisherwood5300
      @melisherwood5300 28 дней назад

      @@1215112601040513 been there; I think this is common with them

    • @Hillside-Hive
      @Hillside-Hive 27 дней назад +8

      He's not sorry- just saying the words

    • @jeaha5871
      @jeaha5871 15 дней назад +1

      Sharing new knowledge; saying “I’m sorry” without an acknowledgement of willingness to change the behavior…..is….only……. manipulation. Hope this helps you, someone attempting to live an authentic life. Open yourself to God, through prayers. He will show you the way. God bless everyone. Sending you a hug, an unexpected smile from a stranger. Xoxo💜Stay safe!

    • @teresacastanedacastaneda6555
      @teresacastanedacastaneda6555 7 дней назад

      Sorry they got caught .

    • @jeaha5871
      @jeaha5871 6 дней назад +1

      @@teresacastanedacastaneda6555 Ha! So true!! Being honest is just such an easier way to be!! Xoxo💜

  • @marinagreyvenstein2608
    @marinagreyvenstein2608 26 дней назад +8

    I am going through each phase as you have explained, right now. I am 48 years married in this spiral.
    I need to hear God's guidance to have some peace at the last phase of my life. Praise God I am not emotional dependent on him and kept good contact with my children, family and friends.

  • @heatherperez2137
    @heatherperez2137 28 дней назад +14

    Thank you for your heartfelt prayer and ministry 🙏🏾

  • @MK-mt4kn
    @MK-mt4kn 12 дней назад +3

    You’re telling my story.
    What sucks is the people I don’t have anymore to support me. I have been destroyed in so many ways. I’m out of the relationship.
    What hurts most is the aftermath. The smear campaign is EFFECTIVE.
    That’s the things most people (especially Christians) don’t see, want to see, or understand.
    And they DON’T WANT TO.
    People DO NOT want know about this, which means all of the sympathy goes to the perpetrator.
    I’m in an emotional wasteland, after having lost just about everything but my life (-and only just, on that point.)
    I’m being told to “just move on” as if I had:
    -somewhere to go
    -a bevy of other friends
    -magical income or mobility (that was stolen/destroyed by that same perpetrator.)
    “Just move on.”
    REALLY?
    That doesn’t seem fair to me.
    Why should I lose everything and… then give up what little I have left?
    They know it.
    They know they are doing hurtful things.
    They don’t CARE about us enough to do anything about it.

  • @ISNTCRAZY
    @ISNTCRAZY 19 часов назад +1

    She is describing my girlfriend to a T as if she was invisible observing my interactions with woman. I had no idea what the word narcissist meant. I thought my girlfriend was just crazy… I prayed and prayed … I thought I was helping someone in need… omg God has brought this message to my ears. Now I need the power to take action. She’s told me you’ve never met a demon like me before

  • @amie7229
    @amie7229 28 дней назад +8

    I really needed to hear this tonight. I’m in a battle right now with my own narcissistic Mother and siblings who continue to cause drama on birthdays and holidays. It’s so hurtful. I don’t understand it and it’s so hard to deal with but I’m greatful that I know God is protecting me in His wings. Thank you Kris.

  • @CieCie2Bsure
    @CieCie2Bsure 27 дней назад +9

    This is about to get worse, I’m aware of this & I ask for Gods guidance.

    • @lorihoop3831
      @lorihoop3831 20 дней назад

      I feel it in the air as well. Jesus, please help us navigate through this.

  • @terrywong3223
    @terrywong3223 24 дня назад +4

    Your insight into narcissism is so inspiring !
    I am a 77 yr old retiree. Throughout my life, I have encountered narcissists in the class, in the work field and recently in the church. Having viewing U-tube videos on narcissism, I have learned much, albeit late in the game. It is such a breath of fresh air to have a taste of Inner Peace. I will certainly continue to watch your videos. All right, Kris Reece .. you are an Angel .. aren't you ?!!! Thank you so much !

  • @QueenJessica-z5j
    @QueenJessica-z5j 21 день назад +56

    Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for her, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.

    • @Shanieceflordi
      @Shanieceflordi 21 день назад +1

      It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

    • @QueenJessica-z5j
      @QueenJessica-z5j 21 день назад +1

      Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

    • @Shanieceflordi
      @Shanieceflordi 21 день назад

      His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @Shanieceflordi
      @Shanieceflordi 21 день назад

      he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

    • @QueenJessica-z5j
      @QueenJessica-z5j 21 день назад

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
      Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

  • @DeeEm14
    @DeeEm14 3 дня назад +3

    Please listen, never…NEVER take your hurts and weaknesses to a narcissist. That is literally like giving bullets to someone who wants to shoot you.

  • @malviaharrismcpherson5194
    @malviaharrismcpherson5194 26 дней назад +6

    I'm so bless when i watch your video God is truly using you to help us may continue to used you 🙏🏾

  • @tanyaharkins5449
    @tanyaharkins5449 9 дней назад +3

    My heart breaks. Thank you for this guide.

  • @the1972bulldog
    @the1972bulldog 16 дней назад +4

    One thing I got to say, it's a "He or She" thing. It goes both ways but Ibtottaly get it. I've been on the recieving end. It's never nice Regardless of whether it's a Man or Woman 🙏🏻💙✌️

  • @spaideman7850
    @spaideman7850 2 дня назад +1

    i had just written a long letter to all the narc's suppliers, all the narc's nasty actions, vicious smear campaign stories. i had kept her manipulation/smear campaign stories long enough, its time to explode all out to them to digest. so far none of the suppliers dare to dispute the content of that letter, because its the truth. And it felt good, as if a huge stone was lifted from my shoulder.

  • @deborahedwards5004
    @deborahedwards5004 2 дня назад +1

    Thank you for this resolution! DO NOT SHARE Your HURTS to the narcissist! Got it! Wow pain and pleasure part of the brain! They don’t CARE!

  • @juliebarnard7211
    @juliebarnard7211 24 дня назад +8

    Yes I'm dealing with a covert narcissist
    My husbands disease has got worse.
    We have been together for 35 yrs.
    You r spot on.

    • @ericwilliams626
      @ericwilliams626 7 дней назад

      Your best method of dealing with your situation is to leave wo notice and NEVER talk to him but through a lawyer. And when he does find you, have him arrested after you create a court order. Plan and play it out accordingly. Putting a narcissist in cuffs will send the message. Always have another man around if possible.

  • @lisa.s.headley7
    @lisa.s.headley7 28 дней назад +4

    ❤ amen.
    Thank you for your tender prayer. I needed that. I've been in a challenging "dance" with a psychopathic narcissist in my church. I'm learning to stand in His Strength in the face of her continual abuse.
    God is good ❤

  • @nancykressdowney1445
    @nancykressdowney1445 28 дней назад +23

    You can’t argue with crazy! What if the narcissist says they accepted Jesus as their Savior and go to church?

    • @abbasjoy4785
      @abbasjoy4785 28 дней назад +18

      Jesus is the ultimate excuse to get back into your grace, manipulate and abuse you. They weaponize the word of God to get you to serve them. Stay prayed up y'all 🙏🏾

    • @lizabuckingham9586
      @lizabuckingham9586 28 дней назад +21

      You shall know them by their fruits. Going to church doesn't matter, if their actions don't reflect Christ.

    • @danielkaiser8971
      @danielkaiser8971 28 дней назад +4

      The patterns of narcissism stay the same for the person's lifetime.

    • @jessicavargas5535
      @jessicavargas5535 28 дней назад

      Sadly the church is filled w these snakes. Wolves in sheep clothing.

    • @sandrathomas2893
      @sandrathomas2893 24 дня назад

      The religious pharasies crucified Christ.
      The entire Bible is the story of the narcissist; The spiritual battle between God and Satan.
      Narcissists are Satan's foot soldiers.
      The church is their favorite place!
      Where would you go if you wanted to destroy God's creation??
      GBY 🙏

  • @joshuaharris486
    @joshuaharris486 7 часов назад

    Bless your heart! Thank you for your prayer!! More people need to know this! I was in a nightmare relationship for 6 years. God told it was time to leave. And it felt like I was the failure. I realize now I'm thankful to have herd his voice. It's hard to pull away ! Thank you for your words of wisdom ❤

  • @thehighpriestez6445
    @thehighpriestez6445 21 час назад +1

    God sent me here to find you and your words hit me 😢 Thank-you you gave me the strength today i didnt know i had.

  • @renataperillo-p3z
    @renataperillo-p3z 23 дня назад +5

    I think that when you don't cow down to them they know not to mess with you

    • @lorihoop3831
      @lorihoop3831 20 дней назад

      I just did that over the weekend, gave as good or better than I got.
      I think he was shocked. I have never done that, but menopause is helping me express myself.😂😂

  • @ladyree7575
    @ladyree7575 26 дней назад +9

    Thank you so Much. I encounter these things everywhere I live lately. I move away from one and another one popps up in my new place. They are horrible and will try and sabotage your life.
    I'm a Child of the Most high God. I'm 72 yrs. Old I'm retired Military. So I can flip and go drill Sgt. If need be. I have a kind old-school Louisiana demener and they take it for weakness.
    It seems to be more people like this, Narcs in society today.

  • @cocolove7157
    @cocolove7157 15 дней назад +4

    10 years of trauma bond madness is enough for me!

  • @user-im8xw6xh1l
    @user-im8xw6xh1l 19 часов назад

    You've helped me MORE THAN ANYONE ever has on RUclips or anywhere for that matter. Every single thing you said above narcissistic abuse was so spot on. I feel like I'm "home" here with you! ❤

  • @shannonclarke3359
    @shannonclarke3359 20 дней назад +2

    I have been dealing with a family member for years that I believe is a narcissist and everything that you've mentioned is exactly what I'm experiencing and it is gotten to the point, where I've realized that I have to go "no contact" because. They will not change they hurt me over and over again with no remorse or no apology. I just wanted to let you know that I made the mistake of letting them back into my life (I've done this so many times I feel like a fool thinking that they will change) and then the behavior continues. I recently let them back into my life and today something happened that literally robbed me of my joy and peace made me feel awful. I picked up my phone to put on some Christian music on your video happen to be the first thing that was on my screen. I don't believe that was an accident! God knew I need you to listen to this! God bless you in Jesus Name. ✝️♥️

  • @mog5630
    @mog5630 28 дней назад +21

    Had to cut off a narc family member because they literally drove one of their children crazy. Now trying to do it to me. Not working..you are the crazy one...lies, boundary testing, word play and my favorite, I don't remember saying that..and Are you sure I said that? Wow. Don't entertain these people. They are skilled at mind games and projecting. I would get asked Why are you sooo angry when I wasn't...lol

    • @nmc1859
      @nmc1859 28 дней назад +3

      Yes. Always accused of being angry .. no it was the other way around.

    • @sandrathomas2893
      @sandrathomas2893 24 дня назад

      Reverse perverse 💥

    • @JesusSaves-LovesU
      @JesusSaves-LovesU 20 дней назад +1

      ​@nmc1859 same. I'm amazed to learn that there are so many others like my husband. It wasn't me, I was good enough, it was him all along!

    • @sandrathomas2893
      @sandrathomas2893 20 дней назад +1

      @@mog5630 my Mom literally says I never said that when we're texting lol
      I'm like Mom, you do know we're texting right? And you can see your own words right? Then that becomes are you sure your reading my words correctly because people see what they want to see 🧐
      That's when I come in with, ok Mom, not playing this game. I'll communicate again with you when you're willing to have a responsible adult conversation. Bye 👋
      They are insane!

    • @lorihoop3831
      @lorihoop3831 15 дней назад +1

      They are very sick people. I I'm being ignored and discarded, while my brother and sister are now the best thing since sliced bread because they are robots and won't address the issue. They are very resentful of them not Spending anytime with their kids but will not say anything.
      I am the problem because I try to address problems.
      The triangulation and smear campaign is well underway.
      I've played this game with her before and know how vicious, cold and heartless they can be.
      No thanks, enjoy going out only at Christmas
      I've tried, it's not my issue any longer and I release myself from any responsibility.
      It's either that or I destroy myself again searching for true connection and love.
      Jesus is all of that, and He's not mean.
      I love you Jesus, thank you for your help with the call.
      I'm actually PROUD of myself for the first time in years.
      Progress, no matter how slow is a true blessing

  • @heatherl.3919
    @heatherl.3919 27 дней назад +8

    Haven't heard from him since... Praising God and remembering Who I am, In Christ 🦋

  • @mirtadeleon3722
    @mirtadeleon3722 26 дней назад +4

    Thank You for sharing Biblical scriptures on how to survive n be set free from a narcissist. I experienced everything you talk about for 2 years. Dealt with the gaslighting, lies, sin, manipulation, control. Affected me emotionally, mentally, spiritually, self condemnation, shame, etc. oh My God.!!!😮🥺
    Praise God I’m Free..
    I don’t walk away empty handed; I am taking the bad n the good to the platform of my testimony of deliverance n redemption, my story giving God Glory!! 🥰😍🙏🙏.
    Thank You

  • @virginiarowe4204
    @virginiarowe4204 15 дней назад +2

    Yes, I'm dealing with a passive aggressive vulnerable narcissist ex husband. I asked God for help and the next day, my Ex told me he was moving out with his girlfriend. I tried to keep the marriage going for 39 years. After asking God for help, everything fell into place. Thank you for your channel, I have peace now after the divorce but still trying to be a good parent to my grown children. Thank you God for all that you have done for me. Kris, you are amazing thank you for all your wise words.