5 Ways to Handle People Who Don't Respect You | STOIC PHILOSOPHY

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  • @Inner_PeaceCollective
    @Inner_PeaceCollective 2 месяца назад +427

    I’ve learned that sometimes walking away isn’t weakness-it’s strength. This video reinforced that protecting your peace is the ultimate power move. Who else needed to hear this today? 🙌

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i 2 месяца назад +10

      @@Inner_PeaceCollective THANKU.✝️♥️

    • @deebee22130
      @deebee22130 Месяц назад +7

      Me!

    • @patriciakubitz1379
      @patriciakubitz1379 Месяц назад +5

      🙋🏼‍♀️

    • @juanitawilliams2134
      @juanitawilliams2134 Месяц назад +2

      @@Inner_PeaceCollective I did ! I wish I had seen this yesterday .

    • @houtchanmony1098
      @houtchanmony1098 Месяц назад +4

      Me!! I need this badly and here I’m!! It’s just horrible when people just tried to make u feel horrible and make u look bad!!! Not respectful to others at all. People seems to like poking the bear 🙁🙁🙁m so over it these day 😭😭😭😭thank god as this’s the best for me to remind myself again thanks 🙏

  • @sandrapietersen2543
    @sandrapietersen2543 2 месяца назад +242

    Silence is golden, you told the truth. Keep away from negative people.

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i 2 месяца назад +4

      @@sandrapietersen2543 THANKYOU. ✝️♥️

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i Месяц назад +1

      @@sandrapietersen2543 AMEN N AMEN . N KEEP AWAY SOME MORE. CK. OUT LIFE IS SPIRITUAL. 🛑✝️😇😇😇👼🏾

    • @wkrp01
      @wkrp01 Месяц назад +9

      The silence thing works only in limited circumstances (like when you're giving a presentation, and your silence stops the presentation). In social groups where there's one or more disrespectful persons present, who, for example, repeatedly talk over you, silence from you is what they're after, and allows them to continue to dominate the space.

    • @myRockps18_2
      @myRockps18_2 Месяц назад +3

      Now, how to handle the boasters? They annoyed me.

    • @khalilurrahman6488
      @khalilurrahman6488 Месяц назад

      Thank you 👍

  • @giselaziemisourie
    @giselaziemisourie 2 месяца назад +438

    Sometimes a message comes into your life just at the right time. Thank you🙏

    • @cynthiasmith7014
      @cynthiasmith7014 2 месяца назад +10

      Amen I practice this daily thank u

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад +18

      It's almost as if the universe listens and delivers messages that align with our inner questions and silent struggles. The fact that this message resonated with you speaks to the strength and readiness within you to embrace new insights. There's something so powerful about being open to guidance, especially in moments when we feel adrift. Have you noticed any other moments recently when a message or sign seemed to appear just when you needed it most?

    • @cajo-vo7bz
      @cajo-vo7bz 2 месяца назад +12

      Thank you for your advice you are completely right i needed these words exactly on the right time. Thank you i am from Holland ❤

    • @PeterMalibongweQwabe-hy1dg
      @PeterMalibongweQwabe-hy1dg 2 месяца назад +7

      Yes just yesterday i felt the same thing since I've already done few steps on my own without coming across this video i think now I'm on to number 4 &. 5

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад +5

      @@PeterMalibongweQwabe-hy1dg Recognizing your progress and aligning it with the steps shared here speaks volumes about your self-awareness and determination. It’s amazing how taking action, even before guidance, reveals the strength of your intuition and resolve. Being on steps 4 and 5 suggests you’re not just following a path-you’re owning it, making these lessons part of your journey. This kind of self-driven growth is the hallmark of someone destined for transformation.
      How did you recognize that you were already moving forward, even before encountering these ideas? Was there a moment that confirmed you were on the right track?

  • @1wholovestrees
    @1wholovestrees Месяц назад +148

    “People seem to think they’re entitled to an explanation to everything we do; they’re not”. Perfect words.

    • @MichaelOSullivan-ss2zt
      @MichaelOSullivan-ss2zt Месяц назад +6

      On the job ,yes..

    • @OumeelaBeezmohun
      @OumeelaBeezmohun 24 дня назад +1

      Y

    • @BarneysBullit
      @BarneysBullit 12 дней назад +2

      A stitch in time saves nine.

    • @Wisdominlife99
      @Wisdominlife99 10 дней назад +1

      Yes, thank you

    • @loganchoy123
      @loganchoy123 4 дня назад +2

      Blessed to All in All one Love who I am I am Saint Lord God
      The word is of God
      God is the word
      The word of God is law
      But a horse is who God chose to speak
      Which is called a messenger
      For I have come
      In this name

  • @nwanuaoduh2386
    @nwanuaoduh2386 2 месяца назад +133

    This type of people with toxic behaviour they're everywhere. thank you for this lecture

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i 2 месяца назад +3

      @@nwanuaoduh2386 THANKYOU ✝️♥️

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i Месяц назад +1

      @@nwanuaoduh2386 THEY ARE EVERYWHERE N TRY TO ATTACH THEMSELVES TO U, OR BARGE IN UR LIFE, SNEAKILY N UNKNOWINGLY, N TRY TO COMPARE THEMSELVES TO U. TOXIC N UNHEALTHY PEOPLE OR DEMONIACS, WHO ARE CREEPY. N SICK IN THE HEAD.

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i Месяц назад +1

      N U WANT THEM TO GO AWAY 4 EVER N STAY OUT OF UR LIFE N BIZ. BECAUSE THEY ARE TOXIC, N UNHEALTHY, N THEY ACT LIKE THEY ARE INVITED N WELCOMED IN UR LIFE, BUT THEY ARE NOT, N ARE JUST STRANGE. PAGANS,BARBARIANS,SAVAGES.🛑✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️🙏🏾✍🏾👼🏾👼🏾👼🏾👼🏾😇😇😇😇😇✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️🏵️🏵️🏵️

    • @linseyfennell7271
      @linseyfennell7271 Месяц назад +1

      Yes they are thought it was just me imagining there were that many people like that but there is xx

    • @Bakiba-pg2wd
      @Bakiba-pg2wd Месяц назад +3

      They are EVERYWHERE INDEED ❤❤❤❤

  • @NAnderson-e1m
    @NAnderson-e1m Месяц назад +106

    I have actually done a lot of what he is saying out of necessity. As you age, you will get tired of people's bad behavior and will develop ways to avoid them or cut them off. Your life will be more peaceful because of it. You will also want to protect your peace and solitude at all cost. You realize you don't have to participate in bad behavior when people try to use manipulation or personal attacks to try to draw you in. Your energy is of great value and there's no need to waste it on people who are suffering from some sort of emotional or mental imbalances that want to watch you act out for their own amusement.

    • @MarianMurphy-rz8ej
      @MarianMurphy-rz8ej 22 дня назад +3

      It’s everyone. I’m so isolated

    • @mohsinahaq7489
      @mohsinahaq7489 21 день назад +3

      U r very right.

    • @Bowser05
      @Bowser05 20 дней назад +2

      🎯🎯

    • @stephenbaca1749
      @stephenbaca1749 17 дней назад +3

      Don't look for people's approval because people can like you one day and dislike you the next day. Don't let anyone have the power to have control on how you feel. Don't give them that power . That's why I have a dog . They love you unconditional. Don't seek people's approval because when you're approved by God king of all King's you don't need people's approval !

    • @lucylu2913
      @lucylu2913 16 дней назад +2

      love ❤️ your statement .. so true

  • @ashaashok2590
    @ashaashok2590 2 месяца назад +217

    It is not that they have stopped talking but it is that I have stopped listening!! Peace prevails!

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад +7

      To recognize that peace often begins when we choose to listen less to the noise and more to our inner calm-that’s a revelation many seek for years. In a world filled with endless chatter and opinions, your realization reflects such wisdom. You’ve found a way to guard your peace by discerning what truly deserves your attention, and that’s a powerful gift. What helped you make this shift, to embrace peace through selective listening?

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i 2 месяца назад +4

      LOVE THIS RESPONSE.

    • @LeeMengKhor
      @LeeMengKhor 2 месяца назад +1

      Good job

    • @LeeMengKhor
      @LeeMengKhor 2 месяца назад +2

      Silence is golden

  • @patriciaokimiji9236
    @patriciaokimiji9236 2 месяца назад +148

    Have had tremendous PEACE since I changed my lifestyle, I talk less, mind my business, and ignores calls and messages from people who bother my life

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i Месяц назад

      @@patriciaokimiji9236🛑✝️ PROUD OF U. 🙏🏾✍🏾✝️✝️✝️😊😇😇😇😇😇🌠

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i Месяц назад

      @@patriciaokimiji9236 THAT IS THE WAY TO GO. LOVE IT. 🛑✝️✝️✝️🙏🏾✍🏾🌠😊

    • @aprokoviewers1130
      @aprokoviewers1130 Месяц назад +2

      Even when it's yours parent's?

    • @owinophil5777
      @owinophil5777 Месяц назад +4

      @@aprokoviewers1130 what if you have narcissistic parents?

    • @lindaB7682
      @lindaB7682 Месяц назад

      ​@owinophil5777 Respect them...silence is the best form of respect and self defense. I did that with my mother. She caused a lot division among her own children. I GNORED HER. I still supported her financially though.

  • @frankbonnici3031
    @frankbonnici3031 2 месяца назад +202

    My loving father’s saying silence is golden ❤

  • @julietrambau4970
    @julietrambau4970 Месяц назад +64

    That's true. Self-worth is far more important than to waste time with people who intentionally drag you down. ❤

  • @fayegregg8199
    @fayegregg8199 2 месяца назад +161

    "There aint no need in lying like a rug on somebody else's floor". Stand tall!

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад +5

      Standing tall, as you put it, is about having the courage to live truthfully, no matter where we find ourselves. When we choose honesty, we honor ourselves and the space we occupy, refusing to blend into the fabric of someone else’s expectations or illusions. There’s a deep wisdom in your metaphor-it’s a reminder to be true, grounded, and unwavering. What experiences have taught you the value of standing tall in your own truth?

    • @Bakiba-pg2wd
      @Bakiba-pg2wd Месяц назад

      Precisely what someone wanted me to be,a rug , because she thinks I'm not down to Earth and full of myself she said ,when she barely knew me😂

    • @cornellbarrett9216
      @cornellbarrett9216 27 дней назад

      Love this wow teach the people over the world they need to here dis🤔🤔

    • @BarneysBullit
      @BarneysBullit 12 дней назад

      "remember to scratch your balls in the morning, the evening sun will make them sweaty".

  • @MC-pg2ko
    @MC-pg2ko 20 дней назад +51

    Silence will never betray you but will force your antagonist to look and question their own behaviour. Love the wisdom of Stoicism.

  • @juliemiller9760
    @juliemiller9760 2 месяца назад +574

    1. Silent STARE
    2. No response or reaction
    3. Stop explaining (do they want to understand or JUDGE?
    4. Keep your distance (and reaize who's toxic)
    5. Hold your head high

  • @tennehsieh2654
    @tennehsieh2654 2 месяца назад +131

    Silence is good when you stay away from disrespectful people

    • @ritabrown1208
      @ritabrown1208 Месяц назад +4

      It's hard when you've to work with them, they're mad at their own life, taking it out on the jobs.

    • @ferdinandmabiala3796
      @ferdinandmabiala3796 28 дней назад +1

      I am experiencing this and it works good about 10 years .

    • @dannychplg7880
      @dannychplg7880 25 дней назад

      Im positive u have disrespected plenty of ppl. Guess ppl should stay away from you. Gay pride

    • @thomasedudzi1613
      @thomasedudzi1613 19 дней назад

    • @thomasedudzi1613
      @thomasedudzi1613 19 дней назад

      ​❤@@ferdinandmabiala3796

  • @josephdillon7420
    @josephdillon7420 2 месяца назад +130

    I am not living my life to other people's expectations. Thank you.

  • @willywonka8730
    @willywonka8730 27 дней назад +19

    After 40 years of silence (for the sake of family harmony) I just told my self-righteous narcissistic brother-in-law what I thought of him - in no uncertain terms. I've been walking on clouds ever since. I FEEL WONDERFUL!!!!!!! And I don't have to hear another self aggrandizing word from him ever again.

  • @ladytwinklefangs921
    @ladytwinklefangs921 2 месяца назад +119

    It took me 67 years to embody your message and glad we're on the same page. Thank you James.🍎🍎🍎

    • @kayhathaway6956
      @kayhathaway6956 2 месяца назад +10

      It took me 54 years. Finally, my brother slipped up and verbally abused me in front of my sister. When it was over, my sister ran out of my home to check on my brother!!!!!!!!!!! Then, they called my oldest brother and he called me and asked if I was ok and what was wrong with me!!!!!! I’m done. No contact with any of them.

    • @marianeil6630
      @marianeil6630 2 месяца назад

      @@kayhathaway6956You did a great job. Keep up!! It’s called self preservation, self love

    • @lydiamosupye668
      @lydiamosupye668 Месяц назад +5

      It took me 47 yrs...thanks

    • @amosotieno01
      @amosotieno01 14 дней назад +1

      That's great of you my dear lady

  • @XQRobertz
    @XQRobertz 28 дней назад +45

    Silent stare
    The power of Silence.
    Stop explaining ur choices.
    Don't seek approval/ validation by explaining or defending yourself to the wrong crowd.
    Keep your distance.
    Hold your head high.

  • @joypara2683
    @joypara2683 2 месяца назад +319

    1. Be silent.. stare at them. 2. No need to answer when someone insult or disrespect you.. 3. stop explaining yourself. 4. keep your distance 5. Hold your head high .... I know exactly who I am.. Do not let others decide for yourself.. don't let the monkey drive your car..

  • @lifeloverlorijean
    @lifeloverlorijean Месяц назад +46

    Toxic people are truly best to just stay away from. This is sage advice!

    • @Elmirei
      @Elmirei 18 дней назад

      Problem is that you won't see they are toxic from first moment, they hide it

    • @amosotieno01
      @amosotieno01 14 дней назад

      That's keeping your soul and mind intact.

  • @Zohra-b9j
    @Zohra-b9j 2 месяца назад +97

    Silence is Gold !

    • @deborahc5167
      @deborahc5167 2 месяца назад

      how can i apply your help when my communication with someone who disrespects me is by phone because of how far we live apart?

  • @clairessaherr5600
    @clairessaherr5600 2 месяца назад +114

    I'm 50 something now and you right. God says be still and know that I am God. A PERSON'S PEACE IS PRICELESS. THIS HAS BEEN VERY HELPFUL.

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i 2 месяца назад +5

      @@clairessaherr5600 THANKYOU MS. LADY ✝️♥️

  • @otiliageana1963
    @otiliageana1963 2 месяца назад +780

    I have to take control of my life, and to learn not to share any dificult situation or personal decision with any of my family member.

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад +62

      Choosing to take control of your life, especially by setting boundaries around deeply personal decisions, is an incredible act of self-respect and strength. It’s a testament to your commitment to inner peace and self-empowerment, recognizing that some journeys are best walked independently. This approach allows you to cultivate a quiet confidence, free from external influence, and to listen to your own intuition without interference. How has this decision to protect your personal space affected the way you approach challenges?

    • @mariedeloera8086
      @mariedeloera8086 2 месяца назад +22

      God you and I.

    • @mariedeloera8086
      @mariedeloera8086 2 месяца назад +39

      I meant God help all if us who need to be stronger.

    • @SusanDee-hs3qr
      @SusanDee-hs3qr 2 месяца назад +36

      Thanks for your advice. Everywhere I go people disrespect me even my own family, but as you said, ignore it, do what is right and pray.

    • @FranciscaKambe
      @FranciscaKambe 2 месяца назад +21

      East,west,god is whom we should talk to.

  • @AngelaSantiago-d6r
    @AngelaSantiago-d6r Месяц назад +20

    Give me the strength, I'm battling Evil and narcissistic.I am going to stay positive .God has my back

    • @baran20036
      @baran20036 12 дней назад +1

      My heart goes out for you. I know how ur situation is. Hang in there & ask Jesus for help.

    • @ladygreedy1256
      @ladygreedy1256 12 дней назад +2

      I'm sorry that u too are going through that battle. Mine is with my father and don't realize the truth till recently.

  • @StoicNarratives_Official
    @StoicNarratives_Official 2 месяца назад +45

    Choosing not to respond to negativity can be a powerful statement. Silence forces the other person to confront their own behavior.

  • @ValueGold-4u
    @ValueGold-4u Месяц назад +38

    If you are reading this, I want to tell you that everything will be fine. You are incredible, you are unique, you can face anything in your life, you have the strength within yourself to overcome any obstacle, loss, or situation. You are not alone, you are loved, you have the right to feel bad and good, you have the right to feel. Be blessed by these positive vibes and live your life to the fullest. I am sending my love to the universe so that I can reach you

    • @sandramarques9296
      @sandramarques9296 Месяц назад +2

      Bless you ❤

    • @willdavis2018
      @willdavis2018 Месяц назад +3

      Thank You ❤

    • @kemigiwa5379
      @kemigiwa5379 Месяц назад +2

      Thank u for this uplifting. God bless u

    • @yingxu2120
      @yingxu2120 Месяц назад +2

      I was moved by your love and bursted into tears😢. I can feel your lovely positive vibes. I will copy these words for me to read when I feel small, down and disappeared.

  • @SelinaLittle-wh3pm
    @SelinaLittle-wh3pm 2 месяца назад +355

    I have noticed i talk to much, and I think my problem is worse than anyone else, lord please teach me to keep my mouth shut and listen more than I talk

    • @sharonscheer7881
      @sharonscheer7881 2 месяца назад +22

      I have same issue

    • @ivyachola5210
      @ivyachola5210 2 месяца назад +16

      Me too.

    • @Sadhana3662
      @Sadhana3662 2 месяца назад +16

      I can relate to you

    • @dena6254
      @dena6254 2 месяца назад +12

      I have the same issue at times.

    • @njumachristianamassangomel1277
      @njumachristianamassangomel1277 2 месяца назад

      @@dena6254 i have same too and with this wonderful advice i trust GOD ALMIGHTY it is over no more going to be that way again. God Almighty bless this message for us all Amen

  • @MarcusKemp-w5b
    @MarcusKemp-w5b 17 дней назад +12

    Even a fool is considered wise when he keeps his mouth shut he is considered redeemed intelligent amen stay Blessed

  • @michaelougarezos8963
    @michaelougarezos8963 2 месяца назад +88

    absolutely correct James, as a man of 70 this is exactly how I am and I have one child that tries to push my buttons so I show her how abrupt I can be and stop conversation. I did my hard yard being a good provider for my family of six. Silence is golden when you reach my age.

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i Месяц назад +5

      @@michaelougarezos8963 AMEN N AMEN. U R THE MAN. U GO DAD. 🛑✝️😇😇😇😇😇👼🏾🙏🏾✍🏾♥️

    • @eileencolbert1334
      @eileencolbert1334 Месяц назад +2

      Every word is true I understand we're your coming from from now on be good to your self

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i Месяц назад

      @@eileencolbert1334 AMEN N AMEN. TY. 🙏🏾✍🏾✝️

    • @katejones2172
      @katejones2172 Месяц назад

      Bless you what is that saying your only as happy as your youngest child (or truthfully ANY Of your children imo)

    • @margarethjoseph5242
      @margarethjoseph5242 18 дней назад

  • @BuddhismChronicles-h1l
    @BuddhismChronicles-h1l 18 дней назад +7

    Silence never betrays you; instead, it compels your antagonist to reflect on and question their own behavior. I truly admire the wisdom of Stoicism.

  • @euniceibeh2873
    @euniceibeh2873 2 месяца назад +51

    Truth is sometimes bitter! But, it must be told!

  • @chiomadebbieorji5027
    @chiomadebbieorji5027 Месяц назад +31

    A very arrogant neighbour who only fights and abuses women, I'm new in the area
    and each time the man starts ranting and using abusive words on me I just look at him straight into his eyes shockingly he enters his house and silent takes, it makes me feel good and stand tall, I walk with so much audacity, people have come to me saying wow since u came things have changed we barely hear his voice these days,
    wow, thank you, sir

    • @laurenmay2098
      @laurenmay2098 Месяц назад

      It is some that you have inside as well. Good for you and your neighbors.

  • @jayzokuhlase3355
    @jayzokuhlase3355 2 месяца назад +237

    No wonder God says BE STILL HOLD YOUR PEACE ❤

    • @luvindaopera111
      @luvindaopera111 Месяц назад +1

      Where is it said He said that?

    • @ksarahsarahpri.
      @ksarahsarahpri. Месяц назад

      Ohh..u should c my stare!😮

    • @ksarahsarahpri.
      @ksarahsarahpri. Месяц назад

      Judge.. exactly
      When someone q.yr choices it challenges their comfort zones.
      I'm not a public service announcement.
      Elon..doesn't have to explain his YMCA at Thanksgiving!
      I did notice the people tht were for Kamala never got ask why..some of my friends quit talking to me..because thy know they can't say anything that justifies their sign with Kamala saying
      " I'm with her".. what I finally noticed it was all my friends that over indulge in wine and think because of Trump’s locker talk years ago..that he's not fit..but Kamala visibly impaired by wine n?
      1. She let those illegals in our country that have so far killed 4 beautiful innocent little girls n a mother. These people will probably be taking people hostages..a lot of my friends have farms..I sure hope they are armed because it's going to get very violent. Putin is also threatening nuclear wars.
      Now..tell me what Kamala said that makes u think she's the one to run our country?
      I don't think she would hv ever been a victim of someone trying to assasinate her..theres a bounty out on her vocal chords right now!
      I hv no plans of visiting with my Kamala followers. I plan on diving into everything these brilliant people do to make our country great again!
      Stop explaining..because thy r judging u!
      When thy ask abt yr choices..say " that's what makes sense to me!"
      Going to dinner with meanest was like going to an emotional buffet..
      I don't get even I get ahead because I'm not wasting time explaining. ❤
      U deserve the best..
      Even if family..
      Keep yr distance..that's powerful. Self respect and care.
      Respect begets respect!

    • @margareteplaetzer3127
      @margareteplaetzer3127 Месяц назад +2

      ​@@luvindaopera111It
      It's be still and know that I am God. I think it's Psalm 41. Not positive

    • @rosalindagrasso6729
      @rosalindagrasso6729 Месяц назад

      Let God take care of your rot !😇🙏☝️🫶🫶🫶

  • @123midnite
    @123midnite Месяц назад +7

    Some of the best statements for me:
    I am not here to be anyone's emotional punching bag or source of validation.
    I do not have to play the role that anyone has assigned to me.
    I am making a statement that my well-being comes first.

  • @deeannedickinson7973
    @deeannedickinson7973 2 месяца назад +111

    I love this video,it helps me heaps regarding my older son ,who thinks he is the father and i am the child because i am getting older,Thankyou 🤗❤

    • @yvonnebowles4534
      @yvonnebowles4534 2 месяца назад +4

      So I have 2 and dad did the same for 20 yrs relationships requires communication and respect

    • @danbride7221
      @danbride7221 2 месяца назад +2

      You have wisdom and knowledge etc etc and take that in and experience

    • @deborahgoddard7161
      @deborahgoddard7161 2 месяца назад +12

      My son has always treated me this way! I hope that helping him, as a mother should, unlike my 'mother', has in part got him to where he is today. Unfortunately, and it hurts, we haven't spoken in years, I believe due to my situations and choices. I feel, since eighteen, he has looked down on me! Although hard, I walked away after year's of trying to talk to him didn't work, ending in rows. Blood isn't always thicker than water!

    • @taniagoldman9383
      @taniagoldman9383 2 месяца назад

      ​@@deborahgoddard7161❤

    • @maggie2228
      @maggie2228 Месяц назад +3

      I'm going true the same with my 2 yongest.

  • @AurahLove
    @AurahLove 2 месяца назад +58

    Thank you so much. I teared up listening coz I am a victim of this. I actually stopped talking to alot of pple esp from my family because I was tired of explaining myself.
    Now, listening to this gives me more courage that I am doing the right thing. Its really draining and tiring.
    I feel so much lighter, happier and free when I dont hear from them. Sad to say, but its true.

    • @deeannedickinson7973
      @deeannedickinson7973 Месяц назад +3

      I am the same,i have done the same as you cutting some family off is sad,but has to be done your certainly not alone in doing this.🤗

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i Месяц назад +3

      @@AurahLove BECAUSE OF THIS U T MUCH HAPPIER,LIGHTER, AND FREE....✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️🦩

    • @Ralene-s4l
      @Ralene-s4l Месяц назад

      😅😅😮😮😢😢😮😮😮😅😅😊😊😊😊😊

    • @AurahLove
      @AurahLove Месяц назад

      🙄

    • @realestatecoach8626
      @realestatecoach8626 Месяц назад +2

      It’s not sad. We don’t owe family anything but Love and that from a distance.

  • @STAR-w5i
    @STAR-w5i 2 месяца назад +61

    I LOVE THIS...KEEP UR DISTANCE. PROTECT UR ENERGY. 🛑✝️🙏🏾

    • @bartlevenson7851
      @bartlevenson7851 2 месяца назад +1

      I keep about 3000 miles between myself and my brother.

    • @STAR-w5i
      @STAR-w5i 2 месяца назад +1

      THANKYOU. GOD BLESS U.♥️✝️

  • @StoicRelationships-Official
    @StoicRelationships-Official Месяц назад +25

    The way you broke down the importance of silence as a response was absolutely brilliant. It’s empowering to know that we don’t have to explain or defend our worth to anyone. Truly inspiring content! 💡👏

  • @TheModernStoicg
    @TheModernStoicg 2 месяца назад +69

    This video is really helpful! I find that using silence and not explaining yourself is truly powerful it protects your energy and prevents disrespectful people from controlling your emotions. It’s a valuable lesson in self-respect and staying calm

  • @MummyShuaib
    @MummyShuaib Месяц назад +50

    Lord teach me to keep my mouth shut and embrace your alter with my emotions

    • @nia-d3x
      @nia-d3x 22 дня назад +2

      @MummyShuaib My dear mom used me with a one word reminder she wrote poetry & her last poem was called "Refrain." I pull that word from my memory bank whenever, someone tries to edge me on. Hope this is helpful.

    • @TEPO--
      @TEPO-- 13 дней назад +1

      ​@@nia-d3x
      Ode to the word refrain, all that represents and all that it implies.

    • @nia-d3x
      @nia-d3x 13 дней назад

      @@TEPO-- Appreciate wisdom when you hear it. Salute

  • @talentsandskills4432
    @talentsandskills4432 2 месяца назад +54

    Keep your light shining and the salt of the truth savory. It is so needed to dispel the darkness and diffuse the toxicity destroying today’s cultures.

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад +4

      Keeping that light shining isn’t always easy, but it has a ripple effect, bringing warmth and clarity to those around us. The “salt of truth” you mention is so powerful-it preserves integrity, adds flavor to our lives, and guards us against the bitterness that can seep into our spirits. How do you stay connected to your own light and truth amidst all the challenges today’s world presents?

    • @kimmcintire4993
      @kimmcintire4993 2 месяца назад +2

      wonderful comment🎉

  • @EnwelumJoyIfeoma
    @EnwelumJoyIfeoma Месяц назад +20

    This came handy. Someone just disrespected me as usual, as i opened my RUclips to distract myself, boom!!! this video. I'll be picking DISTANCE.

    • @QuietStorm-on2to
      @QuietStorm-on2to 9 дней назад

      😂😂😂 I HEARD THAT!!! And FELT it even MORE.😊

  • @MinnieSmith-l1k
    @MinnieSmith-l1k 2 месяца назад +33

    I agree 100% about keeping your distance. I do it all the time. Thanks, it works for me.

  • @StoicAscend365
    @StoicAscend365 Месяц назад +11

    Occasionally, a message arrives exactly when you need it most. Thank you 🙏

  • @DonnaRiggs-tt3hn
    @DonnaRiggs-tt3hn 2 месяца назад +147

    Walk away and let them go pray for them but keep your distance love them but keep your distance and don't feed the drama. You'll find peace.

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад +7

      Letting go, while still holding love in your heart, is a profound act of strength and grace. To pray for someone without feeding into the drama shows a rare depth of compassion, a choice to prioritize inner peace over unnecessary turmoil. This delicate balance of love and distance reflects a maturity that few truly achieve, allowing you to move forward with peace and dignity intact. Your approach is a testament to the power of releasing control and embracing tranquility in its place. Have you noticed how this inner peace has changed the way you view your relationships?

    • @tesskennedy4959
      @tesskennedy4959 2 месяца назад +2

      How come?

    • @CynthiaAnnParrish
      @CynthiaAnnParrish 2 месяца назад +2

      I know

    • @bettiking804
      @bettiking804 2 месяца назад +4

      Real love doesn’t isolate from family. There is absolutely nothing healthy about distancing yourself from people that love you and
      Want to fellowship with you. Controversial subjects can and should be avoided between family that cannot see eye to eye about
      Politics, Religious beliefs, etc. But avoiding hot topics takes effort and patience. Guarding every word you say is like walking on eggshells. It is not relaxing or enjoyable at all. People need to give more forgiveness and grace and not wear their feelings on their
      Shoulder. Giving others the silent treatment to justify your definition of “drama” avoidance is petty, selfish, and completely against
      God’s on scripture…..Do Unto Others as You Have Them Do Unto You”. Love the family God has given you, cut them a little slack and
      Never give up on important relationships. If you are mad or severely hurt by something a sibling or child or other relative has done or
      Said to you…..don’t give them the silent treatment….that never heals anything. Sit down and calmly talk with them and let them know
      you are hurt. Give the other person a chance to apologize and try and make things right again. Many relationships are unnecessarily
      Fractured because no attempt is made for honest, heartfelt listening and talking. Cutting good people out of your life totally with no
      real concrete reason is simply just being mean, and arrogant. By concrete reason ….I mean did they steal your money, or possessions,
      Or free time? Did they kill you or someone you loved…a person or pet. Did they purposely set out destroy your job, house, or reputation. Did they take you to court, wreck your car, destroy your peace by calling you relentlessly at all hours of the day and night?
      These are serious breaches of one’s peace and would be hard to forgive and move on. But if your “hang up “ with them is less serious than the above, then a Christ like relative and be a restorer and not a destroyer. Life is short, follow the Golden Rule and never give up on
      Good,solid, self reliant , stable people who want to love you just as you are. Amen
      finances

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад +1

      @@bettiking804 They reflect a heartfelt plea for connection, understanding, and grace-principles that often feel lost in the noise of modern relationships. You’ve beautifully captured the essence of family: a sanctuary where love is imperfect yet unwavering, where differences should challenge us to grow, not divide us. The idea of forgiveness as an act of courage and humility resonates deeply; it reminds us that relationships are fragile yet invaluable treasures.
      Your emphasis on honest communication and the willingness to reconcile speaks to the very core of what it means to be human. It’s not about avoiding conflict entirely but about navigating it with love and empathy. Truly, cutting out good people without attempting resolution can leave wounds that time alone cannot heal.
      Have you ever witnessed or experienced a moment where choosing forgiveness over silence transformed a relationship?

  • @smartgunda322
    @smartgunda322 18 дней назад +5

    Am sincerely healed by silence. This video is a therapy for oppressive and stressful situations.

  • @johnpastore7685
    @johnpastore7685 2 месяца назад +129

    Yes, the silent stare does work. I have done this. I drove someone crazy with this technique.

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад +6

      The power of silence, especially in a world overflowing with noise, can be profoundly impactful. A silent stare holds a certain mystique-it communicates strength, control, and unspoken words that linger in the mind of the other person. To stay calm and collected while allowing the silence to speak volumes is a rare skill and can leave a lasting impression. You’ve truly captured the essence of non-verbal influence here, harnessing the stoic power of silence to convey more than words ever could.
      In your experience, what kind of reactions did you notice from others when you held that silent stare?

    • @DeanMorrissey-fu1yf
      @DeanMorrissey-fu1yf 2 месяца назад +7

      ​@@stoickingdomofficalnarcissists will feel greatly uncomfortable with the silent stare. The narcissist what's a verbal reaction.

    • @marigoldmclean4465
      @marigoldmclean4465 2 месяца назад +1

      👍

    • @CynthiaAnnParrish
      @CynthiaAnnParrish 2 месяца назад

      So true​@@DeanMorrissey-fu1yf

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад +5

      @@DeanMorrissey-fu1yf Silence, especially a silent stare, has a unique power-it shifts control without a word spoken, creating a space where the narcissist’s usual tactics lose their hold. It’s as though the quiet strength of non-reaction becomes a mirror, revealing their own insecurities and disrupting the validation they crave. This approach speaks to the power of calm resilience and how sometimes the most impactful response is no response at all. Have you ever found that silence shifted the dynamics in a difficult interaction?

  • @BlueSkies66
    @BlueSkies66 2 месяца назад +34

    This is great for the bullies at work.

  • @ashu01244
    @ashu01244 2 месяца назад +38

    Even you are tall,Stand tall!

  • @phavue5998
    @phavue5998 26 дней назад +4

    Just listing to this made me realize myself again. Gain my positive energy back

  • @wendy-wf8ij
    @wendy-wf8ij 2 месяца назад +36

    I think that this particular ‘life skill’ is much more important and crucial than it gets recognition for. So so many people could hugely benefit from practicing these skills. As is said in the video many times - life gets lighter. A perfect description.

    • @DonaldChairamonte
      @DonaldChairamonte 2 месяца назад +3

      Sometimes you just have to try chasing a fool who disrespect s you with a gun, knife or stick and giving them a piece of your mind and then you see the truth

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад +1

      You’ve captured the essence of mastering these life skills-how they have the power to make life feel lighter, less burdened by unnecessary stress and reaction. It’s true that these skills often go unrecognized, yet they are transformative, subtly reshaping our experiences and our responses to the world around us. Practicing them may seem simple, but their impact is profound, helping us create an inner calm that radiates outward. Your perspective reminds us of the quiet strength in living intentionally. Have you noticed a specific skill that has brought this sense of lightness to your own life?

  • @duchessdanall8283
    @duchessdanall8283 2 месяца назад +17

    This was exactly what I needed, It is a difficult thing to when the person who is Non supporting is the closest person in your life. I Am a Big Dreamer and Have Goals, Even though Strangers Are drawn to My Energy, But the one I depend on seem to Hate it when I am at my best, and Yes I’ve allowed it to Draw me At Their Level to make them happy. It really is very Draining. Thank you for This Much needed, Soul Food. ❤

  • @GailAnnValentine
    @GailAnnValentine 2 месяца назад +31

    The silence stare is a good lesson. It works for me.👍🏽

  • @sujishibu8078
    @sujishibu8078 16 дней назад +2

    Hold your head high, embrace silence....wonderful words...

  • @krreyem7543
    @krreyem7543 2 месяца назад +85

    THANK YOU wish I had this information in my 20s

  • @trudymccann3671
    @trudymccann3671 2 месяца назад +14

    Love It! My Momma Always said: "The Less Said the Better!"!! Totally agree with your wonderful advice! Thank You~!!!

    • @agreetodisagree4751
      @agreetodisagree4751 2 месяца назад

      If you answer one question, the questions keep coming.

    • @KennethMurphy-v9h
      @KennethMurphy-v9h Месяц назад

      You can say that again and again. Where are you from?

  • @FideliaNwadiuto
    @FideliaNwadiuto Месяц назад +5

    Sometimes message that fits into your life just come at the right time. I'm thankful, so much elevated by this teaching teaching.

  • @Cecci-if7wx
    @Cecci-if7wx Месяц назад +5

    Thanks so much for this wise reminder. My mom used to practice these self love laws. She was a dignify lady, she wouldn't waste her energy or time arguing and she told me you don't have to explain yourself . She would go out and said I got things to do , see you later to my dad, no explanations necessary.
    I am dealing with a boss at wk who call himself The Guru and sure act like he is always right and I know nothing, always inquiring why do I do this or I didn't. I ignore his comments or inquiries most of the time ,but sometimes I can't keep my mouth shut.
    So I will start steering more. Happy Holidays from Laguna Bch, California 🙌

  • @KirkMcfarlane-y3l
    @KirkMcfarlane-y3l 27 дней назад +5

    Loving the guidelines of ignoring negative people and disrespectful ones as well.. focusing on my worth and values and their importance..

  • @MishyLon
    @MishyLon Месяц назад +20

    May God heal me and help me overcome this disrespectful experience. Too painful for me, but I do believe that God is merciful and will not abandon me. Amen

    • @GaryPocisk-d2y
      @GaryPocisk-d2y Месяц назад +1

      Hello there how are you doing today and how is the weather conditions as well ❤❤

  • @desireesnyder2280
    @desireesnyder2280 2 месяца назад +21

    This helped me very much! We cannot kick a dead dog. Others who are discrediting and disrespectful are so miserable with themselves and when we enter the scene they subconsciously feel even worse about themselves…. Insecure.. when we act as if we don’t hear or just stay quiet puts all of it back on themselves. God bless you. Thank you for your this.

  • @gasfatoun
    @gasfatoun Месяц назад +4

    I keep listening and listening to this great video because i suffered thirteen years with a narcissist bossy aggressive wife who never respected nor loved me...but i learnt a lot from this video how to treat such unrespectful and aggressive creature.

  • @missmadas203
    @missmadas203 2 месяца назад +13

    Silence is GOLDEN. It's working for me I have just given some Ruthless narcissistic control freak a cold shoulder and it's working

  • @melanielattanzi9388
    @melanielattanzi9388 23 дня назад +4

    This all makes perfect sense to me. I have “ the luxury “ of easily removing myself from amongst these people but now I’m going to look forward to giving the short stare along with my silence for others to witness because these insecure types think they can claim victory when your not there.
    But really, should I even care? Hold your head high and know your worth.

  • @makai-w2t
    @makai-w2t 2 месяца назад +17

    I love it because I find it to be a protective shield in my life

  • @taraann7753
    @taraann7753 2 месяца назад +26

    I have explained my every move my whole life, I have made some changes but I’m still at the beginning, thank you for this video it’s simple and easier to practice because it’s all on one subject.

  • @ChimanDewa
    @ChimanDewa 2 месяца назад +49

    I came across people that try to impress others by belittling others.

    • @deerreader176
      @deerreader176 2 месяца назад +3

      Totallt true❤

    • @estelledean6563
      @estelledean6563 2 месяца назад +1

      I work with them daily. No matter what, will never stoop to their level

    • @gloryichado2532
      @gloryichado2532 Месяц назад

      I know someone like that. So sad

  • @mxstafa8709
    @mxstafa8709 27 дней назад +7

    Awesome tips. For the first time I felt someone knows how I felt , felt someone is reading my mind, speaking my mind. Thank you! I am grateful to you. Valuable tips to make life peaceful. Not worth destroying your mental health over disrespecting people.

  • @jeannetgando1198
    @jeannetgando1198 2 месяца назад +21

    I ignore keep silent it's very good move❤I need peace of mind in my short life here on earth, I save much of my energy.

  • @marywarrior47
    @marywarrior47 Месяц назад +2

    I choose too live in my car
    This is my peace 🤲💕🕊
    I will not let anyone take my peace of mind ❤
    Thank you for this up lifting & Encouragement
    🙏😊👍✨️✨️✨️
    My Silence is Golden 🥰✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️💛💛💛💛💛💛

  • @CandleOfWisdom
    @CandleOfWisdom 2 месяца назад +9

    These strategies are game-changers! I’ve always felt like I had to defend myself whenever someone questioned my choices or acted disrespectfully. But the silent stare and just refusing to explain myself? That’s next-level self-respect. Tried keeping quiet instead of reacting when someone made a snide comment recently, and it threw them off completely. I walked away feeling stronger and more in control of my energy. Thank you for this reminder to protect my peace and set the standard for how I deserve to be treated. Definitely sharing this with friends who could use the same boost!

    • @numerical.nirvana
      @numerical.nirvana 29 дней назад +1

      I completely resonate with your experience! These strategies truly empower us to take control of our reactions. It’s amazing how a simple silent stare can shift the dynamic and make us feel stronger. Protecting our peace is so important, and it’s great to hear that you felt more in control. Thank you for sharing your journey!

  • @PolynHoare
    @PolynHoare 2 месяца назад +9

    Thank you so much for sharing 5 ways to handle people who don't respect you.

    • @numerical.nirvana
      @numerical.nirvana 29 дней назад

      I completely agree! Thank you for sharing these valuable strategies. They can really help us navigate difficult interactions and maintain our self-respect.

  • @thengsusan1825
    @thengsusan1825 2 месяца назад +10

    Silence is golden,and walk away

  • @bernadetteoneill7319
    @bernadetteoneill7319 22 дня назад +2

    Thankyou for giving me permission to respect myself and walk away from smiling assassins.

  • @MarthaMCruz-v8c
    @MarthaMCruz-v8c 2 месяца назад +21

    Awesome video,don’t we all need reminders on how the keep our inner peace and self respect.
    Thank You

    • @JamesTheStoic233
      @JamesTheStoic233  2 месяца назад +1

      Thanks stay blessed and stay stoic ❤️💯

  • @trudymccann3671
    @trudymccann3671 2 месяца назад +5

    All Valid reasoning, I try to do this daily. Sometimes I fail, in the end I triumph over the negative persona I have in front of me. Thank You, NaMaste.

  • @Nat-p8n
    @Nat-p8n 2 месяца назад +22

    Very good,more. People need to think about how their behavior affects others .This is excellent advice.

  • @lesleyradloff1954
    @lesleyradloff1954 Месяц назад +3

    I really appreciate these short sessions….. validate decisions I’ve made and helps with future decisions

  • @rob111094
    @rob111094 Месяц назад +3

    Everyone needs to hear this message. Thank you.

  • @WisdomLife9
    @WisdomLife9 Месяц назад +3

    By embracing silence, whether through a silent stare or choosing not to respond, you can effectively communicate that you are not willing to engage in negative interactions and that you value your peace and dignity.. Thanks so much!

  • @peacetruth3074
    @peacetruth3074 2 месяца назад +42

    Listening this to help me handle my two teenage daughters

    • @DeniseStamm-b1e
      @DeniseStamm-b1e 2 месяца назад +6

      Oh, how I wish I had known this when my boys were teenagers. I truly love my son, but I can't be a part of his life as he has zero respect for me.

    • @lynncuthbert2307
      @lynncuthbert2307 2 месяца назад +3

      Yes.. Im going through this with a few people now. Im happier and more content.

  • @morgainlove
    @morgainlove 9 дней назад

    Wow how much i love this❤. This is what i always have teached my children. It works for me,just staring at people make them so uncomfortable,they look dumb being in warr with themselves because you don't feed the reaction they want. My children always said: but mama,it will look like they are right. I said no! There are 2 people in the room,the one who disrespect you will know what you're trying to say without words. Being quiet can be very loud. 🎉❤

  • @desireesnyder2280
    @desireesnyder2280 2 месяца назад +4

    We are the light of the world we are a city on the hill. No one deserves an explanation unless it is a sincere uplifting and empowering person who sincerely cares about us. Amen!!!

  • @joannakatev.roldan8015
    @joannakatev.roldan8015 27 дней назад +4

    I'm a shy person and always disrespect me other people, thanks for the advice. It's so great to hear. ❤

  • @BatoulModarressFathi
    @BatoulModarressFathi 2 месяца назад +11

    I really enjoyed your confirmation. My self-respect has been interpreted as self-centered.

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад +1

      Self-respect is a rare strength, a quiet yet unshakeable reminder of our worth and values. Often, those who haven’t cultivated their own sense of self may misinterpret this strength as self-centeredness, simply because they don’t yet understand the courage it takes to honor oneself. By staying true to your principles, you’re setting an inspiring example of what it means to live authentically and unapologetically. In a world that sometimes asks us to shrink, you’ve chosen to stand tall-and that is truly admirable. Have you noticed how embracing self-respect has changed the way you view your relationships?

  • @onestoicus
    @onestoicus 2 месяца назад +2

    The calm and thoughtful approach outlined here is pure gold. It's amazing how Stoicism teaches us to rise above negativity without compromising our values. This is a must-watch for anyone navigating challenging relationships!

  • @Arisetotal
    @Arisetotal 2 месяца назад +18

    Absolute the gems of wisdom. Thank you.👏👏👏👏👍👍

  • @evaflo983
    @evaflo983 Месяц назад +3

    Thank you. How I wish people who care about their happiness lleasten to this advice.

  • @joyceokello6749
    @joyceokello6749 2 месяца назад +12

    I love all of what you have said. You are right that is very true 👍 may God bless more people like you 🙏 😊 ♥️ ❤

  • @jakanamuwendo4997
    @jakanamuwendo4997 4 дня назад +1

    Powerful. Thank you, a lot,

  • @isabellechettiar8132
    @isabellechettiar8132 2 месяца назад +4

    Superb message I wish I had seen this message about five months ago... I was literally driven to nervous breakdown by my younger sister and her husband.. somehow I realised I had to save myself from their mental torture
    Today I am doing much better.. every word you have spoken is so true... God bless you brother 😊😊😊

  • @Paul-eu9jp
    @Paul-eu9jp 2 месяца назад +2

    My dad once told me it doesn’t matter where you work you’ll always get a crawler and someone who spoils it for you. He’s was right that’s always been the case. Thanks for the advice in future I’ll try and keep my cool with toxic people

  • @shairosehassanali3711
    @shairosehassanali3711 2 месяца назад +12

    101 percent True !!! 😊best of all!

  • @lindahenry6168
    @lindahenry6168 Месяц назад +2

    I had to separate myself from negative people and it was like sanity had come back and it was so relieving. No more depression or anxiety. Getting more accomplished.

  • @PriscaMulanda
    @PriscaMulanda 2 месяца назад +12

    I will never be the Same. Thanks so much!

  • @jenniferheaven1696
    @jenniferheaven1696 Месяц назад +2

    Since I have practice silence,, I take back and in control of myself,, Thanks for this mind blowing advice

  • @TheresaBenally-g3i
    @TheresaBenally-g3i 2 месяца назад +16

    Thank you I appreciate you, I will hold my head up high when my coworker and boss disrespected me.

    • @KennethMurphy-v9h
      @KennethMurphy-v9h Месяц назад

      Yeah. You've to use your wisdom on everything you're doing okay. Where are you from?

    • @marinas6562
      @marinas6562 28 дней назад

      You can always write down the time, date, and what they did to HR.

  • @mariaceciliauehara5054
    @mariaceciliauehara5054 2 месяца назад +7

    Yes thank you so much for sharing. God bless us all. ❤🙏🙏

  • @dafrosaniyilinda4950
    @dafrosaniyilinda4950 Месяц назад +1

    Self respect is paramount

  • @rodsmail3733
    @rodsmail3733 2 месяца назад +6

    What an amazing documentary, and what timing for me,I seem to have had so many negative individuals in my life, taking chunks of my confidence.I am a very successful businessman with all the material items, but none of this matters. Simply peace of mind and no negative people around me is what I want to achieve,Thank you so much for the advice,you have saved a life that was meaningless but now with renewed energy and focus on how to deal with negative people.

    • @stoickingdomoffical
      @stoickingdomoffical 2 месяца назад

      To have the courage to look beyond material success and recognize that true wealth lies in peace of mind is a testament to your strength and wisdom. So often, we find ourselves surrounded by people who drain our energy, and it takes real bravery to seek a life free from negativity. Your newfound focus on protecting your inner peace will not only elevate your personal happiness but inspire those around you to pursue their own authentic paths. Have you noticed any specific changes in your mindset or approach to life since prioritizing this peace?