Diane, The Narcissistic Mother Just Got More Disturbing...
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- In the past we've looked at video by a mother I consider to be very narcissistic, whose daughter cut contact. Just as it didn't seem like it could get worse, it has...
Diane gives extreme, offensive and far fetched answers to the question of why her daughter doesn't want to speak to her.
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This woman sickens me, and here is why:
I was an estranged parent to my son during his addiction struggles for 5 years.
One day he told me that I am a trigger for his addiction, and said he cant have contact with me.
It hurt, but since I love him I let him go.
I didn't attempt communication and when I saw him in the community I let him determine our interaction, a nod, eye contact, smile, but no words.
I used that time to grow and relearn my relationship with him.
2 years ago I saw him in a store and when he approached me & said hi mom, i hugged him like the day he was born. I treat our relationship as a new thing, and continue to watch as he's been successful in recovery and employment and I was honored to dance with him at his wedding. His wife is amazing and his adopted stepson calls me Grammy ❤❤❤
Growth is hard, but so worth it
You are a great Person! Thank You for sharing this!!!!
I’m so happy for your new relationship with your son. Thank you for sharing.
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I am so happy you all found a way to heal and reconnect! Such a wonderful story and outcome for you. Wishing you many years of happiness with your family ♥♥
@elenaonline1579
I am too
I spent so many years knowing that overdose or incarceration were a possibility that I can't fathom messing this up by being a selfish mother like this one, it truly makes me angry and sympathetic for her daughter
The mask’s off… we can see why she was cut off.
When she said 'awww' condescendingly... Wow, just wow!
To be fair, she's been giving us lots of clues since the first video! 😂
YES. She is off the rails.
Yes - the mask is well and truly off. The racism is just shocking.
She would be good friends with my mother ... who I have no contact with.
I am so proud of Diane's daughter for getting away. I could not imagine a lifetime of this malicious talk.
She hates therapy because therapy can be empowering for abuse victims. Therapy helps them set boundaries and protect themselves from harm.
Same reason Scientology hates psychiatry.
@@Analysis_Paralysis Yeah she worked so hard to distort her daughter’s world view and sense of self and defeat her natural defenses of anger and repulsion with a sense of guilt and responsibility, and it really pisses her off when a therapist helps her be her own person with her own thoughts and feelings.
Exactly
@@avathemis9878well said!
That's exactly what therapy did for me! It took awhile to break down all of the old distorted beliefs, and really step into the idea that I have not merely a right, but a responsibility to protect myself, but eventually I got there.
The more this woman speaks, the more I understand why her daughter cut ties with her.
We did not even need the daughter to speak out. She has told us everything we need to know about why her daughter went no contact
What's that old saying about enough rope?
Exactly. She’s digging more dirt on herself and giving out the negative vibes. Very triggering 😢
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FOR REAL. She's horrible. Condescending, sarcastic, racist, just truly an awful human being.
She is the living example of why people go to therapy; it's because people like her do not.
This.
I talk about my mother more than anything in therapy.
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She reminds me so much of my narc mom. Who is also a bigot like Diane.
AMEN!!!!
This lady is off her rocker. My adult child went no contact. It dose suck- but looking at my own actions or inaction, i had to face the fact my behavior and life style made my child feel unsafe, unloved and unheard. No matter what, i was the adult. The responsibility lies with me.
I SO wish more parents had the courage to recognize this. Bravo for being willing to own it.
At least you are being upfront about it. I hope that someday you and your children will be able to start a new relationship.
Can't find the video referenced herein. I suspect she realized that she outed herself as a racist homophobe which her daughter probably didn't realize until Fall of 2020 when her daughter cut her off telling her that she couldn't deal with her if she was going to support THAT MAN. I feel like people think politics are arbitrary but they tell me what your values are and it appears to me that it became quite evident that her parents values didn't align with her own. That video - that this woman made - DEFINITELY shows her true colors but I have yet to find it. I really do think she deleted it.
Your comment made me so emotional for some reason. Probably it is the fact that some parents are capable of taking responsibility for their actions and I know mine is incapable.
Keep working on yourself, I hope things work the best for you and your kid 💙
@@luishizaru thank you and ii hope you stay safe.
Many people are in therapy because of the people in their lives who won’t go to therapy.
Yep. They wear the mask of sanity. Must be exhausting.
😂😂😂Ha! Exactly. Very well put.
In my humble opinion, I think this is a very valid point
So well said, should put that on a T-Shirt
THIS THIS THIS! My birth-giver, Karen, said 'i don't need to go to therapy, you just need to deal with it', after she admitted that the new name i chose (am trans) made her upset because someone who shares that same name did horrible things to her when she was a child (which i didn't have any idea about, and there were 0 hints, she only lightly said she thought the name didn't fit me, twice, that's it), she didn't push to make me choose a different name very hard, because she was used to me being a doormat, and used to me just doing what she says, and then when she exploded on me, she said she would only use that name for me if i legally changed it (200 dollars that she wouldn't pay for, probably why she lessened my allowance as well, that's a whole other story though). Oh, she also thinks that the internet poisoned my mind into thinking that i'm trans! how great... but I was terminally online all the way in late middle school/early high school so that couldn't be it. It's about parents feeling that their children should always be responsible for their parent's emotions and should always be regulating the parent and be beholden to them for eternity, even though their children get 0 respect, are controlled like a puppet, and are emotionally abused and manipulated into being a doormat and emotional servant to their parent, so glad i am NC with her.
Using the internet as a tool to continue to abuse and humiliate her daughter! What a kind caring mother!
Exactly. She is outing personal info including medical info of her daughter in her videos. That's horrible!
sick in her mind, indeed
So she doesn't have to work on herself but the kids do? Got it
At least the kids have time to be open minded and open to change. The mom(and other older parents like her), on the other hand, are stubborn and set in their ways.
Yeah, but no, the kids are even scolded for working on themselves.
Everything should just remain the way it has always been because for her, that's just the most convenient.
it's the same mentality as my birth-giver, wish it was less common... 'i don't need to heal, you need to just do what i tell you to', when she pulled that out, i was gobsmacked, didn't make any sense, probably a 'respect your elders' kind of mentality? why should i respect her when she has no respect for me? respect is earned, not given.
I see similar patterns as with my own psychos of origin; particularly, the completely irrational behaviour of deciding a conclusion that suits her first - because she just knows everything and can also read other people's minds - and then scavenging for things to twist and distort, or just manufacturing wholesale lies, to suit. The only way to deal with this is kind of vicious aggression is to not engage with it: rightful self-defence against a moron like this is a trap.
That's sure how my mom works! Six years NC 💪🏻
This woman is living proof of why no contact is sometimes the only option
In many cases...it's the best option.
It's also one of the many reasons why many are choosing not to start families.... because of the individual having a bad experience with a toxic family and not wanting to repeat that same bad cycle.
Imagine trying to be no contact and your mom goes viral so you have to "be in contact"... 🤮🤮🤮
Yep. No adult child would be estranged from their mother or father if they were wonderful, loving parents who just made little mistakes here and there. Sometimes the adult child is the narcissist who's being shunned by their families. This narcissistic mother doesn't address that, because this is all about HER and HER situation. She's so toxic, I don't blame her daughters for keeping their distance. So would I!
@@ThatWeirdFinnthat's when I'd just start pulling a Mariah Carey and everytime any one asked me about my toxic mom going viral, just be like "Who? Don't know her."
Her eyes are so dead. I have experienced that this is a sign of an inability to look inwards. They have shut off introspection and it affects their gaze.
My mother beat me, savagely. She broke my front tooth in half and threatened to kill me if I told anyone. She told me all the time how much she hated me, that I'd always be fat and ugly and no one will ever love me. She stopped beating me when I was 18, but never stopped verbally abusing me in the 40 years since then. I have no contact with her. She did once admit that she MIGHT have abused me, but it was because of the kind of child I was. I never even had a detention & graduated in the top 5% of my class. I've had a highly successful career. I have a completely clear conscience. When my mother dies, I will not mourn. I mourned the loss of the mother I needed and deserved decades ago. The mother I have is abusive and vile.
Hugs 🫂 to you. She never deserved you❤
@@toriladybird511 Thank you for your kind words. I truly appreciate you. 💜💙
Hugs. In my case my father was the abusive narcissist. I understand. 🫂
@@anaphylaxis2548 I'm sorry that you do. No child should have to live through it.
Sometimes I feel bad for feeling the same way about my abusive parents. But just reading a bit of your story has given me some reassurance that I made the right decision. 💕💕 hoping I have the same success and fortitude as you once I heal!
I have seen her daughter's TikTok page. She very rarely addresses her parental estrangement and without the emotional vitriol that her mother uses. Her daughter seems hurt, delicate, and finding herself. Her 'exotic cos-play' is really nothing unusual imo, just creative, kawaii and a little goth sometimes. Nothing erotic or scary. She does not demean her parents or dox them. She doesn't give the information to find them like her own mother did. Maybe the fact that Diane's daughter does not mention her or her rants or engage her via TikTok is making her even more angry? Diane is insufferable.
What is her TikTok name?
Yeah she seems really sweet from what I've seen. I regret that I found it from the mother's video though, I don't want to bring that kind of attention to her page.
@@once.upon.a.time. On which channel? I've never been able to find it.
I wonder if her daughter has seen Zoes videos.
I can’t stand tiktok or the general attention seeking..which also occurs in the cosplay community.
A lot of egotistical and superficial people.
But look at what the mother does..why would she even be surprised?
Even if it was “erotic”.
The reason adult children of narcissists are leaving more is because there is more information about narcissism. We thought our families were normal growing up, but have learned differently. Narcissists try to isolate their victims. They didn't count on this little thing called the internet.
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Yes. That's the same reason people think trans people are spreading trans-ness like a contagion. They assume because there are more people identifying that way now means it's some new thing, but really it's just that people know more about it now and see themselves in it sooner and feel safer to be themselves honestly.
The question I have is that I do not think there is evidence people are becoming estranged from parents in higher numbers. I've known people all my life that weren't on speaking terms with their parents for stretches of time. I've dated men that didn't talk with their fathers, for example. I don't think that there is any sort of substantive evidence that this is an epidemic.
@@karenholmes6565 Yes, people were always becoming estranged. I think part of the old narrative was that there were two sides, which helped the narcissist. Sometimes one person really is to blame for the no contact and they are the ones the least likely to self reflect and own their behavior.
You are correct I went no contact with my mummy dearest a year ago as I found out by HG Tudor what she was . Years of verbal abuse and devaluing behaviour I ended up with an anxiety disorder .
She is trying to intellectualize why her daughter doesn't talk to her, but she thinks this issue is external. She thinks this is about "society" or "this/that generation" and things to be analyzed that are fully out of her control. She can read data and analyze society however she wants, but the #1 reason why her daughter won't talk to her is because she's a huge asshole. It's more difficult to see flaws in oneself. It's easier to blame the entire world than look in a mirror because we can always scoff at things that aren't in our control. Taking any sort of accountability would devastate her world view.
Well said!❤
The issue many times IN external. Why do you think people join cults? Scientology?
How shocking and hurtful that Diane seems to have no motherly love at all. No remorse, no regret, no grief for her daughters. Only me, me, me!
👏👏👏 it's all about them
Her campaign on the internet is driven by her narcissistic rage at losing control of her daughter. This alone could show that Diane is a narcissistically damaged and damaging person.
She is so vicious towards her daughter. I feel so bad for her daughter because she experienced a lot of trauma for this “mother “.
That's my mother, too
Me at the start: *Oh, come on. She's weird, but Nazi is a really strong word.*
15 minutes in: *Jesus Christ, this woman needs help.*
Exactly
dude I went through the same train of thought
narcissists never admit, are never wrong, and are without the ability to self examine. Have known a lot of surgeons, and attorney so it seems I have known a bunch of these folks.
yoga pants is one of a kind. She is one heck of a piece of work. Poster woman for how not to be a parent.
She would refuse any help even from Jesus himself
Psychologist here too. She doesn't come across as confident to me. She looks like she's using her rage to mask her deep insecurity and bitterness. The woman is having a refined temper tantrum.
I very much agree with your last sentence. I mean confident about her video making.
That’s what I see too. My mum shows a lot of similar traits & behavior( yet luckily she’s not tech savvy.).
"Refined Temper Tantrum". Band name.
“Refined temper tantrum” is such a great phrase. It absolutely makes me think of a boss I used to have (whose young- adult kids each broke contact within a year or two of leaving home).
This is what the face gestures tell me. Despair, rage and disgust masked as being composed and in control.
My eyes are completely opened as to why her daughter won’t speak to her.
Thank you for exposing her bigotry.
Most youtubers would only expose her narcissism/abuse, but ignore her racism and transphobia. Thank you for not ignoring it.
She’s so gleeful about her bigotry too. It’s disgusting. She’s proud of her hate.
It's hilarious that she forgot that she started off saying that she's not that political. 😂
Racists aren't the brightest.
She has no self awareness whatsoever.
People like her want to talk about their political and societal views ALL the time and get offended if someone even says that hey, can we take a break. Even in this video of hers which is supposed to be about dangers of therapy, se devolves into racism and transphobia because she just cannot help herself. She wants to constantly talk about those things no matter the topic.
I would cut contact with her, too.
Either she forgot/pretended she never said it, or she just thinks her views are “normal”, not political. Which would mean she absolutely lives in an iron bubble that nothing else can get through.
But anyway yeah, she’s clearly just a massive bigot.
She reminds me of the type of person who says everyone is political and she's not- because her bigotry is being called out and she sees that as political, but sees her bigoted views as natural. I know several people like her.
I'm not surprised Diane puts herself on the same level as celebrities 😂🙄 Oh dear...
Ah yes. I always think of her when someone mentions Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt.
😶 I missed that
Celebrities are no better or worse (honestly, i think worse) than anybody else so I don’t get why that disturbs you.
Funny that you had dreams that nazi were in power. Because we have recently learned that the left hates Jews.
I didn’t catch that 😂😂😂
Shes not even my parent and I can feel myself becoming frustrated listening to her Her facial expressions aren’t helping
Also doing her hair like a thirteen year old.
I'm with ya!
Right?!
Don't forget the intentionally high pitched classical "narc baby voice" they do. So annoying jeez
This woman is over 50. It's absurd to look at.
@@heatherem5690 The facial expressions are a result of thinly veiled contemt.
The reason why more people are in therapy now is because in her generation it was not acceptable to talk about things, everything was hidden and pushed down and it’s the generation of her daughter which is stepping up to do something about years of ancestral trauma
The way she says, "I healed from my own estrangement," really took me out. I will never fully heal from my estrangement from my parents and everything that led up to it. Like all grief, it's just something I manage. It doesnt go away. But Im so glad shes moved past it. 🙄
She clearly hasn't though this reeks of COPEium
She is not healed at all, it gets worse I believe and she slowly looses her mind.. Seldom seen such an unhappy person..
She hasn't healed from anything in her entire life imo.
@@notaclue822 agree, it's so obvious.
Yeah I was like…. Ma’am. 👀
What she’s actually telling us, is there’s millions of narcissists out there. She will always have their support,
Haha! That's so true!
One in 6 to 7 are Narcs according to Dr. Ramini. Astounding!
The stats for Narcissists isn't the full picture. Those officially diagnosed were all seen by forensic psychologists and psychiatrists because it was court ordered. Otherwise, typically, they get what I uncreatively call a by "proxy diagnosis". The people in therapy usually describe a textbook case of narcissism and then that therapists' job is typically reprocessing and figuring all the reality from the gaslighting.
@@Cel3ere5oh so true. 😢
Diane thinks that deluging her daughter with statistics is going to make her ignore her bad behavior.
When my son was 6 years old, he yelled at me one day "Momma, you never listen to me!". That was the moment I realized I was being driven by some stereotype of what a parent is supposed to do and be. I started listening from that moment on :).
You're a good parent ❤
That's so lovely!
@@ShaySaysSo That's sweet! Thank you!
My son did something similar when he was a teenager. I think I said something about him being lazy because he didn’t do something I had asked him to do.
He never really argued with me before but that moment, he angrily defended himself and there were tears in his eyes. That very moment, I snapped out of my self-righteous anger and saw how hurt he was, and I felt horrible. I realized how critical I could be, how hurtful.
I instantly apologized and hugged him and told him I loved him. I told him he was right, and I had no right to speak to him that way. Our communication about issues between us is ongoing, but I know that moment started us down a healthier road. And I’d have absolutely missed it if I believed that as a parent, I never owed my child contrition or apology or that I could do no wrong. This woman will never understand this. All she wants to do is defend, defend, defend and be the one who’s right.
I’ve had the same experiences with my 13 yo daughter. We need to listen to our children, face ourselves, be flexible and adapt. My daughter and I are closer than ever and I look back and see the growth and evolution in our relationship. Nobody is perfect but we need to listen to our children and do the work for them to grow into healthy, safe and regulated adults. That’s our responsibility as parents xx
Why would a mother go public with a personal issue with their own child to begin with?
Because the focus has to be on her she’s the one that hast to be in the spotlight she’s clearly a narcissist
It began as a personal attack or maybe just a communication attempt to her daughter. After the initial backlash Diane received, she could not see that she was in the wrong. She instead doubled down and is trying to create an army of toxic, estranged parents to justify her pov.
To make themselves look like they are innocent-getting ahead of the true story. Common with soon to be ex spouses; try to get family and friends that they were wronged by the offending (leaving) spouse. Turned siblings against me. I am so done with all of them.
@@melaniebell8115 Oh my gosh!!! She's another Sarah Boone!!!! (The suitcase killer/Florida who goes through lawyers like potato chips)
She digs in like an Alabama tick rather than hold a mirror up to herself. 👍
My biggest complaint with this woman is how she airs her dirty laundry. It’s in very poor taste. I try to be objective because there really are two sides to every story, but she’s a very unsympathetic person.
My goodness, this woman is so creepy. When you paused on her face it's so visible that her smile is fake, her eyes are nothing but vitriol, anger and spite. I worry she's gonna go full Lori Vallow-Daybell at some point. Does she have other children under her care? How can she live with herself, being like that all the time? She's probably happily going to church every Sunday, with all this venom and hate almost boiling over.
She is indeed creepy. But I prefer her pompous political lecturing over that first video where she tried to portray what she thought a grieving mother looked like, apparently without realizing that contempt was oozing out of her face with every word.
Her smile is permanent. I can't trust anyone with a fixed smile. She's so fake 🤥
Had the exact same feeling too. First saw her channel some years ago and manipulation, passive aggression/underlying anger and obsessiveness were the feelings I got from her back then. She seems like she would never ever back up in an argument, never admit fault in any way or compromise.
I have news for her. The “meritocracy” did not work that well. People who had wealth and connections could easily bypass “standards.” This woman is a racist.
@@yourworstfan I saw that, too. What a production, violins and everything. She's delulu.
As a Black person who works in higher education foe the last 16 years...this estranged mother knows absolutely nothing. Lol good on her daughter for taking her power back.
Thank you for listing your qualifications. Now, your comment is more relevant.
Stupid remark by jeremyblack
@@jeremyeblack4987you have nons
Yt keeps removing my comment about why i went no contact with my dad. Even using incredibly vanilla language. My dad hurt children. That's why I went to contact. Not my fault or problem. I don't need to put my kids at risk to "be the bigger person"
I heard the "be the bigger person" nonsense too many times. It's the stuff that keeps you coming back for more abuse
YT's been going off the rails with censoring comments lately. Plenty of times my comments get et and I genuinely can't figure out what I typed that would have triggered it. Completely inoffensive normal responses to non controversial topics sometimes just vanish into the ether and it's getting pretty frustrating.
But don't you wanna "keep the peace"? 😩
@@katfromthekong414 or the forgiving the parent.. Why? At the end of the day I do have the right, to deal with my pain the way I feel good about, I am not a saint to forgive abuse that is still going on from the distance like Diane does.. I might forgive if the person is having some remorse or works on their issues with mental health professionals .. If I feel like and only then.
You definitely dont have to explain it. Just do what is best for you. If others dont understand, that is their problem.
Saying therapy is why we are so sad is like saying wearing a cast is why my arm is broken
Excellent analogy
Scientology says the same about therapy, not sure she understands she has the same talking points cults have
What a brilliant turn of phrase.
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100% of casts are placed on broken bones, therefore casts cause broken bones! 🤯
A message to this woman's daughter; Run, run , run.
I have a narc parent approaching 100 years, and it ONLY GETS WORSE!!!!!!!! RUN!
Mine are 90 and 94. You speak the truth.
My grandmother is getting into the brain fog stages, which makes her more prone to violence
@@Moraca101 She will express no regrets. GUARANTEED.
Evil never dies. Sadly, this saying exists in different forms across many languages.
Mine is 82. _Shudder_
Diane’s face is smiling (grimacing) but her eyes are full of malice. 🎭
Yes!!!!
I slightly disagree, her eyes have a shine of delightful malice that others like her would mistake as warmth. It's why she's been successful in reaching other estranged parents.
It's also why you and I get the creeps from her smile.
We can see her smiling as she causes pain in others
She creeps me out.
She's the exemplar of "I just think it's funny that (thing they're seething about)"
If someone does that now I run for the hills
She's a spiteful little hater, isn't she.
Diane: Yes, this is the new normal for narcissistic parents. The kid you abuse or coercively control and never acknowledge for who they truly are, will dump you when they get a chance. Time to look at yourself.
IKR!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤
That mirror work is brutal! I think narcs must be like vampires, when they look in the mirror there is no reflection due to the state of their souls. They are completely incapable of seeing themselves.
I don’t think they see themselves as having imperfections. Narcissists are perfect in their own eyes.
HELL YES
So well said!
"Is this what they're teaching in schools these days?"
Yes ma'am it is, its called critical thinking and its taught us that we don't have to accept abuse even if its from your parents.
The Internet has allowed people who have had isolating experiences to connect with each other (ie abuse) so that they learn about patterns of behavior and dangers of certain scams or people. People also use it to spread scams, spread hate, and humiliate others. Got use the tool wisely.
Diane went from clueless sad mom to full on psychopath. Her video literally made me sick. I hope her daughter is out there living her best life and never lets Diane back in.
She just acts out clueless and sad when in fact she's raging, cunning and srategic.
@@carmellewis2466 Yes, it's narcissistic injury.
These freaky creepies have a level of entitlement and Self-Righteousness that just goes beyond... They cannot see the truth.
@@Akeepersplace And think about all the timeit took her to create that video.
The change in her is quite stark, and icky. Every word she says probably reinforces her child’s dedication in that she made the right decision.
Its like this woman got estranged from her kids and thought “how can I make sure I NEVER reconnect with them, oh I know! I’ll become an outspoken activist for estranged parents!”
No, she doesn't care a dime about her daughter, she is only reverting the issue thing to diffamate her daughter in public for REVENGE (they are extremely revengeful), blame-shifting, moving her responsibilities as a mother and adult away from herself, reassuring herself that people could see her-the abuser as the good one-victim. Diane is doing this to have all the attention on her self, the narcissists need to have the spot light on them as they such energy from this. She is very vicious and malicious, nefast we all can see it.
This woman actually triggers me. My mum has similar eyes and glasses, and growing up she used to force me to look into her eyes while she destroyed me with her verbal diatribe. Including being yelled at for being 'selfish' when I was only around 5. I never understood the word, and can't understand how a mother could tear strips off a child that way.
My mother resembles her too, and she absolutely eviscerated me throughout my entire childhood. Mean. Viciously mean. But the mask of smiling smug superiority...
Yes. My favorite early memory was when I was maybe 5 and I'd stayed too late in the elementary school playground across the street. All I remember is that she'd stood in the window watching me play for hours. Rather than, you know, open the window and yell at me to get my backside into the house, she just watched and waited. For hours. When I finally came home, exhausted from school and playing unsupervised like that for so long, I remember walking into our apartment and passing her bedroom door. I looked in and she was turning from the window to the doorway. I was only in kindergarten, but I knew she'd caught me. So she walked up to me, slapped me as hard as she could across the face (it's the one and only time she ever actually hit me), and gave me her perennial favorite insult: I'm so disgusted with you I can't even look at your face. You make me sick."
You can see that she is losing her mind now that she can't "get at" her daughter.
Yes she misses her fuel ⛽️ and attention that it . Sad really my mums a narsissist too . There’s no self reflection or empathy just empty husks
@@japaley4459 I have no doubt in addition to. the emotional abuse, she was physically abusive towards her daughter. Her level of rage is the type that needs to periodically explode.
@@mandymckeown8625mine too. I concur.
This is Diane’s way of trying to bully her daughter to come back to her - it’s a warped way of thinking!
She doesn't want anything that might help you grow as a person, she doesn't want anything that might educate you further, she doesn't want anything that will give you independence.
I love this, because it sound exactly like my so called mother. Yet I didn't realized until you said it.
Diane doesn't want advice, or to be told that she's wrong. It seems like she just wants to be told what she wants to hear.
Because she is a full blown conservative. Conservare. Latin. Progress fears her so much. She is afraid to lose power.
@@ceha9517I'd take it further than that, she's a reactionary. She does not wish to conserve, but to regress. She wants to break down her child to reinstate the former status quo where she is dominant and her child is browbeaten
You just perfectly described a narcissist!
She has to be public about it. Her daughter dared to have a TikTok channel… she feels that she MUST have a bigger presence in her estranged daughter’s space. She wants to let her daughter to know how many comments and views she gets and that the negative ones are invalid. Every word of these videos is directly aimed at her daughter.
She's the type of person to only have had kid(s) in the first place so she'd have someone to look after her in her old age.
@@sallysinnamon good point!
@@Suteruni entitled narcissist to the extreme. She really is vile
10000%
Exactly
And she's not gonna get it. Lol. She better get used to big Bertha in the nursing home 😂
She is insufferable, my heart goes out to her long suffering daughter who had to endure her mother's smug intransigence, while having to look at that ghastly supercilious smirk.
'Look at me when I'm being superior!'
'Listen to my tale of victimhood.'
"Listen to my tale of victimhood" 😂 Awful but true.
Yes.
Supercilious smirk....my mother all over.
She sickens me. She reminds me of my sister who did the same thing when I severed all ties. Under the guise of concern, of course she reached out on Facebook to everybody I know multiple times claiming to be “worried” in an effort to smear me and it worked! A lot of people believed her sappy BS, even though they all told me growing up that she was toxic and evil, even they could see it. I never saw it. I blamed myself. I blamed myself for the fact that she beat me up all the time. I blamed myself when she denied beating me up and I was grounded and sent to therapy for being a liar. My sister would smirk and grin and tell the world how worried she is about me just like this woman. When the reality was she wanted me isolated and for people to hate me. In many cases, I lost friends because of it and because of the drama, the whole thing creates confusion and people don’t want any part of it. The daughter is very lucky she has so many supporters because not all of us are that lucky. Many of us, the smear campaign works. This woman is giddy with the hopes that she will turn the world against her own daughter and be validated in her own mind that there’s nothing wrong with her and that her daughter is crazy. They love to insinuate that you’re crazy or on drugs. It’s a playbook that they all use but they aren’t able to get away with it so much anymore now that all these channels are exposing their behavior. Too bad this crazy mom you’re gonna have to go look for sympathy somewhere else. Her glib superficial smugness she doesn’t even realize she is demonstrating to everybody exactly what a narcissist is and what it looks like lol! Wow, it’s wild to look at this up close and personal. This is exactly what they look like and are. It’s so diabolical. it took my therapist two years, working with me to convince me finally to sever all ties. It’s the most painful and unnatural, horrible decision to have to make and totally traumatic for someone to go through to sever ties with their family. This poor child did not make this decision lightly. The woman is clueless as to the pain she has caused her daughter. Not only will she not acknowledge her role and her abusive nature but she’s trying to completely invalidate her daughter‘s experience at the same time. She’s showing the hatred that she has and it just proves the daughter made the right decision. I can’t even imagine what that poor child is going through having this play out all over RUclips.
Thank you for teaching me two new words today 💖
I cannot believe ALL this has happened
Because ONE daughter decided to stop talking to her parents.
ABSOLUTELY. WILD.
She’s a pit of nastiness and, it turns out, vile bigotry. She can’t stop telling on herself.
The more she talks, the more i totally understand her daughter. This woman is detestable in the worst way: she gets off on being hateful.
I wanted to say, this woman is spiralling into darkness, but she probably has always lived there and it's just becoming more apparent because she feels reinforced by her audience. Good for her daughter that she put her own wellbeing first!
As someone who is getting their Masters in Mental Health Counseling, I can say with full confidence that we are not being taught to tell others to change their gender and suppress their race.
I love the fact that in her first video she says she's not very political "at all" and with every video she gets more and more political. Poor daughter
I was thinking the same thing. Mask off and now we get to see the real reason her child is no contact. I bet we can both guess her political affiliation … the cult of cultural rage instead of looking at issues that can change to make a stronger civilization.
Children who escape ab*se = tearing a family apart
…ok Diane
Way to be a textbook case lady.
yea she didnt tear the family apart, the kid did!!!
@@KantiKanethat’s what my abusive parents think about me not talking to them anymore. And she got my sister to agree w them.
@KantiKane Yeah, no. That's not how this works.
Without supply your sister will likely be next, my brother hated me due to my narc parents but when i cut off my dad he was horrified at how he was treat @__rm307
From my own experience, no one goes no contact with their mother unless their mental health has been impacted greatly. No one would choose to do it if they were in a loving and respectful relationship.
The fact that she thinks it’s a “trend” is baffling. The relationship with a parent is so so important to most people. You don’t just wake up and decide to cut off someone you love and respect deeply just because those online are
My mother nearly got me killed by inciting my older brother to attack me. He threatened to kill me regularly and even pointed a gun at my head once. It’s about literally surviving.
My extended family accused me of lying about the abuse. I cut them from my life because they were trying to convince me I have a severe mental illness because I called their behaviour toxic.
Love and Hugs to you.
You did the right thing, distancing yourself from them.
You'll find good people in your life. You've made a great decision. All the best to you!❤
Did you tell about your brother to police? (I did about mine...)
@@myrainbowhoneycom yes. They told me to stop running away. I think they believed my mom over me. It was my word against theirs. We even had a social worker and I was never allowed to speak up. I tried to speak up during the one meeting we had and was immediately shut down and told it was my fault. I really want to know what story my mother told them. She pretty much had framed me as lying. I felt trapped and everyone would just believe what my abusers said.
@@Lala-bobloblaw
Sorry your childhood was such a nightmare.
Happy you escaped them.
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I'm a 56 year old Mom. If your children cut off contact with you, there is a reason. My adult children have not cut off contact with me. I love my children! I know they would never cut me off because I'm a good and loving Mom. And I would never cut them off either! This woman is clearly a narcissist and will always blame others.
My mom had tons of problems and took it upon herself to get treatment and help. She changed three course of our family’s success and health, and I will always be grateful. This lady is a monster.
Whenever I had “an episode” with my mother, she would retell the story “her way” to everyone and anyone, over years and years - and I mean EVERYONE - the neighbor, all family members, all friends… the housekeeper … the housekeeper of the neighbor - I didn’t find out about this till later - I pieced it together after very random people I knew would ask me “why aren’t you nicer to your mother? She’s so very sad about you” - the neighbors’ housekeeper, who I just talked to twice, asked me about my endometriosis and had some really *great* (😒) advice on what I was doing wrong, sounding hauntingly familiar - my mother, after I was old enough in my late 30’s to tell her what she did and was still doing to me, ran all over town to my old high school friends, cornering them at their jobs and asking “was I that bad?” - of course, they knew she was bc we all knew she was
This mother is doing the same thing - but on a grander scale on the internet for the world - it’s awful
Damnit took you until your late 30s?
yes, the gaslighting, secrets, false stories, brainwashing… it was quite thorough and deep into the whole family, which I was completely unaware of - basically like a cult - but also, from age 17 till I had children at 30, I sort of ignored the issues and was away from the family drama and not involved much - it wasn’t until I had children of my own did I become aware of bad parenting from my childhood (and had to find ways to break the bad pattern in my own life)- also I mistakenly thought being closer to my family of origin bc of the “gift of grandchildren” was a good idea - it *should* be a good idea, bc raising children is difficult without extended support from family - but it is a horrible idea if it draws you back into the cult - and of course it was good that *I* became aware of the issue, but it was damaging to me to speak out and explain my feelings or issues to the family cult - a lot of lies and pretending and backstabbing - even theft …. So years and years more before I realized I should have never bothered to speak up or work through issues with the family cult - it involves 2 or 3 narcissists and flying monkeys and enablers in a hierarchical structure, so it becomes difficult if you are any bit of a human that believes people have good in them - some don’t really have enough good to bother - the hope is till there that things will change, but I know the hope should be extinguished- it would be like explaining complex mathematics to a 4 year old - you don’t - you talk to a 4 year old like they are 4 - you don’t talk to people like this about emotions outside themselves - they get angry bc they can’t understand the concept of others outsides their own fantasy world
As a therapist this has had me laughing and angry at the same time. She is a massive example of why I see so many adults both young and old. She knows nothing about therapy.
Diane is part of the Narcissist Industrial Complex. Goodness, me, she's insufferable
But maybe some of the kids are narcissists, too. Maybe some are spoiled brats. That said, I can’t believe this woman is airing her dirty laundry all over the internet. If I wanted any hope of reconciliation, I would never embarrass my child like this. I’m the mom of 3 grown and married kids and have 5 grandchildren. My husband and I have perfectly good relationships with them. You do have to let them go to be themselves; that’s the whole point of raising them, to help guide them to become what God made them to be, not what you want them to be.
On Point.
@@KatieBelle777 NPD is passed on in families with often a narcissistic parent. The golden child often develops NPD as well. It's complex.
@@KatieBelle777 How do suppose kids become spoiled brats anyway? How do you suppose people develop into narcissists?
@@lr9559 As a parent of adult kids, I think parents make spoiled brats. Period. I’m not sure if narcissism is developed or a person is born with it, like psychopathy. Does anybody know for sure? Maybe a narcissistic brain is wired differently, but they sound more like users or manipulators to me. I think there are probably children who are “paying them back,” too. It sounds like this daughter is an only child. It would be interesting to know if there are entire groups of siblings that end up like this. I do know this: though; this woman has decreased her chances of ever reconciling with her daughter with all this RUclips stuff. I hope she enjoys her “support groups,” because it’s likely all she’s ever going to have. Maybe some day her child will try to reach out, but this mother seems a little scary to me.
Diane’s video is like a temper tantrum sponsored by Prager U
I laughed so hard it scared my cat 😂 Brilliant.
Tbf, cats set themselves up for this bc they insist on sitting on us (such a burden, swoon!)😆My cat is startled when she is snoozing behind my knees and I toot on her😂
Diane is on the "monetize my grief" bandwagon.
The grifter
@@Mama_Bear524 When Diane takes notes from the Trump grift machine playbook..
Yes- but the therapists and universities are bad for making money 😒
That was my thought. She blames Social Media, but it's like "Lady, you do realize you're using that same thing to make money and live in an echo chamber, right?"
@@mandalynn252 It's always projection.
My narc mother hates therapy too. She tried it once, walked out crying and vilified the therapist for years. Therapist was evil, terrible etc. She never said why but I assume therapist implied she may be the problem and not everyone else.
The mental gymnastics she has
To go through to reach her conclusions are WILD
Just in time for the Olympics. Watch out Simone, here comes Diane!
She condemns hate but obviously hates minorities and young people, and makes her own money or fame or whatever riling hate up.
If Diane didn't have me sold before as to why her daughter wouldn't want contact with her, she's certainly sold me now. I recall her saying that her daughter doesn't care for her political views or something to that effect- now I fully understand it. This was a difficult watch. Appalling and disturbing behavior. She's so childish, delusional, and petty. The way she maximizes the importance of some things, and minimizes the importance of others is unreal. Yikes!
She's really shown who she is in this one. I wonder if *she* hides behind a video and keyboard, or if she voices these things in public and in person 🤔
It also becomes more and more obvious that she loves herself more then anything or anyone else.
This woman is horrid. She has become increasingly more vicious with every video. In this one her blatant racism is appalling . She is angry, bitter, arrogant and devoid of empathy and grace. I am not surprised her daughter blocked her out her life. It is a matter of survival . She is a classic narcisist : when rejected or confronted they become vengeful and go on a smear campaign. What a lack of self awareness and insight, zero humility.She never consider, once, that maybe she had something to do with her daughter's decision. PS: that parakeets and the cat are adorable! :)
Perfectly stated
Exactly! Her soul is literally rotting and the vitriol is seeping from her pores. You can watch her regression in the videos. Each video is more and more vile and bitter. Most people would try something different at some point, but Diane is special so she doubles down every week. At this point, I am surprised that anyone speaks to her in public.
Right?! Zero self reflection, instead her problem is society’s fault. Wtf does DEI have to do w her daughter going NC? (Well, her bigotry may’ve been part of her daughter’s reasoning but, NMom is doing a poor job linking DEI to her issue).
The fact that she’s willing to put that out there in a carefully edited video - damn! No self awareness whatsoever! The backlash has to be insane.
Everything is an industrial complex! And as a former teacher, I have to say: her belief that standardized testing is being phased out or supplemented because of "diversity" shows how little she actually understands about education. Pedagogy is constantly evolving because research shows us what has and hasn't worked. She just wants to blame the university boogeyman for her daughters turning against her. Her mask has really come off.
Diane's not talking to people.she's directing it all passive aggressively at her daughter.
Happy smirking is incongruent with her message of loss
It covers deep anger. She is really, really pissed.
She doesn’t notice her glasses are askew. It twists her facial expression - super creepy all over
I feel arrogance from her. She’s replusive.
Her smile is fixed, permanent and unnatural.
She's getting validation from some other godawful people like her.
Diane’s video assumes we go NC for no reason. Going NC with my mom was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. I am almost 40, and a mother to a little girl myself. I dont have a social media presence, my friends didn’t “replace” my mother, and my choice was not based on politics. In fact, my mom and I agree politically and she isn’t even registered to vote. I spent my whole life trying to be good enough for my mom, biting my tongue, letting things go, even going to therapy to find ways to make peace with who she is. But my mother is a malignant poison and I cannot keep pretending she is a good person and hoping one day she gets it. Diane’s videos have helped me, because even with tens of thousands of responses trying to explain how shes the problem, she will spend hours going to the ends of the earth blaming everyone but herself. It is delusion as deep as delusion runs. Because of her, I see that my mom is physically and mentally just incapable of self-reflection, and it can’t be my job to make this relationship work. I have tp focus on being a good mom myself.
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My mom rolled her eyes when mentioning how much pain she'd caused me. They're heartless and have to deflect. I let her know she's just proving her lack of regard for my feelings, great reason not to be around you lady
Yes. The hardest thing I had to do was go No Contact with my 90 year old mom. It was my last resort after writing her 5 explanatory letters.
@@michellemonet4358yes, this. I had many conversations with my mom, and I would tell her very nicely that I will not accept her screaming or mean comments, or making fun of my daughter. This began when I was in my 20s and I told her that I wanted a relationship, but if she couldn’t control her anger or spiteful actions, one day I will stop answering her calls. It took me until 39 to stop trying, and it was a very hard day that should have come 20 years sooner.
🙌🏻 your little girl and yourself come first
As an adult, I lived with my mother for 7+ years due to illness. As a child growing up she terrified me, and I never felt close to her, but I always blamed myself. Those 7 years were eye-opening and painful. The gaslighting, triangulation, manipulation, rages, tears, lack of empathy, refusal to discuss our issues, etc. lead me to question my sanity. She turned relatives and siblings against me when I was most vulnerable. I moved out a year ago, and am low contact. Recovery is slow, lonely, and exhausting. Our infrequent calls ruin my progress. Despite everything, the thought of going no contact is agonizing. We adult children don’t make a decision like this lightly.
Wasn’t she the one in her documentary who said she thought her daughter had a problem with the dad due to politics and that she was not at all political? She is absolutely disgusting and I’m so glad her daughter got away from her. That poor girl is probably mortified.
Yes- she said she wasn't political. She is totally spewing the radical right rhetorical.
I can only hope if the daughter caught wind of it, she would at least enjoy the validation. If not by extended family, at least by thousands of strangers.
Keep exposing yourself Diane!
You’re helping us adult children heal!
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I love that she triggers me but not as much my my family, so I can work through some complicated feelings when I see this awful woman. 🤣
That's great! 😀
Same! 😅
You said this perfectly. Because we can see how it’s not us. There’s nothing we can do.
❤️ perfect observation :)
Ugh, she is so downright unlikable - because I dislike dishonest, manipulative and passive aggressive narcissistic personalities.
It’s like watching my own mother. I was married and in my 30s with kids of my own when I started therapy. I made the mistake of mentioning it to her. She acted interested just long enough to get my counselor’s name. I was horrified at my next session when my therapist informed me that my mother had made an appointment with him, then showed up to the session and told him who she was and that there were things about me that he should know. She attempted to launch a smear campaign against me to my therapist. Let that sink in.
He abruptly stopped her and told her how inappropriate this was. He ended the session immediately and asked her to leave. Like Diane, she was oblivious as to how insane this made her look. When I called her to address this, she said a lot of the same things about therapy that this woman said. It took me years to accept that the ugly truth was that my own mother would have preferred for me to crumble under a lifetime of her abuse than to heal from what she did to me and she would never have felt remorse for any of it.
From that point, I endured many more years of heartbreak, disappointment, refusal to respect boundaries, gaslighting, love-bombing, spreading lies about me to family, denying it, betrayal, violations of my privacy, intrusions into my relationships… all the while I wanted so badly for her to be my mom and for her to see me as a person outside of her. I thought that if she could understand how badly this cycle hurt me, that she would stop. As a mom myself, I was certain that for a mother to do this to her daughter, she must not see the damage she causes and how deeply unfair this was. I was 48 years old when I finally saw her for who she is and accepted that my mother had never loved me. I loved a mom that never existed. I was born to be used for the love I had for her. That was a terribly painful day, but it was also the day I gained my freedom. I realized that she will never change. She is not a woman with any integrity. She will lie to keep that which she does not deserve.
I’ve been no contact for 2 years now. I get to live my life every day according to my own values, interests, and intuition. My relationships are free from intrusion and manipulation. My connections to my grown kids are genuine and tender. My life is meaningful and adventurous.
This woman’s videos are pathetic. I so relate to her daughter. My mother is just like this. She has violated every boundary of no contact. It’s offensive for mothers like this to characterize a tremendously painful decision to cut ties with our mothers as something we casually and flippantly chose. We ran out of ideas and found ourselves in the position that we feared would come. But you simply cannot have a relationship with someone who relies on subterfuge and predation to navigate their relationships and is unable to experience or genuinely express love, trust, or empathy.
My husband and I finally moved across the country to make it inconvenient for her to show up in my life. We left no forwarding address for her to send 8 page letters to. We picked a city that we felt drawn to and we made it an adventure.
@@cristimcgarey462 Holy cow !!!! My mother did the SAME THING when I started therapy ! She also found out who my best friend was ( he knew she had NO boundaries ) and she basically stalked him . Even showed up at his house with Christmas gifts ! They hadn't even been introduced and she drives over with Christmas gifts !
She is dead now and it's been so liberating .
Thank you for sharing. I think I’m stuck in the magical thinking hoping my mom will finally come around and do her work. But maybe the freedom is knowing she was never going to and is incapable of doing said work on herself and in her life. I am separate from her.
Thank you so much for sharing your story.
I too had a very cruel mother and it took me a very long time to see this. This year, I wrote an op ed about abuse and told the story about my father and I and I did not mention anyone else in my family. The article ended up getting featured at number 1, mostly because (I think) my family kept trolling the article calling me a liar. The more they trolled the article the more the article got views.
A few days later my family texted my fiancé and said they weren’t coming to our wedding (which was two weeks away).
My father has not been alive for well over ten plus years. There is absolutely no way he would have actually cared what I wrote because he was never one too deny his actions. He was very very public about his abuse - it was almost performative. We are from a middle eastern home and this isn’t something that is actually denied. It’s hard to explain but it was so jarring that my mother was actively denying something that she witnessed on several occasions. That ALL of my friends witnessed. Everyone saw it. It was part of the bit - abusing me openly to show me that no one cared and no one would protect me.
Ever since I was a kid I saw my dad as dangerous and my mother as a victim. He never hit her. He only hit me. Quite violent rampages at 2 am military style. Only in retrospect can I now see that violence towards kids, especially when it’s cruel and malignant, especially when it’s targeted, requires both parents to embrace the role of abuser. My dad had a lot of mental health issues. This isn’t to excuse his actions. But it’s made me realize that it’s quite likely, my mother played on this and used this to rile up his anger and go after me. She threw me under the bus to save herself. Perhaps he would have hit her - and I think it’s likely she decided to label me as the problem so he would re direct his abuse. I realized that because she was doing the same thing now with my brother. He lost his mind over the article. I realized she was egging him on. It doesn’t excuse his behavior at all. But it’s really important for people to see that abuse is abuse. Being the master mind of abuse, getting men to do your dirty work because you’re too cowardly to do it yourself, is way more sadistic and cruel.
I’ve been in therapy for YEARS and it wasn’t until this incident when it finally all came together. My husband’s family is wonderful and I’m so grateful to be where I am today. But I did want to say, thank you for sharing your story. It’s helpful and healing to hear because it makes me feel less alone.
Well put, thank you
Thank you so much for sharing this. My journey so far has been similar, but I haven't yet made it as far as you have. You have inspired me. ♡
the best thing I can say about this woman's new video is that if her daughter has had second thoughts at all about going no contact, after seeing this she will be validated in her choice.
Yea I was thinking the same thing. She looks like she is decompensating. I think that's what they call it.... or maybe it's collapsing. The collapsed narcissist. She looks like she is losing her mind. I have seen this before. Angry eyes. My dad has gone as far as sending a stranger to my house with gifts and they entered my yard!! I have a no trespass sign and couldn't see the plate on my camera. 1st sign you feel unsafe. Cameras. But yea anyway this lady looks like she is going to collapse. Making her dangerous to herself and others. Though I kind of doubt she would hurt herself.
Diane just reinforces every time why her daughter/s won’t talk to her.
Her passive aggressive smiles are nauseating! Her daughters made a choice that shows they care about themselves in spite of having had this toxic narcissistic “mother”!
This woman makes me understand why people are told not to smile at some animals. I definitely felt she wasn’t smiling, she was showing her teeth 👹
Diane: I'm not political
Also Diane:
OMG, YES, thank you! She is the queen of hypocrisy
Exactly! Her MAGA hat and shirt must be in the wash still, she'll wear it all in her next video...
The left is so racist against Jews. I never saw that before. I thought the left was tolerant and inclusive. How and why did they become nazi adjacent??
@@KillerQueensRycheRed caps are the new brown shirt.
She doesnt really look like the maga type. Didnt she say in her video that she is a left leaning moderate? @@KillerQueensRyche
I came across Diane before her videos blew up… I must say, she’s become more confident/angry and the mask has fully slipped. What a monster.
This woman is in a war against inner knowledge, academic knowledge and civil rights and all of that why?! Because her daughter is not talking with her!! Is only me or this sounds like a major tantrum?! And therapy is the problem!! 🤦🏻♀️
Diane never makes a mistake! The world is a big mistake! 🤪
I agree
Diane is throwing a long tantrum via her RUclips channel.
Im glad my mom is 90 and is not tech savvy enough to make a video.
Or is it the reverse, that her daughter went no contact because she is anti-educatoon, anti-therapy, anti-nonwhite people, and exhibits truly toxic behaviors.
could you imagine my mummy dearest wouldn’t get off the internet telling all and sundry how horrible I am going no contact 😮
@@michellemonet4358😂
I'm helping my friend go No Contact with her horribly abusive mother. The thing that's so sad is her mother's false and constructed view of my friend is so evil and ridiculous that I spend most of my time telling her "your mum's view of you as being a terrible burden and awful to her is simply not true, it's lies and fairytales, please don't internalise any of it. It's not who you are"
The end of your video really resonated with me when you said "it's important that you can separate yourself from what this person is projecting onto you. People can be *this* wrong about you."
This is the saddest thing to me. The kindest most lovely people are made to feel like they are abusive in a sick twisted role reversal.
Remember that her mother was probably enmeshed with her own mother & never achieved separation. She’s still a child & simply repeating this strategy. Your friend must understand that it’s actually not personal since the mom cannot see her own child as a separate personality ❤️🩹 bless you for being a truth teller♥️
You are such a good person to support your friend like you are. Many people lose their friendships because of the smear campaign. Every word you say is so accurate.
I’m so sorry this is happening to your friend. Hugs to her. ❤ Thanks for being a good friend.
My story. 52 and still struggling this very moment. 20 years minimal contact and right now I'm getting the silent treatment. Yet it's me that feels shame and anguish. The person she thinks I am is so horrible it's so hurtful.
@@iconc1402 Sorry you're going through that. My friend also went for years trying minimal contact. It's not easy - pls be as kind to yourself as possible. Xx
Therapy can have a dark side (speaking from experience here), but I think that this woman is just looking for a scapegoat. I really disapprove of how she’s used her family troubles to get attention.
The cheek of her using clips of people physically assaulting others when she talks about parents being cut off by their kids.
Im not remotely shocked that she's anti talking therapy. For talking therapy to work requires hard work, honesty and self reflection. It means admitting fault and working on yourself.
People like this mother will destroy everyone around then before admitting any wrong doing at all.
He relationship with her daughter could be improved but she just doesnt wanna do any of the work
My therapist saved my life. She tried for two years to get me to sever ties with my family, and I just couldn’t even even conceive of doing such a thing. It was the best decision I ever made. It takes lots of work to overcome people like this. The trauma is so real which is why so many end up on channels like this venting because it’s so painful and so unnatural but the level of criticisms and projections and reframing of anything good and is so traumatizing that you stay because you think it’s you that’s the problem just like this daughter did for so long it just shatters your character and integrity and who you are as a person. That mother wants to destroy all that is good and that’s what they do in many many cases people believe them. They literally try to erase their victim. They don’t want anyone to think the victim might be an actual good person. That’s what’s so destabilizing about all of this behavior.
Therapy also requires you to LISTEN to the feedback & accept it.
Toxic abusive parents blame everybody but themselves for their adult childrens’ trauma.
Each time she makes a video, the more we see why she was cut off.
The more views she gets the more she will become a right wing grifter. Deplatformization will be difficult, so we just need to ignore all her content now
That's why I watch these review articles instead. Let the reviewer get the click credit
Yea, I was thinking the same thing. The more she feels attacked, the more it reinforces her narrative and view of the world 😐
She reminds me a lot of my mother, who I am no contact with. This is a lot of the stuff she believes. I recognize the almost constant smirk and feigned amusement at things she is really annoyed about. The mocking laugh. The phobias and racism veiled with I'm just a sweet lady telling it like it is. God forbid you call her on her shit. And you can't express your frustration without being painted as the mean child. The people pleasing behaviors begin..
Those parts of the video were especially bothersome to me.
To think she, or someone on her team watched and edited that, thinking "yeah, this is perfect. This is exactly what we're going for. " 👌🏼
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Yeah and God forbid that their phobic views are literally targeted at their closeted child
Im glad you went No Contact.
I’m sorry you had to experience that. Hugs❤️
This lady has lost her remaining marbles. I hope her daughter is doing okay, because that lady seems to be a lot to handle.
"Work on your inner problems" but not through therapy? My god this woman is very confused.😊
She said CERTAIN therapy can be life-changing... and I'm guessing she's imagining a family therapist who acts like like Dr Phil and will call her daughter a brat and so on. 🙄
"Work on your inner problems" but not by taking any responsibility at all or considering any changes to your behavior.
And Katie Holmes saw how scientology /Tom Cruise turned Nicole Kidman + Tom Cruise's children against Nicole ..
Right? Nothing like blaming someone's child for running away from a cult.
I question why she got involved with Tom in the first place. The Scientology regime is well publicised.
She got involved 20 years ago. It wasnt anywhere near as well understood by the general public at the time. @@Crosswyred8000
@@Crosswyred8000 if Tom Cruise hit on you, wouldn't you be tempted?
@@Ichneumonxx Definitely not. Ew!
"That your parents are clearly toxic for causing you stress."
No Diane. It is not "stress" that has had me in therapy for nearly 5 years. "Stress" was just a symptom of the bigger issue, which was TRAUMA.
I went no contact with my dad because, like you, he refused to even CONSIDER how his actions impact the people around him. How his 'teasing' was actually rooted in degradation and humiliation, designed to destroy self-esteem under the guise of 'affectionate banter'. How he would use phobias against myself and my younger sister. How he would refuse to change his actions when we clearly told him that said actions hurt and terrified us. In fact he would just tell us to grow thicker skins.
He has never had empathy for anyone other than himself. So yeah, I finally realized and accepted that I was getting nothing out of the relationship except anxiety and heartbreak, so I stepped back and let go.
It was a last resort. It was painful (still is), but I need to look after myself.
Well said, that it's trauma, not stress!
Narcissist will twist themselves into pretzels to push away the blame of being wrong or confronting the possibility of changing themselves since they think they are perfect.
I hope her daughter has found your channel
I think we all need to go no contact with this person! She is truly terrifying. Thank you for having such a calm, clear, walkthrough of your counterpoints, as always.
Was hoping for more of your insight on this woman. Her lack of self awareness is just so terrifyingly fascinating
Yes the mid century reminders of Germany are poignant
Diane DITCHED HER DAUGHTER when she received that long letter and typed back ''received''.
So true. And very sad also...
Wow, this is so disturbing. She should not have a platform. Absolutely sick.
Diane's daughter is a beautiful, creative, and whimsical human being. She is blossoming without the dark cloud of constant negativity & judgement that is her toxic mother.
@@stephaniek-vj2eh get help
@@stephaniek-vj2ehwhat in the actual f? "Like a baby"? Clearly, you are completely out of touch with an entire generation's cultural and artistic zeitgeist. Why would you wish failure upon a young person starting out in life? Why do you believe she's incapable of supporting herself?
@@melaniebell8115 Wow, I have no idea who her daughter is, if I did I would go out of my way to support her channel to help her stay away from her mother. I would also make sure to never comment to her about her mother. I hope her mind is as far away from her mother as possible.
@@stephaniek-vj2eh Diane is that you?
@@stephaniek-vj2ehhi Diane!🤗
Diane's delivery is so smug and condescending it's infuriating!
I notice that parents like this have a really hard time viewing thier children as adults. They’re just kids who are so easily influenced by social media and evil universities and horrible therapists who force them to cut off thier innocent, brave, intelligent parents. Meanwhile thier “child” is 27 and unable to function because of very obvious childhood trauma, and they aren’t even able to unpack it for years because they bend over backwards to excuse even obvious abuse. I have dear friends I wish would go no contact with thier narc abusive parents. It’s extremely difficult to cut the ties that have been wrapped around you since you were born, and people don’t do it on a whim or because they saw a Tik tok.
I feel so bad for her daughter. The way she talks is so condescending and you can imagine how mean she was to her own daughter and never took her feelings into consideration.
It's sad that it's often the people who need therapy most - like this mother with strong narcissistic traits - never go.
My mom doesn't believe in it. Lol. She's never wrong. Therapy has helped me deal with her evil witch syndrome!
Narcissists know damn well why people go to therapy. They will never admit their guilt, ever!! They'll blame everybody but themselves.
It's hard watching her speak and grin.
Yeah, and her language is so triggering!
@@Analysis_Paralysis Makes your blood boil.
Toxic positivity going awry.
Like sandpaper on the ears