What I learnt going on +100 speed dates in 2 months
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0:00 Why I did it
6:57 What is speed dating?
13:34 The dates | storytimes
30:19 What I've learnt
#dating #datingapps #speeddating #datingadvice
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OMG a femcel who can’t get laid gone on 100 dates in just a MONTH. While I can’t get a reply. Dating is so easy for female gender.
love bellesa!
What's a "goft card"?
Kidology selling sex toys. Love it!
Took advantage of your offer - thank you!!! ❤️
"the more open i am the less people like me" 😭😭😭 felt that one in my soul
SAME! 💀
"the more open i am the less people like me" 😭😭😭 felt that one in my soul
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Many such cases
Came to write the same thing 😂
The things you are willing to go throught to get data, goddammit you are a martyr.
The things you are willing to go throught to get data, goddammit you are a martyr.
The things she is willing to go through to make content.... oh yea, thats her job.
Hahah, dating is a whole occupation, for sure! It can be fun though, might try speed dating myself, she really sold it! ^^
Facts I went on two speed dating events that were small so 14 men all together and I was already tired lol😅 but I’m an unattractive black woman in a predominately white city so I should have known
@@user-vf3fz7qv6vOuch. I feel your pain
Bro the honesty of kidology is so freaking refreshing. Seeing someone as hot as her go thru the same emotions the rest of us mortals do is awesome. Legit no cap
You are my favorite masochist youtuber. Noone else inflicts all this torture upon themselves to produce content.
Eh, don't think of it as torture. Think of it as scientific exploration! She is learning and testing things about herself. I think that is a lovely thing!
Yeah it’s sexy and I’m not even lesbian. Props to her
Lmao@@copiouscat
Something's wrong with you, friend.
I'm a below average looking 30 yo woman according to conventional beauty standards. Went to 2 speed dating events. First one: two matches, no dates. Was a nice practice round. Arrived a bit late, went home right after. Second event, I arrived late, stayed for 2 minutes exchanging 3 sentences with a nice guy, changed my 'no' to a 'yes'. He's been my amazing boyfriend now for over a year. We basically live together! (Was a socially anxious 29yo who'd never even held a guy's hand before. I'd shriek and run anytime someone showed interest.) I'd totally recommend. Definitely stay after!! I was too socially anxious, but it had been my intention, and it'll improve your chances. I agree it's an imperfect solution, but it's a solution.
This!! Sometimes just throwing yourself out there really helps you figure out what to do in social situations. You can’t really tell how you’ll react until you do it
I dont think it works for a below average GUY. 😂
@@SquallSZ There's certainly a much higher chance of it working out for them during speed dating vs online dating. It's a much more forgiving environment.
What led to the no, originally? Just asking because it may be helpful to others to know what may seem like an indicator to reject, but shouldn't be considered so strongly
@@Anna133199 Well that's reassuring for me. Thank you
PLEASE let us hear about your casino story time and your two former matches!
*EMPHATIC AGREEMENT*
Yes!!
Please, i just know it'll be hilarious
I support this idea
Agreed 🎉🎉
You look STUNNING. I follow you for a long time and it's wonderful to see you grow into your own style. The swhal, the hair * chefs kiss *
I tune in to hear her lovely voice. She could be talking about her dog taking a shit in the grass. I bet it would sound like Shakespeare 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hope you find a nice partner soon.
Yes please, make a special story time video about that dating.
No problem about beeing open.
agreed
I think the problem stems from the "Speed" aspect of dating.
No one has time to date, nor the money, nor has it been portrayed or experienced as "worth the time and energy" and it has cascaded into the feeling that dating as a whole is deteriorating when the problem is that it has been fully commodified with no prospective statistical love left to sell to customers.
Leaving them wondering why they cant find love and or sex, as well as convincing them that it is their fault for not finding love fast enough or at all.
I completely agree. People work so so much and are in the grind mindset. The cost of living has people stressed. They don’t want to go on dates on their days off due to them wanting to rest to go back to work. I also think allot of peoples parents have ruined dating for their kids. They see what their parents went through, (divorce, infidelity, lying, fights,etc…) they don’t want the drama. I also think people have way to many choices these days and get “choice paralysis”. Also people don’t know how to communicate these days especially face to face. There’s so many reasons why most people (imo mostly men but some women) don’t want to put in the effort or time to have a real long term relationship. People act weird. The lockdown from the pandemic didn’t help either. People are so isolated these days and only hang around friends they’ve known from their childhood, co workers, groups they’ve been in like a motorcycle club or work out clubs/gyms, and in certain cases I find men will find one woman or a very few women in their lives that they completely fall for and WILL actually try a relationship with them which most seem to end up broken up pretty quickly…. People rather live their own lives in their small circle, work and grind for the money and they’ll go on dating apps to find casual hook ups(sex) and then ghosting eachother.
I completely agree. People work so so much and are in the grind mindset. The cost of living has people stressed. They don’t want to go on dates on their days off due to them wanting to rest to go back to work. I also think allot of peoples parents have ruined dating for their kids. They see what their parents went through, (divorce, infidelity, lying, fights,etc…) they don’t want the drama. I also think people have way to many choices these days and get “choice paralysis”. Also people don’t know how to communicate these days especially face to face. There’s so many reasons why most people (imo mostly men but some women) don’t want to put in the effort or time to have a real long term relationship. People act weird. The lockdown from the pandemic didn’t help either. People are so isolated these days and only hang around friends they’ve known from their childhood, co workers, groups they’ve been in like a motorcycle club or work out clubs/gyms, and in certain cases I find men will find one woman or a very few women in their lives that they completely fall for and WILL actually try a relationship with them which most seem to end up broken up pretty quickly…. People rather live their own lives in their small circle, work and grind for the money and they’ll go on dating apps to find casual hook ups(sex) and then ghosting eachother.
I completely agree. People work so so much and are in the grind mindset. The cost of living has people stressed. They don’t want to go on dates on their days off due to them wanting to rest to go back to work. I also think allot of peoples parents have ruined dating for their kids. They see what their parents went through, (divorce, infidelity, lying, fights,etc…) they don’t want the drama. I also think people have way to many choices these days and get “choice paralysis”. Also people don’t know how to communicate these days especially face to face. There’s so many reasons why most people (imo mostly men but some women) don’t want to put in the effort or time to have a real long term relationship. People act weird. The lockdown from the pandemic didn’t help either. People are so isolated these days and only hang around friends they’ve known from their childhood, co workers, groups they’ve been in like a motorcycle club or work out clubs/gyms, and in certain cases I find men will find one woman or a very few women in their lives that they completely fall for and WILL actually try a relationship with them which most seem to end up broken up pretty quickly…. People rather live their own lives in their small circle, work and grind for the money and they’ll go on dating apps to find casual hook ups(sex) and then ghosting eachother.
@@Callieforniiaa its mostly women, tons of men are single because women keep chasing the same amount of men
I love hearing about your personal life and the trials and tribulations you go through. You are a great story teller.
Frrr
I like Kid's outlook in how she still puts in effort in the face of likely rejection because at least she can get dating and flirting practice and still have a good time. One thing that my dad told me about rejection in dating is to always put your best foot forward anyway even in the face of likely rejection. Because you get the practice, and if she thinks you're a decent person, you can make friends or be introduced to her friends to date. All of these things have been true in my life.
Correct! If we try to avoid negative experiences at all cost, we are also going to miss out on the positive ones. One can't win the lottery if one doesn't play. We also learn a lot about ourselves through the process. Your father's advice 👌🏻✨
yes! being decent and nice is never lost
@@alexterieur8813 yes! Authentic also (as much as a first interaction let's you. obviously you won't throw your guts out to a stranger). That way you at least know if they'll like you for you from the get go!
Thank you very much for this feedback and outlook; I appreciate it😊.
@@KidologyCO Of course!
The absolute BEST thing about speed dating is that you get to speak to people who are INTERESTED IN DATING. Flirting with someone isn't taboo, complimenting someone isn't taboo, you are allowed to be attracted to a woman! It feels wonderful, and the rejections are... dissapointing, but they really don't hurt so much, especially when you go into things with no expectations whatsoever.
When you leave, you feel happy, you feel like you spoke and connected with someone, and that is something you can't do anywhere else without the risk of being considered the worst kind of person.
C'mon girl you know we wanna hear about the butch and the casino! Spill it!!
It shall be shared🙇♂️.
Yes we need a part 2 where you talk about the 2 matches. Thank you
Yes we need a part 2 where you talk about the 2 matches. Thank you
3 different accounts?
@@ladyhotep5189 I don’t know why there are 2 accounts that copied my exact comment. We live in a strange world 🤷♀️
@@LisaTothestarsI think it's bots. I'm reporting them
and the casino date!!!
"proving to myself, that I can talk to people!" I say this to myself after every successful conversation 😅
We need the cosino date analysis vid now 😭
We need the cosino date analysis vid now 😭
Facts, the people need to know 😭
Yeah please tell us
As a black male who lives in Germany I found myself resonating with a lot of this video thank you for making it. I signed up for speed dating in my area and unfortunately didn't any matches.
But as soon as I watched this I signed up for a new one for a new experience, at least I can practice my flirting technique.
“You only need one.” made it a lot easier for me. Similar feeling with the “more open I am, the less people like me”, but since you only need “one” person, that’s purposeful. ✨💪✨ you are on the right track. It will happen when it’s supposed to.
I ABSOLUTELY need a storytime about the casino date butch sugar mommy! I already loved living vicariously through this video 😭
i'm from latin america, people here are on average more outgoing and sociable than in parts of europe (I lived in greece and serbia before, so I have an idea), so this would be my dating advice...
If you have a very wide and fulfilling social life, and make as many friends as you can based on your real authentic interests, they will connect you to potential dates, or you might start dating them. Also you're not going to feel as lonely, because realizing that you have lots of friends and that you're doing your favourite things in life all the time, feels quite fulfilling, there's a sense of self sufficiency that comes with it. And that makes you more attractive because you start 'shining' differently.
If you have enough money to invest in different classes or clubs and groups of your interest to have a fully scheduled week every week... you can go learn a language on monday, do a sport on thursday, go to a book club on friday, for example... all of these places have potential to make at least one or 2 friends, who might introduce you to other friends, etc... by the way that doesn't mean 'conforming' to a group, just be yourself. For example, I play baseball and I learn chinese, neither of those things are common in my culture where people play soccer and don't speak any foreign language...
you might be surprised by how people will start approaching you just by the fact that you are out there, i speak that as a trans woman, i don't even look super passable and i'm very broke, i don't have fillers or expensive shampoos, i paint my own nails cause i can't pay for manicure every week etc, and I don't really have a super hard time finding dates, so... i do think this is good advice 😉
this! with people who are actively "going on dates" i always wonder if they don't have any other interests or hobbies, passions. as even when i wanted to go on dates with random people i never found the time cause seeing friends or pursuing my interests always seemed more fun than to meet some stranger for walk or something. gets you less number of dates and less frequently maybe but you will naturally meet people and never feel like you compromised your precious time for something/someone that wasn't a vibe in the end.
I second both of these comments... The intro made it sound as if people just don't casually meet nowadays which is so untrue. Nearly none of my friends found dates through apps or dedicated events such as speed dating and I'm talking about people in the 20-30 age range so Millenials + Older Gen Z. The few ones that did use dating apps are the exception? Doing pretty much any hobby will connect you to so many people and it's way more fun than dating randoms you have nothing in common with. I could go on with a list of activities I met friends through and a lot of them aren't group activities but I met people via related events or meetings. Also, if you really have nothing on your mind, try out your friend's hobbies. You both get to spend quality time with someone you like (and make them very happy by paying attention to things they are passionate about) and meet a bunch of new people broadening your social circle. And I'm from a very non-outgoing eastern european country, lol
Yes 💯💯💯💯
Which part of this is because you're a woman though? Cuz I'm willing to bet things would be even harder if you were man. I don't think the social aspect works for dudes though it works for women
I see so much of myself in you (aside from the fact that you are far more intelligent). And so I really value when you put more of ‘yourself’ into the videos, whether that’s smaller anecdotal details or side tangents, I love to hear them. But of course your privacy is important so only share as much as you feel comfortable. 💖
❤️🔥 Your words🥹...thank you so much!
I'm no lesbian but you seem damn attractive! I don't understand why being black or dark haired would be a dissadvantage. You are really pretty, the dark hair gives edge and you have a hell of a personality and have a lot of interesting things to talk about. I loved the layers of frosting, that would swoon anyone even barely interested.
Thank you for another amazing video.
because of racism. do you not live in the same world we do?
@@sainttheresetaylor2054 no, definetely not, I live in Slovenia. I'd probably need to further explain that. We do have xenophobia here, but we barely have any black people so racism towards black people is not a thing like in America and elswhere where black people are actually present. We are racist towards Arabs, becase the whole country is very christian and most Arabs are muslim. Most of the country is rural and black people can be seen in the capital only (there is exceptions, a few men, two from Celje, one adopted boy from Celje and one from Mozirje whom I met before, but I've only seen a few black -by few i mean two- women here in person, only in the capital). Also it is hard for me to understand the lesbians who are racist to the point where they go meet a black lady that is initially atractive to them and later tell her that they are not attracted to her because they have ingrained racism which makes them openminded only on the surface level where they go out to meet her but honestly repulsed on the inside by the thought of actually being with her. I am surprised lesbians would truly be so judgemental and close-minded. Especially after talking to her. I also think she has the features that meet the current beauty standards - big lips, big eyes, small nose, etc that most black people don't meet as far as I know. She has white parents and the only thing that actually makes her "black" is her skin. Is my confusion clearer now?
I am absolutely shocked to hear that some people are not interested in you for aesthetic reasons. You are conventionally beautiful, you have a lovely style, and your personality is charming. If people aren't seeing you as a catch, that does not compute with me. I hope your self-confidence continues to grow. Your worth is certainly not reflected by those who do not value you for whatever reason. You will find someone who delights in you if you keep looking. They can't all be that blind! 😅
You took the words right out of my mouth. Our Kid’s a catch! It’s possible she shatters most people social,paradigms: your average person is easily threatened by perceived anomalies
@@sararichardson737or people practice preference lol…
@@rashawnwalker9398 that as well
The more you are open, the more i like you. Consider the possibility that people you wouldnt get on with anyway remove themselves from your world, saving you the trouble of doing it. Much love from Aotearoa
This is what she meant by research purposes only in the last video 😂
You get me 🫵😅.
@@KidologyCO ong love u girl 😭🥹🖤
so cool. I always wanted to try that but i am neurodivergent and have social anxiety
Maybe you'll get more out of this than you think, then. At least for me, part of the anxiety of social situations is not knowing the boundaries; why are we even here, how should I approach someone, etc. Speed dating sounds like one way to meet people with some mutual understanding about why you are together, like a hobby club if chit chat was the hobby.
Kido briefly and bluntly, you seem very self-conscious but the most enjoyable experience you described was when you got past that feeling and let your positivity flow. You vibed on the woman sitting across from you and openly let her know, "you are my turn-on." The same will happen in reverse to you! As the only minority at the party you have a monopoly on your physical type - you get everyone who vibes with you and feels turned-on by you. Mathematically you say it's a small pool but at the same time you get 100% of them to yourself - you are their best choice automatically. Play the hand you've been dealt, Kido, and you'll win! Enjoy the game and gamble on winning and you will win.
Great comment!
@@burpie3258 thanks burp. Kidology has a heady personality and it's obvious that someone like her needs another active mind to attach to (and the rest of her will follow.) I don't think people in general understand that our underlying psychological need is finding someone compatible to attach to. Just having a bed partner does not solve the entire equation. Our basic emotional need is for attachment to someone who mirrors us back to ourselves in ways that gratify our needs and satisfy our minds. Sex is a byproduct of our desire for attachment. When Kidology finally meets the person who attachs to her she'll be surprised at how good it feels to be seen and understood and complimented by a total stranger who she feels so close to.
@@ranmanfl5597 Wow, I never thought about compatibility as someone who mirrors us in that particular way, but you're right!
would love the butch lesbian casino storytime haha
Same!!!
Your hair makes you so 80s, it's adorable~
Yea I really like her hair! I love 80’s hair
That bar/perfume line was smooth 🙏✨
I got maybe 6 minutes into this when you started talking about extremely relatable crippling self esteem issues. I feel compelled to tell you that I think you are beautiful both physically and as a person inside, at least from what I have seen of your videos. Your person is out there somewhere❤
As a carbon isotope, I feel represented by this video.
lord the kinds of people that comment on her videos are those types huh? the self proclaimed intellectual that intentionally self isolates then is surprised when they are single or have a hard time connecting with others. but secretly want to feel special for there low social skills... yawwn
@@kiaadams104Nice to have you here. Your superiority complex is also welcome.
@jeffery2620 at least im open about it.. you just hide better, behind your intellectualism and self depreciating humor.
I ain't mad at you. Just calling you out and all the other so called "misunderstood carbo isotopes" in the comments.
Carry on...
@@kiaadams104Thank you for being so rude. This is why they self isolate from you, but you only blame them for not liking you while you hypocritically hate on them at the same time. You’re such a gentle, nice person. 👍🏻
@LilacSreya oh stop it. I'm blushing. Also, if they are self isolate because of RUclips comments... then they really are pathetic. I'm sure they will forget about this in an hour and rest easy.
Nice try, coming in to save the day. RUclips comments need more people like you lol. Bye now
please be completely transparent, we need your honesty
Modern dating really just exposes how crappy most relationships are and have been in the past. Most marriages are mistakes that either break up or should have, held together by the romanticization of monogamous relationships (and social expectations of lifelong monogamy, or, historically, the realistic inability to divorce, and women's dependence on their spouse). My parents' marriage was probably a mistake, for example. What are the odds that, as a 20 or 30 something, you just happen to find and pair off with someone you'll have 70 years of compatibility with? Dating is a matter of buying enough lottery tickets and (hopefully) getting lucky. Ultimately, it's luck. Speed dating allows you to get a quick sense of many people.
Go spend more time socializing, learn to embrace rejection, and keep trying. You can find your (probably doomed to failure) relationship.
Good for you, Kid! I am sure your efforts will pay off. Finding friendships will also broaden your social network, and may lead to romance from elsewhere. Wishing you all the best.
I really hope my current relationship works out long-term because, among other reasons, I find dating nerve-wracking and draining. Basically being judged and judging everything the other person say or does to analyze if they might be suitable or not.. ugh
Thanks for this! I'm from a smaller city in the US and have recently been really bored with my social life. The thought of speed dating kinda scares me because I'm not that social and I quickly run out of energy in social situations, but I'm definitely considering it now. I'm also planning on moving soon, so not sure if dating is even the best idea? Idk, I just need more social stimulation cuz I spend 95% of every week in my room.
I'm still so curious about the skin color thing. Could you tell us how you found out / felt that that person rejected you because you're black?
Racial preferences and its many prejudices have always been determining factors in how people will see you, and therefore judge you. I'm not sure why you need a synopsis? Just like you have a physical type, that applies racially also.
I find this very informative. I also enjoy meeting people in person, even when it doesn't work out. It really is a whole experience, flirting, talking and just being with the person you admire. Love that you had a good time overall
I think I've never seen you so relaxed and positive as in this video - and damn, they look good on you! I hope things will get better and better and you'll have more and more interesting and confidence-building experiences!
"The more open I am, the less ppl like me." Girl, me too.
I just have to remind myself they ain't for me but it's still hard to put into practice sometimes. I'd say be as open and honest as you feel ok with. That's your best bet.
Hey your make-up looks nice ❤
Thank you!
@@KidologyCO ❤️❤️
Dating apps gave us the illusion of endless choice, speed dating perhaps reminds us how rare it is to truly find someone we have chemistry, compatibility and connection with. The reality is that we can't just "choose" someone and have things work out. It's not as simple as a swipe, 3 dates and happily ever after.
It's really funny how people deal with dates in different ways in different countries. Here in Brazil, people are very open to have casual dates and apps are just a little part of it.
Please, make more videos about it if you feel comfortable because it's important to hear a different point of view about this subject. You are helping introverts and other people with this videos.
And low self-esteem is a sad burden. You are so pretty and you have such a cute style. I know that self-esteem its not just based in appearance, but I really hope you change your mind about yourself.
(Você é linda e esse é só mais um ponto somado ao fato de você ser inteligente e interessante)
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I absolutely adore everything about this video. Your comment on the astrology girl made me chuckle. You're so delightful, and I love being a loyal follower.
ive been watching you for about a year and truly i find you so fascinating. keep making videos, keep going! much love from birmingham!
A lot of people struggle with self love which automatically makes them more closed off. That in itself manifests as an obstacle to get through to people, or let them get through to you.
Thats where we observe for example, a relatively "average" looking person (average based on societal standards) having no issue being successful in relationships. Then, on the other side, we see a very attractive person that also possesses a lot of positive qualities (well spoken, kind, sweet, multifaceted and extremely interesting as an individual), and yet they struggle to find people to connect with.
Generational programming, unprepared parents and a system that does not teach us how to accept and love our authentic selves (mostly its even encouraged to be a certain way instead of how you actually are).
Hopefully we can move past that as a collective. 🙏🏻❤️
It’s too much self love that’s the problem imo
@@HkFinn83 you confuse genuine self love with being in one's ego. In the era of over consumption, we have a need to constantly fill the void, be it with material possessions or numerous partners. A person that is unhappy and doesn't value themselves won't be able to find a suitable partner. That is why we see so many dysfunctional relationships, people who get together based on needs (be it financial,emotional, physical etc).
I see this pattern almost everywhere. And taking into account the people I have interacted with I keep confirming this. Married men with successful businesses and families who have affairs and still are unhappy. Women who also are in serious relationships but feel unfulfilled despite their partner being there for them. People who have jobs and constantly do something and yet they keep saying that they can't find fulfilment. Phantoms of actual self love.
@@HkFinn83ehhh I can see where you’re going but it’s a fine line between the internal and external self love as well as what’s perceived compared to what’s felt.
This is my favourite series!! Hope you keep us updated!!!
Your videos help me so much. I’m in a moment in which all my good friends are in long term relationships and it’s been incredibly helpful for me to find you’re channel, listen to your experiences and read people’s comments. It’s helped me to understand it’s not a “me” thing to be struggling with modern dating and loneliness. Thank you, you’re amazing!
You are now a 'rizz' machine. Becoming a master conversationalist, being present and observant, being interested in people, is a magic skill. I'm happy you are on your way to attaining it.
I really like when you open up and talk more personally - you seem like an intelligent, charming, and well-spoken person.
I've also experienced the problem of feeling like the more I show myself, the less I'm liked: finding out I was autistic explained a lot. Neurotypical people often don't react well to autistic vulnerability (related to the double empathy problem, I imagine).
I'm on the AS and feel similarly. It's okay when I'm masking ie being sociable, but not when I'm vulnerable (or worse) having a mini meltdown.
My best friend kind of has a similar struggle. She is a very introverted sapphic woman, she doesn’t really go out and she doesn’t do online dating either. It has been hard for her to connect with people especially on an emotional level, since it takes a lot for her to open up emotionally. She recently had her first „encounter“ with another woman and even though they went separate ways after that it gave her such a huge confidence boost, I love that for her. I‘ll tell her about the speed dating and your channel in general it might be interesting for her, but I’m not sure if things like speed dating especially queer speed dating are popular here in Germany.
Z, seeing you genuinely hopeful and positive as a result of putting yourself out there is amazing ! You're single-handedly starting the snowball reaction to become the best version of you that you can be, and that's i credible, I'm rooting for you !
Id go on speed dating if the focus isn’t only romance or sex. I want to meet new people and have new interesting friends to meet up with and do unique stuff with.
Is that the purpose of "MeetUp"?
Speed dating is dating....speed friending is still a thing but with a different focus
im so happy seeing this video!! glad to see youre out dating, experimenting and discovering things. its so awesome seeing women have good experiences with romance and being joyous in general (idk how to word it, like idk its just nice seeing ppl be joyous and whimsical). wishing you luck with your dating journey, sounds bumpy but fruitful. i dont think id go to speed dating event itself as im not really ready for a relationship or to have that as a big long term aspiration, but its cool seeing this video as it makes going to other events less of a scary idea.
I’ve never considered speed dating, but I’m now compelled to try it after hearing your experience on it. This was truly fascinating and is now my new favourite video from you. Can’t wait for part 2!
Speed dating is perfect. You get to talk to a big pool of people and not wasting time talking with people who never will do anything with you.
I love every time you share more personal stories!
Yes story time !! your storytelling is very adequate and on point ❤
❤yes I’m intrigued to know more about the butch lesbian date!
❤yes I’m intrigued to know more about the butch lesbian date!
❤yes I’m intrigued to know more about the butch lesbian date!
I’m loving the content after your realization and i’d love to hear more of your personal experiences or stories
Proud of you Kid for not giving up. I certainly have.
I have 2 years of SD experience. Where the practice falls short is when it comes to relationships that forge inside a community and over a longer time frame. Some say that a woman may decide within just 3 minutes if she would consider her date to be a life partner. My personal observation has been the opposite. All my GFs have seen me weekly at either dance classes, in college or playing sports. A women likes to see how her potential mate behaves in society, around his peers, colleagues and especially other women. It makes total sense. However I have so far never been able to conveigh any such inner skills within a 7 minute conversation. I am living proof that absolute attraction and falling in love builds over time. For some folks the speed thing just ain't gonna cut it.
I would definitely like a video about how you feel people parter up etc! Sounds very interesting. I’ve been thinking of giving speed dating a go, it sounds like a lot of fun honestly.
Thoroughly enjoyed this video. I got so giddy when you mentioned your flirting practice haha
I would LOVE your story time and your analysis of EVERY thing
go for it girl, your videos are pretty insightful !
We want, we need, we crave a storytime video about your speed dates. The casino?? Girl I'm already involved in the story
Yes to storytime! You are truly a pioneer in socialogoy. I applaude you for the experiments and I hope they gleen something helpful. Not to end on a heavy note but i hope you are well and though I appreciate your videos I wish nothing best for your truth and your wellbeing.
I really appreciate this video! It touches on a lot of the reasons why I'm endlessly grateful for how lucky I got during my brief stint using a dating app (pre-covid). I met my partner of five years and we both were authentic and honest on the first date which I believe led to a more fulfilling relationship down the line. That said, I've found that forging new friendships IRL has been significantly better than online. It's so much nicer to getting to know the people in your community by chatting face to face instead of the artificial conversations that happen on social media.
I LOVE when you open up more in your videos. Please do the story time video!
This was really healing to hear about- I'm a strong defender of the 'if you can't do without fear, then do it scared'. Delighted to hear about your experiences with speed-dating!
I took up social dancing a few years ago as a hobby, and I’ve definitely felt attracted to people that I probably would never have matched with on dating apps because of the way they danced with me. People really are so much more than a profile. It’s so much easier to connect with someone when both of you are outside of your comfort zone. Shared struggle forms powerful bonds.
oh my god, I love you and your stories
Your hair and makeup look stunning! Would love to watch a storytime video or two :O
I loved the video and yes we would like a story on the lesbian woman and the casino date. By the way I think it would be really cool if you contacted a fellow gay male friend or RUclips colleague for a video. I think it would be quite interesting to compare the dating scene between lesbian and gay people. Just an idea.
Amazing analysis! I’d love to hear more
this is a banger of a video. I’ve been thinking about modern dating and the weird nuances around it - so cool to see someone who had a real life experience/experiment and share about it in an honest way. side note: i’ve binged two of ur videos and am definitely already building a parasocial connection w u 🤭 subscribed!
For someone your age, you're an absolute dynamo! Seriously. Ive only watched two of your videos. The way you share your personal vulnerabilities shows real inner strength and confidence, even if you dont always feel it consciously. As a viewer it's impossible to miss. Not everyone (almost no one) can do that or would even wish to. _The Instgram illusion is so much cooler._ I saw this one and the video on rhinoplastys and am just so impressed, I wanted to leave a comment saying thank you. Your research and analysis is so cogent and beautifully articulated -)referring to the rhinoplasty one). Not to say youre not always articulate. I can tell you are. I just wanted to share how inspirational and important your videos will be to people for years to come. Girls (and boys -and men and women) the world over, at their most vulnerable, for whatever reason, will see your videos and learn so much, gain real personal strength, just through your sharing, which comes across as so sincere it cuts like a scalpel - all the best.
It's so endearing and interesting to get a more vulnerable take from you
Intellectuals have the hardest time finding love. That's the price you pay for having a deep mind.
And it is tougher for female intellectuals
everyone else seem dull and boring aye
Just remember when you open your mind too much your brain can fall out 😅
But intelligence and knowlegde are separate things, too many get them confused and stop themselves from connecting by being insufferable 😅
Well, assuming that you're smarter or deeper than others is not a great look and it will reflect on you even if you don't say it out loud... All people are smart (yes, ALL), they are just different from you in a way that you can't understand it. If you enjoy deep discussions, find someone who also does. Simple as.
@@rzk1327 I agree! I think that pretty much everyone has some wisdom/thoughtfulness to provide, just in different areas. Going into conversations with that mindset makes life so much lovelier.
This has been my favourite vlog of yours. Great insight on dating overall. I have not been speed dating but I've been putting myself out there and the more I do the more I get out of. The world does not end if you're rejected on a date and you can get through it. It builds self confidence so much. Anyway. Good stuff :)
I love your command of the English language; one of the best RUclipsrs to share introspective and life experience with the ability communicate these complexities in a relatable way. Stay open and honest, but don't be too transparent. If I were you, i would only share that part of you with those cherished few who deserve it. It's easy to open yourself to a community of genuinely good people, but once it's out there you can't take it back. Stay safe and keep making this world a better place. You do more good than you know.
We appreciate your insights. You'll always have our support.
Your perseverance is admirable and inspirational. Maybe I'll give speed dating a shot.
Even though i am someone who just got married i loved hearing about this and would love more personal dating stories! Today's dating climate is so harsh so it's fun to hear about it in a more positive light 🩷 also you look more and more glowing for every video, Kid! Absolutely gorgeous!
I like it when you're open. You're very beautiful and have a lot of charisma btw
I await the casino analysis. And it was so much fun hearing you recount your flirting, the way you described it was great I was cracking up
Please make that casino story video! I love how open minded and tenacious you are, you inspire me ❤
18:56 “the true power of engaging with a person, rather than a profile”. Agree! It’s too easy to hide behind a profile, face to face interactions are a must.
24:30 you're a hero for this whole mindset and encounter
I’ve been away from the channel for a while but came back to this video and your Ressa Tessa vid. Fantastic 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Very late to this video but in a random burst of parasocial relationship, I feel so proud of you for this!! Too many people think it's somehow an inborn skill to know how to talk, flirt or date. It needs practice like anything else. Best of luck ❤
Omg yes please make that story time video!
Please make the story time about the casino or any story! This video is really inspiring and relatable, this being a story time in itself makes me feel a lot more hopeful about my situation (Especially seeing it from the perspective of a black woman and not an incel or sum idk). You make amazing content, love you and your work!
Such a thoughtful segment, you've really sold the concept. Also you should consider coming to London for speed dating events, if you haven't already done so. You'll find your person in due time 🌻
Yes we want the story time babe!!
yes be more open!! we wouldn’t be here if we didn’t want to see more of you!
Sapphic mother omgggg