Dysphoria: What is it + How to deal with it | Stef Sanjati
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I don't know how much this will help, but if you ever start feeling self conscious about ur muscles, look up pictures of Sarena Williams!! She's ripped as all hell and HOLY SHIT HAS THAT GIRL GOT IT GOIN ON. Super cute thick thighs that give me life? ✅CHECK Arms that could make a Greek god jealous? CHECK Abs that u could literally grate cheese on?? ✅CHECK Still literal goals??? ✅FUCKIN YEAH!!!
Sometimes you gotta fight your bad habits with doing the same thing... just a bit different. Instead of telling yourself "I really shouldn't compare myself to stick thin runway models" have yourself look up other beautiful women that share your features and appreciate the beauty that you two share!!! You're so incredibly beautiful Stef, I wish you always saw yourself the way we see you💞
I THOUGHT OF HER, TOO! Thick as heck, hot as all hell. ❤️👌
thumbs up for this comment!! thanksd
I never seen anyone say women with muscles were unattractive in my life, I heard guys say they were scared of getting into a fight with a beefed up woman.
But mostly what I seen was guys like attracted to women like that in a different way like a need to feel dominated, I know not the ultimate goal of being a woman but there are a ton of guys out there like that too.
+Cheyenne this comment. is. BEAUTIFUL.
My 14 y.o. niece is a competitive cheerleader and that girl is ripped too. Broad shoulders and well developed muscles, especially for a young girl. Nothing wrong with looking strong.
My teenage son told me. "She has beautiful hair" when he saw me watching your video just now.
:D
Aww! He sounds awesome!
My daughter is Gender Fluid and has periodic gender dysphoria. It is not limited to Trans, it can apply to anyone who identifies as non-binary.
i know some nb(non-binary) people dont identify as transgender and thats fine its how they identify. but, coming from another nb person, i believe we are trans as the definition of transgender is not identifying with the gender you were assigned at birth.
It brings me so much hope and happiness to see an accepting parent
Transgender is actually an umbrella term, and usually incorporates non binary individuals.
Seriously?! Non- binary is very much real, and my daughter is 100% fine, no matter what she identifies as. She is human and does not need YOUR approval/ belief or anyone else's to be who she is. Thanks, but no thanks.
Non-binary doesn't need to be scientifically quantified. Non-binary is a concept that means you do not identify as being only one of the 2 polar genders. There is nothing to quantify or prove. It is a state of being.
When I get top dysphoria, it's a little weird, but I take off my shirt. Not like, outside, I haven't figured that out yet, but if I'm alone, I feel much better. It's even better if you're in bed, because you can pull the covers all the way up and pretend there's something/nothing there, depending on your preference. I also like listening to every Panic! At The Disco and Black Flag song ever made on a giant playlist, and I have these books called The Art Of Being Normal and George which really make me feel better.
Oh, and I also do the thing where I make myself look cute. I wear one of my jumpers or my black formal shirt, my black jeans and my flower crown, and basically look as androgynous as possible. It's hard to find cures for my kind of dysphoria, because I'm agender, and there's no such thing as a cis agender person, but I'm figuring stuff out.
Hey, another agender person here! Woohoo! To add to this, everyone deals with it differently. Personally, when I get really dysphoric I like to put on some chill music and put a crap ton of makeup on and take a load of selfies and remind myself that not having a gender isn't indicative of how I like to present. Everyone is different
+Percy Prior-Everdeen heck yeah more agender people!! Just wanted to say that that sounds cute/handsome as hell! I hope that your dysphoria goes away soon~
One more agender person! I'm so happy to see others here. For the longest time, I tried to tell myself that what I was experiencing wasn't dysphoria but just lack of confidence. Now I'm finally at a point where I'm trying to find ways to ease the anxiety it gives me.
My dysphoria grates my nerves because it's never about the same things. Sometimes it's because I have breasts, and I want them gone. Or I want to be more muscular. Other days, it's I wish I had a more defined waist and a longer neck. I'm getting a binder to help with the breast situation on the days it shows up. Other than that, I'm not sure what to do.
So do I .I think it's because we can't feel anything on our chest
That's how I feel about my breasts. I don't want them. I am envious of flat chested people. I can sometimes ignore them and pretend I look as gender-neutral as I feel, but then I look down, or see my reflection, or see a picture of myself, and I hate it. I hope to save up enough to be able to get rid of them, so I can look the way I feel.
They're way too big for binding, sadly. Such a waste really, for them to be on someone who doesn't want them.
Thank you :)
me too . I want top surgery as wel
Ela Mongrella, I'm FtM and female puberty wrecked my self image and my chest. I am really, very top heavy. I haven't worn a 'real' bra in at least a decade, so I don't even know my measurements, but I'm guessing DD?
I feel the same about mirrors and pictures. But you can only play the photographer for so long before friends and family complain that they don't have any pictures with you in frame.
I finally couldn't take the top dysphoria, broke down and bought a binder. I was so worried that none of them would make any difference at all.
I bought the Underworks 997. My only regret is that I didn't buy one sooner! Binder, plus shipping and handling, was under $40 USD.
I'm not flatFLAT, but I am flatter than I have been since I was 12 years old and knowing that has helped so much with my dysphoria. Along with patterned shirts, button ups and/or layering, I do appear flat chested.
It's a love hate relationship with my binder, I love how I look, hate wearing it and resent that I need it, but honestly? It's an immense improvement.
Ela Mongrella Agh, I hate that feeling...
You are beautiful, and dysphoria will get so much better with time.
Elle Bradford yesss my 2 fav RUclipsrs holding each other up!
Yeah? How long? Waiting 8 years.
Yassssss love you elle
it will be better when i die, but then ill have to play the next character. make it stop lol
11:29 "Maybe you wanna watch RUclips instead. Maybe that. Maybe you wanna go on a binge watch through my entire video playlist."
Fuck Stef is speaking to me directly. xD
The way I describe Dysphoria is that feeling when you wake up somewhere that's not your bed, and you have this intense moment of "Where am I? This isn't my room?" except applied to your body.
You're one of my absolute favorite people. Keep being you, beautiful
I know I've said this before, but I am obsessed with your videos. You are SO good at teaching without being rude or "in your face". You get the information out in the best way, and I've learned SO much from you. Thanks for educating in a polite, mature way, and good luck on your journey!
I'm so sorry that you have to go through these painful experiences. You looked so stricken for a brief second that I just wanted to give you a hug. You are such a strong, brave woman and I admire your courage. Take care.
You're so strong and always get through the issues you're having. I love how brave you are to continue being you even when you don't feel great and how you always manage to tell others to carry on and show appreciation for them even when you're in a bad place, you're amazing and I'm so hopeful that your FFS surgery goal is met soon ❤
Oh Stef I'm so sorry you go through that. I can't imagine how awful that must feel. And you're so brave to share it with RUclips.
This is something I needed to hear. Today I was so anxious that I cried and I was hiccup-y breathing as I was watching this. Your imitation of it made me laugh and start breathing normally again (also the box trick helped too). Your videos always make me feel better but today this went above and beyond. I feel like I just had a phone call with a close friend and know it's going to be ok. Thank you Stef, I love you.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. You are so brave!! I have had panic attacks in the past, and they are no fun.
I'm glad that someone has a similar experience. Like I totally get that sometimes things irk me and somethings not so much. A few nights back I had a complete meltdown in the shower and ended up scratching myself a lot, but sometimes before a shower I'll look in the mirror and it'll still irk me but not to the point where it drives me to scratch myself all around because of frustration and anger and sadness. Great video !! :)
I experience so much of what you're describing in this video (I honestly don't think it's dysphoria, though), but your anxiety is so similar to mine, and videos like this just make me want to hug you, Stef, you're an amazing person
Steph!! I used to be the same way, honestly. I could not leave the house. It gets better and you are an amazing, hardworking, constantly evolving woman! You will get better because you work so hard on yourself and your happiness. Sending you love!
I love how constructive your video is. First, a description of a problem and how it feels (That is the point where most videos end). Then you provide a description of the things that help you right now, and your plans for even further improvement in the future. This is good stuff!
This is so educational thank you. My best friend is ftm and I've never really understood what he's been and still is going through and this has really helped me to understand!
Actually, one of my "escapism" tricks is to watch stuff on RUclips. I find you very relaxing and positive so I recur to your channel a lot ( since I discovered it a few weeks ago) when I have anxiety issues... Today I had a bad start and this has helped me loads!!!!
My dysphoria isn't usually that bad, but today, it REALLY sucked. Thank you for the video. It's helping me a lot.
I am currently on a binge watch through your entire video playlist, not to escape from any dysphoria, but just because i just can't stop watching your videos. you're amazing, so I can't - it's just physics or something.
It's like feeling suddenly distressed that you don't have the right tools for the situation and you DESPERATELY NEED THEM! ...at least that's how it feels for me... Like my body has short-changed me of something important.
Steph, keep with the breathing. ^_^ I've had good luck with breathing and meditation and yoga in coping with and lessening the severity of my GAD - and also in moving passed my moments of dysphoria. I'm glad to hear it's helping you too. Anxiety attacks are just SO not fun, and just learning how to breathe can be such a boon in lessening their severity, frequency, and triggers.
Sending you good vibes and well wishes!
Just watching your videos, is inspiring. When i look at you, all i see is what i aspire to be. Despite your difficulties, you've accomplished so much. Not for the sake of others, but pure personal success. Seriously, you are truly amazing.
I need to save this video and show it to my therapist to explain what dysphoria is. They ask me to explain it and it's so difficult to explain to someone who hasn't experienced it and I think you explained it very well. Thank you for making this video.
Binge watching yr vids right now LOL! You have such a lovely voice. It's so calming and soothing. Also love the way you explain things. So articulate, open, hilarious, gentle, informative, objective, original, patient (so patient!) and kind. Just a joy to watch really xoxo
One thing my therapist has told me to help with my anxiety is in those times when you need to just nap it away, I listen to sleep talk downs with meditation music on RUclips while I fall asleep. It really helps to prevent being stuck in my head with the things that are bothering me
I have to say that I am so proud of you for all that you have done and continue to do.... You are amazing and I pray and hope that once you have all of your ducks in a row and your surgery over and you are healed that you feel amazing. You totally deserve it
I have such a big problem with disphoria, my face constently screws with my brain... Literally the same as you to an extent. What i do is blast bring me the horizon and sing along as loud as i possibly can :). It's very empowering and very effective! Keep doing what you're doing and let nothing bring you down stef! You're incredible!!!
You are such a inspirational person. Honestly so happy to see a such genuine person on youtube. Your gorgeous inside and out. ❤️
Hey Stef! I watch your videos to help calm my anxiety. I love how you always have such positive words and you're just so real. you're the best!!
Im glad you specified and said "Don't game too much". Because at one point in my life i spent all my available time playing video games. It was all I thought about and dreamt about. So you have to be careful becausse like anything else, escapism can become an unhealthy addiction. You come to depend on it and can't find happiness within your self. I still game but since I've gotten treatment for OCD, depression and anxiety I'm no lnger obsessively gaming.
Thank you so much for the video today! I had never heard until now about the box breathing technique, and I know that I will be able to use that in the future.
Your honesty is seriously so relatable and so helpful. Thank you so so so much! You really know how to speak to us. 💙💜💙💜💙
To be honest you're one of the prettiest woman I ever saw like ... I have an eating disorders and I hate myself very very much and to see GORGEOUS people hate themselves makes me cry . And I wanna hug you right now and I can't . Please. When you have your dysphoria attacks just do whatever you feel is correct to do . Please do whatever is best for you . Love you 💜💜💜💜 queen !
Every so often during those times when you feel really good about yourself, and you just feel super cute and perfect, I like to take a picture of myself because pictures do a great job at helping you remember the feelings you had during the time of the picture. It helps me sometimes to forget what I was worrying about when thinking about my body.
Aww Stef I'm so sorry about the things you have to go through, you are so strong and such an inspiration to your little buns! I hope it gets better as time goes by.. love you😘
I really appreciate your channel. Pretty much all your content is appropriate to show my family and it's very refreshing. I always worry suggesting youtubers that can help educate my mom because they're very sensitive to sexual or violent content. Your channel is just so helpful.
I'm soooo grateful you talk about these things, thank you 💜
I suffer from anxiety and I find doing something, or learning a new skill take me out of my head and help calm my thoughts. I make sugar flowers and I also watch documentaries about subjects I'm not familiar with, and that reality helps me stay in control. I hope you find coping strategies that help you deal with everything.
Title typo! Great video Stef! Great look on dysphoria, some people just need it explained to them in a different way, and you did it!
it's funny how you said (hey watch my videos to distract yourself) because that's exactly what i've been doing these past few hours! i'm trans masculine so i can't necessarily relate to everything you talk about, but it's lovely to see any trans person talking about stuff that relates to being trans - especially in the bubbly and positive way you do! love your videos so much
I'm excited for you to get your surgery!! and I understand what you're going through, although in a different way. im nonbinary but would prefer to present more masculine. I'm almost constantly experiencing some sort of dysphoria mostly because I'm not allowed to cut my hair short and I have to keep it long, and it causes me major anxiety at times and I'm just hoping for the day I move out and can comfortably transition. you've been such an inspiration to me since I started watching you in December and I'd like to thank you for that, stef💕
I do a lot of the same things to cope with my dysphoria. Lower surgery is now my long term goal, now that I've had top surgery. Breathing exercises, meditation, music, and responsible escapism with video games when my health allows. Before my top surgery binding lessened my dysphoria of my chest, but never fully got rid of it, hence why I had surgery. That part is so much better now. Now it's all about the lower half. For now packing and stand to pee aids help lessen my lower dysphoria. But still like she said, it can come and go and when it hits it came just really knock you down. I started my transition in 2001 and I didn't think I was ever going to be able to get any of the surgeries I needed. I'm on disability and barely receive enough to pay the rent, power bill, and co-pay for my medications. So for the longest time all I had done was started testosterone. I had to work very hard on my coping techniques otherwise I would have given up and never would have gotten to where I am now. I have some hard work ahead of me, but hopefully I will be able to improve my health so I can have lower surgery.
Anyway, I rambled way to much. XD Great video! And I thought you did a good job of explaining how dysphoria effects you and using that to better explain exactly what it is for people. :)
I just started watching your videos and I just felt that I have to say I am absolutely in love
I watched all your videos, and I think it has helped a lot with my dysphoria. Watching you before your transition and only seeing the woman you truly are has really helped me see the woman in myself. 💕🍞
oh my goodness Stef I relate to this video SO MUCH. I'm a transgirl myself and have been on HRT for 3.5 months, and I experience dysphoria just like you explain in this video. when I am able to have time to do my hair and spend the hour+ that it takes to do my makeup (I've learned so many makeup tips from you!) then I can totally go out and be in public with people and feel comfortable and confident and like I see myself in the mirror, but there are of course those days that I don't have time for makeup or to make myself look cute, and on those days when I see my reflection I immediately get super anxious and overwhelmed, exactly like you said, and I don't feel comfortable in my own skin. even on days when I can do makeup, which is most days thankfully, I know at the end of the day when I have to take off my makeup that I won't be able to like what I see in the mirror, and that's something that is so hard to get across to people who aren't trans.
i can't even handle how stunning you look with that hair color. suits you so well
and the disco looking lighting during this video is so soothing idk
eeeeee so cute
I have body dysmorphia, as diagnosed by my doctors, and I can validate that any kind of discomfort in one's body is miserable and terrifying. Even though the anxiety that comes from it has gotten more manageable, passing reflections and mirrors is still very difficult.
OMG did I ever need to hear this now. I am not trans but as you said anyone can have dysphoria. I have other situations and issues that cause it and realized that this is part of what is going on with me now. I too recommend escapism just don't stay there. Mindfulness also helps a lot and there is no harm in putting an issue on the closet shelf (so to speak) and taking it down and looking at it after escapism. S.M.A.R.T goals.
I hope you can overcome your dysphoria!!! Remember, YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL AND YOU SLAY MY LIFE LIKE OMG
I am getting anxious just listening to you explain what happens to you. I have never met you but I love you for who you are in the World. You do look good Steph.
anxiety is a big struggle of mine. yours and mine are for different reasons,yours dysphoria, mine always worried something bad will happen. I haven't done box breathing but something similar. in 5,hold 5,out 5,repeat. breath normal then do it again. distraction I was always told was not something you should do because then your avoiding....but now that I'm learning more and talking to someone new distraction is amazing to help calm you and think clearly and then go back to the situation that makes you anxious. I also meditate everyday to help with my anxiety. I used to do 2 mins every day sometimes twice. now I've been doing it for 5months and I meditate up to 20 mins a day and it feels amazinggg!
I watches some of your old videos, and omg girl your voice is so much lighter! congrats😊 your absolutely GORGEOUS, keep rocking!
What a helpful and raw video Stef! Thank you for your words of honesty and support. I know you said this was related to gender dysphoria, however it is relevant and relatable to Body Dysmorphic Disorder. I could feel and relate to some of the sensations and feelings you were describing. I am in recovery from BDD and watching you with your soothing voice has been a positive experience. Thank you, you really an empowering and inspirational young woman.
I must admit, I have done a binge watch on your channel, bc, you're just great!
I've had dysphoria for almost 24 years now and it's getting harder to wake up. I'm Afraid to be open because of what people might think friends, family, co workers etc. I'm also 26 and feel like I'm too old to transition so I just drink and do alot of drugs and my life gets mired in chaos. It's just getting harder.
Thank you, this video was very well timed for me. :) I was feeling bad and I thought this would help, and it did.
i just wanted to say that i have actually gone a youtube binge watch through all of your stuff uwu
I respect and understand the way you feel, I just saw your "My face: Waardenburg Syndrome" video and I think if you see yourself speaking in that video it will make you feel a little but better about your dysphoria. Good Luck and God bless. ❤️
I needed this, my dysphoria is really horrible at the moment. Basically life crippling. I can't even go downstairs and eat dinner with my family...
I love you girl lord ur videos really helping my depression and ur a great inspiration and it's only been a year and you've transitioned this much? Your doing amazing. AMAZING. I'm ftm started hormones 2 months ago. We are all a family hang in their!
You're truly an inspiration for me. Never stop making videos
Love you so much! So glad you talk about these things xo
I'm one of your fans who thinks you're absolutely beautiful!! I really, really, love your make up tutorials when you remove all of your make up. It shows us fans that you are just a regular person, like us, with your own insecurities. My niece recently moved in with us and she experiences dysphoria at least once a day. She has wide shoulders and thick arms. She's extremely beautiful and there are days, like you (and probably everyone else in the world unless they're narcissistic lol), when she looks at herself and feels very confident in her beauty. I'm going to show her this video after she gets home from school. I love that this is a subject that you chose to talk about. It helps me to better understand where she's coming from. I also LOVE that even though you had lipstick on your teeth you still posted this video. :) I know that you're a 'regular' person like the rest of us but there are things that you do that shows that. I love you and I think you're amazing!!! Thank you for being you, Stef, and for sharing your experiences with the rest of us. :)
i need to get back into wow and back on the server with you guys. i use gaming and music and other things to help me cope and sometimes i just binge listen to creators on youtube to take my mind off my body and everything
This is great information for anyone with anxiety issues. You're reaching out and helping everyone! I do wish you wouldn't get surgery, tho. NO ONE looks the same with/without makeup! xoxo Go elven warrior princess! :)
Absolutely love this video! Is super helpful, insightful, and inspiring. Thank you for this Stef!!😊
It reminds me of people who are extremely self conscious of their appearances and have cosmetic surgeries. Sometimes I'm very conscious of my strabismus and feel really low but sometimes I don't even think about it. Getting surgery to correct it would be my ultimate solution. The box breathing thing is good, I'll try to keep it in mind the next time I get really anxious.
Thank you so much for this video, for all of your videos. They help me so much, they help me to understand myself and others too...So thanks Stef! :) You're amazing
The box visualisation breathing technique sounds useful, thank you for sharing it! The main problem when people get caught up in any form of panic is often that they don't exhale properly, so they get even more panicked trying to breathe in more air which results in hyperventilation. The most common advice given, thusly, is "deep, slow breathing". However, when people are in a panic, this advice seems absurd. So instead, what's helpful for some is to hold their breath for a moment. The box thing incorporates that, which is nice. :) It reconnects you to the physical level of yourself and so helps sustain that connection by active visualisation.
ha. I watch you when I get dysphoric and you manage to always brighten my day. thank you! PS youre makeup is on point
I sing and hum when I'm happy and it helps prevent me from being overwhelmed. If I feel I am becoming overwhelmed sometimes I will literally sing what I'm suppose to be doing to get my mind on track. Breathing helps. Also if all fails a good "power cry" doesn't hurt. Fortunately.. or unfortunately I was brought to show my emotions and I cry when I'm upset... sometimes I won't feel better until I get it out.
Ily, have some hugs! You are always telling us how amazing we are, but you're so amazing yourself and beautiful in every single way. I wish the best for you Stef😘.
I'm really happy you made a video about this. i usually explain it to people to give them something to base the concept on as the opposite of euphoria. I've always experienced it as a sort of separation of my body and pretty much everything else leading to an all encompassing feeling of wrongness, most often happening in public places.
Ugh, girl I totally feel you. Some days i can be feeling really good and then I catch my reflection in a window or something and for some reason all I see are my masculine features and it is just such a hopeless feeling
I really feel you with gaming as a relaxing thing. It's the way I go when I need to relax for a bit.
Woah I was watching a video you posted almost a year ago and wow huge change! Congrats !!!! You're gorgeous !!
I'm an anxiety and depression sufferer and I have had that box breathing technique shown to me. It does help me sometime but it was literally the only helpful thing the mental health specialist gave me. Literally the therapist I saw told me to "get over it" when I explained some of the things that gave me anxiety attacks. I don't think I have dysphoria and I'm pretty sure I'm not Trans but your box breathing made me remember that unprofessional professional from my past.
Watching this while playing WOW myself. Good video, and hope you are also having fun with the pre-legion changes! ^^
Thank you for sharing your truth with us. I appreciate your honesty and tips!
Keep on trucking Stef. More people need to keep pushing education for those out there that need it. I am trying to do it as well, but you do it far better than I! I appreciate the good work!
Thank you for sharing your experience! Love you :)
The sound of you breathing is actually very relaxing and calming to my anxiety. I will have to try the breathing exercise!
Breadmom, your voice is absolutely gorgeous! I hope you move on from dysphoria. Will always be here to support you! 💜
I just love you and your way of explaining things thank you
I hope the dysphoria lessens out in the next few months Stef!!
I'm dealing with the same thing to but the opposite way around and I'm only 14 so it's sucks knowing I have to wait to start t until I'm 18 because I know I'm not telling my muther about this because hearing their views one time on being transgender. It's so easy to hide on the internet with my friends who'll call me Michael and sometimes Mikey but I just nervous because I'm seeing my friend Leah in December and even though I've posted some pictures of me but it's my voice and my body the most and my mother doesn't have time for the gym so I work out by running around my house alot and having a lot of protein. I just hope to look better before then.
Woah sorry-- I just wanting to get this out my chest.
You sound like my buddy Andrew. It breaks my heart when families ingrain self discomfort. I mean I know the feeling (minor comparatively) but I'm pansexual and still haven't come out to my parents as they are very set in their ways.
+Lauren Schmelzer oh man that's sucks, i hope things clear up for you in the future with whoever you love/date!!
Yo Michael!
Layering clothes and baggy pants (or pants that are too big and a belt lol) really help :)
Also, you can just "put on a voice" and seriously your voice will become deeper and more "manly".
Keep on keeping on, you can do this! ^^
I lived as a tomboy until I had the guts to confess but the dysphoria becomes cruel sometimes. Big tshirts and hoodies will hide your top and hips pretty good so you can feel a bit more confident in public. A binder helps many trans guys that grows a bigger chest, luckily I stayed pretty flat so tight sport bras and/or tight tops kinda keeps everything from bouncing when I am active. (huge trigger of mine). But if you want a binder I recommend waiting until you are a bit older, bad injuries happens with binders to the ribcage if worn too much and since you are still growing the risk is even higher. Lately I've been into flannel shirts too, it feels great to shop guy shirts :) And there are boxer panties so to your parents it's "normal" girl clothes and to you it's not "cute" but feels more guyish. They are super comfy! Short hair helps me too but I wasn't ready to take that leap until I was 25. It's the little things.. :)
gErArD wAy
gaming has kept me sane through my struggle with anxiety and depression. It is my source of relief and escapism but also comfort. I reccomend The Witcher 3
I'm a cis female with PMDD but I think the dysphoria happens a lot more of the time. Thank you for this video!! Im muscular and tall and getting older. being a girl is hard! Thanks for your honesty and help
About the breathing thing: it's an absolutely great technique (coming from someone with anxiety) but also remember to practice breathing when relaxed! It'll train your body associate your breathing technique with calmness and it'll help you come down from your anxious state faster.
HOLY shitballs.
Your voice.
It's has changed so much.
Damn.
i honestly see you as my mom thank you this helps so much ❤
I sorry but i could not pay attention to word you were saying because I was too obsessed with your make up in particular your eyeliner haha. I'm gonna rewatch so I can listen to what you were saying but your eyes really do look soooo good in this video. I'm jelly!
Stef, for the arm grabbing, nail polish ripping starts, I use my tangle toy. Look those up on amazon. It helps with the physical anxiety and has saved me $$$ in manicures. It's not ment to be a cure but playing with one does help when the panic/anxiety symptoms hit.
Stef you made another great video. as of a couple days ago, i had my 9 month on hrt check up. my blood work came out good and finally got a bump up on my estradiol. later on that day i got outed by a 5 year old boy asking his mom why is that boy dressed like a girl as i walked by. it did upset me then but i had time to reflect on it too. love you Stef keep up the good work
I fell in the RUclips hole today, when you watch video after video and end up in something totally unrelated to where you started. But I'm happy I did, I found your videos, have seen a couple now and I'm really sorry you've experience bad days like this, but more power to you, you just did a crash course in stress and anxiety management! Much love and good vibes to you, and I just gotta ask is there a how to video for that amazing eyeliner game you've got?!?
You made me laugh with that "watch me" whisper at the end. Hahaha! I just adore your personality and enjoy whatever you upload.
Sweetie I'm trying to buff up. I'm so totally envious of ur muscles, they look AMAZING. I'm Eastern Asia and ur arms are GOALS.
SLAY!
Wherever you go, there YOU are. You can't escape YOU - what you are inside and out, no matter what you mutilate or change physically, the discomfort is with in you. The challenge in life is simply accepting who you are, inside out. It's normal to feel "confused" or lost at your age - that's what's so great about getting older! And what sucks about getting older, is that for some, looks fade. But again, it's about seeking peace within no matter who you are in this lifetime. Good luck!