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It's SO FUNNY to me how everyone says this, not realizing that transitioning is the literal "help" they're telling us to get.
Ty Turner yeah, there currently is no cure and the best treatment is transitioning.
Help is going to therapy and talking about your problems with loved ones. Not cutting off your balls and saying you're female. How does that help anyone? The suicide rate before and after transitioning is virtually the same. It obviously isn't working.
Except every psychological and medical professional affirms trans people in their identity. Trans people suicide rate is mostly from societal rejection. Posts like the one you just make is why people have increased suicide rate while being trans. But if you actually talk to trans people they do become much happier but if they are rejected by friends or family or society or all of the above then they feel alone and abandoned and that's like the number 1 things that can cause suicidal issues in anyone. I mean if all of your friends and family and society as a whole rejected you for being you I'd imagine you'd probably get pretty depressed maybe even suicidal. So it's not about being trans. It's about being rejected. Regardless suicide rates do go down. And the suicide rate is considerably lower in trans folks who are accepted by friends and family. There are studies on this. If you did a bit of research you'd see all of this.
Also there is plenty of studies showing "conversion therapy" the only other considered "treatment" greatly increased depression and suicide rate in trans individuals. So what then is your solution? Fact is the only thing that reducing suicide rate in trans people in transition and acceptance. And the biggest thing that increases it is suppression and rejection.
@@velaethia6 every psychological and medical professional? That's completely false
There are lots of medical and psychological professionals who don't recommended transitioning
We all should go to therapy. Like a yearly physical check up, we should have a mental check up.
Yea, like a dental check up as well. Mental health should be looked at the same way. It's equally important as anything physical, even MORE so. It's sad something so necessary is joked about or made to be embarrassed about. EVERYONE needs a mental health check up. So I absolutely agree.
Yeah i always say this. Every one should have a therapist, because we are all human and emotions are difficult.
The problem with mental checkups is that anyone performing those evaluations has the legal authority to have you condemned to a psych ward. It's 1984 in a nutshell. Routine checkups aren't all sunshine and rainbows. Mental health checkups would be a mine field. You'll have to study up on what to tell your quack so you aren't thrown in the looney bin. That negates the whole purpose of a checkup.
Megalus Doomslayer Are people just "thrown" into mental health facilities (or what you so endearingly call "looney bins") in 2016? .... not likely and very rare. Though I DO see people in daily life who SHOULD be in a psyche ward somewhere. And there's nothing wrong with that, they're meant to help people who need it.
Look at Amanda Bynes, SHE thought she was 100% too until SOMEONE threw her ass where she NEEDED to be... and she found out she was bi-poler. Otherwise, she wouldn't have known. That is why it's so important. But unless it's a severe case, I doubt you can be thrown in a psyche ward against your will. It's not the 1800's anymore.
I'm not trans, but a lot of the things you said here really resonated me as a person with an invisible disability (rheumatoid arthritis). We very much experience the "you don't LOOK sick"/"don't call me abled, I'm just normal!" etc etc etc. and it's exhausting.
So so many people are so quick to dismiss anything that is outside of their own experience as "fake" or "attention seeking", and it can be really harmful to people whose experiences aren't considered "normal".
Also, thank you for addressing the "going towards your true self" thing. That's something I hadn't thought about, and something I could definitely have seen myself saying, and now I definitely won't.
I'm so sorry to anyone who has to deal with all this bullshit, and thanks Stef for addressing these idiotic points in such a clear/concise way. All the best, and have a great day (may your Facebook feed be devoid of assholes for the day!). (:
psst don't compare being trans to a disability
yes!! this is so important, and it's all part of a larger conversation considering the intersections of gender, disability/ability, etc. being trans and having a disability are not synonymous experiences but by finding points of solidarity, it's easier to understand others. 🙂
She was relating my situation to hers, I don't see the issue!
JFo3176 That is what I meant to do - thanks for the much more eloquent explanation of it than I could come up with! (:
+Eevee Morgan no prob! I'm always glad to see discussions considering intersectionality within feminist discussions or conversations about gender, especially disability/ability since it's so often looked over.
I work at a restaurant and I was cleaning the bathrooms. I was in the hallway between the bathrooms and a transgender woman came up to me and was like "The woman's room. I need the woman's room" when she could clearly see the doors. It was like she felt the need to validate herself to me. I felt so bad that she felt she needed to do that.
that's so sad. nobody should have to explain themselves to anyone
@300bpm w-what? Why are you here if your just going to be transphobic?
@300bpm what's that have to do with anything?
@300bpm just answer the question
@300bpm you're actually serious...
I'm not trans but my dad makes fun of trans people and he makes fun of people who agree with it... He does it in front of me too and it's so rude and disgusting!
I love you and your videos✨ keep up the good work
same 😒
It always irritates me so much!! It happens at my home too. It's hard because I don't think my dad takes the time to try to understand - he just judges and makes assumptions!
may I suggest that you stand firm in your beliefs *respectfully*? I ask this of my children to always stand up for anyone being abused or neglected or the oppressed, even if the whole world stands against you. Because it takes just one voice to make all the difference in that person's world. Silence is the same as doing the "sin" with your own hands, metaphorically.
Kristy Napier if I ever said anything I'd be in huge trouble.. And he'd hate me even more than he does now... He knows I'm gay but he still tells me I'm disgusting and I'm going to hell so there's no hope in trying to change his horrible views
+Marc Manuele Oh my goodness! honey you are not disgusting! you are perfect the way you are. I have family that is like that too. I am going on 40 and I am independent of all of them. so my life is my own and I don't need nor want anyone's permission or acceptance. I still love them but I don't accept their insults. I am gay too and a mom of three. When you are old enough, become independent and set boundaries. You are a beautiful person. No one has the right to make you feel less than that. I wish I could help you more than these words. You are more than welcome to email me on this Gmail account.
"You're gender is weird you should go to therapy"
"lol my gender is the last thing I should need to go to therapy for"
I am cisgender and this helped me understand transgender people so much. I love these kind of videos. So informative :)
if you ever have questions, i recommend checking out reddit's /r/asktransgender too, just watch word choice (we get a lot of trolls and unintentionally insulting people often get mistaken for trolls)
RollingDutchman watch the whole video.
Cis means the same. So, cisgender means the gender matches the sex.
I totally agree, and I certainly learned something new today from this old video, namely, how to use the 'across' metaphor properly in a sentence; I've always been a bit confused about how exactly to explain the choice of the (technical) prefixes 'trans' and 'cis', and that's mostly because 'trans' can mean so many different things to different people - and picking _one_ choice that makes sense to _everybody_ is no mean feat (you rock, Stef!)
I liked hearing the definition of cis.
I hate it when people say "I support them... But I don't consider him a girl until he gets his penis removed"
I've heard people say things along the lines of that a lot and it makes me soooo mad
a lot of us appreciate your sentiment, especially when medically we can't possibly have bottom surgery. every cisperson who hasn't specifically been taught so just assumes that every trans person can have, and will get bottom surgery. That's not how it works!
I was watching this video and saw your reaction although it's one year ago. Also a thing I sometimes hear is like: men that are trans will never be real women, the vagina won't be a real one because there's no uterus. And than I am like: whaaaaat?!! I mean, if a uterus is the requirement to call your private parts a vagina and yourself a woman than I know many women who are actually born as women who shouldn't be called women anymore because of the lack of uterus. Like my stepmom. Had a meat tree growing in her uterus so they had to remove it surgically. If a uterus should be the requirement for calling yourself a woman she can't call herself a woman anymore either right? Well... She is. It isn't about what's between your legs or which organs you do or do not possess.
"They hated Jesus's message because he told them the truth"
Why would anyone normal advocate "castration", medically or surgically?!😵
@@Iv1309 well there one thing he can't get rid of is prostate he/she can still get prostate cancer now that proves it's still a boy.....
"I'm sorry if that sounded condescending, but that's because, I'm feeling condescending" 😂 I fucking love it. This video is classic.
the first historical account of a trans person is back in ancient Egypt where the only female Pharoah (name?) presented as a male. And even went to such effort to have all statutes, paintings, etc. to be rendered in the male context. A 2500 year old transgender male. Transgender people have been here for many Millenia.
I mean there's much older evidence than that as well actually. It's likely that we are as old as homosapiens
exactly! we're a natural diversification of humanity, not some error or abnormality.
+Matt Giordano thanks. Variety is the spice of life.
i think transness has existed for ages in some shape or form but gender and transness haven't always been defined the way they are now.. what i'm getting at is the ruler you mention (her name was Hatshpsut) was forcibly changed into a man in her depictions due to misogyny in the post-neolithic society that was Ancient Egypt
So.. Not that I want to belittle the whole "trans-cis" discussion, but I just have to clear this up. Hatschepsut did in fact changed her gender in statues and artwork but that wasn't because she was a transgender. it was out of political and religous reasons because at that time it just wasn't okay for a woman to be pharao. it just never happend before, therefore it can't be. So if she wanted the people of egypt and the priests and other high ranked people to be on her side and to support her, she needed them to believe she was as brave and powerful as every man. therefore she has to become at least in art a man. It has a Lot to Do with the concept of ma'at, the art of the Time, the believes and the mystics. but to be as simple as it can be, that's the reason for her. In private she was shown as a women, her name was female... and so I'm not saying that it is not possible that she was a transgender it is just highly unlikely when you consider all the given facts and circumstances
1.I'm not trans, but I do go to therapy and the first thing any therapist worth their salt will tell you is that all feelings are real. There's no such thing as a "fake feeling". All feelings are real and valid.
2. Cisgender is a descriptive word. If your chromosomes or 'sex' match up with the gender that you feel that you are, then that word describes you. That's. what. words. are. for. To describe and make sense of the world around us for clear communication. deal with it.
being cis has nothing at all to do with chromosomes. chromosomes are hardly ever measured unless there is some specific medical reason. the doctor just looks between the legs and makes a guess, there is nothing scientific or objective about it.
+eNSWE yep. being cis means you agree with the gender assigned at birth. it's dependant on society. so if we were to grow to a society that doesn't assign genders at birth, there would be no cis people !
+eNSWE what? For your body to develop as your birth gender it goes off your chromosomes.. HOWEVER that doesn't mean you are that gender (hence transgendered men and women) but your birth gender is determined by chromosomes. XY and YY.
lol it's funny because I made a post about the right words being used for clear communication but I fucked it up. to clarify for people who didn't get what I was trying to say: cisgender means you feel you are the gender you were assigned at birth due to the appearance of your genitalia. most of the time your chromosomes determine which type of genitals develop as you grow from a fertilized egg into a fetus and eventually into a baby. This is commonly called your 'sex'. Sex and gender are two different things. Gender is a social construct that is one part of a human being's identity. A piece of what you feel is part of your identity might not match up with what you look like on the outside or what society has deemed appropriate for you, this is where Trans identity starts.
***** it's REAAAALLY not that simple. stop trying to make sex a one-dimensional binary thing, it's way more complex than that.
I am 37 years old and I had never heard of the word "cisgender" (that would be me, apparently). I'm a little embarrassed to say that! Thank you for educating me. You are doing important things with your channel. Keep up the good work! Subscribed. :)
My son explained cisgender to me he has friends that are trans I've always been loving and accepting of everyone so is my son
As a transgender girl, technically cis people ARE normal, like there is a majority of cis people so they are literally the norm. Trans people are transitioning, and anybody else is technically normal just because they are the norm :D
oh right and people with brown hair are the "normal" ones right? cause they are the norm? and blonde people are abnormal I guess.. your logic makes no sense
+Răzvan Rădoiu Statistically, yes. If the majority is something, they set what is the "norm". Straight people, white people, cis people, and cis woman are all the norm because they are the largest %
EinsteinReplica when cis people call trans people abnormal they dont mean it statistically they are just trying to be rude to them and we both know that
+Răzvan Rădoiu That's because "abnormal" is a word that is used as an offense. We both know that, and I'm not gonna argue that I want to be called abnormal because I'm transgender, but we are still against the norm. When there is 99% cis people, cis becomes the norm.
EinsteinReplica well yeah cis people are the norm but thats not what they mean when they call themselves normal.. they mean "you are weird and im not"
Hi Stef, my roommate is a therapist... and he agrees with you all the way. He actually said you're very self aware and 100% correct. Well done! Keep being yourself and we're behind you!
Love you!
I'm jeally, i wish i had a room mate that is a therapist.
On rare occasion I've encountered "cis" used as an insult toward me. I'm cis, have tons of trans friends, am involved in a lot of trans/ally groups, and am working toward being a research psychologist specializing in finding better treatment and support for transgender and gender variant people. Some people have not been very happy with me, as a cis person, doing that. They've used the term cis to try to demean me and say that I cannot possibly help because I am not trans. In that case, when it's meant to be an insult, I don't care for being called cis. Of course, it's also not the word that bothers me but the intention. I'm not comfortable with any word used toward me with the intent of hurting and insulting me. I don't care what word it is.
In general the word cis is just a descriptive term though. It just means that I happen to identify with the same gender I was assigned at birth. No big deal. I just happen to have been born this way just as trans people happen to have been born trans. It's really a lot less controversial than so many people try to make it. It's just one of many characteristics that we are all born with. Some people have dark hair while some have blonde or red hair, some have blue eyes while some have brown or green or hazel, some are trans and some are cis. None of these things define us. They just make us all different and interesting and beautiful in our own way.
+Sam F Hurt people, hurt people.
It's unfortunate that you've had the word thrown at you like that, but honestly it's understandable. There are cases where you, a cis person, cannot possibly help or understand a trans person because you are not trans. There are cases when you, a cis person, should not be in a trans folks' space because you are not trans. In a world that doesn't resist you for being what you are, being told "you can't do something" or "you can't be here" stings, because you are hardly ever told those things. Trans folks are told "you can't do this" or "you can't be here" all the time. It's cis people who say those things to them, and it hurts them a lot more than it hurts you. Again, I don't believe the word "cis" should be used as an insult, but if a trans person is doing so, it's possibly a sign that you've crossed a boundary and are making them feel uncomfortable, unsafe, etc. even if it was not your intention.
I know that I can never understand fully and I don't blame people for being skeptical about me. It saddens me that so many trans people have been put in such terrible positions that they assume (understandably) that I'll be just another person who will treat them badly. I do understand their reasoning. I just hate that we live in a society where anyone's gut reaction is to be so worried that they'll be harrassed that they end up reacting that way and I will admit that it hurts to be insulted even if I do understand the reasoning behind it. It saddens me that anyone's been targeted so much that they lash out and use insults as a protective mechanism, but I understand why it happens.
That's part of the reason I've made a point of getting involved with activism as an ally though. The way to stop "cis" being used as an insult isn't to attack trans people for using that way. I really do think that the way to do it is to educate cis bigots so trans people don't have to feel the need to protect themselves by any means necessary. I want my friends and the trans community to be able to feel safe rather than having to be skeptical of people like me.
A cisgender person pioneered medical transition so if people are telling you that you can help because you're cis than they need a history lesson and a more rational outlook on life.
Josh Harrison It's not always about the physical help - a lot of times it's about mental or emotional support. A cis person is not necessarily best equipped to provide this support to a trans person, because they have no personal understanding of what that person is feeling.
I just turned 50...have no idea what CIS is and when I was growing up we never had to deal with these issues. They just didn't seem to be around at the time. Through the years I have learned to not judge people by weird shit (sorry, I have no better words for it) but to judge them by their actions and the character of their souls. I like watching your videos because you have a sense of humor, a sassy-ness I admire, and I can tell you area good person. That's how I judge you...as a good person. Keep being yourself.
CIS is the Confederacy of Independent Systems, it's a thing in the Star Wars prequels. you are probably thinking of cis, as a shorthand for cisgendered (person)?
+eNSWE 😂😂
"Learned not to judge people by weird shit" but is judging them by calling what people do in this sense, "weird shit"
I love these videos so much, I feel like I learn so much and become so much more understanding of important issues :)
4:37 "You're going towards your true self!" I feel okay when people say this to me, because I'm still learning and discovering different things about myself every day.
I am partially confused on something...or rather, just trepidatious. I've said before to a person transitioning that they are "becoming their truest self", but I never meant it implied with gender. I've always meant it in a way of, you're being yourself unapologetically. That that ball of light inside of you, your personality, your inner being, is finally showing itself to the world. The person whom you've always could be - not in terms of gender, but the soul - is finally here. I never meant it in terms of gender...does that make sense? It's like your soul is finally blossoming, and your inner light is finally radiating to the world. That's what I mean when I say that...Is this still something okay to say then, maybe as long as I word it differently? I will of course, refrain saying it until I learn more. Loved this video Stef!
This has to do with intention versus impact. Your intentions sound really great! It's actually a really beautiful way of communicating that and I love it. However, as I think you already know, the person hearing it might not take it the same way. I'd recommend wording it a bit differently!
it's a very personal thing. for me personally I'd just be happy I think, you just gotta get a feel for the people you know and adapt based on their reactions.
People who transition are 'woman' ALREADY. (or 'man' of course). That is the problem. They have always be that, inside. That is what is 'annoying' with saying 'you are becoming your true self'. That is all there is to it really.
that was really cute tbh when she was like "oh, the cookies are ready. I have to go"
I've been through this, and I'm currently still going through therapy but I know what I am
When I heard the cookie alarm I literally flinched. Like my whole body went "ooooh owww" cause that was my alarm clock to wake me up for 7th grade 😂
When I told my mother I'm transgender and want to transition (male to female) she said something like "you can't do all you want in life", "not everyone has the body they wanna have", "it costs money" and it has been months and she still deny it. I've pretty much spoken to everyone in my entourage and not a single person supports me. I don't know what to do...
Yeah I'm nearly 26 but I don't think I could start transition without any support. If I transitionned, I might loose everyone and be alone forever.
first find find ppl that support you, search out LGBT support groups in your town/city or neighboring city and make connections with them. Also make friends online that support you as well, there are many LGBT online safe spaces. I've been to many LGBT groups and all of them have been very inviting and supportive of everyone. It may make time to build up a support network, but don't be discouraged. I know its difficult at first to build courage, but do not deny yourself love, you deserve it!
You need to find other transgender people to talk to about this. The internet is a wonderful resource for that, and sometimes large cities have LGBTQ+ centers as well. Get in touch with some other trans folks and see if any older, post-transition folks are willing to take you under their wing.
Additionally, let your current friends/family know that this isn't just something you want. It's not a phase. It's something you desperately need in order to be fulfilled in life. If your friends truly care about you and want you to be happy, they will support you.
reach out to reddit, we've got a wonderful trans community there and there's a ton of resources and info. try /r/MtF and /r/asktransgender . Many of us are transitioning late in life, I started at age 30! (ignore this account's name and photo, it's pre-transition stuff).
Maybe your mother doesn't have the necessary funds?
Many parents has to "mourn" the loss of the dreams and stuff before they can welcome in the change. In our mind this has been going on for many years but for them it's a total bombshell and takes a bit to digest. But as you transition, the loved ones worth your while will stay because they will see you get happy and more confident. :) I know it hurts to not have your mom on board right away but you need to feel what decision is the best for your own well being and happiness, not other's idea of your happiness.
Common doesn't equal normal, guys.
YAS this needs to get as big is "Dear Fat People"
+freya moir lol still i want it to get as big as it
+Kevin Summer what i mean is it needs to get a bunch of views and be shown to people for good reasons
+Kevin Summer lol i didnt say that i said it needs to get as big as it did as in the views
+Kevin Summer
I'm assuming they used that as an example sense it also has the word "dear" in front of it.
No one should be compared to Nicole Arbour. That's an unforgivable offense.
I'm a really old guy and I just can't believe just how much I am learning from you .
each one teach one !
"Ooh! That was my phone telling me that the cookies are ready, so I gotta GO!" I love you Stef! ♥ ♥
Something that bugs me about when people are insulting trans* people is that they insist that your gender is the exact same as your biological sex, or your gender representation, or your orientation, etc
I myself am cis, though I have gone through gender confusion growing up (I'm honestly still confused with my gender) but I wish people were more open minded that hey, we're all human, we all need to do our business, we all need basic needs, and just because someone is different means that they're a threat or a disgrace
Definitely glad someone said this. By the way, if you ever want to talk abou your gender identity, there's. actually a pretty good community online for Gender Questioning folks, but of course any site with a strong LGBT+ community will definitely have some folks that may help to think over about your identity, or you can always show love and support in communities like these :)
gender can't be "the same" as sex any more than a color can be the same as a sound. they are different things.
sex isn't a simple binary thing though, and it's influenced by way more things than just the appearance of the genitalia. it's very much so also influenced by the brain where your sense of self is.
sex is just a very complex multi-dimensional thing, and it's pretty harmful to reduce trans people to "people who have a specific biological sex but wish they were something else".
trans people are. sometimes we tweak our bodies to become more happy or to reduce dysphoria, but it doesn't change who we are.
EDIT: and I don't mean that in a "if you're born male you will always be male" way, I mean that male/female categorization of sex is an oversimplification, and the words we use to describe different bodies (including brains) are very much so personal, and not at all fundamental in nature.
eNSWE When you mentioned that sex is influenced by the brain, I had to take a moment to breathe, because you may be thinking of how Gender Identity is what determines how someone views themselves gender wise.
I'm new to her channel and I just watched an old video and then came to this one, and her voice has changed so much and she's just so beautiful omg
I think you're taking the "are you fully a women yet", or "how much of a women are you now" too personally.
While I'd prolly say "how far have you transitioned", I think these people mean to say the same thing. They're asking how much has your body developed and how much there is to go. Edit:I never said I'd randomly ask someone this. I wouldn't ask anyone this becaue I don't care.
Also, words like transwomen and ciswomen are just kinda pointless. Obviously I care for you, but If I never knew you, and I met you and you introduced yourself as a transwomen to me, my (internal) reaction would be "I don't care, why are you giving me this personal info?" They're science words, not everyday words.
No, what they mean is 'how much like a cis woman are you yet?'
-which has many negative implications towards transgender identity.
Most notably it implies that trans women aren't real women which Stef certainly should be taking personally.
Technically you shouldn't ask about ones transition, unless it's someone you know is doing a full transition and are open to sharing about it with you.
Gotta remember that you are asking about a person's genitals. It's a pretty personal and private thing. For some trams people, it can be very intrusive and uncomfortable to talk about.
+hepa00lepa What?
Transwomen and Ciswomen are the same Goddamn thing. they're both on the same side of the spectrum.
If you're calling yourself a transwomen, doesn't that mean you are still transitioning? Isn't the goal to become a women in both mind and body? Ciswomen are women in mind and body.
This trans and cis bullshit really is just tumblr crap. They're science words, not everyday words. A women is a women, regardless of what sex she was born with. Obviously a women wouldn't be happy in a man's body with mens hormones so she would want to change it to a women's body. Done.
Someone's physical body, i.e. their genitals, is none of your business. It doesn't matter if you think it's "the more interesting part," it is none of your gotdam business unless the person volunteers that information.
In the future, prefixes like "trans" and "cis" might not be of much use, but right now they are VERY important. Using these labels allows us to talk about gender in a way that acknowledges the possibility of transitioning gender. For ages, you didn't talk about transitioning gender. At all. And because no one talked about it, no one identified themselves openly as "transgender", and those who were transgender kept it to themselves. They had no way to discuss the issues they were feeling. They probably never transitioned, because they didn't know they could - and if they did, they still might have refused because of societal stigma.
We are working to change this now by using terms like "trans" and "cis" to talk about gender in a way that allows for the possibility of transition. If you don't use these terms, you erase trans people, because most of society will assume they don't exist unless you mention it specifically. In most people's eyes, trans folks are an still outlier, a shock, a bit of a circus freak. We need to normalize trans people, and using terms like "trans" and "cis" helps this happen. In the future, when transitioning is a universally acknowledged concept, we can drop the terms. But, not yet. We've only just begun.
+funkyfreshwizardry Oh geez, you must be such a fun friend. I'd like to think that I don't have to be so uptight with close friends. That's just sad.
So you literally say that we shouldn't ask others about physical changes (so that we can understand more), but we should separate trans and cis people because that clearly leads to more understanding...
Yea, telling people trans men are different to cis men, is helping so much. you know, with the diecisscum movement and all.
"I apologize if this sounded condescending... but I'm feeling condescending." dying. dead. Nothing but love, Stef - keep it up :)
I don't understand why lots of people are suddenly upset for being referred to as cisgender, yet do not seem to have a problem referring to others as their respective preferred terms.
On top of that, like other comments have stated, the term carries no negative notations.
The only clear reason I personally can see for getting offended is if you aren't cisgendered.
hbird13 HAHAHA! The term “Cisgender” does carry negative connotations. Just look up Cisgender in the RUclips search bar and I can almost guarantee you that there’s gonna be shit-slinging videos against STRAIGHT (The other term for Cisgender) people out the wazoo.
It is a medically-accurate term that does not carry intrinsic negative connotations, any more than "white" or "teenager."
Oh, and straight does NOT mean cis. Non-trans gay men, lesbians, bi/pansexuals etc. are cis, transwomen who are only attracted to men are straight (regardless of what transphobes claim), transwomen who are only attracted to women are lesbian. This is just fact.
No youre wrong on that. Transwoman attracted to men are gay because sexuality is based on biological sex specifically. So therefore they are both bio male so that's considered homosexual still.
@@edzothedon1487 Caught that. Moxie Miscellany is an INDOCTRINATED person. But hey, they got half of the stuff right. Also, cisgender implies entitlement, analogous to white privilege. It has negative connotations - i. e. women and men face no hardships on the scale of trans-people.....
"What are you this time?" I love you. Lol
OML 5:07 “Stephanie the Woman”
I'm only 34 seconds in this video and I have to stop it to tell you how much I love you. I just love your humor so much!!!
things im told: so you want to be a man?
no, i _am_ a man 😐😐😐
Very worth while discussion . . . when I'm having a serious conversation about trans versus cis and encounter the cis response, "I'm normal." I often ask them what is the normative parameter that we are using to determine the conditions normal versus abnormal. I also follow that up with an inquiry as to what agreed upon standards as recognized by medical and/or scientific professionals are being applied to assess the normative state of trans versus cis. This makes for either a highly informative conversation or one that quickly becomes nonsensical.
Great conversation Stef . . .
Tea spillin so hard I got stains on my carpet !
RooFooChoo That's very sad she's a delusional communist and the most idiotic creature I've stumbled across online this year.
i just saw one of your old videos and i was like "aaand nooow im gonna watch her last video, she probably has a different voice now ayyyyee" then i clicked to this video OMG YAAEESSS LOVED THE TRANSFORMATION😍🐣
I have a quick question from your friendly neighborhood cis person: Do you think it is appropriate/respectful to ask someone you just met which pronouns they prefer? I'm not entirely sure but I figure it's better to ask than to misgender someone while they're transitioning. Thanks 😊
Yes, 99% of trans people will find this appropriate. There may be a rare exception that is offended, but they're likely not a part of my generation and etiquette changes.
Thanks so much!!!! PS I love your videos :)
I know it means the world to me when people take the time to ask. I feel respected. Some people may not feel comfortable coming out. They may be caught off guard. Not necessarily in a bad way, of course. If you get a strong reaction from someone, it might not be negative. Could be that they're just surprised that a perfect stranger cares more than their own family or friends (if that's their situation).
Someone seriously needs to make this video viral around the world. LIterally, this needs billions of views
The whole 'im cis and am okay w the word cis but i dont like being clumped with the bigots' needs to stop. If you're already an informed ally and have half a brain then you should know that 1) This message wasnt for you. and 2) no one clumps you with bigots.
I alos really have a problem with when people go "well *I* would never do anything wrong or hurtful, I'm not like all the others". well sure, maybe you're not part of an extremist hate group who beat trans people up, but most people aren't. they aren't even the biggest issue. one of the hardest parts is all the migro-aggressions, how you're treated by health care, getting stupid and invasive questions and so on. no one is perfect and I GUARANTEE each and everyone here that you have and will continue to do and say hurtful things about or to trans people.
take this as an opportunity to minimize that instead of just shifting all the blame away. take responsibility.
+eNSWE yesyesyes I love this comment so much
Thank you 😅
Ethan Pollard But what if I'm not an "ally" cause I know how terrible communism is (we just broke out of it here recently) and I'm not a bigot either. So why do I keep getting called a bigot for no reason? Playing the whole you're either with us or against us game huh? "If you believe women are equal then you're a feminist" (now changed to "If you believe women should be equal then you're a feminist" I see what you did there...) type nonsense eh? You ever going to stop before we bow down and obey your every whim? No? Vile disgusting creatures you are.
"and its been around since before your grandfather started teaching you these horrible beliefs" 😅😅 spot on girl!
Ohhhhhh my God so many cis people in the comments who want a cookie for being "not transphobic"
Truth
Is this where I get my cookie? ;)
"Transphobic" by definition is an irrational fear. People just don't support the idea of "trans".
Just because you're triggered by alternative opinions, doesn't mean you can slap labels on others. When ironically, radical liberals or certain "transgenders" dont like certain labels.
Your point becomes mute, fyi.
Points are never MUTE (nor are they verbal). They are MOOT.
XxDurazxX you're right, "transphobia" isn't irrational fear, it's irrational hate.
I'm so glad you translated cis!! I have been asking people for a full definition for ages and all I kept being told is its you are certain of what your sexuality is and I know that's not the correct definition!
Like the lady in the comments below, I can understand the ignorance of people not recognising who and what you are (I say what for the definition/label/title etc) I have arthritis in almost every joint, I have a permanent split in my thigh at the knee and I also have fibromyalgia, I now walk with a stick but even with the stick I get people tearing me like I'm faking, a neighbour constantly uses the disabled bay I use even though he's not disabled and doesn't have a badge, people will walk AT me when they see me walking towards them with my stick, I get the attitude oh your just fat, or you don't look disabled!
It's the frustration of stupid comments, bad attitude and ignorance that other people have and think they have the right to judge you over, it drives me mad!!
Honestly I was worried for a second when the video title seemed to be calling out every cis person everywhere ever. There ARE decent cis people in the world who are aware of these topics, or at least try to be as best they can.
Not saying this video is pointless though, a lot of people definitely need to hear this. But sometimes I feel like people assume I'm going to be offensive (intentionally or not) just because I'm cis.
I don't wanna be mean or anything, but shouting NOT ALL CIS PEOPLE when someone is talking about their experience of abuse and ignorance from cis people is just about the most insensitive thing possible to do in that case.
Okay, I think I see your point, but I was not intending to be insensitive, just realistic. I see cis people get called out a lot, and it's always all of them, for being ignorant, offensive, and that we need to be educated. It's frustrating. I know it's nowhere NEAR as frustrating as the actual ignorance and offense trans people put up with every day and I don't need anyone to tell me that. But frankly I believe what I said is true, and if it's mean or insensitive, well sometimes it still needs to be said.
You're right, I'm right, Stef's right...let's please leave it at that.
I don't know--I feel like if you phrase it "dear SOME cis people" the ones who are causing the harm are going to assume it's not about them (especially for well-meaning but counterproductive actions like the whole "100% a woman" thing.) I also think you're being a little unaware with the "just realistic" viewpoint--while it hurts a bit to be anonymously lumped in with a group of people that's doing some seriously uncool things, it's just not enough of a problem to start censoring marginalized people over, or taking over their space with complaints about.
I know you wanted to leave it be, but I think it needs to be said (again) that that really wasn't a cool thing to say.
I agree with part of what you said, but being lumped with an offensive group is enough of a problem for me when it happens on a nearly constant basis, which it does. Hence why I made a comment in the first place voicing my frustration. I'm not trying to accuse Stef of anything, and I'm not suggesting she change the video or anything remotely like that. But sometimes when you get a little tired of something you can't help it, y'know?
And if you want to talk about censoring, I'm the one who's been told more than once that what I said shouldn't have been said. Fine, maybe what I said wasn't the best thing to say HERE, but it still should be heard, I think.
Carl Smith
That really was what I meant--I know it gets tiring, because I have enough privilege in enough areas that I get it too--but it's the sort of thing you go home and bitch about to similarly privileged friends, you know?
I can't wait until I finally find out who I really am. Its so wonderful to see so many people who have found themselves.
If someone doesn't like to be called cis gender then everyone should respect that, in normal every day conversation it is never necessary to do so anyway so if someone says please don't call me that then that needs to be OK. how about we all just refer each other as people? if that's too hard then 'he' or 'she' will be enough.
+isa :00 What, so because a certain few disrespect you and called you things you don't like, that gives you the right to put unwanted labels on even innocent people in return? I meant to say everyone should respect everyone's choice and feelings and if someone who is transgendered is offended by being called some things then of COURSE that too should be respected, but then in return if someone finds cis gendered offensive then why can't that be respected?
omg "cis" is not a "punishment" it's a descriptive word with an unambiguous meaning that simply says the doctors made the right guess when they assigned someone's sex at birth.
it's like saying "I'm not comfortable with people saying I have brown hair" (if you have brown hair). it has no inherent value, it's 100 % purely descriptive. it's like going around saying "pls don't ever say what color someone's hair, is we are all human!!!"
Yea, but it's not an everyday word, it's a science word.
Try going around and calling people "homosapians". It makes you look like you're trying (and failing) and being a smart science guy, and is just annoying.
Also, most people just don't care if you're "cisgender" or "transgender". We don't need to be told this stuff when we meet you. It's personal, uncomfortable and awkward.
Mousy Saint I guess "trans-atlantic flight" is also too sciency for you? and "homosexual"? gee, trying to use all these latin and greek prefixes like som kind of science nerd.
the worst thing is when people say "apropos", so sciency!
also, you can tell the people who are writing discriminatory laws, the people who keep beating us up and murdering us, and the people who give us funny looks and shout slurs at us on the street to "don't care about this stuff because guess what? trans people want NOTHING MORE in the WHOLE WORLD to just go on and live our lives without cis people fucking it up. pardon us for actually talking about it and trying to come up with solutions.
eNSWE it's not the same though is it, as Mousy Saint said you're using a science word to describe something which is quite frankly unecessary. If I suddenly came up with a word that describes your brown hair, but a word you've never really heard before, maybe you'd find it annoying when people suddenly start correcting you when you answer your hair is brown. That's not really my point though, if someone asks you to stop calling them whatever, then that should be respected, heck even if it was something so simple as saying their hair is brown.
I always get so happy after watching your videos, it might be your energy and stuff, I can't really explain it, but yea, you make me, and I guess many others, happy.
I knew these things, but I could never find the right way to describe it to other people. Thank you for making sense out of thinks I know. It makes me happy to learn.
I love you so much Stef but honestly it kind of hurt when you kept saying cis people as if every cis person acts this way. I am cis, but I obviously don't feel this way towards trans people, my brother is trans, and I am loving and accepting to everyone.
Agreed.
it's hard to suddenly be the outlier. you should feel hurt by such things when you are in a position of power and privilege. this is the same with BLM issues. just because they're talking about whit epeiole or via people or any people , whom have power and have historically and abused a minority group does not mean you are directly to blame because you somewhat belong to a group. that's a selfish way to look at issues. wah wah your hurt by it. it's not about YOU, and that's the point. if you don't want to feel bad recognize that you can be different and you are not evil by association. support others as you do. you're actions dictate who you are, not you're condition.
+taxidermyrampage shouldn't*
Well said. It makes it tough to be an ally when you hear videos like this... :c And I love Stef's stuff and respect her so much, so it kinda hurts to be called a bigot just because I'm cis v.v
She clearly states that Cis people who do THIS. not the one really supportive of her and any of trans people... Don't feel attack, she did this to help Cis persons understand how it feel to be constantly ask questions that simply really say 'I don't believe you are a woman...' Some people cannot admit that 'being a woman' is in the head of the person, not in their body. Some will never admit that whanever how many times we explain that to them and so, they still ask the same questions over and over. What they do is really not 'asking' but rather 'ARGUE' with her or any trans they encounter.
See, everything in this video made so much sense that I feel like I have nothing to add, other than - great job! So two totally offtopic thoughts: I love how excited you are when the cookie alarm goes off (everyone should be so excited when the cookie alarm goes off), and as I am new to your channel, is there a tutorial on that eyebrow makeup hiding somewhere? Because it is so cool it's a bit distracting and I need it.
i love her. i cannot watch her and not laugh because she is so expressive! i just... love her. hi hi! Ok, now what i wanted to say is this; if i could take this video and edit it with sound effects, i would add a 'slap to the face sound' each time she pass her hand in front of the camera explaining something! That would be so funny that just imagining it crank me up ! hi hi!!!
A big hug & thank you not only to you, @Stef, but also to the wonderful caption authors who did an amazing job!
What a legend, way da be smart af girl. Keep up the good videos. (How were the cookies btw?)
Melty and delicious.
As a Cis person, this helped me understand trans people more! I especially liked that you explain where the words cis and trans came from, since I just hears about "cisgendered" recently and I didn't really know what exactly "cis" means. I'm really happy you make those kinda videos, I think they're very helpful for all people who want to understand other people better. Aaaand btw I'm in love with your earrings! 😍😍 where did you get them from?? :)
Oh my god her eyebrows are so amazing. And her wokeness is even more so.
olivia player OMG I love her hammerhead shark eyes. Omg hammerhead sharks are just the pinical of beauty. And if that hammerhead shark ever double crossed me I totally wouldn't say anything about how it's eyes are fucked up, or how it's not actually a girl. You know if he was your friend in real life and betrayed you, you'd say stuff like ugly bitch, a man, say something about the huge forhead, or something about the annoying voice, or something about have psychological problems. Don't pretend you wouldn't, and don't secretly think these things, cause I'm sure everyone has something they can say to their bf if their bf got out of line with them.
olivia player So you think communism's a great idea and you want to start a race war?
Steph, I was feeling pretty down but oh my word did I laugh so hard at this. Everything you said is exactly how I want to respond when I get those questions. Thank you for brightening up my day!
As a Cis-female I don't get why cis-people get offending by being called Cis
HufflepuffAngel as a trans guy I'm really glad that you don't get offended by that. Cheers fellow little bun! :)
Thank you for running this channel Stef. I've been following your videos for a couple of months now, and you taught me so much! I happened to meet a transgender girl my age very recently, and getting to know her, everything you say feels suddenly so real to me and resonates differently.
Using cis is still an insult iif you think trans is one. People are people. I'm one of the biggest supporters of LGBT that there is. Being bi and pretty sure I should have been a guy but didn't know about transitioning so woman I am.
I think you nailed the issue there; people who hate the word cisgender, or hate being called it obviously think less of transgender people so they interpret cis as an insult. Accepting the term cisgender intrinsically validates the term transgender.
You said it. There's nothing wrong with being transgender and there's nothing wrong with being cisgender. They're just words to describe people in order to have a conversation. That's why you shouldn't get offended if someone calls you cis
If you really feel like you should have been a guy, it's never too late to transition. The older you are the more likely you are to experience side effects to HRT, but the only people who will see more changes than others are preteens who have only recently started puberty.
Neither are insults, but any word can be used as an insult if it's said in the wrong way
"Im one of the biggest supporters of LGBT that there is" get the fuck off your high horse, any real lgbt supporter wouldnt make a shitty comment like this lol
Feeling very 70s/80s with this look.. LOVE
"You are so pretty, you look like a real woman!"
"Wow, I wouldn't have noticed that you were a guy once!"
"You look like such a beautiful woman,"
Yeah, shut up.
Nailing it exactly! Like how could you make this more clear and fun at the same time.
soz but I think that
cis-gender: one's physical sex is on the same side of their perceived gender, they coincide.
trans-gender: one's physical sex is on the opposite side of their gender, they oppose.
(sorry if that's exactly what you said and I didn't get it xx)
That's exactly what I said! However, I would replace "physical sex" with "assigned gender".
lol, Okay, that shiny Gyarados line won me over completely.
I did say "becoming your true self" in the past and now I feel bad :/
Hey it's okay! You had no malicious intent behind int and now you know, so don't worry about it ^^
*it
That's nice of you to say :)
+Chaosmacherin princess is right! You weren't saying it to condescend, and in sure whoever you said it to wasnt bother immensely. This may even be more of a personal thing for me. It's just wise to keep in mind!
It was you I sait it to on a picture on Instagram I think. Thanks for your reply, I'll keep it in mind.
When I opened up to my mom she tried to tell me Trans and Cis are made up words. I had to educate her about the medical aspect of trans vs. cis. I get tired of having to educate people, but it is so necessary.
By the way, you are awesome!!!
You should not have used the title that you did. You're basically grouping all cisgender people together, which is the exact opposite of what you want cisgender people to do to transgender people. You were right in the video, you were being condescending, title included.
PS: i like your earrings kbye
Something to all those people here, saying that "Cis Gender" is a "slur" of some sort.
It is the nature of language, that, when a concept gets a Phrase to discribe it, the oppisite of this concept get one too. In language a term often only gets its meaning though its opposites, without them, the term would not be definable. So, as the term "Transgender" came to be, as a effect of that, there had to be an oppisite, "cisgender", since the prefixes "trans" and "Cis" are opposites. Just like nobody had to call themselfes "straight" befor the term "gay" came to be (on a more scientific Note, Same goes with "homosexual" and "heterosexual", the prefixes here also being opposites [homo=the same, hetero=different]). So, the term "Cisgender" wasn't created as a slur. However, there are some Parts of the Trans-comunity, that use it as such, But these people Do NOT represent the hole Comunity, just as not every straight Person is a homophobe by default.
Of course it is okay, If somebody is by definition "cisgendered" But doesn't want to use that term for themselfes. I just wanted to point out, that the term by itself Was not created as a slur or something like that.
Trans means transition. How are you trans without transitioning? Not trying to be mean, but.
trans does not mean transition.
you're thinking about the physical. if you can, separate sex from gender: gender is the invisible, sex is the physical. a trans person is still trans without transitioning as they are still transitioning from the assigned gender they received at birth, just not their sex.
also male and female are not the only two genders. there are trans ppl who are gender fluid, agender, etc where for them transitioning to the opposite sex would still not fit their gender (so its not needed).
*gender and sex do not go hand in hand*
Transition and trans person are two different things honey. Listen to Stef's explanation again.
"Trans" is actually a Latin word that means "on the other side" whilst "Cis" means "on the same side", so to be put in context, Trans is to identify DIFFERENTLY to the gender you were assigned at birth, whilst Cis is to identify with the SAME gender you were assigned at birth
(I know this because in Organic Chemistry, Isomer configuration is identified as either Cis or Trans dependant on the location of the molecules functional groups, but the meaning still applies to our social contexts :)
Trans means across you pringle
* Video ends. * Nooo... come back! Tell me about the cookies you baked. PLEASE! I want cookies.
I see all these people on the internet hating on or sterotyping cis people. What's wrong with with a cis person not knowing what you're going through? Just correct them without getting super angry because they don't understand that. I totally get it if they're being offensive, you can correct them! But don't use cis as an insult or a stereotype. Thanks :)))
Stereotyping cis people are offended because cis people stereotype trans people in the first place. trans people are people. if you say 'i don't want to be call a Cis person' you are just implying trans people should be offended by being called trans people because being trans is wrong. Now how do you want to be called? Normal People as oppose to Abnormal people? that is just hypocrite. Think of where you put your values and re-evaluate yourself.
Sylvain Piche Not to beat a dead horse, but not all “Cis” people are assholes and stereotype Trans people. I’d much rather prefer to be called straight than Cis because of the negative connotations surrounding the terminology. Quite frankly, I could not give two shits whether or not someone is trans. As long as they treat me with respect, they’ll get the same in return.
whys this. A thing i read bdsjshsbdbejsjsj
Sylvain Piche Re-evaluate yourself?!? LMAO! No moron communists stir up hate and build up hate (revolutionary fire) towards the bourgeoisie (whomever the hell they don't like or opposes them) so people massacre them everywhere during the violent revolution. Just like how Nazis built up hatred for Jews... That's what the girl is talking about and that's what this is about. Nobody here said transexual people aren't people and I for one have never actually seen anyone do that ever personally. She never said she doesn't want to be called a cis person or that she's offended by it. Why do you keep putting things in people's mouths or launching on hypotheticals? Trying to build a STRAW MAN or something? You don't tell other people what they're trying to imply, specially when what you're saying doesn't even make sense. Transexuals asked to be called trans and typically use that term to refer to themselves. Who ever used the word abnormal? Who are you talking about again? If normality means the overwhelming majority of something (say people) or a mean then yes transexuals are abnormal BTW. Putting normal in front of everything that's normal is redundant and a waste of time and energy. "That is just hypocrite"? Hypocritical moron, hypocritical. Hypocrite is a noun. I could go on and on but I'm getting tired. I'll just ask this are you literally trying to show how retarded you are or are you just so bad at rhetoric your rhetoric's ending up sounding retarded?
David Cobra
You may not be transphobic, you may not believe that trans people aren't people, and good for you. We need more allies, so it's great that you're one. But if you just scroll through the comments of any of Stef's videos really, there are a lot of transphobes out there. The things that Stef talks about in the video are extremely common and I'm sure she has to deal with them all the time.
The video probably shouldn't be targeted at all cis people though, because most cis people are fine with trans people, like yourself. I understand why that aspect would be offensive to cis people because it's painting all cis people as oppressors, and they're not.
Also, I initially agreed with your comment about the normal/abnormal debate. But I looked up the definition of abnormal, and it's "deviating form what is normal or usual, typically in a way that is undesirable or worrying". So there is a negative connotation to the word abnormal, so it probably shouldn't be implied or used to describe trans people.
Good gravy I love this channel.
I love the kinda story that goes on over every video across the entire change and it's honestly very personal.
I kinda wanna thank you for making these kind of videos.
It's not hateful, but more to educate people and that's really great.
I'm not trans myself, but I am questioning my identity a lot, and all this really helps.
Stef. I am not trying to be rude, but if someone dosent want to be called cis, then dont call them it. It goes for everything. If someone is trans, you identify them how they wish to be identified. If someone dosent want to be called cis, they are obviousley not comfortable with it. just how you arent comfortable with he\him. Again not trying to be rude. p.s ilysm!!!!
she doesn't want to become he/him because they are not accurate terms.
cis is an accurate term for the majority of people. if they don't like it, they need to examine why an accurate term causes them grief.
actually their REAL pronouns reflect their gender. you calling them trannies means you need to examine why the fuck you need to be so bloody ignorant about it. get the fuck off stef's channel and don't disrespect her. you're a disgusting human being with no respect for others' wellbeing. the reason why INACCURATE pronouns cause them grief is because people like you make lives unnecessarily difficult. mind your own fucking business and don't be such a jackass.
milkweedsage issa joke, ugly rat. Stop being such an SJW.
good riddance, bigot.
That NubNub She meant people who say "I'm not cis, I'm just normal" implying that trans and non-binary people are abnormal when that's not the truth. It's normal and it happens.
You helped me realise I'm nonbinary and honestly you're amazing and I hope you're ok Stef
I'm cis...I'm bisexual...my boyfriend is transgender...I really don't know why you assume that most cis people are like this.
Grace Goldens people can be so mean .
She's not? I'm a trans guy, and I recognize that not all cisgendered people are like this. I haven't however, heard comments like these from another trans person.
OwenSøund what?? You honestly think cisgender people are rude?
OwenSøund All
This video proves that you are anyone's dream girl.
1st. Your vocabulary is on point (seriously, hearing you speak is a blessing for my ears).
2nd. You wear awesome alien earrings.
3rd. You got your cookie priorities straight.
Joking aside, thank you for this video. Honestly, I will never understand people who think trans people are delusional. How do YOU know? How can you tell people which gender they are? Are you in their MIND?
The question I always ask these people is: "Is your gender ONLY defined by your genitals, or is there any other reason why you identify as a man/woman?" It usually shuts them up, unless they feel entitled to answer and keep shooting their ignorance at my face.
I really appreciate trans folks who do what they can to educate the masses and help them understand what it means to be trans. We will never KNOW how it feels to be in your shoes, but at least we will be able to understand. Thanks!!
the only time cis bothers me is when trans people use it in a derogatory way, yes I'm cis is okay if someone for some reason points it out, but don't look down on me when I don't look down on you pls it feels bad and agressive when I try to be loving and supportive as often as I can :C
This video is really great! Very informative. I mean, I was already aware of many of these issues, but seeing someone talk about them is somehow better than reading it. Thank you so much for these videos!
STEFANI THE WOMAN
SHE IS 100% GIRL
Am I the only one that is in love with how her face is layed out ,it's actually really beautiful
lol my dad said that I needed "help."
I kind of wish he got me some so that a medical professional could just say "Yep, he's trans, you idiot."
Thank you so much for your honesty and for (what I'm sure must be frustrating at times) being an open educator. As you said, there's no excuse for cis-ignorance in my mind or household anymore!
I don't believe in gender beyond biological see or he idea of "gender identity". but I still respect people who do believe in these things.
Okay but like it's not something you believe, it's a fact. It's science.
+Megan Weber Identity is a mental thing not a biological thing and it definitely isn't scientific
hahaha, Sorry I am a big science nerd or more so Physics so pardon me if I am wrong as biology is not my strong suit, but is it not true that we now just a small percentage of the human body and mind? Science is not always just proven fact but we rely a lot on theory, hypothesis and what we assume is true until a few decades later and we find more evidence. Science is ever changing and growing, as well learn more and more. At least that is how a lot of physics works. Just a note, I am not agreeing with or disagreeing with your other points just that Science is always 100%fact. If that was the case we would no longer need research because in truth Science is the act of seeking knowledge through research and testing.
Science is so man-made and overrated....yes we can use it for many things but that mostly applies to laws that, suprise, was also made by man. A lot of it makes sense but only because we've enabled it to.... Science is most definitely not always 100% because it can't answer questions that really matter
Yeah, because science has never helped us understand how disease works so that we can develop drugs to combat them, right? I bet you won't be saying that if you get cancer and have therapy to help cure you.
OH MY GOD. Thank you for defining this damn 'cis' term!!! There are people on the internet who throw it at myself and others like it's an insult (Read: You think this way because you're cis), which, if the term refers to one side of a spectrum, implies that they don't know the term that well either, perhaps? Because when I've asked for definitions, they just say "You're heteronormative" or something to that effect, and that's just not true about me. It just feels like a huge mess of "I'm gonna throw a term at you in order to define your argument into irrelevancy," and that doesn't really help...
Okay.....transgenders are thriving in THIS day and age, (the age where EVERYONE gets offended by EVERYTHING) and to some people, transgender's a new to them. So how can you possibly expect someone to automatically know how to approach the situation? Do you get offended when someone says "Are you fully transitioned yet"? You shouldn't, because it's a new thing for all of us. I fully support you and all transgenders, but you can't assume everyone will know how to approach them.
That is not the issue friend. There is a way to ask a question to someone when you want to do it without implying they are crazy. That is the issue here. I love people who ask me question about transition, i hate people asking me question that already contain a form of agressivity and i feel they are more 'Arguing already' then actually wanting to understand... Do you understand the difference?
y y that is ok. i don't want friends who judge people so easily anyway. And you are sending money to a lot of weirdos, just look at our gouverment and you can pick a few... i will run 100 times faster from a politician than a trans person. At least my friendship will count for a trans...
A shiny Gyarados? That is the nicest thing I've heard all day. :)
this is a bit generalizing. (is that a word? i hope it is. im not english) point is, im not comfortable with this. cause im not an idiot, like the people Stef mentiones, but the title still says cis people...and im one. im confused. #canyounot
it wasn't mean literally, there's a video format that is widely used that follows a "dear X people" and refers to only the problematic people of the referenced group. Unfortunately, not everyone knows this so it's natural to assume she means all cis people, which she doesn't.
now that you mention, i saw those, BUT. i think just because there is a video title going around, not everyone is in on the meaning. its lesser-known to the outside world. someone who havent been watching youtube for like years and saw those, probably will just come here and vomit hate. but i guess there is a line where youtubers are just people and dont give a fuck what others will say and post things anyway, because you cant just be tippy toeing and pleasing everyone all the time. i kinda made myself understand this :DDD (does what im saying makes any sense? Xd im second guessing myself even tho i know english)
Why do you act like a victim?? Shes calling out transphobic people and you gotta make it all about yourself, instead of focusing on the actual issue.
yt girtablulu because the wording of the video title makes it seem as if she's calling out all "cis" people for being transphobic of course people are going to feel offended.
if the hat fit, wear it. if not, it is not your concern at all. if you feel offended, maybe it is because you don't really support trans people. You just think you want to do it but don't really accept your own target values yet. like, you know it is the right way, but, you still have a part of you who don't.
"You are a shiny garados." Me: *subscribes*
The problem with cis is that its used, in some cases, as a derogatory term. Labeling each other like this is just divisive. We are all people and everyone is transitioning in some way. That's what life is about. Being trans or cis or whatever shouldn't be what defines you.
Anthony B. Being divisive is not always a bad thing, being trans is apart of what defines me. Its shaped who I am today.
Any human: "little bun"
Me: >:(
Stef: "little bun"
Me: :)
When the egg is fertilized by a sperm, the sperm is either carrying XX chromosomes or XY chromosomes. If the sperm carried XY chromosomes, the fertilized egg becomes a male embryo. If the sperm carried XX chromosomes, the egg becomes a female embryo. Simply saying that you ARE a woman does not make you a woman.
I know that, in this day and age of moral relativism, it's become standard to demand that whatever we say we are is what we are. By that logic, if I say I am a fire hydrant then I automatically am a fire hydrant. I don't look like a fire hydrant and I wasn't born as a fire hydrant but, because I say I am a fire hydrant, everyone around me has to refer to me as such. If not, I will claim offense.
Gender is not defined by physical characteristics
Francesca Albans I know that is what the lunacy of the Left wants you to believe.
That's what sex you are, gender is what you want to be identified as
Yeah, I know that is the narrative the Left is pushing now.
+Kelly Marie oh okay :)
Okay this entire video was amazing like, amazing but the cookie part was the part was probably the thing that made me really happy cuz it reminded me that I have cookies and I was trying to think of what to eat cuz food
2:29 but if they say "I'm normal" they are kinda true. I mean in the end of the day being trans is still a disorder that's why trans people go to therapy because of their gender dysphoria.
Not trying to be rude but I think you are being unfair right now.
cis is common and trans is uncommon, nothing about normalness
"Transgenderism is an ideology and a lifestyle particular to our culture today."
What do you mean by "transgenderism"? Being transgender is not a matter of choice (as you mention, in fact) like other -isms.
And I think you'll find that Native Americans/First Nations knew about and accepted trans people (Two-Spirits) hundreds of years ago. Same for ancient India, even imperial China at one point.
I love watching your videos! Your sense of humor is fantastic and you are so informative :D
Giiirrrlll you are funny!!!! I guess this is meant to be educational but you just have this sarcastic sound to your voice that makes it quite funny to watch. And although I've learnt nothing(because I already know all this stuff) this was very enjoyable to watch. Thank you!
wow girl, this is the second video i've watched from you, the first one was from a year ago. the transition you've made is amazing. you sound so feminin and look as well. that's great, you look beautiful and I respect you so so much! btw your hair is cool as well, that white stripe? amazing! looks freaking awesome, and those awesome blue eyes? Freaking love it! And I know why but so what? you're just cool!
The way you explain things is awesome! You would be a great Teacher! The world needs more teachers that explains things several different ways like you!
I just watched your warden burg syndrome video AND THE VOICE DIFFERENCE IS AMAZING
over the course of your videos since you have been taking the hormones, you can visibly tell a difference in your appearance, your voice, and I even feel like you are much more.. I don't want to say yourself, but much more open? I guess you could say. this is actually a truly spectacular transformation to get to follow.