Abstinence | Is it Worth it? Sex talk PART 1
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The pressure we put on girls is honestly sickening. Most girls grow up and think that they've failed in life as women, if they aren't married or have kids. I teach my daughter to be okay with whatever life has for her and whatever she chooses.
Yes!! We’re going to get into that more next week!
Is abstinence worth it? You dont have to worry about being tricked into manipulation from his magic stroke. Dont get used and dumped like trash. No unwanted pregnancy. No STDs. No ruined reputation. No regret. No sex tape or blackmail. No ruined relationship with God. The list goes on and on. Hope this reaches someone.
You know that is interesting that you say that. When I hit my 40s I felt like a total failure. Just got asked on Sunday if I had any children which I do not at this time. I have thought oh I messed up my life pretty bad since I am not married or have children at this point.
Honestly sexual abstinence is actually hard as a Christian esp in this generation people idolize sex and say a lot of things like oh if yall don’t have sex he doesn’t love you I’m js like ummm… And honestly seeking for God and staying focused on the word and praying really helps
Amennn
I practiced abstinence for 5 years and it was the best decision. I built a better relationship with myself and became discerned about sharing my body and soul tying.
It’s such a beautiful thing. The clarity that it givesss!
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Yea I’m on year 3 and I agree. Sex clouds judgment and definitely creates soul ties with people who didn’t even deserve our time
I'm on month 4, out of circumstance really but I'm beginning to desire to treat and offer it as a sacrifice and worship to God. I should journal more because I just heard myself talk to myself.
I got married at 29 and had our first child at 31 and 2nd at 32. I saw friends get married and I thought "when is mine coming?" But like you said "there is beauty in the waiting." I was celibate for 3 years before I met my husband...celibacy is the key. No one deserves to have your body but the person you're married to. It's never too late to start your celibacy journey. New sub here. Great video. #God1st
I love how you guys don't interrupt each other, I'm working on active listening and letting someone speak out their complete thoughts and you guys are amazing examples of this ! New fave podcast 😊
Thank you!! I am also learning this lol I find myself speaking over him more when I don’t agree with what he’s saying 😂 still working on it but thank you!! 🥰🥰
@@OnlyOneJess😂
I'm working on it to..it's so hard for me. I'm be frustrating the hell out myself sometimes that I have to meditate😂
I like the way Jonathan lets her finishes her sentences before he starts his. That's a man who respects his girl. Love that
Since Jessica is uncomfortable with calling it a podcast. Just call it Conversations with Jon and Jess😊
That's cute!
Yeah I like this
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i am in my waiting season, and omg its not for the weak, waiting requires a lot of special GRACE . i enjoyed every bits of this video thank you guys
Really and truly! Your feelings are valid, keep pushing through sis! ❤️
It’s definitely not for the weak lol I feel that
I got married at 25 and I would definitely say the person I was at 25 and the person I am now at 34 are sooooo different. We had to grow up together which caused a lot of unnecessary heartbreak and drama. Even though we dated for four years prior to getting married, I definitely wish we waited a little longer.
Totally agree. 14 years
I hate when people say 30 is old when it comes to getting married, having kids, starting a career, etc. But God forbid a person dies at 30 now they’re too young to die, gone too soon, etc. People got to realize it’s ignorant to attach age to important milestones in life, better you do things at the right time vs doing it wrongfully and hating it‼️
Girl haha I understand! I should’ve been abstinent. I tried after being in a relationship with my husband for years I moved back home with my parents for like 4 months because living together while trying to abstain??? IMPOSSIBLE! The Lord dang near took my whole lust problem away! It was awesome lol, then I backslid but y’all the Lord will NEVER forsake you! Keep leaning on Him and His living word and He will PROVIDE!
I approve this messageeee 🫶🏾
@@OnlyOneJess I’m glad sis! When I found your channel and you said you were waiting for your husband it gave me so much hope that I could rewait! Regardless of how many times I fell I kept leaning! That takes some Jesus strength for sure! Very inspiring! 😁
I have literally typed black married christian podcast into RUclips lately and the options are few and far between. Thank you for deciding to start a podcast.
Thank you for watching 🥹🩷
Have you heard of the How Married Are We podcast. The Love Hour/Married be Hard podcast. The Everything is We podcast. And Is This Going to End Up in an Argument podcast as well. All black and all Christian.
30 minutes with the Perry’s is life changing.
@@brianad.2542loveeeeee The Perrys! Jackie and Preston are anointed.
I totally was feeling the same way you were feeling Jess. I was like, God, are you hearing my prayers, I want my husband. I finally understand he was molding me for his perfect timing. I did get married at the age of 32, and I have been married for 13 years. I am glad God did it in his timing.
Im virgin and 26, i feel happy that way.
Saaaammee
Jess, I love how you mentioned that you didn’t wait well during your waiting period. I appreciate honesty and transparency because folks be out here lying and shaming folks knowing they didn’t have patience either. This is why I love your content
Ngl, I needed this video. As a young person trying to be a good Christian and trying to wait on God but also being anxious about finding love and getting married and buying a house and having my life together. I’m only 22 and saving myself for marriage and am in the process of purchasing my first home BUT ITS SO HARDDDDD. To trust God and to wait on him when sometimes I feel like I’m so far from him I need him to come thru for me NOW. You guys inspire me so much and your union is blessed and beautiful, thank you guys so much for being honest and vulnerable and for sharing your experiences with us ❤
😭 thank you for this message! Being 22 and buying a home is such an accomplishment! Stay pressed in to Gods word, he has an amazing plan for your life ❤️
Every abstinence video I’ve watched in the past was very cliche and/or cringy to listen to. However, this was raw and refreshing. Thanks for y’all transparency and realness.
I'm glad you mentioned that there is purpose in singleness. There are tons of things I've done during this time that I wouldn't have been able to do. I've traveled a lot, lived in different states, and pursued some dreams I've had without having to be accountable to another person. Plus, I think it can help you to understand that you are not defined by marriage. It gives you more of a sense of self if you do the work.
There is too much desperation around getting married which is freighting because people aren’t rushing to compromise and sacrifice as fast as they want to get married which is 1,000,000% what marriage is about. I’m married… I didn’t get married until I was 33 and I didn’t feel anyway about it. When I was younger I cared more but as I got older, I truly worried about it less and less. Age is just a number. The culture of rushing people into such huge life changing decision which inevitably lead to children has to stop. Too many people are creating their lives around what people say is ideal when God should be the only entity we care about regarding how our lives should go!!
I practice abstinence been doing it for 10+ years now. I will keep it up until I find the one
I love it!
I'm so grateful that you both decided to start this podcast during this time in my life where I've really been looking for advice from a Godly couple on relationships
Jess and Jonathan I LOVE THIS topic. I am one who waited on marriage before having sex and ppl around me thought I was lying and couldn't understand why my husband through with it. It is amazing how society has turned waiting to be such taboo and impossible. Honestly, as hard as it was I am glad we waited even though for me I always said "I can't miss what i never had". But you said something about getting tired of waiting and tried to "help" God and that is something I struggle with daily. My struggle is because I never know whether I am trying to help God or I am doing what the scripture says when it says "faith without works is dead". How can one know the difference? How do we know when we are overstepping and when we are just working our faith??
That is amazing sis! Big ups to you and your husband for making it through! For me I feel like when i was trying to “help God” I knew what I was doing was wrong and that this wasn’t the way also knew that I was supposed to be waiting and sitting still. But that is a really great question I feel like we can expand on that in an upcoming video! Thank youuu ❤️
My sis me and you both. I'm always shook at how the society finds it impossible for a person to be a virgin at 22 years old. I'm like yoh! 😮 Being a virgin or abstaining at a certain age is a taboo nowadays. Clap once👏
29 mins in, sitting on my bedroom floor, with my journal, and my Bible. Feeling everything you are saying about the beginning of the wait 😩. This blessed me 🙏🏽 Thank you
What we call waiting, God calls it patience… and He's very big on it. This is an amazing podcast! Thanks Jessijon
So true! I have to remember that because I have felt I did it totally wrong.
I have been abstaining all my life and i am in my 30s, it hasn't't been easy. With peer pressure and being told my standards are too high😂 Funny thing is every time i tried to lower my standards it didn't end well. I've been in relationships that didn't work out cuz I didn't want to have sex and you see them married to the person that chose to have sex I guess. I've heard lots of things growing up like cuddling and making out kinda makes up for sex. Did that and it messed up my head and relationship with God and the guys would always want more after that so, I'm at the point where I'm done. I'm sticking to my principles on abstinence and I'm not lowering my standards for anybody.🙌🏻🙌🏻 I believe the right person is on his way and I'm willing to wait because I know God's plans for my life are sure. He said to me "Don't worry I'm going to make a name for myself through your life and I believe Him. Everyone has a choice. Premarital sex clouds your judgment and can ruin your life.
Jesus said it won't be easy, but He will always be there with you. JUST TRUST HIM 100%🥰
Honestly this was needed, we can not have too much of this topic cause really WAITING is hard it doesn't matter on what you're waiting for the human in us just doesn't like it
Y’all I NEEDED this today Tysm😭🙏🏾
That message. And that set up!! Here for it
Thank you so much for being real about how it feels when we’re waiting!! I loved this!
Jess thank God for you and you husband. Your approach to this conversation is absolutely the most relatable way I have heard this conversation and it’s really encouraging me. Thank you so much!!
This has been so powerful on so many levels. Not only as it relates to relationships but life in general. Thanks for being open. You guys are a blessing🙏🏾🥰
This blessed my soul! Y’all should continue to do this. Thank you for your vulnerability 🙏🏽
Going to rewatch this a couple times. Great vid!
This is very timely. I'm so glad that you guys are sharing your experience to help other young Christians like myself. Thanks Jess and Jonathan.
Jess and Jonathan-this was such a good topic. I loved that the gems y’all gave could apply to an individual or couple in a waiting season for any particular thing. I think it’s so important to remind ourselves of Philippians 4:11 and LEARN to be content in whatsoever state we are in. And I feel like the learning happens during the waiting season. My everyday prayer is “Lord if it is for me, bless it and if it is not for me, block it.” And I definitely feel like God has a sense of humor because I feel like I’ve been at a never ending block party, lol. But in all seriousness, I don’t want to be like the children of Israel and turn a 4 year journey into 40 years. Lawd knows I ain’t got that kind of time. Great job on this topic and I’m anxiously awaiting the next one!
thank you so much! and yes contentment is so important!!
This popped up just when I needed it . I stared watching yesterday and got busy but I’m back to finish. I don’t think y’all are crazy I believe these boundaries need to be set as well, no car , nor spending night alone , people have to always be there… dates have to be in public places 😆 I love it !! Been watching you since 2016 💛
I’m 43 and I just learned a lot but it’s on time. I wish I had this kind of talk when I was younger, it’s never to late. Thank you for sharing 😊
Come On and Jess and Johnathan 🎉🎉🎉. This is needed, especially for Christians. I love how yall always ask God and he is ordering y’all steps. ❤❤
Ok backdrop! This looks so good. Sis call it the podcast it is. It's gonna flourish once you start believing in it more 🌱
the microwave analogy >>>> "dont stop short in the waiting!!!" this was a blessing!!! God bless you both
Much needed covo!! Thank you both ❤❤✌🏾
Thank you guys so much for this! Definitely right on time for me!!!!
Crucial statement! “ I am what God says about me. So, when I’m not acting like HIM, I am not acting like myself” 👏🏾
Mr. and Mrs. Wallace...thank you very much for these words of wisdom....there is always someone who can benefit from encouragement during the wait and this time the encouragement was for me.
I appreciate you guys and I declare God's continued blessings and favor upon you both and upon your union, as you use this platform to edify His people. ❤
I love these vlogcast Jess!! Keep them coming the conversation is so good. Thanks for this talk, cause I’m here waiting for him to send this husband and whew😅 I’m getting tiyadddd
Thank you for this you guys. I needed this so much! ❤😊
Gods timing is always so perfect. I truly needed to hear this conversation 💛❤
I really thoroughly enjoyed this podcast! Please keep them coming.
I picked up some awesome advice and tips from you and Jonathan. Thanks for sharing and may God continue to bless your union 😊
Girrrrl!!! God truly blessed you with Johnathan. He is so in tuned to his faith and he has so much insight on life. When he said that you wouldn't have been able to do the things that God prepared you to do unless you waited, girl, it made me shiver. He is more saved than he thinks he is and God truly speaks through him. God bless the both of you and your marriage. Yeah and start the podcast. Call it what it is. You two can inspire a lot of young folks.
Love that. “When we think God is holding back from us it’s because in the waiting he wants to do something in us! Trusting his character that he has good gifts for his people. Great word 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Great example of waiting at the end Jess, you definitely snapped on that one. ❤
Just beginning the video, I’m 35 & it’ll be 10 years in February of me walking with JESUS and also abstaining until marriage. Thankful for this season of purification and wisdom, while growing in Christ.💎🙌🏽 Just coming across you all from the clip of y’all’s video from the wedding of the Flower Bros🌹(😆🔥💃🏽). May GOD continue to bless you both!♥️
Yoooo, hold on, Jonathan is preaching !! this is blessing me !!!
You all have NO IDEA...NO IDEA how this has blessed and encouraged me! I'm speechless God IS faithful ❤🙏🏾
Omg Jess not you shouting me out!! Love this video & could relate to it so much. Really needed!
Hey sisss! So appreciated your feedback, thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️🥰
I adore this series and the two of you!
Thank you!! 🥹❤️
This is an awesome ministry you guys are building here, for the future generation especially. Keep it up!
I can definitely agree with Jess and Johnathan. After letting it go and enjoy life with God. Traveling and spending time with friends is one of the things I enjoyed the most😊
I wish I did that more before! Then again none of us had money so we couldn’t go no where but now o have money but don’t want to leave my husband for 4 girls trips a year 😭😂😂
I love these talks you guys have especially from a christian standpoint. Thanks for starting the podcast. I can also relate with you Jess on what you were saying even if im alittle younger than you are (27), but i try to think about the positive side to it that probably i wasnt ready mentally or the person God had in mind for me wasnt ready mentally. So in the mean time i kept working on myself mentally, emotionally and spiritually and then i finally met the person i believe God meant for me. We're not married yet but i do see it happening in the near future and abstaining all through practicing that self control.
Yes I thank God for the wait because I was such a mean and angry person back then. I’ve changed so much in the past 5 years. Also my husband is younger so he def wasn’t ready lol God knows what he’s doing, he’s got us 🥰❤️
This whole messaging was received, just when I thought God couldn’t hear me this word came . Thank you both may God continue to keep you in His hands
Love the PODCAST(yes you can call it that lol)
The microwave analogy was spot on!!!!!!! It literally made so much sense and explained everything you guys were talking about in a way that was easy to understand and relate to.
Ok consistency 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Love this series y'all have started 👌🏾
Thank youu 🥰
I truly believe we should be waiters for God as we wait on Him. Not only in the word, but in ministry. Being active for God while your waiting on Him makes the wait less painful.... not sure I'm articulating my point effectively lol. Thank you for these conversations. Much needed and appreciated!
It’s very commendable the way in which you approach this topic. People will gravitate toward you more because you both have given such good advice, encouragement and hope for the future.
Thank you for sharing and can hardly wait for the next one.
Thank you so much! 🥹
I love that you guys continued these conversations because I think having your perspectives on life and Christianity is so necessary because both of you are very relatable. Even from the prior videos, Jonathan was the first person I’ve heard articulate being the partner with no peace and deciding to leave even when you love them. And you look beautiful as always Jess❤
Thank you so much! 🤍🤍
Oooh i felt that “glance at the bible app” 😂 yall got me. Im gonna start being intentional and setting quiet time. Jess, That microwave food analogy was 🔥
❤❤❤❤❤ this was soooooo in time!!!!
Such a powerfully encouraging and vulnerable video. This will bless many. Blessings in the waiting, God bless you both🙏🏽
Come through WISDOM....YAAAASSS.... I LOVE This!!! Look at you and Jonathan walking in your PURPOSE. Praise THE MOST HIGH...I am SO PROUD OF YOU TWO!!!!
Funny you mentioned the Children of Israel at 36:12 Jess, you and Jonathan ARE the CHILDREN OF ISRAEL Wait for it Beloved, he will confirm it in your spirit...Okay, I'm going to go back to watching now, LOL
Oh let me get my tea and blanket ☺️. Perfect way to unwind for this already long week 🫶🏾
lol yess get cozy for this one
❤❤❤❤❤ loving the consistency
This was so on point and very timely. Thanks for sharing! 🙏🏽
Hey Jessica, thank you soo much for Being so honest about how you dealt with your singleness, I felt like I was going crazy at one point in this single life. I felt like no one understands. However even though I am not married, yet, the storm has calmed down.
It's good to know that someone else struggled in the same way I do, when I feel like God is in fulfilling his promise to me.
🗣️🗣️ COME ON WALLACES ! This was right on time 😭🙏🏾
You two are amazing people!
This podcast came at just the right time. Love the points you both gave and thanks for sharing your journey. I appreciate it. I love your channel ❤
I love this…I can listen to you guys for hours. Make this a thing please 😊
Jess, I see why you love Jonathan so much...he is so solid and transparent. You are blessed.
I’m praying for you two that God give you everything you need to share with us……I appreciate you two as a young married couple……I’ve been married 24 years and it definitely wasn’t peaches and cream but keeping God ahead was the most important….thank you Jonathan and Jess I hope and pray that you keep this going love you two 🥰🥰🥰🥰🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Yall better PREACH!!!! JESS !!! the hot chicken and rice analogy was clutch!!!
Thank youuu! 🥰
It's how candid she is🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣girl, you're literally encourage me, coz society, especially Africa!!!!it's crazy the pressure they put on women
The microwave analogy was so good!
Jess looking so pretty like usual🙌🏾😍
Lean in! I’ve got it!! Thank you both and God bless!
@OnlyOneJess This is awesome From young adults! Just know the process that you and Jonathan went through was not only for you but to be used as testimony to be able to help others! God calls you blessed beyond measure! Keep Up the Good work and Continue to pray for one another and the hedge of Gods protection of your marriage!
Thank you Jess. The LORD knows I needed this message at this time. Wow. God is so AWESOME! It was like you were reading what’s inside my head girl. Thank you both for being Open and Transparent. God bless y’all. 😇
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Wooowwww Jess!! God is using you lol this has been me and I feel like God said who yet, I’ve been over here like well when You’re ready I’ll “slide over there” 😂 so this is confirmation to chill out and properly give it to God 😅 thank you both for sharing your experiences yet again lol Jonathan came through with that “strength for the next step” 🫰🏾🫰🏾
I loved this so much 🥺❤️❤️
I love the microwave analogy!!!
I actually loved you calling it a “vlogcast”.
Needed this, perfect timing ❤
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I really love this couple( i loved Jess 1st though) and their content is so real…. I smiled, i cried, i laughed… i love this podcast, keep them coming❤🙌🏾🔥
😂😂😂 thank you for the clarification! 🩷🩷
Yea cause i feel wer you were coming from but i think it’s safe to say….. it’s a podcast…. unless you come up with a upscale name for it🤷🏽♀️ or just a chit chat with JESS&JON
Its a podcast sis and I am here for it. 😂 Love you guys advice.
I rewinded Jonathan saying “going through a tough time “ 9 times already 😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭😭crying ! Y’all are hilarious 😂
I agree Johnathan. There's beauty in singleness.
This is timely and really blessed my soul!!! Through you, God is giving me strength to continue to hope and trust in him because I can relate to everything you shared and I am actually going through it now. Thank you so so so much and may God bless you abundantly. 😊
Thank you!! 🥹❤️
Jess ATE (hehe) with the food analogy. As a foodie it definitely hit harder😮💨
😂😂😂 thank you!
Not Jess giving us back to back great content..❤.God bless you Jess❤ Jonathan ❤
Thank youuuu! 🥰
This was absolutely beautiful podcast and I absolutely love this channel many Blessings to You Guys❤❤❤❤❤
Wow i loved hearing his perspective about not hearing from God initally .. and waiting , johnathon really had to go out on faith . It was really refreshing to hear it isnt always a straight answer 🙏 and waiting helped him grow . Going through this myself needed to hear that
Its also intresting how alot of times God will confirm to one person and not the other lol
When you're doing it yourself, you're delaying God's hand...that's from experience. This is great wisdom y'all, thanks for sharing your experiences 💕