Thoughts on Abstinence & Celibacy
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- Опубликовано: 23 фев 2021
- I keep getting asked about this, so I give my answer in this video.
To summarize, I don't really have an opinion on whether or not people should experiment with abstinence. It's entirely up to the individual.
However, I HAVE noticed that people approach it in different ways, some with much more success than others.
Some essentially refrain from any kind of sexual activity, but still let their minds to dwell on those thoughts. Not to mention that it's hard to avoid the hypersexuality in media (sex sells, as they say). The idea is to channel the sexual frustration you have into productivity or some kind of life improvement.
While it's debatable whether or not this approach has merit, it DOES seem to result in the significant side-effects. Anecdotally, I notice a preoccupation with sex, extreme aggression, and moodiness with individuals that go down this path.
And more interesting (and more difficult) approach, in my opinion, is to abstain from sexual thoughts. This seems to be the approach taught in some monasteries and religious practices. This develops less frustration and also gives us the benefit of training our minds to focus on what we choose, not what we are given.
Anyway, as usual, that's just my opinion. Like I said at the beginning, you can choose to abstinent or not. I respect your choice either way. I'm not recommending one over the other.
Hope everyone is doing well!
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Monday's video was delayed for kind of a silly reason. I had about 2 hours to film before the sun set, and I cut my finger on a piece of broken glass. It was nothing serious, but I couldn't move around too much without reopening the wound and dripping blood everywhere. By the time it was healed enough, the sun had set, haha. Blame it on my clumsiness.
Today, I had to choose between doing this video or a 59-second video on knee pain. I went with this, but the knee pain video will be filmed later today!
it might sound weird but if you get a cut, superglue it. I've done this for years and it keeps it from opening up, and it heals faster.
Poor Hampton 😂 wrap you in bubble wrap! We love no matter what you make! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Take care 😊
@@morbius768 The heck. Just like in Vietnam O_o
Dont worry about it! Life happens. That’s something you taught me 😉❤️
**Sees a extra curvy tree**
“Yo that kinda looks like a-“
Hampton: It’s just a tree
“It’s just a tree”
Is that Sasha ?
@@meenapatil9377 no, it’s Sa *ha* sha
@@meenapatil9377 no more sasha pls :(
That tree was extra T H I C C, tho.
@@loveyourself.8870 r.i.p potato girl
This man radiates a calming aura
He has mastered the extra positive ultra instinct
what can we say, he's the bob ross of exercise
hello my friends!
@@Splitstrike_00
And it makes it even better that Bob Ross used to have long hair before he kept that perm.
As a musician... I gotta say it’s mostly the music creating this “aura”
The thing I like about Hampton is unlike other fitness channels he is not at all arrogant and doesn't have the hyperinflated ego of so many fitness youtubers.
Might I point you to Jeff Cavaliere?
@@Al_Gore_Rhythmn I'll check him out. Thanks for mentioning.
@@Al_Gore_Rhythmn Actually ik exactly who you are talking about and yes I like him also
@@Al_Gore_Rhythmn Hampton and Cavaliere are excellent.
Jaxblade look him up
Guys if Hampton is this wise now, he will be the first person to reach master yoda levels within his lifetime.
Yoda wasn't wise. Palpatine was literally his friend. My small green dude had no idea palpatine was a sith 😂
He is already 90 years old.
He'll become master oogway
All those intelctuals, philosophers who write one book a year on societies problems yet to me they always seem disconnected from the societies.
.....
Just a thought
@@ConstructiveMinds100 me intelctual me have big brein
We all need one friend like HAMPTON. All positive
Edit : woahhh thanks for 2.8k likes
We all need several friends like Hampton. But then again, he's a rare kind :)
Couldn’t agree more
I'm happy to have friends like you all.
All positive is a little extreme for me, I am sure Hampton also has days when he's not 100%. That said, everyone deserves a person like Hampton in their lives
Desparately!
Hampton looks like he'd explain to you how to hide a dead body in a very friendly and entertaining short video
More like he would talk you down and help examine why you want to bump off the person in the first place. Then he would help you get centered and find an emotionally healthly way of dealing with that person day to day.
"Hello my friends! Today, I murdered my annoying neighbor. And Id like to share with you how to properly dispose of the body, so that you may continue on with your life. Have a beautiful day!"
@@endcycle2502 lollll omg
@@endcycle2502 "Now, some of you might not be at that stage yet, and that's perfectly ok! What you want to do is find a level of violence that you are comfortable with and that feels challenging, and then gradually work your way up!"
@@marredcheese OMG LMFAOO
I went from complete f-boy to abstinent and I can tell you from experience life is so much more enjoyable when you don't view other people as a quick play toy.
I'm in a similar way and I agree 100%! Now I understand what 'free' means in a much deeper way. Sexual urges and our all-consuming pursuit thereof (to prove ourselves or... what?) can really chain you up. Feels good knowing I can look for a wife and treat women as such and not, as you say, a play thing.
But you need to be an abstinent not to see people as a "quick play toy"?
@@blanqui2040 I wouldn't say so, but I think many people are (I was) completely unbalanced by just trying to get laid. That was my measure of success. For me the best way of getting back in balance was completely removing that from the equation. And just from my experience it feels really good, I don't want to go back. Obviously when I find a girlfriend and we have dated for a few months (at least) I can review that, but casual sex (including getting handsy etc.) is a no thanks from me.
@@ObsessedAwe I do understand that. My point is it should not be necessary to go from one extreme to the other, and it is dangerous to mistake a sexually active life with using sex inappropriately or being addicted to it.
I believe that neither should be claimed because society would end up bringing "shame" to the one that is stigmatised and not claimed or "trendy". I have been within organised religion and this issue is something they always use to vindicate their beliefs, for example. Everyone should be able to live the lifestyle they choose, free from judgement.
If we got rid of all the taboos about sex no one would live a life in which "the more I get laid, the more successful I am".
Sorry for my English
I'm proud of you fam
As a single man for almost 2 years now, no big deal : I don't miss sex.
But man... I miss cuddles and the feeling to be alone in the World with someone so much.
Cuddles are some of the best things in this earth
Thanks for confirming what I already know to be true!
I just miss hugs tbh. Just a good 30-second hug. T^T
I miss the intimacy, but learned that the "now let's go be alone together" bit was a dangerous mindset. All of my best relationships actually led me to engage with people more and doubled my circle of friends. The ones that weren't so great usually revolved around staying in every single weekend. I could do that with the former when nothing else interested us that weekend, and it was pleasant, but not healthy when it stopped being the exception.
I feel u
Me, who is single: ah yes abstinence
It still includes not jerkin it, which single guys (like me) would do a lot. I’ve been one to get pretty addicted to things and it was pretty bad for my mental health and self esteem. I do feel a bit of sexual frustration but I’m not one to try and dwell on it.
Yeah, exactly...🙄
@UZI I suppose I was just speaking more from a guys perspective but yeah Im sure they do! I generally hear its not as common for girls to do it, but that doesnt necessarily mean their perspective is any less important.
Wth you guys, girls don’t do that! Just like how they don’t poop!
@@OilCityChoppa girls don’t pee
Im not first, im not last, but when I see Hampton i click FAST!!!
I'm honored! I try to respond to as many people as I can from the notification squad.
Thanks! I try to be early but my phone doesnt show any notifications so I have to rely on my recommendations for your videos.
Yea I’m watching this at 5:30 before school great start to day
bars
Just joined the squad
I recall one professional baseball coach saying that the problem wasn't his players having sex the night before a game, but them staying out all night looking for sex the night before a game.
WHEN THE IMPOSTER IS SUS 🏳️🌈❌🏳️🌈❌📮📮📮📮📮📮📮📮📮
@@D0p3seller stfu
Having sex without releasing is called tantric sex which can balance your masculine and feminine energy boost testosterone help you manifestations and if your partner has good energy it will transfer over to you sex is not a bad thing it's only bad if you release or if you have a partner that has bad energy but if they're at a high vibration it's not bad at all just make sure you don't release so you hold your life force energy even Kevin Gates came out and said that sex is good when you don't release there's benefits that Google won't even tell you because they don't want you to know sex is one of the most healing things ever but like I said they have to have a high vibration
😂😂😂
As usual these mofos are desperate af. 🤣
He worries about every single person in the virtual room and doesnt want to offend anyone.
So simple and yet so rare to find nowadays
You, my friend, are an amazing human
talks about the problems of life, teaches us to be healthy both in the mind and body, gives us advice, gives off a calm aura and has comedic timing, we all need a buddy like hampton.
Yeah we all need a buddy like him
If you don't have one, become one
Well said man
@@Davidamp well replied man
Having sex without releasing is called tantric sex which can balance your masculine and feminine energy boost testosterone help you manifestations and if your partner has good energy it will transfer over to you sex is not a bad thing it's only bad if you release or if you have a partner that has bad energy but if they're at a high vibration it's not bad at all just make sure you don't release so you hold your life force energy even Kevin Gates came out and said that sex is good when you don't release there's benefits that Google won't even tell you because they don't want you to know sex is one of the most healing things ever but like I said they have to have a high vibration
I love this guy, in a world where fakery is so prevalent and parasitic, his videos are so genuine and grounding!
What if it’s fake too, but you and most of just like this vibe
Ifunny has changed him for the better :) so proud of him
@@prathamsunuwar4756
Well even if it was fake, it's fake for a good cause, to make people happy.
ikr
@@prathamsunuwar4756 brother please don’t do this on this channel
I love how this guy never judges anyone’s opinions and always talks about both the negative and positive sides of things, rather than just ranting about everything bad of one side of an argument like so many people on the internet. He’s such a genuine person
Gratitude
I love how the sky changes while he's talking
I didn't even notice...that's a neat touch he threw in!
This guy has the most comforting energy, I can’t explain it
He’s like a virtual hug (^_^)
You should watch Paul Davids guitar lessons
@@yunhianban444 lol
I feel like he’s truly happy and a complete man. Very admirable.
10/10
*Takes a walk in the woods*
“It’s just a tree. It’s just a tree.”
😂
you kid but i still remember living in a german town and them having the issue that people were sticking their winnies in them trees lol
Thank god this wasn't posted in November, that tree was hella thick.
@@pablogonzalez9731 that’s how you train the muscle down there
@@milkmaster8311 lol. Make it tough like rock
The beginning of all bad choices and decisions starts with lingering on them in your thoughts. Control your thinking and your body will follow. I can't express how much respect I have for this man.
Used to think "man, it's super easy and useful to be abstinent, I should tell all my friends"
turns out I'm just ace
sorry friends
lmao same
Yeah✋
Yo same 😂
mood
👀
Hampton: "uploads video"
My depression : aight imma head out
Snap !
Hi-five
Get this man as barca fitness coach. Mental and physical weakness wouldn't be a thing .
@@rohannalawade3227 yeah Coutinho and griezmann would never say they lack confidence anymore. Dembele won't get injured anymore . The dressing room will be full of positive vibes. Jokes aside But barca will never be the same 💔
@@justanerdwholiftweights4061 tbh I'm not worried about grizzy he is resilient. The most under confident players rn are lenglet, Alba ( is always ), Coutinho ( although I don't see him as a barca player for long), maybe trincao but even he seems alright.
@@rohannalawade3227 yeah griezy have been performing great for a while . But seeing him and pique fight on the pitch made me sad.
Ayo, can we just take a moment and appreciate how Hampton just sits around, without a manager or someone, and just replies to us and talks to us! He's being very generous. And to tell you, it takes a lot to reply to masses and stuff, because it takes energy.
Just like physical intimacy, he decides where and how to share and utilise his time and energy. Much love bro ❤️
Much love to you as well, my friend! I always loved hearing from the content creators I watched, so I try to respond to as many people as I can. I wish I could respond to more.
@@HybridCalisthenics that's very generous and humble of you. I think you also know at core that in real, you are a very good human(yes even when we have space for more, yet you are on right path, with your virtue)
Brother, could you make a video of your your story? How did you become such a kind loving person, and how do you deal with insults? Would really appreciate it
He just doesn't get insults.
Do you think this man can get insults? XD
Yes please!!
On point, we'd love to have a video on this
Of course he gets insults. There are over 100 thumbs down 👎🏻!
@@charlesmckinley29 most of those are bots
Is anyone else just in love with where he lives?? Or is it just me😂
@Bantai Rapper I'd be curious to know too, it looks so peaceful!
I’m not sure if this is the same place but I’ve heard in another video he lives in Arkansas. Which makes sense cause I also live in Arkansas and it looks very similar!!
Looks like my grandparents place in the back woods of magnolia. Probably not but good feels associated.
Like a lofi video background😸☄🌌
I'm from NY buy live in FL and miss the beautiful forestry I use to see all the time
does he live in a minecraft world where every minute it gets darker
i love ur content so much btw your truly an inspiration
This is how it feels when I'm videoing!! The sun sets faster when I need it to stay up
@@HybridCalisthenics get some led lights.
@@jasonbondar3 natural light is better lol
@@HybridCalisthenics watch out for the creepers and zombies. I’d say build some diamond armor and weapons but you don’t need it with your python biceps and gorilla grips
Complete with the soft music to back the falling sun
That coffee must have been really cold by the end of this video.
Yeah 😅. The sun sets kind of fast. I didn't really have this problem as much in summer.
Cold coffee is better than no coffee! ☕ 💜
_It was always empty._
Caffeine has a lifespan of 12-14 hours for most people; so unless someone exclusively drinks it in the morning, chances are their health is being moderately or greatly affected.
I do Organifi's Green mix everyday at about 9 A.M.
@@gavenerickson1174 What does that even remotely have to do with the coffee being cold? You seem like you came to party poop, why would you do that?
I love how it gets darker and darker.
My eyes see a man made of iron and wire, my soul sees a being of light and warmth. May God bless you even more
How can someone address these problems in such a calm, respectful and rational way on youtube?! I love your content so much Hampton
It really isn't difficult. This is what almost every normal person thinks like.
This is how people who have gotten their lives together and have found inner peace and/or achieved mental wellness address a breadth of serious issues.
Sadly getting rarer to see as society moves onwards, but I hope to get there some day as well.
@Gigi Florence it is for most
Yes! I worked in an office where the men would turn EVERYTHING into a sexual reference. Our society is so over-sexualized and sexually frustrated. “It’s just a tree” Thank you! 👏👏👏
2 years of NOFAP here and still going.
Too many emotional and mental complexities due to competition, bondages, rules etc has made many simple things too complicated. People are no less than objects. Its coincidence I came across Mosuo people can make love with as many people whom they really like and do not force their partner to do things or stay. Its all consensual and decisions are respected. Rape doesnt exist in their society. No one forces the other when they refuse to make love.
@@dorobee Doesn’t sound exactly progressive, sounds like an oppressive society but the other way around.
Porn is fcuking up men in hundred ways
We've managed to somehow _over_ sexualize everything and yet still be weirdly puritanical and shameful about sex and sexuality. It is such a weird, self-feeding loop! Just let the trees be trees!
Am male. Abstained until I met a girl I really felt I could trust and was serious about me and I was serious about. Felt very lucky to have met her and it's really great for me to say she has been the only one. I get to look her in the eyes and say that and it's really special to me, happiest I've ever been in my life.
Just my anecdotal experience I wanted to share.
That’s really cool man, congrats. Where you her first as well?
Exemplary story. I want to be with someone special and I have abstained so that I'm not just being objective
The way he considers it an "honor" to sit down and talk to us... we don't deserve this man
It is about a gift none of us deserve. It is up to the person if they choose to receive or reject the gift. Hampton is a very inspiring young man.
Hampton doesn't talk shit people wanna hear, he talks stuff from heart, please never let that change❤️
"If you see an extra curvy tree, remember, its just a tree" this thing killed me!
Right? Me too! ROFL. Gotta love it!
I made a vow of Celibacy, which I upheld for about 2.5 years.
Longer than some, shorter than others.
It was difficult for Me. I met a man that hadn't been with anyone for 9 years; by 2.5 years I was suicidal.
I lost a lot of Joy. I happened to be doing this mostly while I was traveling, and missed out on opportunities that would have led to Friends and Lovers and memorable moments. Without romance (and sex) as a motivating factor, sometimes I would commit to worthwhile endeavors (intensely training instead of going to a bar, for example) but sometimes I would simply lack any serious motivation at all, and sink towards depression. It was often one or the other, so I ended up experiencing a lot of social ostracization, either by choice, or because I was kind of sad and I don't think people wanted Me around. So there were many Lonely Nights, and aside from a special week with someone which ended the 2.5 years (4 months ago at the time of this writing) the stacked up Loneliness still lingers in my Heart, and I Do Feel Desperate to find a Lover, whom I am now seeking.
However, the endeavor made me a stronger person, more in control of myself, and I learned about myself where as I would never have known. I learned my limits (and pushed them). I learned what I Need to be fulfilled, content, and happy. And perhaps most importantly, I learned what I *Need.*
So knowing all this, and having the strength to control myself, I can now seek that out, avoiding (as in, becoming platonic friends/Brothers with) whom I perhaps *Want* but know that I do not *Need.*
So compared to many men, it really wasn't that long a time at all, though I was working very hard every day during that time (rode my bicycle across the country, wrote a book, etcetera) so that made the endeavor quite the struggle for Me, having that reward denied, but somehow having to keep going every day. It was a Lonely Road, but absolutely worthwhile, and I would encourage every man to make similar strides towards self-growth.
Love is the Light at the End of the Tunnel. I *Need* that, with the Right person, and now I know what that looks like, and I am ready to receive it.
Bro u r right... I did it for almost 4 years.... But life looked like very dry....to me at that time. Love makes life colourful
He straight up sat through a sunset.
Legend
i need more ‘coffee with hampton’ episodes
More coming!
@@HybridCalisthenics
That's what she...
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Never mind.
@@HybridCalisthenics OMG Yessss please do 🤗💓
There’s a difference between Passionate Love & Lustful Desire
@Munir When there is tension and all the energy is at the root, and not flowing trough the heart, relaxed
@Munir when someone seems to take the time to show that they care about another person
You can care deeply about a person in a respectful way and also want to rip their clothes off and do ‘em- have we all forgotten how to keep the lizard brain from running our lives? Not every sexual thought has to be acted upon, and to deny oneself the pleasure of such thoughts is ridiculous to me.
@@danielm4114 truth
Exactly
Dude went from morning to night in a single video. Legend.
I just wanted to thank you. You have been an inspiration and a motivational force in my life lately. Especially recently when I found out about what happened to your mother. My mom passed away a few months ago and quite frankly you have helped me for than you will ever know. Keep up the good work, you freakin rock.
Fuck man that sucks... Just keep going and living your best life, every time it will be less and less hard than the time before.
I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. I know it's a very tough thing to go through. I'm glad I can help at all. Is there anything else I can do for you?
@@HybridCalisthenics no, just keep doing what you are doing. Is there anything you need? Please don't hesitate to ask. I/we are here for you.
Jesus the positivity of Hamptons channel is so infectious. It's great
@@futileskills No man. Likewise, just keep doing what you're doing and that's more than enough!
1:46-1:55 xD
"Someone said they could read minds because of it. I can't prove they can't, but if they can then I feel sorry for them because there are some pretty twisted minds out there."
My thoughts: raccoon bouncing around my brain like an DVD logo
I'll just say: of you can read minds, better don't read mine or you'll end up in a psychiatric ward. Being good is being capable of evil but rejecting it. Being incapable of evil is easier, but it's just being harmless (which isn't meant in a negative way), not consciously good
@@theconcaver9186 the concept would not exist in knowledge, but it could still be at play. This is a philosophical question that's neither answered easily nor conclusively.
@@theconcaver9186 like i said, this would rather be a topic for scores of books, not comments. All i can say: Good and Evil are not the same as Matter-Antimatter duality and doesn't have much in common with it, as this is the only certain duality, you eother try to claim something you actually can't or you confused some things. Going further, good and evil is a deeply philosophical concept that doesn't have a ultimate definition, it means so many different things to different people and even to those, who define it equally, this still opens up further discussions about what can be deduced from the used definition and even this is a still ongoing, probably never finally resolved , topic of debate. You can't make such absolute claims about things that are to complex for humans to even get close to anything resembling an actual agreement on this topic.
@@theconcaver9186 even if it were an existential reality we do not have any way of measuring it. So no, that's not wuat I'm saying. Although i believe that what i said leaves enough room for it to be an existential reapity that we just will never be able to accurately describe. I don't believe it is, but i couldn't entirely rule it out.
Hi Hampton, these non-exercise videos are a great help. You seem so much at peace with yourself and it seems you have a really good perspective on holistic health. Please continue talking about everything under the sun because your calm, your wisdom, and your general demeanor are a joy to witness.
I'm so glad he expressed this in this way. I've often thought about this and tried express it, and all my friends look at me strangely. I wish bodies were only viewed as sexual when there is a consenting sexual context from bother parties. Everything is so saturated in sexual content it's almost mandatory in the media. I am not saying sexual expression is bad or enjoying the view is wrong, but I agree that things are over sexualised these days.
Having sex without releasing is called tantric sex which can balance your masculine and feminine energy boost testosterone help you manifestations and if your partner has good energy it will transfer over to you sex is not a bad thing it's only bad if you release or if you have a partner that has bad energy but if they're at a high vibration it's not bad at all just make sure you don't release so you hold your life force energy even Kevin Gates came out and said that sex is good when you don't release there's benefits that Google won't even tell you because they don't want you to know sex is one of the most healing things ever but like I said they have to have a high vibration
Oh damn that’s a very good way of putting it “bodies only being viewed as sexual when there is consent”. It sounds so simple but it’s so all-encompassingly true.
You're not the strange one. This is absolutely correct. Sexualization makes the world feel aggressive.
It really just turned from daytime to nighttime in a five minute video
The sun sets really quickly! Haha. It gets better in the spring and summer.
just hearing him talking has already calm me down
ive been practicing celibacy for a few months now. my personal reasons are to heal my sacral chakra by addressing traumas and what sexuality means to me. it has helped me learn the difference between lust and love, and also it helps me discern whether or not another person is addressing me with lust or love. it has thus far been a journey of tapping into my true self, setting healthy boundaries and craving deeper connection with others. if you are on a spiritual journey/ awakening i recommend considering!🌞🌞🌞
I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and we are waiting until marriage. Best decision ever, because we focus on us, on our goals, on who we are and what we like... Not on our bodies. We know that when we get married we will have time to be intimate in that way, but we can also be intimate in other ways right now and that is beautiful 💕 I've never been more in love in my whole life 😍
Aww that sounds great! I wish you two a happy and long life together❤
Don’t mean to rain on your parade, but I hope you two have talked about sex. Like how often do you think you’ll want it. What kinda stuff do you want tp do? Does one want bjs, but the other doesn’t wanna do it etc. basically, do you think you’re compatible sexually.
I’ve seen too many stories of people waiting, and then they find nothing works in the bedroom. A classic is one person isn’t really interested in sex at all (hence why waiting wasn’t so difficult for that person).
Just make sure you’re on the same page, and don’t just assume it’ll function.
@@mirawenya we have talked about it but not in the way you are discribing, because we are Christians and don't want to cause each other to lust over each other... It is kinda impossible sometimes because of our nature but we work on it, we pray about it and we are good 😊
We are not virgins, we have had sex before when we where younger, we have had our mistakes but now that we are with each other we really want to take care of ourselves because we do really love each other and we want the best for us and our relationship, we want it to last forever.
I know that maybe you can't understand what I'm talking about, but I assure you that we are just fine by now, and we really do want to be intimate someday when we get married, and we will learn from each other's bodies and what we like together, no one is rushing us ❤️ we are just enyoing our boyfriend and girlfriend season ultill we decide to step into marriage, which will happen when we can have enough money to sustain our lives together.
I appreciate your concern!!! 😊 Have a wonderful day
That’s so rare nowadays to see. I only heard from 2 grandparents who were waiting almost a year before got married to share the bed together. Respect to you and God bless you.
Lol you're gonna regret that soooo much when you two realise you aren't sexually compatible and live a life deprived of great sex
"Whenever we see an extra curvy tree, remember it's just a tree."
😳😳🥺🥺😭😭😭😭I'm shooketh
And i took it personally
I am confused
Hampton: makes a video
The sun: aight, I'mma head out now
Beautifully said!! I’m practicing abstinence for 7 year’s now and i feel like no matter what the world thinks, at least when I find someone, I’ll have my virtue to give and that’s very precious, plus it helps me to be more spiritual but now I learned a even better way to practice abstinence, thanks 🙏🏼 😊
Means someone still has a chance with you. Sorry if it's comes of rude.
You're so calm, relaxed, and open minded and thoughtful about everything. I'm subscribing. God bless you man.❤
My biggest take away from this is that Hampton needs to be careful around voluptuous looking trees.
Curvy trees are temptation incarnate.
Anyone amused at the thought of Hampton hiking around the woods looking for a thicc tree to photograph?
This was so well spoken and thoughtful. The distinction between controlling sexual actions vs controlling sexual thoughts… that’s profound.
Hapton, you are the king of chill. Sometimes I feel like I'm busting at the seams with anxiety and stress and one of your videos helps me dial it all down and let it out. A sincere thank you, you absolute dude. ✌️ 💕
A Video of Hampton? My day is saved...
Notice the waning daylight in the background. There's something very poetic about it. Almost as if the sun only shines when Hampton needs it to and goes away when he is done with the video. Instead of the other way around.
Are you saying he is the new Chuck Norris being born? ;)
This man would make a Priest. He just made abstinence sound cool. Something years of religious training never could do.
He is Christian :)
Yup and being Christian is not about being religious but having a personal relationship with God thru Jesus Christ,it effects how u think of what the world say is normal and okay. They tell us to not think much and do whatever comes to mind but we never stop to think like this(I believe one of his first videos goes in further on how he follows Jesus and how that relates to exercise and taking care of your body
@@aoyamiuriko5059 technically Christianity is a religion - read James 1:27
@@justinsmart5870 when did he say it?
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 ruclips.net/video/QvjbRfBo8Bw/видео.html
Right here friend.
That last line- "not wasting time and energy on those thoughts-" struck a chord with me. How many good nights of rest have I shirked for a night out? How much time have I spent chatting up girls in class when I could be actually studying? Thanks for this one bro, super inspiring and helpful
This was a major factor in me finally trying to escape my addiction. I was homeschooled and way too often I did not study because I was self-pleasuring or looking at content on my phone. Even though I could've easily completed school work "ahead of pace" I was struggling through multiple subjects in high school because I would get behind from not actually doing the work.
Best mindset for such things imo is : "Everything in moderation".
Even moderation.
@Deenson i think the point was to start with moderate goals and work up from there instead of setting an unreachable goal right from the start
I mean most "bad habits" start in moderation and slowly take over. So even moderation should be in moderation. Gotta draw the line somewhere- balance also deals with balancing extremes.
@@Crispypom For me I avoid the temptation altogether and swear off things like alcohol. As for sex, I stick to sex for marriage
@@acdragonrider omg! I do the same :D
Once he went to a class room, and now it's called therapy
Underrated
@@thefreemonk6938 ha lol
I can easily see why your channel has grown so rapidly. Balanced opinions are such a rare commodity these days. You have a way of expressing them so well!
I just love how night slowly falls in the background during the chat.
U know what i respect ? In this 5 minute video he put his entire day to give u guys the perfect and understandable view from his perspective that is acceptable for all of us at some degree
Man those are the cleanest thoughts i've heard in a while. You really nailed it, congrats! Love from Argentina.
It is so great to see so much positivity! One thing I would like to add though is that we cannot control our thoughts. Thoughts come and go on their own. As such, it is quite impossible not to ever think sexual thoughts. The important thing is simply that one does not indulge them. Simply notice them, and then let them go. It is also important not to resist them though, as this just creates more tension in the mind. Have a healthy, happy day!
Ohhh Thank You!
This is a very important thing to remember.
For me, it was healing after an abusive marriage. 10 years. I was raising my kids alone. It was a really good thing for me psychologically and spiritually. I am a fan. Now I am in a great marriage with a person who is my closest friend and the best husband ever.
Thank you for this comment. Gives me hope 🤍🙏🕊
Yes me as well! 16 years and 3 kids. I only regret waiting to leave so long. Glad you got free! It's so wonderful to not be abused anymore!
@@monicaswavel6074 may I ask, how long were you together? Sorry if it's too personal to say
@@shadow.walker777 16 years... now I've been with my wonderful husband for 19 years!
I really appreciate how you decided to separate this from your said livestreams because of the thoughts of other viewers. Thank you for the video.
You're the most considerate person I've come across on this platform
Thank you, Hampton, for pointing out the importance of mastery over our thought life. It’s often easy to focus only on the external and ignore what’s going on inside, not realizing how much it affects us.
You are a real youtube philosopher. I like your balanced view on fitness, work, other things and life in general. In nature I am also like that, but I guess by trying to get more things done and be more successful I put all these restrictions and obligations on me that only reduced my productivity. You remembered me that I should find a balance in everything. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, friend 💪💫
I’d been thinking about this concept a lot recently and needed Hampton’s reassurance to guild me - thank you!!
You're such a positive person, I love listening to your advices and I can see how much they help me. Thank you💖
I really love your videos Hampton! I’ve been binging all you shorts recently and it’s getting me pumped to work out! Thank you so much!
Brother Hampton - Thank you for having this RUclips channel and sharing your goodness and wisdom with people.
Hampton is the bestfriend that I never had.. 😔😔😔
You have friends?
"This won't be a very long video."
Sun is out at start of video but completely down by the end.
Wow, I was kind of expecting something very far to one side. You have an extremely nice take on things. It's refreshing. Usually, it feels like whenever I hear an opinion on sex, it's just, “This is great, and anybody who disagrees is uneducated.” There was absolutely no bias in what you were saying. It was just the concrete facts. Thank you.
You also paired your points with your experiences, and it makes it feel much more genuine.
This channel just keeps getting better and better.
This is a really nice take. Though I personally am not abstinent, I try to not let those thoughts or any sexual activity take over my life. It's definitely so much more of discipline and taking on wholesome activities, too. :) Thank you for this!
Dude...big fan of ur hair 😍
The content is also refreshing. I like your easy way of presenting, feels like i m talking to someone i meet on a daily basis...keep it up
I'm cutting it soon! 12 inches off. It'll still be "long," but I'll donate the surplus to Wigs For Kids.
@@HybridCalisthenics Will you grow it out again
This is so good. I practice abstinence not for health but for spirituality. I noticed since I decided to do this change I really had to change my thoughts in order to feel good. Focusing not just in my actions but also in my mind as you said has made me not anxious or sexually frustrated at all. I actually enjoy this period of my life :) I hope others who are trying to practice this can remember it's important to enjoy these experiences too and don't look at it as something "hard".
You are an extremely insightful young man 👏👏👏. I personally enjoyed seeing the day disappear in the background throughout the video, showing the amount of time it takes to piece something like this together. It displays the amount of thought and time you spend to deliver your message to the best of your abilities. Good for you mate, you're helping a lot of people with their own problems and I hope you keep it up 👍
Ps. Breed ma man, this world needs more of you 💪😉
Thank you for this video. Being 31 who has stuck with abstinence, I've been ostracized by people especially guys. They get upset and leave or others say I'll die alone. I'm a passionate loving and affectionate person but like you said it starts in the mind; and I don't want to til marriage. I know I'll meet the right one someday. Thank you for the encouragement. 🤗
Amen! Once you commit to mental, emotional and physical abstinence, you will gain so much freedom. You will have less distractions and will be able to pursue a greater good or self improvement/fulfillment.
Hampton, I've gotta say that your reasoning as to why you don't answer these questions during livestreams was something I've never even thought of. In your place, I probably would've answered without a second thought, and because of this video I probably will think about how I answer questions in the future. Not always, probably, but hopefully some of the time.
Thanks for teaching me something new!
I was really tired of school and I just watched your video and hearing your voice just makes me calm.
I've been trying to abstain as well in order to save energy for my workouts (and to help with self-esteem too), and I find it bizarre that I can also find this content in your channel. Props to you!
I love this guy so much, he’s so wholesome, and to you reading this have a beautiful day too
The more I learn about you the more pleasant you seem dude. So glad I found this channel again.
I've watched a few of your videos now and they are good but how you handle this subject is how a therapist would handle it. A guide to answer the question yourself instead of giving your direct thought as a focus of the explanation. This or going of empirical evidence are probably the only two ways to go about this which are actually helpful. I also really liked your explanation as of why you don't answer questions like this on stream... and this is how I found out you are streaming as well. You sir, have a new subscriber
THANK YOU FOR MAKING VIDEOS SIR! I'M GETTING BETTER AND BETTER EACH DAY BECAUSE OF YOUR ADVICE.
YOU are the one doing the work, my friend! Keep it up! Proud of you
"If we see an extra curvy tree, try to remember....it's just a tree" 🤣
u are the big brother everyone has been needing their whole life
Good points. This works exactly like spending money. Discipline is everything and is one of the hardest and not addressed issues not taught in school.
I weight 384 lbs. and I work out because I feed on inspiration and I hunger for change! Weight loss isn’t my goal, developing strong healthy habits are! The weight will disintegrate with how I commit and want to sacrifice! Everyday I repeat this to myself.
Hey there, I noticed how no one else replied to your post. What you are doing is a tremendous step and will mark one of if not the most important decision you made in your life. You yourself know best how difficult that road is but you will (and maybe already did) realize how much happiness and purpose this gives you. Most importantly it will improve your life and make it longer.
I've battled with many demons this past year and still am, everyone has their own battle but there are people who make the decision to fight these demons.
I wish you all the best and to never lose your motivation, you are doing this for yourself and the people that love you, may you live a long and happy life.
I feel something so personal and touching with you. You are like a wise older brother to me.
Hi!
Just wanted to say thank you, for your insight. I think it's really important to express these rational thoughts openly and you do a great job.
You reminded me of one rule that I know from boyscouts, which says (paraphrasing a lot) - Don't do evil, don't speak evil, but also don't think evil. It's one of the hardest things to achieve, but the idea it's simple, it's not just about expression of evil (or sexual tension or whatever else we can subtitute), but also not letting it to occupy your mind.
Thanks again Hampton, stay well.
I loved this video! I currently practice an abstinent lifestyle for spiritual reasons but your video challenged me to take things to the next level by having an abstinent thought life as well. Thanks for the encouragement! :)