decentering men from my life made me MAGNECTIC (a CELIBACY journey for 1year and 9months)
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Im just recently ending a period in my life where for an entire year and 9 months I was completely celibate. And did not date. When a man expressed interest in me I never even entertained the possibility of them knowing me further because that was not on a list of priorities in my life. I did not want the attention from men because in my experiences at the time there was nothing positive that came from that. And I am so happy that I actually did because spiritually I needed to come home to myself and set a better foundation to be a better partner for my next relationship If I decided that I was ready. I wanted to manifest more into my life I was going to need more of my energy so instead of investing that on a a relationship with someone else fighting to get someone to understand me… It was important that I invested that time and energy on myself.
In this video I will describe ways I have de-centered men from my life and why it has made such a profound positive impact on my life.
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(Edit: Trevor Noah's mom) said some men are attracted to powerful women because they want to cage the exotic bird. Keep that in mind when you are magnetic.🕊️
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trevor noahs mom said that quote
@@jordieshore222 yes, thank you! I'd forgotten where I'd heard it. The women in his life sound so wise.
Wow sooo true!!
@@kikijewell2967 "some men are attracted to powerful women because they want to cage the exotic bird." --- men are not hypergamous. men could care less about a woman's success. this has been said by men many times, but i'm not quite sure why men have to keep saying it. a woman being successful does not make her more attractive to a straight man. women have this weird thing where they think the same thing that attracts her to a man, attracts a man to her.
So glad young woman (im 43) are awakening to this truth. Because if I knew this when I was 29, I would not have ended up married to a narcissist. Especially part about women giving men energy. Its soooo true, we are vessels of energy that a man can cipher to build businesses, make money and continue their legacy. Smart men know and understand this which is why the most successful men have a very grounded wife. Ladies please love, protect and nurture yourself and connect to the Universe within yourself.❤
They are the actual golddiggers
43 is still young. Because we no longer see ourselves as only worthy when fertile. 43 is still young for women outside of that childish patriarchy ❤
@@MisaRedd most healthy 43 year olds are still fertile...
Totally Relatable. Same age experience here!!😢
@@TabJoy7 but fertility is declining and in the past that’s where a woman placed most of her value
Been celibate for 10 years.
Once I de-centered men, my life did a 180 degree turn. My mind became clear, my soul was rested and my creativity soared. I am happy, rested and at peace. Also, blessings began to come into my life.
I urge all of us to do the same. Especially those of us that do not desire children.
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Or you don't like sex
Does that mean you also shouldn’t masturbate when you go celibate ?
@@Gundice_the_cryomancer shut up
@@Gundice_the_cryomancerJust another reason not to want a man! Ignant azz! 😂
Celibate since 2017 😄 it gave me clear skin and thick hair
I look younger
it's true!
i’m 22 and have been feeling called to this path but felt guilty about “wasting my youth” by opting out of dating. which is ironic bc i can’t imagine a worse waste of youth than shrinking myself and neglecting my own needs in hopes of gaining a man’s love. i really needed to hear this, thank you!
Please don’t feel like you’re wasting your youth, if anything you’re preserving it! My daughter is 24 and she has finally come into the light, thank god! I’m proud of you for exploring the path of celibacy and self love. ❤
Same. I am 20 and this whole year i have felt propelled to start my celibacy journey/ spiritual cleansing journey. God has been tugging my heart to find myself in him and spend my early 20’s building self trust , a relationship with him and all round improvement. My sex life isn’t so wild but i do have lots of fantasies i am scared of not experiencing ( FOMO) At the end tho , i know something much more better and a high value version of myself is at the other side. Wish you good luck, i am encouraging myself as well as you to start❤️
I am 22 as well and on the same journey, it's great to know I'm not alone! 💜
On point!
i started late in life for a sexual partner.... i got to finish school and start a career, you learn to know who you are. You will find you will attract great experiences and better boyfriends because of your energy. The rest of your life will be affected by loosing out on a full youthful experience if you choose the wrong paterner and not making good choices, have options especiallyy if your career becomes your fall back for a better life with or without a man.
OMG, I'm reading these comments, and ladies, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! YOU'RE AMAZING AND BEAUTIFUL!!!
RIGHT🥹✨ It makes me so happy to be a woman
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Damn this just made me appreciate being single in a way I didn’t think was possible
Lmao FACTS! Cause I envy the single .. it’s hard out here in these relationships😩♥️
@@jasminsirii rtt got out of a relationship recently n the energy since whew😭
I’ve come to love my Me Time so much, I need to really think about it, if someone wants me to share my time with them.
That part 💯
When i became celibate my mind became so clear, i focused fully on myself and goals and it was the best decision i ever made ❤❤
Agreed! Colors were more vibrant, food tasted better, birds were singing idk 😅😂😂♥️
how long did it take b4 you felt the effects i think mines isnt working😅? (im serious though)
@@ralo390you cannot "center yourself" to find a man. (And that's not obvious.)
@@ElevatorSolangelove this for you ❤️
girl lol when i say i felt i got fine fine shoot ima be single for many many more years @@ElevatorSolange
Same. No interest in sex or men. Celibacy and peace. It’s sacred.
Same here❤
That's me I lost interest in men and I thought something is wrong with me.
@@Ladyle4ever My understanding is that God is working on your heart. Often, it is God forcing us to fast from what (sin) we are losing interest in. He is removing sin from your life to help lead you to what His will is for you! It is also a way of our Heavenly Father protecting us from harm.
Keep faith in the LORD. Fast & pray! Pray without ceasing!!!
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Been celibate for almost three years after I lost my husband through cancer.This was very important for my healing and reclaiming my innocence back .However I'm now ready and open to meet someone amazing...I know it's time ❤❤.However I'm.not anxious about it.
same
I first went celibate because I was healing from a breakup. Now the more I heal the less I even want to have sex. I used to be so addicted to it and now I am becoming repulsed. I don’t talk to men nor want to. I feel like my child like innocence is coming back. I’ve never been so clear minded. It was definitely hard at first but the longer u resist ur urges and find the source of them it becomes second nature.
Feeling exactly the same, just wowww
Right on about the childlike innocence! I LOVE THE WOMAN I AM BECOMING
I feel the same way!
This has been my experience too
I know this has nothing to do with the video but please read me if you can i think im on an abusive relationship i dont have friends or family to talk to i need advice 💔
I am on a 4 years relationship since i meet my boyfriend i made him clear that i will only date to marry because my dream is to have a family & happy marriage, he told me he was looking for the same thing after 6 months in our relationship his father died and he lost his job due depression his mom kick him out of her house because he was not working i support him & never leave him alone i told him he could stay at my apartment i try to help him to overcome his depression and i took care of him and everything i was very tired because it was hard for me to take care of him & to take care of myself and the apartment at the same time but i knew he needs time to heal after one year in our relationship i finally see progress in him overcoming his depression and i encourage him to get a job i didnt want to pressure him for everything that happen to him and finally he got a job he seemed more happy and finally doing great he start helping me with the bills now we where doing 50/50 and i feel relieved because i dont have to work extra hours anymore then at two years in our relationship he started to change with me and i didnt understand why and i ask him what did i do wrong in order to you to change with me? he started to calling me bad names, making fun of me i am very sensitive so when he made fun of me i cry and he made fun at me for crying i start feeling really sad and i told him that if he doesnt love me anymore please told me and i understand but please stop hurting me i dont want to suffer anymore he ask me for forgivness and he promise to change and to be again that man i feel in love with he changed for a while and then he start telling me that he likes white girls as a form of “joke” but i feel bad because i am not white i’m mexican just like him and he start making comments in front of me with his friends telling them that he like blonde girls with blue eyes and i start having low self teem so i told him if you dont like me why are you with me? if you dont like me just told me the truth i dont want to be hurt anymore and he says of course i like you if i didnt like you i wouldnt be with you and i was okay maybe im overthinking so i trust him again after 3 in our relationship he started to become agressive everytime he got mad he yelled at me and call me bad names at that time i was so sad about the whole situation and i talk to him about breaking up because i feel like he is not really happy with me and i dont want to feel sad or hurt anymore again he ask me for forgivness and he said he was sorry and that he would change and he did i was happy again but now at 4 years in our relationship he start becoming agressive again to the point he put his hands on me he was playing LOL and i left the room i go to the other room because when he plays he curse and screams a lot and i got anxious i was in the other room and he enter very mad screaming at me what are you doing?? And i say nothing im just watching videos while you end your game and he was like my game is going slow turn on your wifi my game is more important than stupid videos i got really offended i feel disrespected and i ask him please leave me alone and he says i really want to slap you right now and he hit the wall and then left the room i start feeling depressed and alone in our relationship i don’t understand why he changed i did everything i could i try to support him i forgive him i give him everything of me all my love my caring and i feel like he hates me and i don’t understand why, then the thing that ended up breaking my heart was when where with his friends and one of his friends ask him infront of me “hey if you could marry a russian girl would you” and he answer “sure why not” that made me heart broken and when we where alone i told him i know you like blonde girls with blue eyes and i am not like that so if you dont like me why you are with me? And he got mad at me and called me drama queen he started making fun of me again and i ask him to please stop making fun of me or my feelings i told him that i was tired of him calling me bad names and making fun of me and i told him everything i ever do was support you and give you all my love and he says “i never asked you to do that” now i am heart broken we just had an argument again and he start insulting me and calling me bad names again i got really mad and i start screaming at him back because i was very frustated and when i screamed at him stop insulting me im tired of this i cant do this anymore i never expected it he slap me in the face i was spechless and i say did you really slap me? And he says dont be dramatic i didnt hit you with the close hand i want to leave him but i am scared he slap me or hit me again if i do i am so sad i don’t understand why he hates me after i support him and i do everything i could for him 💔😢
Men learn from their heart broke, they don't learn from a woman loving them, they learn from a woman leaving them! Wow powerfull!!
Thank you so much for watching♥️
The old adage comes to mind "Hurt people hurt people. Healed people heal people." As a species, being uncentered impacts everyone and everything around us. What calls us back to our center is a sacred journey unto itself. If it's heartache or any other experience, it has no owners or a preference of gender or even species. It just is. Maybe no one leaves anyone because we are all still arriving. Recognizing patterns of why we couple with others is a life journey. Journeys emerge out of living. Life emerges out of balance. Walking away from and walking into partnerships is an expression of balance. When we're out of balance it is difficult to recognize let alone nurture the center of someone else.
False y’all are the cause of divorces
It's not true. You're judging an entire community of men just because of some arsoles. Men are great and will stay great. Men are better than women and will be. Just men need to focus on themselves and stay celibate. Men don't need women in general but these days men are losing their masculinity that's why they're behaving in that way.
It's ok, I can understand. Demeaning men can make women feel powerful. You can continue with it, no one will stop you. Carry on.
after deciding to be celibate and single for over 2 and a half years and that's when I met my husband who is a way higher quality man than anyone I'd been with before. It was only after decentering men that I could centre myself and find my way in my life as well as the type of relationship I wanted.
Love! 💗
It gives you a clear and stable mind to make improved choices and you can spot bad men quicker.
Beautiful! ♥️
@@fruitsarelife7073THIS!
I have a natural “X-Ray vision” with men who simply have poor intentions. You disconnect and the desperation ends.
yeah right 😅
It's empowering to see women embracing self-love and finding strength within themselves. God's love is the ultimate source of comfort and guidance.
God's love is the ultimate source of comfort and guidance.
It should be the foundation for all beings. this world has gone astray and people believe it is ok to engage in s3xual acts just because they can. Spirituality/God should always be the centre and foundation of all matters, especially in the union of two people.
I’ve been celibate for 2 years. The oversexualisation everywhere just put me off sex. Men are not masculine anymore. I’m just not interested anymore, I’m ok on my own.
Same here
Celibacy is easy. It really disciplines you in every aspect of your life.
This. All of this. Took me 42 years to realize this.
Unless you cant provide for me something that I can already provide for myself... And if a man can't protect my peace, it's a no for me.
Amein sister. ❤
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"stop pretending to not know the things that you already know" re: boundaries. WHEW calling me out!!
2 years and I'm still learning to love myself, its a long process. I'm definitely getting a cake to celebrate my 3 year abstinence anniversary tho 😚
As well you should. What a lovely idea!
Yay! Yes, it’s a journey. I’m still learning to forgive myself.
Pls do! Get that cake girl!!
Girl, you need a personal podcast. You are so good in explaining things and your voice is super smoothing.
💯 Thought the same thing! Conten is dope too! More women AND men need to hear these things...
I've been told the same and plan to one day start one. WITH plans to have regular sessions with my 22 year old son, who is so wise already but still growing (as we all are), where we talk life and relationships. I cannot wait!! Media is flooded with so much trash!! We need to dilute that mess with THIS type of content--WISE and full of love and beauty.
Right like the female Morgan Freeman 😂😂😂
True. Have been listening to it over and over.
incredible
Been single for 6 months now, I never want to have sex outside marriage again. I am waiting for my divine masculine, sex is so sacred ❤
good for you
I completely agree 🙏🏾🙌🏾🤎
I experienced something similar when I was a bridesmaid at my friend's wedding. I was single and happy while helping with all of the events and parties during her wedding week. I was just super focused on what needed to get done but during that time, I was getting approached by so many people, especially men asking me to dance or trying to get my attention.
It was literally at the point where other bridesmaids were telling these guys to leave me alone because I'm busy working helping out the bride.
It wasn't necessarily about me being dressed up or looking attractive, because I was in jeans, covered in sweat with messy hair most of the time setting up tables, putting up decorations and helping with party supplies.
I was just being focused on getting my stuff done and helping out my friends, wanting the evening to be fun for everyone.
I have become more confused and unable to focus while celibate. I wonder why?
@@JadeW1111your body and mind is purging and purifying itself, attempting to balance your masculine and feminine energy. Don't fight the withdrawals, be kind to yourself. Get a comfy blanket and drink warm tea with lemon, slow all the way down and try to relax. So many of us are DOING, doing the hunting ie working & giving and preparing ie living predominantly in our masculinity where we focus on gathering money and giving ourselves and our resources to others outside of ourselves thus we can lose connection with our feminine selves. Femininity requires us to rest, to practice self love and self care, requires us to give our time our energy our attention to ourselves. Rest in your femininity by doing nothing.
Feminine energy(Yin energy) is inward focused and because you embodied that, you were extremely magnetic. Perfect example of how to make polarity work.
@yasminah6823 The yin, the dark swirl, is associated with shadows, femininity, and the trough of a wave; the yang, the light swirl, represents brightness, passion and growth
This true,men learn when a woman leaves them. Women must leave when a situation no longer serves them. Men are intentional.
They will not change unless they he want to.
Dont let your womb be the creative force that builts up man at your expense
I did this. I love my son dearly but I offered my womb to a man who probably will never value me, though I birthed a son that carries his last name and therefore his legacy. This was part of my learning journey and thankfully I’m awake now.
All of these comments and your testimony prove to me that I’m in the right path. I’m 25 years old I’ve never been in a relationship because every time I meet a man I feel drained from the conversation stage. Like how can you drain my energy when we just met? like we’re just friends? I can’t deal with that. So I always run. Loneliness but in peace ✌🏿.
Same. Stay strong, sis ❤ censor who you allow in your space
I have an infectious energy and these men come around to drain me and dim my light. They literally say things to belittle me and it's crazy! The old me would've stored that negativity now I'm renewing my celibacy journey.
I will not stand idly by and entertain no one who's just here for a good time.
Taking the time to really comb through my goals and how I intend to accomplish it, get rid of my debt once and for all and to get my health in order.
Power to us all ladies we are powerful as heck and they know it.
Also stay offline. It's toxic 😂❤
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I just turned 23 this week and I started my celibacy journey 6 months ago for all of the reasons you’ve explained in this video. Today I felt a bit more lonely than usual and then your channel was suggested to me a couple hours after I was talking to God.I don’t think it’s a coincidence. This journey requires community with like minded individuals and being this young and having all these realizations can be isolating but I wouldn’t have it any other way & Im just grateful i’ve found your channel so I can feel less alone. Thank you for sharing❤✨
Trudy , I’m so proud of you. ❤ keep going , Gods got you .
SHUT UP! BECAUSE GIRL, SAME! 😂😂😂 God has been sending me signs after signs! I'm so grateful for His protection.
I AM PROUD OF YOU!!! I am a 45 yo mother of 4 (26, 25, 23 & 18). I have a 23 yo daughter and we have these talks from time-to-time. Keep going. Keep your faith in the LORD. Hallelujah! Fast & Pray...especially in the face of testing & temptation! Fast & Pray without ceasing!!! No matter where you are! 💜
Hey girl! I’m 21 & recently got out of a relationship & that lonely feeling hit me like a ton of bricks lol. It’s so isolating but your not alone God is with you and community is probably what you need at a time like this, I’m always open to new friendship’s so if you ever need a friend who’s understanding & we’re around the same age so we could have things in common in our journey I’d love to connect with you❤
@@melanatedcoilshey, i am 20yrs old. I am also getting over a relationship that I didn’t want to let go off. Also starting my journey without sex this period. I’m also open to connect. ❤ Maybe we get to know each other or something (Sorry if this comes of weird, I’m new to this 😅❤)
Excellent points. Women who decenter men not becomes more magnetic and 'spiritually' awaken, they tend to be happier and much more financially successful. I've decentered men for most of my dating life and in business when I was negotiating deals I would stopped dating for several weeks before and after. It works ladies; just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons. I am so happy to see young women like yourself living on their own terms. Yes, decenter men, design the life you want or dream of and they will follow.
I’m going through this rn. I’m keeping myself for marriage. I’ve stopped putting my energy on men and putting that into myself and my life has become amazing. It’s crazy. It almost makes me not want to date ever again cause I feel so full with God and myself. When you stay in your power, it becomes so powerful you don’t even know what to do with it
Inspiring 🖤
I’m going on almost 2 years and my life changed exponentially. I pivoted careers, got a job and made the most money I’ve ever made in life. I elevated soooo much. I’m honestly scared to get back in to dating seriously. I dipped my toe in briefly with someone I knew and even that was a disaster. I’m 40btw
I relate so much to this right now. I'm just not trying to date or deal with men right now, and celibacy has naturally resulted from that. Not because I don't want to be with men and never will again. I still desire love. But I just feel like I'm at a point where it's important for me to focus on myself right now. I don't like the poor decisions I've made in the past. I was terribly misaligned. Now I'm learning to have patience and higher standards, learning to set proper boundaries, and learning to let go instead of holding on to the wrong people. I'm tired of pouring so much of my energy into someone and not being poured back into. Men must contribute emotionally, mentally, romantically, and yes financially, to have access to my time, energy, and body. Because it's too precious to give to just anyone.
Going celibate has never been hard for me. It's like second nature, specially because I'm introverted by Nature. I was celibate for about 2 years before getting into a relationship this year, that relationship ended and I've been celibate for almost 6 months now. I'm just not into sex in a way where I feel like I have to have it. If I have it with someone that I deeply care for that's fine, but otherwise.. I'd rather not. Grosses me out just thinking about it.. I think this in large part is due to the incredibly poor treatment I received from males during my 20s. So now I'm repulsed by it , and by thinking of any of these gross males anywhere close to me. In general, if it's not with someone that I deeply deeply care for (Which nowadays is rare that I would get that deeply involved with any male because they just aren't worth my peace and sanity) then I'm celebate for years at a time even & it's not hard.
I've been celibate for 7 years while living with my child's father. I decided I wanted to live right by the Most High and saving myself for marriage is attached to that. If we're not married, no goods. Maybe I'll stay celibate for the rest of my life.
**Edit** If after reading my comment you feel compelled by the devil to comment and tell me that I should break up my family...don't waste your time.
Dang
7 yrs? That's tight
@@coldblooded568 it's doable also in a relationship. I've been celibate for 6 and a half years now. Seven's my goal, but maybe I'll stay celibate for life as well. Other things in your life blossom for you when your focus is no longer on sex.
I really commend you for this. These temporary pleasures are really not worth eternal condemnation.
He is still getting all the benefits, energy, and resources off you that he wants and getting sex elsewhere.
OH you ate this. I wholeheartedly agree! I have been abstinent my entire life, im no longer on social media, i don't drink, smoke, whatever- and listennnnnn. People do not know themselves, and only like to gossip, talk about stuff that just DOES NOT MATTER. You try having a real conversation with someone or just a fun time, and people need all these external things to talk about or external items to help them 'have fun' and its just so depressing. I feel like especially since being off social media the last 6 months, has cleared my mind so much to do the hobbies i enjoy, have more free time, and even lose weight. I HIGHLY recommend.
THIS. I’m about to do something similar.
Never was a fan of social media and I do agree. Your head is clearer. You have more time and you’re not missing out on anything. About 3 months strong with no instagram, Snapchat, or Facebook! (Never downloaded TikTok) When I tell you it’s so freeing. And things that actually matter are now at the forefront and you realize how much time you have to work on yourself and be connected with your goals. Anyone thinking bout doing it. PLEASE DO.
Same here ❤
this hits hard, an ex friend of mine (wealthier than me) quit contact with me 'cause i couldn't have discussions on high end skincare products.
I’m 27 and I thought I was being weird. I didn’t really understand at first but as I began to, it came with so much peace and contentment, boundaries and standards. I’ve been keeping myself for over a year now. My energy is so pure. I know who I am and what I want and that’s to keep adding value to my life. I do not want to be in any relationship until I’m financially stable and extremely happy with what I’ve done for myself. ❤️🤞🏾🙏🏾
You go girl ❤
Yassssss I’m so happy to hear more women are on this journey! It gets sooooo good … the awakening is real! I have been on this journey for awhile now. I don’t even want to deal with men because I’m way too busy focusing on my own goals and my life. Like it comes to the point you realize just how sacred your time your mind and body are…. You value yourself sooooo much more . And when you start questioning your own beliefs…whew it gets real.such a constant eye opening experience. I’ve been on this journey for years now and you just don’t stop discovering…learning … great video and welcome to the journey ❤️
It’s amazing! I’m still learning to forgive myself for the past but I’m not looking back!
I centered myself and took my energy back. I lost 9 pounds! Had been trying to lose weight for months! 9 lbs gone just like that. I think it's not taking on their stress or letting them stress you.
Honesy, I have taken a life-long vow of celibacy and chastity. I am devoted to my spiritual path, personal growth, and wellness. 💛🌻
Your voice is ideal for meditation.
Yes it is
49, single and on the path, stepped off the path to have a little "fun" and played myself. I was repeating the same patterns and making a fool out of myself. I felt ashamed because I had done so much work on myself but I got back on my path. This healing doesn't have a time stamp, it just depends on you and your personal growth. I will met my soul mate/twin flame one day soon and self love and relationship with Supreme Divine Source is the key.
In my 20s, I was celibate for 10 years and then now I decided to be celibate for 2 years now...I feel all of this wisdom
I have been celibate for 1 year 1 month. I have no desire to date. Men don’t fascinate me in the way they used to. A man is not on my prayer list. After going through my self awareness and spiritual awakening 3 years ago. It changed me ❤ I healed myself.
this video resonated with me deeply 🫶🏾 thank you !
I am 19 and I am so so appreciative of this message. I just recently stopped “talking” to a guy and it was because I witnessed that from the beginning to the end, I was experiencing exactly what you were saying as far as waking up genuinely happy and proud to be me, loving my life genuinely because I finally understood who I was and the power I carried, being magnetic and excited for each new unexpected blessing to then-feeling drained from giving all of my precious energy to a boy who was not deserving of it. And who was quite literally wanting to take my energy and that same light that he saw in me as well. Given he is 19 as well I cannot fault him too much however, he knew what he was doinggg lol and I am just glad I am receiving this reminder from source through you that it is all well and apart of my journey ! ❤️
Girl I’m so proud of you for acknowledging that he is 19 and not holding it against him. That’s a big step towards healing. I went through the same experience but I didn’t address the pain, I just held resentment in my heart and carried it for 3 years until now. And guess what? I started hurting other people the exact same way he hurt me. This realization came to me a few days ago and it hurts so much.
I need a community of like minds like you. if you do too, I am open to connecting❤. You can reply this comment, let’s get to know each other if you’re interested. I’m 20 yrs old.
Girl I'm also 19 and I was in a relationship with a 27 year old man, it was the same. Age does nottt mean maturity.
I’m 20 and I’m still keeping my VCard and girl lemme tell youuu!!! I’m beyond prouda myself for not losing it yet and I will wait
@@SoulieNovaOfficial I love that for you, I’m waiting as well cause it’s the only thing that makes sense learning what I’ve learned thus far. Proud of you as well, ik there are seasons where it’s not easy!
@@ShestosinThank you I appreciate it :) and yes I am interested! I feel the same way about wanting like minded people, especially young women near me!
I’ve been celibate for 6 months and it’s incredible the things I’ve achieved. I graduated, got promoted, got approved for the house I wanted. My creativity is back and all my friends say I’m glowing. I don’t miss those vampires
Resonated with so much you said. I’ve had my spiritual awakening several years ago. The peace that reigns over your life when you’re awakened is divine. It is is a beautiful journey and makes me love my solitude even more. Been celibate for 4 years after a 10yr relationship. After those 4 years I met the perfect person for me at that moment. We had a wonderful relationship for 4 years, but I outgrew him spiritually, financially and mentally. He had some child healing work to do. 😉 We’re still friends tho. Now I am celibate for 4 years again, loving it and totally at peace 🙏🏽! I am the center of my life!
Wow what a powerful testimony and a great example to choose yourself every time. I’m honored to have your comment on my video. THANK YOU for this🥹♥️
@@jasminsirii Thank you so much! 💝 I’ve watched more of your videos yesterday and it’s like hearing myself talking. Thank you for using your voice 🙏🏽 Looking forward to more..
As an Afrikan man with sisters, I totally agree with this message.
How now
I just turn 34 and 3 years celibate, I have experienced an spiritual awakening, I ve been working on myself, healing my wounds, soul searchig, and now I will go back to church, I believe all girls should do this journey and heal, find yourself and walk in ur power.
Glad RUclips put you in my recommendations!!! Not only did you hit me in the head w/ mad knowledge, your voice is like ASMR. Very soothing! God Bless!!!
Recently broke up from 4 years relationship. I was betrayed but everyday, I remind myself I'm not a victim. Been detoxing for two months, wishing this phase could pass by but I got goosebumps when you said to think this phase as a sacred one. Subscribed!
The idea has never even crossed my mind until Princella spoke about it. I had zero idea a woman could decenter males. I am so thankful for the years of celibacy. It keeps us safe
“They learn by their heartbreak. They don’t learn by a woman loving them. They learn by a woman leaving them.” was so powerful my goodness. I just want to blast this on the rooftop to all women!! 😮💨 Such a great video and it explains where I am in life. I’m 25. I just left a 7 year relationship with my child’s father that wasn’t serving me anymore. I felt like I didn’t know myself anymore. I was lost in being a partner, a mother, and I was with someone who I knew would never love me how my heart desired. I feel like this video sums up exactly what 2024 is about for me. I feel a deep pull to just be with myself, no dating or entertaining anyone sexually. I need to recover in so many areas that I need all my energy for me and my child. This video feels like confirmation that I’m on the right path.
Omg!
The man I have chosen in my life ( it applies to friends too!) I am so over it !!!! And I am clear on what I want. I want to be in a relationship where there is clarity , authenticity, transparency , but most of all the willingness to be in constant communication bc we are constantly growing. I used to give a pass to men that left me always wondering and in obscurity. I used to give men a pass when they offered me nothing while I gave my best. That’s all over with. The best lesson I have learned so far is to TAKE MY TIME. Take time to know yourself . Take time to know the other person. If they fly away out of impatience , then that’s the answer right there .
Also, I soooo agree with the whole feminist movement. It has become lap sided . I believe we each have a role that we thrive in and when we both bring the best of us, we can accomplish a glorious partnership.
EXACTLY! I think women around the world are waking up to our power. You are the entire universe I love seeing comments of women standing in their power!! GO QUEEN!!!
'Long ago the word _alone_ was treated as two words, _all one_ . To be all one meant to be wholly one, to be in oneness, either essentially or temporarily. That is precisely the goal of solitude, to be _all one_ .'
Estés, 'Women Who Run with the Wolves'
(thank you for your video)
I never came across someone who so gracefully verbalize my inner journey, thoughts and desire. 😢
That was so validating and healing for my spirit, heart and soul ❤️🩹 to watch.
Bless you sister 🙏
Praying for your ministry to continue to speak truth to enlighten more beautiful ladies xox
wow, I’m 27 years old and currently trying to get over a 6 year bullshit ass relationship & I’ve been saying I need to do this. Thanks YT suggestions! 😮
Please do it for you ❤❤
Hi I’m 28 I came out of a 7 year relationship 2 years ago and I’ve been celibate for 6 months. I feel more stable within less shaky and scared. The feeling of being used and worthless have started to fade and I sleep very well these days. I hope you try it it out and regain some clarity and joy. Praying for peace and strength your way ❤
As a 44yr old woman who is on the same journey, I truly enjoyed every minute of this video. It resonated to the core. It's so refreshing to hear someone speak in a raw yet soothing way and most importantly not sound fake as fuk! Thanks for posting 💞
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Next month I’ll be 25 . I’ve been on my celibacy journey for 4months now . I’m so glad to come across this video because of how deeply I can relate to this Queen . Each n everyday I’m doing the inner work to heal my heart & restore my mind , body & soul from toxicity & trauma so no one else can benefit from my wounds . Praise God for this realization & I’m not alone .
I found my people!! I’m super deep and some times I find it hard to relate to surface level ppl! Great topic thanks for sharing
Thank you for this! At the age of 22, I still feel lost.
Princella the Queenmaker will give you a lot of clarity. ❤
I was 7 months in, my soon to be ex husband made me vulnerable and we hooked up last night. I regret it, but God used that to show me who he really is. Coincidentally, this video popped up today🙏🏾🤞🏽🙌🏾❤️
This was DEEP . I receive this message 🫶🏾 This video was a GIFT . Subscribed 🌸
I’m so happy my video was able to reach you. You are gorgeous btw!! Subbed back!
@@jasminsiriiAww thank you so much 🥹💕💕🫶🏾 I hope this video reaches MILLIONS of people!!
Yes girl!! That divine aura around you is magnetic. I’ve been on this journey for 6 years and it’s the best feeling of joy, contentment and grounding. Ego aside and leading with love 🫶🏾
Gurlll you sound like me when I smoke I be ranting and making all these valid points just talking to myself . I resonated with so so deeply. Thank you for this. I’ve been sensing this loneliness within myself. I’d download hinge and be on it for like 5 minutes and get off knowing damn well I the men all there aren’t for me .. when I sat with myself I decided to sit with this loneliness I came across this video and I feel it steered me towards another path of self preservation .. thank you
My goodness, I have never resonated with a video so much in my life. I turned 30 this year and have recently gotten out of an unhealthy relationship and I am so called to this journey of celibacy and decentering men. Although I’m only a month into the journey, I’ve been there in many ways mentally for a while and now that I’ve actually freed myself I feel so rejuvenated and I love being alone which is a pleasant surprise.
Thank you for sharing ❤
They must likely weren’t interested in “you.” They were interested in your purity. Because in an environment like that, that energy is rare or nonexistent. Make sure you’re protecting yourself spiritually.
Wow omgosh. You're right. I've had multiple people who eventually turned out to be predatory comment on my innocence, sweetness, etc.
@@JMarie0921Yes! Please protect yourself. A simple protection prayer works but also, practice strengthening your discernment skills. ❤️
@metr08 thank you. Any more insight regarding this that you'd care to share. I guess it ties into what she said about wanting to harvest your energy?
this is kinda backhanded ngl
@@hiverionhow?
Celibate two years now and I’m perfectly happy with finding my love or not because my sexual energy is magical.
This is what the Barbie movie should have been. 💖 I have never in my 28 years of living on this planet, seen another person with a lot of the same thoughts that keep me up late at night. I felt like I was listening to myself as you spoke. 💖
i'm 20, and listening to this made me realise that a lot of changes need to be made in my life.
You radiate feminine energy in the best way. I got a taste of this awakening about 6 months ago but got distracted by a boy I was intrigued by.. my intuition knew I wasn’t ready to take on a relationship but I pushed past it only to wish I Stuck to it. I’m back to square one dealing with all my emotions but I know as time goes on my emotions will settle and I’ll recenter myself . Thank you for this chat!
I've done the same too for 2 years. And I think the best thing is discipline and increase in self value. I realised that I had previously slept with people out of fear , or awkwardness or ego as you say. And only one person was due to being truly in love. I'm finding it much easier to walk away from what Is not for me. I can't believe I used to find it hard to resist men 🥴🥴🥴🥴
Been celibate for 3 years and I’m low key scared of dating again
I’ve been celibate for 5 years.. I’m not sure I’ll ever date again now.. life is so peaceful
Confidence is key to draw people in - whether it be with friendship, career, romance, etc.
We all have to work on ourselves. We feel inadequate when we THINK we’re inadequate. Know your worth and realize that we can all accomplish a lot of things if we start believing that we can do it
“We can be at the forefront of raising them, but somehow doesn’t make us worthy of being legitimate leaders” 🙌🏽
“I can’t help but be this way, I know it’s for a higher purpose” - I resonated with so much you said in this. Thank you for sharing and reaffirming things I’ve known and am continuing to live out and become… continuing to learn how to STAND UP because it’s just time and there is no going back. There is no “unknowing” what you already know… God bless you! Thanks again for the great video.
You are called for greatness, it’s in your bones! I’m so happy this video resonated with you! Keep going♥️
Thank you so much for watching! Once our minds graduate our reality follows, so many exciting things are on their way to you!!
@@jasminsirii you are so right. I’ve realized this past year that even if I, for whatever reason, still want to operate in old ways (I suppose the most obvious place in seeing it is with men), because I want someone or something, that no matter how many things I try to ignore or tell myself “no one is perfect”… that my deep inner core will not settle. Like, the situations just crumble because I’ve just gone too far in my own evolution to exist in what, essentially, is not truth. I’ve realized that dimming down is equivalent to internal death and I begin to lose myself. I’ve come too far for that. I’ve spent too much time undoing the lies I lived in for so long to re-enter them just to be with someone. Doing that is like choosing the lies all over again. I praise God that I can’t even fake it anymore. It just is what it is. And I’m so glad. All the faking and trying too hard really does come from seeking outside validation and acceptance - which will always waver. I won’t build my life anymore on the sand. 🙏🏻
Thanks again!💕
@@christamccann3771Preach!! 🙌🏾
This was so refreshing, Im only 18 and the single friend. I attract but its always lust based and that's cool but ive been yearning for more depth, more of a soul based connection. The journey gets lonely but im glad that I'm inner standing at such a young age.
This inspired me to keep goin!💞
Keep going goddess/ daughter
You remind me of a young Judge Lynn Toler. I liked this!
😮😮sooo right. She could be judge Lynn's daughter
This is so verry true. My life is so much more peaceful without the presence of a man in my life. My soul is truly at peace now.
Oh my gosh! This is 💯 on point. I literally woke up one day and I said I have to stop the actions I was doing. Oh my gosh, so happy I took the time to listen to this. When you said the male so call friend who pretend to be a friend but basically waiting to get intimate is so freaking true. I woke up! Yesssssss! I made the right decision. Celibacy, yesssssss!
I randomly found this video and was not looking for anything on this topic, but well Miss, I am so glad I clicked. Life lessons here that resonated so much as I am exactly in this position too. I am a new version of myself as a woman in my 30s, setting clear boundaries with men, giving not as much as I used to. And it feels so good, I take care of my own energy, as I am an entrepreneur I can't play with my mental condition. I think one of the best quote from you is "They(men) don't learn by women loving them, they learn by women leaving them" WOW, I'll keep that in mind :)
That was a great quote that stuck out to me as well. It's like they do everything to lose you yet become all apologetic when you decide to leave. It's senseless.
Ms. Jasmin, you are speaking to my heart. I gave my life to Christ and began obeying the Lord which included celibacy. But, your message is helping even more. Im listening.....
This is the absolute truth , every single word. It takes taking a painful look at your sense of self worth and inner standing. For some of us we learn young while some of us take more time. Give yourself grace either way because it’s not ok for someone to manipulate your insecurities but it’s your responsibility to heal yourself ❤
Same. The females before me were all in bad, abusive/toxic, relationships. Currently, the only healthy relationship that exist in my family, is only one niece. Like Lauren London said, most partnerships are ego based. I too want something deeper.
This is beautiful and the best decentering vid because it focuses on the self and spirit instead of these dudes crusty dusty
This is only bizarre to someone not on this journey, I completely follow what you're saying thank you for this beautiful message ❣️🦋✨
Dear Jasmin, thank you for your video. I‘m 21 and I‘m still a virgin. I‘ve spent a lot of time alone because I moved cities, I really got to know myself. I don‘t date because I don‘t feel very seen. I feel a kind of pressure to habe sex from society. People tell me I‘m more likely to not meet anyone, because I‘m too insecure. But I think I just know myself very well and I know what I want. It still gets me when I‘m out having fun, that I don‘t get approached, eventhough I know that I‘m a good person. Your video was very helpful and I like listening to you.
All the best.❤
I recently gave myself away after practicing celibacy for two years and everything fell apart lost my job and my emotional/mental stability everything you said resonated with me. Being alone brings me so much self love joy peace and I manifest things fast. I’m getting back on that journey and I don’t plan on getting off because honestly Ive never had a desire for dating/relationships especially since I don’t want children
A hidden Gem. ❤
Oooof!! This was so needed!! I have been fooled by men most of my adolescent life and watching this video I feel like I resonated with it so much but there’s still so much conditioning that I received from men that I am still like lost in the sauce a little bit!
But yalll, I want to understand deeper the conditioning these men do to us.
I probably should go celibate for a bit & it’ll become more clear of how powerful I am actually, without a man on my side
If you keep having sex with them you will never gain clarity. They mess up your energy.
I love when RUclips recommend random creators I've never seen before. I just wanted to say I completely resonated with everything you said in this video. As an 18 year old woman, who is very spiritually awakened, and I've been single for basically my whole life, still a virgin by choice. I honestly don't have many friends at all, and the ones that I do have I can't ave these type of conversations with, so I really appreciate being able to watch videos like these, your someone who understands me without even knowing me, and I love that.
Girl! You are so deep. This was absolutely beautiful. Beautifully spoken. Youre beautiful! Everything you said spoke to my soul.
These men that have these podcasts are so poisonous and lost and they are brainwashing these young men. It is disgusting out there. It is the perfect time to dig deep and learn ourselves and know we are amazing beautiful women and we DONT have to deal with their insecurities and game playing. We have to become smarter and selfish and know our worth. You get it. And it’s beautiful that you are getting it while you’re still young. Don’t let them waste your youth and beauty. You’re Awesome ✨
Whew!, this resonated so much. I have been celibate for four months after realizing I was pouring so much into my previous relationship and getting nothing in return. I have been so happy just existing as me, doing the things that bring me joy. My level of decernment is high and I only allow people in my life that is a reciprocal investment, that I feel safe around and most importantly bring peace into my world.
I had to come back after walking away from a domestic violence relationship and choosing my newborn and myself changed every I found over 20 talents in that solitude I opened a new business and I am thriving I hope they don’t miss the part about your connection to source energy and how solitude somehow gave you more of it
it was my plan to stay celibate for a year. first 4 months i was SO ATTRACTIVE and magnetic. i focused on me, did a lot of inner work, dated myself. 4 months later i met an amazing man who ruined my plans. he's a soulmate and a perfect reflection of me. i do regret entering a relationship so soon though, but i still love him a lot so win win
I’ve been unconsciously celibate for a year and a half now. I’m actually still a virgin and I’ve been practicing abstinence all this time. But I think I’m being called to intentionally declare and live in celibacy. I’ve never really dated much and I’ve pretty much lost interest in it. I just turned 30 and I’m preparing to move to a new state and I’m really just ready to know MYSELF on a deep level, not spending my life pursuing or waiting for another person. I’ve been craving my own space and energy.
Also, I totally agree with the level of mental clarity and discernment that comes from celibacy/abstinence…it’s like a filter for anyone not aligned with you. Being a virgin and abstinent has saved me from so much toxicity, drama and pain that I witness others suffer. And knowing that makes me want to continue to safeguard my energy.
Thank you for this video. I needed this encouragement. ❤
i am 30 as well, and getting to relocate...i have been celibate for almost a year, and im just enjoying it! i needed this space, to really relearn myself.
@@bambijones The level of peace is truly unmatched
Honey you still can know yourself while in a healthy relationship.Unless God is calling you to single hood.God us very relational and he says it's not good for man to be alone .So may God give you wisdom to balance .I'm celibate too but I'm getting married soon next year.
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@@mildredwasike2802 people always quote that scripture out of context. There is difference between alone and single. Just because you are not engaged in romantic/sexual relationships doesn’t mean you are alone…meaningful and healthy relationships come in multiple different dynamics not just dating and marriage. If you’re SINGLE you are in relationship with yourself. True…It is not good to be ALONE, as in without community/relationships of any kind (friends, family, mentors or partners etc.) Singleness is actually encouraged in the Bible. Jesus himself was single and he wasn’t “imbalanced” as you say.
Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials.
I recently came across this and I think it came at the right time for me. I’m almost at 1 that celibate and my inner voice also told me I would be in single for a while and how powerful it would make me. Ever since I made that decision I’ve been tested. Some men come but I know too much for them to last more than two days. There’s one guy that trigger/distract me and for 3 months now I’ve been blocking him and literally trying to hide from him in this new city. The problem is he keeps popping up in my reality. As if he is the one. I feel like I’m in a movie it’s that s crazy, like I’m being tested. we have never done anything let alone kiss because I’m so mean to him because I don’t want him to hurt me and he still welcomes me back and that makes me feel crazy lol. Idk if he’s good or bad but this video helped me to make the decision to just de-center men and just see if I’m he can last as a friend without interacting. I feel like that will tell me a lot. ANYWAYS lol thank you for this video. 🙏🏾
Ok, this might sound crazy but hear me out. He may have a dark entity attached to him that wants to feed off your light. This is the reason he’s so persistent, you have something in you/on you that the entity wants. Keep him far away from you! Far!
My spirit says RUN! I've had a similar experience where he would call or text if I had an inkling of a thought of him...he's narcissistic. He's attracted to my light. RUN & stay focused. Meditation.
@@staceywilliams1863I agree!
I literally decided to begin dating and pouring into myself a few weeks ago. This video just served as reassurance that Im making the right decision.
dating? Is this vid not about not dating?😂
Then another thing I want to add in when you was talking about the energy part. Getting connected to my spiritual side and how things work internally I realized everytime I slept with him he was taking on my energy and leaving me confused, sad and low. Because I would ignore him for weeks even months because he’s not for me and it’s so bad for my mental health but then I’ll give in to him and go back and it’s like we were transferring energies all that good energy I had while I wasn’t sleeping with him or dealing with him then I’ll slip up and do it and I’ll be back to feeling very low again. So that’s why now I’m just cautious and treat myself like a expensive glass that you don’t want to break. I don’t worry about men I love me now and I’m so happy with just me & God.
Hey little soul sister, as you described is the exact same i am going through right now and I am really enjoying it. Am 37 and do not regret any of my past decisions, but know the time is right for me to give myself the space and respect I truly deserve and need to thrive.
Your speech was so empowering and brought some healing teardrops to my face.
I see you, I feel you...be blessed! Much love from Austria💜
Took me til 36 even tho I had patches of celibacy throughout life. A 36 I am finally committing to it - mainly cuz my perception of men is wrecked based on my experiences and choices. Kinda just want to stay to myself for some years and replenish
I’m 40 and this resonates with me! My objective is solely to focus on my goals and achieve my own accomplishments. If I could go back, my 20s and 30s would look differently. Thank you for this video and keep up the great work!
Being celibate, women I have never met believe that I'm a well-kept woman... All because I exude the energy & look of happiness, abundance, & contentment.
GOD is amazing, ancient scriptures explain how we should live but too often we dont truly understand what is expected, or why such restrictions but when you began the process of SELF growth, you will find GOD has wonderful words of wisdom for us all!
Yes, I am a well-kept woman of GOD!