your fear of BEING SEEN is holding you back from your fullest potential...let's change that
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- Опубликовано: 29 май 2024
- Hi Bestie! It's quite common to have a fear of being seen. Some of us may not even be aware that this is an issue and that it could affect our ability to go after what we want in life and reach our full potential. Click in to see if this sounds like you and how to overcome it!
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your fear of BEING SEEN is holding you back from your fullest potential...let's change that
This video happened at the perfect time for me to hear what I needed to hear. It’s especially difficult to allow yourself to be seen when you’ve been through so much trauma. It’s also especially difficult to really live your life to the fullest from a hiding place. Here’s to courage and bravery, and letting our freaking lights shine!!
So much truth Re: trauma & being seen.
Same here 😢 we deserve to be the best version of ourselves.
Well said!
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Have an idea why/whats yr fear. I had to hide myself and my daughter, but eventually, it has to be faced, we have to live, not exist. Now years later i hate camera because of an accident that damaged my face. First impressions on camera are visual. Not easy
i have this fear. i've seen my ideas be fulfilled by others and have even experienced jealousy to the point where I had to get off of social media completely. it took years of growth to realize that i was indeed the problem all along. now, i'm out here chasing my dreams and making myself seen, shamelessly. thanks for the amazing video love
Omg me too I was so sad because their success could’ve been my success if I wasn’t afraid to put myself out there. Life waits for no one. I realize that more than ever now
@@khadejahthomas1122 You’re absolutely right, life does not wait. We have to step out in faith and keep it moving! Let’s not stand in our own way by being afraid because God has great plans for us.
@@RiaBudgets yes he does🙏🏾❤️
I’ve definitely experienced this as well, just feeling like i dont have all the tools someone else had so i never let my idea flow and be fruitful, sometimes never shared with anyone ! I also have a fear of being seen in fear of obligation to society, always having to produce or create with pressure of folks waiting to know whats next and wanting more than i can give…
That's one thing we noticed! If you don't activate on your idea ... SOMEONE ELSE WILL! It was a painful reminder for me when someone hit a million on an idea I had 5 years previously but did nothing with.
I am currently a teacher’s assistant and let me tell you… kids will bring you out of your shell. They don’t care about what you look like, they just want you to join in their shenanigans.
"There's something really cool about you that needs to be shared with the world...If you're not doing that, you really are depriving all of us of the magic in you" I had to run that back a couple times ❤
I feel like this is what's holding me back from wanting jobs with more responsibilities n better pay
Now this I can relate to. I actually helped someone who was less educated, talented, and hard working than me to get ahead in her job...a job I could have had. In the end I had to say namaste bitch.
I know my fear of being seen has to do with being labelled as a "gifted" kid growing up - sometimes when you sparkle, people won't attack/dim your "shine"; they'll exploit it and exhaust it instead. There's always that little voice in my head that says, "if you show up fully as you are, people will just take and take and take from you until there's nothing left to give" / "if you do something wonderful or great, you'll be expected to maintain that same level of success/achievement forever and never be able to put it down and rest" - so instead of fully, genuinely showing up, I dim my light so that no one will ever really expect too much of me, in case the responsibility of success is too much for me to handle. (Self-sabotage is literally the worst, lol).
I found your comments about children/childhood really helpful; growing up, I felt so much pressure to study and excel and perform and succeed and "live up to my potential", I barely had any fun at all (being parentified didn't help the situation either). That's something I still really struggle with; perfectionism and relaxing and just enjoying things as they are.
Thank you for your insight - I hope you have a great day!
I found your story really similar to mine. Growing up I was also the golden child of the family. It was such a pressure to be seen, to basically bear the expectations of people around me, to continously achieve and excel academically. I know they didn't do it on purpose yet it's what shaped me into who I am now. As result today I struggle with perfectionism and imposter syndrome, I have little awareness of when to stop and having way higher standard for myself. And internally harsh and push myself when I don't reach my own standard.
Just like you I have difficulty to just relax and enjoy my time. If people ask me what's my hobby I'll almost instinctively say "dancing and violin" without really thinking, but in reality I just say I don't particularly enjoy doing anything special or just reading to end the conversation. Every time I ask myself the same question it makes me realize how absorbed I am in my work and academic life, basically "the achievement" people expected from me growing up forgetting that part of me that's actually me.
it makes me so uncomfortable thinking that other people have a perception of me and can think about me and see me differently from how I view myself.
I've always had social anxiety and I'm veryyy scared to be judged and that makes me tone down my personality. I also carry a lot of shame which correlates with all of this, wanting to hide and not be seen for who I am, not wanting the spotlight in case I mess up and questioning if I even deserve attention.
I have mad social anxiety too and. Imposter syndrome. I'm to graduate at the end of the year and I'm like why keep telling myself I'm going to fail, it's like I don't deserve accomplishments and success smh. We have to do and be better to ourselves 🫂
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The fear of being seen is probably why I always feel invisible, so thank you for this video!!! :)
I feel the same. That's mostly my fear, being ignored.
Def body image has been a big one for me. I've literally listened to this like three times already. Such a good episode for the self conscious but secretly dope girlies!
So glad it helped bb
YESSS !!!!
besides my fear of being seen, I enjoy my privacy and not having a digital footprint. I go through phases where I'm simply not interested in strangers seeing my life or trying to network with people because of spiritual hygience. I don't want to subject myself to the possibility of having to know people that un-know them because we're no longer cool or because I have to 'heal' from them
Second to that 👏🏻
I needed this. I dimmed my own light for a whole year, all for an emotionally unavailable situationship, trying not to make THEM feel insecure, all for nothing. Still trying to get back to who I used to be.
If someone reading this is going through the same thing: don't ever change in order to please someone, no matter how much you love them.
No one is worth losing yourself over. If they love you, they will love you when you are yourself. ❤
I finally accepted I lost myself after healing myself. A man can change a lot about you and you have to stand your ground love yourself mentally ,physically and emotionally
Don’t get back to who you used to be.. embrace who you are now, rediscover, and elevate. You’re not the person you used to be, you’re new! 🫶🏾✨
I’m not playing small no more. I’m focusing on myself and growth and improving my life. I’m no longer accepting being fat. And gone work on my self sabotage and work towards losing weight and everyone finding me pretty and doing stuff on social media and people loving me for me. You spoke the truth. All my life I was outcast and at 30 I’m not accepting that and gotta stop caring and depend on discipline and consistency and been doing so good. Thanks for this video.
I love that for you!!!
Always remember to phone a friend...that honest one who will hold you accountable to the goals you've set. Remember to love yourself through the process because it's for life. Self care can be a useful tool.....after I drop 3 inches on my waist I'm scheduling a massage! Have fun. Be well! Shalom 🙏🏽
You should read the book, The Mountain is You. Or get the audiobook so you can multitask while you workout
It’s okay to be overweight your body is yours only no one has the right to judge it or make fun of it that’s dehumanizing it should be considered a hate crime
hey friend! hope you reach your goals whatever they are, but just a reminder that your body is not holding you back from anything, no matter what size it is. hope you find places & people who make space for you to shine
I think the most difficult of things for me to accept would be that not everyone would like me, its such a burden to want everyone to like you. Here's to me not being afraid of being seen anymore . thank you for this video Bria.
Thank you I needed to hear this ❤
exactly!! why do we do this
I'm in my mid-fifties, and let me tell you, this is solid life advice! Live like B is telling you to, and you will get to my age with zero regrets... ❤
Not being seen is my comfort zone. Stepping out of my comfort zone in 2024…..
I do have a genuine fear of being seen because I have stalkers. I’ve also been around people who have dimmed my light. With all of this, I feel watered down. I hope someday I can get past this.
Have you found solutions?
@@diddiemcfly6584 Therapy is helping a lot. I am also working on building a strong small circle of friends as well. It’s hard work and I want to give up sometimes tbh, but I try to keep going.
I don't think anyone can dim your light. It's just not possible. What is possible is you believing someone else is outshining you / your light. Try to really deal with the reason why you have this believe. Your light is YOURS. The switch is with you and you control if it goes off, stay on or turned low (dimmed).
Spot on when you said it’s a fear of being misinterpreted! That’s me for sure! I’ve always felt so misunderstood and I definitely watered myself down to seem more “simple and likeable” love this video frfr ❤❤❤
Same girl when not that it matter but even the people around see the light in me
I have always been shy growing up, and it has always been hard for me to let people in and see my true self. I think because I was accustomed to ppl leaving, so I didn’t allow myself to form relationships. I got so used to just being alone or the odd one out. I liked that you pointed out doing the things you did as child. I used to take hella selfies and now I don’t because sometimes i don’t like the way I look. I have been working on my confidence and allowing myself to take more pictures. ❤
its the way we're the same person!! literally me, hopefully we can get through this together
@@belsarino yess we got this!! 🫶🏾😊
I could’ve written this 😩
This is so me😢
Jk
I do because I've been bullied about literally everything about myself, by friends ,family and strangers ;my body, my intelligence, personality, the way I talk , dress . It just makes me want to disappear and be invisible, like you said I don't want to be perceived . Even when interacting with others I feel scared to be authentically myself . I just hide in my shell . I also have a problem with oversharing lol . Then it just puts me back at square 1 😅.
Struggling with the same but we can break this barrier o know it ❤🤝
@@LittleBoSleepASMR yes we can 🫂💗 definitely gonna work on it
A lot of people don’t talk about the fear of being fully seen and exposed to the world in order to attract our dream life. Its a blockage for a lot of us.
I appreciate u opening this topic.
You’re absolutely right I think I originally became a influencerrr because I was naturally always myself and then the moment I noticed that naturalness started getting negative feedback I shut down and hid myself and started attracting friends who did the same ! Now I completely and focused on growing my own Community on RUclips and I’m finding my people and being cringey nerding out about human design and being a mom 😂❤ thanks for the encouragement to keep going
I just followed you ❤ f them folks keep growing
Youve got a new subscriber because i think the same, natural being pure self especially for our kids, the youth and saving our world❤
This is sweet 🌸thank you guys!/
I love human design and your channel looks amazing 😻 please keep doing the work that you do. You’re so needed ❤
@@DheandraNicolette thank you 🥹🌸
I realised I have a fear of being seen when I noticed I was holding myself from posting on my social platforms or was surprised by getting positive reactions on comments I'd leave on videos. I realised it is coming from my childhood and being constantly body shamed growing up. I have constantly been between the fear of being seen because I have been told so many times I wasn't worthy because my body is a certain way and also the crave of being seen for everything else than my body. I'm now in my early 40's and I'm working up the courage of starting to post more often whatever I find interesting and fun. It's a work in progress, but I know it will be fun 😁
I forgot about this but I was the same, typing and deleting and even too scared to check replies. The more you have your say, the more you realise there are others like you out there going “yes!” who are relieved they’re not the only ones thinking it. A few years on forums got me more confident with speaking in real life.
What hit the most was the inner child. My mom told me how many people visited us when i was a toddler and these people HATED kids and all of them wanted a daughter after that. It was just me being myself, a little sunshine. Not loud, not silent. Just radiating and being myself. This reminded me. Thank you 💕💕
As my son told me, "Every time I flex I get bullied." I have a fear of standing out and taking up space. I also fear being misunderstood, especially about my beliefs. Great video and I'm going to try to dig deeper. Thank you!
God literally used you to speak to me Bria. You’re an angel ❤
The childhood memories you shared unlocked so many core memories of being my silly goofy authentic self as a kid and I needed to hear that today 🥺
This came at the perfeeeext time. I am scared of being seen because I grew up in a broken home, where my siblings and step siblings picked on me and made me feel inadequate. Perhaps it was jealousy, or their own trauma, but I felt like I had to dim my light to make others shine so they wouldn’t be threatened and threaten me later. Thank you for your video
At 49 years old, I look back over the years and see everything so clearly now. Mediocre people who couldn't be bothered making an effort in their own lives, trying to extinguish stars who could. From friends at school calling me a nerd for getting high scores, because they felt like they were going to be left behind, to teachers who resented their lack of achievement, trying to discourage their students out of resentment that some of the kids were smarter than they were and had more potential. Even parents who resented that her youth was over, and it was somebody else's turn, so they did everything they could to keep their own kids down. That's all it is. Mediocre people who have embraced mediocrity, resentfully trying to keep other people down, so they don't feel like the failures that they are. It has made our world a horrible place. Because if you don't let stars shine, we will all suffer miserably in the darkness.
Dragged me for a full 20 minutes girlie 😭😅 I’ve definitely been struggling with this in social spaces and it’s been super interesting to notice. You explained if so succinctly. Thanks Bria!
I’m so glad you mentioned bullying and being “cool” because that is something I experienced a lot growing up and still do to this day. Like it’s much less not being in school, but social media is almost creating a high school environment online, where you’re a complete loser if you dont spend all your paycheck on the coolest trends. And despite me never being cool, it’s something my ego always strives for, even though I know I wouldn’t even be happy if I was “cool”. Something I often think about is that if younger me saw myself, she would think I’m cool and everything she dreamed of and more. Little me, or my inner child, is the only opinion I want to care about!
This is proof that we all have the same fears. So know that if you put yourself out there more you've done much more than most people can ever think of doing. Knowing we all have the same fears makes it easier to be yourself and makes you feel less lonely.
The fear of being seen is SO REAL especially when you grow up and realize the world and people are not how we used to see them when we were young and innocent.. It hits hard. It can get so comfortable just being unseen unbothered and unheard.. BUT does it make you happy? Do you feel fulfilled? If the answer is no, the it's time to get back the real you. Am on this journey.
Do your best to always keep your light going, don't let anyone dim it! 🌞💖✨
Amen
I definitely have a fear of being seen, which is why it has taken me so long to start a RUclips channel. Pushing past this fear so I can share what I know with folks. Thank you for this video!
Whoaa,,,same here girl
I think my body imagine and how I imagine/know people perceive me takes the wind out of my sails a lot. I get scared to open up and be genuine around new people especially because I worry about not being liked, or seen as cringe, or something else negative. I think that comes from being misunderstood as a child and also one of my ex’s who took out his own insecurities on me by starting fights or pointing out flaws in me that I didn’t do on purpose or had no idea I had done wrong. So it made me constantly worried that I’m doing something bad or wrong without even meaning to or realizing, I’m always waiting for someone to confront me about behaviors I don’t even realize are “wrong” in the moment. Im also scared to put myself online and have people dig into my life and find my dirty little secrets and air them out, or get doxed or something like that. It’s really scary to be perceived, it feels unsafe a lot of the times.
Exacrtly bruh it's really not that easy when you've had so many experiences of people reacting to you in strange and hurtful ways. Plus, when you're naturally introverted, it just becomes easier to justify shutting ourselves off because we don't often mind being alone... I also have the same anxiety about the online stuff because you really never know.
Fear of being seen stems from not feeling safe. Some people have contributed to that unsafeness with bullying and harassment. One thing that helps me is being with God, and telling myself I am safe, safe for me to be authentic, take up space, and be here. Ignore people and have strong sense of self helps too. Thank you for this video .
I definitely am breaking through my fear of being seen after I a was target of cyber bullying. I started getting influencer collaborations and because I thought I was ugly I would self sabotage which manifested in overeating and low self esteem. Thanks for your insights really helpful,I was able to pinpoint what was holding me back.
So where ru at w things now?
Oh this is a new vid, my bad, didn’t kno it was so recent 💀
In 2018 I lost 60lbs. I was hanging with friends and enjoying life. I ended up meeting someone & slowly I lost touch of who I was .. I lost all different types of friendships. I had a baby & gained basically all the weight back, I became a single mother, I was in such a daaaaaark space .. I felt I lost the person I was. I really needed to hear everything you said. This video came at the perfect time.
I’m better now. I’m much wiser in relationships/friendships. I’m still sheltered due to the trauma I experienced but I am so ready to been seen! I’m ready to put myself out there again I love authentically being me. I’ve always been different from how I wear clothes, how I do my makeup ect. I’m definitely going to get back to ME in 2024 that’s all I am working on.
Thank you for this video ♥️
It's the fact that my own family and friends have 0% interest in what i do and how i am. It feels weird speaking to a camera. It feel like im speaking to no one or who's listening. I rather stay in me head. Chat with the ppl whos around me.
It will take time to get there and i'm giving myself grace and patience.
First time viewer and this hit so hard for me! As I’m stepping out into the unknown of healing and finding my way back to Christ, I needed to hear this❤
Same and same! Good to know you’re not alone in something
This hit me so hard - since I was a kid I've had an issue with being "seen" and it's only gotten harder as I've gotten older, but this is a great reminder to just be me as much as I can!
This video was an eye opener for me. I was working at a job where I was hiding my authentic self yet only a few saw the real me. Saw the light I had within. I was very comfortable not being notice. When attention is on me I fear what others will say or try to be accepted. Fast forward to recently for almost 2 years now I am running a business, with employees. To hear them call me “Boss Lady” is weird, I don’t like to be seen or heard yet I have no choice to do so. I have masked my true self, dimmed my light so I would not shine. It’s a journey for me to begin to let my light shine, for most people to see
the real me. I am magical, special. Thank you for making this video I needed to hear it.
People who give up in life are people who lose in life, my first experience happens to be a failure but I never gave up cause I knew it was going to work out for me trying continuously, fortunately I'm smiling today by getting involved in investment.. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life too 🙏🙏🙏
you've remind me of what someone once said "The mind is the man, the poor is in it and the rich is it too". This sentence is the secret of most successful investors. I once attended similar and ever since then been waxing strong financially, and i most tell you the truth..investment is the key that can secure your family future.
I urge everyone to start somewhere now no matter how small, this is literally the time for that, forget material things, don't get tempted,i became more better the moment i realized this.
yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate Investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to a great loss too
exactly! That's my major concern and what kind of profitable business or investment can someone do with the current rise in economic downturn
Hello nice comments here, please what exactly kind of investment are you talking about here, I'm really interested too
My fear of being seen comes from being afraid that if I show my authentic self, she will be judged and not accepted. As a kid I was kind of like Bria, such a shimmering bright light who gave no fucks. So now as an adult I've been conditioned to conform. It feels literally unsafe if I show my authentic self more. Not just online, but in person too. I'm afraid to be "too much" but I know that hiding myself is actually self-betrayal. I AM the one putting myself in a box, other people don't even have to do it for me anymore
Why is this me with my RUclips channel, podcast, and being in public?! I haven’t taken a picture of myself IN MONTHS, literally loss sight of my goals/dreams because I just don’t want to be seen. Thank you for this, this really helped!
"There's something really cool about you that needs to be shared with the world" ✨✨ I liked that, great video!
You phrased it perfectly. I've had a lot of trouble with past friendships. Even up into my 30s, people were still acting like teenage bullies. It has made me turn my light way down
i am so happy that i came across this video, i started a photography business not too long ago and my fear of being seen has stopped me in many ways from trying to grow my business. not only that it’s stopped me from connecting with different people and just had brought me to a place of loneliness, once i realized how bad i’ve been hiding myself. i’ve been working through that everyday this summer and this video was exactly what i needed to remind myself that i’m not alone. i don’t think anyone else could have reached me the way you did. your sparkle touched me ❤️❤️
So many ties to energy and body weight! Yes! As a hypnotherapist, I can say this is definitely true. The fear of being seen affects us on all levels. Love this video, Bria!
Thanks Bria! Yes, I have a serious fear of being seen 😩 I’m a podcaster with a small following and I still have yet to embrace my true potential. I have a few insecurities but most importantly, I’m holding back for fear of what people will say or think about me. It’s the dumbest shit huh? I’m very gifted but I continue to live in fear of my greatness. Thanks for addressing this issue. Love you 😘
This is so me😢. I currently stopped editing a video, cause I still cringe to being on RUclips
SAME!!!!
same here
This message was for me, from God. Thank you ❤ this was right on time
The video hit home forsure, I can definitely relate to body image and looks and when I use to be my most authentic self I got judged so much and really internalized all of it, I’m slowly learning to let it go and really accept those things about me that people use to talk about because they actual aren’t that bad people just love to talk shit for no reason and it’s usually projection because you’re the one who’s actually putting yourself out there. You’re doing what they wish they could do but are too scared to even try…
its crazy how this is something ive been thinking about and needing lately! thank you
Leo season is all about tapping into your inner child and inner teen ! This message is in alignment, as always. Thanks bestie.
This is real struggle to try and meet your simplest needs in society when fear of being seen and judged by other people completely occupies your thoughts.
"No one's watching anyway, so I might as well just be myself" is the mindset I have for everything. But still the fear of being seen has held me back from ever being a content creator on any platform.. because.. yeah.. when no one is watching, it's super easy to be authentic. But when you have an audience, it invites so much toxicity.
This is so important thank you! I think as a creator my fear of being seen stemmed from my fear of not being seen. I felt like if my work didn’t get attention, it wasn’t worthy and it made me not want to share it anymore. This is really helpful in me beginning to process all of this and take the first step to move past it.
It sure is and I’m starting to step out my comfort zone I don’t care what people think about me anymore. Thank you for this video it definitely motivated me more to keep going❤
I am constantly searching for the affection I missed from my mom, trying to prove I’m good enough. But I never was with her, so I never completely apply myself to anything. It hurts a lot less when you’re disappointing, if you’re not trying. It hurts a lot less when people you love don’t like you, if you’re not being yourself. I remember telling her I felt like she liked our dogs more than me, and all she would ever say is “don’t be dramatic” or “that doesn’t even make sense.”
I could cling to being “smart” when I was younger. With my career now, I’m actually having to apply myself and be intellectually vulnerable.. Daily I end up freezing and putting myself in a feedback loop that feeds my anxiety. I’m terrified of people looking at me how I feel she looks at me. Thinking I’m dumb, incompetent, hateful… an annoying, unwanted burden. When I never should’ve felt like this in the first place.
Healing is a long, winding road, but I’m willing to trek it.. even though, right now, it’s dark. This isn’t the first hard thing I’ve conquered and it won’t be the last.
Thank you for the video; you shined some much needed light my way! Much love
- from Jayde💓
"Put on weight to protect yourself to avoid being seen".... i have been dragged... for FILTH!
Not me self sabotaging whilst simultaneously trying to promote a glow-up within me???
That stops today! - Thank you for this video Bria
god damn girl I was going into a depressive spiral and this just reminded me that I can lift the burden I put on myself to be perfect all the time. time to stop self-sabotaging and be who I authentically am.
This video was so needed. I’ve been on a journey of wanting to be a content creator but just HATE the idea of being seen. But every point of this is so true! When you’re your TRUE authentic self you will always attract the people for you. Hate will come with anything you do in life!
for years i wanted to post video on youtube... just to connect with others and share myself. but i didn't, i was afraid to be seen and made excuses that i dont have a niche/theme/creativity for content. i really hope to change that. this video making me want to take the leap to be seen...!
6:18 , this is called choosing compassion for your own self, because resentment will hurt no one but yourself as well
I can’t tell you how badly I needed to hear this. I’ve been wanting to get serious ab content for years within my niche but from my life story and it’s been terrifying. I’ve seen so many girlies start and grow massively since then just by being consistent and unapologetic and improving their content. I’m happy for them but I often feel like “it couldn’t be me” bc I’m not “pretty enough” “fit enough” etc… or just downright that there’s something ugly inside me everyone else is going to pick up on and not like my content, which almost feels scarier bc I so badly want to grow a community. 💔 But I have so much to work to share and so much light to give, I know it. Thank you for checking a girly and adjusting our crowns.
It wasn’t until I watched this that I feel like this could be a huge contributor as to why I’m dragging my feet trying to accomplish my goals of working online. Definitely love your perspectives and awarenesses
Started a new online business at the beginning of the year and the "fear of being seen" is so real. Currently struggling with putting myself and my story out there on social and your video helped me remember this is my life, not anyone else's. I have to do what makes ME happy, regardless of anyone else's opinion (actively searching for that little girl on the playground who did not care about looks, just focused on the fun of it all...I know shes in there) thanks for sharing boo!!! ❤
After having an argument, I stumbled upon a video that reminded me not to care about those who try to cancel my authenticity. There must be something wrong with them!
Bria this is total truth and exactly how I started my channel!
And while I am still trying to grow my channel, GOD IS growing me... Even if slowly! I am totally being myself, keeping my peace & having fun learning & growing organically!
This was a good chat! Thanks Bria Jones!!
It’s so interesting. My ‘fear’ of being seen never is factored through the opinions of others. Perks of parenting myself i instilled self assurance. Mine shows it’s head within the programming of a narcissist parent who made sure i never shined at all so I’ve internalized that. Still sum I’m actively & cringingly working through especially as a introvert🧑🏾💻
"bust a move and do your thing to get what you want" my mantra.
This is so very true! Your fear of being seen will keep you small! And ain't nobody got time for any of us playing small.
This somehow ended up in my watch history though I hadn't clicked on it. What a sign to heal exponentially! We all deserve to be our best selves without so much alteration or hiding.
I do have a fear of being seen, and I think it’s related to trauma from being called weird and strange so much as a child. Fast forward and I’ve worked really hard on my fitness goals and really want to build out this brand, but I get so anxious when I try to record anything, and tend to get overwhelmed because I try or think I need to edit out all of the goofball moments. I even freeze up when I want to write comments/ posts.
I saw the title and thought this might be something I need to hear, and want to say this was beautifully done, and well received. Thank you
After a lifetime of bullying from peers and family, it’s all starting to come together.
I know I’m allowed to be me, I was never not allowed to be me, but now I have to do it with a little more volume so it overrides the ridicule and negativity.
This is so real. For years, I’ve wanted to be a vlogger. I finally started doing it but i get so embarrassed doing it in public which is so frustrating
Just found you. Making this my new Saturday morning routine. It's Sunday, but whatever. I feel like I've always struggled with this "fear of being seen" and a "fear of not being myself." It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one with this struggle. I've always espoused an attitude of embracing "uncoolness" while struggling, often in the same moment, with social anxiety from wanting (needing?) to be liked. At this moment in life, social anxiety is winning. About to watch "Embrace the Cringe"! Thanks for existing and passing through my world.
"If there's something in your life where you're feeling resistance, are you being 100% yourself?" I FELT THIS! Thank you for creating this video, keep shining your light ❤🔥
To have the confidence of a child. I absolutely love that concept and I try to remember it as much as I can when I don’t want to be seen
I think my fear of being seen roots from my parents picking apart and analyzing every aspect of my behavior from a young age and criticizing it. I will get away from the toxic household in a year. Thankyou for letting me hear this. I think this will help me a lot much with my social anxiety too.
Great content, Bria! You’re one of my favorite channels to watch when I need a morale boost as a creator. :)
I totally relate to not being a “cool girl” and it’s been one of the best mindset shifts for me. “Embrace the nerd” is my current motto and it’s so much easier to show up as my authentic self and create quality content.
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Yesss!! Love that!
As a member of the 10% male population of your audience... I needed this message lol. Thank you
my light was dimmed during highschool, I was enrolled in an all girls school, and girls there are so mean especially if they see that you have this shine in you, they will tear you down with their judgements and talking behind your back that slowly you stop being "that" girl, and you can't tell people you're being bullied because they're sly about it.
now I'm still working on recovering my old self and hopefully come back so much better now that I'm older❤
I have been possessing a fear of being seen for a long time in my life, but that’s about to change!!!
This video is everything...I listen to it on my morning walks and I'm just really grateful people like you show up to do this work. You're needed, you're valued and you matter. Much thanks!
Thank you, this is so helpful. Especially as you get older - when I was in my 20s I had so much moxie, now in my 50s I hold back. I really appreciate your encouragement ❤
Bestie B had no business outing me like that, but I needed this!
And I want to tell anybody who's reading this that God loves you and Jesus died for you. I'm sharing this with y'all because I feel love take over me while watching this video which inspired me to profess the LOVE I know and experience. That's GOD! I love you guys! May this day bring peace and clarity to you!
This is the first video that explained exactly how I’ve been feeling for the majority of my life. That’s crazy that it was recommended to me at this time that I’m finally realizing it and wanting a change.
dimming our light the older we get.. I felt that 😭 I always tell myself how much I miss taking pics of everything with my digital camera - for the sole purpose of capturing memories.. uncurated, unfiltered and all. thank you for this video!!
Haters online get out of hand and will really make you second guess yourself. Recently I had someone comment that cosmetology isn’t my strong suit so basically saying I need to stop posting .. I’m not going to lie it did get to me for a second but then I look at all the other comments that were positive and remind myself that there will always be negative comments and I just have to block those out and continue believing in myself 😊
“There’s something very cool about you that needs to be shared with the world”. I felt that!
For me it’s definitely the fear of being judged. Even though I know that my thoughts about myself are the important ones. I just try to dive down and be most of the time silent so that other people won’t talk about me. I think I really need to shift my mindset on that and just present my true authentic self. Well.. When I think about it now, it really scares me. I realize that if I be myself and say what comes to my mind the moment I want to that I may hurt other people or do not really listen to them because I am not focused on them anymore, like I usually do. I would focus only on myself and be in my own bubble. Is this the right way? I don’t know..
Hey there, Bestie! Your video really hit home for me. It's eye-opening to realize that fear of being seen might be holding us back from reaching our true potential, but your insights on overcoming it are truly empowering. Can't wait to implement your advice and step into a brighter, more confident version of myself. Thanks for sharing!
I just stumbled in this video and i think this wasnt a coincidence. I also have the fear of being seen but that roots to the fear of making mistakes. I just reflected on it yesterday when i just read outloud my thoughts like im doing my own Tedshow. And boy i didnt realize that until yesterday. My words just came on their own without a second thought and thas how i get to fully know my inner dialogues.
Fun fact about me is that i often want to hear myself talking. So whenever im all alone in the house, i often ask myself some random question or that identity crisis like question. So the way you sit directly to the camera makes me feel like youre talking to me as my friend and thats teally comforting. Especially when you also know those struggles that resonates with me too.
I cant say i can do all of those acceptance immediately but i would say i will try to make them happen gradually by time. I have such low esteem that makes me also fear of being seen because ive felt like im not good enough. But that thinking gets me to the facf na im just myself and also a human. I can never be good enough for people so why bother listening to their judgements when you can see them as how they care for you. Even with those hateful comments.
With all this, i had one thing that keeps bugging me, a person had give me much hurt that i could ever perceive in my life(harassment), do you think i should forgive them for peace of mind?
Omg Bestie, you’re truly my bestie. The topics you touch on, the vulnerability & transparency you give through this journey called life has only been inspiring 🫶🏾 Your timing for this video couldn’t have come sooner. Thank you so much, keep growing & glowing 🤗
This was awesome ! I have a fear of being seen because of my body image . However I’m working on it going to the gym , eating right doing what I can to control what I can ! Hopefully this will allow me to post on social media again it’s been almost 8 years !
I really enjoyed watching this video. I don't usually make comments on youtube since my fear of being seen also extends to making comments haha. I belive this fear stems from the type of friends I had around me. Since cutting ties with them, I find myself wanting to do more activities I use to do as a child; especially with my girlfriend. I was told that whoever your inner child feels comfortable around is the person who accepts you the most. I feel so much happier not restricting myself to seem pretty and be accepted; i feel happy being loved for just who I am. I still need time to work on this, but making this comment is a big step! I really appreciate content like this and am excited for this journey, as a 20 year old, into adulthood.
Just saw a post about fear of being seen and then this comes up in my recommendations. I’m ready to be seen
I really needed this, I suffered from this fear of being seen for such a long time and looking back I could have been so far in my career if I remained focused on things that actually matter. THANK YOU!
Hey Bria I'm new here, so glad I found you! My habit of making sure I'm not seen extends even into writing comments on RUclips haha, I always thought it was a shy thing until I realised the thought of leaving a comment actually made me anxious that someday someone will find something from 20 years ago and use it to attack me or make fun of me. I've been making more of an effort to leave comments more often now and I consider this my level one achievement. Hope I ascend to higher levels soon :P
What you said about sending love to haters is so difficult to do so I'm sure it takes great courage and strength for you to do that. I'm currently only able to manage being indifferent but this sending love concept is definitely interesting! I hope I can try that and see how it feels. I guess sending love does not actually equal excusing their behaviour, I'll keep that in mind