The Secret to Stopping Fear and Anxiety (That Actually Works) | Mel Robbins
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Learn the secret to stopping fear, anxiety, and panic attacks.
I'd tried tons of strategies to stop fear and none of them actually worked. I decided to create a new technique, combining the research-backed 5 Second Rule and the latest findings on the topics of fear and anxiety.
When nothing else worked for me, this technique did. It allowed me to beat fear, anxiety, panic attacks, and negative thoughts-and as I shared it with others, it worked for them too.
For the first time, I'm explaining it here.
You can learn even more about this simple yet highly effective 3-step strategy for stopping fear and anxiety in my new book, The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence With Everyday Courage.
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I used to have a chronic fear of flying. Then I saw a slogan for a parachute school that said "Knowledge dispels fear". I applied this to flying, sat down and tried to learn everything I could about flying and aviation. Flying is now my greatest passion in life and I am training to be a pilot. Knowledge DOES dispel fear.
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Very great insight! THANKS.
That's actually pretty damn crazy. Hope your pilot training is going well
Thank you for this great quote!😍
Blessing from Taiwan! 😇
Did you have a fear of flying...or a fear of falling. Maybe by learning to fly you put your mind at ease about falling.
this is really inspirational. thank you for sharing :)
Fear=Excitement. That is mind blowing. Never thought of it before.
Do people really believe this?
Dee Gee why wouldn't they!? this is fool proof!
+brad zatar Are you joking?
ofc not, why don't you believe it!?
+brad zatar bc it's a gimmick and it's not true. The chemicals released in your brain are different with fear or excitement. That's why they feel totally different. Anticipation of sex feels different than someone car jacking you. That's why you're not thinking "fight or flight" when you're a about to have sex. It's just sad that this many ppl are lost enough to believe this. It may help some ppl. But it's no solution. It's a psychological band aid basically.
I have lived a life full of fears. Tears are flowing in my eyes now.
I have been seen as clueless, empty-brian and stupid by people who seemed to respect me for what they knew about me, thanks to fear.
I hope this would help me.
Same😭😪
Hope your tears are wiped away friend
Tears for fears..
This is so amazinggggg
I really love eeet
🌸 Summary:
1. 5 Second Rule ( to disturb your mind and change the focus from fear to the anchor thought)
2. Anchor Thought ( an image that makes you excited about what will happen after you do the thing that you're gonna do)
3. Reframe fear into excitement ( and this happens directly after applying step number 2)
THE GOSPEL OF THE WORD OF ALMIGHTY GOD "the last age in which God saves man from the destruction of this old world"
"WHAT is the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS?". ... (The so-called "influence of darkness" is the influence of Satan's deception, corruption, bondage, and control over people; Satan's influence is an influence that threatens death. How can you escape from the influence of darkness after can you have faith in God? When you pray sincerely to God, you turn your heart completely to Him, and at this point the Spirit of God touches your heart. If people cannot put into practice the words of God, if they are always trying to deceive Him, acting indifferent to Him, and not believing in His existence--all these people are living under the influence of darkness. Those who are not liberated, who are always controlled by some things, and are unable to give their hearts to God those who are under the bondage of Satan who live with imminent death. Those who are careless and not serious in their practice of truth, and do not seek to meet the will of God, instead only seeking to satisfy their own flesh, are also people living under the influence of darkness, shrouded by death. All those who cannot sincerely love God, who do not seek to attain the truth, and who do not focus on changing their dispositions are people who live under the influence of darkness.)
The Almighty said
The SO-CALLED "influence of darkness" is the INFLUENCE of DECEPTION, CORRUPTION, BANDAGE, and CONTROL of SATAN on PEOPLE; SATAN'S INFLUENCE is an INFLUENCE that heralds DEATH. ☀️😪
ALL WHO LIVE UNDER SATAN'S COVERAGE WILL CERTAINLY DIE. ☀️
HOW CAN YOU ESCAPE from the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS AFTER YOU HAVE FAITH in GOD? When you PRAY SINCERELY to GOD, you TURN YOUR HEART COMPLETELY to Him, and at this point GOD'S SPIRIT TOUCHES your HEART.🙏
You become READY to GIVE YOURSELF COMPLETELY to Him, and at this MOMENT, you have ESCAPED from the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. If EVERYTHING a MAN does is that which PLEASES GOD and is in ACCORDANCE with His REQUESTS, he is a MAN WHO LIVES by His WORDS of GOD and UNDER His CARE and PROTECTION. ☀️🙏
If people can't put God's words into practice, if they always try to deceive Him, act without enthusiasm for Him, and don't believe in His existence---all these people are living under the influence of of darkness ☀️
People who have not received God's salvation live under Satan's control; that is, they all live under the influence of darkness.
Those who do not believe in God live under Satan's domain: Even those who believe in the existence of God may not be living in His light, because those who believe in Him may not really live according to His words nor be able to submit to God. ☀️
Man is limited in believing in God, and because he knows nothing about God, he still lives according to old rules, in empty words, in a life that is dark and uncertain, without being completely purified by God nor did He fully possess it.
In fact, although it goes without saying that those who believe in God may still be under its influence, because they do not have the work of the Holy Spirit. ☀️
Those who have NOT RECEIVED GOD'S GRACE or MERCY and those who CANNOT SEE the WORK of the HOLY SPIRIT ALL LIVE UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS, and MOST, so are PEOPLE who ONLY ENJOY GOD'S GRACE but do NOT KNOW Him . IF a PERSON BELIEVES in GOD but SPENDS MOST of his ENTIRE LIFE LIVING UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS, this PERSON'S EXISTENCE has LOST SIGNIFICANCE---and why even mention people who don't believe that God exists ?
ALL those who CANNOT ACCEPT GOD'S WORK, or ACCEPT GOD'S WORK but CANNOT RESPOND to HIS REQUESTS, are PEOPLE WHO LIVE UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. Only THOSE WHO DESIRE to OBTAIN the TRUTH and can RESPOND to GOD'S REQUESTS will RECEIVE BLESSINGS from Him, and only they will ESCAPE from the influence of DARKNESS.
Those who are NOT FREE, who are always CONTROLLED by some THING, and who CANNOT GIVE THEIR HEART to GOD are PEOPLE UNDER SLAVERY to SATAN who LIVE with imminent DEATH. ☀️😪
Those who are NOT FAITHFUL in their OWN DUTIES, NOT FAITHFUL to GOD'S INSTRUCTIONS, and DO NOT PERFORM their DUTIES in the CHURCH are PEOPLE WHO LIVE in the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. Those who deliberately INTERFERE with CHURCH-LIFE, who deliberately START STRICT BETWEEN their BROTHERS, or FORM SMALL GROUPS PEOPLE WHO LIVE IN THE DEEPER INFLUENCE OF DARKNESS, in SLAVERY to SATAN. 😪
Those who do not have a NORMAL RELATIONSHIP with GOD, who always have DEADLY DESIRE, who always WANT TO DELAY, and NEVER ASK TO CHANGE THEIR DISPOSITIONS are PEOPLE LIVING UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. Those who are CARELESS and NOT SERIOUS in their EXERCISE of the TRUTH, and do NOT SEEK to RESPOND to the WILL of GOD, INSTEAD ONLY SEEK to PLEASURE their OWN FLESH, are also PEOPLE LIVING UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS, OVERWHELMED by DEATH. 😪☀️
Those who commit perversion and deception when working for God, who are hasty in dealing with God, who deceive God, and who always plan for themselves are people who live under the influence of darkness. ALL THOSE WHO CANNOT LOVE GOD SINCERELY, WHO DO NOT SEEK to ACHIEVE the TRUTH, and do NOT FOCUS on CHANGING their DISPOSITIONS are PEOPLE who LIVE UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. ☀️🙏
From "Flee From the Influence of Darkness, and God Will Gain You"
Fulfillment of "When I looked up, someone handed me a book wrapped in a scroll. I opened it and I read on both sides the prayers, lamentations, and curses." (Ezekiel 2:9-10). ... "His garment was stained with blood. He was called the "Word of God" (Rev. 19:13).
The kingdom He brought down and set up in the highest in the sky so that it can occupy His creation in the universe and engrave on it the entirety of His Holy name "THE CHURCH OF ALMIGHTY GOD" 💐 fulfillment of (Mat. 16:18) "And I say as for you, you are Peter, on top of this rock I will build my Church, that even the power of death will not prevail over it.". ... and "The Letter to the Church in Philadelphia" (Rev. 3:7-13). ... And fulfillment of "The New Jerusalem" 💫 "The Spirit enveloped me, and the angel led me to the top of a very high mountain. He showed Me Jerusalem, the Holy City, coming down from heaven from God." (Rev.:7-13). ... " For the time has come in the house of God for the beginning of judgment in the house of God." (1 Peter 4:17). ... It is fulfilled that God Himself is our Pastor in (Rev. 7:17) 💐
"For the Lamb in the midst of the throne will be their PASTOR. He will lead them to springs of life-giving water; and God will wipe away the tears from their eyes"
📩 Calling and leading the sheep of God to His glorious Throne "THE CHURCH OF ALMIGHTY GOD"💐 to submit again to His authority so that He will continue to teach, guide and protect even in plague, famine and wild animals will not be moved by it and completely win this final battle with the big red dragon!
"They say with a loud voice, "Salvation comes from the Lamb, and from our God who sits on the Throne!" (Rev.7:10). ... and it will be fulfilled that will be established above the sky/RUclips in (Isaiah 2: 2 / 9:6) "On the Last Day, the mountain on which Jehovah's temple stands will stand out above all the mountains. All nations will flock there. " . . . "For a baby boy is born to us. The rule will be given to him; and he shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Almighty God, Eternal Father, Prince of Peace." 💌📨
Thanks for the synopsis
what about fear of vomiting?
@@abbyyung3098 hypnosis is a good tool for vomiting phobia
Never in the HISTORY of Calming down, has ANYONE calmed down by being TOLD to Calm down.
RIGHT ON 👍
This isn't saying to 'calm down'. You should still feel shaky, sweaty, tense etc. But If you can find a reason to be excited instead of anxious, your mind will accept it because your body is already in that physical state.
But this one works she's the goat of calm relaxing and meditation
Once my dad and I were in Vietnam.
These scooter taxi dudes were harassing us to tack a ride with them.
I was a little pissed off and told him it wasn't going to happen.
He started screaming " you calm down, you calm down "in a thick vietnamese accent. My dad and I started laughing, it was so ironic and filled with passionate comedy, that we ended up getting a ride with them.
Nowadays it's a family joke between us that if either of us start getting testie we are reminded in vietnamese accent to " you calm down!".
D Holland I’m sorry but that statement was soo funny 😂😂😂 but true
The whole point of what Mel is saying, is this., Your brain can only have one linear thought at once. A fear comes from the creative, right side of your brain. It thinks it can predict an outcome and dwells on that outcome. Obsessive thinking. By counting down from 5, you are instantaneously accessing the logical left side of your brain. Breaking the obsessive thought. Think of a hysterical person getting a glass of water thrown in their face and being told to, Snap out of it! In a less shocking way, counting down from 5 has the same affect. If you are not getting it with the countdown, try this experiment. The next time you find yourself feeling anxious or fearful, do the math. Randomly pick 4 or 5 multiplication or division problems and calmly do them in your head. No one has to know. 6x8=48, 9x7=63, 24/3=8 etc. Accessing your left brain detaches you from obsessive thoughts. The second part is Instantly think of the future positively. Ex. Fear of flying. After doing your math, in detail think of everything you are going to do when the plane lands. I'm going to get my bags, get the car, drive to my destination, greet friends and family, or check in hotel, grab a pina colada, sit on a beach chair and watch the sunset... Now tell me. After reading all that I just wrote. How often did you think of the fear? If it's still there. Add some of your senses.
See the smile of friends or family, taste the icy cold pineapple and rum sliding down your throat, the sand between your toes...get as descriptive as possible. Rinse and repeat.
John Vas This is great advice, thank you! I get these panic attacks when my daughter (19) goes out partying, it's time for her to call and say she's on her way back (around 3am) but she doesn't call. It could only be 5 minutes, but during those 5 minutes I start shaking and sweating, my heart races, my stomach starts acting up and sends me to the bathroom immediately and I can't stop thinking something happened to her. How can I apply all these recommendations when I live in a dangerous city - Bogota (Colombia) and my mind is "certain" something must have happened? Help please! I'm driving my daughter crazy!
Thanks for Logical explanation
Great explanation...thank you...
Thank you for the awesome advice. I suffer with anxiety before taking off and after landing too. I will try your suggestions.
thank you. you saved me 12 minutes of my time.
1. 5 second rule - countdown from 5 seconds
2. Anchor thought - create a contextual thought to keep you focused
3. Reframe thought from fear to excitement
hahahah
I was fearing to go to a new job and having to start over and relearn everything from what I was used to , until I saw this video. I’ve turned that fear into excitement ! I’m ready to start a new beginning. I’m ready to face something unfamiliar. Why be afraid brain? Be excited about this ! 😮🎉
Yessss🎉🎉🎉
😊❤
Same here. New job anxiety after a 23 year career where I had no fear lol.
me to
Starting over here. I had to relocate to my sons home. Now finding a new place to live. And paying more money. Be excited about this. 54321 let’s go
I'm excited to have a panic attack!
Lol!! This is great! 😍🤣
😄😄😄😄😁😁😁
So great..I’m with you..
😂😂😂🙌
🤣🤣🤣
Solution 11:13
1. 5 second rule - countdown from 5 seconds
2. Anchor thought - create a contextual thought to keep you focused
3. Reframe thought from fear to excitement
My extra tip: fear dishonors yourself and your self esteem. Keep confronting fear head on. Practice will help you relearn a healthier habit. Live a life free of self limits.
i agree with that , mind needs to be trained if you want to think positive in every situation such as doing medidation
Princess: Your extra tip is very wise and beautifully formulated. If we let our fear determine or define our lives we really are its slave. But if we challenge and face our fears eye to eye, then we are free.
@@MindVersusMisery yes, accurate. We need to change the story we tell ourselves to a positive one. Optimism is a key too.
I don’t know if this will always work because ...some of the more everyday things that you’re fearful of aren’t very exciting! or something to look forward to. Like if you have a few people coming to the house to do a job for you. Your anchor thought is I’m excited to get the job done but I don’t really I’m not excited about trades people coming to my house so what about that. I find it difficult with people I don’t know around my own own space and get very anxious about heaps of just normal things unfortunately
@@annab5961 i think for that, simply trade fear and excitement with anxiousness and anticipation.
think about it, anxiousness is just a low key form of fear where, instead of absolute dread, you're just, quietly roasting yourself with a pessimistic awaiting of what's to come. so what's the opposite?
anticipation, quietly building yourself UP with a optimistic outlook of what's to come!
try it, bet you'll be surprised!
I realized that fear is at the root of all of my problems in my life. Fear is a huge issue. The Bible also says fear not more then anything else. 365 times. This is a great video!
True 👍👍👍
But Buddha says craving/desire is the root of all problems.
@@vijayvijay4123 well anything done more than necessarily will be bad/destructive. If you don’t have any cravings or desire you’ll achieve nothing in life. And plus you loose interest in life, cause nothing is gonna excite you anymore.
So Buddha just means don’t over so it.
@@blueshoes5145 Actually I find Buddha uncomfortable. I prefer Epicurus, his western counterparts who addresses fear rather than craving.
Craving is all about addiction.
Godly fear is wholesome, not morbid. It motivates one to be firm for what is right, not to compromise by doing wrong. It is not like the fear associated with the ancient Greek deity Phobos, described as a sinister god that inspired terror. And it is not like the fear associated with the Hindu goddess Kali, who at times is depicted as bloodthirsty, using corpses, snakes, and skulls as ornaments. Godly fear attracts; it does not repel. It is intertwined with love and appreciation. Thus, godly fear draws us to God.-Deuteronomy 10:12, 13; Psalm 2:11.
Happy this wasn't a scam to get me to buy something. Thank you.
It may not be a scam but it does SUGGEST you buy her book "The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence With Everyday Courage".
I watched this video a year ago and following Mel’s advice I lost my fear of travelling alone, i traveled and now live in a different part of the country and I’m so happy. Now I’m about to start my own business and I am experiencing that same fear as one year ago. Completely forgot about this video and it just popped up at the perfect time. Thank you so much for helping me in my journey to a new life. ❤️❤️❤️
Travelling alone is cool you learn to be really confident and live with your decisions character building exciting
Blucat. Youre not giving yourself credit for your ability to face your fears. Unless you were born into money., you seem to have been able to afford yourself a comfortable livin enough to travel. To get where you are w/o being a trust fund baby means fear at some time, was not an option.
DOLLAR SHOULD RISE
This is what I’m about to do! I would love to know how you used this to travel alone :)
i prefer to travel alone
Fear is so real to me it has literally destroyed me
Same …
Tony, I have dealt with social fear most of my life. I have found that using my body, AKA, exercise and hard physical work help to calm me down. Also , right now I am working with a hypnotherapist on creating positive outcome images in my mind. Good luck,,, I feel that we are here to learn lessons and to grow and become better people,, AKA, learning to love oneself and others as well. Bill
Trying to save myself
@@billp4380 b.s. I'v been having this for 30 year now. Together with depression. It's the point in the same part of the brain that is not right. You can love all you want to, it will not help you one bit when you have this. And I've been living with it for 30 years. I've had every therapy and treatment known to man. And it didn t help me one bit. Just trying to life with it.
It gets better. My severe panic attacks went away completely.
I'm 73 and I used to be fearless. Now, I fear everything, every situation.
What caused the change in both of you?
I wouldn't say you fear everything or certain type of thing. I think being in your 70s plus you paid your dues growing up. You did what your body was able to but now you're older and know your limits. That's why ppl retire is to live their best moments. Your not in your teens or even 40s anymore. I know the feeling. I know my limits my body or the law will let me get away with lol.
Are you listening to Fox News?
@@ogeo.8966 Prescribed drugs, sorry, medications. Benzodiazepines.
@@suziegriffith ?????????
Well I'm very afraid of flying. So I took your 5 4 3 2 1 tool and your anchor idea. I managed a 3 hour flight.
Thank you so much for this inspiration and insight.
There are no words to describe how grateful I am.
Anastasia WOW!!!!!!
Incredible. Youll make through it
It didnt work for me when I flew.
That’s great. Happy for you
DOLLAR SHOULD RISE
To the person reading this, remember that everything begins with you. You are Light, You are Peace, You are Harmony.
Thank😊you!
Thank you 🙌👏🙏
DOLLAR SHOULD RISE
Fear=failure, fear =control, fear is not your God, peace is the answer, faith
@@GameRunnerd nice,
A few months ago I had the epiphany that every time I was so scared to do something, for example driving is one, I have actually always survived! I now try to be thankful and acknowledge the moments each day that scare me and I survive, and I feel stronger after each challenge.
Yeah, fear keeps you alert and enables you to survive. One of the things you don't get frightened by is likely to be what will kill you, out of the blue. Healthy fear keeps you alive.
That's really powerful to read & thank you. I loved driving & 9 years ago, fear took over & and Satan stole my liberty by making me fearful of driving my car.
I so want to overcome this. Maybe I'll get another car & create a new beginning combined with what has been advised in this post. Any positivity is welcome 🙏
I wanted to reach out to a friend from my past, but I was terrified of doing it. I used this technique and it worked like magic. Thank you Mel, you're awesome!
At first I have fear on leaving comments on RUclips videos
but after I watched this I am now excited to leave comments!
Thank you
I wish my fears were this little, no offense in glad for you tho
I am tricking my brain by my brain. Oh poor brain! I am losing brain..
Erkhes Maddox lol. :-D
Erkhes Maddox lol 😁
Erkhes Maddox lol
Erkhes Maddox lol, u r so funny.
Hahahaha I'm going to say that to my self next time I have anxiety. That comment helped me control my thoughts.
I can’t thank you enough. I was terrified of doing a speech in front of my colleagues yesterday and nothing was helping me. I felt completely revved up and afraid. It was horrible. I then listened to your advice and kept saying to myself that what I was feeling was excitement, not fear and that’s when I even started smiling as beforehand I was withdrawing and wanted to run away. I did really well in my speech. I kept on chatting and smiling with my colleagues beforehand so by the time I needed to present, I was nowhere near as revved up as I thought I was going to be. Thank you so much. ❤
Well done! :)
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Finally! Someone to articulate the notion of fear and turn it into power. So brilliant and thank you for sharing!🙏
As a human living with anxiety/depression and several other issues, I've learned that I thrive and in a higher state of happiness when I have "something to look forward to." Even when I'm not thinking about that "something," I'm still in a generally better mood and can accomplish more. So this makes perfect sense to me.
True its with me too
Love listening to mel.she helps me so much.
I like how you said "as a human" like we're going to think you're an alien
@@i_exist1872 I guess I said that because I know that animals (of the furry kind) also experience anxiety.
@@kathykaura7219 This is very true for me as well.
Had anxiety for years, got to the point where it is so exausting to do everyday things. This is so good, one video that actually helps. Thank u Mel tons...genious stuff.
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Keep on practicing you might need a low grade med before it all gets better or there’s up and downs to panic and anxiety
@Christina Megan what nonsense.🤣🤣🤣
Try read the bible! Maby it helps u mentaly making u stronger
I can’t sit in a quiet car, cinema, classroom, just any quiet place because I get so anxious of my stomach making noises…sounds weird ik, but it has ruined so much for me and I’m so exhausted of it. Starting school soon and I just don’t want to feel the anxiety of my stomach making noises 24/7…
I've already been applying this technique before and I didn't know that this is the 5 second Anchor Thought you're talking about. I totally agree that this is so effective in fighting your fear. Instead thinking of the fear that your body giving you at that moment, just switch your thought to being excited in the outcome that you want. Having that vision will not make you fearful anymore but instead it makes you feel excited and drives you to make that outcome come true..
Love Mel! She is terrific, and you really get the feeling Mel is there to help anyone who will pay attention.
I’m going to try this with driving 😆 , I’m fighting driving anxiety….. and I’m going to win this fight😘 thank you universe for being me here😘😘
This is genius. I was nervous for something I must do for school tomorrow, but nah! I’m hella excited! I know I’m good at this and I’m passionate about this. I’m so ready to show off my amazing skills and to change the lives of others for the better with my knowledge!!! I got this!!
yayyyy . Did it go well ?
roseskyschmolesky yes! It went amazingly well. I got an “outstanding” on BOTH of my evaluations! I’m so happy!!!
Would it work for a real scary situation !not so sure ?
Yay
Daamn YES THATS WAY TO DO IT, sometimes ive had these thoughts when i do something that is anxiety producing and afterwards i feel like the shit, now with this i will put it into PRACTICE WHEN I GET BAK OHT THERE BABYY
I love that this is calm and yet totally exhausting. One of the few workouts my lower back does not hurt after and the sore muscles the next day are divine.
Even without watching this video have been using every method she said to beat my fear and it have been working for me. For speech presentation , debate , talking to my boss addressing the most fear teacher in my school it has worked for me perfectly and am gonna continue to use this method 😌
Thank you for the 5 second rule....it have literally changed my life. I have been using it for the past 6 months , testing it on things I have never been able to conquer and trying to make the rule fail. It has never.....never failed. I am in control on my life, I do things that I never even would have tried a year ago. I don’t procrastinate any more, I don’t say no to things I have never tried, I just forge ahead as if I have done them a million times. The sad part to this is I am 68 years old and it took me all this time to find out about the 5 second rule. Think what I could have achieved if I had known it at 25?? But nothing will stop me now...I’ll just need to make up for lost time. Again Thank You. You have made a difference in my life for the best. I now control my life not let other people or situations control it. You’re the Best!!
Thank you for this review! I'm glad to hear that it's working for you. I'm going to start implementing this in my life.
Remember, It’s never too late to do the right things.
I’m glad you have made a difference in your life.
So glad for you! When God comes to take His children home, we will have eternity to do and enjoy ALL things we can't even imagine now. This is my anchor thought! We will even get to explore this Earth that we were born in! Thank You, my Father God!
Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
So I wake up in the middle of the night with a anxiety attack starting, and I tell myself I'm excited. That seems weird to me. I wish I could control my brain like a normal person.
Boy oh boy can I relate.
I overcame this issue by doing two things. I bought a weighted blanket which immediately reduces my anxiety. I thought the idea of them as silly at first, until I found out it helps a lot of people. The second thing is more difficult and will take a while to master. Before when I went to bed with thoughts of something that made me anxious I would think about it over and over which only made it worse. I called it "circular thoughts" and it always prevented me from getting a good night sleep. So after learning to meditate half way decently, I started a new approach to deal with my issues falling asleep. First, I take in several deep breaths and slowly exhale. Then I count down from 20 and when I get to zero I try not to have any thoughts at all. I know this sounds impossible, but with practice it can be learned. Once I have muted the voice in my head random thoughts will come along and I acknowledge them and release them and quiet my mind again. Before it often took me hours to fall asleep and now it takes about 15 minutes. I hope this can be helpful to other people.
For every fear comes strength maybe u not afraid maybe u just uncomfortable to accept change
Change Ur mind set and the very thing u fear won't mind
i'm currently going through a similar experience and i deal with them by counting, like Mel said, but i count to 100 or even 200 and then i think about how i'm going to be peaceful when the panic attack stops and how i'm going to overcome it again and how i'm going to be able to control it more and more everyday and it actually helps and i'm getting better day by day! i hope this helps :)
Just came across this video. I have always had a fear of flying.. the very idea of being up in that plane makes me anxious. But I haven't allowed it to keep me from traveling - I've been to several countries- in fact, just returned from another trip to Europe; Imagine how I am pleasantly surprised to realize I have been doing exactly what she has said all along - without realizing it!! I've calmed myself down by simply focusing on what I am looking forward to once the flight is over. And it has greatly helped.
im gonna try this with driving, i get so nervous and my heart rate gets up to 160 bpm which is crazy! but i always had that vision of going to my favorite places in town and be fully present and so grateful for this little ride. wish me luck
I used to feel the same few years ago but had made a lot of progress. You should watch some youtube videos: How to overcome the fear of driving. Good luck!
Hope everything worked out for you and all went well .
How are you doing, I'm currently afraid of driving right now. Don't know what exactly triggered it but I'm not exactly happy about it. I feel like it's affecting my everyday life.
@@natnatalie1517 I’m still trying to get better, thank you for asking! But the best strategies i found so far is to drive at off-peak hours since it will give you the freedom to drive with very few cars around. I also just found out that i have caffeine sensitivity which makes my symptoms and my anxiety so much worse when driving so i must avoid it at all cost. And i keep taking very short trips at least once a week as an “exposure therapy” and it actually boosts my confidence every time.
I’m not sure if my fear is due to a past event, but what I’m sure about is my main fear of driving with cars around, i get very self conscious when i see how they’re illegally over-speeding while i’m driving just at the speed limit or a bit less and I get scared of making them mad because I’m driving “slow”. I know I’m doing everything right and i shouldn’t be too stressed out like that, maybe i need to be conscious of my negative self talk or my inner thoughts in general.
I hope we will overcome it this year! Let me know for any updates, i would love to share our progress every now and then.
I just want to say I’m truly touched because I’ve never heard someone explain so descriptively and on point word for word it was perfect, I’m 21 and I never thought I’d hear a person explain anxiety the way she just did, this video gave me hope that I might actually be able to life a joyful life and not have anxiety consuming me 24/7 thank you so much for making the tine to make this video it means the world to me and I’m sure you’ve touched a lot of other people watching this. Thanks again and wish me luck!
Felt an instant change in my brain after watching this. Thank you so much for this
It is the best video I have found on RUclips to deal with fear, it works everytime when I use it properly to convert my fear thoughts into excitement thoughts, Thankyou mell for this great video. I have watched it many times and will also come back in the future also everytime when I will need better understanding on fear
I have been using the 5 seconds rule my while life, I just do a little different. Instead of counting down from 5(which I used to count down from 3 when I was little), I just say, "in the name of Jesus" and I don't let fear stop me. I trust God and I know if I put everything in God's hands, I will see God's hands in everything!
Philippians 4:13
Amen!🙂💗
wow you are one of the great self help gurus other than tony ,ferris and a few more who really want to help everyone Thanks
Mel, I just want to say thank you for all of the info you put out on youtube, I really appreciate it. 🥰 x
Thank you Mel, love the excitement transfer and the anchor thought.. I'm 47 and for the first time in the last 20 years I have 14 months clean and sober and I'm becoming "notice I did'nt say I wan't to🙂" a professional speaker and You-Tube influencer. So this helped me so much. I have a crazy story and I hope to chat with you one day. Thx Ryan
By far the best speech on 'fear'.
If you don't find a means of multiplying money, you will wake up one day to realise that the money you thought you had, has finished. Investment is key.
I agree with you mate. Investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity. And not just any investment but an investment with guaranteed return.
"To earn more you are required to have a multiple diversified means of income", which is why Investment is an avenue of making more money once it's profitable.
Most failures and loss on Investment usually happens when you invest without proper guide and the analysis of the profit and risk percentage of the Investment.
@@kombuchafigo7701 So how do you get your proper guide and the analysis you mentioned? Because I have incurred huge losses while investing by myself
@@bandilempho1627 it's safe to have an investment manager who has vast knowledge about Investment, to make you profits from your Investment on your behalf while you monitor the Investment growth.
It's amazing how most of this stuff I did sub consciously but didn't know i was doing it. Now that I know, I'm proud of myself and it's not the first time. Thank you for breaking it down for us
Thanks Mel! This helped me get over a hump about taking the next step in my new chapter of life - having to sell a house and go into the unknown!! Now I'm just excited about the future & what I will experience
I am convinced 5min + anchor will work. Thank you very much for helping people like me, overcome false alarms of fear…
Thank u is an understatement. I will definitely apply this to myself whenever I feel afraid and nervous. You’re such a blessing to me Mel.
Ya know, this is really perfect advice and explains a thing I discovered that had worked for me before I was going to take a test in school. I would feel a bit anxious and nervous about taking the test because I studied so long and hard that I wanted desperately to do well. Despite the fact that I was nervous about potential failure or doing less than what I wanted to achieve, I would tell myself "You got this". It seems like the same concept that Mel makes when telling yourself "I'm excited". It becomes so apparent to me now why of all things, that works like magic to me too.
I’ve started a new business and I feel so fearful to speak to people because If someone ask me a question and I’m not prepared to answer them I don’t know what I’m talking about. That’ is what’s frustrating. So now just look for forward to the outcome. Thank you so much Mel ❤
I have public speaking fear for many years and I could overcome to that but if watching this I have figure out the solution that instead of fearing we need to be excited and it really works for me. Thanks mam for your sharing your thoughts and in this world of selfishness people like you are helping people that is great. May God bless you
Thank you for finally analyzing that “happy thoughts” isn’t good advice and is something that doesn’t work for everybody.
First video in a long time I have found on youtube that actually says something new about fear and anxiety.
This insight that fear and excitement are essentially the same thing and how to covert fear to exitement is both simple, useful and deep.
Thankyou for enlightening the difference between fear and excitement, and how to convert fear to excitement. Grateful to you on this wonderful video to reduce fear and anxiety.
Thank you Mel for not only telling us what something is....but explaining HOW TO EXECUTE THE PROCESS of learning a new way of dealing with fear❤
Thanks Mel! I was having severe fear of studying for the California Bar exam namely a multiple choice section that I completely bombed last time. This stems from being a kid and always getting anxiety during multiple choice exams. I signed up to retake it and every time I am on my way to the library, my stomach gets tight thinking of opening the book again and preparing for it. I have had a knotted stomach for a week. I am now going to try this method to relieve that stress so that I can properly prepare and conquer this fear once and for all.
Thank you so much for this technique! As I was watching your video, I literally felt my brain switch from fear to excitement within seconds. Excellent presentation!
Thanks Mel ...
You are great
What a smart lady,,you are incredible and what you are telling us makes complete sense,,,thank you so much for sharing this info
Interesting indeed! I have a very strong fear of dissapointments that always has holding me back in life. Another fear is to be abandoned, rejected or bullied because I was that as a kid in school, so I have a problem with trusting others.
I just bought a book about manifestation at the local grocery store and I feel quite excited about this concept! 🙂
OMG! I am literally crying because I just used your technique and it actually worked. Me and my mom we’re thinking that I was having panic attacks or developing anxiety but we didn’t know from what. I’ve been sick from school for nine days and I’ve been nervous about going back and I don’t know why and I found your video and I tried your technique and it’s a miracle. Thank you!
Thank you Mel. You explain things so beautifully. This will help me go forward to conquer my fears. Keep up the good work.
i used to fear during my meetings with my Boss. I wanted to overcome it and you helped me. Thanks.
ure 5 sec rule helped me fly around the world and still fight my panic attacks while travelling .thank u
YOU'RE AMAZING MEL! FEELS LIKE YOU'VE ALREADY MADE MY LIFE EASY
This is gonna be a lifesaver! Had to write it down in my journal to save it for later. Thanks so much.
dude it works, i felt anxiety for a few hours now because im having a presentation but the 5-sec saved me
I love it. I think I have subconsciously done it before, I just tried it and it works. God bless you and all that battle with fear and anxiety.
Life changing advice, thank you so much for putting your video and expertise out there for those of us who really, really needed this to understand more about why we are the way we are. You are a beautiful person for doing so. Thank you again.
A freaking amazing break through! Thank you forever and beyond 😄😀
Thank you so much for sharing this invaluable technique!
Alhamdulillah. It's actually work so well. I always afraid of going to school and then I remember my memories with my friends and teacher. Thank you❤
I feel so much better now. Thank you so much... and thanks again for helping me overcoming my fear.
She's so right. Fear can be immobilizing.
Amazingly beneficial,needed it badly n got it at the right time to appear as a witness in the court thank you so much. God bless you.
Hey, I love the way you explain facts that impact our lives negatively. Thanks a bunch.❤
Thank you so much for these wonderful advices Miss Mel.
It's my first time to watch your video and I already absorbed quickly the lessons you have shared.
God bless you 🙏❤
Thank you Mel, even though this might sound strange I refrained my thoughts of fear into existement. My husband is having a liver biopsy soon which will finally determine what illness he suffers from - I have been searching for an answer for the last 5- 6 years. Instead of feeling fear I am excited about the access to doctors that are specialized in this field, I am also excited that there is no more guesswork on my part. Thank you for this process it is something that goes into my gratitude journal. ❤️
Thanks for sharing. Its a time were we can be so gratefull that we can learn all kinds of great ways to improve ourself. But it could not be done without people like you 😊
This really helps me to understand fears and anxieties better, thank you!
Thank you so much, I've had so many struggles with panic and I've been working to correct it. I've been practicing deep breathing and it's getting better, but I still need some more strategies. This is awesome, thank you thank you thank you!!!
Thank you very much for the video. Honestly, it was the first time I heard that fear and excitement are the same physical reaction. Today I went to the interview for a new job for the first time in 22 years. And with your technique, I changed fear into excitement. Before I left, I made a positive vision of them telling me at the end of the conversation that I had passed. And I did. Thank you. Greetings from Serbia
Thank you so much,I will use this during my interview
Love this..
This channel deserve millions subs. Thank you for sharing this I hope the blessing always on you Mrs Robbins :)
YOU ARE MAKING ME TURN TO THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF! thank you so much.
Thank you Mel!! It really helps a lot. I was really worried about fear of something which I don’t know but after watching this technique, I felt more confident that I can handle fear at any moment. Glad that I watched this video. God bless you!!
Lady I love you you changed my life for the better.much appreciated
Thank you so much! I managed a 2 hour flight without medications first time in my life with an anchor thought of landing. I am so grateful!
You have no idea how much my life changed following you. I have overcome my fear of speaking in public expressing my self and conveying my opinions i am living a much much happy and relaxed life now thanks mel # from very far in a mountainous region of Pakistan 💓💓 live long 👍🍻
I really want to change my life and overcome public speaking as well. Want to live happy and relax as you have done! 💪
How did you do it ?
@@ayezaabbasi5599 you just go into whatever you’re going to be afraid of & tell yourself this is going to be exciting I’m really excited about this. Your brain will believe what you tell it . Try it it really works.. worked for me it can work for anyone.
DOLLAR SHOULD RISE
@@ayezaabbasi5599 Live according the nature. Nature has got the Power of eradicating fear. Nature gives us the opportunity to live fearless.
This method is so new to me. Def gonna try it out the next time I feel afraid
I have been married 10 years this June. 2022. I have 2 kids and have struggled with this for so long. My husband sent me your link and I have such a good feeling now! Thank you soooooo much for this advice! Thank u for giving ME a chance to get my life back! Much live from Missouri! ❤️
I don't know where I have been these past few years and that I just bumped into this video. I am not the type of person who will put effort into putting up a comment but I want to put out a huge shout-out to Mel (wherever you are now) that you ROCK! This really works and I hope people take a deep dive and really understand what you are sharing. This is life-changing! Thank you so much Mel and more blessings to you!
Oh wow, that’s exactly what I have been going through my whole life until today February 2023. I fear everything since I was in 1st grade . Now I’m Agoraphobic been at home for 4 years I don’t go anywhere in feel safe at home. But yes, my main fear is speaking in public even with my siblings. My social anxiety and panic attacks disorders have ruined my life. So thank you Dr. You are absolutely right ! Fear is real!
OMG!... I was looking to solve this problem since my childhood.... A BIG THANK YOU! (it works seamlessly...)
Wow, I haven't tried this "live" yet but tonight I was feeling anxious about a couple of things I have to do soon and I already feel so much better about them.
Out of all the advice I’ve heard on this topic this is by far the best technique. Thanks for sharing this priceless info. May God reward you
Your channel is helping me. I been working on the feel say I'm excited in stead of allowing my mind to think all negative fearful type thoughts. Thank you I got a long way to go and this is the first time ever in my life I am even speaking about this anywhere
Thank you so much Mel, I must confess, this has really helped me. Now I can use this tactic to conquer my fear.
Due to my stage fear I decided not to participate in the seminar but after watching this video I finally want to give it a go. Thank you mam
Unfortunately Mel we are bombarded daily with fear about so many issues that its not surprising we probably all need motivation to prevent us going absolutely insane. Thanks a lot your a great speaker and you have the talent of helping so many people, you certainly have me. Keep up the great work.