I learned so much about myself after speaking with Dr. Russell Kennedy @theanxietymd today, and I hope you did too! If you enjoyed today’s episode please hit like and subscribe to get notified for future episodes!
Mel you have frikin shifted all the perspectives again!! Do you really know how valuable you are? So appreciate you, thank you. I forwarded this to another going through challenges. Truly a legend ❤thank you thank, love you and believe in you ⭐️🌟⭐️
You say anxiety is because we block “love” ? I do not block love and I do have anxiety. I started getting it while in college, fear of all the money I owe
I suffer from Severe Anxiety and Insomnia for over 40 years. I finally got help and am doing much better now. These symptoms are no fun and I wouldn't wish them on my worst enemy!
I lived my whole life in flight or fight. It’s very damaging to the adrenal glands. Now retired I live with a houseful of pets and I am happy and relaxed: people in the world make me nervous.
Animals are my go to as well. I don't feel respected by others or liked anymore because I am struggling so much with shame from it. I hope I can make it through this life without burning out completely. Grateful for my cat and apartment and I hope I can find a more suitable job for my stress-head
I have suffered from Anxiety for 2 years. My healing started when i gave my life to Jesus Christ. Just as written in Matthew 11:28 - Come to Me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Now I am free because of Jesus.
I’m 71years old and have suffered all my life with chronic anxiety and this is the first time I have understood what the heck is my problem . This podcast has been life changing Mel n Russ thankyou I feel I can now start living taking care of myself n not running away from myself 💖
Everyone has different causes and options for chronic anxiety, you dear don't need to fit into any form do what feels right for you I'll send you love if it gets to you the stars will smile, you too we're all stronger than we think- us " broken" ones are the best ❤
I totally get it. For soooooo long I did not know what I was going through. . It is affecting everything... especially the people around me. And I had no words to explain, which made it worse. ❤I am happy that I know now ....even if I wish I was normal... I guess it's good to know what it is and how to ease it. Takecare.... It's nice to feel understood by strangers who you never met before and most probably won't... I also have ADHD and I had to find out at age 30 after suffering from it my whole life ..and being called lazy. Have a beautiful life :)
I have felt anxious, nervous, and on guard my entire life, even my earliest memories as a child. The only time and place I feel at peace is when I am riding or hiking in the woods. I cannot connect with people, but I have strong bonds with animals and nature. I appreciate you so much, Mel. If I were to say I have a human friend, it would be you. You are the only one I trust. Thank you for being you and for these podcasts. I love you, Mel!!!
Approximately a year or two before I retired I said this all the time that “ I feel like I’m a passenger in my life.”Retiring was amazing. I sleep 8 to 9 hours a night and I exercise for an hour 4 to 5 times a week and it has helped immensely. It took me eight months to detox from work.
I watched this yesterday. Today I had to conduct some interviews and at one point I became very anxious and uncomfortable. I realised that my stomach was so tense. It was a lightbulb moment. It wasn’t my head, it was my stomach. I took a moment to relax my stomach and the anxiety started to melt away. Thank you so much for this.
This is so telling. Mel talks and talks and talks and talks …… and then talks some more which is such a demonstration of her anxiety ……. Poor guest, he didn’t have much air space in spite of the fact that he is the expert guest …… Mel Is having a full-blown anxiety attack …. And I was really hoping to hear a lot more from the doctor. 1:30 hrs of listening to Mel was different from what I was hoping - it gave me anxiety listening to her dominate the conversation when I was hoping to learn from the doctor. Thank you for the demonstration lesson, Mel. Bless your heart.
so true, she should learn from Joe Rogan and actually listen to the guest. I wanted to hear about the ego, and i don't give a shit if she doesn't give a shit about it.
My daily practice is to cover my heart with my hand in meditation. I was feeling very upset today , so I moved my hand from my heart to just below where I was feeling the sensation, like he advised, and I burst into tears and unlocked the trauma that was making my thoughts spiral and connected to myself , I cried and cried and sent myself love. Afterwards, my thoughts stopped spiralling out of control, my body had calmed and I felt regulated. Thank you for this beautiful gift. I shared it to a group of women who I feel would benefit from it, also. ❤
Thank you for sharing this. It really helped. I had old trauma rear it's ugly head last night. Woke up at 4 a.m. feeling anxious and am listening to Mel. I put my hand on my heart after reading your beautiful comment and immediately started crying. I feel better physically after doing it.
My mother gave me Extreme anxiety. Never hugged me. Didn’t love me. Grew up in a dysfunctional family. I hate my anxiety! This has helped. Thank you!❤️
02:12 🧠 Anxiety begins as a physiological response in the body's amygdala, often referred to as the fear center of the brain. It triggers a series of physical reactions. 03:11 🗣️ Anxiety is often expressed in various ways, such as heightened vigilance, panic attacks, shortness of breath, frustration, anger, or withdrawal. 03:39 🤔 Recognizing anxiety as an alarm system in the body shifts the focus from just thoughts to the physical sensations, allowing for a more holistic approach to healing. 05:15 🔄 The anxiety-alarm cycle perpetuates when the mind creates a stream of worries in response to the initial physical alarm, resulting in a loop of escalating anxiety. 06:22 💡 Understanding anxiety as a form of separation anxiety reveals that it stems from a feeling of disconnection or separation, often from oneself or loved ones. This is a universal source of anxiety. 08:09 🔄 Separation anxiety, at its core, is a deep-rooted emotional issue that can be traced back to childhood. It manifests as an underlying sense of unease and fear. 09:51 🔍 Society tends to prioritize verbal communication and intellectual pursuits, often neglecting the importance of understanding and connecting with one's own body and emotions. 12:13 💪 Healing anxiety requires a holistic "neck down" approach, focusing on the body and its physiological responses, rather than solely addressing thoughts and mindset. 13:56 🩹 Dr. Russ Kennedy, an expert in anxiety and neuroscience, emphasizes the potential for individuals to heal their anxiety by addressing it from a bodily perspective. 15:35 📚 The five-second rule, a brain hack developed by Mel Robbins, offers a practical tool for interrupting anxious thoughts and feelings, providing a way to take control of the anxiety-alarm cycle. 24:06 🚸 Separation from parents can be a root cause of anxiety. When we feel disconnected from our parents, it triggers an alarm in our system. 25:40 🧩 "Parental mismatch" can lead to a sense of separation. Feeling different or disconnected from a parent, even if there's love, can cause alarm in a child's system. 27:20 🌊 Locating the alarm in your body: When feeling anxious, focus on physical sensations. Close your eyes, breathe, and pinpoint where you feel the discomfort. 29:48 🛌 Fear of facing the alarm: It's common to resist feeling anxiety. Acknowledging and comforting your inner child can help alleviate the alarm. 34:38 🚴♂️ Riding the emotional "motorcycle": Confronting the alarm directly, like riding a motorcycle for the first time, is crucial for acclimatizing to anxiety. 37:19 🔄 Don't solve anxiety with more thinking: Overthinking exacerbates the issue. Focus on the physical sensation, rather than diving into a cycle of anxious thoughts. 42:43 🧠 Understanding the root cause: Anxiety stems from the alarm in our bodies, not just our thoughts. Addressing this is key to healing anxiety. 46:19 🧒 The speaker shares a personal story about their son Oakley, who faced challenges with dyslexia, ADHD, and bullying at school, leading to heightened anxiety. 47:15 🦕 Oakley's anxiety manifests physically as butterflies in his stomach, leading to panic attacks and a cycle of avoidance. 48:21 🤗 The key intervention needed for Oakley was physical reassurance, validation, and hugs to calm his alarm system. 50:31 🖐️ Practicing regulating the nervous system through physical touch, finding a safe place in the body (e.g., breath near nose or neutral body part), and returning to the alarm is essential. 53:33 🧠 Coping with anxiety involves using thinking strategies, while healing involves addressing the root cause-the inner child needing to be seen, heard, and loved. 55:13 🪢 Chronic anxiety often coexists with addiction as individuals seek substances or behaviors to mute the alarm and feel connection or relief. 56:51 🏀 Practicing self-regulation techniques is crucial for success in high-stakes situations; it involves finding a safe place in the body and building that regulation over time. 59:23 🧒 Healing involves connecting with the wounded inner child, providing the love and support they lacked, ultimately addressing the root cause of anxiety. 01:06:00 🤔 The conversation challenges the current terminology of "mental health," suggesting a shift towards understanding anxiety as originating in the body, not just the mind. 01:08 🚨 Dr. Russ Kennedy emphasizes the importance of regulating the body first to calm the mind, rather than attempting to calm the mind to regulate the body. 01:08:46 🧠 Activating the somatosensory cortex, responsible for movement and sensation, can help shift focus from rumination in the mind to a sense of the body, aiding anxiety and focus. 01:09:25 💡 Anxiety often stems from a mind-body disconnect, with individuals avoiding confronting physical sensations in their body by staying in their thoughts. 01:09:53 🔄 Merely trying to fix anxious thoughts is insufficient, as anxiety is often rooted in an addiction to worrying. More emphasis on feeling, rather than thinking, is necessary for treatment. 01:10:19 🧒 All anxiety can be traced back to early experiences of separation, either from others or from oneself. This separation is at the core of anxiety. 01:10:31 🤝 In response to the alarm of anxiety, individuals often tend to further separate from themselves, exacerbating the issue. The key is to reconnect with oneself. 01:10:57 ❤️ When the alarm of anxiety goes off, it is actually a call for self-love and reassurance. Going into your body and soothing yourself is a powerful way to address anxiety. 01:11:37 🌟 A powerful affirmation to use when practicing the techniques is asking oneself, "Am I safe in this moment?" This anchors you in the present and provides a sense of safety. 01:12:20 🛑 Blocking love from oneself is often a root cause of anxiety. Recognizing and removing these blocks is crucial for healing. 01:13:17 🔄 Dr. Russ Kennedy uses intuitive methodsto identify blocks to self-love within a person's body, which, when removed, lead to a reduction in anxiety. 01:14:27 🔑 Addressing the root cause of anxiety through self-love and soothing is more effective than attempting to merely change thoughts. This approach provides profound healing.
Anxiety is real. Mine definitely stems from childhood. My father abused us & constantly critized us as worthless. Ne er praised us, and after beating us, bought us gifts, rewarding his behavior. ❤ stays with us for life Thanks for addressing this..
So sorry you went through this 😢 I went through something similar. It’s time to change these patterns and create the best life for ourselves ❤ I believe in you! Best of luck
Wow, this episode blew my mind. Thank you for the free therapy, I actually started writing a letter to 8 year old “me” little Miriam and told her how sorry I was for not loving her the way she deserved, I have never had a good relationship with my mom and it took me back to my childhood. I want to give my inner child a big hug 😭😭😭
Omgggggg I’m 41 and I wanna give my younger self a hug because I didn’t know what I was going through. I allowed people to treat me so bad I was bullied and I blamed myself 😫😫😫😫. I’m so sorry Shaleta I love you so much.
To anyone struggling with their mind: I promise you It will be better, faster than you think, and better than you can imagine. You 100% are going to be ok and will live better moments filled with joy and happiness. You might not love yourself now but there are people that do, never forget that. Everyone around you is cheering for you. You are going to be ok. I love you ❤️
I love how Mel drills into her guest and asks that person everything we are thinking that we hope she asks them and for clarification on their conversation. She speaks for all of us. How refreshing!
Mel Robbins interrupts to the point where I bailed on what could have been a first class interview. She is obviously smart and I appreciate her taking on this topic.
I’m a retired mental health provider who has had free floating anxiety my whole 68 yrs, I sear. I was having a hard time relaxing to sleep tonight. I’ve tried EVERYTHING. This podcast addressed my “alarm.” I think I knew it was there, but hated it. Now I can hopefully work to give it the attention I NEED. The hard feeling I had in my chest eased tonight eased. It felt good. TY. I will share u.
This was so a ah Ha moment... cried my eyes out 😭😭😭 I was already on a healing journey but this "where did I blocked the love from my mother thing" really opened a big wound I finally found my 6yrs old me, I had struggled finding her.... now I can really start seeing, hearing, understanding, and really loving my little me ❤
While watching this I didn't notice my tears keep falling from my eyes. Thanks for this.. God bless! I am suffering with anxiety, depression panic attacks and feeling too much fear that I don't wanna go out anymore.
I feel like this is something I need to apply to my procrastination. Anxiety creeps up when I have things that I need/should do and get done, and that feeling makes me feel paralyzed and I find other smaller things to take care of around the house because the bigger things that actually need taking care of feel way too big and scary. My body says I don’t like how that feels, so go do something that is also productive but not as big or heavy or intimidating. Putting my hand on my chest before doing these tasks will probably help so much.. talking to my inner child and practicing some self soothing so I can face my problems. “The solution is not in our thinking, the solution is in our body” that is so brilliant. I love this , thank you so much!!
This is my first time EVER hearing a professional address that anxiety starts in the body first - which is what I've ALWAYS felt. When I'm anxious people always ask, "Well, did something happen? Did you have a thought? What were you thinking about?" And it's like, no, I was just putting on my socks and I suddenly felt the pang of panic in my stomach and throat, and THEN I thought in my mind, "Well, I'm starting to feel anxious, why? Am I gonna throw up? Oh god, I have to drive for the next 15 minutes and I can't escape that easily"...and so on until I'm having a full blown panic attack. These ideas have really opened up my mind, and I actually feel confident they will help me, and I've never felt that way before. I've had crippling anxiety since I was very tiny, and also grew up with a severely mentally ill father. Wow.
Iv gone through so much in my life and fight my way through and now for the first time, I can actually notice my anxiety and Iv been trying to find what I knew to be the answer but how to work with it. Finally I have words to put to my intuition. I knew that somehow dealing with the feeling was key to resolving it bc one cant remember where or when it happened
Wow, listening to this during my drive to work, experiencing "the worst" traffic. Pulled into the parking lot around min 28 and this part has me tearing up. I've never heard anxiety explained this way! I'm going to finish listening later this evening when I'm at home. Thanks, Mel.
Oh my gosh, why did I not meet you when I was a baby. That's how far back I go with my anxieties!! I am now 67 and anxiety has limited most of my life because of the debilitating effects of anxiety, and separation anxiety. Thank you Mel and your guests. I am just so grateful. Elaine from South Africa 🌹
This makes so much sense. I suffer from health anxiety, and every time I feel a symptom in my body my brain hyper thinks it. A headache, a tingling in my arm, heart palpitations, stomach pain… just anything I seem to magnify it by 100x! I suffer from GERD and other health issues so I’m expecting those symptoms. So I don’t understand that when I do feel it my body reacts the same every time… in a panic! It’s a horrible cycle. I see now I’m an absolute addict to WORRY. I can’t even exercise as I think I might push my heart too much and I’ll have a heart attack😞
I hear you! I have exactly the same problems n symptoms like yours. I had my first panic attack in 2015 after getting out of an ICU n even though I no longer have panic attack, I still have this anxiety up until now. I'm actually having it right now when writing this as I've been having this heat all over my body in the past few days which I have no ideas what the cause is but more likely as I'm approaching a menopouse
@@themidnite515 I totally understand. I’m sorry you’re going through it. The perimenopause really messed me up too. Did you try this 54321? Did it help? Mostly it doesn’t work for my health anxiety. But I’m still trying. The heat feeling is not fun. I get hot all over and I feel faint. Tonight was a rough night too. So I watch all these videos to help calm my anxiety… hope you feel better soon🙂
I have the exact same thing. It sucks, one little thing we turn into huge things. When it happens I have to force myself to remind myself, headaches, palpitations, nerve pain dose not mean it will lead to a bigger issue. It’s normal, it’s impossible to feel perfect all the time. That’s just what I play in my head when I get wound up.
@@tammy.envyeyes yes exactly. I’m sorry you have to deal with it too. I was up at 3am reading my ultrasound results that just came in.. thankfully nothing bad. But somehow I managed to find something to worry about. It’s been a rough morning and I tell myself the same thing you do. Just worse at night..🙁
Mel, thank you so much for bringing Dr. Kennedy on your podcast. This past week I had to get away because the pain in body was so overwhelming. I have struggled all my life with loving myself. Always putting others before myself in fear of losing their love. I have five children and my husband has an addiction and our finances are always at stake and a topic of fear for me. My mother was mentally unstable, anything would set her off. I don't remember her ever hugging me. I was beaten and slapped when I stuck up for myself, even as a teenager. There was a strap in the kitchen closet that was waiting to be used. Everything the doctor said was so spot on. You are both a gift sent to me during this painful time. All I want to do is hug you, so I'm sending you a virtual hug. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable about your life. It makes me feel I am not the only one who is struggling with anxiety.
Before listening to this episode I thought gosh 90mins, I’m not really in the mood for such a long episode. But my anxiety was giving me a hard time and I felt like I’ve got no other choice. Now that I’ve listened to it all I can say is it’s been the best 90min podcast episode I’ve ever listened to. Thanks for sharing it with the world! ❤
Omg omg omg I want to cry over & over again because I AM ANXIETY UNSOLVED I AM THAT PERSON WHO NEVER UNDERSTOOD WHAT WAS WRING WITH ME LIVING IT FOR OVER 50 yrs This podcast is my Lifesaver❤
Wow, I always felt like I understood anxiety and just blew it over. This episode floored me and mid listening I felt my body where things feel pain or stagnant and I truly listened. I have been keeping myself distracted and have tried to stop vaping multiple times but always go back to my distractions. Right after the exercises, I threw away my vape and deleted all apps that are not serving me for ME, and this time, I know I can do it 💪💪
Hi Mel - I was sitting on my front porch today listening to this episode. What started with a couple of tears rolling down my cheeks, ended with me ugly crying for hours. I’m in my 50’s and known I have generalised anxiety for many years now - using talk therapy and medication over time to help. In all honesty, it’s only been in the last couple of years I’ve come to understand how far back in my life the anxiety stems from. Your episode with Dr Kennedy has hit me like a tonne of bricks, hence the deluge of tears. What I kind of knew was always there, was presented to me today with so much clarity about the child I was and the adult I have been and now am. This conversation has been transformative for me and I thank you both so much🙏
Oh my god Mel. This is the very first episode I am listening to and I am shocked of how similar our stories with anxiety are. It is like you were describing my childhood. I hope I can heal anxiety for good..
Psychedelic are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough.it's fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety..it saved my life
Psilocybin containing mushrooms save my life. The drastically reduced my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quite illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would had became medically dangerous to quit
I'm glad myco_louiis is mentioned... I've been having situational depression for about 4 yrs plus now but I had to hit him up last week and he really gave me some of his product..they work like magic.
I agree , she is trying to help and clarify the concepts . But I feel is she would just ket him finish his explanation it would not need clarification.
That’s her style. She basically translates so other people can understand. If you are able to understand him without her congrats 🎉 also it’s her show ❤
Mel, you & Dr. Kennedy are absolutely amazing! I’m at 70 years of age tying this altogether! 50 + years living with anxiety, studying self-help & spirituality all my adult life! with the support of many wise teachers sharing their knowledge & experiences, I’m getting to the real healing. This episode does bring HUGE clarity and connection with childhood experiences and the mystery of anxiety! The key is learning the strategies for coping that you share, along with understanding the cause. Ive come along way with healing! MANY THANKS to you, Mel & Dr. Kennedy, Nicole Lepera, Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, Jeff Warren & Tamara Levitt, Tara Brach, Deepak Chopra, Dr. Levine& the list goes on. Your passion and willingness to help all of us is the link to healing ❤️🩹 the world ! So grateful-thank you, thank you, thank you 💟☮️💟 1:31:49
You guys are so spot on. I am a forced adoption baby who was adopted in 1961. I am now 61, fearful of the world and still feel like a baby. When I ask my adoptive mother why she never hugged me or told me that she loved me, she just replies, I'm not that sort of person. I am estranged from my daughter and sucicideat every day. Thanks for this podcast as it validates me.
It's mind boggling that people like that adopt children. While my own childhood wasn't a bed of roses that's pretty cold. 😢 I guess many have or adopt children just for social status, to fit in etc or care in old age 😮
When I tell you that I am OVERWHELMED by my anxiety…I can’t remember a day without worrying or not having that nervous feeling every single day. It is debilitating and I want it gone!!
Panic anxiety since age 18 in the military. Now 74 and got rid of a 30mg of xanax a day for 44 years. Got off it without medical help. Have been clean for a little over 3 years. Thanks you beautiful universe.
I love how honest you are! It makes me feel like I’m not alone in this. I had so many wonderful people around me in college and I thought I was asocial but really it was anxiety no allowing me to enjoy and appreciate it all.
The thing that I took away from this podcast is that there are people that had it worse in life more than I did. I have known that the trauma in our childhood causes pain and until we get that healed we sabotage ourselves according to how we were traumatized, i.e.. if I took on the responsibility of my family's finances as a child through trauma, that will plague me until I get that trauma healed. Your honest way of explaining things and how you relate your trauma is healing those of us who listen to or watch your podcast. Thank you for being vulnerable and for all you do out of love for others.
For the first time in my life, I don't feel crazy. For the first time, I feel a sense of peace and calm I never thought I'd experience because there's an explanation and justification for what I feel in my body and for the thoughts I have in my head. I'm so grateful for this episode, Dr. Kennedy's work, and your willingness to share it all with the world. I'm 52. And I'm beginning to heal in a way I never knew I needed to heal. I am beginning to feel relief and it's just amazing!
You are definitely not crazy! SO many people don't know about this stuff. I'm so glad these huge influential people are now talking about it to bring more awareness. Wishing you an amazing day! 💛
I really like this take on Anxiety... I have had anxiety for over 50 years.. I am on Meds, but I need a coping mechanism.. Mel and Dr. Russel , you all’s explanation of how to cope.. is awesome.. please speak more about being on medication... and how it helps.. thank you both.
I've watched this episode three times now and I'm still learning things from it. I've had anxiety since I was a baby. My mom tells a story about how I used to pull out my own hair and gave myself a bald spot because I was nervous. I'm so ready to heal this 40 year long pattern.
This episode is the most amazing, helpful and just blow my mind about anxiety!! This video needs to be showed in all schools and universities, because anxiety is the number one disease killing our minds every day. And our kids need to be freed forever. And I never heard nothing so liberating as this information. Thank you 🙏Dr. Kennedy thank you Mel you made a huge difference in the world.
MEL!!! THIS!!!! Thank you. You and this podcast is THE FIRST time I have ever, in my entire life, felt like someone understands me without me having to TRY explaining. I don't feel so alone anymore knowing I'm not "the only one" that feels nearly 100% what you've spoken about.
What’s difficult to me and I imagine the most people that deal with health anxiety at least, is that I don’t have an answer to the “Am I safe right now?” question. That’s the reason that I’m having the anxiety or panic attack in the first place. Because I feel unsafe.
Same. It’s the same in a way though. Challenging the thought. It’s no way easy, and I’ve been absolutely struggling with panic attacks over my breathing and tension, but it becomes a habit you build overtime.
Facts and fears are a major role in anxiety I write down my fears that trigger my anxiety and I ask the facts like will they harm me am I safe and I’m always safe in the moment when I use the Facts and fears scale. I have had anxiety for the past 2 weeks i feel like a wuss even saying that but I feel for the people that have this for decades and decades especially the kids I pray that we all can kick anxiety’s butt! I have been using many tools from you tube anxiety Drs they have made me understand so much in so little time! Don’t overthink it’s just adds matches to that little fire called anxiety!
@@rosatorreblanca6256 all of the videos that Dr Mel and Dr Kennedy made. What I did is I got my note pad and wrote down everything they said to do and all if the breathing exercises. I have been having anxiety for the past 2 1/2 weeks and I have actually been feeling alot better in the last 5 days I do have an occasional hint of anxiety but then I just think on what they said to do I go outside get fresh air and I do breathing exercises. And I tell myself not to add matches to the fire and know that I’m safe in the present moment and nothing can harm me. I find that when I start thinking about something about the future and sometimes even in the past I trigger it. I’m teaching myself not to overthink overthinking add matches to the fire! I know that when you watch the other video you’ll soon be better take it one day at a time. If you have any ?s lmk I have watched a bunch of videos in the past 2 weeks. Oh and the thing I did the most was I prayed and prayed and the lord is helping me so much in the last week. Stay strong I’m going to pray for you aswell. Hope to hear from you. Let’s kick anxiety’s ass! 💪👍🙏🙏
Wow, what an impactful episode this one was. I honestly felt like he was talking to me. I saved this episode so I can go back and listen again and do the work. I checked this episode out while I went for a walk at the lake. This morning, I felt so blah and in my head that i couldn't focus on ANYTHING, so I said, "I HAVE to go for a walk at the lake and ground myself." This was a great addition to my walk, it also made me walk longer and just sit and be at one with the crashing of the waves while learning how to work on my, some days, crippling anxiety. Other days, I am like yourself, giving presentations and teaching people things I have learned along my own journey as well. For so many years, I locked myself away in the fear zone. Now I try my very best to say, 3uck off to the fears," but someday it still gets a hold of me and teaches me that I don't know where I feel it. I have to work on figuring that part out, I think I feel it in my heart, but is it in my head? I'm just not sure
I really wanted him to finish his sentence or explaining his concept a few times. It’s okay to ask him other scenarios but I feel I wanted him to finish.
Great interview! Never looked at anxiety this way before. We would comfort any child who was hurt and needed to be comforted; but we won’t give that gift to ourselves.
Really helpful, thank you. When major anxiety strikes for me, it takes the form of FREEZE…I get paralyzed and can’t do anything including eat or sleep. I’ve thought of it as only being an issue when a big life event arises or when a lot of life demands occur at once. However, I’m aware that I’ve lived my entire life from a place of fear, which I now see as an expression of anxiety. For 35 years I’ve experienced chronic pain from fibromyalgia, which clearly is the result of that fear/anxiety not being resolved at its root…despite many years of study, bodywork, therapy, etc etc. I’m glad this topic is being talked about more widely now. The truth of our childhood is stored in our bodies, and must be addressed there if we are to be free. I’m pleased to know about Dr Kennedy and really appreciate what was shared in the podcast. I look forward to further conversations with him.
This was good. I did get a little anxiety when Mel continued to interrupt his answers. I love her, but wish she would have allowed him to talk more. I will buy the book. 😂
Thank You Dr Kennedy & Mel for being so transparent & vulnerable about your own personal weaknesses & marital past (Dr. Kennedy). Your honesty levels the playing field for all of us who feel "not good enough" or "defective," at times. This has been helpful for me. Blessings to you both. 💙
I am 75 years old and this was amazing. I have dealt with anxiety since I was 7 years old! I will never give up letting go of it. After today I think I am there. Lizzie Blitz(my brand) here I come! Thank you so much Mel and Dr. Kennedy.❤
Anxiety is often caused from a separation of love (caused by ourselves or from others by a blocking from love). Anxiety is more of a alarm to heal your younger self. The anxiety is a feeling in the body being sent from your younger self. GIVE your younger self the attention and love it deserves. Hold the area in your body that is painful when experiencing anxiety/alarm and breathe into that painful area the energy of your full attention directed towards love, safety, and 100% acceptance.🙏 Regulate your body towards love, I am safe in this moment, gratitude, appreciation and acceptance and this helps to regulate the mind away from the pain of being blocked from love either by yourself or others in the past. Show your wounded younger self they are seen, heard and loved by you. Don't ignore anxiety it is up to us to heal and pay attention to these alarms that are showing up as blocks to love. We can remove and heal the blocks from love and Evolve and HEAL.💞
I’m a 37 yr old single mother and my anxiety is preventing me from moving ahead in life. I recently turned down a job promotion due to severe anxiety that was crippling and it was easier to just stay where I’m at. That promotion would have been life changing. I gave up buying a house a few years ago for the same reason. I feel hopeless and unable to do anything I am just so scared of the unknown.
@@loretta5330 I am starting therapy next week for the first time. I’m reading about psychology and anxiety just with books from the library. I am just going to focus on getting better anyway I can.
This episode was a game changer for me. I just listened to it on spotify yesterday and am rewatching today on youtube. This is the information that allows everything to fall into place. Anxiety makes sense now. Looking back, I can see my life is all patterns of blocking love. Wow
Everything you’ve said about yourself at the beginning I relate to 100% at 33 years old. I’ve been dealing with this since I was around 10 years old and these last few years it’s been getting even worse. I have lived a very active lifestyle working out consistently and I eat healthy and still deal with this… It’s to the point where I don’t know how much longer I can go on. Every day for the last 13+ months I think about not being here anymore…. Just listened to this whole podcast and it all makes sense. This is me… I’m going to go through some more of these podcasts and hopefully find some sense of relief and desire to keep enduring. Thanks.
Growing up with a psychotic sibling who molested me at a young age I wanted to end my life but I won't let him win. Keep on going one day at a time and love yourself you can do it
Within a minute or two of him talking, she interrupted him and I thought to myself "Is she gonna do this the whole time?" And now I'm reading the comments haha. I just typed in Dr Russell Kennedy and he has his own RUclips channel so I think i'll just check that out instead.
Listening to this helped me pinpoint the first time I ever felt anxiety. My family always said prayers together when I was growing up one of my parents shamed me for my prayer because it did not resonate with how they viewed the situation our family was going thru.. The feeling I had at that moment followed me throughout my 30 years of life when public speaking ( which is such a big part of life) Somehow the anxiety that I often feel going to work is subsiding. I still have a long way to go but I'm so grateful for the breakthrough. I've only made it halfway through the video so I'm excited to see what else gets uncovered.
Mel, you are single handedly saving my life right now. This podcast drop could not have happened at a better time in my life. My world is crashing, my marriage, my kids, everything is crashing. Your daily posts, check ins, your willingness to show so much vulnerability, you willingness to ask people to dumb it down for AuDHD who need a little more explanation. Thank you for putting yourself out there. You’re saving more than one life by all of your hard work. ❤ I love you!!!!
Teacher Lindsey, I am doing the Mindset Reset program and I just read your post. I see that this video is from 2018 and boy haven’t we all been through the wringer!! I hope after four years that have past, things have settled down for you and you are in a good place.😊
Notably this was several years ago, but in 2017 my life was flipped upside down: my children, my teaching career because of my daughter, a bullying boss, domestic abuse, infidelity, betrayal from best friend and mother, death of two dogs, numerous losses of immediate family members, falsely accused of educator misconduct on our state's news channel, a terrible, long, agonozing divorce, diagnosed with trauma related osteoarthritis in both hips, no source of income until last September, and since online dating, have been rejected by the only two guys that I felt a connection with. I am so sorry for your experiences, but please tell me things will get better. I take Zoloft, was counseled by a wonderful therapist, meditate, don't drink alcohol, exercised faithfully until the hip pain started, earned my Masters degree, have a great job with wonderful co-workers, and TRY to focus on a positive future and gratefulness. However, I feel so worthless and unwanted, which was not the person I was prior to 2017. I have one close friend, but have isolated myself from most of my family because they failed to support me during my divorce nor my ex husband's criminal trial. Where do I go from here?
Sounds like the universe is offering you many blessings and opportunities to recreate from-the-ground-up! Happy growing! When it's time for us to start evolving and waking up to our true selves, the physical things and many people have to Fall Away. As long as you continue to be grateful for that, the universe will bring you exactly what you need, welcome it in!
Mel, great purpose behind the video.. my only advice to make it better is to please let the speaker speak until he is finished. We, as the listener, can pause, rewind, and come back and listen again if it didn't sink in originally.. Hopefully that's not taken the wrong way. Thank you
Mel Robbins thank you so much. You are helping me heal for so much trauma that has happened in my life. This episode confirmed for me that I have to go inside and give myself the love I didn't receive as a child because I was separated from my mother. Thank you Thank you sooooo much.💓
Thank you Mel! Your willingness to be vulnerable and see things and a different way is inspiring! I am very impressed at how well you understood and internalized this so quickly! You really got a great grasp of what I was saying (even if we had to steer away from the EGO hahaha) THANK YOU for giving my work exposure on your platform. I'm very grateful for you MEL ROBBINS!! XO
Mel, I want you to know…you have changed my life. I need to email you b/c we so alike in many ways. I want to just help ppl and I have to work through some trauma still. I will figure out how to connect with you soon. My cousin lives in VT (I live in ONTARIO, CANADA). Meeting you would make my dreams come true. I will figure it out. Thank you, for being you. Much love….’little’ (and adult) Ker❤️
Hi Russ, I hope it’s ok I call you that instead of Dr. I love Mel so much. I found her ironically, at the worst time in my life…I’m an intelligent women but haven’t been able to master my anxiety. Which I’ve learnt (especially after today) is unintentional childhood trauma/separation. My goal is to ‘fix’ this so it doesn’t effect my life anymore and then ultimately help others. I know in my heart I will figure this out. Thank you to both yourself and Mel. I have already messaged her b/c her vulnerability is what helps us as a community. I hope to meet her one day. She’s helping me so much and I’m following you now, as of today. I know I will get through this. I was put here to help other ppl and when I get there for me first (airplane analogy)…I promise, I will. I can’t afford to buy your book right now but I will when I can. Thank you Dr for your patience and for what you do. All the best.
I am reading your book . And nothing has ever mind fucked me so bad . Things make sense . Everything makes sense . Thank you so much . THANK YOU SOO MUCH
The comment about someone not coming to save me, really hit home. I do not have overall anxiety but have money anxiety , I had a lightbulb moment with that comment as I realised I have been waiting for my father to come back and save me since he passed.regarding money in my life. He was an incredibly generous man and as a father helped me a lot financially when he was alive and that I have been hoping that somehow magically he will have an impact on my finances from beyond the grave. Gosh, need to process this realisation and decide how it changes things.
I just found your channel.l am going through a hard time just like everyone else.l am going to sleep at peace because l found you. Thank you so much you guys have helped me so much.My mind will not turn off because l worry about everything and everyone.l am also going to add yoga to my life. I have a rash l looked it up and it is from stress is what it looks like. I am going to start working on myself.l have been worried about everything and everyone and left myself behind.l am so grateful for you .Thank you so so so much.❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you. That's not even enough to describe what this time with you, Mel, and Dr. Kennedy means to me. When you shared about what you experience upon waking up (minute 38 in the podcast version), the following 10 to 15 minutes are my EXACT story. I am listening again to some really key pieces for me because I have a forgetter (the alarm) that wants to keep me stuck or out of the real pain. In reality, feeling that pain & moving through it will likely be much less painful than what I've lived with daily for the last 30+ years. This talk has the potential for real life changes. I cried many times throughout because I believe my little Leslie heard you. She is important. Being born premature & in a very traumatic way & then being told my whole life about the birthing story & how my mom was chosen over me IF it needed to come to that, sits deep inside with little baby me. It doesn't have to anymore. Leslie is important. Leslie is a miracle. Leslie was meant to be here & take up her place & space in this world. Again, thank you both so so much
I love this video. It helps a lot in certain areas of my anxiety but my biggest anxiety begins whenever I am feeling trapped as in heavy traffic, an assembly in an auditorium, church, or a live play, whenever it would be difficult to get up and leave and return to my seat as the trapped feelings cause me to feel like I have to tinkle and the longer I have to wait in this trapped situation the more I have to tinkle. I wish this topic could be discussed on your show. Thank you.
My mind is blown wide open! Mel and Dr. Russ, I get it !! I truly understand what you’re telling us and I’ve shared and liked and saved. I’m gonna watch again and again. And I’m sharing with everyone I know who has ever felt anxiety. I’m reeling with excitement over the ability to go a little deeper with this. Thank you so much!
I never thought of worry as an addiction. But this has brought insight to me about my anxiety stemming from childhood...and I am 70. I am looking forward to working through the suggestions as well as watching over again!
His is 100% correct about the Alarm. He was speaking to me. I found my anxiety alarm in my throat, a sensation that something is stuck inside when actually there isn't. I get frustrated, anger and then scaring thoughts in my head and suddenly I feel like am about to die and the urge to run outside. Found out its called globus sensation and I am getting help with it. Thank you so much .
So much has surfased after listening to your podcast. Now when I look back at my life, I was actually petrified of having a daughter because it was drummed into me that I'm a total f up. Thank you Mel and Ross for this enlightening podcast.
This episode was such an answer. Thank you so much for bringing the idea of giving LOVE to ourselves as the answer. It makes total sense. It’s so simple, yet we think it’s so complicated. When I get anxious, I have felt so separated from love, so alone, so uncomfortable, so separated from love. It’s such a realization that I never give compassion and loving kindness to myself. Taught in My childhood trauma and dysfunctionality. This is a huge breakthrough. Thank you, thank you, dear Mel and Dr. Kennedy. 🙏💜🙏💜🙏💜🙏
Anxiety is not in any way ONLY separation or Love based. Some people have base physical disorders that go undiagnosed for years and this spawns anxiety. Other people have trauma from events. I was a soldier and unfortunately I suffer from both of these issues. It's a very complex problem and different for everyone.
What they ment with this "Separation Anxiety" or "Love based" it's the very core of the Feeling, where it comes down to, but not denying the fact that the trigger of your Anxiety was that Trauma, disease or event, they're separating the trigger from the very origins of the feelings.
I really liked her video on the 54321 countdown trick. However this video created anxiety for me when I started listening to it. Anything that starts out with you can CURE your anxiety is a money making statement. It's like clickbait. And it got me. I have spent years feeling shame and guilt that I feel this way. That somehow I cannot fix it myself. I believe in tools. I believe in medicine. I believe in self-help. I do not believe all things in this world can be cured. That is self-love for me. Taking that shame and blame away from myself because I can't cure my anxiety. I can't look at my body and see where it's broken. Or why it broke. Not everything is separation anxiety. My family has been dealing with mental health for generations. I know that because of stories and suicide. If someone was born without an arm would you tell them they can cure themselves? Anxiety can be a spectrum. It's a symptom. It can come from many different things. If it comes from separation anxiety for you, then I'm glad you know and this video is for you. But any statements that are black and white are usually not helpful.
A million thanks for this! I've been seeing therapists and reading and taking classes about anxiety for months, and this is an immediate life-changer for me, the first thing that's helped, and immediately helped dramatically!
The best from this episode is to realize that finally holistic and neuroscience are meeting each other. Heal your inner child is not new to me, but it's incredibly nice to hear that from science's perspective.😊
Mel and Dr Kennedy, This is going to be a game changer to so many frightened people!!! Thank you so much❤ I just sent it to my son and his wife and to another friend!
I was watching this and suddenly I felt my body going through it again, I tried to ask my sister’s help to put her hands on my heart and the other at my back just like how Dr. Russell described it, my sister and I was shocked because my heart went from pounding to calm. And then I put my hands on my heart and throat while saying to myself, “I love you. You are safe” my anxiety went off. I got a looooot of helpful tips here and I promise myself that I will love her from this day on. Thank you for this wonderful work!!! ❤❤
Thank you!! I am 40 years going thru life anxiety and depression and when he started talking about childhood trauma and the separation anxiety that's where all started for me. I thank u for sharing.
Discussing anxiety displaying itself as child separation really hit a note with me. It makes sense. It’s so real for me. My mother is at the core with my anxiety. The alarm anxiety cycle.This was great Mel.
This is it, Mel. It all comes down to love and realization that whatever we give so selflessly to others, we can give ourselves. Thank you and i love you, too! ❤️
I learned so much about myself after speaking with Dr. Russell Kennedy @theanxietymd today, and I hope you did too! If you enjoyed today’s episode please hit like and subscribe to get notified for future episodes!
Yes!! This was amazing! Saved to my favorites. Thank you so much!
Mel you have frikin shifted all the perspectives again!! Do you really know how valuable you are? So appreciate you, thank you. I forwarded this to another going through challenges. Truly a legend ❤thank you thank, love you and believe in you ⭐️🌟⭐️
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Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once. Breathe.You're strong. You got this . Take it day by day.
I have been having constant and unbearable anxiety because of university. Dr.healingstrain is life saver. Thank you
Where to search?? Is it IG??
That's one aspect of it.
Slow and steady wins the race.
You say anxiety is because we block “love” ? I do not block love and I do have anxiety. I started getting it while in college, fear of all the money I owe
I've had panic disorder for 48 years. I'm crying listening to this. I don't know how to thank you both.
Me I am crying listening to this
How did you cope over such a long time of dealing with this?
I feel your pain. God bless you. You are not alone. Much love.
Sorry you had to deal with that. Hope it’s improved for you since then
Have things improved?
I suffer from Severe Anxiety and Insomnia for over 40 years. I finally got help and am doing much better now. These symptoms are no fun and I wouldn't wish them on my worst enemy!
Me too it is so fraustrating and disgusting
What worked for you?
What helped you? Meds? Which ones?
What help did you get ?
@@klanderkal same here , any update . Did you find way to deal with it
I lived my whole life in flight or fight. It’s very damaging to the adrenal glands. Now retired I live with a houseful of pets and I am happy and relaxed: people in the world make me nervous.
Animals are my go to as well. I don't feel respected by others or liked anymore because I am struggling so much with shame from it. I hope I can make it through this life without burning out completely. Grateful for my cat and apartment and I hope I can find a more suitable job for my stress-head
My problem is, my pets make me anxious as well😂😂😂😂
There is nothing more relaxing than cuddling and being lucked by your fogs and cats. My cat licks the back of my hand to show her love.
Amen....❤ Animals were created by God for us sensitive souls as a balm for coping with the world! Thank you God!
Don't you feel anxiety over your pets getting sick?
When he said, no one is coming to save you, those words make me cry, makes me feel so lonely.
You can do this❤
Same
I have suffered from Anxiety for 2 years. My healing started when i gave my life to Jesus Christ. Just as written in Matthew 11:28 - Come to Me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Now I am free because of Jesus.
Amen...he is going to heal us
Amen
Amen
Keep going…Praying for you.
Amen. I am definitely closer to God
I’m 71years old and have suffered all my life with chronic anxiety and this is the first time I have understood what the heck is my problem . This podcast has been life changing Mel n Russ thankyou I feel I can now start living taking care of myself n not running away from myself 💖
Please take care of yourself, I'm rooting for you❤
Everyone has different causes and options for chronic anxiety, you dear don't need to fit into any form do what feels right for you I'll send you love if it gets to you the stars will smile, you too we're all stronger than we think- us " broken" ones are the best ❤
I totally get it. For soooooo long I did not know what I was going through. . It is affecting everything... especially the people around me. And I had no words to explain, which made it worse. ❤I am happy that I know now ....even if I wish I was normal... I guess it's good to know what it is and how to ease it. Takecare.... It's nice to feel understood by strangers who you never met before and most probably won't... I also have ADHD and I had to find out at age 30 after suffering from it my whole life ..and being called lazy. Have a beautiful life :)
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I’m 10 years younger than you, but I’ve suffered chronic anxiety since I was 3 years old!! I SO want that to change … it’s exhausting!!
I have felt anxious, nervous, and on guard my entire life, even my earliest memories as a child. The only time and place I feel at peace is when I am riding or hiking in the woods. I cannot connect with people, but I have strong bonds with animals and nature.
I appreciate you so much, Mel. If I were to say I have a human friend, it would be you. You are the only one I trust. Thank you for being you and for these podcasts. I love you, Mel!!!
going through somewhat close to the experiences you had.
Animals love us unconditionally and nature ask nothing from us..just provides beauty .💖🐾
Good for you hope you are doing great
Jesus loves you so much.
Hugs jamie xx Christine from Windsor uk xx
🎯💯 when Mel said, “I feel like I am observing life, but I’m not a part of it.”
Right! But it's so true. 🤯
90% of the time
Yup …
This is me,I feel like one day I'll find myself I feel lost in my own body that I don't even know who I am 🥲
Approximately a year or two before I retired I said this all the time that “ I feel like I’m a passenger in my life.”Retiring was amazing. I sleep 8 to 9 hours a night and I exercise for an hour 4 to 5 times a week and it has helped immensely. It took me eight months to detox from work.
I watched this yesterday. Today I had to conduct some interviews and at one point I became very anxious and uncomfortable. I realised that my stomach was so tense. It was a lightbulb moment. It wasn’t my head, it was my stomach. I took a moment to relax my stomach and the anxiety started to melt away. Thank you so much for this.
I'm happy 4 you, sending you 💓 and light
So great!
This is so telling. Mel talks and talks and talks and talks …… and then talks some more which is such a demonstration of her anxiety ……. Poor guest, he didn’t have much air space in spite of the fact that he is the expert guest …… Mel Is having a full-blown anxiety attack …. And I was really hoping to hear a lot more from the doctor. 1:30 hrs of listening to Mel was different from what I was hoping - it gave me anxiety listening to her dominate the conversation when I was hoping to learn from the doctor. Thank you for the demonstration lesson, Mel. Bless your heart.
Thank you! I came to the comment section to try and articulate what you so perfectly did!
Why we need to stay off social media and it's an ADHD thing too the over explaining and attention needing through over talking
Yes, she kept interrupting, quite difficult listening I found.
so true, she should learn from Joe Rogan and actually listen to the guest. I wanted to hear about the ego, and i don't give a shit if she doesn't give a shit about it.
I thought maybe she’s manic. I talk talk talk when I am manic. But this is a podcast. I’m just starting it.
My daily practice is to cover my heart with my hand in meditation. I was feeling very upset today , so I moved my hand from my heart to just below where I was feeling the sensation, like he advised, and I burst into tears and unlocked the trauma that was making my thoughts spiral and connected to myself , I cried and cried and sent myself love. Afterwards, my thoughts stopped spiralling out of control, my body had calmed and I felt regulated. Thank you for this beautiful gift. I shared it to a group of women who I feel would benefit from it, also. ❤
Thank you for sharing this. It really helped. I had old trauma rear it's ugly head last night. Woke up at 4 a.m. feeling anxious and am listening to Mel. I put my hand on my heart after reading your beautiful comment and immediately started crying. I feel better physically after doing it.
I’m having the exact same experience right now😭😭😭😭 i feel so different
My mother gave me Extreme anxiety. Never hugged me. Didn’t love me. Grew up in a dysfunctional family. I hate my anxiety! This has helped. Thank you!❤️
I was in the same situation.. anxiety really sucks. I’m 67 now and have a hard time leaving my home.. he makes sense
02:12 🧠 Anxiety begins as a physiological response in the body's amygdala, often referred to as the fear center of the brain. It triggers a series of physical reactions.
03:11 🗣️ Anxiety is often expressed in various ways, such as heightened vigilance, panic attacks, shortness of breath, frustration, anger, or withdrawal.
03:39 🤔 Recognizing anxiety as an alarm system in the body shifts the focus from just thoughts to the physical sensations, allowing for a more holistic approach to healing.
05:15 🔄 The anxiety-alarm cycle perpetuates when the mind creates a stream of worries in response to the initial physical alarm, resulting in a loop of escalating anxiety.
06:22 💡 Understanding anxiety as a form of separation anxiety reveals that it stems from a feeling of disconnection or separation, often from oneself or loved ones. This is a universal source of anxiety.
08:09 🔄 Separation anxiety, at its core, is a deep-rooted emotional issue that can be traced back to childhood. It manifests as an underlying sense of unease and fear.
09:51 🔍 Society tends to prioritize verbal communication and intellectual pursuits, often neglecting the importance of understanding and connecting with one's own body and emotions.
12:13 💪 Healing anxiety requires a holistic "neck down" approach, focusing on the body and its physiological responses, rather than solely addressing thoughts and mindset.
13:56 🩹 Dr. Russ Kennedy, an expert in anxiety and neuroscience, emphasizes the potential for individuals to heal their anxiety by addressing it from a bodily perspective.
15:35 📚 The five-second rule, a brain hack developed by Mel Robbins, offers a practical tool for interrupting anxious thoughts and feelings, providing a way to take control of the anxiety-alarm cycle.
24:06 🚸 Separation from parents can be a root cause of anxiety. When we feel disconnected from our parents, it triggers an alarm in our system.
25:40 🧩 "Parental mismatch" can lead to a sense of separation. Feeling different or disconnected from a parent, even if there's love, can cause alarm in a child's system.
27:20 🌊 Locating the alarm in your body: When feeling anxious, focus on physical sensations. Close your eyes, breathe, and pinpoint where you feel the discomfort.
29:48 🛌 Fear of facing the alarm: It's common to resist feeling anxiety. Acknowledging and comforting your inner child can help alleviate the alarm.
34:38 🚴♂️ Riding the emotional "motorcycle": Confronting the alarm directly, like riding a motorcycle for the first time, is crucial for acclimatizing to anxiety.
37:19 🔄 Don't solve anxiety with more thinking: Overthinking exacerbates the issue. Focus on the physical sensation, rather than diving into a cycle of anxious thoughts.
42:43 🧠 Understanding the root cause: Anxiety stems from the alarm in our bodies, not just our thoughts. Addressing this is key to healing anxiety.
46:19 🧒 The speaker shares a personal story about their son Oakley, who faced challenges with dyslexia, ADHD, and bullying at school, leading to heightened anxiety.
47:15 🦕 Oakley's anxiety manifests physically as butterflies in his stomach, leading to panic attacks and a cycle of avoidance.
48:21 🤗 The key intervention needed for Oakley was physical reassurance, validation, and hugs to calm his alarm system.
50:31 🖐️ Practicing regulating the nervous system through physical touch, finding a safe place in the body (e.g., breath near nose or neutral body part), and returning to the alarm is essential.
53:33 🧠 Coping with anxiety involves using thinking strategies, while healing involves addressing the root cause-the inner child needing to be seen, heard, and loved.
55:13 🪢 Chronic anxiety often coexists with addiction as individuals seek substances or behaviors to mute the alarm and feel connection or relief.
56:51 🏀 Practicing self-regulation techniques is crucial for success in high-stakes situations; it involves finding a safe place in the body and building that regulation over time.
59:23 🧒 Healing involves connecting with the wounded inner child, providing the love and support they lacked, ultimately addressing the root cause of anxiety.
01:06:00 🤔 The conversation challenges the current terminology of "mental health," suggesting a shift towards understanding anxiety as originating in the body, not just the mind.
01:08 🚨 Dr. Russ Kennedy emphasizes the importance of regulating the body first to calm the mind, rather than attempting to calm the mind to regulate the body.
01:08:46 🧠 Activating the somatosensory cortex, responsible for movement and sensation, can help shift focus from rumination in the mind to a sense of the body, aiding anxiety and focus.
01:09:25 💡 Anxiety often stems from a mind-body disconnect, with individuals avoiding confronting physical sensations in their body by staying in their thoughts.
01:09:53 🔄 Merely trying to fix anxious thoughts is insufficient, as anxiety is often rooted in an addiction to worrying. More emphasis on feeling, rather than thinking, is necessary for treatment.
01:10:19 🧒 All anxiety can be traced back to early experiences of separation, either from others or from oneself. This separation is at the core of anxiety.
01:10:31 🤝 In response to the alarm of anxiety, individuals often tend to further separate from themselves, exacerbating the issue. The key is to reconnect with oneself.
01:10:57 ❤️ When the alarm of anxiety goes off, it is actually a call for self-love and reassurance. Going into your body and soothing yourself is a powerful way to address anxiety.
01:11:37 🌟 A powerful affirmation to use when practicing the techniques is asking oneself, "Am I safe in this moment?" This anchors you in the present and provides a sense of safety.
01:12:20 🛑 Blocking love from oneself is often a root cause of anxiety. Recognizing and removing these blocks is crucial for healing.
01:13:17 🔄 Dr. Russ Kennedy uses intuitive methodsto identify blocks to self-love within a person's body, which, when removed, lead to a reduction in anxiety.
01:14:27 🔑 Addressing the root cause of anxiety through self-love and soothing is more effective than attempting to merely change thoughts. This approach provides profound healing.
Thank you it was very helpful💛
Thank you!
Thank you! Very helpful 👍
Thank so helpful
Great work from a great human being ❤
Anxiety is real. Mine definitely stems from childhood. My father abused us & constantly critized us as worthless. Ne er praised us, and after beating us, bought us gifts, rewarding his behavior. ❤ stays with us for life Thanks for addressing this..
So sorry you went through this 😢 I went through something similar. It’s time to change these patterns and create the best life for ourselves ❤ I believe in you! Best of luck
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Same here😢
Wow i hope you found some healing and found some help God Bless
Me too my father was alcoholic and treat us very bad but I still belive we can pull through. Best of luck to you all!!
Anxiety rules my life, thanks for helping people like me
Wow, this episode blew my mind. Thank you for the free therapy, I actually started writing a letter to 8 year old “me” little Miriam and told her how sorry I was for not loving her the way she deserved, I have never had a good relationship with my mom and it took me back to my childhood. I want to give my inner child a big hug 😭😭😭
Ah me too I have been so hard on myself since a young age. I want to hug my younger traumatized self and make her feel safe and loved.
I teared up after reading your message.
I feel u Miriam I have zero relationship wiv my mum too 😢
Omgggggg I’m 41 and I wanna give my younger self a hug because I didn’t know what I was going through. I allowed people to treat me so bad I was bullied and I blamed myself 😫😫😫😫. I’m so sorry Shaleta I love you so much.
Me too, a very horrible mother.
Thank you ,i have been so so dangerously depressed for almost a year with panic attacks .thank you for some kind of tools to stop this pain.
You are not alone 🙏
Not alone
Not alone! Stay positive 😊
To anyone struggling with their mind: I promise you It will be better, faster than you think, and better than you can imagine. You 100% are going to be ok and will live better moments filled with joy and happiness. You might not love yourself now but there are people that do, never forget that. Everyone around you is cheering for you. You are going to be ok. I love you ❤️
i love you too ❤
love you
Thats what I need to hear right now. Thank you ❤
Iloveyou too
Thank you. I love you too and God loves you!
I love how Mel drills into her guest and asks that person everything we are thinking that we hope she asks them and for clarification on their conversation. She speaks for all of us. How refreshing!
Over 40 years with anxiety being called chicken little and over thinker and I needed to love my inner child and listen thank you
Bless this man's patience!
Mel Robbins interrupts to the point where I bailed on what could have been a first class interview. She is obviously smart and I appreciate her taking on this topic.
I’m a retired mental health provider who has had free floating anxiety my whole 68 yrs, I sear. I was having a hard time relaxing to sleep tonight. I’ve tried EVERYTHING. This podcast addressed my “alarm.” I think I knew it was there, but hated it. Now I can hopefully work to give it the attention I NEED. The hard feeling I had in my chest eased tonight eased. It felt good. TY. I will share u.
This was so a ah Ha moment... cried my eyes out 😭😭😭 I was already on a healing journey but this "where did I blocked the love from my mother thing" really opened a big wound I finally found my 6yrs old me, I had struggled finding her.... now I can really start seeing, hearing, understanding, and really loving my little me ❤
While watching this I didn't notice my tears keep falling from my eyes. Thanks for this.. God bless! I am suffering with anxiety, depression panic attacks and feeling too much fear that I don't wanna go out anymore.
Same here, but I’m 67 years old. I just sold my house and I can’t find another to buy.
Me too it’s horrible
Have had Agoraphobia decades. Check out Dan Buglio on RUclips. Perceived danger triggers our brains, can give out pains, anxiety etc
I’m going down on my Xanax, not easy, yes, I like this video. ❤ I have been on this medication for many years! 😮
@@JOSHKIEHN77me too!
I feel like this is something I need to apply to my procrastination. Anxiety creeps up when I have things that I need/should do and get done, and that feeling makes me feel paralyzed and I find other smaller things to take care of around the house because the bigger things that actually need taking care of feel way too big and scary. My body says I don’t like how that feels, so go do something that is also productive but not as big or heavy or intimidating. Putting my hand on my chest before doing these tasks will probably help so much.. talking to my inner child and practicing some self soothing so I can face my problems. “The solution is not in our thinking, the solution is in our body” that is so brilliant. I love this , thank you so much!!
Jessicaruz-me too
This is my first time EVER hearing a professional address that anxiety starts in the body first - which is what I've ALWAYS felt. When I'm anxious people always ask, "Well, did something happen? Did you have a thought? What were you thinking about?" And it's like, no, I was just putting on my socks and I suddenly felt the pang of panic in my stomach and throat, and THEN I thought in my mind, "Well, I'm starting to feel anxious, why? Am I gonna throw up? Oh god, I have to drive for the next 15 minutes and I can't escape that easily"...and so on until I'm having a full blown panic attack.
These ideas have really opened up my mind, and I actually feel confident they will help me, and I've never felt that way before. I've had crippling anxiety since I was very tiny, and also grew up with a severely mentally ill father. Wow.
Iv gone through so much in my life and fight my way through and now for the first time, I can actually notice my anxiety and Iv been trying to find what I knew to be the answer but how to work with it. Finally I have words to put to my intuition. I knew that somehow dealing with the feeling was key to resolving it bc one cant remember where or when it happened
I think so to, majority of my life I was a happy person with physical symptoms that I never understood till I started getting in my head
Yes same here panic in my body first then the thoughts
Wow, listening to this during my drive to work, experiencing "the worst" traffic. Pulled into the parking lot around min 28 and this part has me tearing up. I've never heard anxiety explained this way! I'm going to finish listening later this evening when I'm at home. Thanks, Mel.
Oh my gosh, why did I not meet you when I was a baby. That's how far back I go with my anxieties!! I am now 67 and anxiety has limited most of my life because of the debilitating effects of anxiety, and separation anxiety. Thank you Mel and your guests. I am just so grateful. Elaine from South Africa 🌹
This makes so much sense. I suffer from health anxiety, and every time I feel a symptom in my body my brain hyper thinks it. A headache, a tingling in my arm, heart palpitations, stomach pain… just anything I seem to magnify it by 100x! I suffer from GERD and other health issues so I’m expecting those symptoms. So I don’t understand that when I do feel it my body reacts the same every time… in a panic! It’s a horrible cycle. I see now I’m an absolute addict to WORRY. I can’t even exercise as I think I might push my heart too much and I’ll have a heart attack😞
I hear you! I have exactly the same problems n symptoms like yours. I had my first panic attack in 2015 after getting out of an ICU n even though I no longer have panic attack, I still have this anxiety up until now. I'm actually having it right now when writing this as I've been having this heat all over my body in the past few days which I have no ideas what the cause is but more likely as I'm approaching a menopouse
@@themidnite515 I totally understand. I’m sorry you’re going through it. The perimenopause really messed me up too. Did you try this 54321? Did it help? Mostly it doesn’t work for my health anxiety. But I’m still trying.
The heat feeling is not fun. I get hot all over and I feel faint. Tonight was a rough night too. So I watch all these videos to help calm my anxiety… hope you feel better soon🙂
I feel you. This too shall pass.
I have the exact same thing. It sucks, one little thing we turn into huge things. When it happens I have to force myself to remind myself, headaches, palpitations, nerve pain dose not mean it will lead to a bigger issue. It’s normal, it’s impossible to feel perfect all the time. That’s just what I play in my head when I get wound up.
@@tammy.envyeyes yes exactly. I’m sorry you have to deal with it too. I was up at 3am reading my ultrasound results that just came in.. thankfully nothing bad. But somehow I managed to find something to worry about. It’s been a rough morning and I tell myself the same thing you do. Just worse at night..🙁
Mel, thank you so much for bringing Dr. Kennedy on your podcast. This past week I had to get away because the pain in body was so overwhelming. I have struggled all my life with loving myself. Always putting others before myself in fear of losing their love. I have five children and my husband has an addiction and our finances are always at stake and a topic of fear for me. My mother was mentally unstable, anything would set her off. I don't remember her ever hugging me. I was beaten and slapped when I stuck up for myself, even as a teenager. There was a strap in the kitchen closet that was waiting to be used. Everything the doctor said was so spot on. You are both a gift sent to me during this painful time. All I want to do is hug you, so I'm sending you a virtual hug. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable about your life. It makes me feel I am not the only one who is struggling with anxiety.
I am sorry you went through that, thank you for sharing. I hope you heal and find the peace you deserve. Xx
Before listening to this episode I thought gosh 90mins, I’m not really in the mood for such a long episode. But my anxiety was giving me a hard time and I felt like I’ve got no other choice. Now that I’ve listened to it all I can say is it’s been the best 90min podcast episode I’ve ever listened to. Thanks for sharing it with the world! ❤
Can you give me a recap? Like what's the big takeaway?
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This is a wake up call, it makes me sad to know I have not been loving that little child in me, amazing!!!
Omg omg omg I want to cry over & over again because I AM ANXIETY UNSOLVED I AM THAT PERSON WHO NEVER UNDERSTOOD WHAT WAS WRING WITH ME LIVING IT FOR OVER 50 yrs This podcast is my Lifesaver❤
Wow, I always felt like I understood anxiety and just blew it over. This episode floored me and mid listening I felt my body where things feel pain or stagnant and I truly listened. I have been keeping myself distracted and have tried to stop vaping multiple times but always go back to my distractions. Right after the exercises, I threw away my vape and deleted all apps that are not serving me for ME, and this time, I know I can do it 💪💪
Yes, you can!!
Hi Mel - I was sitting on my front porch today listening to this episode. What started with a couple of tears rolling down my cheeks, ended with me ugly crying for hours. I’m in my 50’s and known I have generalised anxiety for many years now - using talk therapy and medication over time to help. In all honesty, it’s only been in the last couple of years I’ve come to understand how far back in my life the anxiety stems from.
Your episode with Dr Kennedy has hit me like a tonne of bricks, hence the deluge of tears. What I kind of knew was always there, was presented to me today with so much clarity about the child I was and the adult I have been and now am. This conversation has been transformative for me and I thank you both so much🙏
So interesting how many people have anxiety or depression . Im not alone ❤
Oh my god Mel. This is the very first episode I am listening to and I am shocked of how similar our stories with anxiety are. It is like you were describing my childhood. I hope I can heal anxiety for good..
Psychedelic are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough.it's fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety..it saved my life
When you've experienced psilocybin,the visions,the feeling that others feel become relatable and real,but when you haven't they could sound weird
Psilocybin containing mushrooms save my life. The drastically reduced my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quite illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would had became medically dangerous to quit
@@hazeemakhan5301is he on inSta?
@@bianca8071sure he ships anywhere and discreetly too, that's if your worried about that!
I'm glad myco_louiis is mentioned... I've been having situational depression for about 4 yrs plus now but I had to hit him up last week and he really gave me some of his product..they work like magic.
The continual interruptions were making me anxious, lol!! Let the poor man talk!
Me too!! I had to quit listening!!
Same. I thought he sounded amazing and she just kept interrupting and each time I would go uuuugh
I agree , she is trying to help and clarify the concepts . But I feel is she would just ket him finish his explanation it would not need clarification.
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That’s her style. She basically translates so other people can understand. If you are able to understand him without her congrats 🎉 also it’s her show ❤
Mel, you & Dr. Kennedy are absolutely amazing! I’m at 70 years of age tying this altogether!
50 + years living with anxiety, studying self-help & spirituality all my adult life! with the support of many wise teachers sharing their knowledge & experiences, I’m getting to the real healing. This episode does bring HUGE clarity and connection with childhood experiences and the mystery of anxiety! The key is learning the strategies for coping that you share, along with understanding the cause.
Ive come along way with healing! MANY THANKS to you, Mel & Dr. Kennedy, Nicole Lepera, Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, Jeff Warren & Tamara Levitt, Tara Brach, Deepak Chopra, Dr. Levine& the list goes on. Your passion and willingness to help all of us is the link to healing ❤️🩹 the world !
So grateful-thank you, thank you, thank you
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You guys are so spot on. I am a forced adoption baby who was adopted in 1961. I am now 61, fearful of the world and still feel like a baby. When I ask my adoptive mother why she never hugged me or told me that she loved me, she just replies, I'm not that sort of person. I am estranged from my daughter and sucicideat every day. Thanks for this podcast as it validates me.
I hope you find healing in your life and repair the pieces of yourself that have been broken❤️
It's mind boggling that people like that adopt children. While my own childhood wasn't a bed of roses that's pretty cold. 😢 I guess many have or adopt children just for social status, to fit in etc or care in old age 😮
When I tell you that I am OVERWHELMED by my anxiety…I can’t remember a day without worrying or not having that nervous feeling every single day. It is debilitating and I want it gone!!
You've got this you're not alone!
Panic anxiety since age 18 in the military. Now 74 and got rid of a 30mg of xanax a day for 44 years. Got off it without medical help. Have been clean for a little over 3 years. Thanks you beautiful universe.
You should be incredibly proud of yourself. What an accomplishment!
Thank you. I bathe in gratitude every single day.
How?
Way to go!!
Celebrate yourself for that...
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I love how honest you are! It makes me feel like I’m not alone in this. I had so many wonderful people around me in college and I thought I was asocial but really it was anxiety no allowing me to enjoy and appreciate it all.
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The thing that I took away from this podcast is that there are people that had it worse in life more than I did. I have known that the trauma in our childhood causes pain and until we get that healed we sabotage ourselves according to how we were traumatized, i.e.. if I took on the responsibility of my family's finances as a child through trauma, that will plague me until I get that trauma healed. Your honest way of explaining things and how you relate your trauma is healing those of us who listen to or watch your podcast. Thank you for being vulnerable and for all you do out of love for others.
For the first time in my life, I don't feel crazy. For the first time, I feel a sense of peace and calm I never thought I'd experience because there's an explanation and justification for what I feel in my body and for the thoughts I have in my head. I'm so grateful for this episode, Dr. Kennedy's work, and your willingness to share it all with the world. I'm 52. And I'm beginning to heal in a way I never knew I needed to heal. I am beginning to feel relief and it's just amazing!
You are definitely not crazy! SO many people don't know about this stuff. I'm so glad these huge influential people are now talking about it to bring more awareness. Wishing you an amazing day! 💛
@@livingmy2.0 Could not agree more! I hope you are having an amazing day as well and I appreciate your response!
I really like this take on Anxiety... I have had anxiety for over 50 years.. I am on Meds, but I need a coping mechanism.. Mel and Dr. Russel , you all’s explanation of how to cope.. is awesome.. please speak more about being on medication... and how it helps.. thank you both.
i hope you recover and heal from anxiety❤
I've watched this episode three times now and I'm still learning things from it. I've had anxiety since I was a baby. My mom tells a story about how I used to pull out my own hair and gave myself a bald spot because I was nervous. I'm so ready to heal this 40 year long pattern.
This episode is the most amazing, helpful and just blow my mind about anxiety!! This video needs to be showed in all schools and universities, because anxiety is the number one disease killing our minds every day. And our kids need to be freed forever. And I never heard nothing so liberating as this information. Thank you 🙏Dr. Kennedy thank you Mel you made a huge difference in the world.
It seems learning to really love yourself, is key for so many things in life. Excellent video.
MEL!!! THIS!!!! Thank you. You and this podcast is THE FIRST time I have ever, in my entire life, felt like someone understands me without me having to TRY explaining. I don't feel so alone anymore knowing I'm not "the only one" that feels nearly 100% what you've spoken about.
What’s difficult to me and I imagine the most people that deal with health anxiety at least, is that I don’t have an answer to the “Am I safe right now?” question. That’s the reason that I’m having the anxiety or panic attack in the first place. Because I feel unsafe.
Think it means you rationalise in the moment, you feel unsafe but, find the proof, is it rational?
Same. It’s the same in a way though. Challenging the thought. It’s no way easy, and I’ve been absolutely struggling with panic attacks over my breathing and tension, but it becomes a habit you build overtime.
Facts and fears are a major role in anxiety I write down my fears that trigger my anxiety and I ask the facts like will they harm me am I safe and I’m always safe in the moment when I use the Facts and fears scale. I have had anxiety for the past 2 weeks i feel like a wuss even saying that but I feel for the people that have this for decades and decades especially the kids I pray that we all can kick anxiety’s butt! I have been using many tools from you tube anxiety Drs they have made me understand so much in so little time! Don’t overthink it’s just adds matches to that little fire called anxiety!
@@svtkilr hello can I ask what videos helped u
@@rosatorreblanca6256 all of the videos that Dr Mel and Dr Kennedy made. What I did is I got my note pad and wrote down everything they said to do and all if the breathing exercises. I have been having anxiety for the past 2 1/2 weeks and I have actually been feeling alot better in the last 5 days I do have an occasional hint of anxiety but then I just think on what they said to do I go outside get fresh air and I do breathing exercises. And I tell myself not to add matches to the fire and know that I’m safe in the present moment and nothing can harm me. I find that when I start thinking about something about the future and sometimes even in the past I trigger it. I’m teaching myself not to overthink overthinking add matches to the fire! I know that when you watch the other video you’ll soon be better take it one day at a time. If you have any ?s lmk I have watched a bunch of videos in the past 2 weeks. Oh and the thing I did the most was I prayed and prayed and the lord is helping me so much in the last week. Stay strong I’m going to pray for you aswell. Hope to hear from you. Let’s kick anxiety’s ass! 💪👍🙏🙏
Wow, what an impactful episode this one was. I honestly felt like he was talking to me. I saved this episode so I can go back and listen again and do the work. I checked this episode out while I went for a walk at the lake. This morning, I felt so blah and in my head that i couldn't focus on ANYTHING, so I said, "I HAVE to go for a walk at the lake and ground myself." This was a great addition to my walk, it also made me walk longer and just sit and be at one with the crashing of the waves while learning how to work on my, some days, crippling anxiety. Other days, I am like yourself, giving presentations and teaching people things I have learned along my own journey as well.
For so many years, I locked myself away in the fear zone. Now I try my very best to say, 3uck off to the fears," but someday it still gets a hold of me and teaches me that I don't know where I feel it. I have to work on figuring that part out, I think I feel it in my heart, but is it in my head? I'm just not sure
I really wanted him to finish his sentence or explaining his concept a few times.
It’s okay to ask him other scenarios but I feel I wanted him to finish.
Great interview! Never looked at anxiety this way before. We would comfort any child who was hurt and needed to be comforted; but we won’t give that gift to ourselves.
Really helpful, thank you. When major anxiety strikes for me, it takes the form of FREEZE…I get paralyzed and can’t do anything including eat or sleep. I’ve thought of it as only being an issue when a big life event arises or when a lot of life demands occur at once. However, I’m aware that I’ve lived my entire life from a place of fear, which I now see as an expression of anxiety. For 35 years I’ve experienced chronic pain from fibromyalgia, which clearly is the result of that fear/anxiety not being resolved at its root…despite many years of study, bodywork, therapy, etc etc. I’m glad this topic is being talked about more widely now. The truth of our childhood is stored in our bodies, and must be addressed there if we are to be free. I’m pleased to know about Dr Kennedy and really appreciate what was shared in the podcast. I look forward to further conversations with him.
This was good. I did get a little anxiety when Mel continued to interrupt his answers. I love her, but wish she would have allowed him to talk more. I will buy the book. 😂
Currently watching and this is driving me nuts!
she is an interrupting cow
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She was trying to be sure she and her audience were keeping up and understanding what he was saying.
I think the same
My younger sister sent me this Video and this life Changing for me, my sisters years and years ❤
Thank You Dr Kennedy & Mel for being so transparent & vulnerable about your own personal weaknesses & marital past (Dr. Kennedy). Your honesty levels the playing field for all of us who feel "not good enough" or "defective," at times. This has been helpful for me. Blessings to you both. 💙
I am 75 years old and this was amazing. I have dealt with anxiety since I was 7 years old! I will never give up letting go of it. After today I think I am there. Lizzie Blitz(my brand) here I come! Thank you so much Mel and Dr. Kennedy.❤
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When I feel the alarm start to ring I do acts of self care and self love, it’s amazing how small activities can lead to massive body and mind changes
What do you do can you share with me?
Anxiety is often caused from a separation of love (caused by ourselves or from others by a blocking from love). Anxiety is more of a alarm to heal your younger self. The anxiety is a feeling in the body being sent from your younger self. GIVE your younger self the attention and love it deserves. Hold the area in your body that is painful when experiencing anxiety/alarm and breathe into that painful area the energy of your full attention directed towards love, safety, and 100% acceptance.🙏
Regulate your body towards love, I am safe in this moment, gratitude, appreciation and acceptance and this helps to regulate the mind away from the pain of being blocked from love either by yourself or others in the past. Show your wounded younger self they are seen, heard and loved by you.
Don't ignore anxiety it is up to us to heal and pay attention to these alarms that are showing up as blocks to love. We can remove and heal the blocks from love and Evolve and HEAL.💞
Nonsense
How do you love your little self
Lovely and helpful
Mel is a blessing & a gift to millions of people. Thank you, thank you.
I’m a 37 yr old single mother and my anxiety is preventing me from moving ahead in life. I recently turned down a job promotion due to severe anxiety that was crippling and it was easier to just stay where I’m at. That promotion would have been life changing. I gave up buying a house a few years ago for the same reason. I feel hopeless and unable to do anything I am just so scared of the unknown.
That's exactly how I feel..
I had to stop working 3 years ago because of this 😢
I feel stuck and doing know what else to do.
How are you doing?
@@loretta5330 I am starting therapy next week for the first time. I’m reading about psychology and anxiety just with books from the library. I am just going to focus on getting better anyway I can.
Praying for you. I understand.
This episode was a game changer for me. I just listened to it on spotify yesterday and am rewatching today on youtube. This is the information that allows everything to fall into place. Anxiety makes sense now. Looking back, I can see my life is all patterns of blocking love. Wow
Everything you’ve said about yourself at the beginning I relate to 100% at 33 years old.
I’ve been dealing with this since I was around 10 years old and these last few years it’s been getting even worse. I have lived a very active lifestyle working out consistently and I eat healthy and still deal with this… It’s to the point where I don’t know how much longer I can go on. Every day for the last 13+ months I think about not being here anymore….
Just listened to this whole podcast and it all makes sense. This is me… I’m going to go through some more of these podcasts and hopefully find some sense of relief and desire to keep enduring. Thanks.
Growing up with a psychotic sibling who molested me at a young age I wanted to end my life but I won't let him win. Keep on going one day at a time and love yourself you can do it
Same here, how are you doing now bro? I’m going to try a therapist I feel I have to heal my inner child
@@Rozndo I'm doing ok dealing with prostate cancer now
This doctor was SO patient, she wouldn't let him get a word in edgewise.
Mehn I agree. It’s frustrating. He’s trying to drop knowledge gems & she’s just interrupting constantly.
Mel is a bit overwhelming at times. But she truly seems to care about people💕
agree. it kinda annoying because I want to listen to him. not her idea.
Within a minute or two of him talking, she interrupted him and I thought to myself "Is she gonna do this the whole time?" And now I'm reading the comments haha. I just typed in Dr Russell Kennedy and he has his own RUclips channel so I think i'll just check that out instead.
I know it’s her show … honestly I wish she let him speak since he’s the expert
This was such an amazing and awakening episode on anxiety! This was life changing! Thank you Mel!!! I appreciate YOU!!
Listening to this helped me pinpoint the first time I ever felt anxiety. My family always said prayers together when I was growing up one of my parents shamed me for my prayer because it did not resonate with how they viewed the situation our family was going thru.. The feeling I had at that moment followed me throughout my 30 years of life when public speaking ( which is such a big part of life)
Somehow the anxiety that I often feel going to work is subsiding. I still have a long way to go but I'm so grateful for the breakthrough. I've only made it halfway through the video so I'm excited to see what else gets uncovered.
Mel, you are single handedly saving my life right now. This podcast drop could not have happened at a better time in my life. My world is crashing, my marriage, my kids, everything is crashing. Your daily posts, check ins, your willingness to show so much vulnerability, you willingness to ask people to dumb it down for AuDHD who need a little more explanation. Thank you for putting yourself out there. You’re saving more than one life by all of your hard work. ❤ I love you!!!!
Teacher Lindsey, I am doing the Mindset Reset program and I just read your post. I see that this video is from 2018 and boy haven’t we all been through the wringer!!
I hope after four years that have past, things have settled down for you and you are in a good place.😊
I totally agree you saved my life and gave me hope to keep fighting thank you and God bless
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Notably this was several years ago, but in 2017 my life was flipped upside down: my children, my teaching career because of my daughter, a bullying boss, domestic abuse, infidelity, betrayal from best friend and mother, death of two dogs, numerous losses of immediate family members, falsely accused of educator misconduct on our state's news channel, a terrible, long, agonozing divorce, diagnosed with trauma related osteoarthritis in both hips, no source of income until last September, and since online dating, have been rejected by the only two guys that I felt a connection with. I am so sorry for your experiences, but please tell me things will get better. I take Zoloft, was counseled by a wonderful therapist, meditate, don't drink alcohol, exercised faithfully until the hip pain started, earned my Masters degree, have a great job with wonderful co-workers, and TRY to focus on a positive future and gratefulness. However, I feel so worthless and unwanted, which was not the person I was prior to 2017. I have one close friend, but have isolated myself from most of my family because they failed to support me during my divorce nor my ex husband's criminal trial. Where do I go from here?
Sounds like the universe is offering you many blessings and opportunities to recreate from-the-ground-up! Happy growing! When it's time for us to start evolving and waking up to our true selves, the physical things and many people have to Fall Away. As long as you continue to be grateful for that, the universe will bring you exactly what you need, welcome it in!
Thanks!
Mel, great purpose behind the video.. my only advice to make it better is to please let the speaker speak until he is finished. We, as the listener, can pause, rewind, and come back and listen again if it didn't sink in originally.. Hopefully that's not taken the wrong way. Thank you
Mel Robbins thank you so much. You are helping me heal for so much trauma that has happened in my life. This episode confirmed for me that I have to go inside and give myself the love I didn't receive as a child because I was separated from my mother. Thank you Thank you sooooo much.💓
Thank you Mel! Your willingness to be vulnerable and see things and a different way is inspiring! I am very impressed at how well you understood and internalized this so quickly! You really got a great grasp of what I was saying (even if we had to steer away from the EGO hahaha) THANK YOU for giving my work exposure on your platform. I'm very grateful for you MEL ROBBINS!! XO
Thank you for sharing your insights and knowledge! Wow! Also, you must come back to talk about EGO! 😉❤
You are incredible ❤️
Mel, I want you to know…you have changed my life. I need to email you b/c we so alike in many ways. I want to just help ppl and I have to work through some trauma still. I will figure out how to connect with you soon. My cousin lives in VT (I live in ONTARIO, CANADA). Meeting you would make my dreams come true. I will figure it out. Thank you, for being you. Much love….’little’ (and adult) Ker❤️
Hi Russ, I hope it’s ok I call you that instead of Dr. I love Mel so much. I found her ironically, at the worst time in my life…I’m an intelligent women but haven’t been able to master my anxiety. Which I’ve learnt (especially after today) is unintentional childhood trauma/separation. My goal is to ‘fix’ this so it doesn’t effect my life anymore and then ultimately help others. I know in my heart I will figure this out. Thank you to both yourself and Mel. I have already messaged her b/c her vulnerability is what helps us as a community. I hope to meet her one day. She’s helping me so much and I’m following you now, as of today. I know I will get through this. I was put here to help other ppl and when I get there for me first (airplane analogy)…I promise, I will. I can’t afford to buy your book right now but I will when I can. Thank you Dr for your patience and for what you do. All the best.
I am reading your book . And nothing has ever mind fucked me so bad . Things make sense . Everything makes sense . Thank you so much . THANK YOU SOO MUCH
The comment about someone not coming to save me, really hit home. I do not have overall anxiety but have money anxiety , I had a lightbulb moment with that comment as I realised I have been waiting for my father to come back and save me since he passed.regarding money in my life. He was an incredibly generous man and as a father helped me a lot financially when he was alive and that I have been hoping that somehow magically he will have an impact on my finances from beyond the grave. Gosh, need to process this realisation and decide how it changes things.
I just found your channel.l am going through a hard time just like everyone else.l am going to sleep at peace because l found you. Thank you so much you guys have helped me so much.My mind will not turn off because l worry about everything and everyone.l am also going to add yoga to my life. I have a rash l looked it up and it is from stress is what it looks like. I am going to start working on myself.l have been worried about everything and everyone and left myself behind.l am so grateful for you .Thank you so so so much.❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you. That's not even enough to describe what this time with you, Mel, and Dr. Kennedy means to me. When you shared about what you experience upon waking up (minute 38 in the podcast version), the following 10 to 15 minutes are my EXACT story. I am listening again to some really key pieces for me because I have a forgetter (the alarm) that wants to keep me stuck or out of the real pain. In reality, feeling that pain & moving through it will likely be much less painful than what I've lived with daily for the last 30+ years. This talk has the potential for real life changes. I cried many times throughout because I believe my little Leslie heard you. She is important. Being born premature & in a very traumatic way & then being told my whole life about the birthing story & how my mom was chosen over me IF it needed to come to that, sits deep inside with little baby me. It doesn't have to anymore. Leslie is important. Leslie is a miracle. Leslie was meant to be here & take up her place & space in this world. Again, thank you both so so much
I have struggled all my life with anxiety and i have never heard something like this. This was a total eye opener.
Already feeling lighter, now that i know the reason. Thank you Mel and Dr. Russel for helping me.
Thanks!
Thanks!
I love this video. It helps a lot in certain areas of my anxiety but my biggest anxiety begins whenever I am feeling trapped as in heavy traffic, an assembly in an auditorium, church, or a live play, whenever it would be difficult to get up and leave and return to my seat as the trapped feelings cause me to feel like I have to tinkle and the longer I have to wait in this trapped situation the more I have to tinkle. I wish this topic could be discussed on your show.
Thank you.
My mind is blown wide open!
Mel and Dr. Russ, I get it !!
I truly understand what you’re telling us and I’ve shared and liked and saved. I’m gonna watch again and again. And I’m sharing with everyone I know who has ever felt anxiety. I’m reeling with excitement over the ability to go a little deeper with this. Thank you so much!
Thank You! ❤ I had a terrible childhood, I’m almost 63. And this has helped me so much🙏🏻
I never thought of worry as an addiction. But this has brought insight to me about my anxiety stemming from childhood...and I am 70. I am looking forward to working through the suggestions as well as watching over again!
His is 100% correct about the Alarm. He was speaking to me. I found my anxiety alarm in my throat, a sensation that something is stuck inside when actually there isn't. I get frustrated, anger and then scaring thoughts in my head and suddenly I feel like am about to die and the urge to run outside. Found out its called globus sensation and I am getting help with it. Thank you so much .
So much has surfased after listening to your podcast. Now when I look back at my life, I was actually petrified of having a daughter because it was drummed into me that I'm a total f up. Thank you Mel and Ross for this enlightening podcast.
This episode was such an answer. Thank you so much for bringing the idea of giving LOVE to ourselves as the answer. It makes total sense. It’s so simple, yet we think it’s so complicated. When I get anxious, I have felt so separated from love, so alone, so uncomfortable, so separated from love. It’s such a realization that I never give compassion and loving kindness to myself. Taught in My childhood trauma and dysfunctionality. This is a huge breakthrough. Thank you, thank you, dear Mel and Dr. Kennedy. 🙏💜🙏💜🙏💜🙏
I'm so glad this episode resonated with you xo
Anxiety is not in any way ONLY separation or Love based. Some people have base physical disorders that go undiagnosed for years and this spawns anxiety. Other people have trauma from events. I was a soldier and unfortunately I suffer from both of these issues. It's a very complex problem and different for everyone.
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What they ment with this "Separation Anxiety" or "Love based" it's the very core of the Feeling, where it comes down to, but not denying the fact that the trigger of your Anxiety was that Trauma, disease or event, they're separating the trigger from the very origins of the feelings.
I really liked her video on the 54321 countdown trick. However this video created anxiety for me when I started listening to it. Anything that starts out with you can CURE your anxiety is a money making statement. It's like clickbait. And it got me. I have spent years feeling shame and guilt that I feel this way. That somehow I cannot fix it myself. I believe in tools. I believe in medicine. I believe in self-help. I do not believe all things in this world can be cured. That is self-love for me. Taking that shame and blame away from myself because I can't cure my anxiety. I can't look at my body and see where it's broken. Or why it broke. Not everything is separation anxiety. My family has been dealing with mental health for generations. I know that because of stories and suicide. If someone was born without an arm would you tell them they can cure themselves? Anxiety can be a spectrum. It's a symptom. It can come from many different things. If it comes from separation anxiety for you, then I'm glad you know and this video is for you. But any statements that are black and white are usually not helpful.
Yes!!
about an hour into this podcast i started crying while eating breakfast. Damn, that really hit hard when he mentioned about healing your anxiety.
A million thanks for this! I've been seeing therapists and reading and taking classes about anxiety for months, and this is an immediate life-changer for me, the first thing that's helped, and immediately helped dramatically!
The best from this episode is to realize that finally holistic and neuroscience are meeting each other. Heal your inner child is not new to me, but it's incredibly nice to hear that from science's perspective.😊
I am newly struggling with chronic anxiety, your podcast is not only insightful but it is the only thing that calms me down from panic attacks!
Take Vitamin B1 and Magnesium that will pretty much stop it after 2 days THANK ME LATER!!!
I learned one main thing is it will not kill us
Mel and Dr Kennedy,
This is going to be a game changer to so many frightened people!!!
Thank you so much❤
I just sent it to my son and his wife and to another friend!
I was watching this and suddenly I felt my body going through it again, I tried to ask my sister’s help to put her hands on my heart and the other at my back just like how Dr. Russell described it, my sister and I was shocked because my heart went from pounding to calm. And then I put my hands on my heart and throat while saying to myself, “I love you. You are safe” my anxiety went off. I got a looooot of helpful tips here and I promise myself that I will love her from this day on. Thank you for this wonderful work!!! ❤❤
Thank you!! I am 40 years going thru life anxiety and depression and when he started talking about childhood trauma and the separation anxiety that's where all started for me. I thank u for sharing.
Discussing anxiety displaying itself as child separation really hit a note with me. It makes sense. It’s so real for me. My mother is at the core with my anxiety. The alarm anxiety cycle.This was great Mel.
This is it, Mel. It all comes down to love and realization that whatever we give so selflessly to others, we can give ourselves. Thank you and i love you, too! ❤️