Excellent discussion. I forwarded this to my daughter who like me has these issues. We both have to constantly be pushing ourselves to do more and more to the point that we get sad and lack of happiness occurs unless we keep moving with more projects. He explains very well. Yes social media is terrible.
The reason self touch is so powerful and healing especially placing your hand on your heart area, is because of the ENERGY that's released which is felt instantly. If you close your eyes to be present with it you will feel it. Its so nurturing, loving and healing. I personally do this all the time
this is just what the doctor ordered (pun intended)...I'm turning 50 this year and I am SO tired of being a worrier...I want to live the rest of my life connected and free of anxiety...I love how you said, "anytime you connect the body to breath, you connect the mind to the body"....I am currently getting my YTT and now I know why (as I'm not great at being super flexible)..I am meant to connect my own mind and body and then help others do the same...thank you!
Let's not forget our diet of processed foods, combined with poor dental care; it's a recipe for depression and anxiety. I make sure I keep the food simple and clean. REAL food, and yes, it's more costly, but what I save is a prescription for antidepressants, booze, fancy vacations, and designer labels, because none of that helps. That, and stop navel gazing, and start serving others genuinely. Be of service to your fellow man. Take a walk each day, pet your dog, and thank God for your glorious being and the beings around you. Gratitude, good food, pet a dog, hug a person, clean up your room. It's too simple but it's the best way. We forget we're spirit beings, and we ignore our spirit at our peril. In 100 years, our bodies will be dead, but our spirit will live on. Let's focus on the eternal things that matter. Love, gratitude, caring.
I'm sure since ye once born! Who ye have been having sincere conversations with? Till now! Knowing WHO ye are talking too? From within. Yes, eventually will meet ye have been talking too!
I'm 2/3rds into video and have gotten so much from this. I just decided to stop erasing my checked off achievements on my whiteboard (lol) this week but have been totally stuck, frozen in hyper vigilant anxiety. I sat here hugging, rocking myself, breathing in sync. Then began speaking to myself very caringly. (it never worked before but i really understood the point this time) Next thing i knew i was standing and swaying, singing a song to me (omg) that ended in "what would my best friend do for me?" I looked around and thought "I need to clean for you"!! It felt soo foreign but really wonderful! I always enjoy cleaning for others but not for myself. I get an avalanche of thoughts of all the rest I should be doing. I will keep trying to apply these insights to see if i can shift my emotions and get a little done every day. This talk really tied it all together. Thank you!
Doug, I thoroughly enjoy listening to your guest here. He is covering a lot of general ground and common sense on calming ourselves on a daily basis. Thank you. And yes, I do agree with some of the commenters that say your diet plays a large part in your mental wellness as well.
@@JGalegria But it can have a little to do with the outside world, JGaleria. For me, the way people are so absorbed in their phones today often bothers me a lot. I can find ways to relax inside, but I know I am more content when I go in a room and no one is staring at a phone. They are actually talking verbally to each other.
Thank you for this podcast, you ask the important questions, that me and others are experiencing in our daily life's. Who need help and support guidance, to change our mindset. 😊🙏🏾❤️💜
At 14 min well explained. We need ,more sport and serotonin, going for a walk. What he explains is almost like the internet creates an OCD disease, fear of missing out. People have prpoblem to focus.
This is such a good conversation with important information. This makes so much sense! Thank you. I am suffering from anhedonia from dopamine problem. He even gives solutions.
Here's a gift. Find freedom that's free. While walking my little dog, I heard a strong energy coming towards us. I stopped. Millions of crows overhead are soring in a harmony of flight. Oooohhhh my! Then, one, only one little bird stopped on the grass right in front of me and my dog. This bird pecked a worm and looked right at me. That's happiness that's free. Hope sharing this joyous day offers as much joy of nature to you as to me❤
Thank you very much sir for this excellent conversation...it is something that we do not get from conventional medicine.. our true healing comes when we truly get in touch with our negative emotions and feelings inside our body.being open to the whole of ourself leads us to the appreciation of our being and that of the world around us.
This is a discussion I didn't know I needed to hear. Thanks for sharing this information. It is really helpful. I'm putting this into practice starting TODAY.
I wonder if a good example of the difference between exercising the dopamine and serotonin pathways while doing a boring chore would be: a) doing the dishes while listening to an engaging podcast vs b) doing the dishes while being fully present and intentionally paying close attention to the experience of just doing the dishes .. and trying to enjoy it for what it is.
Does television, too, create "dopamine"? We always gathered behind the supermarket, always, there were friends, there. Now, I'm isolating, in another country. I've read much about narcisists, and I think I am. 😮But then, I suddenly feel union with everything ❤ This is a strange, interesting Life. But I'm so unmotivated. Lost my man 4ys, ago, I think having a partner, a family, makes the purpose! Thanks alot 🙏🏼
I think we are becoming too neurocentric. Dopamine functions cannot be separated from the psychology of the individual, specific behaviors, and therefore, from people’s experiences. It is true that there are many stimuli today that release dopamine and this can have a deleterious effect on people’s mental health. There are also new addictions like video games, social media, pornography, etc., that can be big problems, but behavioral addiction cannot be reduced to dopamine, and its treatment has to be psychological. For example, why are some people more susceptible than others, why don’t all men get addicted to games and pornography, and others do? Because video games, pornography, social media, television, etc., to varying degrees, of course, can become maladaptive coping mechanisms - they can become means of escaping stress, anxiety, depression (negative reinforcement) - so the pleasure they provide (positive reinforcement) is only part of the problem. These behaviors can play a role in a person’s life that is explainable within the context of that individual’s life-e.g., filling a void, serving as an escape. In essence, these positive and negative reinforcements are equivalent to entrenched beliefs (that certain behavior is rewarding), which cognitive-behavioral work, mindfulness, etc., help to change. One can have a problem controlling the use of technology without having an addiction, specially in certain periods of life, and what this person says is helpful - mindfulness and presence is indeed much needed. However, obsession with dopamine (which is reductive), doom and gloom (sometimes puritanical accounts of pleasure) and the concept of dopamine detox is just a matter of the self-help industry’s obsession with personal development. One can make an effort to become less stimulated when one suspects it's having detrimental effects to see if productivity, attention, etc., increases. It is possible that yes, but it is not by watching television, watching some RUclips videos, and using social media in moderation (or masturbation without pornography in moderation - the science about it's benefits in moderation is still vast despite what trendy neuroscientists like Huberman, or conservative intellectuals, like Peterson, say) that we will have noticeable losses in performance, concentration, or happiness. It's all a problem of mental health, that indeed too much stimulation enhances and perpetuates, but doesn't necessarily cause.
I agree with a lot of this. It's what im working on in my sessions and with clients. Good stuff! The only thing im not a fan of is the seizure comment.
I think something I haven't heard you touch on so far is that in reality, many people are physically ill. My child has been ill for a decade and she's 12. Families with ill people are separated from other people and have no real choice. It's becoming vert common with all of the chronic illnesses. And they aren't all due to anxiety
Having a sick child must be one of the hardest things to deal with. I'm so sorry you're having to live that experience and I hope you are able to help your daughter to find solutions 🙏🏼
Having a sick child must be one of the hardest things to deal with. I'm so sorry you're having to live that experience and I hope you are able to help your daughter to find solutions 🙏🏼
On the issue of separation and loneliness, it is largely a systemic issue. It is clear that a transactional, money driven system is not capable of supporting a healthy society because we need to feel natural, unconditional belonging to be healthy. Belonging and connection are necessary for safety. What is our evolutionary design ? Is it mainly material accumulation or is it mainly sharing and caring ? We have shut ourselves off from so many aspects of life that make it worth living by creating this materialist, dopamine driven, left brain dominated, greedy, disconnected, misanthropic utopia.
I must be some kind of gd anomaly or not actually human or some thing. Self touch makes me angry. Especially when I am substituting it for hugs from other people. Breathing exercises. Increase my anxiety. I’ve sat with my emotions so much that I stopped getting anything done. I have hobbies I do them. The solo hobbies, usually end up making me frustrated and angry. Journaling is an awful experience for me. Nothing good has come from it. I’m so freaking sick of connecting with myself. I am completely burned out on self-care and trying to feel better. I wasted so much time and money on therapy. At this point, I am just trying to have as much hedonistic fun as I can pack in and hopefully one of these things will kill me soon.
its not you feeling angry but the ego...ego is your false self or past self, you are your true self the observer...so if yu will contnue you will overcome the negative feelings and feel more positive feeling enjoying music hobbies.
Building on what someone else here suggested for you... ' hobbies and music' Music is something you didn't mention. Its always worked wonders for me - gets me moving - dance around like a fool - which...just that exercise gets my endorphins jumping which lifts my mood. Another thing you haven't mentioned - exercise - gets our endorphins pumping...makes us feel good - afterward😅. Just a few suggestions...cuz I really feel for your situation. Hoping to help😊
@@barbarafairbanks4578 Music always worked in the past, but it’s a very temporary bandaid this time. Play a couple of instruments, go dancing almost every weekend, but it just feels like fun instead of healing or nourishing. For exercise, I horseback ride and that’s fun, but my job and the weather limit how often I get to ride. It feels like there’s a hollow steel ball inside of me in the area that used to feel infused with love, passion, and other good things. Now, time to get back to being angry about funding balances and the current knitting project.
We expect a razzel dazzle life. We have forgotten that most of life isn’t this way so we become bored and uncomfortable with regular life. Spending time with family and friends just talking/ conversation for entertainment. We don’t always need to spend money for entertainment.
It's pretty shocking when the bottom completely falls out and there's nothing even familiar about the "neutral" kind of feeling that's there all the time. I don't even know when it happened it's just gone. I've worked pretty hard trying to climb out of it but there's zero progress at this point. I think I've just accepted that this is the way that it is.
People should also be concerned about people who have physical issues that prevent them from going out and getting out of their heads. We also have anxiety and depression and not all of us have people around to care for us. There is no help for us...there really isn't at all.
Social media is all I have I can't go to church because of phychological damage trauma all the community is church connected I've no friends family relatives kids parents husband unreliable neighbours I was brought up with narcs as a only child not allowed to have friends a personality of my own a mind of my own and opinion of my own no hobbies don't even know what I enjoy or know myself I wasn't nurtured taught how to navigate my emotions I never got unconditional love I had to make mum look good because of her job
Isolation is what is driving so much of this. Alone with screens. This is not normal, and has been a very quick change for our evolution. We were already seeing fragmenting families from.the 70s but now its got out of control, the emphasis is on "having fun" and not building real relationships.
I agree with every word life feels false I tell my daughter story a famous lovely beautiful young woman died drug related the day before she posted house in the country choc box house baking two beautiful children baking found dead in bathroom live in the real world ok is good enough stay in the moment and be kind I do three good deeds a day just a smile opening a door paying for drink yoi are lovely lads x
Excellent discussion. I forwarded this to my daughter who like me has these issues. We both have to constantly be pushing ourselves to do more and more to the point that we get sad and lack of happiness occurs unless we keep moving with more projects. He explains very well. Yes social media is terrible.
What a great discussion! This should be heard by everyone. Thank you for the great questions and information was so helpful.
The reason self touch is so powerful and healing especially placing your hand on your heart area, is because of the ENERGY that's released which is felt instantly. If you close your eyes to be present with it you will feel it. Its so nurturing, loving and healing. I personally do this all the time
It really is! I tried it while sun tanning and listening to this. It felt like a warm hug 🥰
Wow, sounds great. Do you keep your hand there on your heart area for a period of time? I've tried this too, but didn't keep my hand there for long.
this is just what the doctor ordered (pun intended)...I'm turning 50 this year and I am SO tired of being a worrier...I want to live the rest of my life connected and free of anxiety...I love how you said, "anytime you connect the body to breath, you connect the mind to the body"....I am currently getting my YTT and now I know why (as I'm not great at being super flexible)..I am meant to connect my own mind and body and then help others do the same...thank you!
Let's not forget our diet of processed foods, combined with poor dental care; it's a recipe for depression and anxiety. I make sure I keep the food simple and clean. REAL food, and yes, it's more costly, but what I save is a prescription for antidepressants, booze, fancy vacations, and designer labels, because none of that helps. That, and stop navel gazing, and start serving others genuinely. Be of service to your fellow man. Take a walk each day, pet your dog, and thank God for your glorious being and the beings around you. Gratitude, good food, pet a dog, hug a person, clean up your room. It's too simple but it's the best way. We forget we're spirit beings, and we ignore our spirit at our peril. In 100 years, our bodies will be dead, but our spirit will live on. Let's focus on the eternal things that matter. Love, gratitude, caring.
Yes!
Indeed. Likewise remember thy shared "i" AM, came with sincere conversations time will say, and thy conversations FEET resting upon HIS FOOTSTOOL!
I'm sure since ye once born! Who ye have been having sincere conversations with? Till now! Knowing WHO ye are talking too? From within. Yes, eventually will meet ye have been talking too!
Wonderful advice for sure 👌
I'm 2/3rds into video and have gotten so much from this. I just decided to stop erasing my checked off achievements on my whiteboard (lol) this week but have been totally stuck, frozen in hyper vigilant anxiety. I sat here hugging, rocking myself, breathing in sync. Then began speaking to myself very caringly. (it never worked before but i really understood the point this time) Next thing i knew i was standing and swaying, singing a song to me (omg) that ended in "what would my best friend do for me?" I looked around and thought "I need to clean for you"!! It felt soo foreign but really wonderful! I always enjoy cleaning for others but not for myself. I get an avalanche of thoughts of all the rest I should be doing. I will keep trying to apply these insights to see if i can shift my emotions and get a little done every day. This talk really tied it all together. Thank you!
I love listening to this man speak so calming and the advice hes speaking makes perfect sense.
Thankful for your channel
Great to hear something so positive and empowering on RUclips. Really helpful, thank you ❤
Love the picture behind Dr. Kennedy.
Doug, I thoroughly enjoy listening to your guest here. He is covering a lot of general ground and common sense on calming ourselves on a daily basis. Thank you. And yes, I do agree with some of the commenters that say your diet plays a large part in your mental wellness as well.
My favorite thing as a kid was going to a lovely grass spot in a park and lay down staring at the clouds.
Just listening to nature….
I did that today, best feeling ever.
What a bunch of complete nonsense!
@@JGalegria But it can have a little to do with the outside world, JGaleria. For me, the way people are so absorbed in their phones today often bothers me a lot. I can find ways to relax inside, but I know I am more content when I go in a room and no one is staring at a phone. They are actually talking verbally to each other.
Thank you for this podcast, you ask the important questions, that me and others are experiencing in our daily life's. Who need help and support guidance, to change our mindset. 😊🙏🏾❤️💜
stop wasting your time and go read forbidden manifestation by zara blackthorn. your future self will thank you.
I finished that book 2 weeks ago and I can say that is amazing book. Would also recommend it.
finished reading it a few days ago. you can see why it was censored by just reading the first chapter. this industry is truly scary
started reading it yesterday too
read it a few days ago, its great
that book turned everything around for me
At 14 min well explained. We need ,more sport and serotonin, going for a walk.
What he explains is almost like the internet creates an OCD disease, fear of missing out.
People have prpoblem to focus.
YES, no more FOMO!
This is such a good conversation with important information. This makes so much sense! Thank you.
I am suffering from anhedonia from dopamine problem. He even gives solutions.
For me microdosing on psilocybin and practicing qigong. Job done❤❤❤
Here's a gift. Find freedom that's free. While walking my little dog, I heard a strong energy coming towards us. I stopped. Millions of crows overhead are soring in a harmony of flight. Oooohhhh my! Then, one, only one little bird stopped on the grass right in front of me and my dog. This bird pecked a worm and looked right at me. That's happiness that's free. Hope sharing this joyous day offers as much joy of nature to you as to me❤
Thank you very much sir for this excellent conversation...it is something that we do not get from conventional medicine.. our true healing comes when we truly get in touch with our negative emotions and feelings inside our body.being open to the whole of ourself leads us to the appreciation of our being and that of the world around us.
Excellent conversation, thank you 😀
This is a discussion I didn't know I needed to hear. Thanks for sharing this information. It is really helpful. I'm putting this into practice starting TODAY.
Thankyou this was helpful
I still make the time to sit for half an hour and watch the sunset :)
I loved this! I needed this. So interesting and informative. It makes sense.
Very good came at the right time with what I've been going through
Watched 2x. Excellent. Thank you!
I think your conclusions & summaries are accurate - and how I feel most of the time - I agree !
Excellent discussion many thanks.
I wonder if a good example of the difference between exercising the dopamine and serotonin pathways while doing a boring chore would be: a) doing the dishes while listening to an engaging podcast vs b) doing the dishes while being fully present and intentionally paying close attention to the experience of just doing the dishes .. and trying to enjoy it for what it is.
Interesting question!
Yes mindfully doing something
Really enjoyed this chat ❤
Womderful ❤
Great info. I’ve never heard the word perseverance pronounced perSEVerance before today.
Does television, too, create "dopamine"? We always gathered behind the supermarket, always, there were friends, there. Now, I'm isolating, in another country. I've read much about narcisists, and I think I am. 😮But then, I suddenly feel union with everything ❤ This is a strange, interesting Life. But I'm so unmotivated. Lost my man 4ys, ago, I think having a partner, a family, makes the purpose! Thanks alot 🙏🏼
I think we are becoming too neurocentric. Dopamine functions cannot be separated from the psychology of the individual, specific behaviors, and therefore, from people’s experiences. It is true that there are many stimuli today that release dopamine and this can have a deleterious effect on people’s mental health. There are also new addictions like video games, social media, pornography, etc., that can be big problems, but behavioral addiction cannot be reduced to dopamine, and its treatment has to be psychological. For example, why are some people more susceptible than others, why don’t all men get addicted to games and pornography, and others do? Because video games, pornography, social media, television, etc., to varying degrees, of course, can become maladaptive coping mechanisms - they can become means of escaping stress, anxiety, depression (negative reinforcement) - so the pleasure they provide (positive reinforcement) is only part of the problem. These behaviors can play a role in a person’s life that is explainable within the context of that individual’s life-e.g., filling a void, serving as an escape. In essence, these positive and negative reinforcements are equivalent to entrenched beliefs (that certain behavior is rewarding), which cognitive-behavioral work, mindfulness, etc., help to change. One can have a problem controlling the use of technology without having an addiction, specially in certain periods of life, and what this person says is helpful - mindfulness and presence is indeed much needed.
However, obsession with dopamine (which is reductive), doom and gloom (sometimes puritanical accounts of pleasure) and the concept of dopamine detox is just a matter of the self-help industry’s obsession with personal development. One can make an effort to become less stimulated when one suspects it's having detrimental effects to see if productivity, attention, etc., increases. It is possible that yes, but it is not by watching television, watching some RUclips videos, and using social media in moderation (or masturbation without pornography in moderation - the science about it's benefits in moderation is still vast despite what trendy neuroscientists like Huberman, or conservative intellectuals, like Peterson, say) that we will have noticeable losses in performance, concentration, or happiness. It's all a problem of mental health, that indeed too much stimulation enhances and perpetuates, but doesn't necessarily cause.
I think you are on to something. Thank you.
So needed this thanks
I agree with a lot of this. It's what im working on in my sessions and with clients. Good stuff!
The only thing im not a fan of is the seizure comment.
You are spot on
I seldom do social media
It has caused alot of harm
Humans need REAL connections!
Great video!
Doctor, where did you get that amazing picture behind you? I love it
I think something I haven't heard you touch on so far is that in reality, many people are physically ill. My child has been ill for a decade and she's 12. Families with ill people are separated from other people and have no real choice. It's becoming vert common with all of the chronic illnesses. And they aren't all due to anxiety
Having a sick child must be one of the hardest things to deal with. I'm so sorry you're having to live that experience and I hope you are able to help your daughter to find solutions 🙏🏼
Having a sick child must be one of the hardest things to deal with. I'm so sorry you're having to live that experience and I hope you are able to help your daughter to find solutions 🙏🏼
@@kellyaugustin3837 thankyou. Yes it's horrendous and SOOOO many families are living with this :(
Back ground similar to mine schizophrenic family members .one of 12 .not much money. Healing depression ADHD trauma
Great talk. Thank you!
For sure, if you’re not connected with yourself you can’t be connected to others.
Love the BM photo in the bg
On the issue of separation and loneliness, it is largely a systemic issue. It is clear that a transactional, money driven system is not capable of supporting a healthy society because we need to feel natural, unconditional belonging to be healthy. Belonging and connection are necessary for safety. What is our evolutionary design ? Is it mainly material accumulation or is it mainly sharing and caring ?
We have shut ourselves off from so many aspects of life that make it worth living by creating this materialist, dopamine driven, left brain dominated, greedy, disconnected, misanthropic utopia.
I must be some kind of gd anomaly or not actually human or some thing. Self touch makes me angry. Especially when I am substituting it for hugs from other people. Breathing exercises. Increase my anxiety. I’ve sat with my emotions so much that I stopped getting anything done. I have hobbies I do them. The solo hobbies, usually end up making me frustrated and angry. Journaling is an awful experience for me. Nothing good has come from it. I’m so freaking sick of connecting with myself. I am completely burned out on self-care and trying to feel better. I wasted so much time and money on therapy.
At this point, I am just trying to have as much hedonistic fun as I can pack in and hopefully one of these things will kill me soon.
its not you feeling angry but the ego...ego is your false self or past self, you are your true self the observer...so if yu will contnue you will overcome the negative feelings and feel more positive feeling enjoying music hobbies.
Building on what someone else here suggested for you...
' hobbies and music'
Music is something you didn't mention. Its always worked wonders for me - gets me moving - dance around like a fool - which...just that exercise gets my endorphins jumping which lifts my mood.
Another thing you haven't mentioned - exercise - gets our endorphins pumping...makes us feel good - afterward😅.
Just a few suggestions...cuz I really feel for your situation.
Hoping to help😊
@@barbarafairbanks4578 Music always worked in the past, but it’s a very temporary bandaid this time. Play a couple of instruments, go dancing almost every weekend, but it just feels like fun instead of healing or nourishing. For exercise, I horseback ride and that’s fun, but my job and the weather limit how often I get to ride.
It feels like there’s a hollow steel ball inside of me in the area that used to feel infused with love, passion, and other good things.
Now, time to get back to being angry about funding balances and the current knitting project.
I'm sorry for what you are going through. 😔
Just know that im praying for you 🙏 ❤
They just talk and talk about the problem, and it's only when we get to 23:57 that he actually starts suggesting something we can do to help.
We expect a razzel dazzle life. We have forgotten that most of life isn’t this way so we become bored and uncomfortable with regular life. Spending time with family and friends just talking/ conversation for entertainment. We don’t always need to spend money for entertainment.
It's pretty shocking when the bottom completely falls out and there's nothing even familiar about the "neutral" kind of feeling that's there all the time.
I don't even know when it happened it's just gone. I've worked pretty hard trying to climb out of it but there's zero progress at this point. I think I've just accepted that this is the way that it is.
Health anxiety is different anxiety problem, how do we deal with this one?
Decrease your stressors,incease resources
People should also be concerned about people who have physical issues that prevent them from going out and getting out of their heads. We also have anxiety and depression and not all of us have people around to care for us. There is no help for us...there really isn't at all.
Or we try to keep up and cannot. Or we are unstable in that no control of physical flares. Hard to be consistent.
best vid ever
Social media is all I have I can't go to church because of phychological damage trauma all the community is church connected I've no friends family relatives kids parents husband
unreliable neighbours I was brought up with narcs as a only child not allowed to have friends a personality of my own a mind of my own and opinion of my own no hobbies don't even know what I enjoy or know myself I wasn't nurtured taught how to navigate my emotions I never got unconditional love I had to make mum look good because of her job
I felt the same way… so I moved more than 2,000 miles away and started a new life.
Isolation is what is driving so much of this. Alone with screens. This is not normal, and has been a very quick change for our evolution. We were already seeing fragmenting families from.the 70s but now its got out of control, the emphasis is on "having fun" and not building real relationships.
What do you do if you have grief I lost my soulmate of 31 years he died
I’m having a hard time with the head vs body. I have zero awareness of what’s happening in my body as 100% of my overfocus is stuck in my brain.
17:00 weird and sad people that need to make other people feel as bad as they do.
Oh brother
Same thing goes with drugs to escape
I agree with every word life feels false I tell my daughter story a famous lovely beautiful young woman died drug related the day before she posted house in the country choc box house baking two beautiful children baking found dead in bathroom live in the real world ok is good enough stay in the moment and be kind I do three good deeds a day just a smile opening a door paying for drink yoi are lovely lads x
No one knows. Don't feel bad.
He just me when he brought race into it. I end it there.
I need serious help and meditation and self touch is not what I want to hear
keep listening
Go to a therapist. This is just a interview.
I need touch and unfortunately not from my husband.