A Simple Game To Never Run Out Of Things To Say In Conversation

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  • How To Never Run Out Of Things To Say In Conversation
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    We’ve all been there - you’re in conversation, things are humming along nicely and then out of nowhere the awkward silence rears it’s head. At just that moment, your mind goes completely blank, you don’t know what to say and you can sense the other person’s eyes wandering as they look for someone else to talk to.
    That scenario sucks so here are 5 tips to make sure you never run out of things to say in conversation
    0:20 Play Reminds Me of
    0:54 Ask open-ended questions
    1:40 Use revival questions
    2:37 Make a complimentary cold read
    3:00 Flip the script and let them be the one to talk
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Комментарии • 10 тыс.

  • @ziimbo3957
    @ziimbo3957 4 года назад +18128

    Flirting with the bartender: “you come here often?”

    • @user10842
      @user10842 4 года назад +101

      😂

    • @rpeshbhujade3974
      @rpeshbhujade3974 4 года назад +74

      😂😂😂

    • @skullj2872
      @skullj2872 4 года назад +116

      Bro, why.

    • @claudizero6964
      @claudizero6964 4 года назад +105

      I swear, if she’s that type of cool girl, she’ll laugh and that’s the spot where you want to be! Now order a se+ on the beach and she’ll be all yours 😏

    • @mitsuracer87
      @mitsuracer87 4 года назад +60

      "You, come here often."

  • @nachocabo4221
    @nachocabo4221 4 года назад +5644

    -So, how do you like Toronto?
    -I've never mentioned Toronto...
    - ... Why?

  • @FonchoVidal
    @FonchoVidal Месяц назад +694

    - Whats are you doing?
    - Drinking
    - Why?
    - Because I want to forget
    - What?
    - The shame I feel for drinking
    (Awkward silence)
    - This reminds me of that time I was in Toranto

    • @Kayoloz
      @Kayoloz 15 дней назад +36

      Family guy ahh conversation

    • @cheezit4080
      @cheezit4080 15 дней назад +23

      Little prince

  • @kookiesjams595
    @kookiesjams595 Год назад +3299

    1. Say ‘this reminds me of..’
    2. Ask open ended questions.
    3. Ask ‘why?’
    3. Use revival questions - like ‘How do you guys know each other?’
    5. Ask them about their future plans
    6. Compliment them
    7. Allow the other person to move the conversation by maintaining eye contact, or repeat the last words they said to encourage them to continue

  • @camryn9597
    @camryn9597 4 года назад +4990

    me at his house-
    “so do you come here often?”

    • @FBWUniverseMode
      @FBWUniverseMode 3 года назад +130

      That is a nice way to talk to a thief he'd peacefully leave.

    • @Xinyannya
      @Xinyannya 3 года назад +32

      @@FBWUniverseMode"and that's how me and your mom met son"

    • @mistertrueromance
      @mistertrueromance 3 года назад +7

      Maybe we should just be friends
      Mind: She's insane, just distance yourself, man.

    • @uttkarshkumar6897
      @uttkarshkumar6897 3 года назад

      That will Bring more Awkwardness

    • @2trekkers777
      @2trekkers777 3 года назад +1

      Why

  • @yahdood6015
    @yahdood6015 3 года назад +25459

    [ awkward silence ]
    Me: [ sees glass of water ] “heh, reminds me of how humans need to stay hydrated”

  • @tetrabirac779
    @tetrabirac779 Год назад +1781

    My dad, who is really great at socializing, taught me one rule:
    Try asking your conversation partner questions about he/she. Not only will it lead to new conversation topics like they mentioned in the video, it also gives you time to think about how to follow up after they finish. As an introvert, this works greatly for me.

    • @caramelese8520
      @caramelese8520 Год назад +76

      Till the person says I'm good you?

    • @tetrabirac779
      @tetrabirac779 Год назад +77

      @@caramelese8520 usually it does not continue like that, but if it does thennn bruh it's gonna be awkward silence again

    • @jadenpina3989
      @jadenpina3989 Год назад +21

      @@caramelese8520
      after that talk about something that happened to you recently that might continue the conversation (in a good way obviously)

    • @ahleenah
      @ahleenah Год назад +11

      Ohh I got the same tip! He even used it on me without me realizing and after I finished talking he said “see”
      Stuck with me since then and as a shy introvert, has helped me a lot

    • @as8kay
      @as8kay Год назад +7

      Please gimme some more tips like this I really die during a conversation have nothing to ask or say and the conversation ends right there with awkward silence from both sides

  • @jamesq7954
    @jamesq7954 Год назад +7043

    Me: "as an introvert, I've had a lot of experience with awkward silence."
    Therapist: "and what have you learned?"
    Me: "How to weaponize it against my enemies."
    Therapist: ......
    Me: .... "So how do you know Toronto?"

    • @Twowheelsandadream4
      @Twowheelsandadream4 Год назад +348

      There is something wrong with my mind… TheRapist is how I read Therapist.

    • @drumerdude2661
      @drumerdude2661 Год назад +29

      I lived there once but I had to get out there u know because of the dream killing and the boring silence and the bloody hippies smoking weed

    • @idrinkwater1124
      @idrinkwater1124 Год назад +79

      @@Twowheelsandadream4 💀💀

    • @lilyoda4208
      @lilyoda4208 Год назад +12

      @@Twowheelsandadream4 nawh same

    • @cloudfinraptor
      @cloudfinraptor Год назад +39

      To pack even more tips into there: *So why do you know Toranto?*

  • @DanielVoyles
    @DanielVoyles 4 года назад +6538

    "I see you have a big mouth, do you like to talk a lot?"

  • @oppelo5981
    @oppelo5981 3 года назад +18569

    “Do you like Toronto?”
    “Yes” *awkward silence*
    “How do you like Toronto?” 😌
    “It’s good.” *awkward silence*

    • @fl3tched
      @fl3tched 3 года назад +1217

      Why

    • @nil4897
      @nil4897 3 года назад +852

      So much for an open-ended question lol

    • @cartanfan-youtube
      @cartanfan-youtube 3 года назад +481

      That’s when you ask then what they like about it

    • @roscoe4943
      @roscoe4943 3 года назад +29

      Yes

    • @mg-lb3tm
      @mg-lb3tm 3 года назад +252

      i’m from toronto and i can confirm it is good

  • @jordwright507
    @jordwright507 Год назад +134

    It's amazing the wit and humour in this comment section, from people who are here because they believe they struggle to hold a conversation!!

    • @eliasvonbrille
      @eliasvonbrille День назад +2

      Holding a conversation is an entirely different skill set than being extremely intelligent or witty or even funny.
      It really does have very little to do with each other especially in writing.

    • @jordwright507
      @jordwright507 14 часов назад

      @@eliasvonbrilledid you like your own comment 😂😂

    • @eliasvonbrille
      @eliasvonbrille 13 часов назад

      @@jordwright507 Nope. See? Now it has 2 likes 😉

    • @eliasvonbrille
      @eliasvonbrille 13 часов назад

      @@jordwright507 Why do you even assume that? Is it impossible for anyone to like my comment?

    • @jordwright507
      @jordwright507 11 часов назад

      @@eliasvonbrille are you autistic??..😬😂

  • @elizabethwest5949
    @elizabethwest5949 Год назад +613

    I always say, “you too” at the wrong times. Usually it’s at the end of a conversation. Like to someone working at a movie theater and they say, “enjoy the movie”, and I say, “you too”. Or when the doctor ends with, “make sure you take your medicine”, and I’m just like, yea, “you too”.

    • @ahhwe-any7434
      @ahhwe-any7434 Год назад +5

      1st person: hryd today
      Me: I'm ok 🤔🤷🏻‍♀️
      2nd person 1 sec later: hryd today
      Me: pretty great, & you?
      Most ppl: idrc
      Me: yeah me either
      Response back sometimes: nothing. Maybe just an acknowledgement
      Replys to Greetings: hi (that's not what they asked)
      I c u
      I c u 2
      Ok cool
      Cool
      Bye
      K bye

    • @mouplayerbr
      @mouplayerbr Год назад +36

      - Happy birthday to you ☺
      - u2 😊
      - 🤨
      - 😰

    • @skillatar4572
      @skillatar4572 Год назад +13

      Imagine the doctor telling you to remember to take your medication and your just like, “yeah you too” as if they are crazy or something or you think they need help lol, it just sounds aggressive to say “you too” back to a doctor about taking medication lol

    • @scarlet7960
      @scarlet7960 Год назад +8

      Btw if this ever happens, just laugh it off. Like seriously, sometimes embracing the fact you can't talk changes the mood from awkward to goofy.
      People don't realize it but good conversations are more about feeling comfortable then being charismatic

    • @megamaser
      @megamaser Год назад

      You too

  • @carageak
    @carageak 4 года назад +57581

    Me with my girlfriend at their place meeting her family: So how do you all know each other?

  • @Judoka008
    @Judoka008 5 лет назад +14619

    Person: "So where are you from?"
    Me: "Why?"
    ..............*awkward silence*
    Me: "That reminds me of all the other awkward social interactions".

    • @hansitorsnes5020
      @hansitorsnes5020 5 лет назад +311

      Pure gold

    • @RhinoGamin
      @RhinoGamin 5 лет назад +363

      The funny thing is that could actually be a really hilarious conversation😂

    • @amyh1755
      @amyh1755 5 лет назад +89

      I'm screaming laughing at this

    • @Zgtsu
      @Zgtsu 5 лет назад +78

      you cant hear me right now but im clapping

    • @tuyuu2191
      @tuyuu2191 5 лет назад +9

      @@Zgtsu 😂😂

  • @JetBlackJester
    @JetBlackJester Год назад +407

    I tried that complimentary cold read technique at a work event - "What do you like to do for fun" and "You look like you're pretty into fitness" after introducing myself. The woman (a complete stranger) thought I was flirting with her and I ended up in a disciplinary with HR for inappropriate behaviour. Be very careful who you use this advice with.

    • @danny.ray101
      @danny.ray101 Год назад +117

      "It seems you were hitting on that female coworker. What are your thoughts?"
      "Don't worry, I have learned the lesson. So you all look like you enjoy eating a lot?"

    • @JetBlackJester
      @JetBlackJester Год назад +10

      @@danny.ray101 Not really. I had been talking shop all day and was looking for common ground. If it hadn't been a networking event and I wasn't already supposed to chat to people I didn't know I might have seen it that way.

    • @danny.ray101
      @danny.ray101 Год назад +10

      @@JetBlackJester Then it's even more ridiculous...

    • @abodieqwerty4678
      @abodieqwerty4678 Год назад +1

      Don't trust women.

    • @theinacircleoftheancientpu492
      @theinacircleoftheancientpu492 Год назад +36

      @JetBlackJester
      I think that talking about fitness to a woman brings up different connotations than if you talk about fitness to a man, quite simply because a man talking to a woman about her body is considered flirting or at least borderline usually, while guys are not as sensitive on the topic.
      That said, at a setting where people are supposed to interact, and given the information I am aware of, I feel like she could have cut you a little more slack and tried to guage your intentions before coming to a conclusion.
      In summary, I believe all parties involved could have done better, its just a little unfortunate that the learning experience for you was rather awkward.

  • @sniper6081
    @sniper6081 Год назад +13

    I was wondering why this video was recommended to me until I saw the comments section. It all makes sense now.

  • @sovereignty7897
    @sovereignty7897 4 года назад +39536

    Me flirting in class -
    "So which school are you from?"

    • @Kuza01
      @Kuza01 4 года назад +1961

      Why?

    • @mandystop1077
      @mandystop1077 4 года назад +840

      @@Kuza01
      Just Asking

    • @AlexandruRadu96
      @AlexandruRadu96 4 года назад +982

      @@mandystop1077 how do you like Toronto?

    • @advancedtheories1332
      @advancedtheories1332 4 года назад +807

      @@AlexandruRadu96 Toronto? isn't that a city? that reminds me of where I'm from. which is kind of like a city but much smaller.

    • @dragonicbladex7574
      @dragonicbladex7574 4 года назад +172

      @@AlexandruRadu96 yes

  • @clutch_zone72
    @clutch_zone72 4 года назад +8106

    Awkward silence:
    Why and Toronto: I'm about to end this man's whole career

    • @adr_x1114
      @adr_x1114 4 года назад +39

      Lmao 💀

    • @ezdor8877
      @ezdor8877 4 года назад +15

      Why dpes this only have 66 likes. Lmaoo

    • @santaclaus3077
      @santaclaus3077 3 года назад +6

      Hahahaha

    • @n-3262
      @n-3262 3 года назад +22

      I woke my sister up laughing at this😂😂😂

    • @agathawiebe6339
      @agathawiebe6339 3 года назад +2

      Bahahaha 😂😂😂

  • @willandrews8577
    @willandrews8577 Год назад +33

    I've never wanted to meet someone who's been to Toronto this much in my life.

  • @oljenka88
    @oljenka88 3 месяца назад +41

    Most important thing imo - make yourself genuinely interested in the person. A lot of the conversation will just fall into place by itself instead of trying to come up with the next best thing to say 🙂 This helped me so much in life

    • @Ramenko1
      @Ramenko1 6 дней назад

      this. ☝️

    • @Ramenko1
      @Ramenko1 6 дней назад

      This! ☝️

  • @Gigatless
    @Gigatless 4 года назад +20464

    Me: How old are you?
    Her: 21
    Me: *Why*

    • @fiorenzacavallini6730
      @fiorenzacavallini6730 4 года назад +213

      lol

    • @brianwalendy3735
      @brianwalendy3735 4 года назад +519

      Because I drink the blood of babies, of course

    • @nopeq7993
      @nopeq7993 4 года назад +746

      Well, I was born at an early age and I've been alive ever since.

    • @ragnasheen8950
      @ragnasheen8950 4 года назад +216

      Her: Because I was born at a very young age.

    • @ShadowZone1996
      @ShadowZone1996 4 года назад +133

      Have a date in an hour. I’m using this as a pick-up line for sure dude lmao

  • @blacklarry998
    @blacklarry998 4 года назад +6088

    *me flirting at a funeral
    "So, do you come here often?"

    • @nicktokar2459
      @nicktokar2459 4 года назад +141

      Who you trying to flirt with at a funeral?

    • @blacklarry998
      @blacklarry998 4 года назад +410

      @@nicktokar2459 the widow

    • @Xelexment
      @Xelexment 4 года назад +32

      That funeral comment made cry bc my grandma died not to long ago and now im sad

    • @kaysas9686
      @kaysas9686 4 года назад +89

      @@Xelexment why? Did you flirt with someone there?

    • @terrencesora1174
      @terrencesora1174 4 года назад +31

      @@Xelexment Why...

  • @Isaiah-Hughes
    @Isaiah-Hughes Год назад +8

    "Great weather today!"
    "Thanks, you too."

  • @Wheredidigetthismuffin
    @Wheredidigetthismuffin Год назад +57

    The more I see videos like this, the more I understand that I just have anxiety. I follow this script, I don't do anything incredibly weird. But my mind puts everything under a microscope. And sometimes I just got to accept that I just don't vibe with everyone. Some conversations just arent going to be great.

  • @Aubjordan
    @Aubjordan 4 года назад +2724

    “I had a good time yesterday at the party.”
    “So you had a good time yesterday?”
    “Um yeah like I just said...
    “Why?”
    “...Because I went to the party...”

  • @saadanwar9559
    @saadanwar9559 5 лет назад +9397

    Me meeting my friend standing with his father
    Me:So how do you guys know each other?

  • @seaweedcat4267
    @seaweedcat4267 Год назад +64

    What I've found is that people looove to talk about themselves! If you want to keep the conversation going, act like everything they say is the most interesting thing you've ever heard and you want to hear every single detail.
    You study commerce? What do you do? What job would you pursue in the future? What are the assignments like? Your parents made you study it, what do your parents do? What would you rather be studying instead, why? Every single piece of detail is a prompt that you can keep building on.
    And most of all, remember that the other person is a human being too! Chances are they want to keep the conversation going too and they'll want to cooperate with you. While trying to come up with ways to keep it going, remember to actually listen to what the other party is saying as well!

    • @siphons5737
      @siphons5737 7 дней назад

      That's the only thing I know how to do, keep a conversation alive ? Yeah, start one, might need to call help on that one.

  • @monaebreak561
    @monaebreak561 28 дней назад +22

    People who you can just be silent with are the best!!! ❤

  • @rainyclouds7631
    @rainyclouds7631 4 года назад +4583

    “you look like you would be great with kids“
    “Oh actually not really“
    “well I had the impression because you look like my mom“

  • @PatoValdes18
    @PatoValdes18 4 года назад +9194

    me in an airplane: “so, where you going?”

    • @shotgun_daddy-1089
      @shotgun_daddy-1089 4 года назад +99

      On a plane

    • @panlis6243
      @panlis6243 4 года назад +389

      @@joaquin991 to Toronto?

    • @flymb3358
      @flymb3358 4 года назад +151

      I did do that once actually

    • @MrDoon-ez5qm
      @MrDoon-ez5qm 4 года назад +23

      somehow that's what I get ask all the time

    • @vmillio7564
      @vmillio7564 4 года назад +11

      Is this directed at someone or just a question out of nowhere hoping someone replies?

  • @LucianoBAF
    @LucianoBAF Год назад +65

    1. Open ended questions (how do you like ?)
    2. Ask about their motivativations with a simple "Why?" (Why did you decide to get into ?)
    3. When the conversation stalls, use revival questions:
    - "How you guys know one other?"
    - "What's your story?". The person might give options on what specifically, then you can read which option was mentioned in a more excited tone of voice
    - "What are your plans to the future?"
    4. Complimentary cold read (you look like you are pretty into )
    5. In a cold silence, deep breath and keep easy eye contact. Alternatively, repeat the last words they've said

    • @Prizm44
      @Prizm44 Год назад +3

      Jesus Christ, does anyone else want to write yet another comment stating the exact same thing that was in the video?

    • @xhvsh
      @xhvsh 19 дней назад

      how do you like toronto?

    • @igor_ostrovski
      @igor_ostrovski 3 дня назад

      ​@@Prizm44this is called a resume so people remember what they watched. Maybe understand some people might appreciate it??

  • @DrownedInGames
    @DrownedInGames Год назад +37

    I have a friend who asks questions like the ones from this video when trying to hold conversations, and now I think he got the conversation ideas from this video.

    • @joanna4500
      @joanna4500 Год назад +10

      ask them how they like toronto and see what they do

    • @DrownedInGames
      @DrownedInGames Год назад +1

      @@joanna4500 I'll do that sometime hahah

  • @_username
    @_username 3 года назад +4810

    “The weather nice today huh?”
    "Thanks, you too"

  • @rohan1748
    @rohan1748 3 года назад +4164

    Her : So do you like Toronto ?
    Me : Hey that's my line !!
    Her : Why?
    *Awkward Silence*

    • @babayaga3064
      @babayaga3064 2 года назад +77

      Man what a hilarious comment section, I wish I cud meet u all and make more jokes about this video, that would be epic! I'm so weak for good humour 😂😂

    • @missingpatel7349
      @missingpatel7349 Год назад +106

      @@babayaga3064 We are really doing okay in comments section but chances are it will be *severely awkward silence* if we meet in real life.

    • @ungewohnlich510
      @ungewohnlich510 Год назад +6

      Uno reverse :D

    • @IoannisFragiskos
      @IoannisFragiskos Год назад +1

      Underrated comment 😂

    • @muhammadraza2766
      @muhammadraza2766 Год назад +1

      😂😂😂😂

  • @fa5rani
    @fa5rani Год назад +83

    One thing I learned through my conversations, "some people are boring" don't push it, it they are exciting or excited in you, you'll never stop talking.

  • @dbliss741
    @dbliss741 Год назад +69

    There’s nothing cooler than curating a vibe where you sit confidently with a dash of aloofness during those “awkward silences”

    • @Mo-.
      @Mo-. Год назад +2

      I do that practically all the time by accident bc of not often starting convos (unless with already established friends)

    • @megamaser
      @megamaser Год назад +2

      I disagree. I've been practicing this my entire life because I enjoy silence. But it hasn't made me "cool" or curate any kind of vibe that anyone else notices. Mainly it makes me forgettable, which is good. I don't want boring people to remember me, only the ones worth talking to.

  • @jobless5866
    @jobless5866 3 года назад +9260

    Them: How old are you?
    Me: Toronto
    Them: That’s not an age
    Me: Why?

  • @oblobbles
    @oblobbles 3 года назад +4885

    A depressed person:"sometimes I just feel like this world would be better without me"
    ....
    Me: "so what are ur plans for the future?"

    • @DeadeyeToya
      @DeadeyeToya 3 года назад +78

      You know the word future reminds me of a state that is my destiny to behold my actions a period of time following the moment of speaking or writing; time regarded as still to come.

    • @thinginground5179
      @thinginground5179 3 года назад +94

      "I wanna kill myself"
      Me: "Toronto"

    • @meowww7557
      @meowww7557 3 года назад +71

      why?

    • @jimsclub8080
      @jimsclub8080 3 года назад +28

      Why would be better ;)

    • @iiCounted2134
      @iiCounted2134 3 года назад +41

      damn that went dark quick lmfaoo

  • @deli_bread
    @deli_bread Год назад +102

    I just like to ask completely random questions out of the blue. I don't mean stuff like "Where'd you get your shirt from?" or something. I mean questions like "Is soup a drink?" or "Do you pour cereal or milk first?" since those types of questions usually lead to a debate, or just an interesting conversation. Also yes, both of those questions were food related. Food is always a good conversation topic, since most everyone enjoys food (or at least has an opinion on it). Some other good questions to ask are hypotheticals. I like these since they're pretty interesting, and if you run out of them it's really easy to just make one up. Ex: "Would you rather fight 10 5 year olds or 2 20 year olds?" or "Would you eat a gallon of mayonnaise for 10,000 dollars?" You can also elaborate on the question, or change it slightly depending on their answer, like instead of "Would you eat a gallon of mayonnaise for 10,000 dollars?" it'd be "Would you eat a gallon of mayonnaise for 3.5 dollars?" Sorry for the long comment, and thanks to anyone who read all the way through! Hoped this helped!

    • @R9naldo
      @R9naldo Год назад +28

      How to get friendzoned in just one interaction

    • @CosmicRando
      @CosmicRando Год назад +1

      @@R9naldoyeah 💀

    • @hazelmint6671
      @hazelmint6671 Год назад

      My cousin always asks us these kinds of questions lol!
      Its usually very crazy so we roll our eyes each time he starts with a 'would u rather...' 🤣🤣
      Questions like, 'would u rather, marry/date a person who is shockingly ugly, (he also includes some kind of abnormality, like he has unstoppable diarrhea) but he has the best personality (factually) and loves u dearly , or would u rather marry someone who is impossibly gorgeous and rich but has the shittiest personality..
      This is tame actually, compared to some of his other ones 😂🤣🤣

    • @pinkroses135
      @pinkroses135 Год назад

      😂 love that approach! Not too personal yet allows someone to display their personality and go into other subjects.

  • @SGWV
    @SGWV Год назад +4

    I love this video solely because of its comments section

  • @levince9315
    @levince9315 4 года назад +5516

    *The gods have given us this outstanding comment section.*

  • @_tronk_2529
    @_tronk_2529 5 лет назад +6776

    Bold of you to assume that I engage in conversation.

    • @treblinka9530
      @treblinka9530 5 лет назад +31

      James Hickok I have aids :)

    • @sus3509
      @sus3509 5 лет назад +17

      Swear bro I ain’t never starting a convo

    • @stevesbonesai
      @stevesbonesai 5 лет назад +60

      @@treblinka9530 so.., what do you enjoy most about having aids?

    • @bl8d5uck3r
      @bl8d5uck3r 5 лет назад +2

      noo i feel bad for liking your comment and making the number iLlUmInAtI

    • @VisionVaultArchive
      @VisionVaultArchive 5 лет назад +1

      @@bl8d5uck3r dw i changed it :)

  • @marcusfarrands9311
    @marcusfarrands9311 Год назад +3

    short, ad straight to the point, no unessecary buildup or intro, love it

  • @alyssa3415
    @alyssa3415 3 года назад +4809

    me: what's your name?
    them: Emma
    me: why?
    them:
    me: so how do u like Toronto?

  • @hamza3065
    @hamza3065 4 года назад +6339

    Laughed my lungs out!!
    This comment section is on fire!!

  • @helved807
    @helved807 Год назад +6

    I've come to learn a bit about this, and it took me a while to understand that it's not only me in a conversation that is struggling, it's both sides, (or in a group, all sides). This made me less worried about the responsibility of the conversation failing falling on me.

  • @justmechanicthings
    @justmechanicthings Год назад +3

    The open ended questioning was one of my key plays on first and second dates, along with asking what favourite and to elaborate on what makes it so

  • @anythingbutme6602
    @anythingbutme6602 5 лет назад +7944

    Me: You look like you are really into food!
    Her: I'm pregnant.
    Me: ...Why?

    • @FirstnameLastname-es1ko
      @FirstnameLastname-es1ko 5 лет назад +276

      Anything Butme Who the hell says that in the first place?😂 “You look like you are really into food!”

    • @xapokalypse
      @xapokalypse 4 года назад +168

      @@FirstnameLastname-es1ko that's why they watch this video! 😂

    • @aaliyahs.adventures.
      @aaliyahs.adventures. 4 года назад +6

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @itzelneptune
      @itzelneptune 4 года назад +26

      She allowed herself to get nasty

    • @benderisgreat95able
      @benderisgreat95able 4 года назад +46

      Seriously. Why? Smart people stopped having kids in 2008.

  • @LegitSarchie
    @LegitSarchie 3 года назад +26919

    Teacher: where’s your homework?
    Me: *takes deep breath whilst maintaining eye contact*
    Teacher: what are you doing?
    Me: so why did you decide to be a teacher?
    Teacher: excuse me?
    *awkward silence*
    Me: How do you like Toronto?

    • @no-fc9tp
      @no-fc9tp 3 года назад +1969

      teacher: asks for homework*
      student: “but why?

    • @salmanallam2012
      @salmanallam2012 3 года назад +68

      AYEEEE sarchie is heree 😍🤣

    • @mayarchithung4683
      @mayarchithung4683 3 года назад +95

      RIP bro😂

    • @ahegde1004
      @ahegde1004 3 года назад +36

      Epic 👌🏻

    • @LegitSarchie
      @LegitSarchie 3 года назад +6

      @@salmanallam2012 you watch the my videos?😂

  • @majadinicc
    @majadinicc Год назад +12

    seeing that this video has so many views makes me feel less alone. we just all have some problems with social skills but hey, nothing that we can't overcome

  • @chookers1074
    @chookers1074 Год назад +21

    With the right person, you’ll never run out of words

    • @werixwolf
      @werixwolf 7 месяцев назад +2

      Bollocks

  • @d.lastbreath2272
    @d.lastbreath2272 5 лет назад +16815

    We all lack social skills , don't we?

    • @kblc7952
      @kblc7952 5 лет назад +147

      D. Lastbreath no just had that a few hours ago.. damn that was the most awkward thing. long story short she turned me off with one sentence and then i had to change my sentence i wanted to say and then i left..

    • @peterg9798
      @peterg9798 5 лет назад +17

      @@kblc7952 thats what you get for being a oldhead

    • @kblc7952
      @kblc7952 5 лет назад +25

      Apree i’m 15 lmao

    • @peterg9798
      @peterg9798 5 лет назад +20

      @@kblc7952 you can be 15 and an oldhead tf

    • @kblc7952
      @kblc7952 5 лет назад +13

      Apree yeah aight u a oldhead too?

  • @augustuscaesar5076
    @augustuscaesar5076 4 года назад +7661

    Her: I had a fight with my sister
    Me: How do you two know one another?
    Her:..... She's my sister
    Me: *why?*

    • @IsaiahReitanFilm
      @IsaiahReitanFilm 4 года назад +203

      Augustus Caesar her: because we’re related
      Me: because you’re related?

    • @KingLoof
      @KingLoof 4 года назад +153

      @@IsaiahReitanFilm Me: Actually that reminds me of a friend who, just recently, got into a fight with her sister

    • @hankiedave
      @hankiedave 4 года назад +28

      @@IsaiahReitanFilm Her: uh..yes
      Me: *_why?_*

    • @user-dc4yr2ev5h
      @user-dc4yr2ev5h 4 года назад +16

      Augustus Caesar Well her parents did the big f*ck twice.

    • @AdmiralBonetoPick
      @AdmiralBonetoPick 4 года назад +21

      Her: Toronto

  • @Skeletone56
    @Skeletone56 Год назад +4

    With this, I was able to bring back a conversation with my grandparents at dinner.
    This was very helpful, thank you.

  • @Maxime_K-G
    @Maxime_K-G День назад +1

    I need this. I usually don't ask broad enough questions. I often stayed opinions as facts and it always backfires. Same for answering questions literally, instead of giving an answer that better represents my unique point of view.

  • @ltv9784
    @ltv9784 3 года назад +4557

    I tried to make my crush laugh by extra saying “Why” “Toronto” etc.
    But she just watched me awkwardly.
    Then I remembered that not everyone knows this comment section.

  • @pasteltheunicorn3899
    @pasteltheunicorn3899 3 года назад +9226

    “So...tell me a bit about yourself”
    My mom at the dinner table: “..what?”
    *pointing to vase on table*“This reminds me of a vase I have at home”
    “????”

  • @andresf.3472
    @andresf.3472 Год назад +5

    The one that always help is remember about “FORD”: Family Occupation Recreation Dreams. Also using open statements questions like why, how, when, where instead of closing ones.

  • @iansarmiento23
    @iansarmiento23 2 года назад +1

    This is great... For 1 on 1 conversations. I've got a friend who won't shut up in a group conversation and won't let anyone have a word in and he'll eventually change the subject.

  • @brunotheexpert8230
    @brunotheexpert8230 4 года назад +28431

    Teacher : Where is your homework ?
    Me: At home , and yours?
    Teacher : what?
    Me: why?
    Teacher : *confused*
    Me: So what do you do for living?

    • @ashleyw5579
      @ashleyw5579 4 года назад +833

      Bruno The Expert thank you for making me actually lol 😂😂

    • @ernarjandos1031
      @ernarjandos1031 3 года назад +644

      Thats just “how to escape homework”

    • @jeamychun
      @jeamychun 3 года назад +243

      This made me laugh 😂😂😂

    • @swoop155
      @swoop155 3 года назад +95

      Omg this was awesome hahahaha

    • @user-sl1ry6op7m
      @user-sl1ry6op7m 3 года назад +32

      😂😂😂😂

  • @haironyourscreen4848
    @haironyourscreen4848 4 года назад +15373

    Me: hi
    Her: hello
    Me: tell me your story
    Her: I was born in Switzerland...
    Me: so how do you like Toronto?
    Her: I said Switzerland
    Me: you said Switzerland?
    Her: yes
    Me: Why?

    • @masud_1
      @masud_1 4 года назад +720

      i thought there was a hair on my screen, Lol

    • @moural1133
      @moural1133 4 года назад +230

      @@masud_1 ibwas blowing it the whole time until i read ur comment😂

    • @ananya1541
      @ananya1541 4 года назад +154

      I literally thought there was hair on my screen and was blowing on it the whole time until i saw your username lol

    • @sarahB06
      @sarahB06 4 года назад +119

      oH lol I tHoUghT tHEre wAs A hAiR On mY ScReEN

    • @therebelartisteofficial
      @therebelartisteofficial 4 года назад +8

      😂

  • @cultless699
    @cultless699 Год назад +6

    Ayy this was a GREAT video. It was very friendly and positive, not making you feel awkward imagining saying these things because you also brang out some arguments with them. Also, very important is, for someone with ADD like me, and with poor memory too, this video was very short and to the point and you even made a recap at the end to remember easily. I mean, first off, it’s important to always be yourself but this video really help out people with social anxiety. Thank you, I will use this in my future conversations!❤

  • @zxkredo
    @zxkredo Год назад +3

    Also learning not to be akward in silence is great too. You don't need to be talking all the time.
    Very helpful video anyways! Sometimes you just wanna talk but don't find common ground.

  • @audreythorpe6962
    @audreythorpe6962 3 года назад +9396

    My fav question to ask when convo goes quiet is “how do u think chairs would work if our Knees bent backwards” I’ve had some wild convos from it

    • @harambe8302
      @harambe8302 3 года назад +1290

      That question is so random lol

    • @fercam4792
      @fercam4792 3 года назад +97

      Lmaoo

    • @rustyshackleford3917
      @rustyshackleford3917 3 года назад +257

      You’re a saint Audrey

    • @tomjones6277
      @tomjones6277 3 года назад +839

      Having read this comment yesterday and asked this question today I can confirm the results are legendary

    • @edsonq.valencia1802
      @edsonq.valencia1802 3 года назад +523

      Or something like "have you ever asked yourself if hippos think that rhinos are unicorns?"

  • @pikarizardcharikachu2573
    @pikarizardcharikachu2573 3 года назад +3586

    I can tell from this whole comment section that we are all introverts.

  • @bean2468
    @bean2468 Год назад +5

    This video was so helpful I talked to a woman and she didn’t run away! 10/10 would recommend

  • @ronvavra
    @ronvavra Год назад +4

    My wife and I had dinner with people we see occasionally. Not real close. The other couple are very outgoing and talkative but we came to one of those grinding halts where everybody just sits there wishing they were not there. Then the host asked "read any good books lately". We were off and running. It was brilliant.

  • @trevorwhiteboy2649
    @trevorwhiteboy2649 3 года назад +27230

    PRO TIP: You can’t run out of things to say if you never initiate a conversation

    • @harsha307
      @harsha307 3 года назад +372

      The other person is just not interested

    • @ultrablitz9673
      @ultrablitz9673 3 года назад +622

      Me after reading this: kalm
      Me after someone else initiates a conversation: PANIK

    • @igorbednarski8048
      @igorbednarski8048 3 года назад +97

      Big brain stuff

    • @ETn4606
      @ETn4606 3 года назад +15

      Fax

    • @ashbash8716
      @ashbash8716 3 года назад +7

      Catch this radio
      (This is a joke)

  • @Whydoothercomments
    @Whydoothercomments 4 года назад +6797

    Me: How old are you?
    Girl: 19
    Me: when I was your age I was 21

  • @donna-elizabeth
    @donna-elizabeth Год назад +10

    It's all about the weather in the end. If you run out of things to say, the weather talk saves the situation...it always leads on to other subjects that spring from how the weather is affecting you, your plans ahead etc. Well known thing in the UK 🤣

  • @averyward2116
    @averyward2116 Год назад

    I feel like as long as you're a good and kind person you can just say the first things that come to mind

  • @jaimieomalla8676
    @jaimieomalla8676 3 года назад +9073

    I haven't laughed/cried this hard in ages. Love this comment section

  • @reallynoname
    @reallynoname 2 года назад +17070

    I told my first date „You look like you enjoy McDonalds quite a lot!“
    She really opened up, even raised her voice. It brought so much energy to the conversation.

  • @thijsbruijn3512
    @thijsbruijn3512 Год назад +3

    Toronto saving every conversation

  • @SG003
    @SG003 Год назад +2

    I'm quite introverted and I'm more of a listener than talker so I'm good with people who talks a lot.

  • @airyballoon
    @airyballoon 4 года назад +3601

    *at a bar*
    Me: you look like you come here often
    Her: What, I look like an alcoholic??
    Me: what’s your story
    Her: I don’t have a drinking problem!
    Me: Tell me why

    • @nelmae6026
      @nelmae6026 3 года назад +226

      *Her, starts to get drunk and proceeds to loosen up:* ain't nothin but a heartache

    • @ej_matthewsart
      @ej_matthewsart 3 года назад +25

      @@nelmae6026 glad I wasn't the only person who though BSB lol

    • @sarahgebhardt404
      @sarahgebhardt404 3 года назад +78

      🎵Ain't nothing but a heartache🎵

    • @fiipknife3830
      @fiipknife3830 3 года назад +44

      @@sarahgebhardt404 TELL ME WHY

    • @sarahgebhardt404
      @sarahgebhardt404 3 года назад +40

      @@fiipknife3830 ain't nothin' but a mistake

  • @rottencheeseballs2496
    @rottencheeseballs2496 4 года назад +2775

    Me: So what’s your story?
    Her: What do you mean by that?
    Me: ... Why?
    Her: *leaves*
    Me: sits to rewatch this video and take notes

  • @LifeIsGood1992
    @LifeIsGood1992 Год назад +1

    This is the no BS content that is helping us in real life 🙏👌

  • @matthewclark7952
    @matthewclark7952 Год назад +3

    Good tips, I shall definitely give this a go. I suffer badly from social anxiety disorder but I’m trying to improve the whole time.

  • @zacadoole1
    @zacadoole1 3 года назад +2944

    If someone asked me "so what's your story?" I'd break into a cold sweat

    • @thefork4416
      @thefork4416 3 года назад +232

      why

    • @loot3647
      @loot3647 3 года назад +472

      @@thefork4416 toronto

    • @AvaRose06
      @AvaRose06 3 года назад +142

      this reminds me of the time I got -cold- feet and ran out on my wedding.

      so what’s Toronto like?

    • @linasbubble
      @linasbubble 2 года назад +23

      @@loot3647 PAHAHAHA YALL LEAVE. IM CRYING

    • @dinowattz
      @dinowattz 2 года назад +11

      @@linasbubble why?

  • @f.b.iagent3971
    @f.b.iagent3971 4 года назад +3082

    Me, talking to my cousin at her mum’s funeral
    Me: this reminds me of that time my aunt died

    • @bingbong5786
      @bingbong5786 4 года назад +17

      John McKenvil r/woooooosh

    • @Zangetsu_
      @Zangetsu_ 4 года назад +11

      John McKenvil LMAO

    • @fade2008
      @fade2008 4 года назад +33

      @John McKenvil But you didn't give any signs that u understood.
      Sooo how do you like Toronto

    • @MushisCow
      @MushisCow 4 года назад +17

      @@fade2008 *_Why?_*

    • @fade2008
      @fade2008 4 года назад +16

      @@MushisCow ummmm *_Nice weather, huh?_*

  • @Anonymous-ev3rl
    @Anonymous-ev3rl Год назад +3

    I usually try to convince myself to stay calm like I'm comfortable in the silence and then the other person becomes comfortable as well. It usually helps if there's somewhere I can look off to like the sea or people walking by

  • @AbsurdShark
    @AbsurdShark Год назад +1

    Thank you, i tried the mentioned tips, and my cat reacted nicely.

  • @aurilio5633
    @aurilio5633 4 года назад +3768

    Me: *Looks at flower*
    Also me: Woah, That flower reminds me of flowers.

    • @panlis6243
      @panlis6243 4 года назад +116

      Why?

    • @tania2299
      @tania2299 4 года назад +6

      Bahahah

    • @Josuh
      @Josuh 4 года назад +62

      h o w d o y o u l i k e t o r o n t o ?

    • @preciousoh705
      @preciousoh705 4 года назад +35

      Does it look like it would be great with kids?

    • @thefamoustoilet4632
      @thefamoustoilet4632 4 года назад +1

      @@preciousoh705 LOL

  • @socklips7655
    @socklips7655 4 года назад +3486

    1. Maintain an unblinking stare
    2. Randomly and substantially change the tone of your voice.
    3. Respond to all of their responses with "As was foretold in the prophecy"

    • @martinprince7773
      @martinprince7773 4 года назад +195

      Socklips and then follow up with “Bring me the child!”

    • @00wolfQUEEN
      @00wolfQUEEN 4 года назад +61

      I love you guys

    • @willrogers9932
      @willrogers9932 4 года назад +73

      @@martinprince7773 bonus points if you point to a pregnant lady

    • @lunacyrus2274
      @lunacyrus2274 4 года назад +2

      I’m so glad I had your advice

    • @Ryan-rv5em
      @Ryan-rv5em 4 года назад +1

      LMFAOO

  • @vatos3367
    @vatos3367 Год назад +5

    Whenever I have a silence with someone I ask him whether he/she wants to talk or enjoy the environment. When they wanna talk I‘ll ask which topic he/she wants to discuss. You‘ll build easily a conversation again.
    If he/she chooses the other option it’s not awkward anymore. Besides they will start a convo again about how happy they are/like the environment/ you know when….etc

  • @epicencarnet5297
    @epicencarnet5297 Год назад +1

    As an introvert, I can say that this video is very helpful

  • @unacuentadeyoutube13
    @unacuentadeyoutube13 3 года назад +3321

    - This place reminds me of my grandma's death.
    - Maybe that's because it's my mum's funeral.
    - How did she die?
    - I don't want to talk about it, please.
    - Ok. How did you meet each other?
    *Akward silence*
    - How's your mum doing?

    • @penglu364
      @penglu364 3 года назад +32

      🤣🤣

    • @frossknight3209
      @frossknight3209 3 года назад +71

      This one's underrated

    • @kylewadley5031
      @kylewadley5031 3 года назад +53

      That sounds like something that Oversimplified would write for his videos😂

    • @Lucas-gx8ic
      @Lucas-gx8ic 3 года назад +7

      Ouch 😂

    • @rhitoja1
      @rhitoja1 2 года назад +4

      I'd love to like thus comment vut really dont wanna ruin the fine like counts 420

  • @Zwervar_
    @Zwervar_ 4 года назад +3666

    Barber: "So what do you do for work?"
    Me: "I'm a cashier, what about you?"
    *awkward silence*

  • @katlibby83
    @katlibby83 Год назад

    I’ve been using your tips at job interviews and they’re working great! Thank you!

  • @forbullitwin.
    @forbullitwin. Год назад +1

    Fun story I have been playing vrchat for a while now and recently thanks to this channel I have started noticing stuff like this in conversation. Now I am very socially awkward and I been working on my social skills. I realized being social is alot like a good form of mind games know how manipulate the conversation you can befriend anyone and it helps with the work force

  • @jp_03766
    @jp_03766 3 года назад +3477

    This is the most legendary comment section ever

  • @whim_tv
    @whim_tv 4 года назад +8705

    "how do you like Toronto"
    "I've never been there"
    "why?"
    "because I live in another country"
    "this reminds me of the time I didn't have anything to say"

  • @ResetYourCard
    @ResetYourCard Год назад

    Idk why this is on my feed but for anyone that needed this video y’all just gotta go out and enjoy life. Don’t take things to serious joke around be funny be yourselves and quit worrying about the best thing to say in every situation just talk lmao. Love y’all god bless🙏

    • @inseptus712
      @inseptus712 13 дней назад

      It's extrovert propaganda! Extroverts trying to convince introverts that being themselves means being funny in conversation.

  • @drugsarebad97
    @drugsarebad97 Год назад +2

    Iv never had this happen really . Conversation flow has always been a specialty of mine. Helps to have a mind that jumps around a lot.

  • @pkminpkmon
    @pkminpkmon 6 лет назад +11558

    Could you make a video on how to end conversations effectively without being rude? Especially if the other person is too chatty and can't understand regular cues that you need to leave for another matter?

    • @pedrocaldeirajorge3624
      @pedrocaldeirajorge3624 6 лет назад +875

      pkmaniac Just say something like "It was pleasure to meet you, but unfortunately I have to go". That's what I do.

    • @atfkdi7940
      @atfkdi7940 6 лет назад +736

      pkmaniac what I do and works fine, is to answer their last question, start leading the conversation and show interest in what the other person says, then without letting them say anything else I just say something like "so yeah that's what I think (or something like this depending on the situation), anyway it was nice talking to you, gotta go now". Basically, interrupt yourself to end the conversation, not the other person

    • @user-ez5vq9fd2t
      @user-ez5vq9fd2t 6 лет назад +308

      Key to is start off the conversation with a disclaimers saying "I'm on my way to ____" or "I've got some work/something to do" to let them know that you could leave at any moment with good reason. Then, when you actually want to end the convo, interrupt yourself after you finish your thought and mention that you have to leave for ______ that you already mentioned at the start. It makes exiting the convo a lot less awkward.

    • @mommaddie4316
      @mommaddie4316 6 лет назад +59

      pkmaniac, just say "good bye"

    • @fireburn95rs
      @fireburn95rs 6 лет назад +427

      Yell "SHUT THE F UP" and punch him/her

  • @daissyy7337
    @daissyy7337 4 года назад +19484

    me: so how do you like it in toronto?
    her: we're in england.
    me: that reminds me of ... *brain stops working*
    her: what does it remind you of?
    me: so what's your story?
    her: what do you mean...?
    me: why?

  • @jonny_sm884
    @jonny_sm884 Год назад

    I'd really like to learn something here...
    BUT I CAN'T STOP VIBING TO EXURB1AS MUSIC!!

  • @angelogabriel2316
    @angelogabriel2316 Год назад

    what a fantastic video! i have some problems about talking to other people, i think acctually that it is the bigest problem i have, so with this video i learned some things new im will try next time i see someone. THANK YOU

  • @OllyOutdoors10
    @OllyOutdoors10 4 года назад +15603

    Crush: So weird weather we're having huh?
    Me: Thanks, So how do you like Toronto?
    Crush: Wait what?
    Me: ..... That reminds me, You look like you'd be great with kids.
    Crush: Erm, Ok?
    Me: So, weird weather we're having huh?
    Crush: Yeh I guess...
    Me: Why?
    Crush: I'm confused
    Me: ...
    Crush: ...
    Me: So how do you like Toronto

    • @romansongen6284
      @romansongen6284 4 года назад +693

      Oblivion conversations in a nutshell^^

    • @DolphinPain
      @DolphinPain 4 года назад +222

      It feels so good to know I'm not the only one like this.

    • @Daniel-rw2gy
      @Daniel-rw2gy 4 года назад +27

      Muzammil Abubakr IM proud of u

    • @JODECIFEENIN
      @JODECIFEENIN 4 года назад +69

      this guy
      is funny😂

    • @lostinsauce4515
      @lostinsauce4515 4 года назад +13

      @Muzammil Abubakr *bold of you. Proud doesn't make sense in that sentence.