A big tip I can give to fellow procrastinators: The first step I always do is promise myself I WON'T work on it that day and ONLY do all preparation for it without actually starting work, so getting everything I need ready, opening up tabs that I need to get the job done and planning out exactly what needs to be done to get it finished. Usually when I have it all laid out in front of me like that suddenly the task looks very small and manageable, the urge to procrastinate evaporates and I get the job done. I still struggle sometimes but this trick has eliminated about 80% of my procrastination times. Somehow by promising yourself you won't do the work and merely prepare you can do it because "it doesn't count" to your brain.
This works for me sometimes when it's a medium sized task and a bit short term task. For long term tasks making preparation and opening tabs is a difficult and not so useful thing
i have trouble with that too, with books my bad feeling is that i will have to re read lots of times cause i wont be able to understand it and will feel frustrated and with drawings the fear is that the drawing wont be good despite all the time i put into it
Yes, for me as soon as it becomes an obligation, somethin I have to do, especially if i is expected from me by others, I can no longer do it. If my favourite thing is required from me I suddenly hate it.
It's important to remember that we might procrastinate doing tasks we enjoy too. As an artist/producer music is my life, but I find myself procrastinating because I'm often feeling like I'm going to "fail", even though there is nothing to fail at. It's a tight rope to walk on, but I'm getting better at it.
Omg same I have so many plans(coding tho) and I love it so much but I can't get myself to do the work like I'm scared to fail so instead of practicing and like enjoying it I just end up overthinking and procrastinating💀
I guess might as well join the puddle, even i i draw for myself, perfectionism which fuels my procrastination like crazy stops me from enjoying it and fearing that I will fail and everyone will laugh at me or strictly criticize what i did
i love that someone wrote about this! i am a writer/poet and that's a big part of my identity as an artist/creator. my work has been published by quality publications and my professors have greatly complimented my academic writing and used it as examples for other classes. but as an artist, when something doesn't turn out exactly perfect, even if it's only for me, i'm mortified and disgusted by it, because i know i have done better and could do better and other people have done better, etc, etc, etc. being an artist is just agony. i hope you are able to free yourself from your own expectations--i'm working on that in my life as well.
@@ablot3383 Being a perfectionist is agony, people think it's a false defect you say to look smart on your resume, but it just makes you unable to relax and to appreciate most things, and none that you made unless others compliment it. (the worst is when people keep complimenting things you think you made poorly and you start not giving value to their opinions, any opinions, but I hope that's just a me-thing lol - in any case beware of that trope - working on it too, good luck!)
The fact that I procrastinated watching this video for a year out of fear of feeling judged by its contents is quite telling. Thanks for helping me understand myself better :)
Literalmente ese yo,suelo procrastinar muchas cosas,y eso incluye videos como este,con los que me puedo enfrentar a la verdad y tal vez miedo a sentirme juzgado como dices...
@@pardo9025 entiendo lo que sientas exactamente, tengo un poco miedo cada vez que tengo que enfrentar que soy procrastinador...pero nunca se amejorara la situacion si no nos podemos perdonar a nosotros mismos ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
1. Break the task into smaller categories 2. Journal your thoughts on why you feel stressed to do the task 3. Reduce distractions 4. Forgive yourself because you can do better next time
Judging by the title, this video is entirely tailored for me and others like me, I'm at that point where I can procrastinate and not even feel a thing, and the reason why I feel bad isn't because I procrastinate but because I don't feel bad for procrastinating, it's like I've given up on myself
There's a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques you can attract almost everything in life. It's not some nonsense law of attraction, it's the real deal.
That sounds ironic because you mentioned the word "attract" yet you said it's not some "nonsense law of attraction" 🤔 And for the records, the law of attraction worked for me so it's up to you to believe it's legit or not.
I relate too. I struggle with low self esteem and anxiety, and I care too much about stuff. To escape it, I procrastinate, which leads to a whole lot of guilt.
Oddly enough, low amounts of thc really helped me. It stopped me from constantly feeling horrible feelings of incompetence or stress when working, and I managed to study 6 hours, and 6 hours another day after work. That being said, don’t recommend, I hear it’s bad for memory retention (and especially bad for those under 25) - not to mention the possibility of psychosis, especially for those predisposed to it. It works differently on everyone, for me it helps on stressful study nights.
that's so true, I started writing and didn't stop untill I made some chapters, then, the next days I felt weird, I felt that I needed to keep writing but kept getting distracted, when I heard that line on this video i thought directly of what was happening to me.
Some additional tips for fellow procrastinators: 1. Promise yourself you’ll only do 5mins of the work which makes it less intimidating 2. Reward yourself for any work done so you associate it with positive feelings 3. Remind yourself putting something off till the end of the day, ruins the whole day and you still have the task to do, whereas doing the task first thing, means you get the task out the way and have the rest of the day to yourself. 4. Remind yourself that the act of avoiding / procrastinating often takes as much energy as the task itself - but with none of the reward/ achievement. 5. A big one is ask for help - it’s amazing how much easier it is to focus when someone helps you figure out what to do first / next. 6. Don’t be afraid to be mediocre. We all have to create something rough and ready before we polish it into something better. 7. Balance studies/ tasks with exercise - moving your body releases tension and anxiety and helps the mind wake up, focus and concentrate. 8. Remember things are always worse / more difficult/ take longer in your imagination/ mind - in real life, it’s usually easier. 9. If, after you’ve broken the task down, each piece still feels too big, break it down further. 10. Look out for your mind wondering and don’t let it get side-tracked by other little thoughts; doing a 2month course of mindfulness meditation alongside studies can calm the mind, lessen anxiety and focus your thoughts on what you want to achieve. 11. Anxiety / fear is a big aspect of procrastination. Remember procrastination is avoidance, you could Google free self-help guides for anxiety and employ some tips and ideas. The less anxious you feel, the less you’ll have the urge to avoid/ procrastinate.
I procrastinated an entire semester. I told the TAG teacher I wanted to do an independent study in history. I did close to nothing. Over the weeks, and months, I grew more and more stressed. So much stress came to me, I had nightmares every night, my anxiety grew through the roof, and I developed suicidal tendencies. Even now thinking about it I get dizzy, dissoriented, depressed. Never apalogized to the teacher, in fact I never spoke to him again.
It is probably worth noting how many people have done exactly that in their studying lives! Worth forgiving yourself and having a smile.😁 I, personally dropped out in my second year of early college, and it was traumatic at the time....but so many don't even try. I am much older now and know my limitations and gifts better. The important thing to note is that it was clearly a way of study that didn't work for your particular mind/ body, certainly at this time in your life. We live and we learn. This video was really interesting about how the nervous system goes on high alert and tries to comfort by distracting, then it becomes unproductive, and can make us unwell. So helpful to know. I wonder if you have a cat or a dog to cuddle to help settle your nervous system. Or a lovely garden or space you can visit. Or an easy going friend. I did want to say, I highly recommend writing (possibly just a short handwritten note if easier) a very short straight to the point note to the teacher saying you just found you could not do it, and thank them for their time. IT WILL REALLY RELEASE any guilt you feel. It really is not the end of the world and these teachers will have had all these things happen before. If you want to give more feedback, you can explain how you became stressed and other specifics you felt may have helped or struggled with etc. This is because the teacher may also need some good feedback to either assess how it went from their side, their possible weaknessess and if that delivery was functional or not. It may not suit anyone, doing it like that. Take care! And enjoy your history studies...always interesting. My Uncle was a history professor for 30 years and wrote many books, and I think was an excellent teacher too.
exactly this happens to me. all throughout my college life until now, Ive always been a really bad procrastinator and my gpa would show for it. I get stressed about the workload and how it would always remind me how i was almost kicked out of college and lost my scholarship due to my poor gpa... I still have anxiety from my mind automatically thinking about it and im still a chronic procrastinator, but like with everything, all your actions are made because theyre habits and slowly I am fixing it :)
This was so validating and encouraging for a chronic procrastinator like me. Especially the part that mentions that you should have self-compassion and forgive yourself. Everyone knows that doing stuff last minute or submitting work in a delay isn't acceptable or even practical. So there is no need to try to "remind" people who procrastinate how "lazy" they are for not doing their tasks. Because we know, and because we are very aware of that and actually care too much about that, it feels even worse. You don't need to beat me up for my procrastination, I already beat myself up the whole time.
Procrastination is just a stress response. I find work that makes me doubt myself is work that I save to the very bitter end. Converging into a panic attack when I finally force myself to do it.
Yeah, I discovered that "lazy" is just a deregatory term used when people don't understand why you're not doing something. If you start asking questions about the meaning of "lazy" then it just falls apart. It's just a mirage, laziness doesn't exist.
Exactly. A lot of people assume procrastination is cause by people preferring instant gratification, but for me it's running away from a load of anxiety and fear. In school I was always expected to be the best, to do perfectly from first try. If I failed, I was always punished for "not really trying". Even though I realize this is impossible and unhealthy, I feel shame for not living up to perfection every single time. When I expect to fail multiple times before I succeed, it's like having something terrifying looming on the horizon and I put the task off as long as I can. When I eventually start doing it, I feel as if I'm being punched in a face each time I do something imperfectly. The worst thing is, it's preventing me from even getting started on my dreams, since dreams don't have deadlines to make me start and there's even more at stakes in case of failure.
I have changed quite a bit since I wrote this comment. If there's anything I would say to myself in the past, it's love yourself. Beating yourself up is counterproductive, because you tend to work worse, not better, when stressed. Allow yourself to make mistakes, because they are essential to learning. Expecting to get everything the first try is unrealistic, just read the stories of initial failures of people who are considered successful, or ask a professional about how they learned. Whenever you catch yourself saying mean things to yourself, stop. And if you think you deserve to be treated badly for whatever reason (which I never did tho), 1. you're wrong, 2. go to the therapist to explain you why you're wrong.
@@afriendlyfox It would be interesting to know if the pandemic has had anything to do with how we have become more of a procrastinator. For certain not being allowed to do some of the things we did before, like social gatherings for instance, which has turned some of us into the world of depression. And once you get into that mind set it makes it really hard to do anything else. Especially when you are trying start something you have been putting off which seems like a lifetime. Everyone has their own story of how they got to this point and my wish is for all of us procrastinators to find help, whether it is by watching these RUclips videos or by attending professional therapy sessions, that we find the courage and the strength to begin so we can get better and get us out of this state that we are all in. With change comes opportunity.
I think what's more disturbing to me, is that procrastination seems to be on the rise, both in student academia and the working world. It makes me wonder if our biology is really cut up for the world that we've made and is much too complex such that it's making us depressed and mentally exhausted. Food for thought
The Internet in general, social Media, Gaming and the overall entertainment industry are all things which are hard to make sense of for our brains. There are so many products and services designed to be as addictive as possible, that choosing a task which only offers delayed gratification (if any) in favor of something triggering that response immideately requires insane amounts of self control
I think it can be attributed also to the fact that as our (humanity's) average IQ keeps increasing, our day to day tasks are also going on increasing in difficulty be it the education curriculum, or job tasks That could be why procrastination is also rising as competition and difficulty is rising
the most annoying thing about procrastination, at least for me, is that it works. at the end of the day, or in this case, deadline, you still get it done no matter the stress. it's literally what unconsciously motivates me to keep procrastinating because eventually, it'll be done.
I survived college and many things by doing this but now that there are no deadlines, no imposed time limit, that I have to set everything up by myself, I'm just lost and frozen
That's what got me through university. When deadlines get too close, an intense guilt & fear washes over me whenever I procrastinate. It's like my brain realizes I don't even have a minute to spare. I stay awake working hard all through the night... after having wasted my afternoon/evening procrastinating.
I procrastinate and sometimes, things don't get done. And the reason why I procrastinate is that my brain automatically thinks about all my bad experiences when I do a task that takes a good 3 hours one sitting and it was exhausting even though I'm actually enjoying it.
Getting it done and getting it done well are totally different. You never live up to your full potential as a chronic procrastinator and that's the most frustrating part. At the end of it you always wish for a time machine, wonder why you couldn't have started earlier, etc. Not to mention all the late nights taking years off your life. The data on sleep deprivation is scary.
why did I almost tear up at the end? I've always felt guilty for procrastinating and I think hearing the reason why people do this, despite knowing the consequences, its very comforting.
Because we live in an era with little in the way of compassion? For instance, I’m rather self critical and have rarely if ever lived up to my own unrealistic expectations.
When the video said " People tend to procrastinate due to their high standards and fear of failing", oh my god ! I'm actually studying for my finals rn and i really wanna come first in the class. I need to study hard now as i studied the whole year but surprisingly i can find myself procrastinating in this crucial period. I guess my high standards have been the reason and imma fix that. Thank you.
omg you just explain exactly what ive been trying to figure out about myself. I wanna come first in class too and i work hard the whole year but towards the end i find myself stuggling to open my books. it felt nice knowing theres someone going through the same thing as me.
“Many procrastinate…because they care too much” How true can this be? I’m a perfectionist and a procrastinator that can’t ever get out this vicious cycle of self loathing and unhappiness.
I have a tip I learned from a study youtuber called fayefilms... Basically, instead of setting the amount of time you want to work on something, like "i will do this and that for 2 hours after work/school" set the time LIMIT for how long you can work on it. It helps you to actually start and reduce the overwhelming dread. For me, if I just tell myself "I'm going to study this subject that i hate with a passion tomorrow morning" chances are 1. i don't do it 2. I do it VERY inefficiently since i'm forcing myself and I wanna do perfect. Setting the *max* amount of time you can spend on the task is the best middle ground for me😊
here are some things that genuinely helped me to stop procrastinating and hoping it helps the readers too- 1) dont add too many tasks to ur day. always prioritise ur tasks, always mark that one task that u really have to do today...the rest will follow 2) dont schedule everything. leave some time and space between each task to move around and talk to people or rest. (or anything u like) scheduling every minute of the day really made me anxious. 3) keep ur workspace clean, make it attractive and calming space for u ( i keep my workspace as tidy and minimalistic as i can so im not overwhelmed) 4) dont pile up ur tasks, dedicate some hrs to study after school/college one major giveaway is i used to add too many tasks on my to do list and i NEVER got everything done ever. yet i woke up next day and did the same thing again. break down ur task in simple chunks to make it less threatening. let me know if any of these helped you because they really changed my life :)
As a recovering procrastinator myself, I can confirm these are great idea (though I always put off tidying my workspace). The idea of keeping to-do lists down to something achievable today is a very good one that I found works well. Start with one simple one that you know you can get done (like answering a simple email, e.g. 'Sure, I'll be there') and you're on your way.
I dunno what this is but I used to procrastinate by watching youtube videos instead of writing the document that I need to be working on but ever since I got another monitor for my pc I have been finishing my work everyday becasue I watch those yt videos on another monitor while working. What I believe is we procrastinate becasue there is no fun involved in the task so when we need add a passive "fun" task to the important one you will work faster.
@@knaditya8228 yeah i fully agree.. although my i cannot afford multitasking (its a bad idea) i always try to make my studies more fun, i add breaks in between so im not exhausting. im preparing for an exam right now and it included me studying for 10-12 hrs a day..its absolutely exhausting and its a very lonely process but im hoping this will pay off in the end
U wrote points which are extremely true, doesn't look like from a book at all ! I am seriously not being sarcastic (my text might sound like that) . U have actually been through this and it gives me a hope for myself as well . Thank You 🙏🏼
I procrastinate literally everything, even things I enjoy doing. This has led to me avoiding the things I used to be inseperable from. At this point, I always look for any excuse to put anything off.
You got this! Just don't be mad about your past-self. You cannot control or change that. You can only control whats ahead and the earlier you stop being mad at yourself, the earlier you can use this energy to break the circle! Good luck. PS: I am struggling too!
@@nikolaitishkov blink and that time's passed, act now 9 months since i made that comment, done nothing but procrastinate the whole time, i'm now significantly worse off for it. dont make my mistake
Sometimes it feels even harder to stop procrastinating when it’s a project with no deadline. Now I’ve finished university, trying to still make films when it’s all on me to set myself tasks and a finish date.
for me it's not even school and parents, I have just set the standards too high for myself and when I don't achieve them it makes me even more scared and self doubt kicks in
This is beautiful. I heard somewhere once: negotiate with yourself like someone you love when carrying out a task instead of forcing yourself like someone you hate.
That last part about cultivating self-compassion helped make me feel better. I procrastinate due to anxiety and fear. It's really my setting of high standards for myself that paralyzes me in the actual doing.
"It's really my setting of high standards for myself that paralyzes me in the actual doing." This hit me hard. I often punish myself of not watching my fave shows to trick myself that i'm being productive, but in reality, i'm really not. It also has paralyzed and keeps on paralyzing me for years up to now. I guess i'm going back to the reward system technique because being strict to myself is not helping at all.
This is me. I totally understand you. The fear of failure is strong enough to make me do nothing at all. Nobody is harsher on ourselves than us. I wish we could be kinder to ourselves.
@@knowhowtodo Well, it's actually NOT a 'habit', but a condition. Habits are acquired, we're BORN this way. You've understood nothing. Thanks for the kind words but you're wrong.
Id be like, you've already procrastinated, just a lil more, a bit more.... Woah you've already wasted so much, it doesn't matter anymore, start over tomorrow... This is my daily routine
I procrastinated a lot in my college, to the point all my classmates and teachers knew that they can never expect any assignment on time from me. However hard I tried, i could never bring myself to complete the task and over time I got so used to it that I stopped caring about the assignments all together. I do regret those times and wish I could've done better
Oh it's always the worst when the task is timed . You want to do it, but you don't, and end up doing it when it's too late. Recently I had the whole week to finish an assignment , but I only did it at 3 am in the morning right before it was due for school. I did that so much that I felt too much self doubt .
You are far from alone, I believe the majority of the human race procrastinates to one degree or another! Don't feel bad or guilty, just remember that today is a new day, this hour is a new hour, heck the next 5 minutes are another opportunity. Look forward and no guilt about the past! Good luck, hope this helps even if it is just one bit! God Bless!
tm i procrastinated soo much that they set up a catch up class so I could do the assignments there, yet I just sacked it all off n decided to drop out cos I knew I wouldn't get it done in time for grading
For me there was only two option: Done it Or never do it It was a bad habit (my professor said) because if there was 10 assignment, I will only do 7 and ignore the three so I can get C to pass the subject. (Yes, Im not willing to get an A. Just flat C)
1) A note on breaking tasks into smaller parts; sometimes this just leads to having an overwhelming number of small tasks that you need to do, and the wall of motivation is still too large to climb. Focus instead on the next three small steps: open your computer, open the project document, and copy relevant assignment information into the document for reference. Celebrate your success in completing that set of three tasks, then plan what your next three tasks will be. Having a separate list of just the basic large steps can be helpful as a general guide and making sure you don’t forget anything though. 2) Since research isn’t a straightforward process, task based goals may be frustrating (ex: find 3 good sources, or: find a specific number to back up your argument). Time-based goals will give a better sense of achievement to keep you feeling positive and motivated (ex: research about this topic for 30 minutes). 3) If you need to interrupt a project (eating, sleeping, etc.), leave yourself some notes on what you were thinking or what step you were going to take next so your brain has a breadcrumb trail to try to get back into the flow of things with later. I do this a lot to prevent writers block; whenever I finish a chapter or section, I always leave myself some notes or sentences for the next part, that way I don’t have a blank page to look at when I next try to tackle the thing.
My brain is shockingly good at breaking a task I don’t want to do, like washing the dishes, into dozens of tiny steps, which become overwhelming. Meanwhile, I never think of all the tiny, time consuming tasks involved in getting somewhere on time, resulting in chronic tardiness. It actually offends me that certain tasks take as long as they do, like how can walking to my car and getting in take a whole minute? How does it take two minutes to put my shoes on?
You actually addressed my biggest hurdle overwhelm. I get overwhelmed super easily which is why an ever extending to do list hasn't worked for me ever. I've found Scrum or Kanban also can help cause it isn't stagnant and you don't have to scan the whole list every time. You have a to do, doing and done column with post its that you can change/move around accordingly. It shows you progress and it feels great having not only tasks that you still have to do visible but also what you already did accomplish.
If you want to procrastinate less and concentrate better on working you can study with me here. Instead of watching videos on youtube you can have a video of me studying and keeping you company, so you don't get distracted. You can make youtube into something useful instead of a distraction. I study for 1-3 hours with breaks in between while I keep you company If you're interested, feel free to work with study videos of mine Hopefully it will be useful for you...
The thing about being afraid the task won't live up to your expectations took me back to English writing assignments. I used to procrastinate doing the writings as much as I could because I wanted them to turn out perfect. When I saw one of my classmates doing his, I was really shocked. He looked aloof. He, also, wasn't distracting himself every single second. He finished it fast. Yeah, my writings were better than his, at least according to our class teacher, but I really wished I could do them as fast and as stress-free.
Used to happen with me too while making projects for the school. Always found people way cooler who would finish things on time though not up to the mark, but were not stressed like me.
I spend most of every day procrastinating and feeling bad about ir. So, at least in my case it feels like a low bar for the YT algo to get this one right! Ha. 😐
The value/message of this video should NOT be underestimated - this describes exactly how 'most' people (myself included) think and make decisions about themselves.
Don't remember quite where I heard this, but "Anything worth doing is worth doing badly" reminds me of this. Of course we never want to do something poorly, but doing it at all is often more beneficial than just not doing it, and our perception of how daunting something is turns more into training when you allow yourself to fail but at least tried, even if you think you can't do it to your own standards.
society said/says: if your job is done badly, it's better to not do it also society said/says: if (one of) your job worths nothing, you're absolutely worthless. *wait society never said those, why are those a thought?*
„Done is better than perfect“ is my new mantra. It helped me with my procrastination depending on the task. Now that I’m writing my bachelors thesis it’s difficult because I need a good grade. But for most everyday things it really helps Doing something is better than doing nothing
I think my brain works better under pressure, especially during university I always did my assignments a day or few days before it’s due. Procrastination was seriously my enemy whenever I tried to do any work ahead of schedule. That adrenaline I get hours before the deadline would kick in and I managed to pass all of my assignments. I know my life would be easier to get it done in advance but I just couldn’t
Same here. When I do stuff ahead of schedule, often find myself doing things about three times as slowly, and I seem to make very little progress on the project. A pressing deadline puts things sharply in perspective and prevents time-wasting, but it’s often highly stressful.
Highly true. I am more likely to study for a test/ exam a day before, rather than a week before. I have tried many times, but I found that I do it better while under pressure. Now, that is starting to make me worried, because I have a big exam coming up, and I feel that I wouldn't be able to reach my target because of that. Any suggestions? (I would have gone to quora for this question, but I would have started procastinating there ;-;)
same dude, 1 month bef exams I do next to nothing but 1 week before I am so productive that I can do 2 chapters in a single day, idk why but this seems bad as I think I might forget whatever I have done as you know I didnt gave enogh time to it, its really confusing
I have exactly the same problem I’m mind blown that I can literally study a whole subject in a single day and get 98-100 at the exams But if I had a week or so to study, it would be very very hard to start studying and if I encouraged myself to start I would immediately get distracted and do other stuff with the excuse of having enough time. I wish I can fix this problem
I didn't realize that it was the issue until this video. I am a high schooler who often struggle with procrastination due to having a lot of project-type schoolwork. And I always wish to be perfect…
Ugh, I felt so understood by this video. I'm incredibly hard on myself. My mind is so critical of me and I often label myself as lazy and a bunch of other things, but the reality is I don't want to fail. I don't want to become stuck or do something I'm unhappy with, so I'd rather not do it at all because there's an illusion that it's "easier." I don't think crying at my desk or picking apart my skin about something I could've completed in a breeze is "easier." Now, the hard part is trying to pull myself out of procrastinating one assignment at a time. 😮💨
Really relate to the psychological description of chronic procrastinators. Negative emotions and feelings of shame are very common in the way I relate to my work. Perfectionism is a big part of it: the reason a perfectionist might be a chronic procrastinator is because they fear messing up, i.e. they care too much, and I think that's my situation. It's like a negative perfectionism. What ends up happening is I do huge amounts of work in a very small amount of time, like a single afternoon. This has led me to short periods of *extreme* stress that would've probably already ruined my health if I wasn't still young.
Fr, I'm the same.. I procrastinate until I can no longer procrastinate, because the project is due, and then do it overnight, get very little sleep, but get it done with an incredible amount of stress. Like WTFFFF brains seriously
@@zhevtone I find this video helps. Just put on headphones/earbuds and do your work. I believe in you. Don't get sucked into the RUclips spiral. We believe in you mate :) ruclips.net/video/nntIYcMkUa0/видео.html
I truly believe that laziness is not a character trait. It’s a symptom. We’re all born with ambition and fascination. Someone experiencing laziness (notice I don’t say “someone who is lazy”) is suffering under imperatives that don’t match their skill set. When we care, as a society, more about nurturing everyone’s natural ambition toward careers that utilize their natural fascination -or in other words, when we aren’t obligated to surrender the best hours of the best days of the best years of our lives underutilized in the performance of tasks that we were never destined to be very good at, just for the supposed privileges of living indoors, eating, rinsing off from time to time, and dying in a bed when it’s all over- the widespread ailments of depression and anxiety, and thus the symptoms of laziness, will in turn find their own natural remedy. But in the meantime, we should be honest enough to acknowledge how ridiculous it is to expect anyone to be happily dissatisfied.
"In fact, many people procrastinate because they care too much. Procrastinators often report a high fear of failure, putting things off because they're afraid their work won't live up to their high standards." I feel like there's a correlation between perfectionism and procrastination. A lot of people that I know who procrastinates and crams their works regularly are those who want to always be on top of their games - not failing just delivering works with perfection.
That sounds like me. "To be, or not to be.", I will do the work or I will do none of it. No in-betweens. I usually choose the latter because there's always *something* that screws me up during the process of said work.
@@a_very_burnt_steak thats so like me...for me if I start studying then I will only study nothing else but once that studying habit breaked...getting back becomes very difficult! Right now I'm trying to get back on the track but it's so difficult still it's not the first time happened. I'll get there eventually.
Being a perfectionist is agony, people think it's a false defect you say to look smart on your resume, but it just makes you unable to relax and to appreciate most things, and none that you made unless others compliment it. (the worst is when people keep complimenting things you think you made poorly and you start not giving value to their opinions, any opinions, but I hope that's just a me-thing lol - in any case beware of that trope - working on it too, good luck!)
thank you for making me not feel crazy and for giving words to something I've struggled with for so long. my procrastination is a coping mechanism and I am not lazy.
I've been procrastinating a lot lately. I feel like I have too many things to do, and get overwhelmed by all of it because I know that for every project I need to do, I'm most likely going to fixate on it for longer than I should while striving to make it as perfect as possible. So I put it all off and become productive on easier, distracting things, such as cooking, cleaning, running errands, watching anime, playing games, etc. But instead of feeling better and energized after putting my work down, I feel even worse about all of the work that I put off. Then I get overwhelmed again and do the same thing. However, there are fleeting periods where I finally decide to sit down and commit to getting a part of a project done; and in those moments I feel absolutely euphoric about it. So much that I decide to reward my efforts....and then get too distracted to continue. Then I feel shameful for giving myself a reward despite not completely finishing something. So the next time I go to tackle a project, I binge-work on it...spending 10+ hours on consecutive days marathoning jobs and homework assignments. Afterwards, I feel so fatigued and tired that I take a longer break. When a new project comes I remember how long it took to get stuff done the last time I marathoned, and wind up getting overwhelmed again, choosing to default to distractions. The thing is, I'm seen as an excellent student/coworker, and even when I turn in work that I rushed to complete late or made in a day, it is highly praised. I feel like stress, anxiety, perfectionism, and the seeming lack of a negative response to my bad behaviors is fueling the urge to procrastinate even more.
This. It's like you have described me perfectly. Crazy how similar our brains work. People are not in fact that different as one would like to believe eh...
Oh no yeah I relate to this so much too! I think maybe writing EVERYTHING that you need to do down really helps or at least it really helps in my case. Try not too get distracted (which can be difficult and is something I struggle with haha).
I hate how strong of an effect procrastination has on me. I was legit procrastinating watching this video for two whole days. It's not like I forgot about it, it was taking a major space in my head, always there, I had reminders to keep reminding me I need to watch it. I also knew its at best a 6 minute video. Yet I kept procrastinating it till now. I also procrastinated all of my studies and have been doing so for the past week and it keeps building up the pressure, shame, guilt and so many awful emotions, spiraling down into a feeling of burnout and constant anxiety. I don't know what to do anymore, I've tried so much. I tried making it less stressful by breaking my studies into small topics instead of the whole chapter but I feel like that's not the problem. Once I get to study, I can easily do it for over an hour and half. It's the starting out part that gets me. I don't know how to force myself to start something. I've tried reminders, to do lists, routines, etc and nothing lasts. Please, this is a literal call for help now, I need to get my work done and I don't know how. If anyone else who is knowledgeable on this or has gone through the same give me tips on how I can do better about this? Thankyou!
i relate to this sooooooooo much. things that helped me is having some kind of reward/motivation for finishing a task. or promising myself to do a task for just 5 minutes. it is possible to improve dont lose hope!! also finding out the source of ur procrastination is helpful
Gosh I couldn't relate more. I'm at the exact situation as you and the stress is killing me inside. I can't even take one small step towards starting even tho I know it's not that hard once I get it started. It feels so bad that I rather die than be in this situation.
@@maryamqa2117 If you're anything like me, it also gets better for you. It's a cycle that happens, we figure out something that pushes us just a bit to get on doing something and then when it becomes a habit after months of working, it stops working and we feel depressed and awful. Don't lose hope tho as with time, you'll figure out another way to push yourself and get back into the rhythm. I'm trying to find solutions for this cycle myself. Hope you do alright dude, take care!
lock up yourself in a room with your work material like your books or computer, but leave out your phone somewhere that's not in reach. Even if you dont wanna start right away, being away from distractions could somehow healp. I always leave my phone out for at least 30 mins and I eventually open my books out of boredom.
I really appreciate and enjoy the classic ted ed animation, the nuanced and carefully worded language through out the whole video, and the great content starting with a quote. Awesome work TED ED.
This has remained still in my "watching later" playlist for more than a year 😅 I had an intuition about most of it (I mean the origin and process of procrastination, even the solution for getting rid of it), though this will help for sure ; because it confirms what I was uncertain about and helps me forgiving myself. I'll work on it, I swear ... like, tomorrow in the morning ;)
I needed to hear this. I'm currently going through this cycle of procrastination and blaming myself for the bad results of not working. Even right now I'm putting off work just to comment on this video. But it's very timely for me. Thank you. Taking notes on the tips in this video and in the comments section. We can do this guys!
Yea most importantly, dont be too hard on yourself. Be kind, take a day off. And dont think that procrastinating today will ruin all the progress that you have done so far. So just start tomorrow again.
As someone who has struggled with procrastination, I can definitely relate to the cycle described in this video. It's easy to get caught up in avoiding a task that we find stressful or challenging, and before we know it, time has slipped away. It's interesting to learn that procrastination is actually a response to our body's attempt to protect us from a perceived threat. It's also important to note that not all procrastinators are lazy, and that some people procrastinate because they care too much and have a fear of failure. In terms of breaking the cycle of procrastination, I think the strategies mentioned in the video make a lot of sense. Breaking a task into smaller parts can make it feel more manageable and less overwhelming. Journaling about why a task is stressing us out can help us identify and address underlying concerns. And removing distractions can help us stay focused on the task at hand. But perhaps most importantly, we need to be kind and compassionate to ourselves, rather than beating ourselves up for procrastinating. By acknowledging our tendencies to procrastinate and making a plan to do better next time, we can start to break the cycle and feel more in control of our lives.
@@vibh20 almost all procrastinator know what's wrong with themselves, yet they still procrastinate... like me XD Before even watching the video, I knew exactly what I needed to do to improve myself and stop procrastinating, but I just couldn't motivate myself to be productive and do something else instead of watching a video whose content I already know.
@@XI_VII exactly! Us bro us, It's just that we had become soo lazy nd not only us but this whole generation, coz of the comfort of getting things done so easily through technology, nd now delaying things has become our routine💔 coz we don't want to endure pain of doing the task.
@@XI_VII So since your post here 3 months ago have you managed to stop procrastinating? And if so how did you start? For me it's been going on way to long (like years) and I can't seem to find the motivation anymore for the things (for which the list is a mile long) that I should be doing but instead find things that are time extreme time wasters.... like social media, TV and YT videos that are not productive... at all. Just the thought of starting anything (on the list) puts me in an extreme anxiety state. I know the clock is ticking and time will eventually run out (for all of us) but I just can't seem to get to that point to make myself do anything. Not only has the wind been taken out of my sails, the sails are gone now too sad to say. Breaking down the task and journaling are things I have tried but they didn't accomplish anything to say the least. My age and back pains have become a major factor too now so it makes it even worse. I am almost at the end my rope and hanging by a thread. Oh to be back in my 20's and know what I know now.
The amount of stress it gave in the beginning because it was speaking facts, and then it ended with putting a smile on my face. thankyou. i will remember these points and become a better person. peace. ♥
My perfectionism is definitely a major contributing factor of my procrastination. I feel like I've gotten a lot better about addressing this, and it's made a big difference.
This video perfectly explains the procrastination cycle! It's eye-opening to see how our brain interprets a simple deadline as a ‘threat’-no wonder we feel stuck!
This is so true, I always find that I'm less likely to procrastinate if I stop myself from overthinking and just start doing the task as soon as I realize I need to do it instead of dwelling and thinking about it. Its better to just not think at all and go for it then it's not so bad as I thought. While writing this, I'm actually procrastinating right now by watching this video instead of studying haha
I am a chronic procrastinator myself, I often find myself waiting for the right time and opportunity to complete the task, even though I know it is just going to pressurise me even more. But when I finally do the task I realize I could have done much better if I had started when I was busy waiting. I really hope this video can be a turning point to my procrastination. Here are some of the tips I learned and plan to implement.I hope the future readers might find it helpful. 1) You can prepare for the task by opening the tabs and making necessary adjustments whilst promising your brain you're not going to do it today. Intrestingly your brain doesn't count this one and it reduces the barrier energy you needed to get started tommorow . 2) Break down your gigantic task into tiny chunks, you just need to get started once you have done that rest of the task seems simpler and it gives you a positive feedback loop by releasing dopamine.Tell yourself you just need to get the 10% of you task done right now. 3)Don't be too hard on yourself, you are probably in a bad rut like I am. Once you get a few things done right you will be back to your best, in no time.Be compassionate to yourself and give multiple tries. 4)Once you get started it is important to make sure you don't get dragged back, therefore keep your distractions away.Especially social media, turn off your notifications and if possible keep your phone away. 5)Journalling your thoughts and feelings might help you think more clearly.( Like i am doing right now)
The video is really insightful and the animation is awesome as always! Here is what I learned from the video: We procrastinate because we have high levels of anxiety about the task, and we can relieve our anxiety by 1. Breaking the task into smaller pieces. 2. Journaling about our anxiety. 3. Minimize distractions. 4. Learning to accept and forgive ourselves, It's okay even if we don't meet our expectations.
As an emotionally dysregulated person (due to trauma), procrastination is my norm. I do better by analyzing why I procrastinate and breaking down a big project into manageable tasks. And yes, being kind to myself has been a deal-breaker. I tried having everything on a calendar and it didn't quite work for me -- Failing to meet my own deadlines made me sad, lol. Now I only keep track of tasks on a weekly basis. That way I can rearrange what I needed to do throughout the week without much pressure. Thank you for this video.
This video makes me want to cry because I'm facing huge struggles in academics and life because of procrastination, and this video resonates with me incredibly strongly. Thank you for this.
Wholesome and all but still doesn't change the fact that the quote in the beginning of this video is said by a member of the Watterson family. A family that loves to procrastinate, (if you watched the show) and something that i find incredibly ironic.
I’d just like to point out how the symptoms of “laziness” and depression happen to be exactly the same, but one is seen as a character flaw. I wouldn’t want people who procrastinate while in a depressed state think they are lazy just because they feel apathy toward the thing they are supposed to be doing. Apathy is a result of caring too much for too long, which floods the system and cuts off the emotional response buts leaves people feeling empty.
As a person with ADHD, procrastination isn’t the only thing that gets in the way of me doing things. Executive dysfunction sucks. I’m not just avoiding a task, it’s that I can’t start it at all. When faced with something I have to do, I just get stuck in place sometimes, not even able to do more minor tasks. I basically have to force myself to do things sometimes, and it feels like pushing a huge boulder. I’m working on it though, and my loved ones are very supportive and willing to help me find a place to start.
I have to complete video lectures but I am procrastinating them for 3 weeks so now it went from completing 5 to 12 lectures . I feel bad , make plans but can't start studying don't know scared of something and then push it down to next day . Also additional point if feels like it will reduce my enjoyment time but increases my pressure and I don't want to study daily . I hate why can't I be the old self who used to complete the work on the same day 😢
It feels like a warm hug when you say not all procrastinator is lazy. I barely have any energy to work and also feeling guilty. But the ending of this video seems like a new ray of hope. :)
at this point i have watched a lot of videos to stop procrastinating and about adhd,but i have still not stopped procrastinating i hope after typing these set of words and after clicking on the blue comment button,i somehow magically stop procrastinating and work towards my goals consistently i wish myself all the best for this,thank you god for everything you have given me
Another tip that can help a lot (at least for me): when you don’t feel like working, just do something that is not urgent and difficult at all but still somehow related to work like cleaning your desk, delete spams, mark emails that are important (don’t answer yet), create a list of things that you need to do…Once these easy tasks are done, I don’t know why but the feeling of proscrastination is already less intense and disappears eventually. So bottom line: just start doing something. Good luck. (I believe a lot of people struggle with this, especially on a Monday 😊)
@@Manisha_421 with pleasure. We are all humans after all 😊 It is also great to see a video that explains that this is actually quite « normal ». For a while I thought I was an exception so I had to come up with strategies to fight this feeling of procrastination. But that one is really the only one that works for me..Good luck !
Sadly for me I often seem to do this as part of the procrastination. I need to start a task but can't, so I clean and make endless lists, but always feel bad afterwards because it very rarely ends up with me starting on the task. I'm glad it works for you though! I think we all have to find the little tricks that work for us, and they can probably differ slightly from person to person, so thanks for sharing! 😊 But if I may ask, how do you transition from doing these task-adjacent non-urgent things to start working on the actual task?
Procrastination has become has a huge part of my life that now I cannot do anything without procrastinating. It is such a visious cycle of anxiety, stress and depression leading to agitated days through my bad life choices. I do wanna do better but still do not know how. Having ADHD doesn't help much either. Right now I have big work pending that I need to submit by 6am and it is nearly 2am and here I am
This is one of the most comforting videos I've ever seen, from the animation style to the message to the narrator. I have a huge end of highschool exam coming and I've been beating myself up for not feeling motivated enough to study and this video helped me to forgive myself and to take things one step at a time
This exactly is the video I've been looking for. I always in a repeated cycle of procrastinate that I don't even notice. I thought I was lazy all the time, yet I did a lot on easy things that I love the most. Thus, the video broke down all of anxiety on my mind and showed me I'm not lazy all, I just need to slow down, plan the tasks properly and take them easily.
I feel so vindicated because whenever I say I have trouble with procrastination everyone's first response is that I just need to schedule everything and stick to it, but that really just makes me more stressed out and depressed when I deviate from it even slightly, whereas I feel like If I did the journaling suggestion I would've been able to cope much better, and I'm gonna try to use it in the future
two impactful solutions for a simple yet complicated problem. 1. breaking a task into smaller elements 2. journaling about why the task is stressing you out 4:50
“Done is better than perfect”. Lots of times I procrastinate things that I fear I’ll be bad at, but getting it done is better than waiting and waiting until conditions are “perfect” (which will never happen!).
I don't usually comment on stuff but oh my god😭 I've never felt so understood. Thank you very much for this. I am now a graduating senior high school student, before the pandemic I was on grade 9. The pandemic had been rough on me. I am a consistent honor student since pre-school, I never struggled with deadlines and stuff, I am what they once calle a bright and bubbly child. I always do things because I need to do it and I did not impose any expectations on myself in any of it. But the pandemic was rough, we had to do distance learning which was really really really hard (plus, a lot of personal issues happened on those years). Suddenly, studying is hard, especially I struggled with self-learning and low income. Everything is out of control. I can't even explain it properly. I was never a procastinator, everything just started to fall apart. When I opened it up on others even to my teachers, all of them told me I was being lazy and I need to learn time management. I tried that, I researched about it, but nothing worked, it only got worse. I knew there was something wrong about their "advice" but they made me believe it's all my fault and I'm procrastinating because I'm lazy and irresponsible. This video is just-✨ I have never felt so understood, I am crying right now. Thank you very much. I can never express how thankful I am. I want to give y'all a hug.😭
This was lovely. I want to watch this video every month as a reminder. In my case procrastination definitely comes from caring far too much about the outcome but to others it looks like the exact opposite. That layers even more anxiety and shame as I’m afraid of how others view me on top of dreading failure at the task
Dude this hit my core. I’ve been in high grade depression for the last couple weeks and basically non functional at this point and I have been procrastinating like crazy putting things off .
Wow, this morning I was wondering why did I suddenly started procrastinating, and here I found this notification calling me from TED " why do you procrastinate even when it feels bad" it's like you read my mind lol. Thank you
This could not have come at a better time. I'm getting close to 21, and I still struggle with this like I did *all the way back* when I was 7, give or take a year. I either never thought or forgot that heavy assignments trigger *fear* responses as opposed to just stress. I am getting professional help on this matter, and I am *definitely* bringing this up with them when I get the chance.
@@whoreslayer Minecraft *itself* has nothing to do with this. If you're trying to make a joke, it just led me to think that you don't take this seriously. However much of the internet may be jokes, *there is serious business here.*
I was a diligent student back then but I started to procrastinate since I was in my 2nd year in college. One of the biggest reason was because I started to get busy. I got a lot of tasks (including practicum, homeworks, and organization stuff). I was so overwhelmed. I expected to do everything perfectly (like how I did before and I always got straight A) but actually I couldn't. At that time, I was mentally unstable too. That's why I gave up and did a lot of unimportant things instead. Now I want to stop procrastinating. I wish my condition will be better.
@@1commonplace519 Thanks. I just checked that channel out. It looks very good. Can you recommend any specific videos on that channel to do with this subject please?
Hit the nail on the head about anxiety. Once I figured out that connection, I came up with a mind hack that keeps me from procrastinating. I mentally let go so that there's no anxiety and fall into action, just focusing on keeping my mind clear and letting my body complete the task.
I've found the 2 minute rule very helpful. We can all do most things for two minutes. If I'm really struggling to get started I will say to myself, just be ok with focusing on it for 2 minutes. Once 2 minutes is up I go and do something else like get some water and usually find I now have the motivation to return to the thing I was putting off for longer.
A tip I can give is to look into urge surfing. It's a mindfulness/meditation technique based on the idea of observing when you have the urge or feeling to avoid doing the task you need to do, and to just sit with that feeling until it dissipates (usually fairly quickly, on the scale of a few minutes at most in my experience). Once that feeling has dissipated, the task often feels nowhere near as scary, and I can "let my prefrontal cortex regain control", so to speak.
I can definitely relate to the perfectionism-driven procrastination and I actually love the tools and mindset changes explained at the end of this video because without just saying “look I’m gonna do what I have to do to produce the best work I can in the moment I’m in and then be okay with whatever result I land on, because I know I will always have somewhere to grow and improve toward,” I simply won’t start. And by the end I’m actually really pleased with my work and find the process to be so much better than I expected it to be in the procrastination.
This is so on point. I go through bouts of serious procrastination, to the point I can't even respond to an email. It is my anxiety and depression that amplifies this, and I would say is the main cause of it. My procrastination is a way of looking for comfort. I am making steps to overcome my depression and this is helping me to have the energy and confidence to face up to tasks and feel lighter. Find help with your mental health and you will hopefully have the tools to do the job. Look after yourselves everyone x
Thank you so much for this video. This really means a lot for me 🥺🙏🏼 I have turned into a chronic procastinator for the past 4 years and suffering huge consequences cause of it😔
ive a procrastinator and its been extremely stressfull. Thanks for puttig this together and remiding us to forgive ourselves, that is really important!
If you want to procrastinate less and concentrate better on working you can study with me here. Instead of watching videos on youtube you can have a video of me studying and keeping you company, so you don't get distracted. You can make youtube into something useful instead of a distraction. I study for 1-3 hours with breaks in between while I keep you company If you're interested, feel free to work with study videos of mine Hopefully it will be useful for you...
I'm writing a report on Procrastination and Perfection for school, and this video is very helpful! It was also really assuring to me personally because I always struggle with the procrastination/stress cycle, and I feel like this video gave me the knowledge to help myself... cheesy, I know, but very true. And to all of you who are trying their best, you got this! I believe in you!☺
Important thing to note here is the difference between procrastination and avoidance which is common in anxiety-related disorders and OCD. Avoidance could pertain to phobias, for example social anxiety thereby leading to isolation and further social impairment. Procrastination is more of a generalized term that doesn’t always encompass the underlying emotions that cause it in the first place. Avoidance is basically a coping mechanism to deal with difficult emotions. It is extremely detrimental and often complicates your life more, creating a self-sabotaging spiral. If it’s ADHD then this video will probably suffice. If it’s related to depression, anxiety, or OCD then consider the complex emotions involved. If you have all of these like me then try to figure out the crux of why you aren’t completing your work. Maybe try doing work in order to come to a conclusion about why you aren’t doing it.
As someone with ADHD I don’t really thing this video will ‘suffice’ as it doesn’t go into detail about how executive dysfunction plays a massive role in preventing individuals with ADHD from even starting a task no matter what it is whether it be work or doing something that you enjoy. On top of that people rarely discuss the anxiety, depression and other associated mental health issues that come from having ADHD that also play a role in preventing us from being able to literally do anything a lot of the time along with the executive dysfunction and the brain fog. With ADHD you also have to consider the complex emotions involved with it as it also comes with a dose of societal shame as people brand us as lazy even though we are trying our hardest.
I learn to apologize to my self for being too hard on my self. I also learn to forgive my self for the procrastination behavior that I did before. I actually feel good right now. I tell my self that I just need to finish doing whatever I do, that's it. I don't need to be perfect, just finish it. It helps me to ease the tension and even helps me to finish my work faster and even with a better result.
As a chronic procrastinator myself, I’ve seen many videos on procrastination. This one brings in all the real reasons together in a very watchable and smaller format. Please go ahead and send this to fellow procrastinators, they need to feel validated.
The fact that this video was on my “watch later” playlist for months is the greatest irony.
That was the message that the video isn't just relevant for you neither the message of the video.
Is it good? It's still on mine
I'm procrastinating, so I don't have to watch the video. In fact, I'll go now.
it was on mine for one day and I'm proud I watched it now
@@jankisi Oooo look at Mr Productive over here
A big tip I can give to fellow procrastinators: The first step I always do is promise myself I WON'T work on it that day and ONLY do all preparation for it without actually starting work, so getting everything I need ready, opening up tabs that I need to get the job done and planning out exactly what needs to be done to get it finished. Usually when I have it all laid out in front of me like that suddenly the task looks very small and manageable, the urge to procrastinate evaporates and I get the job done. I still struggle sometimes but this trick has eliminated about 80% of my procrastination times. Somehow by promising yourself you won't do the work and merely prepare you can do it because "it doesn't count" to your brain.
Hold on, let us write this down ✏
Good for you, but it doesn't work for me somehow. I don't even start to work. That's my problem.
You ate playing a mind game and trucking yourself to do something you don't wanna do, that's genius amd so funny
@@TEDEd Even ted replied
Write this down guys
This works for me sometimes when it's a medium sized task and a bit short term task. For long term tasks making preparation and opening tabs is a difficult and not so useful thing
I like how procrastination was an even bigger concern than a bear attack that even the bear sat down to comfort and help out
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😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣 you can't eat depressed food.
The bear procrastinated its attack...
bear propGANDA
I procrastinate even with things I like to do, like drawing and reading
i have trouble with that too, with books my bad feeling is that i will have to re read lots of times cause i wont be able to understand it and will feel frustrated and with drawings the fear is that the drawing wont be good despite all the time i put into it
Fr I love drawing,I used to draw like crazy a couple of years ago and then I just reduced my time doing it despite loving the feeling
Yes, for me as soon as it becomes an obligation, somethin I have to do, especially if i is expected from me by others, I can no longer do it. If my favourite thing is required from me I suddenly hate it.
Same here. I love reading romance online, but I don’t do that now. Those posts and reels are really catching my eyes🤦♀
@@SOV3r3IGN i relate so much. i never seen anybody else struggle with this.
I'm procrastinating by watching this video
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It's important to remember that we might procrastinate doing tasks we enjoy too. As an artist/producer music is my life, but I find myself procrastinating because I'm often feeling like I'm going to "fail", even though there is nothing to fail at. It's a tight rope to walk on, but I'm getting better at it.
Omg same I have so many plans(coding tho) and I love it so much but I can't get myself to do the work like I'm scared to fail so instead of practicing and like enjoying it I just end up overthinking and procrastinating💀
I guess might as well join the puddle, even i i draw for myself, perfectionism which fuels my procrastination like crazy stops me from enjoying it and fearing that I will fail and everyone will laugh at me or strictly criticize what i did
glad im not alone in this
i love that someone wrote about this! i am a writer/poet and that's a big part of my identity as an artist/creator. my work has been published by quality publications and my professors have greatly complimented my academic writing and used it as examples for other classes. but as an artist, when something doesn't turn out exactly perfect, even if it's only for me, i'm mortified and disgusted by it, because i know i have done better and could do better and other people have done better, etc, etc, etc. being an artist is just agony. i hope you are able to free yourself from your own expectations--i'm working on that in my life as well.
@@ablot3383 Being a perfectionist is agony, people think it's a false defect you say to look smart on your resume, but it just makes you unable to relax and to appreciate most things, and none that you made unless others compliment it. (the worst is when people keep complimenting things you think you made poorly and you start not giving value to their opinions, any opinions, but I hope that's just a me-thing lol - in any case beware of that trope - working on it too, good luck!)
The fact that I procrastinated watching this video for a year out of fear of feeling judged by its contents is quite telling. Thanks for helping me understand myself better :)
I've had this tab open for weeks and finally got thru it
Commenting to remind u to stop procrastinating. Maybe you’ll put off reading this comment 😂
@@InbredSpanishKing bruhhhh 😭🤣 I’m working I promise
Literalmente ese yo,suelo procrastinar muchas cosas,y eso incluye videos como este,con los que me puedo enfrentar a la verdad y tal vez miedo a sentirme juzgado como dices...
@@pardo9025 entiendo lo que sientas exactamente, tengo un poco miedo cada vez que tengo que enfrentar que soy procrastinador...pero nunca se amejorara la situacion si no nos podemos perdonar a nosotros mismos ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
1. Break the task into smaller categories
2. Journal your thoughts on why you feel stressed to do the task
3. Reduce distractions
4. Forgive yourself because you can do better next time
thanks a lot man XD
People who only do the fourth step: 📈
That saves me some time: I don't need to watch the video, because I've heard all those and am not going to do any of them.
@@timl.b.2095you should watch it
ill just do this later
Judging by the title, this video is entirely tailored for me and others like me, I'm at that point where I can procrastinate and not even feel a thing, and the reason why I feel bad isn't because I procrastinate but because I don't feel bad for procrastinating, it's like I've given up on myself
Be careful bro that's how I ended up in servere bout of depression.
This describes me so well it hurts
You are really brave to write that to so many people, it just what's happening with me and i couldn't even think of writing this to do many people 🫡
I've got an assignment due today and I'm barely half way there. And I'm watching this video. This is saying something.
I'm in touch with that non-feeling feeling.
There's a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques you can attract almost everything in life. It's not some nonsense law of attraction, it's the real deal.
you have 2.5k likes and probably don’t even know it!
That sounds ironic because you mentioned the word "attract" yet you said it's not some "nonsense law of attraction" 🤔 And for the records, the law of attraction worked for me so it's up to you to believe it's legit or not.
Can you share the author please. I can’t seem to find the book
Scam
Not a real book
"Many people procrastinate..because they care too much."
This line really hit me like a ton of bricks
Same here😬
Read this comment right before the line was spoken
I relate too. I struggle with low self esteem and anxiety, and I care too much about stuff. To escape it, I procrastinate, which leads to a whole lot of guilt.
Oddly enough, low amounts of thc really helped me. It stopped me from constantly feeling horrible feelings of incompetence or stress when working, and I managed to study 6 hours, and 6 hours another day after work. That being said, don’t recommend, I hear it’s bad for memory retention (and especially bad for those under 25) - not to mention the possibility of psychosis, especially for those predisposed to it. It works differently on everyone, for me it helps on stressful study nights.
that's so true, I started writing and didn't stop untill I made some chapters, then, the next days I felt weird, I felt that I needed to keep writing but kept getting distracted, when I heard that line on this video i thought directly of what was happening to me.
Some additional tips for fellow procrastinators:
1. Promise yourself you’ll only do 5mins of the work which makes it less intimidating
2. Reward yourself for any work done so you associate it with positive feelings
3. Remind yourself putting something off till the end of the day, ruins the whole day and you still have the task to do, whereas doing the task first thing, means you get the task out the way and have the rest of the day to yourself.
4. Remind yourself that the act of avoiding / procrastinating often takes as much energy as the task itself - but with none of the reward/ achievement.
5. A big one is ask for help - it’s amazing how much easier it is to focus when someone helps you figure out what to do first / next.
6. Don’t be afraid to be mediocre. We all have to create something rough and ready before we polish it into something better.
7. Balance studies/ tasks with exercise - moving your body releases tension and anxiety and helps the mind wake up, focus and concentrate.
8. Remember things are always worse / more difficult/ take longer in your imagination/ mind - in real life, it’s usually easier.
9. If, after you’ve broken the task down, each piece still feels too big, break it down further.
10. Look out for your mind wondering and don’t let it get side-tracked by other little thoughts; doing a 2month course of mindfulness meditation alongside studies can calm the mind, lessen anxiety and focus your thoughts on what you want to achieve.
11. Anxiety / fear is a big aspect of procrastination. Remember procrastination is avoidance, you could Google free self-help guides for anxiety and employ some tips and ideas. The less anxious you feel, the less you’ll have the urge to avoid/ procrastinate.
Thank you for the super useful tips.
It's really helpful 🙃🤝
Imma comment on this for future reference
big on the number 4
Thanks for the tips
I procrastinated an entire semester. I told the TAG teacher I wanted to do an independent study in history. I did close to nothing. Over the weeks, and months, I grew more and more stressed. So much stress came to me, I had nightmares every night, my anxiety grew through the roof, and I developed suicidal tendencies. Even now thinking about it I get dizzy, dissoriented, depressed. Never apalogized to the teacher, in fact I never spoke to him again.
It is probably worth noting how many people have done exactly that in their studying lives!
Worth forgiving yourself and having a smile.😁
I, personally dropped out in my second year of early college, and it was traumatic at the time....but so many don't even try. I am much older now and know my limitations and gifts better.
The important thing to note is that it was clearly a way of study that didn't work for your particular mind/ body, certainly at this time in your life.
We live and we learn.
This video was really interesting about how the nervous system goes on high alert and tries to comfort by distracting, then it becomes unproductive, and can make us unwell.
So helpful to know.
I wonder if you have a cat or a dog to cuddle to help settle your nervous system. Or a lovely garden or space you can visit. Or an easy going friend.
I did want to say, I highly recommend writing (possibly just a short handwritten note if easier) a very short straight to the point note to the teacher saying you just found you could not do it, and thank them for their time.
IT WILL REALLY RELEASE any guilt you feel. It really is not the end of the world and these teachers will have had all these things happen before.
If you want to give more feedback, you can explain how you became stressed and other specifics you felt may have helped or struggled with etc.
This is because the teacher may also need some good feedback to either assess how it went from their side, their possible weaknessess and if that delivery was functional or not. It may not suit anyone, doing it like that.
Take care! And enjoy your history studies...always interesting. My Uncle was a history professor for 30 years and wrote many books, and I think was an excellent teacher too.
Same like you
@@kinglucos5146 ...Here,
a better version of this here: "The Future and Past
of WORK" by 'Some More News'.
Same! My stress culminated into psychosis and panic attacks 😓 woops 😅
exactly this happens to me. all throughout my college life until now, Ive always been a really bad procrastinator and my gpa would show for it. I get stressed about the workload and how it would always remind me how i was almost kicked out of college and lost my scholarship due to my poor gpa... I still have anxiety from my mind automatically thinking about it and im still a chronic procrastinator, but like with everything, all your actions are made because theyre habits and slowly I am fixing it :)
This was so validating and encouraging for a chronic procrastinator like me. Especially the part that mentions that you should have self-compassion and forgive yourself. Everyone knows that doing stuff last minute or submitting work in a delay isn't acceptable or even practical. So there is no need to try to "remind" people who procrastinate how "lazy" they are for not doing their tasks. Because we know, and because we are very aware of that and actually care too much about that, it feels even worse. You don't need to beat me up for my procrastination, I already beat myself up the whole time.
It felt like I was heard, and it felt so warm to my sweet lil' heart.
Procrastination is just a stress response. I find work that makes me doubt myself is work that I save to the very bitter end. Converging into a panic attack when I finally force myself to do it.
So I wait, in hopes my skill will improve ever slightly. Maybe just a passing comment or some sudden understanding will finally help me.
I hate your comment. It makes ME feel worse.
Yeah, I discovered that "lazy" is just a deregatory term used when people don't understand why you're not doing something.
If you start asking questions about the meaning of "lazy" then it just falls apart. It's just a mirage, laziness doesn't exist.
Exactly. A lot of people assume procrastination is cause by people preferring instant gratification, but for me it's running away from a load of anxiety and fear. In school I was always expected to be the best, to do perfectly from first try. If I failed, I was always punished for "not really trying". Even though I realize this is impossible and unhealthy, I feel shame for not living up to perfection every single time. When I expect to fail multiple times before I succeed, it's like having something terrifying looming on the horizon and I put the task off as long as I can. When I eventually start doing it, I feel as if I'm being punched in a face each time I do something imperfectly. The worst thing is, it's preventing me from even getting started on my dreams, since dreams don't have deadlines to make me start and there's even more at stakes in case of failure.
I feel totally identified with your comment.
I can relate. 😬 I seem to have an excuse every time. Whether it's valid one or not it doesn't matter.
gifted kid burnout goes hard. i'm in the same boat, can't stop procrastinating even though it makes me hate myself so much.
I have changed quite a bit since I wrote this comment. If there's anything I would say to myself in the past, it's love yourself. Beating yourself up is counterproductive, because you tend to work worse, not better, when stressed. Allow yourself to make mistakes, because they are essential to learning. Expecting to get everything the first try is unrealistic, just read the stories of initial failures of people who are considered successful, or ask a professional about how they learned.
Whenever you catch yourself saying mean things to yourself, stop. And if you think you deserve to be treated badly for whatever reason (which I never did tho), 1. you're wrong, 2. go to the therapist to explain you why you're wrong.
@@afriendlyfox It would be interesting to know if the pandemic has had anything to do with how we have become more of a procrastinator. For certain not being allowed to do some of the things we did before, like social gatherings for instance, which has turned some of us into the world of depression. And once you get into that mind set it makes it really hard to do anything else. Especially when you are trying start something you have been putting off which seems like a lifetime. Everyone has their own story of how they got to this point and my wish is for all of us procrastinators to find help, whether it is by watching these RUclips videos or by attending professional therapy sessions, that we find the courage and the strength to begin so we can get better and get us out of this state that we are all in. With change comes opportunity.
I think what's more disturbing to me, is that procrastination seems to be on the rise, both in student academia and the working world. It makes me wonder if our biology is really cut up for the world that we've made and is much too complex such that it's making us depressed and mentally exhausted. Food for thought
We really arent cut out for capitalism i just want to pet cats and gather berries fr
absolutely. We're also living double as long as we used to.
The Internet in general, social Media, Gaming and the overall entertainment industry are all things which are hard to make sense of for our brains. There are so many products and services designed to be as addictive as possible, that choosing a task which only offers delayed gratification (if any) in favor of something triggering that response immideately requires insane amounts of self control
I think it can be attributed also to the fact that as our (humanity's) average IQ keeps increasing, our day to day tasks are also going on increasing in difficulty be it the education curriculum, or job tasks
That could be why procrastination is also rising as competition and difficulty is rising
I've been thinking that exact same thing for the past few weeks, that human beings just aren't meant to be juggling this much at once!
the most annoying thing about procrastination, at least for me, is that it works. at the end of the day, or in this case, deadline, you still get it done no matter the stress. it's literally what unconsciously motivates me to keep procrastinating because eventually, it'll be done.
I survived college and many things by doing this but now that there are no deadlines, no imposed time limit, that I have to set everything up by myself, I'm just lost and frozen
That's what got me through university. When deadlines get too close, an intense guilt & fear washes over me whenever I procrastinate. It's like my brain realizes I don't even have a minute to spare. I stay awake working hard all through the night... after having wasted my afternoon/evening procrastinating.
I procrastinate and sometimes, things don't get done. And the reason why I procrastinate is that my brain automatically thinks about all my bad experiences when I do a task that takes a good 3 hours one sitting and it was exhausting even though I'm actually enjoying it.
Yeah, even worse: I have a pretty good estimate how far I can procrastinate and still somehow make the deadline.
Getting it done and getting it done well are totally different. You never live up to your full potential as a chronic procrastinator and that's the most frustrating part. At the end of it you always wish for a time machine, wonder why you couldn't have started earlier, etc.
Not to mention all the late nights taking years off your life. The data on sleep deprivation is scary.
why did I almost tear up at the end? I've always felt guilty for procrastinating and I think hearing the reason why people do this, despite knowing the consequences, its very comforting.
Because we live in an era with little in the way of compassion? For instance, I’m rather self critical and have rarely if ever lived up to my own unrealistic expectations.
same, i have a math exam tomorrow, and i'm still on my laptop
reaall im too empathic for this
🫂
Same 🥺
When the video said " People tend to procrastinate due to their high standards and fear of failing", oh my god ! I'm actually studying for my finals rn and i really wanna come first in the class. I need to study hard now as i studied the whole year but surprisingly i can find myself procrastinating in this crucial period. I guess my high standards have been the reason and imma fix that. Thank you.
dunno if they've passed already but good luck! 👍
omg you just explain exactly what ive been trying to figure out about myself. I wanna come first in class too and i work hard the whole year but towards the end i find myself stuggling to open my books. it felt nice knowing theres someone going through the same thing as me.
“Many procrastinate…because they care too much” How true can this be? I’m a perfectionist and a procrastinator that can’t ever get out this vicious cycle of self loathing and unhappiness.
God fuckin same
Saw this notification while procrastinating again 😂😂@@bluedash24
I have a tip I learned from a study youtuber called fayefilms...
Basically, instead of setting the amount of time you want to work on something, like "i will do this and that for 2 hours after work/school" set the time LIMIT for how long you can work on it. It helps you to actually start and reduce the overwhelming dread.
For me, if I just tell myself "I'm going to study this subject that i hate with a passion tomorrow morning" chances are 1. i don't do it 2. I do it VERY inefficiently since i'm forcing myself and I wanna do perfect. Setting the *max* amount of time you can spend on the task is the best middle ground for me😊
@@tortillachips-nn8djThank You for the tip ❤ I'll try this
Hi! I'm having a hard time understanding this concept. Could you please give me an example? I'd be so grateful @@tortillachips-nn8dj 🙌
here are some things that genuinely helped me to stop procrastinating and hoping it helps the readers too-
1) dont add too many tasks to ur day. always prioritise ur tasks, always mark that one task that u really have to do today...the rest will follow
2) dont schedule everything. leave some time and space between each task to move around and talk to people or rest. (or anything u like) scheduling every minute of the day really made me anxious.
3) keep ur workspace clean, make it attractive and calming space for u ( i keep my workspace as tidy and minimalistic as i can so im not overwhelmed)
4) dont pile up ur tasks, dedicate some hrs to study after school/college
one major giveaway is i used to add too many tasks on my to do list and i NEVER got everything done ever. yet i woke up next day and did the same thing again. break down ur task in simple chunks to make it less threatening. let me know if any of these helped you because they really changed my life :)
As a recovering procrastinator myself, I can confirm these are great idea (though I always put off tidying my workspace). The idea of keeping to-do lists down to something achievable today is a very good one that I found works well. Start with one simple one that you know you can get done (like answering a simple email, e.g. 'Sure, I'll be there') and you're on your way.
I dunno what this is but I used to procrastinate by watching youtube videos instead of writing the document that I need to be working on but ever since I got another monitor for my pc I have been finishing my work everyday becasue I watch those yt videos on another monitor while working. What I believe is we procrastinate becasue there is no fun involved in the task so when we need add a passive "fun" task to the important one you will work faster.
@@knaditya8228 yeah i fully agree.. although my i cannot afford multitasking (its a bad idea) i always try to make my studies more fun, i add breaks in between so im not exhausting. im preparing for an exam right now and it included me studying for 10-12 hrs a day..its absolutely exhausting and its a very lonely process but im hoping this will pay off in the end
@@quratulaiiin I wish you best of luck!
U wrote points which are extremely true, doesn't look like from a book at all !
I am seriously not being sarcastic (my text might sound like that) .
U have actually been through this and it gives me a hope for myself as well .
Thank You 🙏🏼
I procrastinate literally everything, even things I enjoy doing. This has led to me avoiding the things I used to be inseperable from. At this point, I always look for any excuse to put anything off.
Same ☹️
You got this!
Just don't be mad about your past-self. You cannot control or change that. You can only control whats ahead and the earlier you stop being mad at yourself, the earlier you can use this energy to break the circle! Good luck. PS: I am struggling too!
Are you me
the best excuse i have is "I still have time"
@@nikolaitishkov blink and that time's passed, act now
9 months since i made that comment, done nothing but procrastinate the whole time, i'm now significantly worse off for it. dont make my mistake
Sometimes it feels even harder to stop procrastinating when it’s a project with no deadline. Now I’ve finished university, trying to still make films when it’s all on me to set myself tasks and a finish date.
I know how you feel.
"Procrastinators report a high fear of failure"
God this is me to an absolute t. School and parents always made me so damn afraid of failing anything.
As a high schooler too, I agree.
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Dat profile pic tho 💀
for me it's not even school and parents, I have just set the standards too high for myself and when I don't achieve them it makes me even more scared and self doubt kicks in
same!! my teachers used to be so strict, now i'm even putting pressure on myself ...
This is beautiful. I heard somewhere once: negotiate with yourself like someone you love when carrying out a task instead of forcing yourself like someone you hate.
wow this is actually very helpfull
I wish I did this before I dropped college 😗
Wow I'm probably going to use this one a lot. Thank you!
Dang, I feel like crying when I saw this
Wow. Thanks.
That last part about cultivating self-compassion helped make me feel better. I procrastinate due to anxiety and fear. It's really my setting of high standards for myself that paralyzes me in the actual doing.
Omg... That the same thing with me too.
"It's really my setting of high standards for myself that paralyzes me in the actual doing."
This hit me hard. I often punish myself of not watching my fave shows to trick myself that i'm being productive, but in reality, i'm really not. It also has paralyzed and keeps on paralyzing me for years up to now. I guess i'm going back to the reward system technique because being strict to myself is not helping at all.
This is me. I totally understand you. The fear of failure is strong enough to make me do nothing at all.
Nobody is harsher on ourselves than us. I wish we could be kinder to ourselves.
you just described my life
I'm a perfectionist AND a procrastinator. It's an endless cycle. I wonder how other people do the things I stress so much on very seamlessly.
Biggest takeaway procrastinating the task actually makes it seem much more fearful than it really is!
Not really some exams are as hard and scary as they feel 😃😭
@@_ashmason007 yea right ?
TED-Ed is like that friend who we ignore first by scrolling down but come back to them afterwards because the topic somehow bothers our own soul
exactly!
omg I felt the same way lol
hahaha why do i think of INFJs in MBTI reading your comment
Procrastinating is one of the worst habits and sadly it's not easy to break.
Everyone who is trying, good luck! 💪🏻
Thank you
Thank you
❤
Thanks!😊
@@knowhowtodo Well, it's actually NOT a 'habit', but a condition. Habits are acquired, we're BORN this way. You've understood nothing. Thanks for the kind words but you're wrong.
Convincing yourself that you’ve already procrastinated for too long and that you’re already screwed also works
Works for countering procrastinating?
lit what i do: ok then i'll just write smth down and give up and get a B on homework i guess
Might work in the short term, but does nothing for motivation and breaking that procrastination cycle in the long term.
Id be like, you've already procrastinated, just a lil more, a bit more.... Woah you've already wasted so much, it doesn't matter anymore, start over tomorrow...
This is my daily routine
@@Becca-lh7mrBetter than nothing.
I procrastinated a lot in my college, to the point all my classmates and teachers knew that they can never expect any assignment on time from me. However hard I tried, i could never bring myself to complete the task and over time I got so used to it that I stopped caring about the assignments all together.
I do regret those times and wish I could've done better
Oh it's always the worst when the task is timed . You want to do it, but you don't, and end up doing it when it's too late. Recently I had the whole week to finish an assignment , but I only did it at 3 am in the morning right before it was due for school. I did that so much that I felt too much self doubt .
You are far from alone, I believe the majority of the human race procrastinates to one degree or another!
Don't feel bad or guilty, just remember that today is a new day, this hour is a new hour, heck the next 5 minutes are another opportunity. Look forward and no guilt about the past!
Good luck, hope this helps even if it is just one bit!
God Bless!
tm i procrastinated soo much that they set up a catch up class so I could do the assignments there, yet I just sacked it all off n decided to drop out cos I knew I wouldn't get it done in time for grading
For me there was only two option:
Done it
Or never do it
It was a bad habit (my professor said) because if there was 10 assignment, I will only do 7 and ignore the three so I can get C to pass the subject.
(Yes, Im not willing to get an A. Just flat C)
As the video says, forgive yourself or that becomes a trigger for even more downer and hindrance to things today.
1) A note on breaking tasks into smaller parts; sometimes this just leads to having an overwhelming number of small tasks that you need to do, and the wall of motivation is still too large to climb. Focus instead on the next three small steps: open your computer, open the project document, and copy relevant assignment information into the document for reference. Celebrate your success in completing that set of three tasks, then plan what your next three tasks will be. Having a separate list of just the basic large steps can be helpful as a general guide and making sure you don’t forget anything though.
2) Since research isn’t a straightforward process, task based goals may be frustrating (ex: find 3 good sources, or: find a specific number to back up your argument). Time-based goals will give a better sense of achievement to keep you feeling positive and motivated (ex: research about this topic for 30 minutes).
3) If you need to interrupt a project (eating, sleeping, etc.), leave yourself some notes on what you were thinking or what step you were going to take next so your brain has a breadcrumb trail to try to get back into the flow of things with later. I do this a lot to prevent writers block; whenever I finish a chapter or section, I always leave myself some notes or sentences for the next part, that way I don’t have a blank page to look at when I next try to tackle the thing.
This was really helpful, thanks for sharing
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oh that third tip is genius
My brain is shockingly good at breaking a task I don’t want to do, like washing the dishes, into dozens of tiny steps, which become overwhelming. Meanwhile, I never think of all the tiny, time consuming tasks involved in getting somewhere on time, resulting in chronic tardiness. It actually offends me that certain tasks take as long as they do, like how can walking to my car and getting in take a whole minute? How does it take two minutes to put my shoes on?
i need this. thanks!
You actually addressed my biggest hurdle overwhelm. I get overwhelmed super easily which is why an ever extending to do list hasn't worked for me ever. I've found Scrum or Kanban also can help cause it isn't stagnant and you don't have to scan the whole list every time. You have a to do, doing and done column with post its that you can change/move around accordingly. It shows you progress and it feels great having not only tasks that you still have to do visible but also what you already did accomplish.
Could not have come at a better time, I'm literally procrastinating right now. Thanks Ted-Ed
same
Same here
Same here
Its 1 am in the morning in hk
Im supposed to do revision for my quiz
Ehhhh
Imma watch this vid first
The algorithms know! ;)
I procrastinate so much that I added this video to my watch later playlist
If you want to procrastinate less and concentrate better on working you can study with me here.
Instead of watching videos on youtube you can have a video of me studying and keeping you company, so you don't get distracted. You can make youtube into something useful instead of a distraction.
I study for 1-3 hours with breaks in between while I keep you company
If you're interested, feel free to work with study videos of mine
Hopefully it will be useful for you...
The thing about being afraid the task won't live up to your expectations took me back to English writing assignments. I used to procrastinate doing the writings as much as I could because I wanted them to turn out perfect. When I saw one of my classmates doing his, I was really shocked. He looked aloof. He, also, wasn't distracting himself every single second. He finished it fast. Yeah, my writings were better than his, at least according to our class teacher, but I really wished I could do them as fast and as stress-free.
Oh, my... This is me too!
This is EXACTLY what I feel as well.
Used to happen with me too while making projects for the school. Always found people way cooler who would finish things on time though not up to the mark, but were not stressed like me.
SAME i want it to be perfect so i just...dont do it
Perfectionism paired with procrastination is a aweful feeling
I read recently that it's easier to edit a poor document and improve it, than to write a great one straightaway.
These videos aren't just extremely informative, they're also insanely well animated!
Yes, I agree about the animation.
In my opinion, every character looks creepy.
@@answerman9933true XD, except the bear :3
Yes, and the voice of the speaker is just amazing
Totally
the fact that this video came up in the exact moment i was thinking about how badly i procrastinated today
I feel like YT algorithm recommends such videos so fast to those who have been refreshing their feed a lil bit too much. I know it did to me.
literally me I procrastinated this whole week and have a huge test in a few weeks 😬
I spend most of every day procrastinating and feeling bad about ir. So, at least in my case it feels like a low bar for the YT algo to get this one right! Ha. 😐
The value/message of this video should NOT be underestimated - this describes exactly how 'most' people (myself included) think and make decisions about themselves.
Don't remember quite where I heard this, but "Anything worth doing is worth doing badly" reminds me of this. Of course we never want to do something poorly, but doing it at all is often more beneficial than just not doing it, and our perception of how daunting something is turns more into training when you allow yourself to fail but at least tried, even if you think you can't do it to your own standards.
I thought the quote was (originally french): " Anything worth doing is worth doing well".
Me: puts video to watch later
society said/says: if your job is done badly, it's better to not do it
also society said/says: if (one of) your job worths nothing, you're absolutely worthless.
*wait society never said those, why are those a thought?*
Hey, thanks! I think that just might have helped me somehow.
„Done is better than perfect“ is my new mantra. It helped me with my procrastination depending on the task.
Now that I’m writing my bachelors thesis it’s difficult because I need a good grade. But for most everyday things it really helps
Doing something is better than doing nothing
I think my brain works better under pressure, especially during university I always did my assignments a day or few days before it’s due. Procrastination was seriously my enemy whenever I tried to do any work ahead of schedule. That adrenaline I get hours before the deadline would kick in and I managed to pass all of my assignments. I know my life would be easier to get it done in advance but I just couldn’t
Same here. When I do stuff ahead of schedule, often find myself doing things about three times as slowly, and I seem to make very little progress on the project. A pressing deadline puts things sharply in perspective and prevents time-wasting, but it’s often highly stressful.
Highly true. I am more likely to study for a test/ exam a day before, rather than a week before. I have tried many times, but I found that I do it better while under pressure. Now, that is starting to make me worried, because I have a big exam coming up, and I feel that I wouldn't be able to reach my target because of that. Any suggestions? (I would have gone to quora for this question, but I would have started procastinating there ;-;)
U aren't alone
same dude, 1 month bef exams I do next to nothing but 1 week before I am so productive that I can do 2 chapters in a single day, idk why but this seems bad as I think I might forget whatever I have done as you know I didnt gave enogh time to it, its really confusing
I have exactly the same problem
I’m mind blown that I can literally study a whole subject in a single day and get 98-100 at the exams
But if I had a week or so to study, it would be very very hard to start studying and if I encouraged myself to start I would immediately get distracted and do other stuff with the excuse of having enough time.
I wish I can fix this problem
Day by day I'm learning how much my low self-esteem and fear for imperfection is dragging me down. Gotta work at that
Eh maybe later
Same!
And I thought that I had a good self esteem but time shows me the opposite of good
I didn't realize that it was the issue until this video. I am a high schooler who often struggle with procrastination due to having a lot of project-type schoolwork. And I always wish to be perfect…
Ugh, I felt so understood by this video. I'm incredibly hard on myself. My mind is so critical of me and I often label myself as lazy and a bunch of other things, but the reality is I don't want to fail. I don't want to become stuck or do something I'm unhappy with, so I'd rather not do it at all because there's an illusion that it's "easier." I don't think crying at my desk or picking apart my skin about something I could've completed in a breeze is "easier." Now, the hard part is trying to pull myself out of procrastinating one assignment at a time. 😮💨
Really relate to the psychological description of chronic procrastinators. Negative emotions and feelings of shame are very common in the way I relate to my work. Perfectionism is a big part of it: the reason a perfectionist might be a chronic procrastinator is because they fear messing up, i.e. they care too much, and I think that's my situation. It's like a negative perfectionism. What ends up happening is I do huge amounts of work in a very small amount of time, like a single afternoon. This has led me to short periods of *extreme* stress that would've probably already ruined my health if I wasn't still young.
Everyone writing a paragraph about procrastinating be like: 😟💻
Fr, I'm the same.. I procrastinate until I can no longer procrastinate, because the project is due, and then do it overnight, get very little sleep, but get it done with an incredible amount of stress. Like WTFFFF brains seriously
@@zhevtone
I find this video helps. Just put on headphones/earbuds and do your work. I believe in you. Don't get sucked into the RUclips spiral. We believe in you mate :)
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I truly believe that laziness is not a character trait. It’s a symptom. We’re all born with ambition and fascination. Someone experiencing laziness (notice I don’t say “someone who is lazy”) is suffering under imperatives that don’t match their skill set. When we care, as a society, more about nurturing everyone’s natural ambition toward careers that utilize their natural fascination -or in other words, when we aren’t obligated to surrender the best hours of the best days of the best years of our lives underutilized in the performance of tasks that we were never destined to be very good at, just for the supposed privileges of living indoors, eating, rinsing off from time to time, and dying in a bed when it’s all over- the widespread ailments of depression and anxiety, and thus the symptoms of laziness, will in turn find their own natural remedy. But in the meantime, we should be honest enough to acknowledge how ridiculous it is to expect anyone to be happily dissatisfied.
"In fact, many people procrastinate because they care too much. Procrastinators often report a high fear of failure, putting things off because they're afraid their work won't live up to their high standards."
I feel like there's a correlation between perfectionism and procrastination. A lot of people that I know who procrastinates and crams their works regularly are those who want to always be on top of their games - not failing just delivering works with perfection.
That sounds like me. "To be, or not to be.", I will do the work or I will do none of it. No in-betweens. I usually choose the latter because there's always *something* that screws me up during the process of said work.
This is so true. I don't procrastinate on anything else expect the one thing that is important to me and that I have high expectations for.
so relevant
@@a_very_burnt_steak thats so like me...for me if I start studying then I will only study nothing else but once that studying habit breaked...getting back becomes very difficult! Right now I'm trying to get back on the track but it's so difficult still it's not the first time happened. I'll get there eventually.
Being a perfectionist is agony, people think it's a false defect you say to look smart on your resume, but it just makes you unable to relax and to appreciate most things, and none that you made unless others compliment it. (the worst is when people keep complimenting things you think you made poorly and you start not giving value to their opinions, any opinions, but I hope that's just a me-thing lol - in any case beware of that trope - working on it too, good luck!)
thank you for making me not feel crazy and for giving words to something I've struggled with for so long. my procrastination is a coping mechanism and I am not lazy.
I've been procrastinating a lot lately. I feel like I have too many things to do, and get overwhelmed by all of it because I know that for every project I need to do, I'm most likely going to fixate on it for longer than I should while striving to make it as perfect as possible. So I put it all off and become productive on easier, distracting things, such as cooking, cleaning, running errands, watching anime, playing games, etc. But instead of feeling better and energized after putting my work down, I feel even worse about all of the work that I put off. Then I get overwhelmed again and do the same thing.
However, there are fleeting periods where I finally decide to sit down and commit to getting a part of a project done; and in those moments I feel absolutely euphoric about it. So much that I decide to reward my efforts....and then get too distracted to continue. Then I feel shameful for giving myself a reward despite not completely finishing something. So the next time I go to tackle a project, I binge-work on it...spending 10+ hours on consecutive days marathoning jobs and homework assignments. Afterwards, I feel so fatigued and tired that I take a longer break. When a new project comes I remember how long it took to get stuff done the last time I marathoned, and wind up getting overwhelmed again, choosing to default to distractions.
The thing is, I'm seen as an excellent student/coworker, and even when I turn in work that I rushed to complete late or made in a day, it is highly praised. I feel like stress, anxiety, perfectionism, and the seeming lack of a negative response to my bad behaviors is fueling the urge to procrastinate even more.
This. It's like you have described me perfectly. Crazy how similar our brains work. People are not in fact that different as one would like to believe eh...
Oh no yeah I relate to this so much too! I think maybe writing EVERYTHING that you need to do down really helps or at least it really helps in my case. Try not too get distracted (which can be difficult and is something I struggle with haha).
soy exactamente igual
The comments here are so long it's almost like people have nothing better to do.
Either that or everyone is procrastinating... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
oh my god this is literally me
I hate how strong of an effect procrastination has on me. I was legit procrastinating watching this video for two whole days. It's not like I forgot about it, it was taking a major space in my head, always there, I had reminders to keep reminding me I need to watch it. I also knew its at best a 6 minute video. Yet I kept procrastinating it till now. I also procrastinated all of my studies and have been doing so for the past week and it keeps building up the pressure, shame, guilt and so many awful emotions, spiraling down into a feeling of burnout and constant anxiety. I don't know what to do anymore, I've tried so much. I tried making it less stressful by breaking my studies into small topics instead of the whole chapter but I feel like that's not the problem. Once I get to study, I can easily do it for over an hour and half. It's the starting out part that gets me. I don't know how to force myself to start something. I've tried reminders, to do lists, routines, etc and nothing lasts. Please, this is a literal call for help now, I need to get my work done and I don't know how. If anyone else who is knowledgeable on this or has gone through the same give me tips on how I can do better about this? Thankyou!
i relate to this sooooooooo much. things that helped me is having some kind of reward/motivation for finishing a task. or promising myself to do a task for just 5 minutes. it is possible to improve dont lose hope!! also finding out the source of ur procrastination is helpful
Gosh I couldn't relate more. I'm at the exact situation as you and the stress is killing me inside. I can't even take one small step towards starting even tho I know it's not that hard once I get it started. It feels so bad that I rather die than be in this situation.
@@maryamqa2117 If you're anything like me, it also gets better for you. It's a cycle that happens, we figure out something that pushes us just a bit to get on doing something and then when it becomes a habit after months of working, it stops working and we feel depressed and awful. Don't lose hope tho as with time, you'll figure out another way to push yourself and get back into the rhythm. I'm trying to find solutions for this cycle myself.
Hope you do alright dude, take care!
lock up yourself in a room with your work material like your books or computer, but leave out your phone somewhere that's not in reach. Even if you dont wanna start right away, being away from distractions could somehow healp. I always leave my phone out for at least 30 mins and I eventually open my books out of boredom.
Study in parallel with someone
I really appreciate and enjoy the classic ted ed animation, the nuanced and carefully worded language through out the whole video, and the great content starting with a quote.
Awesome work TED ED.
And the modern rubber hose style aesthetic of the animation is just gorgeous
This has remained still in my "watching later" playlist for more than a year 😅
I had an intuition about most of it (I mean the origin and process of procrastination, even the solution for getting rid of it), though this will help for sure ; because it confirms what I was uncertain about and helps me forgiving myself.
I'll work on it, I swear ... like, tomorrow in the morning ;)
This video really opened my eyes. I’m definitely going to stop procrastinating starting tomorrow!
Starting tomorrow 😂
All the best bro👍🏽
No. Start now, you don't feel like it. START NOW.
Did you managed to stop at least a lil bit the procrastination problem?
Legends say that he still is gonna start tomorrow
I needed to hear this. I'm currently going through this cycle of procrastination and blaming myself for the bad results of not working. Even right now I'm putting off work just to comment on this video. But it's very timely for me. Thank you. Taking notes on the tips in this video and in the comments section. We can do this guys!
@MysticalKO damn that's a whole new level of procrastination
@@malzergski hahaha
@MysticalKO oh my goodness 😭
Yea most importantly, dont be too hard on yourself. Be kind, take a day off. And dont think that procrastinating today will ruin all the progress that you have done so far. So just start tomorrow again.
As someone who has struggled with procrastination, I can definitely relate to the cycle described in this video. It's easy to get caught up in avoiding a task that we find stressful or challenging, and before we know it, time has slipped away. It's interesting to learn that procrastination is actually a response to our body's attempt to protect us from a perceived threat. It's also important to note that not all procrastinators are lazy, and that some people procrastinate because they care too much and have a fear of failure.
In terms of breaking the cycle of procrastination, I think the strategies mentioned in the video make a lot of sense. Breaking a task into smaller parts can make it feel more manageable and less overwhelming. Journaling about why a task is stressing us out can help us identify and address underlying concerns. And removing distractions can help us stay focused on the task at hand. But perhaps most importantly, we need to be kind and compassionate to ourselves, rather than beating ourselves up for procrastinating. By acknowledging our tendencies to procrastinate and making a plan to do better next time, we can start to break the cycle and feel more in control of our lives.
But i had became a procrastinator expert that even though i want to read this comment I'm skipping it😭🤚
@@vibh20 almost all procrastinator know what's wrong with themselves, yet they still procrastinate... like me XD
Before even watching the video, I knew exactly what I needed to do to improve myself and stop procrastinating, but I just couldn't motivate myself to be productive and do something else instead of watching a video whose content I already know.
@@XI_VII I'm feeling the same right now.
@@XI_VII exactly! Us bro us,
It's just that we had become soo lazy nd not only us but this whole generation, coz of the comfort of getting things done so easily through technology, nd now delaying things has become our routine💔 coz we don't want to endure pain of doing the task.
@@XI_VII So since your post here 3 months ago have you managed to stop procrastinating? And if so how did you start?
For me it's been going on way to long (like years) and I can't seem to find the motivation anymore for the things (for which the list is a mile long) that I should be doing but instead find things that are time extreme time wasters.... like social media, TV and YT videos that are not productive... at all.
Just the thought of starting anything (on the list) puts me in an extreme anxiety state. I know the clock is ticking and time will eventually run out (for all of us) but I just can't seem to get to that point to make myself do anything. Not only has the wind been taken out of my sails, the sails are gone now too sad to say. Breaking down the task and journaling are things I have tried but they didn't accomplish anything to say the least. My age and back pains have become a major factor too now so it makes it even worse. I am almost at the end my rope and hanging by a thread. Oh to be back in my 20's and know what I know now.
The amount of stress it gave in the beginning because it was speaking facts, and then it ended with putting a smile on my face. thankyou. i will remember these points and become a better person. peace. ♥
chronic procrastinators reunite! we may be lost but we are still a valid part of our society. i believe we can do it ❤️
Nah I’ll do it later.
We aren't
Omg I've been procrastinating so much it's unhealthy now. I'm actually in trouble cuz of it. The timing of this video is spot on..
Same
My perfectionism is definitely a major contributing factor of my procrastination. I feel like I've gotten a lot better about addressing this, and it's made a big difference.
Yeah same..
damn dude, since im in between of all, i totally get what you are saying here.
I think I would have called it rigid since I faces\facing this.
There is no such thing as perfection
High standards are problematic, make us avoid to do something that can "prove" we are not so good.
Risk of failure; avoid self frustration
This video perfectly explains the procrastination cycle! It's eye-opening to see how our brain interprets a simple deadline as a ‘threat’-no wonder we feel stuck!
This is so true, I always find that I'm less likely to procrastinate if I stop myself from overthinking and just start doing the task as soon as I realize I need to do it instead of dwelling and thinking about it. Its better to just not think at all and go for it then it's not so bad as I thought. While writing this, I'm actually procrastinating right now by watching this video instead of studying haha
I am a chronic procrastinator myself, I often find myself waiting for the right time and opportunity to complete the task, even though I know it is just going to pressurise me even more. But when I finally do the task I realize I could have done much better if I had started when I was busy waiting. I really hope this video can be a turning point to my procrastination. Here are some of the tips I learned and plan to implement.I hope the future readers might find it helpful.
1) You can prepare for the task by opening the tabs and making necessary adjustments whilst promising your brain you're not going to do it today. Intrestingly your brain doesn't count this one and it reduces the barrier energy you needed to get started tommorow .
2) Break down your gigantic task into tiny chunks, you just need to get started once you have done that rest of the task seems simpler and it gives you a positive feedback loop by releasing dopamine.Tell yourself you just need to get the 10% of you task done right now.
3)Don't be too hard on yourself, you are probably in a bad rut like I am. Once you get a few things done right you will be back to your best, in no time.Be compassionate to yourself and give multiple tries.
4)Once you get started it is important to make sure you don't get dragged back, therefore keep your distractions away.Especially social media, turn off your notifications and if possible keep your phone away.
5)Journalling your thoughts and feelings might help you think more clearly.( Like i am doing right now)
The video is really insightful and the animation is awesome as always!
Here is what I learned from the video:
We procrastinate because we have high levels of anxiety about the task, and we can relieve our anxiety by
1. Breaking the task into smaller pieces.
2. Journaling about our anxiety.
3. Minimize distractions.
4. Learning to accept and forgive ourselves, It's okay even if we don't meet our expectations.
A better version of this here: "The Future and Past
of WORK" by 'Some More News'.
Thanks
As an emotionally dysregulated person (due to trauma), procrastination is my norm. I do better by analyzing why I procrastinate and breaking down a big project into manageable tasks. And yes, being kind to myself has been a deal-breaker.
I tried having everything on a calendar and it didn't quite work for me -- Failing to meet my own deadlines made me sad, lol. Now I only keep track of tasks on a weekly basis. That way I can rearrange what I needed to do throughout the week without much pressure.
Thank you for this video.
This video makes me want to cry because I'm facing huge struggles in academics and life because of procrastination, and this video resonates with me incredibly strongly. Thank you for this.
exactly, i teared up by the end of it, i just felt so understood by this 5 minute video
Keep going!
Wholesome and all but still doesn't change the fact that the quote in the beginning of this video is said by a member of the Watterson family. A family that loves to procrastinate, (if you watched the show) and something that i find incredibly ironic.
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I’d just like to point out how the symptoms of “laziness” and depression happen to be exactly the same, but one is seen as a character flaw. I wouldn’t want people who procrastinate while in a depressed state think they are lazy just because they feel apathy toward the thing they are supposed to be doing. Apathy is a result of caring too much for too long, which floods the system and cuts off the emotional response buts leaves people feeling empty.
As a person with ADHD, procrastination isn’t the only thing that gets in the way of me doing things. Executive dysfunction sucks. I’m not just avoiding a task, it’s that I can’t start it at all. When faced with something I have to do, I just get stuck in place sometimes, not even able to do more minor tasks. I basically have to force myself to do things sometimes, and it feels like pushing a huge boulder. I’m working on it though, and my loved ones are very supportive and willing to help me find a place to start.
Ugh, god, you are not alone in this, I struggle with this on a near daily basis
Same thing, I ask myself what's wrong with me? I definitely need help but Idk how to ask it. I just can't even process day to day life
I'm right there with you pal, currently trying very hard to do my assignments with executive dysfunction and procrastination
Yep, I'm in the same boat. It takes a lot of effort just to do simple things for me.
idk if i have the same thing as u, but i find myself screaming at the top my lungs trying to push my mind to get stuff done
I have to complete video lectures but I am procrastinating them for 3 weeks so now it went from completing 5 to 12 lectures . I feel bad , make plans but can't start studying don't know scared of something and then push it down to next day . Also additional point if feels like it will reduce my enjoyment time but increases my pressure and I don't want to study daily . I hate why can't I be the old self who used to complete the work on the same day 😢
It feels like a warm hug when you say not all procrastinator is lazy. I barely have any energy to work and also feeling guilty. But the ending of this video seems like a new ray of hope. :)
at this point i have watched a lot of videos to stop procrastinating and about adhd,but i have still not stopped procrastinating
i hope after typing these set of words and after clicking on the blue comment button,i somehow magically stop procrastinating and work towards my goals consistently
i wish myself all the best for this,thank you god for everything you have given me
Another tip that can help a lot (at least for me): when you don’t feel like working, just do something that is not urgent and difficult at all but still somehow related to work like cleaning your desk, delete spams, mark emails that are important (don’t answer yet), create a list of things that you need to do…Once these easy tasks are done, I don’t know why but the feeling of proscrastination is already less intense and disappears eventually.
So bottom line: just start doing something.
Good luck.
(I believe a lot of people struggle with this, especially on a Monday 😊)
Thank you so much for giving such a good tip It really worked on me.
@@Manisha_421 with pleasure. We are all humans after all 😊 It is also great to see a video that explains that this is actually quite « normal ». For a while I thought I was an exception so I had to come up with strategies to fight this feeling of procrastination. But that one is really the only one that works for me..Good luck !
Sadly for me I often seem to do this as part of the procrastination. I need to start a task but can't, so I clean and make endless lists, but always feel bad afterwards because it very rarely ends up with me starting on the task. I'm glad it works for you though! I think we all have to find the little tricks that work for us, and they can probably differ slightly from person to person, so thanks for sharing! 😊 But if I may ask, how do you transition from doing these task-adjacent non-urgent things to start working on the actual task?
Procrastination has become has a huge part of my life that now I cannot do anything without procrastinating. It is such a visious cycle of anxiety, stress and depression leading to agitated days through my bad life choices. I do wanna do better but still do not know how. Having ADHD doesn't help much either. Right now I have big work pending that I need to submit by 6am and it is nearly 2am and here I am
This is one of the most comforting videos I've ever seen, from the animation style to the message to the narrator. I have a huge end of highschool exam coming and I've been beating myself up for not feeling motivated enough to study and this video helped me to forgive myself and to take things one step at a time
Best of luck. I am in the same boat but one year ahead in my first year of Uni
This exactly is the video I've been looking for. I always in a repeated cycle of procrastinate that I don't even notice. I thought I was lazy all the time, yet I did a lot on easy things that I love the most. Thus, the video broke down all of anxiety on my mind and showed me I'm not lazy all, I just need to slow down, plan the tasks properly and take them easily.
Me too, for real.
I feel so vindicated because whenever I say I have trouble with procrastination everyone's first response is that I just need to schedule everything and stick to it, but that really just makes me more stressed out and depressed when I deviate from it even slightly, whereas I feel like If I did the journaling suggestion I would've been able to cope much better, and I'm gonna try to use it in the future
Perfectionism is the roots of procrastination, self-trust is the bark and the cure is two words.
"Start, now!"
exactly the same.
two impactful solutions for a simple yet complicated problem.
1. breaking a task into smaller elements
2. journaling about why the task is stressing you out
4:50
I'm almost crying, I have hated myself for this for so long. I really needed this video, thank you.
Hope things are working out for you, and if not, then remember to not blame yourself
“Done is better than perfect”. Lots of times I procrastinate things that I fear I’ll be bad at, but getting it done is better than waiting and waiting until conditions are “perfect” (which will never happen!).
I don't usually comment on stuff but oh my god😭
I've never felt so understood. Thank you very much for this.
I am now a graduating senior high school student, before the pandemic I was on grade 9. The pandemic had been rough on me. I am a consistent honor student since pre-school, I never struggled with deadlines and stuff, I am what they once calle a bright and bubbly child. I always do things because I need to do it and I did not impose any expectations on myself in any of it.
But the pandemic was rough, we had to do distance learning which was really really really hard (plus, a lot of personal issues happened on those years). Suddenly, studying is hard, especially I struggled with self-learning and low income. Everything is out of control. I can't even explain it properly.
I was never a procastinator, everything just started to fall apart.
When I opened it up on others even to my teachers, all of them told me I was being lazy and I need to learn time management. I tried that, I researched about it, but nothing worked, it only got worse. I knew there was something wrong about their "advice" but they made me believe it's all my fault and I'm procrastinating because I'm lazy and irresponsible.
This video is just-✨
I have never felt so understood, I am crying right now. Thank you very much. I can never express how thankful I am. I want to give y'all a hug.😭
This was lovely. I want to watch this video every month as a reminder. In my case procrastination definitely comes from caring far too much about the outcome but to others it looks like the exact opposite. That layers even more anxiety and shame as I’m afraid of how others view me on top of dreading failure at the task
Can you help me to overcome procrastination?
Dude this hit my core.
I’ve been in high grade depression for the last couple weeks and basically non functional at this point and I have been procrastinating like crazy putting things off .
here have this kat 😼
@@SomeRandomLad thanks lol i actually have two very real kittens 🐱 🐱 . They drive me nuts but I love em
Wow, this morning I was wondering why did I suddenly started procrastinating, and here I found this notification calling me from TED " why do you procrastinate even when it feels bad" it's like you read my mind lol.
Thank you
This could not have come at a better time. I'm getting close to 21, and I still struggle with this like I did *all the way back* when I was 7, give or take a year. I either never thought or forgot that heavy assignments trigger *fear* responses as opposed to just stress. I am getting professional help on this matter, and I am *definitely* bringing this up with them when I get the chance.
The fact that you play minecraft and you are 21 explains your situation well
@@whoreslayer yeah that one is kinda weird, I thought minecraft was for children
@@whoreslayer just let people play the games they want, there’s no need to be negative about it
@@whoreslayer Minecraft *itself* has nothing to do with this. If you're trying to make a joke, it just led me to think that you don't take this seriously. However much of the internet may be jokes, *there is serious business here.*
@@whoreslayer bruh i have an entire lego collection at 22 wdym?
I was studying for atleast 2 minutes for a exam i have to write in 2days and just wandered off to youtube to watch this and wondered why!?
I was a diligent student back then but I started to procrastinate since I was in my 2nd year in college. One of the biggest reason was because I started to get busy. I got a lot of tasks (including practicum, homeworks, and organization stuff). I was so overwhelmed. I expected to do everything perfectly (like how I did before and I always got straight A) but actually I couldn't. At that time, I was mentally unstable too. That's why I gave up and did a lot of unimportant things instead. Now I want to stop procrastinating. I wish my condition will be better.
Same here.. Watch healthy gamer gg on perfectionism ans procrastination. His videos have helped me be a little better
@@1commonplace519
Thanks. I just checked that channel out. It looks very good.
Can you recommend any specific videos on that channel to do with this subject please?
same situation…
Same here. Went from coasting through high school, to fearing anything at college.
Hit the nail on the head about anxiety. Once I figured out that connection, I came up with a mind hack that keeps me from procrastinating. I mentally let go so that there's no anxiety and fall into action, just focusing on keeping my mind clear and letting my body complete the task.
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1:59 Kudos for correctly saying "Fight, Flight or Freeze" Most people usually stupidly just say "Fight or Flight"
1. break a larger task into smaller tasks
2. journal your thought, address those negative emotions
I've found the 2 minute rule very helpful. We can all do most things for two minutes. If I'm really struggling to get started I will say to myself, just be ok with focusing on it for 2 minutes. Once 2 minutes is up I go and do something else like get some water and usually find I now have the motivation to return to the thing I was putting off for longer.
A tip I can give is to look into urge surfing. It's a mindfulness/meditation technique based on the idea of observing when you have the urge or feeling to avoid doing the task you need to do, and to just sit with that feeling until it dissipates (usually fairly quickly, on the scale of a few minutes at most in my experience). Once that feeling has dissipated, the task often feels nowhere near as scary, and I can "let my prefrontal cortex regain control", so to speak.
thank youu
I can definitely relate to the perfectionism-driven procrastination and I actually love the tools and mindset changes explained at the end of this video because without just saying “look I’m gonna do what I have to do to produce the best work I can in the moment I’m in and then be okay with whatever result I land on, because I know I will always have somewhere to grow and improve toward,” I simply won’t start. And by the end I’m actually really pleased with my work and find the process to be so much better than I expected it to be in the procrastination.
This video literally describes me, I’ve been wondering why I procrastinate, thank you.
This is so on point. I go through bouts of serious procrastination, to the point I can't even respond to an email. It is my anxiety and depression that amplifies this, and I would say is the main cause of it. My procrastination is a way of looking for comfort. I am making steps to overcome my depression and this is helping me to have the energy and confidence to face up to tasks and feel lighter.
Find help with your mental health and you will hopefully have the tools to do the job.
Look after yourselves everyone x
This is what my soul needed right now, especially your tips how to break that cicle. Thank you so very much
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cycle*?
Thank you so much for this video. This really means a lot for me 🥺🙏🏼 I have turned into a chronic procastinator for the past 4 years and suffering huge consequences cause of it😔
ive a procrastinator and its been extremely stressfull. Thanks for puttig this together and remiding us to forgive ourselves, that is really important!
If you want to procrastinate less and concentrate better on working you can study with me here.
Instead of watching videos on youtube you can have a video of me studying and keeping you company, so you don't get distracted. You can make youtube into something useful instead of a distraction.
I study for 1-3 hours with breaks in between while I keep you company
If you're interested, feel free to work with study videos of mine
Hopefully it will be useful for you...
I'm writing a report on Procrastination and Perfection for school, and this video is very helpful! It was also really assuring to me personally because I always struggle with the procrastination/stress cycle, and I feel like this video gave me the knowledge to help myself... cheesy, I know, but very true. And to all of you who are trying their best, you got this! I believe in you!☺
Important thing to note here is the difference between procrastination and avoidance which is common in anxiety-related disorders and OCD. Avoidance could pertain to phobias, for example social anxiety thereby leading to isolation and further social impairment. Procrastination is more of a generalized term that doesn’t always encompass the underlying emotions that cause it in the first place. Avoidance is basically a coping mechanism to deal with difficult emotions. It is extremely detrimental and often complicates your life more, creating a self-sabotaging spiral.
If it’s ADHD then this video will probably suffice. If it’s related to depression, anxiety, or OCD then consider the complex emotions involved. If you have all of these like me then try to figure out the crux of why you aren’t completing your work. Maybe try doing work in order to come to a conclusion about why you aren’t doing it.
As someone with ADHD I don’t really thing this video will ‘suffice’ as it doesn’t go into detail about how executive dysfunction plays a massive role in preventing individuals with ADHD from even starting a task no matter what it is whether it be work or doing something that you enjoy. On top of that people rarely discuss the anxiety, depression and other associated mental health issues that come from having ADHD that also play a role in preventing us from being able to literally do anything a lot of the time along with the executive dysfunction and the brain fog. With ADHD you also have to consider the complex emotions involved with it as it also comes with a dose of societal shame as people brand us as lazy even though we are trying our hardest.
The aesthetic of this video is absolutely stunning - the animators are gifted. So soft and retro ✨🤍
I learn to apologize to my self for being too hard on my self. I also learn to forgive my self for the procrastination behavior that I did before. I actually feel good right now. I tell my self that I just need to finish doing whatever I do, that's it. I don't need to be perfect, just finish it. It helps me to ease the tension and even helps me to finish my work faster and even with a better result.
As a chronic procrastinator myself, I’ve seen many videos on procrastination. This one brings in all the real reasons together in a very watchable and smaller format. Please go ahead and send this to fellow procrastinators, they need to feel validated.