"I travel faster by foot than you by train..." That really captivated me. I'm so glad to find your channel! You have a very calming voice. Like nighttime radio. 📻 I'll be listening at night to wind down.
@@thekantedkalcedony But narcissists would use the exact same quote. So, I believed it should be rephrased. Otherwise, you have no way of telling why someone is using this quote.
@@L10-x2o I think it's more so that we can fulfil an idea that we have. We feel more achieved once we have hit or excelled expectations created by ourselves.
Palette is related to art and pertains to colors and painting. Pallet is linked to logistics and denotes a platform for goods transportation. Palate is connected to our mouth and taste, both literally and metaphorically.
beautiful message. I heard this today: "You can get everything you want, but not until you say with your full chest that you want it". Reminded me of exactly what you are saying. Thank you
I believe the unnecessary luxury comes mainly when people give up on their primary goals and start relying on petty pleasures for some sense of fulfillment
I love how the entire video is just one take rather than the usual multiple snippets edited in together. This feels far more genuine and much closer to a conversation than most content out there. Thank you! Keep up the true work.
My friend totaled my car 5 years ago, and instead of buying a new one I decided to live without a car, and I moved to an apartment that was within walking distance of a supermarket and bike trail. I also got a job nearby that I could bike to. All this in a city that was not and is not known for being bikeable. (Charlotte, NC) Over the past 7 years I’ve gotten rid of, donated, or sold at least 40% of the things I own, and I live off of about $15,000 a year. My parents don’t understand my decisions, especially since I have three degrees but don’t want to pursue a career in any of those fields. They don’t understand when I tell them I don’t want to work full time. I spent most of the money that I got from my car being totaled on music festival tickets, travel, and tattoos. It took me five years to get back my creativity after graduate school sucked it out of me. I’m now a starving artist and am perfectly content, not having sold a single piece of artwork. My family doesn’t understand my art, but I have a close friend who is into fine arts and her enthusiasm for my work keeps me going, as does my newfound creative spirit.
Congratulations to you for breaking free of your former conditioning, and living an unconventional life that you actually gain more contentment from. I really enjoyed reading your comment - people like you are an example for those of us (like myself) who live on autopilot to follow. Hope you continue to remain true to yourself.
Needed this. Perfect timing. 2 days ago I quit a job that was causing me to waste away. I was being treated horribly and just sticking it out because I thought I had to. I didn’t. I came to a breaking point with some of the horrible emails my boss was sending me. I worked hard and I gave them the best I could, but that man is sick. I took a risk and quit on the spot. I couldn’t do it anymore. I feel a lot freer… doesn’t feel real yet… and I need another job. But… I think, despite all of the social constructs that make me feel like it was stupid, it wasn’t and I’m going to be okay. Everyone close to me saw how it was impacting my quality of life and were all very supportive. I didn’t expect that. They called me courageous, each independently of one another. I guess they’re right. I get one life. I want to enjoy it.
Proud of you and very happy that you have such a supportive circle of people around you. Forget what the constructs shout at you and believe yourself! You got this!
By procrastinating, life passes us by. And then we no longer dare and everything becomes difficult, far and heavy. Love your videos, thanks for posting this one today.
@@eternity.in.a.m0m3nt i use this analogy literally every day. my dad will often be in a rush to go through a traffic light he has no hope of making before it will turn red, and i'll say all the time "you're rushing just to get to a red light..." this even happened within 20 minutes of the time i'm typing this.. literally. i'll see other people do this all the time too, speeding up past me on the road going at my chill pace, only for us to meet up again at the red light. obviously the analogy is a bit different when there are no traffic lights and you can just keep going, sort of like you can in life, but i do feel like it's a good visual for people who are in a rush to get to the finish without enjoying the race.
The biggest lesson I got from this is the need to break free of recreating nostalgia and fulfilling the distorted dreams we had as children. Not every present action needs to be in retaliation to or a repudiation of our past misery. Our actions must always be in response to the needs of today. Instead of toxic thoughts controlling our actions like: "I'm buying this because I was a laughing stock when I was 12. Where are the snobs now? Are they still mocking me over what I didn't have? Am I still a joke to them? Not after this." We should instead think: "I don't need this right now. Who cares what people think about me. Who cares what they ever thought." Somehow we internalised others' negative opinions as personal truths and live our lives controlled by this toxicity. We're better at deflecting it as adults, but when we were young and seeking trusted guidance in the world, we absorbed a lot of it that now controls us.
@@seabreeze4559Because the environment forces us to do so; if we go back to a couple thousand years ago when we used to live in tribes and clans, being outcasted by the people would most likely result in death, thus it's a survival mechanism. It would also explain why when someone moves to a different part of the country, the accent and vocabulary changes to some degree to fit the new standards of that location.
Let's admit we clicked on this video because we all feel lost at the moment, and figured maybe hearing this guy out will tell us something we don't know already
I realize now every moment spent postponing myself is a moment I could spend becoming who I'm meant to be. And I deserve every greatest thing this world has to offer.
People look down on my $4000 car, like they feel bad for me. But the freedom of being able to buy another one, in cash, if something happens to it is what people who want “financial freedom” are looking for. Lovely video
I am lost in the sea of noise. Past mistakes, current success of others, depression, procrastination. It's healthy to slow down, stop consuming ( literally and metaphorically) and maybe think about more important things in life. Thank you for this video which momentarily stopped me from mindless scrolling and maybe made me reflect on some things in my life. I think we humans should have moments like theses regularly, like a mind calming excercises. Looking for your next videos.
9:27 My reading is you've never put yourself first. We have a task to fulfil in this life. A Purpose known before birth but forgotten soon after. I have a feeling this is the mystery behind "Know Thyself"
The problem now is the sheer increase in cost of basic necessities. I agree the priorities are off with things like fancy cars - but even a modest used car now is way too much. People who constantly want more more more things are usually empty inside anyway- it’s a dead end. My problem isn’t in the wanting of excess - I want basic needs met without costing me 3k a month, ya feel me?
Lord, 4k per month qualifies a single person in Chicago for certain benefits. I didn't think I would live to see when a salary of $50k would not be considered solidly middle class. People with degrees expect $80k to start. Insane. (And what's it like in New York?)
Yes, I rent an apartment and travel by bike ( I live in France where this is possible), I buy the majority of my clothes second hand and don’t eat meat or eat out. I’m a university lecturer and all my time is spent working . I’m a single mother of two and rents are high. I’m clear in how I want to send my time but cannot see how it can be done and not become homeless.
HIlariously I left this open in a tab for weeks before finally getting around to watching it. I feel like I live in line with these ideas more than many of those around me, but the messaging from society has gotten so strong that I find myself constantly questioning my values. It's always nice to be reminded of these values through the reflection of others. Thanks!
So what I gathered is to take precious care of the opportunity each day brings, and the choices within it. Also the priority and investment in actions with consistency lead to a stronger outcome. so if I cut loose what unimportant things bleed my limited time and energy, and focus that energy into what I value most, my life will change in that direction. Thanks, makes sense
I stumbled upon this notion a year ago and have been working towards it since. Essentially, as adults, we typically get up in the morning to 👉🏼 get ready for work. However, I'm advocating for a shift towards getting up in the morning and, 👉🏼 getting ready for play. And now, play can be whatever you do to keep that fire inside you turned on. ✨ Unlike work, which for a lot of us, dims our light. -- Before this realization, I was a strong proponent of working nights whenever possible. 🌙 Trust me, scheduling your day this way, prioritizing your own work in the morning before doing work for in someone else’s name, results in much higher energy levels. It may feel like when you rearrange a room and you see that you have so much more space, and without having gotten rid of anything! 😉
I completely agree. We burn ourselves out for *someone* *else* and we are slaves to the system. Meanwhile, our lives tick by without ever having the opportunity to live them- unless we’re lucky enough to make it to old age, in which case, we are too old and feeble to truly live out our dreams. I’ve learned that hard lesson after being a workaholic, only to become disabled by that job at the age of 37, and that workplace that I gave so much of my hard work, energy, and dedication, where are they now? They don’t care about their employees, they care about the bottom line. When I got hurt, they treated me like a problem they were trying to make go away. And although I truly loved my job, I wasn’t making great money to be there. And now my body is destroyed, in my prime, and for what? Live your life, don’t put yourself last. Don’t procrastinate in your true journey of becoming you. We all think that there will always be plenty of time “someday,” but what happens when you’re unable to use that time to good purpose when it comes? I spend most of my day in bed, even unable to read most times because it’s too painful and difficult to sit up enough to read. I have a lot of time on my hands, but it is spent in pain and immobility, and spent waiting for something that will never come. I don’t say this for anyone to feel sorry for me, I don’t want pity. I am saying this because it is imperative that you enjoy your life *today.* Do the things you want *today.* Life the life you deserve *today.* Because tomorrow may not come in the way you think it should. I’m so grateful that I have RUclips and that I get to discover phenomenal individuals like this man here. This was one of the best things I’ve ever watched on the importance of living your life, I just wished I would’ve seen it sooner, but I would’ve been busy living life to make other people happy. Live your one precious life. Live it *today.*
This is great. My life's been better ever since I adopted a mindset similar to this about a year ago, doing what I want to do in the moment rather than waiting for the "best time" to do it. E.g. going for that bike ride now, rather than waiting for the perfect weather that will never come, or waiting for other people to join in. I found living cheaply was much easier once I found these things that I really enjoy. Waiting for money, other people, or nice weather just leads to doing nothing at all. Live in the moment, cause the future is exactly that, always in the future
This I’d so refreshing: just a friendly human being, pleasant voice, a deep message, no music, no fast cuts, no unnecessary intros/outros, no plea to subscribe or course or limited time offer… JUST A DEEP RANDOM chat with a person. Thank you! THANK YOU.
In my own experience it has proven to be helpful to actually know what it is that I want and just do it. Simple things like having a coffee on my balcony in the mornings when it’s warm outside - taking care of a beautiful plant - having kind and insightful conversations with my partner. As I continually find myself naturally living a life that I find fulfilling, I continually find that I ALWAYS have ALL of the resources to support that life. The momentum built up in the so called small things evolves into much bigger things in an organic way.
@@hangloosejanjucI consider it a cross section between many different philosophies. Mentalism, Buddhism, Stoicism, Taoism, etc. I typically navigate the paths of awe and wonderment. I think that I understand your question though…and I can answer that with a yes, but among other things as well.
Can we please have more videos on this topic? I feel like we as a society are so much trying to become a perfect "ideal" of a high functioning "nothing". We are all caught up in this high performing "successful person idea" but we don't ask ourselves where we are going. It's like our "direction vector" is not present but we're full-speed jumping into the abbyss.
Thank you for sharing in this observation with me. I’ve been feeling judged because I’m not status or wealth seeking. It seems I was on an upward trajectory back there, but not for MY PURPOSE. So I had to learn some new skills, which meant taking a step back from the hustling and instead, studying. Now that I’m essentially starting over, I can literally hear the judgement (I’m clairaudient.) It's inspiring to find others who refuse to be mere participants in the rat race, even in an age where it's conveniently packaged within the palm of our hands. Here's to those who value meaningful pursuits over the mindless hustle. 🥂✨
Success is bs. ALl forms of it. I knew as a kid that the life offered to me was BS, but even the more conscious humans subconsciously pass this sense onto you you are nothing if you are not doing something. Life isn't homework. Life is YOUR experience. It's MY experience. I do what I want with it......and there's millions of ways of doing it. Running around like a headless chikcen chasing thigns, or being a harsh critic of mysel sound very dumb. To what end? Death's only cool thing is that it helps put time in prespective. When I die I won't care one bit what I accomplished. I don't intend to take the judgements of this world with me to my personal heaven.
@@jeanjacqueslundi3502 yes but if you aren't doing anything, at any point, then who are you? How can you have no ambition, or will to do something good with your life?
@@benjaminmitchell6016 How do kids go through life? Is it ambition, or enjoyment that drives them? And I didn't say I don't have my desires and ideals....just that they have nothing to do with you or the programming of the world. And I don't have to make myself feel like "sh*t" if I don't manage them. Unless they are moral....but I got those covered WITHOUT playing into the world's idea of ambition.
@@jeanjacqueslundi3502the role that corporations play in this should not be ignored. We are not meant to work 50+ hours a week at a retail or office job just to be able to afford to have a shelter. If our time at work was limited then we would have more time for ourselves
Thank you for this. Not too long ago I felt like I needed to build up two multimillion dollar businesses in order to persue my indie artist career. Then I realized I wouldn’t have the time for my music if I was busy running businesses. I quit my cushy factory job, moved out of my 2BR apartment, into my car that I own, and ran my business out of a storage unit. Once I decided to get an RV I saved up $1200 and got a fixer upper to live in. It’s beautiful and I couldn’t be happier. Now that I’m not working to live, living to work, I am putting all my money into my music career. This is an amazing realization thank you for speaking on this
I wish this video was posted a month earlier. I’ve grinded myself into depression, almost deleted myself from existence trying to accumulate more money, trying to create a place to be happy with my beloved girlfriend in a future. I’ve completely forgot that I’ll never be in a future, here&now is all that I’ll ever experience. Now I don’t have a girlfriend. I’ve ruined everything. Paradoxically, after some time of mental agony, after I’ve lost my dream, I’m awake as I’ve never been. Just trying to become the best possible version of myself. Better late than never)
if you sometimes get the feeling things are falling apart, maybe they are just falling into place... your suffering is not created by your circumstances, but rather by your resistance. keep your head up bro, this too shall pass.
At what point did you realize you were overextended yourself for money ? I,myself am trying to have enough money to pursue my dream, but I keep wondering at what point does it become destructive instead of freeing ?
For me it was the moment when I realized that I think about my job almost every single hour. Either what to do with this or that particular nuisance, or what am I doing wrong, or what if it’s not “my type” of job. Now I clearly see that the common denominator of all my career choices and mistakes and problems was me. Of course, it’s (probably?) cool when your job is so meaningful and exciting that you can think about it all day long; but now I try to distance myself from my job. It’s not me. No matter how hard am going to f*ck things up - it’s all out there. I’ve done what I can out of what I should - and that’s it.
I realized many years ago that it made no sense to give any other human power over our happiness. Although I have been married 30 years now and would prefer that my partner continues to grow older with me, his physical absence couldn't diminish the beauty of life. I hope you always know that too.
You’re lucky you weren’t married to her or she would have taken with her half the money you made trying to impress her, and she’d now be spending it gleefully with her next boyfriend(s). All guys should insist on prenuptial agreements before getting married, no matter how poor they are, unless it’s an extremely rare case where the woman is wealthy and they guy is not.
This video came at exactly the right time for me. I have been feeling a lot of lower emotions recently. I have been feeling very deeply that its time to stop holding back on myself and what I feel called to in this life. I can see the person I can become and the things I want to bring into the world. But I keep holding back and 'postponing' myself. Ive been doing it almost all my life. 'Waiting' for the right moment to step into the person I feel is inside me. And the value I can bring to the world. Ive recently passed 30 years old. And starting to feel like time is passing me by and I can no longer hold back on these things. Some might say thats young and laugh. But to me having had these dreams and calling for years now. It feels like a long time to delay. Anyway I just randomly opened RUclips tonight after feeling all these emotions the last few weeks and especially the last few days. I felt so present watching this video. And it hit me very deeply. It then led me to being reminded of this quote below. I cried when I read it. Thank you for this video. Its exactly what I needed right now. This is the quote: "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others"
I have always known this and done this until society expected of me to be like everyone else. Expectations and lots of them. I lost my joy of life, health and motivation. Now I am struggling to find my way back to the colorful happy person I once was. Today I am a pale, sick shell of my old self. I look in the mirror and hardly recognize who I have become. I have stopped caring about everything that once meant something. I find that even worse to have known it but to have lost it. Knowing what makes you happy but letting society's expectations to ruin and run your life. I'm happy you have found it. It's never too late. Run with it.
Back in my late 20s I decided to get married and have a family. When you make that decision you also take on the responsibility of providing for the needs (and wants) of your family. So my time isn't necessarily my own anymore. That adds another layer that separates you from taking care of your own personal goals. I don't regret my decision to have a family, but sometimes I do wish I had more time to focus on myself. I have found myself being more forceful with taking that time recently, but it is difficult to do (and even more so when you have a family). But it is quite easy to fall into the "Well when I retire I'll have that time" mindset. But when I think back on my father, he maybe had 2 good years after he retired before health problems closed in. So, my suggestion to you is make sure your family knows that you need your own time and that their needs can't always be paramount. Be equally forceful in regards to yourself - don't allow the eternally expanding to-do list to take over your life.
this is the first time i watch a video and realize im on the right path in life :) spending everyday working on myself and growing in the best person!! not making money but im HAPPY.
my principle is: love made me like itself; I am love . in the face of that brilliance, I easily see, for example, how putting myself down is _not_ love
Having spare time for reading - that's the privelege Never thought I'll grow up and the sick mad world will take this away from me Tomorrow I'll see if I'm able to put it as priority at 6 am
You know what's more expensive than a car though? Dependents. Unless you are fine with letting them grow up in poverty and letting them figure out how to fund college (or to not and have their career options severely limited). And, if you work less on improving your earning power in a career, you will end up spending more hours at work to fund a basic lifestyle because you are paid less per hour. It's not like you can decide you are no longer materialistic and just stop working, have all this free time. I agree that it is important to know what is really important in life and put that first. That doesn't support the claim that the answer is to 'desire less, earn less, spend less'. That applies in a minority of cases where somebody is putting in overtime at work in order to buy luxury goods, and they could stop putting in that overtime. I believe your observation here was helpful, but the conclusion rang hollow, was not sufficiently thought out. Edit: I think that a better conclusion would be to have more clarity on personal values and how those translate into action. I think if you asked most people what their deepest values were, their answers would be vague at best. Certainly not developed enough to live out. That would be a good place for most people to start.
well put, while the wisdom he shares is undeniable, he is a young man living well in his twenties in a rich country, and it seems obvious he comes from a good family, so his advice doesnt apply to all people or even most people
This is a very good comment. Earning a good salary means your kids can grow up in a safer environment that fosters growth, and attend schools with more thoughtful teachers and students (ironically, they will spend time with people who are NOT glued to a tablet or an ipad all day). Having money also allows your kids to pursue fine arts, sports and cultural activities. I have lived amongst the underclass and it is not something to be glorified
Same. My sleep schedule is messed up my whole life. Even if I try to restrict and force myself, I switch back to old habits and a shitty routine. Like, if you're bored with your routine, try doing something disruptive like deciding to do something creative, following your healthy impulses, etc. A bit of randomness can be good to counterbalance rigidity and monotony. I wish the best for you! ❤ ... I have to say that you look a bit like the artist St. Vincent! Hugs, Ronald "Nique" McDonalds
Don't think about changing the whole thing. If it feels too big you may never do it. See if you can start by waking up 3/5 minutes earlier and just stay in bed hugging yourself or write down 5 things you are grateful for or sit up, close your eyes, and focus on your breath for 3 minutes. Start really small and see how you feel in 2 weeks. Or maybe you drink a glass of warm water. Let me know how it goes. PS. It goes without saying that you postpone checking your phone until after you have done one of these things (or all of them). Good luck
As much as I’d love to agree with this, and good points are made, I live in minimalism and still have to work my ass off for bare survival. Of course being poor is expensive (the boots tale is a good one) but at the end of the day u must pursue ur passion relentlessly, but manage to make urself strong enough to balance it all.
The harsh reality for me, and I think for many -- and I'm not young -- is that it's getting too expensive just to stay alive. And I have already reduced all my expenses down to the bare minimum. All is spent on NEEDS, nothing left each month for wants. Barely enough for a small amount of groceries. My car was totalled by a reckless, negligent driver. It was 11 yrs old, paid for and in great condition, with only 36k miles on it. With the very small insurance settlement I got there is nothing that comes even close to replacing it -- nothing reliable and nothing under 100,000+ miles. And that insurance settlement is all I can afford to spend on a replacement. Not sure what I'm going to do. A car is necessary where I live. I am under so much stress now, since my accident and car loss.
Thank you for your thoughts - pretty inspiring! I’ve put myself last for many years - was disconnected from me *and* was there for others. Over the past months, I’ve turned the tables and am now happy for finally choosing me and am sad about losing people around me. Here’s to this new exciting chapter that is called growth🤗✨
Excellent commentary. It takes a strong and self-assured personality to undertake the suggestions you make here. Going "against" societal AND parental expectations will be the hardest task you will ever undertake. We are programmed from our earliest days to "fit in" to societal expectations by parents who have embraced societal expectations. Be prepared to be alone--a lot. Be prepared to be pressured to "give up" your silly childish desire to be authentic. Your Mom will want a grandchild. Your Dad will want to boast about your career. Your siblings will want to compare themselves to you. Your potential "wife" WILL want to big house, the nice car, the Hawaii vacation, and 2 children. All those things said, the very best thing a person can do is go their own way.
I'm at 2:28 and already mindblown! My version is: I need to first heal my difficult health condition (and trauma etc) and then I can do all these things that make me happy.
Read the book cured - the science of spontaneous remissions Often remissions from health issues happen when people completely redecorate their life and alter their routines Joe Dispenza has great books on the topic titled You are the placebo, breaking the habit of being yourself, and becoming supernatural
@@AaronLyons Thank you! I will check this book out. I feel much better and my MS is not as bad once I left my evil husband. Same for my chronically ill daughter. We both still go through so much, but with that evil man living with us, we are much better after 4 years.
i’ve found myself stumbling upon stoicism so often recently. something that has always deeply resonated with me, but i push to the side in pursuit of the comfort of what i know to be “easier”. i’ve struggled to remain focused on many things recently, but this video really spoke to me. thank you for this.
I am glad to hear that you have set your priorities straight at such a young age. I am going to be 70 years soon and it took me until now to realize that you don’t need to be a gerbil on the wheel. Health and education are the priorities Everything else is just stuff.
Listening to you made me realize that I actually was doing something pretty meaningful without realizing it, since your example made me realize I was doing the opposite so far. Thank you.
The key to being happy is so simple but many people want to be someone they are not, many people care WAAY TOO MUCH about what others think of them. Great video
That's what this guy looks like! I'm just listening without looking at the video and even the way he talks, wording choice and cadence, is all Gabor Mate.
This video randomly showed up on my feed. Really appreciate you taking the time to put this out there. I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear this.
A very good video.🙂 Thanks!🙏 (no background music, no heavy graphics, good audio, staying on point, about 10 min - everything felt so relaxing and productive.)
You should consider giving a tour of your personal library/bookshelf. I think a good deal of us viewers would be greatly interested in such a video considering the depth of knowledge you seem to possess. Looking forward to the next video regardless!
I have to say that I love everything about your videos, and about your channel in general. You are so honest, kind, erudite and calm. Your videos are so simple in visual or sound effects yet they are fascinating to watch and full of wisdom and warm, secure, positive energy ❤
Indeed this title spoke to me. There are many ways this title can be interpreted. For me, I’m at a point in my life where keeping my word to myself is my top priority. Why? Because I have not kept it for years now. This has affected my self-esteem, confidence, and ability to trust myself. My current life circumstances are also a result of postponing myself. Regarding the phrases “throw it all away” or “untie the knot” a phrase I also use is “burn the boats”. They all have the same meaning. Brilliant video and one that resonates exactly with this point in my life. Thank you sir.
Your kind of commentary is needed in this world more than ever. Up until now people needed to step away just from the "extras", but now a new era is ushering itself in, when people will have to step away from a "tool" that will make them obsolete at the end. We are living through the most disruptive timeline of modern humanity.
I’m very glad to have found this video. I’ve been needing to hear something like this for a very long time, and known it as well. This is the first video I’ve ever come by of yours and it won’t be the last, your content seems genuine and refreshing, thank you for sharing.
Damn, somehow the algorithm brought us all together and here we are all listening to this most profound powerful message. I am currently in bed delaying getting up, first thing i did this morning was grab my phone. Well done, sir.
Wanting less & wanting simplicity got me in a place where I was able to work just enough to get a house, cheap car, surfboards, food, utilities, & some vacations maybe once per year. Nothing in my life is lavish except a rare meal. This was an amazing video. I still work but now I’m realizing I should prioritize my values in the beginning parts of my day so they aren’t an afterthought after making ends meet at work. Thank you.
Personally, my immediate goal is to build wealth, which will help fund my large scale philanthropic objective. For example, I want to set up a wildlife conservancy in Eastern Africa to help save Elephants, Rhinos and other endangered animals from extinction. I cannot do that without sacrificing time for pleasure in the present so that I may realise my ambition. In life, you cannot have everything, something must always be sacrificed, it is the natural balance. I am okay with 'postponing myself' in order to be of service to something bigger. Thank you for the video though🙂
I don’t know if this was intentional, but your voice is so relaxing that i found it much easier to focus and absorb what you’re saying. It calmed me down from the usual fast-paced, rapid attention span style of advice that is so prevalent in social media now, specifically youtube shorts & instagram reels. I felt like it was a calm & steady lecture that forced my attention span to slow down and be present with, instead of having fast, efficient snippets of advice being thrown at me for sake of saving time. Thank you for making this video 🩷
So well said about how people come home from a full day of work, yet not do a moment of the 'work of life'. Those ancient philosophers had so much wisdom and I love how applicable it still is to these modern times. 💡
The funny thing is that i was just procrastinating and I clicked on the video accidentally hahaha. By the way I love your video and I just subscribed, thank you so much for your content, you are really helping people's lives :)
I'm awake at 1:32am with stress induced insomnia. I agonize over problems with the job that brings me financial security until I have the nearly continuous feeling I wish I could stop the world and get off. What I really want to do is be creative and help people recover from stress and be free from the same trap I'm in. I die from impostor syndrome every day. I see the way out and can't make myself do it. Why? Everything in this video makes perfect sense. Thank you for posting.
I have no idea if any of this will make sense to you, but... consider the possibility that you've yet to accept (or even ponder) that life is wayyyy to short to do anything close to the number of things you want to do, and that there are probably 2 or 3 things that actually pull you out of the time stream and allow you to experience the moment for exactly what it is. Consider that the greatest gift you can give yourself is to make a list of the top 10 or 20 things you want to do with your daya and your life, make sure #1-3 are actually the top 3, and put #4-20 on their own list. Tape this second list to your bathroom mirror, and remind yourself every morning and every night that you have to /actively avoid/ all of those things or your life may never click, you will struggle to feel like you're living the life you're supposed to live. Anxiety, burnout, exhaustion, overwhelm are the inevitable outcomes of avoiding your actual priorities. Hard, brutally hard choices must be made, and then they must be respected. Because you ARE going to die, we all are, and none of us know when, and this very obvious fact is either accepted with grace or it is fought with extreme violence. The more you let this reality sink in, the more you will be here. Don't try to force yourself to make any choices, you will most assuredly make them when you are able. Watch your confusing behavior with the relentlessly loving gaze of a new mother upon her newborn babe. "Oh, look at you doing that thing you do, it's so beautiful." Keep exploring, keep learning, the ride never ends, around and around we go!
It’s a 2000 years old quote, and still I stumble upon this video about it right after a therapy session reflecting on that specific experience that has been going on for my entire adult life. Impressive one, universe lol
Wow, this video really hit me hard. I regret spending years of my life doing something I was not passionate about and did not serve me. Its only purpose was money and it didn’t really fulfill my needs. Thanks for this reminder to prioritize 🙏🏻
Hello ATU. I remember reading Senecas How to Die after the shooting in Lewiston ME in 2023 because I mentally broke, and felt like I needed something that gave me some sense of hope in just death. The book is almost dangerous in the hands of martyrs, but in the hands of modern philosophers, it is a realization on what the price of life actually is, and what death actually signifies. The fear of death is what generally controls us, but seeing it as a gift and tool when kings and rulers wish to lessen the purpose of one's life - that is worth more than the millions of dollars one might find.
For many years I worked in a jobs I didn't enjoy, I liked the money I got, but I was "dreaming" about working in the area I was always fascinated, that I studied and never had chance to fullfill my curiocity for specific topics. Last year I made a resolution that I have to make a change and just start doing what I always wanted. I actually lost a job at that time, but I didn't care as I didn't enjoy it (even though I co-founded that company I worked at). I manged to get to the position I always wanted, I do what I dreamed of, and I am f*** happy - I finally feel fullfilled. If you're like me - you have a feeling that there's something out there that you will be good at, that will bring you joy - go for it, don't waste your life.
i saw this video 3 months ago and i’ve been learning guitar for three months now, i’ve never ever imagined myself to be this committed to something for my own sake, but i did it ! thanks to you and to my guitar teacher (online one) i liked to mention this because believe i always found ways to make excuses to not make what i love comes true when i really could, when it was possible.
Who is this good looking person and articulate literate machine? On you youtube?! There is so much wisdom behind your words (and Senecas of course) Thank you so much for sharing your clear intelectual and personal insights on youtube and for the algorithm to deliver it !!!🙏
this is a really nice comment and i dont mean to disparage it at all but it just made me think that in the future people will literally worship algorithms. giving thanks when the algo returns good, offering penance when it returns bad
@@daylinlott5723 Interesting observation. We might compare his appearance in this video to the cover shot of James Taylor on the 'Sweet Baby James' album.
Well, the real reason I clicked on this video is because of how handsome the speaker is - I’m melting ((-: I’ve read and quite enjoyed Seneka in my mid youth. I read, also, that Seneca was quite a posh guy in his life - it seems he was not so harsh on himself and his surroundings, same like rich people do nowadays, when they say that it’s not the money that matters. I would also like to remind you all, that Seneca was the teacher of Neron, the cruel emperor, and, obviously, his wisdom didn’t make any better. Thank you for your beautiful presence!
What this fails to address is that even living within or below your means, forgoing all possible luxuries, you still require an amount of money that would take the average person over 30 years to accumulate, in order to be truly financially independent.
Exactly! He sure gave a great recipe for a more humble/minimalist life, but you still HAVE TO attend your daily job just so you not become homeless and starve to death.
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“The fool does at last what the wise man does at once.”
Le sage fait immédiatement ce que l’imbecile finit par faire. Nicolas Machiavel.
Yup. Procrastinated on my fitness brand for years. Only to arrive to the question: ”what am I am waiting for”. Now I’m all in.
😂😢
As a fool I can confirm that I procrastinate
@@80X20FitnessXFinancebest of luck my friend
I postponed myself 25 years. It’s exhausting
rookie numbers.
@@sebastiandiaconu1221😂
@@sebastiandiaconu1221😂
Not me clicking on 'save to watch later' 😭
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I literally did that 😭😭 but I’m watching it rn so that’s what counts
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
fr i did that and immediately checked myself
😂LOL.
I’m glad Cillian Murphy is sharing his knowledge with normal people.
I thought the same exact thing
He looks more like Matthew gray gubler lol
Thought the same!@@ieatkids03
😂
@@ieatkids03this is the right answer
living a soft and slow life in this fast paced world is the revolution 🙏🏼✨
That's very true 😮
Your statement doesn’t really align with the rest of your content. Do you feel any cognitive dissonance?
@@Levanooo😂
@@Levanoooomg 😂
Says the absolute grifter of a human being on RUclips schilling myths and lies
"I travel faster by foot than you by train..." That really captivated me.
I'm so glad to find your channel! You have a very calming voice. Like nighttime radio. 📻 I'll be listening at night to wind down.
"How long are you going to wait before you demand the best for yourself?" - Epictetus
Thats pretty good.
That's also what Karens think. What about demanding the best for others?
@@brinckauyou indirectly demand the best for others by being your best self.
@@thekantedkalcedony But narcissists would use the exact same quote. So, I believed it should be rephrased. Otherwise, you have no way of telling why someone is using this quote.
Forever
"life passes most people by while they make great plans for it"
I love making plans more than anything 😆
@@L10-x2o I think it's more so that we can fulfil an idea that we have. We feel more achieved once we have hit or excelled expectations created by ourselves.
I do neither
@@dylanphelan3010 "life is what happens to you when your busy making other plans" John Lennon - beautiful boy
LIVE, LEARN, DIE....CRUEL TWIST OF TIMING.
“Hunger is cheap, the pallet is what’s expensive” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Palette is related to art and pertains to colors and painting. Pallet is linked to logistics and denotes a platform for goods transportation. Palate is connected to our mouth and taste, both literally and metaphorically.
@pleasestop The primary school teacher is here... some never got beyond that stage. Thinking is at a higher plane.
@@tia904 ...
Healthy food is the most expensive nowadays though
@@pleasestopcreatingmoresent3328nice
beautiful message. I heard this today: "You can get everything you want, but not until you say with your full chest that you want it". Reminded me of exactly what you are saying.
Thank you
Thank you so much for this comment I really needed to read something like this to push myself in becoming the best version of myself thank you deeply
Society teaches us to think this way, to postpone ourselves, put work first and then play. It starts from school.
You are responsible for yourself, not society.
@@marlonjormungand7845both can be true
@@marlonjormungand7845 Society is composed of selves. We are all responsible for everyone and everything.
@@marlonjormungand7845 It's called social conditioning.
@@zx3227 yes both can be true, yet one aspect is in your hands the other one isnt. So where do you begin your change?
“They try, in their adult life, to live up to a child’s fantasy.”
I believe the unnecessary luxury comes mainly when people give up on their primary goals and start relying on petty pleasures for some sense of fulfillment
I saw a quote and since then it becomes my motivating nuggets it says: Don't postpone Joy. Joy is one of the fruits of holy spirits.
@@zensvlognotapro Amen.
@@zensvlognotapro Tripe
@@johngilmore697 meaning?
I love how the entire video is just one take rather than the usual multiple snippets edited in together. This feels far more genuine and much closer to a conversation than most content out there. Thank you! Keep up the true work.
Exactly.
the difference between real knowledge, and youtube knowledge, i'spose?
Thank you for pointing out this observation.
True😮
My friend totaled my car 5 years ago, and instead of buying a new one I decided to live without a car, and I moved to an apartment that was within walking distance of a supermarket and bike trail. I also got a job nearby that I could bike to. All this in a city that was not and is not known for being bikeable. (Charlotte, NC)
Over the past 7 years I’ve gotten rid of, donated, or sold at least 40% of the things I own, and I live off of about $15,000 a year. My parents don’t understand my decisions, especially since I have three degrees but don’t want to pursue a career in any of those fields. They don’t understand when I tell them I don’t want to work full time.
I spent most of the money that I got from my car being totaled on music festival tickets, travel, and tattoos. It took me five years to get back my creativity after graduate school sucked it out of me. I’m now a starving artist and am perfectly content, not having sold a single piece of artwork. My family doesn’t understand my art, but I have a close friend who is into fine arts and her enthusiasm for my work keeps me going, as does my newfound creative spirit.
Congratulations to you for breaking free of your former conditioning, and living an unconventional life that you actually gain more contentment from. I really enjoyed reading your comment - people like you are an example for those of us (like myself) who live on autopilot to follow. Hope you continue to remain true to yourself.
This is a very inspiring story!
What’s your art about ? Would love to see it
The last part made grin 😊 I feel you, I'm glad you have passion to create. Keep going
You are so rich of things money cannot buy
Needed this. Perfect timing. 2 days ago I quit a job that was causing me to waste away. I was being treated horribly and just sticking it out because I thought I had to. I didn’t. I came to a breaking point with some of the horrible emails my boss was sending me. I worked hard and I gave them the best I could, but that man is sick. I took a risk and quit on the spot. I couldn’t do it anymore. I feel a lot freer… doesn’t feel real yet… and I need another job. But… I think, despite all of the social constructs that make me feel like it was stupid, it wasn’t and I’m going to be okay. Everyone close to me saw how it was impacting my quality of life and were all very supportive. I didn’t expect that. They called me courageous, each independently of one another. I guess they’re right. I get one life. I want to enjoy it.
Proud of you and very happy that you have such a supportive circle of people around you. Forget what the constructs shout at you and believe yourself! You got this!
You ARE courageous. Good for you - that's f*cking awesome 😁❤!!!
Just curious how things are going now, after several months. Do you have anything additional to share?
Be ready for surprises!! Well done!
I hope all is well with you and you found a much better job. 💕
By procrastinating, life passes us by. And then we no longer dare and everything becomes difficult, far and heavy. Love your videos, thanks for posting this one today.
What are you chasing? The starting line ? When all roads lead to finish line .
ooh I felt that.
@@eternity.in.a.m0m3nt i use this analogy literally every day. my dad will often be in a rush to go through a traffic light he has no hope of making before it will turn red, and i'll say all the time "you're rushing just to get to a red light..." this even happened within 20 minutes of the time i'm typing this.. literally.
i'll see other people do this all the time too, speeding up past me on the road going at my chill pace, only for us to meet up again at the red light. obviously the analogy is a bit different when there are no traffic lights and you can just keep going, sort of like you can in life, but i do feel like it's a good visual for people who are in a rush to get to the finish without enjoying the race.
@@tylerhawksmoor9601you people?
Powerfull
The biggest lesson I got from this is the need to break free of recreating nostalgia and fulfilling the distorted dreams we had as children. Not every present action needs to be in retaliation to or a repudiation of our past misery. Our actions must always be in response to the needs of today.
Instead of toxic thoughts controlling our actions like: "I'm buying this because I was a laughing stock when I was 12. Where are the snobs now? Are they still mocking me over what I didn't have? Am I still a joke to them? Not after this."
We should instead think: "I don't need this right now. Who cares what people think about me. Who cares what they ever thought."
Somehow we internalised others' negative opinions as personal truths and live our lives controlled by this toxicity. We're better at deflecting it as adults, but when we were young and seeking trusted guidance in the world, we absorbed a lot of it that now controls us.
why do I respect their opinion of me, more than my own opinion of me?
really good comment on a really good video. I will try to think about what you wrote every time I need it. Thannk you and have a good life ! :)
@@seabreeze4559Because the environment forces us to do so; if we go back to a couple thousand years ago when we used to live in tribes and clans, being outcasted by the people would most likely result in death, thus it's a survival mechanism. It would also explain why when someone moves to a different part of the country, the accent and vocabulary changes to some degree to fit the new standards of that location.
Train the subconscious mind. Reboot it is a machine it believes everything you tell it as fact.
This hit me to my core. Really hard to let go of these thought patterns as somebody extremely stubborn and hard headed.
Hunger is cheap, the pallet is expensive... wow I love that.
Palate
Pallets are cheap….
@gregorymoats4007 Good quality pallets are expensive too
@@NygmaNL “Hunger means nothing to the cheap skate…”
Makes sense delivering food could be more expensive depending where it is being delivered to
Let's admit we clicked on this video because we all feel lost at the moment, and figured maybe hearing this guy out will tell us something we don't know already
me: reads the title
also me: because I hate myself
That is manipulative to assume for everyone. Why don't you talk for yourself?
@@JPcommunicateschillax buddy hes talking to whoever clicking this video not literrally everyone
Yup, this exactly. Sending hugs to everyone. Let's finally start doing better for ourselves 🖤.
I clicked to see if it was a man or a woman 😅 but the channel is somewhat interesting, so I'm glad I found it.
I realize now every moment spent postponing myself is a moment I could spend becoming who I'm meant to be. And I deserve every greatest thing this world has to offer.
People look down on my $4000 car, like they feel bad for me. But the freedom of being able to buy another one, in cash, if something happens to it is what people who want “financial freedom” are looking for. Lovely video
How reliable is that 4000 dollar car buddy
Rubbish click bait
Who doesn’t love a good ShitBoxCar
@@adaharrisonn not bad. It’s a Toyota. Hasn’t stranded me since I got it 3 years ago (knock on wood). I take good care of it tho.
"Don't buy anything you can't replace."
I am lost in the sea of noise. Past mistakes, current success of others, depression, procrastination. It's healthy to slow down, stop consuming ( literally and metaphorically) and maybe think about more important things in life. Thank you for this video which momentarily stopped me from mindless scrolling and maybe made me reflect on some things in my life. I think we humans should have moments like theses regularly, like a mind calming excercises. Looking for your next videos.
That's ADHD 101, look into it. Medication is not magic but can help a lot.
@@TiagoReganhai am not sure, never was diagnosed with anything. Noone cared back then.
9:27 My reading is you've never put yourself first. We have a task to fulfil in this life. A Purpose known before birth but forgotten soon after. I have a feeling this is the mystery behind "Know Thyself"
Diagnosis means nothing. Please find a green space and walk. Do some breathwork. Look at the birds... feel the breeze...you get the idea.
The problem now is the sheer increase in cost of basic necessities. I agree the priorities are off with things like fancy cars - but even a modest used car now is way too much.
People who constantly want more more more things are usually empty inside anyway- it’s a dead end.
My problem isn’t in the wanting of excess - I want basic needs met without costing me 3k a month, ya feel me?
this
This!!!! Its not striving its barely surviving
And just keeping yourself with a roof over your head, renting or otherwise
Lord, 4k per month qualifies a single person in Chicago for certain benefits. I didn't think I would live to see when a salary of $50k would not be considered solidly middle class. People with degrees expect $80k to start. Insane. (And what's it like in New York?)
Yes, I rent an apartment and travel by bike ( I live in France where this is possible), I buy the majority of my clothes second hand and don’t eat meat or eat out. I’m a university lecturer and all my time is spent working . I’m a single mother of two and rents are high.
I’m clear in how I want to send my time but cannot see how it can be done and not become homeless.
HIlariously I left this open in a tab for weeks before finally getting around to watching it. I feel like I live in line with these ideas more than many of those around me, but the messaging from society has gotten so strong that I find myself constantly questioning my values. It's always nice to be reminded of these values through the reflection of others. Thanks!
So what I gathered is to take precious care of the opportunity each day brings, and the choices within it.
Also the priority and investment in actions with consistency lead to a stronger outcome.
so if I cut loose what unimportant things bleed my limited time and energy, and focus that energy into what I value most, my life will change in that direction.
Thanks, makes sense
I stumbled upon this notion a year ago and have been working towards it since.
Essentially, as adults, we typically get up in the morning to
👉🏼 get ready for work.
However, I'm advocating for a shift towards getting up in the morning and,
👉🏼 getting ready for play.
And now, play can be whatever you do to keep that fire inside you turned on. ✨
Unlike work, which for a lot of us, dims our light.
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Before this realization, I was a strong proponent of working nights whenever possible. 🌙
Trust me, scheduling your day this way,
prioritizing your own work in the morning before doing work for in someone else’s name, results in much higher energy levels.
It may feel like when you rearrange a room and you see that you have so much more space, and without having gotten rid of anything! 😉
Thank you for this reframe! 🙌🏾
... wow , thats clear , thx alot , got it
i could argue with you
but I would be wrong..
Wow!! Thank you, so much. Your post is the BEST thing I've read this week....or maybe far longer. Thank you!! Yes!!😎✌🏻❤️✨🌻
I completely agree. We burn ourselves out for *someone* *else* and we are slaves to the system. Meanwhile, our lives tick by without ever having the opportunity to live them- unless we’re lucky enough to make it to old age, in which case, we are too old and feeble to truly live out our dreams.
I’ve learned that hard lesson after being a workaholic, only to become disabled by that job at the age of 37, and that workplace that I gave so much of my hard work, energy, and dedication, where are they now? They don’t care about their employees, they care about the bottom line. When I got hurt, they treated me like a problem they were trying to make go away. And although I truly loved my job, I wasn’t making great money to be there. And now my body is destroyed, in my prime, and for what?
Live your life, don’t put yourself last. Don’t procrastinate in your true journey of becoming you.
We all think that there will always be plenty of time “someday,” but what happens when you’re unable to use that time to good purpose when it comes?
I spend most of my day in bed, even unable to read most times because it’s too painful and difficult to sit up enough to read. I have a lot of time on my hands, but it is spent in pain and immobility, and spent waiting for something that will never come.
I don’t say this for anyone to feel sorry for me, I don’t want pity. I am saying this because it is imperative that you enjoy your life *today.* Do the things you want *today.* Life the life you deserve *today.* Because tomorrow may not come in the way you think it should.
I’m so grateful that I have RUclips and that I get to discover phenomenal individuals like this man here. This was one of the best things I’ve ever watched on the importance of living your life, I just wished I would’ve seen it sooner, but I would’ve been busy living life to make other people happy.
Live your one precious life. Live it *today.*
This is great. My life's been better ever since I adopted a mindset similar to this about a year ago, doing what I want to do in the moment rather than waiting for the "best time" to do it. E.g. going for that bike ride now, rather than waiting for the perfect weather that will never come, or waiting for other people to join in. I found living cheaply was much easier once I found these things that I really enjoy. Waiting for money, other people, or nice weather just leads to doing nothing at all. Live in the moment, cause the future is exactly that, always in the future
I agree with you 100%
abraham hicks and the concept of being in the vortex
I totally agree with your comment. Thank you for your lovely comment :)
Great presentation. Great message. Straight to the point, no distracting music or edits. Just a man, his books, and philosophy. I just subscribed.
You wrote what I was thinking. I subscribed too.
And he’s so handsome gosh
Same!
I don't usually subscribe but 10 seconds in and I was like "damn I need to check out all his videos''
same! i subbed as well and this is the first video of his i've watched
What is his name???
Divine providence has placed this video on my feed. Blessed is the Lord
Um... No?
This I’d so refreshing: just a friendly human being, pleasant voice, a deep message, no music, no fast cuts, no unnecessary intros/outros, no plea to subscribe or course or limited time offer…
JUST A DEEP RANDOM chat with a person.
Thank you!
THANK YOU.
Thank You! "you go to work, but THE WORK of LIFE, YOU HAVEN'T PUT A SINGLE MINUTE IN!" LOVE IT! Blessing and LOVE!
In my own experience it has proven to be helpful to actually know what it is that I want and just do it. Simple things like having a coffee on my balcony in the mornings when it’s warm outside - taking care of a beautiful plant - having kind and insightful conversations with my partner. As I continually find myself naturally living a life that I find fulfilling, I continually find that I ALWAYS have ALL of the resources to support that life. The momentum built up in the so called small things evolves into much bigger things in an organic way.
I resonate with this.
beautifully put
Beautiful
Are you doing manifestation type work?
@@hangloosejanjucI consider it a cross section between many different philosophies. Mentalism, Buddhism, Stoicism, Taoism, etc. I typically navigate the paths of awe and wonderment. I think that I understand your question though…and I can answer that with a yes, but among other things as well.
Can we please have more videos on this topic? I feel like we as a society are so much trying to become a perfect "ideal" of a high functioning "nothing". We are all caught up in this high performing "successful person idea" but we don't ask ourselves where we are going. It's like our "direction vector" is not present but we're full-speed jumping into the abbyss.
Thank you for sharing in this observation with me.
I’ve been feeling judged because I’m not status or wealth seeking.
It seems I was on an upward trajectory back there, but not for MY PURPOSE. So I had to learn some new skills, which meant taking a step back from the hustling and instead, studying.
Now that I’m essentially starting over, I can literally hear the judgement (I’m clairaudient.)
It's inspiring to find others who refuse to be mere participants in the rat race, even in an age where it's conveniently packaged within the palm of our hands.
Here's to those who value meaningful pursuits over the mindless hustle. 🥂✨
Success is bs. ALl forms of it. I knew as a kid that the life offered to me was BS, but even the more conscious humans subconsciously pass this sense onto you you are nothing if you are not doing something. Life isn't homework. Life is YOUR experience. It's MY experience. I do what I want with it......and there's millions of ways of doing it.
Running around like a headless chikcen chasing thigns, or being a harsh critic of mysel sound very dumb. To what end? Death's only cool thing is that it helps put time in prespective. When I die I won't care one bit what I accomplished. I don't intend to take the judgements of this world with me to my personal heaven.
@@jeanjacqueslundi3502 yes but if you aren't doing anything, at any point, then who are you? How can you have no ambition, or will to do something good with your life?
@@benjaminmitchell6016 How do kids go through life? Is it ambition, or enjoyment that drives them?
And I didn't say I don't have my desires and ideals....just that they have nothing to do with you or the programming of the world. And I don't have to make myself feel like "sh*t" if I don't manage them. Unless they are moral....but I got those covered WITHOUT playing into the world's idea of ambition.
@@jeanjacqueslundi3502the role that corporations play in this should not be ignored. We are not meant to work 50+ hours a week at a retail or office job just to be able to afford to have a shelter. If our time at work was limited then we would have more time for ourselves
Thank you for this. Not too long ago I felt like I needed to build up two multimillion dollar businesses in order to persue my indie artist career. Then I realized I wouldn’t have the time for my music if I was busy running businesses. I quit my cushy factory job, moved out of my 2BR apartment, into my car that I own, and ran my business out of a storage unit. Once I decided to get an RV I saved up $1200 and got a fixer upper to live in. It’s beautiful and I couldn’t be happier. Now that I’m not working to live, living to work, I am putting all my money into my music career. This is an amazing realization thank you for speaking on this
A beautiful man with a beautiful mind. Not something you come across everyday!
Ok grandma, calm down.
@@noname8366that’s mean, friend
We all need more patience and less procrastination, we must believe in who we’re becoming instead of the fear of who we might truly be
Well said 🙌🏾
Live, Laugh, Love
I wish this video was posted a month earlier. I’ve grinded myself into depression, almost deleted myself from existence trying to accumulate more money, trying to create a place to be happy with my beloved girlfriend in a future. I’ve completely forgot that I’ll never be in a future, here&now is all that I’ll ever experience. Now I don’t have a girlfriend. I’ve ruined everything. Paradoxically, after some time of mental agony, after I’ve lost my dream, I’m awake as I’ve never been. Just trying to become the best possible version of myself.
Better late than never)
if you sometimes get the feeling things are falling apart, maybe they are just falling into place... your suffering is not created by your circumstances, but rather by your resistance. keep your head up bro, this too shall pass.
At what point did you realize you were overextended yourself for money ? I,myself am trying to have enough money to pursue my dream, but I keep wondering at what point does it become destructive instead of freeing ?
For me it was the moment when I realized that I think about my job almost every single hour. Either what to do with this or that particular nuisance, or what am I doing wrong, or what if it’s not “my type” of job. Now I clearly see that the common denominator of all my career choices and mistakes and problems was me.
Of course, it’s (probably?) cool when your job is so meaningful and exciting that you can think about it all day long; but now I try to distance myself from my job. It’s not me. No matter how hard am going to f*ck things up - it’s all out there. I’ve done what I can out of what I should - and that’s it.
I realized many years ago that it made no sense to give any other human power over our happiness. Although I have been married 30 years now and would prefer that my partner continues to grow older with me, his physical absence couldn't diminish the beauty of life. I hope you always know that too.
You’re lucky you weren’t married to her or she would have taken with her half the money you made trying to impress her, and she’d now be spending it gleefully with her next boyfriend(s). All guys should insist on prenuptial agreements before getting married, no matter how poor they are, unless it’s an extremely rare case where the woman is wealthy and they guy is not.
This video came at exactly the right time for me. I have been feeling a lot of lower emotions recently. I have been feeling very deeply that its time to stop holding back on myself and what I feel called to in this life. I can see the person I can become and the things I want to bring into the world. But I keep holding back and 'postponing' myself. Ive been doing it almost all my life. 'Waiting' for the right moment to step into the person I feel is inside me. And the value I can bring to the world. Ive recently passed 30 years old. And starting to feel like time is passing me by and I can no longer hold back on these things. Some might say thats young and laugh. But to me having had these dreams and calling for years now. It feels like a long time to delay.
Anyway I just randomly opened RUclips tonight after feeling all these emotions the last few weeks and especially the last few days.
I felt so present watching this video. And it hit me very deeply. It then led me to being reminded of this quote below. I cried when I read it. Thank you for this video. Its exactly what I needed right now. This is the quote:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others"
I haven't been this captivated by a RUclips video in a long time. Love your demeanor and delivery.
It took me 40 years to learn this lesson. Thanks for sharing and reminding me of my focus.
I have always known this and done this until society expected of me to be like everyone else. Expectations and lots of them. I lost my joy of life, health and motivation. Now I am struggling to find my way back to the colorful happy person I once was. Today I am a pale, sick shell of my old self. I look in the mirror and hardly recognize who I have become. I have stopped caring about everything that once meant something. I find that even worse to have known it but to have lost it. Knowing what makes you happy but letting society's expectations to ruin and run your life. I'm happy you have found it. It's never too late. Run with it.
What was the lesson?
Well said!
Our luxuries cost us more than money, they come at the cost of time and the things we actually love.
opportunity cost?
Back in my late 20s I decided to get married and have a family. When you make that decision you also take on the responsibility of providing for the needs (and wants) of your family. So my time isn't necessarily my own anymore. That adds another layer that separates you from taking care of your own personal goals. I don't regret my decision to have a family, but sometimes I do wish I had more time to focus on myself. I have found myself being more forceful with taking that time recently, but it is difficult to do (and even more so when you have a family). But it is quite easy to fall into the "Well when I retire I'll have that time" mindset. But when I think back on my father, he maybe had 2 good years after he retired before health problems closed in. So, my suggestion to you is make sure your family knows that you need your own time and that their needs can't always be paramount. Be equally forceful in regards to yourself - don't allow the eternally expanding to-do list to take over your life.
I understand this ❤ i love my daughters and i want to provide so much for them.
this is the first time i watch a video and realize im on the right path in life :) spending everyday working on myself and growing in the best person!! not making money but im HAPPY.
For over 20 years I've studied honey bees. Over those years the bees have truly taught me most about life.
my principle is: love made me like itself; I am love . in the face of that brilliance, I easily see, for example, how putting myself down is _not_ love
It’s beautiful ❤
@@yosmuc you’re beautiful! :)
@@rmschindler144 😊🤗
Oh, I love this. How wonderful, thank you for this.
Women… Lol
Having spare time for reading - that's the privelege
Never thought I'll grow up and the sick mad world will take this away from me
Tomorrow I'll see if I'm able to put it as priority at 6 am
You know what's more expensive than a car though? Dependents. Unless you are fine with letting them grow up in poverty and letting them figure out how to fund college (or to not and have their career options severely limited). And, if you work less on improving your earning power in a career, you will end up spending more hours at work to fund a basic lifestyle because you are paid less per hour. It's not like you can decide you are no longer materialistic and just stop working, have all this free time. I agree that it is important to know what is really important in life and put that first. That doesn't support the claim that the answer is to 'desire less, earn less, spend less'. That applies in a minority of cases where somebody is putting in overtime at work in order to buy luxury goods, and they could stop putting in that overtime. I believe your observation here was helpful, but the conclusion rang hollow, was not sufficiently thought out.
Edit: I think that a better conclusion would be to have more clarity on personal values and how those translate into action. I think if you asked most people what their deepest values were, their answers would be vague at best. Certainly not developed enough to live out. That would be a good place for most people to start.
well put, while the wisdom he shares is undeniable, he is a young man living well in his twenties in a rich country, and it seems obvious he comes from a good family, so his advice doesnt apply to all people or even most people
This is a very good comment. Earning a good salary means your kids can grow up in a safer environment that fosters growth, and attend schools with more thoughtful teachers and students (ironically, they will spend time with people who are NOT glued to a tablet or an ipad all day). Having money also allows your kids to pursue fine arts, sports and cultural activities. I have lived amongst the underclass and it is not something to be glorified
I agree.
It’s like I know my routine is keeping me down, I know the ways in which it’s negatively affecting my life, but it’s still so hard to change it
Same. My sleep schedule is messed up my whole life. Even if I try to restrict and force myself, I switch back to old habits and a shitty routine. Like, if you're bored with your routine, try doing something disruptive like deciding to do something creative, following your healthy impulses, etc. A bit of randomness can be good to counterbalance rigidity and monotony. I wish the best for you! ❤
... I have to say that you look a bit like the artist St. Vincent!
Hugs,
Ronald "Nique" McDonalds
Don't think about changing the whole thing. If it feels too big you may never do it. See if you can start by waking up 3/5 minutes earlier and just stay in bed hugging yourself or write down 5 things you are grateful for or sit up, close your eyes, and focus on your breath for 3 minutes. Start really small and see how you feel in 2 weeks. Or maybe you drink a glass of warm water. Let me know how it goes. PS. It goes without saying that you postpone checking your phone until after you have done one of these things (or all of them). Good luck
you're so comforting bro, book people always are, love you
As much as I’d love to agree with this, and good points are made, I live in minimalism and still have to work my ass off for bare survival. Of course being poor is expensive (the boots tale is a good one) but at the end of the day u must pursue ur passion relentlessly, but manage to make urself strong enough to balance it all.
This
The harsh reality for me, and I think for many -- and I'm not young -- is that it's getting too expensive just to stay alive. And I have already reduced all my expenses down to the bare minimum. All is spent on NEEDS, nothing left each month for wants. Barely enough for a small amount of groceries. My car was totalled by a reckless, negligent driver. It was 11 yrs old, paid for and in great condition, with only 36k miles on it. With the very small insurance settlement I got there is nothing that comes even close to replacing it -- nothing reliable and nothing under 100,000+ miles. And that insurance settlement is all I can afford to spend on a replacement. Not sure what I'm going to do. A car is necessary where I live. I am under so much stress now, since my accident and car loss.
Thank you for your thoughts - pretty inspiring! I’ve put myself last for many years - was disconnected from me *and* was there for others. Over the past months, I’ve turned the tables and am now happy for finally choosing me and am sad about losing people around me. Here’s to this new exciting chapter that is called growth🤗✨
The way you speak is so calming. I think a philosophy ASMR series would take off like mad.
This is fine. No need to be AMSR.
I find it boring
@@RM-ti8nfMaybe your attention span has already been killed?
I think he sounds incredibly similar to Dr. Gabor Maté (whose voice I love!)
I can’t stand the swallowing noises
Excellent commentary. It takes a strong and self-assured personality to undertake the suggestions you make here. Going "against" societal AND parental expectations will be the hardest task you will ever undertake. We are programmed from our earliest days to "fit in" to societal expectations by parents who have embraced societal expectations. Be prepared to be alone--a lot. Be prepared to be pressured to "give up" your silly childish desire to be authentic. Your Mom will want a grandchild. Your Dad will want to boast about your career. Your siblings will want to compare themselves to you. Your potential "wife" WILL want to big house, the nice car, the Hawaii vacation, and 2 children. All those things said, the very best thing a person can do is go their own way.
half your message was good the other half was nihiliastic and negative. the wife part mainly was unncessary
What a brilliant presentation. Simple and profound! Thanks a million for this! I SO needed to hear this...
I'm at 2:28 and already mindblown! My version is: I need to first heal my difficult health condition (and trauma etc) and then I can do all these things that make me happy.
Read the book cured - the science of spontaneous remissions
Often remissions from health issues happen when people completely redecorate their life and alter their routines
Joe Dispenza has great books on the topic titled You are the placebo, breaking the habit of being yourself, and becoming supernatural
@@AaronLyons Thank you! I will check this book out. I feel much better and my MS is not as bad once I left my evil husband. Same for my chronically ill daughter. We both still go through so much, but with that evil man living with us, we are much better after 4 years.
@@desiderata333 please check out Joe Dispenza work and committedly do the meditations
i’ve found myself stumbling upon stoicism so often recently. something that has always deeply resonated with me, but i push to the side in pursuit of the comfort of what i know to be “easier”. i’ve struggled to remain focused on many things recently, but this video really spoke to me. thank you for this.
Taking time to watch this today was my work of life; I did what I wanted, then what I had to do, and then what I deserved.
I am glad to hear that you have set your priorities straight at such a young age. I am going to be 70 years soon and it took me until now to realize that you don’t need to be a gerbil on the wheel. Health and education are the priorities Everything else is just stuff.
Listening to you made me realize that I actually was doing something pretty meaningful without realizing it, since your example made me realize I was doing the opposite so far. Thank you.
The key to being happy is so simple but many people want to be someone they are not, many people care WAAY TOO MUCH about what others think of them. Great video
Guy sounds like Gabor Maté when I look away!
Brilliant advice.
Looks like Spencer Reed from criminal minds when you look straight at him
a lot of people starting to sound like Gabor Maté on here 🤔
Huge compliment. Gabor mate is very intelligent, love him.
That's what this guy looks like! I'm just listening without looking at the video and even the way he talks, wording choice and cadence, is all Gabor Mate.
This video randomly showed up on my feed. Really appreciate you taking the time to put this out there. I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear this.
A very good video.🙂 Thanks!🙏 (no background music, no heavy graphics, good audio, staying on point, about 10 min - everything felt so relaxing and productive.)
the stuff touches the soul man - thank you for reminding us
Look, I'm a simple woman: I see a handsome guy in front of a bookshelf reminding me of ancient wisdoms, I click.
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😂 😊😊😊😊😊
Get a husband who loves God
Looks aren't important
@@alreadybanned-pe6seshe was not asking for his hand in marriage relax
@@alreadybanned-pe6se "looks aren't important" you must be fug
You should consider giving a tour of your personal library/bookshelf. I think a good deal of us viewers would be greatly interested in such a video considering the depth of knowledge you seem to possess. Looking forward to the next video regardless!
I have to say that I love everything about your videos, and about your channel in general. You are so honest, kind, erudite and calm. Your videos are so simple in visual or sound effects yet they are fascinating to watch and full of wisdom and warm, secure, positive energy ❤
“You are exactly where you are supposed to be right now.” - Kahlil Gibran
Thats the first time I see you. I feel something very positive and benevolent coming from you. Thanks
i can tell you are a genuine person :) thank you for your words
Indeed this title spoke to me. There are many ways this title can be interpreted. For me, I’m at a point in my life where keeping my word to myself is my top priority. Why? Because I have not kept it for years now. This has affected my self-esteem, confidence, and ability to trust myself. My current life circumstances are also a result of postponing myself. Regarding the phrases “throw it all away” or “untie the knot” a phrase I also use is “burn the boats”. They all have the same meaning. Brilliant video and one that resonates exactly with this point in my life. Thank you sir.
Your voice is relaxing. Listening to you talk is therapeutic
This man looks like a Chad and thinks like a Greek philosopher, he has a bright future ahead of him
Your kind of commentary is needed in this world more than ever. Up until now people needed to step away just from the "extras", but now a new era is ushering itself in, when people will have to step away from a "tool" that will make them obsolete at the end. We are living through the most disruptive timeline of modern humanity.
I’m very glad to have found this video. I’ve been needing to hear something like this for a very long time, and known it as well. This is the first video I’ve ever come by of yours and it won’t be the last, your content seems genuine and refreshing, thank you for sharing.
Damn, somehow the algorithm brought us all together and here we are all listening to this most profound powerful message. I am currently in bed delaying getting up, first thing i did this morning was grab my phone. Well done, sir.
Hopefully tomorrow will be different
I genuinely appreciate that you didn't edit this..I felt like I was sitting down with a friend and I needed to hear this. Thank you✨️
Never acquainted with you before; so glad I found you now (at 74!). What a wise and thoughtful man you are. You inspire hope for the species.
Wanting less & wanting simplicity got me in a place where I was able to work just enough to get a house, cheap car, surfboards, food, utilities, & some vacations maybe once per year. Nothing in my life is lavish except a rare meal. This was an amazing video. I still work but now I’m realizing I should prioritize my values in the beginning parts of my day so they aren’t an afterthought after making ends meet at work. Thank you.
Personally, my immediate goal is to build wealth, which will help fund my large scale philanthropic objective. For example, I want to set up a wildlife conservancy in Eastern Africa to help save Elephants, Rhinos and other endangered animals from extinction. I cannot do that without sacrificing time for pleasure in the present so that I may realise my ambition. In life, you cannot have everything, something must always be sacrificed, it is the natural balance. I am okay with 'postponing myself' in order to be of service to something bigger. Thank you for the video though🙂
Everyone clicked on this video bc this man looks like a legend
Of course he's not 🤣
Nope. He just looked like someone worth listening to to me.
I clicked because the title caught my attention.
I don’t know if this was intentional, but your voice is so relaxing that i found it much easier to focus and absorb what you’re saying. It calmed me down from the usual fast-paced, rapid attention span style of advice that is so prevalent in social media now, specifically youtube shorts & instagram reels. I felt like it was a calm & steady lecture that forced my attention span to slow down and be present with, instead of having fast, efficient snippets of advice being thrown at me for sake of saving time. Thank you for making this video 🩷
So well said about how people come home from a full day of work, yet not do a moment of the 'work of life'. Those ancient philosophers had so much wisdom and I love how applicable it still is to these modern times. 💡
The funny thing is that i was just procrastinating and I clicked on the video accidentally hahaha. By the way I love your video and I just subscribed, thank you so much for your content, you are really helping people's lives :)
I'm awake at 1:32am with stress induced insomnia. I agonize over problems with the job that brings me financial security until I have the nearly continuous feeling I wish I could stop the world and get off. What I really want to do is be creative and help people recover from stress and be free from the same trap I'm in. I die from impostor syndrome every day. I see the way out and can't make myself do it. Why? Everything in this video makes perfect sense. Thank you for posting.
I have no idea if any of this will make sense to you, but... consider the possibility that you've yet to accept (or even ponder) that life is wayyyy to short to do anything close to the number of things you want to do, and that there are probably 2 or 3 things that actually pull you out of the time stream and allow you to experience the moment for exactly what it is. Consider that the greatest gift you can give yourself is to make a list of the top 10 or 20 things you want to do with your daya and your life, make sure #1-3 are actually the top 3, and put #4-20 on their own list. Tape this second list to your bathroom mirror, and remind yourself every morning and every night that you have to /actively avoid/ all of those things or your life may never click, you will struggle to feel like you're living the life you're supposed to live. Anxiety, burnout, exhaustion, overwhelm are the inevitable outcomes of avoiding your actual priorities. Hard, brutally hard choices must be made, and then they must be respected. Because you ARE going to die, we all are, and none of us know when, and this very obvious fact is either accepted with grace or it is fought with extreme violence. The more you let this reality sink in, the more you will be here. Don't try to force yourself to make any choices, you will most assuredly make them when you are able. Watch your confusing behavior with the relentlessly loving gaze of a new mother upon her newborn babe. "Oh, look at you doing that thing you do, it's so beautiful." Keep exploring, keep learning, the ride never ends, around and around we go!
He is looking straight into my soul
It’s a 2000 years old quote, and still I stumble upon this video about it right after a therapy session reflecting on that specific experience that has been going on for my entire adult life. Impressive one, universe lol
Wow, this video really hit me hard. I regret spending years of my life doing something I was not passionate about and did not serve me. Its only purpose was money and it didn’t really fulfill my needs. Thanks for this reminder to prioritize 🙏🏻
"Why do you postpone yourself" is a timeless and timely calling, and I will bring it into my moments for pause today. Thank YOU!
You are so intelligent. And you look like an ancient greek philosopher.you’re just perfect 😢
Hello ATU. I remember reading Senecas How to Die after the shooting in Lewiston ME in 2023 because I mentally broke, and felt like I needed something that gave me some sense of hope in just death. The book is almost dangerous in the hands of martyrs, but in the hands of modern philosophers, it is a realization on what the price of life actually is, and what death actually signifies. The fear of death is what generally controls us, but seeing it as a gift and tool when kings and rulers wish to lessen the purpose of one's life - that is worth more than the millions of dollars one might find.
For many years I worked in a jobs I didn't enjoy, I liked the money I got, but I was "dreaming" about working in the area I was always fascinated, that I studied and never had chance to fullfill my curiocity for specific topics. Last year I made a resolution that I have to make a change and just start doing what I always wanted. I actually lost a job at that time, but I didn't care as I didn't enjoy it (even though I co-founded that company I worked at). I manged to get to the position I always wanted, I do what I dreamed of, and I am f*** happy - I finally feel fullfilled. If you're like me - you have a feeling that there's something out there that you will be good at, that will bring you joy - go for it, don't waste your life.
The title literally hits the nail on the head, it's time to prioritize our core values
i saw this video 3 months ago
and i’ve been learning guitar for three months now, i’ve never ever imagined myself to be this committed to something for my own sake, but i did it !
thanks to you and to my guitar teacher (online one) i liked to mention this because believe i always found ways to make excuses to not make what i love comes true when i really could, when it was possible.
That was incredibly affirming.
I knew it was the right thing to not be like my culture.
Cheers to those already doing everything he talked about.
Who is this good looking person and articulate literate machine? On you youtube?!
There is so much wisdom behind your words (and Senecas of course) Thank you so much
for sharing your clear intelectual and personal insights on youtube and for the algorithm to deliver it !!!🙏
this is a really nice comment and i dont mean to disparage it at all but it just made me think that in the future people will literally worship algorithms. giving thanks when the algo returns good, offering penance when it returns bad
I know people can be so up but 😂
It's a common message. What makes him so compelling is he is talking to us from the 1970's.
@@daylinlott5723 Interesting observation. We might compare his appearance in this video to the cover shot of James Taylor on the 'Sweet Baby James' album.
I'm proud to say, I'm young, 24, and doing the things I love, even though they don't currently give me any money.
Well, the real reason I clicked on this video is because of how handsome the speaker is - I’m melting ((-: I’ve read and quite enjoyed Seneka in my mid youth. I read, also, that Seneca was quite a posh guy in his life - it seems he was not so harsh on himself and his surroundings, same like rich people do nowadays, when they say that it’s not the money that matters. I would also like to remind you all, that Seneca was the teacher of Neron, the cruel emperor, and, obviously, his wisdom didn’t make any better. Thank you for your beautiful presence!
Thank you for making me realize i actually dont postpone myself. I truly do live and that can never be wrong. Wishing you all the best ❤
What this fails to address is that even living within or below your means, forgoing all possible luxuries, you still require an amount of money that would take the average person over 30 years to accumulate, in order to be truly financially independent.
Ya this guy definitely comes from wealth lol
Exactly! He sure gave a great recipe for a more humble/minimalist life, but you still HAVE TO attend your daily job just so you not become homeless and starve to death.