No one can understand what intense anxiety can feel like unless they have been through it. Mine gets worse as I get older. Every day, every situation, every decision, is a struggle. Blessings to everyone who is suffering from it. Be strong and acknowledge your strength even when you overcome the smallest of tasks. ❤❤❤❤
@MC--342~~So true~~Unless Dr.s, just people in general will never understand what it feels like~~I'm a 70 year old woman who had my first panic attack when I was 8 years old~~I was laying in bed trying to get to sleep snd all of a sudden I couldn't breathe and my heart was pounding and I thought I was dying~~My Ma was still up and I;m trying to tell her how I was feeling~~She said you're probably coming down with something and go back to bed~~Also, she was a nurse~~I went back to bed and prayed~~It lasted for 20 minutes or so and it stopped~~It was never talked about again~~I still got the attacks but I knew they would stop~~I never felt right~~When I entered Jr. High School I found out other girls, friends were going through the same thing along with debilitsting anxiety all the time~~Our parents did nothing~~To make a very long story short, I suffered ny whole life feeling that way~~Nobody knew how horrible I always felt but continued with my life~~I worked hard, took care of my family, went to night school for different things but everything I did I had to push myself hard to get things done~~When I left home at 17 I worked so hard and saved my money, went to Dr's, therapists but they just didn't get it~~I got tired of hearing, just take deep breaths and blah blah~~Nothing worked and as I got older I got worse~~Anti-anxiety meds didn't help at all~~Then Dr's said take this and take that and it will help~~I just got worse and just took anxiety meds and ambien cause I always had insomnia to this day~~But I feel like giving up but I can't~~So many worries and feeling worse~~I just feel that MY GAD is genentic from my Ma's side of the family~~She was never like a Mother should be~~I later found out some of my cousins had panic attacks, anxiety but I got the worst of it~~I've tried everything to feel at least sort of normal but just got worse with age~~I also had problems with perfection~~My brain and body just doesn't respond to all the things you're suppose to do~~Take good care and Happy New Year~~I pray for everyone that is going through horrible disorder~~🙃🙃🙃🥵🥵🥵☹☹☹💗💗💗
Oh I hope you will get through it! It's a really heavy thing, but if I can do it, I'm sure as hell you can do it! My tip is ''don't take life so seriously''. Once I understood what that actually meant my intense anxiety got evaporated. I'm still learning and it's not like I'm never anxious anymore. But a giant burden lifted when I stopped listening to my self made rules of good and wrong. There are no rules. Enjoy life how you want it to! All the tips the guy mentioned in the video are perfect!
Anxiety can be considered to be fear of fear, or more precisely fear of your body's natural physical responses to fear. Realising this can help reduce it.
That's the focus of Dr. Claire Weekes books and audio recordings. Desensitization of fear. She explains it so well. Love her audio recordings, too. Old school, but still applicable today, IMO.
What causes feelings of anxiety? In childhood, the mind archives the bad moments that human being experiment and when something happens that is similar to what was experienced the mind remembers it, emitting feelings of anger, fear, anguish or depression. It is important that every time something unpleasant happens and we feel bad about it, we realize that we are feeling ECHOES OF THE PAST, so that we don't go through life feeling bad about insignificant things. There are several ways to get rid of those constant warnings from the mind. When you feel anger, fear, anxiety or depression, accept to feel it until it fades. It is to cleanse ourselves of the unpleasant sensations experienced in childhood. Also practice to inhale, exhale deeply, count to eight and breathe again. repeat it several times and the unpleasant sensations begin to disappear.
@@tekkhero9767 even what you said proves his exact comment. Fearing consequences that aren't happening is fearing the fear of the consequences. You're fearing fear... Fear of etc. etc.
One thing to add is walking away from social media for long periods at a time. This includes news stories that are triggering. Sometimes we avoid life due to anxiety but we do so by drowning ourselves in social media which acts as a catalyst for even greater anxiety.
I think you're right. Im addicted to social media and the stimulation it brings. Generally my screen time has been 10 to more hours everyday. How do I stop?
That is so true for me. I can't read something upsetting and a couple of hours later have forgotten about it. It plays on my mind for days and even weeks later it will resurface.
For me, when I’m anxious I can barely eat. The anxiety makes me nauseous already making eating so hard. Which just leads to feeling worse since I’m anxious and hungry
Me too. The anti nausea drug ocean helps a lot. B-complex can help. Meditation and especially vagal Nerve breathing actually helps. Cold pack on the upper back and neck.
I have found that understanding my bodily sensations are not necessarily the truth or real. I understand that my sensations are coming from thoughts that I have been thinking recently or thought patterns I have created. I have realized that my body subconsciously is trying to protect me by releasing all the adrenaline on a daily basis because it feels like it needs to to protect me. Trust me, I have had anxiety where I’m throwing up, having diarrhea and shaking terribly from anywhere from 5 to 16 hours a day every day for months, and this has happened on and off throughout my life.I would recommend if you’re feeling nauseated to drink protein shakes as it’s almost impossible to physically eat when we feel this way. I am currently trying to learn to not be afraid of the feelings and trying to change my thought patterns that have created this habitual panic.❤
I remember when I struggled with that. It was so difficult but I just had to force myself to eat and let myself feel nauseous. Not fun but it helped me
Force yourself to eat, even if just a little bit of food. When you eat your brain says: "We're eating, so there must be nothing dangerous or wrong going on." I've been through it.
Thank you for this. I went to the hospital for a panic attack the other day where I fainted at work. I haven’t been to work in 5 days due to this. After watching this last night I made it to work today. It wasn’t a great day but when I made it through the shift I felt proud that I didn’t avoid my priorities. Appreciate your vulnerability
Aww so sorry to hear this. Well done for making it back to work, keep going, you can do this!! One thing that might help is magnesium, it’s really calming and helps go minimise anxiety. Zinc also helps too. You can create flash cards with positive affirmations that you can look at when you are at work. Or relate a vision board book (A5) and add beautiful and calming images and look at your book when or if you feel anxious at work.
Fainting is a fear I've always had during anxiety/panic attack but never happened. However, at times when I was not eating enough, I feel faint. Once I passed out from not eating enough & drinking alcohol. There could be other health reasons for fainting that have nothing to do with anxiety, although when experiencing not feeling well can being on anxiety if you are prone to anxiety and then assume anxiety or panic attack was the reason for fainting. Make sure you are eating healthy as Dr. Eilers states & get physical check up & blood work, EKG, etc. to rule out health issues before blaming fainting on anxiety alone. My best :-)
This reminds me of what a yoga teacher talked about at the beginning of every class. Work with the body of the day. Just because yesterday’s body was full of anxiety doesn’t mean today’s is. And of course she talked about nutrition and all the you talked about, but her point was to allow each day to be it’s own day. To let yourself experience the full range of human experience but not all on the same day. Trust that it will still be there tomorrow, maybe with a new ache, or maybe an ache from today will be gone. I do still drink coffee and my nutrition could use some fine tuning but this video is very helpful. Thank you
I agree as well. To hear that "anxiety can be defeated/ conquered" is reassuring. Thank you all for your transparency. It helps when you connect with others with similar journeys.
Me too, im experiencing severe anxiety these days with numbness in my extremities. It has made me dissociate a lot and it makes it really uncomfortable for me. But i will not give up and i wont let it take me down with it so ill keep trying.
I’m struggling at the moment. Alprazolam and buspirone are my only medication at the moment. I just took my 2nd alprazolam dose of the day (10:15 pm) with hope of getting a couple of hours sleep.
Anxiety and depression have crippled me my whole life. It's so painful and debilitating and I don't know anymore what to do. I'm tired, very, very tired. UPDATE: I am feeling considerably better than when i made my original post - the encouragement and prayers I received from my post, along with a review of my medications have really made a difference in my life, and the end result is I'm feeling considerably better. Thank you to all those kind people who cared enough to post words of love and encouragement in my time of darkness. You all saved my life.
Things I did when he had such massive panic attacks that I couldn't leave my house: 1. Gratefulness! No matter how miserable you are you always have things to be grateful for! As a homeless Veteran, I was eternally grateful for, a warm meal, a roof over my head, my dog the few friends Ive had etc, etc. I write a list each morning to rewire my brain. 2. What can you do, what can you accomplish during the day! Write down a few simple things. The old "trick" to help a fellow human when you feel miserable works! Carry the bags from the store for an old lady give a homeless with a warm meal or just take a walk with your dog? 3. Meditate and manifest a light within you that outshines and forces the darkness away and discover the magic of synchronicity and the pure magic in spiritual awareness?
Oh WoW! Good for you, that's a big step! ( sorry I know you posted this a month ago but I just ran across the video ) so how did it go? Were you able to get on the tram and complete the ride??
Honestly my major cyclical, episodic depression (MDD) vanished the day I had the magic mushroom tripping while listening to the birds singing in the early morning, up at the cottage country in Muskoka (Ontario, Canada) Literally changed my life.
I have cPTSD (self diagnosed) from an abusive childhood and early adulthood. I am 66 and it is only now that I realize how much magic mushroom can help solve the disorder.
Ive started taking mushroom powders in my morning tea and give supplements to one of my teenagers. Such a difference. Mushrooms are the hidden gem. Mother nature has everything we need.
I’m 67 years old and have dealt with anxiety and depression for over 50 years, listening to you has helped me to understand why I feel the way I do. I’m always looking forward to your next video. I’m so glad that I found you!
Having been through this, the most important thing i found is to do it regardless - go to work,go to a party. You won't feel like it but doing it reduces the fear. Bottom line,you need to lose your fear of being anxious.
i did this, for years, what happened is i was suffering tremendously but learned to live that way, truly horrific, honestly. i was still "limited" so to say in many ways, cause first of all, under that amount of anxiety it is literally impossible to live, work, study and so on and so on name it, to your best ability,but you could say i was "functioning" i guess, bearly making it through day by day. what happened, i crashed, completely. my mental and physical health went to absolute shit, arguably to point of no return. what anxiety did to my body, you wouldn't even believe possible. the damaged caused, now impossible to function, cause of my physical health decline, it ain't bout the mental even anymore.
I've watched so many psychologists try to help and explain anxiety and depression. You are the ONLY doctor that can explain the way i truly feel. The way you decribe anxiety is how I feel on a daily basis. I just thank you for reaching out to people and being able to relate, because you've been there done that. You are one amazing doctor and i can't thank you enough for the all your help!!!!❤❤❤❤
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my husband recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
My anxiety has really been horrible lately. I’ve always had social anxiety but lately it’s been severe. I used to not even try to be around people except when I had to at work. Since I retired it has been worse. But days like today give me hope. I started the day doing a group activity and I was so anxious. Tonight I went to my granddaughters game at high school and that is usually extremely uncomfortable for me. So many strangers in close proximity. I actually had a good time. I interacted with a few strangers and I could tell my daughter was very happy I felt reasonably at ease. I have recently been able to tell myself no matter what happens it’s not going to do permanent harm to me. No matter what happens my family will be there for me and life will go on. It has been helping.
8:00 doing “nothing” was/is my #1 trigger. I feel this vague panic rising as I sit (and maybe even scroll social media, Tv, etc- a stimulant IMO), which i later realized was anxiety due to my knowing I was doing something that contributed to my poor wellbeing yet was actively ignoring it and “freezing”. The anxiety rose from the cognitive dissonance.
The usual way to combat this isn't the way this video suggested (always filling your time with things) and is that you should accept your anxious thoughts but not react to them. To begin with you can address your thoughts (say "no, it's not likely that i'm going to die if I leave the house", and then leave the house), and then as time goes on, maybe only answer 30% of them, and then eventually just 1 in 5, and then stop answering them at all and eventually you reprogram yourself. The signals and hyper vigilance come from an overactive amygdala and with this type of exposure you can change it in around 2 weeks. But if what you're asking is how to not be stressed when you're doing nothing just because this isn't productive, then you could ask yourself "what's stopping me from doing something that I actually want to do now" .. sometimes you need to rest, sometimes there's something blocking you that you need to give yourself space to think about, etc @@qtip4747
I went through comments, and it is very sad to see a lot of people struggling with anxiety, God bless you all! But just sitting and doing nothing will never help you, you are the first person to help yourself. I have anxieties too, sometimes it is horrible, but I fight it through sport, watching videos like this, reading. Start with small steps, but make it consistent and add little by little. As you feel the difference don’t stop, keep going until you win over it. Believe and act🙏🏼 thank you for this video, it is really helpful.
As someone who has dealt with depression for 14 years now, anxiety just randomly came into the picture about a year ago and has been debilitating ever since. My anxiety has made my stomach hurt almost daily and has prevented me from traveling which I was still able to do with my depression, but I also find it extremely difficult to leave my house anymore. Thank you for taking the time to share these with us. I hope they help make a difference.
I had horrible stomach aches from anxiety starting at age 11. Over the years I learned to calm myself with breathing techniques, exercise, and asking myself “What’s the worst that can happen”? This video supports my need to have a knitting project on hand, or other project. I also got therapy. When I was in the grips of a stomach ache, a doctor gave me the best advice: no alcohol or caffeine plus do get exercise. Another doctor gave me a little blue pill with mild calming properties that I keep on hand but rarely need anymore. Tackle your mental problems as soon as possible. For me, driving an old car and investing in therapy instead, when I was younger, has led to a happier life. Of course, my anxiety was more situational. My husband’s is genetic and requires anxiety medication.
That's a typical CBT solution. Keep yourself busy. But it only helps to attenuate anxiety for a little while. Anxiety comes from the lack of connection to your own body. You feel anxiety because you probably used to suppress unwanted feelings in the past, and your body is trying to let yourself know that you ignore important signals. People learn quickly that the more you think the less you feel. And your body just want you to feel it. Because it's trying to tell you something. Like "stop, I'm tired" or "I don't like it, dont do it". If you ignore it, it will let you know by anxiety, intrusive thoughts and in the end, somatic symptoms.
@@Tk0mma yes and no. It easy to say that part but if you have real mental health issues it’s a continuing battle. You’re not avoid your issues but stay busy but you focus on your work instead and thus slowly realize these “problems” are not actually problems and then they slowly release.
Wow..I have been watching you this last 6 months or so...your ability to communicate in detail my existence, thoughts, and life....blows my mind..I just never believed another person on the planet could honestly " get it"...I am 61 years old...61 years of trying to get through it alone. Thank you for putting yourself out there for the rest of us!❤
Anxiety ruined my life. I got it from my mother. I have on my Whiteboard, written the following simple axioms 1-Life is engagement not avoidance (Existentialism) 2-Slow down and focus (Zen) 3-Act with self respect and confidence (NLP) NLP and exercise also helped me with anxiety and sleeping, and CBT helped with depression. -Good luck fellow travellers through the universe of emotions, which is life. Peace.
@@LaoSoftware It's common for SOME anxious people to have high irritability... Get easily irritated and angry for little to no good reason. It's frustrating... but everyones anxiety is a bit different.
Thank you Scott. I am an older man who cared his dear wife to her last breath. More than grief I would say that my day is filled with anxiety, angst, and what you have to say offers me hope. Thanks, pal.
I’ve suffered for 30 years and I’m tired of it. But I do like being alone. But it’s the fear of everything I’m so tired of it. Crazy things that have no rational. Xx
Well scoot over cause I'm in the boat with you. Haha I remember being very little and telling the family doctor that my tummy always hurt and he asked me to describe "hurt" and I said I feel like there's a whole bunch of butterflies flying around in my tummy all the time and making it dizzy. He asked basic questions like did it happen when I was doing or this or that or the other. I said it's ALL the time. Everyday when I wake up til bedtime. Welcome to generalized anxiety disorder was the diagnosis. It never stops, never takes a break. Even if I have nothing that needs done and I'm free to just sit back relax watch a movie, play a game on my phone, sit outside and enjoy the sunset. I still cant relax and I still have the anxiety. Like you said, I am so sick and tired of feeling this way and I am tired of being afraid of everything because I know that my anxiety is going to interfere so intrusively that it's just better for me mentally to avoid everything and stay in my comfort zone of home. I am able to socialize when I do go out and about to take care of errands and things like that. It's just getting myself out there to begin with. The dread of having to get out of the car and go inside the Walmart or something, even tho it's the same one I've gone to for years, the anxiety of going inside is overwhelming and then I try to get back to my car and go home as quickly as possible. Im not "afraid" of anything in the store, I'm not afraid of people, there's not a specifically particular reason that this act of going inside causes difficulty for me. It's just the act in it of itself that spikes my anxiety through the roof and I just dont get it. It happens with Everything and I'm so tired of dealing with it but it's literally all I've ever known and nothing seems to help. Just don't tip over this boat we're both in tho, OK? Lol Oh hell. It's worse than I thought. Rereading that I see that apparently I even have anxiety with imaginary things. 🤦🏼
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@KatSpade1018 bless you, but you literally explained it so well. It’s nice to know we aren’t alone though isn’t it. I wish I had a magic wand. I’ve lived so long with it I really don’t know anything else. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but yet somehow I hide it well. Only my nearest and dearest know so it’s a fight of will power and strength at times, which must mean we are incredibly strong - ironic isn’t it! Wishing you all the best for you. ❤️
Dr Scott, your first hand experience puts you so far above the rest of your professional peers! Thanks for your courage to take a different approach, and for sharing so many practical resources! We appreciate you! 🙏🏽
@DrScottEilers I can't agree more! Thank you Dr Scott! I was telling my husband about how the not trusting myself/ having to do everything right then and he said hiw that was me to a tee. Alo g with black/white thinking from EatingD
Wow! I've heard about conflicts in the comments but it's never actually happened to ME before!😅My intention for donating $10 wasnt for anyone to send judgemental comments his way or cause him any bad publicity. @anubischick - I did it because therapy costs $150 a session these days, and yet his videos I receive absolutely for free! Based on his popularity I know I'm not alone in that we all get so much more value here than with an actual 1on1 therapy session elsewhere, and so I don't want him to stop making them! I know that not everyone has a self help budget, but me sharing less than a tenth of what a therapy session would cost me IRL for receiving even more practical value in return seems like the LEAST i could do, it's a steal! He's taken a big risk exposing his personal experience to the world, and going against the grain in his approach, you know how rigid doctors are, they don't always shoot straight, so much political ambiguity in their communication, which has it's purpose surely to not expose them to unnecessary risk so that they can help more people, but Dr Scott is recognizing a a big gap in care and taking personal risks to fill it, we need more people like that in the world, and in the capitalist society we live in it's soo important that people are financially incentivized to take risks for the good of others, that should be rewarded! Anyway, I hope more people that have a self-help or therapy budget see the logic, and the huge savings and consider doing the same so that Dr Scott gets back a FRACTION of the value he's putting out into the world. I'm not saying replace your care with RUclips just that it's a great compliment, for the millions of people that just can't afford weekly therapy sessions. Btw-he mentions he's also a full time doctor, aside from his full family and personal life. Do we really want him responding to all the comments so that we don't get our feelings hurt, or do we actually prefer he prioritize his limited free time helping more people and focusing on the bigger picture? Also, I don't think it's greedy to thank someone for having received value in what you provided and giving you a fraction of that value back in money, he was just doing the polite thing, someone gave him cash, you'd do that same as well naturally, no need to vilanize him for it, we don't do it when anyone else says thank you at checkout. Anyway, hope that offers a different perspective. And I hope by donating again in the future anyone else avoids jumping to negative asumptions and instead considers donating as well. Thanks for reading!
Sleep!! Sleep is the biggest contributor to my anxiety. I cannot sleep or I can't stay asleep. And looking towards the future at the current state is a nightmare. Which creates even more anxiety, a lack of sleep is the one thing I cannot shake..
I will give you some hope of beating unable to sleep . When I was about 5 years old , I couldn't sleep well because I would have terrible nightmares every night. My parents didn't get along, so I had no confidence that they could help me, so I thought of a way. I decided that if I couldn't remember the nightmares when I woke up, then I would be Okay. Believe it or not I managed to convince myself that I was not going to ever remember my dreams, nightmare or not. It took a few days, but I could not remember my dreams whenever I woke up for Years afterword. I guess it was something like hypnotizing myself or whatever. if there's a will there"s a way . Your mind is a powerful tool.
@chrisb7951 thanks for sharing your story. I'm amazed at how young you were being mindful and having the self-awareness to strategist a way to help you beat your nightmares. We all know that nightmares are very dreadful... My sleep has improved, but I still have some frustrating nights just not as many. Meditation and not allowing myself to overthink about falling asleep or not have helped tremendously.
00:02 Stopped avoiding things that triggered anxiety 02:34 Stretching your comfort zone is crucial for managing anxiety. 04:50 Avoiding anxiety triggers doesn't make anxiety go away, you have to face them. 07:05 Engage in cost-benefit analysis of anxious thoughts 09:12 Direct your mental energy to keep anxiety at bay 11:24 Stopped eating unhealthy and skipping meals to improve anxiety 13:30 Taking care of nutrition is essential for managing anxiety. 15:36 Learn to ask for help and delegate to reduce anxiety. 17:25 Treating myself as untrustworthy 19:12 Learning to trust my future self 21:12 Utilize helpful tools to manage anxiety
1. Stretch your mind by putting it into challenges. Don't avoid tasks. 2. Avoid stimulants like coffee, energy drinks etc 3. Keep your mind busy and occupied 4. Food is energy for brain. Don't skip meals and pay attention to your nutrition 5. Don't expect yourself to do each and everything all alone. Ask for help 6. Stop treating yourself like an untrustworthy person Just some key points I recall from the video :)
STOP❌ 1️⃣ avoiding things that make you feel anxiety (do them!) 2️⃣ using stimulants (caffeine, sugar, alcohol and etc.) 3️⃣ doing nothing (be busy!) 4️⃣ eating like crap and skipping meals 5️⃣ doing everything by yourself (ask for help & delegate) 6️⃣ treating yourself as an untrustworthy person (if not today you will do it later!)
I definitely struggle with anxiety. I have missed so many opportunities in my life because of it. In pretty much all aspects of life. I ended up just accepting that's the way I am, but hate it when I know it's holding me back from a really meaningful life. I did somewhat defeat it once but had some events in my life that I can't change bring it on worse then it ever was. Once again starting all over again........ it's tiring.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@thoos192 Hi, I have Coeliac and my daughter started out with symptoms of Coeliac, but it didn't show up with the Edoscopy. The villi inside of the small intestine is what absorbs nutrients. In Coeliacs this gets flattened by reaction to gluten. Yes it causes lots of anxiety, from lack of nutrients, or in some people from gluten affecting them but villi not damaged.
I fight with anxiety each and every day, but I fight with it, I'm not giving up, even when sometimes I'm getting my ass kicked by it and I can hardly stand up, I always try and do it, to stand up and keep on going. And if I can, as someone who didn't really achieved anything special in its life then anyone can do it and that's what I believe in with all my heart.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@thoos192 yes the stomach issues are horrible. I don't have a gallbladder so I'm almost obligated to eat well. I've actually been checked for all those things and nothing came of it. But, I'm so glad you found the root cause of your anxiety 🥰. They basically just told me I had a chemical imbalance and thats about it. The anxiety is what gets me depressed. It's a whole cycle.
My advice: 1 No news at all! No social media!!! 2. Sport! Sport! Sport! 3. Breathing technics, belly relaxing technics! Meditation, relaxation! 4. EFT (emotional freedom technic) basically knocking or palpating on the stomach meridian line, helps me to relay on 5 min, and helps me to sleep. 5. Be gentle with yourself! 6. Sunshine! 7 Walking in the Nature! 8 No alcohol! No smoking! 9 Self respect/loving yourself= learn to say NO to people! Also, important to understand what causes the Panic (in case you have) in your life, because sometimes your body actually not just overreacting something but talking to you, showing you what is toxic in your life you should escape from, like a working environment or a relationship.
I relate to you so much! As a therapist myself, my own struggle with anxiety is absolutely the thing I pull from the most when I work with clients who are struggling with anxiety. I am my own case study/evidence that anxiety can get better because (using many of the same techniques) I've also managed to control my anxiety to a degree I'm very proud of. Thanks Doc!
In my mid 50's, I began to experience debilitating anxiety. I enjoyed my social life, and my career. Over time, however, I avoided social gatherings, and was having difficulty at work. Finally told my GP, who prescribed Sertraline 100mg. Totally changed my life for the better. I fully realize that medication is not the only solution, but the benefits for me have been beyond what I hoped. All the best...Mark
Tomorrow I start school. For the past two years I’ve been hiding away due to anxiety. I don’t drive. I don’t really leave my house. And anxiety is telling me I’m not able to do this. But the first step is doing. So I’m going to show up tomorrow. I have done so much better and I know I can do it. I’m just scared but that’s something that I have to accept. I really hope it goes well and that I keep this confidence. I owe it to myself. And if anyone else is doing the first step, we’ve got this. We have anxiety and that’s ok.
@@Melly3112-ox3ey oh wow, I didn’t expect anyone to want an update. I appreciate it! ❤️ Well it was extremely nerve wracking. I couldn’t sleep the night before. And the day of , as I was getting ready, I felt a pressure on my chest. I also felt like I couldn’t take any full breaths in. If you know that feeling, I’m sorry. But I just gave myself pep talks the entire time. I told myself. I can feel this way and I will still be ok. I can feel scared. I can feel like my world is shifting and off balance and I will still be ok. So I got in the car and put some peaceful instrumental music on. (I was being driven btw. I have driving anxiety so that’s next on conquering) and I just accepted the sensations that I was feeling. I embraced and accepted that I was anxious because despite it , I was going to be ok. So I finally got to school and I went in class , and I sat down. It was so quiet bc ofc I showed up an hour early lol. And I just took deep breaths and reminded myself that I could do this. Then ppl came in and I realized I had put myself in the corner ! In the back and I started to think and spiral on what ifs. What if I had to get up , it was tight seating so I would bump into ppl. What if I tripped. What if and what if. And I could feel the panic rising , so I got my scrunchy that is like a bracelet and I just started to fidget. And I was able to breathe and calm down. Then ofc it’s the first class and I had to introduce myself !! I was then again spiraling, what if I embarrass myself. What if I stutter( which I tend to do ) what if what if. And then I get the news , you in the back, we’re starting with you, and I was so nervous and anxious. Mind you , I don’t talk to anyone , so I went and introduced myself. And after I realized, wow this wasn’t as scary as I thought. And I leaned into that feeling and I actually started to enjoy the class ! 30 min later and we had to talk to someone near us, and I did it ! I actually had a conversation with two random strangers. And I was able to do it. And I did not perish. lol. A bit dramatic but anxiety tends to have you believe that. I even made a friend I think. Overall, it wasn’t as bad as I had made myself to believe and picture. I mean the first thirty minutes I was ready to run out of that class. But I didn’t. I willed myself to stay and try. And I think that’s all we can do with anxiety. Is try. And be willing to do the hard stuff. But ofc anxiety is a b**** and wants to make me her b**** and these past two days it wants me to believe that I won’t be able to do it next week. That it was just a fluke. And I’m working on not believing it. So next week I’m going to show up. Despite the doubt and physical symptoms of anxiety. Oh and it’s also bc next Tuesday we’re going to be told our group members bc we have to do a group presentation 😭😭 so it is nerve wracking to have to do that for my first class. But hopefully it all goes ok. So that’s how it went. I hope it wasn’t too long. But thank you for checking in and wanting an update !
Wow I almost burst into tears watching this. I’ve never had my symptoms described so perfectly. Thank you for putting these videos out and for opening up to complete strangers about your own struggles and experiences.
Yup, your not alone this also described many things to a t for me, best advice I can give you is, constantly work on it, so you don't go backwards, and things will get better if you do this and get outta your comfort zone, also practicing, really practicing being in the moment, will also help, it's not gonna change over night, but you can change
My anxiety is soo bad. It feels like a rocky Balboa has pummeled my stomach. I have mdd and PTSD and anxiety. It just feels like impending doom. I can't hardly function. And it's so much worse at night. I'm not hungry so therefore I'm not eating. I won't let myself sleep. I am 47 years old tomorrow January 5. I just feel doomed since birth and I have soooo many regrets.
After you have had a panic attack trusting yourself is difficult and I didn't even realize this until recently. My therapist has explained this and I'm working on it.
God I wish I could have you as a therapist. Young guy who knows how it feels. I feel everything you say, cause I'm in my 20s and have been in the shit my whole life.
It can change. Trust and pray about that. Small changes just a little at a time moving yourself into a better mindset and place. Trust and believe that you can. Expect to have difficult times. There's something to the old saying, "Fake it until you make it." And that's really just doing the things you know you need to do. God Bless!
I have found it hard to relate to a therapist because a lot of them who don't experience anxiety are just speaking from things they have heard or have been told about anxiety, but it is so complex and when a therapist has actually experienced it (god forbid), i would think it would help in treating it, at least with a more understanding approach
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@thoos192 absolutely on point. We are unhealthy partly and in some cases completely caused by a food supply with toxic chemicals and little to no nutritional value. Look up NPK which is nitrogen, phosphorus and potassium which are the primary fertilizer chemicals which produce big plants, but the soil lacks the other minerals so those vegetables do little for nutrition. Leaky gut destroys mental and emotional functions and overall health and vitality. Get these things under control and you (original post author) will feel and do better! God Bless!
I'm having major anxiety right now. I've been on the internet too much today. I had way more coffee than I usually do. I'm tired. It's helpful seeing this video just when I needed it most. Thank you.
I recommend unplugging sometimes and going to do an hour or more walk with some music going. Exercise has helped me lately a lot. If I do an hour to 90 min. walk, I sleep like a baby! No matter what. I recommend walking or running with music, because for me it helps me just focus on my fave music and walking and filters out the anxiety.
@thiscorrosion900 Thank you. Normally, I do walk and ride my bike. I meditate and do pilates. But, not on that day. Plus, I have GAD (generalized anxiety disorder), and sometimes it overwhelms me.
@@lisac996 Lisac996 hi! I"m no great athlete and never was. Years ago I was skinny anyway and went out dancing all the time at clubs, etc. I was never a big gym guy. At times. Lately I'm trying to stick to 90 min. of hard walking about 4x a week. I might buy a bike, too. Anyway, I hear you and I've been through that and a lot worse.
3 weeks from quitting weed and the anxiety has been crippling. 1) I have intermittent fasting pretty much my entire life and I never knew this could be feeding my anxiety. I can t tell you how much I needed this and it's a clear call to action with steps I can start today.
I am so thrilled that I stumbled upon you on You Tube!! I’m 66 and have been having a huge struggle with ongoing anxiety for far too long!! You gave me excellent info so I can begin to take better care of myself to help the others. Thank you!
This was the best video I’ve ever watched about anxiety. In such a short video, I took away way more than all the therapy sessions I’ve had. Thank you!
I have lived a life so full of anxiety. what your saying may seem funny to some, like an MRI isn't any problem for some, but for people like me it's one of the most fearful things to endure. Panic situations are terrible. I am so appreciative of your videos. I believe a lot of people with anxiety go to stimulants which like you said are just another issue to overcome. I like your sense of humor .I feel as though I chose a career or it worked out that way that was a hostile environment for me. I went into the military right out of high school and received the Meritorious service award. I was not as stressed in basic as I was every day at the hospital. I was in a good career with the military, it was not a hostile environment for me. My panic attacks were terrible my entire career in a hospital and I was the go to guy that seems to have it all together. I did awesome, but no one knew it was pure fear. I needed to hear about eating. I have almost stopped eating. I eat just to live . I realize that has to change. I have been looking for mental help and I feel great about your channel. I have anxiety bad and I have been eating very little but eat healthy. I have low blood sugar levels for several years. I keep candy because of low blood sugar. Thank you. For me. Step 1 is diet.
Alright, Dr. Eilers, I'm gonna take you up this. I have been struggling with anxiety for the past few months and it has gotten to the point where I wake up and am already at max stress level. I need relief. So I will try my best to break my patterns and get back into control.
67 and lifelong anxiety… cutting down on caffeine tomorrow, thank you for showing up in my feed today. I also gave up watching certain topics on RUclips and politics for Lent and I’m 11 days in and already feeling a wee bit better. Thank you🙏🏼ps laughing w recognition on projects through college degrees and then in work.
This video is filled with so much hope and encouragement...from someone who gets it and has actually done all the work. I cannot thank you enough!! I 100% believe it can be overcome and your story proves it.
Timing on stimulants is important too! Since caffeine hangs around your body for several hours, an afternoon cup(s) of coffee can throw off and disrupt that night's sleep...leading to bad sleep, more coffee, and a big anxiety spiral cycle. It helped me a lot to just watch the timing and still enjoy a morning cup. Great video!!
i used to be so care free ... outgoing .. full of life .... now i stand at my apartment door taking deep breaths and mentally preparing myself to take out the garbage .. i dont know how i got to this point ...but im so extremely thankful for the advice!
Thank you for your beautiful explanation . Recently I have been feeling lot of anxiety and stuffs . Knowing people having similar experiences made me feel ease a bit . Here's note → Stop avoiding what's causing your anxiety → Stop taking stimulants → Stop doing nothing → Stop skipping meals → Stop doing everything by yourself → Stop treating yourself as an untrustworthy person
Anxiety just does not happen in a day. It needs hard work. We repeatedly tell ourselves something will happen in social situation or we have a heart problem because our heart is beating faster to help us deal with fear. Imaginary fears are the main problem.
Fears of everything even though it isn't real or happens. Like your brain is always working and you are thinking too many things. Like you want things around you to be perfect or well. It's very difficult to focus on things.
I really relate to your experience. Thanks for sharing. I remember genuinely believing I would never feel happy again or gain the will to live my life, and yet today I am thriving. I love hearing from people on the other side of mental illness. Glad you're in a good place now.
Thank you so much for giving real practical advice on anxiety! I can see how much you understand the topic from personal experience. I am making big strides, myself, and greatly appreciate when people talk about how our habits and behaviors keep us ruled by anxiety. In my past experiences over the years dealing with anxiety I was told by psychiatrists that it was "just the way I was", and needed to take medications that only ended up backfiring by making my physical and mental health far worse. For reference, I ended up with Serotonin Syndrome that came on slowly but got to a point where I was critically ill when it was finally diagnosed. Freeing myself from this vicious cycle and taking back my own brainpower to address the underlying issues has given me a whole new perspective and way of coping.
You are insanely good at articulating these topics in ways were people with only surface level understanding of psephology topics can understand. I have OCD and have have spend countless hours in therapy and general research and you really helped broaden my understanding of a topic i thought i was very well versed in. The best therapists and psychologist are the ones who have lived through and worked through their own mental issues. You just have that extra perspective that others dont. Great content man im excited for more.
The whole "This has to all happen TODAY" segment... so completely relatable and helpful. I have Todoist and I can literally schedule things in the future, and I need to use that feature!!!
I consider that a ringing endorsement! I've found it very helpful so far. I have daily reminders for some of the most basic yet important things (check cat water, litter boxes) and it utteryly helps. Also helps me realize how much I DO do.
All six make perfect sense to me. I am currently struggling/adapting to number three. Anhedonia had me mostly nonfunctional for the past five months. Overwhelm, anxiety, depression ruled and I caved to it all. I began to practice the other five 'fixes' on my own about a month ago, coincidentally. Now, involved in a task easily gets me into a zone, even a state of flow. As soon as I take a break...the rumination returns! I'm certain that number 6 is the issue with this. Fear that I will not allow myself to complete a task (no trust in myself with the 'future') stems from early cPTSD trauma-induced failure imprinting. That particular malady is a tenacious and difficult one to remedy...I am working to give myself evidence, through consistent current achievement, that the old mental program was wrong; and no longer needs to be followed.
When you say failure imprinting - is it a persistent fear that you will fail at the next thing you have to do because you failed at something big in the past? My self-esteem crashed in university, and while I eventually got my degree, I no longer thought of myself as 'smart'. This has come back to haunt me in job searches, and it's causing me feelings of doom and catastrophe.
@@thisgirl5933 I can relate. My high school was extremely ‘average’ and there were very low expectations of me from either my (uninvolved and self absorbed) parents, or the teachers. Got into university but had little direction in life and no idea how to study. My parents stupidly got me into one of the more traditional hostels, and I was surrounded by high achieving students doing medicine & law degrees from wealthy backgrounds. I floundered through university, failed a critical paper in my second year had to switch degrees to one I didn’t really want to do and no longer thought of myself as smart either. Took another year off then started a diploma for which I had no background in. By the time I was finished at university and looking for work I was 27 years old with an average degree behind me - not 21 or 22 as I should have been. Found work but had imposter syndrome until I finished working after my 3rd child at 39, and started doing my own psychology research. Tg for channels like this on yt as I couldn’t afford long term therapy which I really needed to understand what was going on. Now in a much better place thankfully but I do feel sad I didn’t have a happier time in my 20s.
I let anxiety cause me to have no friends. Thankfully with the support of my boyfriend and lots of effort I have been able to heal and see positive results. Just my boyfriend and I for now and that’s ok.
Dr. Eilers you are my twin. The 6 bad habits except for stimulants I do. Avoidance is my HUGE default to a point I have limited my life to the point, no long lasting relationships, not wanting children so they don't get my anxiety/depression because how can I help them if I can't help myself. My anxiety has kept me from challenging myself socially and professionally. Plus everything else you mention as trusting my future self and put my trust in others because it won't be as perfect as I want it to be. After listening to you for a while now, I've decided to work on the big 3: Improve my mental health, my body by eating better and exercising and finally spiritually. I'm so glad I found you because I do exactly what you spoke about in this video. I'm still a work in progress and most likely will be until I die.
Good to hear that. I have one of regular coffee in the morning and then usually have several decaffeinated coffees into mid afternoon. Having more than one caffeinated coffee or drink really gets me anxious. Less so with the decaf ones but I wonder about those too.
Drank a couple cups of coffee 4 years ago & ended up in the ER with a severe panic attack. I thought I was going to die. Numb arms, hands lips turned blue & my jaw went totally stiff. Haven't touched coffee since.
@@bonekollektor1659 same man! And I became sure that the hyperventilation itself started as a byproduct of caffeine consumption as well... glad you survived tho brother!
Thank you so much I was waiting for this video, I had an unusual long period of depression and anxiety for about a year and I decided this month to try to get myself out of it! I'm taking notes! Thank you again❤ The part of asking for help is completely true cuz I was that type of "superwoman" that wants to do and deal with everything by herself but I think in long term that caused me just so much suffering and I feel like I've lost all my energy to do even little things in my life! While the solution is just ask for help as simple as it is❤
@@thinkingallowed1st Well I'm not a professional but I'll answer you from my experience! Just try to rebuild your relationship with your fam, your parents if they're still alive your siblings, maybe your partner, a professional...try socializing with more people around you and make your circle bigger, people whom share with you same activities/hobbies! I know it's kinda hard sometimes especially if you are an introvert, or having a depressive episode when you want just to close on yourself and just hide like I used to! In such time of vulnerability you start thinking that you're alone and everyone/everything is against you! Sometimes just finding someone to talk to and being vocal about what's hurting you inside can give you an instant kind of relief! Maybe just "notebook" as a starting point! Or if you believe in higher being just pray! Or virtual friends! Be more vocal spit it all out! Just believe it's just a period (transition), you're never alone!❤️❤️ Much love
I did the same, I tried to do it on my own then one day my body crashed. I couldn’t get up that day to do my daily routine. That’s when I had to share with my family what was going on. The anxiety became debilitating. At the time you feel like it is never going to go away. I am doing much better now. It took a few months. My daughter’s convinced me to sign up for therapy and it really helped a lot. It turned out that I had a lot of trapped trauma that was causing my anxiety.
Wow I feel the same I did so much then anxiety came and doesn’t leave me alone horrible symptoms it has been hard it’s been almost a year now from running a business to being scared of being alone
Without knowing I have done most of the things he is saying and have been able to manage anxiety. I am only missing asking for help, I will get myself help cleaning my house and more hobbies, more exercise, more reading. This is a great video do what he says it works!!
This sounds like me. I'm 46 yo and struggle with extreme daily anxiety. I've recently had some mini-breakthrus, so hopefully I can keep going in the right direction.
Unlock the secrets to overcoming anxiety and depression with this incredible video! As someone who has battled with these challenges since childhood, I can confidently say that his advice is spot on. His compassion and understanding are truly remarkable. I am sharing this video on my Facebook page so others can benefit from his expertise. While there are many strategies that have helped me, accepting things outside of my control has been crucial. Silence and mindfulness have also played a significant role in reducing my anxiety. Remember, your brain needs rest, and constant busyness is not sustainable. Start small and focus on self-discipline, nutrition, and accepting yourself just as you are. Let go of the past and focus on the present, taking baby steps towards improvement. May you find peace and happiness on your journey!
That’s a great video and I must say that all the things you mentioned apply to me as well. In my case what's most diffucult is to be constant in following those new/good habits
Me too! However, I think the lesson is this. Just start over. If the attempt you have made to learn and maybe become really competent at any new thing gets sidetracked, okay. Okay you didn’t practice your piano, or cook all those groceries you were excited to prepare when you bought the stuff at the grocery store, and to top it off did not go for that fresh air walk for just one block that you promised yourself you would absolutely do today, start over. You have not failed, so you do not need to feel like a failure. Begin again.
@@sharondoan1447 true. Thank you for this. Frustration is really behind the corner when you're doing your best to heal. It's very hard and I'm still struggling if I should begin medication or not. And that itself causes anxiety
When I think about anxiety and my brain, I think about a saying I've heard dog trainers say about Border Collies and other smart dogs: If you don't give them a job or task to do, they will find and make one for themselves. And you will not like the task they make for themselves, because it's probably destructive.
Very solid recommendations, I totally agree. The first 5 are validation for me and the last one a new very interesting takeaway. So, thank you! I think what you ingest is a really big one - that includes food, drinks, news, social media, cinema/tv/series, everything!
I appreciate the realness of your videos so much, it can be very frustrating to hear pre-packaged platitudes about depression or anxiety "just exercise," "just think positively!" Those types of comments actually make me feel worse. Your channel is so helpful because you relate your personal experience and struggles and give solid and practical advice that makes me actually feel like there is hope.
Now that we're in the holiday season, can you do a video on coping better during holidays if it's a painful time? For me the hardest part is getting bombarded on TV or any media with images of the ideal family and friend gatherings, I didn't have good childhood memories (there was a lot of physical abuse), and as for friends....they are too busy with their own families.
❤ Hi Scott, your honesty and sincerity are so powerful. 😊 I have relatives that suffer from these exact same issues and as a grandmother it is so difficult for me to watch people in the state of depression and anxiety. I feel so helpless so that's why I'm going to share your videos. your voice and your experiences is exactly what these young people need to hear and see right now!! thank you so much😊
Another great show! So far as caffeine goes, I’ve noticed over the last couple of years (I’ve been tracking this) that if my day is well, structured and happy, doing things I generally enjoy doing, caffeine seems to just give me more energy, and happy energy at that. But when I have lots of caffeine and I’m confronting difficult things, or I’m spending time with really negative people, it makes all of that worse too. Your explanation about that was really good! I think that’s what’s been happening to me, that the caffeine just amplifies whatever it is the day brings to my brain.
Your third point is so very recognizable, if my mind has spare time, it just goes into problem seeking mode. So good to hear that you have a similar experience.
I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years. With so much anxiety Not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatmentPsilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
I resorted to drinking my anxiety away at 19, I now have a damaged liver and 3 years of my life gone bc of this. Getting back on your feet is the hardest part but god the process is beautiful. I WILL NOT LET ANXIETY WIN!
No one can understand what intense anxiety can feel like unless they have been through it. Mine gets worse as I get older. Every day, every situation, every decision, is a struggle. Blessings to everyone who is suffering from it. Be strong and acknowledge your strength even when you overcome the smallest of tasks. ❤❤❤❤
@MC--342~~So true~~Unless Dr.s, just people in general will never understand what it feels like~~I'm a 70 year old woman who had my first panic attack when I was 8 years old~~I was laying in bed trying to get to sleep snd all of a sudden I couldn't breathe and my heart was pounding and I thought I was dying~~My Ma was still up and I;m trying to tell her how I was feeling~~She said you're probably coming down with something and go back to bed~~Also, she was a nurse~~I went back to bed and prayed~~It lasted for 20 minutes or so and it stopped~~It was never talked about again~~I still got the attacks but I knew they would stop~~I never felt right~~When I entered Jr. High School I found out other girls, friends were going through the same thing along with debilitsting anxiety all the time~~Our parents did nothing~~To make a very long story short, I suffered ny whole life feeling that way~~Nobody knew how horrible I always felt but continued with my life~~I worked hard, took care of my family, went to night school for different things but everything I did I had to push myself hard to get things done~~When I left home at 17 I worked so hard and saved my money, went to Dr's, therapists but they just didn't get it~~I got tired of hearing, just take deep breaths and blah blah~~Nothing worked and as I got older I got worse~~Anti-anxiety meds didn't help at all~~Then Dr's said take this and take that and it will help~~I just got worse and just took anxiety meds and ambien cause I always had insomnia to this day~~But I feel like giving up but I can't~~So many worries and feeling worse~~I just feel that MY GAD is genentic from my Ma's side of the family~~She was never like a Mother should be~~I later found out some of my cousins had panic attacks, anxiety but I got the worst of it~~I've tried everything to feel at least sort of normal but just got worse with age~~I also had problems with perfection~~My brain and body just doesn't respond to all the things you're suppose to do~~Take good care and Happy New Year~~I pray for everyone that is going through horrible disorder~~🙃🙃🙃🥵🥵🥵☹☹☹💗💗💗
I can empathize! Mine keeps growing and unfortunately so many trials keep coming feeding the anxiety. It's like a hamster wheel that won't stop.
Oh I hope you will get through it! It's a really heavy thing, but if I can do it, I'm sure as hell you can do it! My tip is ''don't take life so seriously''. Once I understood what that actually meant my intense anxiety got evaporated. I'm still learning and it's not like I'm never anxious anymore. But a giant burden lifted when I stopped listening to my self made rules of good and wrong. There are no rules. Enjoy life how you want it to!
All the tips the guy mentioned in the video are perfect!
Hey, what triggers your anxiety? Tell me about your situation and l'll share my story with you. Let me know
EFT tapping may help you out.
1. 2:25 - Stretch your mind; step outside comfort zone
2. 5:00 - Avoid stimulants e.g. caffeine
3. 7:38 - Occupy yourself with meaningful activities
10:41 - intro to #4
4. 11:48 - Take nutrition seriously
5. 13:53 - Stop trying to do everything (most difficult!)
6. 17:15 - Positive outlook; trust in yourself
Thanks for this. I have trouble holding the points in my head to the end of the video. This helps a lot.
Glad to help! 😊
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when we also have severe ADHD, trauma etc - sometimes stimulants def. needed for some time!
This is great. I would just add “stop avoiding anxiety” to 1 and add “everything YOURSELF” to the 5.
If you do 1 and 3 you will be 99% recovered. Really number 1 will get you 80% at least.
Anxiety can be considered to be fear of fear, or more precisely fear of your body's natural physical responses to fear. Realising this can help reduce it.
Have never heard of this. I've had this inexplicable fear all my life. Wish I knew how to deal with it.
That's the focus of Dr. Claire Weekes books and audio recordings. Desensitization of fear. She explains it so well. Love her audio recordings, too. Old school, but still applicable today, IMO.
What causes feelings of anxiety?
In childhood, the mind archives the bad moments that human being experiment
and when something happens that is similar to what was experienced the mind remembers it, emitting feelings of anger, fear, anguish or depression. It is important that every time something unpleasant happens and we feel bad about it, we realize that we are feeling ECHOES OF THE PAST, so that we don't go through life feeling bad about insignificant things. There are several ways to get rid of those constant warnings from the mind.
When you feel anger, fear, anxiety or depression, accept to feel it until it fades. It is to cleanse ourselves of the unpleasant sensations experienced in childhood.
Also practice to inhale, exhale deeply, count to eight and breathe again. repeat it several times and the unpleasant sensations begin to disappear.
I dont think that is a complete definition. Anxiety could be about avoiding negative consequences, not only fearing the fear itself. Imho
@@tekkhero9767 even what you said proves his exact comment. Fearing consequences that aren't happening is fearing the fear of the consequences. You're fearing fear... Fear of etc. etc.
One thing to add is walking away from social media for long periods at a time. This includes news stories that are triggering. Sometimes we avoid life due to anxiety but we do so by drowning ourselves in social media which acts as a catalyst for even greater anxiety.
Agreed!!👍🏼❤️😊
yeah it's been a big relief for me, leaving social sites
I think you're right. Im addicted to social media and the stimulation it brings. Generally my screen time has been 10 to more hours everyday. How do I stop?
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That’s a serious addiction
Reduce by 30 minutes each day
Allow yourself an hour
That is so true for me. I can't read something upsetting and a couple of hours later have forgotten about it. It plays on my mind for days and even weeks later it will resurface.
For me, when I’m anxious I can barely eat. The anxiety makes me nauseous already making eating so hard. Which just leads to feeling worse since I’m anxious and hungry
Me too. The anti nausea drug ocean helps a lot. B-complex can help. Meditation and especially vagal
Nerve breathing actually helps. Cold pack on the upper back and neck.
I have found that understanding my bodily sensations are not necessarily the truth or real. I understand that my sensations are coming from thoughts that I have been thinking recently or thought patterns I have created. I have realized that my body subconsciously is trying to protect me by releasing all the adrenaline on a daily basis because it feels like it needs to to protect me. Trust me, I have had anxiety where I’m throwing up, having diarrhea and shaking terribly from anywhere from 5 to 16 hours a day every day for months, and this has happened on and off throughout my life.I would recommend if you’re feeling nauseated to drink protein shakes as it’s almost impossible to physically eat when we feel this way. I am currently trying to learn to not be afraid of the feelings and trying to change my thought patterns that have created this habitual panic.❤
I remember when I struggled with that. It was so difficult but I just had to force myself to eat and let myself feel nauseous. Not fun but it helped me
Hardly eating nervös before a meal losing weight, trying my best to eat and train even if it's hard for 5 months now! Good luck to all who suffer!
Force yourself to eat, even if just a little bit of food. When you eat your brain says: "We're eating, so there must be nothing dangerous or wrong going on." I've been through it.
Thank you for this. I went to the hospital for a panic attack the other day where I fainted at work. I haven’t been to work in 5 days due to this. After watching this last night I made it to work today. It wasn’t a great day but when I made it through the shift I felt proud that I didn’t avoid my priorities. Appreciate your vulnerability
Aww so sorry to hear this. Well done for making it back to work, keep going, you can do this!! One thing that might help is magnesium, it’s really calming and helps go minimise anxiety. Zinc also helps too. You can create flash cards with positive affirmations that you can look at when you are at work. Or relate a vision board book (A5) and add beautiful and calming images and look at your book when or if you feel anxious at work.
I'd get some blood tests done to rule out iron and b12. B6. Deficiency. This is how i started panic attacks, from low Iron
Do you find that work either causes or triggers your anxiety?
Awesome that you went back to work… that’s how we do it…one day at a time. God bless you and provide new strength each day 🙏
Fainting is a fear I've always had during anxiety/panic attack but never happened. However, at times when I was not eating enough, I feel faint. Once I passed out from not eating enough & drinking alcohol. There could be other health reasons for fainting that have nothing to do with anxiety, although when experiencing not feeling well can being on anxiety if you are prone to anxiety and then assume anxiety or panic attack was the reason for fainting. Make sure you are eating healthy as Dr. Eilers states & get physical check up & blood work, EKG, etc. to rule out health issues before blaming fainting on anxiety alone. My best :-)
This reminds me of what a yoga teacher talked about at the beginning of every class. Work with the body of the day. Just because yesterday’s body was full of anxiety doesn’t mean today’s is. And of course she talked about nutrition and all the you talked about, but her point was to allow each day to be it’s own day. To let yourself experience the full range of human experience but not all on the same day. Trust that it will still be there tomorrow, maybe with a new ache, or maybe an ache from today will be gone. I do still drink coffee and my nutrition could use some fine tuning but this video is very helpful. Thank you
This was very well said.I am extremely anxious to go new places,to the degree of avoiding it..
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Face your fears don't run away from it. Nothing will last.
You are right nothing will last and this life will soon 🔜 be over
Positive thinking is the key. We will have to train our brain with positive thoughts. Negative thinking is the culprit in anxiety.
@@LifeDelicu gotta do it again and again, it wont get better if u build the negative association
I agree as well. To hear that "anxiety can be defeated/ conquered" is reassuring. Thank you all for your transparency. It helps when you connect with others with similar journeys.
Some days are worse than the others. Really struggling right now. People who are going through this too… you are not alone ❤ We will get better.
Sometimes i got anxiety so hard i got to sleep an hour after it U_U do you have that too ?
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Me too, im experiencing severe anxiety these days with numbness in my extremities. It has made me dissociate a lot and it makes it really uncomfortable for me. But i will not give up and i wont let it take me down with it so ill keep trying.
I’m struggling at the moment.
Alprazolam and buspirone are my only medication at the moment.
I just took my 2nd alprazolam dose of the day (10:15 pm) with hope of getting a couple of hours sleep.
@@VarietyVault_shorts Exercise and vitamin B helped me.
Anxiety and depression have crippled me my whole life. It's so painful and debilitating and I don't know anymore what to do. I'm tired, very, very tired.
UPDATE: I am feeling considerably better than when i made my original post - the encouragement and prayers I received from my post, along with a review of my medications have really made a difference in my life, and the end result is I'm feeling considerably better. Thank you to all those kind people who cared enough to post words of love and encouragement in my time of darkness. You all saved my life.
The "being tired " is a REAL THING!!!!!
Turn to God, he is our healer.
You are not alone. 😢 Me tooin the same situation. I don't even know whether I have any other condition or anxiety itself.
Bless you, I'm sending you healing now 💖🙏 x
@@yvonnelesleybrigenshaw950 thank you so much. That's so kind of you. 🙏❤️
Things I did when he had such massive panic attacks that I couldn't leave my house:
1. Gratefulness! No matter how miserable you are you always have things to be grateful for! As a homeless Veteran, I was eternally grateful for, a warm meal, a roof over my head, my dog the few friends Ive had etc, etc. I write a list each morning to rewire my brain.
2. What can you do, what can you accomplish during the day! Write down a few simple things. The old "trick" to help a fellow human when you feel miserable works! Carry the bags from the store for an old lady give a homeless with a warm meal or just take a walk with your dog?
3. Meditate and manifest a light within you that outshines and forces the darkness away and discover the magic of synchronicity and the pure magic in spiritual awareness?
Watching this before buying a ticket alone and taking the tram alone for the first time in my life at 27 years old.
Oh WoW! Good for you, that's a big step! ( sorry I know you posted this a month ago but I just ran across the video ) so how did it go? Were you able to get on the tram and complete the ride??
How are you now? Did it make you feel a little more comfortable?
Good luck my darling you will be fine 🙂 promise 🇬🇧
Well done !! I need to do this for a big family function
Pre lockdown I was fine
Now it’s too hard
I have to make it happen
Awesome!
Honestly my major cyclical, episodic depression (MDD) vanished the day I had the magic mushroom tripping while listening to the birds singing in the early morning, up at the cottage country in Muskoka (Ontario, Canada)
Literally changed my life.
I have cPTSD (self diagnosed) from an abusive childhood and early adulthood. I am 66 and it is only now that I realize how much magic mushroom can help solve the disorder.
Golden teachers has been my go-to mushroom for months, it has helped in my recovery journey
Ive started taking mushroom powders in my morning tea and give supplements to one of my teenagers. Such a difference. Mushrooms are the hidden gem. Mother nature has everything we need.
Hello! It appears I have interests, I want to get some.. where do you get from?
medicgael
Anxiety usually has friends like OCD, ADHD, Panic disorder, Manic-Depressive, Depression etc. which actually feeds it even more, and makes it worse.
It’s nice to know I’m not alone in this journey, it helps a lot to know that there’s other people that feel the same way I do.
I’m 67 years old and have dealt with anxiety and depression for over 50 years, listening to you has helped me to understand why I feel the way I do. I’m always looking forward to your next video. I’m so glad that I found you!
Yep I am 47 and my life sucks
Don't make comparisons with any others.
Thank you for your honesty. Would you please say what has been helpful? Thank you
Hi I'm same im 55 suffering
Hello Ryan
Having been through this, the most important thing i found is to do it regardless - go to work,go to a party. You won't feel like it but doing it reduces the fear. Bottom line,you need to lose your fear of being anxious.
I feel like the maxim “ Mood follow action” connects to your comment!
Works if you are not a socially anxious person which could have the opposite effect.
@@fitnessguy75daily or?
i did this, for years, what happened is i was suffering tremendously but learned to live that way, truly horrific, honestly. i was still "limited" so to say in many ways, cause first of all, under that amount of anxiety it is literally impossible to live, work, study and so on and so on name it, to your best ability,but you could say i was "functioning" i guess, bearly making it through day by day. what happened, i crashed, completely. my mental and physical health went to absolute shit, arguably to point of no return. what anxiety did to my body, you wouldn't even believe possible. the damaged caused, now impossible to function, cause of my physical health decline, it ain't bout the mental even anymore.
All that did was make me wanna retreat more lol
I've watched so many psychologists try to help and explain anxiety and depression. You are the ONLY doctor that can explain the way i truly feel. The way you decribe anxiety is how I feel on a daily basis. I just thank you for reaching out to people and being able to relate, because you've been there done that. You are one amazing doctor and i can't thank you enough for the all your help!!!!❤❤❤❤
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my husband recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Yes Predroshrooms
Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google
Yes he's Predroshrooms. I know few friends who no longer suffer ptsd and anxiety with the help of shrooms. Never had to take shrooms after then.
My anxiety has really been horrible lately. I’ve always had social anxiety but lately it’s been severe. I used to not even try to be around people except when I had to at work. Since I retired it has been worse. But days like today give me hope. I started the day doing a group activity and I was so anxious. Tonight I went to my granddaughters game at high school and that is usually extremely uncomfortable for me. So many strangers in close proximity. I actually had a good time. I interacted with a few strangers and I could tell my daughter was very happy I felt reasonably at ease. I have recently been able to tell myself no matter what happens it’s not going to do permanent harm to me. No matter what happens my family will be there for me and life will go on. It has been helping.
Anxiety literally destroyed my life. and I am not overexaggerating that's the truth.
It definitely can
How
I 100% feel you on this statement. Only
People with crippling anxiety can
But you’re still here, trying. That’s half the battle. God bless you! You are stronger than you think. We’re here with you. You got this!
Just tell your anxiety to bring it everytime you have one, welcome it, tell it to bring its worst. It really helps me
Your sharing the most intimate details of your life journey is an inexpressible blessing to thousands, maybe even millions of other people.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
true facts!
8:00 doing “nothing” was/is my #1 trigger. I feel this vague panic rising as I sit (and maybe even scroll social media, Tv, etc- a stimulant IMO), which i later realized was anxiety due to my knowing I was doing something that contributed to my poor wellbeing yet was actively ignoring it and “freezing”. The anxiety rose from the cognitive dissonance.
What do you do to combat it?
The usual way to combat this isn't the way this video suggested (always filling your time with things) and is that you should accept your anxious thoughts but not react to them. To begin with you can address your thoughts (say "no, it's not likely that i'm going to die if I leave the house", and then leave the house), and then as time goes on, maybe only answer 30% of them, and then eventually just 1 in 5, and then stop answering them at all and eventually you reprogram yourself. The signals and hyper vigilance come from an overactive amygdala and with this type of exposure you can change it in around 2 weeks.
But if what you're asking is how to not be stressed when you're doing nothing just because this isn't productive, then you could ask yourself "what's stopping me from doing something that I actually want to do now" .. sometimes you need to rest, sometimes there's something blocking you that you need to give yourself space to think about, etc
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I went through comments, and it is very sad to see a lot of people struggling with anxiety, God bless you all! But just sitting and doing nothing will never help you, you are the first person to help yourself. I have anxieties too, sometimes it is horrible, but I fight it through sport, watching videos like this, reading. Start with small steps, but make it consistent and add little by little. As you feel the difference don’t stop, keep going until you win over it. Believe and act🙏🏼
thank you for this video, it is really helpful.
Yes. Thanks for the great video and may all who read this be blessed and know you are never alone if you look around
I can attest to that. It's uncomfortable for sure.
@@RichardWagenknecht Hi - hope you feel better soon. Vitamin supplements and exercise e.g. walking really helped me. Give it a try.
As someone who has dealt with depression for 14 years now, anxiety just randomly came into the picture about a year ago and has been debilitating ever since. My anxiety has made my stomach hurt almost daily and has prevented me from traveling which I was still able to do with my depression, but I also find it extremely difficult to leave my house anymore. Thank you for taking the time to share these with us. I hope they help make a difference.
I had horrible stomach aches from anxiety starting at age 11. Over the years I learned to calm myself with breathing techniques, exercise, and asking myself “What’s the worst that can happen”? This video supports my need to have a knitting project on hand, or other project. I also got therapy. When I was in the grips of a stomach ache, a doctor gave me the best advice: no alcohol or caffeine plus do get exercise. Another doctor gave me a little blue pill with mild calming properties that I keep on hand but rarely need anymore. Tackle your mental problems as soon as possible. For me, driving an old car and investing in therapy instead, when I was younger, has led to a happier life. Of course, my anxiety was more situational. My husband’s is genetic and requires anxiety medication.
You’re right about number 3. When you’re not busy your anxiety starts to take over. I need to work on being more busy too.
oh boy I know that too. I just find it an immense struggle to get moving. Maybe it's my biggest problem at this point.
@@heaven7360 yeah exactly. Sometimes when you’re too anxious it give you 0 drive to get anything done!
That's a typical CBT solution. Keep yourself busy.
But it only helps to attenuate anxiety for a little while. Anxiety comes from the lack of connection to your own body. You feel anxiety because you probably used to suppress unwanted feelings in the past, and your body is trying to let yourself know that you ignore important signals.
People learn quickly that the more you think the less you feel. And your body just want you to feel it. Because it's trying to tell you something. Like "stop, I'm tired" or "I don't like it, dont do it". If you ignore it, it will let you know by anxiety, intrusive thoughts and in the end, somatic symptoms.
Isn't forcing yourself to be busy another form of avoidance?
@@Tk0mma yes and no. It easy to say that part but if you have real mental health issues it’s a continuing battle. You’re not avoid your issues but stay busy but you focus on your work instead and thus slowly realize these “problems” are not actually problems and then they slowly release.
Wow..I have been watching you this last 6 months or so...your ability to communicate in detail my existence, thoughts, and life....blows my mind..I just never believed another person on the planet could honestly " get it"...I am 61 years old...61 years of trying to get through it alone. Thank you for putting yourself out there for the rest of us!❤
My pleasure 😊
@@DrScottEilers Be careful..?? Read between the lines.!
@@DrScottEilersit's the booze.
@tristanbulluss9386 I wish...I haven't had any since I was 25...thought it was adding to the anxiety..so I was done with it.
@@debbieford4685 how longs that?.
Anxiety ruined my life. I got it from my mother. I have on my Whiteboard, written the following simple axioms
1-Life is engagement not avoidance (Existentialism)
2-Slow down and focus (Zen)
3-Act with self respect and confidence (NLP)
NLP and exercise also helped me with anxiety and sleeping, and CBT helped with depression.
-Good luck fellow travellers through the universe of emotions, which is life. Peace.
Is anxiety the same thing as anger? Because I'm angry all the time.
@@LaoSoftwareNo, nothing like it, probably the opposite
@@LaoSoftware I think it can be related in some ways, but according to chinese medicine anger is related to liver function.
@@LaoSoftware It's common for SOME anxious people to have high irritability... Get easily irritated and angry for little to no good reason. It's frustrating... but everyones anxiety is a bit different.
Thank you so much for sharing those axioms. 😊
Thank you Scott. I am an older man who cared his dear wife to her last breath. More than grief I would say that my day is filled with anxiety, angst, and what you have to say offers me hope. Thanks, pal.
If you’ve ever had anxiety, remember that you are a survivor. Pat yourself on the back today, and take it one day at a time.
So true!!!
It’s so tough
I'm looking forward to this one. Anxiety definitely consumes my life. Its terrible. Would love to be able to fix it.
Same.. it's exhausting 😔
❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
I agree…please know you’re not alone.
Same !
Me too its torture 😫
I’ve suffered for 30 years and I’m tired of it. But I do like being alone. But it’s the fear of everything I’m so tired of it. Crazy things that have no rational. Xx
Help. I'm. Home. Don't drive. 5:31
Well scoot over cause I'm in the boat with you. Haha
I remember being very little and telling the family doctor that my tummy always hurt and he asked me to describe "hurt" and I said I feel like there's a whole bunch of butterflies flying around in my tummy all the time and making it dizzy. He asked basic questions like did it happen when I was doing or this or that or the other. I said it's ALL the time. Everyday when I wake up til bedtime. Welcome to generalized anxiety disorder was the diagnosis. It never stops, never takes a break. Even if I have nothing that needs done and I'm free to just sit back relax watch a movie, play a game on my phone, sit outside and enjoy the sunset. I still cant relax and I still have the anxiety.
Like you said, I am so sick and tired of feeling this way and I am tired of being afraid of everything because I know that my anxiety is going to interfere so intrusively that it's just better for me mentally to avoid everything and stay in my comfort zone of home.
I am able to socialize when I do go out and about to take care of errands and things like that. It's just getting myself out there to begin with. The dread of having to get out of the car and go inside the Walmart or something, even tho it's the same one I've gone to for years, the anxiety of going inside is overwhelming and then I try to get back to my car and go home as quickly as possible.
Im not "afraid" of anything in the store, I'm not afraid of people, there's not a specifically particular reason that this act of going inside causes difficulty for me. It's just the act in it of itself that spikes my anxiety through the roof and I just dont get it. It happens with Everything and I'm so tired of dealing with it but it's literally all I've ever known and nothing seems to help.
Just don't tip over this boat we're both in tho, OK? Lol
Oh hell. It's worse than I thought. Rereading that I see that apparently I even have anxiety with imaginary things. 🤦🏼
@@KatSpade1018 I can relate in every single word you wrote. I have agoraphobia and also generalized anxiety disorder. So tired.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@KatSpade1018 bless you, but you literally explained it so well.
It’s nice to know we aren’t alone though isn’t it.
I wish I had a magic wand.
I’ve lived so long with it I really don’t know anything else. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but yet somehow I hide it well. Only my nearest and dearest know so it’s a fight of will power and strength at times, which must mean we are incredibly strong - ironic isn’t it!
Wishing you all the best for you. ❤️
Dr Scott, your first hand experience puts you so far above the rest of your professional peers! Thanks for your courage to take a different approach, and for sharing so many practical resources! We appreciate you! 🙏🏽
Thank you so much Mitch! 🙏🏼
@DrScottEilers I can't agree more! Thank you Dr Scott! I was telling my husband about how the not trusting myself/ having to do everything right then and he said hiw that was me to a tee. Alo g with black/white thinking from EatingD
@anubischick be nice fragile people abound on here, and negativity doesn't help. Someone was just thanking him. No harm done.
@anubischick I'd have to say you sound a little butt-hurt, she says in that self righteous tone... You take life too seriously..
Wow! I've heard about conflicts in the comments but it's never actually happened to ME before!😅My intention for donating $10 wasnt for anyone to send judgemental comments his way or cause him any bad publicity. @anubischick - I did it because therapy costs $150 a session these days, and yet his videos I receive absolutely for free! Based on his popularity I know I'm not alone in that we all get so much more value here than with an actual 1on1 therapy session elsewhere, and so I don't want him to stop making them! I know that not everyone has a self help budget, but me sharing less than a tenth of what a therapy session would cost me IRL for receiving even more practical value in return seems like the LEAST i could do, it's a steal! He's taken a big risk exposing his personal experience to the world, and going against the grain in his approach, you know how rigid doctors are, they don't always shoot straight, so much political ambiguity in their communication, which has it's purpose surely to not expose them to unnecessary risk so that they can help more people, but Dr Scott is recognizing a a big gap in care and taking personal risks to fill it, we need more people like that in the world, and in the capitalist society we live in it's soo important that people are financially incentivized to take risks for the good of others, that should be rewarded! Anyway, I hope more people that have a self-help or therapy budget see the logic, and the huge savings and consider doing the same so that Dr Scott gets back a FRACTION of the value he's putting out into the world. I'm not saying replace your care with RUclips just that it's a great compliment, for the millions of people that just can't afford weekly therapy sessions. Btw-he mentions he's also a full time doctor, aside from his full family and personal life. Do we really want him responding to all the comments so that we don't get our feelings hurt, or do we actually prefer he prioritize his limited free time helping more people and focusing on the bigger picture? Also, I don't think it's greedy to thank someone for having received value in what you provided and giving you a fraction of that value back in money, he was just doing the polite thing, someone gave him cash, you'd do that same as well naturally, no need to vilanize him for it, we don't do it when anyone else says thank you at checkout. Anyway, hope that offers a different perspective. And I hope by donating again in the future anyone else avoids jumping to negative asumptions and instead considers donating as well. Thanks for reading!
Exposure therapy has helped me and staying away from toxic people...however its still there but noticeablly changed.
I started getting real bad anxiety attacks, it helps to listen to other people who work through it each day.
Hi - hope you feel better soon. Vitamin supplements and exercise e.g. walking really helped me. Give it a try.
@@rogerfournier3284 You can take online sessions from me
@@sciencetest8vitamins Xanax, Valium and Kolonopin 😃 Jk. Lol. If vitamins cured anxiety then there would be no reason for medication to be invented.
Sleep!! Sleep is the biggest contributor to my anxiety. I cannot sleep or I can't stay asleep. And looking towards the future at the current state is a nightmare. Which creates even more anxiety, a lack of sleep is the one thing I cannot shake..
I will give you some hope of beating unable to sleep . When I was about 5 years old , I couldn't sleep well because I would have terrible nightmares every night. My parents didn't get along, so I had no confidence that they could help me, so I thought of a way. I decided that if I couldn't remember the nightmares when I woke up, then I would be Okay.
Believe it or not I managed to convince myself that I was not going to ever remember my dreams, nightmare or not. It took a few days, but I could not remember my dreams whenever I woke up for Years afterword. I guess it was something like hypnotizing myself or whatever. if there's a will there"s a way . Your mind is a powerful tool.
@chrisb7951 thanks for sharing your story. I'm amazed at how young you were being mindful and having the self-awareness to strategist a way to help you beat your nightmares. We all know that nightmares are very dreadful...
My sleep has improved, but I still have some frustrating nights just not as many. Meditation and not allowing myself to overthink about falling asleep or not have helped tremendously.
Now you recovered?@@rocbronson
Yes. I’m experiencing the very same awake nightmare!
Me too bro, if I don't sleep well, my anxiety takes control
00:02 Stopped avoiding things that triggered anxiety
02:34 Stretching your comfort zone is crucial for managing anxiety.
04:50 Avoiding anxiety triggers doesn't make anxiety go away, you have to face them.
07:05 Engage in cost-benefit analysis of anxious thoughts
09:12 Direct your mental energy to keep anxiety at bay
11:24 Stopped eating unhealthy and skipping meals to improve anxiety
13:30 Taking care of nutrition is essential for managing anxiety.
15:36 Learn to ask for help and delegate to reduce anxiety.
17:25 Treating myself as untrustworthy
19:12 Learning to trust my future self
21:12 Utilize helpful tools to manage anxiety
Awesome out line….
Exercise should be on this list
1. Stretch your mind by putting it into challenges. Don't avoid tasks.
2. Avoid stimulants like coffee, energy drinks etc
3. Keep your mind busy and occupied
4. Food is energy for brain. Don't skip meals and pay attention to your nutrition
5. Don't expect yourself to do each and everything all alone. Ask for help
6. Stop treating yourself like an untrustworthy person
Just some key points I recall from the video :)
thanks i prefer read, listen someone talk too long its anxious...hahahaha 😉
I'd probably add that stimulants can be much more than that - like video games, RUclips, binge-watching, etc.
"avoid stimulants" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅😅😅😅😅😮💨
"ask for help" 😂😂😂😂😂😂 what help?
Unfortunately, my anxiety is right in too many cases, which is how I end up getting burned out & abandoned 🤦🏽♀️
STOP❌
1️⃣ avoiding things that make you feel anxiety (do them!)
2️⃣ using stimulants (caffeine, sugar, alcohol and etc.)
3️⃣ doing nothing (be busy!)
4️⃣ eating like crap and skipping meals
5️⃣ doing everything by yourself (ask for help & delegate)
6️⃣ treating yourself as an untrustworthy person (if not today you will do it later!)
I have anxiety bad too, but I find it. Prayer is a key to helping anxiety.
Amen
Yes. God never said life would be easy, but prayer DEFINITELY helps me.
Same. When I feel like I need run out the door, prayer is only thing that calms me down.
@@FascinatingFacts562truth
I need help 😢😢
I definitely struggle with anxiety. I have missed so many opportunities in my life because of it. In pretty much all aspects of life. I ended up just accepting that's the way I am, but hate it when I know it's holding me back from a really meaningful life. I did somewhat defeat it once but had some events in my life that I can't change bring it on worse then it ever was. Once again starting all over again........ it's tiring.
Right there with you, it is crippling
Your first 4 sentences so accurately describe my life too.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@thoos192 Hi, I have Coeliac and my daughter started out with symptoms of Coeliac, but it didn't show up with the Edoscopy. The villi inside of the small intestine is what absorbs nutrients. In Coeliacs this gets flattened by reaction to gluten. Yes it causes lots of anxiety, from lack of nutrients, or in some people from gluten affecting them but villi not damaged.
I fight with anxiety each and every day, but I fight with it, I'm not giving up, even when sometimes I'm getting my ass kicked by it and I can hardly stand up, I always try and do it, to stand up and keep on going. And if I can, as someone who didn't really achieved anything special in its life then anyone can do it and that's what I believe in with all my heart.
Thanku
That's me right now. Im in my room sitting, again. I cry constantly. I've dealt with this for 30 plus years.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@thoos192 yes the stomach issues are horrible. I don't have a gallbladder so I'm almost obligated to eat well.
I've actually been checked for all those things and nothing came of it. But, I'm so glad you found the root cause of your anxiety 🥰. They basically just told me I had a chemical imbalance and thats about it. The anxiety is what gets me depressed. It's a whole cycle.
@@virginiaevelyn8278❤❤❤
Same HERE!! Just gave my life back to the LORD!!! This has helped ALOT!!!
@@virginiaevelyn8278 are you autistic?
My advice:
1 No news at all! No social media!!!
2. Sport! Sport! Sport!
3. Breathing technics, belly relaxing technics! Meditation, relaxation!
4. EFT (emotional freedom technic) basically knocking or palpating on the stomach meridian line, helps me to relay on 5 min, and helps me to sleep.
5. Be gentle with yourself!
6. Sunshine!
7 Walking in the Nature!
8 No alcohol! No smoking!
9 Self respect/loving yourself= learn to say NO to people!
Also, important to understand what causes the Panic (in case you have) in your life, because sometimes your body actually not just overreacting something but talking to you, showing you what is toxic in your life you should escape from, like a working environment or a relationship.
How many lives has this channel transformed?? What a great blessing
I relate to you so much! As a therapist myself, my own struggle with anxiety is absolutely the thing I pull from the most when I work with clients who are struggling with anxiety. I am my own case study/evidence that anxiety can get better because (using many of the same techniques) I've also managed to control my anxiety to a degree I'm very proud of. Thanks Doc!
I thought therapists didn’t have anxiety, I don’t know why lol
In my mid 50's, I began to experience debilitating anxiety. I enjoyed my social life, and my career. Over time, however, I avoided social gatherings, and was having difficulty at work. Finally told my GP, who prescribed Sertraline 100mg. Totally changed my life for the better. I fully realize that medication is not the only solution, but the benefits for me have been beyond what I hoped. All the best...Mark
Tomorrow I start school. For the past two years I’ve been hiding away due to anxiety. I don’t drive. I don’t really leave my house. And anxiety is telling me I’m not able to do this. But the first step is doing. So I’m going to show up tomorrow. I have done so much better and I know I can do it. I’m just scared but that’s something that I have to accept. I really hope it goes well and that I keep this confidence. I owe it to myself. And if anyone else is doing the first step, we’ve got this. We have anxiety and that’s ok.
Please post how it went. We care...and we can learn from you. Thanks!
@@Melly3112-ox3ey oh wow, I didn’t expect anyone to want an update. I appreciate it! ❤️
Well it was extremely nerve wracking. I couldn’t sleep the night before. And the day of , as I was getting ready, I felt a pressure on my chest. I also felt like I couldn’t take any full breaths in. If you know that feeling, I’m sorry. But I just gave myself pep talks the entire time. I told myself. I can feel this way and I will still be ok. I can feel scared. I can feel like my world is shifting and off balance and I will still be ok. So I got in the car and put some peaceful instrumental music on. (I was being driven btw. I have driving anxiety so that’s next on conquering) and I just accepted the sensations that I was feeling. I embraced and accepted that I was anxious because despite it , I was going to be ok. So I finally got to school and I went in class , and I sat down. It was so quiet bc ofc I showed up an hour early lol. And I just took deep breaths and reminded myself that I could do this. Then ppl came in and I realized I had put myself in the corner ! In the back and I started to think and spiral on what ifs. What if I had to get up , it was tight seating so I would bump into ppl. What if I tripped. What if and what if. And I could feel the panic rising , so I got my scrunchy that is like a bracelet and I just started to fidget. And I was able to breathe and calm down. Then ofc it’s the first class and I had to introduce myself !! I was then again spiraling, what if I embarrass myself. What if I stutter( which I tend to do ) what if what if. And then I get the news , you in the back, we’re starting with you, and I was so nervous and anxious. Mind you , I don’t talk to anyone , so I went and introduced myself. And after I realized, wow this wasn’t as scary as I thought. And I leaned into that feeling and I actually started to enjoy the class ! 30 min later and we had to talk to someone near us, and I did it ! I actually had a conversation with two random strangers. And I was able to do it. And I did not perish. lol. A bit dramatic but anxiety tends to have you believe that. I even made a friend I think. Overall, it wasn’t as bad as I had made myself to believe and picture. I mean the first thirty minutes I was ready to run out of that class. But I didn’t. I willed myself to stay and try. And I think that’s all we can do with anxiety. Is try. And be willing to do the hard stuff. But ofc anxiety is a b**** and wants to make me her b**** and these past two days it wants me to believe that I won’t be able to do it next week. That it was just a fluke. And I’m working on not believing it. So next week I’m going to show up. Despite the doubt and physical symptoms of anxiety. Oh and it’s also bc next Tuesday we’re going to be told our group members bc we have to do a group presentation 😭😭 so it is nerve wracking to have to do that for my first class. But hopefully it all goes ok.
So that’s how it went. I hope it wasn’t too long. But thank you for checking in and wanting an update !
@@jaz_899Was really interesting to read your story. Wish you a fun time and that everything works out!
@@jaz_899cool to see people in the same situation as me. Getting to class early has been helpful. Just have grace with yourself.
@@jaz_899I have driving anxiety too 😭
The art of not giving a f*** is an awesome skill and having a good sense of humor goes a long way.
Wow I almost burst into tears watching this. I’ve never had my symptoms described so perfectly. Thank you for putting these videos out and for opening up to complete strangers about your own struggles and experiences.
Yup, your not alone this also described many things to a t for me, best advice I can give you is, constantly work on it, so you don't go backwards, and things will get better if you do this and get outta your comfort zone, also practicing, really practicing being in the moment, will also help, it's not gonna change over night, but you can change
Heather you can overcome it!
Life is short…very short. I hope you can just live and put anxiety behind you 👊🏼
My anxiety is soo bad. It feels like a rocky Balboa has pummeled my stomach. I have mdd and PTSD and anxiety. It just feels like impending doom. I can't hardly function. And it's so much worse at night. I'm not hungry so therefore I'm not eating. I won't let myself sleep. I am 47 years old tomorrow January 5. I just feel doomed since birth and I have soooo many regrets.
After you have had a panic attack trusting yourself is difficult and I didn't even realize this until recently. My therapist has explained this and I'm working on it.
Wow
Are you ok now?have you recovered?
God I wish I could have you as a therapist. Young guy who knows how it feels. I feel everything you say, cause I'm in my 20s and have been in the shit my whole life.
It can change. Trust and pray about that. Small changes just a little at a time moving yourself into a better mindset and place. Trust and believe that you can. Expect to have difficult times. There's something to the old saying, "Fake it until you make it." And that's really just doing the things you know you need to do. God Bless!
I have found it hard to relate to a therapist because a lot of them who don't experience anxiety are just speaking from things they have heard or have been told about anxiety, but it is so complex and when a therapist has actually experienced it (god forbid), i would think it would help in treating it, at least with a more understanding approach
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@thoos192 absolutely on point. We are unhealthy partly and in some cases completely caused by a food supply with toxic chemicals and little to no nutritional value. Look up NPK which is nitrogen, phosphorus and potassium which are the primary fertilizer chemicals which produce big plants, but the soil lacks the other minerals so those vegetables do little for nutrition.
Leaky gut destroys mental and emotional functions and overall health and vitality. Get these things under control and you (original post author) will feel and do better! God Bless!
I'm having major anxiety right now. I've been on the internet too much today. I had way more coffee than I usually do. I'm tired. It's helpful seeing this video just when I needed it most. Thank you.
I recommend unplugging sometimes and going to do an hour or more walk with some music going. Exercise has helped me lately a lot. If I do an hour to 90 min. walk,
I sleep like a baby! No matter what. I recommend walking or running with music, because for me it helps me just focus on my fave music and walking and filters
out the anxiety.
@thiscorrosion900 Thank you. Normally, I do walk and ride my bike. I meditate and do pilates. But, not on that day. Plus, I have GAD (generalized anxiety disorder), and sometimes it overwhelms me.
@@lisac996 Lisac996 hi! I"m no great athlete and never was. Years ago I was skinny anyway and went out dancing all the time at clubs, etc. I was never a big gym guy. At times. Lately I'm trying to stick to 90 min. of hard walking about 4x a week. I might buy a bike, too. Anyway, I hear you and I've been through that and a lot worse.
3 weeks from quitting weed and the anxiety has been crippling. 1) I have intermittent fasting pretty much my entire life and I never knew this could be feeding my anxiety. I can t tell you how much I needed this and it's a clear call to action with steps I can start today.
I am so thrilled that I stumbled upon you on You Tube!! I’m 66 and have been having a huge struggle with ongoing anxiety for far too long!! You gave me excellent info so I can begin to take better care of myself to help the others. Thank you!
This was the best video I’ve ever watched about anxiety. In such a short video, I took away way more than all the therapy sessions I’ve had. Thank you!
You didn't say one single thing that made me roll my eyes. I bought your book and I'm reading it now.
I have lived a life so full of anxiety. what your saying may seem funny to some, like an MRI isn't any problem for some, but for people like me it's one of the most fearful things to endure. Panic situations are terrible. I am so appreciative of your videos. I believe a lot of people with anxiety go to stimulants which like you said are just another issue to overcome. I like your sense of humor .I feel as though I chose a career or it worked out that way that was a hostile environment for me. I went into the military right out of high school and received the Meritorious service award. I was not as stressed in basic as I was every day at the hospital. I was in a good career with the military, it was not a hostile environment for me. My panic attacks were terrible my entire career in a hospital and I was the go to guy that seems to have it all together. I did awesome, but no one knew it was pure fear. I needed to hear about eating. I have almost stopped eating. I eat just to live . I realize that has to change. I have been looking for mental help and I feel great about your channel. I have anxiety bad and I have been eating very little but eat healthy. I have low blood sugar levels for several years. I keep candy because of low blood sugar. Thank you. For me. Step 1 is diet.
Alright, Dr. Eilers, I'm gonna take you up this.
I have been struggling with anxiety for the past few months and it has gotten to the point where I wake up and am already at max stress level.
I need relief.
So I will try my best to break my patterns and get back into control.
67 and lifelong anxiety… cutting down on caffeine tomorrow, thank you for showing up in my feed today. I also gave up watching certain topics on RUclips and politics for Lent and I’m 11 days in and already feeling a wee bit better. Thank you🙏🏼ps laughing w recognition on projects through college degrees and then in work.
This video is filled with so much hope and encouragement...from someone who gets it and has actually done all the work. I cannot thank you enough!! I 100% believe it can be overcome and your story proves it.
Timing on stimulants is important too! Since caffeine hangs around your body for several hours, an afternoon cup(s) of coffee can throw off and disrupt that night's sleep...leading to bad sleep, more coffee, and a big anxiety spiral cycle. It helped me a lot to just watch the timing and still enjoy a morning cup. Great video!!
i used to be so care free ... outgoing .. full of life .... now i stand at my apartment door taking deep breaths and mentally preparing myself to take out the garbage .. i dont know how i got to this point ...but im so extremely thankful for the advice!
I'm sorry but i just laughed at the garbage taking because i can relate to that so well 😅 if you really think about it, what is there to be scared of?
Thank you for your beautiful explanation . Recently I have been feeling lot of anxiety and stuffs . Knowing people having similar experiences made me feel ease a bit . Here's note
→ Stop avoiding what's causing your anxiety
→ Stop taking stimulants
→ Stop doing nothing
→ Stop skipping meals
→ Stop doing everything by yourself
→ Stop treating yourself as an untrustworthy person
Anxiety just does not happen in a day. It needs hard work. We repeatedly tell ourselves something will happen in social situation or we have a heart problem because our heart is beating faster to help us deal with fear. Imaginary fears are the main problem.
Fears of everything even though it isn't real or happens. Like your brain is always working and you are thinking too many things. Like you want things around you to be perfect or well. It's very difficult to focus on things.
I really relate to your experience. Thanks for sharing. I remember genuinely believing I would never feel happy again or gain the will to live my life, and yet today I am thriving. I love hearing from people on the other side of mental illness. Glad you're in a good place now.
Thank you so much for giving real practical advice on anxiety! I can see how much you understand the topic from personal experience. I am making big strides, myself, and greatly appreciate when people talk about how our habits and behaviors keep us ruled by anxiety. In my past experiences over the years dealing with anxiety I was told by psychiatrists that it was "just the way I was", and needed to take medications that only ended up backfiring by making my physical and mental health far worse. For reference, I ended up with Serotonin Syndrome that came on slowly but got to a point where I was critically ill when it was finally diagnosed. Freeing myself from this vicious cycle and taking back my own brainpower to address the underlying issues has given me a whole new perspective and way of coping.
Anxiety has fucked me up unbelievably bad.
You are insanely good at articulating these topics in ways were people with only surface level understanding of psephology topics can understand.
I have OCD and have have spend countless hours in therapy and general research and you really helped broaden my understanding of a topic i thought i was very well versed in.
The best therapists and psychologist are the ones who have lived through and worked through their own mental issues. You just have that extra perspective that others dont.
Great content man im excited for more.
The whole "This has to all happen TODAY" segment... so completely relatable and helpful. I have Todoist and I can literally schedule things in the future, and I need to use that feature!!!
That’s what I use!
I consider that a ringing endorsement! I've found it very helpful so far. I have daily reminders for some of the most basic yet important things (check cat water, litter boxes) and it utteryly helps. Also helps me realize how much I DO do.
Thank you Dr.Scott Eilers for being so transparent and authentic sharing your own journey 🙏
All six make perfect sense to me. I am currently struggling/adapting to number three. Anhedonia had me mostly nonfunctional for the past five months. Overwhelm, anxiety, depression ruled and I caved to it all. I began to practice the other five 'fixes' on my own about a month ago, coincidentally. Now, involved in a task easily gets me into a zone, even a state of flow. As soon as I take a break...the rumination returns! I'm certain that number 6 is the issue with this. Fear that I will not allow myself to complete a task (no trust in myself with the 'future') stems from early cPTSD trauma-induced failure imprinting. That particular malady is a tenacious and difficult one to remedy...I am working to give myself evidence, through consistent current achievement, that the old mental program was wrong; and no longer needs to be followed.
When you say failure imprinting - is it a persistent fear that you will fail at the next thing you have to do because you failed at something big in the past? My self-esteem crashed in university, and while I eventually got my degree, I no longer thought of myself as 'smart'. This has come back to haunt me in job searches, and it's causing me feelings of doom and catastrophe.
@@thisgirl5933 I can relate. My high school was extremely ‘average’ and there were very low expectations of me from either my (uninvolved and self absorbed) parents, or the teachers. Got into university but had little direction in life and no idea how to study. My parents stupidly got me into one of the more traditional hostels, and I was surrounded by high achieving students doing medicine & law degrees from wealthy backgrounds. I floundered through university, failed a critical paper in my second year had to switch degrees to one I didn’t really want to do and no longer thought of myself as smart either. Took another year off then started a diploma for which I had no background in. By the time I was finished at university and looking for work I was 27 years old with an average degree behind me - not 21 or 22 as I should have been. Found work but had imposter syndrome until I finished working after my 3rd child at 39, and started doing my own psychology research. Tg for channels like this on yt as I couldn’t afford long term therapy which I really needed to understand what was going on. Now in a much better place thankfully but I do feel sad I didn’t have a happier time in my 20s.
Some people have constant heavy circumstances and needs that go un
met that are the contributors to anxiety, which is what brings on hopelessness
I let anxiety cause me to have no friends. Thankfully with the support of my boyfriend and lots of effort I have been able to heal and see positive results. Just my boyfriend and I for now and that’s ok.
Dr. Eilers you are my twin. The 6 bad habits except for stimulants I do. Avoidance is my HUGE default to a point I have limited my life to the point, no long lasting relationships, not wanting children so they don't get my anxiety/depression because how can I help them if I can't help myself. My anxiety has kept me from challenging myself socially and professionally. Plus everything else you mention as trusting my future self and put my trust in others because it won't be as perfect as I want it to be.
After listening to you for a while now, I've decided to work on the big 3: Improve my mental health, my body by eating better and exercising and finally spiritually.
I'm so glad I found you because I do exactly what you spoke about in this video.
I'm still a work in progress and most likely will be until I die.
I m off caffeine for 3 years now. No more panic attacks. Period.
When i drink only one coffee a day everything is fine, as soon as i drink too much i get this anxious feeling that "something's about to happen"
Good to hear that. I have one of regular coffee in the morning and then usually have several decaffeinated coffees into mid afternoon. Having more than one caffeinated coffee or drink really gets me anxious. Less so with the decaf ones but I wonder about those too.
@@ConspiracyCraftersStudio exactly, and it stays for pretty long
Drank a couple cups of coffee 4 years ago & ended up in the ER with a severe panic attack. I thought I was going to die. Numb arms, hands lips turned blue & my jaw went totally stiff. Haven't touched coffee since.
@@bonekollektor1659 same man! And I became sure that the hyperventilation itself started as a byproduct of caffeine consumption as well... glad you survived tho brother!
Thank you so much I was waiting for this video, I had an unusual long period of depression and anxiety for about a year and I decided this month to try to get myself out of it!
I'm taking notes! Thank you again❤
The part of asking for help is completely true cuz I was that type of "superwoman" that wants to do and deal with everything by herself but I think in long term that caused me just so much suffering and I feel like I've lost all my energy to do even little things in my life! While the solution is just ask for help as simple as it is❤
Who do I ask if I have nobody to ask?
@@thinkingallowed1st Well I'm not a professional but I'll answer you from my experience!
Just try to rebuild your relationship with your fam, your parents if they're still alive your siblings, maybe your partner, a professional...try socializing with more people around you and make your circle bigger, people whom share with you same activities/hobbies! I know it's kinda hard sometimes especially if you are an introvert, or having a depressive episode when you want just to close on yourself and just hide like I used to!
In such time of vulnerability you start thinking that you're alone and everyone/everything is against you! Sometimes just finding someone to talk to and being vocal about what's hurting you inside can give you an instant kind of relief! Maybe just "notebook" as a starting point! Or if you believe in higher being just pray! Or virtual friends! Be more vocal spit it all out!
Just believe it's just a period (transition), you're never alone!❤️❤️
Much love
I did the same, I tried to do it on my own then one day my body crashed. I couldn’t get up that day to do my daily routine. That’s when I had to share with my family what was going on. The anxiety became debilitating. At the time you feel like it is never going to go away. I am doing much better now. It took a few months. My daughter’s convinced me to sign up for therapy and it really helped a lot. It turned out that I had a lot of trapped trauma that was causing my anxiety.
Wow I feel the same I did so much then anxiety came and doesn’t leave me alone horrible symptoms it has been hard it’s been almost a year now from running a business to being scared of being alone
@Rhianna2023 being alone better than being with the person you love who makes you feel all alone when crave their touch or nice words
totally relate to everything you say, i've genuinely never heard someone describe anxiety so accurately thank you
Without knowing I have done most of the things he is saying and have been able to manage anxiety. I am only missing asking for help, I will get myself help cleaning my house and more hobbies, more exercise, more reading. This is a great video do what he says it works!!
I think at 10:30, keeping your mind occupied, on a task, learn something new….is imperative for your well being! Thanks sir!
Your openness will help many people with mental health problems .They feel valued.Thank you for this content🤓👍
This sounds like me. I'm 46 yo and struggle with extreme daily anxiety. I've recently had some mini-breakthrus, so hopefully I can keep going in the right direction.
Unlock the secrets to overcoming anxiety and depression with this incredible video! As someone who has battled with these challenges since childhood, I can confidently say that his advice is spot on. His compassion and understanding are truly remarkable. I am sharing this video on my Facebook page so others can benefit from his expertise. While there are many strategies that have helped me, accepting things outside of my control has been crucial. Silence and mindfulness have also played a significant role in reducing my anxiety. Remember, your brain needs rest, and constant busyness is not sustainable. Start small and focus on self-discipline, nutrition, and accepting yourself just as you are. Let go of the past and focus on the present, taking baby steps towards improvement. May you find peace and happiness on your journey!
I just started having debilitating panic attacks and all the habits that you say cause it, I have been doing. It's crazy man. Thanks for the video.
That’s a great video and I must say that all the things you mentioned apply to me as well. In my case what's most diffucult is to be constant in following those new/good habits
Me too! However, I think the lesson is this. Just start over. If the attempt you have made to learn and maybe become really competent at any new thing gets sidetracked, okay. Okay you didn’t practice your piano, or cook all those groceries you were excited to prepare when you bought the stuff at the grocery store, and to top it off did not go for that fresh air walk for just one block that you promised yourself you would absolutely do today, start over. You have not failed, so you do not need to feel like a failure. Begin again.
@@sharondoan1447 true. Thank you for this. Frustration is really behind the corner when you're doing your best to heal. It's very hard and I'm still struggling if I should begin medication or not. And that itself causes anxiety
When I think about anxiety and my brain, I think about a saying I've heard dog trainers say about Border Collies and other smart dogs: If you don't give them a job or task to do, they will find and make one for themselves. And you will not like the task they make for themselves, because it's probably destructive.
Children are the same,humans too. We need purpose
Very solid recommendations, I totally agree. The first 5 are validation for me and the last one a new very interesting takeaway. So, thank you!
I think what you ingest is a really big one - that includes food, drinks, news, social media, cinema/tv/series, everything!
I wake up in the middle of the night with panic attacks. Hoping watching videos like this helps me figure it out.
One of the most informative and to the point, smart videos on managing this terrible condition ive seen .
I appreciate the realness of your videos so much, it can be very frustrating to hear pre-packaged platitudes about depression or anxiety "just exercise," "just think positively!" Those types of comments actually make me feel worse. Your channel is so helpful because you relate your personal experience and struggles and give solid and practical advice that makes me actually feel like there is hope.
You give me hope because I’m stuck in debilitating anxiety for a huge chunk of my life. Btw your book is awesome ❤
Now that we're in the holiday season, can you do a video on coping better during holidays if it's a painful time? For me the hardest part is getting bombarded on TV or any media with images of the ideal family and friend gatherings, I didn't have good childhood memories (there was a lot of physical abuse), and as for friends....they are too busy with their own families.
Try imagining a fat business man who doesn't give a shit about anyone just ordering those ads to get more sales 🙃
❤ Hi Scott, your honesty and sincerity are so powerful. 😊 I have relatives that suffer from these exact same issues and as a grandmother it is so difficult for me to watch people in the state of depression and anxiety. I feel so helpless so that's why I'm going to share your videos. your voice and your experiences is exactly what these young people need to hear and see right now!! thank you so much😊
This video really calmed me down. Very helpful insights! And you are so right about eating.
Another great show! So far as caffeine goes, I’ve noticed over the last couple of years (I’ve been tracking this) that if my day is well, structured and happy, doing things I generally enjoy doing, caffeine seems to just give me more energy, and happy energy at that. But when I have lots of caffeine and I’m confronting difficult things, or I’m spending time with really negative people, it makes all of that worse too. Your explanation about that was really good! I think that’s what’s been happening to me, that the caffeine just amplifies whatever it is the day brings to my brain.
Your third point is so very recognizable, if my mind has spare time, it just goes into problem seeking mode. So good to hear that you have a similar experience.
Wow, that part of not trusting your future self really hits hard. So, so accurate.
I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years.
With so much anxiety Not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatmentPsilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean.
Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episodeenough to start working on my mental health
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
He's Reid_myco
The shroom experience stands as my most remarkable journey, an awe-inspiring encounter that left an indelible mark of amazement.
He’s on insta?
Thanks for sharing. I will practice what you have shared. I am glad you found your way out of the darkness I am currently on that journey.
I resorted to drinking my anxiety away at 19, I now have a damaged liver and 3 years of my life gone bc of this. Getting back on your feet is the hardest part but god the process is beautiful. I WILL NOT LET ANXIETY WIN!