6 Things I stopped Doing To Fix My Anxiety
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- Опубликовано: 10 дек 2023
- The emotional and physical toll of debilitating anxiety can be overwhelming.
What I've found in my life - and in the lives of many clients - is that I fed and enabled my anxiety through my habits and actions. Not on purpose; not even knowingly.
The first step to overcoming my chronic anxiety was to see the causes and dismantle them.
I'm sharing the 6 things I did to fix my anxiety. These are personal - they worked for me. And, while every person is different, I believe these 6 can have a positive impact on your anxiety as well.
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No one can understand what intense anxiety can feel like unless they have been through it. Mine gets worse as I get older. Every day, every situation, every decision, is a struggle. Blessings to everyone who is suffering from it. Be strong and acknowledge your strength even when you overcome the smallest of tasks. ❤❤❤❤
@MC--342~~So true~~Unless Dr.s, just people in general will never understand what it feels like~~I'm a 70 year old woman who had my first panic attack when I was 8 years old~~I was laying in bed trying to get to sleep snd all of a sudden I couldn't breathe and my heart was pounding and I thought I was dying~~My Ma was still up and I;m trying to tell her how I was feeling~~She said you're probably coming down with something and go back to bed~~Also, she was a nurse~~I went back to bed and prayed~~It lasted for 20 minutes or so and it stopped~~It was never talked about again~~I still got the attacks but I knew they would stop~~I never felt right~~When I entered Jr. High School I found out other girls, friends were going through the same thing along with debilitsting anxiety all the time~~Our parents did nothing~~To make a very long story short, I suffered ny whole life feeling that way~~Nobody knew how horrible I always felt but continued with my life~~I worked hard, took care of my family, went to night school for different things but everything I did I had to push myself hard to get things done~~When I left home at 17 I worked so hard and saved my money, went to Dr's, therapists but they just didn't get it~~I got tired of hearing, just take deep breaths and blah blah~~Nothing worked and as I got older I got worse~~Anti-anxiety meds didn't help at all~~Then Dr's said take this and take that and it will help~~I just got worse and just took anxiety meds and ambien cause I always had insomnia to this day~~But I feel like giving up but I can't~~So many worries and feeling worse~~I just feel that MY GAD is genentic from my Ma's side of the family~~She was never like a Mother should be~~I later found out some of my cousins had panic attacks, anxiety but I got the worst of it~~I've tried everything to feel at least sort of normal but just got worse with age~~I also had problems with perfection~~My brain and body just doesn't respond to all the things you're suppose to do~~Take good care and Happy New Year~~I pray for everyone that is going through horrible disorder~~🙃🙃🙃🥵🥵🥵☹☹☹💗💗💗
I can empathize! Mine keeps growing and unfortunately so many trials keep coming feeding the anxiety. It's like a hamster wheel that won't stop.
Oh I hope you will get through it! It's a really heavy thing, but if I can do it, I'm sure as hell you can do it! My tip is ''don't take life so seriously''. Once I understood what that actually meant my intense anxiety got evaporated. I'm still learning and it's not like I'm never anxious anymore. But a giant burden lifted when I stopped listening to my self made rules of good and wrong. There are no rules. Enjoy life how you want it to!
All the tips the guy mentioned in the video are perfect!
Hey, what triggers your anxiety? Tell me about your situation and l'll share my story with you. Let me know
EFT tapping may help you out.
Anxiety literally destroyed my life. and I am not overexaggerating that's the truth.
It definitely can
How
I 100% feel you on this statement. Only
People with crippling anxiety can
But you’re still here, trying. That’s half the battle. God bless you! You are stronger than you think. We’re here with you. You got this!
Just tell your anxiety to bring it everytime you have one, welcome it, tell it to bring its worst. It really helps me
Things that work for me:
- Reducing caffeine
- Sleeping 8 - 9 hours a night at a fairly consistent time
- Practicing Zen Buddhist concepts such as meditation (just putting a meditation video on works), grounding my steps, centering my body and practicing mindful breathing
- Practicing loving kindness towards myself and catching any non-compassionate thoughts I may have about myself (or other people)
- Incorporating some light exercises
- Listening to calming music and spiritual videos (can be music, or a prayer that I pray along to)
- Keeping a gratefulness list.
❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing this
Watching this before buying a ticket alone and taking the tram alone for the first time in my life at 27 years old.
Oh WoW! Good for you, that's a big step! ( sorry I know you posted this a month ago but I just ran across the video ) so how did it go? Were you able to get on the tram and complete the ride??
How are you now? Did it make you feel a little more comfortable?
Good luck my darling you will be fine 🙂 promise 🇬🇧
Well done !! I need to do this for a big family function
Pre lockdown I was fine
Now it’s too hard
I have to make it happen
Awesome!
1. 2:25 - Stretch your mind; step outside comfort zone
2. 5:00 - Avoid stimulants e.g. caffeine
3. 7:38 - Occupy yourself with meaningful activities
10:41 - intro to #4
4. 11:48 - Take nutrition seriously
5. 13:53 - Stop trying to do everything (most difficult!)
6. 17:15 - Positive outlook; trust in yourself
Thanks for this. I have trouble holding the points in my head to the end of the video. This helps a lot.
Glad to help! 😊
@@centurionstrengthandfitnes3694
when we also have severe ADHD, trauma etc - sometimes stimulants def. needed for some time!
This is great. I would just add “stop avoiding anxiety” to 1 and add “everything YOURSELF” to the 5.
If you do 1 and 3 you will be 99% recovered. Really number 1 will get you 80% at least.
Anxiety can be considered to be fear of fear, or more precisely fear of your body's natural physical responses to fear. Realising this can help reduce it.
Have never heard of this. I've had this inexplicable fear all my life. Wish I knew how to deal with it.
That's the focus of Dr. Claire Weekes books and audio recordings. Desensitization of fear. She explains it so well. Love her audio recordings, too. Old school, but still applicable today, IMO.
What causes feelings of anxiety?
In childhood, the mind archives the bad moments that human being experiment
and when something happens that is similar to what was experienced the mind remembers it, emitting feelings of anger, fear, anguish or depression. It is important that every time something unpleasant happens and we feel bad about it, we realize that we are feeling ECHOES OF THE PAST, so that we don't go through life feeling bad about insignificant things. There are several ways to get rid of those constant warnings from the mind.
When you feel anger, fear, anxiety or depression, accept to feel it until it fades. It is to cleanse ourselves of the unpleasant sensations experienced in childhood.
Also practice to inhale, exhale deeply, count to eight and breathe again. repeat it several times and the unpleasant sensations begin to disappear.
One thing to add is walking away from social media for long periods at a time. This includes news stories that are triggering. Sometimes we avoid life due to anxiety but we do so by drowning ourselves in social media which acts as a catalyst for even greater anxiety.
I started getting real bad anxiety attacks, it helps to listen to other people who work through it each day.
I m off caffeine for 3 years now. No more panic attacks. Period.
Anxiety just does not happen in a day. It needs hard work. We repeatedly tell ourselves something will happen in social situation or we have a heart problem because our heart is beating faster to help us deal with fear. Imaginary fears are the main problem.
Fears of everything even though it isn't real or happens. Like your brain is always working and you are thinking too many things. Like you want things around you to be perfect or well. It's very difficult to focus on things.
That's me right now. Im in my room sitting, again. I cry constantly. I've dealt with this for 30 plus years.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@thoos192 yes the stomach issues are horrible. I don't have a gallbladder so I'm almost obligated to eat well.
I've actually been checked for all those things and nothing came of it. But, I'm so glad you found the root cause of your anxiety 🥰. They basically just told me I had a chemical imbalance and thats about it. The anxiety is what gets me depressed. It's a whole cycle.
@@virginiaevelyn8278❤❤❤
Same HERE!! Just gave my life back to the LORD!!! This has helped ALOT!!!
@@virginiaevelyn8278 are you autistic?
Anxiety and depression have crippled me my whole life. It's so painful and debilitating and I don't know anymore what to do. I'm tired, very, very tired.
UPDATE: I am feeling considerably better than when i made my original post - the encouragement and prayers I received from my post, along with a review of my medications have really made a difference in my life, and the end result is I'm feeling considerably better. Thank you to all those kind people who cared enough to post words of love and encouragement in my time of darkness. You all saved my life.
The "being tired " is a REAL THING!!!!!
Turn to God, he is our healer.
You are not alone. 😢 Me tooin the same situation. I don't even know whether I have any other condition or anxiety itself.
Bless you, I'm sending you healing now 💖🙏 x
@@yvonnelesleybrigenshaw950 thank you so much. That's so kind of you. 🙏❤️
When I think about anxiety and my brain, I think about a saying I've heard dog trainers say about Border Collies and other smart dogs: If you don't give them a job or task to do, they will find and make one for themselves. And you will not like the task they make for themselves, because it's probably destructive.
I went through comments, and it is very sad to see a lot of people struggling with anxiety, God bless you all! But just sitting and doing nothing will never help you, you are the first person to help yourself. I have anxieties too, sometimes it is horrible, but I fight it through sport, watching videos like this, reading. Start with small steps, but make it consistent and add little by little. As you feel the difference don’t stop, keep going until you win over it. Believe and act🙏🏼
thank you for this video, it is really helpful.
I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years.
With so much anxiety Not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatmentPsilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean.
Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episodeenough to start working on my mental health
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
He's Reid_myco
The shroom experience stands as my most remarkable journey, an awe-inspiring encounter that left an indelible mark of amazement.
He’s on insta?
Having been through this, the most important thing i found is to do it regardless - go to work,go to a party. You won't feel like it but doing it reduces the fear. Bottom line,you need to lose your fear of being anxious.
I feel like the maxim “ Mood follow action” connects to your comment!
I’m 67 years old and have dealt with anxiety and depression for over 50 years, listening to you has helped me to understand why I feel the way I do. I’m always looking forward to your next video. I’m so glad that I found you!
Yep I am 47 and my life sucks
Don't make comparisons with any others.
Thank you for your honesty. Would you please say what has been helpful? Thank you
Hi I'm same im 55 suffering
Hello Ryan
I’ve suffered for 30 years and I’m tired of it. But I do like being alone. But it’s the fear of everything I’m so tired of it. Crazy things that have no rational. Xx
Help. I'm. Home. Don't drive. 5:31
Well scoot over cause I'm in the boat with you. Haha
I remember being very little and telling the family doctor that my tummy always hurt and he asked me to describe "hurt" and I said I feel like there's a whole bunch of butterflies flying around in my tummy all the time and making it dizzy. He asked basic questions like did it happen when I was doing or this or that or the other. I said it's ALL the time. Everyday when I wake up til bedtime. Welcome to generalized anxiety disorder was the diagnosis. It never stops, never takes a break. Even if I have nothing that needs done and I'm free to just sit back relax watch a movie, play a game on my phone, sit outside and enjoy the sunset. I still cant relax and I still have the anxiety.
Like you said, I am so sick and tired of feeling this way and I am tired of being afraid of everything because I know that my anxiety is going to interfere so intrusively that it's just better for me mentally to avoid everything and stay in my comfort zone of home.
I am able to socialize when I do go out and about to take care of errands and things like that. It's just getting myself out there to begin with. The dread of having to get out of the car and go inside the Walmart or something, even tho it's the same one I've gone to for years, the anxiety of going inside is overwhelming and then I try to get back to my car and go home as quickly as possible.
Im not "afraid" of anything in the store, I'm not afraid of people, there's not a specifically particular reason that this act of going inside causes difficulty for me. It's just the act in it of itself that spikes my anxiety through the roof and I just dont get it. It happens with Everything and I'm so tired of dealing with it but it's literally all I've ever known and nothing seems to help.
Just don't tip over this boat we're both in tho, OK? Lol
Oh hell. It's worse than I thought. Rereading that I see that apparently I even have anxiety with imaginary things. 🤦🏼
@@KatSpade1018 I can relate in every single word you wrote. I have agoraphobia and also generalized anxiety disorder. So tired.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@KatSpade1018 bless you, but you literally explained it so well.
It’s nice to know we aren’t alone though isn’t it.
I wish I had a magic wand.
I’ve lived so long with it I really don’t know anything else. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but yet somehow I hide it well. Only my nearest and dearest know so it’s a fight of will power and strength at times, which must mean we are incredibly strong - ironic isn’t it!
Wishing you all the best for you. ❤️
Anxiety ruined my life. I got it from my mother. I have on my Whiteboard, written the following simple axioms
1-Life is engagement not avoidance (Existentialism)
2-Slow down and focus (Zen)
3-Act with self respect and confidence (NLP)
NLP and exercise also helped me with anxiety and sleeping, and CBT helped with depression.
-Good luck fellow travellers through the universe of emotions, which is life. Peace.
Is anxiety the same thing as anger? Because I'm angry all the time.
@@LaoSoftwareNo, nothing like it, probably the opposite
@@LaoSoftware I think it can be related in some ways, but according to chinese medicine anger is related to liver function.
@@LaoSoftware It's common for SOME anxious people to have high irritability... Get easily irritated and angry for little to no good reason. It's frustrating... but everyones anxiety is a bit different.
Thank you so much for sharing those axioms. 😊
Thank you for this. I went to the hospital for a panic attack the other day where I fainted at work. I haven’t been to work in 5 days due to this. After watching this last night I made it to work today. It wasn’t a great day but when I made it through the shift I felt proud that I didn’t avoid my priorities. Appreciate your vulnerability
Aww so sorry to hear this. Well done for making it back to work, keep going, you can do this!! One thing that might help is magnesium, it’s really calming and helps go minimise anxiety. Zinc also helps too. You can create flash cards with positive affirmations that you can look at when you are at work. Or relate a vision board book (A5) and add beautiful and calming images and look at your book when or if you feel anxious at work.
I'd get some blood tests done to rule out iron and b12. B6. Deficiency. This is how i started panic attacks, from low Iron
Do you find that work either causes or triggers your anxiety?
Awesome that you went back to work… that’s how we do it…one day at a time. God bless you and provide new strength each day 🙏
I’m 60 years old and I’ve struggled with anxiety nearly all my life.
I’m not far off your age and is in it amazing we are actually here. But it’s not the way we choose to live is it, we learn to live with it, and that makes it sad but doable. I hope you’re okay. Big hugs.
@@user-mq2kt1kx1c 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I'm sometimes i ask myself is it really getting better...
I am in my 60s and suffered panic attacks all my life. Benzos help but I feel I'm pill shamed due to taking a small amount of them...
@sharon8121 in only 32 and I feel shamed for getting professional help and being prescribed a medication to calm my over thinking. I feel like people don't understand my point of view and most people that care about me tell me I need to stop taking my meds bcuz 'I shouldn't have anxiety'
Complex PTSD seems to explain the link between anxiety, depression, perfectionism, negative self talk, and many other psychiatric symptoms: Repeated trauma of a physical or non-physical kind, in any stage of the lifespan but especially childhood. Because the diagnosis is fairly new, I feel like a lot of people have it but don't know it
You’re right about number 3. When you’re not busy your anxiety starts to take over. I need to work on being more busy too.
oh boy I know that too. I just find it an immense struggle to get moving. Maybe it's my biggest problem at this point.
@@heaven7360 yeah exactly. Sometimes when you’re too anxious it give you 0 drive to get anything done!
That's a typical CBT solution. Keep yourself busy.
But it only helps to attenuate anxiety for a little while. Anxiety comes from the lack of connection to your own body. You feel anxiety because you probably used to suppress unwanted feelings in the past, and your body is trying to let yourself know that you ignore important signals.
People learn quickly that the more you think the less you feel. And your body just want you to feel it. Because it's trying to tell you something. Like "stop, I'm tired" or "I don't like it, dont do it". If you ignore it, it will let you know by anxiety, intrusive thoughts and in the end, somatic symptoms.
The aspartame and sucralose in diet drinks and foods, is horrendously destabilizing to mental health. A low fat diet is also horrendously destabilizing to mental health. Eating overprocessed imitation foods is the same as well. Eat and drink natural foods and drink, get away from the phones and computers, get outside, and leave your junk alone, half the time, and you'll meet someone, to be with, that likes you. Lastly, stop hating that person in the mirror. Be their best friend. Good luck, you got this.
Yes! Self contempt is destroying us! Forgive self as well as others! FEAR=False Evidence Appearing Real!
It's interesting you mention get outside. I never have anxiety out in nature. It's when I'm in the artificial constructs of humanity that the anxiety and anger sets in.
I'm looking forward to this one. Anxiety definitely consumes my life. Its terrible. Would love to be able to fix it.
Same.. it's exhausting 😔
❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
I agree…please know you’re not alone.
Same !
Me too its torture 😫
Wow..I have been watching you this last 6 months or so...your ability to communicate in detail my existence, thoughts, and life....blows my mind..I just never believed another person on the planet could honestly " get it"...I am 61 years old...61 years of trying to get through it alone. Thank you for putting yourself out there for the rest of us!❤
My pleasure 😊
@@DrScottEilers Be careful..?? Read between the lines.!
@@DrScottEilersit's the booze.
@tristanbulluss9386 I wish...I haven't had any since I was 25...thought it was adding to the anxiety..so I was done with it.
@@debbieford4685 how longs that?.
8:00 doing “nothing” was/is my #1 trigger. I feel this vague panic rising as I sit (and maybe even scroll social media, Tv, etc- a stimulant IMO), which i later realized was anxiety due to my knowing I was doing something that contributed to my poor wellbeing yet was actively ignoring it and “freezing”. The anxiety rose from the cognitive dissonance.
What do you do to combat it?
The usual way to combat this isn't the way this video suggested (always filling your time with things) and is that you should accept your anxious thoughts but not react to them. To begin with you can address your thoughts (say "no, it's not likely that i'm going to die if I leave the house", and then leave the house), and then as time goes on, maybe only answer 30% of them, and then eventually just 1 in 5, and then stop answering them at all and eventually you reprogram yourself. The signals and hyper vigilance come from an overactive amygdala and with this type of exposure you can change it in around 2 weeks.
But if what you're asking is how to not be stressed when you're doing nothing just because this isn't productive, then you could ask yourself "what's stopping me from doing something that I actually want to do now" .. sometimes you need to rest, sometimes there's something blocking you that you need to give yourself space to think about, etc
@@qtip4747
I am going through this right now. Lost 45 pounds from no appetite. Been like this for almost 3 months. Diagnosed 21 years ago with severe anxiety and depression, but never has it affected me as the past 3 months. I am going through what you start off describing about yourself.
Yes, get them all. It's lots harder when your 70 and alone.
I'm 16 And thank God I've got my whole life to fight anxiety
I hope you succeed too
@@marshmellowpenguin5136 That's actually a good mindset to have about anxiety. It became chronic for me at around 20 years old. You have more tools and instant information on everything now days. You could find out where it comes from and maybe beat it or super manage it. I would stay away from female therapists because being anxious and quickly flustered is a normal state of living for them. I didn't know that when I was 16.
@@orangeandslinky Thanks for the advice hahaha,
Fortunately my anxiety is not chronic, but it has severely destroyed more than a year of my life
🙏
I definitely struggle with anxiety. I have missed so many opportunities in my life because of it. In pretty much all aspects of life. I ended up just accepting that's the way I am, but hate it when I know it's holding me back from a really meaningful life. I did somewhat defeat it once but had some events in my life that I can't change bring it on worse then it ever was. Once again starting all over again........ it's tiring.
Right there with you, it is crippling
Your first 4 sentences so accurately describe my life too.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@thoos192 Hi, I have Coeliac and my daughter started out with symptoms of Coeliac, but it didn't show up with the Edoscopy. The villi inside of the small intestine is what absorbs nutrients. In Coeliacs this gets flattened by reaction to gluten. Yes it causes lots of anxiety, from lack of nutrients, or in some people from gluten affecting them but villi not damaged.
I fight with anxiety each and every day, but I fight with it, I'm not giving up, even when sometimes I'm getting my ass kicked by it and I can hardly stand up, I always try and do it, to stand up and keep on going. And if I can, as someone who didn't really achieved anything special in its life then anyone can do it and that's what I believe in with all my heart.
Thanku
This sounds like me. I'm 46 yo and struggle with extreme daily anxiety. I've recently had some mini-breakthrus, so hopefully I can keep going in the right direction.
Things I did when he had such massive panic attacks that I couldn't leave my house:
1. Gratefulness! No matter how miserable you are you always have things to be grateful for! As a homeless Veteran, I was eternally grateful for, a warm meal, a roof over my head, my dog the few friends Ive had etc, etc. I write a list each morning to rewire my brain.
2. What can you do, what can you accomplish during the day! Write down a few simple things. The old "trick" to help a fellow human when you feel miserable works! Carry the bags from the store for an old lady give a homeless with a warm meal or just take a walk with your dog?
3. Meditate and manifest a light within you that outshines and forces the darkness away and discover the magic of synchronicity and the pure magic in spiritual awareness?
1. Stretch your mind by putting it into challenges. Don't avoid tasks.
2. Avoid stimulants like coffee, energy drinks etc
3. Keep your mind busy and occupied
4. Food is energy for brain. Don't skip meals and pay attention to your nutrition
5. Don't expect yourself to do each and everything all alone. Ask for help
6. Stop treating yourself like an untrustworthy person
Just some key points I recall from the video :)
thanks i prefer read, listen someone talk too long its anxious...hahahaha 😉
I'd probably add that stimulants can be much more than that - like video games, RUclips, binge-watching, etc.
"avoid stimulants" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅😅😅😅😅😮💨
"ask for help" 😂😂😂😂😂😂 what help?
Unfortunately, my anxiety is right in too many cases, which is how I end up getting burned out & abandoned 🤦🏽♀️
I've watched so many psychologists try to help and explain anxiety and depression. You are the ONLY doctor that can explain the way i truly feel. The way you decribe anxiety is how I feel on a daily basis. I just thank you for reaching out to people and being able to relate, because you've been there done that. You are one amazing doctor and i can't thank you enough for the all your help!!!!❤❤❤❤
I can speak on this.
I had anxiety for around 20 years, sad but true.
Mainly generalized but with enough thought it could merge into just about any type.
I spent years obsessing about how I felt, every new experience had to be vetted through my anxious mind first to decide weather or not to partake.
As you will know this thinking about everything was the downfall, almost always lead to avoidance.
I think the catalyst for change was when I started a new career during lockdown.
By forcing this upon myself I think I inadvertantly reset by puggled mind lol
And yes I had all the symptoms during those 20 years including the hospital visits convinced of a heart attack or some horrendous underlying condition. Over the years I took Prozac, diazepam and certralene, not together obviously.
But today, here I am. No drugs, an espresso machine, I go on buses, trains, drive on motorways in heavy traffic jams, take lifts even when full, the lot.
No symptoms at all!
My only vice is my waryness of flying, I do it but need a few drinks are needed first, and that I can live with!!!
Don't give up
Do the things that challenge you
Meditate
Relax
Smell the roses
You will be alright, I promise 😊
Thank you for posting this comment my friend.
Your sharing the most intimate details of your life journey is an inexpressible blessing to thousands, maybe even millions of other people.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
true facts!
I think the hardest thing for me is the avoidance one. I avoid so much of what upsets me, but it's not productive to do so.
Dr. Scott you are a Godsend.
One other thing I could add to that list is to stop looking at ourselves as bad people. Not just untrustworthy but immoral because sometimes we stay away from responsibility. Guilt is a great contributor to anxiety. I had to come to that acceptance before I could move forward. Thanks for all you do! ❤
Thank you for making this video. I've suffered with anxiety my whole life, largely due to the complicated relationship I've had with the disability I was born with, cerebral palsy. Throughout my life, lots of non-disabled people I've known, even among friends, family, and romantic partners, have expressed in myriad ways that despite my proclivities and relative direction in life, I'm confined simply because I'm in a wheelchair. As you may gather, I've obsessed over that conclusion for the longest time. Essentially, you go through this cycle of feeling like your presence in someone's life will never be genuine. During the day, I'd be fine, but at night, I'd be kept up by defeatist thoughts that tell me things like "Don't bother shooting your shot with that woman; she doesn't date wheelchairs" "Even if you accomplish things in life, they're null and void just because you're in a wheelchair," or the biggest one, "Why are you trying to live a life that's not meant for cripples like you?"
At the end of the day, these are merely thoughts more than anything else. You make a good point to say a better diet helps, as well as stimulating your brain from consistent exercise. That way, it becomes even easier to manage those thoughts that may spring up from time to time. Working on yourself, especially when you're alone, can feel lonely at times, given how often those you've trusted in the past seemed to look for excuses to cut you out of their lives. It could just be that I haven't found my people yet. I've tried, but those I've had a vested interest in want little to do with me. For the time being, it's better to focus 100% on myself.
I just love this. And yes, it is lonely to work on yourself for many reasons, one of which is that most people neglect this responsibility.
God I wish I could have you as a therapist. Young guy who knows how it feels. I feel everything you say, cause I'm in my 20s and have been in the shit my whole life.
It can change. Trust and pray about that. Small changes just a little at a time moving yourself into a better mindset and place. Trust and believe that you can. Expect to have difficult times. There's something to the old saying, "Fake it until you make it." And that's really just doing the things you know you need to do. God Bless!
I have found it hard to relate to a therapist because a lot of them who don't experience anxiety are just speaking from things they have heard or have been told about anxiety, but it is so complex and when a therapist has actually experienced it (god forbid), i would think it would help in treating it, at least with a more understanding approach
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@thoos192 absolutely on point. We are unhealthy partly and in some cases completely caused by a food supply with toxic chemicals and little to no nutritional value. Look up NPK which is nitrogen, phosphorus and potassium which are the primary fertilizer chemicals which produce big plants, but the soil lacks the other minerals so those vegetables do little for nutrition.
Leaky gut destroys mental and emotional functions and overall health and vitality. Get these things under control and you (original post author) will feel and do better! God Bless!
Now that we're in the holiday season, can you do a video on coping better during holidays if it's a painful time? For me the hardest part is getting bombarded on TV or any media with images of the ideal family and friend gatherings, I didn't have good childhood memories (there was a lot of physical abuse), and as for friends....they are too busy with their own families.
Try imagining a fat business man who doesn't give a shit about anyone just ordering those ads to get more sales 🙃
After you have had a panic attack trusting yourself is difficult and I didn't even realize this until recently. My therapist has explained this and I'm working on it.
Wow
I'm having major anxiety right now. I've been on the internet too much today. I had way more coffee than I usually do. I'm tired. It's helpful seeing this video just when I needed it most. Thank you.
I recommend unplugging sometimes and going to do an hour or more walk with some music going. Exercise has helped me lately a lot. If I do an hour to 90 min. walk,
I sleep like a baby! No matter what. I recommend walking or running with music, because for me it helps me just focus on my fave music and walking and filters
out the anxiety.
@thiscorrosion900 Thank you. Normally, I do walk and ride my bike. I meditate and do pilates. But, not on that day. Plus, I have GAD (generalized anxiety disorder), and sometimes it overwhelms me.
@@lisac996 Lisac996 hi! I"m no great athlete and never was. Years ago I was skinny anyway and went out dancing all the time at clubs, etc. I was never a big gym guy. At times. Lately I'm trying to stick to 90 min. of hard walking about 4x a week. I might buy a bike, too. Anyway, I hear you and I've been through that and a lot worse.
Anxiety is easily stopped at least for myself by not medication but by changing my personal dialogue!! Ive even overcome other mental disorders by this process.
How ? How did u do it?
Please elaborate my friend.
I really relate to your experience. Thanks for sharing. I remember genuinely believing I would never feel happy again or gain the will to live my life, and yet today I am thriving. I love hearing from people on the other side of mental illness. Glad you're in a good place now.
I am so thrilled that I stumbled upon you on You Tube!! I’m 66 and have been having a huge struggle with ongoing anxiety for far too long!! You gave me excellent info so I can begin to take better care of myself to help the others. Thank you!
Thanks so much for this! It’s unfortunate, but refreshing to see that other people deal with this. #1 is definitely the toughest for me. I’m addicted to comfort and it’s making my world smaller by the day 😞
Thank you so much for giving real practical advice on anxiety! I can see how much you understand the topic from personal experience. I am making big strides, myself, and greatly appreciate when people talk about how our habits and behaviors keep us ruled by anxiety. In my past experiences over the years dealing with anxiety I was told by psychiatrists that it was "just the way I was", and needed to take medications that only ended up backfiring by making my physical and mental health far worse. For reference, I ended up with Serotonin Syndrome that came on slowly but got to a point where I was critically ill when it was finally diagnosed. Freeing myself from this vicious cycle and taking back my own brainpower to address the underlying issues has given me a whole new perspective and way of coping.
Yeah.... anxiety ruined my life for a few years... it was so bad man.... god i envy people with no debilitating anxiety
How many lives has this channel transformed?? What a great blessing
Yep, yes, all this.. Thank you Scott. My suffering is exactly what you describe in this and your depression video I just watched. I've had many hours of counseling and your two videos helped more than all of it. Thanks for your help sir.
This video is filled with so much hope and encouragement...from someone who gets it and has actually done all the work. I cannot thank you enough!! I 100% believe it can be overcome and your story proves it.
All six make perfect sense to me. I am currently struggling/adapting to number three. Anhedonia had me mostly nonfunctional for the past five months. Overwhelm, anxiety, depression ruled and I caved to it all. I began to practice the other five 'fixes' on my own about a month ago, coincidentally. Now, involved in a task easily gets me into a zone, even a state of flow. As soon as I take a break...the rumination returns! I'm certain that number 6 is the issue with this. Fear that I will not allow myself to complete a task (no trust in myself with the 'future') stems from early cPTSD trauma-induced failure imprinting. That particular malady is a tenacious and difficult one to remedy...I am working to give myself evidence, through consistent current achievement, that the old mental program was wrong; and no longer needs to be followed.
When you say failure imprinting - is it a persistent fear that you will fail at the next thing you have to do because you failed at something big in the past? My self-esteem crashed in university, and while I eventually got my degree, I no longer thought of myself as 'smart'. This has come back to haunt me in job searches, and it's causing me feelings of doom and catastrophe.
@@thisgirl5933 I can relate. My high school was extremely ‘average’ and there were very low expectations of me from either my (uninvolved and self absorbed) parents, or the teachers. Got into university but had little direction in life and no idea how to study. My parents stupidly got me into one of the more traditional hostels, and I was surrounded by high achieving students doing medicine & law degrees from wealthy backgrounds. I floundered through university, failed a critical paper in my second year had to switch degrees to one I didn’t really want to do and no longer thought of myself as smart either. Took another year off then started a diploma for which I had no background in. By the time I was finished at university and looking for work I was 27 years old with an average degree behind me - not 21 or 22 as I should have been. Found work but had imposter syndrome until I finished working after my 3rd child at 39, and started doing my own psychology research. Tg for channels like this on yt as I couldn’t afford long term therapy which I really needed to understand what was going on. Now in a much better place thankfully but I do feel sad I didn’t have a happier time in my 20s.
This was so kind of you to post this. This rang true with me.
67 and lifelong anxiety… cutting down on caffeine tomorrow, thank you for showing up in my feed today. I also gave up watching certain topics on RUclips and politics for Lent and I’m 11 days in and already feeling a wee bit better. Thank you🙏🏼ps laughing w recognition on projects through college degrees and then in work.
Thank you Dr.Scott Eilers for being so transparent and authentic sharing your own journey 🙏
Great advice. I have been doing some of these things intuitively but it's good to have these strategies reinforced. I have been making myself do things just to have something else to think about instead of fear. It works and I am trying to make these things habits. Next challenge is getting over the anxiety of driving. I live in a rural area and have to drive all the time. I am listening to CDs on my car audio which helps. Thank you for all this great advice.
I think at 10:30, keeping your mind occupied, on a task, learn something new….is imperative for your well being! Thanks sir!
I can relate to all of these. Thanks for the video.
I relate to you so much! As a therapist myself, my own struggle with anxiety is absolutely the thing I pull from the most when I work with clients who are struggling with anxiety. I am my own case study/evidence that anxiety can get better because (using many of the same techniques) I've also managed to control my anxiety to a degree I'm very proud of. Thanks Doc!
I thought therapists didn’t have anxiety, I don’t know why lol
Very solid recommendations, I totally agree. The first 5 are validation for me and the last one a new very interesting takeaway. So, thank you!
I think what you ingest is a really big one - that includes food, drinks, news, social media, cinema/tv/series, everything!
You give me hope because I’m stuck in debilitating anxiety for a huge chunk of my life. Btw your book is awesome ❤
I relate to everything you have said, only a fellow sufferer can articulate the thoughts and feelings that you describe. I am at the beginning of my anxiety journey. I have had a year from hell with anxiety and am now about to start therapy. I have to believe it will help because I really don't want to live the rest of my life like this, it's devastating
I relate to everyone of these points and am so thankful I've seen this video as my anxiety/depression is not great at the moment. Some of these I've already started working on but no 5 and 6 - they hit hard. No 6 esp
This was the best video I’ve ever watched about anxiety. In such a short video, I took away way more than all the therapy sessions I’ve had. Thank you!
Dude I love learning through analogies and metaphors and yours are so on point!
Thank you for sharing your story and advice, it’s greatly appreciated man
You're a gem and I hope you know that. You have no idea how much I have learned from you. I don't have anxiety, but have two people in my life who have and your videos have helped me to know how to behave around them and in a way help them. I have shared your videos with them and have also gifted them with your book. your videos are super helpful for everyone, because we all are bombarded with stress inducing situations. So grateful to you.
I appreciate the realness of your videos so much, it can be very frustrating to hear pre-packaged platitudes about depression or anxiety "just exercise," "just think positively!" Those types of comments actually make me feel worse. Your channel is so helpful because you relate your personal experience and struggles and give solid and practical advice that makes me actually feel like there is hope.
Wow I almost burst into tears watching this. I’ve never had my symptoms described so perfectly. Thank you for putting these videos out and for opening up to complete strangers about your own struggles and experiences.
Yup, your not alone this also described many things to a t for me, best advice I can give you is, constantly work on it, so you don't go backwards, and things will get better if you do this and get outta your comfort zone, also practicing, really practicing being in the moment, will also help, it's not gonna change over night, but you can change
Heather you can overcome it!
Life is short…very short. I hope you can just live and put anxiety behind you 👊🏼
My anxiety is soo bad. It feels like a rocky Balboa has pummeled my stomach. I have mdd and PTSD and anxiety. It just feels like impending doom. I can't hardly function. And it's so much worse at night. I'm not hungry so therefore I'm not eating. I won't let myself sleep. I am 47 years old tomorrow January 5. I just feel doomed since birth and I have soooo many regrets.
I found this video so helpful as I did the depression one. I also have anxiety and depression and these videos are helping me see ways I can help myself by doing or not doing certain things. Thank you so much for sharing.
Your third point is so very recognizable, if my mind has spare time, it just goes into problem seeking mode. So good to hear that you have a similar experience.
So relate to not trusting myself, check and recheck what i am doing. Very helpful.
The point about not going hungry - YES! I only discovered that it's dangerous for me not to eat properly, when I started living with my sister. And she pointed out how hangry I was when I skipped meals. It was literally a painful sensation in my stomach and provoking even more anxiety. So dieting is not for me, yup. And when I feel irritated I ask myself when I ate last time and most of the time it's the source of the problem
Yes I find the same. Quite a discovery to me as I never took food very seriously. Daft as that is.
You put it all so perfectly, anxiety is hard but hearing someone say what you feel is such a relief. Thank you 🇬🇧❤️
The last strategy is the most important one. It hits home. I have huge problem there. Trusting my future self. Thanks a lot.
You didn't say one single thing that made me roll my eyes. I bought your book and I'm reading it now.
Another great show! So far as caffeine goes, I’ve noticed over the last couple of years (I’ve been tracking this) that if my day is well, structured and happy, doing things I generally enjoy doing, caffeine seems to just give me more energy, and happy energy at that. But when I have lots of caffeine and I’m confronting difficult things, or I’m spending time with really negative people, it makes all of that worse too. Your explanation about that was really good! I think that’s what’s been happening to me, that the caffeine just amplifies whatever it is the day brings to my brain.
Everything you said about delegating tasks and also trusting your future self hits home!! Thank you!!! From a small business owner, this video has truly helped so much.
Super helpful video, thanks for sharing !
💜Once again, Dr. Scott, so many of your points hit home. Anxiety has been a regular part of my life for years. I knew in the back of my mind that my perfectionist tendencies had a lot to do with it. I thought I was anxious because I had to do everything perfectly myself, and now and I was wearing myself out over it.(Frankly, you're right time, age,and circumstances make playing Superwoman harder, and harder!)I never made the connection to trust issues. Mistrust of the people in my life, and mistrust of myself. Even though, in the past, I had been let down by so many I trusted, even myself, I never moved on. I never thought that maybe if I gave people another chance, myself included, I may find that things have changed.I don't have to do everything myself, and quickly, or I'll mess it up. I may be able to let go of my trust issues that could be fueling so much of this anxiety. Thank you for getting me to think outside of the box. You highlight things that aren't obvious to me. Thanks for these "lightbulb moments"! 🤝👍💜
Your openness will help many people with mental health problems .They feel valued.Thank you for this content🤓👍
Wow. Your video automatically played after a guided breath work vid I was watching, trying to lower my skyrocketing BP and ease my panic attack. I am just floored by the fact that everything you said about anxiety is exactly what I feel. I really relate with your particular experience with anxiety…sounds JUST like my own. I’m already deep in my healing process but also learned some great new things here that I plan to put into practice. Can’t wait to dive in to more of your videos tomorrow. I’m deeply grateful to have found you.
So glad your video was recommended.. this truly brings me hope. I’ve dealt with anxiety for 12/13 yrs now. Mainly health anxiety. Anything to do with health that I may feel or my family feels (yes I’m also overly sympathetic) my anxiety puts me in a spiral… I hope someday soon I can say the same.. 🙏🏼❤️🩹
Wow, that part of not trusting your future self really hits hard. So, so accurate.
Thank you! I found that the low end of caffeine works best for me as well. I hear myself in the things you are saying. So helpful! You are a gem!
Great video. I am a life coach and I listen to videos like this all the time looking for nuggets I can share with my clients. Often, I am disappointed that I devoted time and energy and ended up with poor information and, regularly, even find harmful advice. This was NOT one of those videos. Instead, I am so glad it popped up on my suggestions I very much appreciate you sharing your valuable tips. I will be sure to use this information not only with my clients but also for myself. Thank you!
Your video helped me so much! I am in an anxiety/panic attack stage of my life right now. I heard from other people who have gone through the struggles that I'm going through, and I am grateful that you had the courage to share yours! Truly inspiration and gives me so much hope! Its been a rough couple of years for me but I think I'm getting better step by step. Thank you for sharing your story and your experience in how to manage anxiety! All the best.
Wow, great explanation! As someone who has dealt with anxiety for many years of my life, I really appreciate this. I’m not weird, it’s my brain and there are things I can do about it - imagine that!
Great video! I need to rewatch and listen to this a few times. My wife has a lot of anxiety and she needs engaging things, otherwise her anxiety level goes up. I used to have more anxiety, but I learned to quiet that voice in my head and that has been a game changer for me!
Projects, hobbies, tasks...things to keep a mind occupied.... I need to remember that to help her.
Thanks, Dr. Scott. You get it. I'm very happy that I subscribed!
thank you, very enlightening and relatable, I hope everyone finds peace in their lives
Like the refreshing point (hearing for the first time) on trust factor in oneself/others and its paradoxical relationship vis-a-vis anxiety, perfectionistic and "feel just right" tendencies. Would be great if you could expand on these intertwined topics in future vids. 🤗
I live in Ukraine and we have explosions and bombings very often…air raids. I am very anxious often. Still not using medication but it’s really hard to manage anxiety when I live almost 2 years in the war zone…
Your points are really important. I am skipping meals in the morning, drink coffee and feel terrible…anxious…I need to guide my child to kindergarten and walk my dog so don’t have much time for breakfast. And these morning habits are doing me not a good favor…need to switch to decaf and plan my breakfast from the evening, it’s very important, because hypoglycemia feels terrible and together with terrible news always makes me very anxious. I am learning nutrition, so I basically eat balanced meals, go to the gym in the evening 1-3 times per week but mornings for me are the hardest because of hard sleepless nights, caffeine and low glucose
I'm really sorry for what is happening in your country. I pray for peace and wisdom to be granted to these "leaders" who are causing this disaster. God Bless you and your family and country.
So sorry you and others in your country are going through such horrible circumstances. I send you loving good thoughts.
@@NancyRamey-oz7gn Nancy! Thank you very much for support ❤️❤️❤️
@@johnnytacokleinschmidt515 thank you! You are absolutely right! “Leaders” are solving their political issues while we ukrainians (women, men and children) are killed by ruzzians in our own homes…it’s terrible disaster
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You are steadily helping me. I am so grateful for your forthcoming. You empower me. I have never been able to realize life until you defined it. I am walking more confidently. Thank you. I always felt like I was watching me but feeling disembodied.
I’ve had some out of control moments because off anxiety - I’ve driven into the front of the house, reversed into my sons new car, cut fingers and thumbs and I could go on and on!
Turned to Buddhism and proper yoga science (self realisation fellowship) - game changer. Still need to give up that well paid job to get rid of the trigger rather than sticking plasters!!!
Working on my debilitating anxiety, agoraphobia, panic disorder, and depression. I have a therapy appt today. We are working on cognitive behavioral therapy.
Wouldn't wish this on anyone. I haven't been more than 30 minutes from home in TWO years.
Don’t end up like me-it’s been 8 years imprisoned in my home 😢
Same….five years here….don’t leave home…mental prison 😢
I can totally relate, except I’m not in therapy. The thought is overwhelming.
@@GabbyEsq next month is two years for me in therapy and I’m doing exposure therapy. Two years! It’s very difficult. My therapist says because I’ve had anxiety all my life and it began to become agoraphobia 11 years ago that it’s going to take time. I wanna know how much time!!?! I’m wishing you all the best!
I was that person, thank the Father above I have mostly overcome it. I speak to my fear, "go ahead, give me your best shot". It took a lot of time but I eventually started slaying the dragon
Great strategies! The one I have the most difficult you with is number 6 - challenging my perception of how I used to be with how I am now, and trusting that I’m more capable than I used to be. Thank you, and take care.
Thank you! Nice to hear these things from someone who has not only been educated about mental health but who really understands through experience how anxiety and depression feels and disables us. Also thankyou for sharing what worked for you -explained in a down to earth relatable way.
Whew, thank you so much for your insight. Number five and six hit me hard.