@DrRussellKennedy never disappoints. I learned so much about anxiety in today’s episode that I had NEVER heard before. If this episode provided some value to you, please do me a favor by dropping a like and comment below your biggest takeaway!
I understand that the majority of us have childhood trauma, however, that is not my experience, I have adult trauma - my childhood was fine, (healthy would be a stretch) but I had many traumatic experiences after I turned 50 that have put me into deregulation & dissociation for the last several years. I had no idea trauma could cause this, and it is so misunderstood & underdiagnosed that there just isn't a lot out there on how to heal. There are common experiences that many of us go through after 50 - loss of parents, caring for sick parents, loss of marriage, death of partner, loss of career, of income, of home, empty nesting, loss of our health, our dignity, pride and on and on... these are all very traumatic experiences that many of us go through within a 10 year time span, which is a lot of trauma on our systems. Especially when we are dealing with so much loss and not many "gains" in life, since it is a whole new ball game to start over after 50 w/ career, dating, living alone, etc.. This is the focus of my new channel that I am trying to build on RUclips, but it is scary. Thankfully I feel it is more important than my fear.
@@user-oy6oy1te3f thank you for replying to this comment. I have let trauma & fear prevent me from starting the next phase of my life fully. Oh - sorry, I just realized I’m commenting from my business account. But I made this original comment apparently 11 months ago - thank you for reminding me of where my soul is calling me. I have spent this past year focusing on healing but there will never be a “right” time to fulfill our dreams. (I’m really just talking to myself now 😊) 🙏
You may have had the nicest parents in the world but if they subconsciously taught you to block feelings, they unwittingly set you up for neurosis. Feelings/ loses have to be processed or they fester in the subconscious for time immemorial.
Not gonna lie, telling myself it’s not my fault combined with counting to 10 over and over again works. Did that for years and the anxiety basically disappeared until anything negative out of my control happened. Then one day I found God… I think that is what I was truly missing because I can feel full anxiety and just put it on God now, then continue my normal day. Hopefully that helps someone get passed the anxiety. My anxiety can from childhood trauma and failures in life
I envy people who can lean on god. I’ll never be able to do that. It feels inauthentic for me. I’ll continue to try to deal with my issues on my own. I love your first solution though and will try it. Self empowerment!
@@fishpaw09 everytime something else other than you counting 1-10 pops up in your head, just let the thought go and keep counting to 10 until all other thoughts disappear and you’re just focused on counting 1-10. I started with counting 1-20 but it was too much. 1-10 was very easy to repeat in my mind. After a few minutes(an hour the first time) the feeling completely left my body and I felt like I was floating the first few times.
I agree completely! I’ve learned to manage some very difficult emotions by pausing and asking myself some very serious questions. I also created a Pinterest board with some inspiring verses from the Bible. And I use a lot of self-compassion and keep reminding myself, “May I be at peace, May I continue to get stronger, May I be loved.” We are all a work in progress and need to have each other’s back in these difficult times because of common humanity.
Everything being said is resonating with me sooo much. If anyone could've seen my face when Mel begins her story about a wonderful memory as a child and she explains playing in her front yard in Michigan, my jaw just dropped. Seriously, I can't get enough!! I have listened/watched several episodes and I swear, you're talking right to me:) I have a beautiful memory of playing in my front yard in Michigan, too!! I could go on, I have adult children in which two were recently diagnosed with ADHD and encouraged me to get help because I'm "full Monty" as you'd said in one of your episodes (made me laugh so hard - menapuase) and am getting help because, yes! I too have ADHD and because I'm aware, so many life struggles make sense. It's like so many things are aligned because I'm choosing to take care of the little girl and because of that, God has placed you in my view to help me. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for that!!
Yes, this is why we must break up that original trauma to overcome the chronic stress cycle, chronic anxiety in order to really breakthrough. Exactly the process I had to do myself breaking through burnout, postpartum depression, emotionally toxic marriage. You name it, it all starts with healing core wounds! Great episode!
WOW I'm so glad to see Dr Kennedy again, and thrilled you are making this two cases instead of cramming it into one. The flip between the happy moment and trauma moment pulled up tears and tingling for me, always a sign I'm into truth
Thank you so much Mel and Dr Kennedy, I cried alot when listening because i was having a panic attack at this moment and boom as i was searching this video appeared! then as i listened i felt woaw what great tools to heal my anxiety, morning anxiety related to financial fear disguised in the lack of safety i felt as a child. For some reason money is connected to it. I'm ready to go deeper. Must find that happy moment and the trauma because i have several. Mel i have been following you for along time and never posted a comment, don't know why LOL i feel safe when i listen to you and the way you bring things is realistic and genuine and connected to life on life's term so really thank you for this generousity. Dr Kennedy i wish you were my therapist . Do you do sessions online? Can't wait for Part 2 🙂
I’ve been listening and following Mel since 2017 after watching her on Impact Theory and her messages helped me so much to during my financial issues. Just keep taking consistent steps…
Mel I have been listening to you for many years. Especially when i became so terribly emotionally and physically isolated in 2020 with the perfect storm of unresolved family of origin issues, compounded grief from the death of first my dog, then my husband and then my father. I became an outcast. I am in recovery from compulsive over eating, by the Grace of God (of my own understanding) and the 12 steps ❤. I retired from 30 years a public educator, k-12 Visual and performing Arts, when I was at the top of my game! I had travel plans and moving to the country dreams for as long as I have known myself. My dreams are coming true one day at a time. It IS and inside job. we heal in small and giant ways - the healing trickles backwards and the self soothing awakens from having it modelled ❤but Truly from feeling in new ways… Every freakin time I watch and listen to your sign off, I well up with a gush of 😭 tears- sometimes the kinda pretty tears that make my eyes sparkle ✨ at their brightest! You and how you can sincerely connect with me…heartbroken to healed,full of gratitude 🙏🏻 and grace…sometimes it’s the ugly sobbing from the gut and a harder release of old stored hurts and trauma. The only way out is through. I have needed much heart❤hand holding, sometimes you Mel, have felt like the one and only one who really cares. That’s when I am in the pit of despair…and can never thank you 🙏🏻 enough for how many times I have been reached down to and pulled up by your videos and pod casts. You have saved my life and I am absolutely sure, I am not alone 💋 Diane in Canada 🇨🇦
Wow I have also learns so much from both of these Great Drs I have had anxiety for the past 2 weeks and I have been using both of their techniques and I have been feeling much much better in the past 4-5 days prayer has been my go too! I the man above is helping me cope with it. I pray you feel much better stay strong my friend. 🙏💪👍
Hi Mel, There is such a marked difference to this episode from the last one! OMG, I wanted to put tape over your mouth so Russ could speak, but this time it is obvious your personal work has taken you to new levels as you look so calm and serene now, and allowing the conversation flow.. Well done you!!! These two podcasts have changed my perspective of myself , my kids and the students I work with. Thank you!!
Hiii Mel!!! Just wanted to let you know that I've been listening to your podcast for a month or so (almost daily), and you've helped me SO MUCH. It's amazing that you bring this much information (science based) for free. It's amazing. Love you so much
Felt this deeply. It’s like you were talking about me! I’m 53, three divorces, past struggles with addiction, overachiever and can never slow down. I’ve only recognized my anxiety in the past few years, but it has always been there.
This has really helped me put my finger on many specific bullying traumas both inside and outside my home. I always have felt separate and it must be because the hurtful words were said even before I can consciously recall. I can really relate to the doctor about seeking validation externally but simultaneously pained by the fear of being noticed and rejected. Even as a child, I was so scared of dying. Being that unlucky one something awful happens to. As a 58 year old woman who recently retired from a 36 plus year military career where an anxiety diagnosis could be a career ender, I am so relieved to be able to seek help and true healing.
Mel and Dr Kennedy 😊 understand the inner child perfectly but unsure on how to heal and on how to pay attention to my little me and make it feel worth it 🙏 the how is what I am missing
Hi - and love your podcasts Mel. Having suffered severe childhood trauma, I would ask you to combine all the wonderful tools here, and the work Dr. Joe Dispenza. It is NOT a regular type of meditation, which I have never been able to do. Pretty much like trying to get a million mosquitoes to line up at one time..followed by 3 days migraines. Combining your work and Dr. Kennedy's work and insights would be amazing. I look at this younger me - a number of them - as bubbles in time in which some defence mechanism isolated the suffering of an episode. Every time shit happened, more trust was lost, and more defences built - and extra layers put in - for safety at the time. I am amazed at how my mind managed to actually saved me, kept me alive. But now I needed avenues of being able to let all my old "warriors" dare trust me telling them...that the war is over. And of course, I have been lucky - I have an inner part too that really kept me alive, and pushed me to try to a way back to trust..in my self. That part always, always gets in the forefront and tells me: The glass is half full, Linda - NOT half empty. If I did not have that, I'd not be here to bug you on your pod. :-) Pain can be a wonderful motivator, though what caused it was not. I cannot really go back to a favourite memory, due to not really remembering much - but listening to YOU...trickles down through the layers, - and Dispenza has taught me to find a way back to daring to listen to the pain of listening to the secrets of my body. Thanks for being there, all of you wonderful, sincere helpers.
Hi Mel Just want to let you know. I've been going through a very difficult time in my life for a while now. and you are helping me so much with your fantastic help and advice. I watch your podcast every day.
Stay strong my friend you are definitely not alone we are all here to learn and beat anxiety’s ass! Stay strong and you’ll be better before you know it. I don’t know but I’m praying for you right now! Have a great days. 💪👍🙏
@@janestewart2105 no problem I hope How are doing are you feeling better ? Have you used any of the exercises from these 2 great Drs I just used one 10min ago I was feeling a little irritable I have no clue why ? But I used the breathing exercises and I’m feeling better I also remind myself that I’m always safe in the moment it really works I also try not to overthink that’s where I tend to have my issues but I have a feeling that my autoimmune disease causes it, I had anxiety about 4 months ago for about 2 weeks and it cleared up and now I’m dealing with it again it’s been a week and half hopefully it subsides but I’m just staying positive and praying and praying I hope to hear from you have a great week. 👍🙏👍🙏
I cannot thank you enough, from the bottom of my heart, for sharing this knowledge. It makes sense, steps are provided and information backing up the feelings and process. Absolutely user friendly and doable. So grateful. Thank you for spreading and sharing this invaluable knowledge. Love you Mel! You’re amazing!
This is an amazing podcast for me. You and Dr Kennedy have talked about childhood trauma being stored in my body. I am almost 67 years old (29th April) I have been in various therapies over the years with some very caring folks, mostly women. Have had some good results. However, I still cannot remember most of my childhood, only the abuse. I was the "mistake". Parents had the boy, then the girl. Oops, then there was me. And my mother made it very clear that I was not lovable, even in the womb, because as she said "you were all elbows and knees", even while she carried me My sister had so many health issues (physical and developmental), so I was tasked with caring for her, even though she was 2 years older. It sounds weird, but my sister did teach me a lot about conditional Love! She passed in 2016, and I still wonder If I could have done more to protect her. Ok, back to childhood. My mother was very abusive, mentally, verbally, physically. And, a relative (great (?) uncle) physically abused my sister and me. Ok, I had a car crash Feb 14th 2017. Young gal on cell phone, destroyed the car I LOVED, and set in motion a lot of insurance issues. Then, my husband got ill , went into hospital June 6th. Oh my, intense work until he passed October 30 same year. Ok, will stop now. But will say, I LOVE you! I am doing the High five in my mirror every morning. Joan
Powerful episode. As a parent of children who are challenged with anxiety I have to say I’m feeling some guilt/shame that I did something to create their anxiety. How can a parent who thought they were doing the best they could now help them heal.
Yeah me too but for a couple weeks and I’ll tell you what Dr Mel and Dr Kennedys Wisdom has helped tremendously and I have actually been doing better for the past 5 days some days I feel a little anxiety and irritable but I turn to what I was taught by these 2 great Drs and I pray to the man above and I know that god is hearing me! I’m in the process of getting off prescription painkillers for the past 15-20 years Iam currently a month of pills and I’m slowly tapering off suboxown I only been on it for a month but I’m ready to start getting off of it because I want to be completely off of everything by my bday in January but iam not taking it too fast the holidays are coming up so even if it takes after my bday in January I’m in no hurry because I know I can do it. One day at a time I hope you are feeling better tho! Let me know how your doing ? Have a great week. Let’s kick anxietys ass. 💪👍🙏 Benny
7-17-2024 This is the absolute best information I have EVER heard on anxiety. It is so helpful and insightful and so helpful and useful. And effective. Thank you, Mel, so very much.
Does this guy know about brainspotting? Mel! I urge you to get a brainspotting expert on your show. Basically it dislodges repressed traumas or memories. 10/10 highly recommend!❤❤❤
I learned that I could study the trauma that occurred in my life over and over and get a good grasp on understanding the sources and triggers...but in the end, it was mindfulness meditation that helped me finally let go. It is important to understand the past experiences if they impact present moment health and wellbeing, but ultimately I had to learn to let go. Books like "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels and "Awareness" by Anthony del Mello helped a lot...i think they're both on amz. Escaping the mind is so important.
Please maybe post a video about enduring those awful panic attacks & maybe adding some kinda suggestions, techniques to calm ourselves naturally preventing the need for the body having no other option other than a benzodiazepine! 💊❌🤔👎🏼🤦🏻♀️
Mel, I will never forget the first time I heard you speak. I was at a 3-day conference. It was day #3, just after lunch, I was mentally drained and did not want to attend the afternoon sessions. With a less than positive attitude, I went into the conference, took out my notebook (going through the motions) and was waiting (annoyed). And the introductory rah-rah started....."stand up and let's give Mel Robbins a warm welcome". And in short order, I felt like you talking only to me, everyone else in the room disappeared. I put my pen down and was so connected to you and every word. Since that day, I have told thousands of my patients about you, the 5-Second Rule and you have helped so many people. More recently, my 27-year position at work was eliminated and I was devastated. I do know that that door was closed for a reason and God will open the next one. But this is terrifying to live through as I think about starting my own concierge medical practice. When I saw this Take Control is another sign that I meant to open this door. Every time I think I can't, I start my countdown from 5 and move on. From the bottom on my heart.....Thank YOU!! I pray one day I can meet you in person and give you the biggest hug (I am sure full of tears on my part).
POSSIBLE IDEA (for this already awesome podcast) maybe have a direct # for subscribers to call in & ask a question to whichever amazing guest is in your video???????
Dr. Kennedy makes all the sense in the world. I will look for photos of myself as a young child to help my memory remember, and putting it on my phone screen. That is brilliant!!! Now, if you can help me get rid of terrible nightmares, please???
I just put a pic of my 8 year old self in my phone. I am pretty cute. She deserves so much love. Thank you so much for this podcast. I’m using the tools I learned here. Can’t wait for part 2. Xoxoxo
Mel, I LOVE hope much value you bring to us!!! Thank you!!! I was hoping you could help us viewers who also suffer with "adult" trauma, not just childhood. I am a Life Coach and I find that many of my clients have had traumas that further deepen their other traumas. It seems our adult self could help heal adult trauma/PTSD the same way as Dr. Russell helps heal our inner child?
I did it! I put a photo of me at 11/12 years old during the time I was bullied in 6th grade....additional trauma that made my mom overprotective for good the next year😢😢
I always used to think Childhood trauma always lead to mental health issues into adulthood. But anything your younger self couldn’t process can lead to anxiety/mental health issues in the future. Wow
I am 20 minutes into this,I will continue to listen,I want to help my son,Doctor keeps talking about childhood trauma,my son is ADHD,so believe there is trauma,he is also a cancer survivor at 20 yrs. Old & at 29 diagnosed with Bipolar 2,he denies trauma,as I think of PTSD,He is not making great progress I think one thing is denied anxiety..hoping something like this is addressed further in this thread
Anxiety is the subconscious kicking up ungrieved loses/contradictions so that we can process them. It wants closure-resoluton. It wants peace so that the body can rest. That is its job.
Wow, This is deep, and amazing. Thank you so much for delving into this subject. You and the doctor are doing an excellent job helping us all understand... ❤
I don't focus in the past I switch my thoughts to a secure. happy vision and focus on creativity and goals in the present and anxiety goes away. The brain can't hold opposing thoughts at the same time. Switch to the successful you and don't let negative thoughts enter your thinking
Regarding Mels 4th grade experience. What if she HAD told her mother what happened and the mother did nothing about it???? To me that would be a DOUBLE whammy. That is what happened to me, and that is what I did to my daughter (I think). Holy shit how could I AND my mom feel so undeserving of standing up to this trauma?!
When Mel was going back and forth from the times with her brother and friends playing outside and the assault when she was a child, I also wonder if, beyond it being how we are wired to be on alert, could the pulling down to the unpleasant feelings and emotions have to do with the fact that our younger self, the child that never had the issue resolved, has been waiting for that healing and resolution for DECADES and so, while painful, is familiar and the happier feelings are new and scary?
Sounds like inner child work which is similar to ACA/ACOA work. Wounded child. The part about addiction is so true. 12 years clean but only 7 emotional healthy. Respectfully i aint touching a psychedelic etc...i believe it can be done on my own via esoteric spiritual work. Meditation exercise for sure. Im lost in my own brain...I need to reach my higher brain. I keep getting closer. I'm at the point that physical pleasure/ world isn't getting it done. I am in search of my spirit my inner brain or even my soul. I probably sound like a nut! Very Matrix like ! I am tween two worlds. Its baffling.
I don’t know if my anxiety depression are their own things in me or they are a part of adhd r they separate parts of me or all connected (if this is making sense) like what comes first ? I have anxiety depression adhd and learning disability. Are each their own things or all connected? Like with adhd individuals depression anxiety are usually apart of it connected
What do you do for a now adult who has suffered from severe anxiety since childhood? My son is 18 almost 19 with high functioning autism. I would love to go into his anxiety journey, but for now my question is what if this anxiety has been since early childhood? I'm talking 6-7 years old
does it work if I post a photo taken when I was a teenager on my phone (I was 13 years old 30 years ago😊) or is it important that I post a photo that was taken when I was still a small child? Thanks 🙏
@DrRussellKennedy never disappoints. I learned so much about anxiety in today’s episode that I had NEVER heard before. If this episode provided some value to you, please do me a favor by dropping a like and comment below your biggest takeaway!
I understand that the majority of us have childhood trauma, however, that is not my experience, I have adult trauma - my childhood was fine, (healthy would be a stretch) but I had many traumatic experiences after I turned 50 that have put me into deregulation & dissociation for the last several years. I had no idea trauma could cause this, and it is so misunderstood & underdiagnosed that there just isn't a lot out there on how to heal.
There are common experiences that many of us go through after 50 - loss of parents, caring for sick parents, loss of marriage, death of partner, loss of career, of income, of home, empty nesting, loss of our health, our dignity, pride and on and on... these are all very traumatic experiences that many of us go through within a 10 year time span, which is a lot of trauma on our systems. Especially when we are dealing with so much loss and not many "gains" in life, since it is a whole new ball game to start over after 50 w/ career, dating, living alone, etc..
This is the focus of my new channel that I am trying to build on RUclips, but it is scary. Thankfully I feel it is more important than my fear.
Thanks for addressing this !!!
@@user-oy6oy1te3f thank you for replying to this comment. I have let trauma & fear prevent me from starting the next phase of my life fully. Oh - sorry, I just realized I’m commenting from my business account. But I made this original comment apparently 11 months ago - thank you for reminding me of where my soul is calling me. I have spent this past year focusing on healing but there will never be a “right” time to fulfill our dreams. (I’m really just talking to myself now 😊) 🙏
You may have had the nicest parents in the world but if they subconsciously taught you to block feelings, they unwittingly set you up for neurosis. Feelings/ loses have to be processed or they fester in the subconscious for time immemorial.
I am so sick of anxiety. thank you Mel Robbins. 😊
Here here ppl who don’t suffer from it do not realize how debilitating it can be. Affecting all aspects of one’s life
Not gonna lie, telling myself it’s not my fault combined with counting to 10 over and over again works. Did that for years and the anxiety basically disappeared until anything negative out of my control happened. Then one day I found God… I think that is what I was truly missing because I can feel full anxiety and just put it on God now, then continue my normal day. Hopefully that helps someone get passed the anxiety. My anxiety can from childhood trauma and failures in life
Very relatable
I envy people who can lean on god. I’ll never be able to do that. It feels inauthentic for me. I’ll continue to try to deal with my issues on my own. I love your first solution though and will try it. Self empowerment!
@@fishpaw09 everytime something else other than you counting 1-10 pops up in your head, just let the thought go and keep counting to 10 until all other thoughts disappear and you’re just focused on counting 1-10. I started with counting 1-20 but it was too much. 1-10 was very easy to repeat in my mind. After a few minutes(an hour the first time) the feeling completely left my body and I felt like I was floating the first few times.
I agree completely! I’ve learned to manage some very difficult emotions by pausing and asking myself some very serious questions. I also created a Pinterest board with some inspiring verses from the Bible. And I use a lot of self-compassion and keep reminding myself, “May I be at peace, May I continue to get stronger, May I be loved.” We are all a work in progress and need to have each other’s back in these difficult times because of common humanity.
@@fishpaw09 Hi, was curious why you feel its inauthentic to lean on God with anxiety
I didn't even have to wait very long for him to say something impactful for me.... Thanks for this one, Mel!
Everything being said is resonating with me sooo much. If anyone could've seen my face when Mel begins her story about a wonderful memory as a child and she explains playing in her front yard in Michigan, my jaw just dropped. Seriously, I can't get enough!! I have listened/watched several episodes and I swear, you're talking right to me:) I have a beautiful memory of playing in my front yard in Michigan, too!! I could go on, I have adult children in which two were recently diagnosed with ADHD and encouraged me to get help because I'm "full Monty" as you'd said in one of your episodes (made me laugh so hard - menapuase) and am getting help because, yes! I too have ADHD and because I'm aware, so many life struggles make sense. It's like so many things are aligned because I'm choosing to take care of the little girl and because of that, God has placed you in my view to help me. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for that!!
Hi I totally understand
It's one of the best videos I have ever seen. The world needs more on this topic. We love you, Mel, for sharing.
agreed and i just came across her channel too. so glad i did.
Yes, this is why we must break up that original trauma to overcome the chronic stress cycle, chronic anxiety in order to really breakthrough. Exactly the process I had to do myself breaking through burnout, postpartum depression, emotionally toxic marriage. You name it, it all starts with healing core wounds! Great episode!
High functioning anxiety becomes exhausting....
At the gym, with tests in my eyes, relating to ALL of this...thank you!!
Tears.... 😢
WOW I'm so glad to see Dr Kennedy again, and thrilled you are making this two cases instead of cramming it into one. The flip between the happy moment and trauma moment pulled up tears and tingling for me, always a sign I'm into truth
Thank you so much Mel and Dr Kennedy, I cried alot when listening because i was having a panic attack at this moment and boom as i was searching this video appeared! then as i listened i felt woaw what great tools to heal my anxiety, morning anxiety related to financial fear disguised in the lack of safety i felt as a child. For some reason money is connected to it. I'm ready to go deeper. Must find that happy moment and the trauma because i have several. Mel i have been following you for along time and never posted a comment, don't know why LOL i feel safe when i listen to you and the way you bring things is realistic and genuine and connected to life on life's term so really thank you for this generousity. Dr Kennedy i wish you were my therapist . Do you do sessions online? Can't wait for Part 2 🙂
I’ve been listening and following Mel since 2017 after watching her on Impact Theory and her messages helped me so much to during my financial issues. Just keep taking consistent steps…
Mel I have been listening to you for many years. Especially when i became so terribly emotionally and physically isolated in 2020 with the perfect storm of unresolved family of origin issues, compounded grief from the death of first my dog, then my husband and then my father. I became an outcast.
I am in recovery from compulsive over eating, by the Grace of God (of my own understanding) and the 12 steps ❤. I retired from 30 years a public educator, k-12
Visual and performing Arts, when I was at the top of my game! I had travel plans and moving to the country dreams for as long as I have known myself. My dreams are coming true one day at a time. It IS and inside job. we heal in small and giant ways - the healing trickles backwards and the self soothing awakens from having it modelled ❤but Truly from feeling in new ways… Every freakin time I watch and listen to your sign off, I well up with a gush of 😭 tears- sometimes the kinda pretty tears that make my eyes sparkle ✨ at their brightest! You and how you can sincerely connect with me…heartbroken to healed,full of gratitude 🙏🏻 and grace…sometimes it’s the ugly sobbing from the gut and a harder release of old stored hurts and trauma. The only way out is through. I have needed much heart❤hand holding, sometimes you Mel, have felt like the one and only one who really cares. That’s when I am in the pit of despair…and can never thank you 🙏🏻 enough for how many times I have been reached down to and pulled up by your videos and pod casts. You have saved my life and I am absolutely sure, I am not alone 💋 Diane in Canada 🇨🇦
Wow I have also learns so much from both of these Great Drs I have had anxiety for the past 2 weeks and I have been using both of their techniques and I have been feeling much much better in the past 4-5 days prayer has been my go too! I the man above is helping me cope with it. I pray you feel much better stay strong my friend. 🙏💪👍
"the amygdala doesn't know the timeline" has helped me finally be ok with trying the whole inner child soothing thing. THANK YOU
Hi Mel, There is such a marked difference to this episode from the last one! OMG, I wanted to put tape over your mouth so Russ could speak, but this time it is obvious your personal work has taken you to new levels as you look so calm and serene now, and allowing the conversation flow.. Well done you!!! These two podcasts have changed my perspective of myself , my kids and the students I work with. Thank you!!
Hiii Mel!!! Just wanted to let you know that I've been listening to your podcast for a month or so (almost daily), and you've helped me SO MUCH. It's amazing that you bring this much information (science based) for free. It's amazing. Love you so much
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Felt this deeply. It’s like you were talking about me! I’m 53, three divorces, past struggles with addiction, overachiever and can never slow down. I’ve only recognized my anxiety in the past few years, but it has always been there.
Thanks so much for this. I'm working hard in this at 57! Thank you and Dr. Kennedy.
😍 You fill me up!!!!! Thank YOU for all you do and give!!! You make my world a better place!
Jesus!! Thank you for putting this podcast in my life.. I been hiding my pain for too long.
This has really helped me put my finger on many specific bullying traumas both inside and outside my home. I always have felt separate and it must be because the hurtful words were said even before I can consciously recall. I can really relate to the doctor about seeking validation externally but simultaneously pained by the fear of being noticed and rejected. Even as a child, I was so scared of dying. Being that unlucky one something awful happens to. As a 58 year old woman who recently retired from a 36 plus year military career where an anxiety diagnosis could be a career ender, I am so relieved to be able to seek help and true healing.
This really resonated with me. Thank you for your help and I appreciate you so much. Have a blessed day ❤️
Mel and Dr Kennedy 😊 understand the inner child perfectly but unsure on how to heal and on how to pay attention to my little me and make it feel worth it 🙏 the how is what I am missing
Hi - and love your podcasts Mel. Having suffered severe childhood trauma, I would ask you to combine all the wonderful tools here, and the work Dr. Joe Dispenza. It is NOT a regular type of meditation, which I have never been able to do. Pretty much like trying to get a million mosquitoes to line up at one time..followed by 3 days migraines.
Combining your work and Dr. Kennedy's work and insights would be amazing. I look at this younger me - a number of them - as bubbles in time in which some defence mechanism isolated the suffering of an episode. Every time shit happened, more trust was lost, and more defences built - and extra layers put in - for safety at the time. I am amazed at how my mind managed to actually saved me, kept me alive. But now I needed avenues of being able to let all my old "warriors" dare trust me telling them...that the war is over.
And of course, I have been lucky - I have an inner part too that really kept me alive, and pushed me to try to a way back to trust..in my self. That part always, always gets in the forefront and tells me: The glass is half full, Linda - NOT half empty.
If I did not have that, I'd not be here to bug you on your pod. :-)
Pain can be a wonderful motivator, though what caused it was not. I cannot really go back to a favourite memory, due to not really remembering much - but listening to YOU...trickles down through the layers, - and Dispenza has taught me to find a way back to daring to listen to the pain of listening to the secrets of my body.
Thanks for being there, all of you wonderful, sincere helpers.
Hi Mel
Just want to let you know. I've been going through a very difficult time in my life for a while now. and you are helping me so much with your fantastic help and advice. I watch your podcast every day.
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Stay strong my friend you are definitely not alone we are all here to learn and beat anxiety’s ass! Stay strong and you’ll be better before you know it. I don’t know but I’m praying for you right now! Have a great days. 💪👍🙏
Thank you for your kind words I really appreciate it
@@janestewart2105 no problem I hope How are doing are you feeling better ? Have you used any of the exercises from these 2 great Drs I just used one 10min ago I was feeling a little irritable I have no clue why ? But I used the breathing exercises and I’m feeling better I also remind myself that I’m always safe in the moment it really works I also try not to overthink that’s where I tend to have my issues but I have a feeling that my autoimmune disease causes it, I had anxiety about 4 months ago for about 2 weeks and it cleared up and now I’m dealing with it again it’s been a week and half hopefully it subsides but I’m just staying positive and praying and praying I hope to hear from you have a great week. 👍🙏👍🙏
I cannot thank you enough, from the bottom of my heart, for sharing this knowledge. It makes sense, steps are provided and information backing up the feelings and process. Absolutely user friendly and doable. So grateful. Thank you for spreading and sharing this invaluable knowledge. Love you Mel! You’re amazing!
Mel Robbins made me look forward for Monday mornings.
Thank you 😊
I absolutely loved Dr Kennedy
This is an amazing podcast for me. You and Dr Kennedy have talked about childhood trauma being stored in my body. I am almost 67 years old (29th April) I have been in various therapies over the years with some very caring folks, mostly women. Have had some good results. However, I still cannot remember most of my childhood, only the abuse. I was the "mistake". Parents had the boy, then the girl. Oops, then there was me. And my mother made it very clear that I was not lovable, even in the womb, because as she said "you were all elbows and knees", even while she carried me My sister had so many health issues (physical and developmental), so I was tasked with caring for her, even though she was 2 years older. It sounds weird, but my sister did teach me a lot about conditional Love! She passed in 2016, and I still wonder If I could have done more to protect her.
Ok, back to childhood. My mother was very abusive, mentally, verbally, physically. And, a relative (great (?) uncle) physically abused my sister and me.
Ok, I had a car crash Feb 14th 2017. Young gal on cell phone, destroyed the car I LOVED, and set in motion a lot of insurance issues. Then, my husband got ill , went into hospital June 6th. Oh my, intense work until he passed October 30 same year.
Ok, will stop now.
But will say, I LOVE you! I am doing the High five in my mirror every morning.
Joan
Powerful episode. As a parent of children who are challenged with anxiety I have to say I’m feeling some guilt/shame that I did something to create their anxiety. How can a parent who thought they were doing the best they could now help them heal.
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Thank you Mel. Thank you. You care and we appreciate.
I thoroughly enjoyed this message today. Ive been feeling anxious for the last few days, not knowing where its coming from and this is very helpful.
Yeah me too but for a couple weeks and I’ll tell you what Dr Mel and Dr Kennedys Wisdom has helped tremendously and I have actually been doing better for the past 5 days some days I feel a little anxiety and irritable but I turn to what I was taught by these 2 great Drs and I pray to the man above and I know that god is hearing me! I’m in the process of getting off prescription painkillers for the past 15-20 years Iam currently a month of pills and I’m slowly tapering off suboxown I only been on it for a month but I’m ready to start getting off of it because I want to be completely off of everything by my bday in January but iam not taking it too fast the holidays are coming up so even if it takes after my bday in January I’m in no hurry because I know I can do it. One day at a time I hope you are feeling better tho! Let me know how your doing ? Have a great week. Let’s kick anxietys ass. 💪👍🙏 Benny
Your podcast is helping me so much! Thanks Mel and Dr Kennedy! ❤ Red
7-17-2024 This is the absolute best information I have EVER heard on anxiety. It is so helpful and insightful and so helpful and useful. And effective. Thank you, Mel, so very much.
Does this guy know about brainspotting? Mel! I urge you to get a brainspotting expert on your show. Basically it dislodges repressed traumas or memories. 10/10 highly recommend!❤❤❤
I learned that I could study the trauma that occurred in my life over and over and get a good grasp on understanding the sources and triggers...but in the end, it was mindfulness meditation that helped me finally let go. It is important to understand the past experiences if they impact present moment health and wellbeing, but ultimately I had to learn to let go. Books like "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels and "Awareness" by Anthony del Mello helped a lot...i think they're both on amz. Escaping the mind is so important.
Please maybe post a video about enduring those awful panic attacks & maybe adding some kinda suggestions, techniques to calm ourselves naturally preventing the need for the body having no other option other than a benzodiazepine! 💊❌🤔👎🏼🤦🏻♀️
Dr Russell is great. The based is childhood trauma and using tools that decreased the alarm feeling .
Thank you
Mel, I will never forget the first time I heard you speak. I was at a 3-day conference. It was day #3, just after lunch, I was mentally drained and did not want to attend the afternoon sessions. With a less than positive attitude, I went into the conference, took out my notebook (going through the motions) and was waiting (annoyed). And the introductory rah-rah started....."stand up and let's give Mel Robbins a warm welcome". And in short order, I felt like you talking only to me, everyone else in the room disappeared. I put my pen down and was so connected to you and every word. Since that day, I have told thousands of my patients about you, the 5-Second Rule and you have helped so many people. More recently, my 27-year position at work was eliminated and I was devastated. I do know that that door was closed for a reason and God will open the next one. But this is terrifying to live through as I think about starting my own concierge medical practice. When I saw this Take Control is another sign that I meant to open this door. Every time I think I can't, I start my countdown from 5 and move on. From the bottom on my heart.....Thank YOU!! I pray one day I can meet you in person and give you the biggest hug (I am sure full of tears on my part).
Thank you for shining such a beautiful light on this so that we may truly heal the past and live with peace in our hearts :)
POSSIBLE IDEA (for this already awesome podcast) maybe have a direct # for subscribers to call in & ask a question to whichever amazing guest is in your video???????
I’m 43 and learning also !! Thankyou
"I start my day with your videos for an instant dose of inspiration. Thank you for the positivity injection! 💉
Thank U for your work Mel ❤❤
This was absolutely amazing can't wait
To see the next one 💕💕💕💕💕
Thank you Mel
Dr. Kennedy makes all the sense in the world. I will look for photos of myself as a young child to help my memory remember, and putting it on my phone screen. That is brilliant!!! Now, if you can help me get rid of terrible nightmares, please???
I was waiting for this for so long, thank you!!!
Thank you, Mel!
I just put a pic of my 8 year old self in my phone. I am pretty cute. She deserves so much love. Thank you so much for this podcast. I’m using the tools I learned here. Can’t wait for part 2. Xoxoxo
Thank you ✨💛✨
Thank you this save my life❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Feeling so inspired Mel . God bless you. 👍❤
I love you too, Rusty! ❤
Thank you Mel you amaizing❤
❤️🙏Thankyou Mel Robbins!! Thankyou Dr. Russ ❤️
Such a good episode I had to listen to it twice.
Thank you Mel from down under you are amazing ❤️
Oh my! It can be physically exhausting to be filled with anxiety. Can see it coming now!
This is wonderful. I am exhausted from coping & want to HEAL. I’ve started Somatic counseling and it’s making a difference.
Hey what is somatic therapy and what does it actually address if u have a moment
Mel, I LOVE hope much value you bring to us!!! Thank you!!! I was hoping you could help us viewers who also suffer with "adult" trauma, not just childhood. I am a Life Coach and I find that many of my clients have had traumas that further deepen their other traumas. It seems our adult self could help heal adult trauma/PTSD the same way as Dr. Russell helps heal our inner child?
Looking forward to his course in May ❤
I would like to hear him comment on anxiety as it relates to multiple sclerosis
MEL THANK YOU
Excellent!
I did it! I put a photo of me at 11/12 years old during the time I was bullied in 6th grade....additional trauma that made my mom overprotective for good the next year😢😢
😮 WHAT AN IMPORTANT VIDEO FOR ME TO HEAR ❤THXS MEL, shared in MANY avenues 📝
Just start to cry when I discover why I feel triggered every morning 😢
Luv your work
Very helpful
Cool its right hearing yourself in the past is essential for understanding new actions.
Such an intelligent woman!
I always used to think Childhood trauma always lead to mental health issues into adulthood. But anything your younger self couldn’t process can lead to anxiety/mental health issues in the future. Wow
I am 20 minutes into this,I will continue to listen,I want to help my son,Doctor keeps talking about childhood trauma,my son is ADHD,so believe there is trauma,he is also a cancer survivor at 20 yrs. Old & at 29 diagnosed with Bipolar 2,he denies trauma,as I think of PTSD,He is not making great progress I think one thing is denied anxiety..hoping something like this is addressed further in this thread
THANK YOU.
Anxiety is the subconscious kicking up ungrieved loses/contradictions so that we can process them. It wants closure-resoluton. It wants peace so that the body can rest. That is its job.
Found so precious info thank you
Wow, This is deep, and amazing. Thank you so much for delving into this subject. You and the doctor are doing an excellent job helping us all understand... ❤
Thank God and Jesus for you Mel
mel i love you . and you rock .
Needed this today!!!
Fantastic episode. Would like to know more tools on how to access the childhood feelings that contributed to my adult anxiety.
Two thumbs up!
Love this soooo much ♥️
Brilliant
Thanks ❤
I don't have any memories of my childhood. I have blocked it all out so I can't imagine a good place to go back to,to start healing. So what do I do.
That was awesome
I don't focus in the past
I switch my thoughts to a secure. happy vision and focus on creativity and goals in the present and anxiety goes away. The brain can't hold opposing thoughts at the same time. Switch to the successful you and don't let negative thoughts enter your thinking
Regarding Mels 4th grade experience. What if she HAD told her mother what happened and the mother did nothing about it???? To me that would be a DOUBLE whammy. That is what happened to me, and that is what I did to my daughter (I think). Holy shit how could I AND my mom feel so undeserving of standing up to this trauma?!
When Mel was going back and forth from the times with her brother and friends playing outside and the assault when she was a child, I also wonder if, beyond it being how we are wired to be on alert, could the pulling down to the unpleasant feelings and emotions have to do with the fact that our younger self, the child that never had the issue resolved, has been waiting for that healing and resolution for DECADES and so, while painful, is familiar and the happier feelings are new and scary?
Sounds like inner child work which is similar to ACA/ACOA work. Wounded child. The part about addiction is so true. 12 years clean but only 7 emotional healthy. Respectfully i aint touching a psychedelic etc...i believe it can be done on my own via esoteric spiritual work. Meditation exercise for sure. Im lost in my own brain...I need to reach my higher brain. I keep getting closer. I'm at the point that physical pleasure/ world isn't getting it done. I am in search of my spirit my inner brain or even my soul. I probably sound like a nut! Very Matrix like ! I am tween two worlds. Its baffling.
Would like to watch the first video before this one but having trouble finding it. Can you add a link?
Is it not saver to do TMS then psychedelics?
After that we can take over and switch the rail changer
I want it for me too!!
I have going through this for a long time I look up alot of stuff still doing it
O loved April u see for real
I don’t know if my anxiety depression are their own things in me or they are a part of adhd r they separate parts of me or all connected (if this is making sense) like what comes first ? I have anxiety depression adhd and learning disability. Are each their own things or all connected? Like with adhd individuals depression anxiety are usually apart of it connected
What do you do for a now adult who has suffered from severe anxiety since childhood? My son is 18 almost 19 with high functioning autism. I would love to go into his anxiety journey, but for now my question is what if this anxiety has been since early childhood? I'm talking 6-7 years old
Waitingfor the steps.
does it work if I post a photo taken when I was a teenager on my phone (I was 13 years old 30 years ago😊) or is it important that I post a photo that was taken when I was still a small child? Thanks 🙏
Where are the help videos for people with afib, plus panic and anxiety disorders resultant from heart problems,? Cannot find a single one,!