10 Ways to Prepare Yourself for Marriage with Ken and Tabatha Claytor
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- Ever wondered why some relationships flourish while others flounder? Today, we're going to guide you on a journey to unlock the answers. We start by shattering a common misconception: your satisfaction comes from God, not from being married. With insights drawn from our own experiences, both as singles and married individuals, we propose 10 transformative ways to prime yourself for marriage. Our aim is to help you step into marriage as a fulfilled individual, rather than two halves seeking completion.
Connect with us:
- Website:
www.kenclaytor...
www.tabathacla...
www.myalivechu...
Conference AC 2023:
www.myalivechu...
Send us Questions:
info@myalivechurch.org
#relationshipadvice #marriage #christian #podcast
Get in shape physically, emotionally (heal), financially, educationally.... Prepare yourself... Be at the standard that you require😊
Agree 😊
Perfect 🤩
Yes, Lord!
Some asked, "would you marry you"? 😊
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I'm new .. and uh .. . i will take a seat right here n listen before i get there .....😊
Agreed but also if I missed podcast/video. How to get a man BUT “how to keep your man.” Not waiting for things to go wrong but to keep working on self and each other
yes
I love the honesty! 💕
Be picky on spiritual things yes! But not on the earthly things
Yesss Amen
New Here 🎉
❤
AMEN!!!
The Holy Spirit told me to play husband with God first. If I can submit to God, then I can submit to the husband.
Isaiah 54v5-8
This! This has been my most recent revelation as I pray about marriage.
Intro: Principles--
1. You do not have to be married to be fulfilled.
2. You are still single in order to prepare for your singleness
10 Ways To Prepare Yourself for Marriage
1. Don't Compare Your Relationship Status
2. Don't Believe the Lies of the Enemy
3. Don't Get Pressed (stressed, upset, or annoyed)
4. Don't Be Picky
5. Don't Settle
6. Get Your Finances
7. Deal With Your Past and Get Healed
8. Growing (in) God
9. Get in Shape
10. Get a Solid Understanding of What Marriage Is All About
Thank you. ✨
Thank you for this
Thank you for this summary. 💯
Thank you for this podcast
@@
a~A
q AM
Am
A£A~😢Q
A
Love how Tabatha looks at Ken with so much love and admiration and how he asks for her perspective and values it 😍😍
Single in my 40s and totally agree with 2nd point. I was never ready in my 20s (was surprised when friends yearned for it). I was still not ready in my early 30s. The thought started in my late 30s but only as a thought. But now, I'm more than ready and i see it happening soon am glad I waited. I needed to know me first plus being left to take care of siblings after my parents died while I was in my early 20s. I needed me space after the "kids" left the nest. I'm now more than ready to care for my man and dedicate to marriage.
Same I was definitely not ready in my 20s and was even uncomfortable when my friends were talking about marriage. I was a mess back then but now im in a better place and I’m enjoying 30s club better😌
How are you married 24 years?????😊 Cause you look 30 mamm❤
Exactly!
God beautifies the meek with salvation lol
She got married at 4.❤
Black don’t crack 😂
It amazes me how the media and society promote sex outside of marriage and nudity all over the internet, but people want to complain about a christian channel discussing sex in marriage.. ummm.. sex was designed for marriage?
Lovely couple. I love the spiritual connection. I have been married 12 years but me and my husband lost this connection, we are almost no longer one even at a spiritual level. It doesn't feel right, I pray that God brings us back to oneness.
You all are still one it just doesn't feel good. Feeling suck and don't always tell the truth love beautiful but think of it as action not feelings. It may take work for sure. I'm praying for you!
It takes 2 however.....both of you have to want to be in the marriage.
You don't have to be married to be fulfilled...truth there...thank you for wise biblical advise 😊🇿🇦👍
You’re welcome 😊
I'm 32 and finally letting go of so much garbage in my soul 😢😢😢😢😢😢 Lord thank you for the word of God!!! Thank you you are making us perfect as you are perfect! Praise the Lord!!!!
Glory to God!!
Good word! Preparation for marriage is rooted in Identity. Identifying with who God has made us to be is the key to properly preparing for marriage.
AMEN, Absolutely!! God Bless
Absolutely right👍🏾
As a 24 y/o woman who aspires to be married, I deeply appreciated this conversation. I will practice these 10 tips.
Heyy 😊
We really do need those 10 keys
Many women fail to prepare adequately for marriage, resulting in dysfunctional unions. Mastering three key factors beforehand can make all the difference.. ruclips.net/video/QgrhpYP2JZU/видео.html
When he said , “I am better than her list “ I was so moved.
“He checked all the boxes that she didn’t even know that she needed”. This is so beautiful, and comforting. Knowing
God has the best for me .
That's right when I really really wanted to get married and I was getting desperate I got to the end of myself in conversation with god and I said you know what God I give it up I surrender and if it's just you and me forever from now on I'm fine with that. It must have been a week or less that he brought my husband into my life and I know for sure for sure that God brought him. After having that lesson and I am in marriage and struggling with marriage things now I am realizing God wants me to bring that same Spirit of surrender into my marriage as well! Wow the challenge of life and spirituality never ends
I am grateful that I’ve found this podcast at 30 years old wanting to be married these videos are extremely helpful.
Same here
This was right on time!!! I’m 29 years old and I was beginning to feel like I was behind in the race. However, I was reminded that I’m in a place of preparation and that’s ok!! It’s just Me and God
I am 31 and feel the exact same way. Just me and GOD!
Amen 🙏🏽
Beautiful.
👑❤️
Amen you are not alone sis🙏🏾
I’m 26 own my house and have a good job single my whole adult life and working on trusting God for a husband …I struggle with it and in a healing/growing/trusting season I got a lot of work to do but I’ll definitely get through it in Jesus name !
Amen 🙏
Thank you so much. I really needed to hear this. 35 no kids and single, I really love that I stumbled on this it feels like a confirmation. Amen!!!
Glory to God
You're right about women not chasing and don't act like you're not available. God spoke to me when I was single and he said you can look for your husband but don't be obsessed with it cuz I was so obsessed with it and he was calling me to get more into scripture and to surrender to him but still be open to finding my husband and it all happened when I got my head right. Yes absolutely chasing did not work I tried it and I didn't realize I was doing it but I got wiser and wiser as I went
Can't agree more! These were excellent points. Don't look for someone to complete you, be complete and the best you can be before a relationship, so you have what is needed to contribute to a fulfilled partnership. Treat yourself as God's temple, the best that he designed you to become. Bring God's best for you into a union that honors Christ as the center of an honorable marriage.
I could be wrong but I think there are lots of teaching for the women and their is a constant shortage of taught men. So women are aging and ending up single longer because there isn't a lot of godly men to meet. I encourage them to keep chasing after God and praying but they are slowly becoming the forgotten saints in the church.
I believe that not everyone is going to find a spiritually mature man, but once He loves the Lord & is working toward that daily, it can still be the will of God. We just have to pray about that person. To be spiritually mature is a process for both men & women so it’s just a matter of process & nothing is too hard for God 🙏🏾
@@shequaniawright8236if he’s not a spiritually mature man when he pursues you then it is a sin to be dating and marrying him. The Bible says not to be unequally yoked.
@@TheBlaxkWolf that is not true. This is false teaching. The scripture said not to be unequally yoke with an unbeliever. If the person is a believer and they are like minded, but maybe they just began their journey or not as mature as you, that does not make the relationship unequally yoked.
“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?”
II Corinthians 6:14-15 NKJV
I agree. Christians are constantly being told that women should be a Proverbs 31 woman, but they fail to speak to them men in how they should be a Proverbs 22 man.
Hi Mr & Mrs Claytor. Thank you for what you shared. I'm a 21 years old male and I thank God that I got to see this podcast. Now I can prepare on my own pace & have less challenges in the future. Thanks, God bless you.
Glad to have you watching!
32:53 You might not have to be a certain shape but you SHOULD BE in shape meaning as healthy as you can be within your control.
I work in healthcare and I heard someone say, “Your health is not your doctor’s responsibility. It’s yours.”
That is so very true!
Even biblically…God has some health standards that IF we followed them we’d have less health challenges.
Kindly share with us those biblical health standards God set for us. It will be helpful.
@@slime361amen there are some scriptures in the old testament regarding the jewish culture « diet »
6:49-7:07 is a real word! I lived by it for about 5yrs. I am single,happy AND OK with it. I love my life ❤ I love what God is doing with my life. If God bring a husband to me in this life, coo...if not, coo!
Yes, sis, I'm in my waiting season for my KINGDOM HUSBAND SPIRITUAL ANOINTED SPOUSE! ❤ God!!! IS preparing him and me! Patient, I must say it's hard, but GOD!!! HAS it all in control! AMEN 🙏 🙌 ✨️
God answered your prayers...He led me to your channel 😇. I'm blessed to be here. All glory and praise to Jesus 🕊.
Real Gems - You guys bring great value. I pray that as I’m getting ready my partner is also getting ready through the Word of God and help from the Holy Spirit. Can’t wait for Thursdays and looking forward to Alive Conference Orlando-registered- Stay blessed !
Love to hear it!
I really like how you honor your wife's opinion and presence in your conversation/podcast
I am not married yet, but this was amazing. Love you guys and your honesty❤ all the way from South Africa🇿🇦
Hey guuurrrllll🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦
Hey Di ♥️🤩🇿🇦
First time here. This talk was good. I’ve been married 16 years my spouse disappointed me by not recognizing our anniversary, even as i decorated not sure what happened, even when I questioned later about it, all I got was “ I’m sorry” so pray for us. Thank you both. Blessings!
Praying ❤
I just started listening to you guys and I absolutely love your videos already. I’m a single 45 yo Christian man and praying for a Godly woman. While I wait, I’m preparing myself.
As a 40 yr young single 😁, I really appreciated this message. It’s definitely my single season and I agree 100% needing to give yourself time with God so he can heal the broken pieces and restore you even better than before❤. May I make a request about something that I don’t hear from pastors when talking about relationships.. and that’s singles who have kids, who didn’t follow the right way, or did, but now are single and have kids (young or teens) in the pic as well. Can you talk about that and give your perspective and advice to both men and women?
Right!!! I need perspective on my situation
Happy to find your channel, single woman here soaking in all of the knowledge 🙏🏽
Phenomenal!!! I was just asking THE LORD how HE wants me to prepare....🙏🏿🙏🏾🙏🏼🙌🏻🔥
Me too!!! And then i found this video!! Ha!
❤
Hello, I stumbled on your page and so glad I did. I have been divorced for four years, I was married for 13. Your podcasts ,your information have helped me to see some of my mistakes in my first marriage. Although some were ignorant, because of lack of knowledge. Moving forward, I’ve been praying that the Lord will give me wisdom as it relates to being the wife that my husband needs the next time. Please keep doing what you do and God bless.
Currently courting with a set day and I must say learning to realize that I am still single until I get married was such a conviction for me. I must still prepare because I am absolutely still single. God has been molding me and transforming me into such a beautiful soul. He even gave me a new mindset on having kids and being fruitful and not using birth control. Gods in control of my womb.
Amen
Yes, do the podcast on “ how to win a man.” I would love to hear what you have to say about that.
Great podcast guys, thank you ❤. As a single Christian woman this thought me so much and I’m guilty of number 3. I’m at this point though where I’m just getting to love myself first, so I could reach the point where I’m like “regardless if I get married or not I’m still going to be happy.” Thanks again
Thank You so much for changing my perspective on being single and how exciting it can be. AMEN
I love this video. I wish this video was much longer God bless you guys and your marriage.
God bless you 🙏🏾
This video far exceeded my expectations. Thank you for speaking about being happy and fulfilled in singleness. As a single, I appreciate this content. I will subscribe and watch more
God bless
Thank you!
Beautiful marriage!! I aspire to have this one day ❤️🙏🏾 a Spirit-filled & God-fearing one! Thank you for this ! God bless you both ✨
I'm truly picky when it comes to spirituality but all the other things I can say I'm not picky. So, where are those great guys who deeply love the Lord that the two of you are saying? 😅
10 ways to prepare yourself for Marriage.
1. Don't compare your relationship to others.
2. Don't believe the lies of the enemy.
3. Don't be pressed.
4. Don't be too picky.
5. Don't settle.
6. Get your finances right.
7. Deal with your past and get healed.
8. Growing God.1 Corinthians 7:32.
9. Get in shape; Spiritual, emotional and physical.
10. Get a solid understanding of what marriage is all about.
I am blessed by this. God bless you two. Amen
I really love this. This is absolutely needed as I prepare to get married. Thank you Ken and Tabatha❤
Love it! Good information to prepare me again for marriage. I am widowed but looking forward to getting married again, so I want to be a better wife
You both are doing an awesome job preparing singles and educating the married on how to live and operate by God's way in their marriages. May God continue to bless and keep you both under His wings.
This is so beautiful. And this isn't only because of this particular podcast, but the whole channel overall. It's authentic, solid and proficient in every way.
And yes, we all want the 'How to win a man' podcast❤😅
In my opinion, being married at 23 doesn't mean you've been single for 23 years. When you're underaged, you're not considered single since you're not of age of being married...
being single has been a blessing. And the freedom we get to serve, journey, dream and achieve is unmatched. Dont let the narrative of having it all ruin the quality blessing you have right now
Wow, thank you so much, just needed to hear something like this❤
Love how yall look at each other and talk to each other. ❤
Thank you for your podcast, openness and real discussion.🙌 Remain bless and strengthened in God's love ❤️
Thank you! God bless.
I am so blessed by your message, I am married i wish i had herd these things before, but God is good .
Amen! Thanks for watching!
You’re channel popped up on my RUclips. Really good episode. New subscriber. ❤
Me too.
Welcome!! 🙌🏾
This was a helpful video. I am 32 and single ,can you advice "not setteling" when not surrounded with many christians. I am also living in Europe and faith isn't really rooted here like the US. Same with buying a home...thats really challenging here even when you have some savings😅
I have a question, women arnt allowed to be evangelists or pastors, so when you say that we should work on doing the work of the Lord , what is the work of the Lord for women?
“In your single season, you are training yourself for what you are going to do for the rest of your life…” Wow!
As a single women, I appreciate your content! Keep it coming🫶🏾
You said u will do a podcast on how to Win a man. but where will when a man find a wife He finds a good thing fits in this...winning a man's attention aint that taking it a little tooo far..I reallly wantna man to find me. I am always at home work and church is it that I go out there and get a man?
I think it is so cool that my husband got exactly what he wanted in me. He was into redheads even though before me his last two girlfriends were blond but I have the body type of all his favorite actresses and I'm a redhead but the thing is is he went after me because of my values and my love for God you were the perfect match when it came to values etcetera and yet God through that in for him that I was exactly what he liked physically. While I think he is very attractive it's so funny to me that he was quote "not my type" but I've always been the kind of person that the outside doesn't matter as much as the inside and again I find him very attractive but I never thought I would be with a bald white guy
Absolutely Love positive communication on Single talks! I'm desiring to be married❤
Love you guys!
You’re the best! This is truly your calling! 🙌🏾
Thank you so much!!
I believe I am one of the people you prayed for to discover this channel.I've learnt alot from this video and I'm going to watch other videos you guys have made.
Thank you amd God bless you.
Thanks for watching! God bless you too.
A tear up fest 😂
That would have been my story
But am in my 30s so it’s hard
Yea when you are single for 10+ years and you have done all the things, then what? Lol
I’ll be married 15 years in a couple of weeks.
I just came across you guys. Y’all funny 😂
“You said the name!” Lol
“Now I’m gone call out ALL their names”
Any who, I pray that you all help MANY in and out of the Body of Christ!
Let’s MAKE MARRIAGE GREAT AGAIN 🙏🏽
Your husband and wife interaction is so cute and fun. I'm taking this information with me and applying it. All those things are what I'm currently working on especially in regards to health as far as working out, eliminating seed oils and gluten from my eating regimen.
As I’m in my waiting period I really enjoyed this so much!!! Thank you 💜🙏🏾
Im finally getting the concept of the right amount of confidence towards my relationship with God and others...as long as Im good with God everything and everyone else should be the added extras. If I get married or not being honestly good either way....sets a standard that pleases God and makes life more fulfilling. Learning to rest and wait in Him makes a difference.
These tips were so timely! Thank you guys! 🙏🏻💞✨
Love you guys❤ I needed this. Keep the single people content coming please 🙌🏼🙏🏼
I just watched “How to Believe for A Spouse” and I’m so glad I found your channel! ♥️ Also, Tabatha, we have the same birthday and I kind of believe this was a sign I came across the right channel 😊.
First, I absolutely love listening to their relationship counsel and wisdom, especially as a man and woman of God!
However, it seems like whenever a couple talks about not being so caught up on the Aesthetics of a person, the couples are normally good-looking couples🥴 It's like, ok now way'ment, if the Lord blessed y'all with each other surely He can bless me with a good-looking man/spouse too!😅
Please tell me that leggings and messy buns are still in style…
So much wisdom in this and I appreciate this so much taking notes!
Thanks for watching!
Are you kidding me 😮😮
Married for 24years😂😂
It should be beautiful 🥰
This is so timely and helpful! I’m definitely going to practice this tips.
I would love to see more videos ❤I have been in my single growth since I was 24 years. Why some men think this is alarming? Now that I am 45.
I hope they answer this one. Once people get over 40 I think there needs to be a deeper convo. Their points are good for 20s and 30s.
Yes. ❤
God bless you both. I was just scrolling through RUclips for something spiritual to watch and I came up on your interesting topic. I had to watch to the end,very intriguing. I am a committed Christian woman who lost my husband last year to cancer. May his soul rest in peace. However, lately I am feeling like I still have some love and care in me my Boaz that the Lord is preparing for me and is preparing me for. I just want to take care of my spiritual being and allow the Lord to take care of the rest. God bless you.
This was extremely valuable. Thank you for sharing. 10 ways to hook a man is a topic I would appreciate from a couple who serves God.
Send those words back to hell! Amen!
Thank you two! So many biblical nuggets in this word! Amen ❤
The Lord led me to this channel..the Lord has been talking to me about preparing myself for marriage. And I had been looking for the right content and I came across this channel on Friday and it gives me all the information I need ....now I'm been schooled by this channel..im grateful
Wow, I'm getting married this year and this is such invaluable information, your maturity is refreshing. God bless you for your service to the people of God
The money thing! Yes very good advice! And I think unfortunately Christians don't want to focus on getting money because they think that it's against the Bible but being responsible and having enough to provide is a godly thing. I have a friend who possibly has that mindset and I told him you need to try to make as much money as possible and of course that doesn't mean breaking God's laws or the laws of man!
You earned a new subscriber to your channel. I am enjoying every bit of your videos. God bless you.
This is really good. I love how practical and straightforward your discussion is, especially regarding sex. I love that point that as a single person, don’t just read books about being single, also read about marriage…know about it before you get into it.❤❤❤❤❤
Lovely couple and lots of wisdom shared. Subbing!
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I don't mind when my husband tells me exactly who he finds attractive but he always says I'm even more attractive than them even though I know I'm not LOL
Love how you keep it real and yet tie it in with the Bible . This is a well needed ministry . Thankful you’re both willing to be honest and vulnerable. Please note anything you’re honest about just makes everything real and this is not a negative thing .
Hello Pastor Tab & Pastor Ken!
We’ve been enjoying the sex Gods way service! I have a question.. my partner and I have been together, blended family for about five years. My “boyfriend” doesn’t believe that we need a “piece of paper” to love eachother. We are in a committed relationship and we live together but he has no plans on officially being married, although me personally, would prefer to be married, I have accepted it’s not an option. word on Sundays these past few weeks have definitely made him think. Is there any advice you could give me? Or him, he still doesn’t seem to think the Bible suggests you need to go to a court house and have a license to live someone.
Hope this made sense.
Love you guys!
Just right on time. Love you both❤❤❤
Im Jenny Blessing from Nigeria, i feel with you, im not going to make avoidable mistakes in marriage that most women make
I'm so grateful for your podcasts because this is revelation and confirmation for what I need at this point and time in my life.