Im here after watching your testimony!! Which was POWERFUL!! I also struggled with rejection and was very promiscuous. I want to get married one day but sometimes struggle with believing God will bless me with a spouse. I use to just want to get married for legal sex, now I want to get married to do God’s will and win souls! Learning how to be content in Christ while I’m single as well. 😊
One of the BEST videos I've heard in a long time about Marriage. Like for real. This is what people need to hear. We have too much of a romanticized view of what marriage is supposed to be like.
awww i don’t like these answers 😂😂😂😂 i want a man of god that fast 10 days a week… shata ! aye! gloryyyy ( jk love the video i def thought it was perfection. it so hurt. ima take my edges & go lol
This was sooo good Malissa! I am in my single season & I love having a Godly perspective on what to expect in marriage & just things in general. Talks like these are NEEDED! Thank you!
You absolutely hit the nail on the head with each point!!!!!! It’ll be 2 yrs this October for my husband and I; we’ve had so many challenges and it was mainly me. We as women hate that word submit and often times it is abused by men because of the world’s view and some of the false narratives churches teach. I had to seek God for truly godly submission to my husband. I am learning to deal with my issues of having too much masculine energy and independent female syndrome God is exposing through our marriage. The work is hard but necessary in order to glorify God through our marriage
Some good information shared. I just want to rebut something that was said. God won’t cause conflict in your marriage (relationship). I was married before and the conflict that arose in our marriage was due to the devil/enemy attacking us individually trying to cause division in the union.
Not all conflict is caused by the devil. Yes there is some caused by the enemy which I brought up in the video but there is conflict and adversity brought about by the Lord meant to refine our character.
Whew! So many GEMS in this vid! We definitely need more conversations about marriage like this one.. I truly believe the divorce rate with decrease if we knew what to expect beforehand! Many see these picture perfect marriages and felt bamboozled when they actually get married! We need the REAL! Love you Sis! 🤎
This was thee most realistic video I’ve ever watched. After watching this I can see how my expectations were a little unrealistic. Marriage is work and I’m grateful to prepare for a Godly marriage. Marriage is not a graduation from a relationship
Hello. I love your complete honesty regarding new marriages. You actually look bright and happy. It would be so nice to hear about some good times/fun times and what makes it all worthwhile.
Hey there. My bright and happiness/joy comes from the refining fire of the Lord. It is a joy to be sanctified. It is a joy to go through hardship and overcome years of strongholds in my life. It is also a joy to pick up my cross daily and to die to myself for Jesus. Because of these things He promises us joy. So to me my marriage and life in the Lord is very fun. It’s an honor to live for the Lord I consider my various trials and count them all joy. I pray many have freedom in this area of bondage or just idols on their hearts. Walking with Christ is not about our comfort or fun. It is about giving our lives as a living sacrifice to Him and truly that should be a pleasure
@@MrsMalissaBlairThank you. This answered my question perfectly. When my eyes opened to the trials of marriage, what should have brought me joy made me kinda sad. I guess saying it humbled me is a better word.
This was so good thank you❤. I will not however speak or expect that my “marriage will be hard”. Both worldly and Christian married couples have scared me so bad with that statement. God please grant me supernatural ease in my marriage. Puhhhhleeeeezzzz 😂😂
“But if you do get married, it is not a sin. And if a young woman gets married, it is not a sin. However, those who get married at this time will have troubles, and I am trying to spare you those problems.” 1 Corinthians 7:28 NLT I mean you must tread carefully if you are choosing to disagree with what the Bible states. Also our Christian walk is also hard. The Lord said narrow is the path and difficult is the way. May we truly understand the truth of the Word and not create our own narrative for our own comfort.
@@MrsMalissaBlair I don’t disagree with the word of God however, I believe there is power in the words we speak and what we come into agreement with. I just transitioned from being a social worker to a software engineer. Everyone kept saying “it’s going to be hard” and it might take me a while to adjust. I asked God for favor in this terrible job market. I went on one interview (it was supposed to be multiple) and God allowed me to transition smoothly into my new role. When I say supernatural ease has been chasing me down this year… idk what to say but thank you lord. Life for me has not be easy but God has literally made it clear to me this year alone that he will make my crooked places straight. He has been blowing my mind. Yesterday I pulled out of my driveway and I JOKINGLY said “God my lawn looks terrible can you send someone to cut it?” When I got home from work my grass was cut 😂😂. So yes I agree with everything you said and I also will speak life over my marriage. 🙏🏾
@@shanalindsay2808yes but marriage is not about supernatural ease nor can we pray trials and tribulations away from our walk with Christ. The Lord never promised in His Word that our jobs would be hard. But He promised that our walk would be difficult and that marriage would be hard because both are meant for sanctification. The goal of this video is to prepare you for the truth not what you want marriage to be. It is hard but that doesn’t mean you can’t find joy in suffering and hardship which is promised by the Word. We should not always seek easy. There are many things we must go through. I pray you receive this and do not walk into marriage blind but prepared for the many things you will face. God bless you
You are a very wise woman. I’m dealing with 90% of this crap even as a single woman never married….😢 the main differences that person is your spouse and you have to share A LOT with them and its more necessary to repair it I almost wanna make a reverse of this for marrieds not to wanna be single so bad lol
This is my first time watching your video and I loved it! I can't wait for part two on marriage. I am glad you didn't romanticize marriage. Some people forget or don't know that marriage is a ministry to serve God and our spouse.
YOU. ARE. AWESOME!! Thank you for being obedient in starting this channel!!!!! Your voice NEEDS to be heard. Thanks for sharing your testimony. First heard it when you collabed with another beautiful young woman 🤎🤎 God bless!
I love this video so so so so so much! The idea that we must be PERFECT before we meet our spouse was one I struggled with as the closer I got to Him the more I realize how unlike Him I was so it felt defeating when I heard such things. I also think going through the processes of the Lord individually helped me understand your point regarding marriage essentially stripping us from things that no longer serve us. I hear so often that if it’s a true godly marriage, it’ll be smooth! I also hear the opposite too where struggle toxic love is God which isn’t either, I think it would be helpful to receive some tips or just general guidelines of discerning reality from outright settling or having too high of expectations. I know this will vary for us all as the Lords plan is tailor made for us but I do think culture tends to be on the extreme spectrums and the balance can be tricky in identifying.
@@sscott6021 totally! I used to read them in high school but the Lord delivered me from that because it was basically porn. Romance novels, Disney, the fakeness of couples make you want something that isn’t even real. I know there is good in marriage but it’s not something to put on a pedestal.
@@sscott6021 you're just like me. Im not rushing. I think its because im seeking a more realistic expectation of what it will be like. Hollywood has lied to us about love and relationships and has distorted my vision about men and women in times past. But God's Spirit and His word bring a sobering understanding of what to expect.. service, humility, trials, and longsuffering.. so im taking it one day at a time.. God's time, not my time.
This was good 🤗. Thank God He already prepared me for what’s to come because I was thinking everything on your list and He gave me a reality check 😩. May God bless you on your new channel I will look forward to more 🤗🌈🌸🙌🏾🙏🏾
🚨 New Follower Alert 🚨 This video was so on time. I feel like God has brought my future husband into my life however I was unsure due to me not being even 90% where I need to be and we’ve encountered some rocky situations and not even married yet. The main sign for me is he makes me draw closer to the father. I loved when you mentioned he will use marriage as sanctification for you because that’s what this feels like for me. Thank you for this video ❤❤
Thank you for bringing awareness, especially about the different spiritual levels cause I think that’s something I gotta let go of and this obsession that my husband has to be more spiritually mature than me
Yes, Nadias! Me too! We all have different callings in life. We have to respect each other's callings. Some are called to serve in the church, and some are called into business in a workplace.
GOD BLESS YOU MALISSA! GOD BLESS YOU!!!! TY FOR ALLOWING THE LORD USE YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE GIVING REVELATIONS THAT ONLY YOUR TESTIMONY WOULD BE ABLE TO BRING OUT SO MUCH TRUE AND HELP SO MANY OF US, YOU SAYING ALL OF THIS AND I AM MARRIED CONVICTED ME OF SO MANY THINGS AND SPOKE TO ME, THIS IS WHY I AM USING CAPITAL LETTERS (lol) sorry I loved your video so much ♥
Blessings, WOG, it's time for the return of the Sainted marriages 🎉🎉🎉courtesy of the next move towards the marriage super in heaven. And therefore, as it is on earth, so shall it look like heaven. 👍 😮😇🙏🏻🥰
I've been married for almost 23 years and I approve this message❤
Im here after watching your testimony!! Which was POWERFUL!! I also struggled with rejection and was very promiscuous. I want to get married one day but sometimes struggle with believing God will bless me with a spouse. I use to just want to get married for legal sex, now I want to get married to do God’s will and win souls! Learning how to be content in Christ while I’m single as well. 😊
One of the BEST videos I've heard in a long time about Marriage. Like for real. This is what people need to hear. We have too much of a romanticized view of what marriage is supposed to be like.
awww i don’t like these answers 😂😂😂😂 i want a man of god that fast 10 days a week… shata ! aye! gloryyyy ( jk love the video i def thought it was perfection. it so hurt. ima take my edges & go lol
This was sooo good Malissa! I am in my single season & I love having a Godly perspective on what to expect in marriage & just things in general. Talks like these are NEEDED! Thank you!
Yes! Thank you!
You absolutely hit the nail on the head with each point!!!!!! It’ll be 2 yrs this October for my husband and I; we’ve had so many challenges and it was mainly me. We as women hate that word submit and often times it is abused by men because of the world’s view and some of the false narratives churches teach. I had to seek God for truly godly submission to my husband. I am learning to deal with my issues of having too much masculine energy and independent female syndrome God is exposing through our marriage. The work is hard but necessary in order to glorify God through our marriage
I praise the Lord for your unique gift. You are an asset to God's kingdom, woman of God!!!😊
Some good information shared. I just want to rebut something that was said. God won’t cause conflict in your marriage (relationship). I was married before and the conflict that arose in our marriage was due to the devil/enemy attacking us individually trying to cause division in the union.
Not all conflict is caused by the devil. Yes there is some caused by the enemy which I brought up in the video but there is conflict and adversity brought about by the Lord meant to refine our character.
Whew! So many GEMS in this vid! We definitely need more conversations about marriage like this one.. I truly believe the divorce rate with decrease if we knew what to expect beforehand! Many see these picture perfect marriages and felt bamboozled when they actually get married! We need the REAL!
Love you Sis! 🤎
Lord, what do you say? What are you asking me to do today?
Awesome teaching
This was thee most realistic video I’ve ever watched. After watching this I can see how my expectations were a little unrealistic. Marriage is work and I’m grateful to prepare for a Godly marriage. Marriage is not a graduation from a relationship
Hello. I love your complete honesty regarding new marriages. You actually look bright and happy. It would be so nice to hear about some good times/fun times and what makes it all worthwhile.
Hey there. My bright and happiness/joy comes from the refining fire of the Lord. It is a joy to be sanctified. It is a joy to go through hardship and overcome years of strongholds in my life. It is also a joy to pick up my cross daily and to die to myself for Jesus. Because of these things He promises us joy. So to me my marriage and life in the Lord is very fun. It’s an honor to live for the Lord I consider my various trials and count them all joy. I pray many have freedom in this area of bondage or just idols on their hearts. Walking with Christ is not about our comfort or fun. It is about giving our lives as a living sacrifice to Him and truly that should be a pleasure
@@MrsMalissaBlairThank you. This answered my question perfectly. When my eyes opened to the trials of marriage, what should have brought me joy made me kinda sad. I guess saying it humbled me is a better word.
This was so good thank you❤. I will not however speak or expect that my “marriage will be hard”. Both worldly and Christian married couples have scared me so bad with that statement. God please grant me supernatural ease in my marriage. Puhhhhleeeeezzzz 😂😂
“But if you do get married, it is not a sin. And if a young woman gets married, it is not a sin. However, those who get married at this time will have troubles, and I am trying to spare you those problems.”
1 Corinthians 7:28 NLT
I mean you must tread carefully if you are choosing to disagree with what the Bible states. Also our Christian walk is also hard. The Lord said narrow is the path and difficult is the way. May we truly understand the truth of the Word and not create our own narrative for our own comfort.
@@MrsMalissaBlair amen 🙏🏾
@@MrsMalissaBlair I don’t disagree with the word of God however, I believe there is power in the words we speak and what we come into agreement with. I just transitioned from being a social worker to a software engineer. Everyone kept saying “it’s going to be hard” and it might take me a while to adjust. I asked God for favor in this terrible job market. I went on one interview (it was supposed to be multiple) and God allowed me to transition smoothly into my new role. When I say supernatural ease has been chasing me down this year… idk what to say but thank you lord. Life for me has not be easy but God has literally made it clear to me this year alone that he will make my crooked places straight.
He has been blowing my mind. Yesterday I pulled out of my driveway and I JOKINGLY said “God my lawn looks terrible can you send someone to cut it?” When I got home from work my grass was cut 😂😂. So yes I agree with everything you said and I also will speak life over my marriage. 🙏🏾
@@shanalindsay2808yes but marriage is not about supernatural ease nor can we pray trials and tribulations away from our walk with Christ. The Lord never promised in His Word that our jobs would be hard. But He promised that our walk would be difficult and that marriage would be hard because both are meant for sanctification. The goal of this video is to prepare you for the truth not what you want marriage to be. It is hard but that doesn’t mean you can’t find joy in suffering and hardship which is promised by the Word. We should not always seek easy. There are many things we must go through. I pray you receive this and do not walk into marriage blind but prepared for the many things you will face. God bless you
@@shanalindsay2808100% agree with you. Marriage is beautiful. Trials are hard but marriage is a blessing amen!! ❤️
You are a very wise woman. I’m dealing with 90% of this crap even as a single woman never married….😢 the main differences that person is your spouse and you have to share A LOT with them and its more necessary to repair it
I almost wanna make a reverse of this for marrieds not to wanna be single so bad lol
This is my first time watching your video and I loved it! I can't wait for part two on marriage. I am glad you didn't romanticize marriage. Some people forget or don't know that marriage is a ministry to serve God and our spouse.
Amen!
YOU. ARE. AWESOME!! Thank you for being obedient in starting this channel!!!!! Your voice NEEDS to be heard. Thanks for sharing your testimony. First heard it when you collabed with another beautiful young woman 🤎🤎 God bless!
Thanks for being transparent regarding God- ordained marriage expectations and realities. This topic needed to be addressed.
The part about feeling mismatched in faith and calling was very helpful. I thought my husband had to lead spiritually, since he is the head.
I love this video so so so so so much! The idea that we must be PERFECT before we meet our spouse was one I struggled with as the closer I got to Him the more I realize how unlike Him I was so it felt defeating when I heard such things. I also think going through the processes of the Lord individually helped me understand your point regarding marriage essentially stripping us from things that no longer serve us. I hear so often that if it’s a true godly marriage, it’ll be smooth! I also hear the opposite too where struggle toxic love is God which isn’t either, I think it would be helpful to receive some tips or just general guidelines of discerning reality from outright settling or having too high of expectations. I know this will vary for us all as the Lords plan is tailor made for us but I do think culture tends to be on the extreme spectrums and the balance can be tricky in identifying.
Loved this. I wish you were my mentor! Lol
Thankfully I am not going to get married. I am going to be single and celibate, live by myself, and be happy without a relationship 😊.
guuurlll!!! I'm so glad I watched your video! It was so helpful and encouraging! God bless you!❤
Thank you Malissa for keeping it real about marriage. Great advice
Do you give pre-marital counseling as an individual who is preparing to be a wife ?
I love this thank you for being so candid
Best video in marriage advice I’ve seen 💜💜
Wow ok lol, marriage sounds scary!!!!! This helps me be more grateful and thankful for being single! Praise God!
Marriage is from the Lord so it’s good!
Agreed. It made me ok with waiting on the Lord's timing and not rushing things. This is so serious. I think romance novels did us a huge disservice.
@@sscott6021 totally! I used to read them in high school but the Lord delivered me from that because it was basically porn. Romance novels, Disney, the fakeness of couples make you want something that isn’t even real. I know there is good in marriage but it’s not something to put on a pedestal.
@@sscott6021 you're just like me. Im not rushing. I think its because im seeking a more realistic expectation of what it will be like. Hollywood has lied to us about love and relationships and has distorted my vision about men and women in times past. But God's Spirit and His word bring a sobering understanding of what to expect.. service, humility, trials, and longsuffering.. so im taking it one day at a time.. God's time, not my time.
🎯🎯🎯 EVERY relationship will have conflict! It's how you manage the conflict, work through conflict together that matters 15:38
This was good 🤗. Thank God He already prepared me for what’s to come because I was thinking everything on your list and He gave me a reality check 😩. May God bless you on your new channel I will look forward to more 🤗🌈🌸🙌🏾🙏🏾
YES YES YES!!!
This is the most insightful teaching Ive come across about marriage 🎉thankyou
Girl you tore me up in the first five minutes I love it thank you!
PURE UNDILUTED TRUTH OF WHAT A GODLY MARRIAGE SHOULD BE LIKE. SUCH AN INSPIRATIONAL VIDEO. BLESSINGS TO YOU MALISSA
🚨 New Follower Alert 🚨
This video was so on time. I feel like God has brought my future husband into my life however I was unsure due to me not being even 90% where I need to be and we’ve encountered some rocky situations and not even married yet. The main sign for me is he makes me draw closer to the father. I loved when you mentioned he will use marriage as sanctification for you because that’s what this feels like for me. Thank you for this video ❤❤
Literally I love your channel 🫢💗
This was very much needed and appreciated! Thank you for sharing & God bless you
This is so good and realistic.
hey Malissa, can you explain the difference between being unequally yoked vs not being on the same spiritual level?
Hey girl! I went into it a bit in my courtship video if you wanna check it out.
Strong, mature, Holy Spirit filled!
This was soooo good! I always learn something new in your videos.💞
This is so good sis. Thank you for teaching us ❤🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Love you sis!!!
Thank you!
Thank you for bringing awareness, especially about the different spiritual levels cause I think that’s something I gotta let go of and this obsession that my husband has to be more spiritually mature than me
Yes, Nadias! Me too! We all have different callings in life. We have to respect each other's callings. Some are called to serve in the church, and some are called into business in a workplace.
This is very insightful. Thank you for your honesty. Definitely a video I will come back to!
GOD BLESS YOU MALISSA! GOD BLESS YOU!!!! TY FOR ALLOWING THE LORD USE YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE GIVING REVELATIONS THAT ONLY YOUR TESTIMONY WOULD BE ABLE TO BRING OUT SO MUCH TRUE AND HELP SO MANY OF US, YOU SAYING ALL OF THIS AND I AM MARRIED CONVICTED ME OF SO MANY THINGS AND SPOKE TO ME, THIS IS WHY I AM USING CAPITAL LETTERS (lol) sorry I loved your video so much ♥
Thank you for your videos and it really opened my eyes to a lot of things to expect and not expect.
Thanks Malissa. I just realized how much misconceptions I had about marriage.
THIS! This is everything. Very well said. Thank you 🙏🏾
Girl you did great with this!!!!
You have a lot of wisdom. I thank God for using you much needed blessings upon you and your husband ❤🎉
This is so good and so true. Thank you for sharing 😊GOD Bless you and your Generations 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thanks for sharing this.
When you said marriage is hard I said to myself myb I should stay single 🙈
Blessings, WOG, it's time for the return of the Sainted marriages 🎉🎉🎉courtesy of the next move towards the marriage super in heaven. And therefore, as it is on earth, so shall it look like heaven. 👍 😮😇🙏🏻🥰
Loving your videos🥰
This was so so good sis 🔥🔥🔥
Love you sis!!!!
This truly blessed me.
This is spot on thank you
This was such a good video. You seem like an awesome lady to have as a friend.
Love this ❤
This was good !! I was definitely thinking and expecting to be more spiritually mature than me
8:11 Amen!
❤🙏🏽🙌🏾💕
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Tell it!!! 12:49
Where is your church located?
Hey sister it’s in Atlanta, Ga
i thought the husband is meant to wash the woman with the word? so he is meant to be more spiritually mature
4:06 what? Ppl believe that?! Wow
They are going to trigger your whole life!
This video is Gold!! Everyone needs to see this✨🙌🏾🤍
Thank you!