Hey everyone! Thank you so much for tuning in. Please drop in the chat questions y’all want me to answer for Part 2 in regards to courtship? What did I miss that y’all want me to go in depth about?
I am almost 20 years divorced, separated 5 years prior. I got married as a backslidden Children/prodigal. Married at the age of 22 and I am now 52. When I tell you this is right here is ACCURATE!!! Please accept this godly counsel and save yourselves devastation and heartbreak unnecessarily!
This was so good!!! I am 54 and have been married for 22 years ONLY by the grace of God….cause honey we did it all wrong. Please don’t think that what I have is a license to think it’s ok to move outside of Gods will. When I tell you it was stupid, crazy, I thought I was going to lose my mind hard, that is no exaggeration AT ALL. Marriage is already hard. When you do it wrong, baby! LISTEN!!! Stop right now, fall prostrate before the Lord, submit to His will and do it right!!!!! No matter how inconvenient it may be to fix how you are moving, IT IS WORTH IT, but even more important than that is Gods will. Obey GOD! Malissa!!!! Do a part two and maybe interview a couple that did it wrong, but got on track with God, because that is a lot of people’s story in these crazy, disobedient days. My husband and I are warring right now in prayer and fasting for one of our children and we know for a fact that her struggles were birthed out of our disobedience. I’m telling yawl OBEY GOD!!!!! Honey, you may have to do a 10-12 part series.
You have such an anointing on premarital preparation for marriage. I have never heard anyone minister in this way. A lot of revelation, in doing things God's way. I will be praying for all the details. This is a blessing I receive God's truth, thank you.
I must admit, a lot of this I am struggling with! A lot of this I am uncomfortable with. I realize that I honestly have a perverted and unrealistic view of marriage! Pray for me that by the Holy Spirit and wisdom of God that my mind be renewed concerning this! Lord make me holy and righteous like you!😭😭😭😭
Wow, this gave me so much clarity regarding courtship and what that looks like. Dropped lots of gems! Thanks for letting the Holy Spirit speak through you!
Malissa you are the realest of the realest! I truly appreciate your wise counsel. This is so needed. I am 61 years old and this kind of instruction would have saved me a lot of stress, strife, and struggle.
I must say, your videos are refreshing because you actually seem to be genuine and really have a relationship with Christ.❤ Please Lord shield this woman and her family. keep her in your perfect peace in Jesus name. Amen🙏🏽
You were speaking from your heart allowing the Holy Spirit to feed us at all levels. Let them that hath an ear to hear what the Spirit is saying......about courting and or dating. THANK YOU!
Am I the only one who realized the people God designed to be together look alike? Lol Can you make about 10 more videos this week. I love your personality and wisdom! Haha lol
Thank you so much for this video it has really helped me. The lord just recently told me who my husband is going to be and I can't tell you enough how grateful I am
Definitely a new follower of yours from Nebraska! 🤣 Prayerfully, I do not reside there anymore lol BUT this was such a powerful video, I LOVE how direct and straight forward you are, His words through you are seriously the sword of the Spirit! Thank you for being such a voice of CLARITY and WISDOM, the fruit is evident. Looking forward to part 2!
I applaud you Sista 👍 you telling it as it needs to be told. I made a life altering mistakes, marrying to someone saying "I'm a man of God." I jumped head first into this long distance relationship, ending up marring him, it turned to be a pit of he'll experience. I pray the people seeing this post will take your advice 🙏🏽 ❤
Whoa whoa… be careful with the “marriage is difficult, marriage is hard”…. No ma’am, people are difficult and hard! Marriage is a gift from God! It is his design! It is beautiful and perfect. Be Blessed😘🙏🏾
No I meant what I said. Marriage is difficult and hard. The same way the “narrow way” is described as difficult and hard. That is the truth. Marriage being beautiful has nothing to do with it being difficult. Both are true. And I serve the Lord in Spirit and Truth. This is the reason so many singles are expecting perfection because people do not tell the truth and explain counting the cost. If Jesus explains walking with him as difficult and hard that is what it is. God bless you.
I feel ya, Jesus also said my yoke is easy and my burden is light.. if we do things God’s way marriage won’t be difficult and hard. People want to take a God created institution and operate it in a worldly way… Marriage like all relationships has it challenges…that is why it was meant to be for two virgin believers who love and honor God first… With that being said I appreciate you sharing your experiences/beliefs/testimonies … I know others like myself are blessed by it. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This!!!! This video right here made me subscribe to you. My sister in Christ, you are speaking NOTHING but facts! I thank God for making me stumble on this video. I am in my single season waiting for my kingdom spouse.
I am about to share it with my friend. Thank you so much. This was helpful to me especially the part about confirmation. I am so glad that you mentioned that if God said it in the spiritual it has to manifest in the physical because we can see someone who is not interested in us yet we go with what we thought the word of the Lord was. Totally freedom for me. 🙏🏽 signed your best friend from South 🇿🇦 Africa.
Your advice has been incredibly helpful, particularly since I'm currently in the process of courting a man-an entirely new experience for me. As a recent subscriber, I've found myself drawn to your videos, which I must say are nothing short of phenomenal. Thank you, Sis, for sharing such valuable insights.
So good! Please do a part 2! I love the part about different calls and offices. You have to mesh with your spouse and I don’t always think about that! Thank you, sis!
🔥 That’ll preach, please keep teaching biblical truth I’m locked in and here for it!!!! Pray Jesus continues to bless you and that you are poured into as much as you pour out! I receive this message !
Please talk more about your experience with the counterfeit. I had the same experience where we thought we both heard God but the fruit just wasn’t there. What did you do after that relationship? How was this one different?
Hello Malissa. Just discovered you on Delafe! Thank you for this video that has really helped me to see if the Lord wants me married He will make it very clear otherwise it is not His perfect will. Love the scriptures that back up everything.
Honestly thank you for this video. It really has helped me see things. If you have more video like this can you please do it. Learning boundaries with family members with your relationship/marriage
I love love this! Everything you said spoke to me ❤ The only question I have about is toward the end and you said that "even if you and the other person heard the voice of God if there's no confirmation, to not follow it" because you're saying that was probably not the actual Lord's voice? Someone else recently told me about a similar situation and I'm so confused
Please do a part 2. Please address things to consider if the potential partner is a person who is divorced. Please also address how to handle things when one or both partners are bringing children into the relationship. Thank you.
Amen I will be sharing that on the page I’m starting with my Husband who also is divorced before He was in the Lord. So we will be going in depth in that.
Thank you for sharing this teaching video and making a video for the older and mature singles ages 55 + concerning this topic. Well, blessings to you and your ministry and family. 🙂👍🙏🏾
Can you discuss pre-nups during the courtship process in a Godly union? Quite a few horror stories out there of one person changing their mind after marriage .
Sadly, ALL my counterfeits have been very intentional, offering marriage on first date (organised by church elders, who also believed he was my husband) or expressing their desire to marry within weeks or months of knowing me. My guess is the devil heard that it was either marriage or they can keep it moving. With exception of the the first, the others were "Ronaldos."
And please discuss being with someone we had a sexual relationship with. I don't believe God will put someone with a person from my past . All things are made new , it will be someone we / I don't know. Am I right or wrong?
You stated in a response to a commenter that your husband is divorced, what were the grounds for his divorce? Did he file or his ex-wife file for divorce?
Why are you not close to those that you are in community with? Have you asked the Lord if that is the church He has called you to? The Lord always provides community if we yield to Him.
Hey everyone! Thank you so much for tuning in. Please drop in the chat questions y’all want me to answer for Part 2 in regards to courtship? What did I miss that y’all want me to go in depth about?
I am almost 20 years divorced, separated 5 years prior. I got married as a backslidden Children/prodigal. Married at the age of 22 and I am now 52. When I tell you this is right here is ACCURATE!!! Please accept this godly counsel and save yourselves devastation and heartbreak unnecessarily!
“If they will not change their life for Jesus Christ, they will not change their life for you” HELP 👏🏾 US 👏🏾 😂 Dust your feet OFF!!✌🏾
Point. Blank. Period!
This was so good!!! I am 54 and have been married for 22 years ONLY by the grace of God….cause honey we did it all wrong. Please don’t think that what I have is a license to think it’s ok to move outside of Gods will. When I tell you it was stupid, crazy, I thought I was going to lose my mind hard, that is no exaggeration AT ALL. Marriage is already hard. When you do it wrong, baby! LISTEN!!! Stop right now, fall prostrate before the Lord, submit to His will and do it right!!!!! No matter how inconvenient it may be to fix how you are moving, IT IS WORTH IT, but even more important than that is Gods will. Obey GOD!
Malissa!!!! Do a part two and maybe interview a couple that did it wrong, but got on track with God, because that is a lot of people’s story in these crazy, disobedient days. My husband and I are warring right now in prayer and fasting for one of our children and we know for a fact that her struggles were birthed out of our disobedience. I’m telling yawl OBEY GOD!!!!! Honey, you may have to do a 10-12 part series.
Wow hallelujah! Thank you for your transparency and just beautiful comment. I know it will truly help many in this thread. Hallelujah 🙌🏿
THIS! Would truly enjoy a video from this perspective.
You have such an anointing on premarital preparation for marriage. I have never heard anyone minister in this way. A lot of revelation, in doing things God's way. I will be praying for all the details. This is a blessing I receive God's truth, thank you.
Hallelujah! Praise the Lord
I must admit, a lot of this I am struggling with! A lot of this I am uncomfortable with.
I realize that I honestly have a perverted and unrealistic view of marriage! Pray for me that by the Holy Spirit and wisdom of God that my mind be renewed concerning this!
Lord make me holy and righteous like you!😭😭😭😭
THIS WAS SO GOOD ! Ppl usual pick the date to get married, but when it’s God he will give you a date because he has an
Appointed time.
PAAAAAART 2!!!! I am married AND WHEN I TELL YOU EVVVEERRYY POINT YOU MADE WAS 🎯🎯🎯🎯!!! The good people need a parrrrttt 2!!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏽
Wow, this gave me so much clarity regarding courtship and what that looks like. Dropped lots of gems! Thanks for letting the Holy Spirit speak through you!
Your channel is going to do well. The Holy Spirit is leading you.
I STRONGLY AGREE..just in a few days she has gone from 300 subscribers to almost 1k
Malissa you are the realest of the realest! I truly appreciate your wise counsel. This is so needed. I am 61 years old and this kind of instruction would have saved me a lot of stress, strife, and struggle.
Thank you Woman of God! I really needed this teaching and continued to let God use you! Glad you started your RUclips channel
Part 2 please. This has been very sobering and I truly have a better understanding of what courtship is. Thank you so much for this video.
I’m glad you’re talking about thisss cause whew 😭😫😫
Sis! This entire video is GEMSSSSS! 🙌🏽🥹
(And I loved the bloopers at the end too with Ronke’s commentary. I was cryiiing!! 🤣)
Ronke is nuts man Lolololol 💕💕💕
I must say, your videos are refreshing because you actually seem to be genuine and really have a relationship with Christ.❤ Please Lord shield this woman and her family. keep her in your perfect peace in Jesus name. Amen🙏🏽
Amen!!! I literally give all glory to the Lord and the Holy Spirit for any wisdom He has entrusted to me. Thank you for commenting sister.
So good! I love raw and honest biblical teaching. Thank you, sis!
This is so great!! Really giving me help as a Single woman!! Keep up this great Ministry!!!
You were speaking from your heart allowing the Holy Spirit to feed us at all levels. Let them that hath an ear to hear what the Spirit is saying......about courting and or dating. THANK YOU!
Hallelujah! Praise the Lord 💕
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you Lord for that word!!
Love the accountability and the marriage group❤
Am I the only one who realized the people God designed to be together look alike? Lol
Can you make about 10 more videos this week. I love your personality and wisdom! Haha lol
Thank you so much for this video it has really helped me. The lord just recently told me who my husband is going to be and I can't tell you enough how grateful I am
This really convicted me of some things in my life. I appreciate this breakdown it’s so helpful ❤
Keep them coming Malissa!! Don't stop girlfriend! Your background is all that!💝
Definitely a new follower of yours from Nebraska! 🤣 Prayerfully, I do not reside there anymore lol BUT this was such a powerful video, I LOVE how direct and straight forward you are, His words through you are seriously the sword of the Spirit! Thank you for being such a voice of CLARITY and WISDOM, the fruit is evident. Looking forward to part 2!
I am cryingggggg 😭😭😭😭 lol thank you so much for watching. This is gold!!!
I applaud you Sista 👍 you telling it as it needs to be told. I made a life altering mistakes, marrying to someone saying "I'm a man of God." I jumped head first into this long distance relationship, ending up marring him, it turned to be a pit of he'll experience. I pray the people seeing this post will take your advice 🙏🏽 ❤
I completely understand. Mine was not long distance and we didn't marry, but....3 of the worst years of my life. Horrible experience
I hope you got out of that situation. You deserve real love
I’m so happy Lala did a video with you and for you starting your channel! Your words really speak and bless me I’ve been showing my sisters
Yay Amen. Thank you so much for your kind words 💕
Whoa whoa… be careful with the “marriage is difficult, marriage is hard”…. No ma’am, people are difficult and hard! Marriage is a gift from God! It is his design! It is beautiful and perfect.
Be Blessed😘🙏🏾
No I meant what I said. Marriage is difficult and hard. The same way the “narrow way” is described as difficult and hard. That is the truth. Marriage being beautiful has nothing to do with it being difficult. Both are true. And I serve the Lord in Spirit and Truth. This is the reason so many singles are expecting perfection because people do not tell the truth and explain counting the cost. If Jesus explains walking with him as difficult and hard that is what it is. God bless you.
I feel ya, Jesus also said my yoke is easy and my burden is light.. if we do things God’s way marriage won’t be difficult and hard. People want to take a God created institution and operate it in a worldly way… Marriage like all relationships has it challenges…that is why it was meant to be for two virgin believers who love and honor God first…
With that being said
I appreciate you sharing your experiences/beliefs/testimonies … I know others like myself are blessed by it.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This!!!! This video right here made me subscribe to you. My sister in Christ, you are speaking NOTHING but facts! I thank God for making me stumble on this video. I am in my single season waiting for my kingdom spouse.
Good job! I agree with all the points. That’s what I’m waiting for. I done fasted and prayed too much to waste time on the wrong one!
Tell me about it..I wish this video came out 10 years ago❤
Love this!!!!!! Thank you for ❤️❤️ Courtship DOES NOT = Marriage!
I am about to share it with my friend. Thank you so much. This was helpful to me especially the part about confirmation. I am so glad that you mentioned that if God said it in the spiritual it has to manifest in the physical because we can see someone who is not interested in us yet we go with what we thought the word of the Lord was. Totally freedom for me. 🙏🏽 signed your best friend from South 🇿🇦 Africa.
Amen! Sister hallelujah!!! 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
Thank you Vriendin for the plug totally enjoyed it, very informative
It’s the realness for me! I love it ✨
Your advice has been incredibly helpful, particularly since I'm currently in the process of courting a man-an entirely new experience for me. As a recent subscriber, I've found myself drawn to your videos, which I must say are nothing short of phenomenal. Thank you, Sis, for sharing such valuable insights.
5:21 awwwwwww that’s so cute ❤❤❤
Please do a part 2. This was absolutely wonderful! God bless you and your husband ❤
So good! Please do a part 2! I love the part about different calls and offices. You have to mesh with your spouse and I don’t always think about that! Thank you, sis!
Amen sis 💕
Wow this was straight up confirming some things I was already thinking about courtship. Thank you for this!
I appreciate your video. You're giving us so much Godly advice that is needed. Thank you so much.
Wow so good I’m single and I’m young (22) and this really helps such good biblical advice I came to your channel from your testimony on video so good
I'm so glad! Welcomeeee
Yes!! Say that sis!
Definitely need a part 2
🔥 That’ll preach, please keep teaching biblical truth I’m locked in and here for it!!!! Pray Jesus continues to bless you and that you are poured into as much as you pour out! I receive this message !
Please talk more about your experience with the counterfeit. I had the same experience where we thought we both heard God but the fruit just wasn’t there. What did you do after that relationship? How was this one different?
That’s a great topic. Ok cool!! Thanks.
@@MrsMalissaBlairplease have this as a topic considering this is a new year now lol.
Malissa!! I'm so proud of you! So excited to see where God takes you next sis!
Amen sis !! Thank you God for confirmation 🙏🏾
A part 2 would be lovely please 🥰 this was beautiful to watch
Yes. Please!!! Another video. Thank you, Beautiful!
Thank you so much. I can't wait for God to send my Godly husband, waiting patiently and love the teaching to prepare me.
Please do a part two!!!!😆
Tune in this morning!!!
I love the bloopers at the end
Hello Malissa. Just discovered you on Delafe! Thank you for this video that has really helped me to see if the Lord wants me married He will make it very clear otherwise it is not His perfect will. Love the scriptures that back up everything.
Such a good video Sis, peace and blessings to you and your husband
PT 2,3,4 lol provide all the biblical gems 😁
Thank you for your encouragement, I was the fool you mentioned and Christ has transformed my heart and revealed the truth
I’m soooooooo haappppppy to see your own channel
You are a blessing
Part 2 please.
This is so good and much needed ❤️
Honestly thank you for this video. It really has helped me see things. If you have more video like this can you please do it.
Learning boundaries with family members with your relationship/marriage
Sure thing!
@@MrsMalissaBlair thank youuuuuuu! I’m taking notes you should definitely do series on this.
Thank you for sharing! This is great, biblical teaching. I shared with my adult son. Looking forward to hearing part 2.
Awesome message! Need part 2.
Very nice video
Omggg I’ve been searching for your channel.. hey boo 🫶🏾💕
Hi Mellisa. Shout out to La Jenkins. Saw you there. Love from South Africa❤
I love love this! Everything you said spoke to me ❤
The only question I have about is toward the end and you said that "even if you and the other person heard the voice of God if there's no confirmation, to not follow it" because you're saying that was probably not the actual Lord's voice? Someone else recently told me about a similar situation and I'm so confused
Yes, exactly
So good 100%
Please do a part 2. Please address things to consider if the potential partner is a person who is divorced. Please also address how to handle things when one or both partners are bringing children into the relationship. Thank you.
Amen I will be sharing that on the page I’m starting with my Husband who also is divorced before He was in the Lord. So we will be going in depth in that.
Part 2, Please and Thank You !!
You are awesome!!
Great teaching. Very much needed. Party 2 please
Thank you for this breakdown. This helps me out a lot.
This was so good and eye-opening!
Love this video!! Part 2 please♥
So insightful 💗
Good morning!
Thank you for this surprise video❤🙏🏾
Yes do a part 2!!
Wow thank you so much for this message. I needed to hear every word !!!
MARRIED PEOPLE CAN USE THIS ADVICE..
This was great , yes do a part 2
I've been enjoying your channel 🙏🏽❤️
I'm so glad!
@@MrsMalissaBlair God bless you 🙏🏽♥️
Thank you for sharing this teaching video and making a video for the older and mature singles ages 55 + concerning this topic. Well, blessings to you and your ministry and family. 🙂👍🙏🏾
Soooo good sis! Looking for that part 2 👀
I'm working on it
This is good ma’am!!!!
Love you sissyyyyy ❤
Yoh this was good sis 👌🏾🙌🏾, thank you and God bless you. Yes please part 2 and many more 😊
Can you discuss pre-nups during the courtship process in a Godly union? Quite a few horror stories out there of one person changing their mind after marriage .
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23:36 amen to that ❤
24:12 and that too🎉🎉
26:27 ❤❤
Yaaaaaaaayyyyyyy😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
AMEN
My beloved husband died Christmas Eve 2017.
I am ready to love again but can't find a Good Godly man
Sadly, ALL my counterfeits have been very intentional, offering marriage on first date (organised by church elders, who also believed he was my husband) or expressing their desire to marry within weeks or months of knowing me.
My guess is the devil heard that it was either marriage or they can keep it moving. With exception of the the first, the others were "Ronaldos."
Pray for me a Godly husband. I don't want a hook up, shack up or ungodly relationship. I want to be courted and married
Thank you and yes a part 2 or "series😂" please
And please discuss being with someone we had a sexual relationship with. I don't believe God will put someone with a person from my past . All things are made new , it will be someone we / I don't know. Am I right or wrong?
Hmmm I can’t give a definitive answer on the mind of Christ. It’s mostly based on the fruit of their character in the present you know!
on ur testimony video you said that you hadnt recieved the infilling of the holy spirit, can you tell you testimony of when you did?
Yessssss that’s such a good question I will do a video of that for sure
What does it mean to receive the Holy Spirit
You stated in a response to a commenter that your husband is divorced, what were the grounds for his divorce? Did he file or his ex-wife file for divorce?
What if you don't have a community? I am not that close to my church members.
Why are you not close to those that you are in community with? Have you asked the Lord if that is the church He has called you to? The Lord always provides community if we yield to Him.