I do hear a lot of times that guys like when women are natural however, I think giving your significant other compliments when they do go the extra mile to look nice is not asking for too much. Hype me up a lil bit sir please and thank you lol 😊
Too many people are dating preferences instead of standards … nothing wrong with having a preference but don’t allow it to overlap your judgement. Someone’s core values are way more important
…but you’re not going to have sex with their core values..So they must be physically attractive to you. It’s just as important as all the other qualities.
I definitely agree that looks are not everything, but if there's little to no physical attraction AND it's not building over time (during the dating phase) then that's an issue. You should be attracted to your spouse physically. You definitely should. They might not meet every one of your physical standards, but you should still be attracted to them. Exactly what Jess said was something I'd said last week. I can't be going through a tough time or a rough patch with you AND you a lil ugly. That's too much. That's too many struggles lol. There needs to be some attraction in those times so I can be like, "They're aggravating me real bad... but they still fine though." I mean SOMETHING has to be there lmao.
Physical attraction is important (to me) and it's also a non-negotiable for me. I don't have a 'type' but there has to be something that says within me 'Oh he's cuteee' or 'Ohh, he fine fine.' For some women, it's not a thought and they aren't looking for attraction. However, me personally it's Physical attraction, Man of God then everything else. The guy doesn't have to meet the standards of beauty of society; however, if he looks good 'to me' and a Godly man that's the only thing that matters. Some may call it shallow but if I'm going to have to kiss this person and one day become 1 during marriage ? Personality isn't enough. I need the entire package. I would hope for the guy to feel the same way and not forced nor pressured if there's zero attraction. Most men don't settle in that area.
I think physical attraction is important. However, I've discovered that confidence, swag, intelligence, kindness, and personality can all make someone look better than how you initially saw them.
Low self esteem? Really I see Jonathan as a man who is secure in his relationship, sure of himself. So he doesn’t have to control the conversation to show who he is.
Oh no, they didn't say Johnathan had low self-esteem. Let him say what he has to say to his wife. Ugh! I love that he loves her natural beauty because Jess is beautiful.
Exactly !!! That’s absurd !!! I can’t believe we live in a world where someone that prefers a NATURAL LOOK (the look that God gave you) as being bashful or having low self esteem .
I absolutely love you guys and the podcast. Very good subject, my Husband loves me natural no makeup and it's okay with me. I do feel like your physical attraction is VERY IMPORTANT and men are NOT jealous of their wife when she's dressed up. THAT'S SO STUPID TO ME. Good job you guys
I think physical attraction matters but to a certain limit. I’m not saying she gotta look like Gabrielle union, but just someone I find cute enough to stare at. I also believe our age plays a part if we should value physical attraction. I’m 21 so it makes since that I think looks matter but at 45 I might have a different mindset.
I think sexual attraction is a must, it’s definitely not the only thing but who wants to be in a relationship where you’re not attracted to your other half, or you don’t feel like your other half is attracted to you. It’s going to lead to a lot of issues. Someone may not be “cute” but the sex appeal is there and so is the chemistry
My fiance loves my natural hair and he definitely doesnt want me to cut it. I wear wigs and everything, and he appreciates the looks, but he will always prefer my natural hair. No matter how fireeeee my wig and lace is, he will never have a more excited and genuine reaction than when I do my natural hair. And I actually love that about him. He loves me for ME not for all of these superficial things that the world cares about. Everyone has their own preferences and that is OK. The internet is crazy😂
Attraction is not always important, because when someone is good to you and you enjoy your time together you can end up more in love than you ever thought possible. Looks are surface and actions are what’s most important.
You need both. You need to be attracted to your partner physically. If not there will not be much intimacy which is critical in a romantic relationship.
And THIS is why I am team Johnathan. That young man is wise beyond his years. I love the way his mind works and the way he articulates his thoughts. Now, now. My good sis Jess. I know you said not to come for the hubby, and I will respect your wishes. I will say this.... I love the way you talked through your differences. However, we have to be mindful to big each other up even if you may not see the purpose. When you're doing it to build up the confidence of your spouse, that's all you need to understand.
At the end of the day she knows her husband loves her I think that's important plus everyone has different love languages at the end of the day she knows her husband more than any of us in the comments
People in arranged marriages stay married. It is a matter of being close, bonding and having shared values and mutual respect. The attraction will come. Attraction wanes even during traditional marriage. Attraction is something...but not everything.
That is a lie because attraction is beyond physical ppl aren’t just attracted to how someone looks but it has to be something there no one gets with someone they aren’t attracted to unless they are using them for some type of resource
People in arranged marriages stay married because they live in a cultures that often kill women if they leave or simply are structured in a way where a woman can't survive (mostly financially) without a man
Physical attraction was very important to me at one time in my life, but then I matured. I need to know if you’re a believer or not, I need to get a glimpse of their character, I need to know their mindset/opinion on certain subjects. Physical is trivial to me. I must compliment Jonathan on his Godly wisdom the more I hear him express himself the more I admire him…so Jess, Father has blessed you well so give Him all the glory and all the praise for your covering ❤
Physical attraction is important based on a previous experience I just had. I dated a guy for 6 months & he was super nice but for me I was questioning the whole relationship bc I didnt feel an attraction to him on that level and I gave it time hoping it would grow and it didn’t so I let the relationship go bc I didn’t wanna settle or hurt him in the long run dragging out the relationship. He wasn’t a ugly guy and he was nice like I mentioned but it was just something that didn’t make me wanna “jump on him” lol it’s not the MOST important thing but it definitely is important you have to have some kinda of attraction to ur partner.
Yes 100 percent! People keep saying the inside is more important which I agree whole heartedly but that’s not the point here lol I don’t think it has to be an either/or thing like it’s okay to desire both the inside and outside. We Pray you find what you’re looking for 🩷🩷
My biggest preference is I don't like men with a "beer belly" I made that clear, it wouldn't mean I want a divorce if he overtime got one, but since he knows I really don't like it, he eats well to keep it off. Likewise he prefers me being at the weight I am currently at, he met me smaller, but he has a cap on what he would be attracted to in terms of my weight. So I work on maintaining this weight for him too. It is okay to have a preference, what is not okay is if the physical changes are outside of your spouses control and we want a divorce over it. I love the haircut he got for our wedding day, and occasionally he will get it again to surprise me and I absolutely love that, but it doesn't mean I love him any less if he is completely bald :).
This is a whole issue I was just talking to a friend about yesterday. I've been married 10 years now, I'm 31 and I never prioritized physical or sexual attraction in our relationship. Not to say my husband is unattractive, but he's not the person that makes me wanna drop my draws when I see him or feel any special way about based on his looks or sex appeal. I married him because he was dependable and trustworthy, a man of God and was always there for me. But lack of sex appeal, going 8 months or more at a time with no sex at all because I'm dodging him the whole time even though I desperately want sex is a whole issue that I can't understand how to remedy. I've prayed about it for years. It's honestly extremely depressing because I feel like it's my fault for not prioritizing that when I was considering who to marry and now I feel stuck. I wanna do the right thing and stay married, but the desire for sex with someone I'm actually attracted to is very strong. Definitely not something discussed in church or from a Christian perspective so this is thought provoking for sure.
I'd love to talk about this more on part 2 of this topic! I agree it's not discussed a lot and from some of the comments i can see that people are missing the point a little bit saying tis not important what's important is what's on the inside which i completely agree the inside is important but that doesn't make the outside not important even at all. So i just want to be realistic about the topic. Thank you for your transparency!
Yeah I saw the comments too. Many are misunderstanding, but the ones who have issues from it will know and it's good conversation for those seeking marriage so later down the line they aren't reconsidering because no priority was given to physical/sexual attraction at the beginning. You're welcome girl and thanks for addressing it from this angle
I loved this video so much! Thank you both. I loved Jonathan giving his point of view on Jesus loves us no matter what. Jess, I love how you mentioned that Jonathan loves you consistently. That matters a great deal!! I love that for yall.
I have officially add your channel on my list of things to watch while God works on restoring my marriage. I learn so much from you guys. Love your channel! Many many many more blessing you guys! ❤❤❤
I love how natural this podcast has come together! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I think physical attraction is important. I think you shouldn’t be picky and want only one type of person though. My husband isn’t dark chocolate & 6’3 BUT HES FIOONNEEE! 😍 Men are visuals so I also think it’s important to want to look good for your spouse.
I just saw a tik tok that showed how women look during different parts of their cycle and when your ovulating you appear prettier. So that may be part of when he finds you “more attractive”. ( I know he gave other reasons I just wanted to mention the physical)
I used to feel bad and think that I was shallow for saying that I also have to be attracted to somebody in order for me to consider dating them but I finally realized that that is also important. One of my love languages is physical touch and I am going to want to touch my man and desire him as well. He does not have to be the most beautiful gorgeous man walking around on God's Earth LOL, but I want to be able to say to myself upon first seeing him that he is handsome. So I am not ashamed of saying that looks do matter to an extent.😅
Podcasts are cool but the body language between you two is everything! The hilarious subtle facial expressions (yes, I catch them all because I’ve studied nonverbal communication lol), the little affectionate touches, and everything just adds to the vibe of the content! And I agree with Jonathan, definitely repost these to the new channel to reach new viewers.
Ummm if yo hubby doesn’t compliment a beautiful Nubian Queen like you Jess??? Bro 😎 u mad cuz she gets more attention than you!!! Don’t defend him gurl 😊 we know y’all in love
A suggestion, I don’t like that when Jonathan shows his silly side he says, “take that out.” Like we know Jess is funny and she makes Jonathan laugh but we love to see him make her laugh and then make us laugh. I feel like it gives the podcast personality. We don’t want to sit and watch people be super serious for 30+ mins then it’s like watching a sermon lol. We want to laugh and then be like wowww that was so insightful 🤔 lol. So show your personalities that is what will make your podcast stand out from the hundreds of others. Also we are eating it up when you do, at least I am 🤷🏾♀️😅 love you guys! 🫶🏾
That is so superficial physical appearance.i think dating a person with moral values and that loves YAHUSHA. Me personally, i finds that very attractive in a man even if he is unattractive i loves YAHUAH and his SON YAHUSHA so i would want to date someone that loves him even more than me. that to me is Super attractive in my opinion about a man.
I think expectations shouldn’t carry such a negative connotation all the time. An expectation means a standard, a consistency, an ability to depend on someone’s actions, which could be in a good way! It’s not wrong to expect a compliment or acknowledgment on a new look when you’ve clearly stated how important those compliments are to you. Jmt 🤷🏽♀️
I appreciate and love the authenticity of your vlogs because you guys are asking each other questions that you can do on your own for personal growth but sharing it with us. The fact that it's not scripted and raw. Greatly appreciate ❤❤
Physical attraction is important to me that’s why I gave my husband a chance and got to know him was bc first it was oh he fine then it was ok your fine but are you ugly in the inside or are you even more beautiful in the inside then the outside. Plus we all gotta be real you gotta be attracted to someone to be able to do the grown folk business when your married ofc😂 but y’all know what I mean.
Jess you and Johnathan thank you for this video. I am single but I have hope in having a kingdom marriage after watching you guys. Thanks again! Please do a video on overcoming trials.
After being married 23 years I know for sure that standards are way more important than physical appearance. How he treats you takes care of business and most of all God’s placement in his life is top priority. And they better get off Jonathan. Stevie Wonder can see how much he loves you 🤷🏽♀️.
🗣WE👏🏾 LOVE👏🏾 YALL👏🏾 SOOO👏🏾 MUCH👏🏾!!! Love the transparency. Love how the word ALWAYS comes up. Love your & Passa Jonathan's insight and wisdom. Love the balance you both bring. Yall about to blow "dear future wifey" out the water😆🥰👏🏾🙌🏾🫶🏾
I think when your husband likes your natural look is amazing I love how my husband finds me beautiful whether I’m fixed up or not and when I’m sweaty omg he loves me. But most men don’t like it when their wives wear too much makeup. So that’s a good thing he finds you more beautiful when you’re natural
These podcast just get better and better! So down to earth and relatable! And let’s not mention the knowledge and wise council yal be breaking off! 🎉I have a topic request based on your preachers kids podcast, expectations of not partaking in so called worldly things when one considers themselves a child of the King! Thank you both so much!!!
Lol Jonathan is soooo honest 😅 reminds me of my babe 🤣 like you literally can't fault them for their honesty but at the same time its like please like what i like agree with me 😂but you also appreciate that rawness but you'll never have to guess if they truly mean something or not
Definitely can't be mad at a dude who's ugly loland i do think personality and style adds to the appeal. I dated an ugly dude but initally i turned him down because i didnt find him attractive. But we worked together and i got to know him and he was cool af, hilarious, witty and could dress😂 he was also a gentleman, employed and had a good head on his shoulders and similar interests. Once all that kicked in i didnt care anymore my poom poom swelled up for him 😂 But now that we're not together, he's back to being ugly to me 😂 and my husband way finer. At the end of the day i ended up with more of what i preferred along with him checking all the other aforementioned boxes. 🤷🏾♀️💪🏾
There is a movie called, the Enchanted Cottage that I love. A disabled war veteran and a plain, funny looking woman visit an elderly woman at her house. Whenever those two were at that house, he became handsome, she became glamorous. Come to find out, the love that was growing between them made them both beautiful.
I once dated a guy I got along with really well but I was not physically attracted to him. I really tried but it was a no-go. I let him go after 8 months. I don't wear makeup but in prepping for my wedding, I got my makeup done just to see how it would look. My fiance gave me a HARD no. He was not having it. 😂 Jonathan is SO wise for his age. I love to hear it!
I am now catching up on this podcast because work has got me really busy. I was so happy when I read the caption because I have always wanted to know other people's thoughts on the matter; and I know you two would definitely have valuable contributions. So, I was in a relationship with a guy who kept asking me to be his girlfriend. I had known him for a long time because we go to the same Church. However, I never found him attractive, I never thought of him in that way. He said that he liked me for years and wanted to approach me for a while and finally got the courage to do so. Still, I didn't like him. Moreover it was my final year at University and i didn't want any distractions. He was persistent, so I thought about it, I recalled his actions towards me over the years and I realized he actually did like me. Yes, I did have a preference but I put that aside. I decided to give him a chance. He was very attracted to me, would tell me I looked nice even when I didn't feel so. I realized he was a caring person and I liked him for that, and for being a Christian. Those were the two things I held on to. As time when by I realized he didn't comprehend things as much. It took him a while to understand general things, at first it was annoying but I decided that I would help him out with that. Not only did he take a while to comprehend things, but his care and empathy stopped at asking, he never went on to being thoughtful. To add, he would constantly ask me if I still liked him and what I liked about him. It felt like a fourth night report because of how often he would ask. That aggravated me because my answers were the same and I didn't understand why I had to keep answering those questions. The thing that bothered me the most was him not respecting my boundaries and not being understanding as to why I had them in place. He was my first boyfriend and I am virgin who intends to remain pure until marriage (He knew this) Hugging for a long time, him trying to draw me to him and kisses did make me feel uncomfortable. I recall times he would try to peck me on the cheek or neck excessively and I would tell him to stop but he never listened. I would have to repeatedly tell him to stop before he did. Whenever he did that I felt horrible, more so when i would have to repeat myself before he listened. I told him about it and how it made me feel but he disregarded my feelings and kept insisting that I should think about giving him kisses. I expected him to have a different reaction, he was supposed to understand as a Christian, as a Church brother who attend the same Church as me. Instead, he kept saying that he can't help himself and he is really attracted to me. That made me wonder if he really loved me like he said or was it lust. I even asked him and he denied it being lust. On special days like valantine he didn't get me anything, not even a rose. I felt little and low I felt like he acted that way because he wasn't getting certain privileges with me. I felt even worst when I'd see younger girls receiving lovely gifts and treats when all I got was a text saying 'I hope this valentine's day is filled with love and contentment, one ❤️" I would think about all this and wonder. I would get even more disturbed when I remember that I am not even physically attracted to him. I really tried to like him for more than his care and concern. I would even spend hours online researching colours and clothes that would go well with his skin tone, and checked for pictures of guys who had looked similar to him. He didn't care to take any suggestions or so, I wasn't trying to change him, I just wanted to help him up his game since he would wear all sorts of clothes that didn't go together or fit him well, and I like a guy who knows how to dress. I would send him my playlist, give him recommendations for rain sounds to fall asleep to, help him with his assignments (Though he was older than me, he was in his third year at Uni while I was in my final year.) Send him morning devotions. I even asked him for us to be each other's accountability partner but he paid that no mind. People would try to make me feel crazy for wanting to be physically attracted to the person I am with, especially Christians since our Pastor would always say 'looks don't matter' Whenever I tried talking to people close to me. I would just tell them about him not being able to comprehend things and me not being physically attracted to him. I intentionally left out the part where he does not respect boundaries because the few people I told would say I am twenty three and that's normal stuff people do in a relationship. I have always wanted to not partake much in physical touch and intimacy during courtship, but to bond spiritually, intellectually; just to be best friends and leave the physical intimacy to marriage. However, people think I am crazy. When I told people about the things that worried me with my past boyfriend they would ignore everything else and say I am making excuses because I don't find him attractive, I was even labelled carnal. March of this year, he broke up with me. Said he thought long and hard about it and he came to that decision. God definitely laid that it my spirit, I feel it was going to happen. When it did, I wasn't shocked that it happened but I didn't know it would have been so quick from the time God had shown me it. Fast forward to present time, he is trying to talk to me. Trying to be cool again. I don't know if I would want that. I am still not attracted to him physically. Nonetheless, sometimes I think if I choose to be with him I may not like him the way he may like me. I may even resent him in some way. On the other hand, sometimes I think that he is the one because when I think about the guys out here, how they treat women, I am terrified. I am terrified of falling in love with a beautiful monster. I still do hope and pray that that person will find me. The one who loves the Lord, the man that would treat me like Christ treats the Church, who would be kind, caring, honest, patient, ..... and good looking.
Thanks for being so honest and real. I would say it's never good to operate from a place of fear. Don't go back to that guy because you fear no one else is out there. There are so many red flags with this guy. I wouldn't go back. God let you be free from him. He doesn't seem like someone who genuinely liked or respected you. You deserve better, and to love and be loved by the person you are with
I am genuinely curious to what a woman would say if she was attracted to a man would they want a man to get to know them and give them a chance even if they aren't that much attracted to them ? Like if the roles were reversed would they want a man to date then and see if he likes you past your looks
Well for me I know 100 percent I do not want someone to talk to their boys and be like “I love her personality but honestly I’m not that attracted to her but ima give her a chance” but this is a good question though I could pose this to the rest of my lady viewers to see their response as well!
I heard “Purpose ova pleasure from Caleb Gordon and His wife 🔥🔥 Which is true pleasure will fade but if the main goal purpose is the glory of Christ … you good
This was so good!!! Y’all are so funny 😂!! But I loved this episode because that is a real thing! I love that you guys started a podcast together because you and Johnathan have so much wisdom and y’all include the Lord in everything. Much love to y’all 💗
Great podcast video... i would suggest to being part 2 on the new channel... Take the break now. I agree about the attraction. My hubby is not who I though i would marry but we had chemiatry and we were so compatible in so many areas. As our friendship grew, i found myself more attracted to him but hid it. I needed to hear from God. My husband knew what he wanted and believe God for it and we coming up on 3 years this year and its like its unreal.
your natural hair is so cute! I guess as girls, we doll up for each other. I really like the makeup, natural hair and beautiful green gown.....very vibe!
I don’t believe/feel the being physically attracted to your significant other is important. I’ve dated men who were considered attractive men, and always receiving female attention. That is great and all but I think how a person treats you and how they make you feel is what’s important when entering a relationship. Speaking from experience. Overtime because of how that person made me feel and how they treated me allowed me to look past the physical and as time went on that person became more and more attractive to me because of how they were to me and not based on how others perceived him physically. I agree that if the sight of the person is making you nauseous then yes run to the farthest sink and never return BUT looks are superficial and they fade and you shouldn’t reject or choose a mate based on how cute they are.
I totally agree with Johnathan, He said he fell in love with your natural beauty and when You do the makeup and stuff it’s for You, Well Said Johnathan❤❤❤❤You guys, just a old woman putting her two cents in lol
A part 2 may be necessary lol. I’m currently talking to someone and not only do I not have physical attraction, there are other things that are not attractive to me - over 30 and over 150,000 of financial debt. Having a masters degree that is not being used, living at home, family background. Idk it’s hard bc he is so supportive, caring, faithful and a strong godly man but everything else is Making it hard to see him as a potential husband.
“Looking like I just got out of jail!”😂 Jonathan knows you are a natural beauty. You don’t need any makeup but you are an influencer. In real life, you could get away with just a little lipstick and blush only if you wish. You are blessed with one influencer called, “Pretty Privilege” I call it “Natural Beauty “.
Please don’t let anyone make you feel like you can’t say what you feel unless your wife feels uncomfortable about something.. but us? We will always have an opinion and that may or may not be in agreement with your opinions and that’s okay because we’re still gonna watch regardless lol and if people show disrespect with it, block them. You guys have full control. I love what you guys are doing and just want you both to speak straight from your hearts. Forget the comments (unless they’re disrespectfully expressed). Saying all this with love and support.
I was taught that marriage is a flesh covenant which is why its consummated. Adam "saw" Eve's body and knew she was the one. without any advice or instructions, lol....Attraction seems to be almost everything from that perspective.....don't personally know though. Good video!
I was LITERALLY praying asking God if he cared about physical attraction THE OTHER DAY .. b/c mannn… I’m in a dilemma. And I’m going back to my prayer book making sure I said something about how I want my husband to look (which isn’t a HUGE PART) but just wanna make sure cause dang :/.
I really wanted to engage and watch this - but just personal feedback. You talk wayyyyy to much about things that do not relate to your video title and it’s off putting. Clicked off
I've been subscribed to you for sooo long (I've witnessed a couple big chops 🤣🤣) and this is the most I've watched your channel. These podcasts are like crack baby. And I'm not even a podcast type of girl
I know better not to date a guy that I'm not physically attracted to and he may be a nice guy but it doesn't mean he is the right one. Imagine marrying and having sex with someone you're not physically attracted to. If I see signs that I am not physically attracted to someone the 1st or 2nd date, then I am out! I don't want to waste any more of his time. He deserves to be with someone that is attracted to him. Also a guy may look perfect on paper but if he is too nice of a guy and doesn't have a backbone, I am immediately out as well because that would cause a lot of trouble in a relationship and I could see myself constantly having to tell him to stand up for himself and be a man. A man should already know how to be a man and just like a woman should know how to be a woman. A job or height is not a big deal for me just as long as he is stable and is not a pushover, then that is great. Don't get me wrong there are a lot of guys that are good-looking guys out there that are actually very smart and fun to have a conversation with. But some of them don't have anything to offer other than their looks, not the brightest Apple of the bunch which I am putting it lightly and that could be bad too. Just like it is bad for a woman to be nothing more than just a pretty face but has a rotten personality and not the brightest Apple of the bunch which I am putting it lightly as well. But there are some women who are not only beautiful on the inside and out but also very intelligent. The point is that there has to be a balance of both otherwise you guys are just wasting each other's time. I was in relationships with guys I was not attracted to because they were different from the other guys that I was attracted to that had a rotten personality and I would try to make it work but the more I tried the more frustrated and angry I got and usually it would end pretty badly for me. So I just stopped dating. If I find a guy that I have a balance with where I am both mentally and physically attracted to him then great but if not, I would rather stay single than to deal with that. It's sad that it has to be this way because I do want to settle and get married but not with a guy that I'm not attracted to both mentally and physically.
I feel as though women have so many more expectations and standards they require from men than men have for women. Some men are looking for more wife material qualities while women I think focus more on the physical aspect of men, like if he’s tall or has good teeth lol
I totally get what you’re saying Jess about a man’s fresh cut cuz I’m the same way!!! I be looking like dang u look good… but when he looks rough and scruffy I tend to get a lil 😑lol…but I think physical attraction is important to maintain and I think a person should cater somewhat to their other person to what they like as well. If a ur man prefers less makeup then shit I’ll wear less… if anything that’s a compliment to me because as a woman, I know how totally different a woman can look with birthday makeup! Sometimes it’s like ur a different person. If I was a man, I wouldn’t like all that either because it’s not the real you. It’s no different to me than using a filter for photos. Think there needs to be a balance between what you want as a person and including your partner in some of that… I was mad when he cut off his goatee because I find that sexy… so it kinda altered the attraction slightly but I’m getting used to it. It doesn’t change my love for him but I was just in love with it. But for him… he wanted to cut it off.
Great episode. Question, what to do when you're feeling this man who has it all together, but every chance he get m, he ask sarcastically or could be playing, " is your ex okay if I take you on a date?" Not to mention, I've literally been single for 6 years and he's not what I usually go for. It was cool but he started giving insecure vibes and from what I observed, ghetto mess. After I address to him on multiple occasions to STOP bringing my ex up, he want to change the narrative. I had ended up cutting him off and now he keep blowing my phone up or whatever and I'm trying to be a change woman, but Chile my hood side want to check him and speak ungodly things. Honestly, he make me not want to date again. It's slim pickings in these streets.
Hi Jess and Johnathan let me tell you this Jess men don’t like makeup they like us in are natural state always they just hate kissing us with the lipstick my husband was the same way!! He is not going to say he loves the makeup they love us when we look horrible that’s just facts…. Gurl they are a trip❤❤❤😂😂
I do hear a lot of times that guys like when women are natural however, I think giving your significant other compliments when they do go the extra mile to look nice is not asking for too much. Hype me up a lil bit sir please and thank you lol 😊
I feel this sis lol
Too many people are dating preferences instead of standards … nothing wrong with having a preference but don’t allow it to overlap your judgement. Someone’s core values are way more important
…but you’re not going to have sex with their core values..So they must be physically attractive to you. It’s just as important as all the other qualities.
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She didn’t say it wasn’t important. She’s saying too many people allow physical attraction to be more important than the core values.
I definitely agree that looks are not everything, but if there's little to no physical attraction AND it's not building over time (during the dating phase) then that's an issue. You should be attracted to your spouse physically. You definitely should. They might not meet every one of your physical standards, but you should still be attracted to them.
Exactly what Jess said was something I'd said last week. I can't be going through a tough time or a rough patch with you AND you a lil ugly. That's too much. That's too many struggles lol. There needs to be some attraction in those times so I can be like, "They're aggravating me real bad... but they still fine though." I mean SOMETHING has to be there lmao.
😂😂😂 Exactlyyyyyy lol I’m ignoring everyone who says it doesn’t matter at all, it’s def not everything but it’s something for sure.
Physical attraction is important (to me) and it's also a non-negotiable for me. I don't have a 'type' but there has to be something that says within me 'Oh he's cuteee' or 'Ohh, he fine fine.' For some women, it's not a thought and they aren't looking for attraction. However, me personally it's Physical attraction, Man of God then everything else. The guy doesn't have to meet the standards of beauty of society; however, if he looks good 'to me' and a Godly man that's the only thing that matters. Some may call it shallow but if I'm going to have to kiss this person and one day become 1 during marriage ? Personality isn't enough. I need the entire package. I would hope for the guy to feel the same way and not forced nor pressured if there's zero attraction. Most men don't settle in that area.
You didn’t tell one lie here sis! 🤍
Absolutely
Literally said the EXACT same thing to one of my girlfriends yesterday! I agree with everything you said, one-HUNDRED percent!! 🎯💯
Exactly in complete agreement.
Let’s talk about this hair this skin let’s talk about how this marriage life to look good on my girl!
ah thank youuuu!
“I can’t be going through a tough patch with you and you ugly” 😂😂
That had me cracking up 😂😭
AND THAT'S REAL!! I'd just said that exact same thing last week 😂
🤣
I think physical attraction is important. However, I've discovered that confidence, swag, intelligence, kindness, and personality can all make someone look better than how you initially saw them.
Yesssss this is key!
Low self esteem? Really I see Jonathan as a man who is secure in his relationship, sure of himself. So he doesn’t have to control the conversation to show who he is.
Oh no, they didn't say Johnathan had low self-esteem. Let him say what he has to say to his wife. Ugh! I love that he loves her natural beauty because Jess is beautiful.
Say that again. Jess is BEAUTIFUL and her husband loves her the way Yahweh made her
Unh unnn, not coming for Jonathan’s self esteem because of his preferences. That feels like a reach. Some people should chill.
Girl let me tell you!! I was like girl don’t make me block you 😂
Yeah they need to stop with the foolishness. He likes what he likes. Who ever ask if he has self esteem issues need to get a life.
Exactly !!! That’s absurd !!! I can’t believe we live in a world where someone that prefers a NATURAL LOOK (the look that God gave you) as being bashful or having low self esteem .
I absolutely love you guys and the podcast. Very good subject, my Husband loves me natural no makeup and it's okay with me. I do feel like your physical attraction is VERY IMPORTANT and men are NOT jealous of their wife when she's dressed up. THAT'S SO STUPID TO ME. Good job you guys
Right?!? I was like HUH???
I think physical attraction matters but to a certain limit. I’m not saying she gotta look like Gabrielle union, but just someone I find cute enough to stare at. I also believe our age plays a part if we should value physical attraction. I’m 21 so it makes since that I think looks matter but at 45 I might have a different mindset.
I think sexual attraction is a must, it’s definitely not the only thing but who wants to be in a relationship where you’re not attracted to your other half, or you don’t feel like your other half is attracted to you. It’s going to lead to a lot of issues. Someone may not be “cute” but the sex appeal is there and so is the chemistry
My fiance loves my natural hair and he definitely doesnt want me to cut it. I wear wigs and everything, and he appreciates the looks, but he will always prefer my natural hair. No matter how fireeeee my wig and lace is, he will never have a more excited and genuine reaction than when I do my natural hair. And I actually love that about him. He loves me for ME not for all of these superficial things that the world cares about. Everyone has their own preferences and that is OK. The internet is crazy😂
Your explanation describing how YAHUAH loved us while we are wicked
is SO. beautiful what love HE HAS FOR THOSE THAT LOVES HIM.
Attraction is not always important, because when someone is good to you and you enjoy your time together you can end up more in love than you ever thought possible. Looks are surface and actions are what’s most important.
AMEN AMEN AND AMEN
True
You need both. You need to be attracted to your partner physically. If not there will not be much intimacy which is critical in a romantic relationship.
And THIS is why I am team Johnathan. That young man is wise beyond his years. I love the way his mind works and the way he articulates his thoughts.
Now, now. My good sis Jess. I know you said not to come for the hubby, and I will respect your wishes. I will say this.... I love the way you talked through your differences. However, we have to be mindful to big each other up even if you may not see the purpose. When you're doing it to build up the confidence of your spouse, that's all you need to understand.
Yes I completely agreeee! I’m working on him and he learned a valuable lesson the other day that we’ll talk about in part 2 lol
At the end of the day she knows her husband loves her I think that's important plus everyone has different love languages at the end of the day she knows her husband more than any of us in the comments
I love how open & honest you both are. Your podcast is going to be extremely successful. You have something special ❤️
🥹🥹 Thank you!!
People in arranged marriages stay married. It is a matter of being close, bonding and having shared values and mutual respect. The attraction will come. Attraction wanes even during traditional marriage. Attraction is something...but not everything.
That is a lie because attraction is beyond physical ppl aren’t just attracted to how someone looks but it has to be something there no one gets with someone they aren’t attracted to unless they are using them for some type of resource
People in arranged marriages stay married because they live in a cultures that often kill women if they leave or simply are structured in a way where a woman can't survive (mostly financially) without a man
Physical attraction was very important to me at one time in my life, but then I matured. I need to know if you’re a believer or not, I need to get a glimpse of their character, I need to know their mindset/opinion on certain subjects. Physical is trivial to me. I must compliment Jonathan on his Godly wisdom the more I hear him express himself the more I admire him…so Jess, Father has blessed you well so give Him all the glory and all the praise for your covering ❤
Yes I'm thankful for my husband every single day. He's amazing!
Physical attraction is important based on a previous experience I just had. I dated a guy for 6 months & he was super nice but for me I was questioning the whole relationship bc I didnt feel an attraction to him on that level and I gave it time hoping it would grow and it didn’t so I let the relationship go bc I didn’t wanna settle or hurt him in the long run dragging out the relationship. He wasn’t a ugly guy and he was nice like I mentioned but it was just something that didn’t make me wanna “jump on him” lol it’s not the MOST important thing but it definitely is important you have to have some kinda of attraction to ur partner.
Yes 100 percent! People keep saying the inside is more important which I agree whole heartedly but that’s not the point here lol I don’t think it has to be an either/or thing like it’s okay to desire both the inside and outside. We Pray you find what you’re looking for 🩷🩷
@@OnlyOneJess yesssss I desire both the inside and outside it’s a combination lol but thank you 🙏🏽🩷
My biggest preference is I don't like men with a "beer belly" I made that clear, it wouldn't mean I want a divorce if he overtime got one, but since he knows I really don't like it, he eats well to keep it off. Likewise he prefers me being at the weight I am currently at, he met me smaller, but he has a cap on what he would be attracted to in terms of my weight. So I work on maintaining this weight for him too.
It is okay to have a preference, what is not okay is if the physical changes are outside of your spouses control and we want a divorce over it.
I love the haircut he got for our wedding day, and occasionally he will get it again to surprise me and I absolutely love that, but it doesn't mean I love him any less if he is completely bald :).
I love this and I think it’s very realistic! 🤍🤍
idk how EYE feel about this personally but if it works for you and yours, then so be it
@@TWForeeever :) oh yes, our 12th anniversary ID right around the corner.
@@TWForeeever :) oh yes, our 12th anniversary ID right around the corner.
This is a whole issue I was just talking to a friend about yesterday. I've been married 10 years now, I'm 31 and I never prioritized physical or sexual attraction in our relationship. Not to say my husband is unattractive, but he's not the person that makes me wanna drop my draws when I see him or feel any special way about based on his looks or sex appeal. I married him because he was dependable and trustworthy, a man of God and was always there for me. But lack of sex appeal, going 8 months or more at a time with no sex at all because I'm dodging him the whole time even though I desperately want sex is a whole issue that I can't understand how to remedy. I've prayed about it for years. It's honestly extremely depressing because I feel like it's my fault for not prioritizing that when I was considering who to marry and now I feel stuck. I wanna do the right thing and stay married, but the desire for sex with someone I'm actually attracted to is very strong. Definitely not something discussed in church or from a Christian perspective so this is thought provoking for sure.
I'd love to talk about this more on part 2 of this topic! I agree it's not discussed a lot and from some of the comments i can see that people are missing the point a little bit saying tis not important what's important is what's on the inside which i completely agree the inside is important but that doesn't make the outside not important even at all. So i just want to be realistic about the topic. Thank you for your transparency!
Yeah I saw the comments too. Many are misunderstanding, but the ones who have issues from it will know and it's good conversation for those seeking marriage so later down the line they aren't reconsidering because no priority was given to physical/sexual attraction at the beginning. You're welcome girl and thanks for addressing it from this angle
@@Jaemonae210 🩷🩷🩷
@@Jaemonae210give him an amicable divorce
I loved this video so much! Thank you both. I loved Jonathan giving his point of view on Jesus loves us no matter what. Jess, I love how you mentioned that Jonathan loves you consistently. That matters a great deal!! I love that for yall.
Thank youuu! 🤍🤍
I have officially add your channel on my list of things to watch while God works on restoring my marriage. I learn so much from you guys. Love your channel! Many many many more blessing you guys! ❤❤❤
I love how natural this podcast has come together! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I think physical attraction is important. I think you shouldn’t be picky and want only one type of person though. My husband isn’t dark chocolate & 6’3 BUT HES FIOONNEEE! 😍 Men are visuals so I also think it’s important to want to look good for your spouse.
I just saw a tik tok that showed how women look during different parts of their cycle and when your ovulating you appear prettier. So that may be part of when he finds you “more attractive”. ( I know he gave other reasons I just wanted to mention the physical)
I agree with this during ovulation I’m definitely glowing but when my period hits I feel like a gargoyle.
I used to feel bad and think that I was shallow for saying that I also have to be attracted to somebody in order for me to consider dating them but I finally realized that that is also important. One of my love languages is physical touch and I am going to want to touch my man and desire him as well. He does not have to be the most beautiful gorgeous man walking around on God's Earth LOL, but I want to be able to say to myself upon first seeing him that he is handsome. So I am not ashamed of saying that looks do matter to an extent.😅
I hear you sis lol
Yes men are definitely allowed to have opinions. My husband doesn’t like when I wear high waist jeans, I still like them tho lol.
Podcasts are cool but the body language between you two is everything! The hilarious subtle facial expressions (yes, I catch them all because I’ve studied nonverbal communication lol), the little affectionate touches, and everything just adds to the vibe of the content! And I agree with Jonathan, definitely repost these to the new channel to reach new viewers.
Ah thank you!!! 🥹🤍🤍
Hey Team Wallace!!!
hey heyyy
Ummm if yo hubby doesn’t compliment a beautiful Nubian Queen like you Jess??? Bro 😎 u mad cuz she gets more attention than you!!! Don’t defend him gurl 😊 we know y’all in love
A suggestion, I don’t like that when Jonathan shows his silly side he says, “take that out.” Like we know Jess is funny and she makes Jonathan laugh but we love to see him make her laugh and then make us laugh. I feel like it gives the podcast personality. We don’t want to sit and watch people be super serious for 30+ mins then it’s like watching a sermon lol. We want to laugh and then be like wowww that was so insightful 🤔 lol. So show your personalities that is what will make your podcast stand out from the hundreds of others. Also we are eating it up when you do, at least I am 🤷🏾♀️😅 love you guys! 🫶🏾
fr I love when godly content has personality & a great amount of humor!! it just makes everything better lol I be eating up too 😂
That is so superficial physical appearance.i think dating a person with moral values and that loves YAHUSHA. Me personally, i finds that very attractive in a man even if he is unattractive i loves YAHUAH and his SON YAHUSHA so i would want to date someone that loves him even more than me. that to me is Super attractive in my opinion about a man.
I think expectations shouldn’t carry such a negative connotation all the time. An expectation means a standard, a consistency, an ability to depend on someone’s actions, which could be in a good way! It’s not wrong to expect a compliment or acknowledgment on a new look when you’ve clearly stated how important those compliments are to you. Jmt 🤷🏽♀️
I feel this!
Right. Love language, you know.
I appreciate and love the authenticity of your vlogs because you guys are asking each other questions that you can do on your own for personal growth but sharing it with us. The fact that it's not scripted and raw. Greatly appreciate ❤❤
Physical attraction is important to me that’s why I gave my husband a chance and got to know him was bc first it was oh he fine then it was ok your fine but are you ugly in the inside or are you even more beautiful in the inside then the outside. Plus we all gotta be real you gotta be attracted to someone to be able to do the grown folk business when your married ofc😂 but y’all know what I mean.
Jess you and Johnathan thank you for this video. I am single but I have hope in having a kingdom marriage after watching you guys. Thanks again! Please do a video on overcoming trials.
After being married 23 years I know for sure that standards are way more important than physical appearance. How he treats you takes care of business and most of all God’s placement in his life is top priority. And they better get off Jonathan. Stevie Wonder can see how much he loves you 🤷🏽♀️.
🗣WE👏🏾 LOVE👏🏾 YALL👏🏾 SOOO👏🏾 MUCH👏🏾!!! Love the transparency. Love how the word ALWAYS comes up. Love your & Passa Jonathan's insight and wisdom. Love the balance you both bring. Yall about to blow "dear future wifey" out the water😆🥰👏🏾🙌🏾🫶🏾
Ahhhh such a huge compliment thank you!! 🤍🤍🤍
I think when your husband likes your natural look is amazing I love how my husband finds me beautiful whether I’m fixed up or not and when I’m sweaty omg he loves me. But most men don’t like it when their wives wear too much makeup. So that’s a good thing he finds you more beautiful when you’re natural
A dating and relationship podcast? Haven't seen that before...
I got got too with the speaking about Jesus. Didn't even see it coming. 😂
😂😂😂 more men should read their Bible it’s definitely a magnet lol
These podcast just get better and better! So down to earth and relatable! And let’s not mention the knowledge and wise council yal be breaking off!
🎉I have a topic request based on your preachers kids podcast, expectations of not partaking in so called worldly things when one considers themselves a child of the King! Thank you both so much!!!
Lol Jonathan is soooo honest 😅 reminds me of my babe 🤣 like you literally can't fault them for their honesty but at the same time its like please like what i like agree with me 😂but you also appreciate that rawness but you'll never have to guess if they truly mean something or not
Blind reaction to the title: it matters. It’s not everything or the biggest thing but it’s definitely something.
Even without listening to the whole podcast , you summed it up for me lol 🤍🤍 (I mean this is a nice way lol)
Dang I just wanted to be apart of the first few comments for once! 😁 Jess I love your spirit! I emailed you! Hope to hear from you 💞
Definitely can't be mad at a dude who's ugly loland i do think personality and style adds to the appeal. I dated an ugly dude but initally i turned him down because i didnt find him attractive. But we worked together and i got to know him and he was cool af, hilarious, witty and could dress😂 he was also a gentleman, employed and had a good head on his shoulders and similar interests. Once all that kicked in i didnt care anymore my poom poom swelled up for him 😂 But now that we're not together, he's back to being ugly to me 😂 and my husband way finer. At the end of the day i ended up with more of what i preferred along with him checking all the other aforementioned boxes. 🤷🏾♀️💪🏾
There is a movie called, the Enchanted Cottage that I love. A disabled war veteran and a plain, funny looking woman visit an elderly woman at her house. Whenever those two were at that house, he became handsome, she became glamorous. Come to find out, the love that was growing between them made them both beautiful.
I love your response Jonathan: do it for you! Know it’s not for me! Loving her natural look❤❤
I was already feeling really sleepy, then I saw Jess' post
Now I'm torn between sleeping or continuing the podcast, cos I've already started 😂
I vote sleep and come back to us later lol we’ll still be here get your rest! 🤍🤍
This was me when the last podcast came out!! I chose to watch. Lol.😅
I once dated a guy I got along with really well but I was not physically attracted to him. I really tried but it was a no-go. I let him go after 8 months.
I don't wear makeup but in prepping for my wedding, I got my makeup done just to see how it would look. My fiance gave me a HARD no. He was not having it. 😂
Jonathan is SO wise for his age. I love to hear it!
Not the hard no 😭😂😂
I am now catching up on this podcast because work has got me really busy.
I was so happy when I read the caption because I have always wanted to know other people's thoughts on the matter; and I know you two would definitely have valuable contributions.
So, I was in a relationship with a guy who kept asking me to be his girlfriend. I had known him for a long time because we go to the same Church. However, I never found him attractive, I never thought of him in that way. He said that he liked me for years and wanted to approach me for a while and finally got the courage to do so. Still, I didn't like him. Moreover it was my final year at University and i didn't want any distractions.
He was persistent, so I thought about it, I recalled his actions towards me over the years and I realized he actually did like me. Yes, I did have a preference but I put that aside. I decided to give him a chance. He was very attracted to me, would tell me I looked nice even when I didn't feel so.
I realized he was a caring person and I liked him for that, and for being a Christian. Those were the two things I held on to. As time when by I realized he didn't comprehend things as much. It took him a while to understand general things, at first it was annoying but I decided that I would help him out with that.
Not only did he take a while to comprehend things, but his care and empathy stopped at asking, he never went on to being thoughtful.
To add, he would constantly ask me if I still liked him and what I liked about him. It felt like a fourth night report because of how often he would ask. That aggravated me because my answers were the same and I didn't understand why I had to keep answering those questions.
The thing that bothered me the most was him not respecting my boundaries and not being understanding as to why I had them in place. He was my first boyfriend and I am virgin who intends to remain pure until marriage (He knew this) Hugging for a long time, him trying to draw me to him and kisses did make me feel uncomfortable.
I recall times he would try to peck me on the cheek or neck excessively and I would tell him to stop but he never listened. I would have to repeatedly tell him to stop before he did. Whenever he did that I felt horrible, more so when i would have to repeat myself before he listened.
I told him about it and how it made me feel but he disregarded my feelings and kept insisting that I should think about giving him kisses. I expected him to have a different reaction, he was supposed to understand as a Christian, as a Church brother who attend the same Church as me. Instead, he kept saying that he can't help himself and he is really attracted to me. That made me wonder if he really loved me like he said or was it lust. I even asked him and he denied it being lust.
On special days like valantine he didn't get me anything, not even a rose. I felt little and low I felt like he acted that way because he wasn't getting certain privileges with me. I felt even worst when I'd see younger girls receiving lovely gifts and treats when all I got was a text saying 'I hope this valentine's day is filled with love and contentment, one ❤️"
I would think about all this and wonder. I would get even more disturbed when I remember that I am not even physically attracted to him. I really tried to like him for more than his care and concern. I would even spend hours online researching colours and clothes that would go well with his skin tone, and checked for pictures of guys who had looked similar to him.
He didn't care to take any suggestions or so, I wasn't trying to change him, I just wanted to help him up his game since he would wear all sorts of clothes that didn't go together or fit him well, and I like a guy who knows how to dress.
I would send him my playlist, give him recommendations for rain sounds to fall asleep to, help him with his assignments (Though he was older than me, he was in his third year at Uni while I was in my final year.) Send him morning devotions. I even asked him for us to be each other's accountability partner but he paid that no mind.
People would try to make me feel crazy for wanting to be physically attracted to the person I am with, especially Christians since our Pastor would always say 'looks don't matter' Whenever I tried talking to people close to me. I would just tell them about him not being able to comprehend things and me not being physically attracted to him.
I intentionally left out the part where he does not respect boundaries because the few people I told would say I am twenty three and that's normal stuff people do in a relationship. I have always wanted to not partake much in physical touch and intimacy during courtship, but to bond spiritually, intellectually; just to be best friends and leave the physical intimacy to marriage.
However, people think I am crazy. When I told people about the things that worried me with my past boyfriend they would ignore everything else and say I am making excuses because I don't find him attractive, I was even labelled carnal.
March of this year, he broke up with me. Said he thought long and hard about it and he came to that decision. God definitely laid that it my spirit, I feel it was going to happen. When it did, I wasn't shocked that it happened but I didn't know it would have been so quick from the time God had shown me it.
Fast forward to present time, he is trying to talk to me. Trying to be cool again. I don't know if I would want that. I am still not attracted to him physically. Nonetheless, sometimes I think if I choose to be with him I may not like him the way he may like me. I may even resent him in some way.
On the other hand, sometimes I think that he is the one because when I think about the guys out here, how they treat women, I am terrified. I am terrified of falling in love with a beautiful monster.
I still do hope and pray that that person will find me. The one who loves the Lord, the man that would treat me like Christ treats the Church, who would be kind, caring, honest, patient, ..... and good looking.
Thanks for being so honest and real. I would say it's never good to operate from a place of fear. Don't go back to that guy because you fear no one else is out there. There are so many red flags with this guy. I wouldn't go back. God let you be free from him. He doesn't seem like someone who genuinely liked or respected you. You deserve better, and to love and be loved by the person you are with
I am genuinely curious to what a woman would say if she was attracted to a man would they want a man to get to know them and give them a chance even if they aren't that much attracted to them ? Like if the roles were reversed would they want a man to date then and see if he likes you past your looks
Well for me I know 100 percent I do not want someone to talk to their boys and be like “I love her personality but honestly I’m not that attracted to her but ima give her a chance” but this is a good question though I could pose this to the rest of my lady viewers to see their response as well!
I don’t think it’s low self-esteem on his part, but it’s haterish 😭 I think he should still hype his wife when she’s dressed up but…to each their own
I heard “Purpose ova pleasure from Caleb Gordon and His wife 🔥🔥
Which is true pleasure will fade but if the main goal purpose is the glory of Christ … you good
This was so good!!! Y’all are so funny 😂!! But I loved this episode because that is a real thing! I love that you guys started a podcast together because you and Johnathan have so much wisdom and y’all include the Lord in everything. Much love to y’all 💗
Great podcast video... i would suggest to being part 2 on the new channel... Take the break now.
I agree about the attraction. My hubby is not who I though i would marry but we had chemiatry and we were so compatible in so many areas. As our friendship grew, i found myself more attracted to him but hid it. I needed to hear from God. My husband knew what he wanted and believe God for it and we coming up on 3 years this year and its like its unreal.
your natural hair is so cute! I guess as girls, we doll up for each other. I really like the makeup, natural hair and beautiful green gown.....very vibe!
Yes! Thank you! 🤍🤍
i'd love for this question to be directed at men for a change.
Hes such a mature 25 year old. Im 28 and wouldnt want anyone younger😂😂😂, but he gotta like a Jonathan✝️🙏🏾🥰
He’s 25???? 😱 wow. Wise beyond his years
Yesss come on PODCAST! Love it, can’t wait for more😌
I don’t believe/feel the being physically attracted to your significant other is important.
I’ve dated men who were considered attractive men, and always receiving female attention. That is great and all but I think how a person treats you and how they make you feel is what’s important when entering a relationship.
Speaking from experience. Overtime because of how that person made me feel and how they treated me allowed me to look past the physical and as time went on that person became more and more attractive to me because of how they were to me and not based on how others perceived him physically.
I agree that if the sight of the person is making you nauseous then yes run to the farthest sink and never return BUT looks are superficial and they fade and you shouldn’t reject or choose a mate based on how cute they are.
I totally agree with Johnathan, He said he fell in love with your natural beauty and when You do the makeup and stuff it’s for You, Well Said Johnathan❤❤❤❤You guys, just a old woman putting her two cents in lol
A good man will grow on you. Take care of yourself, watch as he does, too, and you will grow on each other.
Come on Jonathan for loving his wife like Christ loves the Church! Come on!!!👏🏾👏🏾
A part 2 may be necessary lol. I’m currently talking to someone and not only do I not have physical attraction, there are other things that are not attractive to me - over 30 and over 150,000 of financial debt. Having a masters degree that is not being used, living at home, family background. Idk it’s hard bc he is so supportive, caring, faithful and a strong godly man but everything else is Making it hard to see him as a potential husband.
Do you mind if we use this in our part 2? (Feel free to say no if you’re not comfortable no pressure) 🫶🏾
I'm facing that as well. The guy has everything that I want but he's not physically attracting to me.
“Looking like I just got out of jail!”😂 Jonathan knows you are a natural beauty. You don’t need any makeup but you are an influencer. In real life, you could get away with just a little lipstick and blush only if you wish. You are blessed with one influencer called, “Pretty Privilege” I call it “Natural Beauty “.
See, you understand me lol gotta spruce it up a bit more for this type of job 😭 not every time but yea, you get me lol
Awww. I’m glad this has turned into a podcast without the quotes “”.
The effort you two put in definitely doesn’t go unnoticed. Cheers to y’all ❤🎉
So much love for you two ❤
.YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO... This is the funniest pod y'all made.. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂 just wait for part two lol
Please don’t let anyone make you feel like you can’t say what you feel unless your wife feels uncomfortable about something.. but us? We will always have an opinion and that may or may not be in agreement with your opinions and that’s okay because we’re still gonna watch regardless lol and if people show disrespect with it, block them. You guys have full control. I love what you guys are doing and just want you both to speak straight from your hearts. Forget the comments (unless they’re disrespectfully expressed). Saying all this with love and support.
Thank you so much! and i agree!
My man is not a fan of my wigs either. He prefers my own hair or braids/twists.
I absolutely love this podcast & I'm so happy you two decided to share something like this with us. Can't wait for the name reveal!
Johnathan is so full of wisdom and maturity.
I don’t know why Jonathan went into PT. When he could’ve clearly been a psychologist.
He also took psychology in undergrad lol
I was taught that marriage is a flesh covenant which is why its consummated. Adam "saw" Eve's body and knew she was the one. without any advice or instructions, lol....Attraction seems to be almost everything from that perspective.....don't personally know though. Good video!
Jonathan has the BEST facial exptrssions!!! 😍
Thank you for this video. I absolutely needed it and it has opened my mind to new perspectives! ❤
I think attraction is important because it would be my duty to be intimate w/ my partner and I can’t if I’m not attracted
Ive been MIA i just had my baby(girl, surprise gender after 4 boys!)1 month ago yesterday i have soooo many videos to get caught up on ❤❤❤❤
I was LITERALLY praying asking God if he cared about physical attraction THE OTHER DAY .. b/c mannn… I’m in a dilemma. And I’m going back to my prayer book making sure I said something about how I want my husband to look (which isn’t a HUGE PART) but just wanna make sure cause dang :/.
Not the long middle part BUST DOWN 😂😭 I almost fainted girl LMAOOO! That took me out in the first 7 mins lol
I really wanted to engage and watch this - but just personal feedback. You talk wayyyyy to much about things that do not relate to your video title and it’s off putting. Clicked off
Yes, Part 2, please . Johnson has some really profound analysis. 👌. Love the podcast guys.❤
Guys always pray together don't leaves the house upset with one other or go to bed not talking .
I've been subscribed to you for sooo long (I've witnessed a couple big chops 🤣🤣) and this is the most I've watched your channel. These podcasts are like crack baby. And I'm not even a podcast type of girl
I know better not to date a guy that I'm not physically attracted to and he may be a nice guy but it doesn't mean he is the right one. Imagine marrying and having sex with someone you're not physically attracted to. If I see signs that I am not physically attracted to someone the 1st or 2nd date, then I am out! I don't want to waste any more of his time. He deserves to be with someone that is attracted to him. Also a guy may look perfect on paper but if he is too nice of a guy and doesn't have a backbone, I am immediately out as well because that would cause a lot of trouble in a relationship and I could see myself constantly having to tell him to stand up for himself and be a man. A man should already know how to be a man and just like a woman should know how to be a woman. A job or height is not a big deal for me just as long as he is stable and is not a pushover, then that is great. Don't get me wrong there are a lot of guys that are good-looking guys out there that are actually very smart and fun to have a conversation with. But some of them don't have anything to offer other than their looks, not the brightest Apple of the bunch which I am putting it lightly and that could be bad too. Just like it is bad for a woman to be nothing more than just a pretty face but has a rotten personality and not the brightest Apple of the bunch which I am putting it lightly as well. But there are some women who are not only beautiful on the inside and out but also very intelligent. The point is that there has to be a balance of both otherwise you guys are just wasting each other's time. I was in relationships with guys I was not attracted to because they were different from the other guys that I was attracted to that had a rotten personality and I would try to make it work but the more I tried the more frustrated and angry I got and usually it would end pretty badly for me. So I just stopped dating. If I find a guy that I have a balance with where I am both mentally and physically attracted to him then great but if not, I would rather stay single than to deal with that. It's sad that it has to be this way because I do want to settle and get married but not with a guy that I'm not attracted to both mentally and physically.
I was thinking that- your confidence can make you a 10- and you make me laugh.
The most fine guy who has no personality can go from a 10 to a 0
I feel as though women have so many more expectations and standards they require from men than men have for women. Some men are looking for more wife material qualities while women I think focus more on the physical aspect of men, like if he’s tall or has good teeth lol
Can we get a hint on the new name?? I’m thirstyyyy 😅
I totally get what you’re saying Jess about a man’s fresh cut cuz I’m the same way!!! I be looking like dang u look good… but when he looks rough and scruffy I tend to get a lil 😑lol…but I think physical attraction is important to maintain and I think a person should cater somewhat to their other person to what they like as well. If a ur man prefers less makeup then shit I’ll wear less… if anything that’s a compliment to me because as a woman, I know how totally different a woman can look with birthday makeup! Sometimes it’s like ur a different person. If I was a man, I wouldn’t like all that either because it’s not the real you. It’s no different to me than using a filter for photos. Think there needs to be a balance between what you want as a person and including your partner in some of that… I was mad when he cut off his goatee because I find that sexy… so it kinda altered the attraction slightly but I’m getting used to it. It doesn’t change my love for him but I was just in love with it. But for him… he wanted to cut it off.
Great guy but he’s Muslim and still to this day I’m trying to understand how’s he so persistent and consistent and we have this dilemma.
Hi I was like, Johnathan looking all GQ.
Right!!?? 😍😍
He’s just very…..compact.
Great episode. Question, what to do when you're feeling this man who has it all together, but every chance he get m, he ask sarcastically or could be playing, " is your ex okay if I take you on a date?" Not to mention, I've literally been single for 6 years and he's not what I usually go for. It was cool but he started giving insecure vibes and from what I observed, ghetto mess. After I address to him on multiple occasions to STOP bringing my ex up, he want to change the narrative. I had ended up cutting him off and now he keep blowing my phone up or whatever and I'm trying to be a change woman, but Chile my hood side want to check him and speak ungodly things. Honestly, he make me not want to date again. It's slim pickings in these streets.
1 minute into the video and i’m already cracking up🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hi Jess and Johnathan let me tell you this Jess men don’t like makeup they like us in are natural state always they just hate kissing us with the lipstick my husband was the same way!! He is not going to say he loves the makeup they love us when we look horrible that’s just facts…. Gurl they are a trip❤❤❤😂😂
Can’t wait for this podcast launch! Ya’ll already have a ride or die over here
Ah thank youuuu 🤍🤍🤍
Men do like us to be natural. They don't like, "tranformers."
LMAOOO y’all are freaking HILARIOUSSS the ten degree burns took me outtt😂😂