Xoli Mfeka & Philani Mthembu Define Intimacy | DEFINING Intimacy S1:E3

We put @XolisileMfeka and Philani Mthembu from @TheJooceza in the hot seat! They unpack intimacy, girlfriend allowance, sex work and MORE ! Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed the conversation. #DEFININGIntimacy #RoadTo200k
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@thee_Xoli_Mfeka
@nemoniksaid
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Producer: Dennis Ngango & Noma Plaatjie
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Directors: Bongani Baloyi & Dennis Ngango
Editor: Dennis Ngango
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[@DEFINING]

Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed Xoli & Philani on the channel🔥! What was your take-away from the episode ? 🤔

[@behlumatheezali]

What can we possibly take away from it.🤔

[@DEFINING]

@@behlumatheezali did you watch till the end?

[@Ms-lb7lb]

Can we have two conservative people in the next episode. Please and thank you!

[@DEFINING]

@@Ms-lb7lb Who would be your ideal guests 😄

[@behlumatheezali]

@@DEFINING ofcourse not!!
Judging by the comment below mine I did not miss anything.

[@NoloMamps]

For the kids: this take on intimacy is called sexual immorality.

[@Toki_M]

How can we pin this comment?🤔

[@thabomoyo2701]

I love you for this ....

[@TumiMokone]

Where is Defining headed vele😬 think it's slightly getting confusing because I personally (which can be unfair perhaps) hold this team to a certain regard - Dennis with his other channel, Bongani being married .. but at the same time - are they merely mirroring society and sometimes its just "relevant content " Eish ku tricky. But I guess thats were our agency comes in as viewers...we can totally skip some videos 🤷🏽‍♀️ or give the team constructive critique. That's my 2c's

[@chotachota3536]

Thankyou so much. The first thing is thought was, are they really describing intimacy?😢

[@nomfundomathebula528]

​@@TumiMokone📌

[@phumudzocharlestshinyani5721]

I really pray that you find Jesus Christ earlier, He is the only thing that matters..we have normalised sin forgetting that the wages of sin is death..Ask Jesus Christ to come onto your life and He will purify you .. John 3 v 16... Everything else will parish... Every eye will see Him, every knee will bring bow before Him and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is the Lord,for the glory of God..i pray for all of you to find Jesus before it's too late

[@kimandyamandakunene3262]

Is the only religion?

[@NandiphaMbaligontsi]

Jesus people though 🤒🤒🤒🤒😷😷, everywhere they be feeding us him. UQamatha uMvelinqambi, uMdali wezinto zonke nezinyanya zam are who I believe in 🤗🤗🤗. Love and peace to you though Mkrestu❤

[@savela_bethi_za]

Jesus is overrated yazi

[@TheunDaed-qb7ii]

Jesu

[@donaldmampuru9153]

You are high 😂

[@KayMahapa]

My boy Philani is at home with topic. I’ve never seen him this excited. Even at the birth of his son he wasn’t this excited 😭😭

[@bathob3625]

🤣🤣🤣

[@elnotickschit_chat9904]

Ye ke hit😂😂

[@DEFINING]

😭😭😭😭

[@nolusizodlalisa5573]

😂😂😂😂

[@qiniso_9ix467]

😂😂😂😭😭

[@forbezofficial]

Asking a porn star and a dude who learnt about sex through porn to define intimacy is crazy! This channel is wild'n😂

[@Kamoomonslay]

Honestly

[@omphemetsephemie5819]

Listen!

[@forbezofficial]

@@Kamoomonslay bruuh!

[@forbezofficial]

@@omphemetsephemie5819 to what? distorted perceptions?...you trippin

[@cityboycityboy7620]

It like asking a bank robber and someone in debt about financial freedom

[@monalisandlovu7390]

She looks so goooood in this comfort outfit and the natural skinnnnnn😍😍🔥

[@DEFINING]

💯💯

[@davislubekokashweka8475]

Too much the natural skin is so clean

[@johanneskhanyi7349]

Not natural

[@johannesmothiba9056]

Can u pls stop saying skin thats ASS..n big ASA

[@thobilemhlongo6456]

I can't believe porn is normalized nowadays.
Says a lot about about the times we're living in

[@jonasmaseko9194]

People who say such often have the most interesting browser history😁

[@thobilemhlongo6456]

@@jonasmaseko9194 You don't say

[@tshiamo009]

​@@jonasmaseko9194 don't say that I am guilty

[@ndwandwewasendwedwe7964]

Kuyefana ngoba abantu badlana strong kulezinsuku

[@cyberpunk5507]

People will never agree that porn is ruining their lives

[@nonjabulobaloyi3943]

Philani is so outspoken and he makes the conversation very fun. I really enjoyed this episode. 🥰

[@wewemhlaba7593]

Right?!Such a vibe😂❤

[@nonjabulobaloyi3943]

@@wewemhlaba7593 yessss! 😹❤️

[@DEFINING]

You wouldn't believe that this is the first time Philani & Xoli met 😅

[@pearlmbatha3673]

Toomuch chemistry laba

[@nonjabulobaloyi3943]

No ways! It's like they've known each other for some time

[@nonjabulobaloyi3943]

Wow! What a VIBE! 🔥❤️

[@CACTUS_Riico]

Philani saw her vidz...me too I would be this excited 😅😅

[@anastasimankesemokgobu1724]

Ohh wooow, really ? You would swear they knew each other before

[@luyandamthembu5678]

They have really good chemistry. You would swear they have known each other for years.

[@BenjaminMalatji247]

It's not chemistry, bayarhalelana nje. The dark side nje justified

[@BoipeloModise-gl2hf]

You don't what's the meaning of chemistry 😂

[@VivianKuvare11]

Philani's message to his younger self is everything ❤

[@ladyqngomane]

Literally ❤

[@zandilemfeka1530]

I love that he acknowledges those mistakes hhey.

[@lelethulukhozi9429]

This channel is facilitating open, non judgmental conversations about real life things and topics, that most people don’t talk about or acknowledge, and you some of y’all hate to see it. Loved how real this episode was, the conversation of sex is so important and I loved that we got to learn about it from different lenses and perspectives.

[@lindokuhlemadiba-tr2yo]

Shame...

[@jacksonmpala7870]

that thing called non judgmental is what is destroying planet earth

[@lokishvibes202]

Shame...

[@thatomanaka323]

💔

[@jacksonmpala7870]

prostitute and you come here talking about the so called non whatsoever

[@mbalib2694]

I love how she speaks, mean they both are good for this topic

[@kagisokodibona1127]

It's really boring me when We justify what is bad, evil and sinful🤷‍♂️we promote what is bad, evil and sinful 🤷‍♂️

[@theunknownone18]

This is what we call progress in the black communities, adopting every destructive notion out there in the West.

[@pitsimaema5434]

True

[@baneleTngcobo]

Amanyala I progress?

[@siviwengcwabe6005]

Philani is alwayyyss a vibe 🔥🔥🔥

[@Khumalic]

Didn’t know I needed to watch this. Enjoyed every bit of it.

[@ayakanyabixa9214]

This was by far the best duo in my opinion❤

[@ntombi-yensimbinarrates7297]

And just like that, DEFINING hits 200K. Congratulations. Here's to defining yourselves and our community more and more.

[@lesediradise9739]

Loved this episode..Xoli has a dope character 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾

[@cebompanza3860]

Best combo for such conversations 😂😂👏🏾🔥

[@siyabonganhlakaniphomatheb1039]

Wow... Seeing Xoli like this was pleasant. Goodness, she an attractive girl Nextdoor

[@nthobzamkhize2911]

I think I've found myself a new favorite channel on RUclips, y'alls chemistry is insane, big ups guys 🔥❤️

[@khulekaninyuswa721]

Isn't it different people every episode

[@lulufierce01]

Are they friends? The chemistry is insane 😍❤

[@Fiiloe2.0]

Giiirl they dont khow each other, they only meeting for the first time😊😊😊 So crazy

[@Toki_M]

So true!

[@pwettyplease]

I appreciate how open they are despite them meeting for the first time 🤞🏾

[@victoriamokwatlo345]

The golden shower part and Philani’s reaction 🤣🤣🤣

[@thandekam9065]

I love how excited he is...its like he's BEEN meaning to have this conversation but couldn't find the right candidate. DEFINING just said BINGO!!!!😂

[@nokwandahlongwane8286]

When Philani heard what a "Golden Shower" is. He will be scarred for life😂😂😂😂😂

[@KhanyiiDlaminii23]

"But igirlfriend allowance where I need to take out idebit order"😂I truly agree with him on the girlfriend allowance part...this was a great video and the chemistry between them was unmatched 😭😭😭we need part 2❣️

[@chadwyn1107]

I like philanis honesty,he wasn’t afraid to say it infront of xoli that he would tell his younger self not to watch porn..that time Xoli does porn

[@karabomkhulise6944]

What a wholesome interview ✨

[@tamiratmanamo2400]

Tbh what they’re busy talking about is interesting but there’s nothing related with true meaning of intimacy.. we can call it affection for sex 😂

[@lisa.k1969]

True

[@nh782]

She's so pretty!

[@mbalib2694]

She’s pretty 😍

[@itsMora02]

This generation is messed up! BIG TIME

[@andrewvitalis3682]

I tell you ,that's why today we have old men running governments coz this Generation is confused lost touch with reality 😢

[@andrewvitalis3682]

I tell you ,that's why today we have old men running governments coz this Generation is confused lost touch with reality 😢

[@abrahammacamo3763]

The truth

[@sbanimkhumane1303]

I am proud of u ntwana yam, God bless ur hustle.❤

[@Ma_Akho21]

One Of The Best Interviews Ever🔥🔥🔥😂

[@andrewngwenya2516]

This world is broken

[@thatomanaka323]

Jesus is coming bro don't u worry

[@zuzilemtembu2910]

My elder sister is Xoli Mthembu and her Husband is Philani Mfeka. Therefore my sis is now Xoli Mfeka🤭

[@smith_got_keys_1738]

Yo .. mind sharing ur instagram?

[@nkosazanahlatshwayo3948]

Xoli looks beautiful

[@phumlanindlovu5653]

Xolie is so hardcore Durbanite the accent and slang is on a 💯 😅✌🏾

[@starboy1380]

This was a dope ass interview. Thank you for you competency Philani 🔥

[@conceliamaila8995]

This lady is beautiful

[@Rocklee-db4xj]

Telling her you watch her adult content is wild

[@baratangmokwana2877]

😭😭

[@KagoRealEstate]

I can't be the only one thinking Xoli is beautiful and warm hearted.

[@user-ed3rm6eq4h]

Imisebenzi kaSathane.Abantu abanamahloni ngamanyala abo.Impela izikhathi zokugcina lapho amadoda okufanele abheke imizi yawo ebizwa ngama clients e sapota imisebenzi yokuncola.

[@lesediseemela9856]

Intimacy isn't only sexual. Kante what kind of dictionary are they reading from? But the conversation was thought provoking.

[@user-mf1un2mp7k]

I totally agree with both of them especially when Philani gives advise to his younger self, but with Xoli when she says she will tell her yonger self to stay away from boys yet she can make 100k a month 😮 wow. Or maybe she regrets the life she lives 🤔 i dont know

[@kefiloesebogodi8378]

Let them do more videos, they work well together. ... good vibes

[@021aartist.]

I love/loved this conversation. Real shit.

[@yawesambo]

This is the duo we never knew we needed😂

[@kamoganopule]

When she said “another form of intimacy is money. Give me money mna” 😂😂💯🙌

[@easydot3313]

😂you Xhosa neh?

[@cassandrayolanda4220]

The spark in Philani’s eyes mekhuluma ngaleTopic😂😂😂😂Priceless😂😂

[@ndekah1592]

Best episode thus far.

[@mukovhebaloyi1475]

first time seeing xoli do an interview sober minded

[@sandilemathebula5710]

Love their energy

[@misslisa_n]

Love the chemistry 💯

He saw her videos 😢😢😢😢bruh didn't lie

[@crosbymakhalimaiv931]

Xoli man, I look at this nigga and how excited he is. Wish i was the one asking questions kid u not!!

[@theunknownone18]

Ubudoda abusekho, ubuntombi abusekho, amahloni yinto engekho kanti whats going on with us, were pandering every kind of toxic behaviour out there?

[@siphelelemjwara]

First Question! What is intimacy. The guy says touch n i hv a type. I was bored immediately 😂😂😂

[@kwetsephetla3597]

Dude 😭

[@phumlatenacious]

This was fire🔥 🔥 Philani and Xoli should consider starting a podcast. Even the crew was blown

[@a_carefree_butterfly]

a podcast thats about porn and sex everyday? okay lol. 😌

[@Nkosikhonamasemola9100]

100percent behind ur back❤✌️😅😚

[@lokishvibes202]

Shame

[@XolisileMfeka]

Let’s Goooo 😂😂😂😂📌

[@DEFINING]

It was so much fun having you on the channel 🤩

[@bokanisenda7361]

Lot's of love ❤❤❤

[@bongekagumbu5027]

You’re beautiful Xoli and this was so much fun

[@boichokophiri7867]

Are you ready to shot content with dude?

[@innocenttatenda5826]

Ukuphi siyakufuna eh Durban 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@nqobilemphile7874]

Great combo, love it ❤️

[@Karabo_xo7]

She needs Jesus in her life✝️🚶🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

[@mpendulombhele5036]

Bro😢

[@NaledzaniTshifhesi-hm9fy]

😂

[@temaswatiasanda]

I really enjoyed this episode❤🙌🏾

[@tshepohope7948]

I like phelani's "younger self advise"

[@Chidzy.M]

"Shuthi umnandi wena"🤣🤣🤣🤣 yoh philani😭😭😭🤣

[@victoriamokwatlo345]

😂😂

[@joylinemudzingwa9801]

😂😂

[@chuenemasoga1935]

They're going to have it this two 😂

[@thembangubeni99]

What an episode 🔥

[@lowrideza]

I love da way xoli keeps it so 100

[@khonayentaba7203]

Oh my this is great am not even done yet

[@wewemhlaba7593]

Umbuzo umile Defining fam what are we doing for 200k subbies?

[@firemanr5]

YALLS COMBO IS THE ONE

[@user-wz7hb6ij6x]

Philani s message to his younger self is very important 😊

[@beast9052]

It's stupid to define intimacy with a prostitute...

[@RebaoneMaine]

True.

[@yonelamhlakaza7982]

I enjoyed the episode 🤌🏽🔥🔥

[@romztechtalk]

I missed out on so parts due to language, but the podcast was fun 😊

[@user-wo5nr2cq5u]

Golden-Shower😮Guys.. Joh🙌

[@innocenttatenda5826]

Xoli she's beautiful shame.....❤❤❤❤

[@qiniso_9ix467]

That "My Negur F U"😂😂😂🔥🔥 She a vibe🤍

[@BenjaminMalatji247]

Gents listen up! Ayikho indoda ezalelwe eBank. Don't be trapped into thinking you have a responsibility to give anybody money 😂😂. Stay away from that kind of manipulation n you'll be more happier - imali yakho yimali yakho

[@Pamela_MrsMike]

It's when Philani asked "so you pee on him....."😂He was sooo shoook.

[@gbishopmulaudzi8675]

Life is all about choices,don't judge 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@lexioko]

Defining is such a great channel. 💖

[@DEFINING]

❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

[@leratonthunya2603]

The fact he tells her I've seen ur videos ~wild~

[@wewemhlaba7593]

Okay this is about to be interesting😂

[@vuyeyaleticia6312]

Philani is shocked🤣

[@DEFINING]

completely 🤣🤣🤣

[@sinethembadeyi3595]

Philani is very correct with points he made on girlfriend allowance

[@mantshangasechina]

I really enjoyed watching this 😂😂

[@dansterasiphesona5306]

Xoli is so beautiful ,I just wish she didn’t do this with her life but I’m sure she has her reasons . I wish her all the best yazi she deserves it 😢❤

[@FionaJayy]

For real , I really wish she didn't destroy herself like this but I wish her all the best

[@sphesihlecomfort4985]

They both seem like they have chemistry, just on their first time

[@FlyDaddyCB]

For the first time here. Enjoyed.

[@mmangalisotreasure8958]

Philani is a super star. I did not notice this when we were in High School. Big Ups bro. Keep it pushing.

[@TheJooceza]

Thank you bro 🙏🏿

[@user-nc3sl5mn8p]

i do not know yet , but if this is the way out than yes. she is making money

[@socalledpodcast]

Awesome content🎉

[@aiunipics]

2 weeks is too much🔥🔥

[@kwenamathatho1]

..., she is tight!! I watch her content.♥️.

[@OnkeJim]

Thy definitely did it these 2

[@Bukeka33]

What episode 🎉