I think most women, like myself, can find a man sexy, good looking, but not feel attracted to that man or see themselves having intercourse with that man. Most women need to be connected to a man to be intimate with him, regardless of how he looks though... just thinking.. very good topic!! Thanks for having these conversations ❤
I love my husband but he was stylistically challenged when we met 😂 he's handsome af, funny, intelligent, educated, respectful and a gentleman. Really how he dressed was the only thing that kinda bothered me, and I remember I mentioned it once and he laughed and said he's never been stylish when it comes to casual clothes so he actually loves taking me along when he needs new clothes now. Mind you it's not labels it's just about quality and how you coordinate cuz he wasn't even doing that before lol. Hes done the same for me with something i wasn't the strongest at doing until he helped me. Your partner will have something you're less favorable of but if you're trying to improve a bunch of ish about them especially out the gate, that's absolutely red flag. 😂 I remember someone said Oh Ciara changed how Russell dressed she didn't love him for him but if clothes was all you had to worry about and their character is A1, chile be THANKFUL 😂 I KNOW I AM!
oh yea girl samee here, when jonathan and i were dating he would mainly wear shirts with cartoon characters or anime characters on it, i as like.. yeahhhh we'll work on that later LOL
@@OnlyOneJess girrrl!! 😭😭 my husband was wearing fitted hats and they made his ears pop out thr sides it wasnt flattering and then he had chucks I'd never seen before. They were unique in a bad way🤣 I was like babe throw those out neooww. You're too handsome to be dressing like you're tryna look unattractive on purpose😅
@@AdoseofAlana_ nah I’m cryinggggg 😂😂😂 I’m with you girl don’t worry lol but yea there’s definitely a difference between helping to elevate someone (especially if they’re willing and want the help) than changing someone. We were just tryna elevate 😂
I literally went through the exact same thing, changing the clothes is not changing the man. Your bringing the inside beauty outside, I tell my man I saw the king you were and I wanted you to see what I see. We should always bring the best out eachother even on a physical level
Sexual attraction is definitely important. Sex is an important part of marriage it helps connection between you and your partner spiritually…we were made to have sex… to reproduce… to connect…not being able to have joy in sex with your spouse is a huge issue
I think there are different aspects that play into attraction. Physical attraction is important, but if you're not stimulating me mentally & emotionally in addition..the sexual easily fades.
Attraction is definitely different from sexual attraction for women. My husband and I have been married for 4 years (we’re both 27) and we had a pretty rough patch about two years ago. I think my husband is very handsome and I am definitely attracted to him. But during that rough time, I had ZERO sexual attraction to him because of our relationship in general. So he could walk into the room and objectively I could say ‘yeah he looks good,’ but I was ready to jump him not jump his bones! 🤣🤣🤣
Loveddd this conversation. And For me and my house, attraction ABSOLUTELY matters and of course the other stuff too! But yes I WILL be attracted to my man in Jesus name! Lol and sexually attracted.. period!
Majority of the time attraction is what sparks the interest because you don’t know their personality. Someone can not be your type or not necessarily attractive to you but they aren’t ugly and as you get to know them attraction grows. But you can not be with someone who you find absolutely ugly so everyone saying attraction doesn’t matter is lying because those compliments you’re so sexy/beautiful/handsome would be hard for you to say knowing you’re lying to yourself. Can you get over it yes generations ago in arranged marriages they got over it but it’s not a great foundation of a relationship to tolerate the looks of your partner. Also questions about attraction in marriage are irrelevant because at that point the vow and bond outweighs that and beauty fades over time. Which I feel is why in the Bible it states to marry the beautiful woman of your youth and be intoxicated by her because you will hold on to that beauty and passion as you age with that person.
Here's my surface example of physical attraction vs sexual attraction...When you see someone who's cute/fine/praying up a storm/worshiping with an open heart/exemplifying good Godly character, etc., BUT thinking of them in a romantic way never crosses your mind. You admire what you see, but you don't want it.
I agree with Jess. There is definitely a difference between physical attraction and sexual attraction. E.g- Omari Hardwick...him as ghost in power could get it, seeing him as himself, his mannerisms, his personality, the way he talks etc...absolutely not sexually attracted to him. But it doesnt seem like that was the case in the scenario. It seemed like she just wasnt attracted to him at all and overlooked that because she prioritized his other qualities.
I'm with Jess on this one. Great dialog, by the way. The reason I believe you two are at different ends of the spectrum as it relates to sexual attraction is because women and men have two TOTALLY different mindsets when it comes to sex. We have sex w/our heart, and men have sex with their penis. If our heart isn't in it, neither is Ms. Kitty. This is why women could still be in a relationship, and be emotionally elsewhere.
Another thing is in marriage there are different seasons . At times there might be things like bills or our job stressing us out and our focus is on that or maybe there's some kind of sickness , family issue something and has our attention . My husband was sick when I met him and for the first year of our marriage we didn't not have sick and it's not that we didn't want to but it was better not to and now that things are better things are better lol but just saying. every relationship is different
My partner had some mash up hair when I met him, but his personality was crazy hot. Don't get me wrong, he's tall, dark-skinned, but I was'nt physically attracted to him at first, then we started dating, and he got a haircut, Jess!!!!! I was gone, weak at the knee, so yes, physical attraction brings a different level of passion to our relationship, that trust me he volunteer's now to get a haircut 😅😅😅😂
If I order the Big Mac meal I want the fries, big mac, and the drink. Everything is important I need the whole meal, a Godly man I'm attracted to, loves the Lord (Jesus Christ), and have something going for himself. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Now if you want the meal without the drink or fries be my guest.
loll i felt that. like some people just want the fries and thats okay but im not shallow if i would my burger and drink too. why do i have to choose lol
My question Is how do you even find out that stuff about that person If you don't first like what you see? Of course whats on the inside matters more, but if I don't first like SOMETHING about you, I'm not going to entertain finding out the deep stuff 😅🤷🏽♀️
@@OnlyOneJess But that can't be the only way lol my husband and I didnt run in similar circles. I first noticed how handsome my husband was then I got to know him and bam. We vibing lol
I agree looks so matter. Now they DO NOT matter more than a person character. The way a person dress, smell, hair all maters. My husband and I meet from a mutual friend. She and I went to church together. My husband and her went to school together. She should me a picture of him and I was like okay he is cute
@@MrsFlowbell oh yea nah I agree with you though like if you’re just seeing them only and don’t know anything about them then their looks are the only thing you have to go off of lol
I think there are different aspects that play into attraction. Physical attraction is important, but if you're not stimulating me mentally & emotionally in addition..the physical easily fades.
Jess, your personality is so big! I absolutely love it! I understood every stance presented in this conversation. As a very married (almost 10years) with kids - wife, I get the physical vs sexual attraction topic. They can be synonymous but can also be absent… ex: I can love all the things you do for me, your drive, your tenacity, the way you father.. but IF your “heat” doesn’t stimulate my jacuzzi then the sexual attraction is not there (for now). However, if that haircut; yes, something as simple as grooming, can make my water fall, I have both (physical & sexual) attractions to you! In my case, I’m very vocal - you will meet my needs! And I will show/talk you through it. My husband knows where I stand because I’m not afraid of the hard conversations and vice versa. We speak without ill intent and that works for us during times of self doubt or feelings of lack.
No sex in 8 months and your married is wild. Physical attraction can be different. In my opinion the lady who commented about this probably does not like having sex with her husband at all which is why she isn't sexually attracted to him. There's things that may turn her off and she needs to communicate that to him so they can work thru it. Or maybe she abstained and married to find he's a micro although that's a sensitive topic i can see ways to get around that as well if he's a great man otherwise. I agree counseling but mental and sexual counseling for this couple can bring them thru this.
When you meet someone you find sexy, getting a simple hello from them will send tingles to your lady bits. I understand and agree with Jess you can find someone attractive but not sexually attractive. That’s why guys and girls can be just friends.
Physical attraction is what draws you to the person(your attracted to the way they look). Once you get past their physical appearance and get to know the heart and mind of that person will determine whether or not you decide to want to be in a relationship with that person. There also should be compromise when it comes to decision on different interest.
I have to agree with you Jess, for me, physical attraction is very much important, not the most important but definitely needs to be there. It also helps with keeping temptation away (which is something a lot of people don’t think about)
Y’all funny with throwing them flags 😅… tell Johnathon good job on his responses… 👏… I think what you’re saying is that some people need help being sexy… or they need help bringing the sex out of the person… her husband has to be given ways to make himself more appealing sexually… that should fix the problem… tell sis 1. Hair cut.. 2. Nice outfit & shoes.. 3. Cologne… those are some ways he can become more appealing sexually… Blessings🎊
I do agree with Jess...There's a difference between being attractive and sexually attractive. That's why we have things that turn us on and off sexually . For example I can find Someone physically attractive but the way they talk can be unattractive to me and that has an impact on how I view that person sexually
Jess, I know you don't like us being Team Jonathon... sorry but we have to protect him. You have to take one for the team. Maybe it's the haircut or the sweaters and new style but it seems like he's matured 20 years since you got married...he went from cute twenty something with the long hair to this grown 45 year old lol. He's slowly morphing into Michael B. I see you Jess! Marriage has been good to both of you. You love to see it!
LOLLLLLL oh nah i love that you guys love him haha i knew it was only a matter of time before y'all saw what i saw. and yes he literally gets better everyday, he is truly my fine wine lol thank you
I think men look at things differently. I’ve met guys that were REALLY attractive. but they’re dumb😂. So I eventually found them unattractive, therefore they’re not sexually attractive to me. You’ve got to intrigue my mind first, then the body follows.
If someone claims that physical attraction is not necessary then why would some of those same people lust at attractive people men or women and try to hide it😢let me say something. After you get all that brains and good natured person in your life if you have no physical attraction someone will come along and break that for you. This is the main reason why people go out and cheat and don’t know why they did it. Why the second part of the attraction came in “the physical” I don’t care what anybody says there must be something that they like about that person….and they the only one who knows what it is..anything they should know
I am a "seasoned subscriber" and physical attractions does matter...LOL!! I can't see your personality across a room...thank goodness I have both ...God is Good....🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Physical attraction is definitely important to me. I have dated "unattractive" men before, and they ended-up being worse than the handsome men. Why is it okay for men to be attracted to women, but women are expected to be okay with frogs 🐸? The inside is important, but can he be a "looker" as well...YES he can ijs🤷🏾♀️
1. 18:34 the solution to that is if you met me in a way, 🍩 dare start asking me to change. 2. I could never date anyone that didn't make me tingle physically. Like I want to feel like a pervert of how much I want somebody y'know?.
This is probably the therapist in me but I’d want to know why my partner feels the way he does. So for the gels example, why does he not like when I wear hears that make me taller than him? Does that change how he sees himself as a man? Or the green hair example? Was he not able to express himself as a child or earlier relationships and this is a manifestation of that? Because at the end of the day, if I’m with that person I ultimately want to respect your wishes and desires and this would provide me with more understanding. It really boils down to communication so I think it’s less about who gives in but how can we come to an understanding.
I 100% understand what Jess means. I just call it “the vibes” and some people call it the “sparks”. Just because someone is attractive or conventionally good looking, sexual chemistry will not be grantees.
I just feel like as her spouse it would be hurtful to hear that it’s going to take more for me to have sex with you. It sounds like taking vitamins. They are nasty and to swallow them sucks but the benefit of it is great. Who wants to be with someone like that. But unfortunately she is married and you can’t divorce because of physical attraction. Like if my husband said that I’d be devastated. I think my husband is fine fr and there are times when I’m not in the mood but I can’t imagine not being sexually attracted, and never in the mood. That really is sad and I think the church does need to stop saying just focus on the inside (or the outside isn’t important). It’s so important that you love what you see. Apples to oranges conversation but we don’t buy cars or invest in 30 year mortgages if the house is absolutely terrible (unless you’re a real estate agent who does house flips) we look for something we like at least a little.
For me. If I'm not attracted to the person I won't even entertain it, But if I'm attracted to the person but we don't have the same values, faith(must be a Christian) it's also a no, the person gotta have both. Attraction it what makes me interested, but the personality character faith is what makes the relationship progress and possibly leads to marriage. That's me, tho can't speak for everyone. However I've heard you may not be attracted to a person at first but when you know the person you can become, but i just stop from the beginning 😬 maybe that's why im still single.😂 🙆🏾♀️Jesus, take the wheel
😂😂 nah I feel you, but that has happened to me before I dated someone I wasn’t initially attracted even though they were cute he just wasn’t my type but the personality won me over.. then he broke up with me and I was like now see… 😭😂
@OnlyOneJess lolll. It's hard out there. A lot of the guys I meet are cute, but as a person, it's totally crappy even those that are so called Christian, don't get me started on those front the Christian dating app 🙄. Anyways I'm going to keep trusting God and wait hopefully soon🙏
As happy as I am that you two are giving of yourselves this way. I am nervous because divisive people are already coming for ya'll already. Please give them the least attention; they will eventually flee so you can build the healthy community you intend to. Love ya'll
ugh i know i see it too! Jonathan said last night he will cancel the whole thing cuz he not about to be reading those especially the ones that are comparing me and him lol but i have to do better at ignoring them, i just always feel like i have to explain myself because I hate being misunderstood lol but thank you!!!
They can say what they want, but a Godly man, self confident, make me feel safe, laugh is important and much more without writing a ten page letter. I can say I do want a man who is easy on the eye. If you have never read Song of Solomon you missed how King Solomon describes the woman so that would give you an idea of how important physical appearance matters. It’s not being vain, but being confident to say I want a man who looks goods sorry.
I repeat. There is always something there. Even if he/she isn't drop dead gorgeous, there is something there! May I suggest what can help the attraction issue with your spouse? Start working out, I mean, gym rat working out together. Even if you both work out separately in the same gym. Peep your spouse bustin' out some bench presses or squats while you're doing your thing. Practice dancing....especially salsa!!! Watch things happen!!
I'm making comments as I'm watching 😂 so yeah I think sexual attraction vs attraction aren't the same. It's like how women can look at each other and find each other sexy but are also heterosexual and don't wanna have sex with each other lol. Idc how beautiful I find a woman to be, I don't wanna do to her what I wanna do with a man 😂
I think this can be compared to the equation that you can truly love someone but also not be IN love with them. So much ppl has a hard time understanding that
1) Character over initial physical attraction............baseline, you should like your person physically. They do not have to be the "ideal" image you've had in your mind for that to be so. I agree with Jonathan too, it's part of the whole thing but not a major thing in and of itself. 2) I think we need to also make sure that our minds are renewed from what the world deems attractive. Best believe the image of what is physically attractive in our minds is what we've seen. Based on what "society" has made us believe of that image over time, we've formed a liking to it. Can easily be reprogrammed. 3) Sexual attraction definitely belongs in marriage and when I think about it most women are largely emotionally and mentally stimulated. Physical attraction does help but in terms of priorities, I think a woman will choose a man who loves and treats her right even if he doesn't meet her ideal spec. 4)When you're married you are locked in. This is your sexual attraction not by feelings but by choice for the rest of your life no matter what.
I find that I’m more attracted to my husband when his hair is cut & I think it’s obvious why but I do I become a little more affectionate toward him so being physically attractive definitely does matter. Also I’m glad you guys brought up the height difference..I’m 5’4 & my hub is about an inch or 2 taller but I feel some way about that so I opt out of wearing heels most times 🤷🏽♀️
I think these conversations should be discussed while you're dating, what things are non-negotiables this way you know if you want to continue the relationship.
Oh and yes getting away from home helps. Not having to worry about cleaning up all you gotta do it get up get dressed go have fun have sex and repeat. It's amazing 😂 stress really wreaks havoc on my sex drive so the more my husband and I get away go do fun things, take trips, etc., and I don't have to worry about my stressful job as a GM, the more we get busy😂
@@OnlyOneJess yep! We've agreed next yr were going to up the anty with the long weekends and more trips now that we're in a better position financially.
This is why I have to WATCH these videos and not listen like a podcast because I am in tearssss laughing at the replay of Jonathan looking at your hair 😂😂 I can tell he definitely looked at your hair cuz he doesn’t prefer the wigs and loves your natural hair. Yall body language is so funny to me 😂
Jonathan was on point with his answer, especially when he broke it down. All Godly men and women should have this perspective and mindset before they get married. It will save a lot of marriages. Feelings will DECEIVE you. Great podcast guys!🙏🏾
What the man commented about females being more into physical attraction I kind of get it because vocally only females really are out here saying I want a man 6 foot a lot of money dark skin muscular etc. men don’t usually vocalize having a list of she has to be so and so tall, long hair, etc. men are more into sexual attraction but if you look at all the women a man has dated they usually all look very different. But women are more willing to sacrifice their physical qualities in a partner like if he doesn’t check all boxes but is funny or romantic they are willing to date outside of their list. But if a man is not attracted initially to a woman usually he will not continue to pursue her just because she is nice or funny
I get what Jonathan is saying, you can objectively think someone is good looking/ handsome but not be attracted to them - thats a different thing. However when there is already an attraction its already partially sexual , but I guess sometimes it can increase or decrease based off different things like what the person does, the moods etc
Jessica! Excellent point about going on a vacation! My husband and I have been married 15+ years and are having serious problems. Our family blessed us with a Staycation and it really helped us to talk about some of our issues! Great point!! Jonathan! You are wise beyond your years! THANK YOU BOTH! LOVE YOU!!
I have a scenario - I was connected with this guy, on paper my type, his personality was great, he was ambitious, kind.. really great except, he was on the heavier side, and I just couldn’t get past it. I spoke to my parents, older women from my church and they all agreed that if I didn’t think I could get past it, end things early and don’t drag it on. He deserved someone who like him completely. I don’t regret that decision.
I think Jess is right, well you both are. Men are visual, so I can see them being one in the same for men, as Jonathan said but for women......because we need more to be sexually enticed, in most cases, they are separate for us.
Also i want to say if being attracted to someone doesn't mean physically and sexually. As a Christian who are not to have premarital sex how we gonna know whether or not you're sexually attracted to the person. Because again im a Christian so I'm talking from that prospective 8 months without sex it its crazy i didn’t there was such things (as an unmarried person ) because the bibles says not to deprived each other from sex except for a short period of time like fasting because that's when the devils come and mess everything up. In my opinion( not an expert) i think there is more to it than attraction with the lady you're talking abt. Maybe it's rape, abused, infidelity, mental issues, sickness, something deeper. Because to me i don't understand how you attracted to someone physically and not sexually. I pray that person find help asap before it gets worse.
Honestly why can’t you have both. I found a persons character and heart more attractive but I need to be attracted to that person physically. Because If it was the other way round I’d hate for my partner to not find me attractive that would shatter me like why don’t you go find someone you find physically
Physical attraction and sexual attraction are very different things. I have been thinking about how important sexual attractiveness should be. I do think that there must be balance.
Alright alright make this simple. I AM NOT MARRYING anyone who I am not physically, emotional and spiritual attracted to . Why should I have to eliminate one of them I feel like that settling for less tbh god isn’t going make me settle for anything less drop mic lool
He has to has something to get me through the front door. But if he make me laugh. OMG! That’s it for me. I love the Caesar haircuts too. It’s clean cut and makes a man love so handsome.
I like this topic. As someone that had two children back to back, I was blessed to have my libido come immediately back. I’ve known many mothers that struggled with getting their libido back and it caused tension, affairs, and divorce. Where does one go when it’s taboo to say “i want to respect my partner as someone who went through childbirth BUT I am also an equal partner with needs?”
I have heard about that too im praying that doesnt happen to me i have no idea how to navigate that. i did hear a woman on her podcast saying while she was pregnant she had no desire to have sex but since she loves her husband she did it anyway.. i havent experienced those things yet so i don't have a say lol
Giving birth is stress to the body and stress effects hormones, everyone has different stress limits and have had different experiences growing up, stress accumulates
Jess is right about the distinction. I can find someone attractive but not find them sexually attractive. That’s been very few and far between. For example, Liam Hemsworth is attractive, but I’m not attracted to him. Idris is attractive AND I’m attracted to him.
Being attracted to someone is far deeper than the eye ball. It's how you feel. When you have feelings they look good to you. Example I don't have feelings for your husband so to me weather he has a hair cut or not, he just looks the same and he does not look good to ME. Another example I was dating this guy about 23yrs ago. I would talk to my sister about hus s€x being great. When we broke up I laughed and joked about his size and the fact that he just lay on top and pump his butt😂😂😂😂 in reality it was awful, but while I loved him it was good. It's really about how you feel about them
Jess I totally understand what you were saying lol because as someone who is waiting until marriage I find that when I dated in the past I would sometimes think the other person is physically attractive but did not see them in a manner that was sexually attractive. Which had nothing to do with lust… And honestly that’s how the mindset of you need to “test it “ before is normalized, but that’s a whole other convo….
I agree with Jess. There's many people that I'm very attracted to that I'm not sexually attracted to. I think maybe it's more of a woman thing than men. Maybe men's baseline for attraction in general is sexual attraction. If they're not sexually attractive then maybe they're not attracted in general.
This has been a great conversation! I have been married to my husband for 14 years but we were together for 23 prior to the marriage. last year was a hard one. We found out he had prostrate cancer. It was a life and death situation and things have not been the same, but I am so grateful that the Lord stepped into our situation and He is doing a new thing in us.
Physical attraction is very important to me, it’s the first thing that I see, the first impression, and sex is very important in a mariage so I need to be attracted to my partner. And that doesn’t mean that I will lower down my standards just because somebody is pleasant to my eyes but I need both which is totally possible in my eyes.
Whew no sex in 8 months is very delicate. I feel like although sexual attraction/physical intimacy isn't of utmost importance, it is somewhere in the realm of a healthy relationship category. Like that would at some point cause other issues with self-esteem and confidence within yourself. My question would be does the husband feel the same way and if so what dynamic of the marriage has changed to cause the drough.
mmm yes definitely. I don't want to speak on it too much because im sure there are plenty of things i dont know/understand but its definitely a tough situation and I hope they can work it out
Hey Jess and Johnathan, I love what yall are doing . Johnathan gave a lot of good perspectives from a man’s stand point. The subscriber should also take in consideration that her husband have needs as well. 8 months is a long time. He may cheat and that will open up another can of worms. Can’t wait to the podcast launch🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Jonathan is in my opinion is speaking as a man of GOD! I believe he is correct in that sexual attraction is part of the whole attractiveness! And, worldly fantasies is what many may consider sexual attraction. Also, Jonathan’s statement about considering sexual attraction after marriage is true in reference to the scripture. As man and wife both have to be there for each other physically and sexually through prayer!
Hi there 😊 love your podcast; although while I certainly understand Jess you don't want Jonathan's shoe on the couch, I have to say that your reaction was a bit extreme .... it was as if you were scolding a child rather than your husband - perhaps that was a conversation best had off camera; Jonathan, I loved how you handled it though; nonetheless you're a beautiful couple and I certainly enjoy your content God Bless!
thank you and im glad you love the pod! Jonathan is fine lol he knows when im being light hearted and when im being so serious. i mean this in the MOST lighthearted way that he doesnt need or want anyone to come to his defense when it comes to me lol this is just how we are, no harm was done here i promise lol
You met your partner as they were. I don’t think we should try and change each other because that person then loses themselves . All that stuff is superficial
“Why you looking at my lace” 😂😂
It’s not that physical attraction isn’t important. It’s initial. It’s what gets you in the front door.
I think most women, like myself, can find a man sexy, good looking, but not feel attracted to that man or see themselves having intercourse with that man. Most women need to be connected to a man to be intimate with him, regardless of how he looks though... just thinking.. very good topic!! Thanks for having these conversations ❤
yessss, totally agree!
Not really a connection because someone men I want on SIGHT
I love my husband but he was stylistically challenged when we met 😂 he's handsome af, funny, intelligent, educated, respectful and a gentleman. Really how he dressed was the only thing that kinda bothered me, and I remember I mentioned it once and he laughed and said he's never been stylish when it comes to casual clothes so he actually loves taking me along when he needs new clothes now. Mind you it's not labels it's just about quality and how you coordinate cuz he wasn't even doing that before lol. Hes done the same for me with something i wasn't the strongest at doing until he helped me. Your partner will have something you're less favorable of but if you're trying to improve a bunch of ish about them especially out the gate, that's absolutely red flag. 😂 I remember someone said Oh Ciara changed how Russell dressed she didn't love him for him but if clothes was all you had to worry about and their character is A1, chile be THANKFUL 😂 I KNOW I AM!
oh yea girl samee here, when jonathan and i were dating he would mainly wear shirts with cartoon characters or anime characters on it, i as like.. yeahhhh we'll work on that later LOL
@@OnlyOneJess girrrl!! 😭😭 my husband was wearing fitted hats and they made his ears pop out thr sides it wasnt flattering and then he had chucks I'd never seen before. They were unique in a bad way🤣 I was like babe throw those out neooww. You're too handsome to be dressing like you're tryna look unattractive on purpose😅
@@AdoseofAlana_ nah I’m cryinggggg 😂😂😂 I’m with you girl don’t worry lol but yea there’s definitely a difference between helping to elevate someone (especially if they’re willing and want the help) than changing someone. We were just tryna elevate 😂
@@OnlyOneJess period sis! We're visionaries like Kyle said about him and Regine on living single 🤣🤣 #iykyk
I literally went through the exact same thing, changing the clothes is not changing the man. Your bringing the inside beauty outside, I tell my man I saw the king you were and I wanted you to see what I see. We should always bring the best out eachother even on a physical level
Sexual attraction is definitely important. Sex is an important part of marriage it helps connection between you and your partner spiritually…we were made to have sex… to reproduce… to connect…not being able to have joy in sex with your spouse is a huge issue
I think there are different aspects that play into attraction. Physical attraction is important, but if you're not stimulating me mentally & emotionally in addition..the sexual easily fades.
Amen sis plz continue to spread facts 🙏 🙌
Amen
Attraction is definitely different from sexual attraction for women. My husband and I have been married for 4 years (we’re both 27) and we had a pretty rough patch about two years ago. I think my husband is very handsome and I am definitely attracted to him. But during that rough time, I had ZERO sexual attraction to him because of our relationship in general. So he could walk into the room and objectively I could say ‘yeah he looks good,’ but I was ready to jump him not jump his bones! 🤣🤣🤣
LOLLL i feel that last sentence so much, thats marriage for ya haha
Sex appeal is verrrryyy different from physically attractive. You can be cute and not have the swag to get me going.
exactlyyyy. The girls that get it, get it lol
Loveddd this conversation. And For me and my house, attraction ABSOLUTELY matters and of course the other stuff too! But yes I WILL be attracted to my man in Jesus name! Lol and sexually attracted.. period!
that parttt lol
Majority of the time attraction is what sparks the interest because you don’t know their personality. Someone can not be your type or not necessarily attractive to you but they aren’t ugly and as you get to know them attraction grows. But you can not be with someone who you find absolutely ugly so everyone saying attraction doesn’t matter is lying because those compliments you’re so sexy/beautiful/handsome would be hard for you to say knowing you’re lying to yourself. Can you get over it yes generations ago in arranged marriages they got over it but it’s not a great foundation of a relationship to tolerate the looks of your partner. Also questions about attraction in marriage are irrelevant because at that point the vow and bond outweighs that and beauty fades over time. Which I feel is why in the Bible it states to marry the beautiful woman of your youth and be intoxicated by her because you will hold on to that beauty and passion as you age with that person.
Here's my surface example of physical attraction vs sexual attraction...When you see someone who's cute/fine/praying up a storm/worshiping with an open heart/exemplifying good Godly character, etc., BUT thinking of them in a romantic way never crosses your mind. You admire what you see, but you don't want it.
I agree with Jess. There is definitely a difference between physical attraction and sexual attraction. E.g- Omari Hardwick...him as ghost in power could get it, seeing him as himself, his mannerisms, his personality, the way he talks etc...absolutely not sexually attracted to him. But it doesnt seem like that was the case in the scenario. It seemed like she just wasnt attracted to him at all and overlooked that because she prioritized his other qualities.
wait im sorry your example is so funny because i get it lol i saw him speak at a conference once and i was like.. yeaaaa no! LOL
@OnlyOneJess I was like...not me being physically attracted to the drug dealing murderer and disappointed by the real person lol
@@karresses4376 😂😂😂😂 we’re still growing lol
I'm with Jess on this one. Great dialog, by the way. The reason I believe you two are at different ends of the spectrum as it relates to sexual attraction is because women and men have two TOTALLY different mindsets when it comes to sex. We have sex w/our heart, and men have sex with their penis. If our heart isn't in it, neither is Ms. Kitty. This is why women could still be in a relationship, and be emotionally elsewhere.
Another thing is in marriage there are different seasons . At times there might be things like bills or our job stressing us out and our focus is on that or maybe there's some kind of sickness , family issue something and has our attention . My husband was sick when I met him and for the first year of our marriage we didn't not have sick and it's not that we didn't want to but it was better not to and now that things are better things are better lol but just saying. every relationship is different
Lol!! The lace front debacle complete with a replay 😂😂😂 Ya’ll are hilarious 😂
My partner had some mash up hair when I met him, but his personality was crazy hot. Don't get me wrong, he's tall, dark-skinned, but I was'nt physically attracted to him at first, then we started dating, and he got a haircut, Jess!!!!! I was gone, weak at the knee, so yes, physical attraction brings a different level of passion to our relationship, that trust me he volunteer's now to get a haircut 😅😅😅😂
im tryna tell yall that haircut gon do it EVERYYYYY TIME lolll
If I order the Big Mac meal I want the fries, big mac, and the drink. Everything is important I need the whole meal, a Godly man I'm attracted to, loves the Lord (Jesus Christ), and have something going for himself. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Now if you want the meal without the drink or fries be my guest.
loll i felt that. like some people just want the fries and thats okay but im not shallow if i would my burger and drink too. why do i have to choose lol
Rightttt @@OnlyOneJess
I love how y'all complement each other in these conversations! Subscribed to the new channel 👍🏾
ah thank you!!
My question Is how do you even find out that stuff about that person If you don't first like what you see? Of course whats on the inside matters more, but if I don't first like SOMETHING about you, I'm not going to entertain finding out the deep stuff 😅🤷🏽♀️
usually just from observing and being in the same circles lol
@@OnlyOneJess But that can't be the only way lol my husband and I didnt run in similar circles. I first noticed how handsome my husband was then I got to know him and bam. We vibing lol
I agree looks so matter. Now they DO NOT matter more than a person character. The way a person dress, smell, hair all maters. My husband and I meet from a mutual friend. She and I went to church together. My husband and her went to school together. She should me a picture of him and I was like okay he is cute
@@MrsFlowbell oh yea nah I agree with you though like if you’re just seeing them only and don’t know anything about them then their looks are the only thing you have to go off of lol
@@OnlyOneJess I am loving these podcasts!
I think there are different aspects that play into attraction. Physical attraction is important, but if you're not stimulating me mentally & emotionally in addition..the physical easily fades.
Jess, your personality is so big! I absolutely love it! I understood every stance presented in this conversation. As a very married (almost 10years) with kids - wife, I get the physical vs sexual attraction topic. They can be synonymous but can also be absent… ex: I can love all the things you do for me, your drive, your tenacity, the way you father.. but IF your “heat” doesn’t stimulate my jacuzzi then the sexual attraction is not there (for now). However, if that haircut; yes, something as simple as grooming, can make my water fall, I have both (physical & sexual) attractions to you!
In my case, I’m very vocal - you will meet my needs! And I will show/talk you through it. My husband knows where I stand because I’m not afraid of the hard conversations and vice versa. We speak without ill intent and that works for us during times of self doubt or feelings of lack.
Sounds to me that he is not satisfying her sexually and it's a turn off. She loves him but maybe not in love there is a difference. Just my opinion.
No sex in 8 months and your married is wild. Physical attraction can be different. In my opinion the lady who commented about this probably does not like having sex with her husband at all which is why she isn't sexually attracted to him. There's things that may turn her off and she needs to communicate that to him so they can work thru it. Or maybe she abstained and married to find he's a micro although that's a sensitive topic i can see ways to get around that as well if he's a great man otherwise. I agree counseling but mental and sexual counseling for this couple can bring them thru this.
When you meet someone you find sexy, getting a simple hello from them will send tingles to your lady bits. I understand and agree with Jess you can find someone attractive but not sexually attractive. That’s why guys and girls can be just friends.
Physical attraction is what draws you to the person(your attracted to the way they look). Once you get past their physical appearance and get to know the heart and mind of that person will determine whether or not you decide to want to be in a relationship with that person. There also should be compromise when it comes to decision on different interest.
I have to agree with you Jess, for me, physical attraction is very much important, not the most important but definitely needs to be there. It also helps with keeping temptation away (which is something a lot of people don’t think about)
Y’all funny with throwing them flags 😅… tell Johnathon good job on his responses… 👏… I think what you’re saying is that some people need help being sexy… or they need help bringing the sex out of the person… her husband has to be given ways to make himself more appealing sexually… that should fix the problem… tell sis 1. Hair cut.. 2. Nice outfit & shoes.. 3. Cologne… those are some ways he can become more appealing sexually… Blessings🎊
I do agree with Jess...There's a difference between being attractive and sexually attractive. That's why we have things that turn us on and off sexually . For example I can find Someone physically attractive but the way they talk can be unattractive to me and that has an impact on how I view that person sexually
Jess, I know you don't like us being Team Jonathon... sorry but we have to protect him. You have to take one for the team. Maybe it's the haircut or the sweaters and new style but it seems like he's matured 20 years since you got married...he went from cute twenty something with the long hair to this grown 45 year old lol. He's slowly morphing into Michael B. I see you Jess! Marriage has been good to both of you. You love to see it!
LOLLLLLL oh nah i love that you guys love him haha i knew it was only a matter of time before y'all saw what i saw. and yes he literally gets better everyday, he is truly my fine wine lol thank you
I think men look at things differently. I’ve met guys that were REALLY attractive. but they’re dumb😂. So I eventually found them unattractive, therefore they’re not sexually attractive to me. You’ve got to intrigue my mind first, then the body follows.
You have a good, mature husband, Mrs. Wallace!!!❤
yessss he's the greatest. I learn so much from him everyday
If someone claims that physical attraction is not necessary then why would some of those same people lust at attractive people men or women and try to hide it😢let me say something. After you get all that brains and good natured person in your life if you have no physical attraction someone will come along and break that for you. This is the main reason why people go out and cheat and don’t know why they did it. Why the second part of the attraction came in “the physical” I don’t care what anybody says there must be something that they like about that person….and they the only one who knows what it is..anything they should know
I am a "seasoned subscriber" and physical attractions does matter...LOL!! I can't see your personality across a room...thank goodness I have both ...God is Good....🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Physical attraction is definitely important to me. I have dated "unattractive" men before, and they ended-up being worse than the handsome men. Why is it okay for men to be attracted to women, but women are expected to be okay with frogs 🐸? The inside is important, but can he be a "looker" as well...YES he can ijs🤷🏾♀️
1. 18:34 the solution to that is if you met me in a way, 🍩 dare start asking me to change.
2. I could never date anyone that didn't make me tingle physically. Like I want to feel like a pervert of how much I want somebody y'know?.
that part!!
This is probably the therapist in me but I’d want to know why my partner feels the way he does. So for the gels example, why does he not like when I wear hears that make me taller than him? Does that change how he sees himself as a man? Or the green hair example? Was he not able to express himself as a child or earlier relationships and this is a manifestation of that? Because at the end of the day, if I’m with that person I ultimately want to respect your wishes and desires and this would provide me with more understanding. It really boils down to communication so I think it’s less about who gives in but how can we come to an understanding.
There IS a difference between being attractive to someone and sexual attraction😂
this man had me wasting my breath for like 20 minutes tryna explain and he still wasnt catching it. poor thing LOL
At least he has an idea what you mean. I can't put it to words🤭🫠 but they are definitely not the same😂
I 100% understand what Jess means. I just call it “the vibes” and some people call it the “sparks”. Just because someone is attractive or conventionally good looking, sexual chemistry will not be grantees.
I just feel like as her spouse it would be hurtful to hear that it’s going to take more for me to have sex with you. It sounds like taking vitamins. They are nasty and to swallow them sucks but the benefit of it is great. Who wants to be with someone like that. But unfortunately she is married and you can’t divorce because of physical attraction. Like if my husband said that I’d be devastated. I think my husband is fine fr and there are times when I’m not in the mood but I can’t imagine not being sexually attracted, and never in the mood. That really is sad and I think the church does need to stop saying just focus on the inside (or the outside isn’t important). It’s so important that you love what you see. Apples to oranges conversation but we don’t buy cars or invest in 30 year mortgages if the house is absolutely terrible (unless you’re a real estate agent who does house flips) we look for something we like at least a little.
For me. If I'm not attracted to the person I won't even entertain it, But if I'm attracted to the person but we don't have the same values, faith(must be a Christian) it's also a no, the person gotta have both. Attraction it what makes me interested, but the personality character faith is what makes the relationship progress and possibly leads to marriage. That's me, tho can't speak for everyone. However I've heard you may not be attracted to a person at first but when you know the person you can become, but i just stop from the beginning 😬 maybe that's why im still single.😂 🙆🏾♀️Jesus, take the wheel
😂😂 nah I feel you, but that has happened to me before I dated someone I wasn’t initially attracted even though they were cute he just wasn’t my type but the personality won me over.. then he broke up with me and I was like now see… 😭😂
@OnlyOneJess lolll. It's hard out there. A lot of the guys I meet are cute, but as a person, it's totally crappy even those that are so called Christian, don't get me started on those front the Christian dating app 🙄. Anyways I'm going to keep trusting God and wait hopefully soon🙏
As happy as I am that you two are giving of yourselves this way. I am nervous because divisive people are already coming for ya'll already. Please give them the least attention; they will eventually flee so you can build the healthy community you intend to. Love ya'll
ugh i know i see it too! Jonathan said last night he will cancel the whole thing cuz he not about to be reading those especially the ones that are comparing me and him lol but i have to do better at ignoring them, i just always feel like i have to explain myself because I hate being misunderstood lol but thank you!!!
@@OnlyOneJess great! Stand on who you are. It’s not your job to make sure everyone understands you. The majority of us do. ❤️
@@banthony620 🥹 thank you! 🩷🩷
Well done Oxford… come on words !!
In other news I agree Jess…. Sexual Attraction and Attractiveness/ Beauty is different and also relative
They can say what they want, but a Godly man, self confident, make me feel safe, laugh is important and much more without writing a ten page letter. I can say I do want a man who is easy on the eye. If you have never read Song of Solomon you missed how King Solomon describes the woman so that would give you an idea of how important physical appearance matters. It’s not being vain, but being confident to say I want a man who looks goods sorry.
I repeat. There is always something there. Even if he/she isn't drop dead gorgeous, there is something there! May I suggest what can help the attraction issue with your spouse? Start working out, I mean, gym rat working out together. Even if you both work out separately in the same gym. Peep your spouse bustin' out some bench presses or squats while you're doing your thing. Practice dancing....especially salsa!!! Watch things happen!!
Jonathan with the wisdom "danger of fantasy" merciful God
I'm making comments as I'm watching 😂 so yeah I think sexual attraction vs attraction aren't the same. It's like how women can look at each other and find each other sexy but are also heterosexual and don't wanna have sex with each other lol. Idc how beautiful I find a woman to be, I don't wanna do to her what I wanna do with a man 😂
I just want to say the same prayer you asked for 😅❤ with a little twist
Just like I find Jess attractive but I’m definitely not sexually attracted to her..😅
One more thing, Pastor Wallace should close each session with words of wisdom from a biblical stand point i.e benediction 😅
I think this can be compared to the equation that you can truly love someone but also not be IN love with them. So much ppl has a hard time understanding that
Jess is clocking the lace look. 😂😂😂😂😂
i caught them eyes look UP! loll
1) Character over initial physical attraction............baseline, you should like your person physically. They do not have to be the "ideal" image you've had in your mind for that to be so. I agree with Jonathan too, it's part of the whole thing but not a major thing in and of itself.
2) I think we need to also make sure that our minds are renewed from what the world deems attractive. Best believe the image of what is physically attractive in our minds is what we've seen. Based on what "society" has made us believe of that image over time, we've formed a liking to it. Can easily be reprogrammed.
3) Sexual attraction definitely belongs in marriage and when I think about it most women are largely emotionally and mentally stimulated. Physical attraction does help but in terms of priorities, I think a woman will choose a man who loves and treats her right even if he doesn't meet her ideal spec.
4)When you're married you are locked in. This is your sexual attraction not by feelings but by choice for the rest of your life no matter what.
Definitely agree with you 👌🏿
I find that I’m more attracted to my husband when his hair is cut & I think it’s obvious why but I do I become a little more affectionate toward him so being physically attractive definitely does matter.
Also I’m glad you guys brought up the height difference..I’m 5’4 & my hub is about an inch or 2 taller but I feel some way about that so I opt out of wearing heels most times 🤷🏽♀️
I think these conversations should be discussed while you're dating, what things are non-negotiables this way you know if you want to continue the relationship.
or they need to go to sex therapist
Oh and yes getting away from home helps. Not having to worry about cleaning up all you gotta do it get up get dressed go have fun have sex and repeat. It's amazing 😂 stress really wreaks havoc on my sex drive so the more my husband and I get away go do fun things, take trips, etc., and I don't have to worry about my stressful job as a GM, the more we get busy😂
and yess i feel the same exact ay, no dishes to wash no food to cook, all of a sudden im willing and ready at any moment when we go away loll
@@OnlyOneJess yep! We've agreed next yr were going to up the anty with the long weekends and more trips now that we're in a better position financially.
Nah Jonathan, no shoes on the couch 😂
THANK YOU!! like sir, please lol
And y'all people from the comments are trippin! I need a man who I'm attractive to. Everytime I see you I need to feel them butterflies😂 jk
you aint liedddddd lol
This is why I have to WATCH these videos and not listen like a podcast because I am in tearssss laughing at the replay of Jonathan looking at your hair 😂😂 I can tell he definitely looked at your hair cuz he doesn’t prefer the wigs and loves your natural hair. Yall body language is so funny to me 😂
Jonathan was on point with his answer, especially when he broke it down. All Godly men and women should have this perspective and mindset before they get married. It will save a lot of marriages.
Feelings will DECEIVE you.
Great podcast guys!🙏🏾
What the man commented about females being more into physical attraction I kind of get it because vocally only females really are out here saying I want a man 6 foot a lot of money dark skin muscular etc. men don’t usually vocalize having a list of she has to be so and so tall, long hair, etc. men are more into sexual attraction but if you look at all the women a man has dated they usually all look very different. But women are more willing to sacrifice their physical qualities in a partner like if he doesn’t check all boxes but is funny or romantic they are willing to date outside of their list. But if a man is not attracted initially to a woman usually he will not continue to pursue her just because she is nice or funny
I get what Jonathan is saying, you can objectively think someone is good looking/ handsome but not be attracted to them - thats a different thing. However when there is already an attraction its already partially sexual , but I guess sometimes it can increase or decrease based off different things like what the person does, the moods etc
Yes i agree.you cam find ppl physically attractive but not be sexually attracted to them. Ive always said, "oh he's cute but not my type"
Jessica! Excellent point about going on a vacation! My husband and I have been married 15+ years and are having serious problems. Our family blessed us with a Staycation and it really helped us to talk about some of our issues! Great point!! Jonathan! You are wise beyond your years! THANK YOU BOTH! LOVE YOU!!
we love you!
I have a scenario - I was connected with this guy, on paper my type, his personality was great, he was ambitious, kind.. really great except, he was on the heavier side, and I just couldn’t get past it. I spoke to my parents, older women from my church and they all agreed that if I didn’t think I could get past it, end things early and don’t drag it on. He deserved someone who like him completely. I don’t regret that decision.
I think Jess is right, well you both are. Men are visual, so I can see them being one in the same for men, as Jonathan said but for women......because we need more to be sexually enticed, in most cases, they are separate for us.
I'm crying at the replay 😂😂 He was definitely looking at your lace
exactlyyyy lolll
Oh Jess you have a beautiful smile ❤😊
The replay sent me 🤣
😂
Also i want to say if being attracted to someone doesn't mean physically and sexually. As a Christian who are not to have premarital sex how we gonna know whether or not you're sexually attracted to the person. Because again im a Christian so I'm talking from that prospective 8 months without sex it its crazy i didn’t there was such things (as an unmarried person ) because the bibles says not to deprived each other from sex except for a short period of time like fasting because that's when the devils come and mess everything up. In my opinion( not an expert) i think there is more to it than attraction with the lady you're talking abt. Maybe it's rape, abused, infidelity, mental issues, sickness, something deeper. Because to me i don't understand how you attracted to someone physically and not sexually. I pray that person find help asap before it gets worse.
Honestly why can’t you have both. I found a persons character and heart more attractive but I need to be attracted to that person physically. Because If it was the other way round I’d hate for my partner to not find me attractive that would shatter me like why don’t you go find someone you find physically
Physical attraction and sexual attraction are very different things. I have been thinking about how important sexual attractiveness should be. I do think that there must be balance.
Commenting before I watch ❤❤❤😂
loll love yaa!
i'm not married yet but God blessed me with this video, been watching since 2017 Jess!
Physical attraction is important in a relationship .
😂😂😂 you'll had me cracking up
Alright alright make this simple. I AM NOT MARRYING anyone who I am not physically, emotional and spiritual attracted to . Why should I have to eliminate one of them I feel like that settling for less tbh god isn’t going make me settle for anything less drop mic lool
periodddd lol people think im immature for feeling that way and at this point idc idk how else to explain it, to each their own lol
He has to has something to get me through the front door. But if he make me laugh. OMG! That’s it for me. I love the Caesar haircuts too. It’s clean cut and makes a man love so handsome.
I like this topic. As someone that had two children back to back, I was blessed to have my libido come immediately back. I’ve known many mothers that struggled with getting their libido back and it caused tension, affairs, and divorce. Where does one go when it’s taboo to say “i want to respect my partner as someone who went through childbirth BUT I am also an equal partner with needs?”
I have heard about that too im praying that doesnt happen to me i have no idea how to navigate that. i did hear a woman on her podcast saying while she was pregnant she had no desire to have sex but since she loves her husband she did it anyway.. i havent experienced those things yet so i don't have a say lol
Giving birth is stress to the body and stress effects hormones, everyone has different stress limits and have had different experiences growing up, stress accumulates
Subscribed to the new channel. Love you guys 💜
ah thank you! we're so excited!
Jess is right about the distinction. I can find someone attractive but not find them sexually attractive. That’s been very few and far between.
For example, Liam Hemsworth is attractive, but I’m not attracted to him. Idris is attractive AND I’m attracted to him.
Being attracted to someone is far deeper than the eye ball. It's how you feel. When you have feelings they look good to you. Example I don't have feelings for your husband so to me weather he has a hair cut or not, he just looks the same and he does not look good to ME. Another example I was dating this guy about 23yrs ago. I would talk to my sister about hus s€x being great. When we broke up I laughed and joked about his size and the fact that he just lay on top and pump his butt😂😂😂😂 in reality it was awful, but while I loved him it was good. It's really about how you feel about them
Those that need to SEE don't trust the process.
There's ways to make it work
Jess I totally understand what you were saying lol because as someone who is waiting until marriage I find that when I dated in the past I would sometimes think the other person is physically attractive but did not see them in a manner that was sexually attractive. Which had nothing to do with lust… And honestly that’s how the mindset of you need to “test it “ before is normalized, but that’s a whole other convo….
I agree with Jess. There's many people that I'm very attracted to that I'm not sexually attracted to. I think maybe it's more of a woman thing than men. Maybe men's baseline for attraction in general is sexual attraction. If they're not sexually attractive then maybe they're not attracted in general.
This has been a great conversation! I have been married to my husband for 14 years but we were together for 23 prior to the marriage. last year was a hard one. We found out he had prostrate cancer. It was a life and death situation and things have not been the same, but I am so grateful that the Lord stepped into our situation and He is doing a new thing in us.
I would add that o appreciate how you two communicate and allow each to speak without interrupting each other.
Thank you!! I do feel like there were a few parts in this video that I could do better at that but thank you for appreciating our effort lol ❤️
Physical attraction is very important to me, it’s the first thing that I see, the first impression, and sex is very important in a mariage so I need to be attracted to my partner. And that doesn’t mean that I will lower down my standards just because somebody is pleasant to my eyes but I need both which is totally possible in my eyes.
Whew no sex in 8 months is very delicate. I feel like although sexual attraction/physical intimacy isn't of utmost importance, it is somewhere in the realm of a healthy relationship category. Like that would at some point cause other issues with self-esteem and confidence within yourself. My question would be does the husband feel the same way and if so what dynamic of the marriage has changed to cause the drough.
mmm yes definitely. I don't want to speak on it too much because im sure there are plenty of things i dont know/understand but its definitely a tough situation and I hope they can work it out
Hey Jess and Johnathan, I love what yall are doing . Johnathan gave a lot of good perspectives from a man’s stand point. The subscriber should also take in consideration that her husband have needs as well. 8 months is a long time. He may cheat and that will open up another can of worms. Can’t wait to the podcast launch🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
40:07 I do agree with Jonathan here I think it's all in one. But I can see what you mean Jess
Preach Jonathan!! That whole fantasy comment is spot on!!
Jonathan is in my opinion is speaking as a man of GOD! I believe he is correct in that sexual attraction is part of the whole attractiveness! And, worldly fantasies is what many may consider sexual attraction. Also, Jonathan’s statement about considering sexual attraction after marriage is true in reference to the scripture. As man and wife both have to be there for each other physically and sexually through prayer!
well he absolutely is a man of God
That was her way of saying his sex game was weak. She is not sexually satisfied i.e. nit sexually attracted
Yay! New channel! Congrats y’all 🎉
Just came to see if y’all started your new podcast channel yet lol…I’ll be back tomorrow to watch the video!
lolll we did! we will see you tomorrow babe
Why is the vacation/hotel segg so much better!?!?! 🤣🤣🤣 I think it's the hotel sheets 🤔🤔
LOLLLLLLL we just came back from a quick staycation and i just HIGHLYYY recommend it for everyone. thats all ima say LOL
Hi there 😊 love your podcast; although while I certainly understand Jess you don't want Jonathan's shoe on the couch, I have to say that your reaction was a bit extreme .... it was as if you were scolding a child rather than your husband - perhaps that was a conversation best had off camera; Jonathan, I loved how you handled it though; nonetheless you're a beautiful couple and I certainly enjoy your content God Bless!
thank you and im glad you love the pod! Jonathan is fine lol he knows when im being light hearted and when im being so serious. i mean this in the MOST lighthearted way that he doesnt need or want anyone to come to his defense when it comes to me lol this is just how we are, no harm was done here i promise lol
The replay 😂
you saw it right!!?? lolll
You met your partner as they were. I don’t think we should try and change each other because that person then loses themselves . All that stuff is superficial
Change can be a good thing. You may not even be aware that its a change you need.
That replay was wild😂 Definitely enjoying these conversations!
lolll i was like i know i seen you look UPPP hahahah