Andrew, you are one of the best councilors I have ever listened to...and I have listened to a lot. A great many are blessed to have access to your videos!
I’m taking this all in I get it I feel As though you know my wife who Is an alcoholic also Wow 💡 right in the head I’m like a hungry sponge I can’t believe this
well . . the universal law of karma applys to each & every person,& equal to the individual sin(s) the one who strove to destroy me,will be recieving thiers for a long long time to come,neither me or anyone else has any control over karma ,it is given as an opportunity to learn and be presented again and again in various ways until we learn and move forward.so those wnose intent to seek out and deliberatly harm again & again,like narcissists will suffer much karma.🙏in the name of jesus,amen
They need YOU more that you can ever need them - but make you believe the opposite and you often believe the lie - within the trauma bond . It is great to be FREE from toxic Narcissists
Thank you so much Andrew, this came exactly at the right time for me, luckily I only had an 8 month relationship with my narcissist and didn't have a clue what was going on, she conned my out of a small amount of money and admitted the next day that the whole story was a lie, when asked what she did with the money she said she had bills to pay and I would t of given it her if I knew, just one example from thousands I blocked her three times and each time she came back with future faking , but also openly admitted she had male friends that loved her, after one night of love making with me she said I bet my friend will ring soon he will be all jealous thinking I might be talking to men on line? After making love with me, she honestly had mental issues well they all do of course, I can't tell you how much the last few days have hurt me I have been feeling crying more than I ever have it's sorry crazy and family and friends truly don't understand they just say dump and move on I feel so silly even writing this now, but your video has given me strength she tried to shift blame to me for blocking her saying I was crazy I calmly reminded her she apologized each time she tried to pick other faults I told her that was her truth in her world this ended with a discard after saying she wanted to be with a guy from twenty years ago because he said he had a one night stand with her but she said she had that many she couldn't remember then called me a narcissist I said that's self projection, anyway it's over I don't want her but still want to break the silence and somehow save her like a hero but your video has given me strength and changed my thoughts
@@TreeofLife_111 Why did you do that? Do you hate nice men? My narc was my mother. Would never become a slave of a other woman again. Why do you women prefer arseholes, since there a so many lonely nice men outside? What make you think it is okay being a chef at midnight, and this for an adult man? I am asking because I am single. I do not get it.
For me, the narc kept me believing that i was the biggest loser and i was unloveable and that noone would ever be with someone like me because i was short, ugly, fat, didnt make alot of money, weak,.etc. The term "narcissist" came to mind a few times, but i hesitated to believe that for a long time because its usually narcicissts who accuse other people of being narcs. She knew i believed in God and that i didnt believe in divorce and would do anything to preserve my marriage and family. I finally snapped and walked out and never went back. Then the attacks really started. And then people started coming forward telling me she had been cheating with another married man for years. You cannot give them attention. Act as if they dont exist. Narcs thrive on pushing you till you snap and then playing the victim, then grandstanding you in front of the community.
Four and a half years ago, I beat stage IV cancer with determination and support of my family and friends. I am now in the process of ending a 27 year marriage and 30 year relationship with a narcissist. I absolutely loved this man. When his anger became abusive, I decided that “I” am better than that. I decided to take care of me and to try and heal if at all possible. There have been many rough days, but I can’t go back and do that again. I’m worth more than that. If terminal cancer didn’t get me, I’ll be DAMNED if he’s going to get me!!!! Happy Thanksgiving
God bless you. You're a beautiful lady and you have come through so much already. You're strong and determined. I wish you every grace and blessing in this life, you deserve an abundant, peaceful and joyful life and you're going to have it! . Keep going forward, the finish line is in sight! 🙏💕🌸🌸🌸
I've got a very similar story to that Cindy, unbelievable isn't it? I got blamed for the narcissist physically assaulting me!! Twice!! At that point we were done. 33 years.
Yes, Yes, Yes I was down and out. Financially, emotionally, Physically sick, high blood pressure, pain throughout the entire body, always tired, wake up soaking wet, extremely jumpy, not able to relax, always on guard, always prepared, confused and delirious, depressed, full of anxiety, lost absolutely everything including my mind. When succubus has pulled absolutely everything out of you, deep in dept, no money, no credit, demoted from job, foreclosure on your house, evicted from your apartment and then kicked you to the curb without a penny in your pocket. This is when you walk around in a daze thinking, what the Hell happened ? At this point you'll find out who your true friends are and you will need them to get through this. You WILL get through this, WE ALL did that's why we are helping others through this. Hang in there, It does get better, just keep praying and educating yourself with all that happen, so it will never happen again. My mistake was I did not do that and ended up with another one, just as bad if not worse. But. now I am not letting this happen again. We love you, and study up on narcissist.
Went to church this morn, had tears but came home & decided to go for a long ebike ride. Went 32 miles then came home baked a turkey breast, cranberries and a baked sweet potato. I thoroughly enjoyed my day. It gave me hope and confidence that I can do whatever I want alone!!
Once you realize the narcissist relationship is over, you stop chasing them. It's an empowering feeling to start moving on with the improvement of yourself and ur life. Moving back up in life without the neglect, indifference and disrespect of giving your life to someone that never appreciated you. Yes, I got my ass kicked. It's been kicked before. I'll just dust myself off and move up. To never allow anyone to abuse me like that ever again!
@Maria. Pondering the good times...then I realized the narc was a bad habit...besides being an oxygen thief...he was a waste of time & money & goodwill & patience & ... I could go on forever !
This time last year the narcissist screamed in my face over a comment I made in frustration over his weaponized incompetence. I had seen a number calling on his phone that I had been seeing for a couple of years. I suspected i that it was his new supply. I knew, after that awful Thanksgiving day, that I was done and had to get out. I left him a week later to the day. I've never regretted it. Today I enjoyed a home made, delicious feast with friends who have become like extended family. My life is so blessed, and I give God all the glory. May God bless you, Andrew, for your loving service to humanity.
I am so much happier and healthier now. There was a time where I thought I would not ever feel ok again. Thank you for this channel and having a safe place for people to get through this.
Thank you for your positivity!!! I just ended a 4 year relationship with a covert narcissist. I finally figured out who/what he is. I feel broken, but I’m putting myself together again like Humpty Dumpty. ❤❤❤
No, don't really celebrate it, and no one to cook for anyhow. Still, it's hard to be alone when everyone else is with their families. But, today, I'm watching a red headed woodpecker who's visited my area several times, so, he'll be my family today. He's got a good beat! 😊 And my dinner is a homemade veggie soup. All in all, it's been a peaceful day. ❤
Don't forget- You've got a family here. It's better than being with a toxic family in any celebration. Happy T-Day. Smile bit- You escaped the torture.👍💪
Jesus loves you... And believe me... When everyone leaves, he don't. And sometimes it feels better to be alone than with people who make you lonely. 🤗 Hope u r doing okay.
The other day, my narcissistic brother hid my mail from me, what he doesn't know is, I have the informed mail app, so I see everything coming for the day, I walked up to him and said, my mail better be on the table or I'm filling a report with the post master, he panicked and talked smack to me, then I exploded and got in his face and yelled, I'm on to you, you're a narcissistic, antagonistic, little drama Queen, who can bring peace to the middle East, know it all, I'm done with you! He hasn't been home in two days, I'm a very calm guy, and he pissed me off, and now he knows that I Know! Happy Thanksgiving friends.
My little lady narc invited me over for Thanksgiving twice, once yesterday and again with a phone call today. She knows I will be leaving her Nov. 30. I said no thank you both times. I ate chicken at Sonic and spent the day moving. Thanksgiving for Sonic being open!
My on the side business partner was a real narc. I provided sweat equity for over 3 years with no pay. Once I consistently observed no progress or breadcrumbs from his end, I stated that I needed to take a step back and wind-down to think (at 61 years). I also mentioned that I'm considering retirement. After a few weeks, my narc partner decided to cut me off without any explanation, a thank you or a dime for all of my 3 years of work.
For so long, I had this "illness," and I did not know what was wrong. I knew I had a bad relationship, but I was chasing all the cures for myself, as if by fixing myself, I could fix the relationship. Now, the wisdom is revealed, and I know what's wrong. Turns out I am not the crazy one, after all.
Same! Thought I was literally going crazy. All my assumptions he would say I was crazy and insecure. Turns out I was right the whole time and that was my intuition, not insecurities. Focused on me now. I don’t give him anymore power over me. I only communicate with him when absolutely necessary since we have a 7 year old. I want no parts of a friendship with him and look forward to my sons 18th birthday where I will block his father out of my life forever!
Wow I’m going through that right now. I was changing myself bc she said I wasn’t emotionally available enough, which sounds logical, but it didn’t help. Then I thought back and realized of course I’m not with someone who hurts me all the time. Some one I walk around egg shells around. It ending…but will be hard. 10 years married, three kids, I’m the major income provider bc I wanted her to have the choice to stay home more. Going to be rough. Really rough.
After almost ten month's of being ghosted discarded and left for dead to go to the new supply, got a Hello text Monday. Wow the ex narc is probably really going thru it 😂 because the ex knows I'm officially done. Happy Thanksgiving everyone !
I thought it was weird that the narc tried to make me needy. They kept putting out advantages I'd have with them. I just saw that they were trying to buy me. It was ridiculous & insulting.
They realize that it's too late when their options have run out. They still don't get the fact that there never was any reason to be in competition with me. I had my life mapped out before the narc came in and turned it upside down. It wasn't perfect, but I was a lot happier and more optimistic about things. I don't care that they stole the money that someone else has claimed to belong to me because of the fact that it was never mine to begin with. The problem lies in the fact that they're not satisfied with it and still want to get revenge over nothing. In order for me to continue to move forward, I have to cut all ties in regards to the people who are involved with everyone who is involved and that's what I am in the process of doing.
Thanksgiving Truth. The narcissists are blowing up holiday tables across America today. I Am Free!!! It has taken years to get away from the Love Bomb Holidays. I made myself a pie. I rented a beach house. We are making cheese quesadillas with homemade tortillas and guacamole for dinner like the Chumash Indians did on my beach centuries ago. Not driving or flying or cooking or shopping or people pleasing for a bunch of snakes and a slice of dry turkey with heaps of contempt. Thank you, Andrew! Bye Bye Narcissists!
I got the discard on Sunday. I'm going through the trauma bond, but I know I'll be alright. I remind myself that the person I was emotionally attached to was a mask, not the person. On Sunday I saw the person, the mask was gone. She said she was not capable of love. I knew that's true. All these things the videos say are spot on. It amazes me how accurately this channel describes my relationship.
I woke one morning at the end of July. My wife told me that she wanted me to leave. The day and night before, I was showered with affection. Love bombed, idealized, devalued, and discarded. Finances abused, just as I was on an emotional level. She told me about the high school boyfriend she had been chatting with since February - the man who just moved into my wife. My wife told me that she was not attracted to me anymore. "Would you be attracted to me, if I weighed as much as you?" I would rather be "ugly" on the outside than ugly on the inside. I was abused. At 5'11" and 300 pounds and a voice that makes James Earl Jones sound like a tenor, people do not see me as abused. They saw her mask. I saw her darkness. I am an empath, she is a grandiose aging narcissist. Concerns over her wrinkles, age spots, greying hair, stretch marks, and so forth. She had a mastectomy four years ago - I loved her more. Keep your head high. God/the universe will give you what you need and not what you want.
I just hit the 6 month mark. I saw my spouse for the first time in 6 months the other day when he came to pick up our son for a few days. It was almost civil. 😂
Christmas was always special to the narcissist. We baked cookies together and I made beautiful cookie trays for his friends. Of course he took all the credit but he is going to miss that this year. He had a new supply when he ended our relationship 8 months ago but she is no longer with him so he is alone.
The material world doesn’t always notice or reward the achievement of defeating narcissism so thank you Andrew for reminding the community what we have accomplished what we have defeated 🏆
Take good care of "yourself"!!! Surround "yourself" with all of "your" favorite things! Make sure "you" tell "yourself" that "you" are one of a kind, no one else in this world, can be "you" or replace "you"!!! 🙏😞
I finally had to block narc family yesterday. Last nights sleep was the best sleep I've had in a long time. Was struggling with insomnia along with the abuse from remaining narc siblings. I had to come to the realization that as much as I was trying to fix the constant drama with them, I had to accept they did not want to fix anything, so at 65 yrs old, a widow with no children, I had to remove myself from this toxic environment or live the rest of my life this way. I weighed the Pros and Cons and the Cons greatly outweighed the Pros because there were no Pros which gave me the answer I needed to justify the outcome. Im now so relieved and moving forward. I'd much rather be alone with peace, than be with family in chaos.
As a year and a half has gone by, I realize just how one sided the "relationship" was. A narcissist only loves themselves, they could never be happy unless they destroy any happy days that could of been.
💖ALONE? If you are spending this holiday alone, please do not be lonely.💗 Realize that you are with the most loving and caring person you will ever know. The person that has fought on your behalf and has your best interest at heart. The one that knows your heart, your needs and your wants better than anyone. The person that will continue to seek to do good regardless if what comes back is in gratitude or likeness. Look into a mirror. That person is you. You are not alone. We are with you in spirit. Blessings to you! Sending everyone love! ♥
"Think about THAT for a minute..." People...please know... Narcissists want you DESTROYED...You mean NOTHING to them. You will NEVER mean anything to them. Get away and STAY AWAY...It is your only hope. ..
I'm in the healing process, my narc husband left us almost 3 yrs ago. I've returned 2 weeks ago on a social media platform,and to my surprise an ex from 20 yrs ago reached out to me,he was my boyfriend back then and he started a conversation with me,to make a long story short he was the other narc in my life,they always try to get some supply even after yrs it's unbelievable!!! If you are still reading Andrew i need to thankyou from the bottom of my heart if I wasn't listenning to your video's I probably would of agreed to a date with him.
Trust that they will reach out to you on their death bed. They never give up. They just rotate from person to person and whomever gives them an opening they take it. Congrats on your awareness and saying "NO". ❤
Oh yes they will try again years later!So glad you resisted him. I got a call a narcissist ex Bf after 9 yrs recently I hung up on his ear as soon as I realised who it was.They always keep trying the closed door hoping we forget.This guy was very firmly dispatched by me as he outed himself but he still had the cheek to try again after such a long time. We have to be vigilant ,they are always slithering around looking for old and new supply.
Yup. I'm no contact with my narc mother and she just stole my phone number from my grandmother who has dementia. She texted me "I really do love you" And I pretended to be a wrong number and replied: "is this ___ who stole from this elderly woman thousands of dollars because she has dementia and you can vampirize her?" And she freaked out "Who is this, is this ___(my father's name) and why do you call me that? Your aunt is telling lies again blah blah blah I'm blocking you whoever you are!" And I rose triumphant. She's thousands of miles away and has no access to me so I did that safely and omg what a great holiday it is! 😀
To anyone going through this remember your beautiful ok, please contact officials if these monster person HARM you ...The Abuse Will Not STOP... And Don't Allow Them.. Family member's DO Horrible things to 😢😢 YET TRUE like Andrew is speaking to you TRUTH ❤🙏💯
WE. ARE. STRONG. SURVIVORS!! All of us here. For me personally, Thanksgiving is each and every day where I have survived it and become my true self again.
Yes, one day at a time, and one day you'll realize it's been months, then years. Congrats, because the scariest part is starting out on a new journey, which you now have underway. Take care of yourself! ❤
I was placed in an emotinal assault course from the age of17 to now 44!! Spent three years in dark night...solid. Lost loved ones, total isolation in every way. Too many narcs in the space of 26 years. I am out... escaped in june now in refuge..... growing even more... abundance does flow!!! Miracles and angels ate bound. ❤❤ happy Thanksgiving LIFE!! 💕🌹🧡💪💯💎🙌🔥🦊❤️❤️
So true about other people not understanding if they haven't experienced it themselves. I find it frustrating and very tiring trying to explain to my family for example. My Sister even even used the phrase.......WHATS WRONG WITH YOU . Not exactly the the thing i wanted to hear from my caring Sister. I feel like my Sister has almost given up on me. Im left feeling embarrassed about myself. Even my own daughter doesn't understand and said i need to toughen up, i think maybe She also looks at me as being weak. A narcissistic partner does this to you over time without you realising it creeping up on you.
Well Andrew, this one got me a bit teary eyed. The passion you put into this, especially the last few minutes, is so heartfelt and can only come from someone who has lived through similar experiences. Keep shining that beautiful light, my brother. Thank you. 🙏❤️✨️
That was a mighty powerful message brought forth in this video. Starting around 15 minutes, you left me speechless. "You defeated something that you didn't even know you were up against ". "To beat something that you didn't even know what you were up against is absolutely astounding. And that's what you did. And that's what I did". God's blessings to you. Have a good evening. Thank you for all you do🙂. Sending a virtual hug 🤗, love & peace right back at you ☀️☀️☀️ Love💓the pine🌲 branches behind you
A woman ,60 yrs old was married to a man 17 yrs her senior who is a narc, is still in love with him after 10 yrs after she divorced him. She likes his company but knows he is a danger to her sanity. They live apart in the same city. Help..
I cannot begin to express my gratitude for the absolutely critical work that you do for ALL survivors of this most sinister and baffling form of abuse. Honestly i can say in many ways I would rather have broken both arms and legs, than to have gone through my own personal nightmare of dealing with someone of this unique personality disorder, I certainly would have experienced a quicker healing time frame. I really appreciate knowing there are people like you out there aboard spaceship earth!! Bless you and your family .Namaste
My ex-husband blamed me the first year of our marriage for it was my fault for him cheating on me with multiple women. Said it was because I hadn’t given him kids and he wanted so badly to be a father. We get pregnant and he wanted me to abort our first child. (I kept the baby). Second time he started the same pattern and pregnant with baby two, he wasn’t happy about it. Now divorced, he never made an effort to meet baby two once and doesn’t even call or text to ask about the kids. Only occasionally texts me when drunk to tell me how happy he is now and how well he is doing.
Yes Andrew, the narc wasted my last holiday last year 2022. I am peaceful without the narc this year 2023. Oh Andrew, you're spot on‼️ Vows are worthless to a narc.
He had liver cirrhosis....but I didn't get the education or understand. And it's been nearly a year and I'm still confused and unwell...but have my home back and gradually finding me. Doing home projects but tomorrow is going to be another step up 😊 🇬🇧
1995 Thanksgiving, I had a large family coming. Lots of cooking. The narc insisted that I take a ride with him that turned out to be 2 hrs. He whisked me away to propose on Thanksgiving day. I chose this yr to be alone & reflect on that day. I realize now he made the family gathering abt him. Our 24 yr marriage would be with 4 separations, one divorce then remarried. I stayed through every relapse ,job loss etc. Not sorry, I released myself this time to heal get help & let him live his new addiction, social media,gym adoration,new supply . I’m grateful everyday for my freedom & continued education & my third act @ 72. Mix self medication with these people & it’s a rabbit hole like no other. I am released💪🏻☀️😊
There's nothing more dangerous than a covert narcissist that has boatloads of money and no job or responsibilities. I jumped ship 90 days in. I don't care what kind of money she has I saw crazy and ran
Mine moved in daughter moved out ....he showered me with love n admiration, then took control changed everything under his name on insurance. , I was to weak to fight for my home. But somehow I got some strength and got him out with authorities help. He died 3month later 😊
I don't think I will ever cross his mind even those we was around other most of the holidays, he gonna on with his new supply putting her on the petal stool telling everyone today she the best thing that ever happen to him I did nothing for him only I got use badly,and right now his head up in the air today probably around her family betraying to be good to her and he in love no telling what he doing I just know I don't exist anymore to him and his family😢 so today I just have to fight through this whole day trying to keep a good spirit I have a new grandbaby so I need to be strong for him.
I’m sorry 😞You are going though this. They are not capable of love. They wear masks. She is his new toy. Just by bragging about his new supply( love bomb) is despicable, no class. They thrives on our misery. I focus on the positives of my life. The big one is: Good ridden with the bad rubbish 🙏 in college we used to pin a pic of the person/persons we didn’t like on caulk board and have a dart throwing contest 🤣🤣🤣 We can go forward with our life and be happy, content. Peace is priceless! Praying for your healing🙏❤🌷Namaste
I am so thankful that I did not have to sit with Dracula at the head of the table today. It feels good to be congratulated for having escaped Dracula's castle - alive - almost a year ago. It has been tough but I feel free as though I dug myself out of being buried alive. I can breathe again, laugh again. After this video, I have patted myself on the back. I needed that. Thank you, Andrew. I still have work to do but it is my work - not working for someone else. I did not scrub down the whole Bran Castle with old cobwebs this year. I just baked the pies, what I love to do.
HI ANDREW AND MY BEAUTIFUL FAMILY!! HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO EVERYONE!!🦃💜💜 I HOPE EVERYONE ENJOY YOUR DAY WITH PEOPLE WHO TRULY LOVE YOU!!!! WE ARE THANKFUL FOR SURVIVING THE NARCISSIST AND GETTING OUR POWER!!😊
Thank You! Happy Thanksgiving to everyone! Especially Andrew 🙏❤ my last reply : I don’t care! To the narc is a cross to keep blood sucking vampire away. Peace is priceless. Namaste 🙏
Andrew, you have helped validate every feeling I had. My N and I were in his studio one evening making pottery. He said something to me, though I don't remember what it was. My mind said, "Are you really going to let him talk to you that way?" I left my pot on the wheel and told him I needed to use the restroom. I got in my truck and left. That's how I ended it.
My Dad told a story of a lady who made wind bells endlessly. One day, she got up from her wheel, and screamed, Bells,Bells, Bells. She left, and never came back. Good for you for leaving.
I looked my wife in the eyes for hours making life plans at the end of our condo lease & we booked flights to Denver. She ditched me and flew off to India to meet another man after getting a Green Card through me where I did everything for the love of my life, literally met every demand possible. (Long story short) . Completely broken human I was, still am at times, a matter fact I am at rock bottom after the second narcissistic discard (she told me few times she’s a narcissist). I can’t believe how I ended up here, i hate being an empath. I did get in the best shape of my life & she noticed it and commented on it. Thinks I am 100x more successful now but she doesn’t chase me for supply and hasn’t found any new supply as she struggles with $ after being spoiled by me. It’s shocking she doesn’t Hoover and runs away instead of trying to manipulate me again (she’s been caught few times now and knows it)
Here's a good one guys. I can never feel any joy or satisfaction for anything I do or offer to do for my wife. It's always the same. If I offer or do something for my wife, she'll turn me down or not like what I do, or criticize me for not doing what she didn't want me to do a week ago. It's a no-win situation. It messes with your head. And she catastrophizes everything. To the point where she so overthinks everything that nothing gets done. No plans stick, vacations, activities, etc. It's a constant state of anxiety. She now sends me these video clips from social media to support her doomsday outlook on things. She's a complex personality. There's narcissist traits, with anxiety, ADHD, Borderline, mixed mess. All I know is it's a really taxing navigation for me. I wonder if you guys know what I mean. It's not black and white.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone! I'm spending today alone but have been doing it for 20 years so I'm VERY used to it! It's actually pretty stress free. When I think back on holidays with the Narcs in my life, I'm so grateful to just be at peace on any given holiday. So, to anyone who is alone today and feels lonely, I want you to know that you are NOT ALONE being alone! We are all in this together and we have a great support group here with Andrew! May you all be blessed! Namaste. 🦃❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I have been grateful for the lack of unnecessary drama. Except for my cats, I mean. I baked some side dishes, as that's all I would have missed about a gathering, and watched movies. Perfect! ❤
Being alone on thanksgiving is a gift ! ❤ I was in a room with the Narc for 27 years and always felt alone . Now I know for sure being alone with strength ,knowledge and Narc free is beyond any gift I have ever received. I am moving forward . Everyday has ups and downs but they are my ups and downs not the NARCS! 😊
My niece goes to my narc brother's house in San Diego once a year for Thanksgiving. That's the only time she sees him. She lives in W. Hollywood and takes the train down. Only 2 nights. Told me today that she thinks that only one night would be her limit, if that. Please don't feel badly for her because tonight she's at the Sunset Tower having a martini with her mother. Just wish I could be there, but I am grateful, relaxed, and have such aundance by myself. Conictivity is where it's at.🎉❤
Today is my solo Intentional Gratitude Day. I hope you all are celebrating your courageous healing work to break the chains of the past. Freedom rocks, and better late than never. Rock on tribe! Golden Girl❣️
From one beautiful shining light to another. I left my malignant narcissistic ex over three years ago, in the third version of myself, life is calm, life is good. You are not alone.
You can get out of the narcissist abuse cycle . Thought I couldn’t at one time. I was beaten down and could not think clearly then. But I did get through i. You can 😘💪👏
25 years in marriage for me. I provided for this woman, everything, and recently found out she had been seeing her friend she'd know for 27 years. The ultimate betrayal was that 5 years ago she started taking my kids over to his home. This week I found out from my oldest as she cried her eyes out that she's held this secret from me for so long. I was devasted. Unfortunately their mother never cleaned, cooked, and is a hoarder. I stayed for the kids even though I saw the signs and I confronted her over the suspicions. I know I made the right choice but unfortuntely it sped up the proccess because I was waiting for my youngest to gradutate.
Oh gosh. This is so true!! 2 months ago i left a covert narcissist, married 7 years to him. I didnt even know about this trauma bonds or gas lighting. I thought i was losing my mind. And my finances. So grateful for youtube videos on narcissism that helped me get clarity and get out of the relationship.
Two weeks ago, my girlfriend told me she doesn’t tell me she loves me because she doesn’t want to lie. I don’t know what I was thinking but I guess I’ve been holding onto some crumb of hope. I’ll tell her I want to move on but she’s going to fight me.
Thanksgiving here with the narc was always us buying everything, us preparing everything and us driving the narc around. The narc without fail would ruin every single holiday. Bad mood, isolating in another room, angry at any joy, gossiping about us, and many other miserable behaviors. Staying true to ourselves this year. Happy Thanksgiving and thank you Andrew!
Yep Anne I feel that too. Ruining every single holiday and vaca too: grumpy as heck never sure WHY. Never a good reason why in fact we should all be grateful for time spent especially being able to take vacations to the beach and such. New Years was always awful every single year I would switch a staff member to be off Christmas and work her New Years to avoid the drama. I am actually looking forward to the holidays this year as he has exited our lives after 25 years of marriage and 30 years with dating. YIKES. Thanksgiving was very peaceful. 1st holiday of many to come with our older kiddos and it was pleasant.
Andrew, you are one of the best councilors I have ever listened to...and I have listened to a lot. A great many are blessed to have access to your videos!
Thank you..😌🙌🙏
I’m taking this all in I get it
I feel
As though you know my wife who
Is an alcoholic also
Wow 💡 right in the head
I’m like a hungry sponge
I can’t believe this
Ya PFA against me she’s playing with our emotions
Me and 3 kids
Were gonna get out
I’m awake !!!!!!
28 years marriage
The BEST
They end up old, bitter, angry and very very alone. All the bridges they ever had were burned down long ago.
So sad but we also have to care for our self.
you are so right.
well . . the universal law of karma applys to each & every person,& equal to the individual sin(s) the one who strove to destroy me,will be recieving thiers for a long long time to come,neither me or anyone else has any control over karma ,it is given as an opportunity to learn and be presented again and again in various ways until we learn and move forward.so those wnose intent to seek out and deliberatly harm again & again,like narcissists will suffer much karma.🙏in the name of jesus,amen
Yes this happened to my father. Died all alone last year. I can't say I feel sorry for him. He created this situation for himself.
They need YOU more that you can ever need them - but make you believe the opposite and you often believe the lie - within the trauma bond . It is great to be FREE from toxic Narcissists
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Thank you so much Andrew, this came exactly at the right time for me, luckily I only had an 8 month relationship with my narcissist and didn't have a clue what was going on, she conned my out of a small amount of money and admitted the next day that the whole story was a lie, when asked what she did with the money she said she had bills to pay and I would t of given it her if I knew, just one example from thousands I blocked her three times and each time she came back with future faking , but also openly admitted she had male friends that loved her, after one night of love making with me she said I bet my friend will ring soon he will be all jealous thinking I might be talking to men on line? After making love with me, she honestly had mental issues well they all do of course, I can't tell you how much the last few days have hurt me I have been feeling crying more than I ever have it's sorry crazy and family and friends truly don't understand they just say dump and move on I feel so silly even writing this now, but your video has given me strength she tried to shift blame to me for blocking her saying I was crazy I calmly reminded her she apologized each time she tried to pick other faults I told her that was her truth in her world this ended with a discard after saying she wanted to be with a guy from twenty years ago because he said he had a one night stand with her but she said she had that many she couldn't remember then called me a narcissist I said that's self projection, anyway it's over I don't want her but still want to break the silence and somehow save her like a hero but your video has given me strength and changed my thoughts
They don’t need us.
Exactly
I am so thankful for you Andrew 1000%😊❤
Never been happier and healthier narc free. Skin, hair, sleep. Narcs will drain your soul. No contact is mandatory. ❤
Absolutely.
Yes to all… especially SLEEP! He used to get me up at midnight to make him something to eat, because he didn’t want to make it himself
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Why did you do that?
Do you hate nice men?
My narc was my mother. Would never become a slave of a other woman again. Why do you women prefer arseholes, since there a so many lonely nice men outside?
What make you think it is okay being a chef at midnight, and this for an adult man?
I am asking because I am single. I do not get it.
Narcissists hit rock bottom and still don’t realize there tactics are diminishing
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They are too busy blaming others
For me, the narc kept me believing that i was the biggest loser and i was unloveable and that noone would ever be with someone like me because i was short, ugly, fat, didnt make alot of money, weak,.etc. The term "narcissist" came to mind a few times, but i hesitated to believe that for a long time because its usually narcicissts who accuse other people of being narcs. She knew i believed in God and that i didnt believe in divorce and would do anything to preserve my marriage and family. I finally snapped and walked out and never went back. Then the attacks really started. And then people started coming forward telling me she had been cheating with another married man for years. You cannot give them attention. Act as if they dont exist. Narcs thrive on pushing you till you snap and then playing the victim, then grandstanding you in front of the community.
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Four and a half years ago, I beat stage IV cancer with determination and support of my family and friends. I am now in the process of ending a 27 year marriage and 30 year relationship with a narcissist. I absolutely loved this man. When his anger became abusive, I decided that “I” am better than that. I decided to take care of me and to try and heal if at all possible. There have been many rough days, but I can’t go back and do that again. I’m worth more than that. If terminal cancer didn’t get me, I’ll be DAMNED if he’s going to get me!!!!
Happy Thanksgiving
God bless you. You're a beautiful lady and you have come through so much already. You're strong and determined. I wish you every grace and blessing in this life, you deserve an abundant, peaceful and joyful life and you're going to have it! . Keep going forward, the finish line is in sight! 🙏💕🌸🌸🌸
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I've got a very similar story to that Cindy, unbelievable isn't it? I got blamed for the narcissist physically assaulting me!! Twice!! At that point we were done. 33 years.
Thank you for sharing..🙏❤️😌
Cindy, I wish you good health and happiness ❤
There are worse things in life than being alone-like living with a narcissist!
@Barbara. The narc is a 🦨"""::....
Amen
Being alone is a gift!
i was alone in the relationship with them anyway so i have no problem being alone now and free🎉
Ameen to that
We can escape from them but they can never escape themselves.
Yes, Yes, Yes I was down and out. Financially, emotionally, Physically sick, high blood pressure, pain throughout the entire body, always tired, wake up soaking wet, extremely jumpy, not able to relax, always on guard, always prepared, confused and delirious, depressed, full of anxiety, lost absolutely everything including my mind. When succubus has pulled absolutely everything out of you, deep in dept, no money, no credit, demoted from job, foreclosure on your house, evicted from your apartment and then kicked you to the curb without a penny in your pocket. This is when you walk around in a daze thinking, what the Hell happened ? At this point you'll find out who your true friends are and you will need them to get through this. You WILL get through this, WE ALL did that's why we are helping others through this. Hang in there, It does get better, just keep praying and educating yourself with all that happen, so it will never happen again. My mistake was I did not do that and ended up with another one, just as bad if not worse. But. now I am not letting this happen again. We love you, and study up on narcissist.
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THANKS ANDREW!!!❤!!!💜🔥🙏
Went to church this morn, had tears but came home & decided to go for a long ebike ride. Went 32 miles then came home baked a turkey breast, cranberries and a baked sweet potato. I thoroughly enjoyed my day. It gave me hope and confidence that I can do whatever I want alone!!
Best to you Becky!
What a wonderful feeling! All the best!❤
Great job! Proud of you!
Beautiful
Of course You can!!!
You are the queen of YOUR realm!
(You really spread energy as queen🤚)
Once you realize the narcissist relationship is over, you stop chasing them. It's an empowering feeling to start moving on with the improvement of yourself and ur life. Moving back up in life without the neglect, indifference and disrespect of giving your life to someone that never appreciated you. Yes, I got my ass kicked. It's been kicked before. I'll just dust myself off and move up. To never allow anyone to abuse me like that ever again!
I hate how I miss him still even when I know he's no good for me 😔
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@Maria. Pondering the good times...then I realized the narc was a bad habit...besides being an oxygen thief...he was a waste of time & money & goodwill & patience & ... I could go on forever !
Omg...from her gaslighting on Halloween about reconciliation to the getting knocked up initially to start the " relationship".
Its like theyre clones.
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This time last year the narcissist screamed in my face over a comment I made in frustration over his weaponized incompetence. I had seen a number calling on his phone that I had been seeing for a couple of years. I suspected i that it was his new supply. I knew, after that awful Thanksgiving day, that I was done and had to get out. I left him a week later to the day. I've never regretted it. Today I enjoyed a home made, delicious feast with friends who have become like extended family. My life is so blessed, and I give God all the glory. May God bless you, Andrew, for your loving service to humanity.
I found my exe’s, ex wife on our phone bill throughout our relationship. Their deceit is disgusting.
All glory to our Father in Heaven for giving you the strength to leave💟May God Bless you everyday🙏♥️
I am so much happier and healthier now. There was a time where I thought I would not ever feel ok again. Thank you for this channel and having a safe place for people to get through this.
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It truly does get better with time ❤️
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneYou are really good at motivating people who are suffering of narcissistic abuse whit gratitude 🇧🇪💙 18:46
Yep. They work quickly to close the deal because their wheels fall off the minute you leave the parking lot.
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Lol! I needed that 🤣🤣🤣
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Thank you for your positivity!!! I just ended a 4 year relationship with a covert narcissist. I finally figured out who/what he is. I feel broken, but I’m putting myself together again like Humpty Dumpty. ❤❤❤
Praying for all of you our there that feel unloved and taken advantage of. I am surviving because of videos like this.
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No, don't really celebrate it, and no one to cook for anyhow. Still, it's hard to be alone when everyone else is with their families. But, today, I'm watching a red headed woodpecker who's visited my area several times, so, he'll be my family today. He's got a good beat! 😊
And my dinner is a homemade veggie soup. All in all, it's been a peaceful day. ❤
Don't forget- You've got a family here. It's better than being with a toxic family in any celebration.
Happy T-Day. Smile bit- You escaped the torture.👍💪
@@jhavajoe3792 Yes, I do! And this family has put plenty of smiles on my face! Thank you, Jhavajoe. 😊😊❤️🙏🏻
You have been brave. Put your feet up today, and enjoy your soup. Woodpeckers are great fun.
@@kathleencondit1660 🙏🏻❤️ thank you Kathleen gonna do just that! Enjoy you're day as well! 👍❤️🙏🏻🕯️
Jesus loves you... And believe me... When everyone leaves, he don't. And sometimes it feels better to be alone than with people who make you lonely. 🤗 Hope u r doing okay.
The other day, my narcissistic brother hid my mail from me, what he doesn't know is, I have the informed mail app, so I see everything coming for the day, I walked up to him and said, my mail better be on the table or I'm filling a report with the post master, he panicked and talked smack to me, then I exploded and got in his face and yelled, I'm on to you, you're a narcissistic, antagonistic, little drama Queen, who can bring peace to the middle East, know it all, I'm done with you!
He hasn't been home in two days, I'm a very calm guy, and he pissed me off, and now he knows that I Know!
Happy Thanksgiving friends.
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My little lady narc invited me over for Thanksgiving twice, once yesterday and again with a phone call today. She knows I will be leaving her Nov. 30.
I said no thank you both times. I ate chicken at Sonic and spent the day moving. Thanksgiving for Sonic being open!
My on the side business partner was a real narc. I provided sweat equity for over 3 years with no pay. Once I consistently observed no progress or breadcrumbs from his end, I stated that I needed to take a step back and wind-down to think (at 61 years). I also mentioned that I'm considering retirement. After a few weeks, my narc partner decided to cut me off without any explanation, a thank you or a dime for all of my 3 years of work.
For so long, I had this "illness," and I did not know what was wrong. I knew I had a bad relationship, but I was chasing all the cures for myself, as if by fixing myself, I could fix the relationship. Now, the wisdom is revealed, and I know what's wrong. Turns out I am not the crazy one, after all.
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Amen to that! 😂❤😊
Same! Thought I was literally going crazy. All my assumptions he would say I was crazy and insecure. Turns out I was right the whole time and that was my intuition, not insecurities. Focused on me now. I don’t give him anymore power over me. I only communicate with him when absolutely necessary since we have a 7 year old. I want no parts of a friendship with him and look forward to my sons 18th birthday where I will block his father out of my life forever!
Same!!!!
Wow I’m going through that right now. I was changing myself bc she said I wasn’t emotionally available enough, which sounds logical, but it didn’t help. Then I thought back and realized of course I’m not with someone who hurts me all the time. Some one I walk around egg shells around. It ending…but will be hard. 10 years married, three kids, I’m the major income provider bc I wanted her to have the choice to stay home more. Going to be rough. Really rough.
After almost ten month's of being ghosted discarded and left for dead to go to the new supply, got a Hello text Monday. Wow the ex narc is probably really going thru it 😂 because the ex knows I'm officially done. Happy Thanksgiving everyone !
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10 months seems to be the tik
The new supply probably figured things out and discarded your ex-narc, so the narc's reaching back for the good ol' supply. RUN!
Isn't it amazing that's all we ever get after they brutality leave us? "Hey"🙄
I got that, hey you, how's things!
I thought it was weird that the narc tried to make me needy. They kept putting out advantages I'd have with them. I just saw that they were trying to buy me. It was ridiculous & insulting.
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They realize that it's too late when their options have run out. They still don't get the fact that there never was any reason to be in competition with me.
I had my life mapped out before the narc came in and turned it upside down. It wasn't perfect, but I was a lot happier and more optimistic about things. I don't care that they stole the money that someone else has claimed to belong to me because of the fact that it was never mine to begin with. The problem lies in the fact that they're not satisfied with it and still want to get revenge over nothing. In order for me to continue to move forward, I have to cut all ties in regards to the people who are involved with everyone who is involved and that's what I am in the process of doing.
Thanksgiving Truth.
The narcissists are blowing up holiday tables across America today.
I Am Free!!!
It has taken years to get away from the Love Bomb Holidays.
I made myself a pie.
I rented a beach house.
We are making cheese quesadillas with homemade tortillas and guacamole for dinner like the Chumash Indians did on my beach centuries ago.
Not driving or flying or cooking or shopping or people pleasing for a bunch of snakes and a slice of dry turkey with heaps of contempt.
Thank you, Andrew!
Bye Bye Narcissists!
Welcome..💯💯❤️🙏
Allow yourself to dream a new and better future. One without the narc. You are allowed to dream differently
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I got the discard on Sunday. I'm going through the trauma bond, but I know I'll be alright. I remind myself that the person I was emotionally attached to was a mask, not the person. On Sunday I saw the person, the mask was gone. She said she was not capable of love. I knew that's true. All these things the videos say are spot on. It amazes me how accurately this channel describes my relationship.
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Going thru it right now brother
I woke one morning at the end of July. My wife told me that she wanted me to leave. The day and night before, I was showered with affection.
Love bombed, idealized, devalued, and discarded. Finances abused, just as I was on an emotional level. She told me about the high school boyfriend she had been chatting with since February - the man who just moved into my wife.
My wife told me that she was not attracted to me anymore. "Would you be attracted to me, if I weighed as much as you?" I would rather be "ugly" on the outside than ugly on the inside. I was abused. At 5'11" and 300 pounds and a voice that makes James Earl Jones sound like a tenor, people do not see me as abused. They saw her mask. I saw her darkness.
I am an empath, she is a grandiose aging narcissist. Concerns over her wrinkles, age spots, greying hair, stretch marks, and so forth. She had a mastectomy four years ago - I loved her more.
Keep your head high. God/the universe will give you what you need and not what you want.
I just hit the 6 month mark. I saw my spouse for the first time in 6 months the other day when he came to pick up our son for a few days. It was almost civil. 😂
white knuckle it for 3 months to break the trauma bond, with *no* contact
Christmas was always special to the narcissist. We baked cookies together and I made beautiful cookie trays for his friends. Of course he took all the credit but he is going to miss that this year. He had a new supply when he ended our relationship 8 months ago but she is no longer with him so he is alone.
@Robin Shot himself in the foot ! 🤣
and he doesn't care...so.
don't keep thinking of him
@@annreiter284 On a lighter note -narcs car totalled & workplace closure on the horizon...Merry Christmas folks ! 🎄✨🎉
The material world doesn’t always notice or reward the achievement of defeating narcissism so thank you Andrew for reminding the community what we have accomplished what we have defeated 🏆
Welcome 😌😌🙏
If you go out, commit to an act of kindness every day.
Thank you, Andrew for that inspirational and empowering message today. My first narcissist free winter season in 12 years!
Welcome 💪💯🙏
Take good care of "yourself"!!! Surround "yourself" with all of "your" favorite things!
Make sure "you" tell "yourself" that "you" are one of a kind, no one else in this world, can be "you" or replace "you"!!!
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Winter is a good time to look within.
Glad you made it 😊
Same for me! Met him Feb 2012. Left him August 23. Sending you love and the best wishes.
Thankyou for this inspirational post.
22+ years. She’d go to therapy and make me believe she was “changing.” DECADES!!! Finally divorced ✝️ cele🎉🎉🎉🎉
I was alone all the time during the holidays.
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It was a shitshow of passive aggression and rage on the way home.
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I finally had to block narc family yesterday. Last nights sleep was the best sleep I've had in a long time. Was struggling with insomnia along with the abuse from remaining narc siblings. I had to come to the realization that as much as I was trying to fix the constant drama with them, I had to accept they did not want to fix anything, so at 65 yrs old, a widow with no children, I had to remove myself from this toxic environment or live the rest of my life this way. I weighed the Pros and Cons and the Cons greatly outweighed the Pros because there were no Pros which gave me the answer I needed to justify the outcome. Im now so relieved and moving forward. I'd much rather be alone with peace, than be with family in chaos.
They double down and stab you in the heart every chance they can-
I am a champion. I have just recently shut her down and now she knows how much I know her. I crushed it. Thanks to vids like this.
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As a year and a half has gone by, I realize just how one sided the "relationship" was. A narcissist only loves themselves, they could never be happy unless they destroy any happy days that could of been.
💖ALONE? If you are spending this holiday alone, please do not be lonely.💗
Realize that you are with the most loving and caring person you will ever know.
The person that has fought on your behalf and has your best interest at heart.
The one that knows your heart, your needs and your wants better than anyone.
The person that will continue to seek to do good regardless if what comes back is in gratitude or likeness. Look into a mirror. That person is you. You are not alone. We are with you in spirit.
Blessings to you! Sending everyone love! ♥
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Beautiful Lourdes 👍
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Thank you for sharing your wisdom and love always Lourdes
Sending you love right back ❤️
"Think about THAT for a minute..." People...please know... Narcissists want you DESTROYED...You mean NOTHING to them. You will NEVER mean anything to them. Get away and STAY AWAY...It is your only hope.
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I'm in the healing process, my narc husband left us almost 3 yrs ago.
I've returned 2 weeks ago on a social media platform,and to my surprise an ex from 20 yrs ago reached out to me,he was my boyfriend back then and he started a conversation with me,to make a long story short he was the other narc in my life,they always try to get some supply even after yrs it's unbelievable!!!
If you are still reading Andrew i need to thankyou from the bottom of my heart if I wasn't listenning to your video's I probably would of agreed to a date with him.
Trust that they will reach out to you on their death bed. They never give up. They just rotate from person to person and whomever gives them an opening they take it. Congrats on your awareness and saying "NO". ❤
@lourdesecheverria6209 Thankyou,and believe or not it was hard to turn him down,but when you know better you do better!😉
They will look for you for life, they need empaths to survive, bullies the lot of them
Oh yes they will try again years later!So glad you resisted him.
I got a call a narcissist ex Bf after 9 yrs recently I hung up on his ear as soon as I realised who it was.They always keep trying the closed door hoping we forget.This guy was very firmly dispatched by me as he outed himself but he still had the cheek to try again after such a long time. We have to be vigilant ,they are always slithering around looking for old and new supply.
Yup. I'm no contact with my narc mother and she just stole my phone number from my grandmother who has dementia. She texted me "I really do love you"
And I pretended to be a wrong number and replied:
"is this ___ who stole from this elderly woman thousands of dollars because she has dementia and you can vampirize her?"
And she freaked out "Who is this, is this ___(my father's name) and why do you call me that? Your aunt is telling lies again blah blah blah I'm blocking you whoever you are!"
And I rose triumphant. She's thousands of miles away and has no access to me so I did that safely and omg what a great holiday it is! 😀
To anyone going through this remember your beautiful ok, please contact officials if these monster person HARM you ...The Abuse Will Not STOP... And Don't Allow Them.. Family member's DO Horrible things to 😢😢 YET TRUE like Andrew is speaking to you TRUTH ❤🙏💯
WE. ARE. STRONG. SURVIVORS!! All of us here. For me personally, Thanksgiving is each and every day where I have survived it and become my true self again.
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Beautiful, positive message. Thank you. What a nightmare. 23 days out. Starting over from scratch.
Welcome 🙏❤️😌💪
It is tuff....hang in there.
Listen to Andrew & read the comments from this awesome community.... people care!
Blessings 🌈
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You CAN do this…. One day at a time. Best wishes
Yes, one day at a time, and one day you'll realize it's been months, then years. Congrats, because the scariest part is starting out on a new journey, which you now have underway. Take care of yourself! ❤
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The ex narc pretended to like the Holiday's and special occasions but, boy did that change once you are finally alone with them 😂
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I was placed in an emotinal assault course from the age of17 to now 44!!
Spent three years in dark night...solid.
Lost loved ones, total isolation in every way.
Too many narcs in the space of 26 years.
I am out... escaped in june now in refuge..... growing even more... abundance does flow!!!
Miracles and angels ate bound.
❤❤ happy Thanksgiving LIFE!!
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❤🫂💪🙌✨🦋 love to you
Miracles and angels! Yes! Continue on the healing path and blessing and love sent your way!❤❤
@@gratefultobehere thank you greatful. Massive hugs coming your way.🌹🫂🫂🫂💕💖🌿🌲
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God bless you on your healing journey.
My ex of 47 years left me Feb 14 2020 - happiest day in my life. She is a narcissist, and she hired a maligant narrissest for an attorney!
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So true about other people not understanding if they haven't experienced it themselves. I find it frustrating and very tiring trying to explain to my family for example. My Sister even even used the phrase.......WHATS WRONG WITH YOU . Not exactly the the thing i wanted to hear from my caring Sister. I feel like my Sister has almost given up on me. Im left feeling embarrassed about myself. Even my own daughter doesn't understand and said i need to toughen up, i think maybe She also looks at me as being weak. A narcissistic partner does this to you over time without you realising it creeping up on you.
I'm at the indifference stage. I really don't care anymore. It's a peaceful place of healing. ❤️🩹
Well Andrew, this one got me a bit teary eyed. The passion you put into this, especially the last few minutes, is so heartfelt and can only come from someone who has lived through similar experiences. Keep shining that beautiful light, my brother. Thank you. 🙏❤️✨️
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Well said Sherry, i thought the exact same thing.🙂
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I cried as well
It is true. If a person has not been through this, this person cannot fathom the destruction. Thank you Andrew.
That was a mighty powerful message brought forth in this video. Starting around 15 minutes, you left me speechless. "You defeated something that you didn't even know you were up against ". "To beat something that you didn't even know what you were up against is absolutely astounding. And that's what you did. And that's what I did". God's blessings to you. Have a good evening. Thank you for all you do🙂. Sending a virtual hug 🤗, love & peace right back at you ☀️☀️☀️ Love💓the pine🌲 branches behind you
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone You're welcome 😊 🌔
This teaches me about them but sometimes iv been guilty too
A woman ,60 yrs old was married to a man 17 yrs her senior who is a narc, is still in love with him after 10 yrs after she divorced him. She likes his company but knows he is a danger to her sanity. They live apart in the same city. Help..
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I cannot begin to express my gratitude for the absolutely critical work that you do for ALL survivors of this most sinister and baffling form of abuse. Honestly i can say in many ways I would rather have broken both arms and legs, than to have gone through my own personal nightmare of dealing with someone of this unique personality disorder, I certainly would have experienced a quicker healing time frame. I really appreciate knowing there are people like you out there aboard spaceship earth!! Bless you and your family .Namaste
My ex-husband blamed me the first year of our marriage for it was my fault for him cheating on me with multiple women. Said it was because I hadn’t given him kids and he wanted so badly to be a father. We get pregnant and he wanted me to abort our first child. (I kept the baby). Second time he started the same pattern and pregnant with baby two, he wasn’t happy about it. Now divorced, he never made an effort to meet baby two once and doesn’t even call or text to ask about the kids. Only occasionally texts me when drunk to tell me how happy he is now and how well he is doing.
@ske. Funny how crazy & arrogant pair together within the narc. 🙃
Yes Andrew, the narc wasted my last holiday last year 2022. I am peaceful without the narc this year 2023.
Oh Andrew, you're spot on‼️ Vows are worthless to a narc.
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He had liver cirrhosis....but I didn't get the education or understand. And it's been nearly a year and I'm still confused and unwell...but have my home back and gradually finding me. Doing home projects but tomorrow is going to be another step up 😊 🇬🇧
So so happy for Andrew that he has found his new family!!😂😊🎉
1995 Thanksgiving, I had a large family coming. Lots of cooking. The narc insisted that I take a ride with him that turned out to be 2 hrs. He whisked me away to propose on Thanksgiving day. I chose this yr to be alone & reflect on that day. I realize now he made the family gathering abt him.
Our 24 yr marriage would be with 4 separations, one divorce then remarried. I stayed through every relapse ,job loss etc. Not sorry, I released myself this time to heal get help & let him live his new addiction, social media,gym adoration,new supply . I’m grateful everyday for my freedom & continued education & my third act @ 72. Mix self medication with these people & it’s a rabbit hole like no other. I am released💪🏻☀️😊
Thank you for sharing this..😌🙏💯
There's nothing more dangerous than a covert narcissist that has boatloads of money and no job or responsibilities. I jumped ship 90 days in. I don't care what kind of money she has I saw crazy and ran
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Andrew and all have a very blessed
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Mine moved in daughter moved out ....he showered me with love n admiration, then took control changed everything under his name on insurance. , I was to weak to fight for my home. But somehow I got some strength and got him out with authorities help. He died 3month later 😊
I don't think I will ever cross his mind even those we was around other most of the holidays, he gonna on with his new supply putting her on the petal stool telling everyone today she the best thing that ever happen to him I did nothing for him only I got use badly,and right now his head up in the air today probably around her family betraying to be good to her and he in love no telling what he doing I just know I don't exist anymore to him and his family😢 so today I just have to fight through this whole day trying to keep a good spirit I have a new grandbaby so I need to be strong for him.
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I’m sorry 😞You are going though this. They are not capable of love. They wear masks. She is his new toy. Just by bragging about his new supply( love bomb) is despicable, no class. They thrives on our misery. I focus on the positives of my life. The big one is: Good ridden with the bad rubbish 🙏 in college we used to pin a pic of the person/persons we didn’t like on caulk board and have a dart throwing contest 🤣🤣🤣 We can go forward with our life and be happy, content. Peace is priceless! Praying for your healing🙏❤🌷Namaste
I am so thankful that I did not have to sit with Dracula at the head of the table today. It feels good to be congratulated for having escaped Dracula's castle - alive - almost a year ago. It has been tough but I feel free as though I dug myself out of being buried alive. I can breathe again, laugh again. After this video, I have patted myself on the back. I needed that. Thank you, Andrew. I still have work to do but it is my work - not working for someone else. I did not scrub down the whole Bran Castle with old cobwebs this year. I just baked the pies, what I love to do.
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🤟 Greed is a major factor - Never Enough!
NARC FREE THANKSGIVING BABY!!!! 😊
She made sure to ruin today....so tough with kids😢
You are taking the words right out of my voice. I enjoy every word you say. tickles my heart. keep up your work. Thanks
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HI ANDREW AND MY BEAUTIFUL FAMILY!! HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO EVERYONE!!🦃💜💜 I HOPE EVERYONE ENJOY YOUR DAY WITH PEOPLE WHO TRULY LOVE YOU!!!! WE ARE THANKFUL FOR SURVIVING THE NARCISSIST AND GETTING OUR POWER!!😊
thank you your kind words and thoughts. Hope you are enjoying your holiday as well.
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Thank You! Happy Thanksgiving to everyone! Especially Andrew 🙏❤ my last reply : I don’t care! To the narc is a cross to keep blood sucking vampire away. Peace is priceless. Namaste 🙏
When the narcissist realize it is too late, I see a new beginning. Very thankful today.
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Andrew, you have helped validate every feeling I had. My N and I were in his studio one evening making pottery. He said something to me, though I don't remember what it was. My mind said, "Are you really going to let him talk to you that way?" I left my pot on the wheel and told him I needed to use the restroom. I got in my truck and left. That's how I ended it.
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Bravo! It's still strong and healthy way down there in your core. I can visualize his pot on the wheel flopping over
like his ego.
My Dad told a story of a lady who made wind bells endlessly. One day, she got up from her wheel, and screamed, Bells,Bells, Bells. She left, and never came back. Good for you for leaving.
Wishing you Andrew,,,,and all our beautiful viewers a HAPPY THANKSGIVING,,peace,love ,and Abundance ,sent 👉🏻🦃👉🏻❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻😇🇨🇮
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I looked my wife in the eyes for hours making life plans at the end of our condo lease & we booked flights to Denver. She ditched me and flew off to India to meet another man after getting a Green Card through me where I did everything for the love of my life, literally met every demand possible. (Long story short) . Completely broken human I was, still am at times, a matter fact I am at rock bottom after the second narcissistic discard (she told me few times she’s a narcissist). I can’t believe how I ended up here, i hate being an empath.
I did get in the best shape of my life & she noticed it and commented on it. Thinks I am 100x more successful now but she doesn’t chase me for supply and hasn’t found any new supply as she struggles with $ after being spoiled by me. It’s shocking she doesn’t Hoover and runs away instead of trying to manipulate me again (she’s been caught few times now and knows it)
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But Why does she want nothing to do with me now after being treated like a queen and now she thinks I made a bunch of money as well In 2023?
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IM GETTING STRONGER AN I SEE IT SO CLEARLY !!!👍
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Here's a good one guys. I can never feel any joy or satisfaction for anything I do or offer to do for my wife. It's always the same. If I offer or do something for my wife, she'll turn me down or not like what I do, or criticize me for not doing what she didn't want me to do a week ago. It's a no-win situation. It messes with your head. And she catastrophizes everything. To the point where she so overthinks everything that nothing gets done. No plans stick, vacations, activities, etc. It's a constant state of anxiety. She now sends me these video clips from social media to support her doomsday outlook on things. She's a complex personality. There's narcissist traits, with anxiety, ADHD, Borderline, mixed mess. All I know is it's a really taxing navigation for me. I wonder if you guys know what I mean. It's not black and white.
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Thank you so much for your thoughtful and thought-provoking response. I really feel a connection to this community.
Thank you for taking the time to express your very helpful feedback.
Just to add, narcissists are not only husbands/wives/spouses, they can be family members, or just friends. But they ALL suck you in, in the same way.
Sorry for anyone going through this. It can be a very lonely place to be.. I hope and pray you heal and hopefully find someone better. 😞
Dated for three years before she got pregnant. The day of the 1st ultrasound was the first time I found out what her actual real name was ….
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Happy Thanksgiving everyone! I'm spending today alone but have been doing it for 20 years so I'm VERY used to it! It's actually pretty stress free. When I think back on holidays with the Narcs in my life, I'm so grateful to just be at peace on any given holiday. So, to anyone who is alone today and feels lonely, I want you to know that you are NOT ALONE being alone! We are all in this together and we have a great support group here with Andrew! May you all be blessed! Namaste. 🦃❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
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I have been grateful for the lack of unnecessary drama. Except for my cats, I mean. I baked some side dishes, as that's all I would have missed about a gathering, and watched movies. Perfect! ❤
Being alone on thanksgiving is a gift ! ❤ I was in a room with the Narc for 27 years and always felt alone . Now I know for sure being alone with strength ,knowledge and Narc free is beyond any gift I have ever received. I am moving forward . Everyday has ups and downs but they are my ups and downs not the NARCS! 😊
My niece goes to my narc brother's house in San Diego once a year for Thanksgiving. That's the only time she sees him. She lives in W. Hollywood and takes the train down. Only 2 nights. Told me today that she thinks that only one night would be her limit, if that. Please don't feel badly for her because tonight she's at the Sunset Tower having a martini with her mother. Just wish I could be there, but I am grateful, relaxed, and have such aundance by myself. Conictivity is where it's at.🎉❤
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Today is my solo Intentional Gratitude Day. I hope you all are celebrating your courageous healing work to break the chains of the past. Freedom rocks, and better late than never.
Rock on tribe! Golden Girl❣️
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Happy thanksgiving Andrew! WE are your family now and we love you! Thank you for all that you are doing!
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From one beautiful shining light to another. I left my malignant narcissistic ex over three years ago, in the third version of myself, life is calm, life is good. You are not alone.
You're spot-on with this one , Sir ⭐✨⭐✨⭐✨⭐✨⭐.... 👍
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You can get out of the narcissist abuse cycle . Thought I couldn’t at one time. I was beaten down and could not think clearly then. But I did get through i. You can 😘💪👏
I find that My Narcissist thinks he can buy everything and anything especially people!
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25 years in marriage for me. I provided for this woman, everything, and recently found out she had been seeing her friend she'd know for 27 years. The ultimate betrayal was that 5 years ago she started taking my kids over to his home. This week I found out from my oldest as she cried her eyes out that she's held this secret from me for so long. I was devasted. Unfortunately their mother never cleaned, cooked, and is a hoarder. I stayed for the kids even though I saw the signs and I confronted her over the suspicions. I know I made the right choice but unfortuntely it sped up the proccess because I was waiting for my youngest to gradutate.
Mine was only about the rent . Fake humanity never pays for food or power.
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Oh gosh. This is so true!! 2 months ago i left a covert narcissist, married 7 years to him. I didnt even know about this trauma bonds or gas lighting. I thought i was losing my mind. And my finances. So grateful for youtube videos on narcissism that helped me get clarity and get out of the relationship.
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Damn, I’m packing bags. Thanks for the info & words of strength. This helped
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He tells me he has a headache but he’s still loud and laughing?😎
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Two weeks ago, my girlfriend told me she doesn’t tell me she loves me because she doesn’t want to lie.
I don’t know what I was thinking but I guess I’ve been holding onto some crumb of hope.
I’ll tell her I want to move on but she’s going to fight me.
So glad I was damaged!!! I was too strong for him!! He would be mad!!! God was protecting me!! I knew it was him not me!!!
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" You defeated something you didn't know you were up against." That's a very powerful statement. Thank you, Andrew!
Thanksgiving here with the narc was always us buying everything, us preparing everything and us driving the narc around. The narc without fail would ruin every single holiday. Bad mood, isolating in another room, angry at any joy, gossiping about us, and many other miserable behaviors. Staying true to ourselves this year. Happy Thanksgiving and thank you Andrew!
Yep Anne I feel that too. Ruining every single holiday and vaca too: grumpy as heck never sure WHY. Never a good reason why in fact we should all be grateful for time spent especially being able to take vacations to the beach and such. New Years was always awful every single year I would switch a staff member to be off Christmas and work her New Years to avoid the drama. I am actually looking forward to the holidays this year as he has exited our lives after 25 years of marriage and 30 years with dating. YIKES. Thanksgiving was very peaceful. 1st holiday of many to come with our older kiddos and it was pleasant.
I'm glad you had a peaceful Thanksgiving, the loss was his. I'm sure you will have much better and brighter times ahead!