CHILDREN ARE NOT ACCESSORIES | Thoughts on Brittany Dawn's Foster Announcement
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She LITERALLY got rid of a DOG because his "energy" gave her too much anxiety- but they're going to care for troubled youth? That would be funny if it wasn't so terrifying.
This!!! You are so right.
She makes me feel like she's gonna do what was done to H
Yes
Omg. I forgot this was also her. Every time she does something she somehow gets worse. And they're very much treating it like dog adoption, trying them out. What happens if they're not allowed to put the kid on socials? What if the child doesn't want to have their life broadcast? Or, heaven forbid (sarcasm) they don't want to go to church for 5 hours every week? I know so many people who went through the foster system and come out with traumatic experiences because people don't go into fostering for the right reasons.
As an adopted kid not all of us are "troubled youth" and this is offensive to assume about us. The troubles happen after being adopted and being exposed to shitty parents who act like they are hero's for adopting us..
I have concerns because no child in a foster situation is perfect. She loves the idea of displaying perfectionism, and he seems to have quite the temper.
I agree. Also they are to judgmental to be fostering a child.
Yes!!!! If he is quick to temper Fostering is not a place for him. I see this as an unraveling end to their marriage. You cannot control kids especially ones who have experienced trauma.
Absolutely- she’s thinks the child will come as a neat little package she can display on social media. If they do take a placement, I fear she has no idea what they’re actually in for.
This!! No child is ever perfect, let alone one with trauma from being separated from their family.
Foster company application review: Him: Fired for police brutality. Her: Indicted for fraud. Quality parents!!
Yeaaa how the heck ?? good point
In most states you only need no felony in the last 5 years (some it’s no felony ever) to make slightly above the poverty line and to have a bedroom. The amount of space each child needs is minuscule-we has a room that was like 10x8 and could have had 3 kids in that room in Illinois.
The requirements for a foster parent are SIGNIFICANTLY less than for a birth parent to have their chicken returned to them, this includes, mental health requirements, cleanliness and the requirements for taking kids to appointments AND foster parents get more help. Birth parents are left to figure it out for themselves and foster parents are given a stipend, free daycare, WIC even if you don’t financially qualify, and insurance. The majority of children in foster care are there because of poverty and those “perks” from foster care would actually make it possible for them to stay in their home.
I say all this as a former foster parent, a former caseworker and a parent who has adopted from foster care.
Yea, have they even passed the background checks yet?
@@Cbbartelt I am currently fostering and have adopting in Illinois.
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The constant “children in need” thing always gives me the ick because it feels like they would be the type of parents who exchange basic care for gratitude and affection. God knows I’ve struggled with that with my own dad, who afforded the bare minimum stipulated by a lawyer, and now that I’m an adult he just doesn’t understand how he can’t buy my love and respect.
My sister has done fostering and Foster to adopt, when people ask her how she handles the Heartbreak she tells them well, I'm the adult I know how to process this more than a child who doesn't understand why they aren't at home. At least when they're with me they will know love and safety.
To Brittany Dawn religion is a game named "Christian Aesthetic". To win the game she is trying to complete several quests which include, but are not limited to
1) Modesty (includes judging people's clothing, appearance and behaviour + terrible terrible brown hair and extensions)
2) Bible talk (you don't need to actually understand what you're saying, just memorize some random words and phrases)
3) Godly gorgeous glowing pregnancy and motherhood thoroughly documented and flaunted on social media (100%) or 3.1.) Foster parent a child (depending on the cuteness 50-80%)
Att. For the game to function properly you must have installed heterosexuality, whiteness and wealth
Right.
I also think its important to point out that neglected/abused/traumatized babies grow up to have bigger issues. They don't remember what happened, but it has a lasting effect on their neurological development. A foster baby isn't a clean slate.
$10 Says that if they conceive naturally, they will close their license.
That would be for the best.
@@NoNameNumberTwo Not necessarily- they shouldn’t have any kids at ALL.
Brittany Dawn is 100% hoping she gets pregnant during the adoption process or right after. It is a semi unique situation to be in aka it makes her story a little more interesting than other channels who are adopting. She would also get live out her “ twin” fantasy. Literally anything that gets her more attention.
This is EXACTLY what I was thinking!
The sad part is they want a BABY not a child… they seem to not want a child with trauma but a baby that doesn’t know or understand trauma
I can't help but think about Myka Stauffer and fear something like that could occur. I'm trying to give the adults here the benefit of the doubt for now as they do seem earnest.
He’s a former cop with a history of brutality and she’s being investigated for fraud, they aren’t earnest I promise. 🥴
She gives me MAJOR Myka vibes although I think Myka is more delusional about what she can get away with. Brittany Dawn seems sneakier and more deceitful.
I thought of Myka, too! I really hope they aren’t allowed to foster a kid. There’s enough terrible foster parents out there already.
It's really giving "a child will surely fix the relationship!"
I’m not all the way through the video but this is giving “I saw the mistakes Myka made and I’m going to do this in a way that won’t get me cancelled when I don’t want them anymore”
I was thinking the exact same thing!
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Omg, praying for the children that end up with them.
My biggest concern (as a person who has worked with children in the foster care system), is that if they do end up taking a child that they could cause that child more trauma. If they decide they aren't up for it or it's not what the expect and send the child away, that's going to mess up that child even more. I really hope they know what they're getting into and are able to provide the child with the care that the child needs
A mothers heart???? This girl can’t even keep a dog for a normal life span…
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The amount of Christianese Brittany spews in this video has my head spinning. It's like she has a checklist of the most cliche terms and she can't be done speaking until she's hit them all. 🤮
I would think here in Texas Brittney wouldn’t be able to foster as she is being sued by the state attorney. 🤷🏻♀️
Also, I have a friend who fostered and she was not allowed to post images of the little boy on her social media.
I am not sure how that would work through a private agency but they might not be able to make money off the child.
I know a few people who adopted and fostered(in different states) and in all the situations they couldn’t post on social media for so many months- a year. Can’t imagine them going THAT long without them being present on social media.
Maybe with a private organization they’re not as through with their background checks
They probably aren't even thinking about how dangerous it can be for the child to put their face or their details on social media when there may be safety concerns around someone from their birth family etc.
This might be mean....but her husband shot their dog... and they couldn't keep their dog safe. It would concern me if they are given a child to care for.
I don’t think it’s mean at all, it’s just true. He did shoot their dog. And I’m pretty sure they have even have close proximity to an emergency vet. They’re disgusting quite frankly.
I don’t think it’s mean either! Plus, if I understood the story correctly, they left the dog outside while they left the house which was not the wisest choice considering where they live.
@@BHaney true that!
I agree with you! I am a preschool teacher and have worked with kids who are in foster care and have experienced trauma. It's very emotionally draining and rewarding to help children navigate their feelings and help them through their behaviors. Even though I have learned how to help children who have experienced trauma I know I don't have the emotional energy to foster. As a teacher I poor my heart into my kids. But I get to go home and recharge. Being a foster parent is a huge responsibility.
The timeline/announcement makes absolutely no sense. I live (born and raised) in Texas. My parents have been certified foster parents my entire life (I'm 39), and I have 3 brothers who are adopted. My husband and I have also looked into this for the future since fostering and adoption holds such a special place in our hearts. Anyway, in Texas, (private facilities included) a married couple has to be married for a minimum of THREE years before they are even considered for adoption, and the fostering requirements are not much different. The process for approval takes months, sometimes YEARS, for both scenarios. Announcing something like this, this way, as if it were already fact and they were actively in the process of becoming certified, is complete fabrication, not to mention arrogant and disrespectful to all of the couples and families out there who HAVE gone through the rigorous and difficult process with sincere and selfLESS intentions. It just simply does not work that way. I 100% agree with you B, this is was a strategic move to remain relevant, period.
We were foster parents in Flint Michigan for 4 years. It was the hardest thing ever. We had our own two children. They don’t tell you how hard it is. They never give you all the information on the children or even lie to get you to take placements. Now, I try to talk everyone out of it, or heavily educate them on the hardships. It can be very dangerous too. We had several families try to follow us home from visitations at the center, and the centers will NOT protect you.
My sister in SC encountered similar issues. She finally got state transport resources but it was awful
@@notheothersarah yeah. We loved all of the kid through our doors, but the other things involved in foster care made everything too hard. We had to protect our biological little ones from the trauma and danger. Not worth it
That’s so scary that you had incidents of families trying to follow you home, but I have heard of similar experiences when we went through our licensing classes. ☹️ fostering is incredibly difficult and I understand making the difficult choice to stop.
Did you go through training with experienced foster carers? I have heard that that is where people learn the reality of what to expect.
She's also been busy ignoring the State of Texas requests for additional information in their legal action against her.
I wonder how she’ll react if she fosters a child with different religious beliefs.
They couldn’t even have a puppy because it’s needs were more than she could handle…. Kids are harder than puppies. 🙄 If they becoming foster parents, they will hold that over the child like crazy. THEY sacrificed for that child. THEY are the reason that child has a home. That child should be so grateful for THEM. 😫 they have no idea what that entails and I don’t think they have the capacity for it.
I'm only at about 8 minutes, but I hate the term "foster to adopt." My immediate thought was "what is this, a rent to own situation?!" Coming from her, it is just 🤮
She's 31 years old? I thought she was over 35.
I'm not praying for these fake people. In fact, I hope they do not go through with this process because they are absolutely NOT prepared.
If they do open their home up to foster and potentially adopt I just hope they respect that child’s right to have privacy. We don’t need any more myka stauffers in the world.
Yeah there is no way they will respect their child’s privacy, biological or not.
How tf is this man passing any background checks??????
That’s what I’m wondering. He is sketchy and so is she.
They give me vibes like that one family on youtube who adopted then literally sent the kid back. Someone will know who Im talking about!
The Stauffers
Myka Stauffer
I feel like she still hopes to get pregnant while she foster to adopt, and she will either be happy to have irish twins/close in age children or will "return" the foster child if they're too difficult to deal with because of trauma...
I will never understand creators putting their entire life online then acting so condescending towards any criticism.
Kathryn Joyce covers the phenomenon of Christian's adopting for proselytizing purposes in the book Child Catchers.
Gonna put this on my list. I read an article about the Above Rubies daughter adopting and the stories were a bit ick.
@@srgriffithauthor she covers what happened with the Above Rubies adoptions. Also she discusses how pastors frame adoption as a missionary opportunity. Along with other egregious behaviors, but you'll find out what they are once you read the book.
My husband and I have been together 10 years and when I look back on our relationship when it was as young as theirs… I just… That’s a lot to take on all at once.
listening to her makes me feel even more confident in my fear of these two being foster parents. I really hope they prove us all wrong... but im so so concerned.
Why is she always “wrecked”?? I know this is not an insightful comment but it annoys me every time she says it
I'm just thinking of her other content and other such issues she's run into, and this just seems like a fast track to disaster.
If you can't handle animals, you can't handle kids. Especially not foster kids.
advice from someone who was adopted... going through the process is lonely, NEVER tell the child you feel like you would have connected better with a biological kid... it broke me...
I remember seeing a video of her saying that she was experiencing spiritual warfare as a result of choosing to foster. It came across to me as attention seeking. Eventually this will turn into some way of making money
Biblically we are called to care for the orphans and widows.
They gross me out so much. They cant even take care of their dogs!
Omg I commented on that same reel which I’ve never commented on her stuff before lol. That entire post irked me
Oh my word! You’re my favorite! I always appreciate your commentary and agree 100% with what you’ve said! For perfectly healthy people, it can take more than a year to get pregnant! I also appreciate what you said about “fostering to adopt,” that makes so much sense.
Thank you so much! 💛
And for sure, they really just started trying so it’s odd that they are making it seem like the fact that they aren’t pregnant yet is abnormal.
imo the last thing those two need is children-- foster,adopted or biological. 🙅♀️🙅♀️🙅♀️
They can't even take care of animals properly ffs.
I found this news frightening. Lease to own? Shouldn't they concentrate on their upcoming court case? The court case could change their world so I would think they would want to wait to see the outcome.
In this case foster to adopt sounds to me like giving the kid a "trial run" with them to make sure they like them before they commit. commit.
#gottagetthatclout. Social media makes people insane, and the sad part is that they can’t even realize it.
I'm very concerned about any agency that thinks they're a good option. They've repeatedly shown bad decision making. Anyone else get major Duggar fundie vibes every time they talk about their "hearts"?
I'm so sick of hearing of anything sitting "on my heart." I'm cynical now so I immediately don't believe the person because it's a manipulative statement.
He is sooooooo gross 🤢 I can't handle it. His voice is worse than hers. It's scary.
BRITTANY DAWN IS A SCAMMER, I really hope she doesn’t get to foster anyone. Those children deserve someone better.
They can't even take care of dogs properly, I'm scared for any child that ends up in their home. Also, the perfectionism worries me. Rehoming is an epidemic in Christian communities, and I think they'll be contributing to the problem. If they have any bio kids, the foster kids will probably be put on the backburner and end up as the bio kid's servants or prey.
I hate this so much! They have NO IDEA how difficult it is to be a foster parent. I did it...47 heartbreaking, difficult, frustrating, and yet rewarding days. My heart is still broken 8 years later that I had to hand that precious boy back over to his mom. I hope and pray he is well. NOBODY should do this without having pure intentions!!!!
Fun fact: 12 months of trying to conceive unsuccessfully is usually when you're considered someone with fertility issues. Also, why aren't they looking into medical reasons this might be happening? Also, you're not considered a geriatric mother until after 35, so she's theoretically not too old... idk why not see a doctor first?
Oh my goodness. I've actually fostered kids for families I knew twice and it's so hard and so exhausting. It's an experience you can't possibly understand until you've been in it(as you know). If she can't handle a dog with a lot of energry, I pitty any kids that enter their home. I would do it again but it was easily one of the top 3 hardest things I've ever done. They seem to be seeing this in "this is going to be so fun and make us look so good" kind of way and they are in for a very rude awakening if this happens.
I am so concerned that a child may be placed into their care. Neither of these adults are responsible or trust worthy enough to care for someone else’s child in this way. This is what creates a generation of traumatized adults who trust no one.
PS: I feel for you and the random people showing up at your house unannounced 🥺 that would cause me so much anxiety!
They are not accessories, but foster children are paychecks.
People don't just announce that they are foster parents. It's not a job title. Kids come and go out of our home and it is never publicly announced that we are fostering.
Wise as always 👌 also, your highlights look🔥🔥🔥 homie🙌
I really don’t know what to do with these two. I wish I felt that they were nicer people.
Man, they have no clue. Fostering is so hard. They will not be able to put themselves first. She is going to be knee deep in stress and trauma. Date night will probably be gone.
You can give the child the world and they may still hate you because you took them away from their family.
I was watching her vid on this and instantly waiting on your response lol…. I just cant eveennnnn. Im a CASA volunteer, you may know what that is since you have experience with this process. I agree with everything you said❤️
Omgoodness I need to know how to find CASA resources in my home state, I don't see a valid listing, any pointers? (SC)
@@notheothersarah Im in Texas! I have no clue🥺🥺🥺 I hope you find some help!! Maybe call the family court in your town? They should know at least how to contact a casa for you.
Wow. Posting about it before even done with training makes it seem like a publicity stunt. And when she said there was such a big need because of roe v wade it makes me think they only want babies because she might think they want have problems and people will want to give them up? But maybe she doesn't realize that even a baby taken from mom on day 1 is still going to have trauma. Oh I hope they don't get approved. I mean, being in the middle of a legal battle probably isn't a good time to start this? Shes setting up this image of being this martyr foster mom but I think if she gets a placement it's going to be quite the wake up call
How can she even think about bringing a child into her family when she is being sued by the state of Texas?
It’s so selfish. You’d think you’d WANT to get your own shit in order (for the most part anyway) before bringing such a huge thing into your life. For the child’s sake. So you could focus your efforts on that one thing.
I'm super confused as to why they felt the need to announce to their hundreds of thousands of followers that they will be starting this process? They haven't even been given a placement and they've set their future fosters to be under public scrutiny months, if not years before they even step foot into their home.
Foster to adopt is not the reason to go into foster care!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Does it not occur to her that if you share your life in public, you put yourself in a place open to comment by that public. So yeah, there’s a Reddit group about her. Can’t she understand that comes with the territory? Anyway, thank you B for covering this topic in such a thoughtful and eloquent way! 💕
Yes! I love your Brittany Dawn videos, and I get a new one on my birthday! Can't wait to watch!
Happy birthday!
@@BrittiDan Thank you!!
So I know at least in Pennsylvania, if it became clear that reunification was no longer going to be a possibility, the caseworker would ask the current foster/kinship family if they would be willing to adopt the child since they already know each other and hopefully have a bond. I did have a classmate in graduate school who was planning to "foster to adopt" but I don't know if she was going through the state or through a private agency.
Those kids sure won’t be able to keep all of those white carpets and couches pristine that’s for sure.
I'm watching in my house just saying stop. I know they can't hear me but just stop. STOP DOING THIS.
I love your shirt!!! Where is it from?
What can we do? These people can NOT handle another human life. Can we call the crap out of them on twitter so they , out of shame, cancel their contract with her??
Foster care and adoption aren’t ways to grow your family. They shouldn’t be a FIRST option, let alone a second. It’s not for you to become a mummy and save these babies, it’s for them to have a safe home until they’re ready to go back to their family.
Personally I think they're going to stop fostering as soon as they realise they can't film the children and become family vloggers
Ooooo loved your comment!!!
They must be running out of content. Just like the situation with that unhoused man. 🤦♀️🤦♀️
On the plus side, I do like her more brunette hair color over the silver-blonde.
It does seem a little rushed and Just because they’ve been married for like a year doesn’t mean they won’t be able to conceive.
I feel worried and bad for any child placed with these two.
Same here ☹️
I want to know how they got approved.
My church's youth pastor and his wife (who runs a daycare) have a lot of experience with fostering kids over the last 15-20 years. They adopted 8 kids (3 from one mom and 5 from another) from abusive backgrounds and fostered more. Not to mention a few teens with difficult homelives that lived with them for a while. To me, they're an incredible example of how to care for kids in a God-honoring way.
Trying to have kids as soon as you get married is crazy to me but to each their own.
I don’t know that they have ever made me more angry than this. 😡
Also, I feel like she thinks that words have more power than they do, like when he says they haven’t been able to have kids and she made sure to say “yet” as if that was necessary for it to happen. Or that she “breaks the curse of the word fertility over her” or whatever… like chill girl, that’s not how life works. 🤦🏻♀️
ALSO, if you are trying to get pregnant then it isn’t the right time to be fostering to adopt… to each there own, but I’ve seen many people who weren’t trying and got pregnant anyway that were in the process of adoption and had to put it on hold because of the unexpected pregnancy
Really interesting to get your perspective given your experience. With everything they've done, I'm not a fan of theirs at all. I hope for the best for the sake of the child, but I'm getting the sense we could have a Stauffer situation here...
Didn’t he get accused of police brutality? 😅
I just went to look at your comment on her real, and it wasn’t there!!! (At least not that I could see)
100% agree with everything you are saying but it has barely been 4 months since R v W overturned so I don’t think it’s had an opportunity to change the foster/adoption situation that much. BD seems to think there will be lots of extra babies to adopt at this point for the same reason. She might be right in the near future but for right now no.
Please cover Dougherty dozen
Can we stop calling foster and adopted children as second best to giving birth? Gosh the mental implications of your parents saying that?
If they got a child who was slightly overweight. I could see Brittany putting the child on a green juice cleanse.
Just an idea, Maybe check your comment from another account. She may have hidden it and only you see it, which is why nobody else has interacted with it.
What happened here? I remember her posting about there first few placements and then it stopped. Her bio still says foster mom but I’m not buying it. Did we ever get an explanation from her?
“We don’t read any of it.”
Mmmmm yeah, I seriously doubt that. Brittany seems like the type of girl whose top Google search result is herself.
10 months doesn't seem like a long time to be trying. Idk. I think it's for the views.
Anyhow your hair looks so good!! Is this a heatless look too?
In California and Los Angeles County does not give your children back because they want to make money off the parents. So not true
Do you think they saw the movie ‘Instant Family’ and just decided that would be a great pr move for her?
Idk if he would be able to foster or adopt considering his past
I'm new to these people and just starting to go down the rabbit hole (wish me luck) but what is Jordan's history? 2:51 Thank you!
The Frey Life they do the same thing with their adopted kid. You should do a video on them because they have RUclips channel and a store
She deleted the comment btw.