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Story 7: I Failed My Husband while visiting some old high school friends.
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- Опубликовано: 12 дек 2023
- Wife goes to meet with old friends from high school and brings her ex-HS boyfriend back to her hotel room.
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Is it just me or do others believe she let her ex boyfriend go all the way.
It is funny how these women love their husband after they have the fun.
This is my advice...NEVER take a cheater back. Divorce and move on. Cheaters= traitors
I can't agree with what the husband did here. This entire situation is a recipe for disaster with the daughter soon she will pick up on the tension in the home. First love's are as strong as a narcotic with females, especially ones where she was the one dumped. As long as this man is in the picture the relationship is doomed! I am 65 and have seen this crap for the last 30 years.
Agreed. That's the problem with today's social media. Back in the day when you broke up with someone you never saw or heard from them again so there was no temptation. Now old high school boyfriends, college flames, ex co-workers, ex-lovers pop up on your InstaGram or whatever and now the temptation is there. So many women seduce themselves with "oh, I just wanted to see how he was" and then they're meeting for lunch "just to catch up" and then she's counting ceiling tiles in a motel room and swears she doesn't know how it happened. As you said, women never get over "that one guy" and every woman has that guy and he's out there. And if he resurfaces your marriage may just go up in flames.
She threw the note with her AP’s number in the trash. Right next to where she threw her marriage. If OP’s husband stays with her he’s an idiot.
So she met him outside, tons of kissing, him feeling her up, she drives with him to her hotel room, they pretty much bang(or they did and she didn't admit it?). And then feels guilty and confessed. This is a woman who claims she loves him SOOO much? Jay is a SIMP! This will happen over and over! Get rid of her!
Well. My wife didn't have an Ex. :) She was formally engaged to the son of her parents' friends when she was 17. Because she was too young to get married, the guy took off to explore the world and other women. He showed up 9 years later. It was two weeks after our wedding. I still remember the expression on his face :) :) :) [everything what I said really happened including the timing].
Husband was perfect and she still was a 304.
Alcohol and selfish " Vag " equals : I am so sorry , I really love you , what can I do to " fix " it ?!?!
OP's BF warned her. She became scared after cheating because BF knew what happened. She could not rug sweep it. Why didn't the husband go with her? Most Moms want to show off the kids. The OP had plenty of time to stop, but she only "froze" when she remembered her BF saw what was going on. The husband should have sent her back home. OP says AP used his mouth on her, OP did the same for AP.
The woman is such a liar because a cheater is always a cheater. If this vile cheater had any remorse she would tell her parents and the in-laws herself and be accountable for her cheating whorish behaviour. The husband is such weak simp. A man with self respect would rid himself of the lying cheater. A good father would not allow such a vile woman come in contact with his child. Allowing a cheater to stay in the home sets a bad example. It shows the child there aren’t any consequences for infidelity.
What a depressing story.
They are now divorced and they should separate fully and start their new lives away from each other. What they have now is not healthy and there is no way they will keep fooling their daughter and she will grow up in a home where her mommy and daddy only "Play Love" each other. How sad for that child that BOTH of her parents are so selfish.
This is why there should never be any contact outside of shared parenting with exes ever. They are an ex for a reason. You went from happily married to an adulterer over the coarse of a meal. Unfortunately your union is dead, you killed it. I feel for your family and pray that the two of you can raise that little girl without doing too much damage. Unfortunately, together you will never be able to show her how a loving healthy marriage functions. He is sacrificing his very being for that little girl right now😢
I'm sorry that you don't think this can end well, but it won't end with me cheating on him.
She sounds very sorry about the whole thing, but she should ask herself if the roles were reversed, could she ever trust her husband again? I'm betting the answer would be no, and she would go after him tooth and nail in court.
If our situation were reversed, I don't know what I would have done. I want to think I would treat him the way he's treating me, but I just don't know. I am a very jealous person and honestly never expected him to treat me with the grace and love that he has. I think I've said this before; he's shown himself to be way more mature than I am. I love him, and I'm blessed that he's giving me a chance. I WILL NEVER betray him again.
She's all lies and not telling all of the truth. Husband is naive to think this is the way forward.
Why do these ladies get married if they are not able to be loyal.
If behavior was a statement, what did she tell her husband?
I am a 67 year old man. I remember my first love, I was 15 years old and you never forget your first love, as the saying goes. After 4 years, tired of her deceptions and betrayals, I left her despite her begging for forgiveness. I left her in front of her entire family and from that moment on I never contacted her again even though I remained on good terms with her sisters. I left her politely but extremely firmly. After 9 months I met another woman. We got together and got married. Today, 47 years later we are still together, we have a 43 year old daughter and we live happily like two pensioners. It should be noted that when I left my first girlfriend we had never had sexual intercourse, but only a sexual relationship, kisses, caresses and touching, but I don't know if my ex had also maintained the same behavior during her betrayals.
So when I met my future wife I was a virgin because I had never had sexual intercourse.
Certain values today are now beyond all logic. If people maintained this attitude perhaps the world would be a better place
At least you accept responsability for what has happened. It is up to him whether or not you get you get back together later. Good luck
It’s not easy being easy, I guess. But, it does have serious consequences.
They live in California! Oh dear, poor hubby is screwed. It's easy for her to agree to anything he wants when she knows the courts will reject it and give her all the cash and prizes.
There are cases where marriages can recover from infidelity. I wouldn't be surprised if this was one of them. OP ticks all the right boxes. As a victim of infidelity, I completely understand the husband's feelings, and his right to divorce, but with the right therapy, I think he could learn to forgive, because OP's remorse seems genuine. But I don't agree with the "solution." It would be better to make a clean break and co-parent. Cohabiting is just a recipe for neither of them ever to be able to heal and live emotionally healthy lives again.
Honestly, that was what I was expecting my husband to insist on. I fully expected to live with my parents. I'm willing to give up everything to make this right.
@@Cloe-vu8tj Are you OP?
She didn't go through with it. She stopped it before they had sex. She rejected his advances. It destroyed her emotionally. She confessed of what she almost did. If she didn't love Jay as much as she did, she would not have been such an emotional wreck. I think she either didn't tell Jay that they didn't have sex or not the whole story. The remorse was more than enough to convince me to forgive her
I think I would forgive her, too. (Would be different if she gave her EX a BJ) It's nice too see a woman making a stop before it is going too far.
It's kind of refreshing in all those cheating stories.
After listening to the story they did commit a sex act. He lifted her dress and went down on her. Ron performed oral on her.
The big question is is this the whole truth, often there is what’s called trickle truth . Was there intercourse and was this the only time . Cheater tend to downplay and only tell what they have been caught at
If I was going to downplay it, I simply wouldn't have said anything. I didn't get caught. I was stupid and weak and love my husband. I told him because I don't want this hanging over us.
@@Cloe-vu8tj Hmmm, true. I would have kicked you to the curb immediately. I do admire your husband for coming up with a divorce and cohabitation option for the kids sake. I would recommend that he protects himself legally from falling into a common-law trap. I hope he, too, is aware: you can still sue him for anything, if this experiment fails....
@@Cloe-vu8tj I've no opinion on the full extent of the indiscretion. After a certain point lines are crossed. Once the first line is crossed it's considered adultery so how far it went doesn't really matter because the damage is already done. Since it seems some form of reconciliation is possible, not for sure but seems to be on the table. One thing you should do if you haven't already is seek out some consoling to help you to figure out how you let this happen and steps you could take to prevent a repeat. Plus, if you are still living with your husband and child is to come up with a legal "living conditions" contract with your ex kind of like a Post Nuptial agreement saying that you'll throw yourself out on your butt if you ever cross those lines again in any way shape or form. Hit him out of the Blue with this. It would show remorse and renewed commitment and could put some points towards renewed trust. Good luck!
She definitely had intercourse.
I'm a couple months away from the mandatory waiting period in California ending. Things are going well all things considered. My husband is still treating me with respect and even affection. I'm optimistic that we can push through my mistake but I will NEVER betray his trust again. I guess I'll see what happens when the divorce is finalized. I still cry when I think about it but I'm honest enough with myself to understand that it's my fault. Please do me the favor of at least hearing out your partner before making a decision. Again, thank you for responding, your opinions do mean something to me, even the bleak ones.
I think most people here wish you the best! Be positive and keep doing what you're doing.
There is a way to restart your relationship and have it possibly become a marriage again but most people don't want to put in the effort to make it happen.
From the story and your comments you are going at this completely wrong and that is probably why you and your relationship are stuck in limbo. Eventually, if things don't progress, your hubby will simply call it quits. I don't think you realize how YOU need to be the one to put this relationship back together. Your hubby is waiting for you to do it but it doesn't seem as if you are really taking the necessary steps to do it.
ALL of the hard lifting is on your shoulders and you should not be waiting for your hubby to start or even direct you in doing the repair work.
If you're really interested in making this happen, then comment back. It won't be easy and it may not even work, but just sitting in limbo won't help and will actually probably spell the end of everything.
going to your EX house says a lot honey you knew what you where doing just thank God that you have a loving husband cause there a men that would've destroyed you.
Do you seriously belive that her ex lover only touched her in the hotel room and didn't do anything? it just if she can have conversation with him, let him kiss and even she kiss him back and has the patience for the hotel room I don't think the story is all true and some might be hinding. That woman is not a marriage material.
I don't expect to be able to convince everyone of what happened, If you don't believe me, that's fine.
@Cloe-vu8tj it's hard for anyone to believe that the affair didn't go past heavy petting and oral. By that time, full intercourse is inevitable. This is where the trust is destroyed. Regardless of the truth, once you admitted to the kissing, everything else is implied. Without audio/video/body cam evidence, well, trust is destroyed. That is one of the building blocks of a great relationship. Once you destroy a single block, the whole relationship comes down.
So many weman/men ruined by cheating spouses. 😒
@@michaelcurtis3307 I understand, but there's simply no way i can prove it.
Ow the ex boyfriend certainly did her a few times. I don’t believe her for a second she didn’t.
@@Cloe-vu8tj I know I'm late to the discussion, I have only recently found this channel. I have been on the unhappy side of cheating with two women whom I loved dearly. I believe your account of what happened, including your remorse and applaud you for admitting what happened as soon as possible. Research shows that when the partner who strayed admits what happened on her/his own, the chances for reconciliation are much greater. I hope this experience has allowed you to see the devastation that cheating causes your partner; even if it was just one time, it causes your partner to question everything about him. Is he enough for you? Under the same conditions, are you likely to stray again? Please understand that these are very real issues for your husband, and I hope and pray that you are working through them together. Best of luck to both of you.
They get caught, they are sooooo sorry, they cry, they love their spouse and family more than life and are ready to do anything to save the relationship......until next time they have an opportunity to get validation from other men. Kick their sorry asses out and move on.
Never let your wife goes out alone, especially to her hometown, girl's night out, business trip and etc. The first woman in the Bible was alone when she got tempted and failed. My wife and I are self employed. We work, shop, go places, hunt and fish together. We have been together for 28 years and still madly in love with each other. I make sure she has little chance of cheating on me. Never fully trust a woman when she goes out alone. You need to keep an eye on her.
Well the good news there’s no intercourse but unfortunately you proved that you’re not trustworthy. But glad jay is somewhat giving you a chance even though your divorced so here’s what you need to do. First what ever his terms are you follow regardless no objections. Secondly you don’t engage with your ex or any other man trying to hook up with you in general tell them to piss off because your not gonna ruin this chance to get jay back. Thirdly( optional) you tell him about your whereabouts and give him access to your phone incase you slip up and end up with a guy’s phone number. Fourthly lay off on the alcohol so that you won’t make poor judgments. That’s about it so good luck
Yeah,OP really screwed up her marriage here. Her husband was indeed the best thing for her and she still managed to ruin it. I know 1st love can stick to you and you sometimes wonder about the "What If....".
But lets face it,he dumped you and tried to use you. And you somehow let it happen almost all the way,before you came to your senses. Even your BFF tried to warn you not to go this route.
BUT kudos to you how you came cleannto your husband the moment you came home,gave him space,stayed with your parents for a while while he sorted his head out. OPs husband acted very maturely and civil and he got a very favourable divorce out of it. I wouldn't accept my wife having an affair and even a ONS would push it way beyond my boundaries,but the fact OP came clear instantly and did everything she could to help her husband and take responsebility for what she did makes a big difference. Only long and honest conversations maybe with couples counseling where everything is lay out on the table can maybe restore some form of relationship. Healing takes time and a crap ton of effort. This relation/marriage is dead,but maybe just maybe there can be a new relation build in the future. Best of luck to you all
Have you heard the term cheater always a cheater 😂😂😂😂😂😂
It sounds like they are only torturing themselves and prolonging the agony
It wasn't one mistake it was not one act she had to decide to walk out to the car with the guy she had to decide to go to the hotel room with the guy. She had to decide to take off her clothes Etc this could have been stopped at any one of those points a single mistake or a single act is a slap in the face
Excuses its sad thus stuff actually happens fist time a person starts inappropriate talking and u can clearly see u say hell no and done thats it simple no Excuses.
She should have been telling her husband that the ex-had been trying to contact her, at first contact. She wanted attention and validation. That is the reason why she didn't tell him the first time. Those stomach butterflies are strong. Also, should have been calling the husband the minute the ex started talking to her at the high school reunion. The fact that she kept contact secret proves that she had malcontent from the beginning.
Despite all of the women can be men crap, men are the protectors and strength that holds the family together. The, female, being the emotional and weaker of the two, has to be emotionally pair bonded with her husband. This is why women are mostly virgins in muslim countries, until they get married. They don't use logical deductive reasoning when making such choices.
This wasn't a reunion, I was just meeting up with some of my school friends because I hadn't seen them in a long time. My hometown is five hours away from where I live now. I'm not sure you understand, my ex asked about me to one of my friends, and she didn't tell me until we met up that same day. I have never had contact with him since around the time we broke up years before. I never kept anything secret.
Just told this story to all my friends at my local watering hole. Man, so.many have been cheated on that if we had a club, it would be the largest membership club in history... The been cheated on club. 😂
There isn't A stadium big enough to hold all the good men who have been cheated on in the USA.
That's why I tell every man do not get married. You would have better luck betting everything you own on one spin of a roulette wheel. Stay single, have your fun with the girls but do not get married , cohabit, or get them pregnant.
Just a heads up that the OP will be actively reading comments. She may not reply but I'm working with her to create an account to respond.
Really hope that we can be updated on how they are doing and that they know that there are people who hope it works out for them since they are keeping it personal and not informing the family cause yes they will form their opinions on the situation
@@John-kv8zg Many of the original submitter(s) are interested in revisiting with updates. I'm trying to decide how I will implement those. Most likely they will be in the form of a new video that is short and linked from the original video. Ive already received some feedback from OP on this. She's a bit shy to respond in comments due to some of the harsh feedback. She has expressed thanks to many folks that actually gave thoughtful answers.
was wondering if what I wrote as my original comment maybe was somehow against community guidelines cause mine is no longer visible, if so can you please let me know so I don't make that kind of mistake again . Thank you
From a man’s point of view if I were OP’s husband I’d think she is now tainted , the kissing is bad enough the groping is just as bad BUT and this is the important bit when she allowed her AP(because that’s what he was) to go down on her she past the point of no return .
All the women I’ve ever known or talked too are sensual beings who needed an emotional connection to be able to have sex where as most men could reduce it down to the most basic of actions for simple sexual gratification , you could even say it’s as if he can use the woman’s body instead of his hand for relief !
It’s an archaic term but I think it’s still accurate for a lot of men a ‘real man’ could not accept the insult to his self respect that OP allowed another man to have sex with her , by allowing this to happen she did commit an act that I know I could never forgive nor would any of the men I know , she needs to accept the relationship will follow the marriage and end sometime in the future .
Eating is still cheating
My advice is that you will cheat again on him! You will never truly respect him for taking you back! He should have divorced you & moved on ! Therapy will never erase the memory in his mind of you cheating with another man! By staying with him you have ruined him! Let him go for his own sake!!! 10:45
never should have confessed all the details
Great post thanks.
Typical Simp.
Simp? He’s in California and got everything.
OP has contacted me and expressed some gratitude to those of you with candid but thoughtful feedback. She is hoping to respond herself later tonight once she's done with work.
Thank you. I've been reading the comments and appreciate the feedback.
Thank you again for trying to help me. There are obviously a lot of very hurt people here, and it's given me a little better insight into what emotions my husband could be living with. I will NOT give up. Thank all of you for taking the time to at least give an opinion.
@@Cloe-vu8tj Anytime. I do wish you the very best. I do believe you. Just be honest and forthcoming with him. Understand that regardless of how much you want things to go back to normal, it will probably never be the same. And if he does forgive you, it's going to take time. REAL time for him to trust you again. You can start by never lying to him or gaslighting him for any reason. The more honest you are on the little things, the more he will give you the benefit of the doubt on the big stuff. My last piece of advice is not to do it again. Don't put yourself in that situation. As some have said here, things start small. Recognize that and walk away.
Let me help you by giving you some tough love. You didn't cheat because you had A moment of weakness... You were on a track to cheat from the start. You are an Alpha Widow. Alpha widows are women who are hung up on scumbag ex boyfriends who treated you like crap. Your ex boyfriend is a scumbag with the ethics of a sewer rat. You knew this, but you still flirted him for hours, kissed him in a deep sexual way, and allowed him to tongue your holy of holies..... All the while your loving, faithful, supportive husband was watching your child? This is evil, evil evil behavior. I don't think you are evil, but you are an Alpha Widow. You love your husband, but he is too nice and you don't respect him, cherish him, and you are not nearly as sexually attracted to him as your ex-boyfriend... Who clearly turns you on with his arrogant behavior. You find your husband weak and passive and over time you took him forgranted. You clearly are so immature and weak that validation from a good, moral, loyal man is not enough that you need validation from an evil scumbag.You need to deal with why you so easily betrayed your husband and child for validation from a scum bag who treated you like crap. You must also ask yourself if you are capable of being faithful to s good man or do you find good men boring...most women do
I apologize for all my rude comments,but I have had so many great male friends who were devastated by their wives infidelity. I do admire the fact that you have taken full responsibility for your actions. However, you can't just brush aside the reason why you cheated as weakness and stupidity. Adultery begins well before the cheater even meets the Affair Partner. It begins with a selfish mindset and having an arrogant attitude that you are not capable of cheating. Also spiritual and psychological damage from past sexual partners and failed relationships. All signs point to you being an Alpha widow. You never cheated gefore, then why this guy and why now? He appears to have his hooks in you and you appear helpless to resist. If you don't address these issues, you will repeat it again. Only the next time you will lose the respect of everyone. I want you to avoid repeating this sin. You can still be a great mother, and all is not lost in your marriage. But if he decides to move on, handle it with grace and humility. You can become a better stronger person and find joy agsin. However, you have alot of painful days ahead. Concentrate on your husband's pain and being a great mom. Don't focus on what you lost. Be grateful your husband has treated you so well. Trust me not many guys would be so kind and selfless under the same strain. Good luck
From my opinion and what I have read here, you have a good chance at renewing your relationship than most who cheat! Your early and honest admission of guilt is likely what in the end may save your relationship and possibly remarrying in the future!
Since OP is actually reading, I want to know what she is actively doing to A) acknowledge and understand the pain Jay is going through. B) Earn back his trust?
I can see the pain I caused my husband every single time I look at him. I'm hoping he knows that I'm sincere, that's why I'm willing to give up everything to keep our family and let him know that I love him. I will not ever try to defend my actions. I made the biggest mistake of my life and I wish every single day that my husband can learn to trust me again.
@Cloe-vu8tj Trust is freely given at first encounter; but damn near impossible to regain, once lost. Cloe, you will never get his trust back, ever. That I can guarantee. It's gone forever. All you can do now is get his forgiveness and acceptance of who you are and what you have done. Wow. Good luck. Remember, be soft, gentle, submissive, and apologetic. Distance and time. God. What a nightmare... Good luck.
@@Cloe-vu8tj I'm not trying to bust your chops. But actions are more important than words. What are you doing to acknowledge his pain and help him with triggers and moments where he sees you in his mind's eye with your ex? What actions are you taking to earn back his trust?
@@d.wayneharbison8691 I'm giving up everything for my relationship. If you're asking what else I'm doing... I'm here hoping I can get some advice on what I should be doing. I'm an open book for my husband right now. I am giving him 100% access to everything he wants. I dont know what else to do.
@@michaelcurtis3307 thank you!
It is always funny how these women always want their family back after they have all the fun. This man should just divorce, share custody of their daughter and meet another woman and marry her. This arrangement that he proposal is a disaster in the making,as your daughter gets older she will feel the tense in the house and review relationship the wrong way. Do not this to your daughter. As for the wife kick her but to the curve fast and quick. She deserves it
I'm sure that you love your husband and daughter. You were selfish and didn't think of the damage that you'd cause, which is what happened. The worst part of the situation is that your daughter will eventually pick up on the vibes that things have changed, something is wrong with you two. You two know that "this marriage is destroyed." That doesn't mean something even better can't come out of this. I'm sure that he has thought about the fact that you immediately confessed, told him what happened. If you're true about wanting to keep your family together, prove to him that you love him more than anything, give him as much time as he needs and wants to process, see what's in the best interest of your daughter. Have you guys considered counseling? I suspect that there's a deep reason why you did that. Only you know what it is.
Please don't take my post as a criticism. I definitely don't want you to think that. I don't kick a person when they're down. Don't give up, fight for him, your daughter and your family. Stay strong, hang in and I think over time you two will be together truly as a family. It may be different but over time the loving intimacy will return but you will be on notice probably forever. Can you handle it?
I would jump at the chance for counseling. I have asked my husband if he was open to it but he's been resistant. As far as individual counseling, I have gone twice and I think it was very helpful but I don't see it helping keeping me in a relationship with my husband. I messed up, I know its my fault and I take full responsibility for my actions. I just don't see it helping without my husband being there.
Marriage counseling is the place where loyal faithful betrayed husband are told by misandrist feminist that their toxic masculinity was the reason his adulterous wife cheated. The adulterous wife will be told that she did nothing wrong and that her husband doesn't deserve her. Of course, she wants counseling.
Honest advice? Do you want us to tell you if your novel is entertaining? LOL
Everyone makes mistakes, none of us are immune. This is such a hard lesson to learn and I wanted to share some things. You had solid boundaries halfway through the party AND already had a personal experience this guy would reject you. You knew he was bad news and any interaction between you would leave you used and abandoned again. Was it the alcohol or pier pressure that caused you to compromise those boundaries one by one by one until you got to your hotel? Why did you not take a stand for yourself among your friends, they ALL knew what happened? Stand up and declare your love for your husband to all as you did earlier when your friend told you he was coming? Then ask her to support you? Who are your real friends? I only say that to encourage you to look deeper for reasons as to why you compromised such deep boundaries one at a time. You want to do your best to find the root reason and deal with it so that you can heal that wound that subconsciously aided in dropping your guard.
That was the difficult Dad talk, now have a seat because your Papaw wants to tell you something.
I just want to tell you that you are a good and strong woman. Why do I say that? BECAUSE, in the heat of the moment when your defenses were at the very bottom leaving you with NO willpower to resist, you STOPPED mid-stream and walked away. I will be perfectly honest with you here, I am 'certain' I could NOT stop. I didn't say 'wouldn't, I said 'couldn't'. You did something most of the folks living in this would 'could' not. So there is that. The bonus was your DEEP conviction you had betrayed your husband and you DID NOT hesitate but TOOK ACTION and FULL responsibility. THEN, you gave your life away just to continue to support your husband and try to give your daughter a normal childhood. That reminds me of a decision King Solomon had to make when 2 women were arguing over whose child it was. "Cut him in half and give half to each." One said fine, that sounds just. The other said NO, give him to her knowing she was the mother. I wanted to say I have never seen such dedication from a woman. My goodness, I am so very proud of you. Yes, you made a mistake, but you have more than demonstrated to me who you are at your core. We ALL make mistakes sweetheart, not many accept responsibility for them.
Focus on who you are, NOT the mistakes you have made. You cannot control how your husband processes this, but you can control how you do it. Accept the reality he may never get past this and accept whatever happens. One way or the other, you are equally at peace with either one. That will free you from expectations you have no control over, and allow you to simply be present in who you are. Focus on that core sweetheart, you have a goldmine down there. Let him see your treasure and do not try to manipulate anything. BE PRESENT in your core, it is your greatest asset. If you do that, the latter will be greater than the former for your mistake has been redeemed as you find purpose in the entire ordeal and you are free at last.
Trust an old Papaw, he has seen a thing or two.
She didn't make mistakes. She made decisions, one after the other to wipe her dirty behind with her marriage and family, then flush it down the toilet. Alcohol and peer pressure didn't change her character, they revealed it. She's trash.
😂😂😂 mistake really has to be a woman
Adultery isn't a mistake it is traitorous betrayal at the highest most despicable level.
@@JohnJohn-sw7nh No one said it wasn't adultery, I believe that is a given. Would you like to cast the first stone? What's done is done, where do you suggest she begin? I see no need to point out the obvious, I think her actions alone demonstrated a genuine repentance taking full responsibility. So why go there? I felt it better to speak to her potential to help her deal with her loss. She knows full well why, it is time to extend a hand to help her up and not pick up a rock. Do what you are led to do, and I will do the same. You might find it easy to judge my motives in this matter, but the truth is I don't answer to you.
I am not defending her actions, she is suffering the consequences. But since your remark was directed to me, I felt the need to answer.
A mistake, adultery, a sin? What is the problem here sir? Do you categorize your sins? I believe ALL sins to be equally despicable in the eyes of God. I find your comment to be a betrayal of the highest and most despicable level actually. God help us ALL if you are a 'titled' pastor, this is a lamb who needs to be carried and NOT thrown on the trash heap. Only a righteous man could say such a thing. You really should look at yourself before you say such things. I am pretty sure everyone knows it was adultery sir, that is a common understanding among all cultures of this world whether or not they know God.
Lighten up sir, you are a sinner doing ministry among sinners, no one has a monopoly on good or bad sins.
To much gilt for to little indiscretion. Me thinks more happened then admitted to.
i listened to this and i do not know what made you compromised your values, one after another, but you did. You forgot your values and became just plain ole trash to be used and thrown away again like the first time. You should have stuck to your guns and refused his conversation and true friends would have admired you, but you didnt, you caved. But then you redeemed yourself by stopping and making him leave, most would never have done that once started, you did and that took guts, Then you went home and confessed and that took guts, most would have tried to hide it, and then you took responsibility for it and owned it. That I admire. He was right to do what he did and now i think you will work to get back where you were, you have to forget what you had and completely start over and be completely open and honest and hide nothing, cause one mis-step and you right where you were back then. If you can do that and meet everything you outlined, i have faith in yall. You had a good guy and you failed, now earn it back and i mean earn. You broke the trust, you broke the respect, and you broke the vows you and him made in one mistake, i like second chances but there are no third chances. One screw up and you are history and that is fair.
When you go go the hotel definitely full sex with intercourse occurred.. she deserved full divorce.. and her husband should have found a new wife or mistress.. she should have left and be with her ex HS
I'm hoping they can make it work. The remorse seems real. Did she stop at the old boy friend doing oral? Maybe. It will be very hard to get past this....but possible if they can get their minds in the right place. Lust can get the best of anyone. The old boy friend is a completely evil person and may be going around destroying marriages whenever he gets the chance just to boost his ego. I don't think OP deserves all the hate from other commenters. I suspect a lot of those people have been hurt badly and should get some help so that they can feel better.
Well when one gives the box up before marriage normally issues arise that should not be there so they will doubt it each other for life possibly or for a good 30 years maybe.
If he takes her back his EGO is pretty much gone as a man.
In reality he doesn't know what his purpose is anymore.
She should just let him go they can just be friends now and raise their daughter together but separately.
Men are designed to fix and provide and support and protect but i don't think he feels that way anymore but im not him.
She may love her husband but not like her ex especially if she bonded with him heads over heel for a time.
I know she regrets what she did and most do but his dreams are over.
Females are made to nurture but they have to learn how to make the right decision for nurturing.
And females are not told this for the majority of them anyway.
These are all things that are coming out in social media for people to learn what to do and not to do but in the process it hurts others but at the same time it educates others as well and that is called life
First ignore all the “ once a cheater always a cheater, divorce immediately” people, they are bitter losers. Reconciliation is a real thing and your husband has to make an attempt too. You let your guard down for a moment, and that happens even to those nasties out there, all situations are Not the same. I know you love him and he has to do the same, he has to say either he wants to work it out and try and restore as much as possible what you had before or the other alternative, which I think is the cowards way out here. People talk about being a man, there are Strong men who forgive, he can’t keep pretending, shed some tears together and get on with living better together.
The thing is, he has to want reconciliation. At least right now it doesn't look like he does. I feel for her because (as I said in my own comment) things look recoverable to me. The #1 predictor of successful reconciliation is that the unfaithful partner understands and is hurt by the pain of the betrayed partner. If he really is unwilling to ever change his mind, I hope both can move on and create good futures not only as parents, but as people who can turn the whole miserable experience into growth and improvement. I wish them both happiness, whether together or apart. When someone does something wrong, don't we WANT them to learn from their mistakes, improve, become better, and thereby not repeat anything like it again? What's the point of holding on to an eternal desire for punishment and suffering?
The Husband, quick and decisive, has made the first step of reconciliation. The ball will be in the cheaters court for the rest of the relationship. Things will resurface, latest when there's an "empty nest"...
No redemption from sin in the comments it seems. My advice is to follow Christ and heal your marriage. Children need a world with both discipline for sins but also hope in forgiveness and the family unit to be capable of overcoming hurt failure and moments of temptation. Too many people think a moment like this could not happen to them. I've known multiple who thought they would never falter until they eventually meet someone they never expected to have a pull on them. In this case for me she according to her words avoided the worst outcome of intercourse. There's consequences for sure but I love my wife and although it's been thrown around that a cheater can't change, that is a lie. All bad behaviour can change.
You cheated, you to leave and allow your ex husband and daughter an opportunity to find a decent wife and mother, you are a horrible human being
😂😂😂 never done it before so what once is enough stop making excuses you knew exactly what you were doing. How long were you talking to him how long did it take to get to the hotel stop the BS
if i were your husband i would give you another chance but it is harder for men to live with a wife who cheats than it is for a women. i guess women understand that men are born to be sexually aggressive and women not so much. i can understand how this could happen but you caught yourself before actually becoming untrustable. However, you need to regain your husbands trust and he should give you that chance but that is easy for me to say.
if this was true the 70 to 80 % of divorces wouldn't be initiated by women. And over 50% of them wouldn't admit to cheating. They cheat just as much or more then men do.
Looks like my comments weren't welcomed. No worries. Another cheater in a world full of cheaters. 🤔
what comments?
@korosqa Honestly, I don't remember word for word. But the ap will most likely be divorced for being a cheating whore. She has a very slim chance to win him back. She needs to be submissive, apologetic, needs to be super sexy and kinky to her husband. It may not work, but she has but a slim chance to reclaim the man she betrayed. There is a two part story of Emma, who cheated with her lawyer boss, her son's leg was broken at the confrontation of ap and she went full submissive. As her ex hubby started dating a new woman. Ap stayed and worked on winning her man back. It worked. But I don't know if what Emma did is what our ap will do. Submissive and apologetic...
@@michaelcurtis3307 I think that was under a different video. You might want to check that comment section. Also, the OP for this video is the first and only (that I know of) who will be reading and possibly replying to comments here.
@affairsarentforever that makes your content the next level. Ap dealing with it in an open forum. Epic. Seriously though, why do people cheat. It breaks so many hearts. 💔
There is no single answer. I've been studying this question very seriously because it is SO COMMON despite the fact that (almost) no one ever thinks they will cheat. Until they do. Betrayal begins at the first lie, and this includes omissions. Someone flirts with you and you feel flattered. But you also don't tell your partner. You've just taken your first step toward cheating even if you don't realize it. Later, the cheater says, "Why didn't I just say no? Why didn't I tell my partner?" But by then it's too late. (My ex cheated on me multiple times. It always began with "innocent flirting" and wanting to feel flattered. In each case, there was the thought, "What's the harm? It would be stupid to tell my husband about something so little.")(I know: 4 times? It's a long story.)