it sounds like she is not attracted to him, maybe he is emotionally unavailable and she feels no emtional connection beyond him just wanted her physically , its a total turnoff
I was just thinking this. Is she actually attracted to this man? I can't imagine a woman weaponising intimacy in this way with a man they actually like and are attracted to. There needs to be some very frank communication between this couple.
Being intimacy for a woman is mental preparation not only physical I’m that wife who is not interested to be intimate with my husband and I really fear Allah SWT but I can’t force myself
She's obvioously blackmailing him. He should ignore her, not give her any attention and it has to be effortless. He's sending simp energy just through his words. Begging for intimacy? As if they were not enough turn offs. Go workout, hangout with brothers, pursue high goals, be productive, live your life. If she doesn't comply, give her an uultimatum and be ready to let her go. If she choses to leave, you're just losing a headache.
How can their relationship be ok, outside the issue of them arguing on a daily basis? he says they have this problem with a lack of sex after arguing, and the issue occurs on a daily basis, WHAT? he seems to be concerned only with the 'sex' bit, but not the arguing on a daily basis bit???????? He sounds really immature, they both do, they clearly both do not like each other and are NOT compatible, she isn't weaponizing sex she seems repulsed by him, he admits he doesn't like her either, which anyone could have guessed seeing as they argue EVERDAY, but his concern is only sex????? sex isn't the problem, your relationship is horse crap, either get counselling, or just separate, and work on yourselves both of you before remarrying, as you both seem like problematic people, neither mature enough to say this isn't working, we don't get on, lets get help, or get out of this. people who are focusing only on the sex bit are as equally limited in their thinking, when a couple admits they argue every single day, why would anyone think their sex life would be good, or boil the issue down to maybe sex is painful for the woman, geez slow people
I was actually meant to do a 3 part series on this very question but only did one, which tbh did not deal with the main issue, which was constant arguing and the impact it has on sex. Nevertheless I will be making more videos around this topic InshaAllah
Hi, I know this comment is 4 years old because I just saw the video today. But the right thing to do is divorce her first then get married. That’s good advice
There is always a valid reasons why women dont want intamacy!!Communication is the key...if you cant communicate thats a problem in itself!! Men need to learn about women before marriage....vice versa....
Probably they would have a worst punishment coz they are the leaders they are the one's needed to initiate the act 80% I could even say 90% coz women in general are shay and some specifically are more shay that they would prefer divorce then to ask u.
I think it is because of the need men have for it that women often don’t have… a woman can be without intimacy for a long time whereas for men it can be hard…. So instead of him going out and committing zina she shouldn’t refuse if she doesn’t have a valid reason
U taking all the responsibility from the women, he said every time he goes into an argument he knows he won’t get intimate with her, that’s childish. She using it for power so he submits.
Brother I like your content but this one was not it. For example you turned the whole thing against the man as if the women can’t be wrong on this and that’s she not responsible for taking care of her mans desire. 1st if she’s in pain she should get it checked out it’s not the responsibility of her husband and she should communicate that 2nd if she fears pregnancy their many contraception they could use, that’s a sorry excuse 3rd the principal of marriage is built on rights and responsibilities, when both spouse complete that than they could focus on extras things like gifts and such, but if the man is obligated to fulfill all her rights and extra for his wife just for him to get her to fulfill her rights, well this is wrong and childish. 4 if she has a long day at work should rest and take care of him after she cools down, but if a women is working full time does that mean she should deny him 5 days or more out of the week because she’s tired? 6 at some point it becomes very obvious to the women that the man is in dire need of intimacy. She’s not as oblivious as you make it out to be The vid should’ve touched on how they women can prioritize fulfilling her responsibilities for her husband
@@TheMuslimMarriageCoachI think this guy forgets that the husband asked for your advice so you did your best to guess what could be her issue with intimacy
😅 this is sort of true. I wanted to make this into 3 part video but haven’t done the other two parts, so completely agree with you that it would look like that I’ll be doing the other parts soon InshaAllah. Thanks for the comment
I know you're gonna do a part two but is there a chance there is a woman on this planet who's responsible and mature enough to communicate simple issues?
lol you actually made me smile This is a common frustration that I hear from men and it stems from the fact that men and women communicate differently, mainly overt vs covert communication and you have to learn it. That doesn’t mean that is the only way they communicate, and it’s good for everybody to learn when and how
@@TheMuslimMarriageCoach I will do my best to learn the covert comms but it will be difficult to be honest because I am straightforward and if you tell me something I will literally take it as the truth. It just seems so tiring to think for someone else doesn't it? Is that a normal thing in marriage? Or for someone to shit test you, is that a satisfaction women get when messing things up intentionally? Or do I not know the meaning of shit testing. Shit testing is something that has no benefit, 0. You're literally trying to provoke the worst in someone to support your negative thoughts or expectations of them. What good can come of that? You set someone up to exhibit a certain behavior, then punish them if they do it, why? But i place all my hope in Allah, He can definitely pair me with someone who at least can communicate the small issues. Someone honest about everything, it doesn't take the fun and love of the marriage away.
Sometimes women do communicate in a direct way, but many men have egos that will struggle to handle such direct communication, so women develop an indirect way to communicate sometimes to spare the man's feelings.
I would hate to be in this kind of marriage after all that investment THis is why very important men audit women. Does she respect me? Does she genuinely find me attractive? Otherwise its like trying to swim in water and the current is against you. As for the man it might be something he can solve e.g. is he overweight, bad hygiene, basic understanding of women but depends i guess.
it sounds like she is not attracted to him, maybe he is emotionally unavailable and she feels no emtional connection beyond him just wanted her physically , its a total turnoff
I was just thinking this. Is she actually attracted to this man? I can't imagine a woman weaponising intimacy in this way with a man they actually like and are attracted to. There needs to be some very frank communication between this couple.
Being intimacy for a woman is mental preparation not only physical I’m that wife who is not interested to be intimate with my husband and I really fear Allah SWT but I can’t force myself
Perhaps you should try informing him of how to get you in the mood, even days before the act
Allahu-mabark. May Allah reward you for sharing your knowledge. All of your points made are very worthy to considered by the Muslim community.
She's obvioously blackmailing him. He should ignore her, not give her any attention and it has to be effortless. He's sending simp energy just through his words. Begging for intimacy? As if they were not enough turn offs.
Go workout, hangout with brothers, pursue high goals, be productive, live your life. If she doesn't comply, give her an uultimatum and be ready to let her go. If she choses to leave, you're just losing a headache.
Some good points
Some points Ive never thought of. Barak’allahu Feek
Wa iyaak
How can their relationship be ok, outside the issue of them arguing on a daily basis? he says they have this problem with a lack of sex after arguing, and the issue occurs on a daily basis, WHAT?
he seems to be concerned only with the 'sex' bit, but not the arguing on a daily basis bit????????
He sounds really immature, they both do, they clearly both do not like each other and are NOT compatible, she isn't weaponizing sex she seems repulsed by him, he admits he doesn't like her either, which anyone could have guessed seeing as they argue EVERDAY, but his concern is only sex?????
sex isn't the problem, your relationship is horse crap, either get counselling, or just separate, and work on yourselves both of you before remarrying, as you both seem like problematic people, neither mature enough to say this isn't working, we don't get on, lets get help, or get out of this.
people who are focusing only on the sex bit are as equally limited in their thinking, when a couple admits they argue every single day, why would anyone think their sex life would be good, or boil the issue down to maybe sex is painful for the woman, geez slow people
I was actually meant to do a 3 part series on this very question but only did one, which tbh did not deal with the main issue, which was constant arguing and the impact it has on sex.
Nevertheless I will be making more videos around this topic InshaAllah
very good points thanks brother new subscriber I am hear to learn more inshallah. 👍
Advice to ny brothers who go through this. Marry a second and third wife.
Yeah that can also be done if they can afford it
Hi, I know this comment is 4 years old because I just saw the video today. But the right thing to do is divorce her first then get married. That’s good advice
@@TheMuslimMarriageCoachalso self ruqyah is a great option
@@amo7464 what if they're all the same
@@BigBoss2000 every divorce adds about 5 yrs to your aging, it's stressful! With kids n all
There is always a valid reasons why women dont want intamacy!!Communication is the key...if you cant communicate thats a problem in itself!! Men need to learn about women before marriage....vice versa....
This is so truee i have heard alot woman say that its painful for them
Well spoken 🤝
Thank you!
but in Islam men doesn't curse by angles if he weapons intimacy
I think I know what you’re trying to say
Probably they would have a worst punishment coz they are the leaders they are the one's needed to initiate the act 80% I could even say 90% coz women in general are shay and some specifically are more shay that they would prefer divorce then to ask u.
I think it is because of the need men have for it that women often don’t have… a woman can be without intimacy for a long time whereas for men it can be hard…. So instead of him going out and committing zina she shouldn’t refuse if she doesn’t have a valid reason
😂 why a Christian in Islamic video ! 😅
U taking all the responsibility from the women, he said every time he goes into an argument he knows he won’t get intimate with her, that’s childish. She using it for power so he submits.
I know it looks like that bro, I’m gonna address that bit in part two InshaAllah, thank you for the comment
Brother I like your content but this one was not it. For example you turned the whole thing against the man as if the women can’t be wrong on this and that’s she not responsible for taking care of her mans desire.
1st if she’s in pain she should get it checked out it’s not the responsibility of her husband and she should communicate that
2nd if she fears pregnancy their many contraception they could use, that’s a sorry excuse
3rd the principal of marriage is built on rights and responsibilities, when both spouse complete that than they could focus on extras things like gifts and such, but if the man is obligated to fulfill all her rights and extra for his wife just for him to get her to fulfill her rights, well this is wrong and childish.
4 if she has a long day at work should rest and take care of him after she cools down, but if a women is working full time does that mean she should deny him 5 days or more out of the week because she’s tired?
6 at some point it becomes very obvious to the women that the man is in dire need of intimacy. She’s not as oblivious as you make it out to be
The vid should’ve touched on how they women can prioritize fulfilling her responsibilities for her husband
Appreciate the feedback bro. I’m gonna make a more holistic one soon InshaAllah covering all points/sides
@@TheMuslimMarriageCoachI think this guy forgets that the husband asked for your advice so you did your best to guess what could be her issue with intimacy
😅 this is sort of true. I wanted to make this into 3 part video but haven’t done the other two parts, so completely agree with you that it would look like that
I’ll be doing the other parts soon InshaAllah. Thanks for the comment
Bro should’ve already divorced after 3 times she denied
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I know you're gonna do a part two but is there a chance there is a woman on this planet who's responsible and mature enough to communicate simple issues?
lol you actually made me smile
This is a common frustration that I hear from men and it stems from the fact that men and women communicate differently, mainly overt vs covert communication and you have to learn it.
That doesn’t mean that is the only way they communicate, and it’s good for everybody to learn when and how
@@TheMuslimMarriageCoach I will do my best to learn the covert comms but it will be difficult to be honest because I am straightforward and if you tell me something I will literally take it as the truth. It just seems so tiring to think for someone else doesn't it? Is that a normal thing in marriage? Or for someone to shit test you, is that a satisfaction women get when messing things up intentionally? Or do I not know the meaning of shit testing. Shit testing is something that has no benefit, 0. You're literally trying to provoke the worst in someone to support your negative thoughts or expectations of them. What good can come of that? You set someone up to exhibit a certain behavior, then punish them if they do it, why?
But i place all my hope in Allah, He can definitely pair me with someone who at least can communicate the small issues. Someone honest about everything, it doesn't take the fun and love of the marriage away.
I’ll make a video on communication whilst married, since I’ve got DMs on it already. Keep a watch out InshaAllah
@@TheMuslimMarriageCoach Will do thank you
Sometimes women do communicate in a direct way, but many men have egos that will struggle to handle such direct communication, so women develop an indirect way to communicate sometimes to spare the man's feelings.
I would hate to be in this kind of marriage after all that investment
THis is why very important men audit women. Does she respect me? Does she genuinely find me attractive? Otherwise its like trying to swim in water and the current is against you.
As for the man it might be something he can solve e.g. is he overweight, bad hygiene, basic understanding of women but depends i guess.
Whoever the akhi is , get a second wife
I can tell you now, he can’t
Why are they married
That’s a good question
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Simp perspective
Wait for part two
This is a dog not a woman 🐕
Easy now
@@TheMuslimMarriageCoach Why! We should not be like westerners and be afraid of facts…
@@YungShoe You’re insulting her and that’s not your place. Whatever she did, she is still Muslim woman so fear Allah.