What I learned From 2 Years of Marriage (Nikkah) - 2024 Muslim Marriage Advice
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- Muslims should all be striving to succeed in marriage because there are a lot of factors that can weigh a marriage down. Here are a few practical tips/marriage advice on how to get and stay married.
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Since 2020, i prayed to Allah for this girl to be my wife. The moment i saw her, my heart was taken. I kept praying as my love kept growing, and my soul kept following her whenever i saw her in university. Last year, i had a dream of seeing her, and in that dream, i heard, " she will be your wife." I made istkhara, and i kept having dreams and started seeing my family are supportive of marrying this girl. Alhamdulilah, now we are married and happy than ever. When i think about it, i feel like it was like a movie or something❤.
Alhumdulillah! What a beautiful lovestory. May Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) bless your marriage.
@@RUclips_user_nhvrxdhn Aameen
Dude u'r blessed
actually a movie man, Congrats brother
You are ONE Lucky guy and your wife Tripple lucky!!!
I agree with you that Allah delays your marriage for a reason. I wanted to get married when I was 20, but Allah delayed my marriage until I was 32. Looking back, I wasn't ready. I wasn't responsible enough yet.
Allahuakbar, may Allah bless your marriage my brother
Allahu Akbar. That patience was a means a reward for you brother. insha'Allah I can have such patience too
Allahu Akbar.
Yes we humans are dumb to be honest. And we just want everything so fast. But Allah knows the perfect timing.
Man im 16 and thought i was ready before i watchee this video man i was wrong
I'm 26 I really want to get married but I think i'm still not ready, do you have any advice brother for me to speed up the process like where should I start?
Mashallah Brother. I'm getting married next month. I am 20 years old, make dua for me for a successful marriage.
May Allah bless your marriage.
May Allah make ur life successful and better after getting married
@@AkisoezzAmeen. jazakallah
Ameen
Ameen
As a Palestinian, our culture makes marriage very difficult. Back in Ramadan, I proposed to a good woman, we both liked each other, families got along and everything. Then a month later her father called everything off because he wanted to have a wedding with music and I wasn't going to do that. He ruined everything because he wanted a haram wedding. Hes a good guy, but he allowed his desires to ruin what could have been a good marriage. Two months later and I just think as to why my culture is like this? Just baffles me tbh, but Allah is the best of planners!
I heard drums in celebratory type events like Eid and weddings you can use, so maybe u could’ve proposed drums only and Allah swt knows best
@abdullaal-obaidi833 I believe you're talking about the duff. The duff can be used for celebrating events such as weddings and eid, but only by women. I did extensive research into this alternative and others, because I wanted to make it work, but her father wasn't interested in giving any of this a chance. He said, "I am not going to waiver on this." And said it wasn't going to work out. I didn't even really care about my feelings tbh, I just didn't want her to feel saddened or even worse for her father to accept someone else who isn't practicing as best they could be. A father should have his daughter's best interest in mind when selecting a potential for her, but some father's will reject men who check the necessary boxes islamically speaking, for cultural reasons, which is honestly such a shame.
You don’t want a father in law like that anyway. Next he is telling you to take out a line of credit and a mortgage to support his daughter. Allah is protecting you from a future of cultural Islam ahki
A father’s opinion is important but: is he the one marrying you in the end or his daughter? There has to be a balance. Is it even a valid reason to reject you because of this? Is it in accordance with the teachings of Islam? Maybe talk to a sheikh about this if you haven’t already. May Allah make it easy for you 🤲🏼
are you a westoid palestinian? would the marriage have protected you from greater sins? Had you married into the family could you have made a positive net difference to them? Some things to consider.
We did our Nikkah in Ramadan this year, unfortunately he gave me the first Talaaq a week ago, I just don’t think he was ready for the lifelong commitment, please make dua’a for Allah to make this easy for me in my Iddah period inshallah. Because it has been extremely hard. 💔
InShaAllah sister may Allah make it easy for u, and give u the best of the bestest from His bounty. Please pray/make dua and have patience
Allah will give you ease, he is hearing and he is with you, im so sorry, it may take time, but Allah is with you and he hears your cries. May Allah make it easy for you
@AlyssaZennorAmeen 🙌🏼
@@hibbah3210Ameen thumma Ameen 🤲🏼
@@sokkaslostboomerangg2593Ameen 🤲🏼
make dua I get married soon pls😭may Allah bless us with pious spouses Ameen
Allahuma Ameen!
Aameen
Ameen
Ameen
Ameen
I've been trying my best, making lots if dua but it's almost like I'm invisible. I thought I'd be married by 18. I'm almsot 25 now. May Allah choose the best spouse for those who are searching. Ameen.
brother make sure when u make dua, u're sure Allah will accept it from u
If youre a man you will never be found you gotta be the one searching.
Do 2 things
1 make dua
2 increase network
Meaning ask family members and friends to help you search for a partner u can even ask the imam of a neerby mosque to help you search
May Allah make it easy for you amd remember to fast on days of waiting
@@piousslave I'm actually a sister but Jazakallah Khair.
@@andalusianstockmarket6284 I'm a woman
Cats stole the show mashallah 😊 To all brothers & sisters who havent get married yet may Allah bless you all with the best, righteous, beautiful, compatible spouses with whom you gain Allah blessings in this world & after.
Allahuma Ameen!
Aameen
You mention about styles of communication and different people having different ways of communicating. I feel like a video explaining different types and how to best to communicate to different types would be useful
Great suggestion inn shaa Allah!
Nice tips brother, beneficial for non-muslims viewers as well.
Thank you! I’m glad you liked it💪🏽
May ALLAH bless us with right spouses.. Amen
I came back home really sad today because I'm still single but this gave me hope and taught me a lot. Thank you.
Jazakallahu khairan for this
absolutely great man!
have a blessed journey for you and your spouse/spouses !
Thank you for sharing these genuine advices. May Allah reward you highly.
Mashallah great wisdom from a relatively newly married man, may Allah SWT bless you and your wife!!
Short clip, but veryyy good! This clip should Watch every youth no matter What age. Bc its he sad no that much words but these words are very good together. MasAllah
Give us some tips on what type of question to ask in the engagement period.
4 type person that u can married, it's based from hadist prophets
1. Righteousness (shalih/shalihah)/understanding of deen/islam
2. Wealthy
3. Beauty
4. Noble/descendant/ in arabic its called nasab. Example : Prince/princess/son of sultan/president/celebrity.
Prophet said choose number 1 u will be lucky.
Lucky what? Luck in this worldly land here after, u and ur partner going together, company,remind, walking to path of allah.
And when u look at it number 2-4 only worldly life meaning its temporary its didnt permanent. Example: beauty can faded with aging, wealthy can bankrupt anytime,noble line only afew percent in this word who have that status and if u marry a noble partner then u be ready from normal life to noble life like ethic etc.
Ask what important in married along the deen.
Example question for him/her.
what u do when weekend? See the answer, if he/she answers like go to bar,casino etc. well then u know in the future if u married with someone like this. If ur partner answer im came lecturer in masjid/ read book at home/read some islamic book. Then u know what the characteristics.
How often ur shalat(pray)? He/she said 3/4 times a day, ask him/her would u mind if i advice/remind/invite u to the straight path?
Ask the mahr (dowry), see what her want.
Mahr its not burden the huband but at the same time not humiliate the wife ti be lowly.
Ask what happen if thereis argument/clash each other how to solve it? Look what Alquran and hadist said
There is no such thing called love in marriage,love only in marvel/Hollywood/disney
love given by allah to the husband and wife if they walking to path of allah, seeing jannah together etc.
Dude, I just got married in April of 2024! Very recently. I am 25 years old. Thank you for the advice my brother. Allahuma barik.
thank you Rami ♥
Honestly I think I found the person I want to marry. I'm just worried if this is the right time
Its so difficult to ignore the background
Keep making duas
I'm 20, second year of uni, no job, no money, no capability to provide, i see all around the cringy muslim couples, i get depressed, i feel the pressure of being to late or ending up alone. It's all messed up, probably my parents will not help. And of course there is a lot of fitna.
Don’t despair my brother. We were all at that point, and you’re only 20. As you grow, you’ll graduate, you’ll work, build your career/ business, make money to establish yourself, grow and develop your character and get married without the help of your parents inn shaa Allah! All on Allah’s time 💪🏽make dua and trust Allah
Brother I too felt that way when I was 20 .. I felt like I am ready.. but the fact was I was not at all ready back then. If back then I did married then it would have been a mess .. so trust Allah and be patient.
@@ramialkhaleelI’m good man… not gonna wait all this time just to marry. No thanks.
Make Dua For Me , I wanna Get Married to someone i know !!! Pray for me that her parents accept me !!!
Brother how did you personally gain maturity and the masculine discipline needed to function in a marriage?
Also, what would you recommend financially, as most in their younger twenties aren’t making that much due to studies etc.
Allahuma Ameen
Wa alaikum salam Warahumatullahi Wabarakatuhu
insha'Allah
Rami, what would be really cool is some kind of discord where we can study the quran and the bible regularly. I'd love to get to the point where I can give dawah but the bible is a long read and boring lol!
Salam aliekom brother bit of an interesting question:
How much do you value culture coherence in the west where people from vastly different cultures (both muslim countries) can get married?
cats tail in the back 😂❤❤❤
I am a 20 yr old guy inshallah will be turning 21 soon
By the grace of God I got a job but I am confused, since I am financially stable should I do nikah asap or wait maybe idk, I'm so confused
Sorry for a question out of topic. I wonder if you can let me know what you use for your hair to have this wet look
Is that all you took from this sensible Islamic sermon?
"Partner", yeah ok.
You should have a discord or some group chat with your subscribers
lol I’m the only 1 who’s 18 and still don’t wanna get married at all
I'm also 23, but unmarried. Didn't know you are married. May Allah bless your marriage and life, for what you are doing for the deen.
Ameen ya rabb may Allah bless and elevate you my brother
May Allah grant you a righteous spouse
Soon
Bro your name is Pradhan , are you a revert muslim ?
@@euphoria6681his first name in his username is anas
Alhamdulillah I just got married 3 weeks ago. It did just happen out of no where. One day I had never seen this man in my life and the next I saw him and my stomach dropped to the floor. I was in love with him from the very first second I saw him and when I heard his voice it was like the song of my heart. It was the most beautiful sound I ever heard. subhanAllah ❤
I want to add that I made du'a for years and years. Even before I was Muslim I prayed and prayed and prayed for the most perfect relationship of my life. I am 33 which some may think is late in life to get married but Allah knows best.
How did you reach out to
Machallah! As a hopeless romantic you’re story made me tear up. May Allah swt bless you and your marriage❤
Pls when did you start praying? You said “years and years” when did it all start
May Allah bless your marriage. Allahumma aamiinn. Thank you for sharing ❤
I am at the same place you were once pray for me
I’m 33 got married 10 years ago and my oldest is 9. Everyone around me told me I was too young to get married even tho am a female and time for a female is super important. Alhamdulilah million times I met my husband through a mutual from from uni I didn’t really think it would be anything but within a month my husband asked me to marry him and move in with him the same month. I was super shocked. He’s just a year older than me and everyone around me my mom and my sisters and brothers all said it was crazy but I trusted him so much. Alhamdulilah he never disappointed me. 10 years later with 4 children we are still so close Alhamdulilah. Helps me around the house and with the kids never allows me to wash his clothes or iron them. I’m only responsible for the kids and their needs never asks me to cook for him or likes to argues. Alhamdulilah. May Allah bless very Muslim with a good spouse who helps them in this difficult journey called life. It breaks my heart to see so many unmarried Muslims whom families make everything hard for them. Family shouldn’t support shaytan against their own kids. Make marriage easy please.
Mashaالله sis. Any advices to have a successful marriage like yours? May Allah bless you and your family ❤
@@HanaHana-ft9li Allahumma Baarik.
May Allah give barakah in your marriage sister.
Do pray for me to find a very righteous man who is good for my Deen, Dunya and Akhirah.
May Allah give me a good, righteous, caring, loving husband as well who helps me with everything and support me. May Allah heal my heart and fill it with Noor and may Allah bless me with a very soft man who speaks good words to me and fears breaking my heart. Aameen
@@Zaineb.D the most important advise I will give is two. One is trust Allah and also have the right intention. Intention from the begging is so important bcos Allah will definitely make you successful if your intentions are right. A lot of people marry for wrong reasons and bad intention they want to get as much as benefit from the marriage as possible. This is definitely bad and will not get any blessings from Allah. Another thing is I believe what makes any marriage successful is a good man who’s intelligent enough to know females are weak human beings they easily get dissatisfied and a lot of us women don’t have great upbringing which taught us what marriage is. A man is responsible to teach his wife and protect her bcos she is under his wilaya just like how a father has wilaya (authority) over his children. Of course a lot of sister laugh at this thought but this Islam. If we are truly Muslims we would love our religion and trust Allahs laws and regulations bcos he knows best. We should never ever look up to the west for guidance or any non Muslims esp online. It breaks my heart when I see Muslims look up to ppl like Jordan Peterson or Andrew Tate. What happens to our prophet and his sahaba are they not enough? Don’t we have enough examples to be proud of any emulate. Muslims situation is so sad. My oldest daughter is 10 she understand more about family than Jordan Peterson trust me.
@@kehfilwara1692 with all my heart Amin. May Allah give you a righteous Muslim husband who will never let you down. Please educate yourself about deen and always remember shaytan is real. He’s out there destroying values and families. Even when you meet the right person he will throw doubts in you don’t listen to him. May Allah protect you and grant you your wishes.
@@kehfilwara1692 also don’t trust online personalities who talk about how a Muslim man should be etc etc. Walahi they know nothing about Islam. Ppl like Mahdi who promotes multiple marriages and how men should be tough Auzubillah. Ppl like that if they see my husband they would think he’s weak but he’s far from it. A true Muslim man never raised his voice on his wife someone who’s under his protection. He won’t hurt her. Our prophet never cursed any of his wives nither did he ever hit a woman. He was soft spoken. They narrate once Aisha (radiyallahu anha) became jealous of one of his other wives and threw a plate full of food which was sent by said wife. The prophet smiled and said your mother is jealous. He didn’t call her names or even criticise her. Whenever they wash clothes he was the one who hangs up them. When Aisha was asked what the prophet used to do at home she said ( he was always in service if his family) internet Muslims make fun of a man who helps in the house. This is what Muslims ended up to be in these days and age. May Allah protect you from the evil of internet and increase your knowledge in Islam.
I met my husband in muzz late last year after a long time I searching. I spoke to Allah ta'ala that i would rather die single than marry someone who is detrimental to my Deen (i am a revert so Islam is very important to me). I met my husband a few months later and we got married February this year at 4 months of knowing each other alhamdulillah.
May Allah bless your marriage sister.
I’m 31 and really unwell and I don't actually believe that anyone could handle a spouses illnesses. Please make duaa that Allaah graces you with someone to aid you both in the dunya and thereafter. ☀️
May Allah bless us with a spouse who can be our best friend and aid us both in the dunya and the Akhirah.
Sister! Don’t worry, Allah is ever Kind to His Servants, He( Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) will surely bless you with the best spouse who would treat you with love, kindness and wouldn’t mind your illness.
May Allah Aza wajal cure your illnesses ❤️🩹❤️🩹
Never give up. Allah knows. Keep making dua ❤
I have seen people married with sever disabilities, I won't sugar coated and say it is easy. I myself have chronic illness but remember sister we don't need society to find us the best options we only need one person to see that being with us is worth the effort and Allah is The all mighty nothing is impossible to him he will bring you the right person. May you find each other and fill each day with joy and happiness 😊
It depends on your mindset, not anything else. Sister, just you have to aim high. Inshalah, I wish the best for you.
If you read this;
Say "SubhanAllah" 33x
Say "Alhamdulillah" 33x
Say "Allahu akbar" 34x
May Allah reward you.
سبحان الله وبحمده
سبحان الله العظيم
What you've mentioned is (albeit in reverse order) the tasbeeh of Sayyida Fatima Zahra (Peace by upon her), the daughter of the Holy Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him).
The correct order is as follows:
34 x اللهُ أَکْبَر / Allahu Akbar
33x ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰه / Alḥamdu lillah
33x سُبْحَانَ ٱللَّٰه / SubḥanAllah
Jazakallah khair
Preach brother, I was "ready" when I was 19 but I couldn't have been more wrong lol I eventually got married at the age of 24 (im 28 soon) and I 100% marriage just happened. One day I was single working at home living with my family then my potential contacted me and one thing led to another and well we got married al-hamdulilah.
Alhumdulallah my brother, may Allah bless you in your marriage💪🏽
How did you meet?
Am a widow and so lonely. My late hubby was a Muslim he had converted me I have three adult children.praying that Allah gives me an understanding and loving man. Allah grant me peace. Love from kenya
May allah give u all the happiness you want and a righteous spouse
I recommend Sunnah Match platform to find a husband in a halal way, sister.
Amin
@@Fia316 is marriage is so temporary according to islam iam telling a she is a widow and her late husband loved her and she even want to get remarried i see many reasons why marriage is a fake love contract
Alhamdulilallah I’m 20 and got married within the last month. It’s pressure but also very good feeling alhamdulilallah but I trust Allah 100% to guide me. Jazakallah brother for your advice and may Allah elevate u to the highest levels of jannah ameen.
Wa iyaakum! Allahuma Ameen ya rabb. May Allah bless you in your marriage and grant you and your family the highest levels of jannah
Allahummabarik akhi, may I know where you are from?
@@ateeqahmed7945 I’m from Sudan ahk. But I live and was born in the UK
Allahuma baarik, I wish I was married that age. 36 now Khayr in shaa Allah
Im 20 too brother, feel lost in life. How did you get married at such a young age?
i turn 21 next month. gonna be 5 years revert ahumdillah ut moving from big city to small town for uni is unique. esp with the fitnah. may Allah swt make it ez for all of us Muslims ameen
Ameen and Mabrook my brother, may Allah bless you 💪🏽❤️
Masha'Allah.. you're blessed my brother with guidance. happy for you bro
I'm nearly 26 and still on the journey. May Allah provide me what is best for the best in me. And to all my brothers and sisters pertaining to what is good for our soul and iman.
Allahuma Ameen ya rabb
Ya Muqallib al-quloob thabbit qalbi 'ala deenik
يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِى عَلَى دِينِكَ
“O Controller of hearts, make my heart firm in Your religion.”
"O Turner of hearts"* جزاك الله خير
One more important thing.
Be the best friend of your spouse. Share everything with them. I really mean everything.
If there one person in the world that you can share everything with , it is your spouse.
unless it's a toxic one. 😢
Don’t do that
Bad idea never show.your weakness as a man , tgat puts your partner off. And if youre a women dont tell your husband the deviancies of your thoughts cause that will make him hate you to the core.
Do NOT do this lol
@@andalusianstockmarket6284exactly. This op here romanticising marriage. Or it's a woman probably.
I just turned 19 with a solid amount of money saved up. My father is making it a bit of a hassle cuz he doesn't wanna get me married here in australia. May allah bless me with a good wife 😢🤲
inshallah
If your a man that's your life, I am sick of these parents doing zlum to the kids it's not their life I have a daughter and I well never force her to marry someone she don't like that's haram. Alot of parents use the authority that Allah gave them to abuse the kids this is zlum not just.
He is right, womens past matter, Becareful!
@@Noodles-bn9ug Out of thousands of languages the brother or sister decided to speak facts. Allahummabarik.
Ameen
It’s difficult being 31 years old and rejected at every opportunity whilst I’ve stayed away from haram whilst my friends who had girlfriends and enjoyed romance in their younger years easily got married, some without putting hardly any effort in.
Don’t worry. Every sacrifice counts. It’s all for Allah. The reward is EXTREMELY IMMENSE in Jannah. It’s all worth it
Its a test for you, because Allah s.w.a likes you. So dont fail the test and alway say alhamdulillah for everything
"Only those who endure patiently will be given their reward without limit.”
Do a lot of istighfar with niya that Allah forgives your sins.
Don't forget your athkar , and your daily obligatory acts. Don't eat Haram or earn Haram money.
Make Dua and don't be impatient with Allah by asking why yr dua hasn't been answered.
Do ruqya if u think that u may be afflicted with Ayn .
You're being tested. Allah knows best about everything. If He decrees that you get married later in the future, there's Hikma for the timing. Seek aid from Allah. Allah is aware of everything. Just be patient and keep making Dua.
Im gonna give you the honest truth: Women are easily icked out by men based on how they act socially. Your freinds had experience with women, and have learned how to seduce and make them interested, so of course its easier for them to get potential spouses to like them. You however never did haram, but that means you don't know how to act romantically with women, and thus can easily give them the ick. It is sad because the burden of good romantic social skills is on the man, as he has to lead, but feel free to ask me any questions as I got the real answers instead of these other empty answers.
Alsalam w alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
Allahumma Barik, may Allah swt increase the Barakah and love in your marriage.
Iam 22 and unmarried. Alhamdulillah, i follow the Quran and the Sunnah of the prophet saw, but trying to get married seems impossible, i really want to get married for the sake of Allah. Please, keep me in your duas!
ربنا هب لنا من ازواجنا و ذرياتنا قرة أعين و إجعلنا للمتقين إماما
May Allah bless me with a spouse who has deen and good akhlaaq. May Allah bless me with righteous spouse and righteous family. May I have peaceful and loving marriage with my spouse. May my future spouse respects me a lot and may I respect him a lot as well. May we both become each other’s best friend. May my husband makes our relationship no.1 priority in his life just as i make it mine. May I be married to a soft man who gives me reassurance and emotional safety. May a gentle and loving man be written in my Naseeb. May Allah beautify my akhlaaq more and more and grant me a high valued man who has a pure tongue and pure heart. May Allah bless me with a man who has fear of Allah the most.
Aameen
For any man in marriage just remember this thing. A woman don't hit or raise their voices at men they respect. And a woman can't love you if she doesn't respect you first. Be careful be wise and practice the Sunnah in your behavior and composure.
And vice versa
raising voices is normal during an argument
True, should divorce if she raise her voice.
@@moralisoppression2837
Well then marry a robot.Humans argue and voice gets raised at times when humans get emotional.This rule also applies to both genders.
@@lightbeings6243 right so both need to have patience, wife also need to have patience when she got beat up. Its happen when human get emotional.
In Bangladesh, culture aside, people actually prioritize wealth first and then good character. I wanted to get married at 21 (now 26) but since her mother had suffered a lot because of her husband could not provide for them; therefore, she was looking for a person for her daughter who would have generous amount of wealth (from his dad's side) to at least secure a good position and not place her daughter's life in jeopardy. I understand that (money is actually essential in life, without it, you actually feel miserable.) but at that time, it made me feel confused about life (was it my fault that my father did not have wealth left for me? If I have to build my wealth, it will certainly take time "finishing bachelor's and then job or business, etc."). But, Allah is the greatest of planners, and hope is all I have right now. In the end, even if I don't get the ending I am looking for, I wish my younger brothers and sisters, May Allah find you a loving spouse early in life!
and as for you Rami, you are an excellent person for the youth right now. I wish you all the best for your family. May Allah keep your family happy and flourishing!
Keep me in your duas! I’m 24 and unmarried and inshallah want to get married!
May Allah grant you a pious spouse and children, Ameen!
@@ramialkhaleel ameeeen ya rab!
Bruh I’m 27😅
I'm 26 chill
Pray for me too i want to get married im 20 🥺
If you’re able to get married young, it’s such a blessing, especially as a man.
I’m guessing you’re not 100% established, so a lady wanting to marry you means she actually desires you for you.
At 31, I feel I’ve passed the point where a lady would want me for me. At this age marriage is about how many boxes you tick: finance, stability etc like I’m a product being picked off a shelf.
May Allah bless your marriage habibi
Brother, don't feel so pessimistic about yourself. 31 is still pretty young for a man, and age generally matters less to women. If anything, a lot of women prefer older mature men.
As for your money, please don't feel objectified just because a woman might like your money. As long as it's not the only reason she's marrying you, there's nothing wrong with it. It's no different than a man wanting his wife to be beautiful. As long as it's not the main purpose of the marriage, it's a perfectly okay thing to value.
I'm sure there are women your same age looking for a pious husband. I don't believe it's possible for all of them to only want you for your money.
@@marytheraspberry3145they probably are but I’ve been rejected by every one of them.
The money thing is just an extra thing playing on my mind, but it doesn’t really matter when I get rejected from the outset anyway.
I have never been good enough to even be considered for marriage. I am screened out from the very beginning.
Also piety doesn’t matter to most women (and men, I’m not hating them for it) if you’re not attractive to them in the first place.
As a 5’2 balding man, it’s not a surprise I’m not even somewhat attractive to them. So me being a pious practising man (not that I claim to be, but Alhamdulillah I do the basics and more) makes no difference
As a sister, I just want to say there are amazing Muslim women out there in their 30s (life happens differently for everyone) who are looking for good Muslim man. No checkbox to tick specifically other than truly their character and commitment to their deen and dunya (regards to family, relations, responsibilities …). May Allah make it easy for you.
You are stating facts bro. It's not the same as being married young. In the 30s women are looking for more stability and that is ok. Accept women for who they are. Enforce boundaries and grow to love each other. Women in their late 20s early 30s are simply ready to settle down and have children.
3:10 as a cat lover, I was just thinking to myself "I don't care about your talk, I just love this cat in the back" and then you said " ignore this guy" 😂
Lol my eyes went straight towards the cat as well and even noticed the tail of the cat above before the black & white one jumped 😆
Let your wife speak but don't let her interrupt you its not going to get better wAllahu alim
Yes, these communicative boundaries have to be worked out!
Watching your pod with brother Omar inshallah right after I’ll watch this, very excited to see what you have to say inshallah I can get married soon may allah grant us all the best of spouses
May Allah bless you with a spouse and children who will be the coolness of your eyes and make you all leaders for the righteous
We all know you intentionally brought the cat in the room before you started recording 😜. But yk…on a serious note divorce is one of my biggest fears.
I will say that from what I’ve seen and also learned….is that one shouldn’t ignore their instincts. Of course one can be wrong at times….but often if it doesn’t feel right then it isn’t.
There’s actually no door to my office so I had no choice 😂
May Allah SWT grant us all good and righteous spouses, Ameen.
Allahuma Ameen!
Amiin
My family is trying for my marriage for almost 5 years now. But it's too difficult for me due to sihr and other stuffs. 2 family rejected me bc i am too practicing (blew my mind as i think i am not). One said, i can be on my own, to continue my parda, he won't oppose. But won't help either. These are just few examples.
Anyone reading this, i request you to genuinely make dua for this Muslim sister of yours.
Why do u wanna get married?
Do you ever think maybe your the problem?
Mam I’m looking for a woman like you but I am 21 years old
Can I know more about you?
The family's rejected you because they think your insane. It's you. Not them.
This video really helped! Jazak Allah khayr May Allah Bless your marriage
Jak! Ameen ya rabb and you and yours!
I’m also 23 and not married, ya Allah grant us pious spouses and make us good enough to deserve them
MashaAllah great video...! May Allah bless you and strengthen your bond with your spouse and provide immense happiness through it.
I am 18 and I feel lucky to have a brother like you who gives such quality advice and knowledge.
Ameen ya rabb and you as well. May Allah elevate you in this life and the next!
I am a little too old not be married and my family isn’t social and we live in place where it’s hard to meet potential partners.. i don’t know if I will get married at all .. pray for me
ur female friends, they have their Mahrams circle.
or join Quran circles, even online...
I’m 20, may Allah reward us with the best spouses at the best of times ameen
probably wont get married for a while but im hoping i remember this when i do!
Waalaikum salaam warahmatullahi wabarakaatuhu Brother. Jazakallahu khairan Brother. May Allah help us all. Bro, pls would you dash me that Cat 🙀? I love it pls. 😊❤
Islam is so sweet and simple. I love the Shariah. Alhamdulillah ❤❤❤I love Allah and His Beloved Prophet Muhammad ❤️ 💙 and the Ahlul Bayt ❤😊 alhamdulillah... ALLAAHUMMA SALLEE ALAA MUHAMMAD WA AALI MUHAMMAD WA SALLIM ❤
Asalmualykum akhi, jazakallhu khayran for the helpful video. You gave very good advice; people shouldn't worry about getting married too much, Allah is the best of planners and He will give you a spouse when you are ready. If a Muslim dies before marriage and enters Paradise, khalas, you've got a harem! One improvement that could help your videos, insyhAllah, is to provide the references to Quran and Sunnah. Barakallhu feek!
Walakumasalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu wa iyaakum. Jak inn shaa Allah I will in the future!
Heard advice from an old sheikh: "Find a woman whose beauty you accept, then look at her religion. If you decline, let it be based on the religion to avoid harming her feelings."
6k is a fortune in my country 😢😢. I'm a student in Morocco working hard to get some money to start looking for a wife. But it's really tough with social media standards.
اللهم أرزقنا الزوجة الصالحة
What is "nikkah"??? Bro, it's marriage, bruh!! Why do you have to type marriage twice? Just wrote it in Arabic. So annoying.
Honestly, this was amazing and so unbiased. Thank you for thinking of the sisters and speaking about us like people. You are so mature for your age. Keep it up. Keeping you and your wife in my dua!
how old is he
Do not make your spouse your own enemy, life is hard enough already - Rami Alkhaleel
33 and unmarried. Islamic value common ground is impossible to establish in the west. May Allah please help us all
Have you stayed a virgin that whole time brother? If so how do you deal with it
@@Csquared14if he has or hasnt, that’s none of your business. Don’t talk about sins. You deal with it by doing what Allah has told you to do. Don’t watch porn, lower your gaze, don’t mindlessly scroll and look at women. Pray pray pray pray and pray. Physical touch isn’t all there is to life.
May Allah swt make it easier for you . May Allah swt send your perfect match to you soon.
@@Hejskndnfjsksjjs if only it was that easy
May Allah grant you a good wife and family
1. I do dua. 2. How do I find a man ? I work with mostly non Muslim men and don’t really come into contact with many Muslim men my age. I also don’t want to use apps as I feel like many are not serious and just want to mess around
Literally same
Me too sis, me too😓
30 years old women, feel like I don’t belong the social media era.
36 single male. No facebook, no social media but youtube.
Brother if you are going to do an QaA please make sure to answer my questions.
1. I'm currently 21 and unmarried and I have high hopes for my marriage life in a romantic way, so I really feel like if I marry someone who is right for me then I'll love that person so much so that I'll be ready to give her the whole world if she asks fot it. And having that kind of expectations sometimes makes me think I could be overexaggerating and it can lead to a huge disappointmemt after getting married and finding out how it feels in reality.
So my question is did you have that kind of expectations of your future spouse and if so what was the reality after getting married?
Might come later and edit my comment if I have any questions
This video felt like receiving guidance from an elder brother! ☺
May Allah bless you sister
Dear brothers when you speak about obedience remember that women are not your slaves, we are slaves of Allah❤ not yours
Just because women should be obedient to their husbands doesn’t mean slavery . The prophet instructed women to obey their husbands as a mean to enter jannah
Anas reported God’s Messenger as saying, “When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of paradise she wishes.” A way of saying nothing will prevent her from entering paradise.
Reference: Mishkat al-Masabih 3254
Grade : Authentic ( Sheikh Al Albani)
Great advise video, keep up the good work brother. Jazakallah khairan.
I don't like videos too often. I liked this one. Sound, simple advice anyone can use. In shaa' Allah ta'ala.
May Allah bless you my brother 💪🏽
I’m trying to marry a person I rlly like and they’re so right for me but the families are making it hard 😭 esp my side. Please make dua for us inshallah
I 18 and i reverted almost a year ago to Islam, this is genuinely such a helpful and calming video to watch.
I've been overthinking and scared that i will not find someone who's pure, I have not had anything with a woman and so I would expect my spouse to be pure too.
I'm praying that Allah blesses me with someone who is beautiful, kind and caring and that we'll share our souls together not just with anyone. Especially with the hookup culture these days I sometimes worry too much but I am putting my trust in Allah that he'll provide.
But other than that i am working on myself to become better too by hitting the gym and doing side hustles to provide the best for my woman in the future too.
May Allah bless you brother and may we enter Jannah through the mercy of Allah 🙌
Brother goated Allah humma barik 🔥
Brother you’re 18, relax.
Why do men today take away women’s rights? They don’t want to give her -
Mahr
Two witnesses at the nikkah
Legal nikkah
Safety/ reassurance
A home or food
And before marriage they demand obedience! It’s insane
May Allah grant us all pious partners who will uphold the views of Islam and fulfil all the duties a marriage brings in.
I got married last year at the age of 25. Me being pakistani and my husband syrian we had alot of differences but alhamdulilah a year on, im so happy even through the challanges we faced. May allah continue to bless my marriage ❤❤
Allahuma Ameen!
thanks for the advice akhi, lovely meow meow in the back!!!
The best advice I ever came across
This made me emotional, it’s nice to hear these topics addressed and also speak about women respectfully. May Allah Azzawajjal bless and protect your marriage Ameen!
Not quite certain I understand it when you say “I am open but not super open. “ Why are you on RUclips? 😂😂😂
May Allah bless your marriage Ameen
Ameen ya rabb and you as well
im 28 years old i never had a girlfriend before i never kissed a girl and im a virgin. i never smoked cigarettes shisha or drunk alcohol and im proud of my self. But thats why my future wife has to be a virgin too BUT if i wasnt my virgin my self i shouldnt and couldnt expect a virgin wife too
Tabaraka Allah, Wallahi im happy seeing young man married
akhi I almost died in 1:42 bro I was eating and started almost choking :D
May Allah Bless you and your marriage, Aameen! Jazakallahu Khairan for this excellent video!
i love the cat