What I learned From 2 Years of Marriage (Nikkah) - 2024 Muslim Marriage Advice

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  • @mohammedkhattab6003
    @mohammedkhattab6003 5 месяцев назад +1644

    As a Palestinian, our culture makes marriage very difficult. Back in Ramadan, I proposed to a good woman, we both liked each other, families got along and everything. Then a month later her father called everything off because he wanted to have a wedding with music and I wasn't going to do that. He ruined everything because he wanted a haram wedding. Hes a good guy, but he allowed his desires to ruin what could have been a good marriage. Two months later and I just think as to why my culture is like this? Just baffles me tbh, but Allah is the best of planners!

    • @abdullaal-obaidi833
      @abdullaal-obaidi833 5 месяцев назад +95

      I heard drums in celebratory type events like Eid and weddings you can use, so maybe u could’ve proposed drums only and Allah swt knows best

    • @mohammedkhattab6003
      @mohammedkhattab6003 5 месяцев назад +185

      @abdullaal-obaidi833 I believe you're talking about the duff. The duff can be used for celebrating events such as weddings and eid, but only by women. I did extensive research into this alternative and others, because I wanted to make it work, but her father wasn't interested in giving any of this a chance. He said, "I am not going to waiver on this." And said it wasn't going to work out. I didn't even really care about my feelings tbh, I just didn't want her to feel saddened or even worse for her father to accept someone else who isn't practicing as best they could be. A father should have his daughter's best interest in mind when selecting a potential for her, but some father's will reject men who check the necessary boxes islamically speaking, for cultural reasons, which is honestly such a shame.

    • @IBRAHIMDeenUP
      @IBRAHIMDeenUP 5 месяцев назад +181

      You don’t want a father in law like that anyway. Next he is telling you to take out a line of credit and a mortgage to support his daughter. Allah is protecting you from a future of cultural Islam ahki

    • @keepsmiling198
      @keepsmiling198 5 месяцев назад +44

      A father’s opinion is important but: is he the one marrying you in the end or his daughter? There has to be a balance. Is it even a valid reason to reject you because of this? Is it in accordance with the teachings of Islam? Maybe talk to a sheikh about this if you haven’t already. May Allah make it easy for you 🤲🏼

    • @aodeh2648
      @aodeh2648 5 месяцев назад +25

      are you a westoid palestinian? would the marriage have protected you from greater sins? Had you married into the family could you have made a positive net difference to them? Some things to consider.

  • @idantedit6230
    @idantedit6230 4 месяца назад +340

    Since 2020, i prayed to Allah for this girl to be my wife. The moment i saw her, my heart was taken. I kept praying as my love kept growing, and my soul kept following her whenever i saw her in university. Last year, i had a dream of seeing her, and in that dream, i heard, " she will be your wife." I made istkhara, and i kept having dreams and started seeing my family are supportive of marrying this girl. Alhamdulilah, now we are married and happy than ever. When i think about it, i feel like it was like a movie or something❤.

    • @Youtube_user_nhvrxdhn
      @Youtube_user_nhvrxdhn 4 месяца назад +25

      Alhumdulillah! What a beautiful lovestory. May Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) bless your marriage.

    • @some1947
      @some1947 3 месяца назад +2

      ​@@RUclips_user_nhvrxdhn Aameen

    • @BlueCodesDev
      @BlueCodesDev 3 месяца назад +5

      Dude u'r blessed

    • @imalex6268
      @imalex6268 3 месяца назад +7

      actually a movie man, Congrats brother

    • @casojidesigns327
      @casojidesigns327 2 месяца назад +4

      You are ONE Lucky guy and your wife Tripple lucky!!!

  • @RealCoachMustafa
    @RealCoachMustafa 5 месяцев назад +431

    I agree with you that Allah delays your marriage for a reason. I wanted to get married when I was 20, but Allah delayed my marriage until I was 32. Looking back, I wasn't ready. I wasn't responsible enough yet.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +54

      Allahuakbar, may Allah bless your marriage my brother

    • @Blaze0071
      @Blaze0071 5 месяцев назад +6

      Allahu Akbar. That patience was a means a reward for you brother. insha'Allah I can have such patience too

    • @sonumohammed9610
      @sonumohammed9610 5 месяцев назад +7

      Allahu Akbar.
      Yes we humans are dumb to be honest. And we just want everything so fast. But Allah knows the perfect timing.

    • @shabzxd
      @shabzxd 5 месяцев назад +3

      Man im 16 and thought i was ready before i watchee this video man i was wrong

    • @roy-kn7pi
      @roy-kn7pi 5 месяцев назад

      I'm 26 I really want to get married but I think i'm still not ready, do you have any advice brother for me to speed up the process like where should I start?

  • @HanaHana-ft9li
    @HanaHana-ft9li 4 месяца назад +132

    I’m 33 got married 10 years ago and my oldest is 9. Everyone around me told me I was too young to get married even tho am a female and time for a female is super important. Alhamdulilah million times I met my husband through a mutual from from uni I didn’t really think it would be anything but within a month my husband asked me to marry him and move in with him the same month. I was super shocked. He’s just a year older than me and everyone around me my mom and my sisters and brothers all said it was crazy but I trusted him so much. Alhamdulilah he never disappointed me. 10 years later with 4 children we are still so close Alhamdulilah. Helps me around the house and with the kids never allows me to wash his clothes or iron them. I’m only responsible for the kids and their needs never asks me to cook for him or likes to argues. Alhamdulilah. May Allah bless very Muslim with a good spouse who helps them in this difficult journey called life. It breaks my heart to see so many unmarried Muslims whom families make everything hard for them. Family shouldn’t support shaytan against their own kids. Make marriage easy please.

    • @Zaineb.D
      @Zaineb.D 4 месяца назад +7

      Mashaالله sis. Any advices to have a successful marriage like yours? May Allah bless you and your family ❤

    • @kehfilwara1692
      @kehfilwara1692 4 месяца назад +7

      @@HanaHana-ft9li Allahumma Baarik.
      May Allah give barakah in your marriage sister.
      Do pray for me to find a very righteous man who is good for my Deen, Dunya and Akhirah.
      May Allah give me a good, righteous, caring, loving husband as well who helps me with everything and support me. May Allah heal my heart and fill it with Noor and may Allah bless me with a very soft man who speaks good words to me and fears breaking my heart. Aameen

    • @HanaHana-ft9li
      @HanaHana-ft9li 4 месяца назад +5

      @@kehfilwara1692 with all my heart Amin. May Allah give you a righteous Muslim husband who will never let you down. Please educate yourself about deen and always remember shaytan is real. He’s out there destroying values and families. Even when you meet the right person he will throw doubts in you don’t listen to him. May Allah protect you and grant you your wishes.

    • @HanaHana-ft9li
      @HanaHana-ft9li 4 месяца назад

      @@kehfilwara1692 also don’t trust online personalities who talk about how a Muslim man should be etc etc. Walahi they know nothing about Islam. Ppl like Mahdi who promotes multiple marriages and how men should be tough Auzubillah. Ppl like that if they see my husband they would think he’s weak but he’s far from it. A true Muslim man never raised his voice on his wife someone who’s under his protection. He won’t hurt her. Our prophet never cursed any of his wives nither did he ever hit a woman. He was soft spoken. They narrate once Aisha (radiyallahu anha) became jealous of one of his other wives and threw a plate full of food which was sent by said wife. The prophet smiled and said your mother is jealous. He didn’t call her names or even criticise her. Whenever they wash clothes he was the one who hangs up them. When Aisha was asked what the prophet used to do at home she said ( he was always in service if his family) internet Muslims make fun of a man who helps in the house. This is what Muslims ended up to be in these days and age. May Allah protect you from the evil of internet and increase your knowledge in Islam.

    • @comedyalbums7202
      @comedyalbums7202 4 месяца назад +1

      But sister if all work is done by ur husband then who will take care of him,,,,, u love ur children but what about the man who is sacrificing a lot just to make u happy,,,,, if u don't do any work iam not getting this point 😅​@@HanaHana-ft9li

  • @ayesha3303
    @ayesha3303 4 месяца назад +130

    I met my husband in muzz late last year after a long time I searching. I spoke to Allah ta'ala that i would rather die single than marry someone who is detrimental to my Deen (i am a revert so Islam is very important to me). I met my husband a few months later and we got married February this year at 4 months of knowing each other alhamdulillah.

  • @AbouFitness
    @AbouFitness 5 месяцев назад +416

    Mashallah Brother. I'm getting married next month. I am 20 years old, make dua for me for a successful marriage.

    • @golemaster11
      @golemaster11 5 месяцев назад +20

      May Allah bless your marriage.

    • @Akisoezz
      @Akisoezz 5 месяцев назад +13

      May Allah make ur life successful and better after getting married

    • @AbouFitness
      @AbouFitness 5 месяцев назад +3

      @@AkisoezzAmeen. jazakallah

    • @purvez
      @purvez 5 месяцев назад +2

      Ameen

    • @AbdulRahman-zl3ec
      @AbdulRahman-zl3ec 5 месяцев назад +1

      Ameen

  • @anaspradhan6924
    @anaspradhan6924 5 месяцев назад +455

    I'm also 23, but unmarried. Didn't know you are married. May Allah bless your marriage and life, for what you are doing for the deen.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +78

      Ameen ya rabb may Allah bless and elevate you my brother

    • @kamranemin5356
      @kamranemin5356 5 месяцев назад +11

      May Allah grant you a righteous spouse

    • @kamranemin5356
      @kamranemin5356 5 месяцев назад +4

      Soon

    • @euphoria6681
      @euphoria6681 5 месяцев назад +1

      Bro your name is Pradhan , are you a revert muslim ?

    • @jjffjdjdjfjdjdjdjdj
      @jjffjdjdjfjdjdjdjdj 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@euphoria6681his first name in his username is anas

  • @dearkorina3157
    @dearkorina3157 5 месяцев назад +397

    Alhamdulillah I just got married 3 weeks ago. It did just happen out of no where. One day I had never seen this man in my life and the next I saw him and my stomach dropped to the floor. I was in love with him from the very first second I saw him and when I heard his voice it was like the song of my heart. It was the most beautiful sound I ever heard. subhanAllah ❤
    I want to add that I made du'a for years and years. Even before I was Muslim I prayed and prayed and prayed for the most perfect relationship of my life. I am 33 which some may think is late in life to get married but Allah knows best.

    • @greenbananas12378
      @greenbananas12378 5 месяцев назад +1

      How did you reach out to

    • @jupiterian5831
      @jupiterian5831 5 месяцев назад +26

      Machallah! As a hopeless romantic you’re story made me tear up. May Allah swt bless you and your marriage❤

    • @cinnamon88
      @cinnamon88 5 месяцев назад

      Pls when did you start praying? You said “years and years” when did it all start

    • @zadalaiba516
      @zadalaiba516 5 месяцев назад +5

      May Allah bless your marriage. Allahumma aamiinn. Thank you for sharing ❤

    • @sshaikh8104
      @sshaikh8104 4 месяца назад +1

      I am at the same place you were once pray for me

  • @millyapopo4457
    @millyapopo4457 3 месяца назад +117

    Am a widow and so lonely. My late hubby was a Muslim he had converted me I have three adult children.praying that Allah gives me an understanding and loving man. Allah grant me peace. Love from kenya

    • @Fia316
      @Fia316 3 месяца назад +4

      May allah give u all the happiness you want and a righteous spouse

    • @Gul_youtube
      @Gul_youtube 3 месяца назад +2

      I recommend Sunnah Match platform to find a husband in a halal way, sister.

    • @Reda-l8l
      @Reda-l8l 3 месяца назад

      Amin

    • @comedyalbums7202
      @comedyalbums7202 2 месяца назад +1

      @@Fia316 is marriage is so temporary according to islam iam telling a she is a widow and her late husband loved her and she even want to get remarried i see many reasons why marriage is a fake love contract

    • @blackbeautifulandsmart2849
      @blackbeautifulandsmart2849 11 дней назад

      Allahumma ameen.🤲

  • @watchbavaria
    @watchbavaria 5 месяцев назад +127

    Preach brother, I was "ready" when I was 19 but I couldn't have been more wrong lol I eventually got married at the age of 24 (im 28 soon) and I 100% marriage just happened. One day I was single working at home living with my family then my potential contacted me and one thing led to another and well we got married al-hamdulilah.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +20

      Alhumdulallah my brother, may Allah bless you in your marriage💪🏽

    • @Roselover567
      @Roselover567 2 месяца назад

      How did you meet?

  • @hafsa2am
    @hafsa2am 5 месяцев назад +157

    I’m 31 and really unwell and I don't actually believe that anyone could handle a spouses illnesses. Please make duaa that Allaah graces you with someone to aid you both in the dunya and thereafter. ☀️

    • @kehfilwara1692
      @kehfilwara1692 5 месяцев назад +19

      May Allah bless us with a spouse who can be our best friend and aid us both in the dunya and the Akhirah.
      Sister! Don’t worry, Allah is ever Kind to His Servants, He( Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) will surely bless you with the best spouse who would treat you with love, kindness and wouldn’t mind your illness.

    • @ام_حسام25
      @ام_حسام25 5 месяцев назад

      May Allah Aza wajal cure your illnesses ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

    • @sarahe.h.1010
      @sarahe.h.1010 5 месяцев назад +5

      Never give up. Allah knows. Keep making dua ❤

    • @nanochan1168
      @nanochan1168 4 месяца назад +12

      I have seen people married with sever disabilities, I won't sugar coated and say it is easy. I myself have chronic illness but remember sister we don't need society to find us the best options we only need one person to see that being with us is worth the effort and Allah is The all mighty nothing is impossible to him he will bring you the right person. May you find each other and fill each day with joy and happiness 😊

    • @mohamoudmohamoud9040
      @mohamoudmohamoud9040 4 месяца назад +4

      It depends on your mindset, not anything else. Sister, just you have to aim high. Inshalah, I wish the best for you.

  • @kareemali2688
    @kareemali2688 5 месяцев назад +133

    I'm nearly 26 and still on the journey. May Allah provide me what is best for the best in me. And to all my brothers and sisters pertaining to what is good for our soul and iman.

  • @LivinwithPat
    @LivinwithPat 5 месяцев назад +137

    i turn 21 next month. gonna be 5 years revert ahumdillah ut moving from big city to small town for uni is unique. esp with the fitnah. may Allah swt make it ez for all of us Muslims ameen

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +4

      Ameen and Mabrook my brother, may Allah bless you 💪🏽❤️

    • @S9.S4
      @S9.S4 4 месяца назад

      Masha'Allah.. you're blessed my brother with guidance. happy for you bro

  • @nassrnassr4215
    @nassrnassr4215 5 месяцев назад +142

    Alhamdulilallah I’m 20 and got married within the last month. It’s pressure but also very good feeling alhamdulilallah but I trust Allah 100% to guide me. Jazakallah brother for your advice and may Allah elevate u to the highest levels of jannah ameen.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +22

      Wa iyaakum! Allahuma Ameen ya rabb. May Allah bless you in your marriage and grant you and your family the highest levels of jannah

    • @ateeqahmed7945
      @ateeqahmed7945 5 месяцев назад

      Allahummabarik akhi, may I know where you are from?

    • @nassrnassr4215
      @nassrnassr4215 5 месяцев назад

      @@ateeqahmed7945 I’m from Sudan ahk. But I live and was born in the UK

    • @mr.knockknock3705
      @mr.knockknock3705 5 месяцев назад

      Allahuma baarik, I wish I was married that age. 36 now Khayr in shaa Allah

    • @Ahmed-jv7oc
      @Ahmed-jv7oc 5 месяцев назад +2

      Im 20 too brother, feel lost in life. How did you get married at such a young age?

  • @YEAGERlST
    @YEAGERlST 5 месяцев назад +170

    If you read this;
    Say "SubhanAllah" 33x
    Say "Alhamdulillah" 33x
    Say "Allahu akbar" 34x
    May Allah reward you.

    • @Humpbackrue
      @Humpbackrue 5 месяцев назад +2

      سبحان الله وبحمده
      سبحان الله العظيم

    • @blank8168
      @blank8168 5 месяцев назад +5

      What you've mentioned is (albeit in reverse order) the tasbeeh of Sayyida Fatima Zahra (Peace by upon her), the daughter of the Holy Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him).
      The correct order is as follows:
      34 x اللهُ أَکْبَر / Allahu Akbar
      33x ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰه / Alḥamdu lillah
      33x سُبْحَانَ ٱللَّٰه / SubḥanAllah

    • @Nextlifeisbetter
      @Nextlifeisbetter 2 месяца назад

      Jazakallah khair

  • @jennamuller5977
    @jennamuller5977 5 месяцев назад +120

    We did our Nikkah in Ramadan this year, unfortunately he gave me the first Talaaq a week ago, I just don’t think he was ready for the lifelong commitment, please make dua’a for Allah to make this easy for me in my Iddah period inshallah. Because it has been extremely hard. 💔

    • @hibbah3210
      @hibbah3210 4 месяца назад +11

      InShaAllah sister may Allah make it easy for u, and give u the best of the bestest from His bounty. Please pray/make dua and have patience

    • @sokkaslostboomerangg2593
      @sokkaslostboomerangg2593 4 месяца назад +5

      Allah will give you ease, he is hearing and he is with you, im so sorry, it may take time, but Allah is with you and he hears your cries. May Allah make it easy for you

    • @jennamuller5977
      @jennamuller5977 4 месяца назад

      @AlyssaZennorAmeen 🙌🏼

    • @jennamuller5977
      @jennamuller5977 4 месяца назад

      ⁠@@hibbah3210Ameen thumma Ameen 🤲🏼

    • @jennamuller5977
      @jennamuller5977 4 месяца назад

      @@sokkaslostboomerangg2593Ameen 🤲🏼

  • @ashfaquei.k.426
    @ashfaquei.k.426 5 месяцев назад +30

    Ya Muqallib al-quloob thabbit qalbi 'ala deenik
    يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِى عَلَى دِينِكَ
    “O Controller of hearts, make my heart firm in Your religion.”

    • @Omer_578
      @Omer_578 4 месяца назад +1

      "O Turner of hearts"* جزاك الله خير

  • @us3r1100
    @us3r1100 5 месяцев назад +228

    make dua I get married soon pls😭may Allah bless us with pious spouses Ameen

  • @khodorhachem2002
    @khodorhachem2002 4 месяца назад +10

    Alsalam w alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
    Allahumma Barik, may Allah swt increase the Barakah and love in your marriage.
    Iam 22 and unmarried. Alhamdulillah, i follow the Quran and the Sunnah of the prophet saw, but trying to get married seems impossible, i really want to get married for the sake of Allah. Please, keep me in your duas!
    ربنا هب لنا من ازواجنا و ذرياتنا قرة أعين و إجعلنا للمتقين إماما

  • @rayblitz1713
    @rayblitz1713 5 месяцев назад +92

    I just turned 19 with a solid amount of money saved up. My father is making it a bit of a hassle cuz he doesn't wanna get me married here in australia. May allah bless me with a good wife 😢🤲

    • @hariswillsharegood
      @hariswillsharegood 5 месяцев назад +1

      inshallah

    • @Noodles-bn9ug
      @Noodles-bn9ug 5 месяцев назад +16

      If your a man that's your life, I am sick of these parents doing zlum to the kids it's not their life I have a daughter and I well never force her to marry someone she don't like that's haram. Alot of parents use the authority that Allah gave them to abuse the kids this is zlum not just.

    • @Livinginthepresentmoment07
      @Livinginthepresentmoment07 5 месяцев назад +3

      He is right, womens past matter, Becareful!

    • @mahmedakan
      @mahmedakan 5 месяцев назад +10

      @@Noodles-bn9ug Out of thousands of languages the brother or sister decided to speak facts. Allahummabarik.

    • @mick_jjp3456
      @mick_jjp3456 4 месяца назад

      Ameen

  • @ninjaz31
    @ninjaz31 5 месяцев назад +43

    You mention about styles of communication and different people having different ways of communicating. I feel like a video explaining different types and how to best to communicate to different types would be useful

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +13

      Great suggestion inn shaa Allah!

  • @thomasbuxton2648
    @thomasbuxton2648 5 месяцев назад +53

    If you’re able to get married young, it’s such a blessing, especially as a man.
    I’m guessing you’re not 100% established, so a lady wanting to marry you means she actually desires you for you.
    At 31, I feel I’ve passed the point where a lady would want me for me. At this age marriage is about how many boxes you tick: finance, stability etc like I’m a product being picked off a shelf.
    May Allah bless your marriage habibi

    • @thelemurofmadagascar9183
      @thelemurofmadagascar9183 5 месяцев назад +31

      Brother, don't feel so pessimistic about yourself. 31 is still pretty young for a man, and age generally matters less to women. If anything, a lot of women prefer older mature men.
      As for your money, please don't feel objectified just because a woman might like your money. As long as it's not the only reason she's marrying you, there's nothing wrong with it. It's no different than a man wanting his wife to be beautiful. As long as it's not the main purpose of the marriage, it's a perfectly okay thing to value.

    • @marytheraspberry3145
      @marytheraspberry3145 5 месяцев назад +17

      I'm sure there are women your same age looking for a pious husband. I don't believe it's possible for all of them to only want you for your money.

    • @thomasbuxton2648
      @thomasbuxton2648 5 месяцев назад

      @@marytheraspberry3145they probably are but I’ve been rejected by every one of them.
      The money thing is just an extra thing playing on my mind, but it doesn’t really matter when I get rejected from the outset anyway.
      I have never been good enough to even be considered for marriage. I am screened out from the very beginning.
      Also piety doesn’t matter to most women (and men, I’m not hating them for it) if you’re not attractive to them in the first place.
      As a 5’2 balding man, it’s not a surprise I’m not even somewhat attractive to them. So me being a pious practising man (not that I claim to be, but Alhamdulillah I do the basics and more) makes no difference

    • @hijabbathehutt
      @hijabbathehutt 5 месяцев назад +8

      As a sister, I just want to say there are amazing Muslim women out there in their 30s (life happens differently for everyone) who are looking for good Muslim man. No checkbox to tick specifically other than truly their character and commitment to their deen and dunya (regards to family, relations, responsibilities …). May Allah make it easy for you.

    • @TheCastedone
      @TheCastedone 5 месяцев назад +2

      You are stating facts bro. It's not the same as being married young. In the 30s women are looking for more stability and that is ok. Accept women for who they are. Enforce boundaries and grow to love each other. Women in their late 20s early 30s are simply ready to settle down and have children.

  • @JohnTronto
    @JohnTronto 5 месяцев назад +51

    Cats stole the show mashallah 😊 To all brothers & sisters who havent get married yet may Allah bless you all with the best, righteous, beautiful, compatible spouses with whom you gain Allah blessings in this world & after.

  • @PatrickMoon994
    @PatrickMoon994 5 месяцев назад +80

    One more important thing.
    Be the best friend of your spouse. Share everything with them. I really mean everything.
    If there one person in the world that you can share everything with , it is your spouse.

    • @petal21
      @petal21 5 месяцев назад +4

      unless it's a toxic one. 😢

    • @swavyhighlights2770
      @swavyhighlights2770 5 месяцев назад +5

      Don’t do that

    • @andalusianstockmarket6284
      @andalusianstockmarket6284 5 месяцев назад +7

      Bad idea never show.your weakness as a man , tgat puts your partner off. And if youre a women dont tell your husband the deviancies of your thoughts cause that will make him hate you to the core.

    • @ggthewhale
      @ggthewhale 5 месяцев назад +4

      Do NOT do this lol

    • @OsirisMawn
      @OsirisMawn 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@andalusianstockmarket6284exactly. This op here romanticising marriage. Or it's a woman probably.

  • @thomasbuxton2648
    @thomasbuxton2648 5 месяцев назад +28

    It’s difficult being 31 years old and rejected at every opportunity whilst I’ve stayed away from haram whilst my friends who had girlfriends and enjoyed romance in their younger years easily got married, some without putting hardly any effort in.

    • @umarhabib4197
      @umarhabib4197 5 месяцев назад +38

      Don’t worry. Every sacrifice counts. It’s all for Allah. The reward is EXTREMELY IMMENSE in Jannah. It’s all worth it

    • @behappy9472
      @behappy9472 5 месяцев назад +17

      Its a test for you, because Allah s.w.a likes you. So dont fail the test and alway say alhamdulillah for everything

    • @piousslave
      @piousslave 5 месяцев назад +13

      "Only those who endure patiently will be given their reward without limit.”

    • @Hellfire_is_real
      @Hellfire_is_real 5 месяцев назад +4

      Do a lot of istighfar with niya that Allah forgives your sins.
      Don't forget your athkar , and your daily obligatory acts. Don't eat Haram or earn Haram money.
      Make Dua and don't be impatient with Allah by asking why yr dua hasn't been answered.
      Do ruqya if u think that u may be afflicted with Ayn .
      You're being tested. Allah knows best about everything. If He decrees that you get married later in the future, there's Hikma for the timing. Seek aid from Allah. Allah is aware of everything. Just be patient and keep making Dua.

    • @AnassMountasser
      @AnassMountasser 5 месяцев назад

      Im gonna give you the honest truth: Women are easily icked out by men based on how they act socially. Your freinds had experience with women, and have learned how to seduce and make them interested, so of course its easier for them to get potential spouses to like them. You however never did haram, but that means you don't know how to act romantically with women, and thus can easily give them the ick. It is sad because the burden of good romantic social skills is on the man, as he has to lead, but feel free to ask me any questions as I got the real answers instead of these other empty answers.

  • @ranahuwaidi3715
    @ranahuwaidi3715 5 месяцев назад +79

    Keep me in your duas! I’m 24 and unmarried and inshallah want to get married!

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +17

      May Allah grant you a pious spouse and children, Ameen!

    • @ranahuwaidi3715
      @ranahuwaidi3715 5 месяцев назад +4

      @@ramialkhaleel ameeeen ya rab!

    • @neginehsanjawid5063
      @neginehsanjawid5063 5 месяцев назад +3

      Bruh I’m 27😅

    • @roy-kn7pi
      @roy-kn7pi 5 месяцев назад

      I'm 26 chill

    • @maryyam702
      @maryyam702 4 месяца назад +1

      Pray for me too i want to get married im 20 🥺

  • @Anasd33n
    @Anasd33n 5 месяцев назад +16

    Watching your pod with brother Omar inshallah right after I’ll watch this, very excited to see what you have to say inshallah I can get married soon may allah grant us all the best of spouses

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +6

      May Allah bless you with a spouse and children who will be the coolness of your eyes and make you all leaders for the righteous

  • @LeonEdwards-ij5pm
    @LeonEdwards-ij5pm 5 месяцев назад +27

    Nice tips brother, beneficial for non-muslims viewers as well.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +4

      Thank you! I’m glad you liked it💪🏽

  • @Salma_xx
    @Salma_xx 5 месяцев назад +12

    My family is trying for my marriage for almost 5 years now. But it's too difficult for me due to sihr and other stuffs. 2 family rejected me bc i am too practicing (blew my mind as i think i am not). One said, i can be on my own, to continue my parda, he won't oppose. But won't help either. These are just few examples.
    Anyone reading this, i request you to genuinely make dua for this Muslim sister of yours.

    • @Elizabeth-jk4yj
      @Elizabeth-jk4yj 4 месяца назад

      Why do u wanna get married?

    • @jimslim-c4u
      @jimslim-c4u 4 месяца назад

      Do you ever think maybe your the problem?

    • @Nimdutsu
      @Nimdutsu 3 месяца назад

      Mam I’m looking for a woman like you but I am 21 years old
      Can I know more about you?

    • @jimslim-c4u
      @jimslim-c4u 3 месяца назад

      The family's rejected you because they think your insane. It's you. Not them.

  • @dalhaanu
    @dalhaanu 5 месяцев назад +15

    This video really helped! Jazak Allah khayr May Allah Bless your marriage

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +3

      Jak! Ameen ya rabb and you and yours!

  • @Nassim-deen
    @Nassim-deen 5 месяцев назад +10

    I’m also 23 and not married, ya Allah grant us pious spouses and make us good enough to deserve them

  • @JOYRIDEUS
    @JOYRIDEUS 5 месяцев назад +149

    For any man in marriage just remember this thing. A woman don't hit or raise their voices at men they respect. And a woman can't love you if she doesn't respect you first. Be careful be wise and practice the Sunnah in your behavior and composure.

    • @lnoorplaylist
      @lnoorplaylist 5 месяцев назад +17

      And vice versa

    • @MH-bf4uu
      @MH-bf4uu 5 месяцев назад +9

      raising voices is normal during an argument

    • @moralisoppression2837
      @moralisoppression2837 5 месяцев назад

      True, should divorce if she raise her voice.

    • @lightbeings6243
      @lightbeings6243 5 месяцев назад +45

      ​@@moralisoppression2837
      Well then marry a robot.Humans argue and voice gets raised at times when humans get emotional.This rule also applies to both genders.

    • @moralisoppression2837
      @moralisoppression2837 5 месяцев назад

      @@lightbeings6243 right so both need to have patience, wife also need to have patience when she got beat up. Its happen when human get emotional.

  • @swampfox3536
    @swampfox3536 5 месяцев назад +12

    In Bangladesh, culture aside, people actually prioritize wealth first and then good character. I wanted to get married at 21 (now 26) but since her mother had suffered a lot because of her husband could not provide for them; therefore, she was looking for a person for her daughter who would have generous amount of wealth (from his dad's side) to at least secure a good position and not place her daughter's life in jeopardy. I understand that (money is actually essential in life, without it, you actually feel miserable.) but at that time, it made me feel confused about life (was it my fault that my father did not have wealth left for me? If I have to build my wealth, it will certainly take time "finishing bachelor's and then job or business, etc."). But, Allah is the greatest of planners, and hope is all I have right now. In the end, even if I don't get the ending I am looking for, I wish my younger brothers and sisters, May Allah find you a loving spouse early in life!
    and as for you Rami, you are an excellent person for the youth right now. I wish you all the best for your family. May Allah keep your family happy and flourishing!

  • @fahimachoudhury6978
    @fahimachoudhury6978 2 месяца назад +1

    This made me emotional, it’s nice to hear these topics addressed and also speak about women respectfully. May Allah Azzawajjal bless and protect your marriage Ameen!

  • @jinxtationtv6909
    @jinxtationtv6909 5 месяцев назад +7

    I’m 20, may Allah reward us with the best spouses at the best of times ameen

  • @eddymiles7229
    @eddymiles7229 2 месяца назад +3

    May ALLAH bless us with right spouses.. Amen

  • @OmarElghamry1
    @OmarElghamry1 5 месяцев назад +5

    Heard advice from an old sheikh: "Find a woman whose beauty you accept, then look at her religion. If you decline, let it be based on the religion to avoid harming her feelings."

  • @Mustafa_the_momin
    @Mustafa_the_momin 5 месяцев назад +10

    MashaAllah great video...! May Allah bless you and strengthen your bond with your spouse and provide immense happiness through it.
    I am 18 and I feel lucky to have a brother like you who gives such quality advice and knowledge.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +3

      Ameen ya rabb and you as well. May Allah elevate you in this life and the next!

  • @alexandermilleriii499
    @alexandermilleriii499 5 месяцев назад +4

    I came back home really sad today because I'm still single but this gave me hope and taught me a lot. Thank you.

  • @AMbsjsbsjsblabsn
    @AMbsjsbsjsblabsn 5 месяцев назад +20

    May Allah SWT grant us all good and righteous spouses, Ameen.

  • @akiera1511
    @akiera1511 4 месяца назад +4

    I 18 and i reverted almost a year ago to Islam, this is genuinely such a helpful and calming video to watch.
    I've been overthinking and scared that i will not find someone who's pure, I have not had anything with a woman and so I would expect my spouse to be pure too.
    I'm praying that Allah blesses me with someone who is beautiful, kind and caring and that we'll share our souls together not just with anyone. Especially with the hookup culture these days I sometimes worry too much but I am putting my trust in Allah that he'll provide.
    But other than that i am working on myself to become better too by hitting the gym and doing side hustles to provide the best for my woman in the future too.
    May Allah bless you brother and may we enter Jannah through the mercy of Allah 🙌

    • @lunarsoles
      @lunarsoles 4 месяца назад +1

      Brother goated Allah humma barik 🔥

    • @sarahelsa8124
      @sarahelsa8124 3 месяца назад +1

      Brother you’re 18, relax.

  • @themuslimseeker_
    @themuslimseeker_ 5 месяцев назад +4

    Tabaraka Allah, Wallahi im happy seeing young man married

  • @kehfilwara1692
    @kehfilwara1692 5 месяцев назад +13

    May Allah bless me with a spouse who has deen and good akhlaaq. May Allah bless me with righteous spouse and righteous family. May I have peaceful and loving marriage with my spouse. May my future spouse respects me a lot and may I respect him a lot as well. May we both become each other’s best friend. May my husband makes our relationship no.1 priority in his life just as i make it mine. May I be married to a soft man who gives me reassurance and emotional safety. May a gentle and loving man be written in my Naseeb. May Allah beautify my akhlaaq more and more and grant me a high valued man who has a pure tongue and pure heart. May Allah bless me with a man who has fear of Allah the most.

    • @ubzy11
      @ubzy11 4 месяца назад +2

      Aameen

  • @shahedismail5833
    @shahedismail5833 5 месяцев назад +3

    May Allah grant us all pious partners who will uphold the views of Islam and fulfil all the duties a marriage brings in.

  • @akifkhan2932
    @akifkhan2932 4 месяца назад +2

    Im 27 just graduated from law school. Even when we are successful in obtaining education getting married isn’t any easier. It takes a lot of work to find a person with the right mindset and all the other traits necessary.

  • @zeinababdullah5270
    @zeinababdullah5270 5 месяцев назад +8

    May Allah bless your marriage Ameen

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +2

      Ameen ya rabb and you as well

  • @sonny7159
    @sonny7159 5 месяцев назад +5

    I don't like videos too often. I liked this one. Sound, simple advice anyone can use. In shaa' Allah ta'ala.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +1

      May Allah bless you my brother 💪🏽

  • @lieutenant8968
    @lieutenant8968 5 месяцев назад +9

    probably wont get married for a while but im hoping i remember this when i do!

  • @theexplorer8395
    @theexplorer8395 Месяц назад +1

    Great advice, absolutely loved it. JazakAllah brother ❤

  • @Maymaybell247
    @Maymaybell247 5 месяцев назад +5

    Honestly, this was amazing and so unbiased. Thank you for thinking of the sisters and speaking about us like people. You are so mature for your age. Keep it up. Keeping you and your wife in my dua!

    • @marsha75
      @marsha75 5 месяцев назад

      how old is he

  • @Nookriy
    @Nookriy 5 месяцев назад +8

    Asalmualykum akhi, jazakallhu khayran for the helpful video. You gave very good advice; people shouldn't worry about getting married too much, Allah is the best of planners and He will give you a spouse when you are ready. If a Muslim dies before marriage and enters Paradise, khalas, you've got a harem! One improvement that could help your videos, insyhAllah, is to provide the references to Quran and Sunnah. Barakallhu feek!

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +4

      Walakumasalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu wa iyaakum. Jak inn shaa Allah I will in the future!

  • @JOYRIDEUS
    @JOYRIDEUS 5 месяцев назад +18

    Let your wife speak but don't let her interrupt you its not going to get better wAllahu alim

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +11

      Yes, these communicative boundaries have to be worked out!

  • @nouruldinabdeldayem5633
    @nouruldinabdeldayem5633 2 месяца назад +2

    جزاكم الله خيراً ♥️

  • @mimmss6556
    @mimmss6556 5 месяцев назад +8

    Jazakallahu khairan for this

  • @raiyaanshaikh0114
    @raiyaanshaikh0114 5 месяцев назад +2

    May Allah Bless you and your marriage, Aameen! Jazakallahu Khairan for this excellent video!

  • @Desertrose1911
    @Desertrose1911 5 месяцев назад +6

    This video felt like receiving guidance from an elder brother! ☺

  • @IbnMazroofTech
    @IbnMazroofTech 5 месяцев назад +2

    absolutely great man!
    have a blessed journey for you and your spouse/spouses !

  • @lunabrights4073
    @lunabrights4073 5 месяцев назад +5

    I’m trying to marry a person I rlly like and they’re so right for me but the families are making it hard 😭 esp my side. Please make dua for us inshallah

  • @SadiaKhan-g5z
    @SadiaKhan-g5z 4 месяца назад +1

    This is such beautiful advice from you mashallah and may allah reward you and your efforts and protect you from evil eyes 😊

  • @4924na
    @4924na 5 месяцев назад +15

    I got married last year at the age of 25. Me being pakistani and my husband syrian we had alot of differences but alhamdulilah a year on, im so happy even through the challanges we faced. May allah continue to bless my marriage ❤❤

  • @lamialam574
    @lamialam574 4 месяца назад +1

    Why is this on my feed ?
    My standards do not need to go any higher
    Mashallah your such a model to follow, may allah ease and enlighten your path

  • @nullunullu7990
    @nullunullu7990 5 месяцев назад +4

    May Allah make it easier to all of us 🤲🤲 Ameen

  • @HerArtnThoughts
    @HerArtnThoughts 3 месяца назад

    6:26 I can confirm that thats definitely the case. Got married at 20, 12 years since and in shaa Allah many years more.
    Great advices there.

  • @s.elh.3281
    @s.elh.3281 5 месяцев назад +13

    3:10 as a cat lover, I was just thinking to myself "I don't care about your talk, I just love this cat in the back" and then you said " ignore this guy" 😂

    • @maisarashafiq9322
      @maisarashafiq9322 5 месяцев назад +2

      Lol my eyes went straight towards the cat as well and even noticed the tail of the cat above before the black & white one jumped 😆

  • @ayanalhassan
    @ayanalhassan 2 месяца назад +1

    Great advise video, keep up the good work brother. Jazakallah khairan.

  • @malikibnisa8060
    @malikibnisa8060 5 месяцев назад +3

    Bro wAllahi you give the best advice!. May Allah continue to bless all your endeavors. اللهم آمين

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +4

      Allahuma Ameen and you as well. All good is from Allah❤️💪🏽

  • @danaeskandarani4251
    @danaeskandarani4251 5 месяцев назад +2

    AllahumaBarik! May Allah (SWT) put Barakah in your marriage!

  • @danialecon3386
    @danialecon3386 5 месяцев назад +7

    Jizakallah kair brother Rami for the marriage advise i needed this may Allah bless you. Please keep it going

  • @naw6936
    @naw6936 4 месяца назад +1

    Mashallah tabarakallah. Thank you so much for making this video brother. It has been incredibly insightful. May Allah swt reward you and bless you and your wife a peaceful and longlasting marriage inshallah.

  • @strix3827
    @strix3827 5 месяцев назад +4

    May Allah bless your marriage 🤍

  • @Viralshow567
    @Viralshow567 5 месяцев назад +1

    SubhanAllah amazing advice brother. May ALLAH make us Righteous and grant us Righteous wives. Ameen

  • @privthings
    @privthings 5 месяцев назад +3

    thanks for the advice akhi, lovely meow meow in the back!!!

  • @ZenAli-z4y
    @ZenAli-z4y 5 месяцев назад +2

    May Allah grant us all righteous spouses.

  • @MoreHumane
    @MoreHumane 5 месяцев назад +8

    33 and unmarried. Islamic value common ground is impossible to establish in the west. May Allah please help us all

    • @Csquared14
      @Csquared14 5 месяцев назад +2

      Have you stayed a virgin that whole time brother? If so how do you deal with it

    • @Hejskndnfjsksjjs
      @Hejskndnfjsksjjs 5 месяцев назад +6

      ⁠@@Csquared14if he has or hasnt, that’s none of your business. Don’t talk about sins. You deal with it by doing what Allah has told you to do. Don’t watch porn, lower your gaze, don’t mindlessly scroll and look at women. Pray pray pray pray and pray. Physical touch isn’t all there is to life.

    • @aishahs2032
      @aishahs2032 5 месяцев назад

      May Allah swt make it easier for you . May Allah swt send your perfect match to you soon.

    • @AM-bm9rs
      @AM-bm9rs 4 месяца назад +1

      @@Hejskndnfjsksjjs if only it was that easy

    • @Zhenitadlny
      @Zhenitadlny 3 месяца назад

      May Allah grant you a good wife and family

  • @afandifitri
    @afandifitri 5 месяцев назад +4

    Dude, I just got married in April of 2024! Very recently. I am 25 years old. Thank you for the advice my brother. Allahuma barik.

  • @Conako
    @Conako 5 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you for sharing these genuine advices. May Allah reward you highly.

  • @islamgouasmia5762
    @islamgouasmia5762 5 месяцев назад +8

    Give us some tips on what type of question to ask in the engagement period.

    • @fiomelandri7015
      @fiomelandri7015 5 месяцев назад

      4 type person that u can married, it's based from hadist prophets
      1. Righteousness (shalih/shalihah)/understanding of deen/islam
      2. Wealthy
      3. Beauty
      4. Noble/descendant/ in arabic its called nasab. Example : Prince/princess/son of sultan/president/celebrity.
      Prophet said choose number 1 u will be lucky.
      Lucky what? Luck in this worldly land here after, u and ur partner going together, company,remind, walking to path of allah.
      And when u look at it number 2-4 only worldly life meaning its temporary its didnt permanent. Example: beauty can faded with aging, wealthy can bankrupt anytime,noble line only afew percent in this word who have that status and if u marry a noble partner then u be ready from normal life to noble life like ethic etc.
      Ask what important in married along the deen.
      Example question for him/her.
      what u do when weekend? See the answer, if he/she answers like go to bar,casino etc. well then u know in the future if u married with someone like this. If ur partner answer im came lecturer in masjid/ read book at home/read some islamic book. Then u know what the characteristics.
      How often ur shalat(pray)? He/she said 3/4 times a day, ask him/her would u mind if i advice/remind/invite u to the straight path?
      Ask the mahr (dowry), see what her want.
      Mahr its not burden the huband but at the same time not humiliate the wife ti be lowly.
      Ask what happen if thereis argument/clash each other how to solve it? Look what Alquran and hadist said
      There is no such thing called love in marriage,love only in marvel/Hollywood/disney
      love given by allah to the husband and wife if they walking to path of allah, seeing jannah together etc.

  • @Theshire.05
    @Theshire.05 5 месяцев назад +2

    Whoever is out there looking like myself, may Allah swt make it easy for us. Please remember one another iA

  • @zyadb_
    @zyadb_ 5 месяцев назад +3

    6k is a fortune in my country 😢😢. I'm a student in Morocco working hard to get some money to start looking for a wife. But it's really tough with social media standards.
    اللهم أرزقنا الزوجة الصالحة

  • @clearpath8794
    @clearpath8794 5 месяцев назад +1

    Mashallah great wisdom from a relatively newly married man, may Allah SWT bless you and your wife!!

  • @Rooh00100
    @Rooh00100 5 месяцев назад +3

    Do not make your spouse your own enemy, life is hard enough already - Rami Alkhaleel

  • @blackbeautifulandsmart2849
    @blackbeautifulandsmart2849 11 дней назад

    Assalaamualaikum Great advice . Allahumma bark.

  • @Sumaia915
    @Sumaia915 5 месяцев назад +6

    I am a little too old not be married and my family isn’t social and we live in place where it’s hard to meet potential partners.. i don’t know if I will get married at all .. pray for me

    • @Berke-Khan
      @Berke-Khan 5 месяцев назад +1

      ur female friends, they have their Mahrams circle.
      or join Quran circles, even online...

  • @arba9145
    @arba9145 Месяц назад

    These are things I've already known, but the first time someone has covered it - thank you

  • @dimashflesh82
    @dimashflesh82 5 месяцев назад +3

    Allahumma barik

  • @hamzatmaryamopeyemi4494
    @hamzatmaryamopeyemi4494 Месяц назад

    Allahumo barik, your video is quite insightful

  • @MissChocolateLover16
    @MissChocolateLover16 5 месяцев назад +4

    1. I do dua. 2. How do I find a man ? I work with mostly non Muslim men and don’t really come into contact with many Muslim men my age. I also don’t want to use apps as I feel like many are not serious and just want to mess around

    • @naomiemredha866
      @naomiemredha866 5 месяцев назад

      Literally same

    • @klaudiakla6201
      @klaudiakla6201 3 месяца назад

      Me too sis, me too😓

    • @hs6585
      @hs6585 2 месяца назад

      Don’t lose hope in making dua and Ask Allah for what you want. E.g you want to meet through family friends or the masjid or work that some Muslim comes to work there. Allah knows you best ❤and what suits you and I wish you all the best and righteous spouse Ameen

  • @00remash91
    @00remash91 4 месяца назад

    Mashallah so useful may Allah help us live peace in marriage life

  • @tubehead265
    @tubehead265 5 месяцев назад +3

    This was solid

  • @hiba.soomro
    @hiba.soomro 2 месяца назад +1

    The best advice I ever came across

  • @dawahoverdunya
    @dawahoverdunya 5 месяцев назад +2

    We all know you intentionally brought the cat in the room before you started recording 😜. But yk…on a serious note divorce is one of my biggest fears.
    I will say that from what I’ve seen and also learned….is that one shouldn’t ignore their instincts. Of course one can be wrong at times….but often if it doesn’t feel right then it isn’t.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад

      There’s actually no door to my office so I had no choice 😂

  • @Knowledge021
    @Knowledge021 Месяц назад

    Hello brother I have just subscribed you seem like a very genuine person. May Allah grant you and your family all your wishes!

  • @Finefella
    @Finefella 5 месяцев назад +4

    Keep making duas

  • @jubei3219
    @jubei3219 5 месяцев назад +1

    Also understand people change and make mistakes any marriage that has lasted has had issues. If your goal is to raise a good family and please Allah don’t give up be patient

  • @watchbavaria
    @watchbavaria 5 месяцев назад +3

    akhi I almost died in 1:42 bro I was eating and started almost choking :D

  • @RajuAhmed-ze9gn
    @RajuAhmed-ze9gn 5 месяцев назад +2

    Its so difficult to ignore the background

  • @MohammedAlSharif2002
    @MohammedAlSharif2002 5 месяцев назад +3

    How am I supposed to get married if I don’t have a job because I’m still a college student?

    • @DontOpenThisChannel
      @DontOpenThisChannel 5 месяцев назад

      Marry a poor woman

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 месяцев назад +3

      You can get married and live separately. If that’s not possible then you’ll have to ride it out soldier 🫡

    • @DontOpenThisChannel
      @DontOpenThisChannel 5 месяцев назад

      Marry a poor woman

    • @healthworm
      @healthworm 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@ramialkhaleelThe wali (especially parents) of the bride won't agree to misyar marriage.
      Getting married was so easy back then. Now, it's so difficult and zina is easy
      May Allah protect everyone from the fitnah of delayed marriage

  • @profa1084
    @profa1084 5 месяцев назад +1

    Short clip, but veryyy good! This clip should Watch every youth no matter What age. Bc its he sad no that much words but these words are very good together. MasAllah

  • @Mustafa_the_momin
    @Mustafa_the_momin 5 месяцев назад +5

    18 seconds ago is crazy 🥴

  • @deniz57
    @deniz57 4 месяца назад

    masallah you are very wise and knowledged even though you are young brother, may Allah s.w.t. reward you