My Vasectomy! (24 Y/O)
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- Опубликовано: 23 июн 2021
- This is just my feelings throughout my experience and some opinions on it all.
I hope this inspires more people to consider a vasectomy at the very least if they know they don’t want kids.
Women should be able to decide when they get their tubes tied and not need basically an army to get it approved for her.
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I had one at 22 ( single with no kids.) Now at 61 it was sooo worth it. I knew since my mid teens weren't for me. No adult kids to financially bail out and no grandkids to raise. You're NOT selfish, just responsible.
One of the reasons you gave for not wanting kids was that your selfish, yet almost every reason you gave for having the procedure done was very unselfish reasons. We need more men like you in tbr world 🌎 doing better!!!
Even though the doctor guilt-tripped you, I’m glad you weren’t manipulated into not getting the procedure. He needs to learn how to be more professional smh
1. I'm super proud of you for doing what makes you happy. 2. You seem SO much happier here than tiktok! Thank you for sharing your experience with us.
Welcome to the club! I hear ya on all counts. I was 22 when I got mine after having (thankfully) dodged two scares. First two docs I got referred to were old enough to be my grandfather and they kicked me out of their office as soon as they saw my age. No other questions asked. Third doc was awesome. Probably only about 10 years older than me and got snipped in med school. Tatted and pierced and long-haired like me. Both wearing motorcycle leathers. He just wanted to be sure I knew it was permanent, took a quick check around the junk and that was it. Dropped trou and was done in about 15 minutes. Have never regretted it. Huge relief to know there will never be any surprises.
You have a beautiful soul, I just really appreciate you and everything you stand for. You are an amazing person and what you’ve accomplished. So thank you for popping on my fyp.
One of the main reasons I don't want kids I love my free time I don't want to give it up.
I’m glad you made this and shared your experience. Sometimes woman have to fight with doctors to have medical procedures that will prevent them from having children but will make their lives a better quality. I fought for three years with the same things told to me over and over again. Like having children is the only point to our existence. Thank you for knowing your own mind and body. I agree that the earth needs a break.
So glad you were able to get your procedure. I was 38 when I found a dr that was willing to do anything beyond medication. I was able to get an ablation and tubal. It took 2 appointments, gyno & surgeon. I was asked “are you sure” multiple times. Then, because of insurance I had wait a month ‘in case I changed my mind.’ Much love to you, ice your balls.
Thank you for making this video. I'm a single 40 yr old woman and last year I made the leap to get an IUD. I wanted to get my tubes tied but the cost was too much at the time. I did it for all of the reasons you mentioned. I wish more people made a conscious decision to procreate or not. Raising a future adult is a big responsibility and it's far too easy to accidentally get pregnant. You are the tits and I love your content.
So interesting! Good on you for doing what's best for you. Also love the doggo's cameo in this :D!
I give you so much credit for knowing what you want, knowing what is important to you and acting on it. I'm sorry that doctor "cheapened" the experience for you.
When I was in my 20's, never in hell would I have wanted children... Never ! My social life was to damn important ! I was the king of the world in the clubs and in parties ! Then in my 30's I got a serious girlfriend that I actually wanted to share my life with and not just for a one night stand. She ended up pregnant and she said she was keeping the baby. I was not prepared at all for this and almost regretted not getting a Vasectomy... But then when we had our daughter it was the best feeling ever ! Now at 43 I have 6 kids and I am done with children... So I am getting a Vasectomy. Do I regret having children not at all. I think that snipping in your 20's is not the thing to do. But if you are still happy that you did more power to you dude !
love hearing your insight on this!!
You reasoning is wonderful. I understand where you are coming from.
Hopefully RUclips doesn't add to any burn out or anything because your content in general is brilliant 😊
I'm 24 here in like a week and I'm thinking about this. thanks for making this.
Same here :D Although I will be this week so we are the same age :)
No matter how selfish it may seem, it is more selfish to have children and a vasectomy is much cheaper than paying $275,000 for the next 18 years.
You are being responsible we need more men like you
I got mine when I was 20 back in 2021 and I told my girlfriend about it and she was fine with it because we don't want kids and I don't regret it and I'm 21 right now
I had a doctor feel "uncomfortable" giving me birth control pills.
I’m about to do it at 27
Man it sounds so much like what we people with uteruses go through when we try to get a doctor to tie our tubes. "what would your future husband think?" "Would your future husband be disappointed in you? Won't he think you're being selfish by going through with this?" Sorry you had to go through that shit.
I have yet to find a doc that will take me seriously even though I don't want children because of my medical issues and how it would severely complicate pregnancy and childbirth. So I'm on a copper IUD and the pill at the same time until someone will take me seriously. I'm so fuckin sorry cause I know how difficult it is to have a doctor do something RIDICULOUSLY PERSONAL while being judgmental and rude in the process. It feels violating and emotionally exhausted.
I've been trying to find a doctor for a hysterectomy for 5 years. I have two kids. 14 and 5. I have an autoimmune disease and a host of other issues that come along with it. When my son was born they wanted to tie my tubes. Because of birth complications I declined it the day after giving birth. I lost a massive amount of blood (RBC was chillin at 8.2 after receiving 3 pints of blood) I was in no position to make decisions when they were trying to force me to. At 6 week checkup they tried again. They absolutely refused a hysterectomy. Because of my medical issues that would be the best thing for me. I'm 36 years old. I do not wish to have more children. And it's been 5 years, and I have yet to find a doctor that is willing to do it. "You're too young, you'll change your mind, you look fine everything is fine, it can't be THAT bad" nonsense.
You should 💯 start an atheist missionary where they just spread LOVE
Just hearing how that doctor treated you made me uncomfortable. Honestly, I don’t think I would have trusted him at that point. Sure, discuss it with you, make sure you’re making an informed decision, but he shouldn’t have judged you.
Ahh the ole catch 21 😅 thanks for posting this. It’s helped a lot. I’m nervous as crap. I’ve got 2 kids and that’s enough.
I’m so very thankful for my OBGYN when I had my second baby at 22 he was like do you want more kids or no and I was like I never want to have another kid and he gave me the paper work and did it right when I got done having the baby
Dont take all that pushback from the doc personally. Its just the standard procedure that they have to follow. They have to grill young vasectomy seekers to protect themselves in-case one of them decided to sue later on for whatever reason.
You think your tired now, having kids keeps you going 24/7. Good luck on your new venture. I lucked out with my vasectomy! I walked out feeling the same as walking in, watched the whole thing, no hot tub or pool for a week, 3 months later test results came back STERILE! Sex got even better because I don't have that worry any more,
Totally agree with you
I really really wish more people had a mind set if not exactly the same at least similar to yours!
Interesting stuff. I'd love to hear you also discuss how it really was a privilege you were able to get it so quickly. It is a million times harder for women to get their tubes tied and nearly impossible if you are under 30 without kids, and unmarried. It's all so fucked, and it's great you were even able to get one.
Shit, I live in Oregon have had 4 kids and I still had to fight to have my tubes tied. I was 29 at the time.
So this is actually something that made me pretty mad about my experience. The fact that he still did it but I know he damn well wouldn’t do it for a woman. It’s an unfair play on gender. Another reason I wanted to set the example for it.
@@BrendonQueue Yes, so unfair! I'm so grateful my husband was able to get one because being on birth control can be life altering and awful for a lot of people! Ugh.
I’m so proud of you to do this! I really wish more men would take this initiative. I just hope your doctor actually performed the procedure (maybe go to someone else for your check up) because I can see him being that doctor who ‘knows’ better.
I was gonna say similar.
Were u afraid that the procedure might fail and has it been successful thus far?
I am proud of you for this decision. Just incase no one has said that to you.
that doctor sounds fucked up, proud of you for keeping your cool
Have been following you on TikTok...so I came to see your reasons for Vasectomy. Especially now in light of...for Roe V. Wade and all that bullshit...it is a good choice if you are mostly sure of not wanting to procreate. The medical community is horrible with inflicting guilt and opinion on women and you have proved on men as well. My niece who is 36 married with 2 kids (each pregnancy progressively harder for her) asked when her youngest was born to have a tubal while she was still in hospital....they poo-pooed her and came up with the "you are young you might want another" and my personal favorite is what if something happened to one of your kids....like losing a damn goldfish....replace it God's sake...doctors just need to do better.
Hey! My alert worked! lol 😆
Also, you did the right thing. Don’t let that dr get in your head.
Get a semen count before you go at it without your partner being on birth control. It would not surprise me if that doctor purposely didn’t actually give you a vasectomy and just went through the motions.
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I feel like you maybe should have found another doctor.... He sounds like he's religious before he's a doctor... How do you know for sure that he actually completed the procedure? You are an amazing human. Thank you. ❤️
U r fucking right
I hate when Dr's put their religious and personal opinion onto others. If it's a medical reason, sure, that's what they're there for.
The doc sounds like he would do it in a way that the vas would join back again. Also, how has it been since? :)
its been great! no problems since. the only thing is that my testicles are a little more sensitive now but honestly, i was sensitive prior to that.
@@BrendonQueue Thanks for the reply! I have mine next week so a little bit nervous to say the least 😄
no rest for the wicked
You went to a doctor to get a service done. Whether or not he was comfortable doing a common procedure is irrelevant. You paid for a service, if he didn’t want to do it then, yes, go to another doctor who isn’t going to judge you for what YOU want for YOUR body.
If the doctor the urologist is against them? Why become a "urologist"? 😂😂
I got cancer with 21 and was told, that I can't afford the procedure to save my cells before chemo. If I would have been 4 years older and married this would be paid by the Health insurance (I'm from germany). This made the wish to have a child even bigger. But over the years I learned so much about myself and my enviroment. In my current longterm realationship we skipped at one point the protection and just went on but I didn't get pregnant. I went to multible doctors to check on this, but they couldn't explain it. I had recently a conversation with my partner and we both said, that it would be selfish to force to become parents and we both would be fine without kids. And if there comes a point when I have a stable home there are enough children who needs this. I think its an interesting topic and need to talked about more, because the pressure from society to reproduce is a lot.
Also, can you can get checked if he did it correctly or is there any test if it works?
A vasectomy is reversible so down the road if you change your mind you can always reverse it and have a kid. At least you didn’t choose abortion. Me personally if I accidentally knock a girl up I am responsible for that child and I will end up having it.
its reversible??? HOW? I gotta educate myself!
They cut the tubes. To reverse it, they just reattach the tubes. Women can do it too (I know because my mom did) but it's WAY more invasive and troublesome.
@@tiedyerose2794 omg what tubes???
@@luisabundy8545 in men, its called vas deferens which carry the sperm. In women, its the fallopian tubes which carry the eggs. Cutting them stops the flow. But you can reattach them and resume the flow.
@@tiedyerose2794 yeah thanks I just watched an educating video showing the procedure
It’s not really reversible. Not in any guaranteed sense.
While in theory it’s a matter of reconnecting the Vas , it’s very hard to do. They also tend to re-occlude after a number of months or years.
Also the epididymis tends to rupture from the back pressure of the vasectomy .
Then they have to connect directly to the testicles. It has even less chance of working, and your testicles will now sit very very high.
The Vas is approximately 4mm diameter but the lumen is absolutely tiny ( like several hair widths ) , so scar tissue blocks it up really easily.
It’s a 4 hour operation.
Needs a trained micro-surgeon in urology.
Needs a general an aesthetic .
Costs about $10k out of pocket.
Takes 4 weeks to recover from , depending on work etc.
Also worth knowing that you will develop “ Anti-sperm antibodies “ after vasectomy. The antibodies create a constant inflammatory situation to remove the constantly produced sperm.
Even after reversal the “ anti-sperm “ antibodies attack the sperm. They destroy the flagella and you can be infertile even if patency is returned.
Vasectomy is consented as “ Permanent “ for a very good reason
I had a reversal . Lasted 1 month.
Kudos to my male gynecologist who was very supportive of my decision to ask for a hysterectomy. History of abnormal paps made it a valid option. He said "as long as you're sure you don't want children, yes we can book it as soon as you want". And also dorked out with me about how cool the robotic surgery is lol
I know a person who had a vasectomy. He lost his testosterone and because very effeminate and has a high pitched voice and put on a lot of fat
Are you starting with porn? is that what you are saying?
why
Bruh you young af u gone meet a fine woman that want you. *edit* just saw the nails. nvm. Wtf you on man
I’m sure he’ll meet a fine woman who doesn’t want kids or would want to adopt a kid
“Pretentious, malignant narcissist gets a vasectomy.” Fixed the title for you.