Millennial Male SPEAKS OUT | Vasectomy | Childfree By Choice | Childfree Conference
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- Childfree millennial Jared speaks about his vasectomy, childfree by choice lifestyle, and the upcoming virtual Childfree Conference!
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In today's interview with childfree millennial Jared, we discussed the childfree life from a slightly different perspective. Jared talks about how he knew he wanted to live childfree since 2012, his choice to undergo a vasectomy and advice he has for other childfree millennial males. Choosing live childfree by choice hasn't stopped him from experiencing a flexible and fulfilling lifestyle.
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I simply don’t trust myself with that responsibility. Too many people think they have what it takes and the crap they put their kids through is the testament to the fact that they didn’t.
It's good to know that about yourself. I think there are a lot of people in the childfree community that feel the same way.
Child free women here & same feeling.
Strange how the child free by choice sound like some of the most responsible people out there. The most thoughtful, empathetic, intelligent, independent minds. Yes, each one of you would make a great parent - but that would mean sacrificing your wonderful energy for someone who may or may not be equally valuable human being. Stay You, don't sacrifice in the name of herd mentality. The world doesn't need more people, but it needs more people like you.
Edit: I'm child free too. I get reaffirmed in my choice every time I come back home from visiting a friend with children. I get greeted by my dog and I feel an urge to say: Thank you God that I have had a choice.
Pet greetings when you come home are 👍!
You're right! So many that are childfree by choice are responsible, thoughtful, empathetic, intelligent and have their own minds. I've often thought this and I'm surprised by some of the negative feedback we get.
@@WifeWithoutKids When I come home I hear "meow." I love hearing that sweet little voice of my cat Minnie Jo!😻
@@l.v.5542 My IQ is quite low but I am happily childfree. Even with a low IQ I have Emotional Intelligence
Some of the most responsible people out there are also parents! I don't think I'm childfree so much because I'm a responsible person but because I just have no desire for it. I don't feel like looking after other people to that extent for 20+ years. I also don't want to work like a slave my whole life for other people. When you're just looking after yourself life is pretty easy and enjoyable.
Male subscriber here. I appreciate you bringing in more male perspective.
So glad you enjoyed. 😃
You might enjoy my book "Planned Unparenthood - Creating a Life Without Procreating" First to be written from male perspective on childfree topics. Book turns ten this September.
Nice to see a thoughtful man. He's a rare man to put all this thought into the consequences of making a person.
YES!
I’m so thankful for my vasectomy! 26 years old and a life with no kids!
Way to go!
Trust me. I’m almost 42 and I did the same thing when I was your age. You will be even more glad you did it.
@@boogitybear2283 It’s always been a fear that I would accidentally get my girlfriend pregnant. Our sex life improved significantly!
Ideally, the super rich should pay the doctors ahead of time, amap with benefits for all areas of life, so that men would not put this off because it is too expensive, or the insurance companies are slow to reimburse doctors, etc. forcing the patients to pay out of pocket. There is a tv live 'reality show' with a father of at least five kids, second marriage, having affairs, saying "...(approximately) I'd get a vasectomy but I can't afford to..." His wife grew up in the biggest house in the USA and starred in her dad's tv show once a week. This is why it needs to be free for ALL people. The super rich tend to go broke very quickly. It is common for the sports stars, etc., going broke in about four years because of the peer pressure to buy the most expensive everything and flaunt, brag about what they have...Consider starting your own dating websites so that men don't waste time dating women who will try to talk them out of getting their vasectomy reversed. August 2022
@@dogcatparty7371 what
Childfree coffee shop update:
I found two locations that are in my price range to open up the first two child free coffee shops. One in Salt Lake City, Utah and the other in Tucson, Arizona.
I'll keep all my child freers updated as progress comes along.
Glad your project is moving ahead. 😃🙌 Please keep us updated.
Wishing you luck! Hope more businesses step out to give us some options without kids disturbing us while we try to enjoy something we paid for.
@@autobotrock4789 Exactly!!!!!
Keep us posted
Child-free coffee? Who puts children in coffee anyway? Creamer... okay. Sugar? Why not? But children? Eww.... and besides... you'd have to stir forever just to get them to dissolve.
So nice to get a male that actually gets what it means to be CF. I remember begging my obgyn Dr to remove my uterus because I had such horrible periods and he told me that I was to young!! I was in my 30's !! Great video.
"You're too young" seems to the the favorite line that Dr's use to discourage females when it comes to making decisions about their reproductive systems!
This is the most backwards ideology considering nobody will stop you from getting as many abortions as you want because your body your choice but *preventing* them entirely is suddenly too extreme to make that choice for yourself.
You have to Dr shop. That's what I did at 32 yrs of age!
Had an amazing gynaecologist who took me seriously and respected my request to be sterilized, like any decision of an adult woman should be. I got the procedure at the age of 28. Best decision of my life. 30 today and absolutely stoked. Sterilization made me a very happy person.
Did you lose your period. Want to do it my selg when im older but I read you still menstraute so if thats true, i think ill stick with birthcontrol
@@userjsjsks4141 there’s two versions of sterilisation, I think not 100% though
@@userjsjsks4141 I've been sterilised for 13years and I still get periods. I got a tubal litigation. I hope this answers your question!
I'm an almost 29-year-old woman and I've known for a long time that I never wanted to be a mother. The thought of getting pregnant and giving birth just grosses me out plus I'm on the autism spectrum and have bipolar disorder so it wouldn't be fair for a child to grow up with a mom who has these issues.
I did talk to my doctor recently about wanting to get sterilized and he was actually cool with it so I now have a consultation coming up.
i'm glad more men are speaking about this. i am 25 years old and i'm still a childish man so childlessness is something for me. i'm not comfortable holding babies and i don't generally like kids, plus i'm not cut out to be a father.
I agree, it's so good to hear men speaking out about this as well!
I’m a male who is cf. reasons I’m childfree are a lot of reasons. I like solitude too much, I like freedom too much, I like money too much. How I discovered the the childfree lifestyle was due to asking a question to myself.
Asking questions is so important!
I got a Vasectomy when I was 27 with no kids. I’m now almost 42. I’m so thankful and happy I did it. I never wanted kids from the get go. My body my choice haha!😂
Good for you!
Thanks for the kind words!
Yesss king your body your choice
Shame women now or ever don’t get that.
Having a disability IS a living nightmare and I wouldn't be able to have children with what I have and I don't want to subject another loving being to suffer like I have.
Yes, my mum had lots of grandchildren but didn't even know most of them or care to be honest.
Another good reason to have kids because YOU WANT them, not because someone else wants you to have them.
Having children is selfish. No parents ever asked the question if they would make good parents. All parents harm their children due to their own childhood trauma.
I'm a 36 year old millennial and I decided to remain child free because I suffer from an auto immune disease that was passed on to me. I have to spend additional time I'd need to raise a child just to keep myself going. I could pass it on to them and trust me it's no joke being in pain.
We NEED laws to protect the single childfree people. We have no rights, no benefits, no nothing.
Hey check out the Childfree Convention channel on youtube. Subscribe to it.
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They tend to have more money and more freedom becuse of no kides
@@carpangler6172 and yet we are forced as homeowners to pay their stupid school taxes, then here comes a kid knocking on the door begging for people to buy their school fundraiser dollar store crap. Nope. Make the parents buy it. Take it out of those house taxes. F that cause I ain't gonna give you my hard earned money.
@Arena Rat yah right. Employers always think we can stay late or cover other people's shifts cause the other worker had to take off and get a kid or they can't come to work cause of a kid or no babysitter cause we are CHILDFREE. Just cause we don't have kids doesn't mean we don't have anything to do. F that. I don't cover anyone's shifts. You do it once and they'll use ya. Coworkers are NOT your friends.
This world is is already overpopulated, cruel and unemployment is rising, why would I bring an another human being in this cruel world
Conversatives and billioners only say they want us to have because our children are their future customers to make their company more money they don’t REALLY care about us
Great point about building a community. My mom also fell into the "who will take care of you when you're old" thing. Now she's a 72 year old widow and she has no one. There are 4 of us kids that she had but we all live at least an hour away in different directions and we're busy with work and our friends and family. She never made friends over the years, not even with our classmate's parents or anything. She's so lonely especially after her sister died. We've been trying to talk her into selling her house and moving to a senior home just so she can hang out with women her age.
Community is so important whether or not you end up having kids.
Didn't help my step father. He really needs to be in assisted living but my mom has to do everything for him. His daughter probably won't enter the scene until he dies to see if she gets anything. Being a father has made 0 impact on his current stage in life and likely won't change in his final days.
I would never abandon my own mother like that
@@meep2253 We haven’t abandoned her. Lol! I live an hour away. I go up about every month or so. But where are her day to day friends and women her age to talk to and do things with? That’s what I meant. She needs friends not just her kids. She’s also very independent and doesn’t want her kids taking care of her. Now over the months she’s built a nice network of neighbors.
@@meep2253 I would have NO PROBLEM abandoning my mother if I found out the only reason she had me was because she wanted a caretaker in her old age. I would throw her ass In a cheap nursing home and never look back.
My soon to be husband had a vasectomy earlier this year. And we’ve just had the all clear that he’s not releasing anymore sperm. It’s such a relief!!!
YAY!
AMEN! Awesome!
Yippppppeeee!
There are a lot of childfree men out there, we just don't talk about it.
We just live our lives silently and peacefully.
I'm childree too, and i rather spend time on my own hobbies..
Check out the Childfree Convention channel! Subscribe to it please if you haven't! ruclips.net/user/ChildfreeConvention
I respect that ❤
I don't want the responsibility. I haven't got the time too. My freedom is more important than anything
Many will never retire as they are raising their grandkids these days for various reasons. Same if a child has special needs. Parenthood is a lifetime commitment and not just 18 years.
I chose collector cars and financial freedom over kids and now I'm 64 and no regrets.
With a vasectomy done, you won't have baby crazy females pursuing you.
African subscriber here. Can't thank you enough for your channel and finally this male perspective. I was starting to think I was crazy because I've wanted to be CF since I was 17. I was told i would change my mind by older people and i respected that because older sometimes means wiser. Even my girlfriend at the time said I'd change my mind. 27 now and not only did my mind not change, the idea has been reinforced over the years especially with communities like this.
Sometimes we just know from a young age that we aren't interested in having kids. 😃 There's nothing wrong with you!
@@WifeWithoutKids I surely knew at a young age.😌(16)
Bro I’m 17 now, kids are so annoying and expensive, I can’t wrap my head around wanting kids in the first place
Childfree guy from Senegal. So nice.
I was a nanny at one point in my twenties, it was then I knew I could not be a parent. No more poopy diapers for me. My own shit and the cat's shit is good enough for me.
It's great to hear about a childfree male's point of view.
I agree. 🙌
I totally agree with this gentlemen. He is the type of man I need. I am 38 not children and single.
I have his information if you are interested in connecting with him. 😀 You can email me at wifewithoutkids@gmail.com.
(He gave me permission to share his contact info)
When I got snipped (6 years ago now! wew) it really opened my eyes how insanely easy it can be for guys. I asked my doctor for a referral and he was like "huh." but didn't say much. The urologist however gave me all of the bingos in the world, but I am part of the reddit community and knew to expect it. The "what if you fall in love with a woman who wants kids" and the "what if you change your mind" shenanigans, we all know this. But the surprising thing was he just sent me home for a month and if I still wanted it, he would book the surgery date. I was 36 and single.
one month. I'm positive millions of women would be okay with that.
I'm ok with that
I am as well as I'm sterilised!
One month "cooling off period" sounds reasonable
It’s great to see a male perspective on this. And Jared is so well spoken he made a lot of great points especially on the so called conspiracy. It’s great that people are realizing these things.
I am so glad that we are all among heroes here for the child free movement
Hannah, I think the reason you see far less child-free men is because we can't have children. Think about it, we get all the benefits of having a child without going through any of the pain to produce the child.
That is literally like eating calorie free chocolate cake.
True...calorie free chocolate cake...now there's an idea!
@@WifeWithoutKids you'd be a trillionaire tomorrow morning if you invited such think today
True There's More Childfree Women Than Childfree Men Because Childfree Women Know That Women Have Children Women Have To Deal With Being Pregnant Being The Caretaker That's Why More Childfree Women Than Childfree Men
Hello from Costa Rica, I'm woman, I'm 33, I decide to not have kids since I was 28, then I realized that been pregnant was something to do as a check list, my life was a list of things to do:
Go to school ✔️
Go to the university ✔️
Get a Job (I don't have it yet)
Have a boyfriend (maybe)
Have a wedding (maybe)
Have kids (never)
This was because it was the things that people expect from me as a woman, here still the taught that woman = mother, my older sister have a baby and my family see me as the next to have kids, I said to them no, I think they still thinking about that I'm young and I'm going to change my mind if I have a boyfriend, but now I have an excuse, my disease, painfully disease, scoliosis is an S in my spine, I have a lot of medicine and maybe my family understand that pregnancy is worst in my case because my spine is going to be more damage (explaining an excuse 😂), I really don't want to be a mother, I want to travel and buy things, visit my friends, babies are extremely expensive and I want to sleep on weekends, use all my free time to do whatever I want.
I want to visit Costa Rica 🇨🇷! Looks so beautiful 😍 & I’ll have more fun since I don’t have kids lol
I got my vasectomy 5 years ago. I left the hospital that day at 2pm. The pain was unbearable that day. The next morning I woke up at 7:00 a.m. and forgot I even had a vasectomy.
After about 12 to 16 hours, you don't feel any pain.
Glad yours worked out well in the end!
Not always though.
2 % end in chronic pain.
Mine got worse every day .
Now it’s just constant pain.
I’ve spent 15k on follow up surgery without relief.
So it jut depends on your luck,
@@leighbyford635 2%. 2%
We can't base things on that small if a minority
@@hondaaccordnomad7116 really? That’s 1 in 50 end in life long chronic pain.
The USA does roughly 1 million a year , that 20,000 people a year.
2% for medical risk is extremely high.
I don’t expect people not to have vasectomy’s but it’s disingenuous to suggest there is no risk.
@@leighbyford635 I'm so sorry...that's terrible!
There are so many valid reasons to be childfree and I always find it very interesting to hear about people's reasons for being child free and when they made their decision that they didn't want children.
I think a lot of people think childfree people are all just a bunch of immature child haters and that's not true. For many people being child free wasn't that difficult of a decision and they knew they never wanted children and for some people they spent many years on the fence about whether or not to have children. Our reasons to not have children can be as different from each other as anything else in our lives and I think it's very fascinating to hear about other people's reasons to remain childfree.
Yes, very true.
YES I love hearing about another CF male. Thanks for doing such a great interview Hannah!
Glad you enjoyed it!
I enjoyed the male perspective. Thank you.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Fantastic discussion. So open and honest 🙂
Yes, Jared was very open to sharing his childfree experience. So appreciated!
I was eyeing Jared wondering why he looked so familiar. Then I realized I was in that group haha it's a great space! I don't like childfree communities that focus too much on negativity.
Yes, it's nice to have childfree spaces that are positive.
I’m in that group too. Enjoying the positivity n
Definitely checking out that group! My husband and I are going on vacation next month, when people with kids are getting them back to school. It'll be so nice to have mostly adults around when we're at the beach!
That's our favorite time to take vacations as well. Have an amazing trip!
@@WifeWithoutKids Oh my gosh! I didn’t even think about scheduling travel around when children have to attend school. Can you do a video about this? Like how to use your childfree status to your advantage for travel? Investing? Idk, a lot of things we childfree folk probably can use to our benefit.
@@gothichippielovechild3198 Thanks for the suggestion!
So excited for my husbands vasectomy in 9 days!!
@@ananonymoushen4339 oh ok thanks for that! I’ll get him a gel pad
Had mine back in late December at the age of 25. So far its going great.
Good for you!
Yep. When people say that B's of "Whose gonna take care of you when you're old?" I reply one of two responses "Just cause you have kids is no guarantee that THEY are gonna take care of you when you're old. Look at all the old people in nursing homes who's kids have gone no contact. Nurses can tell you about those people all the time.
Thank you for having this guy on and posting links to his social media. I subscribed the conference YT channel. Forming a community of CF people is so important. This life choice needs to be normalized, not stigmatized.
You've got that right!
Totally agree with you. That is our aim and goal with Childfree Convention!
I agree. If your 18+ yr old, you are legally an adult and should have the right to get sterilized if you want.
👍🙌
Yes!!!
I’d probably give it til 20 but yeah, 18 and you’re able to vote, u can make that choice too
Snipped at 26 y/o and no regrets 26 years later!!
I love that comment about the government theory lol.. Spot on. 👌🏾
He didn’t hold back!
This is such an awesome video. I ran across this while trying to discover like mind perspetives. I myself am 30 and childless . All of my friends have children but a few of my females cousins do not . I often feel the pressure from my friends of stating they're waiting for me to have kids. Growing up I thought I wanted 4 kids but the older I get I accept the fact that I may not have anykids and despite the pressue it's okay . I observe the women and men in my life with kids and I am not certain that I want such responsiblility . At 30 Im just coming into myself and realizing what is it that I actually want out of life especially coming from proverty and seeing so many poor people with multiple kids , some are well off but some are poor . . I am fine without being a mother .
Good for you for taking the time to truly think about what you want in life. 🌸
It’s so funny that the people that choose to be child free have the qualities that would make them just the kind of people that SHOULD have children. Emotionally intelligent, thoughtful, responsible, educated, independent thinkers, planners… but those qualities are exactly the things that lead them down the path of not having kids.
Loved this video, very refreshing and definitely agree with the fact more men need to speak out on this. I also feel like the black sheep, as an African Muslim I am expected to have children. Most Africans, especially Muslims want to have kids and also expect others to have kids because most people never opt out parenthood in my culture. I love children, but I am following my instincts and show no interest in having a family of my own.
It can be challenging to be part of a culture/religion that has predetermined expectations for how you should live life. Good for you for staying true to what you want. This community supports you, so you aren't alone!
@@WifeWithoutKids Thank you, this is the best community ever. 🙂
Check out the Childfree Convention channel! Subscribe to it please if you haven't! ruclips.net/user/ChildfreeConvention also We are looking for speakers from Africa (if you live there). www.childfreeconvention.com
This guy is smart.
One thing that Ive noticed though child free and relationship free men seem to be more common than women.
More than half of the reddit threads on r/childfree are of married women who are experiencing that typical societal pressure of breeding.
I began to apply my childfree stance on my past romantic relationships and concluded its also not worth the hassle. Its frustrating though because ive been accused that "I must hate women" or the ever classic "who hurt you?" just because Ive found both romantic and parental relationships require too energy and emotional investment.
I don't hate women just as much as most childfree people don't hate children but just don't need/want that type of commitment and investment.
You get similar reactions ie "Youre gonna grow old and lonely" or "you'll regret it when all your friends are married you get left behind" (and conveniently leave out the divorced part) as if those are any good reasons.
Thanks for the video!
🤩 Jared is awesome! 🥳
He is! 🙌
I agree!👍
As a man i couldn't agree more! It's just not worth it i rather travel , thats my happiness!
This is so cool. Male subscriber here. Snip Snip in the future.
Yes, Jared did a great job sharing his story.
Check out the Childfree Convention channel! Subscribe to it please if you haven't! ruclips.net/user/ChildfreeConvention
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Intro
00:40 When did Jared know he wanted to live childfree
01:38 Top 3 reasons for choosing childfree
05:09 Family reaction to childfree life
07:29 Pressure to become a dad
08:26 Let’s talk vasectomy
12:50 Have kids because you really want them
14:38 Common misconceptions
17:23 Finding out childfree was a “thing”
19:42 Talking about the childfree choice way back in 2012
21:08 Dating and being childfree
22:09 Special childfree project!
These outdated views that single people are lonely and child free people have nothing in their lives is ridiculous.. Its ridiculous pressure...
It’s because parents are the ones who spread that misconception to their kids, though there are parents who are supportive regardless, child-free people are less social :>
Great, yet again, Hannah.
Hope this brings you all the more 'deserved' views and subs.
Thank you. Glad you enjoyed the video.
I'm 30 and CF. I am seriously considering paying out of pocket to have a vasectomy. Just so when people ask me when am i going to have kids, i can give them an answer that would make them leave me the hell alone.
This topic is something that makes me very angry… Young people want to get sterilized but they can’t because of somebody else’s beliefs, then the government wants to turn around and ban abortion. Well maybe if only people could get sterilized, abortions wouldn’t be needed as much!! Its disgusting, my body, my choice!!
I agree, and I just read an article that was talking about how women are stockpiling the Plan B pill. So does that mean they're banning that too? It helps stop the pregnancy from happening, it's not meant to abort a pregnancy. So i would be very confused if they did ban it. All it is, is emergency birth control.
Fr Fr, (pro-choice to an extent) if they don’t let people get snipped, abortions will always be higher
Totally agree with you.
You either get vocal or say end the conversation and leave if you can.The doctor should never make the decision for you.
I always knew I didn't want kids. But what really drove it home was after my siblings were born. I love my siblings very much, but I often got stuck babysitting them and it was extremely stressful for me. One of my brothers threw temper tantrums at the drop of a hat and nothing could calm him down, so there were many times we were out shopping or at the laundry mat and he would start throwing fits. My mom would have to drive back home and drop us off so that she could go back and finish her shopping or the laundry. It was awful! I would be stuck at home with him by myself and you had to constantly watch him because if he wasn't throwing fits he'd be getting into stuff. I hated it with a passion and after a while I started to hate him. Now of days when I'm out in public and I see parents struggling with their kids, it takes me back to those days and I remember how awful it was. I always looked forward to the rare days when my mom and I could go out and do something together without my siblings. Now that I'm an adult and married, I am enjoying the freedom to be able to just spend time with my husband and not have to worry about a kid ruining it.
Spending time around kids is always an eye opener.
I agree☝🏾 unfortunately for me they refuse to tie my tubes 🤦🏽♀️ they keep saying I at least need to have one child & secondly my doctor said it will put me in early menopause 😁
So many of us ladies being told the same thing...😟
I wonder why doctors keep spreading these lies about going early into menopause, like my grandmother's gynecologist told her she shouldn't use any form of birth control (or protected sex altogether), and that she should have as many children as god sends, she ended up having 10 daugthers and a son and spend basically all her life pregnant and rasing children from 18 when she got married to around 40 when she had my youngest aunt.
Tell them it's your body and your choice
@@marcoviniciochavezyepez121 they just don't want the static if someone does change their mind
What is menopause?
Thanks for stepping up Jared! Great job as always Hannah!
So happy Jared was willing to share his story.
Thank you Hannah for bringing Jared for a male's perspective on being childfree.
You're welcome. 😀
babies and children are an entire economic ecosystem, if more people were child free that market would be in a lot of trouble... labor force is also diminished, teen targets for military enrolment is lowered. Deciding to be child free cuts the knees out of a lot of systems that have become a staple in this nation. It's a mess.
F*ck markets and capitalism. And religions with nationalism is ponzi scheme made of belief for growth. So, im glad that all religions declining worldwide, and globalism wins.
Child free by choice here. 48. Lot's of reasons why, and 100% the best choice for me. No regrets.
72 years old here, wanted to be sterile since 8 years old. Totally enjoy my vasectomy.
Thanks for sharing!
The world is overpopulated. I celebrate every person that doesn't contribute to it.
A shrinking population has good long term effcts.
Not for big companies. But these companies don't have our best interest in mind.
#overpopulation #childfree
Totally agree with your views. LOVE IT! SHRINK THE PLANET!
Dear Hannah,
I discovered your channel 2 days ago and want to thank you dearly for your content.
As a women in my late twenties I've been unsure about having children for years now. I'm still not sure about whether I want any or not - but I can resonate with your content so much and it gives me the feeling I can really decide for myself. You are a role model, thanks so much for your work here on youtube.
As an idea/request for future videos:
I find it really hard how to communicate the issue to my mother in law (of course its not the time to do this yet - in my case), I expect her to hate me for "stealing" her potential grandkids away. She already doesn't like me and although I'm a very tough, outgoing and direct woman I think when (if) the time comes, it will be so hard for my partner me to stick to our decision without her constantly making uns feel bad for it. She really is a piece of work. Honestly I fear, it's gonna be horrible.
My own mother is really understanding and mature so maybe she will express that she will be sad about it for a while but it's our life and she supports me the way I am. But for his mother... I'm convinced this will not be the case
Could you make a video about this specific topic? Like, how to communicate the decision with mother/father in law (as a woman) and make clear they don't have a word in this? That would be great.
Again, thank you so much for your videos and have a great time.
Best wishes from Germany
Hannah (also a hannah ;-))
Welcome to the community and I'm so glad you are finding the content helpful. Thanks for your suggestion. I'll add it to my list. 😃
Yay for having the same name!! 🙌
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Do you think this relationship will last if she already hates you?
You are not stealing from her. She is pushing her petty selfishness on you.
What a horrible person!
I'm very proud of you antinatalists/childfree knowing that there's people like me with common sense genuinely gives me peace of mind
As a female who doesn't want kids I'm jealous at how easy it is for males to get a vasectomy. I'm glad they have that option but I wish it was just as easy for females.
Male 46 never wanted kids I just don’t see the attention, cost too much, too much responsibility and restriction on life, so many unknowns, plus this world isn’t exactly stable.
Agreed. Got snipped a week ago to ensure I don't have them.
@@brianb6415 Fantastic! Check out the Childfree Convention channel! Subscribe to it please if you haven't! ruclips.net/user/ChildfreeConvention
I always wanted to eventually have kids. Then two years ago, I ran into a RUclips video unexpectedly where a woman was talking about why she and her husband and never having kids. I read the comments and took notes on them. Then I watched a lot of other RUclips videos where people were talking about themselves not having kids, then I read the comments and took notes from there as well. Then I changed my mind. Then I wrote my own speech about it so it will help remind me why I shouldn’t have kids. Just a husband would be good enough for me. Whenever I start dating someone, I’ll have him read that speech so hopefully he’ll change his mind, or not change his mind if he doesn’t want kids either. If he still does, I’ll at least know that I tried
congratulations to this man for making this decision. its a SMART and informed decision. i don’t understand why broke people procreate.
Hi in India also this child free movement is spreading.
That is great news!
@@WifeWithoutKids Yes it is. We all need to understand that the only way to keep nature preserved, is by not having kids. Especially country like mine which in few years will surpass China.
Who will take care of you when you're old? "Your taxes and society!" you should see the looks those breeders give me. 😂
Take the money you save, and invest the money in 2 low cost indexfunds. Over 15-20-30-37 years it`s going to be ALOT of money ( we are talking a million dollars if it go over 30+ years)
Some people are lucky and don't need to be put in a nursing home when they're older. So there's always that too.
Love this guy and his point of view. Totally agree
Look into antinatalism. Theres a growing movement for this ideology.
I'm aware of the movement, but do not support it. I don't think having kids is morally wrong.
Thank you for this channel. Thank you for including the male perspective (I feel that as a society we concentrate mostly on why women don't have children, and I don't think it's fair). Thanks for ending your videos with "remember, you are never alone". It's very comforting.
im 18 now (almost 19) and a while ago i found out that i probably dont want any kids in the future and i feel like its a young age and im like "wow kinda weird that im so sure already", i dont even remember how i found out but im happy i did. i think i googeld about not wanting children or i just saw a video about childfree living, its one of these things haha. from on that moment i started searching videos on youtube about being childfree and stuff and i was like "wow i think this is what i want when im older" and that was a big realization moment in my life that there even was a choice about being a parent of not. and by now i saw a lot of videos about it and im 99% sure that thats want i want in my future, im a litte afraid of finding a partner that wants the same but at the other hand i think more and more people are choosing to be childfree so it will work out at the end. and this guy in the video said "you could get a disabled child" and i was thinking "oh i definitly couldn't handle that". and i was just thinking about having a teen child with a depression or something, that has to be hard as well and im so not ready for taking care of a human being with needs and feelings because i know i can stress out easily and i feel like a child is a huge stress factor in life sometimes. and i also found out that i never even had a big wish to be a mom in life, i remember that the last few years when talking about having children i said "i dont want more than two" and looking back at that made me realize that maybe it was a sign or something that i never even realy wanted to have children because i always said i only wanted 1 or 2 and i said it without a loving feeling like "i want kids so bad"
Im saving up for one
My dad also gave me the “you have to carry on the family name” thing. Which is hilarious because I was an accident. He was prepared to stop after having one girl who changed her name after marriage.
Thank you for having the male perspective 😉
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A lot of parents in nursing homes and the kids don't visit them. Waiting for the parents to die to get some inheritance
Such an amazing and interesting video Hannah
Glad you enjoyed it.
This man is so smart. People definitely don't talk about the possibility of ending up with a child/ren with special needs. It's a nightmare already being responsible for another human being, but now the human being has special needs as well. People like to relate to each other. That's why a lot of people have kids.
It seems like men are either under represented in this or there are fewer of us child free by choice men out there....???
Maybe some of both?! Thanks for taking time to comment!
It is ridiculous how easy it goes for a man... I still can't get my ovary removed, even though it causes a lot of pain and is most likely useless. The other ovary is dead. So they keep my sick and painful ovary in me because "I may still change my mind." Those few eggs left there will never become a baby, but I am refused medical help... and that is in Sweden.
That is so unfortunate. I'm sorry. I just don't understand why the medical community is so resistive to women making their own choices when it comes to babies.
Is it for hormonal reasons too?
Surely you would go straight into menopause if both ovarys are non-functional / removed.
Is there fundamental statistical risk to going into early menopause that they are trying to avoid?
E.g increased risk of heart disease or cancer?
@@WifeWithoutKids Do you remember this Monty Python Song "Every Sperm Is Sacred"? I think it is the misogynistic approach to women and this ridiculous patriarchal need to control our bodies. I get it, a man needs to convince a woman to birth children for him, but birthing is not an easy process. After all those years, I feel like it is men who want to have children more.
@@leighbyford635 I am ok with early menopause, I am already on hormones. I've been living with pain for the last 7 years. I am taking all the medication for pain plus hormones because... they have to keep my ovary switched off, so that the condition is not getting worse and all of it in the name of "you may still change your mind". Fun fact, when I am 40, they will have to remove the painful ovary anyway because my risk of developing cancer will be too high. The hormones I take shouldn't be taken at my age because they increase cancer risk... Catch 22
I am telling you - it is JUST because I may still "change my mind"
I think I also need to add that apart from being a woman, i am also an immigrant in Sweden - so they see me as 1/4 of a human I guess
@@JustASock-el6ct I’m sorry your in that situation. Hope things change for the better for you.
The Monty python “ every sperm is sacred “ is a satire on Catholicism. It’s making fun of the Popes mandate against condoms during the 1980s.
It’s advocating less children.
They’re more than half of men who are CHILDFREE
Agreed! I'd love to see more male perspectives!
You WILL find that single CHILDFREE person's are the most discriminated group in society. We get NO tax breaks, we are often asked and they try to for e us to stay at work late or cover for some p.o.s. that has kids cause SHE has to get home it pick up her stupid kid from school. I flat out REFUSE to cover for anyone anymore. I tell the breeder that just cause I'm single doesn't mean I don't have things to do as well. They get pissed. Too f'ing bad!
My thinking is if you made the conscious decision to have a child then you also accepted the responsibilities that come with it. You have to figure out how to make it work. It shouldn't be up to me to rearrange my schedule or life to accommodate you. That defeats the purpose of me choosing to be child free. You can't give me excuses when you knew what having a child was going to entail.
This man gave an excellent talk. Thanks.
Glad you enjoyed it!
So funny how RUclips decided to put an ad for baby formula in your video 😄
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The life of a parent is the life of a martyr.
In order for a woman to get sterilized you have to undergo general anesthesia, be intubated, and have laparoscopic ports inserted into you, and be insufflated with gas. It isn't the most risky surgery but you will most likely have scars from the lap sites and one of my main reasons for not having children is in order to not wreck my body. I'm not sure if most women realize this. Personally I would rather not put my body through the trauma and have the man suck it up and get the vasectomy which can be performed under local anesthetic.... This also may be why some doctors don't push tubals because they actually require surgery.
@@ananonymoushen4339 Epidurals also come with risks and then after the epidural they will still make an incision and it's just that you will be awake to hear everything instead lol. I have never heard of the other thing you mentioned but a quick look online brought up Essure which has been recalled since 2018. If this was still an option I can't imagine surgeons would still be doing tubals instead of doing the less invasive measure.
I'm Indigenous. I lived in a foster house that served as a safe baby house. This one pair of siblings we got was a 4yo, and her 6 month old brother. Their "mother" so was unfit(I wasn't told why, I was 10). Then, the boyfriend DROPPED the baby.🙄🤦🏾♀️
Every weekend, we'd pick them up, and the kids themselves smelt like cigarette smoke. From their "mother" smoking in the house constantly. 😒🤮
Sometimes with out even knowing they might be like this. Some people will go with whatever there partner wants. Like some people say they don't want kids. And sometimes they marry someone who wants kids and they have them. And all so some people with kids and sometimes they get with a partner who dosen't want kids and they don't have kids. With out even knowing they might be like this. Some people might go with whatever there partner wants
1 in 36 kids has autism. That's insane.
I really L💖VED watching!! 🥰 It was very informative, interesting and entertaining!!! As someone who does want children (just looking 4 my Prince Charming lol!) I L💖VED all the points mentioned in this video!! And I think ALL these points R super important 2 think about whether U want kids or not as it is the responsible thing 2 do. It’s always I think crucial 2 understand your own why! Also I L💖VED how you said that you try 2 make your channel a very positive one! And I just can’t agree more! 🥰 I personally think wether you want kids or not this is a great channel! I think you make every one always feel very welcomed as you are never bashful on others choices! You always keep your channel open, very positive & respectful!!! 💖💕🥰😊✨💖💕😊✨☺️💕💖💕😊💖✨
Thank you for your kindness. 🌻😃
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