LOSING MY MUM - My story, how I coped and my advice.
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- today marks 11 months since she died. I really want to try and use these milestones as opportunities to group together my thoughts and share them with the world... just incase they help anyone out there struggling or grieving. thank you so much for listening.
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Thank you for this! My mum passed away 4 days ago and I just can’t seem to function. She wasn’t just my mum she was my best friend, my biggest inspiration to keep going and I don’t know how I’m going to live without her, knowing I’ll never hear her voice again, tell her about everything that’s happened, see her smile and hug her. My heart feels like it’s completely broken and I’m angry as my brother doesn’t show any emotion about it. I want to scream at him to just cry or shout or something so I know I’m not the only one missing her.
I feel your pain. I lost my beloved mother unexpectedly on October 6 2022 😭💔. I'm single and she lived with me and she was more than my mother, she was my best friend and everything. But I'm praying to God for strength, healing, and resignation 🙏🏻✝️🕊️
I lost my mother 😫😩😫😫😫😭😭😭😭😭😭 and I’m lost in this world , life is just soooo hard , I can’t even explain. And you my brother is the same , to him it’s normal 😢
So sorry for your loss, I post my mum one week ago and I'm so heartbroken
@@28copland 😥😥😥
@@28copland I’m so sorry to hear you lost your mum. It hurts like hell at the moment but this will pass and get a little easier. You’ll never stop missing your mum but it will hurt a little less each day, week, month or year.
Everyone grieves differently, just do what feels right for you ❤️
Thank you for this. I’m also 28 and just lost my mom unexpectedly a few weeks ago. I’m struggling so much to be able grieve with my one year old son. It’s the worst thing I have ever gone through. She was the best mom...
I am so sorry. God bless you, and your late mother.
I’m 29 and I’m right there my mom was told her kidney is toast but she has the other one working still, I’m assuming dialysis comes next or sudden death….
@@segaoldschoolsega925 4:39
My beloved wife suddenly passed away with my daughter and I mourned and grieved over our loss. She was our closest confidant and missed her singing Cliff Richard’s Millennium Prayer, day in and day out. A very wonderful and beautiful song hearing her melodious voice. Her memory still live on in our hearts now. May she RIP in the arms of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Absolutely brutal and wonderful advice !!! You are a wondrous survivor of the worst circumstances......thank you for sharing your experience and for telling your most honest account of how it is. God bless you and your family. 🩷💜♥️🩷💜♥️🩷♥️💜
Thank you , I lost my mum on Sunday .. heartbroken 💔 I got some comfort in your words xx
Lost my mom a week ago
My mum passed away yesterday, it's intensely raw and the pain is unimaginably painful, even though it's new and intense, I know mum will guide my heart, as she always did. I was her sole carer for 27 years and I don't regret a second, her health has never been perfect, but her heart was, so at 16 it was a no brainer to care for her, she needed me, and I couldn't do any less than give her even a fraction of what she gave me. I'll get there eventually, but until then, I need to feel every painful emotion, how could I do any less.
I lost my mom 2004 from breast cancer nd I'm still grieving THANK YOU FOR THIS
Thank you for this video. My mom died ten days ago. I want to talk about her and her death, but society has very little space for it
My mom passed from covid and alcohol addiction January 24th. It’s been a week. And I’ve been so numb. I could sit and stare at a wall for hours... I feel like it’s all I want to do. I’m the oldest of my siblings, and I have to handle all of the arrangements. We were with her when she passed in the hospital, by divine intervention really.. I just wish I could feel. I loved my mom so much. I LOVE my mom so much.. why can’t I feel 😩😞
my love - firstly, i am so so so sorry to hear about your mum passing. it's heartbreaking and i know exactly where you are. i wish i could hug you and sit with you and cry with you. but you HAVE TO be kind to yourself right now. you will feel, IN TIME. you will cry and wail and scream IN TIME. trauma like this takes so long to be processed and so long to sink in. it's not going to happen for a long while. so you KEEP staring at that wall. keep thinking of her. keep doing everything you need to do to stay here and get through the days. but give yourself SO much time and grace and patience. there is no rulebook for this. there is no right or wrong way to grieve. it will happen as and when it needs to happen for you. you cannot get this wrong. please be kind to yourself my love, this is huge. you're amazing. sending you so so so so much love xx
I lost my wonderful 62 year old mother after a 3 week brutal decline following her 4th official bout with cancer 9-14-22. I miss you, I love you. It’s so hard.
It was so terrible, she ended up on life support and we pulled it, as she would have wanted. Took her 8 hours to officially die, every hour her breathing getting worse and worse. I held her as she slowly died for hours and honestly I don’t think I will get over the trauma of everything, that month of hell, seeing her go from perfect health to bed ridden in 2 weeks because of the tumors in her brain. I’m so incredibly full of rage about how everything went down. Grieving is so exhausting, it’s a gloomy shadow that looms over me and the entire family. I had a 17 year old kid die in my arms after a freak accident in March of 2021 and the trauma of that terrible night is incomparable to watching my mom die. She talked to her kids daily. I miss you.
Losing my mum was the hardest thing i had ever to go through. Ppl say the time heals everything but I don't agree with that statement. My family tried to push me out of my sadness and pretend it was not a big deal, telling me to move on, telling me to be strong. i am so lost without her. everything seems meaningless. I cant find joy in anything. I miss her 😭😭😭😭😭.
Kate. Thank you. I am on day 13 with the sudden loss of my sweet mom. My soulmate. My best friend. 💕 you’ve helped me immensely and don’t even know it. I am a complete stranger. From Alberta, Canada. But you’ve helped me. You’ve given me hope. I as well have never lost anyone as close to me as this. My grandparents and aunties also.
We lived provinces apart. She was supposed to come home shortly. After our reno project. 😢 my grief clouds are enormous and very dark. I never knew pain existed like this. I wish I could somehow connect with you. I heard you in your video. I really did. 💕 My mom called me her baby girl. She loved to smother me. She loved to smell my hair. She loved just to sit close to me. That was all we needed. Just to be together made me feel perfect and amazing. She would say the same. 👩❤️💋👩
Cecile! I am so incredibly sorry to hear about your beautiful Mum passing so suddenly. God I wish I could reach out and give you a massive hug. I know exactly how you're feeling and I wouldn't wish that pain on anyone. I am so so sorry. I'm glad this video could help in some way. Man... words aren't enough, are they? Just know I'm sending you so much love from across the world and it won't be this painful forever. I promise! Kate xx
Thank you. You made me take a deep breath. I am never on social media. You my sweet thing have just put a warm blanket on me. You even made me see that you’ve acknowledged my message. 💕that meant the world to me. Thank you.
Thank you. My mom died of a stroke 2 days ago. Joined the sudden death of a mom club. Life is upside down. Thank your help ❤
I haven't gone through this so I can't even imagine. But wow, this is the most level headed and helpful advice. When my best friend's mom suddenly past I had zero idea how to truly comfort her, or what to say.
You are such a lovely soul. You have dealt with this so gracefully even if it felt messy and horrible. Its an honor to see you on the other side of it, wise af. Your mum would be beaming at how much you have learned and grown.
Oooh my God this is crazy, it's 2024 April & I lost my mother last month March & it was a sudden death jst like your mom 😮. She got sick a night before she passed but they slept & in the morning she was looking better & spoke to my brother telling him to go a meeting because she's fine, unfortunately she passed around 10 am on the 8th March 2024 & I can't still believe she's gone. As u said about your mom, my mom was the glue of the family, everyone in the community would come to her jst for advice, like she was an amazing soul. So now this emotions I'm feeling are driving me crazy, what I do is cry a lot. I couldn't eat at all for that March after I was told she passed, & after 2 weeks my dad feel sick & he was hospitalised & I thought to myself here we go again, we honestly thought we are also going to lose him too, it was an out of body experience, so eating wasn't my priority at all & I felt weak😢. Now my dad is better but I'm still traumatised with everything 😭😭😭. No more phone night calls for me like literally every night, she was also a great grandmother to my kids so it's so sad I don't even know how am I going to go through this life without my mom. thank u I really needed to hear this 😊
Bless you, you helped me. My mum is now a beautiful spirit like yours.
Stunning.....i have just rekindled the relationship with my mom after years of trauma and therapy....we are in a truly fabulous place full of love....but i am sometimes so sad with the thought of losing her......thank you for your video
My mum died on august, 2022. 5 months and a half, I got a bit more alcoholic, the type I got fired from my job for being drunk...
I miss her so much...
Thanks for sharing it was helpful for me I lost my mom similarly with massive cardiac arrest 1 month back and I am almost in depression and going through dark phase
Thank you so much for this video.
I lost my Mum on October 13th 2022 from liver failure and pneumonia, 10 days after I took her to A&E. We got to be with her in intensive care until the very end. I am completely broken and miss her so so so fucking much. I lost my Dad when I was 12 and always took for granted Mum would always be there, never thought I would lose both parents by 34. Through the pain Ive tried so hard to appreciate the little things. Even found meditation and I talk to my Mum daily. So comforting to hear your experiences and even found similarities with my own hellish journey. Love how honest you are. Cried so much when you said stop wishing if only.
Thank you Kate, your Mum would be proud of you. ❤
I loved listening to you!!!!!! What a beautiful soul you are!!!!! Your mom is so so so proud of you!
I feel you’re pain my mum died a week ago and the pain and sorrow and the feeling of emptiness is overwhelming
Same here 😢 I feel you
@@Izzybelaas I’m sorry for you’re loss
I’m so sorry for everyone in the comments who has lost their mum 💔 your mums love and spirit will never die though , and she will live within you. stay strong
Thank you! My mum died last night from Cancer and this gave me some hope xxxx
Our only hope in this world is Jesus Christ. He loves you more than you could ever know. I pray my best friend's story will help you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
Kate, this was incredibly endearing to watch. You have shown an awful lot of strength and it is so inspiring to see. I am so so so sorry about the loss of your mum - I can only imagine how excruciating it must've been, but you are one hell of a warrior. I hope you take something from this video as a reminder of how strong you are, your mum sounded like an angel so may heaven feel completely blessed to have gained one. I am really glad you made it through to be able to create such a helpful, lovely video as this. Truly admirable. X
Thanks for the video, I lost my mom 3 weeks ago and thanks to your video and others I can feel a bit better but I think I will need more time. I just wanted to say thanks for your video. I hope you are doing well. Best regards
Oh my God Kate, thank you for sharing all of this...it takes a lot to put yourself in front of a camera and say all the things you just said...I'm proud of you and I hope to be able to be maybe half as brave as you when the time comes. I feel so close to you. Love xx
Camilo Sapag thank you so much for such a lovely comment - you are WONDERFUL xx
@@katem3 you are wonderful too X
Thanks a ton for this video, Kate! My Mom nearly died last week and could go at any time. She is almost 85 and has been in poor health for some time now. Unlike your experience, my family and I have all had a long time to get used to, and accept, the idea of her passing. I hope that she will finally be at peace when her time comes. What I'm getting at is that I won't really be sad for her when she passes on. Still, it wasn't until I watched your video that I realized that I am grieving. Not simply for her life coming to an end, but also for the complicated relationships that she had with her kids. Death is indeed a great teacher about life. Thank you for being so willing to share what you learned.
oh man... I am just so sad and sorry to read that you're going through this. I am sending you and your family so much love. it's awesome that you are self-aware and can see things for what they are, but also grief is grief - however expected it may be, so i'd encourage you to fully let yourself feel whatever comes up when that day comes. i thought i'd dealt with most stuff, and then the 6 month mark came and it ruined me. grief surprises you constantly doesn't it?! you're so awesome. thanks for sending love and support xx
@@katem3 Yes, processing all that the end of life brings up is certainly complicated. Thank you for your kind words and sending love along with them!
@@GhileMear250 i just read my reply back and am terrified it sounded like it came from me on a high horse. i am sure you've experienced grief before and you definitely don't need a stranger on the internet giving you advice. i apologise for that. have an awesome weekend and thank you again! xx
@@katem3 Your previous reply, as well as the most recent one, were simply perfect. You did not sound like you were on a high horse at all. I have indeed experienced the grief of loss before. I've lost two step parents, an older brother, and dogs that were deeply rooted in my heart as well. Still though, it is different when it is the person who brought you into the world, and your video is helping me deal with that. No apology necessary for your kind words. I think I took them the way you intended. :) You hardly feel like a stranger, since I have been subscribed to your channel for years. You feel like a friend to me, yet until today you knew nothing of me. RUclips is funny that way.
Thank you for sharing. I lost my mother a week ago today. My parents are now both gone and I'm still in shock she is gone.
sending you all of the love Matt. wish I could give you a hug. I know that feeling so well xx
@@katem3 Thank you
My dad passed a few weeks ago so its still fresh so the grief is still unbearable but I am managing better than I thought. I cried profusely when my father died and all the way until after the funeral. But now in my quiet moments I feel the sadness and grief come in and so I keep busy. But even keeping busy it hits me at certain moments and I have to stop what I am doing and just think about my loss. Also people saying to be strong and telling me that my father would want me to be a or b is aggravating. It doesn’t help. DonMt try to invalidate what people are feeling is what I learned during this loss.
Mate you got this ❤
Biggest of hugs. xo.
🙏🏽🥹🕊️ 💕💐. I’m going through the similar situation. You validate my feelings.. grateful for you for sharing openly about your grief journey.
Losing You..
By Delashwood Sudsey
You let go of my hand as you abruptly got in the car
''mind my bloody head '' you said ...
Neither knew it was our last moments together ?
Time has passed like a constant echo inside me ,
I think of you as I travel knowhere on this revolving planet
Not even from A to B .. to cycle without reason ?
When they said you had gone I thoughtlessly disagreed within..
Now I have a greater understanding of what love is ...
You arose as a cloud of smoke to blend in with the Cosmos
Was on a day like any other day for some , but not those that love you
We have conversations now of moments of the history of you.. we smile
You are now an echo in the garden, a teardrop that falls
A cup of tea ..a wish to hear you again ..to see you ?
I look in the mirror and we are face to face
This used to take some bravery , but now is comforting ..
Within the whispers inside you call from the depths of my lost soul
The love you gave holds a family together in a beautiful transparency
We are you .. and we love you .
❤
😭
I guess I'm old school, but the language is not necessary! 🙃
Thanks for this video I just lost my mom.
My mum died a couple of days ago, I'm so glad that I found this video. I've gone from feeling numb to hourly sobbing, to feeling numb again. This video helped so much. You really should be proud of it.
im truly sorry for your loss..I believe you can come through this and learn from it, you should be proud to for being so strong. I may not understand how it feels to lose a parent, but a 15 year old family member lost his mother, and I can not imagine the pain, just know your never alone, you'll always be loved by others and most importantly yourself to. take your time and I hope you'll wake up feeling something or at least a bit better.
Our only hope in this world is Jesus Christ. He loves you more than you could ever know. I pray my best friend's story will help you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
I agree! I lost my mom 11/18/22. I am so glad to have found this. It was very helpful.
Your mom IS very proud of you! Of that I am sure. ❤️
So sorry for your loss.
I just lost mine too. All I can say besides expressing how deeply sorry I am, is that the soul crushing how-will-I-go-on feeling that is too much to bear, will subside in a few days an be replaced by straight up grief. It was the first few days of pain that were so hard to endure. It’s been a month now. I think of her constantly and cry daily. They tell me it will get better. It is just so hard. Take care of yourself. She would want you to. ❤️ Love from a stranger.
My Mama passed last night. She was my best friend as long as my memory exists. We spoke every day, no matter what -- even tho we sometimes didn't have much to say -- and when we did -- like when I was going thru it, or she was -- we stayed on the phone for hours. Going thru this now, I keep reaching for the phone -- reflexively, I mean -- but she's not there. That beautiful stubborn Woman stole my heart, and then left, and as lovely as life is, if I had to go today, I'd be ok with it for just a min more. Thankfully, I found this vid; Kate., Thank you Im subbing bc I'll listen to this over and over and over again
I found this video and my mom passed away this morning. I can't even express the tragedy I feel now she's gone but I'm glad we left off on a good note. God bless my mother as well as anyone else who has experienced the loss of a parent. 🙏
My mom died today and I didn’t even get the chance to say goodbye it doesn’t feel real I hope it’s all just a bad dream
I hope you're doing ok
My mum is my only living family member (My dad, sister & grandparents all died before I was 9) and I nearly lost her last year when she broke her back. She is only 51, disabled and rapidly deteriorating by the day and I cant bare the thought of being alone with not even 1 relative. Honestly, I feel like dying with her. Lots of people are in the same situation so atleast we can support eachother and cope better❤.
i learnt recently that wanting to die after the loss of a parent is selfish, God placed us all here for a reason, hold on dear, it is surely not easy i lost my mum weeks ago, i dont know how i am alive today, with God it gets easier everyday
My mom died last week. I am so lonely without her. We took care of each other for sure. We both have the same cancer so watching her decline was soooo hard. I am glad she does not have to put up with all the pain and illness anymore for sure. I imagine a sudden loss like yours would be very tough :(
Two days before my mum passed away unexpectedly, my boyfriends dog had to be put to sleep. i was devastated and i mentioned to my friend how id never experienced grief that hasn't been a pet and i was afraid of how it would affect me. I'd called her that day and i was so upset, we spoke for over 50 minutes and she cheered me up so much. She seemed fine. My eldest sister would see her every day to help her with her morning routine and found her. i am so sorry for your loss, no one can describe how lonely and abandoned you feel when you lose someone you've depended on all your life. I'm 19 and still trying to figure out how i'll be able to carry on. i hope you're doing okay x
Two days ago I lost my whole world,my Mother. My beautiful mother at the age of 50. It was her firsttime attack. She never had any heart attack before. We thought its ok every body here in the hospital are curing and my mom will be cured very soon. But one last attack and We lost my mom. She did everything for us my father was sick and incapable... Mom worked hard to provide us each and everything. She gave us education and we have jobs now. But we useless children couldn't do anything for her. We regret this every single day single second of our life. I love you my Bou. Please comeback to me . I can't live without you Mo Bou.
Same case
Lost my mom last month. I am trying to feel the pain as much as I can, because I need to move forward. We can't change what has happened, but it's so hard.
It’s been 17 years now, I had only 11years with her. I realized I haven’t grieved properly. I dodge talking about her. It hurts. Now I start my grief. She was such a wonderful person
❤❤❤
My mom passed a week and a half ago and it is indescribable and surreal. You thoughts and advice are right on the money. Thank you for this video.
I am so so sorry my love. Sending you and anyone that knew her lots and lots of love xx
My Mom passed away this January it’s hard especially this is a new year I can’t take life anymore
My Mom died on the 8th and we buried her yesterday in the extreme cold. This video is great for me right now.
I also lost my mines 😢😢😢😢
thank you for this video! Losing someone that’s close to my heart is my absolut biggest fear. Even thinking about it makes me want to cry my eyes out. Hearing you talk about your experience and your mum was honestly one of the most inspiring things I’ve ever heard. Kate, you‘re so brave and strong! I’m so proud of you x
Nicole Milik there’s nothing to be scared of. I promise you. we make it so much worse in our heads. i lost the best person in my life and look at me... i’m happy as larry. you beautiful and talented soul 🧡 i’ll always be here to chat to should you ever go through something like this xx
My mum died suddenly just over a month ago. Sometimes I feel like I'm in shock, sometimes I feel as though I'm functioning as normal then suddenly I get the wave of grief. What's hard is I was there when it happened and I feel such guilt that I couldn't save her even though the paramedics told me there was nothing that could be done. RIP Mum, I'll always love you ❤️
My mom only died 10 days ago so maybe this will change, but I don't think I could ever take solace in the idea that it was just her time to die
I’m so sorry 💔 life can be really unfair. You don’t have to find a reason for your loss. Sending love x
@@toocooltobecruelthat you I appreciate that ❤ this is random but I've been using the "Beetlejuice" musical soundtrack to cope with my grief and your comment made me think of the song "No Reason," which explores this dynamic between a character who is very "everything happens for a reason" and a depressed teenager grieving her mom
I dont have alot of good memories.
My childhood was quite abusive and so my memories are mostly stuff i dont want to talk about like protecting my mum from my dad. Or my dad saying horrible, traumatising things to her.
My hate for him is as deep as my sadness at the loss of my mum.
I cant believe ill never taste her cooking again.
My heart goes out to you and all the other people grieving in the comments. My mom is currently in ICU and we’ve been told that she could die in the next 24 to 48 hours. I’m distraught. I’ve always been so close to my mother. She’s my best friend. I speak to her every day and she’s the first person I go to when anything good or bad happens. I’m kidding myself I’m accepting this but I’m in denial. I can’t conceive what it will feel like when it’s reality.
Thank you so much, you’re such a beautiful and strong soul. My mom died yesterday and I’m breaking apart. Thank you for this video and bless your heart ❤️
My mom dropped dead Jan 1st and I am completely traumatized shattered, lost and I just do not know how to deal with this!🙏 For me I'm paralyzed definitely
That's is exactly how my mom died too..
I lost my mom three months ago and i've been feeling everything You describe. Your video gives me hope that it actually will get easier. Thank You 💛 Looking for that book now..
Our only hope in this world is Jesus Christ. He loves you more than you could ever know. I pray my best friend's story will help you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
Both my parents died from cancer within 5 weeks of each other 3 months ago. Miss them so much. My dad died from brain cancer my mum from mestasis
I know the feeling, my mom lost her battle to cancer 2 years ago and it hits me hard on some days more than others. Sorry to everyone who lost a mom. It’s so tough, I know the void.
My mom died of cancer 3 years ago. Thanks for sharing your story.
I'm sorry for your loss 🙏🏻❤️
I remember when I lost mum. My sister was absolutely wailing. I had to hold her for 30 minutes to get her to calm down
My mother died 13 days ago…I have trouble remembering the week before she became I’ll -she was fine, but I don’t remember the week before she suddenly became I’ll and died. Thank you for sharing your experience…I am going through what you did NOW! Thank you.
My mom died 4 days ago and nothing feels right. Everything feels weird and nothing makes sense. She was sick for the past few years and I knew it was coming but nothing prepares you. I wish I could call her. I wish I could see her. I wish everything was the same. Tomorrow is her services…..
“Use the pain to make you a better person “🙏🏽🕊️💕
I love all of the F bombs, because this was raw and heartfelt. I lost my mom January 2023, and it rocked my world. Entering into the week before Mother's Day in the US has my emotions everywhere and incredibly confusing. Your story gave me comfort and validation where I needed it. Thank you for sharing! I hold you in my heart as a fellow motherless daughter. ❤🩹
Kate, as horrific as it has been for you, it’s been something special watching you go through this and handle your grief. I know I’m gonna need this video one day, and I really hope it’s here for me and others to watch when we need it. You’re phenomenal. So much of your creative output before, during and after have had such an impact on me. Total babe. X
Amy Woy Amy this is so lovely of you to say 😭😭😭 thank you so much. You are also a total babe! Xx
Thank you from the bottom of my soul for posting this video for all of us other people going through it right now. I'm truly broken to pieces right now and I can't wait to heal to the point where i can function normally again ❤️
thank you for your video, i lost my mom last month and i never imagined that happening at 25 out of nowhere. i needed to watch this
I lost mine June 5th of this year.
My mum passed away 7 years ago (2017) she was sick for about 9 years with cancer and I have learnt how to live life the best I can without her but I am really missing her today, being a daughter without a mum is truly the most devastating thing, she left when I needed her most and god.. sending the biggest hugs to whoever needs it today ❤
My Mom has just passed away next to me. 😭
My mum passed away in a very similar way, she woke up and within 45 mins she collapsed and was gone forever it's been 4 months, it's hitting me very hard, each day is an effort to get through.every word you spoke resonates with me fully, it's like you're putting words to everything I feel. Every single emotion every single feeling you spoke of.
I’m so sorry ❤️🩹 it’s scary that it can happen so quickly
Mine lost exact in same way 🥹☹️ life is devasted now
Thank you for this video. My dad died the same way suddenly last month of a heart attack :( it's been a tough for me but these videos make me feel less alone.
oh my love, I am so fucking sorry. there really are genuinely no words I can say to make life easier for you right now. just open your eyes every morning. that's the minimum you need to do. sending you all of the love ever! thinking of you and your wonderful dad tonight xx
Thank you so much that means the world right now
god I know that feeling so well. just make sure you keep talking about him to those that know, love and miss him just as much as you. you are not alone. i'm just so sorry you're going through it xx
Thank you for this beautiful and precious video. I lost my Dad twelve years ago and still think about him every day but, like you say about your Mum, the joyful memories are there after the pain fades. I'm sure your Mum is proud of you, wherever she is, and I am proud of you too! x
This video really helped me to remind myself of the fact that even though my Mum is not here to see me go through university as she died in 2013 , she is watching me live my life and I need to keep going and use her wisdom and knowledge to be just as good as her because she was truly inspiring and if I could follow in her ways of thinking and her love and devotion to life and people then that would be a great sense of achievement through my grief and turning my dark days into happy fulfilling years of positivity and personal growth . Your story was so motivating so thank you! xx:)
My mom just died a few days ago… thanks for this ❤
Thank you so much! I'm am truly grateful for your courage to share your experience. I lost my mum 4 weeks ago. I feel as if I've stopped in place and the world around me is going faster than ever. My heart breaks thinking of not seeing her again. Your video gave me much comfort. Please keep posting your content! ❤
I know this video is old, but I want to thank you for it. I lost my mum a few months ago in April 24 and I am so proud of you and how you put this together and how vilnerable you were in sharing it. I miss mum terribly but am now frging ahead with gratefulness and bringing her with me each step of the way.
Thank you for being so honest and real. I lost my Mum 3 weeks ago and I'm so heart broken. I related to so much of your story...thanks for giving me some hope. Bless you🌼
First, I'm sorry for your loss, it's a painful thing words can't really do justice. My mom died in October of 2023 (almost a year ago) and I'm still in a state of numbness and shock. I haven't been the happy and cheerful Jamie that I used to be in so long. My best friend has been a lifesaver, having her to talk to has helped keep me from falling into the abyss of despair.
so strange how i came across your video 4 yrs after you posted it but only 2 months since i had basically the same tragic experience. Frantic call from my sister at 10:30 pm saying my mom fell down and wasnt breathing. I live 2 1/2 hrs away. Me throwing something in a bag and making my husband rush to drive me there. Wailing, bawling, all thej way there waiting to here if they recusitated her. I got the call 15 minutes before i got there that my mom was gone.one minute she was walking to her bedroom the next my dad found her on the floor. Like your mom they mangaged to get a feeble heartbeat but not a strong one. She was not there and my sisters and dad were asked if efforts should continue.. Glad i missed that. I barely remembehr walking into the er and seeing my mom just laying there. Her hands were cold and turning blue already. The room was filledvwith my dad, sisters, nieces , husband,son ,brother in law. We sat with her for a few hours. Finally left at 4am. My dad and two sisters and I were the last to say goodbye and .y sisters and I linked arms, and pushed My dads wheelchair out together as a team. It was surreal, I was there but not there. So grateful for my amazing family as we worked together and helped each other through. 2 month I still cry almost everyday. I still can't believe this happens to people, it is natural, so how can it be such a shock how you feel. So talking about it and sharing does help others maybe not be so surprised. Physically and emotionally painful grief is. I am so sorry for your loss, my loss, every loss. I look forward to the day I think of my mom and smile instead of cry. She would hate making me so sad.
Lost my truest love- my father on 18th may, 2024. I am living like a walking talking dead body since then. Waiting on my own death so I may go and unite with the Source and my father.
It is really hard. Not sure how I'm coping, with it all but 😢 it's been stressful. My Older ♌ Sister 🦁was🪦first to passaway. I was cold😳 my body was extremely cold I just couldn't believe my Older sister was gone because I hated stirring at a head stone 🪨. & I felt exhausted for a very long time, because my sister was one of those people who would help Skippy when she took them. Older Sister had such awesome memories, I'm so glad I did spend as much time I could with her. 14🪦-01-2017 & at Myers the day I heard her passaway, it's we're I use to go shopping with her, 🪦♋🦀 then Mum second 2023, I had to watch her take her last breath 😔🫁 before her body was struggling & no signs of life😐 but all around the relatives we're all there. So we all had to stare 🫣. My Older ♏🦂 Brother & me♓are doing it tuff.
I lost my mom two weeks ago and I found your words to be so true in so many ways. I appreciate that you kept stressing that this was your experience and may not be ours. Thank you for sharing your journey. I can see a light (maybe her light) within you.
thank you for this, energy never dies, we live and die everyday
You seem super sweet. I just lost my gorgeous mother. We talked every day. It's hard. Thanks for your wisdom.
Kate, You are such a beautiful person. You are also my first favorite RUclipsr. Before I discovered you I didn't watch or like RUclips. I thought I would have cried through this video... but I didn't. 🤔🤗 I am so happy that you are okay.
thank you so much for this comment!! i'm so grateful that you took the time to write this for me. i'm glad you didn't cry! we've nothing to cry about! life's awesome. thanks again and you are awesome xx
My mum passed away 2 yrs back due to cancer and I still cant get over it. Im dealing with major depression and delayed grief since then.I dont know what to do.I feel very angry and impulsive at whatever happened. I don't think I'll ever be able to move on
i can so badly relateto this video, thank u so much for sharing. i lost my mum few days back . she was pretty fine one day and the othermoment i see when i wake up that she is no more she died of heart attack and i cant stil process why .. i keep regretting why did i fight with her sometimes. i keep thinking all the love she gave me .
I lost my mom last year on saint Patricks day very unexpectedly. I got a call from my aunt around 1020pm while I was out celebrating, which was odd. We rushed to the hospital (we were expecting her to be in ICU like they said) but when we arrived the nurse said that she had passed away in the trauma bay. They resuscitated her once but couldn’t get her back the second time. When I tell you, everything you felt I felt the SAME way. I screamed, I cried, I was numb for months. Even still to this day I wake and think this just can’t be real. It is so painful.
Our only true hope in this world is Jesus Christ. He loves you more than you could ever know. I pray my best friend's story will help you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
This was awesome Thankyou. My mum died this month and I’ve never felt pain like it. You’ve given me some hope
I recommend keeping an object from your mother that she has maybe given you. Rest In Peace to all your mothers there’s no real love than by them.
I Lost my mother about 9 months, i feel that every day, is a day less and one more to be again with my mom.
My mum and dad are my best friends, the thought of losing them literally makes me anxious and sick. I can’t even imagine what you went through, wow.
I’ve been following you since your Ellie Goulding covers back in the early days and feel like I’ve been a part of your journey. I’m so proud of how strong you’ve become (and always been) and how you’ve handled this. I admire you Kate. Thanks for all you put out here x
Imagine going through a loss and menopause at the same time! Confusing AF!😢
It does not feel like a dream to me it does not even feel like reality I just want to hear her it hurts
My mum just died and I really appreciate finding this - thank you so much! X I’m sorry for your loss also and my mum was similar so kind
And the staring into space I keep doing that and just feel lost.
What upset me even more is no one called me after my mum passed away to ask how I am.
This is going to be a long one. My apologies Kate. My father died when I was 16. That was almost 14 years ago. I don't what anyone means about grief or that "things will get better." I only know that the one who could have taught me how to be a man is now gone and I am lost. That is my lot in life. Listening to you, music might be my replacement for his wisdom, as weak as it may be. I was angry at the time, did not know I was angry until after all was said and done. But like you Kate, I would NEVER wish to have not had that wonderful, human, imperfect, beautiful man to be my father. Only I could be so lucky. I try to take anything I might have learned from him, even if it wasn't actually from him. I am a decent person, and it is ONLY because of my wonderful parents. My mother is the rock I could have only dreamed of. My siblings are everything to me. My nieces and nephews I would lay down my life down for. Thank you Kate for being so honest about death and grief. I wish I could have your perspective and others over what those who you care bout mean to you, now. Sadly I do not. I know what life means to me from my father dying. I hate that lesson. But I would trade it for absolutely nothing. I can't wait for you new episodes of the podcast, by the way.
You’re so amazing! I’ve just lost my mom 3 days ago due to COVID. I’m also 28. Thank you for being so sweet and authentic. You’re truly a bunch of sunshine!)
Our only hope in this world is Jesus Christ. He loves you more than you could ever know. I pray my best friend's story will help you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
Thank you Kate I'm literally in bed watching you and absolutely identity with everything you say, Lost my mum in October and and to say I'm struggling would be a understatement, But you have definitely just given me a new perspective thankyou.
Our only hope in this world is Jesus Christ. He loves you more than you could ever know. I pray my best friend's story will help you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html