They arent exclusive in this case. Both can be true without detracting. Heck, his experience made him what he is and that doesnt change what he wpuld have wanted. All good on both ends.
The fact he feels jealous about being treated differently is not a good sign though. My mother use to feel the same and punish me for stupid shit just because her mother was not very nice to her and was very unfair and super strict. She was very strict herself, but nowhere near as bad. But she still seemed to do a lot out of spite sometimes, proclaiming to me "I didn't get this or that when I was your age" or "if I did that when I was your age" ECT ECT.
@@Ripa-Moramee So you're saying that because your mother doesn't have self control that anyone with jealousy is likely to get revenge on children? Yes. That's totally not projecting.
@@phasepanther4423 No of course not, but it's actually very common. People inherit traits from their parents, that is the entire point of parenting. Some people don't even know they are doing it.
@@phasepanther4423 Also I would really like to know what this has anything to do with projection. I'm simply pointing out an unfortunate fact for many people, it definitely isn't or hasn't just been me to experience this sort of treatment. In saying this, ask yourself, why are you so triggered by my comment to add that last sentence? It's just completely unnecessary, and it doesn't even make sense.
A six year old knew to get cleaned up,dressed,made sure they put their laundry by the laundry room and made themselves breakfast? You raised a fantastic kid
Don't be jealous. You're improving the parenting legacy in your family. You're being the parent that you needed and creating a safe and trustworthy environment for your children.
Jealousy is a feeling. it’s healthier to embrace and talk about a feeling then to suppress or act on it I volunteer in a kids and youth group. And I get that told often by victims of abuse, SA and other stuff that after mostly healing and getting back to a „normal“ life that they sometimes get jealous of all the innocent others in the group that don’t know how bad the world can be… But to be clear they still want to protect the others with all their power almost always becoming the big sibling of the group
@@kellevichynobody said it was okay OR justified? that's the entire point of their comment. theyre saying its bad and that op is breaking the cycle which is a GOOD thing lol..
I love having parents that lets me do whatever i want Most children at my age are forced to go to stupid extra classes(coding,chess, piano bla bla) while im have a lot of time to do my own projects and make my own homework schedule. My dad got fired from work and stayed unemployed for years and is in really much dept but he still bought me a tablet when i broke mine accidently. Im working towards content creation to pay back what my parents gave me. I would never ever will leave them ❤️ (Im 13)
I think this comment should be the top. People often say being jealous of your kid is a bad thing but as a soon to be parent I’m already jealous of my unborn child. He is going to get showered with so much love and affection and have a stable home life where as I didn’t. He’s starting out in the world wanted and with two very loving parents. Being jealous definatly means you’re doing better by your child than your parents did for you. But at the end of the day it just shows how much you truly love and care for your little one.
@@isaiahsiordia1711THIS. You're only jealous because you didn't get what you're giving, but nothing makes it more worthwhile than seeing your child grow up and be a good person and feel loved
My dad constantly has this phrase of “son, im jealous of the dad you have.” He’s always doing it in a teasing manner, as a joke, but he grew up in a religious household, yet he was always questioning things out of logic and curiosity. Me and my sisters grew up asking more about things around us and he encouraged our curiosity, he is always there when we need him, and is the kindest man i know, despite him sometimes looking as a cold person, and all i can say is I am happy that he is my dad, and I’d be jealous too if he wasn’t
I would never want my kid growing up in a religious household cause it’s dumb they start having to learn what we learned as kids which is bullshit like Christianity a lot of people that I’ve known hated there parents for it cause they knew something wasn’t right from the start but you know parents what I say goes so on and so on I would never do that to my kids that’s why religion will be up to them I’ll never take them to church or have them read a bible whatever catches there attention catches it cause I know a so called “GOD” isn’t there for you or has been seen so I can’t for sure say there is but I believe someone created the whole universe but who created them and yk it’s a whole spiral
I relate to this hard. I wet the bed until 20 years old. No one knew why, and doctors couldn't help me. My family tried creative punisments on top of beating me. As a child, my grandma would shove my face into the soaked matress until I couldn't breathe and went around smelling urine all day. I'm happy this parent was so kind with their child and was able to break the cycle of abuse. Kudos to them!
I did the same thing around his age too. I see how hard my parents worked so hard so I didn't want to wake them. I told my mom when she woke up that I cleaned up and put a new sheet on. She said next time to use the bathroom before bed. Which I did. I was lucky to have such a sweet mom. R.I.P mom... I miss you...
I used to be put in time out for wetting the bed. I thought it was the right thing to do so i put my son in time out for wetting the bed. My ex husband said i was wrong and should never do that again. I'm forever grateful to him for making me aware. One of the only things he did right as a stepfather.
@patito8591 Time out is a punishment where you get put in a corner or on a chair and told to stay until they come get you. For every year of age, you stay for one minute; so a child of 5 years would be in time out for 5 minutes.
I'm 19. This made me cry. I never got to know why I had a problem with peeing the bed till I was eleven years old but every time I was crying out of fear before even my mum knew about it. Until she did and screamed at 3 or 4 am every time. Parents or future parents, please for the love of God don't make your children live in fear simply enough don't make kids if they have to grow up like this. Get yourselves together and then do parenting right! 🙌🏻
That's called breaking generational curses! Gotta love that kind of dedication from a parent making sure their kids don't face the same horrors they did!
you’re an amazing parent and it’s normal to be jealous of normal things like that, be proud of yourself though because you make that child feel safe enough to come to you when there’s a problem
Before I heard the second 1/2 my eyes started watering because I also wet the bed as a kid and my dad did not let me live it down. I’m super glad that kid has someone like you as a parent cause as you understand, feeling afraid of you parents for something you can’t control is the worst. I can still remember having to take a shower at 2 am and change sheets.
Yes we are breaking cycles. I look at my 2 year old wishing I was him sometimes 😂 or that I had parents like me and my husband. It fills me with such joy to bring him up in a safe and happy home. ❤ every child deserves that
My heart breaks for YOU. My brother wet the bed when we were little and I can remember one time when my mother was yelling about it and it broke MY heart because it was so hurtful. 😢
I get jealous sometimes too but it just makes me prouder. We became the adults that would have protected us when we were younger. It sucks that we didn't get to feel safe and secure and cared for in our own homes but now we get to look back on it and say no more
This is both depressing but also a happy moment because you know that while you had it bad, you also beat the cycle of abuse and made yourself a safe space for your child
When I was around 6 I could make myself some toast, toaster waffles, pop tarts or instant oatmeal on my own and that was typically what I would eat before school. Simple stuff like learning how to use the microwave or toaster isn't uncommon at that age if you're taught.
Be.. very very proud. A kid who actually is comfortable telling you those things, shows they are comfortable with telling you other things. You have succeeded as a parent!
Our kids nowadays, no matter the stories we tell them of our childhood, will never understand how good they have it with us doing better for them than what we got as kids. It makes me very emotional thinking about that sometimes.
Don't look at it so negatively, such people often end up doing toxic stuffs to their children so that they can 'understand'. Rather, teach them empathy. That will make them understand you better, rather than you becoming a new kind of toxic parent.
Its very interesting too see this because i recall my parents saying the exact same thing 😂 and they would tell us stories about how hard certain things were for them and we would listen but in the end brush it off - it is quite emotional to think that what happened in ur life and generation tends to stay within you and ur peers no matter how much u tell the next generation
@@subhadramahanta452 I wouldn’t say I’m looking at it negatively at all but okay. 👍🏼 and weird how you assume I’m a new kind of toxic parent. The most my kids get it me taking a toy away when they misbehave. Didn’t realize that could be toxic.
@@jessicabenson6108 I didn't mean to say that you are toxic but if you keep looking at things that way, it can sometimes lead to that, especially when you're down. I know my own parents have had tough childhood, but since mine according to them was relatively far better, they decide to screw me up pretty badly in other ways.. to them it didn't even come off as toxic and for me, I'll never forgive them! I just said that as a constructive criticism, so that you don't unknowingly end up regretting something in future that unknowingly stemmed from such thought patterns. Well, it's upto you whatever you make of it, I tried clarifying..
As a parent who is also breaking the cycle of abuse, I know the feeling. You don't want to feel this way but you're happy their life is better but you so desperately wish you could have had that for yourself.
If they didn't beat you, they made fun of/shamed you & never let you live it down until they eventually forgot. For me, It was the latter. It was so insignificant & could have been less stressful for me, if they had just said, "It's ok, get yourself washed up & in a fresh set of clothes.", but no. Instead, I had giggling imps for parents & every minor setback in my early stage of life had to be the funniest, grand ordeal to them.
I'm sorry that happened to you! I understand my dad would beat me and slap me on the back of my head. He also openly made fun of me to family and friends.. I'm still ashamed of it. My ptsd and nightmares from my childhood even now as an adult it happens rarely but it happens.. mattress can be replaced. Buying protective sheets and mattress encasements is essential. I'll never put my kid through the shit I've endured. 😢
Wow! Thats a really unique feeling. Ive never felt jealous of my child, only proud when they do better or have better than what i had. Ive never heard of someone being jealous before but i can see it.
Having secure, confident kids is a sign of great parenting. It’s should always be a parent’s goal to give their kid a better life than they were given. Don’t be jealous, take pride.
I hope to be this kind of parent. Breaking the cycle will be my utmost priority when I have kids. My mom tried and only got halfway, since she was set back by having an abusive husband, I was raised by my grandparents, the same ones who raised her, so we have atleast that much to talk about. They fucked us both up and I'm hoping since I got out of there earlier than she did that I can process it and get over it much sooner so they don't ruin my entire life like they did my poor mom, they even threatened her into staying with my abusive father ("don't you dare break his heart" they would say, then turn around and say he's a deadbeat self-righteous bum, which he is).
i am jealous of him too. i had the same problem growing up and my parents was verry rude and most nights i was awake after midnight cez i was too afraid to go to my parents room to take extra sheets
The fact that the parent has the self-awareness and humility to acknowledge their feelings of jealousy tells me a lot about them as a person. It’s completely normal and okay to feel that way. The important thing is to be aware of it and deal with those feelings rather than taking it out on the child, and they’re doing an amazing job of that. What an incredible parent/person! This is what breaking the cycle looks like ❤
This is way more wholesome than I thought based on the title. Jealousy is an ugly emotion, but a lot of parents feel that it means you're doing a good job. I hope I can give my future children an enviable childhood too.
Aw i hope whoever this person was would feel proud that he broke a probable cycle in his family where the child is mostly afraid to make mistakes bc of his parents.. YOU'RE DOING A GREAT JOB!!
This bought back traumatic memories. I tried so hard but the vivid dreams of using the bathroom was so real. Funny thing it stopped when I was removed from my very abusive family.
There are two kinds of people in the world. The tragic ones who are abused and then, instead of recognising it, they project it and abuse others the same way they were. And the legends like this man who are abused, take action to heal from it, and then make sure that no one in their life ever has to endure what they did.
that parent should be proud that they raised their kid so well their first instinct is to come ask them for help instead of hiding it. When you grow up with the fear of asking for help its like parents never offered it.
while being jealous shows that their parenting is really good, i hope it keeps the way it is. and honestly same about the parents, thankfully i never had peed in my bed on accident but well, wrose had happened. anyway, i hope this person and their son are well
I remember being in the 2nd grade and making jokes about the morning beatings from my step-dad, thinking every kid got beatings regularly. Growing up I was terrified of becoming that. Always great to hear of someone breaking the cycle.
I feel the same way sometimes. My child is learning boundaries, and how far they can push them; they’re messy and they don’t look where they’re going and sometimes they throw tantrums. My husband and I never use physical punishments nor do we scream or threaten. Dad is a bit more stern and mom is soft, we make a great team, and our 7 year old is an astounding human. One of the smartest in the class, so very funny and an absolute delight. Sometimes he and I lay in bed and reminisce about when we were young, the abuse, the beatings and berating comments our child will never hear. We are good parents and we are proud of it. Good for the OP.
I think this guy just unlocked a new emotion... cuz thats not jealousy, its a particular type of pride in yourself and how youve affected those around you... being jealous of how your kid is affected by your parenting isnt truly jealousy. Good on you mate.
Kid is pretty smart and that parent is good. Kid was able to get the bedding off and bring it at the laundry, clean and dress himself, and make his breakfast. And he trusted the parent enough to try to wake him up but was also smart enough to deal with it himself. The parent broke the cycle and didnt make the kid feel bad for doing that.
A lot of parents struggle with feeling angry bc theyre children feel happier ornsafer with them than they remember being at that age. Thats trauma and its totally okay to feel bitter, angry or sad about your trauma when your child reminds you of what you didnt have. The important thing to remind yourself is that youve broken the cycle. By simply having these feelings and knowing your child can come to you, you have done better.❤
I'm proud of OP. Not only did he break the cycle where the child would fear its parents, but he also taught the kid what to do if it happens and the kid listened. That's good parenting.
I'm the exact same way. I made a commitment to myself that I would never let my children experience that fear. You are doing a great job momma. Keep it up.
Yes! I want my kids to always be able to talk to me. I told them from a young age... if you mess up, I might get sad or frustrated, but I will never stop loving you for a second and we will work through it together.
This right here is a great example to not continue the cycle of abuse by claiming "my parents beat me and i turned out fine". I'm so glad you're providing a safer home than you grew up in
That’s a god damn man of a son. He will get everything with that mentality, and it’s because of how you raised him and how respectful he has been taught to act. That child is going to be a successful man with that mentality.
Don't be jealous, be proud of your parenting.
They arent exclusive in this case. Both can be true without detracting. Heck, his experience made him what he is and that doesnt change what he wpuld have wanted. All good on both ends.
The fact he feels jealous about being treated differently is not a good sign though. My mother use to feel the same and punish me for stupid shit just because her mother was not very nice to her and was very unfair and super strict. She was very strict herself, but nowhere near as bad. But she still seemed to do a lot out of spite sometimes, proclaiming to me "I didn't get this or that when I was your age" or "if I did that when I was your age" ECT ECT.
@@Ripa-Moramee
So you're saying that because your mother doesn't have self control that anyone with jealousy is likely to get revenge on children?
Yes. That's totally not projecting.
@@phasepanther4423 No of course not, but it's actually very common. People inherit traits from their parents, that is the entire point of parenting. Some people don't even know they are doing it.
@@phasepanther4423 Also I would really like to know what this has anything to do with projection. I'm simply pointing out an unfortunate fact for many people, it definitely isn't or hasn't just been me to experience this sort of treatment. In saying this, ask yourself, why are you so triggered by my comment to add that last sentence? It's just completely unnecessary, and it doesn't even make sense.
Breaking the cycle, probably a very good parent
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Guy is a good parent. Kid both felt safe enough to ask for help, but also empowered enough to handle things himself
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how do u know its a guy
@@btsarmyblink3459 how do you have enough energy to give a shit?
@@btsarmyblink3459You are woke
@@btsarmyblink3459because the voice is a guy's voice?
If a parent looks at their kid's life, and is simultaneously proud and jealous, they've done a great job.
He didn’t say proud… just jealous
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@@isaiahwhitehead4974 Just say your parents were never proud of you
It's not hard
A six year old knew to get cleaned up,dressed,made sure they put their laundry by the laundry room and made themselves breakfast?
You raised a fantastic kid
i wouldve believed all of that but, COOKED BREAKFAST? no way
Tbh i was able to make basic stuff like sandwiches by that time
More like this is the fakest story I've ever read. What kinda 6 year old makes their own breakfast?
@@someoneyouknew-bm7qwdepending on the country, making breakfast may not require cooking
@@tnb4509my breakfast was cereal and milk. I could make it easily as a kid if I woke up early. But yeah If it’s “cooking” that’s on another level.
Bro really said,
“Dang, I wish I had parents like me!” 😂
Yes and that’s totally ok when you come from a abusive relationship with your own parents
I keep saying damn i hope i will get kids like me😅
😂😂😂
As every cycle breaker does ❤
"Hell no! "
"They would've beat the crap outta me! "
Some true words 😂😂😂😂
The fact he tried to get u first and THEN do it himself would’ve made me cry. Like he trusts you so much with a task you would’ve been terrified of
Don't be jealous. You're improving the parenting legacy in your family. You're being the parent that you needed and creating a safe and trustworthy environment for your children.
2 things can be true at once they deserved a better childhood
A lot of people say that being a parent and realizing you're kid is getting a better childhood is healing to their inner child. It's interesting
Jealousy is a feeling.
it’s healthier to embrace and talk about a feeling then to suppress or act on it
I volunteer in a kids and youth group.
And I get that told often by victims of abuse, SA and other stuff that after mostly healing and getting back to a „normal“ life that they sometimes get jealous of all the innocent others in the group that don’t know how bad the world can be…
But to be clear they still want to protect the others with all their power almost always becoming the big sibling of the group
That doesn't make the abuse and fear of his parents justified or okay. You aren't helping. Seriously.
@@kellevichynobody said it was okay OR justified? that's the entire point of their comment. theyre saying its bad and that op is breaking the cycle which is a GOOD thing lol..
I'm also jealous of the kids who are getting parented by these amazing young people. I'm also so very much happy for them ❤️❤️❤️
My parents were such kids... well... Having good childhood doesnt necessary means someone will be good parent...
My parents were such kids. Having amazing childhood doesnt mean someone will be good parent...
I always wish my grandma were my parent not them...
@space0fox I'm so sorry. Hugs
@@WinterWolf1012*hug* its okey now, I'm not living with them anymore
I love having parents that lets me do whatever i want
Most children at my age are forced to go to stupid extra classes(coding,chess, piano bla bla) while im have a lot of time to do my own projects and make my own homework schedule. My dad got fired from work and stayed unemployed for years and is in really much dept but he still bought me a tablet when i broke mine accidently. Im working towards content creation to pay back what my parents gave me. I would never ever will leave them ❤️
(Im 13)
Bruh I’d be crying. Just shows the kid is not only comfortable around you, BUT you’ve also earned his trust.
The way he said it like
“🤓iM jEaLoUs Of My KiD☝️”
If you’re jealous that means you’re doing it right. Good on you for breaking the cycle!
I think this comment should be the top.
People often say being jealous of your kid is a bad thing but as a soon to be parent I’m already jealous of my unborn child. He is going to get showered with so much love and affection and have a stable home life where as I didn’t. He’s starting out in the world wanted and with two very loving parents.
Being jealous definatly means you’re doing better by your child than your parents did for you. But at the end of the day it just shows how much you truly love and care for your little one.
@@isaiahsiordia1711THIS. You're only jealous because you didn't get what you're giving, but nothing makes it more worthwhile than seeing your child grow up and be a good person and feel loved
My dad constantly has this phrase of “son, im jealous of the dad you have.” He’s always doing it in a teasing manner, as a joke, but he grew up in a religious household, yet he was always questioning things out of logic and curiosity. Me and my sisters grew up asking more about things around us and he encouraged our curiosity, he is always there when we need him, and is the kindest man i know, despite him sometimes looking as a cold person, and all i can say is I am happy that he is my dad, and I’d be jealous too if he wasn’t
It's brings my heart warmth hearing testimonies like this. Thank you for sharing a part of your life with us. 🙏❤️
I would never want my kid growing up in a religious household cause it’s dumb they start having to learn what we learned as kids which is bullshit like Christianity a lot of people that I’ve known hated there parents for it cause they knew something wasn’t right from the start but you know parents what I say goes so on and so on I would never do that to my kids that’s why religion will be up to them I’ll never take them to church or have them read a bible whatever catches there attention catches it cause I know a so called “GOD” isn’t there for you or has been seen so I can’t for sure say there is but I believe someone created the whole universe but who created them and yk it’s a whole spiral
glad ur dad is a good parent and not abusive
This sounds like my grandfather who passed away 23 years ago. I wish I could have had him here in my adult years
I relate to this hard. I wet the bed until 20 years old. No one knew why, and doctors couldn't help me. My family tried creative punisments on top of beating me. As a child, my grandma would shove my face into the soaked matress until I couldn't breathe and went around smelling urine all day. I'm happy this parent was so kind with their child and was able to break the cycle of abuse. Kudos to them!
What the hell?! No one should suffer that kind of abuse! I'm so sorry for you :(
I did the same thing around his age too. I see how hard my parents worked so hard so I didn't want to wake them. I told my mom when she woke up that I cleaned up and put a new sheet on. She said next time to use the bathroom before bed. Which I did. I was lucky to have such a sweet mom. R.I.P mom... I miss you...
Always a good step in the right direction when you feel as though you're able to give your kid something that you were deprived of as a child
Be proud of how responsible your kis is and how kind and understanding you are! You are one of the top ten parents ever. 💙
Edit: omg 1k likes tysm!
Um, while I agree with the first part, the second seems highly implausible
@@mark9294the second part of the comment or the video?
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i dont think they mean it literally since theres not really a ranking@@mark9294
I used to be put in time out for wetting the bed. I thought it was the right thing to do so i put my son in time out for wetting the bed. My ex husband said i was wrong and should never do that again. I'm forever grateful to him for making me aware. One of the only things he did right as a stepfather.
What is "to be put in time out"??
@patito8591 it's a child equivalent to a misdemeanor punishment. Felonies get whoopings with the belt.
@patito8591 Time out is a punishment where you get put in a corner or on a chair and told to stay until they come get you. For every year of age, you stay for one minute; so a child of 5 years would be in time out for 5 minutes.
@@virginiaherman2414 ooh, thank you!
"A THOUGHT CROSSED MY MIND! 🤬 I-I'm jealous of this kid.. 😔" LMAOO
U gave him what you didn't have as a child... Real man right there.
Damn, He Doin' Some R E A L M E N Shi
Why is this actually a beautiful story
I'm 19. This made me cry. I never got to know why I had a problem with peeing the bed till I was eleven years old but every time I was crying out of fear before even my mum knew about it. Until she did and screamed at 3 or 4 am every time.
Parents or future parents, please for the love of God don't make your children live in fear simply enough don't make kids if they have to grow up like this. Get yourselves together and then do parenting right! 🙌🏻
Holy shit that milkshake in the frost clip was GORGEOUS
Alot of these videos make me hungry lol
yummy yummy
Now I'm jealous
don’t be jealous, be thankful to yourself. you’ve made your son feel so incredibly safe with you, that’s something to be proud of!
That's called breaking generational curses! Gotta love that kind of dedication from a parent making sure their kids don't face the same horrors they did!
you’re an amazing parent and it’s normal to be jealous of normal things like that, be proud of yourself though because you make that child feel safe enough to come to you when there’s a problem
Before I heard the second 1/2 my eyes started watering because I also wet the bed as a kid and my dad did not let me live it down. I’m super glad that kid has someone like you as a parent cause as you understand, feeling afraid of you parents for something you can’t control is the worst. I can still remember having to take a shower at 2 am and change sheets.
😢 hope you're having a happy life now ❤
I'm so sorry you had such a rough go at it. If it's any comfort, you aren't alone in having shitty folks.
That's really smart six-year-old too, I definitely would've thought of that when I was six. 😂
So smart he peed the bed lol
@Chardelle6925 He’s still a kid bro
Yes we are breaking cycles. I look at my 2 year old wishing I was him sometimes 😂 or that I had parents like me and my husband. It fills me with such joy to bring him up in a safe and happy home. ❤ every child deserves that
Imagine being beat for something you had no control over... so glad OP broke that cycle of abuse.
My heart breaks for YOU. My brother wet the bed when we were little and I can remember one time when my mother was yelling about it and it broke MY heart because it was so hurtful. 😢
I get jealous sometimes too but it just makes me prouder. We became the adults that would have protected us when we were younger. It sucks that we didn't get to feel safe and secure and cared for in our own homes but now we get to look back on it and say no more
A good parent is an even better parent when they break a cycle of abuse. I cant imagine how hard that is.
That is an amazing parent. This is why we want to break cycles of abuse
This is both depressing but also a happy moment because you know that while you had it bad, you also beat the cycle of abuse and made yourself a safe space for your child
He made the breakfast????????
I know, a 6 year old making breakfast
Probably like a sandwich or cereal
that's what I came her to say! Not sure even if it was cereal, I'd want a 6yr doing that. Milk everywhere!
When I was around 6 I could make myself some toast, toaster waffles, pop tarts or instant oatmeal on my own and that was typically what I would eat before school. Simple stuff like learning how to use the microwave or toaster isn't uncommon at that age if you're taught.
toast..? cereal??
Be.. very very proud. A kid who actually is comfortable telling you those things, shows they are comfortable with telling you other things. You have succeeded as a parent!
If you feel jealous, just remember you have the power to fix that! Make him afraid ❤❤❤❤
Our kids nowadays, no matter the stories we tell them of our childhood, will never understand how good they have it with us doing better for them than what we got as kids. It makes me very emotional thinking about that sometimes.
Don't look at it so negatively, such people often end up doing toxic stuffs to their children so that they can 'understand'.
Rather, teach them empathy. That will make them understand you better, rather than you becoming a new kind of toxic parent.
Hey, it’s ok. Every generation has new struggles to deal with, it just comes with life 🤷♀️
Its very interesting too see this because i recall my parents saying the exact same thing 😂 and they would tell us stories about how hard certain things were for them and we would listen but in the end brush it off - it is quite emotional to think that what happened in ur life and generation tends to stay within you and ur peers no matter how much u tell the next generation
@@subhadramahanta452 I wouldn’t say I’m looking at it negatively at all but okay. 👍🏼 and weird how you assume I’m a new kind of toxic parent. The most my kids get it me taking a toy away when they misbehave. Didn’t realize that could be toxic.
@@jessicabenson6108 I didn't mean to say that you are toxic but if you keep looking at things that way, it can sometimes lead to that, especially when you're down.
I know my own parents have had tough childhood, but since mine according to them was relatively far better, they decide to screw me up pretty badly in other ways.. to them it didn't even come off as toxic and for me, I'll never forgive them!
I just said that as a constructive criticism, so that you don't unknowingly end up regretting something in future that unknowingly stemmed from such thought patterns.
Well, it's upto you whatever you make of it, I tried clarifying..
Being self-aware about this kind of feeling is proof OP is capable of introspection.
Your parenting is breaking the cycle, creating a better legacy. Be proud of yourself and the safe environment you've created for your child.
As a parent who is also breaking the cycle of abuse, I know the feeling. You don't want to feel this way but you're happy their life is better but you so desperately wish you could have had that for yourself.
If they didn't beat you, they made fun of/shamed you & never let you live it down until they eventually forgot.
For me, It was the latter. It was so insignificant & could have been less stressful for me, if they had just said, "It's ok, get yourself washed up & in a fresh set of clothes.", but no. Instead, I had giggling imps for parents & every minor setback in my early stage of life had to be the funniest, grand ordeal to them.
I'm sorry that happened to you! I understand my dad would beat me and slap me on the back of my head. He also openly made fun of me to family and friends.. I'm still ashamed of it. My ptsd and nightmares from my childhood even now as an adult it happens rarely but it happens.. mattress can be replaced. Buying protective sheets and mattress encasements is essential. I'll never put my kid through the shit I've endured. 😢
@@mamaastorm I second your comment.
That's a sign of good parenting ❤
Wow! Thats a really unique feeling. Ive never felt jealous of my child, only proud when they do better or have better than what i had. Ive never heard of someone being jealous before but i can see it.
Having secure, confident kids is a sign of great parenting.
It’s should always be a parent’s goal to give their kid a better life than they were given. Don’t be jealous, take pride.
Don't Be Jealous, Be Proud
Being both is natural
Don’t be jealous, be happy your child feels safe around you
I barely survived my childhood. My kids get to thrive in theirs. It’s the ultimate proud thing for me ❤
You became the parent that you always wanted yourself. Be proud of yourself 💕
I hope to be this kind of parent. Breaking the cycle will be my utmost priority when I have kids. My mom tried and only got halfway, since she was set back by having an abusive husband, I was raised by my grandparents, the same ones who raised her, so we have atleast that much to talk about. They fucked us both up and I'm hoping since I got out of there earlier than she did that I can process it and get over it much sooner so they don't ruin my entire life like they did my poor mom, they even threatened her into staying with my abusive father ("don't you dare break his heart" they would say, then turn around and say he's a deadbeat self-righteous bum, which he is).
i am jealous of him too. i had the same problem growing up and my parents was verry rude and most nights i was awake after midnight cez i was too afraid to go to my parents room to take extra sheets
The fact that the parent has the self-awareness and humility to acknowledge their feelings of jealousy tells me a lot about them as a person. It’s completely normal and okay to feel that way. The important thing is to be aware of it and deal with those feelings rather than taking it out on the child, and they’re doing an amazing job of that. What an incredible parent/person! This is what breaking the cycle looks like ❤
This is way more wholesome than I thought based on the title.
Jealousy is an ugly emotion, but a lot of parents feel that it means you're doing a good job.
I hope I can give my future children an enviable childhood too.
Aw i hope whoever this person was would feel proud that he broke a probable cycle in his family where the child is mostly afraid to make mistakes bc of his parents.. YOU'RE DOING A GREAT JOB!!
This bought back traumatic memories. I tried so hard but the vivid dreams of using the bathroom was so real. Funny thing it stopped when I was removed from my very abusive family.
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There are two kinds of people in the world. The tragic ones who are abused and then, instead of recognising it, they project it and abuse others the same way they were.
And the legends like this man who are abused, take action to heal from it, and then make sure that no one in their life ever has to endure what they did.
that parent should be proud that they raised their kid so well their first instinct is to come ask them for help instead of hiding it. When you grow up with the fear of asking for help its like parents never offered it.
Be proud of yourself, you must be a great parent for him to immediately go to you for help
You are an amazing mother/father ❤
Everyone is so proud of you!
Amen, That’s exactly what would have happened to me. Thank goodness you’re such a good parent.
while being jealous shows that their parenting is really good, i hope it keeps the way it is. and honestly same about the parents, thankfully i never had peed in my bed on accident but well, wrose had happened. anyway, i hope this person and their son are well
Huh.. that is a surprisingly mature six year old
Man I'm most jealous of how together this kid is
I remember being in the 2nd grade and making jokes about the morning beatings from my step-dad, thinking every kid got beatings regularly. Growing up I was terrified of becoming that. Always great to hear of someone breaking the cycle.
I feel the same way sometimes. My child is learning boundaries, and how far they can push them; they’re messy and they don’t look where they’re going and sometimes they throw tantrums. My husband and I never use physical punishments nor do we scream or threaten. Dad is a bit more stern and mom is soft, we make a great team, and our 7 year old is an astounding human. One of the smartest in the class, so very funny and an absolute delight. Sometimes he and I lay in bed and reminisce about when we were young, the abuse, the beatings and berating comments our child will never hear. We are good parents and we are proud of it. Good for the OP.
That kid is legendary.
is no one gonna talk about the six year old doing it himself and also making breakfast for himself??
i mean if you speak english normally to a child, theyre more likely to pick up and learn to speak clearer at a young age.
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Watching my friends parent their kids and seeing how kind and empathetic and emotionally available they are makes me a little jealous lol 😂
I think this guy just unlocked a new emotion... cuz thats not jealousy, its a particular type of pride in yourself and how youve affected those around you... being jealous of how your kid is affected by your parenting isnt truly jealousy.
Good on you mate.
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That proves that you’re a good parent
Why is this so relatable 😭
Damnnnm mama you’re doing an amazing job at parenting. That kid is gonna love you forever and you’ll never be alone
That shows you’re a good parent and raising him better than your parents did with you. You should be proud of yourself🥺
Kid is pretty smart and that parent is good. Kid was able to get the bedding off and bring it at the laundry, clean and dress himself, and make his breakfast. And he trusted the parent enough to try to wake him up but was also smart enough to deal with it himself. The parent broke the cycle and didnt make the kid feel bad for doing that.
I hope he’s able to heal his inner child through his parenting
Such a good dad, every parent should want their kid to feel as safe as possible
My parents never beat me for this, but my mom would shame me by talking about it to my relatives.
A lot of parents struggle with feeling angry bc theyre children feel happier ornsafer with them than they remember being at that age. Thats trauma and its totally okay to feel bitter, angry or sad about your trauma when your child reminds you of what you didnt have. The important thing to remind yourself is that youve broken the cycle. By simply having these feelings and knowing your child can come to you, you have done better.❤
Moments like this makes me eager to me a parent, I want to give my kids what my parents never gave to me
Stealth self compliment, and I'm here for it!
WELL DONE to people tackling their intergenerational trauma! 🎉🎉🎉
I'm proud of OP. Not only did he break the cycle where the child would fear its parents, but he also taught the kid what to do if it happens and the kid listened. That's good parenting.
My mom and gram was nice like this. Never cared if I peed the bed, would get me dry blankets and clothes. Good parents are a blessing
i feel this every time they mess up. Sad really. but it just proves you're a good parent.
I want to be that kind of dad someday. Break the negative cycle and rebuild a more positive one.
Avoryone talking about parenting me thinking why are you not talking about how satisfying that cake is ☺️😋🤩
That's good parenting right here! Be proud the junior you is living what you couldn't!
I am so happy for the kids that have good parents you guys are incredibly lucky and I kinda wish I was like you guys 🙃
That is impressive for a six year old to have that level of maturity and responsibility.
I thought he was jealous of the fact the 6 year old was so capable and willing while he was snoozing
Im fasting and when i see the food it makes me hungry ramadan mubarak btw
I'm the exact same way. I made a commitment to myself that I would never let my children experience that fear. You are doing a great job momma. Keep it up.
Jealous probably isn't the right word. I think the OP's probably proud and happy 😊
Yes! I want my kids to always be able to talk to me. I told them from a young age... if you mess up, I might get sad or frustrated, but I will never stop loving you for a second and we will work through it together.
This right here is a great example to not continue the cycle of abuse by claiming "my parents beat me and i turned out fine". I'm so glad you're providing a safer home than you grew up in
He should be proud, giving his son a better childhood than his own
That’s a god damn man of a son. He will get everything with that mentality, and it’s because of how you raised him and how respectful he has been taught to act. That child is going to be a successful man with that mentality.