Having an injury like that doesn't always mean you'll be dependent on others, but the times you do it usually turns out you meet the best people. If your like that vet please ask for help, there is always someone you can call or a friend that misses you.
When he was released from the military, he lost his support system. People were cruel, especially college kids. They'll say they deserved it, because they're baby killers. My father was spat on and called baby killer when he returned stateside.
@@5Thefireking5what the story was is--- he asked his parents If "his friend" could stay even though he had the handicap, it was actually him with the handicap and he wanted to know his parents reaction before he came home
@@Kissindra do not make it seem easy. Taking care of someone with a disability can be extremely time consuming and cost a lot of money depending on the handicap. Im not gonna say you should ditch people, and that they are a burden, but some people just do not have the luxury to be make such a choice.
But I did not say it was easy or free anywhere… you’ve focused on things that might effect you while I’ve focused on the humanity of disabled folks, your failure to see what I wrote as an essential truth is a you problem.
@@Kissindra i was replying to your response to the other guy. He talked about how it wasnt simple due to time and money, and you just said it really was simple, then said it was his problem for not understanding that. I went on to explain how it really isnt that simple since most people cant dedicate the time and money required to do it. Taking care of someone with a handicap is a very large responsibility, and is no where near being simple
"They probably would have cared for him because he's their son" Sure they would have been happy to care for him but all he heard was how difficult he would make their lives
@@justablackscreen9832 To be fair, there's two ways of interpretation of the comment. One way to read it is the Son is worried about planting the burden of his disabilities on his family. The way Invital probably ready it, as many would. "my parents wouldn't accept me as a disabled person."
@@GaydinRossBut that isn't true, every parent would care for their offspring.Even if they're an amputee,the love they would give will still stay the same.
@@LeonBoi7234never say that every parent cares for their offspring online again. There is way to much pain in this world because of how untrue that statement is. People don't react well.
I knew where this was going and STILL felt bad for him. Veterans, thank you for your service. Your sacrifice is why I live the life I do. Truly the unsung heroes.
I lost both legs and my left hand and my right middle finger and the tip of my ring finger, the Drs and some friends assumed my husband would leave me and they all thought I should be put in a home! Im so glad my family was so offended by that!
@@mira-zv1ug lol half the girl! And i will be stealing this and making it my own! Lol Now that song is in my head and I'm considering making it my theme song! Lol
I think that the parents would have cared for their own son and taken him in but because the son said a friend the parents had no connection and didn’t want to take on the responsibility of caring for someone they don’t know Thankyou for the likes 👍
True. As someone who works a lot, I wouldn't be able to take care of people who are not related to me. I would try to find a clinic or a home, maybe even pay if I had enough money but def wouldn't take this person home. But that person being my child, or a close family member, I would do everything and anything necessary to keep them with me and safe. I wouldn't mind taking care of them and even though it would be hard I would do it again and again.
I mean you don't have to take care of him, but you don't have to leave him to his fate either, you don't know under what circumstances the friend was injured, maybe saving your son or something like that (at first I know that that would be the story)
"Someone like that would be a terrible burden on us...we can't let someone like that interfere with our lives." 💔🥺imagine your own parents saying that about u
They did not say that about their son, they said that about a stranger. It's different when your family is involved so he should have just told the truth but It's also true that fighting in a war takes a toll on your mental health as well. So, he was probably extremely sensitive at that time.
As a parent, I trust my children decisions so I would have said "you guys hurry up and get here! We can figure it out!" I've raised awesome men, I have no doubt they are all loving people.
I personally would have told him to bring the friend for a two week trial run so we could see if he's a good fit for the family. Blown up or not, some folks have habits and attitudes that don't mesh well with others. But my kids are a good judge of character as you also said about yours so...
@devlishlyweird lost a friend to suicide before freshman year, my dads lost too many friends to suicide, some from ptsd from the military.. it's horrible, people who do it don't actually want to die, they feel they have no options.
Even though the story might be fake, there are thousands of like it that are absolutely true. Soldiers are neglected and the suicide rate of soldiers is higher than ever. Hug a veteran. Tell him or her you love them. Thank them for what they had done. Give them the shirt off your back. They did the same for you. Whether you realize it or not. ❤
"Sure, son. We don't have a lot of room, but until you two can get set up with your own place together so you can look after your battle brother, I don't mind taking in your friend." That should've been the answer.
@@Oskanwhitchfather That would've been along the lines of what I would've answered had my brother come back like that and asked that sort of thing. I don't personally have any obligation to his battle buddy, but I do to my brother. If he thinks it's THAT important that he would ask, I would at least mull it over. It's a big favor to ask, i'm well aware of that, but he also lost his limbs for his country so between that and my brother's endorsement, I can at least offer a place to shelter until they get situated and re-acclimated to life back here. It would be a period of adjustment, but we'd make it work.
@@aaronburdon221 See, you _almost_ get it. You don't fully understand it, but you get it enough. Lemme key you into it, Aaron. When you go to war, the men (and now women) you fight beside, they become your second family. The bond you forge with those you fight, cry, and bleed alongside is stronger than near any other. If a Soldier, Sailor, Airman, or Marine comes home and asks "can we put up my friend?" they're really asking "Do we have room for another brother/sister in the family?" I've never served (body is too broken for that, unfortunately), but I've always wanted to, and after talking with plenty of veterans from Iraq, Iran, 'Nam, Korea and even a couple from WWII, they've all said the men they fought beside were family. Right bastards, a lot of them, but family all the same.
@@Oskanwhitchfather This is why I would say yes to hosting them for a little while until they got re-acclimated. He's my brother's battle buddy though, not mine. I've never served (half blind, scoliosis, and flat-footed) but I trust my brothers judgement.
if my son told me he had a terrible injury i would care for him , if my sons friends was injured and wanted to live with me that would be a burden .. if he told his parents it was him they obviously would of had a different reaction this story is stupid
@@MF88_ First of all I'm not your bruh and second of all they said in general whoever it was to forget about him so he removed himself so he wouldn't be a problem.
The scenario was to see how his parents would inevitably start to feel about him. The son felt if they had no empathy for a stranger, empathy for him would have its expiration date. He didn’t wanna burden them, as they put it.
This is flawed logic based on insecurities. We've seen examples of such self sacrifice time and time again when it comes to caring for your loved ones. Hell my uncle was there for my grandma until Alzheimer's took her away from us. You ignore the good in humanity.
@@FlamingVaIIey Never said there is no good in humanity. Let’s look at the facts, shall we? He was honorably discharged because of his injuries. His thinking is not that of someone who hasn’t seen war. He does not feel like the man he once was, and clearly cares about others, and also willing to die for that cause. What other explanation could you give for why he presented his situation to his parents this way and committed suicide right after their view point of a stranger realistically to their knowledge in his situation? Because he cared for his parents, he didn’t want to burden them with having to look after him as I stated before. That was his humanity!
if my son told me he had a terrible injury i would care for him , if my sons friends was injured and wanted to live with me that would be a burden .. if he told his parents it was him they obviously would of had a different reaction this story is stupid
@@jaytoowavyyyyeah you would obviously accept your son with no arms but they said people with such disabilities are burdens he probably thought that if he moved back deep down they would think he was a burden and wish that he was a “normal” son and that they wouldn’t love him the same way
@@jaytoowavyyyyou completely missed the mark here he had no friend the one missing an arm and leg was the son he wanted to know how his parents would react to having to take care of a person without one arm and leg and when they said he was a burden he didn't want them to be burdened
True, but if you knew your parents thought people with handicaps are burdens, a part of you would always believe that they think that you too, are a burden
@@ReStartermusicbut it was a dumb question what were they supposed to say. Yeah son bring your friend well devote our lives to making this STRANGER comfortable.
Omg I’m crying so bad, but for people who are seeing this and feel this way, a person you don’t know and someone like your mum, there’s a big difference. Your never alone ❤
I have seen this so many times and just understood it 😢it’s so sad that he thought that his family thought of him that way. I’m sure that if he had come home and told his parents they would have helped him. Always get help from someone if you need something.
I think all parents would react differently tbh like if my son called me and said I lost an arm and a leg on a land mine, I would take care of them but if my son called and said their "firend" a complete stranger lost an arm and a leg I'd be skeptical to..
@@Kimkim-gl6qc Yes, if he/she is my child's close friend who has fought alongside them in battlefield and is in a predicament with nowhere to go? A million yes's in a heartbeat.
If a soldier needed a place to live and talked to me about it, I'd give them them the master bedroom, im 19 I wanted to become a marine all my life but once I got outta high-school I found out I was a diabetic by almost dying, I was greedy and got sick and thought it was a cold, for 2 weeks I couldn't eat or drink anything even water, I just puked it right back up, started having breathing problems then went to the hospital, I was in a severe diabetic ketoacidosis and severely dehydrated the doctors said I was minutes away from death...... when it hit me that I became a diabetic at 17 and couldn't join the military a part of me died inside.... still is..... but I respect and thank all men and women who put there lives on the line for our freedom, I will always have there backs🤘
Damn why are people being mean? I mean ive heard tens to thousands pf stories that arent published and not everyone hes to be prick. (Im talking about people responding to you)
If I were the parent, I would’ve said yes. Even if they might be a burden, they can’t be left alone if they’re that vulnerable/damaged. I even would’ve worked longer to make more money to care for them. Always love everyone- even handicapped people
@@Andrei_Antonov did YOU listen? Bro said "he lost an arm and a leg, and I WANT HIM TO LIVE WITH US" 😂. The father said he'd help find him a place to live
@@Andrei_Antonov I don't even want to let a person who is completely fine to LIVE in my house. Especially if it's someone who's completely fine, bc u can afford ur own things and live a life.
if my son told me he had a terrible injury i would care for him , if my sons friends was injured and wanted to live with me that would be a burden .. if he told his parents it was him they obviously would of had a different reaction this story is stupid
@@jaytoowavyyy Well...he IS a burden. He should know and accept that fact. The fact that the parents would still willingly bear the burden for him is what will lead to gratitude.
@@jaytoowavyyyYeah that's exactly what I was gonna say. There's a big difference between helping a family member who is disabled and helping a random stranger. It's not like the parents were even mean, they said they'd help him find a place to live. I think most of the people who don't agree with the parents in this video are kids who haven't really experienced how life is. You can only help random strangers so much, if you try to help everyone all the time it starts impacting your life and happiness. If anyone reads this and disagrees with me go out and find some homeless vets (unfortunately there's a lot of them) and invite a couple of them to stay in your house for an indeterminate amount of time and let me know how it goes. Not saying we should do nothing, but we can help a bit and the government should find a safe place for these people to stay.
@@Zoroaster4 yeah i mean im only 18… and i hate to sound like a bad person but honestly i know myself and i know that most likely i wouldn’t help a random disabled stranger .. obviously if it’s a family member im gonna help but that wasn’t the case
if my son told me he had a terrible injury i would care for him , if my sons friends was injured and wanted to live with me that would be a burden .. if he told his parents it was him they obviously would of had a different reaction this story is stupid
Ok so ignoring the fact that this story is blatantly fake. The son was a dumbass people think and act differently based on the relationship they have with someone, someone who you don't know at all is going to get treated EXTREMELY differently than your own flesh and blood. Why would the parents be ashamed if this was the case? Even if their child was a burden as a parent you don't give a damn it's your kid, but a stranger you think twice before helping.
I can relate to the soldier. I was born with a disability and the love from my parents was always conditional. I was always treated like a burdon more than a son. My grandma was just about the only person who loved me unconditionally. My mom cared more about what total strangers thought than how her own son felt. This is why i have trust issues. When anyone is nice to me i always question their motive. But yeah a parent's love that is conditional changes a person, and not for the better.
I've always taken in those with special needs. Everyone, including pets, wildlife and people, has been welcomed into my home with open arms. My oldest "child" was 77 years old and the most unique was a baby raccoon. Epilepsy plagues my pup. Another child has autism. We just make it work!
@EmmanuellaOjeaha oh yeah coz instead of telling my parents I lost an arm and a leg in combat, I'd say I'm bringing a friend who's a cripple instead. They'd obviously be less likely to take care of an extra person that they have no emotional attachment with, who is a cripple. If they knew from the get go that it was their son, which parents would look after him?
I think he wanted to hear their honest opinion about the situation. Of course if they knew it was him they would take care of him and not make him feel like a burden. But they may develop some resentment towards him and/or keep their true feelings to himself.
Exactly. And they even said they would find a suitable accomodation to help him with all of these but these peoples in comment section are too blind to see that.
@@soniyaitis Glad somebody agrees. Like it would really take alot of work taking care of someone that has 1 leg and 1 arm. If its your child you would think they would take care of him if the child came out of the mother and they watched him get birthed, his first birthday and so much more, why would you just randomly accept someone disabled. Even if the "friend" wasnt disabled i think they would still not let him.
I saw that twist coming "Oh I'm asking for my friend." Personally I'd be willing to take him in so long as he agreed to try and get to self-sufficiency.
Hold on if a soldier told their parents that their friend lost an arm and a leg how is it? Damn, if they’re literally what I am so confused right now, someone just tell me the truth was at soldier, telling the news or was they actually the son, and then the sun duplicated himself
I think the son was testing the parents by telling them that it was a friend who was handicapped and hearing all that about handicapped ppl being a burden he took his life... Idk maybe im wrong
i mean it’s the sons fault for telling his parents it was a complete stranger that was injured and not their own son tho .. they clearly would’ve had a different perspective
@@jaytoowavyyy i don’t think it’s matter if it’s your son or a stranger. This is why I hate this generation, you only help the people who are close or you know. But not a completely stranger, strangers also have feeling
Son should've known the love the parents have for him can never be compared with a love for a stranger. The parents would've taken the son in, whatever state in came in. Your own is always your own, there is a natural connection.
Same, this man could've gotten injured saving my son, maybe he was the only thing that kept my son mentally stable in the war, perhaps they were in love. Doesn't matter the reason. Whatever the reason, my son has some strong feelings if he's asking to bring home a disabled comrade to take care of indefinitely and I'm going to welcome that man with open arms.
@@kimberlyrichardson5943except you don't know the parent's thought process or reasoning. We dont know the whole conversation It's highly possible the parents' reasoning was that their son would already have a hard time coming back from the war, and they'd be better able to care for him without another person to care for. It's also possible that if he'd straight up told them it was himself, or if he said that friend was important to him, they would have welcomed him openly and gladly cared for him even with the new disabilities The video just said 'friend', so it's possible they thought it was just another guy Also possible this specific story is fake and there were no thought processes 🤷♀️
No sir, army personnel is the most toughest guy in earth mentally and phisically, they should not commit suicide. He should go on set as an example for everyone.
Forcing someone to live up to an image of "toughness" is sickening. Everyone is allowed to be honest about how they are doing and there should be support in place to care for them mentally as well as physically.
An average of 22 veterans a day commit suicide. Veterans have sacrificed a lot for us and come back with horrific mental and physical disabilities that are largely ignored by the very country they served. They've been tough, far tougher than you or me, that's what's causing the suicide problem.
So here's the wording of "no". "I'm sorry son, but including you in our family, we don't have the financial capability of accepting another person to care for." This absolves them of looking like they don't care, and also sends a clear message that they are unable to assist this PERSON, not the "burden" they made it sound he was. The way you word things to people is very important and powerful. Don't forget that words DO hurt.
People's whose parents made them feel like a burden growing up knows the dept of that soldier feelings.
People is already the plural form of Person, no need to add the ('s)
ik the pain of that man
*depth
@@Midguardsormr ('s) isn't used for making words plural though
Like number 800
He was trying to know his parents reaction before telling them so he lied and said it was his friend
or he gave his arm and leg to his friend, idek
@@GoldenDread1002 deff not
@@GoldenDread1002no, deff what this comment said
@@GoldenDread1002wtf
@@swiftie_reptvstan13HEy I bet that COSTED a arm and a leg
"But You Didn't"
I cried reading this poem.
It was a poem??
@@johanebrown1764It's another poem that's not related to the video.
What is this poem, I want to read it too...😢
@@madihashaikh4787 It's called But you didn't by Merrill Glass
Connection with the war :)@@MysticRixel
Having an injury like that doesn't always mean you'll be dependent on others, but the times you do it usually turns out you meet the best people. If your like that vet please ask for help, there is always someone you can call or a friend that misses you.
I wish this is true
Yeah. You'd think that.
But not always true.
Keep that positive mindset up though.
It will take you places❤❤
there is not always someone you can call or someone that misses you. you clearly dont know anything, but keep up that positive attitude.
When he was released from the military, he lost his support system. People were cruel, especially college kids. They'll say they deserved it, because they're baby killers. My father was spat on and called baby killer when he returned stateside.
Sounds easier than it really is
I’m not crying my eyes are sweating 😭
My demon lover ?
@@matildaxhemollari5335tf u mean??
@@matildaxhemollari5335huh?
@@matildaxhemollari5335WHAT😭
@@matildaxhemollari5335🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨what
The thing the soldier did on the call must have given them even more ptsd and guilt to his parents enough to commit suicide themselves.
He just had L rizz. He's not a sigma, but that's okay. Not everyone is an alpha wolf with a level ten gyatt.
agreed@@Zackattack44448
It's his fault he said it's HIS FRIEND
@@Zackattack44448how can i learn to be so skipidi Alpha w rizz like you?
@@5Thefireking5what the story was is--- he asked his parents If "his friend" could stay even though he had the handicap, it was actually him with the handicap and he wanted to know his parents reaction before he came home
Been a disability advocate for decades, folks aren’t burdens, they are opportunities to expand your knowledge and your humanity.
You know taking care of more people in general takes more time and money, it’s not that simple
@@syebyte3992 it really is and your inability to grasp that is a you problem.
@@Kissindra do not make it seem easy. Taking care of someone with a disability can be extremely time consuming and cost a lot of money depending on the handicap. Im not gonna say you should ditch people, and that they are a burden, but some people just do not have the luxury to be make such a choice.
But I did not say it was easy or free anywhere… you’ve focused on things that might effect you while I’ve focused on the humanity of disabled folks, your failure to see what I wrote as an essential truth is a you problem.
@@Kissindra i was replying to your response to the other guy. He talked about how it wasnt simple due to time and money, and you just said it really was simple, then said it was his problem for not understanding that. I went on to explain how it really isnt that simple since most people cant dedicate the time and money required to do it. Taking care of someone with a handicap is a very large responsibility, and is no where near being simple
As a Vietnamese man, God bless the soldier, I am truly happy you supported my ancestors in the Great Vietnam War.
"They probably would have cared for him because he's their son"
Sure they would have been happy to care for him but all he heard was how difficult he would make their lives
Maybe he should have just told them instead of bringing up taking care of someone else. The son was stupid.
No, all they heard was "hey, I need you to help take care of a complete stranger".
@@zach2011w Tends to be the case with people ready to take their own lives
@@InvitalPulse you didn't read my comment
@@justablackscreen9832 To be fair, there's two ways of interpretation of the comment. One way to read it is the Son is worried about planting the burden of his disabilities on his family. The way Invital probably ready it, as many would. "my parents wouldn't accept me as a disabled person."
I’m not crying you’re crying
Edit: people really don’t like it when I tell them they’re crying 🤣🤣
Akira...
oh not crying this is stupid
@@Eliprater-su7nl okay. You didn’t have to say that.
@@TrashPananda Why not
@@Eliprater-su7nl You're probably not going to heaven ....
I mean there's a huge difference between taking care of your kid and their friend regardless of circumstances
If they were willing to drop the nonexistent friend they'd probably do the same for the son.
If you're flaky you'll flake
@@GaydinRossBut that isn't true, every parent would care for their offspring.Even if they're an amputee,the love they would give will still stay the same.
@@GaydinRossWrong, I'll always prioritize my people over others if the choice is there.
Did someone call me ?@@GaydinRoss
@@LeonBoi7234never say that every parent cares for their offspring online again. There is way to much pain in this world because of how untrue that statement is. People don't react well.
I knew where this was going and STILL felt bad for him.
Veterans, thank you for your service. Your sacrifice is why I live the life I do. Truly the unsung heroes.
I lost both legs and my left hand and my right middle finger and the tip of my ring finger, the Drs and some friends assumed my husband would leave me and they all thought I should be put in a home! Im so glad my family was so offended by that!
I'm so glad you have a good husband and a supportive family! Hope you're doing alright
would you say youre half the guy you used to be
I hope you're doing alright!
@@mira-zv1ugBRO-
@@mira-zv1ug lol half the girl! And i will be stealing this and making it my own! Lol Now that song is in my head and I'm considering making it my theme song! Lol
I think that the parents would have cared for their own son and taken him in but because the son said a friend the parents had no connection and didn’t want to take on the responsibility of caring for someone they don’t know
Thankyou for the likes 👍
Fr, i also thought that
Same so true
True. As someone who works a lot, I wouldn't be able to take care of people who are not related to me. I would try to find a clinic or a home, maybe even pay if I had enough money but def wouldn't take this person home.
But that person being my child, or a close family member, I would do everything and anything necessary to keep them with me and safe. I wouldn't mind taking care of them and even though it would be hard I would do it again and again.
So the correct answer (if they were good people) would be: bring him and here we will see how to help him, and after they arrive, help him find help.
I mean you don't have to take care of him, but you don't have to leave him to his fate either, you don't know under what circumstances the friend was injured, maybe saving your son or something like that (at first I know that that would be the story)
"Someone like that would be a terrible burden on us...we can't let someone like that interfere with our lives."
💔🥺imagine your own parents saying that about u
They did not say that about their son, they said that about a stranger. It's different when your family is involved so he should have just told the truth but It's also true that fighting in a war takes a toll on your mental health as well. So, he was probably extremely sensitive at that time.
As a parent, I trust my children decisions so I would have said "you guys hurry up and get here! We can figure it out!" I've raised awesome men, I have no doubt they are all loving people.
I personally would have told him to bring the friend for a two week trial run so we could see if he's a good fit for the family. Blown up or not, some folks have habits and attitudes that don't mesh well with others. But my kids are a good judge of character as you also said about yours so...
"Suicide doesn't get rid if the pain. It just gives it to others."
- _A_ _Wise_ _Man_
"Damn I'm free from my pain at last."
- The weird fella
Thank you imma save it for when they piss me off 😂😂😂
@devlishlyweird lost a friend to suicide before freshman year, my dads lost too many friends to suicide, some from ptsd from the military.. it's horrible, people who do it don't actually want to die, they feel they have no options.
Double it and give it to the next person
@@devlishlyweirdeverything just goes black. Not a single memory remembers, Just a black screen with no reflection.
Im not crying. I just got back from taking a bath.
same though hair and slong still wet
I am about to take a shower
Yeah, I just yawned not cry 😅
Me too
A bath of tears
me too😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
If I where the parents of that soldier, I would accept them because they sacrifice their lives for us and for the country.
Even though the story might be fake, there are thousands of like it that are absolutely true. Soldiers are neglected and the suicide rate of soldiers is higher than ever. Hug a veteran. Tell him or her you love them. Thank them for what they had done. Give them the shirt off your back. They did the same for you. Whether you realize it or not. ❤
No matter who it was.
If you and my kid served and fight and survived together.
You’ll always have a home.
"Sure, son. We don't have a lot of room, but until you two can get set up with your own place together so you can look after your battle brother, I don't mind taking in your friend." That should've been the answer.
@@Oskanwhitchfather That would've been along the lines of what I would've answered had my brother come back like that and asked that sort of thing. I don't personally have any obligation to his battle buddy, but I do to my brother. If he thinks it's THAT important that he would ask, I would at least mull it over. It's a big favor to ask, i'm well aware of that, but he also lost his limbs for his country so between that and my brother's endorsement, I can at least offer a place to shelter until they get situated and re-acclimated to life back here. It would be a period of adjustment, but we'd make it work.
@@aaronburdon221 See, you _almost_ get it. You don't fully understand it, but you get it enough. Lemme key you into it, Aaron.
When you go to war, the men (and now women) you fight beside, they become your second family. The bond you forge with those you fight, cry, and bleed alongside is stronger than near any other. If a Soldier, Sailor, Airman, or Marine comes home and asks "can we put up my friend?" they're really asking "Do we have room for another brother/sister in the family?"
I've never served (body is too broken for that, unfortunately), but I've always wanted to, and after talking with plenty of veterans from Iraq, Iran, 'Nam, Korea and even a couple from WWII, they've all said the men they fought beside were family. Right bastards, a lot of them, but family all the same.
@@Oskanwhitchfather This is why I would say yes to hosting them for a little while until they got re-acclimated. He's my brother's battle buddy though, not mine. I've never served (half blind, scoliosis, and flat-footed) but I trust my brothers judgement.
🩷❤️💙💜💖💘💝
It hurts more when you watch it twice…
fr
It really does.
I wish I hadn't seen this comment because it's so true
Bro that’s exactly what I did
It’s not even a real story
for people who don't know, he was the friend and he wanted to know if his parents would accept him.
When my son was hurt in Afghanistan, I didn’t care how bad as long as he came home to his family 😢
YOU DIDNT CARE???
@@SpringtrapDoesEditz as long as my son came home, I would have never turn him away . Read it properly in context of the story🙄
@@mandykilpatrick1635 WOMP WOMP
Aww that's so sad.. imagine how their son felt during the call..
if my son told me he had a terrible injury i would care for him , if my sons friends was injured and wanted to live with me that would be a burden .. if he told his parents it was him they obviously would of had a different reaction this story is stupid
Tf that’s a fake story🤣
You look 8 you wouldn't understand @jaytoowavyyy
@@jaytoowavyyyBro can not Reed inbeetwen the lines.
@@BIGDAWG91331 ah yes a picture from 2016 is exactly how i look in 2024
I am sure , they would have had a different perspective for their own son! He was talking about a friend.
they said what they said
It’s not the same thing bruh
@@MF88_ First of all I'm not your bruh and second of all they said in general whoever it was to forget about him so he removed himself so he wouldn't be a problem.
@@user-ng9oc9xf7s bruh doesn’t mean bro
@@MF88_ I don't care what it means just don't call me that
Bro took "its gonna cost an arm and a leg" to seriously
The scenario was to see how his parents would inevitably start to feel about him. The son felt if they had no empathy for a stranger, empathy for him would have its expiration date. He didn’t wanna burden them, as they put it.
This is flawed logic based on insecurities. We've seen examples of such self sacrifice time and time again when it comes to caring for your loved ones. Hell my uncle was there for my grandma until Alzheimer's took her away from us. You ignore the good in humanity.
@@FlamingVaIIey Never said there is no good in humanity. Let’s look at the facts, shall we? He was honorably discharged because of his injuries. His thinking is not that of someone who hasn’t seen war. He does not feel like the man he once was, and clearly cares about others, and also willing to die for that cause. What other explanation could you give for why he presented his situation to his parents this way and committed suicide right after their view point of a stranger realistically to their knowledge in his situation? Because he cared for his parents, he didn’t want to burden them with having to look after him as I stated before. That was his humanity!
It’s sick what some people will do if they feel lonely or unloved. Everyone should feel loved
if my son told me he had a terrible injury i would care for him , if my sons friends was injured and wanted to live with me that would be a burden .. if he told his parents it was him they obviously would of had a different reaction this story is stupid
@@jaytoowavyyyyeah you would obviously accept your son with no arms but they said people with such disabilities are burdens he probably thought that if he moved back deep down they would think he was a burden and wish that he was a “normal” son and that they wouldn’t love him the same way
@@Iluvwaffless nah not the same thing
@@jaytoowavyyyyou completely missed the mark here he had no friend the one missing an arm and leg was the son he wanted to know how his parents would react to having to take care of a person without one arm and leg and when they said he was a burden he didn't want them to be burdened
not me getting mad at your comment
It is a difference between a friend and a son
I know right
True, but if you knew your parents thought people with handicaps are burdens, a part of you would always believe that they think that you too, are a burden
@@ReStartermusicbut it was a dumb question what were they supposed to say. Yeah son bring your friend well devote our lives to making this STRANGER comfortable.
But that's what they think about a crippled person, A BURDEN.
@@nickcarballo6039fr 😂
Omg I’m crying so bad, but for people who are seeing this and feel this way, a person you don’t know and someone like your mum, there’s a big difference. Your never alone ❤
I have seen this so many times and just understood it 😢it’s so sad that he thought that his family thought of him that way. I’m sure that if he had come home and told his parents they would have helped him. Always get help from someone if you need something.
I think all parents would react differently tbh like if my son called me and said I lost an arm and a leg on a land mine, I would take care of them but if my son called and said their "firend" a complete stranger lost an arm and a leg I'd be skeptical to..
Why would you be skeptical ?
@@krittikabiswas8500because they ain't our relative or close too. Why would you let stranger come to live in your family so easily?
@@Kimkim-gl6qc Yes, if he/she is my child's close friend who has fought alongside them in battlefield and is in a predicament with nowhere to go? A million yes's in a heartbeat.
This twist shattered my heart 😭😭😭😭😭
If a soldier needed a place to live and talked to me about it, I'd give them them the master bedroom, im 19 I wanted to become a marine all my life but once I got outta high-school I found out I was a diabetic by almost dying, I was greedy and got sick and thought it was a cold, for 2 weeks I couldn't eat or drink anything even water, I just puked it right back up, started having breathing problems then went to the hospital, I was in a severe diabetic ketoacidosis and severely dehydrated the doctors said I was minutes away from death...... when it hit me that I became a diabetic at 17 and couldn't join the military a part of me died inside.... still is..... but I respect and thank all men and women who put there lives on the line for our freedom, I will always have there backs🤘
Even a war couldn’t take his life but a few word strips out his whole soul.
You could say that he paid an arm and a leg to get back, he really needed a helping hand
Bruh
diabolical, and I love it😂
@@jehoshjebaraj6284same lol
They said "break a leg" but he didn't have one😞
@@Hideyokids13 they said "break a leg!" and so he did
I thought the military has a duty to inform the family of someone when they’re injured.
They do
They do...
But military incompetence is nothing new.
Issue is this story is 100% fake.
People forget the military is run by ordinary average iq men and women who make clerical mistakes sometimes
He was trying to get their genuine reaction, without allowing them to hide it because he was their son.
I legit thought it was going to be a friend who saved his life. This didn't go the way I expected.
I've heard this before! It was so sad...
No you don't. I love the enthusiasm by the way.
@@YusukeXD What??
@@PurpleBreezes133 Where is the article about the story? i can't find it.
Old story. Probably not true.
Damn why are people being mean? I mean ive heard tens to thousands pf stories that arent published and not everyone hes to be prick.
(Im talking about people responding to you)
Of course I would accept them and would happily help with anything and everything they may need help with.😊
This actually brought a tear to my eye
If I were the parent, I would’ve said yes. Even if they might be a burden, they can’t be left alone if they’re that vulnerable/damaged. I even would’ve worked longer to make more money to care for them. Always love everyone- even handicapped people
There’s a difference between helping a random soldier and helping your own son. The parents would’ve had no problem caring for their son.
Did you listen? They said they'd love to meet the "random person" until they heard he had a leg and arm missing
@@Andrei_Antonovwell yeah i would love to meet a guy who is friends with my son but I wouldnt want to live with them if they were crippled lol
@@Andrei_Antonov did YOU listen? Bro said "he lost an arm and a leg, and I WANT HIM TO LIVE WITH US" 😂. The father said he'd help find him a place to live
@@Andrei_Antonov I don't even want to let a person who is completely fine to LIVE in my house. Especially if it's someone who's completely fine, bc u can afford ur own things and live a life.
@@honeybunnydeadchannel.4737 Clearly you not understand that the parents knew the question would come up
I heard that and I put my hands over my face and started crying
If a parent ever said that to a kid will be a heartbreaking emotion
Building:
My mind picturing: oh..ok… a Cliff 😅😂
I just stared blankly after i heard he had one arm and one leg when his parents saw him
Son: so….I’m a burden?
Father: what? Where did you hear that!?
Son: from YOU.
if my son told me he had a terrible injury i would care for him , if my sons friends was injured and wanted to live with me that would be a burden .. if he told his parents it was him they obviously would of had a different reaction this story is stupid
@@jaytoowavyyy Well...he IS a burden. He should know and accept that fact. The fact that the parents would still willingly bear the burden for him is what will lead to gratitude.
@@jaytoowavyyy I agree
@@jaytoowavyyyYeah that's exactly what I was gonna say. There's a big difference between helping a family member who is disabled and helping a random stranger. It's not like the parents were even mean, they said they'd help him find a place to live. I think most of the people who don't agree with the parents in this video are kids who haven't really experienced how life is. You can only help random strangers so much, if you try to help everyone all the time it starts impacting your life and happiness. If anyone reads this and disagrees with me go out and find some homeless vets (unfortunately there's a lot of them) and invite a couple of them to stay in your house for an indeterminate amount of time and let me know how it goes. Not saying we should do nothing, but we can help a bit and the government should find a safe place for these people to stay.
@@Zoroaster4 yeah i mean im only 18… and i hate to sound like a bad person but honestly i know myself and i know that most likely i wouldn’t help a random disabled stranger .. obviously if it’s a family member im gonna help but that wasn’t the case
Not many of these stories make me react most,but this made me so sad 😭
The feelings this story gives 😭
I’m not crying. Rain is dripping from the roof😭😭
Thats in my Moral Science Book 💀 Even the Words are the Same
He was testing them but he didn't like the results... truly heart breakin💔
Those popsicles looked kinda fire
At first, I thought the dude took the arm and a leg, but then I realized that the “son” was the friend of him
If I was the parents of that man I would feel utterly ashamed of myself
Hmm idk parents think diff of strangers and sons
Nah the parents were right they just didn't want to take care of a crippled stranger and ruin thier lives
if my son told me he had a terrible injury i would care for him , if my sons friends was injured and wanted to live with me that would be a burden .. if he told his parents it was him they obviously would of had a different reaction this story is stupid
@@KK-oziwodbfje I get what ur saying so that could be a possibility
Ok so ignoring the fact that this story is blatantly fake.
The son was a dumbass people think and act differently based on the relationship they have with someone, someone who you don't know at all is going to get treated EXTREMELY differently than your own flesh and blood.
Why would the parents be ashamed if this was the case? Even if their child was a burden as a parent you don't give a damn it's your kid, but a stranger you think twice before helping.
I feel like im surrounded by these people and its driving me into oblivion. I need love
I can relate to the soldier. I was born with a disability and the love from my parents was always conditional. I was always treated like a burdon more than a son. My grandma was just about the only person who loved me unconditionally. My mom cared more about what total strangers thought than how her own son felt. This is why i have trust issues. When anyone is nice to me i always question their motive.
But yeah a parent's love that is conditional changes a person, and not for the better.
I am sorry that you went through that, a parents love should be unconditionally. Sadly a lot of parents shouldn't have become parents.
IF THIS MADE ME CRY IMAGINE HOW BAD THE PARENTS FEEL...
I think he was embarrassed that he was handicapped so he didn’t tell them he was the “friend”
I've always taken in those with special needs. Everyone, including pets, wildlife and people, has been welcomed into my home with open arms. My oldest "child" was 77 years old and the most unique was a baby raccoon. Epilepsy plagues my pup. Another child has autism. We just make it work!
"cost an arm and a leg"💀💀💀
Bruh if they knew it was their son they'd obviously have a different reaction, probably take him in. This short is stupid
Excuse me sir but the short is not stupid imagine if it was you. you are so cruel
@EmmanuellaOjeaha oh yeah coz instead of telling my parents I lost an arm and a leg in combat, I'd say I'm bringing a friend who's a cripple instead. They'd obviously be less likely to take care of an extra person that they have no emotional attachment with, who is a cripple. If they knew from the get go that it was their son, which parents would look after him?
@@Emm873 idiot
I think he wanted to hear their honest opinion about the situation. Of course if they knew it was him they would take care of him and not make him feel like a burden. But they may develop some resentment towards him and/or keep their true feelings to himself.
@@kharose nowhere near as much as a taking care of a stranger
Wow I didn’t expect to cry today 😢
bro got a weak heart 💀
@@FusionScythe123 yup 👍
It’s really sad but if they had known it was their own son maybe it would have been a different response idk but my heart goes out to him
He was still an incredible climber apparently
Nobody would take a random person with 1 arm and 1 leg in, if it was their son then they definitely would. This makes no sense.
Exactly. And they even said they would find a suitable accomodation to help him with all of these but these peoples in comment section are too blind to see that.
@@soniyaitis Glad somebody agrees.
Like it would really take alot of work taking care of someone that has 1 leg and 1 arm. If its your child you would think they would take care of him if the child came out of the mother and they watched him get birthed, his first birthday and so much more, why would you just randomly accept someone disabled. Even if the "friend" wasnt disabled i think they would still not let him.
This is from the Chris Ledoux song, “Silence on the Line” where instead of going to war he got crippled at a rodeo
I'd gladly take the soldier in! No one should be shunned for that!
“I gotta friend” has been code for ITS ME a very long time
I’m not crying just something got in my eyes
I would help the friend as well because you should always help people in need
At least one person has sense...
I saw that twist coming "Oh I'm asking for my friend." Personally I'd be willing to take him in so long as he agreed to try and get to self-sufficiency.
For those who don't understand...the son is the hurt one who stepped on a landmine. He didn't have a friend. So he killed himself.
Hold on if a soldier told their parents that their friend lost an arm and a leg how is it? Damn, if they’re literally what I am so confused right now, someone just tell me the truth was at soldier, telling the news or was they actually the son, and then the sun duplicated himself
I think the son was testing the parents by telling them that it was a friend who was handicapped and hearing all that about handicapped ppl being a burden he took his life... Idk maybe im wrong
i had an aneurism reading this💀😭
@@mikaelgaddis5850fr
Huh?
@@nicolesiol well that’s spelling not grammar. but go off😂 u right either way, ian spell it right. i think u worried abt the wrong thing tho
Salute to soldier
Shit, this genuinely made me cry…
I can't even imagine the pain he felt those days he cut the communication with those 1d1ots.
THE WAY MY JAW DROPPED-
well,
tgats sad😢
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And even it's just a little story. This was very true for many soldiers coming from Vietnam..
That’s crazy. I literally thought of this story yesterday after not thinking about it for a very long time. RUclips is officially reading minds now 😮
The soldier must have been going through so much pain to make that call. I can't imagine the guilt the parents must feel now.
i mean it’s the sons fault for telling his parents it was a complete stranger that was injured and not their own son tho .. they clearly would’ve had a different perspective
@@jaytoowavyyyhe wanted to se the parents section *reaction
@@Im_egg126 yes but your parents would have a different reaction to you being disabled as opposed to a complete stranger
@@jaytoowavyyy i don’t think it’s matter if it’s your son or a stranger. This is why I hate this generation, you only help the people who are close or you know. But not a completely stranger, strangers also have feeling
@@Im_egg126 so what you’re telling me is if i knocked on your door saying im homeless i need a place to stay, you’re letting me stay in your house?
Am i the asshole for not even crying?
Nope
No but I mean you should probably feel a little bit of remorse if u don’t ur a psychopath probs bro
No it's a ai story and has a chance of being fake or real
@@Iluvwafflessah yes im a psychopat because im stone hearted dang
Son should've known the love the parents have for him can never be compared with a love for a stranger. The parents would've taken the son in, whatever state in came in. Your own is always your own, there is a natural connection.
"Well your parents are permanently gone tho"
Batman: 👁👄👁
How did bro get to the top of a building with one arm and one leg? Like that’s a lot of stairs to hobble over
elevator
😂
Imagine if the cops said that he lost his arm and a leg due to the fall
You know, you can make this story sad, but also think it’s the friend that stole his arm and leg for himself…
There was no friend
i saw that coming as soon as they said he asked his parents to “bring his friend over”
Of course I’d take the soldier in. He has become like a brother to my son and as such is an honorary kid of mine.
I would accept him, no questions asked 😢
Same, this man could've gotten injured saving my son, maybe he was the only thing that kept my son mentally stable in the war, perhaps they were in love.
Doesn't matter the reason. Whatever the reason, my son has some strong feelings if he's asking to bring home a disabled comrade to take care of indefinitely and I'm going to welcome that man with open arms.
Cap
@@kimberlyrichardson5943except you don't know the parent's thought process or reasoning. We dont know the whole conversation
It's highly possible the parents' reasoning was that their son would already have a hard time coming back from the war, and they'd be better able to care for him without another person to care for.
It's also possible that if he'd straight up told them it was himself, or if he said that friend was important to him, they would have welcomed him openly and gladly cared for him even with the new disabilities
The video just said 'friend', so it's possible they thought it was just another guy
Also possible this specific story is fake and there were no thought processes 🤷♀️
Wtf this is just sad
his prosthetics were talking to the parents for real
When you love someone, they're no burden,
It's taking care of someone you don't love that is exhausting.
No sir, army personnel is the most toughest guy in earth mentally and phisically, they should not commit suicide. He should go on set as an example for everyone.
Forcing someone to live up to an image of "toughness" is sickening. Everyone is allowed to be honest about how they are doing and there should be support in place to care for them mentally as well as physically.
An average of 22 veterans a day commit suicide.
Veterans have sacrificed a lot for us and come back with horrific mental and physical disabilities that are largely ignored by the very country they served.
They've been tough, far tougher than you or me, that's what's causing the suicide problem.
Thats just so
So here's the wording of "no".
"I'm sorry son, but including you in our family, we don't have the financial capability of accepting another person to care for."
This absolves them of looking like they don't care, and also sends a clear message that they are unable to assist this PERSON, not the "burden" they made it sound he was.
The way you word things to people is very important and powerful. Don't forget that words DO hurt.
They didn’t catch the “i have a friend” but it’s really me vibe… heartbreaking for everyone.