How To Deal With Quarrelsome Wife | Paul Friedman
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- Опубликовано: 20 сен 2024
- Are you married to a quarrelsome wife? Paul explains in this video how to deal with this problem.
This guy dies and he's on his way to heaven and he sees two lines. One line, there's a sign that says "henpecked husbands form a line here" an old term I know but you can imagine what a henpecked husband means, and the other one says "non-henpecked husbands form line here."
Nobody's in that line so the guy says, "Hey, might as well." He goes up to the front of the line and St. Peter says, "What are you doing here?" And that guy says, "Hey, my wife told me to get into this line and that's where I'm going to stand." And so, men often go, "Why is my wife like this? What's going on?"
I don't know, but I do know this. It's okay. It's not okay if you take it on or if you react, then it's not okay. But it's okay because they are who they are, your wife is who she is whether it's a common character trait or an individual trait -- it doesn't make any difference.
It's your wife. You committed to love her, be supportive of her, take care of her and be there. You're not there to criticize her. When you actually are looking for this kind of video, you're
actually being critical of her. You're labeling her as a quarrelsome wife which is crazy.
There's an old saying you have a piano, it's got 88 keys. You don't throw it out because it's got one broken key. You'd work around it, you work around these things. Instead of working
on her being quarrelsome and here's what I want to share with you. You work on you being
even-minded. You recognize that when you're reacting to whatever you're getting from her
it's your reactions that you have control over.
You can't control her. You have free will, I'm not lecturing you, by the way, I just get excited about this because no one talks about this stuff. We have free will and we use it to choose between chocolate and vanilla ice cream. You use your free will to evolve yourself, to make yourself progress.
What does that mean?
You're design, you're a soul. You're meant to enjoy all the time, always happy regardless of the situation, to stand unshaken, amidst the crash of breaking worlds - that's it and you can do that but you can't do that by changing the world or by changing your wife. You could do it by changing yourself.
How do you do that?
I would say get one of my books. The books are great for marriage, you'll learn everything that you ever want to know about marriage in a lot more too but if you're serious about really wanting to improve yourself, and I hope you are even though that's not why you came here. Get the course for men, it's a phenomenal self-help path for you as an individual
so you can be happy.
You got married to be happy. You want to be happy every day your life. You want to be happier than you were the day before and that can be the case but not by changing your wife but by changing you. I hope this works out for you, I hope this works for you. I hope you understand this because it is not just like the ultimate way, it is the only way otherwise you'll be frustrated your entire life. Change yourself you change thousands. Try to change one you're going to go nuts - it's not going to work.
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This doesn’t make a lot of sense to me. If my wife is quarrelsome - frequently picking fights and speaking unkindly to me, co-workers, family, even perfect strangers at the grocery store - that means she is not being Christ like towards others. The man is supposed to just tolerate this, not lead her to conform more to Christlikeness, but instead “work on himself?”
It does make sense but not to your fixation on wanting to be "the man". You might be better enlightened as you you watch more of the videos and start to understand the unconditional love you should be feeling.
I agree with you bulldog. iF the guy in the video had a wife nagging in the background... would he 'work around it'.... no he would have to confront or avoid.
@@TheMarriageFoundation I have unconditional love for people I care about. This is why I will tell someone not to annoy me and I will ask someone that if i annoy them to let me know. This is real communication. The bible talks about living on the roof instead of in a house of a quarrelsome wife also.
Once, someone cut in line in front of her. She yelled, insulted the woman’s race and threatened to fight her. Was I supposed to say, “It’s ok- it’s who you are, and we simply can’t change who you are....” Hardly! We are to be peacemakers, and not repay evil with evil. We must love our wives but that does not mean excusing/justifying sinful behavior. Rom. 12:9
There is more you can do that would be loving than what you currently imagine. I share the principles here with little examples but until you tie all the principles together its not possible to be in service to your wife as you are supposed to be.
@@TheMarriageFoundation In the situation above, I immediately separated the two women before someone got punched. What to do/say next, is what I need to figure out. I will watch more of the video material on this channel.
Christianity is about becoming something we are not:
Becoming like Christ,
Continuously (without stagnation which is actually backsliding).
When I'm at the crossroads of my free will, do I aim up towards my higher nature or aim down into the rut of ego consciousness?
Amen ! Thank you sir for sharing your thoughts .
Honored to do so 🙏
You can live without them. Draw the line.
Most people want to be married and live harmoniously It requires knowing how because nobody is perfect
Dealing with women is such a common hinderance your page is popping my boy. Cant live with them. Cant live without em
That's what women say, too. We all need to learn these teachings so we can live with each other harmoniously.
Men think and want to blame the woman. However its real them who are the issue
It is both. But it only takes one to create a great marriage for both of you
@TheMarriageFoundation reason I say this is because married 34 yrs. Husband chose to have 2 affairs. 1st one he's said didn't mean anything. The 2nd one he met at church. . He decided to leave me for this girl who is 20 yrs younger. We have been seperated for 11 yrs. He was with her for 6 yrs . She left him since he didn't Divorce me even though we were in our finally court days. He called it off. Came back to the marriage 3 different times and evntually kept going back to her . I fought for my husband and our marriage. They are not together however he still says he loves her. We have been trying to restore the marriage but its not working. He argues with me. He says I argue with him and I'm the problem.
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Ok Tried to not respond in a negative way to her nagging. Now she cheated with some other dad from school and wants to leave. What do I do? I guess showing some more backbone might have helped...
It would not have helped. Women who cheat are ususally badly "broken" and that's not about a quarelsome wife
Thank you
Awesome 👌
Thank you for the insight sir... I have been married for only four months now and i noticed my wife to be a nagging wife...so Terrible..
You really need the courses....or, ask her if she would like the premarital course...
Great advice God bless you
Thank you. GOD bless you, too