How to Deal with Violent Wife | Paul Friedman
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- Опубликовано: 15 ноя 2021
- As Paul speaks about how to deal with a violent wife you will see a side of Paul that you probably haven't experienced before. We think you will like his advice.
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This is really hard to accept. If the man is abusive, all articles and videos tell them woman to leave and abusers never change. This is telling me to tell her shes beautiful while she's hitting me...
As for restraining her, if shes heightened to the point she's physically attacking me then restraining her will only cause her to scream the street down and then accuse me of physical violence.
I think it's a little risky and potentially really dangerous to recommend physical restraint especially with no training how to restrain someone: this could quite easily lead to a very dangerous escalation.
You are right of course, in some situations. But for the most part the cure is not in what you do as a reaction but what you do to heal your connection with your wife and build the love. The vows we make are to love unconditionally so that is the emphasis and that lack of a deep connection is what makes your marriage difficult.
Wow I just tried doing this with my wife. And it worked wonderfully. Thanks for the help.
This is, in my opinion, the best video you have posted. It’s concise, empathetic and extremely practical with suggestions for improving marriage. Thank you!
The demons feed on anger. God protect us all
Thank you sir! This one is really powerful!!!
Many thanks for these very useful tips
This really good thank you. Daemons!! ah that is what thought as well
❤thank you for the video ❤
Golden advice!
Man, so good! I wish I had this about 5 years ago. But, now I feel confident I could diffuse before things ever even got violent. Love your videos, brother
Thnk you.🙏🏽
Proud of you Sir ! I am her husband
Thank you for this advice . I didn’t know whether or not I could get in legal trouble for this . I did this and it worked except I didn’t think about telling her how much i love her . But i did pray out loud and for a bit it made her more angry but then started crying , almost like wailing but she calmed down . But she still won't admit that she tried throwing things or hurting me . I believe theres still a lot of shame and guilt around that . I wish i would know how to make her feel like I'm on her side . I have to learn not to respond to my triggers but it's scary because I put a lot of trust in her support when she's not triggered and angry. Please Pray for us .
Of course I pray for you..a bit of advice is to never expect her to give you anything back, like confessions and such. She is working on her own stuff and her marriage in her own way. Just be loving and supportive.
Good Video. Do you talk about children too ?
This made me cry so hard. I want that kind of containment so badly. Men are mostly afraid to step up. They run away and shame.
Umm…excuse me? If you hit ME, I’d leave you too. Because you’re an abuser.
Basically when she is losing it, a man needs to put the other cheek.. I was expecting different type of advice like accountability and boundaries that both need to have when they are in a relationship… I understand that men needs to stay cool when the storm is coming but to restrain an emotionally disturbed woman…
We get married to our soulmate and that is a two edged sword. On one edge is the opportunity to learn to love unconditionally andd on the other edge we must overcome our mind's judgments. It is easier when you understand the true nature of your self and of marriage.
@@TheMarriageFoundation your comment sounds poetic, I don’t think we marry our soulmate, there is no evidence about that. We believe we are in love or we think we love but in the beginning it is just our brains serotonin doing all the work. It is keeping us from seeing reality!! We adjust and learn over time, yes we learn from each other but we cannot just restrain a mentality unstable modern woman. That’s why I don’t agree with this person.
I am not in the habit of arguing with skeptics. But I will say just because you never tasted the love that is beyond the mind its pretty audacious to think that we who have are all delusional. Love, that is love that transcends the mind, is absoutey real. You, too can experience it. It is right there within you. 🙏
You make it sound so easy. Flight is the only thing I know that works. Once emotionally hurt women in general will go to very dark places. I get we are the protectors but this is not as easy as just saying don't get upset
It is not easy at all, but with practice we get better and better at remaining in a positive place and can become stronger husbands
If i was to try to restrain her she would call the cops on me.
Well, better leave that out
Bad advice. My ex turned out to have a personality disorder. Love does nothing but empowers her
Unfortunately for you to believe that. Marrriage means supporting our loved ones, not abandoning them
I'm the husband and I'm hurt and I'm sad and I'm not just angry. That's not accurate to say about men,I'm obviously listening to this for a reason and primarily because I want my marriage to work and to be a father to my children. So please don't label men as angry. That hurts.
You must be a very different man. Anger is pretty much the norm for nearly all men.
It always an excuse for women but for men...it's not.
Excuses are an all-around problem. Working on oneself is always the way to go.
Is there a video for violent husbands?
Yes, for the wives.
@@TheMarriageFoundation can you forward the link?
my bad. I looked and it isn't there. I will ask our producer to find a good title for one in the future
Men doing this save relationships
It is going to help the relationship but if it only too one thing to have a great marriage that would be nice...but not real.