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  • @DrJulie
    @DrJulie  7 месяцев назад +279

    Hi I'm Dr. Julie subscribe & follow me for lots more videos on mental health and psychology.
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    • @St4r_Olliee
      @St4r_Olliee 7 месяцев назад +2

      Ur an amazing person xx u are an amazing role model ❤❤❤

    • @debangeeroy2303
      @debangeeroy2303 6 месяцев назад +1

      Dr. Julie can you tell me how to deal with insomnia .

    • @a.clancy9843
      @a.clancy9843 3 месяца назад

      Be careful out there😮

  • @esrazhilivoda9433
    @esrazhilivoda9433 Год назад +16095

    As Whitney Hanson said in one of her poems
    "I wish we treated broken hearts like broken bones
    And send ambulances for broken souls"

  • @horror990
    @horror990 11 месяцев назад +1776

    You forgot the part where someone comes in and berates you for being 'lazy'

    • @caitlinbyrne9601
      @caitlinbyrne9601 7 месяцев назад +29

      Exactly. 😪

    • @Ameliax_Frier
      @Ameliax_Frier 5 месяцев назад

      and useless telling me to kill myself

    • @teikosamee9028
      @teikosamee9028 4 месяца назад +27

      Yeah. At this point people don’t even care about mental health.

    • @Carolina-fe3vd
      @Carolina-fe3vd 4 месяца назад +25

      @@teikosamee9028some people just think it’s an excuse 🙃

    • @teikosamee9028
      @teikosamee9028 4 месяца назад +4

      @@Carolina-fe3vd exactly.

  • @hydersyed7998
    @hydersyed7998 Год назад +2910

    Even in physical health, if you are sick for a week, people will empathize with you. Past that people will get tired of you.

    • @alicerosetrevormusic
      @alicerosetrevormusic Год назад +223

      Chronic illness, in severe pain 24/7 and am told "you look like your doing good" you can't see physical or mental pain. And when any illness is long term, people loose compassion.

    • @famenorakotoniaina9640
      @famenorakotoniaina9640 11 месяцев назад +69

      It's always sadden my heart😢 my mother was going back and forth to the hospital for months, and only few people visited her at the end.. I was so surprised and sad and shocked and angry... Sadly, she didn't make it, and theb everyone was there.... I ignored most of them, especially the one that promised to visit her but never came, my mother was really feeling lonely during her last days

    • @studentamir4930
      @studentamir4930 11 месяцев назад +19

      It's can be like people don't know how to deal with other peoples mental health. And usually nobody knows about it to

    • @magorzatazielinska6094
      @magorzatazielinska6094 11 месяцев назад +28

      True, sorry for my English is not my native language.
      I have twisted my knee 3 years ago, my friends from work were all nice, helped me a lot, even that I didn't ask for it. It wasn't so bad, it last for 2-3 months and I have recovered.
      3 months ago I twisted it again and this time it is broken. It is much worse, now I must have operation, I live in Europe so we have it free from health care, but I must wait for it.
      The same friends said "Whats the problem? Your hands are fine, stop complaining some people having bigger problems"
      I am single, have problems with walking, family in different city, but have some close friends who I can ask for a help. I don't want or need help from people at work. I can do things by myself, I need only being nice and some empathy.

    • @hilla3353
      @hilla3353 11 месяцев назад

      I feel it's more like people validate you only if they see your "problem".
      Broken leg? They see the cast, so it must be true.
      Invisible health condition/mental health issue? "I can't see that so it must be fake"

  • @joseywales5743
    @joseywales5743 11 месяцев назад +768

    Facts. As soon as I had a serious mental breakdown my wife's family went from loving me to convincing my wife to leave me.

    • @bayan9875
      @bayan9875 11 месяцев назад +7

      Maybe because of the way you're treating her?

    • @kitkatttt_45
      @kitkatttt_45 11 месяцев назад +185

      @@bayan9875why are you immediately assuming that it means he's mistreating his wife?

    • @KafkasFavouritePerson
      @KafkasFavouritePerson 11 месяцев назад +80

      @@bayan9875 bro you just straight up assumed that he wa mistreating his wife.....

    • @bloddrinkeraka
      @bloddrinkeraka 11 месяцев назад +13

      ​@@KafkasFavouritePersonbecause commenter is obviously hiding the context

    • @k4ss_nymphenkora
      @k4ss_nymphenkora 11 месяцев назад +65

      ​@@bloddrinkeraka he dosent need to tell his whole life story to the internet- 💀

  • @shezdi5503
    @shezdi5503 Год назад +8108

    mental health is so important

    • @yourdaily_memer
      @yourdaily_memer Год назад +26

      5 words and I understand you
      The 5 words:
      Me: I relate

    • @deltabolmont6241
      @deltabolmont6241 Год назад +69

      No one understands.
      😢
      I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder in 2019.
      Since than my wife left,my friends left, my family left and now I’m all alone.

    • @yourdaily_memer
      @yourdaily_memer Год назад +24

      @@deltabolmont6241 now that’s just sad

    • @deltabolmont6241
      @deltabolmont6241 Год назад +15

      @@yourdaily_memer I agree!!!
      But can’t do much about it.

    • @yourdaily_memer
      @yourdaily_memer Год назад +6

      @@deltabolmont6241 true

  • @cashapphambagel
    @cashapphambagel Год назад +67

    What's the most messed up about it is that people think you can just stop anytime you want to

  • @umapriya4982
    @umapriya4982 Год назад +758

    Yes exactly but even worst people just blame you , tease you and even insult you about that and refuse to help you even your family won't support you

    • @djbond6241
      @djbond6241 Год назад +12

      TRUE THE WHOLE SYSTEM IS BROKEN 😢😢😢

    • @bashirayaseen2344
      @bashirayaseen2344 11 месяцев назад +8

      And you just leave it on your luck whether you're gonna survive or not 😭I hate it here Idk what's wrong with me if my mental health is not good or what😢😢

    • @chrisferi7478
      @chrisferi7478 11 месяцев назад +8

      even the professionals aren t serious

    • @istoleyourgender
      @istoleyourgender 11 месяцев назад +8

      And also accuse you of lying and seeking attention :3

    • @yafyouranalystfriend6958
      @yafyouranalystfriend6958 11 месяцев назад +4

      You are the only caretaker of yourself
      Remember some external energy created this world and that is always with you
      So be confident what you are doing and never doubt yourself never ever

  • @stephrice7297
    @stephrice7297 Год назад +65

    If you're in the hospital for a mental health reason, no one will bring you flowers or give you a get well soon card

    • @janets7291
      @janets7291 7 месяцев назад +9

      Both times that I was in a psych unit I was waaay too ashamed to let my friends know. Didn't matter the second time since I wasn't allowed visitors anyway.

    • @A-Wa
      @A-Wa 6 месяцев назад

      @@janets7291same! didnt say anything to almost all of my friend and non of them even reached out for me. Like I was gone for two months and no one thought about me in that time

    • @Seafoamworks99
      @Seafoamworks99 3 месяца назад

      And the staff half the time are egging you on to kill yourself after they kick you out

  • @LeadTrumpet1
    @LeadTrumpet1 Год назад +593

    My experience is sympathy and gifts are typically only given for acute physical health issues. Chronic physical health experiences are more like mental health.

    • @WateryFire
      @WateryFire Год назад +68

      Yep, with chronic pain you just become annoying.

    • @rhea89
      @rhea89 Год назад +18

      I agree

    • @ini9558
      @ini9558 Год назад +22

      ​@@WateryFire you can also become annoyed with others

    • @thekingsdaughter4233
      @thekingsdaughter4233 Год назад +5

      ​@@ini9558 yes. And then we have an explosion... 😞

    • @becky2235
      @becky2235 Год назад +21

      Yes how dare you mention you feel like you're being tortured! My parents call me names and get really nasty I'd I say when I'm having a flare up they start banging around and slamming doors well what do you want me to do about it? All that crap
      Nothing just wanted someone to listen

  • @MissC8888
    @MissC8888 Год назад +1917

    Mental health issues hurt a lot more than anything physical can, people think because you look okay, that you are but a smile and a well kept appearance can hide a lot of pain from the world. By the way I do suffer from both cronic physical and mental pain, so I am talking from my personal experience.

    • @MayhemMoth
      @MayhemMoth Год назад +83

      I think both pains should be taken seriously and shouldn't be placed above one another as more or less painful. As if something happened like you got shot that can not only kill you but that also is going to likely damage your mental health anyways. The problem arises when people only have empathy for what they can physically see like physical injuries. Leaving these other people suffering. Thats just my take though! Wishing you the best!

    • @MissC8888
      @MissC8888 Год назад +9

      @@MayhemMoth Good points, wish you the best too.

    • @alicerosetrevormusic
      @alicerosetrevormusic Год назад +36

      @@MayhemMoth Chronic illness, in severe pain 24/7 and am told "you look like your doing good" you can't see physical or mental pain. And when any illness is long term, people loose compassion.

    • @djbond6241
      @djbond6241 Год назад +2

      Yes,LOOK AT WHAT WHITNEY HOUSTON DID TO HER MIND & BODY WITH DRUGS AND ALCOHOL TOO....

    • @MayhemMoth
      @MayhemMoth Год назад +2

      @Alice Trevor I see, thankyou for sharing your experiences! I did not consider that perspective before, so thankyou for sharing yours with me. Im sorry people treat you like that, and i hope you at the very least you find some relief with your condition and you find people who will understand and show you kindness.

  • @adamwhite1556
    @adamwhite1556 Год назад +74

    So true this. Nobody seems to give a shit when you’re going through a mental storm but when you’re physically unwell everyone is there asking about you.

    • @maru_5969
      @maru_5969 3 месяца назад

      This is exactly why somatization exists

    • @LittleOne968
      @LittleOne968 3 месяца назад

      Unless you have a chronic illness that is invisible. Then no one is there for you. At first they may have been, but you didn’t get better and you look completely normal most of the time. So you go at it alone and have to be strong. But yeah, what she’s putting on her video is legit. And it’s really too bad that people won’t reach out to check in on her. Even if she hasn’t reached out first.

  • @tammythompson5738
    @tammythompson5738 Год назад +426

    I suffering from anxiety and loneliness

    • @princejain8
      @princejain8 Год назад +41

      welcome to the world of more than a billion people.

    • @tammythompson5738
      @tammythompson5738 Год назад +16

      @@princejain8 Thanks for anything

    • @camillafutsther274
      @camillafutsther274 Год назад +42

      Same here. I hope you’re anxiety gets better soon and that you find some good people in your life. I have dogs and they are a great comfort.

    • @gaffartarraf2260
      @gaffartarraf2260 Год назад +26

      🌹🌹🌹❤️❤️ you're not alone
      I support you 🤗

    • @beatrixkiddo7226
      @beatrixkiddo7226 Год назад +11

      I know it will change, it will be okay, remember that the moment of life you are in is just a moment that passes quickly and other days come.

  • @kitkattie1906
    @kitkattie1906 Год назад +237

    It's sad but true. No one want to see the pain that can't be seen. So people push it aside in hopes that it will go away. Others don't want to feel the emotional pain of others and be stuck with the burden, so ignoring has become the normal.
    Its easier to gift a present to someone with a broken leg, knowing the pain is temporary (one present at the start) , then to gift a present to someone struggling mentally, not knowing how long u will be "stuck" with them (a present everytime they feel down) . The world really needs to change. 😞

    • @mycute-little-heart
      @mycute-little-heart 11 месяцев назад +3

      Yeah 😢

    • @evyvilay8486
      @evyvilay8486 Месяц назад

      I think people are afraid of mental health issues as if it were contagious

  • @ilike_splatoon
    @ilike_splatoon Год назад +121

    having to struggle with both at the same time (especially when mental problems are caused by the physical health.) is pretty awful. people say “oh i hope you get better soon!” and “im so sorry to hear that.. i hope you feel better :(“ so you just kinda say “yeah hopefully.” even though deep down, you think it will never end. it’s a feeling like your drowning in an endless ocean of pain and sadness, but you just have to mask the emotional and mental side of it until that mask eventually breaks and they see your true colours.
    to anyone suffering, just know that im rooting for you. you can do this. i don’t care who you are, where you’re from, what you’ve done or what you will do, but i care about you. you’ve got this.

    • @eureka9217
      @eureka9217 11 месяцев назад +5

      same but my physical health problems are caused by mental problems

    • @greensslime
      @greensslime 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@eureka9217 same.

    • @anuradhamasand6066
      @anuradhamasand6066 9 месяцев назад +2

      This whole coining of terms....is simply to ease it nderstanding... From body hair standing up to sweating when nervous...( Can vary person to person) to pain scenarios, heart conditions, irritable bowel leading to food not getting digested...in stress.

    • @anuradhamasand6066
      @anuradhamasand6066 9 месяцев назад +1

      Trauma .ie mental health issues of any form .has....clear physical impact.

    • @Koshigameoverr
      @Koshigameoverr 4 месяца назад

      Yeah people don’t understand the true sadness of physical illness and difficultys

  • @happyme9010
    @happyme9010 Год назад +2

    Also worth mentioning that invisible physical illnesses and disabilities are treated like the mental health in this. 😢

  • @lenaz8017
    @lenaz8017 Год назад +43

    I think this is why it's so important to check in on someone every once in a while, it doesn't take much effort to ask if there's anything they need or simply get them something small, but it does make a big difference to them, knowing that there is someone who cares...

    • @DoctorCharlesSophy
      @DoctorCharlesSophy 9 месяцев назад +4

      Absolutely, your insight is spot on! A simple gesture of checking in and showing genuine care can have a profound impact on someone's well-being. It's the little acts of kindness that can brighten someone's day and make them feel valued and supported.

  • @newintosubliminals3874
    @newintosubliminals3874 Год назад +6

    Everyone’s fighting a battle you can’t see

  • @xwardos
    @xwardos 11 месяцев назад +53

    i had depression, this is true.

    • @mehardeepsingh2670
      @mehardeepsingh2670 10 месяцев назад

      No jk bruv, not being driven by something else(tate), there is no thing such as depression it is just a cliche thing that has made u think u are wrong, u should ignore things like this. I assume u are man , we are built to be strong hope u understand.
      Idk why i am writing this to u but i believe u will understand, no hate
      Singh

    • @leo-lh4oy
      @leo-lh4oy 9 месяцев назад

      Thank you for confirming

  • @luchirimoya
    @luchirimoya 11 месяцев назад +19

    Not if you're chronically ill/have chronic pain lmao, people will get tired of you being ill all the time and will actively treat you like shit. People are only empathetic if it's temporary :D

    • @gillipop1
      @gillipop1 7 месяцев назад +1

      maybe that's why people ignore mental health. if you're injured or sick people will help until you heal but eventually if you don't heal they stop.

  • @butterraccoon8296
    @butterraccoon8296 Год назад +81

    We need more love for both health
    I know when my sister isn't the happiest, I try doing things to make her happy
    Or when my friends are sad, I try doing little things, like complainants ever morning

  • @simonportlock2235
    @simonportlock2235 Год назад +33

    This was me for about 3 to 4 years. It's hard to keep going.

  • @jamesmcgrath1731
    @jamesmcgrath1731 11 месяцев назад +3

    “I would rather have my mate cry on my shoulder for a day than go to his funeral in a week”

  • @Emmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmi
    @Emmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmi 11 месяцев назад +10

    As someone who has smiling depression I can relate

  • @Ollienov16
    @Ollienov16 11 месяцев назад +33

    Both types are mental health in my household. My parents couldn’t care less.

    • @Cute_Bunny_TwT
      @Cute_Bunny_TwT 11 месяцев назад +2

      Yeah, same....😐😐😐😐

    • @milly-snixyt
      @milly-snixyt 11 месяцев назад

      Mood

    • @jessicalatorraca8507
      @jessicalatorraca8507 6 месяцев назад +1

      Gravitate to friends & professionals who really care. They can brighten your world, and (you will only believe it after it happens) you will brighten theirs. Love to you 💚

  • @juliejackson6361
    @juliejackson6361 Год назад +9

    I was in hospital in 2021 twice for Mental health. It makes me really sad how different you get treated. The 2nd time no one came to see me

  • @ACP860
    @ACP860 Год назад +10

    Sometimes physical health damage is better than emotional 😢

  • @hanna82115
    @hanna82115 Год назад +10

    And then they call you “lazy”

  • @SilentTrip
    @SilentTrip 11 месяцев назад +5

    My family shows me to my face how tired they are with my chronic disease, sometimes insinuating that I'm "faking it" for attention. They hate going with me to hospital appointments, they don't even visit me when I'm hospitalised.

    • @nicoleperron3315
      @nicoleperron3315 11 месяцев назад +1

      Hugs don't be sad, I didn't get any visits either and they don't phone 😞 it's not easy being sick but it sure emptied my life of unhelpful people.
      Now we've got to work on finding some kind and helpful ones.

    • @mikagediary
      @mikagediary 11 месяцев назад +1

      thats really sad, im sorry for you. im also chronically ill and at times im left alone, i usually have small talks with my doctors or nurses to make sure i dont feel lonely. i hope you can at least find someone to talk to 🫂

  • @Kim-kw7fo
    @Kim-kw7fo Год назад +40

    Are you able to do a video on childhood emotional wounds? In my opinion, that's where all mental injuries come from. If you and Dr. Shefali Tsabary could collaborate, you would do sooooo much good. Especially as private therapy is so expensive. Got to get to the root.

    • @becky2235
      @becky2235 Год назад +3

      I know that's the root of mine but how do you fix it? I finally had the guts to confront the person who caused it today as a child (in 32 now) and today I explained quite calmly he just got nasty and threatened me. Any tips on dealing with it and moving on? Thank you

    • @Kim-kw7fo
      @Kim-kw7fo Год назад +2

      @@becky2235 Hi there. I think if padt words and actions have penetrated deeply and you've been able to get things off your chest, there's not much else to do with the other person. You can work on you and there are many ways to do that. Movement shifts stored emotions, journaling gets things out if the head. Ask yourself what were you looking for from the other person.

  • @electriclllady
    @electriclllady Год назад +53

    YESSS!!! This is also how people react to Temporary Pain /injury vs Chronic Pain. We have to get better at recognising and caring for the people who really need it , xxxx

  • @lenab4147
    @lenab4147 Год назад +4

    If the physical health problem is chronic, you also experience the same isolation & rejection and so on, as you show someone depressed receives. Certainly enough to make you become depressed if you weren't already.

  • @dougillman412
    @dougillman412 Год назад +15

    Very true to life, one you can see, the other you can't always........

  • @shanebond634
    @shanebond634 Год назад +36

    I wish
    Our brain and feeling should also have organ parts of our body and seems apparently like others so people will see how much a person is suffering and needs to cure before it's late.

  • @padmapriyaprasad6996
    @padmapriyaprasad6996 Год назад +22

    So true. Nobody notices our mental health condition. Thanku Dr.

  • @loadingthegay2264
    @loadingthegay2264 11 месяцев назад +14

    Its always like this. Little do they realize just how physical it can be. Including suicide... youll never realize what you had until its gone.

  • @StarbucksYes
    @StarbucksYes 11 месяцев назад +6

    This video actually made me cry when she looked so happy and then so sad and lonely. When your mental health hits rock bottom it’s like you starve for help but can’t get it because something on the inside keeps you from getting it. You just want someone to treat you the same way as they would if you were physically Ill and that’s all you hope for.

    • @claudiamanta1943
      @claudiamanta1943 3 месяца назад

      Or you ask for help but get crap you don’t need. Or want help but it’s too expensive- which is like somebody rubbing coarse salt on your eyeballs whilst they are giving you useless and patronising advice. That in itself can make one very aware of how wonderful human beings really are.
      *Oh, why are you depressed?*
      I dunno, maybe because the world is horrible, I’ve lost my job, and I go through a divorce.
      *Nah, you have childhood trauma*
      Me? No-
      *Now, now, hush. You’re in denial*
      Listen here. How dare you?
      *…and you have an aggressive form of personality disorder*

  • @Alexis_TN
    @Alexis_TN Год назад +5

    This is definitely true

  • @himikotoga9152
    @himikotoga9152 11 месяцев назад +26

    I can't handle that anymore... I feel so alone...

  • @River_341
    @River_341 11 месяцев назад +30

    yup, and yet my mom still didnt let my cry at my grandmas death.

    • @WaryMyles1
      @WaryMyles1 11 месяцев назад +3

      what the fuck? why not?

    • @melxqy4738
      @melxqy4738 11 месяцев назад +7

      That’s messed up. I hope you had some time to cry on your own or with someone who does let you. You deserve to grieve. I’m sorry for your loss

    • @maymei69
      @maymei69 11 месяцев назад +2

      God your mom really think that you would respect her after telling you that her mom / mom in law dying isn't worth crying about

    • @cyberneticalsolutions2770
      @cyberneticalsolutions2770 11 месяцев назад +1

      What was her reasoning? -Maybe your mother needed you to be strong for her to stay strong as well at that moment.?

    • @River_341
      @River_341 8 месяцев назад

      @@WaryMyles1because my mom said it's because she can't deal with my emotions.

  • @susiesmith7694
    @susiesmith7694 Год назад +17

    Thank you for your videos. You help so many people even when you don’t know you have. Thank you Julie

  • @wigglywoo8899
    @wigglywoo8899 Год назад +4

    This made me cry. It's so true. I can't even get help cleaning dishes after I force myself to cook dinner for my family. Everything is overwhelming.

  • @saniatamanna7763
    @saniatamanna7763 11 месяцев назад +1

    I can relate during my birthday. I was absolutely alone

  • @user-bro0921
    @user-bro0921 10 месяцев назад +1

    This sums up our global issue on mental health 💔

  • @MV-kk3nh
    @MV-kk3nh Год назад +14

    So true... As a human race, currently we're not equipped to support and help someone with mental health issues... Most people are too uncomfortable to even mention anything... It's understandable, because mental health feels so personal... Perhaps educational videos on how to help and support someone with mental health issues could be very helpful, sometimes it only takes listening or a small gesture that you care and you don't have to en a psychologist nor therapist, sometimes we just need a friend... 🙏🏻❤️

  • @mariashans2399
    @mariashans2399 Год назад +4

    I have just found your videos while I have almost gave up. It is exactly what I am experiencing. I have tried so much things to feel better and nothing is helping me. I am feeling so isolated. Thank you so much for what you are doing because I understand I am not alone.

  • @TheHSoko
    @TheHSoko Год назад +2

    So much truth to this! People do not see mental health issues as a health issue.

  • @tomevans4402
    @tomevans4402 Год назад +5

    Well done. I’m fighting a sadness now, and it is a fight.

  • @josephechiyesu
    @josephechiyesu Год назад +4

    I wish my family would understand my mental problems

    • @jessicalatorraca8507
      @jessicalatorraca8507 6 месяцев назад

      Just for a moment imagine all humankind as your family - there are and will be people who truly understand. Maybe even your family will begin to understand, in time. {Hugs}

  • @ShoaibMJ
    @ShoaibMJ Год назад +3

    SALAT IN MOSQUE IS THE BEST TREATMENT FOR MENTAL HEALTH.❤

  • @hylenelim2549
    @hylenelim2549 Год назад +1

    Thats the problem with mental health, no one can see you suffering because its from the inside. It takes someone who truly loves you for it to be noticed that you are already struggling and having mental health issue. I pray that everyone who have mental health issue gets enough help, support and attention 🙏

  • @LiselReinick
    @LiselReinick 11 месяцев назад +18

    How can I help my two friends with huge mental pain? They’re both going through a lot and they’re often just moments away from suicide.
    They also don’t have any way out bc of things that are happening around them and they’re just acting 24/7 that they’re okay. I really want to help them It’s just that they live really far away

    • @The_FUNNY_Commenter
      @The_FUNNY_Commenter 11 месяцев назад +3

      You can get them in a safe space or call the suicide hotline in there area to help them you don’t want to ask them why they are wanting to commit suicide if they aren’t in a safe space if you ask them when they aren’t ready to talk about it they will probably get really like overstimulated I hope this helps

    • @orangejuice5435
      @orangejuice5435 11 месяцев назад +3

      My mum always texts me a little message everyday when she's at work that says I hope your day is going ok I love you. Even if it doesn't fix how bad a feel in the moment it helps me feel just a little bit better knowing she thought of me and loves me.

    • @nightmareleaf
      @nightmareleaf 11 месяцев назад

      Maybe you could try giving them little gifts like handmade things to make them feel better about themselves. 😁

    • @evaggeliastavropoulou7829
      @evaggeliastavropoulou7829 10 месяцев назад

      Go for a walk, talk a little and then give them a long hug, tell them you are sorry they go through this but they're not alone.

  • @NM-gy6tx
    @NM-gy6tx Год назад +3

    The weird thing is that many if not all emotional traumas manifest as physical health problems and diseases
    If you have a fall you've usually been rushing or stressed and not looking where you are going. You're not focused. If you have a disease or a health concern its usually come on through DIS- EASE. THE opposite of ease.. where everything is going well in your world.

  • @alicerosetrevormusic
    @alicerosetrevormusic Год назад +2

    This can be said for all accute illness. If something is short term or curable people are compassionate. When you're chronically ill, physical illness never goes away, and there is no cure. You loose a lot of friends, people are ignorant and don't want to keep being understanding when there is no end date.

  • @JaneFlowerbird
    @JaneFlowerbird 11 месяцев назад +1

    I wish i could give a hug and caring words to everyone who truly needs it...

  • @selah_is_swag
    @selah_is_swag Год назад +4

    "If you have horrible mental health it's possible you might feel physical health from it. "

  • @user-zo3sy8op2s
    @user-zo3sy8op2s 11 месяцев назад +9

    your vids are making me cry

  • @herelies_lee6302
    @herelies_lee6302 3 месяца назад +1

    I feel this. I have been feeling suffocated over the past few years, nobody took me seriously i was being ‘soft’ now i am being checked for breast cancer and everyone has completely changed perspective. It’s so stupid. Now i have noticed my brother i am depressive state, so no matter what i am going to be there for him and show him he isnt alone.

  • @Evija3000
    @Evija3000 11 месяцев назад +1

    With mental health you often get the opposite. People blaming you for not doing more, not being more social, not appreciating what you have, etc.

  • @hiexploring8491
    @hiexploring8491 Год назад +3

    So accurate☹️

  • @kendi4everr
    @kendi4everr 11 месяцев назад +3

    when i was little i used to wish to get hurt so people would care, and i didn’t know why😢

  • @zainvincent9646
    @zainvincent9646 3 месяца назад +1

    That’s so true, I’m 27 & this year I had my first ever breakup the mental battle that I had to fight where no one was there to support me was too tough

  • @alysonthomas1612
    @alysonthomas1612 9 месяцев назад +1

    As someone who has suffered from anxiety and depression for years, the ladies in my knitting group were the first to buy me flowers when I was ill for weeks and couldn't join them. So thankful and emotional ❤❤❤❤

  • @RhondaR4
    @RhondaR4 Год назад +3

    Good Afternoon my beautiful sister in CHRIST!🌻
    I hope all is well with you! Thank JESUS! PRAISE GOD!🙏🏽
    I want to thank you for being a part of my life!
    Love you,
    Rhonda Richardson❤️

  • @DaCrybaby._
    @DaCrybaby._ Год назад +1

    This is so true, no one is here for me.. 💔

  • @pleh7019
    @pleh7019 Год назад +5

    Make it a chronic disease and nobody gives a damn about that either. Anything that isn't acute often gets this treatment, it's unfortunately not unique to mental illnesses which of course deserve care. I do find the constant "Oh, you wouldn't say/do this to someone with (insert physical condition here)," to make a point about mental health frustrating, because yes, they would 😆

    • @lauryn6037
      @lauryn6037 Год назад +3

      omg exactly. comparing a broken bone to mental illness is annoying because a broken bone is time limited. i have an autoimmune disease and people will straight up tell you your life matters less than theirs lol

  • @whoareyou-9291
    @whoareyou-9291 11 месяцев назад +4

    Others heal your physical sacrs,
    But you are the one to heal your mental scars.

  • @rayraytb
    @rayraytb Год назад +2

    the mental health one was so accurate because that’s exactly how i act when i’m going through shit

  • @Lily_fantastique
    @Lily_fantastique Месяц назад +2

    " I've always been suicidal, but I never had the balls to do it"
    That's exactly me right now. I tell myself taht I don't deserve to die cause I had a family and Friends who love me but I feel so Bad and no one notices it 😢

  • @eenwieleraar
    @eenwieleraar Год назад +7

    I missed a message from 'friends/people': "Cheer up everything is gonna be alright", or something else judgemental on why you feel that way.

  • @revathya-xt4xn
    @revathya-xt4xn 11 месяцев назад +6

    100% true 😣😫🥺

  • @lucy.isntcool
    @lucy.isntcool 11 месяцев назад +1

    This is why I want to be a psychologist, not only to be there for people but also to give gifts to them, be their friend.

  • @tappyghoststudios8351
    @tappyghoststudios8351 11 месяцев назад +1

    The only gift you’re getting with the mental health is the gift of someone telling you “your overreacting” most of the time. But of course there are people who actually make you feel better and with enough effort and time,you can slowly help the problems get a bit better. If your going through those issues right now, don’t be afraid to ask for help from people you love. They care about you no matter what

  • @Buhleep
    @Buhleep Год назад +7

    this was me last night calling the suicide hotline and the freaking dude was barely speaking to me
    therapy needs to be easier to access

    • @oliviachetcuti225
      @oliviachetcuti225 Год назад +3

      I’m so sorry you had that experience. That person is in the wrong job. Hang on in there.

  • @No_untitled_user
    @No_untitled_user 11 месяцев назад +6

    Thank you for pointing me out

  • @ammxrah
    @ammxrah Год назад +4

    Which is why when my friends come with problems that are affecting their mental health I am there for then and support them!! Because I know what it's like to have nobody 😔🤍🤍🤍

  • @eyes6689
    @eyes6689 11 месяцев назад +2

    Most of the time, unless people can see that you are suffering, they won’t bother showering you with any gifts or letters wishing that you get well.

  • @Rando_musical-person
    @Rando_musical-person 3 месяца назад +1

    Remember that it's always important to take care of your mental health. When someone says "You matter." they mean it. Don't try to hind how you really feel inside, it's always important to stop and think about the good things in life. It might not be so good right now but things will get better!!!

  • @ashleybrown5883
    @ashleybrown5883 Год назад +3

    Our medical system is a mess. You suffer a mental breakdown, go to the ER, and they treat you like you're stupid for coming in. Like a waste of their time. I cant stand that! I don't get why it's like that either.

  • @Iamabanana132
    @Iamabanana132 11 месяцев назад +5

    I have many mental health issues and I can relate

    • @margobespalova9591
      @margobespalova9591 11 месяцев назад

      Oh, how I understand you. Jesus cares about you and he knows what you feel

    • @thatemonerdgirl
      @thatemonerdgirl 11 месяцев назад

      Same

  • @MrFriend97
    @MrFriend97 11 месяцев назад +2

    the mental health view is also very prominent for people with major health issues that arent visable. like nerve issues or immuun disorders as people dont see it and tend to not support or even believe people about these issues. ❤

  • @chrisdrummond8893
    @chrisdrummond8893 Год назад +2

    The most difficult job I have had in my life is making myself physically and mentally healthy.

  • @LoveTheSon11
    @LoveTheSon11 Год назад +34

    Hey everybody. ❤ I think a lot of mental health issues have to do with us focusing too much on ourselves and our own problems and sitting around and dwelling on them and trying to distract ourselves with our phones, tv, addictions, etc.
    When I do that, I am a mental and emotional mess and I feel depressed and worthless.
    But we were made to be DOING something most of the time. It’s good to have some downtime… a little every day is good and then a day off once a week… but the rest of the time, we should be doing something productive with our lives.
    Otherwise, why are we even alive? Just to take up space and breathe oxygen? Life is a GIFT… let’s use it for good! 🙌🏼
    P.S. I have found that helping other people (no matter how big or small the thing is) gives me such a great feeling… like it’s in our dna to thrive mentally, emotionally, and physically if we are doing something for others. Just sharing my thoughts. Hope that helps someone. ❤

    • @MahSAM
      @MahSAM Год назад +9

      You are wrong! Feeling down and depressed is very different than being depressed. Please educate yourself on this before giving such horrible damaging advice to people who are suffering. If someone is too down to attend to one's hygien, I assure you they are unable to help others. I am sick and tired of such advices that clearly comes from people with no idea or knowledge of actuality of mental illness.

    • @MahSAM
      @MahSAM Год назад +1

      You are so very wrong! Please stop giving advice on a matter that you clearly have no idea about. It is super clear that you are not aware of the difference between being depressed and feeling depressed.
      To people who are struggling with mental health, please don't bother with such horrible damaging advices that are too common I am afraid. You are not struggling because you are self-absorbed nor you can help others if you are struggling completing your basic daily tasks. You do you. You will survive.

    • @LoveTheSon11
      @LoveTheSon11 Год назад +5

      @@MahSAM There is no need to attack me. I’m sorry that struck you so personally. I am in no way trying to be disrespectful to or about people who suffer from depression. I have been there in different stages of my life. Notice I said, “hope that helps someone”, NOT “I know this will help everyone.”
      If someone is searching RUclips and reading the comments and sees what I said and they are suffering so badly that they are having a hard time taking care of their basic personal hygiene, I think they will disregard my comment and move on.
      I am not blaming them. I am not blaming anyone. But there are plenty of people who suffer from milder forms of depression who can benefit from putting their feelings into something other than themselves and their problems that are at least contributing to their depressive feelings. There are so many forms and reasons for depression. Not all people will benefit from every piece of advice. Some need medication, some need therapy, some just need some love and redirection and time.
      Again, my comment wasn’t meant for the whole world to accept as the only advice they will ever need. I don’t know everything there is to know about depression… far from it. And I never claimed to know it all. But this is RUclips, not a medical office. And I think most people understand that and read what they want to and accept it or they just choose to ignore the advice they feel doesn’t apply to them.
      Attacking others isn’t the way to go. I don’t mind hearing your opinion, and I would appreciate the same from you. Again, i said “I hope this helps someone.” And I pray it has helped at least one.
      We’re all in this world together. We all have different lives, but we should all try to be here for eachother and help eachother as we can. That’s my plan at least.

    • @Coconutz111
      @Coconutz111 Год назад

      Dont take personally❤️ people react to what we perceive to be the reality of what you meant, i know it was from the heart
      And its not about right or wrong tho i believe that all mental/emotional pain comes from over thinking and definitely dwelling, but there is no one to blame.. that is a very important part of the individual journey
      we came here to experience every aspect of being a human
      It means additionally every emotional state that exist lol
      Respect the hardest times we are going through.. there are hidden treasures in there when you open your heart and mind

    • @MooshkaBean
      @MooshkaBean Год назад +4

      @LoveTheSon11 There is a significant difference between “feeling depressed” and actually having depression. While I think you meant to say something positive your comment just comes off as very insensitive. Like you honestly believe that if someone isn’t productive in their life there is no point in them being here ? They are just “taking up space and breathing oxygen”? It seems as though your one of those people who thinks people on disability funding are just burdens to society. The whole idea of productivity being the only reason to live is just offensive. Nobody should have to justify why they are alive and to be preaching such a rhetoric on a video about mental health is unacceptable and very dangerous.

  • @VicisavesRicky
    @VicisavesRicky 11 месяцев назад +12

    Oh. I think I have mental health. I cry all the time i think bad And scary stuff And i get sometimes super Angry And i don’t even know why. I don’t know do i have it or not . At least i cry in a week 5 times . One reason is bc we lost our Ricky dog . And i overthink And i am Scared something has happend to my friend or Family . Rest in peace our Ricky 🕊 idek what is the 3td reason. I just cry sometimes . Thank you if you know if I have it or something comment . Thank you for reading this :)

    • @NotMerrodiiOfficiallyyet
      @NotMerrodiiOfficiallyyet 11 месяцев назад +1

      You could be going through depression
      Not a doctor or anything!
      Rip your pet hope it lives a happy life in heaven God bless you and your family and you dear pet❤

    • @theoriginalmushroom
      @theoriginalmushroom 11 месяцев назад +1

      What do you mean "I have mental health" ofcourse you do, everybody does

    • @VicisavesRicky
      @VicisavesRicky 11 месяцев назад

      @@theoriginalmushroom I just wasted my time on this.

    • @VicisavesRicky
      @VicisavesRicky 11 месяцев назад

      @@NotMerrodiiOfficiallyyetthanks. And I cry over little things

  • @myslodsiewnia114
    @myslodsiewnia114 11 месяцев назад +1

    This is beautiful. So true.

  • @sheriepilling84
    @sheriepilling84 5 месяцев назад +1

    This is what I just said “Most people have mental health issues/problems or depression. And the smallest amount of people are perfect. But no matter what, you are not alone :)”

  • @solimarheredia3792
    @solimarheredia3792 11 месяцев назад +6

    This is true

  • @Stridewithsam
    @Stridewithsam Год назад +3

    My mum's started ignoring me because I've started therapy and according to her it's a waste of money

    • @Justmeeee19
      @Justmeeee19 Год назад +1

      I can't even start cause they are not gonna understand

  • @nicholasderemi8493
    @nicholasderemi8493 10 месяцев назад

    So relatable.. ever since my depression, people started avoiding me which made my condition worse. 2 years after, I decided that I am the only one to help myself taking the right decisions.

  • @nannananna26
    @nannananna26 Год назад +1

    mental health has hurt me way more than anything physically ever can. (And I'm saying that as someone who has been in life-death situations, even have a chronic illness.)

  • @laurieb348
    @laurieb348 11 месяцев назад +28

    Yeah, unless you have a chronic illness 🫥

  • @thinkir86
    @thinkir86 7 месяцев назад +3

    Except when you have a chronic pain that lasts years and will never go away and that you have to take medication just to function a little. Eventually, people stop caring as much or even at all. Even going so far as to compare their daily pains with your mind numbing pain that keeps you from doing the things you love and want to do. Add in depression and anxiety and it's the loneliest place in the world. I've lived here for too long.

  • @KE-xj9vm
    @KE-xj9vm 9 месяцев назад +1

    So true. I suffer from extreme fatigue and chronic pain in my feet and everyone was super concerned and I went through a bunch of tests and it’s nothing conclusive, so now I’m being referred to a psychiatrist, so my family is like oh great there is nothing wrong with you, and I’m like well there still is

  • @stephenmcguire9101
    @stephenmcguire9101 5 месяцев назад +1

    This made me cry, i suffer from anxiety and when i first got it i tried to explain it to my friends and they thought i was faking it for attention... its sad to realize that so many people don't understand mental heath :(

  • @DonnieThronBerry
    @DonnieThronBerry Год назад +14

    When my mental is bad I smoke some weed my mental doesn’t change but at least I can laugh rather than regret

    • @-chirpchirp-
      @-chirpchirp- Год назад +1

      your mental health will change, mainly for the worse if you keep smoking. maybe have something you like eating instead, if you can get away from the addictive feeling of weed

    • @DonnieThronBerry
      @DonnieThronBerry Год назад

      @@-chirpchirp- oh no I smoke weed because I never got pills for a concussion so I smoke weed for the concussion

  • @dylanconnolly2665
    @dylanconnolly2665 Год назад +6

    Hi something I find if I'm not productive for too long then I get depressed

    • @beebee753
      @beebee753 Год назад

      Same with me..
      is that an underlying medical condition?

    • @LoveTheSon11
      @LoveTheSon11 Год назад

      I think it’s just that we were made to be doing something most of the time. It’s good to have some downtime… a little every day is good and then a day off once a week… but the rest of the time, we should be doing something productive with our lives. Otherwise, why are we even alive? Just to take up space and breathe oxygen? Life is a GIFT… let’s use it for good! P.S. I have found that helping other people (no matter how big or small the thing is) gives me such a great feeling… like it’s in our dna to thrive mentally, emotionally, and physically if we are doing something for others. Just sharing my thoughts. Hope that helps. ❤

    • @dylanconnolly2665
      @dylanconnolly2665 Год назад +1

      @@beebee753 I don't think it is an underlying medical condition but it goes away straight away if I am productive and there's always something to do

    • @beebee753
      @beebee753 Год назад

      @@dylanconnolly2665 same

    • @beebee753
      @beebee753 Год назад

      @@LoveTheSon11 thanks

  • @MatHoy1979
    @MatHoy1979 9 месяцев назад

    Absolutely. I can tell about it. No one sees, no one notices, no one knows. That pain is invisible but it hurts so much

  • @redraven282
    @redraven282 3 месяца назад

    This made me cry, it's so true.

  • @Brian-tb1zs
    @Brian-tb1zs Год назад +6

    That’s accurate, physical injuries, cancer, many will surround you with support. Even if you brought it on by over indulging with smoking, drinking, bad habits. Mental health, depression, you’re left alone, no rallying friends or family with positive support. Maybe some get support. Being Shunned, left to deal with it alone it like its your fault, they’ll see you once you’re over it. shunned, the worst possible scenario when you’re in a state of mind like this. Your videos do help, treating people like it’s real and giving some advice that actually helps. You may be the only friendly, intelligent, genuinely interested in helping face some rely on, I sincerely Thank You for that.

    • @lauryn6037
      @lauryn6037 Год назад +3

      that’s exactly the position i’m in because of my physical health. cancer is usually a time limited event, so people care because they know there’s an end in sight: death or remission.
      having a chronic disease means everyone in your life will leave you in the lurch. people, even family, will remind you your life is worth less than theirs. they will make no effort to care about you. your community will not care about you. you are treated as a burden on society and one worthy of nothing.

    • @alicerosetrevormusic
      @alicerosetrevormusic Год назад

      Chronic illness, in severe pain 24/7 and am told "you look like your doing good" you can't see physical or mental pain. And when any illness is long term, people loose compassion.

  • @elisabethkemner4338
    @elisabethkemner4338 11 месяцев назад +3

    True