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WHO AM I:
I'm a clinical psychologist. I am here to share insights from therapy and psychology research so that you can make use of it in your daily life to understand how your mind works and optimise your own mental health. I cover all things from confidence and motivation to mood and anxiety. I look forward to chatting with you in the comments.
Discipline > motivation
Habits > discipline. Discipline is finite and runs out quickly.
Seems that you didn't understand what she was saying!
@Ur_favemmy Embarrassing.
I GOT NONE
Compassionate discipline= automatic motivation/habits.
That was a beautifully depiction of "learn to love the process".
'Keeping that promise to yourself' is key.
and don´t let the anxious memories slip in during the process, so the process is enjoyable. and dont be obsessed with perfection...because the obsession with perfection creates anxious thoughts it decreases joy.
@@alaalfa8839 "Enjoy creating value", is what I tell myself. Thank you for your insightful thoughts.
don't chase the results, but rather do your thing and let the results find you. NICE!
I love that... focus on the process - "this is just what I do now".
What I took from this video: Winning is when I stick to the schedule, not when I see results. ❤
Not necessarily, if you set a schedule of 5 times a week right of the bat, odds are that'll be really hard to keep up with, so the "win" in that case might be setting a more manageable schedule
That is still a schedule that you'll have to stick to. I believe the person is thinking of the final result as the win and not the sticking to the schedule@@439801RS
“Instead of trying to find the results, the results find you.” Thank you Dr.
I've said it before and I'll say it again, I love the way Dr Julie uses props to get her point across. It would take many other phycologists longer to get this point across! Yet, she does it in under a minute! She is the first phycologist I can relate to! Thank you so much for your help and your perspectives, they are invaluable to me as I'm sure it is to many people who face similar issues! 🙏
So true! I used to struggle with how my life changed drastically as a mom. I decided I am going to embrace the process. One day, my closest girl friend commented “motherhood becomes you”. She’s right! I now see it as beautiful part of me - no more fighting or resisting. Motherhood has become a joyful & fulfilling experience.
That's how I found love. I stopped focusing on the result and started enjoying the small things. Love found me all by itself.
Find joy in small things. Live in the present. The journey is more important than the destination.
@@eggrollorsoup6052Touching yourself?
today was the exact day and moment I needed to hear this.
Me too.😊
@@angelabarrows4313 🥳
This really works. Load your dishes every night. Empty every morning. Eventually it wont be any hassle at all. !!
That is so true. I remember when that alone was a hassle and now it’s a breeze. Now it’s easy to keep the whole house clean most of the time because of those small habits I do daily now without thinking about it.
Yes! I started working out and started to find in fun when I stopped focusing on the goal❤
I did this accidentally when i realized I love writing, I always wanted to "write a book" and "publish a book" but man i just love creating stories and that's so wholesome. I started writing everyday, just a bit or whatever I wanted, even if it's just a sentence or three pages, a bit. And one day i just realized man, i've almost finished writing one of the stories that have lived in my mind for like 4 years now. And every time i remember that i've done what i enjoy doing everyday since september makes me so happy it's almost crazy
Everything is a step. Even doing the normal things like making a cup of tea, walking round a shop, watching a film. Most things don't happen all at once anyway.😊
Hi i am currently enrolled in a Data Science program and i have been struggling with everything that u have mentioned, as we speak i am suppossed to do my projects but i feel overwhelmed, scared and it feels like a long way to go. I wil keep watching this video everyday i wake up so i can do what i have to do
Thank you very much❤
I am facing the same challenge with my DS program
The more you "think" about the projects instead of "doing" them, the harder they will begin to feel. Tell yourself that the best way to finish your projects is to START them. Then just start right now (walk to your computer, open it, open your work, and start moving your fingers on the keyboard)! After a while you might want to stop and do something else because it's too hard or boring or tiring. BUT just ignore those thoughts and keep DOING (moving your fingers around, doing those data things). Eventually you WILL feel lighter!
Wow me too...im in a data analysis program right now
My little advice is never to look on anything generally. Like you see, if you compare your own success to others, it may seem like it's "not enough", but i rather like to compare myself.. to my past self. It helps you see the "graph" of improvement in your head if you look back and see "oh, i used to be much worse than I am now" instead seeing "oh, i'm still not as good as that person". It's all about the view.
That's why I am Falling in Love with the Process of Being Everything I want to be ❤. Also, Thank You So Much for your virtual presence, Dr. Julie. You're helping so many people without even getting enough credit for it. I hope you get all the best that the world has to offer 💕☀️💃🏻.
The efforts you have taken to demonstrate what you say is what I like the most in all your videos and it really helps thank you doc ❤
My problem lies more in that monotony, I set out to try something new, initially sorta like and keep doing it, but soon the novelty wears off and it's just another thing I do, or not, doesn't really matter
I’ve ran into this monotonous feeling as well. I find the way to keep up with the habit is to modify the routine day to day to give it some variety. For example, instead of doing cardio, I’ll do Pilates or yoga. If I want to keep up with my yoga, change the sequence or try a new pose for fun. Instead of eating the leftover cheese pizza, how about adding some new toppings to spice things up. The key for me is to not keep the routine linear, but rather flexible to reach your goals. I hope this helps and wish you luck! ❤
@@nikkitea7061that’s great! Thank you!!! Great examples
@nikkitea7061 I do this too, but doesn't really help
@@439801RSI'm the same. Whether I do or don't do something has the same feeling. If completing goals has the same level of satisfaction as giving them up, why even bother.
Maybe you are someone who likes new challenges. That's great. Some people stick with one or two things. Some people can do lots different things maybe that is more you. Or something that happens to involve a lot of challenges. Keep your ears and eyes with those you meet and what you see in life open. I think you will find that something or somethings soon one day. Take care.
Thank you so much Dr Julie!
Me and therapist talk about how helpful you are to me and other people with mental health challenges. Thank you so much for everything you do! God bless ❤
Yes original and effective way of sharing and educate. Life changing ❤
exactly what I needed to hear
@DrJulie : you're the only RUclipsr who's every shorts (that I've watched) has been saved to my playlist. You create such beautiful content with simplified examples. Thank you for everything that you're doing for humanity.
Thank you so much for this lovely comment. I hope you have a wonderful day ❤️
@@DrJulie You as well ❤
@@DrJulie I wish someday I will have the capability to get therapy from you!
Love your channel and videos.. so realistic and everything we r facing in our life right now. ❤❤❤
May I ask why have you have only put it on “calm”when we need to
pay for that app? I’ve always admired your allegiance to communicating this wonderful
Information so articulately for the benefit of all. You really are a pioneer in the uk. But to benefit pieces of info to only those who can afford to pay seems disappointing now. I really hope you don’t take this negatively as even if you are taking different directions, that is your prerogative , but please know you have been so inspirational to so many. Very much appreciated.
I have adopted this discipline when i was in my twenties back in eighties. I recommend it.
I have GAD but (due to conservativeness and social stereotypes) my parents are not supportive when it comes to therapy and medicine. Hence, request you to make more videos about how to deal with it.
Lots of love!!
That's right, it's just about focusing on doing something EVERY DAY. Step by step
Impressed on her ability to pick the small thingies with the tweezers btw 😂
Is it trust the process? Can you make a longer video on this @DrJulie
you really work heart from your heart to make our mental health better
Absolutely love the analysis and flawless presentation!
You shared exactly what I needed to hear:) thanks for sharing this! ❤❤❤
This is one of the best visual representations I’ve ever seen for this mindset. Thank you Dr. Julie
I like to section off my work into smaller, more manageable groups. Then I just do them kind of back to back. Kind of like instead of watching a 3 hour movie, you binge watch it as 20 minute episodes instead. Ends up as the same amount of time and effort but feeling a lot less overwhelmed and more like you truly accomplished something.
Thank you Julie for always giving the best advice in the most easiest possible way to understand! Thank you 🙏🏻
That's exactly what i did. Went from anxious to secure was in a very painful situation and honestly just got fed up with my life and decided to change it by healing. I lost my aunt, fiance, my mother fell sick and now my father passed away five days ago. Its so confusing to be stuck in a positive mindset, remain focused, fell sad, feel lonely but contempt with it, and truying to get my DA fiance back that has fallen into a deep depression and and locked the world while having other people drawn to me and helping them with their problems. And am now the soul provider for my mother and sister.
Gods work is never-ending 🎉
And I aint complaining, just happy and contempt to do the impossible walk through the park like I always do 😅❤
Dr Julie personifies wisdom presented gently with relatable imagery. I hope her advice helps the many who are here, and in turn I wish Dr Julie success, health and happiness.
This is so true!
*this is what is want
*this is what I do
*this is who I become
*this is who I am
I’ve learned this in the doing.
Many years ago I began to paint every day. Sometimes for only a few minutes, sometimes for 12 hours straight! Then all the paintings began to build up. I got better and better. My work began to jury into a show here and there and then many shows! Now I am part of a gallery!
And I’m invited to prestigious art fairs!
It’s finally happened, it IS my life!Those who don’t know the YEARS of work, vision and sticking to it might think it happened quickly but I’ve been at it for really my whole life!
💫🎉❤️
Intentially, purpose to win the GOAL. S. ❤❤❤❤
Dr. Julie you are a refreshing online voice. Thank you!
I learned recently that you also have to understand the identity you have now as well, because if you don’t feel good enough and that gets in the way or you feel like you can’t then you have to process that and figure out where it comes from so you can pull the roots out and place a new plant or identity
The routine comes with enjoying to keep that promise to yourself. Brilliantly said!! 👍
Keep that promise to yourself.....thanks, Dr. Julie ❤❤❤❤
Love your approach. Yes original and effective way of sharing and educate. Life changing ❤
As someone who has been working on developing new habits and finally having some success, I totally agree with this!
LOVE this!! so grateful to have found your channel Dr Julie
thank you for the good you share :)
Exactly step by step never give up keep going the hard times will pass and will be followed by peace and tranquillity ❤
Thank you Dr. Julie. I'm a post graduate full time student and my motivation really started to dwindle and I started feeling burnt out. Thank you for the message.
You have no idea how much of an influence you have on me. Thank you❤
Thank you, Dr. Julie!
All of your clips are brilliantly shared in a way people can understand and get the message- thank you ever so kindly for all that you share and give of your gifts, to help others.
This is so true and something I just started doing. 100% vouch for this advice.
I found keeping a virtual post-it app on the phone and recording each step of progress with the date helps me feel really proud of myself. It also serves as a visual of your progress. One rule, don't add anything until you have already done it.
Hi, I'm currently writing my first novel and at first I was thrilled by the idea of the plot but when I actually started doing some research on how to write professionally this is exactly what happened. Character arcs, character development and depth, plotlines, timelines , world building, character interviews and so much that this video is exactly what I needed!
I love this, "Keep the promise to yourself"
Starting a new life in a new country, this video was just the right thing I needed to see today. Thank you for your help.
Thanks yt for this video to come on my feed.. I was searching for motivation from motivational videos and I got this instead.. I am soo much more happier, less overwhelmed and motivated now.. thanks mam ❤
Be intential !!! Commit to new routine to get to goal .❤❤❤❤
What has helped me most was picking the things I knew I could keep doing, and viewing the "end goal" as an inevitable outcome as long as I'm getting my expected results on a monthly basis.
It’s about discipline. I learned this while starting to workout and now it’s become an integral part of my lifestyle. I’m genuinely happier and eagerly looking forward for continuous positive growth.
Right, focus on the process. Thank you.
Thanks for everything! All the things that you say always help me! I appreciate you sm! ❤❤
You deserve a crown for this explanation. ❤ This is so powerful
Get the process right.
Excellent advice.
Thanks.
You're amazingly witty! I admire the way you illustrate your ideas!
Is there a link? What is calm?
Amen to that,I understand, keep going, enjoy the ride.
Thanks Dr.Julie!❤❤
Lady you are just gold
Thank you. I love this lesson
Wow, nicely put. Yes. Focus on the process/system broken down intuitively 👌
This is such an exact and accurate explanation
Literally just read an article today about getting back into a book reading habit. The first tip was to the effect of "stop identifying with being a reader", because not reading and calling yourself a reader is essentially lying to yourself. But it's the last thing you should do.
Obviously I haven't figured it out, however changing the internal dialogue from "I'm a reader who's a fraud," to "I will be a reader very soon. Tomorrow is another opportunity to be a reader," might help.
The best thing I've found is that you have to have a bigger, passionate "why" to the size of the tasks you want to make habit. If there's no grand passion behind your novel identity, the habits you need to become that person won't develop. Reason finds resolve. Excuses find exits.
greatest value is not what you get - goal - but what you become
Thank you thank you Dr. Julie! This advice could not have come at a better time for me in my life and I love these visual analogies they really resonate!
You are so good at explaining it! ❤
A very important and helpful advice on building discipline for new habits to stick
Sending my love to whomever had to clean this! 😅
Wow. Make the goal part of your identity, this is why people ask about hobbies. I love this short thanks 😊
Chase the routine, chase the long spree of progress 🎉
i wish I can afford an appointment with and help me help you to fix hyper anxiety issues cutting my life like butter .
but I absolutely love your presentation skills and the perspective you brought to your point instead of just verbally saying it.
My trick is breakthroughs along the way, and usually you tend to forget the distance to the end goal and achieve many outcomes from each step! And some you never even knew you needed to learn or help to launch another mini goal. What was A to B becomes a whole tree. 😊
Amazing! That’s what I really need… to form a habit! Thanks!!!
Thank you loving your energy.have a wonderful weekend. 😊
I love your creativity of showing what you mean ❤
Thank you doctor for all the videos...
Excellent visualizaton! Many thanks!
Thank you so much. I will definitely try this method. This might change my entire life.
wow..thoughts into your video is marvelous 🙌🙌
Thank you God bless ❤
Brilliant idea...love that concept...I overwhelm easily! Perfect for me. Thanks xx
That's very powerful. Thank you 🙂
I absolutely love this video. Thank you.
This is so relatable! I thank you for the advice.
Love your videos! One day, hour, minute at a time!
Omg I almost scrolled by this but it’s a nugget of truth. Form a new identity around the transformation wow🎉
This is what I do now!
This is now part of who I am and what I want to achieve!
💖💛❤️✨️💖💛❤️✨️💖💛❤️
It’s not the pursuit of happiness but the happiness of pursuit.
Completely agree, In therapy it took years to be where I am now I took it a day at a time. ❤
Your content was always good but it gets better. Nice to see you grow over all these years. You look well too. 👏👏👏
Thank you - brilliant - focus on the 'little' steps and soon will have climbed to the top of..... wonderful shift of mind. Thank you