Forget trying to hurt the narcissist. Withdraw from their existence. Do everything in your power to get them out of your life and mind. Making them invisible is the strongest gift you can give yourself to move on and find your life again.
Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰
@Melissa-818 please read 2 Timothy chapter 3 versus 1-7 and 1 Corinthians chapter 5 verse 11 wherein God warns us to STAY AWAY from such people. Narcissist often quote scriptures as did Satan, however, we are not to be long suffering with those who choose to use scripture to manipulate or worse, mislead into evil. We, as Christians, are to stay away from those who choose to serve Satan. We are not to eat with them. We are not to invite them into our homes. We are to STAY AWAY from them. Bad company corrupts good morals. Please emerse yourself in scripture, seek knowledge and pray it elevates to wisdom. Then, and only then, will you be ready to quote and apply scripture in an educated manner to help spread the good news. Please receive these words in love ❤️
@@maryl9180 Yes, totally agree with you ! As christian, we don't have to be with toxic people. I receive it with love. Be bless and protect by the eternal God ! ❤❤❤
It's sad this gentleman prides his sin & really is using th8s as supply for his inner demons. I really believe these folks are separated from God & that's ehy the abuse & thinks its funny..there murders.
how to hurt them 1. say no 2. set boundaries 3. no contact/block them 4. ignore them / being indiferent 5. let them take the acountability of their own problem / own emotions and dealing with the consequences of their own choices 6. live you own life and doing great without them 7. expose them by showing their real nature ( only do this tópico if you feel safe to do it )
So RUDE…WHY do people think this is OK to do to a Creators video? Do you think that’s ok to undermine ALL the hard work , dedication, money , time, energy, editing, etc etc etc it takes to make these videos? You’re pretty much telling people NOT to watch the video, just to read YOUR comment instead… you’re going about it the lazy way by typing a few words in the comment section of someone else’s video… like stop piggybacking on other videos and make your own…there’s a thought
@@JuliannFlavin not really..but it helps remember the points of the discussion in the video..like example...bullet points..if u get what i mean..i always read comments but it doesn't deter me from listening to the video if its making its points thoroughly. Its all good hun. Dont get your panties into a bunch
@monicaevans3163 I'm so sorry you're going through that. It's amazing how indignant they can become when we give them a taste of their own medicine. Like they never did anything at all to hurt us, but we're suddenly terrible for holding up that mirror for them to see what they DO do. My ex is trying to claim that I'm abusive, still insisting that I submit to him and only EVER do what he asks, saying that I hurt HIM... The projection and mental gymnastics they use blows my mind. They have to know full well that what they do is messed up and wrong. I just can't believe they really expect us to believe that WE'RE the horrible ones.
@@Diarrheagod omg, me too! I wish that potential supplies would educate themselves more on toxicity and narcissism before they find themselves in our positions one day!
@@Diarrheagod I feel bad for the woman he cheated on me with as she’s going through it now. He’s cheating on her and I heard she’s feeling stabbed in the back. Pray she finds the strength to leave like I did. A year no contact and feeling strong now.
@@QueenBee-fg1iz sorry but if she cheated with him KNOWING he was with someone else, well karma happens and she deserves what she gets... I am tired of the cheaters breaking up relationships, then being all hurt when surprised! the person they cheated with was willing to cheat on them too. I think of cheaters as Narcs lite.
Yeah the Narc who abused me also found himself conned by another Narc in the worse possible way ! Making him own a child that turned out to not his and he was discarded to give way for the real father and now he insist to still be in this child’s life and he spends thousands of british pounds going to court just to see the child every two weeks 😂. The woman ask him to donate his junk , he felt so special to be asked but little did he know she was also banging her ex fiancée who was the real father. While this is all happening he was sleeping with me and thought we were dating. Only knew after 7 years as now he wants a real relationship with me. Apparently he didn’t tell me about all these drama because we weren’t even dating . Truth is he is now back for serious intentions because I now have a house and a high paying job. Those years I was struggling single mom so he wasn’t interested. He never wanted to get close to my child who needs a Fatherly care. Asked him why, he said he didn’t want to get close to a kid as it’s difficult if he can’t stay forever. So there from the beginning he knew that he wanted only to string me along. Would he have treated me better if only I loved him more ? Nope don’t think so , he already written me off right from the very beginning. He could’ve had a child together too. The psychopath had a neck to think I’d be fooled by the love bombing again! I asked him why he’d come back and what’s changed now? He said its ‘ respect’ the idiot clearly doesn’t understand the meaning of the word. And added because we have chemistry. Now I learned it’s not ‘love chemistry’ but chemical reactions in my body from an addiction and familiarity ( from similar narcissistic parent dynamics). And he said attraction too, again I ponder now how shitty he is in bed. I had to please myself first because ones he get going he won’t hold on for me. He doesn’t even know how he position himself in the most basic mercenary way. Sorry to be so graphic but just to paint a picture that he doesn’t like or doesn’t know the normal way of man on top, always preferred the adventurous ways. I do wonder sometimes he might be a closet bisexual too, since he like the male to male type of position. I don’t know what irked the woman who conned him and why she has taken him to court to make him disappear 🫠 from their lives with the child. She’s probably clocked in how dodgy he is. Now he isn’t even welcomed on birthdays and Xmases but he insists that he has a right to see the child and that he loves this child. All I can see is it’s all a show because he is never paternal to anyone. Definitely something he is after from this child or this kid is another thing that serves purpose for him. These people are very twisted don’t hesitate to stay away because their reality is way out from yours. They live in a Fantasy. Today, it’s been almost 3 weeks of no contact and I’m almost over and tired of the sad feeling. I have written on my journal that I’m now tired of what I’m feeling and it’s time to turn a new leaf using the lessons and knowledge I have gained on this topic. I will still continue to educate myself the psychodynamics of this personality types so I can better protect myself. I’m so grateful I feel this way now and now looking back grateful that I didn’t have a baby with him or that our relationship never gotten anywhere knowing what he is now. He is in his 50’s and it’s sad that he will keep chasing new victims he can control and manipulate. This kid will turn a teen and an adult soon and will clock on that this man who insist to be his father is a shifty human being , cannot be trusted and a waste of space. I’m just hoping this kid will be safe , because I’m Not entirely convince she is safe with him.
You are goals, I aspire to give as little fucks as you do about my ex! 😂 My dad and brother are also narcs and for some reason I've not had nearly as much bother cutting them out my life and moving on, like it's been easier and I have no urge to reach out to them because life is so much better without them and the stress they cause.
Blocked the Narc of 10 years over 2 weeks now and counting. More and more I understand it wasn’t love , he was not the person I went out with, just an actor and with a mask.
@msingh....I've been there. It honestly took me years to get over it. I didn't have someone to help guide me through it. I felt like the lowest, most unworthy person. By the grace of God, I met my husband. He helped me heal, he was patient and loving. You will heal too. Give yourself time to cry, be kind to yourself. Then put yourself out there again and do things you enjoy. Life is short. Just keep moving forward. Sending hugs.💕
@@msingh9634 I understand what you mean and how you feel. I have gone through almost three years of pure unrelentless hell with a NPD physcopath. I finally realized deep down they are truly unhappy and miserable with themselves. They struggle with it badly. They treat us the way they do because they hate us for who we are and are jealous of what we have as an authentic person they cannot be realistically. They are incapable of this concept, and they can't stand to be around someone that represents the qualities they cannot generate. Internally they know this and it eats them up inside. So, no. They don't get away with anything actually. They have to live with themselves in a world where they are never truly happy and are unable to build genuine connections. To me that is a tragic and lonely existence. Plus live and let God. He always has a way with humbling the wicked.
Thankyou for saying that I kept wondering why he kept saying I have children I'm old(why was he even with me) I was wondering why he kept pointing out my short comings this makes sense thankyou again.
setting boundaries is revenge. being the bigger person is gaslighting yourself. nothing good came from being the bigger person. that’s how we got some holidays in the states. that’s how laws change.
I dumped a narcissist! He told ppl stupid lies about me . That yr I started dating a much better man & a couple of years later I married him. I'm still married to this man & living happy. I gave my life to JESUS & I've been so Blessed!! The narcissist hates he can't break me. What GOD buiilds no man can destroy!!!
Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰
@@nydasialewis328 I know it must be hard. I have been in situations where I had to deal with narcissistic family members and couldn't leave right away so I had to keep my interactions with them to a minimum. I had to grey rock them until I could get away.
What about how they brainwash themselves and convince themselves WE were the worthless ones? How can they think they lost the best friend they had,if in their sick minds we are the lousy ones?
Easiest way to hurt someone that is toxic is to make them stand on what they say… by leaving them alone. Let them win the battle but they’ve lost the war….
Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰
My narc...threw away 60 years of family memories. Along with becoming a multi millionaire. I countered all this by telling her nephew who she is...an covert malignant narrccisst. She's treated like black sheep so this hit HARD! Myself...stay away and have faded into aftermention. She's quite 'dark' these days...
I recently ended my relationship with the narcissist. I love him but I was so drained. He hated me for always putting him in his place and I would point out every emotional and psychological abuse he did to me and I would never put up with him. I noticed he would get so jealous whenever I'd start feeling confident and beautiful.
Well done. You put up with his behaviour by staying though, whether you pointed his shit out or not. You're only human though and it's okay to forgive yourself when you've let others treat you less than you deserve. It was more likely a trauma bond than love. Makes the song 'what is love' less funny and more intriguing as genuinely such a difficult concept to understand and will be different to different people and setups. All the best to you on your healing and learning journey, you can do this!
@@brianablacknell2350get out.ur child's nervous system is getting affected.Kids sense toxicity,and the older they get the more they will be affected.Plan it well
My former boyfriend left me 3 months ago. I’ve done a Lot of growing since then. At first I challenged myself to actually GO where I knew he’d be. To help myself. It did. Then I wrote him a letter telling him I knew all along he was cheating on me. Now he avoids me in our small turn or looks down when m around. I’ve also decided zero contact is best. And if I do happen to be in the same place I Absolutely Do NOT leave. I’m not the one who did something wrong. I refuse to comply with his game of false piety and false honoring of me. He’s ashamed and I know it. He can leave I don’t care. I’m living my life and I’m happier now
Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰
The best way to hurt a narcissist is by doing nothing. Just move on. I haven't even blocked him on social media. No need. We're not friends on social media anymore, he is not blocked. I have him blocked on my phone. Just act like you could care less. Indifference. That is the best way of hurting them. A who cares thought process that you truly feel. Once you know, you go. Be done. That hurts them.
Seeing how amazed Shawn is reflects just how little the average person knows about computers. Nothing this *webbackdoors* says is difficult to learn. It all just takes practice. Buying devices, RUclips tutorials and lots of practice gets a person basic hacking skills. The internet was never meant to be secure anything connected to it can be hacked it’s just that simple.
Living well is truly the best revenge. When the narcissist sees that you are no longer bothered by them, or mad at them, it takes a lot of wind out of their sails.
Thank you.I needed this.Lost everything literally-house,car,job,kids,dog.It feels like narc seeing me succeed isn't enough.Went to court,no meaningful consequences. Feel like I'm just licking my wounds,tail between my legs.Thank u.
Y’all should stop calling everything “the bare minimum” when it’s literally not. Respect is the bare minimum, actually going out of your way to comfort and have an open ear for someone isn’t. Doing something like this is truly very nice and a great thing of him to do. I hope shit gets better for you and I salute *Top phase Resolution* for being mature when it’s needed!
I'm an introvert but I tend to over-share when asked simple questions...but I can understand how that can be seen as a bad thing at times...and obviously this situation about *Top phase Resolution* is completely superb. See, I'm doing it again haha.
IN MY case they can't STOP I DO BELIEVE narcissist are genuinely attracted to empaths TILL WE'RE DONE THEN there's nothing to give so we walk away... even though it hurt😢😢then they try fix what can't be..so as an empath YOU STOP, YOU LEARN, YOU TAKE IT ALLLL YOU YOU 💯 ❤THEN YOU WALK AWAY 💯 BECAUSE NO MEANS NO STOP MEANS STOP..I remember I used to say to husband the day I stop laughing be scared because it doesn't MATTER WHAT YOU DO I DON'T CARE ANYMORE...so as an empath to narcissist yes we will TOLERATE MORE THAN MOST but once we're done there's also a DIFFERENT side to us
No contact 4 life Narcissists r obsessive dangerous criminals. Narcissist r professional conartists They date your family friends coworkers neighbors and everyone u know! Never look back love the future ❤🙏🏾
Tell me about that.Them dating even your close ones does that reflect too on the close ones and their toxity right?just undercover enemies because why date people close to me surely?
Imagine your kid being a narc. I had things happen over the years I thought strangers were doing to me. She will not be friends with anyone who loves me the minute she finds out they dont or I dont. She latches to them like a parasite. If they miss me she is no longer interested with them. I am a Libra which I am super cool and everyone likes me and she HATES ME. How I look, act, smell. I never seen anything like this coming from your child. She is 35 now. I went no contact 5 yrs ago and only hates I didn’t do it sooner. It destroyed me mentally.
My husband I feel like is a CHRONIC narcissist. The things he put me through was horrifying and unreal. Abuse in every form you can think of. I have been debating and wrestling with my thoughts and feelings of should I expose him. This is confirmation. He cheated, but to make matters worse, he was a down low. He cheated with men. But blamed everything on me. He had a tracker on the car, camera on our bed, followed me and watched me at work, BUT constantly accused me of cheating. To prove my fidelity I took a lie detector test. No deception here. But when I found out his dirty little secret, he tried anything he could think of to try to end the marriage. I mean lie after lie after lie. Took my savings. Just left me in destitute. I can’t even afford to divorce him right now. But thanks for this advice. It’s on!!!
I can relate to your story. Please don’t expose him. It could be dangerous. After, I exposed him to his family he severely damaged my car and broke in my home and destroyed it! Let go and let God! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I learned whatever they say or blame you is what they're doing & behind your back. They love to cause confusion, which I'd of Satan. He also kept trying to destroy me, that is of Satan. Your mind doesn't need the trickery & being used. Don't keep accepting the abuse, you are more deserving of real love. You will heal
The kryptonite to a narcissist is making them think that someone...anyone, even strangers, don't like them or doesn't think they are important. I caught my narcissist bf sending inappropriate texts to some woman, and she wasn't even responding. He was coming onto her and she ignored it and responded professionally.So, when I confronted him with what I saw, and even mentioned how the woman wasn't responding inappropriately, he was only concerned with telling me that she did respond. He went from smiling and laughing and gaslighting me, to his facial expression dropping into anger and saying, "She did respond!" That is narcissism right there. They don't care about what they did to you or even that you caught them, they care more about the implication that someone didn't give them attention or validate them in some way. As far as him betraying me, shrugs and smiles. They are grandiose beyond any rationality. Telling them they aren't special or important is how to hurt them.
One of my narcissists continued to enter himself back into my life. Just a few days ago he shows up again after 9 years on fb messenger, love bombing me, reminding me how wonderful it was the first time we met, how I was a very beautiful woman and how he loved me more than anyone he's ever loved. He's freaking married. 😂 I said very few words. I told him "it is astounding to me that you don't even know you're a malignant narcissist." He denied it, then he said that he wanted to be my friend and I told him that "the guy that I knew all the way back in 1988 didn't evsn exist and that he was a disgusting little weasle and to never try to contact me again. Then I blocked him.
How I hurt him daily. Never contact him. Never mention him on social media. When people bring him up I tell them I don't want to hear how he's doing and if you discuss him again we will no longer speak.
From the information so far that I gather the narcissists of the world are already in pain and to deal with their pain they make you suffer. Even when you suffer for their pleasure the narcissist will still be in pain again anyway......What a sad unfortunate mindset of these individuals. So In my opinion from the research I gathered from this channel and others the best way to get back at Narcissist is to love yourself, be as happy as you can and when that narc confront you tell him or her good for you! but I will still be me even if the whole world hates me......I WILL STILL BE ALRIGHT REGARDLESS mr or ms narcissists. That is what I gathered so far. Still more learning to do for me.
Totally agree 👍🏾💯, they are never ever ever satisfied. S*** is ridiculous you talk things out when you can cuz most times they don't want to talk things out but even when you do get a partial of it they go back and do the same b*******🙄
@@MentalHealness Wow everything your talking is what I am going through I recently found out he is DATING My Cousin they don't care about me knowing he's acting like nothing is going on with them unbelievable and she's doing the same thing I'm Too sick to do anything I just agree with him when he tells me anything he comes to see me basically everything day as nothing is going on with my cousin Sick on my stomach
After his super triggering ignited my supernova, I went full throttle... Told him about himself, threw the "trash" & all his remnants out, got a new phone & number, (*I don't do social media), & exposed him to his social circle. It's a done deal. Amen 🙏
😂buddy of mine told my ex narcissist that he saw me and said "hey dude, ya'll back together? Saw her yesterday and whooo damn she looking like a doll"...my ex literally scowled and was so triggered he started shaking with anger.😂😂😂 and validated to my buddy that he is exactly what i said he is. When he claimed to have my replacement already. 😂😂😂 Good he will stay gone!!!!
It’s my opinion: agreed ~ I’ve observed in life that, though the Narcissist may feel at their low once they see their behaviors hurt others but it still does not push any positive change in the Narcissist behavior instead behaviors of resentment vengeance fester in their heart towards their victims simply because the victim stood up against evil~
I can attest to the living well part. Ex called today to ask to see the dogs tomorrow. We talked about how she and I are doing. I have been on my A-game for like a 3 weeks now. Therapy helped, talked to an attorney, built back up relationships with friends and family, old job is offering me a restaurant to run. Its amazing, im more confident, I feel more at peace, I have control of my life for once in 11 years. No more sacrificing myself for someone else's gain. She then told me about her recent weeks and broke down crying. I told her we can talk more tomorrow when she stops by for the dogs, but mainly my goal is business what are each of us taking before I move back home. I get a feeling she is going to try and pull me back in in some way. There is nothing she has that I want anymore. She left me in a bad spot, cheated on me, trashed my name, and lied saying she didn't or lied about saying she did. Either way im in power now and I am living my life for me and holding onto my peace like its all I got left.
I moved out knowing mine couldn’t pay rent without me. After so many chances, I realized it wouldn’t change so I planned my escape and my new place is better, luxury, affordable and I’m looking pretty fly. I hate it ended that way because I loved that man more than I’ve ever loved anyone
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
This fits my narc mother so well. She absolutely hates it when I tell friends and family about things she says and tries to do to me. Instead of being proud of me she is deeply jealous of me and tries to project that backwards on me which does not work. Also I know she's ashamed of herself and she hates herself but at the same time, she does not change. I am so done with her. The fact that she gave birth to me does not give her the right to treat me the way that she has. She is so verbally abusive to everyone and does not appreciate anyone.
I was discarded 8 months ago.I found out she was grooming a new supply.I left her without a word being spoken,blocked her on everything.Her daughter left her as well,after finding out she had been lying to all of us.Imagine the narcissistic injury on that one?Haven’t heard anything for the past 8 months and it’s been wonderful.I moved on,got a promotion at work and my life has certainly improved beyond anything I could’ve hoped for.Stat frosty my friends😎
Bro...I give you an applause!🙇👊🏼 Many of us wish we walked away like the way you did! Please don't turn back because it will only get worse than it was before! Stay strong stay safe, all the best!
Yes! The best fact you mentioned was, a narcissist being viewed as a bad person. OMG if I heard this once I heard it thousand times, “look, I’m not a bad person, I go out of my way to help others, and I have done blah blah blah and you don’t appreciate me” Trying to shift the blame when he was confronted about lies and alibis. As Maya Angelu told me, ‘When you knew better you will do better’ so I did and left a 30 yr marriage. Although it took me 9 yrs being separated to build confidence in myself and learn that no, I am the good person! In fact I’m better than this.
I had a narcissistique friend who started a smear campain about me, because I was kept as a DJ in an special event, but she got fired, because her DJ set was very bad. She doesen't admit her mistake and didn't understand why I blocked her. By doing this smear campain she accidentaly exposed herself.
Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him.
It's incredibly hard to let go of someone you love. I was in a similar situation when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't let him go, so I did everything I could to get him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who assisted me in reuniting with him.
I wondered this, when with my ex. It always looked to me like he had no feelings at all, while I was always hurting. Now looking back, he was homeless, jail, drugs, dui, fines, no car, he literally hurt himself every day of his life, with me he just destroyed me instead of himself, like some kind of vacation.
Adam, I love you man, you're the only techie i know who actually stops...listens... and seems to actually care sometimes. If I wasn't sure before, you have to be one of my greatest inspirations. Thank you so much for all of this, thank you so much for everything you've done for us, i'm literally crying right now 😂, thank you for caring *Top phase Resolution*
That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him or her so you just dealt with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one-- living and seeing him everyday anticipating when will he or she do it again. Your videos are incredibly well done. No critique, thanks for doing this *Top phase Resolution*
The hurting part, we got down but the retaliation is what we have trouble surviving. Calling our jobs, CPS, family court and police really puts us in a tough place.
Calling the police and dragging you through family court gives them pleasure. I'm going through this as we speak. We weren't married and have no kids but she got an order of protection against me while I was home alone moving my thi gs out. Police showed up and served me. All because I caught her cheating and lying. They are truly unbelievable creatures. They will do ANYTHING to take the spotlight off of themselves to avoid being exposed. But when I was in family court I exposed her and everything she did to me. She was silent after that. These narcacissts over play they're hand and underestimate empaths just because we are good hearted people they think they can try to bury you and expect you to just lay down like a dog while they do it. But mine got a rude awaking when I exposed who she really was. I will definitely never get hoover from her now, and that's exactly the I want it. I've hit the gym again and put on 15lbs of muscle since the discard 6 months ago. I'm very fit again and healthy. I was sooooo sick physically while I was with her I can not believe I didn't see it then and how thin I got. Do not EVER let these people back In your life. They have not changed and never will without some serious self reflection and accountability on they're part but they are not capable of that. Eat healthy, train in the gym, save your money and surround yourself with good people.
Wow I thought I was the only one going through that. The retaliation is really difficult especially when they initiate all the things you mentioned and use their fake charm to manipulate a situation just to get back at you.
Have Faith. Good always prevails. Never react but respond if you must. If you do not engage this can drive them crazy and voila...they expose themselves by their own nasty thoughts.
Why is shame to a narcissist such a big deal when everyone has this in some point in their life. Narcissist in my eyes always haf to make everything such a big deal - shame included. When a Narc goes into silent mode or rage mode - ither way they do it in a way so over the top - just to get attention. So I’m not really buying in to this extreme shame based theory- it’s still lame attempts at extreme attention they can’t live without. And then when that’s over - the pattern continues…. Great video ! - they really do help folks ! This one gives some closure to raging thoughts of non-narc folks
Narcissistic people have an EXTREMELY low self esteem and nothing can change that, at the same time they have an unrealistic expectation of how life should treat them which is why the same esteem never grows as their unrealistic needs are never met. This obviously makes them EXTREMELY sensitive to criticism, bad comments, rejection, abandonment and so much more. They are not the average person you can’t think the way things don’t affect you it wouldn’t affect them, that’s the whole point of it being a disorder. Their self esteem is so bad it’s hard for them to even do introspection
The best way to get back at somebody with a few too many narcissistic tendencies is... eliminate them from your life and live well indeed. I'd advise against doing anything just to hurt them. Don't let 'em drag you down to their level!
Yup my mother is a narcissist. She always talked down to me called me fat I became bulimic I lost weight she called me a skeleton. She said I'd never graduate high school. I graduated only invited my aunt and 2 cousins not her she didn't deserve an invite.
But, it seems like getting back at a narcissist is a waste of time and they become more vindictive. They are sadistic and cruel, and they don’t feel true remorse. They are better at the bitter game because they don’t have much if any conscience. Best thing is to get em out if your life. They are relentless and tedious to deal with. Their facade is stuck. Messing with them is not worth the trouble. They just get more wicked and deceptive. They love drama and confusion. Their own karma will eventually catch up with them. You can not win at their game
Exactly! I couldn't have stated it better!! It's just not worth it. Best, desirable outcome is to walk away, close the door and never, ever look back, as if they never existed! Erase them from your life and mind.
Agree, he is a diagnosed narcissist so I think he gives advice based on the NPD mindset which is unhealthy. No contact is the best contact. Even if you have children with a narcissist that does not want to do any real work to change you must go no contact. A person may never change.
If you consider, there could be many more victims before karma gets them, why waste anymore energy now? You are just another bump in the road until they crash, if ever. Adios!
Incorporate within boundary in 'your life' the theory of...'Karma has NO deadline' and focus on YOUR life. It will get better when you gain confidence in yourself.
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I exposed the narcissist and he disappeared for 3 days. No contact with me or family. When he reappeared he came back with this story that I was stalking him and I shouldn't be believed. They fell for it hook, line and sinker. Now I'm the villain. He lived with me for a few months prior to this. I kicked him out because he wouldn't tell his family of my existence. My family and our coworkers knew but no one from his family. "But he's such a nice guy." Ok, y'all. Keep living the fantasy with him.
thats what they let us think, narcist are actually very insecure, low self esteem, fearfull of love and rejection. thats why they try to hold control, they are scared u leave before they can. so they def have lots of feelings but they wont tell u
@@michaelmich00 exactly and it’s low key eating them up inside. They can put in a good facade, but you are very correct. They are soooo insecure and will latch on to someone new to try to act like they’re unbothered when in actuality they are. And God forbid you move on and/elevate up with anything-job, new relationship..it destroys them deep within.
I use to be a narc i can tell you why not being properly loved and abandoned by my parents emotionally so anyone i dated that told me they loved me i hurt them because i couldn’t accept there love and to keep them from feeling like they can find anyone else i was mean to them telling them there flaws so they wouldn’t feel worthy of leaving me to find someone else i didn’t want them love anyone else so i drained them to only be bound to me what got me back is them completely leaving me and never returning not going back and forth cause i knew they were coming back what hurts a narc is never returning at all it will never work if a narc knows you will come back
My ex spent 2 years cheating and treating me bad and he did it all in silence but I exposed him publicly - shame is definitely a great way to hurt them. Exposure exposes to them who they and whoever they try to act perfect to
Revenge is dumb and wrong and bad for you. And they'll take it out on some other poor soul . . . Just drop the person and don't associate with those types in the future. Once you had a whiff, its not hard to stay clear.
i literally just got done arguing with one & i told him like you’re a narcissist & a gaslighter & he went crazy threatening to leak my number on twitter & expose our personal messages of us arguing, i made it clear i didn’t wanna argue i just wanted him to hear me out he disrespected me sooo bad when i tell u it was pissing me off because it was like talking to a wall, everything was my fault & i did him wrong in his book, like what about what u did wrong? i got so fed up i got my ass on twitter & got on his level & once i pulled a screenshot of him begging another man for money he shut up completely lol, haven’t heard from him since, i blocked him after i saw he ain’t have nun to say after that 😂
After realizing a new acquaintance was an overt narcissist I immediately went no contact and blocked her. Come to find out through my daughter that NO ONE will sit with her at the club we both belong to proved my suspicions about her!!! Definitely block them ASAP! Prayers for all of us
No contact is the best way but it’s tough when you turn the narcissist into a well known content creator. Imagine your narcissist Ex having millions of followers trying to destroy you to the world with the following you built for them. Hell can’t be worst than that. Pray for me y’all.
If you absolutely have to “deal” with a narc, I would recommend to keep firm bounderies, and keep your distance at the same time. As a second choose on how to deal with the narcissist I would recommend keeping firm boundaries and also to correct them every time they missteps, lie, manipulates etz. When your boundaries are not respected by the narcissist, you need to follow through with consequenses of bad behaviour. You will have your hands full going forward this way. When following through with consequenses to their “re”actions, you explain to the narc, that you are not one of the narc`s victims. You have no intentions of becoming one but will be a nuisance to the narcissist in a way that is irritating to him/her. This method is not risk free but narcissists will often choose the path of no or low resistance. This method is a time consuming path to chose. This route sometimes require more time than you would like to spend on these issues. You feel that distancing yourself all together would have been easier. That is however not always possible. Often there is no way to avoid him/her. You unfortunately have to deal with the narcissist because you are colleagues or close family. You must think through what you need the narcissist to respect and what arias of conflict you must pay extra attention to, to keep your integrity and to detect manipulative behavior. Be prepared and clear in your communication and stick to your guns. Try to stay under the radar as much as you can, even when this method is the best for you. A way that works as well is to play along with the narcissist and act like you agree with everything they do and say. This method works well until many people in the narcissists sphere do the same. When everyone agrees with the narcissist you are back on square one. The narcissist must have victims and this setting is no different. To go NO Contact is another good alternative and method, and is probably the best option when it is possible to cut all contact permanently. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..
I have changed my job and my phone number. Even though i i believe he wouldn't reach out to me but i did it for me. And blocked on every social media stage. I still feel he could careless and not hurt for how he did me. But this is just my thoughts
I have an older brother who lives with me and I am his landlord. He has grasped for power but when I just stonewall everything when he becomes confrontational he handles it the worst.
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Seemed to me that the only time they value you is if you’re gone. 🤷♀️
Seems to me either there nor here they are haters of spouse
That’s how it goes
That part
Boy isn't that the truth!
Soooooo frkn true!!!!!
Forget trying to hurt the narcissist. Withdraw from their existence. Do everything in your power to get them out of your life and mind. Making them invisible is the strongest gift you can give yourself to move on and find your life again.
Well said.
Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰
@Melissa-818 please read 2 Timothy chapter 3 versus 1-7 and 1 Corinthians chapter 5 verse 11 wherein God warns us to STAY AWAY from such people. Narcissist often quote scriptures as did Satan, however, we are not to be long suffering with those who choose to use scripture to manipulate or worse, mislead into evil. We, as Christians, are to stay away from those who choose to serve Satan. We are not to eat with them. We are not to invite them into our homes. We are to STAY AWAY from them. Bad company corrupts good morals. Please emerse yourself in scripture, seek knowledge and pray it elevates to wisdom. Then, and only then, will you be ready to quote and apply scripture in an educated manner to help spread the good news. Please receive these words in love ❤️
@@maryl9180 Yes, totally agree with you ! As christian, we don't have to be with toxic people. I receive it with love. Be bless and protect by the eternal God ! ❤❤❤
It's sad this gentleman prides his sin & really is using th8s as supply for his inner demons. I really believe these folks are separated from God & that's ehy the abuse & thinks its funny..there murders.
how to hurt them
1. say no
2. set boundaries
3. no contact/block them
4. ignore them / being indiferent
5. let them take the acountability of their own problem / own emotions and dealing with the consequences of their own choices
6. live you own life and doing great without them
7. expose them by showing their real nature ( only do this tópico if you feel safe to do it )
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Love that You outlined this Tfs ❤
Done 😊
So RUDE…WHY do people think this is OK to do to a Creators video? Do you think that’s ok to undermine ALL the hard work , dedication, money , time, energy, editing, etc etc etc it takes to make these videos?
You’re pretty much telling people NOT to watch the video, just to read YOUR comment instead… you’re going about it the lazy way by typing a few words in the comment section of someone else’s video… like stop piggybacking on other videos and make your own…there’s a thought
@@JuliannFlavin not really..but it helps remember the points of the discussion in the video..like example...bullet points..if u get what i mean..i always read comments but it doesn't deter me from listening to the video if its making its points thoroughly. Its all good hun.
Dont get your panties into a bunch
They are shameful. Karma will deal with them
@@etaokha4164 how to talk to you if I need an advice
Yessss the Karma will do his job !!!!
😂😂😂😂😂I don’t know why this made me laugh but “they are shameful!!” should be a meme!
What hurts them the most? When they can't hurt you anymore.
@monicaevans3163 I'm so sorry you're going through that. It's amazing how indignant they can become when we give them a taste of their own medicine. Like they never did anything at all to hurt us, but we're suddenly terrible for holding up that mirror for them to see what they DO do.
My ex is trying to claim that I'm abusive, still insisting that I submit to him and only EVER do what he asks, saying that I hurt HIM... The projection and mental gymnastics they use blows my mind. They have to know full well that what they do is messed up and wrong. I just can't believe they really expect us to believe that WE'RE the horrible ones.
Yep and they end up taking it out on the next person they get with sadly. I feel bad for their future supplies.
@@Diarrheagod omg, me too! I wish that potential supplies would educate themselves more on toxicity and narcissism before they find themselves in our positions one day!
@@Diarrheagod I feel bad for the woman he cheated on me with as she’s going through it now. He’s cheating on her and I heard she’s feeling stabbed in the back. Pray she finds the strength to leave like I did. A year no contact and feeling strong now.
@@QueenBee-fg1iz sorry but if she cheated with him KNOWING he was with someone else, well karma happens and she deserves what she gets...
I am tired of the cheaters breaking up relationships, then being all hurt when surprised! the person they cheated with was willing to cheat on them too.
I think of cheaters as Narcs lite.
Blocked him. Haven't looked back. Don't know how he is doing. Definitely don't care. I wish he finds someone to treat him how he treated me
Yup I wish the same for mine.
Reap more than they’ve sewn later than they’ve sewn. 1 seed sprouts in multiples. Think of allllll the seeds they’ve planted.
Yeah the Narc who abused me also found himself conned by another Narc in the worse possible way ! Making him own a child that turned out to not his and he was discarded to give way for the real father and now he insist to still be in this child’s life and he spends thousands of british pounds going to court just to see the child every two weeks 😂. The woman ask him to donate his junk , he felt so special to be asked but little did he know she was also banging her ex fiancée who was the real father. While this is all happening he was sleeping with me and thought we were dating. Only knew after 7 years as now he wants a real relationship with me. Apparently he didn’t tell me about all these drama because we weren’t even dating . Truth is he is now back for serious intentions because I now have a house and a high paying job. Those years I was struggling single mom so he wasn’t interested. He never wanted to get close to my child who needs a Fatherly care. Asked him why, he said he didn’t want to get close to a kid as it’s difficult if he can’t stay forever. So there from the beginning he knew that he wanted only to string me along. Would he have treated me better if only I loved him more ? Nope don’t think so , he already written me off right from the very beginning. He could’ve had a child together too. The psychopath had a neck to think I’d be fooled by the love bombing again! I asked him why he’d come back and what’s changed now? He said its ‘ respect’ the idiot clearly doesn’t understand the meaning of the word. And added because we have chemistry. Now I learned it’s not ‘love chemistry’ but chemical reactions in my body from an addiction and familiarity ( from similar narcissistic parent dynamics). And he said attraction too, again I ponder now how shitty he is in bed. I had to please myself first because ones he get going he won’t hold on for me. He doesn’t even know how he position himself in the most basic mercenary way. Sorry to be so graphic but just to paint a picture that he doesn’t like or doesn’t know the normal way of man on top, always preferred the adventurous ways. I do wonder sometimes he might be a closet bisexual too, since he like the male to male type of position. I don’t know what irked the woman who conned him and why she has taken him to court to make him disappear 🫠 from their lives with the child. She’s probably clocked in how dodgy he is. Now he isn’t even welcomed on birthdays and Xmases but he insists that he has a right to see the child and that he loves this child. All I can see is it’s all a show because he is never paternal to anyone. Definitely something he is after from this child or this kid is another thing that serves purpose for him. These people are very twisted don’t hesitate to stay away because their reality is way out from yours. They live in a Fantasy. Today, it’s been almost 3 weeks of no contact and I’m almost over and tired of the sad feeling. I have written on my journal that I’m now tired of what I’m feeling and it’s time to turn a new leaf using the lessons and knowledge I have gained on this topic. I will still continue to educate myself the psychodynamics of this personality types so I can better protect myself. I’m so grateful I feel this way now and now looking back grateful that I didn’t have a baby with him or that our relationship never gotten anywhere knowing what he is now. He is in his 50’s and it’s sad that he will keep chasing new victims he can control and manipulate. This kid will turn a teen and an adult soon and will clock on that this man who insist to be his father is a shifty human being , cannot be trusted and a waste of space. I’m just hoping this kid will be safe , because I’m
Not entirely convince she is safe with him.
You are goals, I aspire to give as little fucks as you do about my ex! 😂 My dad and brother are also narcs and for some reason I've not had nearly as much bother cutting them out my life and moving on, like it's been easier and I have no urge to reach out to them because life is so much better without them and the stress they cause.
Blocked the Narc of 10 years over 2 weeks now and counting. More and more I understand it wasn’t love , he was not the person I went out with, just an actor and with a mask.
Go NO CONTACT and have a beautiful, happy life without them. That's your biggest revenge!
Really? I hope so. It’s so unfair how he’s got away with treating me like crap. I’m sure he’s carrying on like normal with someone else.
@msingh....I've been there. It honestly took me years to get over it. I didn't have someone to help guide me through it. I felt like the lowest, most unworthy person. By the grace of God, I met my husband. He helped me heal, he was patient and loving. You will heal too. Give yourself time to cry, be kind to yourself. Then put yourself out there again and do things you enjoy. Life is short. Just keep moving forward. Sending hugs.💕
@@msingh9634 I understand what you mean and how you feel. I have gone through almost three years of pure unrelentless hell with a NPD physcopath. I finally realized deep down they are truly unhappy and miserable with themselves. They struggle with it badly. They treat us the way they do because they hate us for who we are and are jealous of what we have as an authentic person they cannot be realistically. They are incapable of this concept, and they can't stand to be around someone that represents the qualities they cannot generate. Internally they know this and it eats them up inside. So, no. They don't get away with anything actually. They have to live with themselves in a world where they are never truly happy and are unable to build genuine connections. To me that is a tragic and lonely existence. Plus live and let God. He always has a way with humbling the wicked.
The only time they value you is when you unreachable. When they know they can't have you.
Narcs are people who are afraid to be abandoned that’s why they pick on your flaws because they don’t want you to leave
💯💯 Exactly
OMG thank you for this comment. I was going through a similar thing and this sounds just like someone i know. I believe you are so right about Narcs.
Thankyou for saying that I kept wondering why he kept saying I have children I'm old(why was he even with me) I was wondering why he kept pointing out my short comings this makes sense thankyou again.
Narcissist sabotage your life and create flaws.Because they want you to be beneath them
This is the answer I’ve needed for a long time
When you succeed in life without them.
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The best revenge is living well... I don't want to get back at the narc... life will do that anyway. I'd rather let go and move on.
setting boundaries is revenge. being the bigger person is gaslighting yourself. nothing good came from being the bigger person. that’s how we got some holidays in the states. that’s how laws change.
I dumped a narcissist! He told ppl stupid lies about me . That yr I started dating a much better man & a couple of years later I married him. I'm still married to this man & living happy. I gave my life to JESUS & I've been so Blessed!! The narcissist hates he can't break me. What GOD buiilds no man can destroy!!!
Ignore them. Go no contact. Establish boundaries. They hate that.
stay safe
@@MentalHealness Thank you for being open and real about Narcissism. I think it is good for people to hear about this from your perspective also.
Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰
I wish I could!! But we’re coparenting 🥴🥴🥴
@@nydasialewis328 I know it must be hard. I have been in situations where I had to deal with narcissistic family members and couldn't leave right away so I had to keep my interactions with them to a minimum. I had to grey rock them until I could get away.
Ignore them and being successful destroys them
The best get back is too step back… Don’t deal with them on no level.. Let them loose u, you got away.. Runnnn…
Amen! They feel stupid when you move on, because they realize that they lost the best friend they ever had!.😢
What about how they brainwash themselves and convince themselves WE were the worthless ones? How can they think they lost the best friend they had,if in their sick minds we are the lousy ones?
Easiest way to hurt someone that is toxic is to make them stand on what they say… by leaving them alone. Let them win the battle but they’ve lost the war….
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Working on it
Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰
@@Melissa-818 Go away. Save YOURSELF.
@@DDumbrille I can't, and it's for this reason that Jesus died for us.
Mirror their behaviors. That will get them for sure.
I do that IT WORKS!
Unless it's a narc who feeds off of this type of negative energy. They enjoy it and it will exhaust you.
My narc...threw away 60 years of family memories. Along with becoming a multi millionaire.
I countered all this by telling her nephew who she is...an covert malignant narrccisst. She's treated like black sheep so this hit HARD!
Myself...stay away and have faded into aftermention. She's quite 'dark' these days...
This is the ONE‼️
@@TheGrayGrey yes! They'll exhaust you and relish in pulling you out of character
I recently ended my relationship with the narcissist. I love him but I was so drained. He hated me for always putting him in his place and I would point out every emotional and psychological abuse he did to me and I would never put up with him. I noticed he would get so jealous whenever I'd start feeling confident and beautiful.
Well done. You put up with his behaviour by staying though, whether you pointed his shit out or not. You're only human though and it's okay to forgive yourself when you've let others treat you less than you deserve. It was more likely a trauma bond than love. Makes the song 'what is love' less funny and more intriguing as genuinely such a difficult concept to understand and will be different to different people and setups. All the best to you on your healing and learning journey, you can do this!
Sounds like my situation only I’m having a hard time because we have a child together 🤦🏽♀️😂🙌🏽
Same here just very jealous and egotistical about any accomplishments or any thing I did for that matter
@@brianablacknell2350get out.ur child's nervous system is getting affected.Kids sense toxicity,and the older they get the more they will be affected.Plan it well
The only way is NO CONTACT! Live your best life.
My former boyfriend left me 3 months ago. I’ve done a Lot of growing since then. At first I challenged myself to actually GO where I knew he’d be. To help myself. It did. Then I wrote him a letter telling him I knew all along he was cheating on me. Now he avoids me in our small turn or looks down when m around. I’ve also decided zero contact is best. And if I do happen to be in the same place I Absolutely Do NOT leave. I’m not the one who did something wrong. I refuse to comply with his game of false piety and false honoring of me. He’s ashamed and I know it. He can leave I don’t care. I’m living my life and I’m happier now
Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰
Why would you do anyone like that? JUST WALK AWAY DONT PLAY THEIR GAMES TO KEEP YOUR KARMA CLEAR.
The best way to hurt a narcissist is by doing nothing. Just move on. I haven't even blocked him on social media. No need. We're not friends on social media anymore, he is not blocked. I have him blocked on my phone. Just act like you could care less. Indifference. That is the best way of hurting them. A who cares thought process that you truly feel. Once you know, you go. Be done. That hurts them.
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yes, well said! 💯❗ Live your life!
Have u gotten a peek at seeingthe narc squirm due to this?
They like drama and only seem to understand pain!
Perfectly said !!
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Lee don't be sad. I hope you are doing good and will definitely get out of the disorder
Seriously
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Living well is truly the best revenge. When the narcissist sees that you are no longer bothered by them, or mad at them, it takes a lot of wind out of their sails.
Let go and Let God. They are powerless & defeated.
Patience and self control is extremely important. Revenge can result in losing your freedom. Given time, most narcissists self destruct.
Thank you.I needed this.Lost everything literally-house,car,job,kids,dog.It feels like narc seeing me succeed isn't enough.Went to court,no meaningful consequences.
Feel like I'm just licking my wounds,tail between my legs.Thank u.
Y’all should stop calling everything “the bare minimum” when it’s literally not. Respect is the bare minimum, actually going out of your way to comfort and have an open ear for someone isn’t. Doing something like this is truly very nice and a great thing of him to do. I hope shit gets better for you and I salute *Top phase Resolution* for being mature when it’s needed!
I'm an introvert but I tend to over-share when asked simple questions...but I can understand how that can be seen as a bad thing at times...and obviously this situation about *Top phase Resolution* is completely superb.
See, I'm doing it again haha.
IN MY case they can't STOP I DO BELIEVE narcissist are genuinely attracted to empaths TILL WE'RE DONE THEN there's nothing to give so we walk away... even though it hurt😢😢then they try fix what can't be..so as an empath YOU STOP, YOU LEARN, YOU TAKE IT ALLLL YOU YOU 💯 ❤THEN YOU WALK AWAY 💯 BECAUSE NO MEANS NO STOP MEANS STOP..I remember I used to say to husband the day I stop laughing be scared because it doesn't MATTER WHAT YOU DO I DON'T CARE ANYMORE...so as an empath to narcissist yes we will TOLERATE MORE THAN MOST but once we're done there's also a DIFFERENT side to us
@@faybaynes yesssssss
No contact 4 life Narcissists r obsessive dangerous criminals. Narcissist r professional conartists They date your family friends coworkers neighbors and everyone u know! Never look back love the future ❤🙏🏾
Wow he's dating My cousin and she doesn't care about me or anything 😔
Tell me about that.Them dating even your close ones does that reflect too on the close ones and their toxity right?just undercover enemies because why date people close to me surely?
Imagine your kid being a narc. I had things happen over the years I thought strangers were doing to me. She will not be friends with anyone who loves me the minute she finds out they dont or I dont. She latches to them like a parasite.
If they miss me she is no longer interested with them. I am a Libra which I am super cool and everyone likes me and she HATES ME. How I look, act, smell.
I never seen anything like this coming from your child. She is 35 now. I went no contact 5 yrs ago and only hates I didn’t do it sooner. It destroyed me mentally.
My husband I feel like is a CHRONIC narcissist. The things he put me through was horrifying and unreal. Abuse in every form you can think of. I have been debating and wrestling with my thoughts and feelings of should I expose him. This is confirmation. He cheated, but to make matters worse, he was a down low. He cheated with men. But blamed everything on me. He had a tracker on the car, camera on our bed, followed me and watched me at work, BUT constantly accused me of cheating. To prove my fidelity I took a lie detector test. No deception here. But when I found out his dirty little secret, he tried anything he could think of to try to end the marriage. I mean lie after lie after lie. Took my savings. Just left me in destitute. I can’t even afford to divorce him right now. But thanks for this advice. It’s on!!!
I can relate to your story. Please don’t expose him. It could be dangerous. After, I exposed him to his family he severely damaged my car and broke in my home and destroyed it! Let go and let God! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Just found out the same thing about my guy. He was using the Grindr app & messing with other women as well.
I learned whatever they say or blame you is what they're doing & behind your back. They love to cause confusion, which I'd of Satan. He also kept trying to destroy me, that is of Satan. Your mind doesn't need the trickery & being used. Don't keep accepting the abuse, you are more deserving of real love. You will heal
The kryptonite to a narcissist is making them think that someone...anyone, even strangers, don't like them or doesn't think they are important. I caught my narcissist bf sending inappropriate texts to some woman, and she wasn't even responding. He was coming onto her and she ignored it and responded professionally.So, when I confronted him with what I saw, and even mentioned how the woman wasn't responding inappropriately, he was only concerned with telling me that she did respond. He went from smiling and laughing and gaslighting me, to his facial expression dropping into anger and saying, "She did respond!" That is narcissism right there. They don't care about what they did to you or even that you caught them, they care more about the implication that someone didn't give them attention or validate them in some way. As far as him betraying me, shrugs and smiles. They are grandiose beyond any rationality. Telling them they aren't special or important is how to hurt them.
One of my narcissists continued to enter himself back into my life. Just a few days ago he shows up again after 9 years on fb messenger, love bombing me, reminding me how wonderful it was the first time we met, how I was a very beautiful woman and how he loved me more than anyone he's ever loved. He's freaking married. 😂
I said very few words. I told him "it is astounding to me that you don't even know you're a malignant narcissist." He denied it, then he said that he wanted to be my friend and I told him that "the guy that I knew all the way back in 1988 didn't evsn exist and that he was a disgusting little weasle and to never try to contact me again. Then I blocked him.
😁 is he still slithering around?
I hit 3 of these today.
Shamed
Exposed
Made him the bad guy (he is).
We’ll see what happens now.
“The truth is not a smear campaign”
Expect hell
Lol, they don't care...
Ignoring them is a better way.
"She must of blocked you. Oh really? That's crazy!"🤣😂
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How I hurt him daily. Never contact him. Never mention him on social media. When people bring him up I tell them I don't want to hear how he's doing and if you discuss him again we will no longer speak.
Revenge is mine thus said the Lord!!! I’m not interested in shaming him. Me closing the door on our relationship and never open it again!! 💯💯✌🏼✌🏼🔥🔥
From the information so far that I gather the narcissists of the world are already in pain and to deal with their pain they make you suffer. Even when you suffer for their pleasure the narcissist will still be in pain again anyway......What a sad unfortunate mindset of these individuals. So In my opinion from the research I gathered from this channel and others the best way to get back at Narcissist is to love yourself, be as happy as you can and when that narc confront you tell him or her good for you! but I will still be me even if the whole world hates me......I WILL STILL BE ALRIGHT REGARDLESS mr or ms narcissists. That is what I gathered so far. Still more learning to do for me.
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Totally agree 👍🏾💯, they are never ever ever satisfied. S*** is ridiculous you talk things out when you can cuz most times they don't want to talk things out but even when you do get a partial of it they go back and do the same b*******🙄
@@MentalHealness Wow everything your talking is what I am going through I recently found out he is DATING My Cousin they don't care about me knowing he's acting like nothing is going on with them unbelievable and she's doing the same thing I'm Too sick to do anything I just agree with him when he tells me anything he comes to see me basically everything day as nothing is going on with my cousin
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After his super triggering ignited my supernova, I went full throttle... Told him about himself, threw the "trash" & all his remnants out, got a new phone & number, (*I don't do social media), & exposed him to his social circle. It's a done deal. Amen 🙏
I likewise did some of the same things. I didn't expose him because I don't want to be associated with him and he had contemplated suicide last year.
😂buddy of mine told my ex narcissist that he saw me and said "hey dude, ya'll back together? Saw her yesterday and whooo damn she looking like a doll"...my ex literally scowled and was so triggered he started shaking with anger.😂😂😂 and validated to my buddy that he is exactly what i said he is. When he claimed to have my replacement already. 😂😂😂 Good he will stay gone!!!!
It’s not hard to hurt them, but the punishment that comes after it, is so not worth it
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Keep smiling and laughing and having a good time like nothing ever happened🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤
It’s my opinion: agreed
~ I’ve observed in life that, though the Narcissist may feel at their low once they see their behaviors hurt others but it still does not push any positive change in the Narcissist behavior instead behaviors of resentment vengeance fester in their heart towards their victims simply because the victim stood up against evil~
If come to the point of believing that only God can help them. And prayer. But all from far away! Zero contact.
A true narcissist will wear you out. They are on a big ego trip big time
I can attest to the living well part. Ex called today to ask to see the dogs tomorrow. We talked about how she and I are doing. I have been on my A-game for like a 3 weeks now. Therapy helped, talked to an attorney, built back up relationships with friends and family, old job is offering me a restaurant to run. Its amazing, im more confident, I feel more at peace, I have control of my life for once in 11 years. No more sacrificing myself for someone else's gain. She then told me about her recent weeks and broke down crying. I told her we can talk more tomorrow when she stops by for the dogs, but mainly my goal is business what are each of us taking before I move back home. I get a feeling she is going to try and pull me back in in some way. There is nothing she has that I want anymore. She left me in a bad spot, cheated on me, trashed my name, and lied saying she didn't or lied about saying she did. Either way im in power now and I am living my life for me and holding onto my peace like its all I got left.
I moved out knowing mine couldn’t pay rent without me. After so many chances, I realized it wouldn’t change so I planned my escape and my new place is better, luxury, affordable and I’m looking pretty fly. I hate it ended that way because I loved that man more than I’ve ever loved anyone
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
Ignore them make them fill unimportant as they did to you .What goes around comes around .They can dish I out but can’t handle the same oh well 😊
This fits my narc mother so well. She absolutely hates it when I tell friends and family about things she says and tries to do to me. Instead of being proud of me she is deeply jealous of me and tries to project that backwards on me which does not work. Also I know she's ashamed of herself and she hates herself but at the same time, she does not change. I am so done with her. The fact that she gave birth to me does not give her the right to treat me the way that she has. She is so verbally abusive to everyone and does not appreciate anyone.
Narcissists are very sad people that’s looking for someone else to make as sad as them. They’re not anyone to play around with in anyway!!
I was discarded 8 months ago.I found out she was grooming a new supply.I left her without a word being spoken,blocked her on everything.Her daughter left her as well,after finding out she had been lying to all of us.Imagine the narcissistic injury on that one?Haven’t heard anything for the past 8 months and it’s been wonderful.I moved on,got a promotion at work and my life has certainly improved beyond anything I could’ve hoped for.Stat frosty my friends😎
Bro...I give you an applause!🙇👊🏼 Many of us wish we walked away like the way you did! Please don't turn back because it will only get worse than it was before! Stay strong stay safe, all the best!
@@edwinedy49 Cheers mate! And all my best to you as well
I need support and strength to get over him
Yes! The best fact you mentioned was, a narcissist being viewed as a bad person. OMG if I heard this once I heard it thousand times, “look, I’m not a bad person, I go out of my way to help others, and I have done blah blah blah and you don’t appreciate me” Trying to shift the blame when he was confronted about lies and alibis. As Maya Angelu told me, ‘When you knew better you will do better’ so I did and left a 30 yr marriage. Although it took me 9 yrs being separated to build confidence in myself and learn that no, I am the good person! In fact I’m better than this.
AAAAh Yeah, I gotta see this one, LOL the best one is NO CONTACT and watch them melt Mentally like the witch from The Wizard of Oz
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No contact is best
That is a fact lol 😆 😂 🤣
@@pam8962 for sure 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@MentalHealness LOL Disappear like a magician 😊😊😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I had a narcissistique friend who started a smear campain about me, because I was kept as a DJ in an special event, but she got fired, because her DJ set was very bad. She doesen't admit her mistake and didn't understand why I blocked her. By doing this smear campain she accidentaly exposed herself.
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Exposing Narcs is probably the best and worst way to hurt a Narcissist.
I have no desire to hurt the narcissist in my life, but this gives me so much insight into how a narcissist works. Thank you for what you do.
Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him.
It's incredibly hard to let go of someone you love. I was in a similar situation when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't let him go, so I did everything I could to get him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who assisted me in reuniting with him.
That's amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I reach him?
His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can help bring your ex back.
Thank you for this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and he seems impressive.
@@sarahluis5532how did it all end up? Does he treat u well
I wondered this, when with my ex. It always looked to me like he had no feelings at all, while I was always hurting. Now looking back, he was homeless, jail, drugs, dui, fines, no car, he literally hurt himself every day of his life, with me he just destroyed me instead of himself, like some kind of vacation.
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Holy shit, wow….” Like some kind of vacation.” That is f*$%ing deep. That just blew my mind. You are so right, almost like a body snatcher 🥸🏖️😮🫠😂
Right!
This one was offered 4 years in prison yesterday and that's just one case he has multiple cases& charges pending
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Adam, I love you man, you're the only techie i know who actually stops...listens... and seems to actually care sometimes. If I wasn't sure before, you have to be one of my greatest inspirations. Thank you so much for all of this, thank you so much for everything you've done for us, i'm literally crying right now 😂, thank you for caring *Top phase Resolution*
I made my narc feel shame to his core. I absolutely destroyed him. 👊 💪
😊When I ask, “Do you want me to walk on eggshells around you?” seem to get a wince, every time😂
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"you should be embarrassed and ashamed ". that was my mom's top second montras towards me growing up. the top one? "get over it"
Tell them No will hurt them and reject them.
What hurt a Narc the most
1. The thumb nail
2. Shame
3. Living well without them
4. Exopsure
5.make them be viewed bad
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That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him or her so you just dealt with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one-- living and seeing him everyday anticipating when will he or she do it again. Your videos are incredibly well done. No critique, thanks for doing this *Top phase Resolution*
The hurting part, we got down but the retaliation is what we have trouble surviving. Calling our jobs, CPS, family court and police really puts us in a tough place.
Calling the police and dragging you through family court gives them pleasure. I'm going through this as we speak. We weren't married and have no kids but she got an order of protection against me while I was home alone moving my thi gs out. Police showed up and served me. All because I caught her cheating and lying. They are truly unbelievable creatures. They will do ANYTHING to take the spotlight off of themselves to avoid being exposed. But when I was in family court I exposed her and everything she did to me. She was silent after that. These narcacissts over play they're hand and underestimate empaths just because we are good hearted people they think they can try to bury you and expect you to just lay down like a dog while they do it. But mine got a rude awaking when I exposed who she really was. I will definitely never get hoover from her now, and that's exactly the I want it. I've hit the gym again and put on 15lbs of muscle since the discard 6 months ago. I'm very fit again and healthy. I was sooooo sick physically while I was with her I can not believe I didn't see it then and how thin I got. Do not EVER let these people back In your life. They have not changed and never will without some serious self reflection and accountability on they're part but they are not capable of that. Eat healthy, train in the gym, save your money and surround yourself with good people.
Wow I thought I was the only one going through that. The retaliation is really difficult especially when they initiate all the things you mentioned and use their fake charm to manipulate a situation just to get back at you.
Have Faith. Good always prevails.
Never react but respond if you must.
If you do not engage this can drive them crazy and voila...they expose themselves by their own nasty thoughts.
Yep. Happened to me.
Honestly I don't even care about how to shame him. I just want to live. I just want to be happy.
Why is shame to a narcissist such a big deal when everyone has this in some point in their life. Narcissist in my eyes always haf to make everything such a big deal - shame included. When a Narc goes into silent mode or rage mode - ither way they do it in a way so over the top - just to get attention. So I’m not really buying in to this extreme shame based theory- it’s still lame attempts at extreme attention they can’t live without. And then when that’s over - the pattern continues…. Great video ! - they really do help folks ! This one gives some closure to raging thoughts of non-narc folks
Narcissistic people have an EXTREMELY low self esteem and nothing can change that, at the same time they have an unrealistic expectation of how life should treat them which is why the same esteem never grows as their unrealistic needs are never met. This obviously makes them EXTREMELY sensitive to criticism, bad comments, rejection, abandonment and so much more. They are not the average person you can’t think the way things don’t affect you it wouldn’t affect them, that’s the whole point of it being a disorder. Their self esteem is so bad it’s hard for them to even do introspection
The best way to get back at somebody with a few too many narcissistic tendencies is... eliminate them from your life and live well indeed. I'd advise against doing anything just to hurt them. Don't let 'em drag you down to their level!
Yup my mother is a narcissist. She always talked down to me called me fat I became bulimic I lost weight she called me a skeleton. She said I'd never graduate high school. I graduated only invited my aunt and 2 cousins not her she didn't deserve an invite.
I am living well. Lee is right.
Yes he does like keeping that good image thing going.
TOTALLY GIVE THEM SILENT TREATMENT, LEAVE WITH OUT TELLING THEM, NO CONNECTING.
But, it seems like getting back at a narcissist is a waste of time and they become more vindictive. They are sadistic and cruel, and they don’t feel true remorse. They are better at the bitter game because they don’t have much if any conscience. Best thing is to get em out if your life. They are relentless and tedious to deal with. Their facade is stuck. Messing with them is not worth the trouble. They just get more wicked and deceptive. They love drama and confusion. Their own karma will eventually catch up with them. You can not win at their game
Exactly! I couldn't have stated it better!! It's just not worth it. Best, desirable outcome is to walk away, close the door and never, ever look back, as if they never existed! Erase them from your life and mind.
Agree, he is a diagnosed narcissist so I think he gives advice based on the NPD mindset which is unhealthy. No contact is the best contact. Even if you have children with a narcissist that does not want to do any real work to change you must go no contact. A person may never change.
If you consider, there could be many more victims before karma gets them, why waste anymore energy now? You are just another bump in the road until they crash, if ever. Adios!
@@lindawise5546 narcissists will eventually get there day
Incorporate within boundary in 'your life' the theory of...'Karma has NO deadline' and focus on YOUR life. It will get better when you gain confidence in yourself.
Hey ppl, I'm a retired computer/IT person, Yet I still find *Web backdoors* so informative and straight forward. Thanks for your advise and helping the people...........Great work and love watching.
When i called him out on his behaviour, he would say i was too hard on him?? Yet he was the one causing it!! Walked away, and couldn't be happier! :))
A narcissist in my life hates that I even watch your channel Lee...😅 Keep up the good work!!! ❤️💯
Thank you, I will. stay safe
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That’s funny.
😢I haven't fully understand this yet but I think I'm finding out .
My brother hated me educating myself about NPD. I couldn't stand his abuse any longer and have gone no contact.
I exposed the narcissist and he disappeared for 3 days. No contact with me or family. When he reappeared he came back with this story that I was stalking him and I shouldn't be believed. They fell for it hook, line and sinker. Now I'm the villain. He lived with me for a few months prior to this. I kicked him out because he wouldn't tell his family of my existence. My family and our coworkers knew but no one from his family. "But he's such a nice guy." Ok, y'all. Keep living the fantasy with him.
Played this with my narcissist and he started playing a computer game and tried talking over it. Couldn't stand. Exactly like you said.
Spot on❤❤❤
You can't hurt them because they dismiss you and there's no feelings attached.
thats what they let us think, narcist are actually very insecure, low self esteem, fearfull of love and rejection. thats why they try to hold control, they are scared u leave before they can. so they def have lots of feelings but they wont tell u
@@michaelmich00 exactly and it’s low key eating them up inside. They can put in a good facade, but you are very correct. They are soooo insecure and will latch on to someone new to try to act like they’re unbothered when in actuality they are. And God forbid you move on and/elevate up with anything-job, new relationship..it destroys them deep within.
You van hurt their ego :)
Standing up for Your Self Worth....in a nut shell is how you hurt them.
I accidentally laughed at the Narc at the gym for doing an improvised workout. They hid from view! 😂
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Can I just say I really appreciate the work you do after being in a relationship with a narcissist. I’m almost 2 years out.
Thank you
Narcism is real and I am a survivor
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He's mad that I'm getting paid more then him. And I don't show no emotion to him anymore. But when he leaves I cry.
Ignoring them. My mom lost her mind when I went low contact
Speaking from a survivors point of view. This is true. I feel sorry for Narcs they are damaged individuals.
I use to be a narc i can tell you why not being properly loved and abandoned by my parents emotionally so anyone i dated that told me they loved me i hurt them because i couldn’t accept there love and to keep them from feeling like they can find anyone else i was mean to them telling them there flaws so they wouldn’t feel worthy of leaving me to find someone else i didn’t want them love anyone else so i drained them to only be bound to me what got me back is them completely leaving me and never returning not going back and forth cause i knew they were coming back what hurts a narc is never returning at all it will never work if a narc knows you will come back
Excuses, excuses!😳🙄 seek help! No one can control others from being around you or not! It’s the Narc in you that makes people want to leave!
@@sashaclarke2749 he said USE TO…not anymore….chill
My ex spent 2 years cheating and treating me bad and he did it all in silence but I exposed him publicly - shame is definitely a great way to hurt them. Exposure exposes to them who they and whoever they try to act perfect to
Revenge is dumb and wrong and bad for you. And they'll take it out on some other poor soul . . .
Just drop the person and don't associate with those types in the future.
Once you had a whiff, its not hard to stay clear.
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They block you every time you catch on and call they asses out 😂😂😂 just experienced this today 😂
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true!!! Happened today with me! 💯 I call them out and they cannot stand it!
It’s waste of energy dear
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i literally just got done arguing with one & i told him like you’re a narcissist & a gaslighter & he went crazy threatening to leak my number on twitter & expose our personal messages of us arguing, i made it clear i didn’t wanna argue i just wanted him to hear me out he disrespected me sooo bad when i tell u it was pissing me off because it was like talking to a wall, everything was my fault & i did him wrong in his book, like what about what u did wrong? i got so fed up i got my ass on twitter & got on his level & once i pulled a screenshot of him begging another man for money he shut up completely lol, haven’t heard from him since, i blocked him after i saw he ain’t have nun to say after that 😂
Blocking and going no contact will hurt anyone
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Yes! My narc goes crazy when I don't answer the phone, immediately!
After realizing a new acquaintance was an overt narcissist I immediately went no contact and blocked her. Come to find out through my daughter that NO ONE will sit with her at the club we both belong to proved my suspicions about her!!! Definitely block them ASAP! Prayers for all of us
No contact is the best way but it’s tough when you turn the narcissist into a well known content creator. Imagine your narcissist Ex having millions of followers trying to destroy you to the world with the following you built for them. Hell can’t be worst than that. Pray for me y’all.
Yea i can imagine that being extremely difficult to deal with.
If you absolutely have to “deal” with a narc, I would recommend to keep firm bounderies, and keep your distance at the same time. As a second choose on how to deal with the narcissist I would recommend keeping firm boundaries and also to correct them every time they missteps, lie, manipulates etz. When your boundaries are not respected by the narcissist, you need to follow through with consequenses of bad behaviour. You will have your hands full going forward this way. When following through with consequenses to their “re”actions, you explain to the narc, that you are not one of the narc`s victims. You have no intentions of becoming one but will be a nuisance to the narcissist in a way that is irritating to him/her. This method is not risk free but narcissists will often choose the path of no or low resistance. This method is a time consuming path to chose. This route sometimes require more time than you would like to spend on these issues. You feel that distancing yourself all together would have been easier. That is however not always possible. Often there is no way to avoid him/her. You unfortunately have to deal with the narcissist because you are colleagues or close family. You must think through what you need the narcissist to respect and what arias of conflict you must pay extra attention to, to keep your integrity and to detect manipulative behavior. Be prepared and clear in your communication and stick to your guns. Try to stay under the radar as much as you can, even when this method is the best for you. A way that works as well is to play along with the narcissist and act like you agree with everything they do and say. This method works well until many people in the narcissists sphere do the same. When everyone agrees with the narcissist you are back on square one. The narcissist must have victims and this setting is no different. To go NO Contact is another good alternative and method, and is probably the best option when it is possible to cut all contact permanently. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..
I have changed my job and my phone number. Even though i i believe he wouldn't reach out to me but i did it for me. And blocked on every social media stage. I still feel he could careless and not hurt for how he did me. But this is just my thoughts
I have an older brother who lives with me and I am his landlord. He has grasped for power but when I just stonewall everything when he becomes confrontational he handles it the worst.
People need Christ now more than ever praying for y’all & your mental health and that your minds be renewed 🙏❤
man, thank you so much. this narc really fucked up my heart, mind, and spirit. i was holding back on exposing them but i wont now 🙌🏼