When a narcissist loses the best thing that ever happened to them | The Narcissists' Code Ep 862
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- Опубликовано: 24 июл 2024
- How do #narcissists feel when they lose grade a supply or the best thing that ever happened to them? Do #narcissist ever regret losing you.
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Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.
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Thank you so much
They don’t love you, they love what you do for them ya’ll.
It kills me.... But it's true
Thread over, whoever leaves last please turn out the lights. THIS!
A whole FACT
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When you learn to accept the fact that you never mattered to them, you've won half the battle.
Absolutely
They never did never will. They are selfish, self centered people
When you learn to accept that they are mentally ill.....
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Very true
It’s scary to think you could be with a narcissist and not know it , we should post their pictures up on a website with a surgeon general warning 😢
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Wouldn't that be a great resource?? But they'd post messages that we were crazy.
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Pictures along with the manic devaluing text messages .... I HAVE SOOO MANY!!! Sometimes reading them is what helps me stay no contact....
I agree
Unconditional love with a Narc is Imprisoning yourself.
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Church taught me wrong. I rewarded bad behavior. Said sorry 1st . Never got an im sorry.. u r so right . 40 year old man panicking on the way to combat ground..my home. I divorced her. I got all 4 kids.. i just want the best for everyone even her.
so true
I was ready to do that
My ex narc husband knew all he had to do was ask and he got what he needed time and time again because I did it out of love and I wanted that same thing in return. Unfortunately, I only received breadcrumbs.
You do not love a narcissist you love their potential. It was a trauma bond. Cut them off forever.
There’s no unconditional love for a narcissist that’s self-hate.
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So true!
Pay attention to what our government is doing.
The potential!!
Never to be realised.
A Narcissist will treat you worse and be more disrespectful if you take them back again !!!
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Really Lee you thought she would better never mind if you saw what i'd know you had to go get there and put that in the rub of a car there's not true brother yes yes not sure I don't know what you mind telling your brother but they're just not true bro you think of what I'm saying but I just learned this nasty session thing and I applaud you brother for going to get you some help because I'm seeing the dark side of this and I applaud you brother for going to get yourself some help now go out bless you
Facts.. It happened to ME 🤌🏽🤌🏽🤌🏽
At one point we went to counseling. The councelor wanted to meet with us separately. When I met with the councelor he said, “when did you decide that you have so low self worth that it is acceptable how he is treating you?” I was taken aback. I honestly at that time could not fully wrap my head around it. But he told me what I needed to hear.
What a great therapist!🙏
That’s so interesting because our couple’s counselor (whom he chose) asked to meet with us separately and she said almost the same exact thing. I wish I’d listened to her back then. I’m out now, but it took two years after that conversation for me to actually leave
Giving a narcissist counseling, from what I've heard from psychologists who have had to counsel narcissists, only makes them more dangerous, easier to hide their nefarious ways and slip under the radar. My advice? Cut All Contact. If you can, of course. I am a chronically and incurable ill 37 yr old woman who absolutely has to rely on and live with my narcissist father, so it's an impossibility for me. I am, however, his favorite person, and infinitely more intelligent than him, so those two facts combined with my knowledge I've accrued from psychologists who specialize in how to deal with narcissists (all free to watch on RUclips) have empowered me GREATLY. I know the game better than he does. Does he still upset me, make me angry, make me cry? Yes. Do I take it personally? Nope, he's got Issues, with a capital I, that have nothing to do with me or anyone else. Completely unescusable. Plus, my best friends (Mom and my sister) know who he is, but unfortunately more intimately, as they weren't/aren't his favorite. I am. I still love him, he's my daddy, but good God, do I know how effed up he is. Thankfully he's not the worst of the worst of narcissists I've met or else I'd have no love for him at all.
Same exact thing for me! I played the recordings that I had made of the horrible verbal and physical abuse I was subjected to, the counselor looked at me and said “You are not here to save this marriage, you are here to validate what has been happening to you. What can I do to help you.”
My now ex narc of 27 years insisted on counseling because he was SO CERTAIN THAT THE COUNSELOR WOULD SAY THAT I WAS AT FAULT! He took no responsibility for his abusive behavior, but his insistence on counseling backfired. I filed for divorce and left him within a month of this session.
I definitely can relate. I was engaged and on my way out the door, ex told me he scheduled therapy for himself bc he knew I wanted him to get help. We went and when I went separately the counselor encouraged me to leave. Especially since he didn’t schedule his individual session like I had. Within two weeks I was gone. It’s been almost two years.
Their loss. I read the other day someone said “they lost a diamond while playing with stones”. I’m no contact. No access. Access denied. Game over.
Same!! All of it!!!
Staying in our power every day 💪
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SAME HERE - Praise GOD! 🙌🏽🙏🏽💫💫💫
The saddest thing is that most do every thing possible to make sure that supply has no choice but to give up on them. Its self sabotage
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Truth
you nailed it. Before and even after I left, self-sabotage was how I described that messy ass monster's behaviour. I absolutely gave up by the end of it. What's the fucking point with assholes like that. They're always miserable no matter what you do.
So sad but so true.
The Narcissist's biggest regret is that they did not totally decimate you.
This is the ONE!!!!! Best comment yet!!!!
This!!!!
He wanted to know how I was able to stay positive & overcome the negative experiences 😌 I recognized he had a personality disorder & slowly removed my self until I had the power to cut all ties. I found out he had multiple “options” & actively dating others. I did not confront him about it, I just cut him off. He popped up at my job a few times, I no longer have a set work schedule.
@robinjohnson1003 Well done in cutting him off. We cannot change what happened to us in the past, but we can hold stronger boundaries in the future.
So true! He literally got upset because someone helped me out in a way he COULD have, but chose to watch me struggle instead. He was soooooo mad! 😁
He lost me for 5 yrs. Then contacted me. I returned it has been the worst roller coaster ride I've ever had for the pass 14 yrs. They do not change. They get more evil and meaner. Now that I know what's wrong with him. I feel free as a bird. I repeat THEY DO NOT CHANGE. THEIR IS NO LOVE APPRECIATION LOYALTY OR ROMANCE WITH NARCISSIST.
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You are so right!! They don’t change at all! They come back to destroy you and they portray a changed version of themselves, but give it time. You’ll see those same patterns and even worse!!
If they come back, it will be to get even with your ass.
So true !!! Slowly but surely the old habits are still there. They come back with a vengeance
Yup.
It’s been 3 weeks since I blocked my ex narc. These videos are keeping me strong in letting him go. I know it will never get better. Each time I forgave and took him back, he would end up always hurting me worse. Be strong and know your worth ❤
Protect your peace ✌️
Same here.
Same here❤
I’m in the same boat. 3 weeks.
Me too kept taking him back and it was worse I had to cut him off 3 weeks today we were together 13 yrs till we split last yrs after getting fed up with the cheating
True, they will regret only the fact they CAN'T continue to abuse you! My ex husband knows I don't give a damn about him and he CAN'T take it! Wants to get back with me so he can triangulate, manipulate and gas light me. Those days are OVER 💯 and I am happily contently single for 4 years now 🙌🏽
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Good for you! Crazy thing is, If you were to take him back, he would act a COMPLETE fool and really try to destroy you! They are sick creatures. My ex would try so hard to get me back! I found myself in the exact same situation over and over and over and over! I had to pause and really get to the bottom of my own insecurities. Realized I had a lot of childhood trauma and this became normal to me based on my upbringing. I can see it for exactly what it is now. I see him for the shallow person he is. It’s all about winning and conquering. The more I rejected him, the harder he would come at me. Then turn around and do the same thing again!!! So glad that’s over and done with.
@@kellithomas9080 He would drag me if I were to ever take him back 💯😂, that's OUT! I went through the SAME cycle you are describing with your ex for 20 years 🤦🏽♀️ thinking that his heavy pursuit of me was because he truely felt remorseful and loved me that much that he would change 😂😂 WRONG, each time it got worse! The man had a child and another on the way by 2 different women while I too was pregnant and we were married LOL! That was the FINAL straw for me! I know he only wants to get back with me so he can get me caught up n mentally abuse me some more and throw his kids and BM's and other women in my face every chance he gets smh! My issues stemed from childhood trauma as well and although I am my worst critic at times I know my worth and nobody could ever play with me again 💯💜
Please note from the dialogue that it is "access to supply". If you think you for one minute that you were ever loved or regarded as anything other than a source for a very comfortable life, watch more videos. You are an ATM, an appliance, a thing that is there to feed their ego and torture you while you die a very slow death waiting to get back the person who loved bombed you - You will never be valued as a real human being...they simply do not have the capacity to give a shit and make it right.
And once you finally come to this realization, the confusion goes away. You can start to see it for exactly what it was and nothing less. You’ll start to replay moments in your head and finally be able to make sense of what was happening. It’ll become laughable, but with a bit of disgust on top. They are totally incapable of true love. They are addicted to the honeymoon phase of situationships. Like a kid with a new toy; plays with it often until a new one comes out. Gets bored with the new phone and back to the old one to see if it still works. Took me so many years to come to this realization, but I’m here now. If I do cry, which is rare now…it’s never tears for him or because I miss him. It’s me remembering those wounds and understanding my own trauma and processing it in a healthy way. Something the Narc can’t even do. What a sad existence.
More power to you in your healing journey.
@@kellithomas9080well said🙌🥹
Very well said.
I love this comment tnx guys
He didn't come back, he knew I saw the truth. He couldn't be bothered to try and manipulate me anymore, too much effort for him. I'm sure he misses the supply but he is not willing to work on himself or the connection. He was cold and didn't show emotions, trying to make me look crazy when he drove me to breaking point.
Also, he DOES know I'm the best person that has ever happened to him. He told me during his times of weakness and I believe him because I know it's absolutely true. Too bad for him though, because I made it crystal clear when I kicked him to the curb that I am happy on my own. ❤
Those very rare vulnerable moments are the worst because you get to see the person they might have been if the narcissistic personality disorder never happened. Too bad they get angry and punish you for making them feel that way directly after.
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Truth... but not worth the personal sacrifice.
@@Elysion404like an alcoholic moment of clarity. And gone as quickly as it apoeared
@@recoveringsoul755 Yeah, it's both sad and frustrating.
Losing their access to supply/control - the ego is so big they cannot express any vulnerabilities. Stalking/monitoring is what I experienced. On 🎯.
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I was just trying to look into if there is a secure email program
This is so true. I left in January after 23 years and he still cannot stop drinking enough to make it to work. He still cries anytime we talk. He doesn’t understand why we wouldn’t come back. It blows my mind that he doesn’t get it. Lol!! Also, he’s had many women over since then. I knew I really meant that I was not going back because I didn’t feel jealous. I’m not saying that it doesn’t hurt at all, because there is so much hurt. But it is what it is right now. Gotta keep going!!
You got this
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Please don’t ever go back!!!
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I cried and suffered and lost myself over someone who was manipulating me into making me think that they loved me when they didn’t :(
Why play people like this
I’m sorry that happened to you. 🥺
Me too and I’m crying now because they tricked me and courted me when I wasn’t looking for love and said I love you but actions didn’t show silent treated me for no reason 😢
All love should be conditional. You should never stay in the situation where you are giving and someone's treating you like shit.
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I kept allowing to excuse her treating me like dirt most of 2023 and now i wish i hadnt done the no contact for 5 weeks starting sept. She got her a new supply and she sounds very happy yet i am miserable. I'm even thinking now that maybe i became a narc because of her.
Grade A supply here. I spoke to her tonight after a couple of weeks of no contact. She cried and told me she regretted cheating and hurting me. She said she recognizes how her actions caused her to lose her family and that she lost everything and it wasn’t worth it. I pressed her on if there were other times she cheated. She finally admitted she cheated last year, too. 😢 I feel so hurt. I just can’t understand how someone can cheat and then come home. And act like everything is fine. We went on a big vacation later last year together which I organized. The feeling of betrayal is so intense. We were together 10 years, married for the past 7. Now she says she’s getting “help”, she’s going to go to therapy asap, and she has been trying to get in my good graces little by little. I don’t believe a word she says anymore and it hurts to hear the words I wish were true. Watching your videos helps me to remember who she really is.
I'm sorry for your heart break. Cheating is The End Deal breaker in my book. Id be forever alert for next time. I'm not Jesus. 🙏🩷
Please don’t ever take her back. Let her suffer in her own misery.
Cheating and crying when you caught them is there trick to melt your heart,they can never change,unless u try therapy.
SHE HAS NOT CHANGED. Therapy will take years. Don’t be fooled. Keep moving forward.
Stay focused, in you and your healing. 😊
Access = ways they use you-money, sex, favors...etc etc
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Yes!!!
My husband has lost me for good after 27 years of marriage and a 30 year relationship. He became abusive and that happened one time. I refuse to give him another chance to do it again. He definitely lost his “best supply!” I’m done with that BS. I’m 67 years old and I refuse to live that way the rest of my life!
Bless your heart beloved Queen!! You chose, YOU!!! AMEN!! I SALUTE YOU.
God, is with us. You are Not, alone. ❤😅
@@Keva-jp8kc ❤️❤️❤️ thanks for the encouragement! I hope we all heal and move on.
Three cheers for you. Hip hip hurray hip hip hurray hip hip hurray . Pray that I might be able to do the same.
"Narcissists regret losing ACCESS to you. Not what they have done to you...not how they treated you....not what they put you through."🔥🔥🔥That wraps it up right there. If you really internalize this sentence....you can really understand the disorder. WE can look introspectively without shame...they cannot. The emotional connection isn't there anyway....so why would there be regrets with the exception of CONTROL and ACCESS? Wow!💥
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Perfectly said. 💯💥
Great points! They never really loved us anyway
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To a narcissist you are nothing more than a supply nothing more!
I am proof of everything he’s said. I left me ex several times cutting off contact and he always regretted it. This last time he came back, I really thought he was gonna be better and our relationship got deeper than ever and we even lived together…but it STILL ended the same 3 years later. Y’all, people can regret not having you but like he said, that doesn’t mean they’ll still do better by you.
They can only change if they touch rock bottom and acknowledge they are sick. And only God can transform.
And that would be a modern day miracle!!!
Lee, all my respect for working on yourself and sharing with others.
I had two npd exes. One refused going to therapy after losing me, committed suicide, may he rest in peace. The other one, God knows what he is up to...
I pray that everybody struggling accepts and gets help.
Narcs are not only hurting those they target but themselves. its really sad at the end of the day.
They literally destroy everything and then wonder wtf happened! It truly is sad. Then they work so hard to build a new mask and find a way to make life work again. Never ending cycle!
I applaud your recovery and so appreciate your service, Lee. Thank you so much.
You’re welcome
thank you ❤🙏😊💯
At this point, i don't care if he will regret losing me. I dont care if he has/will replace me. My leaving is for my own health and safety. He already has weaponized his family's money against me. Im taking extra steps, at great expense, to make sure that im ok when i finally cut him off.
stay strong and protect your peace
Well he walked away, blocked me and went NC. I didn’t work for seven years and at the breakup told me all the bills I could start paying. He wanted to be in my daughters life until I filed for child support. His mom was behind him all the way stealing my stuff as well. I’m pretty worn down.
i was the perfect supply. i was 20 he was 23. i was fresh, never been in a relationship and naïve. i dedicated myself to him. i nearly worshipped him. he was never faithful in our 5 year marriage and in the end i made one move and he blames our separation on the one move i made because of the years of hurt he caused me. it may take some time but eventually he’ll regret losing me and his 3 boys. he’s acting like he’s moving on but i know he’ll never be as happy with whoever he finds and whatever he’s doing. i know for a fact i was the best thing he could have ever had.
That’s really sad. I think that sometimes people are definitely trauma bonded and confused about what love is for them but I also believe that some people (like myself) know what love is and even though we know the person is not a healthy partner for us we still have love for them and hope that they can heal and not be the worst version of themselves when we see past all the trauma in them and we know they could be much happier (genuinely)… it’s a shame that people become adults who abuse others, especially adults who abuse people who love them so much. It’s terrible for the victims of narcissistic abuse but we can heal and move on and the narcissist has to live with themselves forever, if they don’t work on themselves, what a horrible life to live being superficial and fake nice, and always having to hide your truth. That’s no way to live.
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Well said. I really loved my ex despite the hard times. I feel sad for him being so deeply broken.
We never truly mattered to them
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Sadly that is absolutely true. 😢
The reason you are so miserable by the time you leave is because you already know you don't matter. You know they don't care it's clear, because you wouldn't be a shell of your previous self. You care about someone you support them to grow. Not suck the life out of them then say alll the issues are you. Anyone self reflective will believe that for so long. I couldn't understand why I had never been like this before but I genuinely was convinced I was chaotic and insane as a person. Don't get me wrong, I want out, I want to heal and have the relationship that grows etc. But anyone would be lying saying they don't care when you realise you never mattered. You will survive it off course. But it hurts because your feelings were real despite theirs. ❤
I just married a NARC, lucky for me I found out before he had a chance for him to move in with me. Secretely I am going to get a divorce and moved on.I wasn't sure if he was a NARC or not but luckily through all these videos I have been listening to, and his behavior, I realized that he's a NARC. Thank you God for sparing me because it is still very early in my relationship.
Don’t let him know you know.
It could be Asperger’s to a lot of women think they are with a narc but their partner is autistic ( same abuse )
When you said , "You just want to matter", that is EXACTLY what I have been saying. I want to matter to the one person who cares about no one. It will never happen. Ill get there. I will heal.
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I saw my ex the other day. He didn’t see me. I had to take a second look because he just didn’t look like he used to… clean shaven, well dressed, etc. He was dressed like he just got back from a long camping trip or semi homeless. I couldn’t believe he was out in public looking so disheveled! The minute I realized it was him I thought…sad, defeated man. I think he must be down to only 2 supply sources.
They won't tell you, but they will continue to talk about you, or may hoover years later.
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I told him yesterday there is nothing holding me to you and i rather choose to be alone and happy and replied: this breaks my heart.
😂 i was about to ask: do you even have one?
They become very stalkery. They build a supply bear and become very stalkering. My grandmother said it's a poor rat that only has one hole to crawl out of make sure you have an exit strategy going into the rathole.
I love when you said this is not a sign if you want to go back.... I LOVE IT. that was a push and confirmation to continue to move forward
Cut off in traffic yesterday and the words out of my mouth were" What's going on beautiful people?" instead of cussing them out! So I guess listening to your videos have done more than just help me heal!😆
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Took me 22 years to realize what exactly I was dealing with and how to call it! At his full blown NARC mode. These videos are a God send and an amazing source of therapy! Thank you!
He said it a few times over the year “I didnt treat you right” and you dont deserve that.
And than he said but you didnt say No, right? Or I know I hurt people with my words and behaviour “
So at some point I realised he Knows allright
He just doesn’t give a 💩 nor does he change.
You are one strong man to look in the mirror & admit being a narcissist. Thank you sir for spreading this insight, God bless 🙏🙏🙏
I'm so done I don't care if I mattered .. what's important right this minute is that I know I matter is that NOW TODAY that I see I matter. & that's probably why this person even crossed my life path ...
Protect your peace
Absolutely by all means necessary
great attitude good for you!
they don’t care they always find better meaning others who are successful, they move on and so should you.I dealt with a narc who was very entitled and was use to successful women (bragged about it) so they don’t care. mine doesn’t think I know the “true” discard reason. they think they are smarter than you and you won’t catch them. Let that ish go and find someone who appreciates you. they will forever be dissatisfied after the love bombing stage.
Never there when you need them in any way, but they have full control of you.
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All I ever wanted from him was a little affection. Don't tell me you love me if you can't show me.
When he ended the relationship and I calmly walked away he slammed the door behind me.
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My Narc got tired of me confronting him on his lies😅😅😅😅😅😅😅they hate that so hard😅😅😅😅😅🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭
😂 I be wearing my mama out like you got to go or grow sis! We don’t do ridiculous and petty here
A narcissist talking about their actions is really nice. It’s the accountability that will never be found anywhere else. They do know what they do and these videos are so validating after all the usual games and gaslighting.
appreciate it
Shut it down!!! I am so much happier now that I know I was raised with NPDs which led me to the same type of men. The last ex saw me earlier this year looking good in the club, and although he never came to my table, he finally tapped me on my shoulder while I was dancing to say hi. I acknowledged him, and swung my ponytail right around and kept dancing as I cracked up laughing!! He really hurt my heart.... never again. He will never change because he doesn't think its him. Ha!
That stalking & monitoring is so real. I blocked on everything and they still kept tabs, reaching out everyday.
I been gone away from my ex husband 1 yer now and I’m so happy I’m FREE❤❤❤❤ and it feels soooo good!!!
Stay safe
I’m sure mine hates me because I outed him to his local community and I tarnished his greater public image.
I’m sure I’m the root of all his problems.
I’m the only girlfriend he’s ever had who ISNT a drug addict.
I refused to become combative with him.
I just dissociated and packed my stuff and left. No contact almost 6 months.
stay safe
They "lack the ability to treat you well". Ugh! That is the ONE thing I asked of him on several occasions. He always said he'd treat me right but never did.
And yes, the ego was through the roof!!!! And yet, he was super insecure. NPD sure is a roller coaster. 😢
🙏 power up
Yea I couldn’t understand that either, he always said my ego was too big which huh? Lol I can be confident, but I don’t have no ego that big to where I can’t apologize or take accountability. Yet he’s insecure and has very low self esteem.
NARCS DO NOT CHANGE, EVER, NEVER😅
This is so hard to deal with... my husband is a NARCISSIST and it really kills me. I had to block him at every turn just to get him to understand to STOP N GO GET THE HELP HE NEEDS... he has yet to do this. He forced my hand to leave. This is very very hard... I haven't filed divorce papers because I'm hoping things will change but with this video... I'm assuming he will never. It's just hard and it hurts. You can't love a person to sanity. You can't love so that they can give it back... you have to love from a distance... n that's what hurts. No i don't think anything will change... because it hasn't happened. I'm just giving myself time to heal... it's just crazy to love a person and all the while they don't give a dayum about you. Just a hard pill to swallow.👑💋
You really speak truth! I know my husband has mental issues. He is a malignant narcissist. I chk every box on. Now he's doing this exact thing. Calling and acting like nothing happen. My brother asked me an important question. He asked "What I'm I getting out of a conversation with him"? He needs a fix and I'm gone for good, divorce soon to follow. But thank you for this much needed life saving info. 30 yrs later and I'm moving on. I didn't not respond to his last call and will not respond to anymore. And I feel a sign of relief.
Protect your peace
A big congrats to you btw! You realized it, you took accountability ❤
Damn Lee……Sometimes I want to go back to being ignorant to all of this. Now I’m a shit show out here realizing how I can’t be everyone’s supplier and unable to escape their hatred cause I’m still not all the way healed and find myself even more targeted cause not smart enough yet to fly under their radar!
Lost access and control over my checkbook. 👍😂💪
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I left again and plan NEVER to return. It took me 30 yrs to find out what was wrong with him. Lying cheating gas lighting disrespectful no loyalty at all. I packed up and moved while he relaxed at the kitchen counter on his computer. Now 9 months later hes calling asking why he hasnt heard from me. Telling me how good things are.
My husband use to be a narcissist but God answered my prayers and healed him 🙏😁
Really??Good for you’ll
How is he healed. Would you explain a little more.
he manipulates them more smoothly! @@teesahurt2074
Really? Of course Allah ( SWT)can do anything. You are truly blessed then.
I wonder how long he can put up the mask
13 years an emotional slave to my Narcissistic husband, now ex. Thank God I made it out! To God be the glory
So accurate! My husband trained me up to be exactlyly how he wanted me..i got away after many years, but the first mention of divorce he was out gallvanting to quickly replace me, with younger and better im sure, but so far no luck..he cant quite believe i still dont want him.. 5 years later.
They regret not being able to leave you a dried up sponge.
So much of this resonates! But curious if anyone else has had the experience with a narcissist where they actually react VERY emotionally when you leave- hysterical crying, guilt trip, 30x phone calls, 10-page emails, apologies, showing up at your house… until you agree to talk to them and they suck you back in??
Yes for 6 years
Maybe they're co-morbid BPD+NPD?
Restrain order. Call the POLICE.
Mine went on for 4 years and it would have gone on forever but by accident I answered the phone I thought it was one of my children as I was in a health issue but it was him. I told him I was afraid of him and hung up. He has left me alone (10 yrs now) I am certain he will never bother me again. I got lucky he lives in a different town now thank goodness. I never see him and do not feel his energy in my town anymore. I did lose over 50 thousand dollars and forced to be homeless with 2 children from a house I bought over 70% of but I was able to recover. He is homeless and now has to fake life with bottom feeder very overweight narc women to have a place to live. Someone was looking out for me to make sure my time with him was short and our engagement didn't turn into an actual marriage. I am grateful everyday I am not with him anymore and do not ever want him in my presence again.
YES, All of the above…. This is called STALKING. Get yourself a protection order, Sounds like you have a psychopath that is escalating . I would move and never look back.
My narc husband is currently in jail and has been for the past 2 weeks to the day. I wonder if he has any regrets.. he’s lost me, his job, health insurance, and home. On top of that he’ll now have a criminal record. Part of me is praying this will be enough to change him but knowing him he’s probably blaming me for everything 😢
Narcissists always blame others ... (The bank is guilty, you are guilty...). They can´t reflect themselves. Narcissists are children in adults bodies. You are not responsible for choices of others... Everybody is responsible for themselves. So never feel guilty because you are not.
@@isabellapiesch4180i still feel guilty and cant move on. I feel like a failure and yet when i did a no contact for 5 weeks she got her a new bf and even tried to downplay the fact. I even tried to re-kindle what i thought we had but it just got worse.
You are awesome Lee!!! I applaud you for your recovery. “You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge” I hope more people with their problems will find the strength to come out from their shells to the light. Thank you very much for the great content! 🙏 🙏🙏
Yesss. He’s like a whole gnat!! Just will NOT leave me tf alone even after 8 months🤦🏽♀️ stalking, calling, etc etc etc😫
My ex told me that as a human being I was trash, but still wanted me to sleep with him. He told me he didn’t respect me (like duh you never did). I let him know that I no longer want to be with him and now I’m blocked 😂.
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Man, your recovery seems like it's going well. I don't know if you're aware, but your focus seems to be improving as well, just in the last few months, so you're doing something right.
Finally makes sense! I've been binge watching your videos. I sit in silence after LEAVING with NO CONTACT. 22 years of unimaginable hurt and pain 💔 that I couldn't understand even after I left. wasn't easy. He did not want a divorce, but now I believe it's the failure to maintain fear and control hurting more, than my absence. Glad you found help, and chose to help others. 🙏
I’m still struggling with this after 30 years married abuse on every level and adultery always treated less than but always giving trying to do more be more turning myself inside out to make him happy being used for taxi services and maid services I filed for divorce after death threats going through high conflict divorce separated for 3 years still living in marital homeI was looking after and caring for all his family disengaged caring role from looking after disabled father in law while he was out being single all through our marriage and they have come at me like a pack of dogs
looking after our daughter who he also treated disgustingly just getting breadcrumbs flaunting new supply in my face which has distracted him
I am still trying to heal the trauma bond one day at a time your videos have helped me listening to them daily Thankyou
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This hit home my ex would say to me your the best thing that has ever happened to me 😢
stay strong
My first X said the same. I did not like being a "thing" that "happened to him." That's so far from being a person who was in a relationship with him.
I don't need confirmation to know that he regrets losing me. He is gonna look for what I gave him in every person he meets. And while I have compassion for him as a person, I will never go back there. He just abandoned our daughter and that's where I draw the line. I'll be damned if you hurt my baby. He is giving me the silent treatment because he fafo when I set a boundary about texting me and he got downgraded to emailing me. So, I haven't heard from him in about 2 months. My daughter is paying the price because he is mad at me for implementing a boundary. That shit is crazy
Since finding you here on RUclips and watching your videos I can honestly say my ex definitely regrets we aren't together. When he sees me he shows it in a subtle way and sometimes he's just blunt. Also, he will at times twist what happened back at it being my fault we're not together.
You really helped piece my life back together ...thank you Lee H.
You’re welcome ☺️
Thank you so much for these, I’ve dealt with narcissistic people all my life.
Our ego is merely our fears the more you feed it the bigger it becomes. That means the more you bend down to your fears the bigger they become and the more they take over.
I so love hearing you and Leon supporting each others healing journey. You not only helped but you then stamped my healing from this type abuse when you shouted him out in this video and he shouted you out on his video that is definitely helping folks like me on our journeys to heal, recover and grow from the damaging effects of narcissistic abuse that some of us had no clue on understanding a way out of. Good bless you and Leon, your unions of any and your heading journeys… You rock LEE!!!
Beautiful Lee. I'm sooooo relieved that ur apart of the solution today helping us heal instead of hurt🙏🏾❤
Thank you so much. I am dealing with a 33 yr marriage to a Narc. He served me with divorce papers out of the blue. The hurt is awful😢
I feel for you.😢 May Allah ( SWT) make it easier for you.
This might be the best thing to have ever ever happened to you
This video is incredible. And I’ve watched hours of content on the topic. Thank you❤
He lied to me ,he manipulated me, he would always find his way through when i was trying to cut every contact...the last thing was to cheat on me...and I discovered in a very nasty way during a trip we had in Italy that he arranged as a gift for me...
I feel still devastated but these videos really help me to acknowledge the fact that i deserve better ❤
Thank you so much for this content Lee. You've helped me so much the past few months, watching your videos gave me the courage to go no contact and I'm the happiest I've ever been because of it. I so appreciate your honesty and openness. Big love from Australia ❤️
Guy makes me smile every time he puts out content for us to watch
Thank you so much for your channel. You are helping so many people understanding about A narcissist. God bless you!
Their biggest regret is knowing they were too lazy to do the work on themselves required to keep you around. They know right away you’re better people than them and don’t deserve what you’re bringing to the table so naturally they lie put on the mask to appear as though they haven’t cut corners all their life and have zero character or integrity all the whole knowing at some point wearing that mask was only going to last until you figured them out. Each day was impending doom they know everything about themselves is fake. The devaluation was just another ploy to keep them in the game and even that was fake. Then they dumped you before they knew you figured them out bc they understand that once you did you’d drop them and wouldn’t look back. They do it as meanly as possible to throw you off further but at the end of the day they’re just cockroaches. It took you a long time to figure it out. But they knew it from day 1. Sad pathetic existence. Couple that with a lifetime of bad karma and you’ve got the coward lazy narcissist. Just a loser that knows this and doesn’t care even about themself. So no chance if caring about anyone else. Actors. Always a show. Always a game. The female narcs of which there are many make for good xxx videos. Besides that they serve no good purpose.
LOVE THIS! Divorcing my narc abusive husband and everything you posted encapsulate what he is about. You are wise and this is what I realized all along and what he showed. He knew he wasn't worthy of me but lead me astray.
I am so grateful to stumble on your channel!! Thank you so very much! Very refreshing to hear the other perspective..
I saw one small tear in your right eye at the beginning.You give us so much power.
They can change but choose not to (period)
Lee your conversations have helped me so much . Thank you❤
EVERYTHING, that was said is on 🎯 LITERALLY!!!
Hey Lee. So glad I found your sight!! Been helping me a lot! Thank you! God bless you!
God bless you as well
Big brother Lee!!! Thank you for continuing to share great information to help us.
You’re welcome
Thanks for always aiming to educate and for being so transparent.🙏🏾
Any time!