The Dark Side of Introverts
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- Опубликовано: 26 июн 2021
- An introvert has no shortage of admirable traits. They are creative, intelligent, and independent souls with a loving and gentle heart. Does that sound like you? Despite these number of good traits, not all is pretty for an introvert. In the video, let's explore some of the dark sides of introverts.
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Disclaimer: No introvert is alike, but there’s a tendency for them to share similar personality quirks with others of the same energy levels.
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Helgoe, L., PhD. (2017). Revenge of the introvert. Retrieved February 11, 2021, from www.psychologytoday.com/intl/...
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Comment below if you're an introvert or extrovert or in between. Let's see how many of us there are ;)
Definitely introvert, but I'm pretty expressive online heh
I love youu:))
I'm an introvert :')
Introvert lololol
Introvert :,)
Best part about being in the introvert club:
There is no club
Also: we never have any meetings
Yep. Best and worst.
Or the onlyone in the club. Lol
Let's make plans to not bother each other.
We introverts should make a club
Online
Only in text
With food
"No one really know me. I don't even know myself."
This is what I always think about.
99 names of God
Same same. Like until now at my age, I still struggle knowing myself. Even though, I know I'm still happy with how I am now.
same
same, I thought I'm the only one who think this way
Same 😔
I shared this with my wife when i found it. I tried to explain things in my head but i feared she didnt understood so by sharing this it helped her understand. After she watched it she came in and sat on my lap and hugged me tight telling me how much she loved me. She is an extrovert and she has helped me feel more comfortable interacting with other people. She is an amazing woman.
I wish I could find a make copy of this kind of person! She sounds so nice!
As an introvert I must shamelessly say that I can apply myself to every single example. I used to be like that.
The good thing is I made some progress and stopped bottling myself from people close to me and started noticing my own value.
Sending power to all introverts that has to deal with any of this traits. Stay strong, folks. 💪🏻
I used to bottle things up but I stopped doing that as I aged. Now I don't care what someone thinks, if I don't like something then they are definitely going to know about it.
same, i figured out that anxiety stems from an overactive imagination of potential social situations, now i think of people as NPC's that only interacts if you start a conversation, i gave my anxiety a proverbial shot in the back of the head
You’re saying this as if its wrong to be an introvert
That's awesome to hear. Much love to you❤❤❤
For me family is the most difficult and which hits so bad.
7 Dark Traits of Introverts
1. Bad attitude towards teamwork
2. Overthinking
3. Self-Depreciation
4. Bottling up emotions
5. Pessimism
6. Lost of identity
7. Cutting off contact
Thnx for the likes :)
Especially from Psych2go
Exactly like me ! Two days before I ended all relationships with my friends
There are different types of introverts not all introverts has self-Depreciation, and if about overthinking 😏😁 and not all introverts doesn't cuts off relationship or cuts off contacts, the thing is that they are not good with communication so sometimes people try to avoid them and this way they comes out lonely introverts.
And about mix of emotions not all Introverts are same if you get to know a introverts closely then some introverts comes pretty enjoyable, some of them are they are pretty enjoyable than you think, the thing is that they are not good social communication skills.
I am an introvert but do not relate at all to these dark traits. Except maybe #7. But not on purpose. I just start isolating and rather keep to myself more than hang out with people.
Wait a minute
I was bottling up my emotions in relationship with my gf. Such a bad idea. Didn't end well
To be so understanding and never understood hits different..
It's one of the most painful things we introverts go through on a daily basis.
@@jdjzr9343
True so very painfully true
in pained twerking
Hmph
Exactly... It's the biggest struggle for introverts... :(
0:59 Introduction
1:00 BAD ATTITUDE TOWARDS TEAMWORK
1:32 OVERTHINKING
2:15 SELF-DEPRECATION
2:47 BOTTLING UP EMOTIONS
3:25 PESSIMISM
4:03 LOST OF IDENTITY
4:37 CUTTING OFF CONTACT
5:21 CREDITS
Thanks
@@thearthhh np
This is socially discriminating as hell. Not a true scientific video.
@@MoonlightDusk ok then 💀
@@Sheer37111 I am not going to elaborate why I say what I say. Your skull comment implies I miss the point and will follow a grave mistake. But simply put, I doubt you will ever find a video that talks about the dark side of extroverts as much as it does here, and perhaps you will get the hint of that.
I’m an introvert and yes to all of these. And I have lost friends because they felt I didn’t reach out enough for them. Each time I was completely bewildered by this. I thought the amount of contact we had was fine. I’ve stopped even trying any more. I have my hubby and daughter and sister. That’s plenty for me.
I get you, yes to all of these too, since childhood I never really had a close friend, even if I did, they left anyway. I also stopped trying to look for friends, I don't really care anymore, but I guess in a way that's good, because we might find the right people.
I felt my " friends" didn't reach out enough for me so i didn't try to keep contact with them. Although‚ i don't dislike them and i would answer if they tried to contact me.
@@serialp2895 I feel exactly like that wow
At least you have them but me am still young and my mom is now dead
@@serialp2895 Right? We'd know how to reach out to people if they ever did it to us.
I’ve learned that keeping silent and distancing myself is better than my words being misconstrued.
i agree.... that always happens to me so i just keep silent
Yes!!! Agreed. We're instant, natural targets of this. I just bow out from the world, while backing behind the curtain, and exit through the back door into my peaceful, quiet home and just live in my little world - it's an energy saver!!!
same
I agree whole heartedly
That's not enough though, you get singled out for being quiet.
As an introvert, I enjoy just saying "yeah" and "oh" in phone calls. What about you?
Oh, yeah. Hmmm.
Yeah. Which is part of the reason I don't like phone calls. I never know what to say and it's hard to maintain the conversation.
Yass!!!! People misunderstand us that we are bored with their convo 😑
Ok...
yeah
Years ago I took a bunch of psychological tests, and on one, I was told I was "off the charts" on the introversion scale. When they explained that an introvert was someone who needs time alone to gather the energy to be around other people, I felt like I finally understood myself. That knowledge gave me a lot of insight into myself and helped me to navigate the world. I'm very comfortable with being who I am now.
There is no such thing as off the charts introversion. A normal test has a scale of 0 to 100. I'm a 95. Also, I have my own simple introversion test: How many days out of 100 would you like to spend alone? Probably not all of them.
@@Gaze73 At the time I got the results, my doctor used that figure of speech and told me that I was "kind of off the charts" in two areas. I realize(d) that my scores did not go beyond the unit of measure set up for the tests, but that I had scored particularly high in two areas. And during the pandemic I went for months at a time without talking to anyone in person and felt none the worse for it.
I only discovered that I was an I introvert in my college days and throughput my life until that point I thought it was just me in the whole world who was like this
The following bit about teamwork had me laughing out loud: "It can produce greater results if the teammates are compatible and communicate in a healthy way."
This only happens in the rarest of cases, if ever. Welcome to the real world of work, where teamwork in most cases is a drag and there will always people that take advantage of the team, leaving those that actually want to get the work done, with more work. Oh, and let's not forget the arguers and naysayers.
So, yes, I believe, 90% of the time I CAN do better when I'm working alone. ;)
It varies, in a smaller team where you all get along well it can actually be fun, this is the one thing on the list that I don't have a problem with myself, but maybe the only thing on the list.
Everyone agrees that her voice acts as a stress reliever
YESS HER VOICE IS SO CALMING
Indeed.
It certainly does!!! She really deserves credits
I mean who doesn't..
YES
Signs You Might Be an Introvert:
Need quiet to concentrate.
Are reflective.
Are self-aware.
Take time making decisions.
Feel comfortable being alone.
Don't like group work.
Prefer to write rather than talk.
So ME
You understand me so much
I'm probably an ambivert, maybe leaning a little towards being introverted
It's tiresome to talk .
@@luvxs_ wOw sHeS hOt
I'm an introvert, who was painfully shy as a child, and found it hard to make friends. It's interesting to hear about extroverts optimism about unwise things. I have always thought that pessimism stopped me from trying harmful things, such as smoking or alcohol. Instead of thinking that getting hooked only happens to 'other people', I realise that to most of the world I am one of the other people. I also think that being a loner protected me from peer pressure. When I grew up, I worked full-time in a psychiatric unit for 10 years. Coming in contact with alcoholics, vindicated my choice to be a 'boring teetotaller.'
I'm an Ambivert, I know what u feeling n good luck to next day n successfully😊
This is the first time I hear of the term ''ghosting'' and it makes sense as part of my introvertedness. I've ghosted people throughout my life, unintentionally and intentionally. I've lost friendships because of unintentional ghosting and still feel guilt about it to myself many years later. When you say no two times to people it becomes easy to say no a 3rd time, and then you wonder if they still like you and you may feel embarrassed, so you may no longer try. At least I now I have a word for this dark trait. I don't mind being an introvert but it has its own curses.
Right and same with me too 😢😭
The worst thing about being an introvert is people ask this really irritating question as to 'why am I silent'. 'why don't you speak?'
I Know A Comeback For That
Just Say: Oh I Talk, Just NOt To You, I Just Dont Wanna Waste My Time.
That's not a response I get very often. Other introverts understand that you don't need to fill a long pause with chatter. In conversation with extroverts, I am aware that I have maybe a two second break to communicate an idea before being interrupted.
I can totally relate to this!
I wish I at least got that. With me people usually just give up and walk away after a few seconds. It's like if I don't talk, then I just stop existing in their eyes
U don't sound like silent person or introvert, u sound like extrovert. Introvert doesn't care sharing anything even in a comment.
the self deprecating and cutting off contact thing is pretty true. there are very few people i can genuinely tolerate and i generally dont have problems cutting people off, even friends or relatives
Very true
Hello, fellow introvert. I’ve done that in spades, became reclusive and gave myself donkey brain for a bit. Now that I’ve gone back to in-person work. I feel like I’m on autopilot with no filter, without a care in the world and surface level conversation.
edit: send help
True
@@davedoe4932 that kind of thing is definitely a dream of sorts to me lol. but its gonna be harder than it looks, doesnt mean i wont try to have a comfortable life. i dont take this in a bad way though, for people like me who can easily cut people from their lives, it should also be easy to prevent/ get rid of toxic relationships.
People will drain you
Cut them off
You may never read this, but thank you for uploading this video, I have gone to therapy for many periods of time through my life... But never did any of my therapists understand, the problem I had with overthinking things for a long time, I thought I was different in a negative way to everyone, because no one that I knew ever understood that problem... But seeing this video comforts me a lot because it makes me realize that I am nothing special, am just a simple person with some negative of my personality.
Thank you for helping me humanize myself.
I am proud to be an introvert, actually. As an introvert, I feel like most extroverts are too dominant (bullies sometimes). I am usually so intimidated by extroverts and I can only be around them for a short time. Also, they seem to flutter from action to action without stopping and I prefer to stand still and sift through information. Even the dark side seems quite alright to me.
MOST OF THE TIMES THE DARK SIDES BOTHERS THE INTROVERT HIMSELF/HERSELF
This is me soo much
@@Ari-hl9sr yea,me tooo
Or herself
Or theirs elf
Idfk
False. Dark side of introverts bothers people who are hypervigilant.
@@charlie-yp2oq what i was gonna say
It sucks when you want to watch things like this just to feel that someone understands you.
Sad but true😥
This hits hard.
Yes... :, (
This hit different
agreed , well at least we got each other , i feel ya brothers and sisters
Being an introvert basically born without any dreams, hopes, wishes, aspirations or ambition whatsoever has been tough. Also not having much of an identity has also been pretty hard. Yet, I have come in terms with myself and who I am. I check most of those boxes in the video too, but I'm not too hard on myself. Overthinking is my greatest enemy by far, followed by near crippling fear of crowds. Just going shopping can and will drain my mental batteries for a few days. The more I can be alone the better. I can experience loneliness, however, something that I have only recently discovered. But only on small doses and when depressed. Making almost any decision is extremely hard and takes ages. The bigger the decision, the longer it takes. And the fact that I have been like this basically my whole life some plus 30 years... It hurts when people accuse me of something when they literally don't know me at all. That I make excuses, that I lie or I'm lazy or something... They can't imagine what it is like... To have no dreams. No hopes. No ambition. Nothing to strive for. Like I'm dead inside. But that's not true at all. I am a kind person, compassionate, a bit oversensitive at times. I just want to live my own life in peace and not bother anyone. I stopped looking for a "cure" a long time ago. Instead of thinking what's wrong with me, I started to understand that it's just who I am. I'm not going to fake myself to become something I'm not. I'm not going to force the change for the sake of other people. Become a fake... a complete stranger in the mirror... If a change comes, it comes and I'll gladly accept it. Appreciate it. Try to understand it. I hope you all have a wonderful day! 😊
Remember kids, the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.
The only reason I "ghost" people is because they never contact me first. It's always me who contacts them to keep the friendship going, so I give up and let them be. I have only like, one friend who ever DMs me. I don't generally go around making friends anyways and have always preferred having a small friend group anyways. The only other time a friend DMed me was for help on his geometry homework.
So similar 😭
I can relate
Brooo same stuff
Same here too....it's something that I was really bothered about and kept thinking that it's my fault...I tried texting them again but they don't really text first...so these days I also stay silent
I literally have the same problem. I have a friend that moved to another state a year ago. Since then we write everyday, but I dont really have friends here. It just makes someone feel extremely unimportant and lonely if that person has to always keep up the work to have contact. And I dont spam them, I usually write them twice a week. Its just quite tiring to be forgotten that easily. But it all also brings some peace with it, like having no meetups in stressing sorroundings or public places xD You can be happy with yourself but its nice to know that you have someone to go out with and just have a bit of cmpany. I hope this made sense '^^
If an introvert were an action figure, he would be "The Overthinker - he'll take you down with an infinite loop of thoughts..." 😂😂😂
Sounds like a comic book character
Lml basically a genjutsu
I laughed SO HARD 🤣
😂😂😂
Ahh yes 😌.
You mean Izuku MerMeriya
This really explained a lot
It also triggered a lot when all the difficult interactions with the introverts came to light.
I am an introvert, it has been proven by my family and friends. In this video, I am all traits except for the last one... And like you said in the video with introverts losing themselves, that really hit home for me. This video helped explain why many things happened in my life. Like me being happy in the present then upset because I remembered something from long ago, but thank you verry much.
Introverts are introverts even when hating, we literally direct all the bad feelings to ourselves, and even when is a bad feeling directed to someone else, it just stay inside ourselves making us mental ill
In a extroverted world people just don’t understand us like we are not human, I’m often pessimistic and realistic about everything so much so I do it by accident so i distance my self from my friends and i get lonely so I tell my self I’m worthless and honestly I just wanna lie in my bed and cry but it’s impossible with Being judged for crying “ no reason” and my dad being a b**** will take what makes me happy which over quarantine I have lost a lot of...
This describes me sadly also it's sad how everything in this video is me
girl i’m telling you, i have it too. what i did was i write my heart out in my phone. sometimes, i put a lock on them for extra protection. lol.
i hated on someone till i reached my limit. (probably cause it kindof triggered my anxiety as well) i broke out into tears, my jaw feels numb my throat feels like there’s something disturbing. so i rant my emotions in my notes in my phone and it did calmed me a bit.
but when i reread all my writing again, it kind of make me feel bitter. cause i just couldn’t open up to literally anyone.
Yeaaahhhhhhhhsss
@@rxdisabigboy6446, You need help seriously. You are what you said and of course, it appears that it's extreme and intense that can affect the mental, emotional psyche. I've been through this. I was hurting myself doing these things. I was selfish to wallow in self-pity. It took a 5th trip to the psychiatrist ward to understand completely the situation I was diagnosed with BiPolar. I take meds that a big plus. The moods I and emotions are pretty much stabilized. Here the meds I take Lamotrigine. Buspirone. and Quentinline. I pray you to seek help from mental health providers. I promise you will see a big difference and it's all for the best!
The no.6 "lost of identity" hit's my soul hard.
Introverts fact: some of the introverts sometimes pretend to be a different person to fit in the surrounding people and environment. That's where they tend to loose and forgot who they are and how they usually act.
In my case. I think I have pretended to much that I forgot how I act in the past
I'm having a real fuckin' hard time with that one. Sober for 7mos, drunk for 15 years. Don't really remember what made me be before. Only a couple friends that still have my back, so that's nice at least.
@@tnmoe- I know it's hard but don't give up because there will be that "one day" that you'll be so glad and proud that you didn't give up.
Hope this helps
@@enderhunt227 - Word, thanks dude, your encouraging words are appreciated.
I typed that out rather quickly, but I was/still am an introvert to many faults; the drink was just liquid courage.
Take care, and thanks again.
@@tnmoe- no problem and take care as well
@ender Hunt your comment is so relatable
I checked every box many times in my life. Not only are these traits getting more pronounced in my life, but I have begun to embrace them. I’m tired of putting on a face for others.
I finally feel so understood!! Thanks for this vid 😊
As an introvert, it’s not that I despise teamwork. I just need the confirmation that each role in the team is understood. What I really despise are people who do the absolute minimum and coast along on other people’s work and effort, with little to no contribution.
Precisely
Truth be told The second I hear "group work", my excitement towards that research or project, it filters and decrease, a little to lot sometimes
Exactly, the work it takes to get everyone to buy in , or accept the roles they have be assigned, always seems underwhelming, so we might as well do it ourselves, and that’s when the one that coasted along and did the least gets praised and will happily take the credit of our hard work or participation , cause everyone seems to always be breaking the chain of commands , assuming and bypassing these foundational processes, that usually ends up in some sort of chaotic disorganization , IMO , but I hope to be proved wrong 😑
You know, I find that it benefits me a lot more when I call out such people. Yes they will attack you for calling them out, but you'll actually respect yourself a lot more for it.
It's a little different with me. I don't despise teamwork either. If anything I can see the benefits of great teamwork. It's just that i'd rather be able to do everything on my own. The idea that i need others bugs me to say the least... It's a trust thingy.
*Psych2Go:* "Are you guilty of any of these traits?"
*Me:* yeah, but just like...all of them.
While watching this I was thinking to myself "Do I have theese traits?" and *literally all of them* were so accurate to me...
Me to
same lmao
Same with me. Though some signs could be more frequent than the others. I am worried and confused.
dw ur definitely not the only one here
The speaking voice of this young lady is so calming.
i’m an introvert
the part which said that we tend to cut off contact hit me hard
i have lost many friends because they thought i didn’t like talking to them or something
i’ve gone months on end without communicating to people and i don’t talk to them anymore which makes me sad, but when i DO talk to people, i get exhausted and can’t seem to tell them that i am tired and will talk to them later
i feel guilty about it
and i don’t know if this is a thing only introverts do (probably not) but i have always shown myself as a person who makes other people want to be comfortable around me, people usually come to me for advice or just to share their feelings, i want to do that too but i feel like i’m too much of a burden on them and that makes me bottle up everything, i really want to open up but i’m scared to.
Helloooo
[Also the following content is kind of annoying so yeah]
Thank you for sharing a side of your story I can relate to :')
I also tend to cut off contact with my friends and now aquaintances (I'm sure I wrote that word incorrectly).
I do feel bad when I don't update to my friends after weeks or months. Most of the time, when i do, I go all in, like a single evening is what it takes... then I feel that I did it... and that's it. I don't feel the need to talk to them anymore as I really went out already, trying to be as bubbly as possible but also with a hint of my real personality. It feels wrong to do so but I can't stop that cycle.
I once shared to my cousin that I don't enjoy the texts I'm sharing with a new friend. I'll just say T, my friend, appeared to be into me and wanted to get to know me. I also found T interesting.
I was having a good time the first days, T texted me every day... literally... and that became upsetting and unbearable to me. I didn't enjoy our conversations as much as before, it all seemed rushed as hell and I didn't see myself keeping up.
My cousin told me to just tell T the truth because why not just clarify instead of ghosting. And I did. I told T that I needed time, days, until we could talk again.
I knew T was weirded out about my request and now we barely keep contact and I don't want to change things for now.
Yeah... long comment but I needed to get it all out. I feel bad about it but I don't let myself linger on it, as I have a lot of distractions. If I don't, I overthink a lot. Voila~
hey! we both over think a lot haha
i totally agree with you, honestly i try not to let it affect me too much but my overthinking has become worse haha (+trust issues, it makes everything complicated :’D)
there’s this one friend i have who i have told what i feel inside and i haven’t ever told anyone else, but now they talk to me everyday and they also take me as their most best friend, i want to tell them that i don’t talk to people everyday since it’s physically exhausting for me but i don’t want to come off as annoyed or pissed, i can’t do anything about it so i keep making excuses, i understand exactly how you feel and i’m happy you told T how you feel about the conversation y’all were having :D!
and no you are not annoying, i assure you :)
@@evirji7844 Well woah
I had a friend who wanted to be my best friend and wanted to hang out outside of middle school (it's been like 6 years now). And I didn't react well :') I thought "oh... you want us to go outside? Like outside to hang out?" I was surprised and maybe that person misunderstood the situation... it's not that I didn't want to hang out but was surprised by the possibility of hanging out outside of classes (weird yeah).
That person came with good intentions but gradually became toxic (I only noticed it after we parted ways... officially because they messaged me they just wanted to be friends now... yeah I had to recover afterwards), and since that I somehow absorbed that person's feelings, I lost myself in problems I wasn't even concerned with, made a lot of bad and sad decisions :'/ clearly the worst and the most confusing years of my life.
Aaaand I'm ranting again woooah :'D I gotta go because I might expose my miserable life here :))))
Also thank you ♡
English spelling is hard :/
@@musicislife2310 I feel you :o it's so hard to explain when we have to
@@steffirmts3056
hey, it’s okay to rant haha, i hope speaking about it made you feel better :)
"You should be more positive!"
"Alright. I'm POSITIVE this won't end well."
Spoken like a true thinker lol
Is that an Inside Out reference?
@@ItzeltheGoddess they said they're covid positive 🚪🚶🏻♀️
@「Siilxnt」 oh if it is then negative is the way to go-
That's so me 😂
I believe it was one year ago that I realized that I´m more of an introvert and a thing I recently started to do was to write down things when I was overthinking them. Now whenever I have something on my mind I write it down, describing what it is what bothers me, how I feel and how I could change it with or without help of others. It really helps to calm me down and focus on other stuff.
People say, 'you don't talk'. Then when you do, you're arrogant. That was what a friend said anyway.
For those who feel guilty about ghosting people, remember communication is a two-way street. If they aren't trying to contact you either, then they aren't making an effort either. If you want to reconnect with them though, just send them a message and they may respond. Someone just needs to make the first move.
Thank you! You will notice who makes an effort when you stop being the one always making it.
Yeah.... most of the time it's always ME making that move and then having them flake or leave you on read.
Yeah... Although if the other person isn't even trying to have communication I would'nt consider that as "ghosting".
@@Charcosombrio_22 I know. I posted that for people who think they've ghosted somebody when that isn't the case since that somebody isn't contacting them either. I used to feel that way about some people.
True :)
I usually do not mind some quietness, for me friends are still friends even when we do not talk every day (I guess that works for most of us).
But others see this as a reason to regard the friendship as "ended". Which seem kind of childish to me.
It's not forbidden to ask anyone "Hey, I haven't heard from you in a while, what's up?"
The worst part in being an introvert is when you can't even talk to your family, it makes you feel like adopted.
I don’t have to imagine feeling like that I am adopted
Musa (as) dua
@Sommer Currie thank you I love your comment as well
@Sommer Currie appreciate your comment very much love to be good friends those of us who are adopted have to stick together
well I had to flee my family & change my name after they planned to have me disappeared, so I no longer worry about talking to them
Thank you for this video. I have done all of the above.
I’ve been accused of overthinking because a person told me ‘I want to do a will before I travel in case I die ‘ (they were going to America) and I was like ‘here are five or six things you might want to include’. Sometimes people would rather accuse you of overthinking than admit that they didn’t think at all.
I'd add getting stuck in unhealthy routines such as self-isolating because your room may be less stressful than the outside world. Over time, this makes it hard to do what you used to be able to do, like a form of regression. It happens a lot to those of us who have severe social anxiety.
Oh my gosh yes! I have the tendency to 'putt myself away" in my room as it's safe and comfortable. But that's also where my depression can breed and spiral. I get a bad case of lone wolf syndrome and end up making myself depressed. The more I want to be alone and allow it the worse I end up feeling.
This is not introversion. This is mental distress. Seek help.
Randomly clicking on this video which, crazy Inter-bot-algorithms recommended is actually becoming quite interesting man!
Think I may be a Introvert and didn't even know what that meant until earlier Lol Avoid labels though!
......and self isolating keeps out the people noise and I can do what i want then so.......
This happened to me, had a bad relationship with my brother plus covid made me just not want to do anything and this caused me to now have weight problems, well I had them before but they were made glaringly obvious in this time, last year has been the best year in my life, I was able to get out of this room and actually have friends who cared about me
@@dacksonflux true but doesn’t mean the person isn’t introverted
I think the hardest person for any introvert to confront is themselves. After all, you’re the only one who truly knows everything about yourself, and thus your subconscious has the power to twist your past into something that you despise yourself for. Confronting that darker side of your subconscious is one of the hardest things to do.
This!
YES! You explained it perfectly.
Yes
Confronting my dark side is like trying to stop a truck. If I try to fight it, it just ends up making me feel worse. Also, I thrive on the dark side of myself. It would be like trying to tear myself apart.
OMG yes thats so true! It takes a lot of effort just to even look at ur own dark side. it gets too overwhelming
The bottling up part. Is like tanking all damage until you save up for your super move.
Except. Instead of winning. It hurts everyone. Including yourself.
I relate to every single aspect mentioned in the video.
In truth this is exactly how I am. The biggest problem I have is the inability to voice out exactly what I'm going through instead I tend to mix up words, say unintentional things and just mess up the whole conversation. It feels kind of like there's a voice inside of me that's screaming for help, but it gets chocked up right in the middle of my throat.
My throat even hurts sometimes due to this.
No. 6 'Lost of identity' hits me so hard.
I've spend such a long time pretending to be someone who is able to fit in a specific environment till i've lost touch of what i used to be in the past. And it makes me feel sad, because at times i just feel so lost at who i'm supposed to be. i don't even know who i am anymore.
You're not alone here. It took me close to 3 years for all the other identities to wear off. Trust me I was going into depression and coming out like I was going to the loo.
But I can boldly say today that I found my true identity in Jesus Christ.
fr im confused if im really that kind of person or just the person i want to be, i dont know myself
@Vladimir Putin but no one asked how you are :(
@@ivevivizen1385 if you act like what you want to be, you will become what you wanted to become.
The thing is, you become what you think you are, because you act in the way you think...
We all are acting like what we think we are.
And if we change our thoughts of how, we feel about ourselves which is easy,
We can change ourselves.
Like for example people think that they are losers and they start to act like that and consequently they become a loser....
So, think and act wisely,
As Your life depends upon them.
@@RealNeonPlayzLmao
The worst part about being this way is living in a world where the only way you can be "happy", surrounded by "normal" people is to constantly force yourself to not be who you are.
It's literally like you were born to be your own worst enemy.
So true!
Damn this is too relatable
Yea
That's a very interesting and cogent point. I used to have a bad brink problem 😕. But unlike other people who went out to get drunk I got drunk because I went out.
I like this. Very accurate. I always have been fake just to be considered "normal" lol
I'm an introvert with ALL of these traits,I find nothing wrong with them,them make me stronger,people fear what they don't understand so they call it dark as if to label it as evil and undesirable.
Dark was not meant evil or undesirable, just harder to handle for some. I have all these traits and have spent nearly 40 years trying to understand them. Nothing wrong with them, just they are usually harder to manage, deal with, process…
Iv been listening to ur videos so much lately and it think I’m seeing things in ppl and myself since iv started to listen to them on a regular and some of ur videos make me wanna cry, no idea why.
Introverts are not broken. We do not need to be fixed. Learning techniques or tricks to help you through certain situations can be helpful. Remember, though, that you are not fixing yourself, you’re adapting to difficult situations.
I just wanna say thank you for this :))) that was a nice boost
@@steffirmts3056 Have you read Susan Cain’s “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking”? I think it should be required reading for the world’s extroverts who keep trying to fix us (especially supervisors). 🤔🙂
@@karendinkins2469 absolutly not :o never heard of it ! Thanks for the recommandation :p it sure sounds interesting
I can see where your coming but id have to disagree. Atleast until I find some evidence that you can never really live without a flaw which is unlikely. Either way fixing seems like a better description to me than adapting, however adapting makes it feel less harsh 😂
Thank you 😊 that makes things seem less depressing.
The music... it feels lonely... but adding with her voice that says "I'll be with you" is so perfect.
Can't agree more than this
@@scratches3081 ikr
Idk why but at 0:05 I just randomly started singing "Too late to hide away, too soon for one to repay"- Maybe I've been listening to FNaF songs a bit too much
So many of these were straight on the head for me. I have noticed so many times before that I do tend to act in a way that feels like I am mimicing the "flow" of others. Sometimes people are more laid-back and I tend to mirror that, other times when someone has a work first attitude I can be very productive. Even when I am alone I can get sleepy or more lazy just feeding off myself.
Damn, talk about hitting the nail on the head. I deal with all seven issues. And the hardest is having lost a few of the friends through the years. Especially after I move, usually to a different state..
I’m too old now to care to change any of these things as they are just another part of my life. Good video, I hope it helps some people.
All the introverts should live together not talking to each other and still feel good enough...
I vouch for that. Story of mi life
That would be hell.
That's a terrible idea, I love my extroverted community even if I'm the only different one. Without them it would be depressing since introverted kind don't care about each other.
@@dripvader69 I wouldn't say introverts don't care about each other...it could seem that way with a bunch of introverts together because we are too busy bottling everything up instead of opening up to each other and giving other introverts a reason to care
@@exorouge238 Your psychological problems don't equate to being an introvert. I have nothing of what you mentioned after my therapy.
You know, the strangest thing about being an introvert is being so comfortable being alone. It has its uses sure but it makes it very difficult to get out there and meet someone. Especially in this incredibly socially isolated time we live in.
the belief that introverts like being alone is a myth. they like reduced stimulation because they do everything more deeply. has nothing to do with being alone or not
Wow. I can almost cry of joy after hearing those balmic, healing words that click just right.
Everyone has social media start there
Also begin comfortable alone and feel lonely without people around you but still don't wants to meet people
Yes I relate :((...Actually I hate being an introvert because of that... So many interesting ppl around me I would like to talk to but I can't.... even if I talk to someone I try hard to pretend I am not introvert. I can totally relate to the "lost of identity"
This is the most accurate video I have ever seen!!! I identify to have 6 out of these 7 traits especially in the last 5 to 6 years. I need to get better, cannot be like this anymore
Thank you for this video I will try and use it in the future to improve my self ❤❤❤
I actually enjoy teamwork, as long as there's someone leading
As long as i dont have to do the heavy lifting
I struggle with that. Anytime there's ag group project, either I have to lead and do an Atlas because I fear our work will be bad and our grades low or stay in the back because nobody will consult mw because I lack expertise in that particular subject. I want to be included but I understand why others would do that, and I want help but most can't seem to understand my ideas no matter how simple they are. At least to me.
I don’t like it very much but I’m fine with it just give me something to do and leave me alone
I was put as Leader of a study group at my university. In the First year.
During that year they ignored me and never responded to messages or calls. Not even when we were supposed to present a group work.
At the end of the year I was in such severe depression that I needed treatment to prevent suicide.
Obviously I was unable to pursue that career to the point that just thinking about it damages my emotional state. The feeling of rejection was too great.
I even tried to join other groups while mine failed. but all were already established and avoided contact with others ... with me.
Like a shy introvert who was going to be the leader of a group for the first time. I really strive to be a good leader and always have all the information about everything the university requested. I don't want to go through that again in my life.
Same!
I think introverts get tired of trying to be what others want them to be. This causes loss of identity and anxiety trying to please others. Sometimes we just have to lose friend's we needed losing for our own sanity.
Exactly. And also trying to please others will make introvert bottle up their anger more
Trust me, tired of being what others want you to be, or the idea of you, that they have built up in their heads. Being tired of that is an understatement. I got beyond tired, I got angry, angry at everyone and everything, just as the pandemic hit. I cut off everyone. Friends and all family members. After 9 months I allowed a small handful back into my life. After emerging from that isolation as who I really am. And the best thing I could have done is tell everyone that this is who I am, and if they don't like it, to leave and never come back. And life is easier believe me.
Yes to this comment! It’s okay and natural for some of us to want to be alone more and not keep in constant contact with certain people in our lives. For me all my real ride or die friends are the ones that are comfortable not being in regular contact. Years can go by and it’s okay because we all have our lives to live. It’s hard when certain friends can’t understand, but it’s even harder to blame yourself and think that you’re in the wrong and need to change.
Honestly I think that us introverts that keep to ourselves and set boundaries in order to not feel overwhelmed and anxious can be helpful for extroverts to witness. Just because technology allows us to communicate with the world instantly doesn’t mean it’s the only way to exist. For centuries it wasn’t even a thing! The extroverts are just louder and the self proclaimed hermits like me are just living their lives quietly and happily. It’s taken me 41 years to realize my shyness and want to be alone is not a BAD thing. It’s the core of who I am and that’s okay.
@@thedeadd.c.207 I totally agree with you. People trying to strip you of who you truly are is something I've struggled with my whole life. I'm happy being the person I'am today. Those type of people are not your friends at all. Just be yourself unapologetically & if doing that costs you friendships, best thing to do is accept everything, expect nothing, & keep moving forward. It does make life so much easier.🙏
No man, extroverts have this issue too. Everyone does. People are expected to be a certain way. Introvert has nothing to do with not liking that.
These two things have nothing to do with how you feel. Only with how you act.
So in your example, let's say you're a super proactive person. But you're an introvert. You may start writing pointing out all the issues with society at large or something similar.
An extrovert that is also a proactive person with the same feeling may find or start a group or society to band together to support each other and protest or something.
Both feel the same but have different results.
So an inactive introvert may just spend enough time outside of their safe space, usually home, but wherever they feel they can recharge, to survive and find safety within. Maybe an obsessive online gamer. Or someone that builds their own "fortress of solitude" to watch sports alone.
An inactive extrovert may find a small quiet group of friends where they can be themselves without judgement from the outside. Say a game store that holds weekly get to together. Or a weekly sport watching event with a few true friends.
Again both feel the same but react different. And no one is a true introvert or extrovert. Everyone needs social interaction for a healthy mind and everybody needs alone time as well.
If you always want to be alone, you're depressed and need to see a doctor. Not an introvert. Even extreme extroverts can get depressed and collapse into themselves. Depression is not introversion.
1. Yup. Teamwork sucks.
2. Sometimes I overthink, but not often.
3. I can be my worst critic, but that helps me improve.
4. You got me. I bottle up too much.
5. I like to think of myself as a realist.
6. Nope. I don't do that much.
7. You got me. I isolate way too much.
First video I’ve seen, immediately subed.
The pain when you're such a good listener but when it's your turn to speak, they come up with another story to tell about them and your story remains unsaid. Probably the reason I became like this. I just feel so left out and unnoticed. In my high school I had the most amazing friends who'd listen to me all the time and I had such a cheerful personality. But now in college, I've become a introvert and I stay silent most of the time.
you told my life
SO TRUE 😔
Damn I think u shouldn’t be around people like that. Reconnect with ur highschool friends if u can
@@markigirl2757 only if I could
Interrupt them. Lol
All of this are actually me, I wasn't this kind of person back then, but as I grow older and more mature. I started to avoid people and stuff. I like being alone most of the time and spend some time daydreaming and stuff. My parents thought that I'm always on my phone but no, I do some other stuff too like drawing and writing on my journal. Sometimes people just don't understand what it feels like so I decided to stay quiet and focus more to myself.
Same here
I completely understand what your going through. I feel the same way.
I feel the same as well
@@Rose-gy1cc it's okay to feel this way, just don't keep your problems all to yourself. It's okay to talk about them, I recommend writing them on a journal to lessen the burden. I hope this helps you🧡. The others as well.
Same😭😭
As an Introvert i really hate working in groups and i think it's better if i work alone. I think it's bc when my class needs to work on a group project my teammates always gives me all the work while they are playing games. So i'm used to work alone even in groups.
group work does tend to be a place where bullies appoint themselves the boss and "delegate" work to quieter types. Also sometimes you're paired off with someone who is either lazy or useless at the task and you have to do all the work. And then people complain introverts don't want to be involved in teamwork ;-) extroverts, by contrast, will provide the entertainment and thus avoid the boring tasks while getting all the positive attention, so they end up feeling like working with others is delightful! Gotta copy them sometimes or pretend you're useless, even though your work ethic screams inside.
This video is really good!
The reality is, a lot of us introverts became introverts through circumstances in our lives, we are in a way, cursed with knowing that we can't relate to the majority. This leads to a lot of us shutting down, and avoiding people because we can't find anyone that's "like us." I was pretty extroverted in the past during my younger ages. But as trauma has popped up time and time again I have spiraled into being a complete introvert. We are very analytical of our surroundings, and can mimic emotional auras around us. However, that isn't truly who we are, a lot of us are often very sad, low people. We know the truth of how the world truly is, and we simply can't adopt that happy go lucky persona because we know that life itself, is rarely a happy thing. For a lot of us who have lost people in our lives to death or even abandonment, we quickly judge those around us. Often comparing ourselves to others. One of the biggest things as an introvert that I deal with is always feeling like a burden to those around me. And it's difficult for me to fit in with society, because I simply can't relate to the masses.
please dont make this a "introvert things" kinda thing, i was like this for a long time and put the label "introvert" on myself,
youre not sad because youre an introvert you're sad because you have unresolved trauma that you stuck the label "introvert" over it.
all introvert means is that being around other people takes away your energy instead of gives you energy.
it doesnt mean youre a lone wolf and analyitical because you have the tendancy to isolate yourself and cut people off in your life
no one knows how the world truely works but people with depression that see no hope in life think they do and get stuck in this cycle of believing the worst and feeling the world.
i'm literally exactly like this and i just called myself an introvert bc of it but these are symptoms of mental health issues,
i would isolate myself, i felt tired all the time, i self depricate, i feel like a burden to everyone even my friends and i cut people off all the time, esspeically as a kid i didnt have friend because i thought "i couldnt relate to anyone." but really i couldnt relate to anyone because... well, you dont know what you dont know and unaddressed hidden mental issues make you feel EXTREMELY LONELY and literally cause all the things in this video, people pleasing, copying personalities to be liked, bottling it all up
also people who arent introverts arent "happy go lucky loud annoying idiots"
anyways was eventually diagnosed with depression, an anxiety disorder, personality disorder and adhd (which adhd doesnt really matter in this point but when it wasnt diagnosed and i had no clue why i was the way i was, it did intensify the symptoms of everything else.)
definitely not introverted bc of this though, feel like its easier to say amniverted or whatever it is.
because really all introverted and extroverted and all that means is how you gain and lose your mental energy
all these symptoms are huge signs of smth internally thats unresolved, not signs of a personality trait
You sort of have a point, but it also sounds like you have depression, and are confusing it with introversion.
Interesting but still inconclusive, but believe it's due in large part to me being Christian!
Allow me to elaborate ,yes I have shut some people out, yes I like to be solace, and for sure I've over thought everything ten times before I say them, but I've also managed,
To successfully combine both those identities, the bad,and the good, bringing a balance!
Because I've realized that they help one another, for example when the good guy is,
About to deal with someone negative, such as a manipulative person,
The bad guy steps up protecting the good guy,because he understands his self- characteristics there by coexisting in a well balanced understanding of one's self!
Hope this helps someone! Most people tend to go back and forth between their two minds which is why sometimes they seem indecisive or confusing to themselves, but I can tell you very briefly how to avoid this if interested, let me know! God bless
I'm like exactly what you said..I was an extrovert when I was younger and as I grew older I slowly started becoming an introvert, I myself don't even know what happened for me to change like this. I always end up copying the people around me and start acting like them (I sometimes dont even realize it) more specifically my sister since im always near her, hell even the way I talk has been influenced by her..Anyways like I said at the start, what you just wrote/typed is basically me
That's not what being introverted is, you more likely have depression w some degree of anxiety probably bc of the trauma u spoke of either way U need to sort your mental health ...
*You cannot become or change to be introverted/extroverted , idk how the general ideea came that u can "switch" between being one or the other of course into/extroversion does get influenced by your environment at a young age and your genes do allow a certain amount of flexibility in response wich are like a set of points that act as an upper or under limit of how much inro/extroversion u can handle with your ersonality type.
In the day to day life u (have to ) socialize with other people either way, an introvert gets there social battery run down faster than an extrovert and feel more confortable focusing on your inner world than the external one *
Intovertness and extrovertness is how the brain is wired to gain energy , deal with outside stimulation and process information of course.
The one about losing yourself makes so much sense to me, I feel like a completely different person around my friends because I try so hard to make sure everyone’s doing okay and that everyone even likes me. I’ve thought recently about how I could literally be anyone I want to be and how my own personality is just a lost default.
I can relate. I just try to satisfy everybody by changing my personality, how I speak, reply to people. When I'm myself, I always seem to offend people easily, even when I try to avoid doing it.
Welcome to being a chameleon. They're all parts of your personality, just released at different times. Now if only we could be outgoing and social, then we'd be great actors.
Me too... I've also realized that I don't actually know my default(or hidden?) Personality. I have one for each group I'm talking to, and it's a bit hard to figure it out while sitting alone in a room or something.
@@coltonroark5658 same
@@coltonroark5658 same... I legit have a different personality for everyone I'm around, whether it's parents, other family members, different friend groups, girlfriend etc. I always try to mirror those people just to get along with them. I don't know what my actual self is... Heck, given the right circumstances, I could also be the loudest one in the room which is very very rare. I think the only time I'm "me" is when I'm alone and there's no one else around to mirror.
I love your channel, it helps me❤
Loving the avatar hints ❤ also I grew up hating group work because I was often paired with someone (s) who a) was mean to me or b) weren’t going to do the work anyway
The over thinking is the worst. I spend so much time thinking about things that happened and it drains me.
Same. And in some situations it gets worse with self depreciation
i more overthink the future and i have few scenarios of what can happen. and usually it goes totally doffrently than any of my suspected turns and i am surprised and scared bc i dont know what will happen
@@scaramouche7210 dude I've done the same with relationships. I ditn know if it's healthy but it's helped me get over stuff
@@scaramouche7210 That's the worst about overthinking is things never go according to plan and then we are left wondering what to do.
@@Blahsheep overthinking past is as bad tho. :(( and also butterfly efect exist so we can imagine EVERYTHING that would happen bc thats how butterfly efect works
Whats interesting is that many of these introvert traits are also trauma symptoms. I always though that any form of psychological trauma can turn someone into an introvert. Like bottling up emotions, cutting contact with people, and fear of conflict. These are ways some people cope with their traumas. Introversion can even be a coping mechanism.
Maybe you're right
You hit the nail right in the head. I was an extrovert until I was 6 years old, then trauma happened. Got to see the physical abuse my dad did to my mother for a couple of years. We ran away for a couple more years, that changed my perspective of this world and my demeanor. Now as an adult, I can say I’m an introvert, and don’t regret it. I’m also very susccessful in my life.
Yeah... i agree
introversion seems to become more like a "its more comfortable to say in misery with unresolved and unaddressed issues and not get help" at some points tbh bc if you isolate yourself alot and cut off contact with people all the time (esspeically if you were close to those people you cut off) and dont seek help or support or any kind of communication and just bottle it all up and be a people pleaser, just slapping the label "im just an introvert" on it makes it seem like a normal thing and doesnt give off the signs that they need professional help, not to lock themselves away from the world until they become an empty vessel of a person. I wouldnt really call it a coping mechanism, but if it were to be called that it definitely be a negative one since its kinda denying theres a problem.
(though this only includes people of the symptoms above because there are people who dont have these that are introverted by its not like the steroptypes, the sterotypical introvert is just mentally ill/has unresolved truama, real introverts arent just shy, "i hate people" kinda people yknow)
Yes.. Right..
I honestly find myself inhibiting most of these traits mentioned. I think only pessimism and loss of identity were things I didn't relate to in any shape or form x)
The thing is though, even with these dark traits of mine, I've noticed I've started to have improvements of my own concerning what there is:
- I used to be REALLY afraid of dealing with other people because I got used to people being lazy and uncooperative back in my early years of school. That and because classmates didn't really like me (I've always been called oddly mature), so I preferred working alone than with others. That reflected to how I wouldn't rely on anyone for anything, even with things where I actually should've. I've started to learn to work with people in the recent years though and nowadays I'm pretty much able to have people involved. I am still afraid some people might just take the easy way out, but I usually have a plan B for that.
- In the case of overthinking, I could feel disturbed about possibly offending or hurting someone for hours, even days unless I actually went up and apologized for being rude. And in response, they would just laugh it off that there's nothing to apologize about, it's fine xD So after a few times I've learned that things aren't as bad as I make them out to be, but of course it's good to never forget to bend your knee when the credit is due ^^
- I make self-deprecation humor quite often, but not in as much of a bad light as one might think. More related to the company I'm with rather than my own psychology, I tend to make springy jokes about pulling the worst card out of them all in every case, but in a more comedic sense for people to laugh to. I for myself am pretty proud and think strongly of myself in the end of the day :)
- Bottling up emotions is honestly a more tricky chapter in my book. You see, I rarely ever express bad emotions to anyone, but it's not because I'm bottling them up and waiting for a disaster to happen, rather I just don't feel a damn thing lingering within me for too long. I can usually take bullshit in the other ear and then leave the other without letting it bother me, assuming there's no good reason for me to take that to heart - I do take constructive feedback seriously! I tend to worry my friends whether I'm okay because of the way I am, but I'm always there convincing that everything's okay. In fact, I use my steeled resolve to help my less mentally fortified friends to get through hard times and listen to their troubles with a calm composure. It makes me proud of how I am!
- Cutting off contact is something I used to do quite discreetly and mercilessly when I was younger, but I've become less... demonic about it as I've grown up. I used to just tell people straight up that I want nothing to do with them anymore and not bat an eye about it or say something that makes people avoid me for months, even years. But nowadays I tend to be more reserved about that, poke on the ice and leave it if I don't like someone or if it's someone I've known for longer, maybe be honest and tell them that what we've got going on isn't really working out. I value communication so much in my daily life and I rather leave no room for misunderstandings. I always want people to know how I feel, both in the good and bad x)
There's still room for improvement with whatever shortcomings I have, but there's always time for that. Towards self-betterment! :>
Why i only discover this channel now? Been looking for this kind of content!
I find one of the worst things about being an introvert for me is that practically everything stays in my head, sometimes it's almost like I have a whole room of people in my head trying to make their situation heard, at any given time I probably have a song, a story, and whatever I'm doing and more all sitting in my head fighting for my attention, it can be pretty overwhelming at times which just leads me to sit and watch youtube videos all day as that is one of few times I don't have all that going on in my nogin
Sameeee wtf.... I gotta go and write down shiet from my head now
This is hard to deal with. I am learning to relax, especially at night, and just let things go. Due to working online, at home, due to COVID, I found myself not wanting to be on the internet as much. Since I have been off for the summer, I find myself on my devices more than I want to be, so I am working on that. I do not feel as fulfilled when I am on them. Again, something I am aware of that I need to work on.
Both myself and my partner hate confrontation, our fights consist of dirty looks and cold silences.
At least we don't upset the neighbours but it means that nothing gets resolved.
Yes I can get lost in my own head overthinking and shifting rapidly from thought to thought. I have gotten lost driving due to the ADHD going on in my brain. I can analyze something so much that I forget what I'm supposed to be doing at work or home.
I always deal with this kind of situation every day ,sometime it get too much that a burst of emotion is released ,i.e negative emotion
I find your voice very comforting :*
I have always had a problem underestimating myself. I worked with a therapist and we came up with a physical intervention. I would grab my wrist, say my name and Stop! Then refocus on all I have already overcome or achieved. It worked! I am not as hard on myself, can recognize when I am being hard on myself, and stop it without the gesture, but imo starting with the gesture was key.
I hate overthinking, but it happens to me a lot
Now how do you handle it? I also
@@yashuX200 I still don't know how to stop it completely. But sometimes just getting into action works.
Same here
I'm extrovert and I overthinking a lot. I live in bad environment and people are soo bad. I understand you.
I'm an ambivert and I feel you
Still another one: introverts panick before travelling, public speaking and exams. Sometimes even before going to a party they'd love to go to.
Soo me omw I get soo anxious especially exams I feel physically ill, my stomach starts to cramp and feel like I I'm about to have diahrea 😢
Is there any pill I can take before an exam to help with nerves because sometimes I really be wanting to use the loo but I can't coz I'm in public 😭😭
Bingo!!!
And I used to think I'm the only one!
Me yesterday night because i had an important exam today. My body decided to start freaking out at 2 am 🤦♀️
relatable. i dont leave my house much because i fear the interaction and the uncomfortableness that comes with it :(
Oh my God it could not be more accurate than this. I am an introvert and each point is spot on. I struggle a lot with all of these issues. Trying to figure out my life :(
I'm ok with teamwork, and I'm rather optimistic, but the rest is very true. I do tend to get inside my own head, and then I have a break down a cry for a while, but after that hour of depression I'm usually feeling more like myself again. I'm glad to know I'm not the only person like this, and it really helps me realise that I'm not alone.
I mean, nine times out of ten, working in a team DOES lead to drama, conflict and arguments.
thats so true
the worst thing is when you accept that you have to work in a group and the group says something like ,,ewww i dont want her in my group im not gonna work with her” and i ask teacher if i can work alone and the teacher says you can join to other group and YOU HAVE TO PICK THE GROUP and you look at everyone and all you see on their faces is like ,,pls dont go to out group” and then someone says ,,fine work with us🙄” but they sound so bothered by the fact that you will work ith them but they dont want to make you sad so they allow you to join the group.
Well it's inevitable, but we can try to solve it.
@@42KattaK24 Pure realism, actually.
Conflict is inevitable in this world. Being an introvert volunteered into managing a team. Conflict comss quite readily. But open discussion and debating and not arguing points of view and personal preference for credit of effort and glory. It tends to keep the team running smooth. Just trying to solve the issue and not worrying about the cause.
"I'm just a soul whose intentions are good
Oh Lord, please don't let me be misunderstood."
Great song by a great band.
Not certain if i am an introvert, but a couple of these do apply to me. I am not a fan of team work, depends on who i am teamed with. As for over thinking, i have been accused of it and my response has been that only seems that way because so many think so little or at all. I am harder on myself than others, it is how i refine myself, how i become better. I cut off people on purpose, they show themselves to be a problem and it is a last resort mechanism for me, i have done it to family members and a couple former friends and i possibly will need to do it again in the future.
Every team needs an introvert to 1) do the work, 2) achieve realistic goals, 3) be the lighting rod for the team's frustrations.
I can relate to the pessimism aspect the most. I feel like extroverts see things as a chance to succeed whereas introverts tend to see it a chance to fail or embarass themselves.
Nice profile pic btw!
I agree
This.
One must be cautious to not confuse pessimism with realism.
My school has a school council, where some kids go to meetings and talk to teachers about some things. I ran for it and unlike 3 years ago, the last time we did this I was alot more confident. Anyone who has felt the same, good job! If you still think you will embarrass yourself, I feel for you. Good luck, and we all are rooting for you.
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Thank you for being my voice!!
HI AANG
And Charles xavier
You have such a soothing voice!
I've learned not to let my feelings get bottled up. It almost always leads to an even bigger problem. Nowadays, when it doesn't come with huge risk, I confront the party I am having a problem with almost immediately. I get on the phone or knock on their door to tell them how I feel so that we can move forward from there. It isn't pleasant at all, but will lead to improvement and for me often leads to a much more relaxed feeling.
"Overthinking" that is *definitely* a true thing about me, because I tend to say things that I don't necessarily mean. And if I accidentally say something mean, I can't go a full day without feeling nervous about it and I do say my apologies after but I also keep thinking whether that person really believed I was sorry or not and just knowing that there is a 50/50 chance that they might not have accepted my apology can really get me on edge...as I'm writing this, I'm starting to think it is more than just overthinking for me-
ya me too tbh i still think and regret over stuff that i wasnt able to apoligize for and its hardto forget them as when i am doing nothing i just think of these
i do the same bur i can unfortunately bring myself to apologize:(
@@LifeLessSquip same
Better this than overthinking the thing you want to say, which leads to a stutter so damn horrible for me that it's just embarassing, like I can't speak.
So true 🤧
Amanda's voice is absolutely the most soothing voice I've ever heard.
And when you listen to it at night
You'll get better dreams than ever
omigod YES
As I see myself (so take my comment as you will), I can agree with #s 2-6. I definitely tend to do and/or experience them quite a bit.
As for #1, I am not opposed to teamwork. My only issue is my ideas/suggestions tend to be ignored or just shot down. Hell, there have been times when people have gas lighted me, only to tell me later that they went with a different approach.
As for #7, I don't ghost people. Any time I cut contact with someone it's because they have ghosted me. In many of these situations I send them a polite, final message thanking them for their time, and say my goodbyes.
If it's a failed relationship, I sometimes mention that I am disappointed that we weren't able to have something more.
In any case, I sincerely wish the people involved good luck in their lives and with their future relationships. Basically, this is done so I at least have closure (definitively, since there are some relationships that I never got it).
I'm an introvert and i have a bad trait of overthinking things in my friendships and taking anything someone had said that was a little strange as toxicity, manipulation etc. So i become just confused, stressed and i just can't calm myself down and stop myself from thinking that. Cause i fear that calming down and treating it as nothing is exactly what they want so they can manipulate me. When they have no intention of doing so. It just drives me crazy and i sometimes think "Why do i think they're good friends if my brain tells me otherwise?" Thank you Psych2go now i know why these thoughts might happen.
being an empath. able to tell if someone is lying just as a gut feeling. every so often i literaly dont speak for entire days to literaly anyone including my own family. i just dont feel like interacting with anyone. i can easily tell if someone is a good person or if i should keep my guard up
Same. Everyone says, "don't judge a book by its cover" but to this day, I have never gotten the wrong first impression of anyone. From picking the right friends because they looked nicer than everyone else in the room, to being wary of the uncle who low key likes to bully people weaker than him, but no one else seems to notice but me. I have always been able to know if someone would be a good relationship in my life or not. (Whether I choose to follow my gut in such matters is another story entirely...)
It is very good to see there are some people out there like me
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That's cool
That testing gut feeling that someone is less than nice or trustworthy I get it all the time, that’s why I stay away from ppl, I don’t feel like finding out if I was right
"Everything comes with a dark side. Even the brightest light" -Min Yoongi, BTS
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Light illuminates darkness. But also brings out shadows where things are brightest- a divine dichotomy.
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watching this video is hurting but in the same way relieving...
I have most of those traits, except the one about conflict. I love a good fight/debate/discussion.
I notice a lot more of these signs in myself than I would like to admit..
I can click every box. I know how you feel.
So do I
So do I
Same I related to all of them😅
Fr fr my biggest issue is how to deal with them. Like idk man I feel tired and drained like I don’t know what to do anymore