Dear Introverts...please stop🙏
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- Опубликовано: 19 окт 2020
- For every introvert who has felt bad about being one...you're not alone. But you gotta stop.
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Are you an introvert, extrovert or an ambivert(a balance of both)? And what does it make you feel about yourself? Discuss :)
I'm kind of an Ambivert. But believe me, my introvert times are actually good.... so it's like that😄. Btw, the part you said about watching movie alone. I watched so with 'Joker' movie. Like you said: F#*king amazing.
I'm Introvert and I never go to any party or friends get together 🙃🙃 and I don't feel bad about it.
Do you think I'm normal or should I try to change this...??😌
@@jeeven5333 until you are feeling comfortable doing it, no problem at all....🤞
This video is an absolute favourite one to me.I could relate so many things from this one.
I m an introvert and it took so long time to realize that thing. After all years of self criticism and self disapproval even after I realized that I m an introvert , it took another long period to accept myself. Wat I felt was , it feels so good and better and easy to accept myself rather than trying to change like an extrovert. But enjoyed juggling into various self help books and pdfs and articles and speeches reading about introversion..
Please do upload many videos about introversion :)
I'm ambivert 😎 I hate these "ooma kusumbans" introverts..
Introverts never shut up around people they're comfortable with..
That's true
Exactly 😍
Yeah!! Lol
Yeah
Y same 😂
As an introvert, has anyone of you ever felt so lonely and uncomfortable in a group that you have to seek solitude for a while to feel better? That's the worst feeling ever.😣
know this may sound kind of weird . ( I’m an introvert ) how do u start a text conversation with a friend who hasn’t contacted u for a couple months without being awkward ? Should I just ask him like “ how’s everything going ?
All the time, it's more lonely in a sea of people than it is being alone in solitude.
Yeah, happened with my friends friend group. They were annoying and I refused to be around them.
Short story: I got lonely af and had to fit into the group to feel better. Never talked.
Yes I do I feel that way in groups a lot.
YES, HOLY SHIET
As a 70 year old introvert I want to say that this was one of the best personal comments on the subject that I've seen. It took me many years to get to feeling "normal" about myself. I wish I could have understood this when I was still a kid.
Can you please give me some tips
I'm 19 currently
@@ElonMusk-tb2yiplease please please...
Be your self. You important to yourself, who needs an apeoval of others
Hello , I am 23
But I always irritate to join functions and parties with unknow crowd 😢😢😢 I never share my feelings with any body since as a kid till now at age 26 yrs
@@uniqueshadowplayer4651Every person including extroverts doesn't need to rely on others approval.Another human is just as you figuring out life making decisions.Things I understood is another person gets sets of opinion regarding introverts or extroverts things.We can't change their way of thinking we can only need to focus on our lives.Time will pass and go but your valuable life is not having sufficient energy.
@@mohankrishna4909I chose loner life but I can do these things to whom I can trust.Not everyone is deserving to get your whole private things.If you feel urge to share your feelings do share with trustable person whom you can connect with deeper level or good terms.Before impressing someone never forget what is your needs which are necessary to build up communication because communication is build on the foundation of interests,hobby and your entertainment if you are feeling bored with every topics in communication not feeling want to talk with them just forcing yourself you are doomed to be alone with company of people.First allmost find your type of person whom you can share your conversation.
I forget how i walk when i think someone is looking at me
same..
So real
So meeee
Same😢
Grow a pair lmao
Introverts can actually be very social. Just with the right people.
True❤
Well said ma'am!
It's not social if it's with only a few people , being social is interacting with society , few people dont form a society
@@adityatyagi9421 greatly explained!
True
Asking a introvert to open up is as rude as asking an extrovert to shut up
True
You be speaking FAX
True
True
True ;-;
I am an introvert , I was bullied when i was in school . These bullies were physically weaker than me , but still bullied because i was a quite person . I requested them many times not to make fun of me . One day the three of them caused a great embarrassment to be infront of teachers and other students. This angered me , on the same day I beat all the three persons and warned them. They never bullied me ever again
What a coincidence this happens with me as well in school days. As i am the Silent boy in my school. People always make fun bullied me.
😂😂😂😂 those days.
I agree with you I also did the same thing. 😅 let's stay silent rather than being violent but those bugs digusts me. I taught them a big lesson.
LOVE IT. Dude, this was exactly me. While at a new school in the 6th grade, and into the 7th, I was relentlessly bullied and harassed by a group of aggressive tools I hadn't ever done anything to, especially this one POS in my class and his older brother. It wasn't just verbal, either, there were plenty of physical encounters. One day, I just finally had it and threw all caution to the wind and told myself I would happily accept whatever the results were, but I was going to rear up and do something. I can't even remember exactly what he had done that sent me over the edge, but one morning, early during English class, as I was walking my homework up to put on the teacher's desk, I walked by his desk, stopped briefly, swing my hips and drove my fist into the side of his head with everything I could muster. There was a tremendous "thud" from the fluid in his skull cavitating as he went flying out of his seat, and he let out of a spontaneous "F**K" after landing on the floor. The teacher, who was writing on the chalkboard at the time and had her back to the class, wheeled around and demanded to know the reason for his outburst. He pointed at me and wailed that I had sucker punched him, which of course, I had. She asked me if it was true, and I denied it. She sent him down to the principal's office. Later in the hour, the vice principal came and pulled me out of class to talk to me out in the hallway about the incident, and he asked me point-blank if I had struck him. Again, I had already accepted I was going to be punished as a result of what I did before I even did it, but in that moment, time seemed to freeze, and I had a startling realization: 10-15 other kids in that class saw what happened, and not a single one of them uttered a word to rat me out or to defend the bully. I was a quiet, bookish kid who didn't have beef with anyone, so I knew it wasn't because anyone feared any retaliation from me, and instantly realized what had to be the truth: they believed he deserved what he got. Which, of course, he did. Which meant it was just. So I looked that VP in the eye and confidently said "No, I didn't." The bully received in-school suspension for his use of profanity in class, and I walked free. That kid and his brother never even spoke a word in my direction again.
@@drmwpn what a coincidence i also bullied when i am in 6 grade. But f**k all of them. I have some problems in leg so they also make fun of me after 2 years i leave that school.
I too get bullied a lot, and I know that I have strength to fight back, it's just that i am scared, what if I hit too hard? What if I don't hit too hard? What if a teacher sees me? What if he calls his friends? Fuck life
Introverts are not necessarily shy. We are also the majority (51%) but no extrovert will tell you that. Social media has made it less obvious how normal introversion is. Thank you for this thoughtful content!
For me lockdown was normal life. 😂
related
More like a holiday 🤣
me too friend
Me too
@@samyakmukhia7481 Ya 😂🤣
Introvert have good texting skills, observation skills etc..
Haha I agree on this!
Yup😂
Woooo yay
Yepp !!! 😝
Introverts are extrovert in texting.
I went to breakfast with my bf and his friends. And this lady tells me….. “quiet people make me uncomfortable, like are they listening to every word I say to use it against me?” Sighhhhh the narcissism. I’m literally quiet because they never talk about anything I would think is important and I can’t fake it. I immediately got on my phone and started playing Pokémon go and was in my own little world. I hate when people tell me how uncomfortable my peaceful state of mind makes them. Sorry I can’t fake like I’m interested in you and make small talk about waffles 🥴
People like that get on my nerves. Like why are you projecting that on me. If me being quiet bothers you it’s your problem. At least I don’t have to change myself to make others comfortable especially if I’m minding my own business.
The tuition sir used to tell my father that quite people are the most dangerous he meant me
Literally crying and laughing at the same time. So relatable, the fact that someone else being content is enough to piss some of these people off. What they are really wanting to say is “I can’t figure you out in two seconds and put you in a box, and it makes me uncomfortable, and it’s your fault”.
oh i always fight back extrovert karens 😂
I would have straight up told her "not everything is about you"
Being an introvert is actually a gift. You can be someone who can focus on yourself and don't care about the society and live your own life. While many where sad about quarantine I actually loved it. I don't like these family interactions or social groups but prefer one on one conversations deep ones with people whom I love and care about. You can be an introvert and a great communicator. Introverts can have great careers and can be truly successful.
Whom are you comfortable talking with? No offense just curious..
@parthabhowmick6747 maybe ppl who accept me for who I am and doesn't judge me ;)
@@Koustobdas1894Yoù can read a magazine, watch comedy on tv, play a musical instrument, call a friend .You dont run out of options. I am one of them
I never feel bored.
@@gowthamanjaiganesh3210 correct
@@gowthamanjaiganesh3210I love your response. Currently learning to just accept myself and only seek to be around those who understand me. There's so much more peace in that. I'm tired of always feeling exhausted or scared of being around friends and especially my very extroverted family simply because of how much they openly judge and criticise me for being "too shy".
Society is pathetic, they make us feel bad for just being ourselves
true
It Really is.
@Siri How is this suck?
Introverts act superior, in fact many people think solitude makes them strong idk why tho
Yeah i can relate... its just bc im an introvert, doesnt mean im the most useless in group projects. My classmates ALWAYS and i do mean ALWAYS tells me that im the most useless person in the group, its not my fault its their's fault, they only give me weak jobs to be done very easily bc they think im stupid.
And before this pandemic happends i always get 85+ score (considered good in my school) and my classmates just keep describing me as that one jerkish suspicious guy that no one wants to be friends with. And the pandemic makes it worse, my friends dont want to even group up with me for a group project online. But when i do solo all those group projects i got like the 3rd if not the 2nd best score on them. And my friends just kept saying "he probably stole it from somebody, or he pay someone to do it for him!" (Cuz my family is rich). I dont know what i should do to prove them wrong.
Who loved wearing a mask in public?
I loved it and felt so freeeee❤️
Me😊
I am going to wear it even after covid... Idgaf what others say or mock...
So Truee! i have always wished we could wear mask like Japanese ppl even before Covid existed..
I wish even after Covid mask and wfh continues!!
Haha yes ☺
Sometimes I feel like I need to push myself to be more extroverted, or else I’ll get a sense of FOMO for missing on social opportunities.. Does anyone ever get that way too? 🤷♀️
I do but I always failed and made myself look awkward...it was embarrassing...later I realized that I should be myself and not to fake myself as some one else whom I look up to...cuz that person is outgoing and extroverted...
@@kalyansapsd1Same. I realized that the "fomo" is more just "fear of being left out again unless I blend in awkwardly". SO much better to just accept who you are.
People or introverts can go out or to events and don't have to socialize. There are other things you can enjoy at events or places. Or just observe. You can also leave anytime or early. Or stay in a secluded spot.
Yup but that’s all just myth made by f*cking a*holes only dude! U only bcom safe frm many possible negatives when u choose to be alone. U can enjoy that way too but with the right ppl u love. There comes the real happiness
Do it. You'll be happier if you make friends and meet new people and have fun conversations. A study found that introverts who were compelled to act like extroverts were happier as a result.
It's not really that hard to talk to people. It takes a bit of practice, but once you get it down it will seem weird you ever thought it was a problem. One thing to remember is that most people are just like you- most people are shy when meeting someone for the first time, most people get self conscious sometimes, everyone sometimes struggles to come up with stuff to talk about. All that is natural, even relatable to most people.
I had a therapist in high school who considered being an introvert a form of mental illness. He claimed it was part of "Antisocial personality disorder" I was also on the autism spectrum. I went through some form ABA education (Appropriate Behavior Analysis) My parents and aunt wanted me to become an extrovert. They said being an introvert was bad for me, I'd never be successful. They would force me to go to large family parties. They forced me to talk to every person there. I had to shake hands and make small talk. My therapist said I spent too much time alone. I had a few friends and went out socially with them. I was friends with them since I was in grade school. My therapist and family said I needed to make new and more friends. (They wanted me to spend time with mentally ill and people on the autism spectrum) They said I should "stick with my own kind" SMH! I fought them and kept my old friends. They decided to commit me to a mental institution then make me live in a group home. Where I could "get socialized. They told me "it was for my own good" They wanted me to stop being an introvert because it would make me become a sociopath. I had a huge breakdown. I had no privacy there. Had to share a room with 3 other people. I wasn't allowed to have anytime to myself. I had to be with someone at all times. After my breakdown, my parents realized that it was wrong to force me to change. I told them I was an introvert and not "anti-social" I am glad there are RUclips videos toady that show being an introvert isn't bad.
I feel bad for you man
I have indeed been tormented by other people because I am an introvert, but regarding your experience, it is more. Dude, I cried a little and feel sorry for you
You had such a bad time. Hope you are doing great now and pray to God to give u all the happiness❤️
BUT LIKE WHY THE HELL DID YOUR PARENTS THINK YOU COULD SWITCH FROM INTROVERT TO EXTROVERT
Ambivert in the spectrum here
Bruh that’s horrible.
Being Introverted does not equal a Mental illness! It’s just the way we are, we can’t control it. yeah, we can have friends but this doesn’t make us extroverts, even with friends we’ll still be introverts and no one can change that.
I’m glad your parents changed their minds.
As an introvert, I hate phone calls and opt for texting instead
I get you!
Same I can't talk to any one even girls but text like a boss.
@@pubgmonkey8325 lmaoo , same
I feel you.
I also had the same issue.. I don't know y.. Now happy that there are people like me in this world
As an introvert, I don't like to go social gatherings
Especially family gatherings
Always asking dumb questions and making me feel so uncomfortable 😬😬
Yea ikr, and then they just stand there are keep asking rubbish questions and all n it just becomes more awkward ;-; like idk what to ask and then they just stand there expecting some questions from us.. I'd rather like to be left alone :) or wid my bestfriends
@@74G_ literally yr, I can feel u!
Ditto... Though,I may sit & listen to their talks... but not awkward & annoying questions.
Yeah and in family functions they force me dance... I am not at all comfortable with that, I am the main point of dancing is to enjoy and if I am not enjoying it what's the whole point of dancing awkwardly to please other's
when you go to a wedding and can't recognise anyone because you're always tired of hearing their sh/t😂
Today morning a classmate just attacked me for being an introvert.
It hurt me a great deal coz it's not the first time someone is doing that. Only that this one was a little extra harsh.
Being an introvert is really difficult especially in college where everyone expects you to always have something to say about everything. They expect you to be outgoing and the "hello" you say while passing by is never enough for them.
They take one's quietness for a weakness,low self esteem and confidence. They literally take you to be a weakling! Incapable of doing anything at all.
Whereas the truth is that introverts prefer it that way. I personally hate small talk. And unless something is really of importance/ relevant to me at that particular time,then I'd rather not get involved in it.
But of course there are two people you lose yourself around. You can talk about anything with them freely.
I feel that the world should just look at everything from the bigger picture.
Respect to all the Introverts out there and STOP making ppl define you else you won't be happy!
How to know you're an introvert: The words "Let's go around the room and introduce ourselves." trigger an internal panic attack.
Got that a lot growing up. When I was younger, I heard more than once, "Lets talk about everyone's favorite topic, yourself." and I could only think "I hate talking about myself" lol
True 😄
Yeah, that's my LEAST favorite part of any meeting, party or other event.🙄
I'm an extrovert but relatable.
@@kylie5209 I think you may be social introvert. There's 4 kinds of introverts tho
When you’re trying to sleep but you suddenly remember the one stupid mistake you made in preschool 🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Like unintentionally tipping a bookshelf and getting a girl clunked in the head
STOP
What about remembering everymistake in your entire life. THAT IS AWFUL
I've heard that supersensitive and introvert are two different things. I'm pretty introverted but not at all supersensitive. The trait you said goes more into the direction of supersensitive.
The book mentioned Quiet:The Power of Introverts in a world that can't stop talking is very relatable to each and every introvert.The words of the book resonate with every feeling of mine.
@@astitvasinha6624 What you mean is when people acquires knowledge about something they tend to be less productive about it ,right?
A commitment to do something but actually you cant.
Man life is short, just enjoy ur life and f*** the rest.
From a proud introvert 🙏🏾
❤
Thats exactly what I do
"Why are you so quiet?"
"You should speak more!"
If only I get paid every time I get these, I'd be freaking rich now. 🤩
Why am I not like them?
Because I'm not them!
My classmates even told me i had disorders and mental issues cuz most of my classmates are extroverts (i think im the only introvert in my class)
Sameee
@@clive... oh ur classmate talk to u? mine probably don't even know if I exist
@@IPlayRobloxyt oh to be honest thats better than getting critisized and bullied all the time... or not
Introvert people seems very interesting when u observe them...they would amaze u with their perspectives....
100%
True
Yeah but I'm not that interesting
So true💯
True👍
Thanks Raunaq, for articulating the exact feeling of every introverts. It's almost like introverts are all connected. Everyone experiences the same feeling or goes through the similar situations at some time in their life. I used to copy somebody's character traits to be accepted from other people. But always I end up regretting the action. I advise anyone who is reading this please don't try imitate to somebody. You'll lose your originality, and your true self. Yes, It's difficult live in a world of extroverts but with some self-love and self-acceptance you'll get through life easily. I'll consider this comment as a reminder to myself :)
I was going through a deadly depression in 2017...at the age of 17..I started spending time with myself. I read...I read so much...I watched cinema so deeply...from that day to today..I am still a mystery to the world.. except my family and my one friend.no one knows me. No ask me how I am doing and it's ok...I am used to this peace...And It's kinda making my solitude more powerful. From last six years...I go to restro alone...I go to cinema alone... It's very crazy to say but I watched 9 movies in theatre all by myself on a single month. And in this last 6 years.. I've watched around 250 to 300 movies in theater All by myself alone. I enjoy this life. It's me who matters
i am also introvert but i think in the last sentence it should be it is I
As an introvert the most amazing thing is quarantine doesn't feel weird or painful to me. It feels like regular days of my life.
I already worked from home and hardly went out, so the only real change for me was that I couldn't go sit at Starbucks to work like I used to do a couple times a week.
This is true✨
Until you're social energy levels started to rise up lol this happened to me
@@hoppityhops yup, same thing happened to me.
I’ve been in quarantine almost all my life. Turns out I was way ahead of the times. Quarantine was awesome; the only downside was that everyone else was indoors as well.
if i am 70℅ introvert, than my husband is 100 ℅ introvert, and our combination is lethal, because we spent a great time in lockdown, no complains, so many talks, movies, books, gardening, arts, video games,cooking together and a lot.those moments were precious.
We are introverted too and the last 16 months have been hard only because we couldn't delegate the care of our child. So, that left us no time to recharge while being alone...
Man, i'm jealous. xD
Congo..
Goals! 🥺
Anshu tomer, you are blessed!!!
i am an introvert but i am not shy or reserved ..i m pretty confident in myself and i only choose to have a small group of friends where i can be completely social and outgoing ... I don't really care about being an extrovert or building an extravert personality ..i m just proud of myself and i don't give a f in this damned world
I’m 15 and although I’m young, I’m already pretty content with myself and the fact that I’m an introvert. I’ve come to understand that I’d rather be alone than out with my friend group, and I don’t make myself go out with them if I don’t feel like it. I just wish I could find someone who understood that about me and maybe even has the same tendencies and traits. My friends don’t understand why I don’t always want to hang out, or why I barely ever talk when I do, and it sucks. Sometimes they even subtly poke fun at it. I’ll be tired and doing my own thing and they’ll say “oh her social batterie’s just low” and giggle or when they make plans that’ll take more energy to be a part of they’ll say to me “I hope your social battery doesn’t die.” Anyway, like I said before, I just want to meet someone who understands and doesn’t get annoyed with me when I have to back out of premade plans or when I don’t say much on certain days. Someone I can sit in comfortable silence with when there’s nothing more to say, or on the flip side, talk for hours about a specific thing that really interests us both. That’s all I want rn ugh.
Sry for the rant, hope someone can relate tho :)
Because made fun of, just for being yourself is the worst. Been there.
I totally relate to your comment. I'm 20 and I've been a very introvert individual all my life. I have this fact accepted, but it just sucks when people doesn't understand it. It's not easy for me to find people I can open up to or be comfortable with; on the other hand, I'm just as the person you discribed you'd like to meet hehe.
Yes totally
Every student in online class : mam when will the school open when can we meet our friends?
Me : okay Like am I the only one who literally loves this type of life 😅
Same here😅
Yup, same actually. I love this type of life.
Mee tooo love 😘😘
I can relate
Ikr..I can totally relate
I'm an introvert. I like people, but I like them a few at a time. Crowds stress me out!
I love being in a huge crowd like at a concert where I can remain anonymous but enjoy the energy. I don't mind social crowds, but after a very short time I feel burned out and lost. The best is being one on one or with a couple people you really get along with and they don't expect you to talk constantly. We can ride in a car with some silence and no one thinks its strange or anything... Heaven.
Crowds make you stress🤔🤔🤔
Crowds kill me 🍫🍫🍫😅😅😅.......most probably my heart beat rises and
My inner voice : your heart will blast .... dont panic plz
This. There is nothing wrong with people or talking to them....just not 10 at a time and it has to be something that interests me.
For me crowds are curse. It freaks me out. I feel like I am dying, my head started spinning, I feel like vomit, fear and anxiety
@@bipin3639 same
"Be a better version of yourself than a xerox of someone else."- Raunaq
When you stop trying to please other people and their opinion about you doesn’t affect you, then you reached a different kind of freedom. It doesn’t mean you are an asshole, or weird. You are You, and you have to accept yourself and love yourself just the way you are. No outside approval is needed.
P.S. 👍 your video, Raunaq.
I am an ultra introvert. When I was in school, my teachers constantly tried to make me an extrovert. They compelled me to be the class leader , to sit in front row. There was an extra extrovert girl in my class. They told me to be like her. They were considering my introvert behaviour as a disorder. I felt so bad about myself during those days. But after school I moved out of my place and rediscovered myself. Now I love my company ❤️
This class leader thing Ican relate so much!!
The world thinks extroverts r intelligent n introverts are dumb(I'm an introvert evn my parents think tat way😭😭
Exactly I also hate being a class leader and participating in speech and dramas 🙄 but my mom forces me to do speech 💬😢 but I forget the words when I am in front of crowd 😭
@@abhijithk4225
It's not right to think that way, because your intelligence has nothing to do with your nature. Being an introvert myself and having observed other introverts, we are actually quite smarter than we think, becoz as we talk less and are not very social , we get a lot of time to observe oneself and Introspect ourselves :)
@@fappybird13 u just spoke wat I was trying to say.
Meanwhile two of the richest people in the world are introverts
But are they the 2 happiest people in the world?
@@alexeysaranchev6118
Idk why a lotta money in your possession would make your life miserable..
@@seanregner8934 In order to be happy, there should be enough money for basic stuff, but having a lot of money doesn't guarantee you happiness. For instance, you can never know if someone likes you for who you are, or because of your money. Happy people don't overaccumulate wealth IMO.
@@alexeysaranchev6118 but you don't have to have a lot of people around you or all of them having a good view of you to be happy. people like different things, so specific things make one happy. someone may seek happiness in creating a big family of friend group and someone in spending time in nature or do what they like that doesn't enquire communicating (e.g. drawing).
@salt gamingg he is an introverted
As an introvert who was persecuted and singled out for my lack of confidence in noisy social settings, and preference to keep to my quieter, closer knit friend group, THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO OMFG. SO MANY PEOPLE NEED TO SEE THIS. Lol.
A lot of shit that extroverts do seems utterly pointless to me. Sometimes it's so tiring to even watch them
Veryyyy trueeee
Haha true😂
true
So true
Nods.... "ahha".... "mmm"...."yeaa"....
toolkit when some aunty drops in an exposition for no particular reason
But unfortunately, sometimes being introverted is wrongly assumed to be egoistic and "over ah panuraan da" by others
Yeahh
100% agree
Yes..
@@smrutichandra4986 just do as you want but keep in mind to not to hurt someone, if being introvert is kind of ego. than yes, I'm an egoistic person and I'm not ashamed of it.
@@nirbhaisingh5129 yeah i am an egoistic too i am with u
I'm quite the opposite, i always loved the fact that I'm an introvert.. I felt confident because none of my friends would go to a movie or a restaurant alone which on the other hand I loved to do. I actually felt more confident about myself knowing that I'm an introvert..
Thank you so much for making this video. My whole life I’ve been known as the “shy girl”. I was and still am terribly insecure about it. Fast forward to about a month ago, I went to a party and I felt so out of place and my mind keeps telling me it’s because I’m an introvert so I’m shy and can’t talk to people. When you said “Accept that you can’t please everyone” I suddenly felt the urge to cry. Of course I’ve heard this before, but living in the society of extroverted people your constantly being told being an introvert is a bad thing, or automatically assume you want help. I need to realize that one party, and one situation like that doesn’t define who I am as a person.
Another thing I struggle with is that I already don’t have a lot of friends, and when I’m not listening to people I’m perfectly happy with that. But there is this one friend (let’s call her Sarah). Ive known Sarah since kindergarten and we’ve been friends ever since, but lately (the past year) ive noticed we’ve been drifting apart. We don’t have alot in common anymore and ive been trying my best to tell Sarah my interests and all that but I don’t think she’s taking the hint. I feel like I’m so afraid of losing her even though I’m not any happier having her as my “friend” right now.
I’m so happy that I got to watch this video, because it isn’t another case of “extrovert thinks you need help” and it’s from another introvert whom has struggled with the same thing as me. I’m really hoping instead of “becoming more social” I can accept myself on this journey of self improvement.
As an introvert, I get very frustrated when people force me to talk and socialize with others.
It completely drains my energy and makes me feel like I am doing something very wrong just because I'm being myself.
Omg, I can definitely relate. Especially when it's your family members forcing you to socialize with other family relatives. What pains me the most is that sometimes, they usually don't even want to speak to the relative themselves, but has the audacity to ask you.
Exactly my teachers write on my report cards that she is too introvert she needs to socialize more it's bad
Why do the hell they wrote this?
I'm so bold I'm confident in my work
It's just that this introvertness is in my nature I love that
They mistake this as shy under confident
Seriously introvert needs an different world everyone thinks you need to be an extrovert to be successful 🤷
i want to punch people in the face whenever they try to get me to hang out with them even though i already told them i need space to recharge in between conversations or hangouts. would you really want to hang out with me when im snappy and constantly want to slap everyone in the face? no, you would not. and please dont be overly clingy, i absolutely cannot stand that shit.
@@adityam2199 what the fuck? Wait, how long did you even know this guy for? Please don't tell me he was a stranger who randomly dumped his emotional problems onto you.....
@@adityam2199 next time he tries to force you into hanging out with him, try telling him you are planning on meeting up with your friends. Otherwise, try to keep your distance from him.
This pandemic has been really great for introverts ! 😂
(Specially for school students) 🙂👍
Correct bro/sis 😌
As a school student i agree
I'm a uni student now so I'm hating it. We f*ckin' can't perform practical online :/
Yeah till the whole zoom thing came in and my anxiety came in
No... not for me... i know im an introvert and im probably the only one in my class, no one wants to be friends with me and in the group projects im always known as the worst, the most useless student on the group.
But then even when i got told that i somehow still able to get 85+ marks on my exams (for some country 80 above score is B) and many people started seeing me as the suspicious type of guy that no one wants to be friends with. And until now, i dont know what is my goal and what should i do to make things right 😔
This is the most relatable thing i've seen in my entire life. Its giving me hope that i'm not alone, that there are other people out there who are just like me.
Generally speaking as an introvert who was married to an extrovert for many years, extroverts don't tend to enjoy introverted company because introverts don't feed their constant need for interaction stimulus. The same is true for introverts, who find extroverts tiresome and exhausting to be around.
That's exactly it, I just don't have the fucking energy
My cousin is an introvert, whenever we talk he always change the topic to paradoxes, facts and space things like the theory of relativity by Einstein. He's like your dose of fun facts.
Love that
I’m kinda that type of introvert lol
Kinda annoying since my bestie HAD NEVER HEARD OF SCHRÖDINGERS CAT!?
He is a Logician personality type like me haha
@@snimp872 its worse when they are never interested in it and feels like a disconnect
@@sgtpepper1456 yeah, we have a lot of different views but we’re really close so it’s a bit weird how we don’t like the same things but have the greatest times together XD
The jokes , theories we make inside our head can bring us a whole amount of laughter and happiness that a social discussion could bring to extroverts
Yes, true👍
I AGREEEE!!!😂
Yup 😄
Im telling u some of the jokes we introverts make up in our head are much better than standup comedian jokes
IKRRR
As an introvert....this video is such a emotional ride....feels like crying and being heard.... feels like a big burden taken away from me ....thank you....🤗🤗🤗🤗
When you are the only introvert in your whole family
Sad me
That's me ☹️
Ya that's me
So difficult to survive
@@din._djarin7961 true
And the introvert in me, thinks twice before commenting for the video which I felt related the most😂
So true..
BUt it's the internet. you can hide behide anything
I- yea 😂
Exactly😂
@@bentleyhuang93144 when you are an introvert you are never hidden enough
I love this video! It took me years to figure out I am not broken just because I don't enjoy groups of people and I am not interested in being part of a group. I love being alone and it's awesome when you can find someone you can be with and not talk just to fill the air. 💜
I also sometimes ask myself why am I different from others 😭😭
Just wanted to quickly pop here to thank you for this video. This will be my go to video to pull me out of the hole of self doubt and identity crisis.
One of mine friend was introvert.. Believe me it's very hard to understand introvert people.. Bcz they never share their side of story.. And most of time people assumed that they r rude or egoistic
Some people thinks I'm rude, which i like it. Less people to bother me.
I always waited to be asked my side of the story. I am to blame for my loneliness. So true what you said. I'm often thought of as anti-social. I hear the whispers. I use it to my advantage.
They assumed they r rude, bcz they always assume the worst🙄.
Some people believe that they should only share their own experience if they are asked. And some people believe that others want to know about their experience, even if they don't.
You know as an introvert I actually tried to open up a bit...but people won't listen to my side of the story. Which in turn made me feel like going to my own secure shell is good for me so I started to listen to others instead. Online friends tho are a lifesaver I got! I shared a few things with them & they listened so I actually got more confident in sharing my side ^^ tho yeah sometimes it's really annoying when you want to share your side of the story but nobody is willing to listen (and a fact for me that I can't even tell if they're actually listening to me or not)
Introverts know their boundaries....they can be anything they want...introverts arent antisocial..its a choice..to spend time alone...or stay reserved...
know this may sound kind of weird . ( I’m an introvert ) how do u start a text conversation with a friend who hasn’t contacted u for a couple months without being awkward ? Should I just ask him like “ how’s everything going ?
@@ndddhdhdhd3740 ....start with a simple hy
@@ndddhdhdhd3740 ..if rply comes then continue with the convo in a manner which makes them feel u are a new person
@@vaishnaviravi5218 yeah but the person knows me well it’s just that we haven’t spoken in a couple months
@@ndddhdhdhd3740 yup try with a hy
I totally agree with you. Felt so good to see this video. Pain point is, introverts need to be a bit lucky. When you are not going to boast your achievements on other face constantly, you need a manager who notices the work you do silently.
Similarly in all walks of life.
I went to few pubs recently and there was a mixed emotion.
I'm dancing and having fun by myself. But also want to get someone to dance with. And that involves approaching ppl and talking with them. Which is hard. When I see ppl do it easily, it can hit hard.
Also, after few hours of pub, I 'need' some silent me time to feel better.
It will be hard to understand for many that pub or dancing in club is fun but also mentally tiring to have a constant crowd of strangers around you.
And your point of knowing we are cheating is very true. Whenever I think of acting like extrovert, that's what comes to mind. I know I'm acting. I know it's not me. And it feels like I'm cheating the other person by being a fake person.
Quite a hard spot to be in
Introversion isn't a disability. People have different needs. I'm bothered when someone tells me "You should go out and stop reading so much". Like, no I should do what I want with my life just as you should. Stop trying to fix me...😆 🤣 😂
Many online definitions are actually written by people who dont have any knowledge about personalities such as introvert or extrovert. Being introvert doesnt mean being shy or talk less , its just some people prefer staying indoors enjoying theirselvs and have no relation to being shy. XD I am an introvert too and i can talk about stuff for hours if the topic interests me
@@Caes3r_ thats debatable, socialising is a choice. And may be its the society and system we live in, that we have subconsciously made a wrong judgement about introverts that they are shy, and hence as a result extrovert tend to be more confident in socialising near introvert
The one I hear a lot is phrased like: introverts get energy from having alone time while extroverts do so with socializing
I happen to be what people think is a stereotypical introvert
But even when I have opportunities with friends and family etc, I find myself sometimes still wanting to just do my own thing and keep to myself
Too much socializing is draining for me
@@V.U.4six exactly!
Most of my classmates told me that i have mental disorder and mental issues just bc im shy around ppl (well cuz im an introvert and i dont really open up to a lot of ppl)
Same! I’m a bit of a social introvert so I don’t really connect with those online definitions!
Before lockdown, I was just an introvert..
But now, I'am now a depressed and anxious introvert. thanks.
Same. I've never craved the outside more as of right now.
@@bellasecretsify Me too.
These lockdowns have been so bad for mental health. It's gonna be tough to rehabilitate that, but I hope you can get it back. I'm sending moral support vibes
@@johntheherbalistg8756 Thank you. 💜
I am more happy at home lol
Thanks a lot dear I am also an introvert and I felt the same thing trying to fit in and I cheated myself by trying to please the people I love by being like someone else or trying to copy some style of a celebrity and win their hearts but in actuality all these things failed miserably and I lost myself in this process. The only person you need validation is from yourself well truly said and I appreciate that. After 28 years I have come to admit that I always tried to fit in and be someone else and not pleasing my needs and my mind.
This video really related to me and helps me soooo much. I’ve always feel so bad to be an introvert, always feel so hard to accept who i am and always feels like something is wrong with me even though im really and always enjoying what im doing (like being alone and all those things u mentioned in the video), it feels so good to finally know that u arent alone. Thank you so much for creating this video!
Wtf , tears rolling 😭....it is every bit of me in this video...except the guts of facing a camera
this really made my day that the video could connect to you man...hope you're in a good place and working towards getting better :)
Samee broo😭🙄
Me too brooo😢😢
sameeeee brooo felt as if someone understood me😭
me to brooo
“Why don’t you talk like them?”
Because I actually think about context and how every single person will respond to what I say and how I say it. If I spoke like them I’d give myself constant anxiety attacks. If I spoke like them I wouldn’t be me.
i dont talk like them because i genuinely dont know what to say a lot of times. plus, i havent gotten comfortable around them yet.
Exactly
That's not being an introvert that's social anxiety (you can be both tho lol)
Something extroverts will never understand
Man that long sentence... Your potential is very high, all the best, actually I am also same as you😶
Thinking about yourself isn't selfish, self care isn't selfish, it's important.
I´m a little late, but marvelous video, thank you for sharing your knowledge. Am glad the algorithm is showing me for some random reason, so many good written videos about how to feel human and ok as an introvert, for years, I thought something was antisocial or even depressed, but now am realizing, that there is nothing particularly wrong with me... Am just as average and normal as the rest. Thank you.
People are cruel. Just cause us introverts aren't speaking doesn't mean we're lazy. We're thinking of what to say because we don't want to insult anyone or we don't want to be on the wrong side. We don't talk with everyone, we pick the right ones that we feel comfortable with.
Very true
True, and on top of that, why we have to speak when we have nothing important to say? 🤷♀
Yes it's true I didn't want to get hurt and give pain to other
Very true...Introverts don't waste energy in talking nonsense...
So true... Introverts are told you are not active ur lazy.. 😢😢😢
Well, im an introvert, but I still can be socia-
Social anxiety: *Allow me to introduce myself*
lmao true
This-
same
Yessss 😂
Every time I'm with my class, people I dont't know very much or even sometimes with my family I'm doing or saying really dumb things because (Or maybe I'm an idiot after all? Who knows) theres a lot of negative thoughts in my mind like ,,You're an idiot'' "Nobady's listening to you" or just simply the 'awareness' that I for sure will make an idiot out of myself or I'm going to do something wrong even at the most basic activities such as shopping. And yeah, most of the time that's how it happens. But as I'm alone I feel more confident about myself because I know that if there's noone around nobody's gonna laught at me or judge me, I can focus on the problem or a task, think about it and solve it. It's fucking annoyng.
Every word of yours is so relatable
Thank you so much for making this video
I've been feeling horrible for quite a time and it really made me feel better about myself
Really as you said about yourself I too felt the same thing in my life everyone use to say me that I don't talk too much and even my parents adviced me to talk and mingle with others and to please other I to tried talking to others a lot if I am not comfortable than too than everyone started telling me that you have changed a lot keep it up but at one side I am really uncomfortable to be in the social at most of the time but then too I have to be with them. My cousin who is an extrovert i was so jealous by seeing her because everyone use to praise her everyone use to say that learn something from her and everyone love to be with her I use to feel very bad but from some days I stopped to be pity on myself and started to enjoy myself and thanks a lot for this video to help introverts like us ❤️
As an introvert, sometimes the way extroverts treat us, it makes them project as dumb species of sh*t in my eyes even though I try hard not to.
Lol they think as if its some disease or disorder
what's worse is them saying, "I was introvert before, look how i am now. Even you can be smart like me" ...
and in my mind im like "Whooooaaaatttt"
they just try to make peoples like them an assholes .
We have to act until we burst out every emotion on someone else. And they'll cry a river out then we are entitled as notorious and not funny guys. 😪😪
I'm an introvert evn my parents think tat way.i hv always been made to feel tat I'm dumn
@@deninpaul7509 absolutely true . I've been told this
Remember "Silent people have the loudest minds !" 🤠
O damn man. Thankyou for this video. I really knew all these before but you actually verbalized it so well. Kudos for helping us introverts ;)
Thank you very much sir !😁 , Actually I am a 11th standard student who enjoys the world alone in lockdown but now the situation is not like before that is back normal like past 2 years . My college started and my friends are busy with new friends , I pushed my self to have new friends😅 . but at some point my conversation is short and ends quickly that irritates me😑 . So I started watching videos such as how to talk to people that are new to you etc,.
searching.☺.
seachring..
irritated..☺
frustated..
but I got you sir I am happy , feeling good and got a new teacher as friend like you sir
😊😄
The worst thing that happened to me was in high school. I was popular in class and funny, but I was quiet and every time I finally started talking, someone always had to say something like "oh, look who knows how to talk," except to just behave normally. Then I get even quieter.
I regret not having a courage to reply like "FK off" and continue to say what i wanted to say louder
@@SirusStarTV I have the courage now, but I have problems because of it.
same
I hate when teachers pick on me, especially when I don’t know the answer to a question. I am the only person in my class that barely says a few sentences per day, and everyone just stares at me when the teachers do that, and it doesn’t help that there’s always one person laughing when I get the answer wrong, like honestly, they think they’re helping me come out of my shell but in reality they’re just pushing me in more.
@Areeba Rizwan I’m going into the next year soon, so I’ll be in a class with different people, hopefully not everyone will be as talkative as the people in my old class.
It always annoyed me when someone tells me to "speak" or "say something" just for the sake of talking when I really have nothing to say because I am either thinking or observing or just listening. One of the reasons I hate attending parties and gatherings is not because I hate people but because I wouldn't want to ruin other people's mood. As some people aren't used to quiet people like me, they would often tell me indirectly that I'm killing the mood of the party/gathering. I can talk if I actually have something to say or if there are people who would actually listen, but most of the time, they just want me to talk for the sake of talking. They don't really care. I spend my words like I spend my money. I spend it wisely and with intention.
Exactly.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 yesss this!!!
Exactly. The only reason I like parties is for the free refreshments.
@@Grassmpl don't forget if they have video games.
I got the same, only one time I got to talk a lot in a party and was because I met another person with my same passion in games. We talked for about 2 hours non stop, was really awesome
Introverts love silence 🔕. They can't talk with every one they call friends . They can only act like a child and talk like a child to a particular fav human only . Introvert's don't like sudden changes though...
So, I am proud to being an introvert. It helps me to day dream ..😅😅
Thanks for this. I really needed this video today. Thanks you so much.
I am a shy introvert I love taking to people who have same interests but individually not in group 🙃I need 3-4 days to get along with my cousins coming and after getting along I talk freely but after they leave and visit after some months the same process goes on ... I need much time to get along with people 😩but I love my alone time enjoying my own world 🌎🙃
Ur an introvert tats y ur good at 🎨🎭🎭
Same 😅
Same :'-)
very much relatable. whenever guests come to our home it takes time for me to adjust with them in the same environment
Too relatable 🙂
When my cousins or any relatives come to our home , it takes me time to adjust with them . Bcoz of this nature of mine everybody keeps telling be "Why are you so quiet ? Be like your sister becoz she is an extrovert !" It takes me much longer time to adjust with new people but once I'm comfortable with them then I used to talk with them confidently 😀
Being an introvert,getting married to a family which is completely strange,not being able to socialise with them which leads to depression and anxiety and imagine if the girl is just 19 ..That’s me😇
I am 19 and introvert too..i also feel anxious all the time even w my freinds or family but now everyone has accepted me the way i am nd they feel i look more standard this way.. don't worry just show everyone who degrades you have got high standards nd that's it nd after that people will get used to your intoversion
More power to you girl✨
@@charukamaladevi4349 tysm
Same here but 10 years ago I married am 30 now still introvert
Being married at a young age is more depressing than anything.I know how hard it will be for you to go through all this. Dont let yourself down. Stay Strong ❤️
The definition was just so so Apt, Showed how much work and research has gone in to the video. Thankyou for that definition, I want to stay an introvert and I know that, but constant nag to be an extrovert has now made me learn to be an Ambivert, again the word Balance you have used to describe it makes so much sense.👍😇
I am an introvert and I can say yes to all of the questions you asked in the beginning.
I usually have trouble socializing and almost everyone in my family are extroverts so I don’t really have anyone I can relate to who is an introvert, I even have a cousin who is an introvert but we still have trouble socializing with each other and I don’t see them very often.
I feel like something to me when it comes to being an introvert is being able to or trying to understand others and that is part of what makes things difficult for me. I might spend time thinking about how others might feel about what I say and there are a lot of times where I feel like I might end up over thinking many things.
Having to think most of the times that I talk to someone can make it hard for me to have conversations.
I can relate with a lot of the things that you talked about and I think this video is pretty nice.
This is something every introvert needs to hear and loves to hear...
U r not alone
I had never seen an introvert girl in my entire life n I had thought girls cannot be introverts but looking at the comments Im wrong there r so many girls🙂🙂🙂🙂
@@abhijithk4225 aw rip, I have met quite a number of introvert girls, I have one in my class too
I'm an introvert so I don't have too many acquaintances so I may hav not seen introvert girl. Why are u killing me for tat😋😋😋
As an ambivert, introvert can really socialize if someone's adopt them
Yes
So true
@@ssssssss1973 If a plan is not successful, then it will be a great story!
But when this person leaves our side at a social gathering we are lost as fuck
@Elysah Bacnutan oh boy, sorry hsjakahs
I'm an introvert with social anxiety. People with these things will understand how my life is. My mom keeps trying to make me an extrovert and to socialize. People ask me why I'm so quiet and why I don't talk much. And the people who ask these questions are extroverts, who don't understand introverts. I often cry because of these negativity and I force myself to become one of them. But guess what, I mess up my mental health. I am talkative but with the right ones. This video taught me a lot of things and I just wanna say one thing at last that I love being an introvert and I'm not gonna change myself for this extroverted world.
The thing is I can relate to every words he said including the questions he asked at the first. I simply said "yes" "that's right" the whole 9 mins. You just very well explained.
Damn, glad that I am not the only one:
- to feel socially awkward and out of "society"
- tried to be the "society"
- felt happy being accepted
- lived for while
- then started questioning who the fack I am
- had an identity crisis
- before finally resetting the expectations about myself and thus accepting myself.
i am not alone.....
Thats meeeee!!!!
I am a highly sensitive introvert. Not like I cry at the drop of a hat, just I feel so deeply about things and I can cry easily about it. I have been told I get too emotional and I am too quiet, like I haven't heard that all my life. People need to stop assuming I am a snobbish cry-baby, because if people would only get to know me I am very witty and smart.
this is literally me. we are not cry baby it's just that we can express emotions more as compare to someone else. it's ok everyone is different :)
I totally relate to what you've said. I'm almost always seen as snobbish and a tad cold, but this this period has been a huge turning point for me. I always asked myself, "What is wrong with me??"
*Why can't I express myself or communicate properly??"😰
I felt absolutely terrible for a long while. And after a real traumatic incident, I was shaken up so badly that I completely shut down 😖
But now, I'm doing alright... It's a work-in-progress.
I got to know about the extroverts and introverts. But going even further, I learnt that there were more classifications like in the 12 temperament theory, and the 16 MBTI personality types. It's been really helpful to me 😊
I really like this one channel in particular, if you wanna check it out (Frank James). He goes into these things really well, makes really funny and relatable jokes about these types of stuff (it's just wholesome all around😌). And I found I wasn't as alone in this as I thought. So give it a try, okay??
Hope you find some peace. God bless 😊
@@ap9094 Hey Army 👋💜
@@DiogoChris heyy I guess you are army too
@@ap9094 Yup.
Borahae 😊💜
Sir, thank you so much for making this video! I resonated with every bit of it!
This is so deep. Thanks for this!
For me being introvert isn't a problem, it's just a problem when you have to meet new people or even starting a date, I've never done the last one for that reason, I just don't know what to say, And also sometimes when your friends ask you out and your mind wants to be in solitude and not with friends, but other than that I love being alone with my own thoughts for 100% of the day
Same :)
It's true about when u don't know what to say to others...most of the time there is nothing to tell and when there is something to tell extroverts don't like that much
I feel the same way
Being an introvert I sometimes feel bad seeing other people having so many friends bcz i hardly have 4-5 friends but then I feel thankful also bcz the ones I have are the people who have accepted me for who i am they don judge me...also i feel socially awkward wen i'm around relatives they talk talk & talk n wot i do is just sit quietly and listen to them nd answer them in my mind 😂🤭
I just have 2 ..but i talk to many(rarely) on text :)
Me too I have very few friends. I talk a lot when I am with them but rarely texted them and never called them by myself. 😂🤣😂 I see whole comment section is filled up with amazing introverts 😝
The 4 friends i have treat me like use and throw dishes
@@muktakoli6656 then leave them ..and live your life fullest! Theres no place of Toxic ppl in our lives
TRUST ME! ;))
@@muktakoli6656 How about taking first step and stop refering to them as friends
Thanks man it really changed the perception of my thinking
Life is so vast to understand it's crazy
Thank you for coming up with this video
When I was younger, I've had too many people saying that I'm quite or I don't talk much which made me feel like a loser. Over the years I learnt that I'm not outspoken or socially confident and comfortable when I'm alone. I tried telling this to some people but I don't think anyone understood, so I never really opened up to anyone cause I knew they wouldn't care. I kept things all to myself and people in my family thought I was dull and rude and couldn't do anything in my life which was completely not true.
I feel more comfortable watching this video and I think it's made for people like me. Hoping to see more videos like this :) lots of love💕
Lockdown made me understand more about myself... I enjoy being alone. I was actually pretending to be happy or cool by being in a group. I am very happy being a group but this makes me more happier and more peaceful perhaps.I ate alone in a restaurant ... Oh god... Awesome experience.. though everyone around me judged me.It was much better dinner.I really loved the silence in the restaurant and being lost in the thoughts. I ate the food I wanted and i actually enjoyed it. That acceptance thing is so true... Thank you Ranauq.❤️
lockdown was pretty much a boon for me as well :) happy to know that you're discovering new joys from being comfortable with yourself and when we start accepting things about ourselves, life automatically starts to get better :) thank you so much for watching and sharing ur stories!
Lockdown is bliss😃😃😃😃
Lockdown is hell for me
Lockdown was awesome for me. I got so many art projects, home improvement projects done. It was GREAT! No one to interrupt my groove. Loved it!
Yeah it was only a matter of time after enjoying the theater alone that restaurant alone" experiences followed.
'Be a better version of yourself, than a bad xerox of someone else' - Best line!
I've always thought of myself as an introvert, ever since I learned about the word, but I never felt bad about it. I never thought being alone was a negative thing, I never thought having
Finally I am feeling good for being an introvert!
glad that you could connect and feel a little better :)
I am proud introvert
Yeah, I already knew. But who cares about other f*cking people's opinions?
You should. Introverts are cool
Really? You need permission to be yourself .Pathetic.
Yes - My reaction to question1
Yes - My reaction to question2
Yea - My reaction to question3
Yessess - My reaction to question4
Yes - My reaction to question5
Me too
That's me
U became daniel brian.. 😂
Same here 😁
Same goes for me