introvert my extrovert friend and roommate is complete opposite of me he is not giving me time alone so its making me difficult to interract with any others and one more thing is if anyone calls me introvert i am ge super mad
I would mostly want someone to feel free to hug, that doesnt make me feel forced to talk, but also someone that accepts me as i am dont matter my weird personality and things i love
Well, same. My family got used to my strange habits (anxiety disorder) but they don't understand why I have it. So I want (need) someone who understands and can comfort
As an male introvert, I just want one thing, that a woman I fall for is someone that does not expect me to be tough or really íntense all the time. Sometimes I need hugs or affection that make the sad days less difficult, I want someone who allow me to cry without thinking Im weak or less masculine for it, I want someone who treats me like a human, not just as a man
1. someone is who is comfortable with silence 2. A good listener 3. Someone who values quality time 4. Someone who understands personal space and alone time 5. A love for deep conversations 6. Something who can take things slow
The "someone who is comfortable with silence" one is so true. To an introvert, silence isn't golden. It's not platinum. It is diamond. I've recently heard the quote "speak only if it improves upon the silence." What extroverts need to understand is that silence is often more meaningful, and speaks "louder" than noise for the sake of noise.
Hit the nail on the head. I absolutely cannot stand small talk. It's just people talking for the sake to talking. Nothing new or interesting is being communicated or learned, it's literally just noise designed to ruin the peaceful silence.
I always find it weird how uncomfortable so many people are with a little silence. For some it seems they can't just stop and think to themselves and for others it appears to almost completely set them on edge like pointless talking is a drug and they need their fix. I've noticed a lot get so bored with a measly 10 seconds of silence that you can practically see them having an internal struggle.
I think I’m overly introverted, because for some reason I feel the need to fully back out of all the relationship stuff or just completely avoid it. And now I just think I should just push away anyone who does try to start a relationship with me for my and mostly their sake.
@@SpinalWall16589 Usually that's not the case. No matter how much introverted you are, it's more probable that you may have problems with love and relationships. Perhaps you find yourself unlovable or you don't think you deserve to be happy. There should be other videos about this subject that might help you. Keep searching for the cause because I don't think it's about introversion.
@Bob Lee Some people do care... If I ever want a partner I'd prefer him to be an introvert because then we'd relate a lot + he'd have some personality traits of my ideal type..
As an introvert, probably THE strongest sign of a really good relationship is that it *doesn't* feel draining. If you find someone who actually makes *you* feel extroverted, hang on for dear life and do whatever work is required. Even if it doesn't last, it will be permanently memorable. : )
Omg I’m not even kidding I was so introvert and never talked to anyone at school and always felt awkward…. Then the first month of school I got a crush on this girl (I still have and have been crushing on her for 1 year and a half) and more time passed, we became best friends and she made me feel extroverted and like I could talk to anyone without being awkward. I still have a crush on this girl and the past 2 weeks a lot of bad and good things happened but I still have a year and a half of school with her sooooooo I still have a chance
@@andrea.mattaa - Congratulations- you've experienced something wonderful for an introvert to have happen! Now relax and let your relationship be what it will be- without overburdening it- secure in the joy its *already* brought you. : )
@Floyd Blandston Could you help me with what I did wrong bc I recently confessed to an introverted girl and she rejected me and I would like to know how I can change that for future relationship. If you agree then reply to the message and lets talk on another social media platform
I often fantasize about sitting on a porch with a partner in complete silence. In my experience, it looks like everyone wants an outgoing guy who is looking for fun 24/7. Don’t even get me started with flirting lol, my cardboard robot brain is not witty enough to flirt.
As someone who has recently "adopted" their introverted friend. I couldn't help but chuckle at how accurate your points are. This was a great listen and a nice perspective I needed to hear.
as an introvert who has been "adopted" by quite a few extroverted friends, im happy with the time ive spent with old friend groups in the past and im looking forward to the time i will spend with my few friends in the future
I'm an extrovert (ENFP to be precise) and I've been in a relationship now for a couple months with an introvert and many times I've thought I'd done something wrong when it just turned out to be nothing. Taking things slow is a huge struggle for me but I can honestly say that it has made the experience so much better and I think has made us much closer. This video intrigued me because I wanted to see what else I could do and I'm comforted in knowing that I am doing all these things. Ultimately, the advice I would give to another extrovert dating an introvert would be to have patience and understanding and try your best not to jump to any conclusions.
I am INFP. I only want things to move fast. When i am deeply in love with the person. But once that start moving fast i freak out. Oh good hell. No doubt i am single. 🤭🤭🤭
man, I just want someone who doesn't tell me to speak up or get mad at me for not being talkative like im used to. Someone who just wants to cuddle and watch a show while talking about whatever is on their mind with no expectations or judgment. Ive tried dating some extroverts but, they never last because im "boring".
Pure understanding. Never had a relationship before, but in school, I get thrown so much hate due to my overly quietness, and whenever I try to be humorous or loud to fit in, the disguise falls in like two days and I’m back to the shadow no one cares about. Srsly tho, I really agree with your comment
Honestly same, what you just described (the cuddling, watching a show together) is legit some of the best stuff I've ever experienced, I'm recently single so can't really look forward to that for a while :( It's all I want though, I've been trying to see if some of my friends would be down because I miss it that much.
Uhh same 😩😭 I’ve tried dating extroverts but one of them thought I was “boring” … It hurt but honestly I feel like they just didn’t stick around to see ALL of me . The part that yes is an introvert , but when I get comfortable enough around someone I can be talkative at times & more expressive. It just takes the right one I guess to actually stay and be able to see my biggest secret ( my personality) . & if their lucky enough they may be able to see it one day … one day God willing though 🙂
Me and my SO are, both, introverts. We started dating 3 months after we met. Officially started our relationship a fortnight after we first kissed. We spend a lot of time around ourselves, and in private places. Seeing movies and enjoying a co-op game. I love it, and love how our relationship is mainly based on communication and caring.
I'm not sure if I'm alone in this but honestly, as an introvert myself (INTP), I would want an extrovert for my partner. Someone to bring me out of my comfort zone a bit and help fill in the gaps that I might be missing. Basically like a yin to my yang. Of course the relationship would have to be built on trust and understanding above all else, but at least for me, having someone else that compliments my weaker points like that (and hopefully I would do the same for my partner) would be ideal.
Totally same but backwards lol. Im an extrovert (ENFP/ENTP). Im very outgoing and loud, most of the time there are so many goals i want to achieve but often time im distracted (ADHD). I'd love a partner who can keep me in line and is also passionate in what they do. People with passion is important to me and as an ENFP (literally called campainer lol) I wanna be there to boost them and help them whenever theyre down.
My partner is introvert (I`m extrovert) and this is exactly how we have built our relationship in last 2,5 years; I encourage him to do things and he reassures me again. :)
So you are somewhere between an extroverted introvert and just a introvert.. Im also someone like that but a little more to the extroverted introvert side..
What I won't compromise for in a partner: 1. Fierce loyalty - If there's one thing above anything else that I want from another person, it's this. Especially after my recent breakup. 2. Emotional support - If you're there for me I'll be there for you, always 3. Physical love - Be ready to give & receive a lot of it quite often 4. Comfortability - We should be able to share anything we want, interests, hobbies, feelings, random thoughts, etc and not feel judged. 5. Humor - When the imposter is sus you'll get hit by the 10 o' clock bus.
Yer! I love my close friend with this personality! Too bad that she see me as friend, not lover. I respect her choice. So I am single and she are most amazing person in my whole life. I am still falling in love with her.
Can confirm, as an introvert silence and just being around someone without necessarily doing anything particular can bring us joy. Vibes, one might say, are all it takes.
shit there are times me and my friends sit on discord/voice chat, and dont really say much for hours, but knowing we arent "alone" is a comfort.. im old, and have yet to have met anybody, who was interested in me, who wasnt far too type-a and extroverted to understand that, sometimes, i just need to sit and listen to music/audio books or watch videos and let my mind reset/recharge... the fact most of them ended up cheating on me, and blaming me.. well.. welcome to modern society, and why its just too damn draining for some of us to keep trying.
My ex never understood this, their form of quality time was doing something actively or with purpose and sometimes I just wanted to nap in the same room as them or play video games in the same room without being disturbed. It is interesting to start to understand myself better as the years have gone on.
As an introvert, who recently had to leave a rocky relationship, I realized these were all things I noticed I was missing from my relationship and constantly struggled to get. The fact that this shows there are people out there who mesh with me gave me a warm fuzzy feeling inside.
Love the DDLC, Deltarune, Undertale, and Frozen references. As someone with ADHD (and I guess I'm an introvert, since a lot of what the video talked about sounds like stuff I've done or needed more than once.), I can relate and agree that this is literally exactly what we need. Though I find myself a lot more awkward and strangely emotionless (Which apparently is part of the disorder?), but that's only because I haven't had time to spend time with my significant other, due to Covid and stuff.
As an introvert, one of my biggest concerns on dating is my partner misinterpreting my alone time as me just not wanting to be with her. I sure hope I find someone who understands that some people need to recharge by having some alone time.
I would like to know if introverts send mixed signals when dating, one day it seems very into it but other days just don't reply o start a conversation. It's hard to know if is better let him go or just wait, or ask.
@Cynthia May Same. I hadn't been anywhere but school or home in about a month, and I went to Target yesterday. Once I got home I napped in the fetal position for an hour just so I could feel like a human again lol
I am an ambivert with an introvert partner, i can understand how she feels so I'm always trying to give her time and space when she needs it or asks me for and new topics to talk about, since we can enjoy both small and deep talk (is just s thing of being used to each other i think) , i let her talk to me about her problems and i listen carefully and i let her know she can find comfort and not only a partner but also a best friend in me and i know i can feel the same about her
I think to me as someone who consistently scored over 90% on introversion throughout my life, my biggest absolute pet peeve with any relationship is assumptions. I'm typically quiet/reserved but can be more talkative on some days than others with my close circle, however, when people make an assumption about what that (or anything else I say or do) means and just run with it instead of asking or just assuming the best intention, that really gets on my nerves - primarily because I can't help but think that it's done out of arrogance based on false belief of knowing better or out of spite. I've recently started talking with a new person and them at some point asking if they did something wrong actually felt soooo so good and refreshing! I really appreciated them not being scared to ask and me having the freedom to clear myself up right then and there. Please, understand that you may know an introvert for many years and still not fully understand what's going on in their head and that's okay - as long as you don't think you're entitled to that knowledge.
One of the best comments I've read so far. Assumptions really do mess things up BADLY sometimes. To truly be comfortable communicating issues or misconceptions is to know that you're with someone who is truly respectful of you and your boundaries. I will keep this in mind for the future as I know I have been plenty guilty of making assumptions before. Thank you!
I had a friend a while back who knew I was an introvert, and she reminded me to socialize at my own birthday sleepover. I get that she was trying to help I guess, but "Make sure you talk to everyone. I know you're an introvert but you don't want anyone to feel left out." T.T Just because I'm an introvert doesn't mean I can't socialize.
My fiance and I are both introverts. Around friends and general people, we do not talk, we enjoy just being to the side and listening to conversations. When it's just the 2 of us though we both chatter non stop over the most random things including the conversations that we listened to... its like when no one else is around we become extroverts together
So much cute animation, wonderfully geeky references, and insightful relationship advice. You've become one of my favorite channels to unwind with at the end of the day. ❤
i know literally nobody asked but here are most of them 0:11 - Undyne and Alphys (Undertale) 0:20 - Noelle and Susie riding the ferris wheel (Deltarune, Chapter 2) 0:55 - Frisk and Asriel (Undertale) 1:11 - W.D Gaster (Undertale) 1:41 - Yuri and the main character (Doki Doki Literature Club)
0:12 Undyne and Alphys!!!!! I did not expect them but I absolutely love them!!! the flowers on their heads are gorgeous!! Thanks for the Undertale representation, I love it 💜
6 Things Introverts Need in a Partner Psych 2 Go 1. someone is who is comfortable with silence 0:20 2. A good listener 0:55 3. Someone who values quality time 1:41 4. Someone who understands personal space and alone time 2:15 5. A love for deep conversations 2:57 6. Something who can take things slow at first 3:46
I am an ambivert and I can definitely do both either way despite my own flaws. If I am going a little too fast, I be sure to ask if I am, or if I don't notice it, I can take it easy when told so. 😄
@@rayvaul3539 im some body who can go either way depending on the situation, and my mood, as one friend loved to put it, im the best example of an extroverted introvert she had ever met... i mostly just keep to myself, and have since figuring out that, i didnt really fit in with most of my peers, but, around like minded people... or people who just share some interests, quite the opposite... the sad part is... how few people can... relate or empathize these days... with those of us who just... dont find the typical activities so many love like clubbing/bars/etc, enjoyable.. i hate "noise" and thats all you get from such places, i mean at least at cons, all the noise isnt mixed with annoying "dance" music... anyway...yeah.. honestly i find most introverts are extroverted given the right excuse... even seen people you could assume might be mute... go full motormouth when they realized somebody shared their interest and they wouldnt get weird looks or teased about it.. well no more then any of us teased friend group members for our interests.. (aka never with malice, just friends teasing friends..sometimes over shared interests.. like when you and your geek/nerd friends sit around and somebody says "godsdamnednerds" or similar.. talking about yourself and your friends.. this was far from uncommon among my friend group...) and thanks for timestamps...
4. is totally wrong take. the CORE thing of introverts is that they NEVER wanna be alone. difference between introverts and extraverts is... that extraverts are light-headed people that easily switch between activities and hang out with different people, some kind of "social ADHD", they think about everything less, depend on everything less, so they also endure loneliness better. on the other hand, introverts have deep mind, by default they lack social activity and support, making them need it 24/7, from a someone whom they trust. so, normally, its vice versa, extraverts are those who need to take breaks from social activity to restore emotional stability (communication takes its toll, u know), while introverts stick to the person they love 24/7 and NEVER take breaks coz they need constant feeling of support of the only entity in the world that matters to them. if your partner is a REAL introvert - NEVER leave them alone, it will break relationships faster than anything else. an introvert will NEVER want to be alone, for even a couple of minutes, if they want - its not an introvercy, it is straight up a mental disorder.
As someone whos been treated as the "disliked family member" contrast to my "liked" older sister, the reason why i wanted a partner is because i wanted to feel some company from all these loneliness i felt all my life. I dont like to be touched, i dont want to open to them, i only rely on myself, i just want to feel that theres someone's presence. I have all these people around me but it feels like im all alone. I know that wishing this will not make the relationship work so im also prepared to let them go.
Im an ambivert and i have an introvert partner and i noticed that sometimes all an introvert needs is someone who they can actually enjoy to be around, that includes all of the facts said in the video but the first time my partner opened up to me and felt vulnerable when we were friends i could tell that i was someone they could trust so the best thing you can do is just be the person your partner trusts and loves
I really needed this video, I'm dating an introvert, it's pretty recent, I confessed that I liked him and he basically asked if I wanted to start a thing, I'm glad I've been doing some of the right things, specially when it comes to give him the space he needs, but now I know even more, thanks!
Thanks for sharing your experience. I think he's lucky to have someone like you. If you are watching this video is already shows that you care. I wish all happiness to both of you!
1. Someone who is comfortable with silence 2. A good listener 3. Someone who values quality time 4. Someone who understands personal space and alone time 5. A love for deep conversations 6. Someone who can take things slow at first
Same. I'm introverted and i can't really have a conversation but i like to talk about things i love in common with others. I don't feel the need to talk but I just feel good when i'm sitting next to someone i love.
As a male introvert, this is true! Sometimes I just don't feel like talking, socializing, or hanging out. Maybe I just want to relax, and have some quality time with my love ones! I do enjoy taking things slow, cause anytime I'm in a quick relationship, it ends with them rushing and not liking anything about me, which puts me down and makes me worried about opening up about myself... Another thing for me, is if you leave me alone without a reason, I worry...and like A LOT...so if you're gonna do something at least let me know when you'll come back..! Cause then I would think for HOURS if I did something wrong...
@SpeedMan91 This sounds more like insecurity than introversion. I think the best solution is to try to seem as approachable as possible, which for an introvert is easier said than done. Any mature adult will eventually give you explicit feedback. Anyone who doesn't is either not worth your time or has been trained by you not to provide feedback.
I think it's just about comunication, just let others know that you care about them but you simply need time. Because for an extrovert it's difficult understand introverts silence. It's just about don't let the other person asume that you Don care. I think introverts are awesome .
WOW!!! I'M EXACTLY LIKE THIS!!! I worry alot, which is why Communication is VERY Important to me!!! I immediately start thinking that something is wrong or maybe I did or said the wrong thing and didn't explain myself clearly!!! I just get LOOPTY-LOO CRAZY!!! Introverts are definitely crazy!!!😅😅😅 ( in a jokingly way)!!! After getting crazy worried, I need to recharge because it was so intense!!!
Honestly, this video actually made me feel so much more relieved and comforted. My past relationships have been tough, one of them kept complaining how silent I was, and I barely talk, like he doesn't like that about me. That made me upset, as if I'm not a good fit for them. Consequently they guilt tripped, and were so not respectful about my personal space or plans. People need to understand, for a healthy partnership, we must give one another their needed space and time. They must also know, that it isn't possible for telling them everything about what I'm doing today or who am I hanging out with. Surely I'm a loyal, but my boyfriend even used to get so jealous even if I wanted time to go out with my friends. So I'm really grateful for this wonderful video, it really made me feel calmer!
Yeahh I agree with the other guy.. Just the fact that people guilt drip over such things is so disgusting, and especially to their partners that they're supposed to love and want the best for. It's honestly awful how some people just get into relationships selfishly, when you're supposed to make your partner comfortable and happy I hope you find someone that can understand you better next!
Thank you! I have a friend who is an introvert, I am an extrovert, myself. I appreciate your videos. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable and am using this information to improve myself. Knowing that deep conversations are better than small talk, is most helpful. Thanks!
I'd say me and my ex are both introverts, and us sitting in silence kind of made me a little uncomfortable, because I could never tell if I was boring or we were enjoying doing our own thing. This led to me forcing some small talk, which I feel like I regret doing now, and I wish I realized that we were just spending some nice quiet time together. This video really helped me realize things about me that I haven't noticed before.
I’m Autistic and an Introvert. I like to be sociable, but I’m jaded thanks to years of bullying from my peers in school(my mother said I use to just go up to random people and say hi as a little kid). Pretty much everything in this video is who I want in a partner. One of my two favorite Christmas songs is “God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen” and in the song is the part of “tidings of comfort and joy”. I want the comfort to my joy. I’m a goofy guy who enjoys a good laugh and making people happy. But, I always have issues with Anxiety and Stress. I need someone who is willing to comfort me and calm me down when a panic attack comes along. I will obviously be there to make them smile when they’re sad or angry. Also, I live next door to my parents in the middle of the country side. I want my future wife to be okay with a simple life; quiet and peaceful. I don’t like city life. Plus, it’d be nice to make a day of driving into the city every so often, just to get some things or see the sites. I also am okay with traveling to places for vacations. Just as long as I get my quiet time. Also, I am a religious person, and go to church on the regular. I hope she’ll want to go to church with me, or at least be accepting of my faith. All in all, I want a wife who will want to enjoy spending her time with me in our nice country home, gazing at the beautiful views we have here, raising a happy family, and just being each other’s missing half.
I want someone who understands that "attention isn't love" because I love spending most of the time alone so giving that person much attention will do me no good
If you ignore or don't give the person enough attention they'll just turn all narcissistic against you. 🙄 Been through it many times before. 😐 I just immediately ghost them after so many times. It's honestly really annoying.
You might want to mention this to that specific someone because they'll either treat you differently (they might give you more attention or straight up ignore you) or go crazy thinking about whether they did something wrong or not
As an introvert myself, I found this video very insightful and relatable. I agree with most of the points that were made, especially about the need for space, understanding, and respect. I think these are essential for any healthy relationship, but especially for introverts who tend to get drained by social interactions and need time to recharge. However, I also think that some of the things that introverts need in a partner are not exclusive to introverts. For example, having shared interests and values, being supportive and encouraging, and communicating honestly and openly are important for any couple, regardless of their personality type. I don’t think that introverts should limit themselves to only dating other introverts or people who fit a certain criteria. Sometimes opposites attract and complement each other well. I also think that introverts should not use their personality as an excuse to avoid challenges or compromise in a relationship. Sometimes we have to step out of our comfort zone and try new things or meet new people for the sake of our partner. Sometimes we have to be more expressive and attentive to our partner’s needs and feelings. Sometimes we have to work on our own issues and insecurities that might affect our relationship. I think that introverts can have successful relationships with anyone as long as they are compatible, respectful, and loving towards each other. It’s not about finding someone who meets all our needs perfectly, but someone who is willing to grow with us and make us happy. Thank you Psych2Go for making this video! It was very informative and helpful. Keep up the good work! #introvert #psych2go #relationship #personality #comment
We don't use our personality like an excuse. We sometimes want to take the first step but we're struggling with it because we don't know what to say nor what to do because we don't want to hurt people or because we don't want to feel ashamed in front of others.
I have to admit. I found this video, to be one of the best videos you've done so far. Being an introvert, in a world where most people still don't understand the difference between the two... Yea... I appriciate material that highlights their differences... Thanks...
While I am an introvert and I feel as though this should be common knowledge I realize that a lot of people just don’t realize this about a lot of introverts and I really appreciate the awareness that this channel is spreading about introverts and personalities in general.
@@anonymousplayer8174 I also wonder that. I am currently in a pretty terrible place mentally but I keep on trying to push forward. If it worked out though I definitely want to get married and have kids. I don't think being an introvert directly decreases my chances of getting married but I do think that we go about it in a different way than extroverts do. How about you? Do you think you are/want to get married in the future/are you?
As an introvert and someone with mental issues, this channel is godsend in explaining what's happening with me, calming down my fears of me having overly negative traits, etc... Thank you! Great video on this too, most of the stuff is relatable to me, I notice that in myself. And I do notice discomfort when I'm not able to satisfy some of these needs...
As an introvert, it’s a relief to see that it’s not only me that need these things. I sometimes feel annoying talking only about philosophical theories and talking so much. I’ve never been in a relationship before, but I hope I’ll find someone sooner or later.
As an introvert (INFJ) people who can appreciate my alone time is a huge one for me. I also am drawn to confidence because, in a way, it makes me feel confident to be with someone who is. My previous partner was neither of those things but I hope I can someday find someone who is
As a social introvert, this is quite literally a list of things I feel related to when it comes to romance.I don't like to jump straight into dating, so I rather meet someone beforehand who can gain my trust and know me better with patience and determination.
I already knew I was more introverted but it’s crazy just how much it hit here. Every point was right on the money. I still fall in the middle of intro and extroversion, but I definitely lean towards the latter.
As an introvert I think I want a partner who would, most importantly, not judge my weird ideas, but also value personal time and just peace overall. In short, everything said in this video is true for me
REMAINDER TO EVERYONE: Shyness and introvert are not the same thing or maybe you're just depressed. Don't do self diagnosting, refer to professionals if you need help. Love lots for my fellow introvert 🥰
You can be depressed but an introvert at the same time. One does not relate to the other but you can have both going on, you don't need any experts to see the obvious
Shyness goes along with being an introvert. It's not directly linked but it is pretty common. And depression has nothing to do with introverted/extroverted. It's something both suffer from. I am an introvert, and there have been points in my life where I was depressed. I lost my enjoyment for things I love. Just in my case that's music, fish, and being in the water, or enjoying the highlands of my home. Rather than partying, or socializing.
Never rush anything, it feels good to let things unfold, and real love takes time. Someone who will make you feel calm and peaceful even if you two are having your own time separately
The first relationship i was ever in, one of the hardest things I dealt with was that she didn’t understand personal space and alone time. She had to be in constant communication, and that caused stress in me that I didn’t expect.
Im an extrovert and have only had introvert partners. I think the fact that my dad, brother and more than half my cousins are all introverts helps me understand the need for quiet, space, a break etc with people I love. I prefer introverts as a partner as I think it helps balance out the dynamic 🙂
Hmm, over the course of time my friends to later on be partners were introverts aswell. Although I've seen that when I have an extroverted friend I rather feel introverted myself
As a introvert trying to put my first relationship into motion this definitely helped me find what I truly want in a relationship so that I can help me and my partner atleast have a chance at staying together for awhile. So far it's been rough but I'm sure I can make things work with just a little more understanding.
As an older introvert a piece of advice I would love to pass on would be, don't force it. There is somewhat a fine line between giving a relationship your very best shot, and trying to love or will a relationship to work. It absolutely sucks, but trust me it's better to realize it sooner rather than years later. Or having a kid with that person. Next thing you know you are "staying together for the kids" knowing full well you're lying to yourself. I've seen it many, many, many times. The old adage "It takes two" is seriously accurate. Both people need to be willing to build something, and you can't and shouldn't try to make up for their deficit or lack of trying. It's not fair to you.... Not that I am saying that is what is happening with you, and quite frankly it is none of my business, but I wanted to help lol. I wish you the very best!
@Sean Carter any advice on starting a relationship? I'm almost 30 and only ever had one gf in high school. Guess I've been so withdrawn that the concept of starting a relationship has become an impenetrable concept to me.
If your partner is extrovert, your marriage has little chance. It may not even worth saving because life would be too hard. If they are ambivert, then your marriage does have a chance. If they don't understand you, then they're extrovert. Life with an extrovert is too dramatic, too intense, too immature, too superficial, too unintelligent, too unwise, too judgemental. They will never appreciate you. You are never good enough. They like qualities that you find repulsive.
I am an introvert and was dating an introvert. Because we both are introverts, I understand taking things slow and slowly progressing all too well. I was everything in the video mentioned to him. But after two months I asked him if he wanted to exclusively date. Keep in mind, I gave him all the room and space he needed to feel as comfortable as possible. We never fought nor did we had arguments. It took him hours to respond to my question, which he responded with, I want an open relationship. I cut ties.
I would be so glad if I'll be able to meet someone who is able to understand me even when I am not able to put my words together or when I am silent.😊❤️
I currently have a crush on an introvert, I am a more extraverted person, but maturity has brought me to be a little more introverted, through that I’ve learned to be okay in the silences and long pauses. While watching this I realized I’ve already learned to do all of this and I’m still learning more! Thank you!
I'm in the same situation rn. I'm trying to learn to be better for her but only time will tell how it will go. It's a struggle to get her to open up and tell me more about who she is and what her thoughts are but I've just gotta take it slow and realize she may never because she's so reserved but I really hope I get to see her open up one day. I want to know who she really is when she is out of her shell.
As an introvert, I love people who can just sit and listen to me. People I talk to think I am asking for help that only a professional could give. I'm not asking for help or advice but when you know someone's listening, it's like a huge layer of stress is gone. It's also cool to know someone cares. (This might just be me but I wanted to share my thoughts)
I’m definitely an introvert. My ideal partner would be someone who’s sweet, gentle, likes video games like me, and who I can fully open up to without fearing an awkward response. One of my nerdy passion topics is the idea of crossovers between universes. I’ve liked the idea ever since the original Super Smash Bros., and I like making deep stories out of crossovers. Someone who shared those interests would really make me smile!
Dude we should be friends, it's not really my main thing but I remember loving the idea of mixing my favorite universes and seeing how those characters would react to each other. I am also more introverted though, so I understand if your first reaction to that is "ahh I don't wanna talk to some random guy right now." (me too kinda lol) But yes, I fuckin love video games that tell amazing stories (Half Life and Halo are my favorites) and I like being there for people when they need some pick-me-ups/help, so if you're down to talk sometime I'm sure we could figure something out.
Bro, no kidding. Crossovers are puzzling enough to be fascinating, but fun and casual enough to not be too overwhelming. For crossovers, I often think of how characters from other franchises would fit into Sonic Riders or Super Smash Bros.
I love being introverted, but it's hard to find a partner with the same personality. I tried, but I wasn't lucky to find the right person. I thought I hit jackpot, but that was just words I wanted to hear. Understanding partner transformed to someone who can't understand a sh*t. When I wanted to be alone for a day, I was suddenly the worst person in the universe.
It’s strange, I used to be a complete introvert but as I got older I forced myself into more and more social groups and situations until I actually enjoyed them. I still have some introverted qualities, but I’m more of an extrovert now. I had honestly forgotten how it felt to be an introvert, so when I started dating my gf, I was constantly thinking something was wrong, that she was mad about something. I was getting worried that she didn’t want to be with me anymore, but this video actually perfectly describes what’s been happening, so I guess I just need to relax and let her open up in her own time
I feel you, man. same thing here. I was always a shy and introverted kid, probably as a self defense mechansism after I got bullied in middle school. I'm in my mid 20's now but it took me nearly a decade to learn how to open up and I've become quite extroverted now. It's awesome that you're here to learn about introvert behaviour for your girl. Best of luck to you guys.
Sort of similar I used to be very introverted and hated going to social situations, now I'm still introverted but enjoy going to parties and the like, but I need the next day or to to do nothing and recharge afterwards.
You must have been ambivert who can be both extrovert and introvert. An introvert can never change to an extrovert. An extrovert also can never change to introvert.
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This helps actually. I'm currently in a relationship with an introvert and watching this helped a lot to understand what I need to do in our next conversation. Thanks for sharing ^-^
Aww so sweet . As an introvert , I was so worried whether the boy I like (extrovert)would love to be in a relationship with an introvert. I don't know how I am going to act in front of him . 🥲
#5 is accurate for me. All my teen life i wasn’t always able to speak my mind. Whenever it was school or at home, No one really paid attention to what I had to say. I was usually silenced and i gave up trying to speak since my ADHD made me forget what i had to say if i didnt get it out.
As a slightly huge introvert, this is 100% what I need. I need lots of personal space at times and will stop talking and just want that silence. Many of my past partners took that personally and it’s really nothing to take personally. I still wanna hang out I just don’t feel like talking it’s nothing that you do that makes me stop talking it’s just me. I love alone time as well I love hanging out with people and would love to hang out with my future partner but if it’s too much or I just wanna be away from crowds I wanna stay home in my room or by myself
Yes to all of these. I'm an introvert who has never been in a relationship, but I want these things in a partner. I also want someone who can fully accept me for who I am. There is a lot about me that doesn't bleed through the surface.
DDLC references in the thumbnail: 1: Background 2: Yuri's hair style (Not including her clip) 3: School Uniform (But opened, just like Sayori's) 4: The "Just Monika" type of pose when sitting on the desk
I honestly really loved the art and style of the new animator, Kami! The little cat mouths look super cute, and I enjoy seeing a variety of styles here! The references of course were a lovely addition (though I may not have caught them all) -Undertale, Deltarune, Doki Doki Literature, and Frozen. :3 The video was great, too! I chuckled a couple times at the script to myself. As an introvert (an INFP to be specific) I liked some of the things you brought up!
As a male introvert, I only fall for people who make me feel like I'm ensured safety, especially while dealing with stuff at home, I have been single all my life, I haven't gotten much hope that I'll eventually date someone, most of the time I can't bring myself to say anything at all, I enjoy my alone time as well, I feel relaxed while I'm alone, but what I need in a partner is that they respect me for me in general, not just focusing on things I do, a person that doesn't care about looks at all, that just wants to be there for me, and help me succeed, and a person who I know I can trust and talk to about my trauma and problems, I am already talking to a friend about it, and she is kinda going through the same stuff I am
I'm an introvert, and I've always been told I can be guarded/shy when I first meet someone, though I've also been told (by other people) it's probably why I don't have a boyfriend because I won't immediately open up to a total stranger that I may or may not get along with. Relationships are hard, but I find starting one can be even harder.
i understand that its hard but to open yourself to someone you have to trust him first , you cant trust a stranger when you just met :) although if youd like i can take some time to talk to you if youre in your early 20's :)
@@CL-je6sv so, have for example: the weather. One person says “can you believe this weather?” You give your opinion and then try to segue that opinion into a deeper insight about the weather. Then try to go from there.
love the references, the tips are amazing and you can mostly relate to what they say. i absolutely love this channel's dating related videos, i have spent 2 legal nights watching these on a row and feel like more people have the right to know what this channel has to offer in relationship content
I'm an introvert, and honestly, most of what they're talking about, does apply to me. Sometimes, i just want a hugs, sometimes i want to talk about anything and everything for hours on end, and sometimes, i just want someone to keep me company, who understands, listens and is there for me. I don't go out as much as i used to, only because i'm extremely introverted and i'm also a bit shy. As a man, i think it's okay for us men to talk about our feelings, even if most of society just laugh at us and tells us to man up
I'm an introvert but I've been doing my best to be open more where I don't feel as nervous to talk to anybody or at least to me to not sound boring and I feel like I have gotten better. There was this girl who I really really liked and she basically had everything I had hoped for. Similar to me being an introvert but we shared the same interest, having a fun time talking even going on for hours, when I was down she would come and if she was down I would come. All in all, a joy to be around and I could go on tbh. Eventually I grew feelings for her and I grew some confidences as well to tell her that I liked her a lot....but sadly she didn't feel the same way. I won't lie that still to this day it still hurts and here I thought I really found the one for me. We are still friends btw and I don't want us to grow distance from something like this. She is someone I care about and from her towards to me as well. At this point in my life I have been taking "L's" after "L's" after "L's" and I know that's been affecting me mentally. But after thinking about love, failing to apply for any new job or possibly even my appearance not looking like a celeb or something thinking that I'm not even decent levels of attractiveness that it's to a point I have given up on things and myself that I don't really have anything positive to say anymore. I know my comment went a bit off rails and it will probably be buried with the others but going back to what was originally asked, if I could have partner to do anything with...tbh it isn't much. I just want someone to hug me and tell me that everything is gonna be alright and just have fun and talk about things until the sun goes down. That's all I want. Is that to much to ask for?
No, no it's absolutely okay to go off topic to Express how you feel. It's always good to talk to people to tell them how you're been feeling. Some of us appreciate you for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate you for sharing, so thank you.
As an extrovert, it’s nice to see that I’ve been doing what introverts appreciate. When I was with my ex, I was always worried that I was doing something wrong and that she didn’t want to spend time with me but she was just more reserved and shy.
I'm an introvert, and this basically sums up what I want in a partner but its kinda difficult to find people who have some of these qualities. Mainly letting me have my alone time, I really cherish my time by myself.
It's extremly rare to find such a partner, and it's even more rare to find a female partner who's like that. An introverted man is only admired from a distant, but they all go crazy once they experience a relationship with one.
I've always been an extroverted and talkative. I find myself exhausted and constantly feeling like I need to entertain my partners as well as friends/family. I recently started seeing a woman who is the opposite of who I typically spend time with and for the first time I feel relaxed being around someone im interested in. No small talk, just kind words, deep conversations, and time to think in between statements.
OMG Doki doki undertale and deltarune reference more reasons to love this channel 0:11 Undyne&Alphys 0:20 Noelle&Susie 0:55 Frisk&Asriel 0:57 Natsuki&Yuri
I mostly consider myself to be somewhere on the middle of the spectrum (or an ambivert, as some like to call it), but I sure do have my ”introvert moments”. I think the most important trait for me in a partner is that they understand when I'm quiet or not in the mood to talk. Also, as mentioned in the video, things moving too fast sometimes gets uncomfortable, so I like when my partner asks for my input before we move forward with the relationship.
Very helpful, I am an introvert, love time alone, hate small talk... and have never found a partner that I could stand for more than about 3 months and now I know why.
I love the first one. Nothing is better then just sitting next to each other in silence I also find it really comforting if your in a bad mood or crying. Sometimes you don’t want to talk about it but having someone just right there next to you is really nice.
I once had a relationship who would almost NEVER give me alone time. It went to the point when I wondered why every time they went to work, it was far less draining than talking to them 💀
We haven't talked for more than 5 minutes in 5 years. Our relationship which isn't official yet is based on kindness, patience, loyalty, and lots of touching. Plus we have this intense connection and I feel like sometimes I communicate with her telepathically. She's more introverted so I'm waiting for her to get fully immersed and trust me. But I can give her what she needs because I need the same things.
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Love ❤️ is the greatest. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
Even though I say this as an introvert (INTJ), confidence strikes me as essential in relationships universally. There are other points mentioned in the comments as someone accepting you for who you are, and in fact, don't portray an introvert's differences from other extroverts as a mistake. The preference for conversations with deep approaches and appreciation of quality time are responsible for creating special bonds, however, once you make a bad judgment or try to adapt it, you will destroy this possibility, inevitably being considered like everyone else, cultivating a certain contempt, which will make being with you uncomfortable.
Are you an introvert, extrovert or in between? Comment below. Let's see what the total are.
Introvert
i guess introvert, but i still want hugs and affection from someone
100% introvert
I'm an ambivert but I lean towards introvert and extrovert from time to time, it's a bit weird in that aspect
introvert
my extrovert friend and roommate is complete opposite of me
he is not giving me time alone
so its making me difficult to interract with any others
and one more thing is
if anyone calls me introvert
i am ge super mad
I would mostly want someone to feel free to hug, that doesnt make me feel forced to talk, but also someone that accepts me as i am dont matter my weird personality and things i love
You are shy, not extrovert. Its different things
@@moonlight7500 Did you mean introverted?
Well, same. My family got used to my strange habits (anxiety disorder) but they don't understand why I have it. So I want (need) someone who understands and can comfort
@@heatsflamesman5353 some can be a little different
I agree with this. You know you have the right person when you can be comfortable with silence and they accept you the way you are 💜
As an male introvert, I just want one thing, that a woman I fall for is someone that does not expect me to be tough or really íntense all the time. Sometimes I need hugs or affection that make the sad days less difficult, I want someone who allow me to cry without thinking Im weak or less masculine for it, I want someone who treats me like a human, not just as a man
Same, nice to see I’m not alone
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It’s nice to see a guy that isn’t afraid to express his feelings.
You deserve it! Hopefully you’ll find someone who meets these needs for you 🥰
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1. someone is who is comfortable with silence
2. A good listener
3. Someone who values quality time
4. Someone who understands personal space and alone time
5. A love for deep conversations
6. Something who can take things slow
Tysm🥰💖
tyyy, i need this, my crush is an introvert
All 6 :)
Thanks :) I just needed a recap of the video
lol my crush is an aquarius
The "someone who is comfortable with silence" one is so true. To an introvert, silence isn't golden. It's not platinum. It is diamond. I've recently heard the quote "speak only if it improves upon the silence." What extroverts need to understand is that silence is often more meaningful, and speaks "louder" than noise for the sake of noise.
This whole comment needs to be in a book fr fr
Hit the nail on the head. I absolutely cannot stand small talk. It's just people talking for the sake to talking. Nothing new or interesting is being communicated or learned, it's literally just noise designed to ruin the peaceful silence.
reminds me...
Plenty of songs use...
well maybe not plenty but *some*
use loudness // silence as an instrument
(more with less, its allways better)
I always find it weird how uncomfortable so many people are with a little silence. For some it seems they can't just stop and think to themselves and for others it appears to almost completely set them on edge like pointless talking is a drug and they need their fix. I've noticed a lot get so bored with a measly 10 seconds of silence that you can practically see them having an internal struggle.
so that's why I like to wake up early and sit in the living room doing nothing.
As an introvert I've always despised small talk and love taking things slow whenever I'm in a relationship.
I think I’m overly introverted, because for some reason I feel the need to fully back out of all the relationship stuff or just completely avoid it. And now I just think I should just push away anyone who does try to start a relationship with me for my and mostly their sake.
my MBTI classifies me as 96% introverted on the first test and 100% introverted on the second test i dont know if this is a problem or not.?
@@SpinalWall16589 Usually that's not the case. No matter how much introverted you are, it's more probable that you may have problems with love and relationships. Perhaps you find yourself unlovable or you don't think you deserve to be happy. There should be other videos about this subject that might help you. Keep searching for the cause because I don't think it's about introversion.
@Bob Lee Some people do care... If I ever want a partner I'd prefer him to be an introvert because then we'd relate a lot + he'd have some personality traits of my ideal type..
@Bob Lee Did I ask if anybody cared and did I even mention that I even care about what people think about me? 🤨
As an introvert, probably THE strongest sign of a really good relationship is that it *doesn't* feel draining. If you find someone who actually makes *you* feel extroverted, hang on for dear life and do whatever work is required. Even if it doesn't last, it will be permanently memorable. : )
Omg I’m not even kidding I was so introvert and never talked to anyone at school and always felt awkward…. Then the first month of school I got a crush on this girl (I still have and have been crushing on her for 1 year and a half) and more time passed, we became best friends and she made me feel extroverted and like I could talk to anyone without being awkward. I still have a crush on this girl and the past 2 weeks a lot of bad and good things happened but I still have a year and a half of school with her sooooooo I still have a chance
@@andrea.mattaa - Congratulations- you've experienced something wonderful for an introvert to have happen! Now relax and let your relationship be what it will be- without overburdening it- secure in the joy its *already* brought you. : )
@@floydblandston108 i will :) thx man
@Floyd Blandston Could you help me with what I did wrong bc I recently confessed to an introverted girl and she rejected me and I would like to know how I can change that for future relationship. If you agree then reply to the message and lets talk on another social media platform
Hello?
There’s nothing better than finding someone you can sit in silence with 💜
Sure there are... pets! Humans are for connected expansion.
It's restful, not stressful.
I agree greatly
Just like a Taxi driver 😌
I often fantasize about sitting on a porch with a partner in complete silence. In my experience, it looks like everyone wants an outgoing guy who is looking for fun 24/7. Don’t even get me started with flirting lol, my cardboard robot brain is not witty enough to flirt.
As someone who has recently "adopted" their introverted friend. I couldn't help but chuckle at how accurate your points are. This was a great listen and a nice perspective I needed to hear.
as an introvert who has been "adopted" by quite a few extroverted friends, im happy with the time ive spent with old friend groups in the past and im looking forward to the time i will spend with my few friends in the future
the fact that you're here to make an better relationship with your bro... kinda g-
As an introvert, i agree.
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Short and to-the-point, as an introvert is😂
I'm an extrovert (ENFP to be precise) and I've been in a relationship now for a couple months with an introvert and many times I've thought I'd done something wrong when it just turned out to be nothing. Taking things slow is a huge struggle for me but I can honestly say that it has made the experience so much better and I think has made us much closer. This video intrigued me because I wanted to see what else I could do and I'm comforted in knowing that I am doing all these things. Ultimately, the advice I would give to another extrovert dating an introvert would be to have patience and understanding and try your best not to jump to any conclusions.
I am INFP. I only want things to move fast. When i am deeply in love with the person.
But once that start moving fast i freak out.
Oh good hell.
No doubt i am single.
🤭🤭🤭
@@soumiology lol
Just trust
I am also a ENFP, thank you for this advice my friend
I'm an ambivert (ENFP too) I've also been in a relationship with an introvert for a few months as well and yep I agree with you whole heartedly
ENTP ✌️
man, I just want someone who doesn't tell me to speak up or get mad at me for not being talkative like im used to. Someone who just wants to cuddle and watch a show while talking about whatever is on their mind with no expectations or judgment. Ive tried dating some extroverts but, they never last because im "boring".
Same, Im an (INFJ-T) and I just want someone to hear me u know?
Oh bro that hits hard
Pure understanding. Never had a relationship before, but in school, I get thrown so much hate due to my overly quietness, and whenever I try to be humorous or loud to fit in, the disguise falls in like two days and I’m back to the shadow no one cares about. Srsly tho, I really agree with your comment
Honestly same, what you just described (the cuddling, watching a show together) is legit some of the best stuff I've ever experienced, I'm recently single so can't really look forward to that for a while :( It's all I want though, I've been trying to see if some of my friends would be down because I miss it that much.
Uhh same 😩😭 I’ve tried dating extroverts but one of them thought I was “boring” … It hurt but honestly I feel like they just didn’t stick around to see ALL of me . The part that yes is an introvert , but when I get comfortable enough around someone I can be talkative at times & more expressive. It just takes the right one I guess to actually stay and be able to see my biggest secret ( my personality) . & if their lucky enough they may be able to see it one day … one day God willing though 🙂
Me and my SO are, both, introverts. We started dating 3 months after we met. Officially started our relationship a fortnight after we first kissed. We spend a lot of time around ourselves, and in private places. Seeing movies and enjoying a co-op game.
I love it, and love how our relationship is mainly based on communication and caring.
Since you and your spouse are both introverts, both of you are compatible with each other, this is why your relationship works so well
Awww how cute 🤮🤮🤮🤮
I'm not sure if I'm alone in this but honestly, as an introvert myself (INTP), I would want an extrovert for my partner. Someone to bring me out of my comfort zone a bit and help fill in the gaps that I might be missing. Basically like a yin to my yang. Of course the relationship would have to be built on trust and understanding above all else, but at least for me, having someone else that compliments my weaker points like that (and hopefully I would do the same for my partner) would be ideal.
Totally same but backwards lol. Im an extrovert (ENFP/ENTP). Im very outgoing and loud, most of the time there are so many goals i want to achieve but often time im distracted (ADHD). I'd love a partner who can keep me in line and is also passionate in what they do. People with passion is important to me and as an ENFP (literally called campainer lol) I wanna be there to boost them and help them whenever theyre down.
As an introvert, I have to date an extrovert to balance it out as well
My partner is introvert (I`m extrovert) and this is exactly how we have built our relationship in last 2,5 years; I encourage him to do things and he reassures me again. :)
So you are somewhere between an extroverted introvert and just a introvert.. Im also someone like that but a little more to the extroverted introvert side..
ENTP??
What I won't compromise for in a partner:
1. Fierce loyalty - If there's one thing above anything else that I want from another person, it's this. Especially after my recent breakup.
2. Emotional support - If you're there for me I'll be there for you, always
3. Physical love - Be ready to give & receive a lot of it quite often
4. Comfortability - We should be able to share anything we want, interests, hobbies, feelings, random thoughts, etc and not feel judged.
5. Humor - When the imposter is sus you'll get hit by the 10 o' clock bus.
I don’t get #5 I guess I’m not funny 😂
Man I love someone who is fierce and loyal.
PS: I would die for that person
why tho im not sus
Yer! I love my close friend with this personality! Too bad that she see me as friend, not lover. I respect her choice. So I am single and she are most amazing person in my whole life. I am still falling in love with her.
I’m not even a in a relationship 😅😂🤣
Can confirm, as an introvert silence and just being around someone without necessarily doing anything particular can bring us joy. Vibes, one might say, are all it takes.
shit there are times me and my friends sit on discord/voice chat, and dont really say much for hours, but knowing we arent "alone" is a comfort..
im old, and have yet to have met anybody, who was interested in me, who wasnt far too type-a and extroverted to understand that, sometimes, i just need to sit and listen to music/audio books or watch videos and let my mind reset/recharge... the fact most of them ended up cheating on me, and blaming me.. well.. welcome to modern society, and why its just too damn draining for some of us to keep trying.
@@AshenTechDotCom about discord just like me fr fr
My ex never understood this, their form of quality time was doing something actively or with purpose and sometimes I just wanted to nap in the same room as them or play video games in the same room without being disturbed. It is interesting to start to understand myself better as the years have gone on.
As an introvert, who recently had to leave a rocky relationship, I realized these were all things I noticed I was missing from my relationship and constantly struggled to get. The fact that this shows there are people out there who mesh with me gave me a warm fuzzy feeling inside.
Not only is this channel amazing for helping with ourselves,it also makes a lot of references,really nice!
yeah i saw a deltarune reference!
Here the games and animated movies I know: DDLC, undertale, deltarune and... FROZEN?!
@@Ghosthunt45 and cookie run kingdom
@@coughcouf oh yeah that too
@@Ghosthunt45 also full metal alchemist
Love the DDLC, Deltarune, Undertale, and Frozen references.
As someone with ADHD (and I guess I'm an introvert, since a lot of what the video talked about sounds like stuff I've done or needed more than once.), I can relate and agree that this is literally exactly what we need. Though I find myself a lot more awkward and strangely emotionless (Which apparently is part of the disorder?), but that's only because I haven't had time to spend time with my significant other, due to Covid and stuff.
@Klee Ok! 2:57 was madeliene and espresso
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YES
@Josiah Baroi Well... maybe I dont want to remember ALL of those memories thanks
"IS THAT AN ASRIEL REFERENCE??" -Me at 0:55
As an introvert, one of my biggest concerns on dating is my partner misinterpreting my alone time as me just not wanting to be with her. I sure hope I find someone who understands that some people need to recharge by having some alone time.
Just explain it to them. Either they'll understand or at least try to, or they're not the one for you.
I would like to know if introverts send mixed signals when dating, one day it seems very into it but other days just don't reply o start a conversation. It's hard to know if is better let him go or just wait, or ask.
If you struggle to tell them, send this video!
Find someone who appreciates you for being exactly who and how you are. That’s the only thing that matters.
@@solenaperezlandazuri4315éxactly like that like my hubby,so hard to understand sometimes
Definitely the understanding of needing a social recharge
And who will ensure an end to social adventures like a party after a few hours, rather than guilting you for needing to leave 🙃
@Cynthia May Same. I hadn't been anywhere but school or home in about a month, and I went to Target yesterday. Once I got home I napped in the fetal position for an hour just so I could feel like a human again lol
I am an ambivert with an introvert partner, i can understand how she feels so I'm always trying to give her time and space when she needs it or asks me for and new topics to talk about, since we can enjoy both small and deep talk (is just s thing of being used to each other i think) , i let her talk to me about her problems and i listen carefully and i let her know she can find comfort and not only a partner but also a best friend in me and i know i can feel the same about her
I think to me as someone who consistently scored over 90% on introversion throughout my life, my biggest absolute pet peeve with any relationship is assumptions. I'm typically quiet/reserved but can be more talkative on some days than others with my close circle, however, when people make an assumption about what that (or anything else I say or do) means and just run with it instead of asking or just assuming the best intention, that really gets on my nerves - primarily because I can't help but think that it's done out of arrogance based on false belief of knowing better or out of spite. I've recently started talking with a new person and them at some point asking if they did something wrong actually felt soooo so good and refreshing! I really appreciated them not being scared to ask and me having the freedom to clear myself up right then and there. Please, understand that you may know an introvert for many years and still not fully understand what's going on in their head and that's okay - as long as you don't think you're entitled to that knowledge.
Omg YESSS!
I completely agree, that too is one of most biggest pet peevez.
One of the best comments I've read so far. Assumptions really do mess things up BADLY sometimes. To truly be comfortable communicating issues or misconceptions is to know that you're with someone who is truly respectful of you and your boundaries. I will keep this in mind for the future as I know I have been plenty guilty of making assumptions before. Thank you!
I had a friend a while back who knew I was an introvert, and she reminded me to socialize at my own birthday sleepover. I get that she was trying to help I guess, but "Make sure you talk to everyone. I know you're an introvert but you don't want anyone to feel left out." T.T Just because I'm an introvert doesn't mean I can't socialize.
true, fortunately I have a friend that's willing to listen to me, so whenever im doing something, he would ask why I did it.
My fiance and I are both introverts. Around friends and general people, we do not talk, we enjoy just being to the side and listening to conversations.
When it's just the 2 of us though we both chatter non stop over the most random things including the conversations that we listened to... its like when no one else is around we become extroverts together
Awwwwwwww how fucking adorable!!!!!! 🤮🤮🤮🤮
Must be nice mines just a big introvert
So much cute animation, wonderfully geeky references, and insightful relationship advice. You've become one of my favorite channels to unwind with at the end of the day. ❤
For all of us, that's for sure
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same!
i know literally nobody asked but here are most of them
0:11 - Undyne and Alphys (Undertale)
0:20 - Noelle and Susie riding the ferris wheel (Deltarune, Chapter 2)
0:55 - Frisk and Asriel (Undertale)
1:11 - W.D Gaster (Undertale)
1:41 - Yuri and the main character (Doki Doki Literature Club)
0:12 Undyne and Alphys!!!!! I did not expect them but I absolutely love them!!! the flowers on their heads are gorgeous!! Thanks for the Undertale representation, I love it 💜
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6 Things Introverts Need in a Partner Psych 2 Go
1. someone is who is comfortable with silence 0:20
2. A good listener 0:55
3. Someone who values quality time 1:41
4. Someone who understands personal space and alone time 2:15
5. A love for deep conversations 2:57
6. Something who can take things slow at first 3:46
I am an ambivert and I can definitely do both either way despite my own flaws. If I am going a little too fast, I be sure to ask if I am, or if I don't notice it, I can take it easy when told so. 😄
@@rayvaul3539 im some body who can go either way depending on the situation, and my mood, as one friend loved to put it, im the best example of an extroverted introvert she had ever met... i mostly just keep to myself, and have since figuring out that, i didnt really fit in with most of my peers, but, around like minded people... or people who just share some interests, quite the opposite...
the sad part is... how few people can... relate or empathize these days... with those of us who just... dont find the typical activities so many love like clubbing/bars/etc, enjoyable.. i hate "noise" and thats all you get from such places, i mean at least at cons, all the noise isnt mixed with annoying "dance" music...
anyway...yeah.. honestly i find most introverts are extroverted given the right excuse... even seen people you could assume might be mute... go full motormouth when they realized somebody shared their interest and they wouldnt get weird looks or teased about it.. well no more then any of us teased friend group members for our interests.. (aka never with malice, just friends teasing friends..sometimes over shared interests.. like when you and your geek/nerd friends sit around and somebody says "godsdamnednerds" or similar.. talking about yourself and your friends.. this was far from uncommon among my friend group...)
and thanks for timestamps...
@@AshenTechDotCom yeah same.
Thank you for the time stamps :D!
4. is totally wrong take. the CORE thing of introverts is that they NEVER wanna be alone.
difference between introverts and extraverts is... that extraverts are light-headed people that easily switch between activities and hang out with different people, some kind of "social ADHD", they think about everything less, depend on everything less, so they also endure loneliness better. on the other hand, introverts have deep mind, by default they lack social activity and support, making them need it 24/7, from a someone whom they trust.
so, normally, its vice versa, extraverts are those who need to take breaks from social activity to restore emotional stability (communication takes its toll, u know), while introverts stick to the person they love 24/7 and NEVER take breaks coz they need constant feeling of support of the only entity in the world that matters to them. if your partner is a REAL introvert - NEVER leave them alone, it will break relationships faster than anything else.
an introvert will NEVER want to be alone, for even a couple of minutes, if they want - its not an introvercy, it is straight up a mental disorder.
As someone whos been treated as the "disliked family member" contrast to my "liked" older sister, the reason why i wanted a partner is because i wanted to feel some company from all these loneliness i felt all my life.
I dont like to be touched, i dont want to open to them, i only rely on myself, i just want to feel that theres someone's presence. I have all these people around me but it feels like im all alone. I know that wishing this will not make the relationship work so im also prepared to let them go.
Im an ambivert and i have an introvert partner and i noticed that sometimes all an introvert needs is someone who they can actually enjoy to be around, that includes all of the facts said in the video but the first time my partner opened up to me and felt vulnerable when we were friends i could tell that i was someone they could trust so the best thing you can do is just be the person your partner trusts and loves
I really needed this video, I'm dating an introvert, it's pretty recent, I confessed that I liked him and he basically asked if I wanted to start a thing, I'm glad I've been doing some of the right things, specially when it comes to give him the space he needs, but now I know even more, thanks!
Thanks for sharing your experience. I think he's lucky to have someone like you. If you are watching this video is already shows that you care.
I wish all happiness to both of you!
1. Someone who is comfortable with silence
2. A good listener
3. Someone who values quality time
4. Someone who understands personal space and alone time
5. A love for deep conversations
6. Someone who can take things slow at first
Ty
As an introvert, I definitely agree with all of these things and love how each of these traits are explained.
Same. I'm introverted and i can't really have a conversation but i like to talk about things i love in common with others. I don't feel the need to talk but I just feel good when i'm sitting next to someone i love.
As a male introvert, this is true! Sometimes I just don't feel like talking, socializing, or hanging out. Maybe I just want to relax, and have some quality time with my love ones! I do enjoy taking things slow, cause anytime I'm in a quick relationship, it ends with them rushing and not liking anything about me, which puts me down and makes me worried about opening up about myself... Another thing for me, is if you leave me alone without a reason, I worry...and like A LOT...so if you're gonna do something at least let me know when you'll come back..! Cause then I would think for HOURS if I did something wrong...
@SpeedMan91 Same.
@SpeedMan91 This sounds more like insecurity than introversion. I think the best solution is to try to seem as approachable as possible, which for an introvert is easier said than done. Any mature adult will eventually give you explicit feedback. Anyone who doesn't is either not worth your time or has been trained by you not to provide feedback.
I think it's just about comunication, just let others know that you care about them but you simply need time. Because for an extrovert it's difficult understand introverts silence. It's just about don't let the other person asume that you Don care. I think introverts are awesome .
WOW!!! I'M EXACTLY LIKE THIS!!! I worry alot, which is why Communication is VERY Important to me!!! I immediately start thinking that something is wrong or maybe I did or said the wrong thing and didn't explain myself clearly!!! I just get LOOPTY-LOO CRAZY!!! Introverts are definitely crazy!!!😅😅😅 ( in a jokingly way)!!! After getting crazy worried, I need to recharge because it was so intense!!!
I'm positive I'm an introvert. You described a lot of the way I feel.
Take a personality test online, you could find out pretty easily
Honestly, this video actually made me feel so much more relieved and comforted. My past relationships have been tough, one of them kept complaining how silent I was, and I barely talk, like he doesn't like that about me. That made me upset, as if I'm not a good fit for them. Consequently they guilt tripped, and were so not respectful about my personal space or plans. People need to understand, for a healthy partnership, we must give one another their needed space and time. They must also know, that it isn't possible for telling them everything about what I'm doing today or who am I hanging out with. Surely I'm a loyal, but my boyfriend even used to get so jealous even if I wanted time to go out with my friends. So I'm really grateful for this wonderful video, it really made me feel calmer!
How selfish of them to guilt trip you for just not talking
@@hajimehinata5854 I know, that was really hard for me, thank you for acknowledging the way I felt ♡
Yeahh I agree with the other guy.. Just the fact that people guilt drip over such things is so disgusting, and especially to their partners that they're supposed to love and want the best for. It's honestly awful how some people just get into relationships selfishly, when you're supposed to make your partner comfortable and happy
I hope you find someone that can understand you better next!
Well thank you for the heads up I didn't do it, although asking what they're doing everyday was a thing I once did and I'm glad I slowed down there
I loved the Elsa, and Anna part of moving slowly. It was so funny and adorable. :)
Thank you! I have a friend who is an introvert, I am an extrovert, myself. I appreciate your videos. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable and am using this information to improve myself. Knowing that deep conversations are better than small talk, is most helpful. Thanks!
I'd say me and my ex are both introverts, and us sitting in silence kind of made me a little uncomfortable, because I could never tell if I was boring or we were enjoying doing our own thing. This led to me forcing some small talk, which I feel like I regret doing now, and I wish I realized that we were just spending some nice quiet time together. This video really helped me realize things about me that I haven't noticed before.
Don’t feel bad i going through the same thing
I’m Autistic and an Introvert. I like to be sociable, but I’m jaded thanks to years of bullying from my peers in school(my mother said I use to just go up to random people and say hi as a little kid). Pretty much everything in this video is who I want in a partner. One of my two favorite Christmas songs is “God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen” and in the song is the part of “tidings of comfort and joy”. I want the comfort to my joy. I’m a goofy guy who enjoys a good laugh and making people happy. But, I always have issues with Anxiety and Stress. I need someone who is willing to comfort me and calm me down when a panic attack comes along. I will obviously be there to make them smile when they’re sad or angry.
Also, I live next door to my parents in the middle of the country side. I want my future wife to be okay with a simple life; quiet and peaceful. I don’t like city life. Plus, it’d be nice to make a day of driving into the city every so often, just to get some things or see the sites. I also am okay with traveling to places for vacations. Just as long as I get my quiet time. Also, I am a religious person, and go to church on the regular. I hope she’ll want to go to church with me, or at least be accepting of my faith.
All in all, I want a wife who will want to enjoy spending her time with me in our nice country home, gazing at the beautiful views we have here, raising a happy family, and just being each other’s missing half.
Give yourself time to heal
honestly same
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I want someone who understands that "attention isn't love" because I love spending most of the time alone so giving that person much attention will do me no good
If you ignore or don't give the person enough attention they'll just turn all narcissistic against you. 🙄 Been through it many times before. 😐 I just immediately ghost them after so many times. It's honestly really annoying.
You might want to mention this to that specific someone because they'll either treat you differently (they might give you more attention or straight up ignore you) or go crazy thinking about whether they did something wrong or not
I agree
As an introvert myself, I found this video very insightful and relatable. I agree with most of the points that were made, especially about the need for space, understanding, and respect. I think these are essential for any healthy relationship, but especially for introverts who tend to get drained by social interactions and need time to recharge.
However, I also think that some of the things that introverts need in a partner are not exclusive to introverts. For example, having shared interests and values, being supportive and encouraging, and communicating honestly and openly are important for any couple, regardless of their personality type. I don’t think that introverts should limit themselves to only dating other introverts or people who fit a certain criteria. Sometimes opposites attract and complement each other well.
I also think that introverts should not use their personality as an excuse to avoid challenges or compromise in a relationship. Sometimes we have to step out of our comfort zone and try new things or meet new people for the sake of our partner. Sometimes we have to be more expressive and attentive to our partner’s needs and feelings. Sometimes we have to work on our own issues and insecurities that might affect our relationship.
I think that introverts can have successful relationships with anyone as long as they are compatible, respectful, and loving towards each other. It’s not about finding someone who meets all our needs perfectly, but someone who is willing to grow with us and make us happy.
Thank you Psych2Go for making this video! It was very informative and helpful. Keep up the good work!
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We don't use our personality like an excuse. We sometimes want to take the first step but we're struggling with it because we don't know what to say nor what to do because we don't want to hurt people or because we don't want to feel ashamed in front of others.
@@serialp2895 true
I have to admit. I found this video, to be one of the best videos you've done so far. Being an introvert, in a world where most people still don't understand the difference between the two... Yea... I appriciate material that highlights their differences... Thanks...
Thank you!
While I am an introvert and I feel as though this should be common knowledge I realize that a lot of people just don’t realize this about a lot of introverts and I really appreciate the awareness that this channel is spreading about introverts and personalities in general.
Since you're an introvert, I wonder if you'll get married in the future or not?
@@anonymousplayer8174 I also wonder that. I am currently in a pretty terrible place mentally but I keep on trying to push forward. If it worked out though I definitely want to get married and have kids. I don't think being an introvert directly decreases my chances of getting married but I do think that we go about it in a different way than extroverts do. How about you? Do you think you are/want to get married in the future/are you?
@@Starlighty16 I'm also an introvert and I do want to get married, but I only prefer women that is also an introvert like me
1:42 I feel like thats a reference I shouldn’t mention
As an introvert and someone with mental issues, this channel is godsend in explaining what's happening with me, calming down my fears of me having overly negative traits, etc... Thank you! Great video on this too, most of the stuff is relatable to me, I notice that in myself. And I do notice discomfort when I'm not able to satisfy some of these needs...
As an introvert, it’s a relief to see that it’s not only me that need these things. I sometimes feel annoying talking only about philosophical theories and talking so much. I’ve never been in a relationship before, but I hope I’ll find someone sooner or later.
As an introvert (INFJ) people who can appreciate my alone time is a huge one for me. I also am drawn to confidence because, in a way, it makes me feel confident to be with someone who is. My previous partner was neither of those things but I hope I can someday find someone who is
As a social introvert, this is quite literally a list of things I feel related to when it comes to romance.I don't like to jump straight into dating, so I rather meet someone beforehand who can gain my trust and know me better with patience and determination.
I already knew I was more introverted but it’s crazy just how much it hit here. Every point was right on the money. I still fall in the middle of intro and extroversion, but I definitely lean towards the latter.
As an introvert I think I want a partner who would, most importantly, not judge my weird ideas, but also value personal time and just peace overall.
In short, everything said in this video is true for me
REMAINDER TO EVERYONE:
Shyness and introvert are not the same thing or maybe you're just depressed. Don't do self diagnosting, refer to professionals if you need help. Love lots for my fellow introvert 🥰
Finally someone who understands
I am also shy and introverted lol.
You are so right but most of the time beeing introverted does come with shyness and they promote each other
You can be depressed but an introvert at the same time. One does not relate to the other but you can have both going on, you don't need any experts to see the obvious
Shyness goes along with being an introvert. It's not directly linked but it is pretty common. And depression has nothing to do with introverted/extroverted. It's something both suffer from. I am an introvert, and there have been points in my life where I was depressed. I lost my enjoyment for things I love. Just in my case that's music, fish, and being in the water, or enjoying the highlands of my home. Rather than partying, or socializing.
Never rush anything, it feels good to let things unfold, and real love takes time. Someone who will make you feel calm and peaceful even if you two are having your own time separately
The first relationship i was ever in, one of the hardest things I dealt with was that she didn’t understand personal space and alone time. She had to be in constant communication, and that caused stress in me that I didn’t expect.
Im an extrovert and have only had introvert partners. I think the fact that my dad, brother and more than half my cousins are all introverts helps me understand the need for quiet, space, a break etc with people I love. I prefer introverts as a partner as I think it helps balance out the dynamic 🙂
Hmm, over the course of time my friends to later on be partners were introverts aswell. Although I've seen that when I have an extroverted friend I rather feel introverted myself
As a introvert trying to put my first relationship into motion this definitely helped me find what I truly want in a relationship so that I can help me and my partner atleast have a chance at staying together for awhile. So far it's been rough but I'm sure I can make things work with just a little more understanding.
As an older introvert a piece of advice I would love to pass on would be, don't force it. There is somewhat a fine line between giving a relationship your very best shot, and trying to love or will a relationship to work. It absolutely sucks, but trust me it's better to realize it sooner rather than years later. Or having a kid with that person. Next thing you know you are "staying together for the kids" knowing full well you're lying to yourself. I've seen it many, many, many times.
The old adage "It takes two" is seriously accurate. Both people need to be willing to build something, and you can't and shouldn't try to make up for their deficit or lack of trying. It's not fair to you.... Not that I am saying that is what is happening with you, and quite frankly it is none of my business, but I wanted to help lol.
I wish you the very best!
@Sean Carter any advice on starting a relationship? I'm almost 30 and only ever had one gf in high school. Guess I've been so withdrawn that the concept of starting a relationship has become an impenetrable concept to me.
If your partner is extrovert, your marriage has little chance. It may not even worth saving because life would be too hard. If they are ambivert, then your marriage does have a chance. If they don't understand you, then they're extrovert. Life with an extrovert is too dramatic, too intense, too immature, too superficial, too unintelligent, too unwise, too judgemental. They will never appreciate you. You are never good enough. They like qualities that you find repulsive.
U never fail to impress….just get some satisfaction after seeing ur videos daily
i love how you allow your artists to insert references to different media! It adds so much personality to each video!
Thanks for your help. I wouldn’t be who I am today cause of you guys ❤️
I am an introvert and was dating an introvert. Because we both are introverts, I understand taking things slow and slowly progressing all too well. I was everything in the video mentioned to him. But after two months I asked him if he wanted to exclusively date. Keep in mind, I gave him all the room and space he needed to feel as comfortable as possible. We never fought nor did we had arguments. It took him hours to respond to my question, which he responded with, I want an open relationship. I cut ties.
Good to see you value loyalty. Polygamy just ends up hurting people.
I would be so glad if I'll be able to meet someone who is able to understand me even when I am not able to put my words together or when I am silent.😊❤️
I currently have a crush on an introvert, I am a more extraverted person, but maturity has brought me to be a little more introverted, through that I’ve learned to be okay in the silences and long pauses. While watching this I realized I’ve already learned to do all of this and I’m still learning more! Thank you!
I'm in the same situation rn. I'm trying to learn to be better for her but only time will tell how it will go. It's a struggle to get her to open up and tell me more about who she is and what her thoughts are but I've just gotta take it slow and realize she may never because she's so reserved but I really hope I get to see her open up one day. I want to know who she really is when she is out of her shell.
As an introvert, I love people who can just sit and listen to me. People I talk to think I am asking for help that only a professional could give. I'm not asking for help or advice but when you know someone's listening, it's like a huge layer of stress is gone. It's also cool to know someone cares. (This might just be me but I wanted to share my thoughts)
I’m definitely an introvert.
My ideal partner would be someone who’s sweet, gentle, likes video games like me, and who I can fully open up to without fearing an awkward response.
One of my nerdy passion topics is the idea of crossovers between universes. I’ve liked the idea ever since the original Super Smash Bros., and I like making deep stories out of crossovers. Someone who shared those interests would really make me smile!
Dude we should be friends, it's not really my main thing but I remember loving the idea of mixing my favorite universes and seeing how those characters would react to each other. I am also more introverted though, so I understand if your first reaction to that is "ahh I don't wanna talk to some random guy right now." (me too kinda lol)
But yes, I fuckin love video games that tell amazing stories (Half Life and Halo are my favorites) and I like being there for people when they need some pick-me-ups/help, so if you're down to talk sometime I'm sure we could figure something out.
Bro, no kidding. Crossovers are puzzling enough to be fascinating, but fun and casual enough to not be too overwhelming.
For crossovers, I often think of how characters from other franchises would fit into Sonic Riders or Super Smash Bros.
is your partner an introvert
Thank you for being constant.❤️
I love being introverted, but it's hard to find a partner with the same personality. I tried, but I wasn't lucky to find the right person. I thought I hit jackpot, but that was just words I wanted to hear. Understanding partner transformed to someone who can't understand a sh*t. When I wanted to be alone for a day, I was suddenly the worst person in the universe.
It’s strange, I used to be a complete introvert but as I got older I forced myself into more and more social groups and situations until I actually enjoyed them. I still have some introverted qualities, but I’m more of an extrovert now. I had honestly forgotten how it felt to be an introvert, so when I started dating my gf, I was constantly thinking something was wrong, that she was mad about something. I was getting worried that she didn’t want to be with me anymore, but this video actually perfectly describes what’s been happening, so I guess I just need to relax and let her open up in her own time
I feel you, man. same thing here. I was always a shy and introverted kid, probably as a self defense mechansism after I got bullied in middle school. I'm in my mid 20's now but it took me nearly a decade to learn how to open up and I've become quite extroverted now. It's awesome that you're here to learn about introvert behaviour for your girl. Best of luck to you guys.
Sort of similar I used to be very introverted and hated going to social situations, now I'm still introverted but enjoy going to parties and the like, but I need the next day or to to do nothing and recharge afterwards.
Extroverted Introverts are a thing. They find groups as nice as quiet, quality time.
You must have been ambivert who can be both extrovert and introvert. An introvert can never change to an extrovert. An extrovert also can never change to introvert.
I am the opposite of an introvert who became more open. I have locked all of the others out, live for solo camping or motorcycle trips.
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I hope we can get more of them and dig characters psychology
I especially want to see analys of 'Cookies of darkness'
As an introvert, i approve of this message. It doesn't share everything i want, but it does hit the more important ones.
This helps actually. I'm currently in a relationship with an introvert and watching this helped a lot to understand what I need to do in our next conversation. Thanks for sharing ^-^
Aww so sweet . As an introvert , I was so worried whether the boy I like (extrovert)would love to be in a relationship with an introvert. I don't know how I am going to act in front of him . 🥲
#5 is accurate for me. All my teen life i wasn’t always able to speak my mind. Whenever it was school or at home, No one really paid attention to what I had to say. I was usually silenced and i gave up trying to speak since my ADHD made me forget what i had to say if i didnt get it out.
As a slightly huge introvert, this is 100% what I need. I need lots of personal space at times and will stop talking and just want that silence. Many of my past partners took that personally and it’s really nothing to take personally. I still wanna hang out I just don’t feel like talking it’s nothing that you do that makes me stop talking it’s just me. I love alone time as well I love hanging out with people and would love to hang out with my future partner but if it’s too much or I just wanna be away from crowds I wanna stay home in my room or by myself
Yes to all of these. I'm an introvert who has never been in a relationship, but I want these things in a partner. I also want someone who can fully accept me for who I am. There is a lot about me that doesn't bleed through the surface.
Ma'am we love you for this kind of content, like being an introvert, it really feels good.
DDLC references in the thumbnail:
1: Background
2: Yuri's hair style (Not including her clip)
3: School Uniform (But opened, just like Sayori's)
4: The "Just Monika" type of pose when sitting on the desk
No wonder that thumbnail looked oddly familiar
This channel understands me better than some friends i know for many years. I dont know if that is amazing or terrifying
It's psychology. :)
I honestly really loved the art and style of the new animator, Kami! The little cat mouths look super cute, and I enjoy seeing a variety of styles here! The references of course were a lovely addition (though I may not have caught them all) -Undertale, Deltarune, Doki Doki Literature, and Frozen. :3
The video was great, too! I chuckled a couple times at the script to myself. As an introvert (an INFP to be specific) I liked some of the things you brought up!
As a male introvert, I only fall for people who make me feel like I'm ensured safety, especially while dealing with stuff at home, I have been single all my life, I haven't gotten much hope that I'll eventually date someone, most of the time I can't bring myself to say anything at all, I enjoy my alone time as well, I feel relaxed while I'm alone, but what I need in a partner is that they respect me for me in general, not just focusing on things I do, a person that doesn't care about looks at all, that just wants to be there for me, and help me succeed, and a person who I know I can trust and talk to about my trauma and problems, I am already talking to a friend about it, and she is kinda going through the same stuff I am
I'm an introvert, and I've always been told I can be guarded/shy when I first meet someone, though I've also been told (by other people) it's probably why I don't have a boyfriend because I won't immediately open up to a total stranger that I may or may not get along with. Relationships are hard, but I find starting one can be even harder.
i understand that its hard but to open yourself to someone you have to trust him first , you cant trust a stranger when you just met :) although if youd like i can take some time to talk to you if youre in your early 20's :)
@@kataphile4495 thank you for your concern, but I'll be alright. I know that things take time regardless of being an extrovert or introvert :)
Small talk pro tip: engage it and turn it into deep talk. There’s always a subject in small talk that you can engage into deeper talk
How do you do that? I only have small talk with a girl (I think we are friends), and don't know how to turn it into deeper conversation
@@CL-je6sv so, have for example: the weather. One person says “can you believe this weather?” You give your opinion and then try to segue that opinion into a deeper insight about the weather. Then try to go from there.
@@mrmister1335 I think I understand. Thanks
love the references, the tips are amazing and you can mostly relate to what they say. i absolutely love this channel's dating related videos, i have spent 2 legal nights watching these on a row and feel like more people have the right to know what this channel has to offer in relationship content
I'm an introvert, and honestly, most of what they're talking about, does apply to me. Sometimes, i just want a hugs, sometimes i want to talk about anything and everything for hours on end, and sometimes, i just want someone to keep me company, who understands, listens and is there for me. I don't go out as much as i used to, only because i'm extremely introverted and i'm also a bit shy. As a man, i think it's okay for us men to talk about our feelings, even if most of society just laugh at us and tells us to man up
4:03 normal relationships open up like an egg
Relationships with an introvert open up like a geode.
I hope that analogy makes sense lol
I know this is way late to say this but it kinda does make sense
I'm an introvert but I've been doing my best to be open more where I don't feel as nervous to talk to anybody or at least to me to not sound boring and I feel like I have gotten better. There was this girl who I really really liked and she basically had everything I had hoped for. Similar to me being an introvert but we shared the same interest, having a fun time talking even going on for hours, when I was down she would come and if she was down I would come. All in all, a joy to be around and I could go on tbh.
Eventually I grew feelings for her and I grew some confidences as well to tell her that I liked her a lot....but sadly she didn't feel the same way. I won't lie that still to this day it still hurts and here I thought I really found the one for me. We are still friends btw and I don't want us to grow distance from something like this. She is someone I care about and from her towards to me as well.
At this point in my life I have been taking "L's" after "L's" after "L's" and I know that's been affecting me mentally. But after thinking about love, failing to apply for any new job or possibly even my appearance not looking like a celeb or something thinking that I'm not even decent levels of attractiveness that it's to a point I have given up on things and myself that I don't really have anything positive to say anymore.
I know my comment went a bit off rails and it will probably be buried with the others but going back to what was originally asked, if I could have partner to do anything with...tbh it isn't much. I just want someone to hug me and tell me that everything is gonna be alright and just have fun and talk about things until the sun goes down. That's all I want. Is that to much to ask for?
No, no it's absolutely okay to go off topic to Express how you feel. It's always good to talk to people to tell them how you're been feeling. Some of us appreciate you for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate you for sharing, so thank you.
Omg basically going through same thing, keep your head up,n everything will work out In the end
"@@ps4gaming742 ryt on :)
I just want someone who doesn't get annoyed when I don't talk. Forced conversations are the worst!
As an extrovert, it’s nice to see that I’ve been doing what introverts appreciate. When I was with my ex, I was always worried that I was doing something wrong and that she didn’t want to spend time with me but she was just more reserved and shy.
I'm an introvert, and this basically sums up what I want in a partner but its kinda difficult to find people who have some of these qualities. Mainly letting me have my alone time, I really cherish my time by myself.
It's extremly rare to find such a partner, and it's even more rare to find a female partner who's like that. An introverted man is only admired from a distant, but they all go crazy once they experience a relationship with one.
I've always been an extroverted and talkative. I find myself exhausted and constantly feeling like I need to entertain my partners as well as friends/family. I recently started seeing a woman who is the opposite of who I typically spend time with and for the first time I feel relaxed being around someone im interested in. No small talk, just kind words, deep conversations, and time to think in between statements.
Deep conservation include what??
OMG Doki doki undertale and deltarune reference
more reasons to love this channel
0:11 Undyne&Alphys
0:20 Noelle&Susie
0:55 Frisk&Asriel
0:57 Natsuki&Yuri
I mostly consider myself to be somewhere on the middle of the spectrum (or an ambivert, as some like to call it), but I sure do have my ”introvert moments”. I think the most important trait for me in a partner is that they understand when I'm quiet or not in the mood to talk. Also, as mentioned in the video, things moving too fast sometimes gets uncomfortable, so I like when my partner asks for my input before we move forward with the relationship.
3:15 The high pitched voice caught me off guard.
We need a video on "You should get an introvert as your partner."
There might be a video similar to this, they've covered a lot of subjects like that one
Very helpful, I am an introvert, love time alone, hate small talk... and have never found a partner that I could stand for more than about 3 months and now I know why.
This channel makes me feel safe 💖
I love the first one. Nothing is better then just sitting next to each other in silence
I also find it really comforting if your in a bad mood or crying. Sometimes you don’t want to talk about it but having someone just right there next to you is really nice.
I once had a relationship who would almost NEVER give me alone time. It went to the point when I wondered why every time they went to work, it was far less draining than talking to them 💀
We haven't talked for more than 5 minutes in 5 years. Our relationship which isn't official yet is based on kindness, patience, loyalty, and lots of touching. Plus we have this intense connection and I feel like sometimes I communicate with her telepathically. She's more introverted so I'm waiting for her to get fully immersed and trust me. But I can give her what she needs because I need the same things.
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Love ❤️ is the greatest. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
Even though I say this as an introvert (INTJ), confidence strikes me as essential in relationships universally. There are other points mentioned in the comments as someone accepting you for who you are, and in fact, don't portray an introvert's differences from other extroverts as a mistake. The preference for conversations with deep approaches and appreciation of quality time are responsible for creating special bonds, however, once you make a bad judgment or try to adapt it, you will destroy this possibility, inevitably being considered like everyone else, cultivating a certain contempt, which will make being with you uncomfortable.
As an introvert, this is so true ☺️❤️
I don't know why I watched this untill the end with so much focus and understand all of the topics that have been discussed.