The Only Dating Advice You'll Ever Need!
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- Опубликовано: 17 май 2024
- Do you have trouble in the dating world? Do you just wish you could find your perfect someone without all the complications of dating? Well… good luck with that! … Just kidding. The dating scene can become frustrating for all of us who’ve had our fair share of bad dates. So, maybe you just need a bit of advice to help you get the ball rolling again? We made this video to help you out!
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Long, J. (2013, May 13). 10 Dating Do's and Don'ts From 6 Therapists. Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl....
Manson, M. (2020, December 23). Every Successful Relationship Is Successful for the Same Exact Reasons. Mark Manson. markmanson.net/relationship-a....
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"Be careful who you start dating. A lot of people ain't looking for love, they're looking for help" - Johnny Bravo
I've seen that a lot..so annoying
@@priscillajimenez27 Can we really blame em
He actually said that??
seriously, this guy is the new owo the commenter.
Be careful,you are the wrong mind...
You attract what you think....
“My grandmother once told me never fall in love with the ones who give you butterflies, because butterflies are a sign of uncertainty and you find your self asking, do they like me? Instead fall in love with someone who makes you feel safe, calm and warm, that’s who you fall in love with.”
You just boom my mind !! thank you!!!
That's the one that cheated on me.
@Garen A.P join the furry community, sooner or later you will become one
@@ajvarninja415 LMFAOOOO
I had that once. she made me feel safe and calm in her warm hug, but we split up and I lost contact with her after certain unfortunate events that didn't involve her. Now I have no way of contacting her, and ever since its been hard to find someone in person like that.
I mean also COVID and all makes it certainly more difficult to find that and also the fact I don't got a means of transportation yet.
Step 0: Find a Date
Some of y'all afraid to be corny, but I was born on the cob 🌽
@@Zed7762
That was so cheesy i gotta throw hands
Come here, ill give ya a pizza me!
@@user-se8qc9mr5m Good one
Can you make a tutorial on it its too hard for me
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The best advice my ma gave me is “don’t take away someone else’s right to choose” meaning if you find flaws in yourself don’t hide those flaws, let the other person decide if they can live with those flaws or not.
Well said
This is a great advice. I say it to myself from time to time, but often forget about it. So thanks for reminding 😊
Does things that can't go wrong will go wrong when you're around ?
I am flat and I can imagine it can be a problem for a lot of guys if we were to get together. So I would often make jokes about it and try to introduce it before we'd want to get deeper into a relationship. It was kinda funny and awkward with my boyfriend though and he still can't really accept it. I mean not like he is going to break up with me or it is that big of a problem, but this little flaw I have actually allows me to make the right judgements about people's feelings. I mean, yes, it would definitely be a nice bonus, but also, there he is, tolerating it, because he has no other choice. He loves me the way I am. So much so that he will even tolerate this despite his preferences.
You are certainly right and it is not even that hard to do. Especically when you turn your flaw into your stength. It also allows you to make yourself feel better since you dont ever need to worry about accidentally revealing these flaws. This kind of stress should never be in a healthy relationship.
Agree 👍 as you hide your flaws to be loved you will have to keep hiding them for the rest of your life, which it's mentally draining, not to mention that you wouldn't be loved for who you are but would be loved the person that you pretend to be
“Just because your date doesn’t like Star Wars as much as you, doesn’t mean they can’t be the perfect match”
How many other lies have I been told by the council?
Many
I spent time watching Soy Luna, Ana de las Tejas verdes, Liv and Maddie, The Simpson’s, read multiple bibles, listen to old people, watch my dysfunctional family, went to school in different places, heard old people that at this point watching Star Wars is a waste of time because they would just keep saying the same stuff I already learned so thanks. For some reason I thought it was a quality when it wasn’t.
@@yourphantomsoul6642 lol wut
@@zollja7625 agreed, no clue what that person is on about 😂
@@nellucthegreat8615 I’m an immigrant who had no idea what Star Wars was and the schools I went into in America were raised on it. I thought I wouldn’t be like or accept it for it, I agree with the comment 😅
“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone.
It’s not.
The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.”
-Robin Williams
RIP to a legend
Unfortunately, we live in a time where love is a tool for women
Would you mind elaborating?
Truth.💯
Sad fact he was sick not depressed
My issue isn't bad dates, it's that I can't get any dates. I don't know how to meet people, and when it seems like I might be able to ask someone out, something happens that makes it not work. I thought I was picking up hints from someone then found out they have a boyfriend already. I asked someone else out and they said yes then got bronchitis then wasn't interested anymore. Things like that. And then some of my friends tease me for my lack of success, and that just hurts.
It’s all good bro, just gotta be confident and keep trying. We’ve all had our fair share of issues and rejection, but if it was easy it would just be boring and shallow. You just gotta chill out and not care what their response is when you ask. Dont think about it because there is nothing to think about. Just ask a question and move on, it’s really that simple. At the end of the day if they say no or if something happens, you didn’t lose anything, it was their loss
First off, your friends are awful, when a bro needs a wingman you don't put him down, instead you get kidnapped by ninjas so he can rescue you in front of his date, like wingman should.
Secondly, don't be hard on yourself, shit happens, it sucks, take the time to heal. but you gotta get back up on your feet and try again. Dating is a numbers game, we get rejected more than we succeed (unless you're an absolute Adonis or lying), that's just math.
So keep working on yourself, be the best version of yourself you can be and keep trying. It may take a while, and it will hurt sometimes. But you can do it, bro.
Ended up skipping the first date I would have had ever because my best friend needed a shoulder to cry on that night. Looking back, should have gone.
I've been there. A couple of things I've learned: a relationship can only improve, or diminish happiness, it won't give you happiness itself, so you need to learn to be happy (at least a little) while single. Desperation will turn off all women, except the wrong ones. Finally, understand that there are things worse than being single, please learn this from me, so you don't have to learn it first hand. Learn what are red flags, and watch for them (this will actually help you too, women are actually more attracted when they sense that they are also being evaluated for worthiness).
@@GladOs2022 Thanks, I appreciate your kind words. Ultimately I know this isn't permanent.
In the beginning I thought you were gonna say according to statistics only a small percentage of you are actually dating someone
Lmao...I thought the exact same thing 😭
Same here 😂
😅
that would be so brutal lmao
Probably accurate given the content!
Another advice:
Don't go in a romantic relationship if you only feel pity, guilt and sympathy to a person.
*NEVER*
Oi, don't say that you are turning them away from me!
yes
OR if you feel guilty to yourself for being single for too long or pity yourself because you feel like nobody wants you
For real 😩
Very good advice, people that use pity and guilt usually have behavioral disorders. Get to know a person well before any commitments.
My biggest advice: Find someone who you don't always feel pressured to entertain. If you're able to just chill in a quiet room with them, are able to do your own thing without the pressure of feeling like you HAVE to talk to them, then you guys are already a fairly good match.
The reason I say this is because most people have a "recharge" phase, where you recover from being drained of energy. If you're still able to spend time with them DURING your "recharge" phase, you found a pretty compatible partner.
I don’t completely agree. I like the first half of what you said. But for me personally, I need isolation to fully recharge, so I can’t be around anyone if I want to reset myself, whether my girlfriend or anyone else
well I feel that way with 99% of my friends but that doesn't mean I like any of them romantically xD
@@LobitaSpaumeadora You missed my point. This has nothing to do with attraction, this is all about compatibility. Whether that's a romantic partner or a good friend, this is basically just to see if two people can get along.
@@micahhoffman3519 That's fair. Everyone "recharges" in their own way. Just like how some people like to talk things out right after a fight, or prefer to sleep it off till morning. Only you know what's best for yourself~
@@LeedleLee457 ah sorry the video is about dating so I thought you were talking only about it
but tbh I'm comfortable with all my friends and some of them even distanced themselves from me idk why lol
I think you can simultaneously love yourself and feel alone alone. Some of the comments make it seem it's either one or the other; You either love yourself and are content or don't and feel miserable. I love my company but am at an age where I love to share things with someone else, and being alone does not allow me to do that. You can also simultaneously grow and better yourself with somebody else. It is all very individual, really.
I agree completely, I travelled alone for almost a year and I'm a natural extrovert, making friends was easy...But I'd rather share those memories with someone who will always (in theory) be around and can help me grow even more. If you've been in love before you'll remember how it feels. No amount of self-development or self-love can replace or equal the feeling of unconditional love you get from a partner.
This!!!🙌
Humans are not meant to be alone you want to be alone because you been hurted alot to just an excuse
Thank you
I'm watching this video in retrospect of my first foray into dating. My first girlfriend, as much as I loved and respect her, was someone who was very stuck in her own past and often refused to help herself. Pretty much every conversation we had eventually became her chance to shittalk her exes and people in her family, and I often had to deal with her complaining about her stalkers and refusing to do anything about them. She dug her own holes and then got upset that she forgot a ladder.
We were also MUCH too similar, to the point where a lot of the time she knew way more about my interests than I did. Our conversatioms were fun, yes, but I rarely ended up learning anything new.
Because of her past problems, she was very afraid of intimacy. She would always talk about doing things with me, but when we went out together, she shied away from physical contact, which is my love language. I understood why she was like this (I was apparently the first person she dated who wasn't a piece of shit) but I still couldn't help but feel like I was doing something wrong. I have autism, so I struggle with communication, but I tried to make my intentions as clear as possible and yet it never seemed to change much. She would always hold me at arm's reach. I walked her home every other day but even then, she'd leave me at a street corner and never let me come over or even know where she lived. We were together for 6 months.
We broke up a couple of months ago. Every time I would mention my issues with her, she would deflect them back onto me and say I simply wasn't trying hard enough. She had a friend in her ear lying about me and trying to convince her that I wasn't worth it, and that, combined with the fact that I get sick and sleep a lot, led to her distrusting me way more than she had any reason to. We both decided that it was our best option to separate but remain friends, and to this day we're still close pals. She claims to still be obsessed with me and wants me to try again because she knows better now, but nothing could repair the fact that I simply just didn't feel that way anymore.
I've been talking to another girl, someone who I feel matches the energy that I need to balance out my own. Not someone identical to me, someone who I can still learn more from, but not someone so far detached from my interests. I'm a fairly shy, submissive guy, so in order to balance that out, I'm in need of a more confident woman, and I feel like I've found one this time around.
If anyone sees this, please wish me luck, and thank you for reading. Have a great day, whereever you are.
Good luck my guy!
I'm pretty thankful for my ex, but there's some similarities so I can relate to your experience. But good luck bro! Love from NorCal 🌲
I hope your new relationship works. Sounds like you were in a relationship with a narcissist
I’m going through same what you went through!!
I think our exes might be the same person
This video will only work if you meet someone finally doesn’t ghost you
Good point
Thank you for the clarification
Yes i agree.
If you are being ghosted by a male or female look at it as a positive it’s for a reason that person isn’t your person and who would want to date somebody that’s not consistent universe step it always reason for things happening 🙏🏻❤️
Or someone who's actually interested
"Just because your date doesn't like Star Wars as much as you doesn't mean they cant be the perfect match"
*It's treason then*
*I A M T H E S E N A T E*
During his wedding, my brother announced he knew his wife was The One when they were in the store and she said "Hey. Star Wars."
@@Yaboisambeezy *_not yet!!_*
@@your_average_cultured_dude tornado spin with lightsaber
@@shadowwart3113 *demonic Sith shrieking* 🗡️🌪️
The problem with me is: I don't get to know many people, because I study Pharmacy, so I have very little time for... getting to know people on a deeper level :( I have lost my confidence and "game", and I honestly don't feel like going through all the trouble to find someone that can be interested in me. I also just feel like no girl notice me. I have honestly started giving up when it comes to love but I really wish I could just accidentally find that one person who will like me back the way I like them :(
I met my gf during class (okay 66% of my education (biomedical engineering) consists of girls so big playing field). So reach out to some people who you share class with, create study groups and see if you click with someone. Good luck!
It was the same for me, but trust me there are no accidents... And the extra issue is as you get older, the window of people available slowly closes, plus if your goal is to eventually start a family, then women in your age range slowly but surely get more and more infertile... Then you have to date younger people, and it gets even harder because you can be seen as a creep especially nowadays, and if you weren't successful when they were your age, how could you be now...
What I can say about this is focus on your goals instead of trying to find a girl right now. Be yourself and explore your interests, one good way to get practice is if you work somewhere that serves or caters food with girls as your co workers then play around with them. Get your chin up and leveled with your chest puffing out a little then start with little compliments with what you notice they have. I found it easier to talking with the quiet ones since I was also a quiet one before and I kinda had an idea of what to say and such. If you havent yet, then start working out. It doesnt have to be complex, it can be as simple as jogging every morning for 8 mins or doing 10 push ups everyday. You can then work your way up as you learn and get stronger. Lastly get that 8-9 hour sleep, if it means dropping your games to make time for that sleep do it, it will be worth it in the long run. Enjoy your grind, be patient about it, nothing comes easy in life.
@@warlord302slayer3 "focus on your goals instead of trying to find a girl right now" I disagree, it's been 7 years since I dated. But I sure am in the exact place in life that I want to be in otherwise, you know what would have been great? To have shared the experience of the rollercoaster of getting there with someone else.
I absolutely should have tried to paired off with the several high quality women who I managed to attract in college by being an authentic slightly ambitious nerd. The thing I needed was to find a place to be out socially and literally a basic game-plan of like "ask if single -> invite to art museum on campus, expand to walk if going well, get snack -> 2nd date -> decide if should continue dating or not."
But I will say, "you attract who you are" when I was a high school dropout good women rejected me but miserable one's flocked to me and when I improved and went to college that flipped: the unhealthy physically/emotionally/mentally/etc self selected away from me and the good ones sought to connect. So I would only say work on yourself if you are getting rejected by the women you want and are only attracting the wrong kind of women. (Although if wrong is something like "ambitious girls when you just want to vibe", you need to change how you present yourself)
maybe focus on the money goal, considering that's all you'll do your entire life, and they know it as well.
My problem doesn't lie with finding the perfect person, I'm just trying to find A person.
Hello, I'm a person 😃
😂
@@IRosamelia😂
@@umutkara739 ZombieBacon couldn't find me ☹
Just like me for real
"Do you just wish you could find your perfect someone without all the complications of dating? Well, good luck with that."
*ROLL CREDITS*
*Seinfeld theme plays* 😁😁
*Directed by Robert B. Weide*
Why did I read this just when it was said in the video? Lmao
Lmao the *ROLL CREDITS* really pulled it together
Thats why im still single for 7 years
This video is way too advanced for me. Can we start this course with “Talking to the opposite sex for idiots” please.
Oh not only opposite just how to talk to anyone XD
Step 1: talk
Just talk to them like you would anyone, with respect. Trust me, they don't rlly care if you say something dumb or embarassing. Hopefully this helped?? Unless ur joking idk
Here’s some advice from a certified femal human lol. Biggest one is to be nice and approachable. Also, know what you like in a girl so you can see which ones you know you immediately wouldn’t like. If there’s 5 girls in your school or area that are interesting you, just try to talk to them a bit or maybe do some team work with them. Just a lot of simple stuff, like doing a group project, saying good morning. Once you feel like you’ve established yourselves as friends, find her snap and send her something funny like a meme or something. Getting someone’s snap is easier than getting their number. Don’t do pickups yet since you’re still fiends in this situation. If she responds with another meme or something or at least she responds then you’re on the right track. Try to get closer friend wise and maybe hang out with her friends super casually and send her more memes or something. Just try to be chill and be good friends. From that point on, you could go further if she seems interested, like going to dinner or the movies together. Worst case scenario (which is honestly a good scenario) you have a new friend that has a lot in common with you
@@omni8568 I have this anxiety problem where if I pass people or they pass me and look at me for more than a second I instantly think they are judging me, so I stay far away and avoid eye contact with pretty much everyone
A lot of these tips can also be applied to making normal friendships as well. My tip, not that I feel qualified to give one, is to not overthink it. This can be hard, but feeling loose during social interactions will make things go better. Like stretching before a run.
Step 1: get a date
Hardest part
Instruction unclear: I now own July 8th 😂
Omg so real
I wish people were this transparent when it comes to dating but everyone has games to play
Truth
Yeah exactly its so tiring
fax
Agreed. Early 20s dating sucks. Everyone’s so immature, sometimes including myself
@@shortty7618 it will get better when women will be more mature. But it still depends on each, every person is different.
And always remember, my girlfriend taught me this one, you don’t have to be perfect to be perfect for someone.
thats a very comforting phrase and also your girlfriend sounds adorable
Meh, i would have something to say about it. Yea,sure, it's probably caused by my gigantic pessimism, but i can't see that and think that's reasonable. I've been the best in my class for 5 years, nothing. I've been average in other things, nothing. Let's just be honest with ourselves and understand that if you're not cute you're not going to achieve anything about this matter.
@@nicolobernard8902 Not sure I understand what you're talking about.
@@forgiveness7959 It seems like this dude's definition of perfection is getting good grades/results
Well, I'm an exception. I'm not perfect for nobody, and nobody is perfect for me. Thank you, I'll take my double whammy now...
I've been a fan of your channel for a while now, and I always appreciate the quality of your content. You do a great job of explaining complex psychological concepts in a way that is both engaging and informative.
I love how most of this all of this boils down to just being a good person not being half hearted or also being open to communication.
Just remember to not be addicted to having a bf/gf. You also have to be comfortable being with yourself
Edit: who said any of you had to be in a relationship one day or another?
THAT IS THE "PERFECT" ADVICE.....Being true to 'yourself' for 'yourself' and then it just may happen !!!!
@@josephinetyree1476 true
Great advice! Love and know yourself before you give love to others.
Addiction is always bad.
The problem is we often feel like that we need that "other person" who will make life a lot more bare-able.
I clicked on this then realized I was getting ahead of myself; this is for people IN the dating world, not sad idiots who have literally never gotten into it even once...
ALOT, if not all, dating advice and dating coaches seem to miss that.
Coach: Remember back in High School...
Me: uh, No?
Coach: Let me finish!
Me: Sir, I never dated in High School!
Coach: What? FINE, college then.
Me: Nope. School full time, and worked 25 to 30 hours per week at a grocery store to pay for it. Plus it was an engineering program at a Community College. No women attended that program.
Coach: The weekends then.
Me: I'm in the national guard. The weekends I'm not at drill, I'm working the store remember?
Coach: At work then. Any women interest you there?
Me: Sir, I work construction, there are no women. Put on a hardhat and tool belt, and I'll show you.
Hey a little advice from someone who was just like u but is now 'in the dating world', find something creative you genuinely love and are passionate about. Be authentic and don't worry what others think so much bcuz ppl find that really attractive. Don't watch any dating coaching videos on RUclips because people in real life aren't as simply as that, and you've just gotta let it go naturally, don't chase too much. And get out there. Ik it can be scary it was for me but when u meet ppl who like the same stuff as u it's such a great feeling. You're only a sad idiot for as long as you believe you're one. And for someone else to love you, you need to love yourself first.
@@bwmanhath3770 Assuming I can afford it.
Right now, I have a mortgage to pay.
Some of us have to do actual work around here.
@@bwmanhath3770 "get out there" That phrase by itself means absolutely nothing.
@@WhiteScorpio2 that's why I followed it with meeting ppl who have similar interests to you. I.e. going to clubs bout things u like or gay bars or church idfk I'm antisocial af but it worked for me. Basically what I mean is being open, and happy with yourself and your appearance. I hated my face for years, dyed my hair red put on tons of makeup even tho I'm a boy. And my social anxiety has straight up disappeared
Thanks for these!!! I went on my first real date with someone last week and I feel it went really well, to the point where I can’t wait to see him again. I’ve never felt this way before and since I also have ADHD and tend to be quite impulsive I was worried about coming on too strong and scaring him away. This list was perfect. Thank you so much!
Thanks for not giving obvious answers these actually really help thanks :)
That one friend who gives S-tier relationship advice and still is single
getting into relationships =/= doing relationship well
In the fishing hole of life, some people are strictly catch and release.
Ha me
They guide others to a treasure they cannot possess
They sacrifice themselves so they can help others.
A good friend once reminded me:
Relationships aren't like movies, like, at all.
They'll be many MANY moments where you are awkward, uneasy, embarrassed, or have said the complete wrong thing. Life isn't scripted - its impossible to have the perfect line all the time, and it happens to everyone. If you ever make a mistake in a relationship or do something you thought was stupid, don't worry, it happens to everyone, and to both sides of the relationship. Chances are in a few days you'll feel perfectly normal again. It will be hard to stop thinking about what happened, but with time you will stop caring. (This is coming from someone who just messed up a few days ago - and now I feel fine.) If your partner and you can move on from such occasions with ease, you know you're into the right person.
This is such nice advice thank you for sharing it
Thank you that makes me feel so much better!
It was really worth it to read it till the end
Yeah but EVERY time on a first date? I know I'm going to say something wrong because I open my mouth basically.
@@marksherrit5874 I know it can often seem like that but remember that whoever you are on a date with won't notice many of the things you perceive yourself as awkward, because it's way easier to think and worry about what you said yourself than think or care about what someone else said.
I enjoy the content of your videos! I enjoy the whole Aesthetic of the video and it has helped me navigate, think, and reevaluate how I approach the dating scene. So thank you!
I met my boyfriend in a precollege study course, we clicked right from the start and all our friends noticed how we were very compatible, we became close friends in the matter of two months or so. the more we got to know eachother the more things we realized we had in common, from the way we perceived life, to absolutely loving mango juice, lol. I also found him to be kind, intelligent, and safe. it only took few dates for me to realize he's the one I want to share the rest of my life with. the thing is, we didn't feel "pressured" at any point of those stages, even though looking back at it now, it was somehow obvious to everyone including ourselves that we'd eventually end up together. like all the signs were right there. I'd say you hit the nail right on the head with all the advice you gave in the video. 💞
That sounds great. I’ve heard lots of times people finding others with pretty much the exact same interests-it’s foreign to me tho..
Can we be friends?🥺
Why does it happen to some people like you so easy?
Congratulations
Me being single since birth be like: * *takes note of this seriously* *
Same
Lol, same! Gotta be prepared
Same. Imma save this video
Same.
Honestly if you are a guy, you probably will be for the rest aswell. it sucks.
Best dating advice: Throw away your list of what you're looking for and focus on being who you should be. Yes, I found the love of my life that way, we spent 20 years together before she passed. Now I'm focused on being the right man, should a 2nd right woman ever come along.... and if she doesn't, at least I'll be becoming the best version of myself.
ooh that's rough. good luck to you good sir
Thank you, burger
That is the way to go. Always trying to be the better version of yourself. I am going this way too.
Wish you the best man..... Losing them after 2 decades.... Idk how I'd deal. I guess the most positive thing is you HAD them for 20 years!! 🥰
must've been hard to lose someone after 20 years. at least you didn't lose yourself and wasted 20 years of your sorry ass lonely life like me
There was a lot in this video that I needed covering, and I even did some personal peptalk. Finding the one is very special and is a lifelong experience with another person, which makes it all the more special to have two viewpoints through your journey. Very great videos I subscribed.
I broke up with my first love a few months ago, and I made almost every mistake in this video. I rushed and didn't let intimacy to progress naturally, I controlled our conversations with all kinds of story without asking about her feelings. I tried to get back with her, and she also tried, but we just can't. I was still a child in love, while she wanted a more "mature" relationship. I has been holding on a tiny hope, but I supposed I have to stop, because she seems giving up.
To her : Thank you for being my first love. From the bottom of my heart, I hope you'll find a better man and live happily
I got even better advice. Learn to make friends with people you're attracted to even if you're not gonna date them. This allows you to see the personality more so when the time comes you wont be too focused on looks and be blinded to the personality.
I like that. Often find myself intimidated by people i find attractive and shrug it off with saying "i dont wanna be another guy who approaches the girl because of looks" even if the intention was to get know them as a person as well as you stated
@@Necro_fury I didn't learn this from anywhere just thought analytically about the whole thing because i did date a girl that was beautiful but her personality was beyond hostile. I thought about why we're always blinded by looks (guys mostly). and also i thought about how i'd feel if someone only wanted to date me or nothing like they want no part of my soul if its not dating and it felt like it's a business arrangement. I like when people care about how i act and what i am interested in, and i am sure a lot of people too. we want someone to invest in what defines ourselves.. our souls.
Indeed. I've never dated anyone, but I don't trust visual interests anymore. I've had a couple of appearance based crushes and what did they give me? Pain. And not a single piece of relationship. Now I rather prefer to find friends, whom I might theoretically and in a blue moon become interested towards; even if I don't, it's better than getting hurt/demotivated again because of realising, that a certain person is boring just 'cept of the appearance.
Well this will get you tons of confused friendships. Plenty of guys our there playing the friendship card when they should have just said they like someone.
don't only be friends with someone hoping it will lead to more though, i have a few guy friends who seemed super nice to begin with but later wanted more, i wasn't into them and it made things very awkward... if you're okay with staying friends that is one thing, but don't enter a friendship with ulterior motives please
I'm not interested in being in a relationship but I'm still watching this.
Me too!
Me too bro
Same. Could be useful.
Samw
Same here, but it will be useful one day.
I've been working really hard on my school work and other responsibilities so that I can be able to have enough time for some soul searching, so as soon as I'm done catching up with all this work and internship stuff I'm going to try to find the one. Thank you very much for this video and I hope you have a good day.
I don't watch your channel much nowadays, but I still can't get over how charming and adorable the characters, situations and your sweet voice are. 🥺
1. Respect
2. Allow intimacy to progress naturally
3. Don't limit yourself to one type
4. Communication is Key
5. Focus on who you are now
6. Don't alter who you are
7. Don't control the conversation
8. Be with someone for the right reasons
Also, the title page supposed to be for point 6 is indeed the title page for point 8
If you don't trust me, go have a look at 3'11"
@@misanthropeimmortel I just checked. Thank you!
Thanks
@@IshaSharma11 you're welcome 🥰
you're an angel 🌼
"While some of us think our perfect partner will meet our criteria..."
My criteria:
-Be a woman
-Be human (Optional)
-Have the capacity of thinking
-Dont want to kill me(Optional)
-Have (at least) a hole
@@fromant65 reading that made me uncomfortable
@@OneAndZer0 you are welcome
-Be woman (optional)
@@OneAndZer0 discomfort is always good ;_
Why do they always give advice for _after_ you've gotten the date ??? The earlier steps are infinitely harder.
I think this video is great advice for those looking to navigate the dating scene. It's important to be respectful and allow intimacy to develop naturally. Highly recommend!
the only dating advice you’ll ever need:
don’t.
@Glory ForFreedom a romantic? what’s that
@@majormoistme1030 not interested in romantic relationships
Thanks bro
That is true 🤷♂️
my virgin detector is off the charts
"I'm worried you don't like my food."
"Yea, ur food taste like shit, just being honest."
Hey guys now I'm single.
😂
You got me😂😂😂😂
If you would phrase your feelings differently and more professionally, your partner might not realize that you hate the food she prepared. You could also give criticism for improvement.
What i think when i read the comment: 😂
I cant even try these things because a women already rejects me for a date.
I am 31 year old have been single my whole life. Not because I want to. Because of every womem rejected me. And no women eber showed interest in me. Never a hug, a kiss or a realationship. Hell not even a date. If its involuntary its no easy life.
@@Lopolin_LP Almost like it was a joke about taking honesty too seriously 😐
What an amazing channel. So innocent and well delivered. Great work ❤
Your content is both informative and entertaining. Perfect combo! 🌟
“Just because your date doesn’t like Star Wars as much as you, doesn’t mean they’re not the perfect match”
YOU WERE LIKE A BROTHER TO ME, PHYCH2GO, I LOVED YOU
YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO DESTROY THE SITH NOT JOIN THEM!!!
@@ambulanceparty428 YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO BRING BALANCE TO THE FORCE NOT LEAVE IT IN DARKNESS
That's like my only criteria lmao all the people I've dated either liked star wars or liked it after I made them watch it.
@@Joeyyyyyyyyy hmmm the converter
*TRAITOR*
"Just because your date doesn't like Star wars as much as you, doesn't mean that you can't be the perfect match"
*Sorry, but you can't UNconvince me that "hello there" is a pick up line*
As long as you don't pull out your 'lightsaber' at the start of the first date 😬
I once said 'hello there' to my crush.
She didn't get it.
But her friend did. And since then. I'm still single.
@@awadi6596 is there a meaning behind "hello there? 😅
@@io100x100 if you watched star wars and/or memes. Yes
“Just because your date doesn’t like She-Ra as much as you, doesn’t mean that you can’t be the perfect match”
Really glad to see Tip 2 here. I have frequently run afoul of the "honesty policy" in more ways than one and have learnt the hard way. It's nice to have this lesson validated and references are nice. I thought it was too stereotypical or Hollywood-y to constantly conceal feelings but I guess there's truth to it. Some stronger peer-reviewed references - if possible! - would be fantastic for this kind of information too.
edit: tips 5 and ...6?... I'm glad are here. As obvious and "common" they might seem to be.
Thank you for a lot of great tips - narrated with such a beautiful, friendly voice!!! ❤❤
"Just because your partner doesn't like star wars as much as you do, doesn't mean you can't connect."
BLASPHEMEY
YOU DARE QUESTION MY STANDARDS?!?!
I'm the 69th Like! Awesome giggity!
It's a trap!
ROFL!
“It’s treason, then”
Only Dating Advice You’ll Ever Need:
1. The most important thing? Respect 0:41
2. Allow intimacy to progress naturally 1:08
3. Don’t limit yourself to one type 1:42
4. Communication is key 2:15
5. Focus on who you are now 2:46
6. Don’t alter who you are 3:11
7. Don’t control the conversation 3:43
8. Be with someone for the right reasons 4:08
I hope that I, a time traveler, could help! ❤️
Two weeks ago?
TWO WEEKS AGO?
two weeks ago?? is that a trick??
Teach me how to time travel!🤗🤗
Thank you, traveler from the future!
I don't want a boring person tho lol
This is a great video. I have seen a few people who go out of their way to make somebody like them, just to see them burn out. The time they stayed true to themselves meant they not only gained more confidence, but also more meaningful relationships.
No, stop being a wimp
Thank you, you guys are a blessing. I thank you so much, you helped me through my mental illness. Right now im doing fine again and got therapie. Thanks a lot guys !
One thing I always tell myself is:
"I wanna be in a relationship to share my happiness, not to gain my happiness."
And I think it's an good healthy way of wanting to go into a relationship. (When I meet someone atleast, haha)
Just thought maybe someone needed to hear this sentence.
Yeah I needed that
thank you
@@thesuperkplesbofanhithere3118 I'm so glad I was able to help! I didn't believe in it at first, but yeah. You're welcome. :))
Dude, these are words to live by.
Really wise!
@@gaborfabian1239 Yeah, I honestly think so too. So I basically live by them already, haha
I saved this video a long time ago but only watched it today. And I think it was for the best because, if I heard this before, I probably wouldn't have listened to any of it. But now that I have learned everything the hard way, I appreciate this video a lot more.
Wow, now watching this i realized that i would have avoided so much in the past if i have watched this on time, thank you for the information by the way, appreciate it!
Although it’s true that the advice of “Be Yourself” is a bit overused, it’s true. Although a person CAN get into a relationship by pretending to be someone they’re not, any relationship formed this way is likely to be unhealthy. On the other side, it’s okay to want to impress someone, but it’s best to do it by being the best version of yourself, instead of someone else. Thanks for reading, and please take care of yourself. ❤️
Then again, "myself" is a nerd who loves to sit at his PC eating unhealthy food. I got told quite often I need to change such habits if I want to meet somebody. Or even more, want a chance of somebody actually being attracted to me.
@@gehteuchnixan3052 I suppose I’d agree that eating healthy is important, but I think your nerdiness and pc passion don’t need to change entirely. I don’t even think your junk food habit is terrible. Practiced in moderation, I think these are all qualities that you should be okay with having. If you want to be a better you, then I think that’s fine, but I hope you don’t want to be someone else entirely.
"Be Yourself" maybe overused but like you said, its true. It does help, your words and this video really helped me. Just lately been feeling like nobody wants me, everyone just wants the bad guy. But every now and then I run into comments and videos like this and it brings my spirit up, makes me feel a bit better.
I used to be in a relationship and i was being myself, and then ✨they broke up with me✨
@@kawaiipockychu1182 my last relationship did same thing, it started out. "I love how you are yourself, I love that your spontaneous." A year and a half passes. "I don't like how you can be, I don't like the things you do." We broke up and walked our separate ways. Haven't dated anyone since that happened, what made this even worse it was on my birthday.
Perfect dating advice:
DON'T try to look for a relationship on purpose.
Edit: Pay attention to the wording, people. I typed "relationship", not "love". There is just that notion that you must get a gf/bf and that it's a catastrophy if you haven't, even if you don't love them. In fact if you do that - you WILL miss your love. That's what I meant by not looking for a relationship on purpose. Instead of this, you should be on a mild lookout: pay attention to your acquaintances, there might be someone special among them, someone you'd spend your whole life around. If you found that person, start hanging out with them, you will grow closer, and this is when and how you become a pair.
And even if there is no such person yet, they will appear as you meet new people. You just have to uphold your standards.
That or... you can just keep rolling the dice in the dating apps and hope for the best.
Exactly that my home boy, I always have the best time when I'm just focusing on having a good time.
Unironically this is very true
Even though I've never dated anybody, the people I've felt closest to have always came along when I wasn't looking for anyone
Was going to say that myself. Every time I tried to chase a relationship, it didn't work. When you allow it to happen naturally, it's way easier and there's a good chance you will end up with someone who is good for you.
I’ve literally had the best relationships when we started out just as really good friends I didn’t have any interest in them lol
@@nehalilisays of course
Honestly, this video helped me understand what i was doing wrong, and what i should do instead. Thank you ❤
I've been single for 12 years before I met my partner - for all these years I just never met a man who showed interest in anything other then a physical relationship. Or that's what it seemed to me. At some point I noticed that my conversational skills were kind of one sided. So I started reading books about small talk, actively listening to people and leading a conversation. I met my partner a few months later in a discotheque when he invited me for a drink. At that point I had already spent several months training talking to complete strangers so I started talking even though he fell through several of my partner-criteria including age difference and educational background. However I agreed to a date - and another and another and another being immensely impressed by his patience and determination. We’ve been a couple for a long time now and I only found out very recently that prior to our first meeting he also read advice books on dating and women. Long story short: look for advice, read books, improve yourself. And most of all: show real interest in other people.
I need to say this:
DO NOT, and I repeat DO NOT
accept to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't really interests you just because you felt it was cute for someone to ask you. It might work, but at least ask them to try knowing each other more. I can not tell you the amount of times a girl asked me out and I felt it was so cute i said yes, just for me to realize I'm not invested in this relation and I now have to break it to them
Okay Chad
@@lad3144 Alpha Chad*
dkdidod
Damn, i just made that mistake
@@coosta7760
Giga chad*
Part of me wants to offer my heart to someone wholeheartedly but there's also a part of me who doesn't want to trust people and has no confidence when it comes to dating
SAME
Bro, you just describe my problem. Sometimes I go crazy just realize how contradictory my wants and thoughts are.
@@ilikepancakes2368 True bro it fcks me up and sabotages different aspects of my life
This is just me when it comes to relationships in general, not even romantic ones. I don’t tell my parents anything despite them constantly saying that I can trust them, but I just can’t. I just got rejected by the first girl I actually really liked, and my mental state got hit hard, and it’s actually a little bit pathetic, how I let one person do that to me, but it still hurts like hell
@@buttercat2718 Oh my kindred brother. That rejection haunted me for years and it fckng sucks it was so pathetic. I'm fine with friends tho but romantic ones nah.
I feel the hardest thing is to find the dates in the first place. Can't really work out if the chance is already 0 %
I have hung out with a girl that I truly feel compatible with. She had a boyfriend, so I made a move and got rejected, but... although it didn't happen, I am more than willingly to return to the dating scene after a very long time. I'm glad to write this. I always felt like I could not find a partner that could be good for me, but... now I believe I could try at least. I am hopeful and will follow your advice.
1. The most important thing? Respect 0:47
2. Allow intimacy to progress naturally 1:11
3. Don't limit yourself to one type 1:41
4. Communication is key 2:16
5. Focus on who you are now 2:48
6. Don't alter who you are 3:12
7. Don't control the conversation 3:46
8. Be with someone for the right reasons 4:09
🌺oml Tysm, lists r EVERYTHING 🌺
Coming thru for us who cant pay attention for 5 min
Thank you! You're amazing!
Thanks. :)
Es ,:-0
"Are you lost in the dating world?"
Me with extreme social anxiety: *How the hell do I get in the first place.*
I got over it by forcing myself to socialize over and over again it was very hard and i got nervous time and time but soon it went away and now i dont have social anxiety. Hopes this helps sorry if it doesnt
@@dhhshd973 It doesn't help that the last two years have been total lamesauce
How can you stop the mentality of "They are looking at me in a weird way... They must be judging me"?
@@miguelviola7264 my friend told me that they are probably thinking the same and not really paying attention to anyone else. also, if u do something embarrassing (ex: messing up a word or number on a presentation in class) they more than likely won’t remember it bc they have other stuff going on in their life. that helped me
@nooby thank you. that way of thinking comforts me
Thx for the advice! I am watching your channel grow :) You deserve it
Great video with many key points, my situation is that I haven't found anyone who I can feel emotional towards. Like a connection you know?
I like a lot of people sure, but it's one of those things where I don't feel invested unless I feel that connection. Here's to hoping it gets easier to date with time and we all find that special someone👍🏾
Something i have learned from a friend's relationship and watching it unfold: You cannot fix a problem a person has with themselves,they have to do it. You can help along the way, but they need to do the work themselves.
You are not their therapist, you can be there for them in good and bad times, but sometimes professional help is needed and it's fine for you to say that you can't really help with the actual solution.
yep yep yep and YEPPP
That’s true to a point
You are basically trying to say, wheather or not we should be with a person who has a post traumatic stress disorder, just out of pity.
I needed this last year
Thanks man. I just read your advice in the perfect moment.
I'm gonna add one more thing: don't overstrategize. Emotions are inherently Irrational, like faith and beliefs. You can't use Rational reasoning for Irrational things.
The heart above all things is deceitful
That's one part of myself I've been working on recently. I'm a logical thinker first and foremost, so trying to rationalize things just comes with the territory. But there are many things in life that just don't make sense, nor do they have to. Just gotta roll with the punches sometimes
@@Soloeagle54 Good luck trying to biologically decrypt love, then you can do it with logic again ;)
thats a hard thing for me
@@derdimi927 well its a made up human emotion, like a chemical in the brain that causes specific parts of it to go off causing that feeling you get towards a person, ever heard of butterflies in your stomach?, or like a buzz in your head? Its really just our bodys telling us "hey this is a good thing" so we go after the person and if that person is into you then you get love, simple really but still hard to grasp, then again everything emotionally is made up
I really like the advice regarding letting intimacy grow naturally and not revealing too much early on
i dont
I really love her voice. It's safe and heartwarming.
I wonder if my future girlfriend is also watching this preparing for the day when she finally meets me.
Synchronicity Jung
Th8s was so sweet🌻
I'm right here-
She may or may not, but the day she meets you, she’ll be ready.
And honestly, I can’t wait to meet mine.
@@nlynn.7 Lol dis guy you just put out a free talk to me card and he hasn't noticed yet 🤭
If you want a relationship, don't rush it. It takes time to grow and develop our feelings and relationships. Goodluck ✨
if there was a way to "love" this comment I would 💙
how can you manage the love you feel for someone while "waiting" for the right time? there is no right time to start a relationship.
@Luzitanium exactly
I'm currently on that stage with a girl I like (who has admitted that she likes me) and my friends keep trying to pressure me to "go firther" even though she even told them that she's not ready.
But how much time should it take? I’ve been dating a girl for 3 weeks now and she still isn’t fully committed to a relationship.
The most frustrating things are (to me) is the women that that I am NOT interested in are the ones that will want me and they make it very clear and the women that I do want, I don't make an effort because of uncertainty. Those women will not let it been known that they are interested so unfortunately it is a lose lose situation
If youre gonna keep being uncertain youll never beable to find someone. Be out there and be certain. But just dont have too much expections
Okay, okay, I'll subscribe. You happy now? Geez.
Joking aside, I did just subscribe. Thanks in no small part to your brilliantly soothing voice. This is really nice for winding down after a stressful day.
And the content is great, as well. Thank you.
As I get older I only find myself getting more jaded by life. Still quite young at 25, but I never expected to hate most things this much growing up. The soft voice of the video felt like it grounded me for once, in a while.
I would understand that being in difficult situations and having horrible experiences. It's odd to explain difficult parts of life to people who haven't experienced it yet. Coming out of similar circumstances, I tried to reflect on the positives in a day over the negatives. There were more positives! It's strange how the bad overflows the good emotionally. However, I think every person has a certain way they look at life as well.
Holy crap are you me?
Omg saaaaame!
Hey man, me too. I'm 19, but I feel increasingly dissociated with reality. I just feel like I've already wringed out the majority of joy out of life and there isn't much left. Hopefully I can look back at this comment one day and say that things have changed for the better.
@@shosnow6824 Don't mean to jump in again, but I'm sorry you're experiencing that. I have not had that sense of dissociation from reality, but have had some traumatic situations. I would say time and having that desire/motivation to change brings things into a lighter direction. Having the determination to get out of a bad cycle. Always looking ahead and not reminiscing on the past too much. Although that is so hard to do! Anyway, I hope something pops into your life where it's a positive change
“Like that’s ever gonna happen”
*Closes book*
Of course it won't happen if you never try.
@@bt4670 i tried and im now friendzoned 8 times
@@bt4670 I've tried, I'm just short, ugly and awkward.
SOMEBODY *ONCE TOLD ME-*
@@mackenziegray2090 If that's what you believe about yourself, it's what they are gonna see to, my dude. Don't let your crown slip, king. If you don't see yourself as a catch, work on yourself to the point where you are proud of who you are. Self respect goes a long way. I've been super anxious, depressed, awkward, etc., but I know that about me, and I know I'm working through it. I think people are more attracted to those who they see have flaws but are working to improve them vs. those who are "perfect".
I've been alone for almost 5 years now, i know how good it is to have someone at your side, but i'm so used to being alone that if someone i like shows some kind of interest for me, i immediately start to think that we're already in a serious relationship because we like each other.... I don't know how to "take it easy" and i can't understand how other people are more open minded than me (example, if we're still knowing each other there are no boundaries in knowing other people in the meantime because there's nothing serious already) but i'm not able to do it and i lose my mind when the other person tells me that i'm talking it too personally... I need help but idk how to change this thing and become more calm on that side
Have you ever heard of the attachment styles? This theory comes from the book “Attached”. It definitely helps in understanding yourself better and thus managing your reactions better, becoming more confident and even calm
@@auchkaramba6962 never heard of it, but i'll check it out. Thanks
Even tho I know I got no chance and that no one would want someone like me, I do enjoy watching these videos, plus your voice is super comforting.
Best advice I could get based on my experience; stop searching. You'll know the right people (same applies for friends) naturally. If you are so lonely that you feel some sort of "need" for a partner, searching for one is not the right approach, focus on being happy by yourself first or maybe try to make some friends first.. trying to find someone to "make you happy" is a pretty unhealthy way of living.
Facts
A word
True to a point
Literally me thankyou
Biggest lesson that I learned last year 🙃
I asked my brother and his girlfriend if they actually have any shared interests and they said no. So yes, I can confirm that your ideal partner can be someone who doesn't have the same hobbies as you. Even my cousin said that having someone who's the opposite of you can make things more fun.
Doesnt last. Give it a few years
@@ethan1937 Having different/opposite interests does not mean short-lived relationship.
@@ethan1937 same interests and hobbies can bore you though. What if the person loses those interests or hobbies. Adapt
I think the key is respecting each other interests
To me that seems like it would just lack foundation to actually build and maintain the relationship on. What bound them together? Just physical attraction alone? Things like not cheating on (unless you agree to open relationship), abusing, lying to or disrespecting each other are essential and great, but also more passive. I cant see those things bringing people genuinely close in the first place
I can get having the majority of interests and tastes different from each other, but I cannot get not even sharing one genuine interest and still be actually close.
My current bf is one that I fell for with how he treated me, reasons outlined in this video. He respected me, made me feel cared for and is an amazing communicator. ❤
Im 55 and blissfully single. I still look, but was married too long. Since she passed 4 years ago, I've done a pretty good job of getting myself back together and i don't need any help messing things up.😂
"Be honest about who you are and how you feel."
Very sound advice, but a lot of people can't even be honest with themselves..
Like being honest to tell you still love your ex & want to marry her, even she has someone new?
It's not really taught in a meaningful way unfortunately. It takes time, clarity, and effort that are not easy to come by
I agree with you honesty is key to long time relationship
I'm ASD. I can't be honest about how I feel, because I simply don't know how I feel.
@@daddada2984 Yes, even that. Especially that. Being honest to yourself about how you feel will allow you to move on.
The truth is that you're not just grieving the end of your relationship. You're also grieving the loss of your *idea* of your relationship. Speaking from experience, the latter is way harder to confront than the former. It's way harder to recognize and it's way harder to come to terms with.
The first stage of grief is denial. It is important to accept that your ex has moved on, but it's doubly so to accept that you yourself have not. While you'll only have to see your ex in real life maybe a couple times ever (if that), your emotions and you are tethered, forever bound together for the rest of your life. As my ma once said, you may *feel* like you can't live without her, but you sure as HELL ain't livin' without yourself. So you better make living with yourself be something worth living for. That's why it's important for you to begin to process how you feel, so you may sooner become at peace with and love yourself. Lying to yourself prevents all that (out of sight out of mind amirite?) and must be avoided at all costs.
I’ve tried dating. But as soon as someone says “I just can’t see this going anywhere sure hope you do fine someone though” makes my confidence go POP!
a week ago?? wtf
Bruh?
POP !?!
Hold da fook up ! It came out 5 mins ago.
A WEEK AGO??
I’m in 8th grade, it’s around the end of the year and this boy that I started to like, liked me back. I’m so scared of the dating realm since I’m so young, but I’ve always wanted this and I’m really happy RUclips is such a reliable source.
I’m a little bit of a young person trying to get into mental and physical health and self improvement early before it starts to matter, and I wanted some training before I enter the battlefield. Of course I’m not there yet, but your videos are plenty helpful, so I’m sure this one will make me a lot of a better partner when the time comes.
The dislikes are people who got out of a relationship
Or big ed XD
@Skylor Bullard No swearing man!!
@Skylor Bullard So?
I actually like this video
-a person, who got out of the relationship
Or will never find one 😭
I fell in love with my partner starting off as friends. I think when you are close with someone before becoming romantic it makes things even more special as they begin to evolve. I have felt my gaze shift from one that was friendly and happy to be with someone i could have fun with, to seeing how beautiful the person was in front of me. Every day I was shown how beautiful their soul was and they helped me to improve myself as well as others. Find someone that will help build you up along with them, someone who will grow with you, intertwined like vines on a tree
How on Earth can you bring yourself to be friends of someone of the opposite sex I can't even be friends with someone of a different race
@@noo343 uhhh???
yeah it was like that until she friendzoned me lmao
Gay ha
Same here, I'd been friends with him for 3 years, similar classes and such. Then, one day his humour struck a chord in me, I texted him thanks for brightening my day and 3 months later I asked him out... we've been dating for 4 months now and yeah, similar interests are wonderful but maturity, comfort, respect and communication are vital to any relationship. Don't go for the butterflies, go for the warmth and comfort.
Im naturally chaotic introvert with ADHD and depression so its kinda impossible to find a mate that can accept me as i am, at the beginning everything goes fine but after awhile,their expectations are too much for me even when i have told already what kind of person i am
So stop being depressed.
I recommend you go to therapy to deal with depression and stuff.
Other important thing is: Your ideal one will accept you who you are. Don't hide your sicknesses, if she/he is the ideal one, they will look for help you to look happiness. :)
I fell you bro i hope for the best
@@grellaikawa4679 ive have been in theraphy and i know how to deal with my depression. Even if i know how to handle it, it doesnt mean it stops existing
@@malcolm_in_the_middle "if you are suffocating, just breathe"
This really clears a lot. Thank you💘
Best dating advice I ever received was to live like it’s just going to be you from here on out. The chances of finding someone you want to be with who wants to be with you is so phenomenally small as to be non-existent. If someone does come into your life, treat it like the miracle it is, not the expectation. And if they don’t stick around, well it was never in the plan anyway, so you can’t get too upset about it.
Exactly man. You can expect to find all of your happiness in someone else. Granted, relationships are wonderful, but you can truly love someone unless you love yourself. If you can love yourself enough to move on then you can't ever really be in a good, healthy relationship otherwise.
Wow. Just wow. I’m gonna remember this one
Year 3 into this mentality. Getting a bit exhausting
Well that's horrible advice. There's ~50 million potential dating candidates and you're saying it's a MIRACLE if one of them comes into my life? Especially when 90% of people around me have partners??? Dating is in human nature, everyone does it, it's not a miraculous thing that only happens to certain people. You're gonna be alone forever
@@ethan1937 What OP said about was just a mindset to help you lower your expectations and make you feel more grateful for what you have been given. Instead of just treating it like something that was meant to be yours. As I said, it's just a mindset and has nothing to do with reality. For eg, one can be given the whole world's worth of wealth and still be dissatisfied, or one can be given just a penny and still be extremely grateful for it. Now it's your choice to make, which one you want to be...
I wish more people took this advice to heart, the worst bit about dating is how superficial it is and all the stupid games that are being played... Sometimes I wish we knew in advance who we're compatible with and who's worth our time and energy. It's exhausting...
"Fake nails, fake eyelashes, fake face, fake a*s, fake t*ts - but want a real man." - Someone, somewhere.
Be real and you'll attract real people.
It really is exhausting to a point where you can lose all hope and then when some people finally come to you, you’re too hurt to even care
True to a point
I feel like a lot of the advice goes beyond dating, too. Don't just do it enough to get through dating, you need to be respectful, honest and prone to giving, both to yourself and any future partner at base
Video: “ Maybe you should lower your standarts"
My Standards:
-Be alive
-Be a human
(both are optional)
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