The throwing of shade so politely and gentlemanly is one of the reasons I enjoyed this video. Watching his impassive facial expressions when the words came out, I kept looking for that little smile at the end!
As a Canadian those three statements are just ingrained into our culture, heck many Canadians catch themselves apologizing when the other person is in the wrong (person quite obviously bumps into you and you apologize).
I clicked on this thinking I would hate him, but his message “if you live on earth then be polite” is one that many millions of people could do with listening to!
Lets see if logic checks out: "You see a man that does not follow any rule of etiquette. He is making a mess both in front of him, on the table and on the ground under him" What do you do? - Be polite. A-hum.
@@theelvisguru9490 Not all places on earth are as slick as you are. Some will outright view your politeness as a weakness, and validation to do as they please. (and no, not saying please)
@khajiithadwares2263 yes. Just because other people are rude doesn't mean you have to be rude back. I can be hot headed but I still try to be the calm polite one until I can't.
@@khajiithadwares2263if someone is rude to you while you are kind, you’ve done nothing except show the world that you are a better person than they are. I see no downside to this.
@@sethxmurphy That would have been a good question. If there is any truth to the pinky finger being upraised when drinking and if it is when should it be done.
"Why didn't you tell me I was about to get doused in petrol?" "My pardons, but you weren't on fire yet, and I was so intrigue about your inane ramblings on the pseudo-scientific connections between where the Earth and sun were angled to each other at the moment of your birth and how that negated chaos theory in regards to your financial practices today. Plus I was too busy hunting for my pocket lighter."
Indeed, he has excellent comedic timing and a surprisingly wry sense of humour. Perhaps not that surprising, given 'Posh British Wry Humour' is basically an entire genre of novels.
Classic British understatement. In the Korean War, an entire battalion (I believe) was just about annihilated because when asked for a situation report, they responded that the "situation is a bit sticky" to anyone but a Brit that meant they could be better, and could be worse. To the Brits, that mean they were BEING ACTIVELY OVERRUN.
Which is why even if the sky is on fire, you can always trust the BBC reporter to calmly explain to you the "weather is a tad bit too hot, but do save yourself the trouble of putting on the sunscreen, as it will not be needed presently". meanwhile, a stick falling on the ground will be exclaimed as "BREAKING NEWS!!! THE PLANET IS YET AGAIN ASSAULTED AND ITS ALL OBAMA'S FAULT" by you know who.
Now if you wanna know what central Europeans think about when the imagine a British person simply watch the opening scene of Lord of the Rings when the Orc Army attacks.
I dearly love that he quite openly acknowledged the fact that etiquette is culturally-specific. So often, we see people assuming that everyone must follow the same rules as they, regardless of the context or location.
Exactly, every country and culture has its own ettiquette, would be nice if the title reflected this is just one country's interpretation (no shade to the guy, he seems fun)
False. He only thinks this about some stuff. Still assumes common courtesy is the norm when it died like 10-20 years ago (thanks to social media) at 6:44.
Not uppity, not condescending, very interesting and informative. I want to be friends with this man and go people watching with him at the park in my city just to hear his commentary.
My grandpa's favorite way to get rid of houseguests was to say to my grandma, "Well dear, should we go to bed so these people can go home?" It always got a chuckle and the message across.
I always say "it's been lovely having you, we should do this again" and they basically get the message. That or, if I know they have a bit of a drive, just say something like "oh we'd better let you go, we don't want you driving in the dark too long"
I, too, love that part of what he said. I’m not great at table etiquette (forks, knives, etc.), but I always say please, thank you, and sorry (when applicable).
I so see this disappearing too. What surprises me is that when I do say that to a server, most of the time they look surprised. Like they are not used to common courtesy or good manners. in fact, the sever at breakfast this morning got a big, beautiful smile on her face when we thanked her and told her she was wonderful.
That's how you know this guy knows what he's talking about. All the behavioral intricacies can vary wildly depending on where you are, who you're with, and what the context is. I'm sure this guy isn't performing surgery on his sandwiches when he's down at Wetherspoons with the lads, because that's actually the wrong etiquette for that context. But the basic concepts of courtesy, gratitude, and humility should be pretty much universal, and there's really no excuse for not saying those few simple words no matter who or where you are.
I keep saying thank you over and over. Once I was at the dentist and when my dentist would clean the water in my mouth with the mouth vacuum I would repeatedly say thank you to him. He would also keep replying with you're welcome. He would also repeatedly say thank you to his assistant even if she did the littlest things 🤣
It's not disappearing, if anything the older you get the ruder you get. I find boomers as a group way ruder than millenials and gen Z. Kids (5-14) are always rude, nothing new.
Came into this expecting some arcane rules about table placing, and got a really good message on just being decent to one another. While I'm clearly not "trained" in etiquette, I feel better knowing that just expressing care and concern for others is the basis of most of these, and I'm unlikely to offend reasonable people with simple ignorance as long as I show some basic consideration for others.
Austin is not a good representation of the rest of Texas so he may be right about that, The other parts of Texas we do have some manners and in Texas we certainly know how to say things like "please" and "thank you" and if we are actually wrong "sorry", we're just not wrong that often 🙂
I can give you a formula: if you want to roast someone and you have something specific in mind, first start by forming the sentence as simply as possible. E.g. “your trousers are ugly”. Then change every noun and adjective to the most complex (British) sounding synonym, add (British) words like quite and rather in to the mix and possibly stir it with some passive aggressive (British) sayings. So instead of saying “your trousers are ugly”, you say “I would rather have you know your pantaloons are quite the sore to my eyesight, therefore I shall request thy broughteth thine britches to the nearest open fire, good sire.”
American waitress here, I love what he said about just using body language and polite speech to summon your server (no dramatic noises or motions). I can't tell you how many grown men have shaken the ice in their cups in my direction, like maracas, to tell me they wanted a refill instead of using their words.
Woman here. I would NEVER shake a glass at a waiter. I generally do the hand body language thing. However, if they don’t take the glasses away for what I’m drinking and have to bring it to the table, like water or tea, I usually do the body language and hand to get their attention then raise my glass. NOT SHAKE, raise. So they don’t have to waste their time walking over to me just to walk away and go get the pitcher and come back. They can just go get the pitcher when they have a sec. Is that okay? I hope that’s alright I thought it would just save them time, but since you’re a waiter, would that offend you?
yeah , tell that to waiters here in romania, they ll pass by us like 10 times and unless I signal them as if I m landing a plane they won t come at the table
Former American waitress here, I absolutely hated that! Or the snapping of the fingers and getting louder if you don't come to the table in 3 seconds! Or if they would yell, "Hey!" Drove me into a fit of rage that you have to contain, lol. If I need my waiter/waitress to come to the table sooner, I just raise my hand like in school. If I'm not in a rush, I just wait until they come back to the table to check in on me, etc. I feel like everyone wins that way.
An unmentioned rule: He speaks with volume and clarity to the camera, but gently and quietly when addressing the waiter. Not quite a whisper, just slightly above.
Makes eye contact when thanking them, not treating them like a lesser. Cultural norms can be other-ing and excluding, but good show here that they can simply be civil.
The hidden greatness is that he's speaking with volume to the camera because he's trying to present information - when you thank the staff, you're only doing it for their sake, and not for self aggrandisement.
11:00 In America, the proper etiquette for indicating to guests that they've overstayed their welcome is to take a deep breath, lean forward in your seat, give the tops of both your knees or thighs a firm clap, and say, "Welp!" while standing. You may follow this with a statement such as: "I gotta get some rest," or, "Busy day tomorrow."
It’s the only time in his life he probably has lmao! That’s a man who was born in a double-breasted navy suit with his hand outstretched for a handshake
When youre constricted with some snobbish supremacy bs ways of acting, probably every day, instead of being how youre comfortable being within reasonable limits... can you blame him? Lol.
@@VahnWyrde 🤣 Oh, totally! That's the kind of classy burn Fred Noonan would've appreciated-if he wasn't, you know, off somewhere in the Bermuda Triangle with nothing but the truth to keep him warm. 🌴🔥
Ok, I don't know much about etiquette, don't usually find myself in very formal circumstances and wouldn't normally watch a video about it. SOMEHOW, this guy got me hooked in a way I couldn't stop watching! Made etiquette sound more like common decency than anything else. Lovely!
It's just a similar question to why interacting with other humans is important. That's what they were trying to get at. Etiquette is a shared agreement on doing something or not doing something while interacting.
@@zeronothinghere9334 Etiquette is an expression of one's self through the interaction with others. To say that there is "wrong" and "right" is merely dependent on the culture you find yourself in, and traditionalists may very well argue on that point for eternity.
I love how he says "If you are a user of earth; you need etiquette." implying interplanetary etiquette, just in case you're a user of mars with martian etiquette.
Which is funny because "etiquette" is extremely central to european (british and french) culture and the vast majority of what he says in this video has no basis or legitimacy in the rest of the world (which is most of it)
He did mention that his knowledge of etiquette was for the British form and not the American one, showing the differences, etc. Etiquette is just the way of polite conduct and every culture has this in some form so his statement does hold true. For example, countries that use chopsticks have specific ways you shouldn't use them.
@@octave38 there is definitely etiquette everywhere, but Hollywood makes those two popular. I am Portuguese and live in Spain and can tell you we have different etiquette for eating for example. The Portuguese way is similar to the British way but you can use (and usually do) your fork not pointing down and the Spanish way is identical to the American one. I was once told by a Spanish girl that it was rude to cut eggs (Tortilla Española for example) with your knife, you should use the side of your fork :) And I am sure every country has its rules and methods and the locals are always interested in explaining them if you ask!
It slows down the rate at which you eat and helps reduce gobbling. It's actually seen as countering a tendency to gluttony, so there's some sense in it.
I feel like asking “have you got a busy day tomorrow?” Is a trap if you didn’t think it through. If they say “no I’m all clear and good to hang out all night!”. 😅 now what?
This expert was sooooo freaking polite at throwing shade on some of the tweets! I found it super entertaining and amusing! And yes... say "Please", "Thank You" and "Sorry" should be fundamental principles that every human being must apply to their lives!
That tip about not just leaving a conversation to go to someone else, but to also introduce them to someone else as you leave is probably a life changing tactic to have learned on a random evening youtube video. Thank you!
Depending on who the person is and why you don’t want to keep talking to them, it kinda feels like you’d just be pawning them off onto someone else - to me, at least. Perhaps it’s a bit less rude/more pleasant for the talker being pawned off, but quite a bit less pleasant for the unsuspecting person who now has to engage in an unsolicited and possibly (probably?) undesired conversation with them. Then again, I say all of that as both an AuDHDer (autism spectrum + ADHD) and introvert - a somewhat outgoing one, but still very much an introvert - who finds small talk and casual conversation to be absolutely dreadful and exhausting.
@@doomtho42 he did say find someone who you think will appreciate that type of conversation more than you. Something to consider when pawning them off haha
@@doomtho42 so what? Just because they're annoying you doesn't mean the next person will be exactly the same as you and find them annoying. Give them a chance to make a new friend and a chance to practice speaking to strangers. If people keep abandoning them quickly they may notice that they need to change their tactics. Perhaps observing in a larger group will help.
I think it'd be even better if you could integrate someone into the conversation earlier so it feels more natural, like give yourself maybe 5 min of drivel listening and then peace out, having brought Anna into the conversation before horoscopes ever entered the picture
So much table etiquette comes down to one of these things: - Not making a mess of yourself while eating. (Knife and fork stuff is rooted in this, for example, or the elbows thing that he explained is a more distant thing) - Being considerate of other people. - Communicating.
@@AalbertTorsius He just gave distinct logical reasoning over multiple parts of table etiquette, you do NOT need to add ''and other stuff that doesn't make sense'' for 0 reason at all.😭
@@chriskershaw7968 which was a bizarre thing to say given how the point of the comment was to say that actually none of this matters. He asserts that they care too much, when clearly he is the one who cares about etiquette and wants us to care too, then fails to answer the question. If you think that was an eloquent rebuttal then he duped you.
@@HighFlyActionGuy Etiquette matters because of the effect it has on how people perceive you. On the other hand, what constitutes proper etiquette is almost entirely dependent on who's company you're in. Only the genuinely rich would ever bother hiring an "Etiquette Expert" to begin with, because anyone pompous enough to genuinely hold such a title is _not_ an expert of _general_ etiquette, but an expert of _upper class_ etiquette. I'm sure he'd get along quite well in a Michelin star restaurant, but put him in the local pub and he's probably gonna get some looks…
@@supersophisticated9943"Well my good fellow, it seems that during this sparkling conversation about your trip to the moon on a golf buggy has caused your trousers to spontaneously combust it seems" (Liar lair pants on fire)
Just the way he speaks, the timing and pronunciation of the words, his choice of words, his body language, the way his hair is in perfect shape, no hair sticking out, his suit and tie is giving me Buckingham Palace - Butler - vibes. Wow 😮 😄
Most people are polite until someone is rude to them. This guy is polite even when interacting with rude people. Even when he's insulting you, his manners are impeccable.
But really, I like to take small bites and this method looks downright miserable. I'd lock up all my table knives and throw away the key if this is how I was taught to use them. "Can you pass me a knife?" "Sorry, no, they're in The Box and never getting out. Forks only, now and forever."
I'm american and I cut my food first if it needs it then I eat. Granted I'm partially blind and lack depth perception as a result so if I didn't do it that way half my food would end up on the floor.
I find it relaxing and im Dutch. I use both methods but for meat the american way is so much better because otherwise you eat cut eat cut eat cut stc. so much easier to cut a bunch of slices and then chill for a bit eating the cuts you made.
How is that more aerobic if the amount of cutting are exactly the same? I'm not even American but I do it the American way. If you do the cutting all at once and then enjoy your meal afterwards, it's actually more efficient and enjoyable. You save the number of times you have to lift up and put down your fork on the plate ffs, and this is a very simple logic. You can even refer to operation research textbooks and it will tell you exactly the same. This British guy is not very bright is he? I find the whole thing quite pretentious and judgmental. Good thing that this kind of etiques belong more to the past than present.
My parents are english but i was born and raised american. Im amazed with how much etiquette i use daily without them having really made a big deal about it. Thanks mother and father.
You are one of the fortunate ones. My parents taught me, just being normal Americans, and as a child I thought that's just what parents did. I have a core memory of my mother behind me positioning my hands to show me how to hold a knife and fork at the dining table. I thought that's what other kids were experiencing. Until I grew up and saw that 80% of people have no idea how to use flatware. It's sad.
@@reiniar Brit here. It's uncommon, sure, but absolutely still happens. If you go to university you're very likely to have at least one formal dinner during your time there. Personally I was taught a lot of this growing up. Expensive restaurants also expect formal dress and proper etiquette. (I'm not rich enough for that though.) Of course when it comes to casual dining the 'rules' are a lot more relaxed. A lot of this is just convenient though. For example the spaghetti twirling is just far more efficient than awkward cutting it up. And at the very least I think every Brit can relate to the awkward experience of trying to catch the waiter's eye politely, ha.
For the last question, my parents always tell the story of when they were very young (and not yet super atune to social norms) and a friend's parents had them over for dinner. When it became time for them to leave, the host stood, smiled at them and said "It was so nice to have you over!". I think as far as "getting rid of a house guest" goes, this is one of the nicest ways of doing it.
What I feel that the person was actually asking the question, "How do you get rid of OVERNIGHT house guests?" Because they talked about setting out a can of bed-bug spray to give them the message that their guests were no longer welcome--as house guests. Why else would they "mention" anything to do with beds via the bed-bug spray example? Visitors come for a few hours or the day. House guests usually stay overnight (or nights on end in the case of those "overstaying their welcome", imo.
@@BomalNeloAnagrm300 That's exactly what I thought & commented on as well. I think the question was about asking someone to leave when they've been staying at your house for a few days (or however long).
The greatest etiquette advice I heard was when someone asked 'What's the politest way to treat other people?' and the answer (paraphrasing) was: 'Do whatever puts them most at their ease'.
@@Dennis-xj8nh some people think self harm is the greatest thing to put themselves at ease. I wouldnt suggest you entertain that idea just to be polite.
I would imagine we do not like Anna and we know she hates astrology even more than us, which makes her the best choice for having to continue the conversation. And it is not rude at all, as long as we comport ourselves according to proper British etiquette.
And of course everyone else in the room will admire us, even more so if Anna realizes our spiteful intentions, loses her countenance and flinches for a split second
I would assume that in cases like this each person would politely listen for a short while before passing her to another guest. That way no one person has to listen to more horoscope than they can endure and Anna is happy to have met so many different people. Everyone is satisified.
For those who don't know, William Hanson has a brilliant podcast about etiquette and other things with his friend Jordan North who is a Radio Presenter, called Help! I Sexted My Boss. It is, by far, the funniest podcast out there. William is obviously very posh, and Jordan is very working class and they are clearly each other's Ride or Die. William seems stiff but he has a wicked sense of humor. Highly recommend.
I didn't expect a lesson in British humor to be served alongside this fantastic etiquette discussion! Also, I believe I have never seen a more biting condemnation of being rude by the statement of "If you do not use please, thank you, and sorry, you should be locked in Etiquette Room 101"! You know what is in Room 101.
In fairness, if you're looking for "about eight feet," he just about nailed the guess, and generally speaking, it's a pretty good rule of thumb. Granted, this will depend on the door for overall tactic, but he has the gist of the matter regardless; anything outside of roughly three paces will not be immediately impacted by you opening the door.
The fun thing about asking the waiter for the bill is that in Norway we have a very famous TV sketch where some guy ends up sitting at his restaurant table way after closing time because the waiters don't get his cues.
it's beyond infuriating when I'm at my retail job and someone doesn't say "please" or "thank you". sometimes when I'm asking someone if they need help they won't even acknowledge me. do better people! this is bare minimum respect!
@@deadzio Because their boss and company makes them do it and they are risking their job if they don't show "initiative" and "customer service". It's not their fault, they're just doing their job. The least you can do is not be a prick and be polite, knowing that there's nothing wrong with saying "Oh, I'm actually fine right now, but thanks!"
I love the passive aggressive “Can I get anyone anything else?”. It reminds me of Bilbo Baggins repeatedly saying “Good morning” to which Gandalf responds “What a lot of things you do use Good morning for! Now you mean that you want to get rid of me, and that it won't be good till I move off.”
Germans have a very different time etiquette. In Germany "7.30" means you arrive somewhere between 7.25-7.35. Arrive at 7.40 and you are late. Arrive at 7.20 and your host won't know what to do with you.
For me (German) it's 7:20-7:30. When I ask people to be there at 7:30, I've finished my preparations at 7:15 at the latest, so I'm just waiting for them to finally arrive. The later they come, the longer I'm just sitting around waiting, unable to do anything useful, and keeping people waiting is bad etiquette (I'd assume).
I've lived in the U.S. all my life, and I very much prefer this. If I'm meeting someone somewhere or have an appointment, I'd rather be a half hour early than risk being five minutes late. I'll just bring a book. If it's a party I'll get there early and read while waiting in my car or on a park bench or something.
If guests are staying too long at your house party, the polite thing to do is to buy a second house, move there, and leave your house in the custody of your guests. If you can't do at least that, you have no business existing.
In USA no need to worrie about it. Waitress is over your head every 5 minutes and then excpect ransom tip for doing what waiter suppose to do. So glad in Europe they serve food and dont bother you at all. 😂
I'm not sure what sounded more british "Have to stop you there, your trousers are alight" (04:10) Or the bland Spaghetti without sauce or spice "that looks so appetizing" (6:13)
I know! It looks like it's just cooked pasta. No butter or oil, spices, sauce, nothing - who eats it that way? I'm guessing they didn't want to obscure the noodles, so you can clearly see how he handles them with the utensils, but a little butter and spices wouldn't get in the way.
@@miriamrobarts these sketties were 100% just for demonstration and werent actually gonna get eaten, so yeah, they didnt want to obscure the pasta or waste any more ingredients on a dish that nobody is going to eat (they are probably cold by the time we see them too)
I didn't expect to find him as likeable as I did. "This is an aerobic exercise" sent me 😄 As a Canadian, the door jog is all too familiar! "Please", "thank you", and "sorry" are the first things I teach my kindergarten students.
Agree! I tend to always thank the waiter, but I’ve noticed a lot of my dining companions are not doing so anymore… And it got me wondering if I was in the wrong! Glad he showed us such a good example in this video
For regular people this kind of etiquette is over the top but I love how he emphasizes basic manners (please, thank you, etc) no matter who you are or who you’re speaking g to
I had this drilled to me growing up and took years to unconsciously undo. Simple things like standing when a lady stands at the table during a meal. It was just second nature that got a 'what are you doing?' when I went to friends' birthday meals as a teenager.
Normally I can't be bothered with ettiquete or norms at all (unless I'm in a situation where I need to), but this man is so thoughtful and earnest about it he makes me want to try. Him making a point of ettiqutte being about selflessness and consideration is somewhat moving
@@rtyughvbn12When we were kids, my youngest brother would individually hand skewer the length of each tine on his fork with individual peas. Then it would go in his mouth. I took a photo of him doing this once. NOTE: He only did this when mom and dad weren’t around.
Went to a Syrian friend's party with my then girlfriend. We got up to leave and he said "No no, have another beer." 10 minutes later the same. On the third time he says "No no, stay," but then when we sat down again he looked at us and said "In Syria, you can never let a person leave, but of course they have to go eventually..."
Hahahah as a Syrian I confirm, guests must insist on leaving and the host should insist on staying but in a more light way. It's a thing of all the middle east
5:14 I need to stop you there for a moment. You NEVER eat a burger with utensils! Instead, if it's large, you smash it into your mouth with your bare hands.
That’s why the real answer for that etiquette is to *never even order/buy a burger in the first place* if you were planning on eating with someone in a well known and well respected restaurant (among the higher-ups of society) that cares about etiquette or demands it for whatever reason. I’m actually surprised that these kind of expensive restaurants (to us average citizens) have meat and vegetables covered with bread dishes (i.e Burgers and Burritos).
@@AdhvaithSaneexpensive doesn't imply etiquette, except for the crass. Didn't you see Trading Places? I've seen lots of $25 burgers, but none in a restaurant with a dress code. Generally, if you can get in the door without a shirt or jacket, you can expect a burger, regardless of the costliness of the joint.
This is if you had to eat it like a human being. If you want to be a disgusting, rootin tootin, uncouth, uncivilized, guns blazing yank, then be my guest.
Semi-unrelated but etiquette aside, the “Please, no & thank you” bit is SO important in life in general. If you’ve ever been with a narcissist you’ll know what I mean. You have no idea how refreshing / AMAZING it is to hear an “I’m sorry” or “thankyou” after you’ve been with someone who can’t even do that. If you can admit when you’re wrong & show appreciation towards others you are a 10/10 human being.
Something I find moving, Almost to regain faith and hope: when a driver lets me pass first as a pedestrian. (The chances increase if I have a child. But not much) My country is not known for its respectful citizens. I don't care much about manners. But that is a true gesture of sacrificing time waiting for me to cross... And respecting the law 🤣
7:58 this is more the fault of airline companies still making seats that recline while ALSO making the seat rows closer and closer to each other by the year
Yeah, reclining seats should just not be a thing. You don't generally even get them in Europe, always seemed like such a murican thing to me. Rude AND murican, which, I suppose, are the same thing.
My dad, born 1917, solidly middle-class, had a rule: all joints on the table will be carved! He also tended to tap any misplaced elbows with the carver-steel, which left an impression!
@@alexc9434 Well, being young, middle-class, and English in the 60's, abuse hadn't quite been defined just yet. Stiff upper lip, character building, and all that.
@@theoriginalbuggins My impression of middle class etiquette is a system to fit in where you are above the large majority but not in the position where you can start to form the rules. Upper class eccentricity in Britain seems like using slight flaunting of rules as a status symbol.
as an American I got legitimately upset when he started taking the burger apart and eating it with a fork and knife. defeats the entire purpose of constructing it into a burger with buns, this man is an animal.
I used to think etiquette was very stupid, that it was a symbol of _class_ specifically, and as someone born severely impoverished, I deeply resented that. Now I understand it is just a way of letting the other person save face, being kind/avoiding frustration/confusion and not grossing people out/staying sanitary.
It is a symbol of class, its just people signalling to each other that they're of a certain class in this case "english-rich". See also Ron Desantis wearing jeans to try and signal that he's southern rural working class when he's not.
Nah, being polite to others or staying sanitary is not a matter of etiquette, it's a matter of having basic decency and manners. How you stir your tea, which hand you use to hold the knife and so on is not a matter of being decent towards other human beings, it's just the high class posh BS.
It's also about signaling in-group membership. Europe was an incredibly high trust society back when those rules were developed, so much of society was based on the preconception that people would generally act in good faith. Being raised in a way that imparted those in-group signals would also theoretically impart a common culture and set of values. Someone not knowing the proper way to prepare and present tea may also indicate they aren't aware of the proper way to resolve disputes.
I glance behind, estimate their time to the door. If it is less than the time the door closes plus about one or two seconds, I will hold the door. I will hold it longer for someone who is carrying something, often offering to help unless it's something like a baby carrier.
Something I've attempted in the past is to feign like I'm checking my phone for a notification or to send a quick text message while standing within reach of the door. It's less unnerving than standing there maintaining direct eye contact with the other person. Then when they've closed the gap, I will put my phone up and reach for the door handle. If someone else is about to exit the building, then I'll immediately open the door for the person about to exit (that is if I can see them exiting, otherwise I wouldn't stand so close to the door if I couldn't see through to the other side) and hold it open for the more distant individual. The most awkward part about this method are the moments where I misjudge someone's intentions to enter the building when they were simply wanting to enter another building close by (or when they were wanting to meet up with someone else nearby). I just end up with a conflict within my mind as to whether the two are going to enter the building together or if they're going to stand outside and converse with one-another.
Just remember, when they break into the awkward half jog, they’re also just being polite. It is also polite to say “oh no rush.” And then polite for them to continue to rush. Etiquette is weird and often built with lies and is why it’s so hard for Autistic people to understand (unless clearly explained as it is, which is fakery for the sake of kindness.) Lmao.
“Uh can I just stop you there? Your trousers are alight.”-I’ll be using this now to interrupt someone who is lying.
Liar liar pants on fire 🕺🏽
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I have never seen someone throw so much shade so politely.
The throwing of shade so politely and gentlemanly is one of the reasons I enjoyed this video. Watching his impassive facial expressions when the words came out, I kept looking for that little smile at the end!
It’s England’s premier martial art. You’ve got your kung fu, your taekwondo, your jiu jitsu, your muay thai, and your British etiquette.
If etiquette is about treating others with respect, wouldn't throwing shade politely still be bad etiquette?
@@ramrod132 yes.
@@ramrod132 At the moment they prefer to throw bricks in England
"please" "thank you" "sorry" as the most important etiquette - putting human decency above all formalities is someone I am willing to listen to.
As a Canadian those three statements are just ingrained into our culture, heck many Canadians catch themselves apologizing when the other person is in the wrong (person quite obviously bumps into you and you apologize).
@@fullrefund8812 Sorry!
As another Canadian I can concur.
I would like people behave the way those words are not needed at all
When i cut cake, i cut the part with all of the frosting to give to myself.
I clicked on this thinking I would hate him, but his message “if you live on earth then be polite” is one that many millions of people could do with listening to!
Lets see if logic checks out: "You see a man that does not follow any rule of etiquette. He is making a mess both in front of him, on the table and on the ground under him"
What do you do? - Be polite. A-hum.
@@khajiithadwares2263 what on earth are you going on about?
@@theelvisguru9490 Not all places on earth are as slick as you are. Some will outright view your politeness as a weakness, and validation to do as they please. (and no, not saying please)
@khajiithadwares2263 yes. Just because other people are rude doesn't mean you have to be rude back. I can be hot headed but I still try to be the calm polite one until I can't.
@@khajiithadwares2263if someone is rude to you while you are kind, you’ve done nothing except show the world that you are a better person than they are. I see no downside to this.
This guy speaks how I expected an etiquette expert to
Thats not a dis by the way. Could listen to him read the dictionary
@@BREAKERisDEADcheck out his podcast "Help I Sexted My Boss" 😅
When I hear him talk, my pinky’s start sticking out
@@sethxmurphy That would have been a good question. If there is any truth to the pinky finger being upraised when drinking and if it is when should it be done.
I beg your pardon, but you shouldn't end a sentence with a preposition. 😅🤣🤣🤣
"you can't interupt someone's conversation unless the're on fire" that's the most British answer ever.
His example was the polite way of calling someone a liar because their pants were on fire. Brilliant!
"Asher, stop you there. Your trousers are alite." 💀
💀💀💀💀💀
"Why didn't you tell me I was about to get doused in petrol?"
"My pardons, but you weren't on fire yet, and I was so intrigue about your inane ramblings on the pseudo-scientific connections between where the Earth and sun were angled to each other at the moment of your birth and how that negated chaos theory in regards to your financial practices today. Plus I was too busy hunting for my pocket lighter."
Being on fire during a conversation is simply not proper etiquette
I came in expecting fancy boring
And i got comedic genius
You might like the podcast he has with a not-fancy friend. It‘s called „Help I Sexted My Boss“ and is hilarious.
Indeed, he has excellent comedic timing and a surprisingly wry sense of humour. Perhaps not that surprising, given 'Posh British Wry Humour' is basically an entire genre of novels.
He’s a comedian as well
I hope you came inside. Otherwise it's not polite.
@@K40L4 Indubitably. I can't fathom why you would even ask such a question, dear.
This man could insult me to my face and I would thank him for providing me with constructive criticism. Brilliant.
w comment 😂
He was rude in this video but extremely passive aggressive, its probably like a sport to him lol.
“I should stop you there, your trousers are alight” 😂 minimal urgency
You don't have to worry about interrupting that person, for they are a liar.
Classic British understatement. In the Korean War, an entire battalion (I believe) was just about annihilated because when asked for a situation report, they responded that the "situation is a bit sticky" to anyone but a Brit that meant they could be better, and could be worse. To the Brits, that mean they were BEING ACTIVELY OVERRUN.
we don't want to give off the wrong impression now do we?
Which is why even if the sky is on fire, you can always trust the BBC reporter to calmly explain to you the "weather is a tad bit too hot, but do save yourself the trouble of putting on the sunscreen, as it will not be needed presently". meanwhile, a stick falling on the ground will be exclaimed as "BREAKING NEWS!!! THE PLANET IS YET AGAIN ASSAULTED AND ITS ALL OBAMA'S FAULT" by you know who.
Panicking won't help the situation.
Wired always gets the human personification of the subject the experts talk about. This guy is etiquette incarnate.
He has an absolute brilliant etiquette advice podcast on Spotify called "Help I sexted my boss" it's absolutely hysterical
@@formulaic78 you didnt watch the video, did you
@@maracarlislenope and then I did and realised my comment was wrong but then couldn't find it to delete it! Will do now. Thanks.
I still look forward to the funeral man. He is still the best despite the macabre nature of his profession.
exactly like victor m sweeney
This guy is what Americans typically think of when imagining a British person
Now if you wanna know what central Europeans think about when the imagine a British person simply watch the opening scene of Lord of the Rings when the Orc Army attacks.
No it is not lmao
@@quatsch344that’s true
5:40 Is what my (Danish) parents told me about Americans. If I held the fork with my right hand, they'd tell me to “stop eating like an American!”
100%, although they think we all have bad teeth
Did not expect to sit through and thoroughly enjoy a video about etiquette at 4 am today, but here we are.
I'm glad I'm not alone, friend. Cheers.
Yes, this. He is delightful!
My life
It’s 3 for me 😂
I enjoyed how the politeness expert read out those "fucks" with zero hesitation.
me too!
It would be rude to change or omit words when quoting someone else! Their original intent must be conveyed.
@@C5bC6C7C8C9n Precisely
I would love to hear him insult someone
I usually don’t bat an eye when I hear an f bomb but he made me want to say “Language!” 😂
I dearly love that he quite openly acknowledged the fact that etiquette is culturally-specific. So often, we see people assuming that everyone must follow the same rules as they, regardless of the context or location.
Exactly, every country and culture has its own ettiquette, would be nice if the title reflected this is just one country's interpretation (no shade to the guy, he seems fun)
False. He only thinks this about some stuff. Still assumes common courtesy is the norm when it died like 10-20 years ago (thanks to social media) at 6:44.
It was not always so, The British arrogantly thought they were "civilizing" the rest of the world in the 1700s.
@@Coecoo but saying please, thank you, and sorry, is a good thing, no?
@@erwancerentio2495 Common courtesy was indeed a good thing, and now it's largely gone.
The indirect roasting and jokingly saying the heaviest words are precisely what I expect from etiquette experts. God I love the aura on this man.
TIL: Etiquette = Sass
Not uppity, not condescending, very interesting and informative. I want to be friends with this man and go people watching with him at the park in my city just to hear his commentary.
Same
he was EXTREMELY condescending, just very polite about it and still provided helpful advice. Kind of felt more like an actor and not a real person.
He has a podcast called 'help I sexted my boss' with his best friend😂😂they are sooooo funny together😭
My grandpa's favorite way to get rid of houseguests was to say to my grandma, "Well dear, should we go to bed so these people can go home?" It always got a chuckle and the message across.
My parents did the same.
I always say "it's been lovely having you, we should do this again" and they basically get the message. That or, if I know they have a bit of a drive, just say something like "oh we'd better let you go, we don't want you driving in the dark too long"
Funny quote, my dad use to say the same in Spain 😂
Oh I like that. And unlike the examples in the video, that's a hint even my autistic behind would understand.
My neighbour will just look people in the eye and say "ok off you go then" lol
I love that he actually (very politely) reads the profanity in the questions.
I lost it at "Have to stop you there, your trousers are alight."
i find his maturity about bad words to be very polite
I love how he says "please", "thank you", and "sorry" are the most important things because I feel like even that is starting to disappear
I, too, love that part of what he said. I’m not great at table etiquette (forks, knives, etc.), but I always say please, thank you, and sorry (when applicable).
I so see this disappearing too. What surprises me is that when I do say that to a server, most of the time they look surprised. Like they are not used to common courtesy or good manners. in fact, the sever at breakfast this morning got a big, beautiful smile on her face when we thanked her and told her she was wonderful.
That's how you know this guy knows what he's talking about. All the behavioral intricacies can vary wildly depending on where you are, who you're with, and what the context is. I'm sure this guy isn't performing surgery on his sandwiches when he's down at Wetherspoons with the lads, because that's actually the wrong etiquette for that context. But the basic concepts of courtesy, gratitude, and humility should be pretty much universal, and there's really no excuse for not saying those few simple words no matter who or where you are.
I keep saying thank you over and over. Once I was at the dentist and when my dentist would clean the water in my mouth with the mouth vacuum I would repeatedly say thank you to him. He would also keep replying with you're welcome. He would also repeatedly say thank you to his assistant even if she did the littlest things 🤣
It's not disappearing, if anything the older you get the ruder you get. I find boomers as a group way ruder than millenials and gen Z. Kids (5-14) are always rude, nothing new.
I love that someone like this actually exists like this on the earth. Love his attitude, not stuck up at all.
"Can I get anyone anything else" is like the British equivalent to slapping your knees and saying "Whelp."
No we do the knee slapping and saying "welp" thing in the UK too.
"HWELP"
@@davidesp00 lmao
I would think my host is surely asking me to stay longer if I heard them say this.
In some parts of the American Midwest this can start an entire new process as each guest/group departing can be an entire conversation on its own.
I appreciate the remarks about saying "please," "thank you," and "sorry." Thanks so much for that.
💯
Came into this expecting some arcane rules about table placing, and got a really good message on just being decent to one another. While I'm clearly not "trained" in etiquette, I feel better knowing that just expressing care and concern for others is the basis of most of these, and I'm unlikely to offend reasonable people with simple ignorance as long as I show some basic consideration for others.
Thank you
@@BlueSparrow23based
"Ah yes they're from Austin Texas which explains so much" I'M DEAD LMAOOOO 💀😭
🔥🔥🔥🔥
Austin is not a good representation of the rest of Texas so he may be right about that, The other parts of Texas we do have some manners and in Texas we certainly know how to say things like "please" and "thank you" and if we are actually wrong "sorry", we're just not wrong that often 🙂
The shaaaaaddddde
Is it proper etiquette to trash a city's population?
@@achecaseIf it’s in Texas, then yes
This guy has the most brutal roasts.
I want to see the most “polite” ways to roast somebody
I can give you a formula: if you want to roast someone and you have something specific in mind, first start by forming the sentence as simply as possible. E.g. “your trousers are ugly”. Then change every noun and adjective to the most complex (British) sounding synonym, add (British) words like quite and rather in to the mix and possibly stir it with some passive aggressive (British) sayings. So instead of saying “your trousers are ugly”, you say “I would rather have you know your pantaloons are quite the sore to my eyesight, therefore I shall request thy broughteth thine britches to the nearest open fire, good sire.”
Listen to his podcast with his bestfriend called 'Help I sexted my boss'😂😂
American waitress here, I love what he said about just using body language and polite speech to summon your server (no dramatic noises or motions). I can't tell you how many grown men have shaken the ice in their cups in my direction, like maracas, to tell me they wanted a refill instead of using their words.
Woman here. I would NEVER shake a glass at a waiter. I generally do the hand body language thing. However, if they don’t take the glasses away for what I’m drinking and have to bring it to the table, like water or tea, I usually do the body language and hand to get their attention then raise my glass. NOT SHAKE, raise. So they don’t have to waste their time walking over to me just to walk away and go get the pitcher and come back. They can just go get the pitcher when they have a sec.
Is that okay? I hope that’s alright I thought it would just save them time, but since you’re a waiter, would that offend you?
I agree. When I need my server, I just give them a polite hand raise and smile whenever they happen to look in my direction
yeah , tell that to waiters here in romania, they ll pass by us like 10 times and unless I signal them as if I m landing a plane they won t come at the table
Former American waitress here, I absolutely hated that! Or the snapping of the fingers and getting louder if you don't come to the table in 3 seconds! Or if they would yell, "Hey!" Drove me into a fit of rage that you have to contain, lol. If I need my waiter/waitress to come to the table sooner, I just raise my hand like in school. If I'm not in a rush, I just wait until they come back to the table to check in on me, etc. I feel like everyone wins that way.
That is ever so rude. I am so sorry
I'm fairly sure this guy's pajamas have a belt.
No he has a robe and a nightcap and a small candlestick
You should check out his podcast, I think you'd be surprised 😅 it's called "Help, I Sexted My Boss" and it's amazing.
And lapels.
Yours don't?
@@sarahwbs what is his podcast about?
An unmentioned rule: He speaks with volume and clarity to the camera, but gently and quietly when addressing the waiter. Not quite a whisper, just slightly above.
Makes eye contact when thanking them, not treating them like a lesser. Cultural norms can be other-ing and excluding, but good show here that they can simply be civil.
@@csn583it is seen as really bad form to treat anyone in a service role as anything but your equal.
The hidden greatness is that he's speaking with volume to the camera because he's trying to present information - when you thank the staff, you're only doing it for their sake, and not for self aggrandisement.
@@csn583 how is it not othering and excluding just because it isn't as visibly mean as you're used to?
I act embarrassed and awkward with waiters. Not intentionally, they’re just intimidating. >_
Q: When is it polite to interrupt someone in a conversation? A: If they're on fire.
I spit at my computer screen laughing when he said that LOL
11:00 In America, the proper etiquette for indicating to guests that they've overstayed their welcome is to take a deep breath, lean forward in your seat, give the tops of both your knees or thighs a firm clap, and say, "Welp!" while standing. You may follow this with a statement such as: "I gotta get some rest," or, "Busy day tomorrow."
Yeah, pretty much!
The all powerful "Welp!..."
I always thought this to be a German-only thing, albeit saying "So!" instead
@@MarcelloInvierno And only "So!". No words after that.
in england it’s “right anyway”
This man thoroughly enjoyed breaking almost every single rule just for an example
It’s the only time in his life he probably has lmao!
That’s a man who was born in a double-breasted navy suit with his hand outstretched for a handshake
actually tho he smirked every time
yeah but I could see him sweating a little bit though, too, like he knew it was naughty and did it anyway
When youre constricted with some snobbish supremacy bs ways of acting, probably every day, instead of being how youre comfortable being within reasonable limits... can you blame him? Lol.
tho he didnt not say thank you to the waiter
"have to stop you there. Your trousers are alight." Sounds like a very mannerful calling out of a liar lmao
@@VahnWyrde 🤣 Oh, totally! That's the kind of classy burn Fred Noonan would've appreciated-if he wasn't, you know, off somewhere in the Bermuda Triangle with nothing but the truth to keep him warm. 🌴🔥
Yup I’m using that
I believe the quotation is "Liar, liar, pants on fire..."
@@penelopecrane4680 I believe that's exactly what they mean
Ok, I don't know much about etiquette, don't usually find myself in very formal circumstances and wouldn't normally watch a video about it. SOMEHOW, this guy got me hooked in a way I couldn't stop watching! Made etiquette sound more like common decency than anything else. Lovely!
Q: Why is Etiquette important?
A: Etiquette is important.
Now I know.
manners maketh man
It's just a similar question to why interacting with other humans is important. That's what they were trying to get at. Etiquette is a shared agreement on doing something or not doing something while interacting.
@@zeronothinghere9334 Until someone disagrees and team "shared agreement" gets mad.
@@zeronothinghere9334 Etiquette is an expression of one's self through the interaction with others. To say that there is "wrong" and "right" is merely dependent on the culture you find yourself in, and traditionalists may very well argue on that point for eternity.
The simple answer is people with etiquettes leave a good impression on others always, whereas people without them may not.
I love how he says "If you are a user of earth; you need etiquette."
implying interplanetary etiquette, just in case you're a user of mars with martian etiquette.
I mean, he's being polite to not exclude the Royal Family or the US Elites, for example 😉
Which is funny because "etiquette" is extremely central to european (british and french) culture and the vast majority of what he says in this video has no basis or legitimacy in the rest of the world (which is most of it)
He did mention that his knowledge of etiquette was for the British form and not the American one, showing the differences, etc. Etiquette is just the way of polite conduct and every culture has this in some form so his statement does hold true. For example, countries that use chopsticks have specific ways you shouldn't use them.
@@octave38 there is definitely etiquette everywhere, but Hollywood makes those two popular. I am Portuguese and live in Spain and can tell you we have different etiquette for eating for example. The Portuguese way is similar to the British way but you can use (and usually do) your fork not pointing down and the Spanish way is identical to the American one. I was once told by a Spanish girl that it was rude to cut eggs (Tortilla Española for example) with your knife, you should use the side of your fork :) And I am sure every country has its rules and methods and the locals are always interested in explaining them if you ask!
he knows
As an Asian, it just doesn't make sense to struggle eating peas with fork when clearly it is meant to be eaten with spoon.
I am American. I agree with the spoon although sometimes I will use the fork as a stopper and scoop the peas onto the spoon against it.
use chopsticks
As a south American I agree. Poking each individual pea with a fork? Who has that kind of time in their life 😂
It slows down the rate at which you eat and helps reduce gobbling. It's actually seen as countering a tendency to gluttony, so there's some sense in it.
peas are clearly not meant to be eaten
I feel like asking “have you got a busy day tomorrow?” Is a trap if you didn’t think it through. If they say “no I’m all clear and good to hang out all night!”.
😅 now what?
"Oh that's nice, but I do have a busy day so we will need to call it very soon"
"At 2.4 meters."
let's admit, he had us there for a second
Yeah he defo uses imperial units
Totally
I was halfway to googling the conversion before he said no I won't even pretend.
I mean it almost made sense to me lmoa
It's actually of course 2.4 metres.
Wasn't expecting such a delightful combination of actual answers and perfectly executed British sarcasm!
I feel more fancy than usual.
Oh you fancy, huh?
lmaooo😂
@@mastod0n1nails done hair done everything did
Same, my dear friend.
😂
This expert was sooooo freaking polite at throwing shade on some of the tweets! I found it super entertaining and amusing! And yes... say "Please", "Thank You" and "Sorry" should be fundamental principles that every human being must apply to their lives!
"Excuse me, but your lower garments appear to be undergoing rapid oxidisation."
"Oh good lord!"
"We may need to summon the fire brigade expeditiously."
This sounds like Data
_"Good heavens! I do apologize for my rudeness."_
Oh bollocks, its seems that my trousers have spontaneously combusted.
That tip about not just leaving a conversation to go to someone else, but to also introduce them to someone else as you leave is probably a life changing tactic to have learned on a random evening youtube video. Thank you!
Depending on who the person is and why you don’t want to keep talking to them, it kinda feels like you’d just be pawning them off onto someone else - to me, at least. Perhaps it’s a bit less rude/more pleasant for the talker being pawned off, but quite a bit less pleasant for the unsuspecting person who now has to engage in an unsolicited and possibly (probably?) undesired conversation with them.
Then again, I say all of that as both an AuDHDer (autism spectrum + ADHD) and introvert - a somewhat outgoing one, but still very much an introvert - who finds small talk and casual conversation to be absolutely dreadful and exhausting.
I think you're meant to pass them on to or introduce them to somebody who has similar interests.
@@doomtho42 he did say find someone who you think will appreciate that type of conversation more than you. Something to consider when pawning them off haha
@@doomtho42 so what? Just because they're annoying you doesn't mean the next person will be exactly the same as you and find them annoying. Give them a chance to make a new friend and a chance to practice speaking to strangers. If people keep abandoning them quickly they may notice that they need to change their tactics. Perhaps observing in a larger group will help.
I think it'd be even better if you could integrate someone into the conversation earlier so it feels more natural, like give yourself maybe 5 min of drivel listening and then peace out, having brought Anna into the conversation before horoscopes ever entered the picture
'If you do not say Please, thank you and sorry'.... no truer words have been spoken. Etiquette goes far beyond how you eat at a table (:
I've always said that learning Please and Thank You in any language will get you everywhere. I'm going to have to remember the Sorry too.
Yeah but I don't hold it against people who don't use please since anyone who's been heavily abused will not have a good relationship with that word.
My favorite quote: “If you are a user of earth… you need etiquette and manners.” 😅
So much table etiquette comes down to one of these things:
- Not making a mess of yourself while eating. (Knife and fork stuff is rooted in this, for example, or the elbows thing that he explained is a more distant thing)
- Being considerate of other people.
- Communicating.
Or just plain tradition that once made sense.
@@AalbertTorsius He just gave distinct logical reasoning over multiple parts of table etiquette, you do NOT need to add ''and other stuff that doesn't make sense'' for 0 reason at all.😭
@anusaukko6792 He didn't say it doesn't make sense at all, just that it made sense for a certain time period e.g. no elbows on table rule.
don't make to much noises and keep you mouth shut while chewing
"Don't let your child run all over the restaurant." Not too much of that going around.
"They [...] clearly have strong opinions on this." ...the sheer elegance of delivery!
He is both informative and quite funny. I enjoyed this clip far more than I expected.
@@chriskershaw7968 which was a bizarre thing to say given how the point of the comment was to say that actually none of this matters. He asserts that they care too much, when clearly he is the one who cares about etiquette and wants us to care too, then fails to answer the question. If you think that was an eloquent rebuttal then he duped you.
@@HighFlyActionGuy "why does any of this even matter"
"It just does okay"
thanks, that explains everything.
@@HighFlyActionGuy Etiquette matters because of the effect it has on how people perceive you. On the other hand, what constitutes proper etiquette is almost entirely dependent on who's company you're in.
Only the genuinely rich would ever bother hiring an "Etiquette Expert" to begin with, because anyone pompous enough to genuinely hold such a title is _not_ an expert of _general_ etiquette, but an expert of _upper class_ etiquette. I'm sure he'd get along quite well in a Michelin star restaurant, but put him in the local pub and he's probably gonna get some looks…
the irony of them posting this with a bridgerton pfp ^^
4:08 "I mean, look, if they're on fire, then you might *_perhaps_* need to say, 'I'll just stop you there. Your trousers are alight.'"
"Oh dear. What in heavens has happened to them?"
@@supersophisticated9943"Well my good fellow, it seems that during this sparkling conversation about your trip to the moon on a golf buggy has caused your trousers to spontaneously combust it seems"
(Liar lair pants on fire)
@@PHAZER99 "Good Heavens! Are they alright?"
Just the way he speaks, the timing and pronunciation of the words, his choice of words, his body language, the way his hair is in perfect shape, no hair sticking out, his suit and tie is giving me Buckingham Palace - Butler - vibes.
Wow 😮 😄
"I'll just stop you there, your trousers are alight." LMAOOOOOO
what does it mean to say "trousers are alight"?
@@ellie-tv5jd In British english it means your trousers are on fire.
@@ellie-tv5jd Liar liar pants on fire. It means that someone is lying.
Most people are polite until someone is rude to them. This guy is polite even when interacting with rude people. Even when he's insulting you, his manners are impeccable.
TIL some people think snideness is polite. Guess I'd better get on it then.
"Bless your heart" energy
The best insults are delivered calmly and subtly.
It's like he's slowly sinking a knife into your side, but he does it so eloquently that you can't even protest that
That needs to put to the test in a real life situation when he is alone with a rude guy.
"this is an aerobic exercise, this is not relaxing in any way"
Yea I eat the British way exactly like him and didn’t even know it
But really, I like to take small bites and this method looks downright miserable. I'd lock up all my table knives and throw away the key if this is how I was taught to use them. "Can you pass me a knife?" "Sorry, no, they're in The Box and never getting out. Forks only, now and forever."
I'm american and I cut my food first if it needs it then I eat. Granted I'm partially blind and lack depth perception as a result so if I didn't do it that way half my food would end up on the floor.
I find it relaxing and im Dutch. I use both methods but for meat the american way is so much better because otherwise you eat cut eat cut eat cut stc. so much easier to cut a bunch of slices and then chill for a bit eating the cuts you made.
How is that more aerobic if the amount of cutting are exactly the same? I'm not even American but I do it the American way. If you do the cutting all at once and then enjoy your meal afterwards, it's actually more efficient and enjoyable. You save the number of times you have to lift up and put down your fork on the plate ffs, and this is a very simple logic. You can even refer to operation research textbooks and it will tell you exactly the same. This British guy is not very bright is he? I find the whole thing quite pretentious and judgmental. Good thing that this kind of etiques belong more to the past than present.
Whoever did the sound editing did a brilliant job, especially with the way they included the classical music interruptions.
My parents are english but i was born and raised american. Im amazed with how much etiquette i use daily without them having really made a big deal about it. Thanks mother and father.
Addressing your parents by ‘mother’ and ‘father’ is a very British thing to do lol
You are one of the fortunate ones. My parents taught me, just being normal Americans, and as a child I thought that's just what parents did. I have a core memory of my mother behind me positioning my hands to show me how to hold a knife and fork at the dining table. I thought that's what other kids were experiencing. Until I grew up and saw that 80% of people have no idea how to use flatware. It's sad.
nobody does any of this in britain anymore, as super formal dining is very uncommon
@@reiniar Brit here. It's uncommon, sure, but absolutely still happens. If you go to university you're very likely to have at least one formal dinner during your time there. Personally I was taught a lot of this growing up. Expensive restaurants also expect formal dress and proper etiquette. (I'm not rich enough for that though.)
Of course when it comes to casual dining the 'rules' are a lot more relaxed. A lot of this is just convenient though. For example the spaghetti twirling is just far more efficient than awkward cutting it up. And at the very least I think every Brit can relate to the awkward experience of trying to catch the waiter's eye politely, ha.
For the last question, my parents always tell the story of when they were very young (and not yet super atune to social norms) and a friend's parents had them over for dinner. When it became time for them to leave, the host stood, smiled at them and said "It was so nice to have you over!". I think as far as "getting rid of a house guest" goes, this is one of the nicest ways of doing it.
What I feel that the person was actually asking the question, "How do you get rid of OVERNIGHT house guests?" Because they talked about setting out a can of bed-bug spray to give them the message that their guests were no longer welcome--as house guests. Why else would they "mention" anything to do with beds via the bed-bug spray example? Visitors come for a few hours or the day. House guests usually stay overnight (or nights on end in the case of those "overstaying their welcome", imo.
@@BomalNeloAnagrm300 Yup, I've watched several of these, and it's not a bad idea to pause and read the original question.
@@BomalNeloAnagrm300 I hadn't thought of it like that, but that's definitely possible!
@@BomalNeloAnagrm300 That's exactly what I thought & commented on as well. I think the question was about asking someone to leave when they've been staying at your house for a few days (or however long).
Yes, I will say "It's been pleasant visiting. Done with a big smile as I get up.
The greatest etiquette advice I heard was when someone asked 'What's the politest way to treat other people?' and the answer (paraphrasing) was: 'Do whatever puts them most at their ease'.
What if they're most most at ease immediately following a BJ?
yeah but thats not always good, is it
@kazamakell care to provide an exception to this rule?
@@Dennis-xj8nh some people think self harm is the greatest thing to put themselves at ease. I wouldnt suggest you entertain that idea just to be polite.
and that's what the slaves did back in the day to be house slaves. Smh
Pleasantly surprised. This was very informative and entertaining at the same time and not what I expected when I clicked on this video. Well done.👏🏻
I died - so much shade and sarcasm without missing a beat. Bring him back as often as possible!
You should check out the podcast he co-hosts "Help, I Sexted My Boss"
I got absolutely none of it.
Try his podcast (& on RUclips) “Help I sexted my boss”, hilarious. He’s on 2-3x a week & there are several seasons to catch up on 😊 enjoy
Isn't it rude towards Anna to have her suffer in our stead listening to horoscope ramble? Shout out to Anna, the real MVP.
I would imagine Ana is also interested in horoscopes
I would imagine we do not like Anna and we know she hates astrology even more than us, which makes her the best choice for having to continue the conversation. And it is not rude at all, as long as we comport ourselves according to proper British etiquette.
And of course everyone else in the room will admire us, even more so if Anna realizes our spiteful intentions, loses her countenance and flinches for a split second
I would assume that in cases like this each person would politely listen for a short while before passing her to another guest. That way no one person has to listen to more horoscope than they can endure and Anna is happy to have met so many different people. Everyone is satisified.
Moral of the story I got: Sometimes it's proper etiquette to throw Anna under the horoscope bus.
For those who don't know, William Hanson has a brilliant podcast about etiquette and other things with his friend Jordan North who is a Radio Presenter, called Help! I Sexted My Boss. It is, by far, the funniest podcast out there. William is obviously very posh, and Jordan is very working class and they are clearly each other's Ride or Die. William seems stiff but he has a wicked sense of humor. Highly recommend.
I will actually be checking this out thank you for the recommendation brock
I love they're videos they're very funny. They read some funny stories
A link to their channel
Oh yes, they are incredibly hilarious in the podcast 😂
Subscribed. Thank you!
I didn't expect a lesson in British humor to be served alongside this fantastic etiquette discussion!
Also, I believe I have never seen a more biting condemnation of being rude by the statement of "If you do not use please, thank you, and sorry, you should be locked in Etiquette Room 101"!
You know what is in Room 101.
Plate of blank spaghettis arriving: "It look so appetizing!" 😂😂😂
Another demonstration of good etiquette
British pasta
'Spaghetti' is the plural; there is no word 'spaghettis'.
@@halfsourlizard9319 no one cares..you ain t anything special
@@Dennis-xj8nh Boiled until mushy.
Deadpan “2.4 meters” was great
I like this guys humor
In fairness, if you're looking for "about eight feet," he just about nailed the guess, and generally speaking, it's a pretty good rule of thumb. Granted, this will depend on the door for overall tactic, but he has the gist of the matter regardless; anything outside of roughly three paces will not be immediately impacted by you opening the door.
The fun thing about asking the waiter for the bill is that in Norway we have a very famous TV sketch where some guy ends up sitting at his restaurant table way after closing time because the waiters don't get his cues.
I want to watch it, what's the name?
There's nor way that happened
@@Game_Hero Kan du be om regningen?
by Manndag
@8:18 As a Texan I appreciate this response lol
Lol just about to say the same
The fact that he tells the lady "thank you" whenever she brings something is just the cherry on top
You're a freak 🤯😱
YES! HE WAS SO POLITE TO HER OMG!!!
Actually to him, it's the foundation. He even says as much.
not sure how ppl are surprised. he did say it was the most basic thing anyone can do as a human, if you aren't start.
Real
it's beyond infuriating when I'm at my retail job and someone doesn't say "please" or "thank you". sometimes when I'm asking someone if they need help they won't even acknowledge me. do better people! this is bare minimum respect!
Why you are invading peoples space with your how can i help?? If i need help i will find you and ask for help.
@@deadzio Because their boss and company makes them do it and they are risking their job if they don't show "initiative" and "customer service". It's not their fault, they're just doing their job. The least you can do is not be a prick and be polite, knowing that there's nothing wrong with saying "Oh, I'm actually fine right now, but thanks!"
I'm autistic and when sales people approach me, it makes me very uncomfortable. My speech becomes very limited.
@@smilenihilistnobody cares
@@Undefined01463 then can they also not care about not getting a "please" or "thank you" or should that street only go one way?
I can't say how much I absolutely love the fact that this man exists. The level of ferocity to his extremely polite roasting is impeccable.
"if that's how they choose to eat"
He speaks like a sophisticated Bond villain, love it.
Here I thought that the proper way to exit a conversation was to say "I need to return some videotapes."
I have to see a man about a dog.
This is it. This is the correct answer
@@rtyughvbn12or horse.
I love the passive aggressive “Can I get anyone anything else?”. It reminds me of Bilbo Baggins repeatedly saying “Good morning” to which Gandalf responds “What a lot of things you do use Good morning for! Now you mean that you want to get rid of me, and that it won't be good till I move off.”
I'm a little more direct... "May I get the door for you?"
The guy is so subtly passive aggressive and I love it
May I take the liberty to suggest a movie? 'Gosford Park' ... there's a good chance, you might enjoy it. It's lovely and full of such subtlety.
that’s called “being british”
Lots of Biriths people watching this going "oh he's good". Passive agressive statements are very much a thing in certain areas.
Very English lol
About as subtle as a brick to the face, but absolutely hilarious. His delivery is just perfect
I love how you acknowledge that other cultures have much different ideas on etiquette and manners.
The sheer look of disgust when he hit the cup with the teaspoon lol
Germans have a very different time etiquette. In Germany "7.30" means you arrive somewhere between 7.25-7.35. Arrive at 7.40 and you are late. Arrive at 7.20 and your host won't know what to do with you.
Yeah Germans and Swiss are punctual. For the rest of the world, give us 15 more minutes. 😂
731 is late in my book.
For me (German) it's 7:20-7:30. When I ask people to be there at 7:30, I've finished my preparations at 7:15 at the latest, so I'm just waiting for them to finally arrive. The later they come, the longer I'm just sitting around waiting, unable to do anything useful, and keeping people waiting is bad etiquette (I'd assume).
@@SCMorfildur ich stimme zu. Ich komme immer pünktlich an. Ich bin 30 Minuten früh für die Arbeit.
I've lived in the U.S. all my life, and I very much prefer this.
If I'm meeting someone somewhere or have an appointment, I'd rather be a half hour early than risk being five minutes late. I'll just bring a book. If it's a party I'll get there early and read while waiting in my car or on a park bench or something.
If guests are staying too long at your house party, the polite thing to do is to buy a second house, move there, and leave your house in the custody of your guests.
If you can't do at least that, you have no business existing.
literally The Beach Boys drummer with the Manson family
Are you midwestern too?!
The correct way is to smack your thighs, stand up, and loudly declare, “Welp, time to hit the hay!”
@@quinnmckinney3153 I was looking for this comment! 🤣
I remember having to do this once, all the guests started to bring the furniture outside for some reason so we just went to a hotel.
8:54 so it's proper etiquette to throw Anna under the bus. Got it
He was a lot funnier than I thought he would be
Ikr, he's handsome too
@@mangomilkyrice No, he's Hanson
"We don't want any clicking, any clapping, or any flapping about" is a most excellent sentence
Matt Watson describing automotive interiors.
i heard that if you need to get the bill, you are supposed to stop drop and roll
In USA no need to worrie about it. Waitress is over your head every 5 minutes and then excpect ransom tip for doing what waiter suppose to do. So glad in Europe they serve food and dont bother you at all. 😂
It reminds me of the opening to the Iconic Barbie song "To Be A Princess" 😂
I have an embarrassing friend who waves at the waitstaff. I should send her this so she stops "flapping about" at them.
I'm not sure what sounded more british
"Have to stop you there, your trousers are alight" (04:10)
Or the bland Spaghetti without sauce or spice "that looks so appetizing" (6:13)
I know! It looks like it's just cooked pasta. No butter or oil, spices, sauce, nothing - who eats it that way? I'm guessing they didn't want to obscure the noodles, so you can clearly see how he handles them with the utensils, but a little butter and spices wouldn't get in the way.
I'm 90% sure he says that sarcastically (not 100% bcs they're british)
@@miriamrobarts these sketties were 100% just for demonstration and werent actually gonna get eaten, so yeah, they didnt want to obscure the pasta or waste any more ingredients on a dish that nobody is going to eat (they are probably cold by the time we see them too)
@@ceremians I'm British, it was 100% incredibly polite sarcasm
@@cerinewton-sargunar4401 Latino humor is pretty much the same, a little bit less polite, but the sarcasm is THERE.
I didn't expect to find him as likeable as I did. "This is an aerobic exercise" sent me 😄 As a Canadian, the door jog is all too familiar! "Please", "thank you", and "sorry" are the first things I teach my kindergarten students.
"if you don't say 'please', 'thank you ', 'sorry' you should be put in etiquette 101 room and the key thrown away" I totally support that
I was hoping for something with a little more aggression, like have some manners beaten into them...
Its nice how he says "thank you" everytime the waiter brings him the food/drinks.
Truly follows his own principle!
It's awesome how he sometimes cut himself off just to say a "thank you". A real gentleman!
It's not proper etiquette to do so. It's their job. Thank them after.
If the waiter is terrible thank them with your words, and if they're great thank them with a higher tip. Not applicable outside the US I'm afraid.
@@themichaelcycle You don't have to pay tips if their boss already pays them enough money. I hate tipping culture.
Agree! I tend to always thank the waiter, but I’ve noticed a lot of my dining companions are not doing so anymore… And it got me wondering if I was in the wrong! Glad he showed us such a good example in this video
For regular people this kind of etiquette is over the top but I love how he emphasizes basic manners (please, thank you, etc) no matter who you are or who you’re speaking g to
yeah he mentions fine dining a few times and I think better in that situation
It’s in all situations. It’s a mindset and very natural once you have practiced.
That’s why the world views N Americans as the uncouth pigs we are.
yeah cutting up a burger at someone's house would be flat out rude- he got the key points of trying to be respectful in there though
I had this drilled to me growing up and took years to unconsciously undo. Simple things like standing when a lady stands at the table during a meal. It was just second nature that got a 'what are you doing?' when I went to friends' birthday meals as a teenager.
You're right, though regular people can sometimes find themselves in irregular situations
Normally I can't be bothered with ettiquete or norms at all (unless I'm in a situation where I need to), but this man is so thoughtful and earnest about it he makes me want to try. Him making a point of ettiqutte being about selflessness and consideration is somewhat moving
The correct way to eat peas is with a spoon and a plate angled 45° directly into your mouth.
Funny. I thought the correct way to eat peas was to dump them directly into the trash can.
Lol it is better to put the peas on the back of your knife and then roll them into your mouth
@@JosThoSulyou are correct.
@@JosThoSulOnly if they’re canned. Frozen and fresh are quite nice.
@@rtyughvbn12When we were kids, my youngest brother would individually hand skewer the length of each tine on his fork with individual peas. Then it would go in his mouth. I took a photo of him doing this once.
NOTE: He only did this when mom and dad weren’t around.
8:28 I thought this was a video on etiquette, not a roast
But it is. Why should it be a roast?
Those are not mutually exclusive. Especially for the British.
Absolute savage hahahaha
Went to a Syrian friend's party with my then girlfriend. We got up to leave and he said "No no, have another beer." 10 minutes later the same. On the third time he says "No no, stay," but then when we sat down again he looked at us and said "In Syria, you can never let a person leave, but of course they have to go eventually..."
yes, it's called Taarof and it's a thing in middle eastern culture. look it up
Hahahah as a Syrian I confirm, guests must insist on leaving and the host should insist on staying but in a more light way. It's a thing of all the middle east
Interesting. I imagine without knowing that, it would be funny to keep staying and having more beers until you pass out drunk
Sounds annoying AF
sounds messed up it's already hard for us introverts that might be the final nail in the coffin
Displaying etiquette is most apt way to be respectful to all including self!!!
5:14 I need to stop you there for a moment. You NEVER eat a burger with utensils! Instead, if it's large, you smash it into your mouth with your bare hands.
That’s why the real answer for that etiquette is to *never even order/buy a burger in the first place* if you were planning on eating with someone in a well known and well respected restaurant (among the higher-ups of society) that cares about etiquette or demands it for whatever reason. I’m actually surprised that these kind of expensive restaurants (to us average citizens) have meat and vegetables covered with bread dishes (i.e Burgers and Burritos).
@@AdhvaithSaneexpensive doesn't imply etiquette, except for the crass. Didn't you see Trading Places?
I've seen lots of $25 burgers, but none in a restaurant with a dress code. Generally, if you can get in the door without a shirt or jacket, you can expect a burger, regardless of the costliness of the joint.
This is if you had to eat it like a human being. If you want to be a disgusting, rootin tootin, uncouth, uncivilized, guns blazing yank, then be my guest.
Yeah I suppose when you're 5 kids living in the slums you have to grab what you can while you can.
@@connors3356burger boy
Semi-unrelated but etiquette aside, the
“Please, no & thank you”
bit is SO important in life in general. If you’ve ever been with a narcissist you’ll know what I mean. You have no idea how refreshing / AMAZING it is to hear an “I’m sorry” or “thankyou” after you’ve been with someone who can’t even do that. If you can admit when you’re wrong & show appreciation towards others you are a 10/10 human being.
Something I find moving, Almost to regain faith and hope: when a driver lets me pass first as a pedestrian.
(The chances increase if I have a child. But not much)
My country is not known for its respectful citizens.
I don't care much about manners. But that is a true gesture of sacrificing time waiting for me to cross... And respecting the law 🤣
7:58 this is more the fault of airline companies still making seats that recline while ALSO making the seat rows closer and closer to each other by the year
Yeah, reclining seats should just not be a thing. You don't generally even get them in Europe, always seemed like such a murican thing to me. Rude AND murican, which, I suppose, are the same thing.
And yet here you are@@TheUltimateBlooper
Sure, but everyone is aware enough to know it's sh*tty to do.
I can also sit on someone else's lap on an airplane, and it would be rude.
@@TheUltimateBlooper have you ever been on a 14-hour flight? And never reclined? Really?
I am surprised at how entertained I was at watching this gentleman answer questions about etiquette
"I'll just stop you there, your trousers are alight" the way he said it so politely, I cant
"Oh thank you very much. I hadn't noticed. Aaahhh AAHHH AHHHH AHHH!!!!!!!"
Oh it appears they are. Would you be so kind as to pass me your water?
I think this is the most british sentence I have heard
This guy looks like he would see me walking in the park and mutter “filthy commoner” before spitting on me, 10/10 video
Very funny 😅
now THAT would definitely be bad etiquette
Not without sayin sorry afterwards 😌
*peasant**
youtuber commentors out here writing they fantasies
My dad, born 1917, solidly middle-class, had a rule: all joints on the table will be carved! He also tended to tap any misplaced elbows with the carver-steel, which left an impression!
Is it normal to expect you moved out as soon as you can?
@@MangaGamified It's like you know me. 1960's & 70's English middle-class trauma was daintily inflicted.
Sounds like abuse….
@@alexc9434 Well, being young, middle-class, and English in the 60's, abuse hadn't quite been defined just yet. Stiff upper lip, character building, and all that.
@@theoriginalbuggins My impression of middle class etiquette is a system to fit in where you are above the large majority but not in the position where you can start to form the rules.
Upper class eccentricity in Britain seems like using slight flaunting of rules as a status symbol.
You should be mandatory viewing for all high school students. You are wonderful. 🙏🇨🇦
5:00 "Nobody's got a mouth that big."
Excuse me, would you please hold me beer while I unhinge my jaw?
Unhinging your jaw is not appreciated in restaurants.
Are you a snake?
This man is ignorant of snake etiquette
as an American I got legitimately upset when he started taking the burger apart and eating it with a fork and knife. defeats the entire purpose of constructing it into a burger with buns, this man is an animal.
@@garstrum4401I wanna see you eat a juicy burger with hands like a kid in a nice restaurant. It would be funny af.
I used to think etiquette was very stupid, that it was a symbol of _class_ specifically, and as someone born severely impoverished, I deeply resented that. Now I understand it is just a way of letting the other person save face, being kind/avoiding frustration/confusion and not grossing people out/staying sanitary.
*Sometimes* it's that. Often it's just a way for some people to feel unjustifiably superior to others without actually having to do anything.
What your talking about is manners. High society etiquette (including how to "correctly" eat burgers and peas, how to stir etc.) _is_ a class marker.
It is a symbol of class, its just people signalling to each other that they're of a certain class in this case "english-rich". See also Ron Desantis wearing jeans to try and signal that he's southern rural working class when he's not.
Nah, being polite to others or staying sanitary is not a matter of etiquette, it's a matter of having basic decency and manners.
How you stir your tea, which hand you use to hold the knife and so on is not a matter of being decent towards other human beings, it's just the high class posh BS.
It's also about signaling in-group membership. Europe was an incredibly high trust society back when those rules were developed, so much of society was based on the preconception that people would generally act in good faith. Being raised in a way that imparted those in-group signals would also theoretically impart a common culture and set of values. Someone not knowing the proper way to prepare and present tea may also indicate they aren't aware of the proper way to resolve disputes.
The hold the door situation is extremely specific and terribly relatable, both as the holder and the jogger 😆
I glance behind, estimate their time to the door. If it is less than the time the door closes plus about one or two seconds, I will hold the door. I will hold it longer for someone who is carrying something, often offering to help unless it's something like a baby carrier.
Something I've attempted in the past is to feign like I'm checking my phone for a notification or to send a quick text message while standing within reach of the door. It's less unnerving than standing there maintaining direct eye contact with the other person.
Then when they've closed the gap, I will put my phone up and reach for the door handle. If someone else is about to exit the building, then I'll immediately open the door for the person about to exit (that is if I can see them exiting, otherwise I wouldn't stand so close to the door if I couldn't see through to the other side) and hold it open for the more distant individual.
The most awkward part about this method are the moments where I misjudge someone's intentions to enter the building when they were simply wanting to enter another building close by (or when they were wanting to meet up with someone else nearby). I just end up with a conflict within my mind as to whether the two are going to enter the building together or if they're going to stand outside and converse with one-another.
Just remember, when they break into the awkward half jog, they’re also just being polite. It is also polite to say “oh no rush.” And then polite for them to continue to rush. Etiquette is weird and often built with lies and is why it’s so hard for Autistic people to understand (unless clearly explained as it is, which is fakery for the sake of kindness.) Lmao.
You absolutely rock. Thank you. Etiquette I think is about consideration, not about silly rules, per se, which I think you embody so well.