Who has secrets about themselves that nobody knows about? Also, for anyone looking to learn about what your habits says about you, watch this video: ruclips.net/video/YISpLOP9KCA/видео.html
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How a person treats service staff is probably the most revealing for what you need to know about a partner. The type of shoes a person wears as their favorite shoes I think is pretty useful as well.
What if i have (undiagnosed) social anxiety and cant make eye contact and struggle to talk to service staff so all i can do is nod my head for yes shake my head for no.
i think it's important to not judge people by things that they might not have gotten to choose. lots of people have only one or two pairs of shoes- or of actually fitting shoes- that they were lucky enough to come by at all.
She's qualifying all of these because further investigation may reveal there are other reasons for these tells. A man might be taught by his parents to always have a firm handshake, which neutralizes that as a clue. Or say you meet someone at a cafe & they are brusque with the waitstaff: it may not be due to personality, but because that person is preoccupied with some important matter. (This would be the case with someone who is brusque with the waitstaff yet leaves a generous tip.) These are all bits of a puzzle, which needs to be assembled & studied before any firm judgment is made. None should be used in isolation.
Don’t rely on this channel, they can be good but they also have a lot of misinformation in their videos sometimes; In general don’t rely on un reputable sources from the internet
The little things: 1.- How often you check your phone 2.- How you treat service staff 3.- What type of shoes you wear 4.- How often you make eye contact 5.- Your handshake 6.- Whether you show up on time or not 7.- You get something for yourself and no one else 8.- You subtly put others down 9.- Where you look when you're drinking out of a cup
@@randomrobloxplayerbasicall2936 [Makes eye contact with you while drinking some water out of a cup after showing up late to the comments section, wearing comfortable shoes] You're not avoiding doing the little things, are you? That wouldn't be very honest of you. [Gives you a firm handshake and waits patiently for the waiter] Do you want something to eat?
The last sign was a very unique way to analyze someone's personality...I really love these peculiar kind of analysis. It is very entertaining and engaging.
Some of these are red flags. If someone I'm with is rude to a service worker I'll call them on it right there. How you treat someone you have power over in life says a LOT about your character.
My dad is always very polite her formal to people in grocery stores etc., and I have just picked it up at this point. Always saying thank you and have a good day to everyone I come across. Have no idea what that means about me though because really it’s a copied trait.
@@regrettispaghetti2517 if it makes you feel any better, i have anxiety and i’m a cashier at taco bell, so whenever i can see someone else with anxious tendencies i try to be understanding and be as clear and (hopefully) calming as possible cuz i know the feeling
Realized I checked my phone more often, and I'm stressed more often, and I'm ruder and less considerate and don't pay attention as much as I used to... Uh oh
I love Amanda’s voice :///) she is so good at sounding like she’s talking to you like a friend. Her voice is up there with corpse and lily with soothing voices.
1. How often you check your phone? 2. How you treat service staff? 3. What type of shoes you wear? 4. How often you regularly make eye contact? 5 Your Handshake 6. Whether you show up on time or not (Multitasker / Laid back) 7. If you get something for yourself but not for someone else 8. If you subtly put others down 9. Where you look when you're drinking out of a cup *Cackles in neurodivergentness, iffy eyecontact an fixation on wearing the same attire*
1. Not much. 2. With politeness. I don't like drama. 3. TMI. 4. TMI 5. No idea. 6. TMI 7. I do. 8. Nope! 9. I don't pay attention to small details like this.
Sum: 1. How often you check your phone 0:50 2. How you treat service staff 1:53 3. What type of shoes you wear 2:34 4. How often you make eye contact 3:40 5. Your handshake 4:12 6. Whether you show up at time or not 4:59 7. You get something for yourself and no one else 5:39 8. You subtly put others down 6:07 9. Where you look when you drinking out of a cup 6:36 Yo sorry for slow typing!
Man, i really have a bad time (no reference intended) this end, just one mistake and my parent punish me forever??? What? Huh, sorry for bothering, just thought making this at comment make me feel better, cuz i want to share ot to someone
@@treznopresto4878 dont lose hope yet 🙃 you’ll be good soon and this is happening for a reason. There are people who still love you so you’ll be okay. Take care and just a lil hardwork you can get what you want
@@treznopresto4878 don't worry everything gonna be ok maybe not now, not today but someday sonner or later....if you are feeling sad or depressed or want to talk to someone i am ALWAYS here for you....if I can do a little help to you ☺️
For each point. 1. Most of my friends and family are quite a distance away, and I don't like to seem like I'm avoiding them by not texting back as soon as I can. 2. I try to be friendly and polite to others in general. 3. I wear gumboots around home, especially in the paddocks, because it's safer (especially when the brown snakes are out). I wear comfortable runners if I'm going into town or something. 4. I tend to watch a person's mouth when talking with them, rather than their eyes, unless I know them well. 5. I don't like shaking hands. I find it uncomfortable. 6. I'm very punctual, if I have a say in it. 7. I definitely check with others if I'm grabbing food or beverages if they want something. I also check if there's anything I need to do then or soonish before I start anything that's going to take a while. I also consider surprising others if there's something cheap and I have enough change. 8. I don't think I put others down, but it is possible that I do so accidentally. If it gets pointed out, I will apologise... and then potentially mess it it by trying to spin what I said into something more positive. 9. I close my eyes when drinking out of a cup. What does that tell you about me? I'm curious.
it's extremely telling. for the same reasons as how people treat people who can't talk yet &/or of other species is: these are all opportunities to show empathy without the motivation being an expectation of the usual levels of accountability. unfortunately, the best tell is how someone treats someone whom they have good and used to them plus locked into a sense of personal loyalty & a marriage contract with no good prenup.
so true btw this reminds me of the time me and my broke friends went to a restaurant and when the bill came to $66 we paid and my friend tipped the waitress his bus fare by accident we tried to give her a lot of tip because how she approached us was really good and she was so sweet and nice. We gave her $12 and it was long after my mum came and stuff in the gc later he said he didn't have his bus fare lol. But we lived in the opposite direction and it was like 8:00 in the night. Eventually my other friend used his card and paid for him.
Weirdly, making eye contact physically hurts me. The relief I feel when I don't have to make eye contact in conversation, is like flopping down in your comfortable bed at the end of a long day.
its the same for me when I look into a camera. For me it feels like I am staring into the sun and my eyes literally start tearing up, even though it isnt very bright.
I believe they meant it in a case where the presence of others are involved. So asking out of courtesy basically. Otherwise, it's obviously not obligatory to ask them to join you. And even if you don't, you are no bad person. Those are just people's expectations playing. And we know how expectations can get 😑
Yeah that one's weak, tbh. Like yeah it's nice to offer but there's plenty of perfectly good reasons why somebody wouldn't do that? Like, maybe you just have enough money for you and want to treat yourself? Why is that necessarily a bad thing when it's a want, but not a need?
1. How often you check your phone (0:50) 2. How you treat service staff (1:55) 3. What kind of shoes you wear (2:35 4. How often you naturally make eye contact (3:40) 5. Your handshake (4:13) 6. Whether you show up on time or not (5:00) 7. You get something for yourself but no one else (5:40) 8. You subtly put others down (6:07) 9. Where you look when drinking from a cup (6:36)
Am I the only one that stares into someone’s soul when they’re trying to understand someone deeply but then just ends up making them uncomfortable or creeping them out?
I do that at times too. I also have to be careful when hugging someone so I don't read into their thoughts or things personal to them. It's NOT something I mean to pry into...it just happens if I don't control it.
I stare into souls too! even though I've tried to camouflage it with nodding and hand movements, but sometimes I get caught up and forget to hold back :( then I can see them shifting and looking away XD thank god I'm not the only one
Nazis loved animals and Hitler did as well and was vegetarian. My own father saved orphan animals but almost killed my mother multiple times. I don't know if that is true
@@creatureoftheeast3331 Okay maybe not in all instances, and I'm so sorry your father was awful, I hope you and your mother are doing good- and didn't Hitler almost wipe out a whole breed of dogs because one bit him/didn't like him???
@@xxxluckycharmsxxx my family escaped him and I don't remember him. And there's some sources that say Hitler was for animal rights but it's hard to believe. I wouldn't be surprised if he did hate a whole breed
Bro, I always treat service staff well. I know what it’s like to work hard, so I appreciate and respect everybody. Cashiers, receptionists, wait staff, everybody. On the very rare occasion that I go out to eat with mates, I always ask for things politely, wait patiently, clean up after myself, and if the staff are super cool, I’d leave a good tip (we don’t really tip here in Australia). People appreciate the little things, especially when it seems like some people often forget to treat you with common decency on a regular basis.
Same. My parents raised me to treat everyone with respect, and as I've grown older and had to do those kinds of jobs, I've just become even more polite ^^
My soles are severly damaged... they're cracked and broken... Almost accurate, except that, if the eyes are the window to ones soul, I don't have a soul that could be crakced and broken, because my eyes are black.
That last one actually gave me chills, as I am the one who usually drinks with my eyes closed... Though, in strange environments or around new people, I look over my cup because I don't trust anyone around me...
Time stamps: 0:52 How often you check your phone 1:55 How you treat service staff 2:36 What type of shoes you wear 3:42 How often you make eye contact 4:14 Your handshake 4:59 Whether you’re on time or not 5:44 You get something for yourself and no one else 6:07 You subtly put others down 6:37 Where you look when drinking out of a cup
All very good points. The way people treat others who they "don't have to be nice to" says a lot about how they will eventually treat you. Pay attention to how they talk to their parents and siblings as well as their close friends too.
People always say “Don’t bottle up your emotions!” And to them I say, I bottle up my emotions so much that I forget I even HAVE negative emotions and they just come in jokes at my own expense! I am 100% fine because I refuse to acknowledge my mental health because I have so much mental baggage and can’t afford a therapist so therefore I am alright!
@@FancyShrimpp therapy should be in the universal healthcare system. As in, funded by the people and used by those who needed it. I would say free, but it's not technically free.
Psych2go: shoes can tell a lot about who you are The people with crocs: *nervous sweating* *edit: my RUclips notifications will never financially recover from this
Crocs show that u r casual. It shows about the financial status and the recent past place u came from. With the real scenario and example...I can tell more.
You mean the unvain, well- cushioned people?... Why sweat?!.. Crocks show that you care more about being comfortable than looking comfortable! i don't recall whether they seemed easy to dance in without them falling off, though. :/
I naturally hold eye contact but made my handshake firm on purpose because people are like sharks and will smell weakness. I’ve been this way even at my lowest.
Specifically for the cup one: I have trained myself (subconsciously) to look around my surroundings when drinking, or to look down but not inside the cup to be aware of what's happening around me. So.. I don't think it really shows my personality very well, but for others, it is probably more accurate. (I am a Looking-inside-the-cup personality)
"if you're someone that's more so aggressive, you probably like to wear ankle boots" **aggressively hides my combat boots that look exactly like the illustration**
Number 7 might also be a person who was never exposed to the culture of getting smth for someone else. Especially if that person is from a consistently abusive family. It's not nice to only paint people negatively because of this one thing they never learned to do
So true, @Rika Okumura: I concur on that one. I was adopted into a very macabre family. I'm nothing like them, but as I said in my own lengthy comment....this video seems bias and likely only guinea-pigged almost perfect specimens for this study.
I was never really given gifts or had a birthday celebrated so because of that I make sure I’m always giving when possible on regular days and birthdays to family, friends or strangers it’s a learned trait. i want a person to feel like they matter because growing up I felt like I didn’t. And I never want a person to have that feeling.
I wasn’t abused but I still feel like that’s a cultural thing. It can be nice to get people things if you have the money and there’s no reason not to, but some people weren’t raised to believe you should always get gifts for others even if you can hardly afford what you get for yourself.
@@iampomegranates Nobody should ever feel they must gift to someone. My adoptive mum was very cruel to me yet she "bought" so-called friendship with others her whole life. She even did this with my own children. It got so bad that when she was w/o a job, she refused to visit my kids because she felt she had to bring them a gift each time. When she finally showed up 2 months later, my daughter answered the door and refused to let her in because her mei/nana had NO gift. I wanted to be angry with my daughter, but I realized it was NOT my child's fault...it was her mei's. This is why I deeply wish others to know that your existence in someone's life is priceless on its own. Never let anyone make you feel as if you must pay to be around them or be their friend....such expectations are NOT friendship! I hope this helps anyone that is in doubt of their own self-worth.
I was learn to be generous al the time because it is what a “good person has to do”. 2 years ago I went to a Psycologist and told me is good to treat myself and stop doing that as an obligation.
Me who wears ankle boots, but is scared of everything, has never gotten into a fight, and wouldn’t be able to hurt a fly 👁👄👁 Edit: Guys pls stop arguing and complaining about it. I wear ankle boots because their comfortable, I like the way they look, and they go well with my outfits. And also I don’t just wear ankle boots. I wear sneakers too. I never rly wear sandals or heels unless I have to be if you do good for you! They look great I’m just clumsy and I prefer more comfortable and casual stuff. It’s a personal preference. People can wear whatever they want. We all have different opinions. Feel free to comment about what you wear and why but pls don’t be rude thx!
ohh same with mee..🤭 don't know if wearing ankle boots are that obvious to be an aggressive one, as i don't relate to it much, i'm always just the only quite and cold person among most of the people that i know and have never fought with anybody aggressively. (not even my siblings or friends) 😕
@@cant_escape_ Sameeee I mean I’ll admit I am into more darker styles of clothes and I enjoy things like horror and thriller movies, but I’m not exactly an aggressive person. I can typically come of as cold and kinda standoffish because of my rbf and how quiet I am as well as my clothes and terrible communication skills.
I LOVED the thing about the cup, I find I look all the 3 places mentioned. AND that these are indicate of my mood. But most commonly I tend to look inside, but usually outside and then inside. First to see if anyone is watching me drink and second to see how much remains in the cup.
“If you wear ankle boots, you’re aggressive” Me, who owns mostly ankle boots but can’t even say anything when a waiter gets my order wrong: *”Something’s not right, I can feel it”*
I had to laugh on the shoe one. From my own experience wearing hiking boots can mean you are aggressive, or that you destroyed your ankle back in school and need the support to avoid limping.
I think the shoes thing is way more complicated than so. It's also a generational and trend based thing. Also, ankleboots can't just be about agressivness, right? I feel like that's more about expressivness and an individual who are either mentally very stong or is very much not, but hides behind an external frame that makes them look as if they are a strong individual.
Yeah I agree. I don't the shoes one really works for me. I wear shoes based on necessity. I wear a couple different heals for work because I work cooperate or I'll wear Tom's for work for casual days. But for winter months I wear a couple pairs of ankle boots for work bc their professional but warm. I wear running shoes or hiking boots more often than not for dirty stuff like hiking, talking my dog to the dog park, working in the garden etc. I wear flip flops for walking out the house real quick. And lastly I wear slippers in the house no matter matter time of year.
"Is your date complaining nonstop about your waitress? Are they losing their patience or temper over every little thing that the waitress does wrong?" *: you're dating Karen*
"Looking over the rim means you can trust others easily" Me: *looking over the cup and watching people because my brain says that if I look away they're gonna steal something or try and murder me*
Punctuality is a good way to show consideration for others, rather than letting them sit and wonder what happened to you, if you're going to show up, etc. and wasting their time, especially in a professional type of situation or regarding appointments, as a lackadaisical attitude toward being on time can be indicative of unreliability, regardless of how much stuff you've got going on; at least call and let them know if you're going to be late, which is indicative, again, of consideration for the other person. That tells a lot about you.
3 things: 1. These points are so interesting to learn more about others and the self 2. Absolutely LOVE the art and colour palette of this video 3. The narrator has such a calm nice voice!
Oh, I guess the extroverted introvert label really does kinda fit for me. I'd consider myself an introvert, but off the top of my head, the eye contact, handshake, and cup drinking things really resonate with me, although the eye contact and handshake things are partly due to being raised to be polite in the traditional Korean sense.
I grew up homeschooled, so I was taught similarly (didn’t have a lot of friends so my dad would teach me handshakes and such), and consider myself an extremely introverted extrovert lol Edit: I’ve since learned that introversion/extroversion doesn’t correlate with social skills or even the desire for a social life, but correlates with how energized you feel around people. I’m definitely an extrovert, and I have social skills but I’m painfully awkward 😂
Thanks for realizing that like most people think, it isn't just "that damn phone". My phone is my escape. Online I have a broader pool of people to choose from, and it's way easier to find people my age that I really like than it is to find people in my small community irl where I have scars down my arms and am awkward as all hell. I've found amazing people that I connect with and that are easier to share with/get to know than people irl. They make me feel validated and loved as much as anybody. Yes, I have educated myself on online safety and keep myself safe. Yeah, drama happens online and friends are lost. But guess what? It happens irl too. Or sometimes I just need my phone to help take my mind off all the crap going on around me...
I feel so embarrassed when I make a confident handshake and the other person's handshake feels like they don't want to touch you like I know some people don't like to handshake but come on now people!
To be fair, it could also be because I didn’t expect a handshake 😂 I normally only expect it in formal meetings and were surprised some people do it when they first meet you...
Also remember with the cup thing, the handshake thing, and the eye contact thing, they're dependent on circumstance and upbringing. With eye contact and handshakes, some people are still taught to make eye contact as a sign of respect, and to have a firm handshake, because first impressions and stuff. Because of this, firm handshakes and more eye contact are more common in business settings. A person will also make more eye contact with someone whose company they enjoy, even if they're introverted. This also applies for the drink thing. If you're having a conversation with someone, they're more likely to look at you over the rim of their cup while taking a drink. I've done this a lot by accident with people I liked or whom I wanted to like me, but when I'm alone I look down at the drink with my eyes half-closed. Also remember, when the video lady mentioned looking over the rim as a sign of awareness: it might be that the person is keeping an eye out for someone/something, or they might be on edge. Be sure to look for other body language signs, such as the direction the person is leaning/facing, tense shoulders, or narrowed eyes in order to get the whole picture.
A few years ago i was reading a comic and the main character would look at people's shoes to determine what type of person they were as they were too shy to actually get to know someone. As someone who's also really shy and introverted, i can confirm that its very useful and ive been doing it ever since.
One of my relative female said in my high school time she look at her male frnds, classmates shoes whenever they try .. n if they r righteous. Same unknown guys , known guys, strangers fr same .. I noticed guys who wear that type shoes to prove good in real shits I hated so I'm biased also mayb sorry.. but shoes , behaviour wth servce staff etc can't prove who is what.. we all r into civilization n hygiene, neat clean, good presentation, good image establishment, educated proved etc in religion to outer world rules orders must do issues. Also mood, mental condition, past life to current life, likings dislikings, financial status, willing to give efforts or no need effrts uselss nothing related based, physcl energy, dfrnt way presentation issues thinking based simple or nicely or heavy etc based, environmental or situation or own condition otthr ppls condition based, plans , excitement or no excitement based or as usual simply based, personal life d expectations n current overall based , importance level based, using types based..etc does matter fr ppl..
#4 was so true When were introduced ourselves to our class and shared what career you'll take, only 3 of us don't know what we were taking. Suddenly, our adviser said “why?”, I avoided eye contact with the teacher after she said that.
"if you're someone who is more so aggressive, you probably like to wear ankle boots" I almost feel attacked with my boots now lol (I wear my boots to better support my ankles, and much prefer to avoid all conflict when possible) that being said, it is definitely an interesting concept to use such things to guess a person's personality
I’m sort of in between? My favorite pair of boots are my black ankle boots because they look nice with my fishnets/skirt, and while I have more of an aggressive personality I also prefer to avoid conflict because it’s super stressful.
Subconsciously the elevated height in heels and boots makes one more confident and therefore, can come across as more aggressive than someone with flip flops...
Man, I feel bad that I don’t often think to get others things when I get things for myself. It just doesn’t cross my mind. Nothing non-abstract crosses my mind unless it’s right in front of me. I’m too busy thinking about science and Mathy stuff when I’m out and about on my own. I’ll often not hear people say my name or not notice something that needs to be noticed because I’m so lost in my own head. I feel bad but it’s also like I can’t really help it, I really hope no one thinks I’m selfish for that. I’m not selfish, I’m just unaware!
I’ve been through a lot and tend to be harsh on myself when things aren’t “perfect”. These little videos help me to understand me a bit better and realize how cute I can be. Took a lot of pain to get to this point in my life but I really do love myself for pushing through ✨God bless you all🌻
Uhmmm there’s other reasons besides being “cheap” or “rude” as to why you aren’t offering to pick up food for others Like being POOR or suffering from severe anxiety I often WANT to offer to get others something but I usually have gotten together my change just to purchase my item and I can’t barely even afford that and I also have really bad anxiety about talking to my own family and friends it’s crippling
i strongly agree! also i sadly often forget to bring someone something, it doesn’t even cross my mind sometimes and i don’t know why but i’m sure it’s not because i’m cheap or because i’m selfish, and anyway i’d eventually share the food i got for myself with my roommate/friends or whatever. however i’m always in awe of people who always think of others when getting things for themselves (including gifts out of nowhere, im so bad at it and i’m trying to get better and make it a sweet little habit)
@Astal you are right. Money is a factor here too. Its selfish to expect people with less money to get something for you. I'd never do that, but I know selfish people like that. I agree with you.
THANKYOU!! This is what I'm saying!!! This is a disgusting oversimplification of the details that may allude to a persons personality! I'm Disabled with an invisible illness. How would you measure that? You wouldn't because that and all of this is down right rude and a perpetuation of a culture that judges first. How about we just start with we are all people!!!
The shoe bit is clever as hell. I used to wildly insecure, in a constant state of internalized pain. I wore dress shoes all the time. They were relatively uncomfortable, but I did not want to wear anything else. It's cool because as I got older I put away many of my dress shoes, and currently wear a pair of shoes that are very comfortable. I really never thought of that until now.
im actually the opposite where if Im going through something / am anxious, I cant be on my phone!!! Looking at my phone is overwhelming as is so I like to stay away from it as much as I can!
"people who struggle with mental health are more likely to intensively use their smartphone as a form of therapy".. I can confirm that,I do it daily,it's called escapism. I suffer serious depression on a daily basis,my family won't talk to me,nir do they care about me,and I don't have any friends,so I just play a ton of games or browse pinterest to numb the pain of reality.
I make a lot of eye contact, even though I'm introverted and shy, this might be because I like to either make people think that I'm in a firm and confident state while talking so they don't get too "afraid". Furthermore, I also tend to avoid eye contact when I'm close or speaking to a person I have a crush on, probably because I get uneasy about what they might think about me.
Omg same! I look people in the eyes when they're talking to me, to show I'm listening, but I avoid eye contact when I'm talking bc I'm also incredibly awkward and hate attention lmao
Waiter: *gives water* Me: Thanks Waiter: *gets plates* Me: Thank you Waiter: *gets food* Me: Thank you very much Waiter: *cleans up food* Me: Thanks so much Waiter: *waves when I'm leaving* Me: Thank you for the great food
Literally my biggest pet peeve is people who mistreat service staff like unless they literally are NOT doing their job there is no need to be disrespectful towards them.
I am struggling with mental health, I'm always kind to Staff, people do agree with me most of the time, I get uncomfortable very easily, I am Shy, I show up on time, I am kind and unselfish, I don't put others down, and a lot of people look up to me. This video was amazing and I love The content yall make.
#4: Eye Contact Autism - Those who are Autistic, even high-functioning Autists, find it VERY difficult to look even loved ones and friends in the eye. We fear it. Meeting someone in the eye means making a connection of a sort that we find very uncomfortable, even abrasive. Sociopaths - These people don't give an F. You know how someone says if a person blinks a lot they're lying? Or if someone stares at you too intently, they're lying? If you want to know if someone across the room is watching you, fake a yawn, and if they yawn, they're watching you? These tricks do not work on a Sociopath.
Autistic person here to say that the system of functioning labels are (finally) becoming out of date due to it being from a eugenics view of autism, as well as not actually being sufficient in describing the experiances of autistic people. Yay for us! Some people when hearing this default back to calling 'high-functioning' autistic people as having 'Aspergers syndrome' but I strongly discourage that; calling on the name of the nazi scientist who, having experimented on us, decided to name us after him (no he wasn't even autistic himself) ain't a good look. My recommendation would be to say that "even those on the spectrum who take to communicating through social interaction very effectively" since that's the specific trait you're talking about. Hope this helped! :)
@Delta Tha Fella I sorry I came across that way. My meaning was that it shouldn't be something that other autistic or allistic people should label us as, it's something for us to decide for ourselves and to say that as an individual you are ok with that label, but that it shouldn't be assumed that someone is comfortable with that. There is definitely a culture and a community that we as autistic people have and aspie has been a part of that. I think that should stand on its own separate from Asperger. It's something that belongs to members of the autistic community that is about #actuallyautistic people and not some N*zi. It has it's terrible origins, but it's more so about community, than said origins or just another way of saying aspergers. My intention wasn't to imply that it's wrong or bad, only that it's wrong to apply it to people in the same way as aspergers syndrome (outdated terminology), but instead as something that some members of our community find comfort in- beyond any reference to specific diagnostic terms used at any given time.
A human, who does not fit into societies standards of binary personality traits. One is not simply one or the other, but a complex balance between the two.
my least favorite stereotype is that people think that not sharing everything you have is selfish and rude. id rather keep my favorite things and take care of myself than give everything away.
1. Not often expect when I’m bored in class 2.im polite and when I’m feeling happier this day i treat them even better 3.just got new cool shoes 4.i think I look at people a lot but when I’m in a conversation I’m just constantly thinking so I look nowhere 5.very formal 👌🤝 6.on time at school 7. Always thinking about my family 8. Nah 9. I always looked up, I remember when I was little and was drinking milk before to go to sleep and yes
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How a person treats service staff is probably the most revealing for what you need to know about a partner. The type of shoes a person wears as their favorite shoes I think is pretty useful as well.
I agree...!!
okay, so what does sandals say about someone?
What if i have (undiagnosed) social anxiety and cant make eye contact and struggle to talk to service staff so all i can do is nod my head for yes shake my head for no.
@@catrice1296 then use sign language and pretend you’re deaf
i think it's important to not judge people by things that they might not have gotten to choose. lots of people have only one or two pairs of shoes- or of actually fitting shoes- that they were lucky enough to come by at all.
I love she uses "might, may, can" to say that it is not settled that this is who you might be, or what you're actually experiencing.
yeah, they're all generally pretty accurate tho, with usually only one or two of the tips not being accurate.
in reality that is just a cheap way of claiming anything you want and when it turns out to be wrong you just be like "i only said may"
But at the same time it can be super relatable
❤❤
She's qualifying all of these because further investigation may reveal there are other reasons for these tells. A man might be taught by his parents to always have a firm handshake, which neutralizes that as a clue. Or say you meet someone at a cafe & they are brusque with the waitstaff: it may not be due to personality, but because that person is preoccupied with some important matter. (This would be the case with someone who is brusque with the waitstaff yet leaves a generous tip.)
These are all bits of a puzzle, which needs to be assembled & studied before any firm judgment is made. None should be used in isolation.
okay pause THE ART IS SO CUTE ON THIS ONE props to the artist!!!
Hella cute 🥺
Ya!
their names Zuzia btw 🤗
Amazing 🤩
Agreeee
I'm working on my bachelors degree in psychology, and I appreciate the insights this channel has given me overall.
Very random, but is psychology hard? Im planning on taking it but im not decided yet.
in that case you will definitely fail your exams
hey me too! best of luck!
Me too and I find @medcircle to be very helpful to
Don’t rely on this channel, they can be good but they also have a lot of misinformation in their videos sometimes; In general don’t rely on un reputable sources from the internet
Those illustrations are so cute, my heart melts.
Thank you so much! Zuzia has outdone herself in this video! - Cindy
Do you need to go to the hospital
Totally 🥺🥺
Ikr! And I love the big cheeks too! >w
Love them! 💜
“Base *solely* on the shoes he or she wears most often”
That was a pun and nobody can tell me other wise.
Yes, yes it is.
I love you
You just made my day
Exactly!!!!
why didn’t psych2go see thisssss HAHSHS
The little things:
1.- How often you check your phone
2.- How you treat service staff
3.- What type of shoes you wear
4.- How often you make eye contact
5.- Your handshake
6.- Whether you show up on time or not
7.- You get something for yourself and no one else
8.- You subtly put others down
9.- Where you look when you're drinking out of a cup
Thanks!! I like this so I don’t have to watch 😃
Thanks a million
Some persons are watching this video to avoid doing these little things to keep themselves confidential.
@@randomrobloxplayerbasicall2936 [Makes eye contact with you while drinking some water out of a cup after showing up late to the comments section, wearing comfortable shoes] You're not avoiding doing the little things, are you? That wouldn't be very honest of you. [Gives you a firm handshake and waits patiently for the waiter] Do you want something to eat?
I don't get the boots thing because boots are the most comfortable footwear, lol
The last sign was a very unique way to analyze someone's personality...I really love these peculiar kind of analysis. It is very entertaining and engaging.
This woman would be great doing sleep meditations. Such a soothing voice
Yes. But I think it's best to keep it as a yt Channel.
Ik right
I feel the same
Plot twist: thats not a woman
Lol I actually fell asleep to these videos the other night
Some of these are red flags. If someone I'm with is rude to a service worker I'll call them on it right there. How you treat someone you have power over in life says a LOT about your character.
My dad is always very polite her formal to people in grocery stores etc., and I have just picked it up at this point. Always saying thank you and have a good day to everyone I come across. Have no idea what that means about me though because really it’s a copied trait.
im a laid back autistic person. idk im sensitive to liek every single fucking sense there is (except time lul bc yes)
I have anxiety so when I get my order taken I always end up sounding scared and looking at the table, I hope they don't think I'm being rude D:
@@regrettispaghetti2517 if it makes you feel any better, i have anxiety and i’m a cashier at taco bell, so whenever i can see someone else with anxious tendencies i try to be understanding and be as clear and (hopefully) calming as possible cuz i know the feeling
@@lucky.marshal wow u wonderful human bean
If you check your phone a lot, you may have a mental illness
me: *sweats nervously*
Relatable. We may need to set the bar during the pandemic waaaay higher. And since we are up there once, dont even bother getting it back down
Nah, you just want to be informed. Checking when you're waiting or just bored is normal.
Me: *p a n i k*
Tbh I would be surprised if I have a mental illness at this point 😔
Realized I checked my phone more often, and I'm stressed more often, and I'm ruder and less considerate and don't pay attention as much as I used to...
Uh oh
Yes it's so correct
I love Amanda’s voice :///) she is so good at sounding like she’s talking to you like a friend. Her voice is up there with corpse and lily with soothing voices.
she sounds how the lofi girl looks
@@vir.b_10 lmao
Idk abt u but my friends do NOT like EVER have a nice calming voice 😂
Ahmen 🥰🥰🥰
Makes me melt honestly I’m so enthralled
1. How often you check your phone?
2. How you treat service staff?
3. What type of shoes you wear?
4. How often you regularly make eye contact?
5 Your Handshake
6. Whether you show up on time or not (Multitasker / Laid back)
7. If you get something for yourself but not for someone else
8. If you subtly put others down
9. Where you look when you're drinking out of a cup
*Cackles in neurodivergentness, iffy eyecontact an fixation on wearing the same attire*
checking your phone is annoying
help I relate to this way too much for my comfort level-
1. Not much.
2. With politeness. I don't like drama.
3. TMI.
4. TMI
5. No idea.
6. TMI
7. I do.
8. Nope!
9. I don't pay attention to small details like this.
Yeah this was a stupid video.
@@Silencio125 g
Sum:
1. How often you check your phone 0:50
2. How you treat service staff 1:53
3. What type of shoes you wear 2:34
4. How often you make eye contact 3:40
5. Your handshake 4:12
6. Whether you show up at time or not 4:59
7. You get something for yourself and no one else 5:39
8. You subtly put others down 6:07
9. Where you look when you drinking out of a cup 6:36
Yo sorry for slow typing!
Man, i really have a bad time (no reference intended) this end, just one mistake and my parent punish me forever??? What? Huh, sorry for bothering, just thought making this at comment make me feel better, cuz i want to share ot to someone
@@treznopresto4878 dont lose hope yet 🙃 you’ll be good soon and this is happening for a reason. There are people who still love you so you’ll be okay. Take care and just a lil hardwork you can get what you want
@@treznopresto4878 don't worry everything gonna be ok maybe not now, not today but someday sonner or later....if you are feeling sad or depressed or want to talk to someone i am ALWAYS here for you....if I can do a little help to you ☺️
For each point.
1. Most of my friends and family are quite a distance away, and I don't like to seem like I'm avoiding them by not texting back as soon as I can.
2. I try to be friendly and polite to others in general.
3. I wear gumboots around home, especially in the paddocks, because it's safer (especially when the brown snakes are out). I wear comfortable runners if I'm going into town or something.
4. I tend to watch a person's mouth when talking with them, rather than their eyes, unless I know them well.
5. I don't like shaking hands. I find it uncomfortable.
6. I'm very punctual, if I have a say in it.
7. I definitely check with others if I'm grabbing food or beverages if they want something. I also check if there's anything I need to do then or soonish before I start anything that's going to take a while. I also consider surprising others if there's something cheap and I have enough change.
8. I don't think I put others down, but it is possible that I do so accidentally. If it gets pointed out, I will apologise... and then potentially mess it it by trying to spin what I said into something more positive.
9. I close my eyes when drinking out of a cup.
What does that tell you about me? I'm curious.
👍
if anyone disrespects food service workers i will throw hands
looks like you’re throwing hands quite often by the looks of literally everything on the internet
it's extremely telling.
for the same reasons as how people treat people who can't talk yet &/or of other species is:
these are all opportunities to show empathy without the motivation being an expectation of the usual levels of accountability.
unfortunately, the best tell is how someone treats someone whom they have good and used to them plus locked into a sense of personal loyalty & a marriage contract with no good prenup.
so true btw this reminds me of the time me and my broke friends went to a restaurant and when the bill came to $66 we paid and my friend tipped the waitress his bus fare by accident we tried to give her a lot of tip because how she approached us was really good and she was so sweet and nice. We gave her $12 and it was long after my mum came and stuff in the gc later he said he didn't have his bus fare lol. But we lived in the opposite direction and it was like 8:00 in the night. Eventually my other friend used his card and paid for him.
@@seph6012 the struggle is real.
And chairs
I really like how soft spoken these videos are. It makes me feel calm. 😊
fr
I feel like an alien who is trying to study humans
I can very much relate to that
Same, Thai is sad
Hahaha I like your brain!!
Humans are confusing and weird. I don't like them very much. Some of them are okay, though.
😂 samee
Psych2Go is the calmest channel I know, from video animation to colour pallete to the narration, voice, style and even words! Cannot get over it!
It could very well be an unintentional asmr
@@Ryosuke1208 I treat it as so :)
Her voice helps me calm down. I hope I can find a partner who has a soft voice like her.
Weirdly, making eye contact physically hurts me. The relief I feel when I don't have to make eye contact in conversation, is like flopping down in your comfortable bed at the end of a long day.
its the same for me when I look into a camera. For me it feels like I am staring into the sun and my eyes literally start tearing up, even though it isnt very bright.
Yeah I have a real problem with eye contact lol
I was mentally and physically taught to make eye contact. Now I make eye contact with my shy crush. I just can't not do it.
I'm not really looking for one
I know it can be very comfortable but it makes it really hard for the other person to trust.
Psychology is something I never thoguht I would learn but the way you present it just makes it interesting to learn.
"someone who only gets takeout for themselves is rude and selfish"
me: "or just lives alone" ;_;
Exactly. There is no one else! Am I supposed to buy food for imaginary people?
Right or maybe nobody else eats my vegetarian diet and I'm too poor to buy everyone food anyway 😩
I believe they meant it in a case where the presence of others are involved.
So asking out of courtesy basically.
Otherwise, it's obviously not obligatory to ask them to join you. And even if you don't, you are no bad person. Those are just people's expectations playing.
And we know how expectations can get 😑
Yeah that one's weak, tbh. Like yeah it's nice to offer but there's plenty of perfectly good reasons why somebody wouldn't do that?
Like, maybe you just have enough money for you and want to treat yourself? Why is that necessarily a bad thing when it's a want, but not a need?
I often buy it for myself, but the fun part is that I'm not rude at all. I may be selfish, but not rude.
1. How often you check your phone (0:50)
2. How you treat service staff (1:55)
3. What kind of shoes you wear (2:35
4. How often you naturally make eye contact (3:40)
5. Your handshake (4:13)
6. Whether you show up on time or not (5:00)
7. You get something for yourself but no one else (5:40)
8. You subtly put others down (6:07)
9. Where you look when drinking from a cup (6:36)
Thanks for this
@@taniya3626 No Problem, happy to help! 😃
i wanna say thank you also 🧍🏽♀️ cause thank you so much
Thank you 😊
Thanks lol
“Or your handshake”
COVID: We don’t do that here
*Me, who is an introvert and had People tell me to please not crush their hand*
I've been fist pounding people ever since COVID to avoid exposure. I feel like it's both uncomfortable for them and me. LOL
What's COVID?
@@aanler have you been stuck in the Backrooms the last 2 years?
@@awakeneddio6012 No 🤔
i appreciate it when you decide to use "less diligent" rather than "lazy" ♥️
It may sound simple but thank you
I can't remember the last time I shook someone's hand.
When are they going to make that legal again?
*last time I shaked someone's hand was my dad*
Same but I guess it’s more prominent in the business world
Aah the good old days 🙃🙃
corona tingz
Am I the only one that stares into someone’s soul when they’re trying to understand someone deeply but then just ends up making them uncomfortable or creeping them out?
I do that at times too. I also have to be careful when hugging someone so I don't read into their thoughts or things personal to them. It's NOT something I mean to pry into...it just happens if I don't control it.
@@covahsmusicvault8953 same!!
Oh my god I'd die if anyone did that to me ;--; I never make eye contact with people and it scares me a LOT when they try to do it ToT
I would be the one that is being stared into my soul and I would really do not like it at all
I stare into souls too! even though I've tried to camouflage it with nodding and hand movements, but sometimes I get caught up and forget to hold back :( then I can see them shifting and looking away XD thank god I'm not the only one
I believe how people treat an animal like dog or cat, tells a ton about them.
ESPECIALLY cats
Nazis loved animals and Hitler did as well and was vegetarian. My own father saved orphan animals but almost killed my mother multiple times. I don't know if that is true
@@creatureoftheeast3331 Okay maybe not in all instances, and I'm so sorry your father was awful, I hope you and your mother are doing good- and didn't Hitler almost wipe out a whole breed of dogs because one bit him/didn't like him???
@@xxxluckycharmsxxx my family escaped him and I don't remember him. And there's some sources that say Hitler was for animal rights but it's hard to believe. I wouldn't be surprised if he did hate a whole breed
Cats are epic
Bro, I always treat service staff well. I know what it’s like to work hard, so I appreciate and respect everybody. Cashiers, receptionists, wait staff, everybody.
On the very rare occasion that I go out to eat with mates, I always ask for things politely, wait patiently, clean up after myself, and if the staff are super cool, I’d leave a good tip (we don’t really tip here in Australia).
People appreciate the little things, especially when it seems like some people often forget to treat you with common decency on a regular basis.
Same. My parents raised me to treat everyone with respect, and as I've grown older and had to do those kinds of jobs, I've just become even more polite ^^
Little Thing 1: Digging straight down in Minecraft
So youre in homegrown and psych2go?
Meee😂😂
@@souad3686 ARMYYY XDD
That’s me. :)
If you are one of those people, you are *brain dead*
"It's because of my emotionally unavailable father" was way funnier than it should have been to me
u alr?
me too lol.
In the video? Do you have the time? 😅
@@deisygonzalez9480 2:27
@@rofl_copter thank you loll that was funny
"Based solely on the shoes he or she wears most often."
Ha I get it.. soles
GENIUS
Lmao yassss
My soles are severly damaged... they're cracked and broken...
Almost accurate, except that, if the eyes are the window to ones soul, I don't have a soul that could be crakced and broken, because my eyes are black.
? that sucked
haha. I don't have soles
That last one actually gave me chills, as I am the one who usually drinks with my eyes closed... Though, in strange environments or around new people, I look over my cup because I don't trust anyone around me...
This is why she said "might" it doesnt have to be
The more you are able to let your true self show, the more you are safe to foster a meaningful connection 🙃
Time stamps:
0:52 How often you check your phone
1:55 How you treat service staff
2:36 What type of shoes you wear
3:42 How often you make eye contact
4:14 Your handshake
4:59 Whether you’re on time or not
5:44 You get something for yourself and no one else
6:07 You subtly put others down
6:37 Where you look when drinking out of a cup
Thanks for your extra work💜
THANK U
1:50 Amogus
Ty! I love when people put time stamps
That's on the description box
All very good points. The way people treat others who they "don't have to be nice to" says a lot about how they will eventually treat you. Pay attention to how they talk to their parents and siblings as well as their close friends too.
People always say “Don’t bottle up your emotions!” And to them I say, I bottle up my emotions so much that I forget I even HAVE negative emotions and they just come in jokes at my own expense! I am 100% fine because I refuse to acknowledge my mental health because I have so much mental baggage and can’t afford a therapist so therefore I am alright!
Then one day I got one missing chicken nugget and all feelings came out no but something like that happened
@@-Yosei- It’s like one of those infomercials, “Do you want help but can’t afford a therapist? Well sucks to suck! Now go cry over chicky nuggy.”
@@FancyShrimpp your name is my favourite drink. That makes me happy😊
@@FancyShrimpp therapy should be in the universal healthcare system. As in, funded by the people and used by those who needed it.
I would say free, but it's not technically free.
@@Arlesmon It really should
Psych2Go: Shoes can determine your personality
Me who has two pairs of shoes: *My personality is broke :">*
oof
I just wear whatever shoes my family gives me LMAO
Bruh my parents are like YoUr ShOeS YoU HaVE NoW StIlL Fit yOu I just need different ones for different times and I want to be clean too.
hahahahhah lmaooo
same
i wear sleepers
bruh
Psych2go: shoes can tell a lot about who you are
The people with crocs: *nervous sweating*
*edit: my RUclips notifications will never financially recover from this
lol
Nah people who wear Crocs just don't give a shit 😂
Crocs show that u r casual. It shows about the financial status and the recent past place u came from.
With the real scenario and example...I can tell more.
Why should I be sweating
You mean the unvain, well- cushioned people?... Why sweat?!.. Crocks show that you care more about being comfortable than looking comfortable!
i don't recall whether they seemed easy to dance in without them falling off, though. :/
I treat every staff with kindness and passion just because I'm touch-starved and also seek compliments because it's what i lacked as a child.
Yoo shut moew up 💀
@@RANDOMvideosForYOU777 realest‼️
I trained myself to maintain the "confident" eye contact and handshake so random people don't realize how miserable I am 😅
Sameeeee
🤣 me to
Im doing great but i do not hold eye contact like at all
I naturally hold eye contact but made my handshake firm on purpose because people are like sharks and will smell weakness. I’ve been this way even at my lowest.
Aw man, do you need to talk?
'If you check your phone a lot, you may have a mental illness'
Literally the whole of gen z: shook
I AM *SHOOKETH*
Most genz already know they arent mentally stable
@@ratsflow13 that’s true 🤣
**Cries in checking phone to see if my friends feel like talking to me**
@@goodday3185 same 😭
me : a calm introvert
also me: wears ankle boots
*_there is an imposter among us_*
You are the imposter...☠️
@@MemeMeme-qv8bq throw him out the airlock then.
My Blundstones are the most comfortable shoes I've ever worn.
Interestingly, the person who turned me on to Blundstones is actually pretty aggressive.
SUS
HEY,,stop talking about me...hahahahahhahah!!!
Specifically for the cup one: I have trained myself (subconsciously) to look around my surroundings when drinking, or to look down but not inside the cup to be aware of what's happening around me. So.. I don't think it really shows my personality very well, but for others, it is probably more accurate.
(I am a Looking-inside-the-cup personality)
can we talk about the fact her voice is so relaxing?
It's Jan Brady in the movie "The Brady Bunch". I can't stop hearing her say,"Marsha, Marsha, Marsha" !!!
"if you're someone that's more so aggressive, you probably like to wear ankle boots"
**aggressively hides my combat boots that look exactly like the illustration**
*looks over at my boxing shoes in guilt*
*glances over to my combat boots that look the same (they're brand new, so haven't worn them much)*
fr tho i have so many
Or you come from a violent childhood. Boots provide safety that shoes and sneakers simply do not.
@@janegale3534 Oh...makes sense...
“If you make a lot of eye contact your usually socially dominant and confident”
Me: *looks at everything but the person and their eye*
I just focus on their noses.
I just feel weird looking into other people’s eyes so I never make eye contact
I'm both anxious and I hate people, but I have no problem keeping the eye contact.
I have social anxiety, so this is me 😂
SAMME my friend is like I aways make I contact and I’m over here like 😢 I’ll look everywhere but the wyes
I love giving myself a mini self analysis while watching these videos, thank you Psych2Go!!
Number 7 might also be a person who was never exposed to the culture of getting smth for someone else. Especially if that person is from a consistently abusive family. It's not nice to only paint people negatively because of this one thing they never learned to do
So true, @Rika Okumura: I concur on that one. I was adopted into a very macabre family. I'm nothing like them, but as I said in my own lengthy comment....this video seems bias and likely only guinea-pigged almost perfect specimens for this study.
I was never really given gifts or had a birthday celebrated so because of that I make sure I’m always giving when possible on regular days and birthdays to family, friends or strangers it’s a learned trait. i want a person to feel like they matter because growing up I felt like I didn’t. And I never want a person to have that feeling.
I wasn’t abused but I still feel like that’s a cultural thing. It can be nice to get people things if you have the money and there’s no reason not to, but some people weren’t raised to believe you should always get gifts for others even if you can hardly afford what you get for yourself.
@@iampomegranates Nobody should ever feel they must gift to someone. My adoptive mum was very cruel to me yet she "bought" so-called friendship with others her whole life. She even did this with my own children. It got so bad that when she was w/o a job, she refused to visit my kids because she felt she had to bring them a gift each time.
When she finally showed up 2 months later, my daughter answered the door and refused to let her in because her mei/nana had NO gift. I wanted to be angry with my daughter, but I realized it was NOT my child's fault...it was her mei's. This is why I deeply wish others to know that your existence in someone's life is priceless on its own. Never let anyone make you feel as if you must pay to be around them or be their friend....such expectations are NOT friendship!
I hope this helps anyone that is in doubt of their own self-worth.
I was learn to be generous al the time because it is what a “good person has to do”. 2 years ago I went to a Psycologist and told me is good to treat myself and stop doing that as an obligation.
When you're comfortable with direct eye contact, but avoid it because you know it may make others uncomfortable, what category do you fall into?
People pleaser lol
supa dupa coolerman guy who get the ladie
How can it make others uncomfortable?
@@Leonid-e5i In various ways. People may find direct eye contact too personal or intimidating, for example.
@@T_Cup maybe... Did you feel this way yourself at some point?
Me who wears ankle boots, but is scared of everything, has never gotten into a fight, and wouldn’t be able to hurt a fly 👁👄👁
Edit: Guys pls stop arguing and complaining about it. I wear ankle boots because their comfortable, I like the way they look, and they go well with my outfits. And also I don’t just wear ankle boots. I wear sneakers too. I never rly wear sandals or heels unless I have to be if you do good for you! They look great I’m just clumsy and I prefer more comfortable and casual stuff. It’s a personal preference. People can wear whatever they want. We all have different opinions. Feel free to comment about what you wear and why but pls don’t be rude thx!
ohh same with mee..🤭 don't know if wearing ankle boots are that obvious to be an aggressive one, as i don't relate to it much, i'm always just the only quite and cold person among most of the people that i know and have never fought with anybody aggressively. (not even my siblings or friends) 😕
@@cant_escape_ Sameeee I mean I’ll admit I am into more darker styles of clothes and I enjoy things like horror and thriller movies, but I’m not exactly an aggressive person. I can typically come of as cold and kinda standoffish because of my rbf and how quiet I am as well as my clothes and terrible communication skills.
Agressive can't only be interpreted that way, though
@@nadiamaula9018 I know but I simply wasn’t sure how to word it for other things
Maybe you wear them to hide your shyness, trying to look fierce
I LOVED the thing about the cup, I find I look all the 3 places mentioned. AND that these are indicate of my mood. But most commonly I tend to look inside, but usually outside and then inside. First to see if anyone is watching me drink and second to see how much remains in the cup.
9 little things that reveal alot about you:
Shoes:
Looks at shoes: Ay ya boy is poor
and I'm basic
You juged me
i cant wear my tie shoes because i cant tie and its hard to find shoes that are slip ons and look good :(
Aja Tipp: dont wear shoes
@@ashnotfound7890 don’t you have anyone to teach you? You could maybe watch a tutorial as well,, sorry if you’ve tried either
🌸THIS ART STYLE IS SO CUUUUUTTTEEE🌸
Edit: This channel always makes me feel better about myself :D
Thank you for your feedback! Glad you like the animation! And happy to know that our videos make you feel better :D
“If you wear ankle boots, you’re aggressive”
Me, who owns mostly ankle boots but can’t even say anything when a waiter gets my order wrong: *”Something’s not right, I can feel it”*
it means you are probably 12 years old
@@georgia3623
I’m 15 💀💀
I think it can be a sign of protection to wear shoes to the ankle...
Maybe there's an aggressive side in you that just hasn't come out yet. You probably like to feel powerful, but it hasn't been expressed outwardly YET.
oop- same haha
As someone who is service staff, I really appreciate the second point!
It’s a pleasure to finally make this announcement to a community who understands:
I look in my cup.
Thank you.
thank you, for some reason I needed to read this today :D I do too!
We're the first to see the grounds, stray hair, or dead bug in our drinks----LOL (It happens).
It's like a warm hug for the soul. Knowing i'm not the only one.😂
@@elultimo102 Don’t remind me!
@@jeanie1137 lol we’re not alone
A wise man once said “if you want to know what a person is really like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals”
Sirius Black!
@@nurpeachmusic this was in harry potter, and here the inferiors refers to a house elf with the name of Winky.
@@nurpeachmusicThey mean in social hierarchies dude
Mind blown when she explained people who wear uncomfortable shoes. I definitely internalize a lot of pain
Me: those heels go well with my dress
My feet: bleeding from everywhere
My internalized self loathing: that's the spirit!
That one was what really got me as well but it makes so much sense when you think about it
I had to laugh on the shoe one. From my own experience wearing hiking boots can mean you are aggressive, or that you destroyed your ankle back in school and need the support to avoid limping.
I think the shoes thing is way more complicated than so. It's also a generational and trend based thing. Also, ankleboots can't just be about agressivness, right? I feel like that's more about expressivness and an individual who are either mentally very stong or is very much not, but hides behind an external frame that makes them look as if they are a strong individual.
You have to be a special kind of person to wear ankleboots on a daily basis.
Or... You just want the ankle support when walking on ice.
Yeah I agree. I don't the shoes one really works for me. I wear shoes based on necessity. I wear a couple different heals for work because I work cooperate or I'll wear Tom's for work for casual days. But for winter months I wear a couple pairs of ankle boots for work bc their professional but warm. I wear running shoes or hiking boots more often than not for dirty stuff like hiking, talking my dog to the dog park, working in the garden etc. I wear flip flops for walking out the house real quick. And lastly I wear slippers in the house no matter matter time of year.
Honestly, i only use ankle boots and higher boots bc other shoes just can't be combinated well with my outfit
i am aggresive and i have ankle boots so i guess the aggresive thing checks out for me
'if you make eye contact a lot youre likely to be more socially dominant'
me who just wants to have a staring contest:
That's dominant
Staring contest is the OG dominance establisher tho.. Like literally for every species lmfao..
Lets goo i love staring contests too! Bet on your pet pufferfish?
Just talking about what ya had for breakfast and silently having a battle the the blink
Bucky Barnes is proud of you lmao
"Is your date complaining nonstop about your waitress? Are they losing their patience or temper over every little thing that the waitress does wrong?" *: you're dating Karen*
"Is your date turning a common name into an insult?" : you're dating an ignorant jerk
Karen spotted☝🏼
@@weedle4736 I’m glad you exist
Or he took her to hooters and isn't paying attention to her..LOl
@@weedle4736 omg you are amazing 😂
Checking phone, shaking hands, shoes. I feel more and more calm. Because i realize that i'm getting understand more. Thanks❤
"Looking over the rim means you can trust others easily"
Me: *looking over the cup and watching people because my brain says that if I look away they're gonna steal something or try and murder me*
This made me laugh hard!
Me: *it looks dark and cozy in there*
LMAO SAME FR😭🤣🤣
Same. I look over the rim when I drink, but I blindly trust others. I only lose trust when they break my heart in some way (talking about my parents).
You CAN NOT trust strangers around your drinks!?🤦♀️
Did anyone notice- "Sorry, I can't talk right now I m doing Hot girl Stuff" 😂😂
yess, that animation was soo cutee!
Yes
Eheheh i love ir
That is my new favorite line abd I will make sure to use it as often as I can lol
me: wears running shoes everywhere not because of taste, but because in case there's a disaster or villain attack I could run fast. 😤👍
Somebody get this man a Nobel Prize in ingenuity
I feel like giving u an oscar 😂😂
Omg get out of my head that’s exactly me
Bruh you live in the future
I only have 1 pair of shoes lmao so I wear that every time
Punctuality is a good way to show consideration for others, rather than letting them sit and wonder what happened to you, if you're going to show up, etc. and wasting their time, especially in a professional type of situation or regarding appointments, as a lackadaisical attitude toward being on time can be indicative of unreliability, regardless of how much stuff you've got going on; at least call and let them know if you're going to be late, which is indicative, again, of consideration for the other person. That tells a lot about you.
"Did you know checking your phone too much is a sign of mental illness?"
*leaves*
lol
We're all doomed 🤪
@@ronniebutman 😆😆😆
same lol😂
3 things:
1. These points are so interesting to learn more about others and the self
2. Absolutely LOVE the art and colour palette of this video
3. The narrator has such a calm nice voice!
Oh, I guess the extroverted introvert label really does kinda fit for me. I'd consider myself an introvert, but off the top of my head, the eye contact, handshake, and cup drinking things really resonate with me, although the eye contact and handshake things are partly due to being raised to be polite in the traditional Korean sense.
I think the term would be ambivert, maybe.
@@memez_r_life6692 Correct 👍
I grew up homeschooled, so I was taught similarly (didn’t have a lot of friends so my dad would teach me handshakes and such), and consider myself an extremely introverted extrovert lol
Edit: I’ve since learned that introversion/extroversion doesn’t correlate with social skills or even the desire for a social life, but correlates with how energized you feel around people. I’m definitely an extrovert, and I have social skills but I’m painfully awkward 😂
Thanks for realizing that like most people think, it isn't just "that damn phone". My phone is my escape.
Online I have a broader pool of people to choose from, and it's way easier to find people my age that I really like than it is to find people in my small community irl where I have scars down my arms and am awkward as all hell. I've found amazing people that I connect with and that are easier to share with/get to know than people irl. They make me feel validated and loved as much as anybody. Yes, I have educated myself on online safety and keep myself safe.
Yeah, drama happens online and friends are lost. But guess what? It happens irl too.
Or sometimes I just need my phone to help take my mind off all the crap going on around me...
I feel so embarrassed when I make a confident handshake and the other person's handshake feels like they don't want to touch you like I know some people don't like to handshake but come on now people!
corona😅
Hyperhidrosis :(
@@firerose2164 😅
I'm kind of a flimsy handshaker but my weak handshake has nothing to do with the person I'm shaking hands with, don't worry
To be fair, it could also be because I didn’t expect a handshake 😂
I normally only expect it in formal meetings and were surprised some people do it when they first meet you...
Also remember with the cup thing, the handshake thing, and the eye contact thing, they're dependent on circumstance and upbringing.
With eye contact and handshakes, some people are still taught to make eye contact as a sign of respect, and to have a firm handshake, because first impressions and stuff. Because of this, firm handshakes and more eye contact are more common in business settings. A person will also make more eye contact with someone whose company they enjoy, even if they're introverted.
This also applies for the drink thing. If you're having a conversation with someone, they're more likely to look at you over the rim of their cup while taking a drink. I've done this a lot by accident with people I liked or whom I wanted to like me, but when I'm alone I look down at the drink with my eyes half-closed. Also remember, when the video lady mentioned looking over the rim as a sign of awareness: it might be that the person is keeping an eye out for someone/something, or they might be on edge. Be sure to look for other body language signs, such as the direction the person is leaning/facing, tense shoulders, or narrowed eyes in order to get the whole picture.
Yes. Thinking it is a bit culturally skewed.
me who struggles with eye contact and being on time bcus im neurodivergent:
A few years ago i was reading a comic and the main character would look at people's shoes to determine what type of person they were as they were too shy to actually get to know someone.
As someone who's also really shy and introverted, i can confirm that its very useful and ive been doing it ever since.
@@sridhanyakomaravolu3819 sadly I don't remember, it was pretty long ago. Wish I did tho
Was it called Wonder?
One of my relative female said in my high school time she look at her male frnds, classmates shoes whenever they try .. n if they r righteous. Same unknown guys , known guys, strangers fr same .. I noticed guys who wear that type shoes to prove good in real shits I hated so I'm biased also mayb sorry.. but shoes , behaviour wth servce staff etc can't prove who is what.. we all r into civilization n hygiene, neat clean, good presentation, good image establishment, educated proved etc in religion to outer world rules orders must do issues. Also mood, mental condition, past life to current life, likings dislikings, financial status, willing to give efforts or no need effrts uselss nothing related based, physcl energy, dfrnt way presentation issues thinking based simple or nicely or heavy etc based, environmental or situation or own condition otthr ppls condition based, plans , excitement or no excitement based or as usual simply based, personal life d expectations n current overall based , importance level based, using types based..etc does matter fr ppl..
Can I ask how it works??
#4 was so true
When were introduced ourselves to our class and shared what career you'll take, only 3 of us don't know what we were taking. Suddenly, our adviser said “why?”, I avoided eye contact with the teacher after she said that.
I don’t know if this is normal but the drinking one was scarily accurate
You are a god-sent. My son is struggling with anxiety and depression but your videos are helping him much. May God bless you for your efforts.
"if you're someone who is more so aggressive, you probably like to wear ankle boots"
I almost feel attacked with my boots now lol (I wear my boots to better support my ankles, and much prefer to avoid all conflict when possible)
that being said, it is definitely an interesting concept to use such things to guess a person's personality
I wear ankle boots too, Combat boots are my favorite, And yet I'm known for being sweet
I hate to think I’m aggressive .. but I don’t really like people , I find them rude and abrasive . I wear king gee work boots for the ankle support .
@@coffeelizard7476 sweet ankle boots wearers from all over the world UNITE ( ⌯ᵘ ᵕ ᵘ ⌯)
I’m sort of in between? My favorite pair of boots are my black ankle boots because they look nice with my fishnets/skirt, and while I have more of an aggressive personality I also prefer to avoid conflict because it’s super stressful.
Subconsciously the elevated height in heels and boots makes one more confident and therefore, can come across as more aggressive than someone with flip flops...
Man, I feel bad that I don’t often think to get others things when I get things for myself. It just doesn’t cross my mind. Nothing non-abstract crosses my mind unless it’s right in front of me. I’m too busy thinking about science and Mathy stuff when I’m out and about on my own. I’ll often not hear people say my name or not notice something that needs to be noticed because I’m so lost in my own head. I feel bad but it’s also like I can’t really help it, I really hope no one thinks I’m selfish for that. I’m not selfish, I’m just unaware!
I’ve been through a lot and tend to be harsh on myself when things aren’t “perfect”. These little videos help me to understand me a bit better and realize how cute I can be. Took a lot of pain to get to this point in my life but I really do love myself for pushing through ✨God bless you all🌻
Uhmmm there’s other reasons besides being “cheap” or “rude” as to why you aren’t offering to pick up food for others
Like being POOR or suffering from severe anxiety I often WANT to offer to get others something but I usually have gotten together my change just to purchase my item and I can’t barely even afford that and I also have really bad anxiety about talking to my own family and friends it’s crippling
i strongly agree! also i sadly often forget to bring someone something, it doesn’t even cross my mind sometimes and i don’t know why but i’m sure it’s not because i’m cheap or because i’m selfish, and anyway i’d eventually share the food i got for myself with my roommate/friends or whatever. however i’m always in awe of people who always think of others when getting things for themselves (including gifts out of nowhere, im so bad at it and i’m trying to get better and make it a sweet little habit)
@Astal you are right. Money is a factor here too. Its selfish to expect people with less money to get something for you. I'd never do that, but I know selfish people like that. I agree with you.
THANKYOU!! This is what I'm saying!!! This is a disgusting oversimplification of the details that may allude to a persons personality! I'm Disabled with an invisible illness. How would you measure that? You wouldn't because that and all of this is down right rude and a perpetuation of a culture that judges first. How about we just start with we are all people!!!
Yes, so true! Besides, I rarely buy food from outside even for myself, it wouldn’t really occur to me to buy to other people as well.
THIS. I'm cheap af because I'm poor since I could remember existing.
The shoe bit is clever as hell. I used to wildly insecure, in a constant state of internalized pain. I wore dress shoes all the time. They were relatively uncomfortable, but I did not want to wear anything else. It's cool because as I got older I put away many of my dress shoes, and currently wear a pair of shoes that are very comfortable. I really never thought of that until now.
This explains lack of eye contact among folks who are always deep in thought.
im actually the opposite where if Im going through something / am anxious, I cant be on my phone!!! Looking at my phone is overwhelming as is so I like to stay away from it as much as I can!
I get you! I know people do the same whenever they feel nervous/anxious. One way out is looking at their phone. - Cindy
Like a social gathering?
Fancy seeing you here, I see your comments on FJ’s channel all the time
@@tommygunn6901 nooo more like whenever im stressed out in general
@@oxymoronic717 I Iove Frank James so much!!!
"people who struggle with mental health are more likely to intensively use their smartphone as a form of therapy".. I can confirm that,I do it daily,it's called escapism. I suffer serious depression on a daily basis,my family won't talk to me,nir do they care about me,and I don't have any friends,so I just play a ton of games or browse pinterest to numb the pain of reality.
Great comment.
And before cell phones we have this thing called “Books”
Also “Thinking”.
Forms of escapism I used my entire life
Lol I used to read then my dad forbid me from reading fiction
@@markfennell1167 Great comment
And before "books" were a thing we had scrools
Also going outside
Things that ALWAYS People did
@@abigailmushi2751 OH. My parents grounded me from reading, I feel that. To spite them, I read ahead in my literature class. lol
1:51 among us has been so burned into my brain that seeing the word sus was like a jumpscare
I make a lot of eye contact, even though I'm introverted and shy, this might be because I like to either make people think that I'm in a firm and confident state while talking so they don't get too "afraid". Furthermore, I also tend to avoid eye contact when I'm close or speaking to a person I have a crush on, probably because I get uneasy about what they might think about me.
U can tell something about them "SOLELY" on the shoes they wear😏
Aaah, cheesy pun alert! 🤣
dum dum tsiii ! 🥁
i wear sandals becoz its common in malaysia
Honestly this is true this tell everything.
Worn out, clean, new, rare, old, fitted, colours,...
Yep like how big hole they have in there pockets 🤣 like i doo 😣
Wearing old shoes over and over again for comfort
And new once for just show 😎
"How often you make eye contact."
Me, who looks people in the eyes when they're talking, and also doesn't make eye contact: "Yes, but also no."
Omg same! I look people in the eyes when they're talking to me, to show I'm listening, but I avoid eye contact when I'm talking bc I'm also incredibly awkward and hate attention lmao
@@kidcaptainwembri I am the exact same way.
@@kidcaptainwembri I’m the same way!!! I also just can’t process my thoughts and words while making eye contact when talking to someone 😅
Duh...du. dissociation..? 😁
Waiter: *gives water*
Me: Thanks
Waiter: *gets plates*
Me: Thank you
Waiter: *gets food*
Me: Thank you very much
Waiter: *cleans up food*
Me: Thanks so much
Waiter: *waves when I'm leaving*
Me: Thank you for the great food
are you trying to prove how great you are
Lmaoooo
ok
Lmao....
Literally my biggest pet peeve is people who mistreat service staff like unless they literally are NOT doing their job there is no need to be disrespectful towards them.
I am struggling with mental health, I'm always kind to Staff, people do agree with me most of the time, I get uncomfortable very easily, I am Shy, I show up on time, I am kind and unselfish, I don't put others down, and a lot of people look up to me. This video was amazing and I love The content yall make.
Psych2go: “if you look on the rim/inside of your cup or close your eyes…”
Me who looks at the wall: “uhhhhh so no personality?”
I look at the ceiling, wall, or just to the side…
Looking at the wall is looking over the rim of the cup, three options were listed.
🤣🤣🤣
I always look up at the ceiling, apparently.
Me who change the direction I look everytime : sooo I have all the personality? 0-0
#4: Eye Contact
Autism - Those who are Autistic, even high-functioning Autists, find it VERY difficult to look even loved ones and friends in the eye. We fear it. Meeting someone in the eye means making a connection of a sort that we find very uncomfortable, even abrasive.
Sociopaths - These people don't give an F. You know how someone says if a person blinks a lot they're lying? Or if someone stares at you too intently, they're lying? If you want to know if someone across the room is watching you, fake a yawn, and if they yawn, they're watching you? These tricks do not work on a Sociopath.
Yep, I'm surprised the video didn't relate eye contact with ASD
There's also social yawning. One person does it and many follow suit without entirely realizing it.
Autistic person here to say that the system of functioning labels are (finally) becoming out of date due to it being from a eugenics view of autism, as well as not actually being sufficient in describing the experiances of autistic people. Yay for us!
Some people when hearing this default back to calling 'high-functioning' autistic people as having 'Aspergers syndrome' but I strongly discourage that; calling on the name of the nazi scientist who, having experimented on us, decided to name us after him (no he wasn't even autistic himself) ain't a good look.
My recommendation would be to say that "even those on the spectrum who take to communicating through social interaction very effectively" since that's the specific trait you're talking about.
Hope this helped! :)
@Delta Tha Fella I sorry I came across that way. My meaning was that it shouldn't be something that other autistic or allistic people should label us as, it's something for us to decide for ourselves and to say that as an individual you are ok with that label, but that it shouldn't be assumed that someone is comfortable with that.
There is definitely a culture and a community that we as autistic people have and aspie has been a part of that. I think that should stand on its own separate from Asperger. It's something that belongs to members of the autistic community that is about #actuallyautistic people and not some N*zi.
It has it's terrible origins, but it's more so about community, than said origins or just another way of saying aspergers.
My intention wasn't to imply that it's wrong or bad, only that it's wrong to apply it to people in the same way as aspergers syndrome (outdated terminology), but instead as something that some members of our community find comfort in- beyond any reference to specific diagnostic terms used at any given time.
Interesting
Omg the cup thing was so shocking! It really does match me! P.S. I look into the cup when drinking something
“If your hand shake is firm, then you’re most likely an extrovert”
Me…an introvert who shakes hands firmly: *Who am I…*
A human, who does not fit into societies standards of binary personality traits. One is not simply one or the other, but a complex balance between the two.
@@The_SaneHatter I was makin a joke but alright Shakespeare
introvert here and was taught to always give a firm handshake. It shows you are confident and focused on the person you are meeting
A weak handshake can also be considered rude. Like you dont care enough to give a decent handshake or are un-interested in the people you are meeting.
@@demoulius1529 thank youuuu that’s exactly right. It’s what I was taught to do so like- ye that’s right
my least favorite stereotype is that people think that not sharing everything you have is selfish and rude. id rather keep my favorite things and take care of myself than give everything away.
I agree 100 %
Psych2go: how often you check your phone.
Me: but I don’t have a phone
Same i use my mom phone to watch RUclips videos
I have a phone, but most of the time I can't find it.
@@bethyeary8995 ohhh whenever you can't find a phone take somebody else phone call yourself, and then you will find your phone by your ringtone ;)
@@akanshakapoor3248 I can never remember my number.
@@bethyeary8995 oh 😂
1. Not often expect when I’m bored in class
2.im polite and when I’m feeling happier this day i treat them even better
3.just got new cool shoes
4.i think I look at people a lot but when I’m in a conversation I’m just constantly thinking so I look nowhere
5.very formal 👌🤝
6.on time at school
7. Always thinking about my family
8. Nah
9. I always looked up, I remember when I was little and was drinking milk before to go to sleep and yes