still being in love with somebody that you thought loved you from the beginning really hurts it hurt more than anything because i wasted my time, love, and energy on that person .
Yup. Just two days ago I found out my crush was leading me on this whole time for two and a half years. For two and a half years he pretended to like me back and he says it was because he "didn't want to hurt my feelings" I've honestly never been so hurt in my life because I genuinely thought he actually liked me back all this time.
@@oswaldtheluckywolfAnd when they say it's to "not hurt your feelings," that's usually not true either. Most of the time they liked the attention, the adoration, the love even, and they knew leading us on was wrong. But they were selfish, and they put the ego boost they got from all our love, and valued it more then us or our well being. It's god awful, because it doesn't just mean that our love was for nothing, it means that it served for their selfish desire for validation, because they hadn't done the work needed to be done on improving themselves and loving themselves. It's horrible. I know the pain. Stag strong though! You deserve someone that values you, not just your attention and adoration, and that is willing to give you what you give them. You are loved, kind stranger
my bf broke up with me two days ago. i feel so alone, i loved him so much, he was also my bestfriend and the ONLY person i had, no one else was there for me like this man was. we had our problems but i was always willing to fight for him and us, but he just didn't want too anymore. it hurts, it really does especially when you've visioned and planned your whole life with this person. anyways, i came to watch some healing videos bc i have no idea how to move on, how to feel, how to think but coming across this video and reading some of the comments, it does give a little reassurance. ofc it doesn't make the pain hurt any less but i still appreciate it and i just hope one day i can come back to this and not feel the pain.
The way I could have written this comment. I'm hurting so bad rn, but I wish you the best. I am not afraid of being alone but I am afraid of losing him. He's my best friend 💔💔💔
hey how are you doing now? i am going through literally this exact same thing i hope it gets better it will get better right now i feel hopeless but i still have hope i hope your doing better now please update us if you can
@@yoshamii hii i hope you are doing well or at least get better for you soon! i wanted to say that yes things have gotten a lot better for me mentally. it’s only been two months since the breakup and i feel like i KNOW myself again and decided to appreciate my own presence bc before it was 10x harder. allow yourself to feel emotions, it takes time for the pain to hurt a little less but the more you start focusing on yourself and working on you, the faster the healing process could be! find new hobbies, meet new people, get into new habits, try things outside of your comfort box! good luck ❤️
While i disagree with trying to not cry, i agree with not reminiscing too much, or really at all. Also, "forget the teacher, remember the lesson" is absolutely amazing advice.
definitely don’t hold in crying … I don’t believe said that. If I did, my apologies. I think I said don’t listen to sad music but if you feel the need to cry and let it out then do that but try not to dabble in the sad music thing. I appreciate the support and much love to you❤️
reading these comments makes me feel less alone. it makes me realize that if everyone in this comment section can do it, I can too. everyone can get over it, even if it doesn't feel like it now, I know it'll be okay.
i’m hurting, i have no energy for anyone and anything. i feel so alone and empty with no sense of direction and all i want is to be with him. to be in his arms, to feel his warmth presence. i don’t want to let him go.. he’s been a light in my life. his presence alone has saved me from a deep point in my life. he means everything to me. i think about him 24/7 and sometimes i forcibly distract myself from processing it. i seek love and friendship, he was my only true friend. don’t have anyone else. i really don’t know what to do..
you are not miserable girl. I feel you. just know u are not alone. and u will feel better its just the matter of time. remember that u haven't experienced much better things in life yet. wait for them. I know its hard. much power to you!! :(
I understand. Truly I understand. But you must not run from the pain. You need to face it head on, let it wash over you, and keep moving. Grief is like the ocean, sometimes the waves are violent, sometimes it is completely still. Happiness is also fleeting. So cherish the times that were shared but don’t remain in a place that no longer exists in the present. Your world is so much bigger than you can even imagine. It will take time, and there is no deadline. But you must continue to love yourself the way you love others, even when you don’t feel like it. That is how you will come out the other side without drowning. And I’m saying all this to remind myself as well, because my world just turned upside down too. I am right there with you
my bf dumped me a week ago at my most vulnerable tym , i loved him so much and id do anything for him . i begged him so many times to to fix things we experienced a small issue , but he decided to leave me and refused fixing things , i thought maybe maybe i was a problem but i noticed that if he really loved me , he would have done anything and i mean anything to fix our relationship but he didnt that gave me courage to step back a little and focus on my books . i was still grieving our relationship and he had already had a new girlfriend in mind . i was hurt coz i was so loyal to him. i hope my heart heals , i deserve better
@@NokukhanyaNdlovu-s3x ❤️❤️❤️ you absolutely deserve love & respect ❤️ you’re life has meaning & you are worthwhile-no one can ever take that away from you. I hope you find some comfort & peace & know that you are always loved ❤️❤️❤️
Hey, how are you doing we are going through almost the exact same thing he broke up with me 4 days ago I’m in so much pain. I wouldn’t stop expressing to him about the things he didn’t do, he got tired of it and left me and now he follows all the girls he used to follow again even the ones I had doubts on my heart aches I feel like I’m never gonna heal and feel better again
@@joyceballen hey love hope you are well ❤️. Trust me you will heal ,I believe if he loved you so much he wouldn't have left and. Tym for crying over these boys is over,I started loving myself more after he left and he came back crawling after giving him no contact and i tried my best not to think about him, try this you'll feel better soon trust the process ❤️❤️❤️🎀
@@NokukhanyaNdlovu-s3xjust wanted to tell you that you are so strong. I’m going through a breakup right now and your words that he crawled back and u still chose yourself made me so proud of you. Thank u for letting know that time heals. I believe you will meet your person who will be always by your side. Thank u ,love ❤
Same. I was in more of a situationship where I fell for him and we were together everyday talked everyday. All along he had a backup and with her telling me that I mishandled him and it just broke me feeling at fault. I thought we had so much more to work on us to make things official. Now I’m afraid that I’ve lost him for good to another women to where he’ll forget about me. I’ve been grieving so bad first three weeks were painful I couldn’t eat nor sleep. Just pain all over. I’m trying to heal and let go. 😢
The relationship was going through a heavy decline, we broke up last night and I finally cried. I have confidence I can get through this because of you now. Thank you dude.
I'm sorry to hear this, even though it feels scary and very sad it does get better. I'm almost a year in and I do feel tremendously better than I sis within the first few months. Try to get some sun, go out with friends, and lightly date when you're ready.
22 year old marriage ended 2 weeks ago. She was my only and best friend. It’s sucks. I feel like my world has wended. But it really has hasn’t. I don’t feel this but I know this. Hang in there. No thoughts of hurting yourself. That’s ridiculous. We will get through this.
My gf broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago. When this video dropped and I saw it, ngl it made my heart sank again. It comes back every now and then. But now, I’m starting to feel a bit better day by day and slowly, I’m starting to get back into drawing. Making art has been one of the few things that made me feel comfort, but i still appreciate reminders like this. So thank you.❤
Please stop with these Jesus comments. He is not a cult. Plus how do you know this person is Christian? You can't force people to believe in a religion. It's a religion. Face reality. Only you can heal yourself. If you want to believe that Jesus will heal you, then that's something YOU should do. Nobody else. Nobody needs to hear about Jesus during their breakup.
I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. He would always compare me to another girl. And since i started talking to him all my friends have been ignoring me. They may be jealous i dont know. All i know is now that im isolated i have more time to focus and learn about me. I trust in Gods plan, and slowly starting to trust myself. ❤
@@Silent-hill-y4kFor everyone going through this, I want you to know your not alone and this feeling that you have of being sad and more won't last forever have hope that you will feel okay again and even better, I also want you to know that God loves you and there I salvation In the Lord Jesus Christ and peace and love, in God you wil find what true fulfillment and satisfaction is and I pray this for everyone that reads this and around the world and if you feel alone, I think that's okay I feel like we depend a lot on people for our comfort and time but really we should be focusing on God who can fill that emptiness in our heart with his love and joy, and even if you had no on to talk to for a while you won't feel lonely anymore, and God knows that it's bad to be lonely for a long time so he will give you friends that help and uplift you and you to them also
@@Silent-hill-y4kFor everyone going through this, I want you to know your not alone and this feeling that you have of being sad and more won't last forever have hope that you will feel okay again and even better, I also want you to know that God loves you and there I salvation In the Lord Jesus Christ and peace and love, in God you wil find what true fulfillment and satisfaction is and I pray this for everyone that reads this and around the world and if you feel alone, I think that's okay I feel like we depend a lot on people for our comfort and time but really we should be focusing on God who can fill that emptiness in our heart with his love and joy, and even if you had no on to talk to for a while you won't feel lonely anymore, and God knows that it's bad to be lonely for a long time so he will give you friends that help and uplift you and you to them also
no lies here. i started putting in so much work and loving myself a lot more after i broke up with her. i can’t even recognize who i am at this point. i’ve grown so much and i love it! (ps: if you’re going through a break up, remember it’s a break from the world for you to take yourself back up😉)
@@joelbenjamin5947 thank you for sharing-finding your comment at a time when I definitely needed a reminder of that last part ❤️ here’s to you being your best you & thank you for the encouragement 💕✨
2 days almost 3 have passed and I’m now understanding that it’s real. She ain’t coming back. She ain’t going to magically come back…she’s just not here. She saved me and now that angel is…..gone
I still miss her, it’s been 3 months and I continue to blame myself bc if I didn’t do what I did she wouldn’t have been how she was yk? But it’s hard to accept that we’re all humans and we make mistakes but I have hope and faith that one day we’ll cross paths again. I leave it in Gods hands to bring her back all I can do now is elevate myself
fresh off a breakup man. watching this video is perfect for me. you're saying a lot of the things i can do and i do believe they'll get me back on track. thank you for this video
the timing, i ruined a relationship with someone who truly cared for me. i wish i could go back and fix everything but some things just can’t be fixed. i wish her the best in everything. i didn’t deserve her (update. me and her were able to work things out and have been fixing things, im doing everything in my power to be the best man i can. Just happy i have the chance to show her i can be better)
The same goes for me, I also ruined my own relationship because I was selfish. The best way to fix this is to distance yourself from her and become the best version of yourself and learn from your mistakes. There is no “what ifs”, what is done IS done! I’m sorry to say this, but you must learn the hard way and suffer, that’s the only way you can grow as a person. You got this jarred, I know you can do this. You will find peace. If it’s meant to be she will comeback, if not then it’s okay because god has different plans for you.
Smae goes with me bro. I don’t wanna go in depth cuz I know I will break down. She gave me so many chances to change and stop treating her poorly and I never took her seriously. We even went on a lil break for a week to sort things out and even that didn’t work. I wish everyday I could go back and fix it after she broke up with me a week ago. I can’t stand to even look at her at school anymore. It breaks my heart walking past her as a stranger now. I still love her but she fell out of love because I pushed her away by being an asshole
@@darkfoxy4711 I’m sorry to tell you this bro, but you must move on. Your actions spoke louder than words, you are in despair because you have a lot of regrets on those actions you did. You must learn the hard way, and learn from your mistakes whether you like or not. You can’t go back in the past because what is done is done. The best thing to do is to improve on yourself and become a better person. You have learned something. Experience. If you do not learn from those mistakes you committed with your relationship you will be in more despair, and that will mean you haven’t learned anything through your actions. I believe you will find peace and solution, believe in yourself and become the best version of yourself by going through hardships and growing as a person. Without despair and suffering there is no growth.
Well, my breakup isn't recent (happened a year ago), but I always struggle getting over such things for a long periods of time. Many thanks, you've saved me a few more years of quiet misery.
i literally just got broken up with yesterday this is crazy timing. think what i'll do for now is continue to just be positive and work on myself because someone better and who's more deserving of my love will come around. I'll miss her still of course but i ain't letting this hold me back from my growth
@@SoldMyV8 it's going great actually, I'm pretty much moved on, focusing on my own well being and pursuing my own goals and aspirations in life, thanks for checking in with me g i appreciate it. Take care and God bless 🙌
It's taken me a year and 8 months to finally move forward. I've been going on nature walks, I did get a guitar to add to my music hobby and I go to the gym. Right now, it's been a balance of doing those things plus times of inner healing. It hasn't been easy but now I can finally give myself what I gave her
I hate that I fucked everything up I just wish she had been more empathetic to what I was going through at the time. I just hope she valued what we had together
i fucked up too, horribly. but i wanted to fix things and get better but i'm just such a broken person, i lost myself in the relationship, i poured too much of myself in the relationship i lost myself and forgot to take care of myself and love myself. then i did the unforgivable because i was confused, i let my emotions take over. i miss what we had
“Forget the teacher remember the lesson” is golden. We lived in the beginning, but down the line he stopped being interested and neglected my heart, i felt broken. He still thought of me, but he never ever showed it. I felt worthless after investing everything into him. Going from lovers and feeling like we were each other’s halves to strangers is harrowing; heartbreaking. I’m learning to refocus around myself after a breakup on top of some recent traumas. You’re a real one
The way my ex broke things off with me just recently destroyed me, she found someone better in about a week time. Things were tough but I still loved her deeply, now she doesn’t love me anymore and it feels like life is over. I know I gotta move forward but I’m stuck in constant state of denial, suffering, emptiness and pain. I can’t hate her despite what she did, I really love her.
The hardest thing I’ve experienced so far is all the little things that remind me of him. All the little things we did together and all the gifts he bought me. Everything is just a painful reminder that he’s gone. I needed to see this today. Thank you💌
I’m going thru the same thing. Me and my ex broke up today and I feel like I can’t stop crying. It just annoys me so much because every time I close my eyes and try to sleep I can’t bcs I see him or think about things that’s remind me of him, a part of me still can’t believe that’s we’re done. I just miss him so unbelievably much, it actually pains my heart. I hope things work out for you tho 🫶🏻
What a great time posting this. She broke up with me a week ago and I haven’t been the same since. She was my everything and a part of me still feels missing. I’ve been pursing my passion for Music and skating more now and have become closer with my family and friends over the last week to fill the void
My girlfriend left me on September 27. Even though we both had our differences, even though I was the one who received disrespect from her and didn't say anything for fear of starting a fight or argument, I loved her, I loved her and because of that love I didn't give up on her and the relationship, I always tried to be better and try to help her heal, it wasn't my job but FOR LOVE, I wanted to do it. What hurts the most is that I gave her my body (it was my first time with a woman), a few days before she broke up with me, so now I am dealing with confusing feelings, more than anything, I feel used. I miss her, but I know she hurt me, I just wanted her to get better for herself and because she deserved love, she deserved love.
Had some type of situation ship for like 2 years, I was the one that had to stop it since I realised the effort wasn’t equal and he told me he was on a journey to find himself. Later found out during that time we had texted,and during his self journey, he had a girl, broke my heart twice since she cheated on him wit someone else and he lied. Thanks man for this vid it was pretty much applicable to what I went through. Kat hugs for komfort
My Gf broke up with me 5 hours ago because she thought we should just be friends and she wanted to focus on herself. So stay strong, guys. Also, I'll update this if i get better 💀
Broke up with my wife of 15 years have 2 beautiful girls and now 8 months of loneliness later I’m still just so heartbroken and don’t wanna do anything! It’s hard to move on for me , my family moved on and it just hurts more and makes me not wanna do anything ! I need advice keep making this videos to help ppl like me …
@@eelizabethrosas thank you it means a lot , isn’t it easier for women to move on with there life tho? Us men struggle more with things like this and it’s harder for us to move on ! I just want you to know that if you need someone to talk to I’m just one RUclips msg away, let’s get over this pain together with a lil bit of gods help we’ll be good.
@@G.Ramirez86 to be quite honest, im not sure if women get over it easier. this is my first actual heartbreak, so im on this journey for my first time. also, thank you! i appreciate the kind gesture! my youtube msg is always open too! id suggest you finding a hobby that will distract your mind! i’ll be praying for the both of us too 🥺
@@eelizabethrosas well my ex moved on quick so I just feel like women do move on quicker. I’m sorry your dealing with something this painful cause I know it hurts, well maybe we can both help each other cause only god knows why he put our path together on this road we call life, and no need to thank me that’s just who I am. Okay I’ll keep msg’n you cause I need ppl to talk to I have no one lol. Yea ima start hitting the gym and go get some counseling, I will pray that you heal ASAP! 🙏
@@G.Ramirez86 i appreciate the kind words so much! i think its different for everyone when it comes to moving on. i guess we all just heal and figure it all out within time. and thats fine i dont mind! here in the comments lol? and i def think that would help you!
Thank you so much Shimon. I’ve been struggling through my breakup a lot recently and I really needed to hear these truths. Please keep up your great work, you are seriously helping people out here man. I hope for nothing but the absolute best for you bro.
I messed up. I miss her so much but I can’t beat myself up. I’m taking things day by day but it’s been tough. I know God won’t put me through anything he knows I can’t handle. I’m accepting reality and bettering myself more than ever now.
I needed this been with an alcholic for 7years and we just broke up for good im in a very empty place, but i Know God is a great God and he will keep me. I also pray he gets the help he needs
@@cynjay8734 I see you & I am inspired by you-thank you for sharing ❤️❤️ your faith will guide you and God has a wonderful plan for you ❤️❤️ and you are very loved ❤️❤️
I appreciate you. I just started my healing process but then a friend of mine came up with an Idea that i should get into another relationship but then i refused because I had a feeling that I need to heal on my own rather than getting into another relationship. Thanks so much for this message😊😊
I’ve been in a state of arrested development since September. Part of that was the girl I was seeing breaking things off but there were a lot of factors. It wasn’t long but it was my first and only so rather than processing it I focused all my energy into school. But because I ignored my emotions for so long, now that school has been over for me I’m working through them now. I feel like I’m better than I’ve been in a while though it could be that I’ve been in the tunnel so long the light seems brighter than it usually is. This seems long and rambling and pointless but this video helped me put words to things I was struggling to express to myself so thank you.
we broke up today. i'll try my best and try to be strong. i loved him and ge loved me. and thars where it ended. im only here because i was going in and out of sleep and needed some voice of realization as i was going into a spiral. thank you.
“stay true to the journey, everything’s gonna be alright” last Friday i prayed for my relationship to heal and become stronger than ever and the next day we broke up. i was angry at first but after letting tears out and getting blessings i realized my prayer was answered and it’s happened for a reason.
my bf broke up with me yesterday, it feels so lonely and empty now, I remember him telling me that he loved me and called me beautiful, but after we broke up, he just didn’t look back, it’s all because of my fault, I didn’t text him even if he told me that I didn’t annoy him when I text him first, unfortunately not texting everyday led to a break up, but he did show some red flags, he liked another girl during our relationship together and he wouldn’t give me his account when I gave him mines, I don’t think I will heal, I told my friend "he truly loved me" but she said "if he truly loved you, then why did he left you?" And that made me realize all the things he has done, he was forever "sweet".
For everyone going through this, I want you to know your not alone and this feeling that you have of being sad and more won't last forever have hope that you will feel okay again and even better, I also want you to know that God loves you and there I salvation In the Lord Jesus Christ and peace and love, in God you wil find what true fulfillment and satisfaction is and I pray this for everyone that reads this and around the world and if you feel alone, I think that's okay I feel like we depend a lot on people for our comfort and time but really we should be focusing on God who can fill that emptiness in our heart with his love and joy, and even if you had no on to talk to for a while you won't feel lonely anymore, and God knows that it's bad to be lonely for a long time so he will give you friends that help and uplift you and you to them also
Aw man this comes at the best time ever. Did the same you did, started creating art again, doing self care, changing everything about my life even my job to something more fulfilling soon. Love yourself everybody
We broke things off 2 hours ago, I have never felt this empty in my life. This will be a hard process to overcome, but i will find myself. Thank you for this video man.
i coundlt have found you at a better time in my life thank you for making these videos and opoening my eyes you are doing gods work and the world would be lovley place if everyone took the time like you do to make other people see that they are worthy of living thank you for everything you have done and will do for me
For one i just came across your channel today. You’re real genuine my guy and your words are pure. I broke up with my girlfriend about a month ago and this video really told me what i gotta do. Thank you my guy✊🏽
This helped me out a lot after my break up I really appreciate it I was crying like crazy then I calmed down after this video and I feel normal again them bro
I have yet to experience this, but I really appreciate you preparing me for it. I have recently started to talk to someone, I hope it doesn't happen to me. Have a great day man.
I wasn't really in a relationship but I was talking to this girl from January to March and we decided to end things, but I wanted her back so I confessed I had feelings for her and we agreed to try better this time. For a good 2 weeks I was giving my all, but she was starting to fade away. Eventually she told me she can't do it. I still follow her on everything but she made sure to unfollow me on everything, even my friends. Her friends also unfollowed me, not that it matters, but I still follow all of them bc I'm not the type to shut someone out completely. So its been a month I think and I'm for some reason still not over her? You think I would be because we didn't even date, but I have friends who are in or getting into relationships and it's making me miss her more and more. I'll 1000% support my friends but I'm jealous and kinda wish they would shut up about how great their gf or bf is because it makes me stay up at night and wonder to myself what could have been with her...
Thanks for this talk. even tho these are well known things, but here I am, searching on youtube for videos on how to get through a breakup, because it really feels sucks inside. and somehow, the same words, with the same meaning that I hear from everyone else , felt more impactful coming from you. My eyes even got a bit wet at one point! What I’m trying to say is that I appreciate you sharing this video, it resonated with me more than anything else so far. and of course, I hit like and left a comment, even though you didn’t ask for it in the video. Cheers!
I hope you’ll understand that I’m trying to free myself from RUclips and such. And actually use the advice within myself, aswell as the advice you gave me
I just got broken up with about two weeks ago. We were together for about a year and I loved him literally with my whole heart and after we broke up he told me he stopped loving me months ago. I’m not mad at his loss of feelings I’m just mad at myself for still loving him. this is the first time I’ve ever gone through something like this and it’s been absolute hell. This vid really has made me a little more hopeful. :)
Man, thank you so much for this. It truly is such a process. I'm seeing this as a learning curve as this is my first ever break up. It's hard, but I'm grateful for all that has happened and learning to neither blame them nor me, but to just accept and move on.
First breakup for me too. Ended a little over 3 weeks ago for me. Saw her again 2 days ago to trade clothes and I started to dig myself back in the hole. We got this.
we were forced apart by our parents bc we’re toxic. we both did a lot of shit but we weren’t ready to leave. maybe it was attachment but despite everything i went through with him, the control and manipulation, i wanted it to be him. i can’t imagine seeing him with someone else, n my mom blocked him on everything and spies on my phone to make sure we’re not in contact. i feel like i won’t find someone ever who will treat me right and match my type
@@JenifferAlmanza-f3r damnn two years, it was 6 months for me. he still secretly contacts me atm and i wonder if i should respond knowing how much he disturbed my peace or choose me. But like if i choose me i know he’ll move on and maybe i will too and we’ll never talk again. I’m stuck on the potential of us 😭
Girlllll I am on the same boat. I’m like spazzing not gonna lie lol. 8 years on dis side and so toxic but i literally don’t know what to do and how to stop being sad. Don’t worry tho god got us, we gonna be good 🩷
She is the first person that I ever gave 100%, i fantasized a future with them, she was my best friend, every moment I thought of her and wanted to spend time with her. And now it is done, and I tried, but I know the right thing to do is let her go, and love the time we had, but it’s hard. So I need to heal, and need to fill the void in myself and get back to my happy loving self, Arlin, I pray for your happiness and success, thank you for our love
We tried a long distance relationship because he said he was fine w it even though I knew he isnt. I wanted it to work out so bad because i promised that it would be worth it to wait for us but he didnt. I asked to fix things, to talk deeply about it but he didnt. Man i wish he understood.
Thank you for this. I’m no stranger to heartbreak, but we can all get better at bouncing back & evolving through the pain… this video is insightful and soothing. Bless your heart. 🙏
Texted? I feel like it is the most brutal way to say goodbye. It's like you never cared that much. The last thing you could do was to at least say it to her face.
I really needed this :( got out of a relationship few days ago don’t miss the relashionship but feel more lonely, I wanted to be friends but idk if he rlly wants to
Woah dawg I didn’t know you blew up like this. I remember watching your “Pornography ruined my life” vid and you ain’t have this many followers. Just wanted to say congrats on the growth and I appreciate your advice it has really helped me grow 😤 God Bless big dawg🙏
I broke up with her because we were arguing. It took almost 2 months to realize what I lost and I ended up being the heartbroken one in the end. I didn't accept how much I missed her until a couple days ago, and it's been the most pain I've gone through in a long time. I hope everyone heals from their breakups because I didn't know love could hurt this bad.
It just hard to remember the bad things, when you're getting over break up. Because you're missing this person. But, if you would have a chance to go back together it would be the same and you won't be happy. I'm going through the same right now and I can completely understand how are you feeling now. Let's just try to give ourselves the same support that our exes have given for us and we're going to be ok!!
I got cheated on about 2 months ago but I’m doing better for my self.if anyone going through it trust me I know it’s hard but you got to remember they chose to do that so don’t get worked up on it life moves on you should to and yes it will be hard but if you work on yourself and don’t take life for granted you will be much happier
it kind of just struck me out of nowhere but you were talking about going back to the things you like to do and being urself and it made me think.. what do i even like to do by myself? i work most of the time and on my days off i’d either be with my ex or with my friends.. crazy how you don’t even know urself sometimes
I dumped my boyfriend for loving another girl and it was his best friend which made it even worse I have never been in love like that and I’m glad I watched this video
i just got broken up with 2 nights ago, and it hurts so damn much. right now, it's so hard to get back to myself when i have built who i am with someone who I thought ill end up with in my life. i dont have the energy or capacity to start up again. what's also worse are the regrets and love i still have left. it's so difficult for me to admit that i have so much mistakes that i did in the relationship which hurt him. and i dont think i can forgive myself for doing so (even if i didn't intend to). i miss him so much, he's the only person, one true person in my life. i want to beg for him to stay, to choose and love me again, but there's no one there anymore. he has let go of me and it hurts so much. now i keep searching on these types of contents as i dont have anything in my mind rn but hurt and sadness, im now so clueless on how to do life again bc i had this established routine with him and now it's gone. thank you for your advices and words of wisdom. idk what ill do now
Personally I’ve always been had a void not from a breakup just in general i was looking for love it’s not until I got with my girlfriend is when I learned that my void is my own to fill and I can’t have someone else’s love to fill mine and I’m still learning tbh I’m greatful for the person who I’m with hoping things last with her
I ended my relationship with my gf almost a month ago. I feel I made a big mistake I was so stressed and clouded in my thoughts. She cared about me so much and loved me with every part of her. I don’t think I’ll ever find someone like her again. I just want to see her again. She says we need time. She added nothing but value to my life and I couldn’t see it.
This is what my boyfriend admitted to me before he left me last night, and now im here. I’m trying to understand from his side of things and why he did what he did when he knew that all I did was care and love him so deeply like no one did before. I don’t even know why im replying to this but it was a perfect example of what happened. If you don’t mind me asking, how are things now? I’m not sure how I can get through this.
@@meliakyal8233 it’s really tough. We haven’t talked in 4 weeks. I really wanted to try this again I really did but I don’t think she wants to cause I hurt her so bad. I wanted to say things in person but idk if I’ll ever get that now. She’s probably angry
I messed things up cuz i was scared he'd abandoned me since we're in a long distance relationship. He was the only person that's always patient w me, and i didnt even realize the damage that I've done to him. I promised to him im a changed person now but he's not sure. He said he still wants to be friends and that he doesn't hate me, but he's been acting cold and replies really slow, so idk. Today's his birthday, i just wish him all the best. Wish i can fix things up and that at least we can talk face to face maybe for the last time..
Shimon I thank you for the powerful message. You are a very mature young man. Continue to influence everyone but especially young people who want to fill that void with another person or thing rather than understanding that it’s a time to work on ourselves. Blessings to you! 🙏🏼
I just ended a relationship of one year yesterday. It’s sucks cause we were both at fault and couldn’t see a future together. I miss leaving work and calling him to talking every night. But I’m also glad cause I was able to read again. My desire of reading is slowly coming back.
I just got out of a relationship and i am at the point of not even looking at a girl but when watching this video it calmed me down a little but that doesn’t mean I’m quickly going to look for someone else
thank you sm man, my gf broke up with me 2 months ago, and i can t get over her, but today i saw your video and im gonna change, at least i will try to forget her, but i think that s impossible
Just separated with my wife after 13 years. I wasn’t a good man for a while. We both made a lot of mistakes. Got married at 19 and 20 without knowing what marriage really was. 13 years and 3 kids later we’re splitting. Hardest thing I’ve ever been through.
still being in love with somebody that you thought loved you from the beginning really hurts it hurt more than anything because i wasted my time, love, and energy on that person .
I have literally never read a more reliable comment ever
Yup. Just two days ago I found out my crush was leading me on this whole time for two and a half years. For two and a half years he pretended to like me back and he says it was because he "didn't want to hurt my feelings"
I've honestly never been so hurt in my life because I genuinely thought he actually liked me back all this time.
@@oswaldtheluckywolfAnd when they say it's to "not hurt your feelings," that's usually not true either. Most of the time they liked the attention, the adoration, the love even, and they knew leading us on was wrong. But they were selfish, and they put the ego boost they got from all our love, and valued it more then us or our well being. It's god awful, because it doesn't just mean that our love was for nothing, it means that it served for their selfish desire for validation, because they hadn't done the work needed to be done on improving themselves and loving themselves.
It's horrible. I know the pain. Stag strong though! You deserve someone that values you, not just your attention and adoration, and that is willing to give you what you give them. You are loved, kind stranger
@@simonus5039 Tysm 🫶
I was dating this guy for a whole year and now he’s saying that he wanted to escape me and idk how to feel anymore bc I still love him so much
my bf broke up with me two days ago. i feel so alone, i loved him so much, he was also my bestfriend and the ONLY person i had, no one else was there for me like this man was. we had our problems but i was always willing to fight for him and us, but he just didn't want too anymore. it hurts, it really does especially when you've visioned and planned your whole life with this person. anyways, i came to watch some healing videos bc i have no idea how to move on, how to feel, how to think but coming across this video and reading some of the comments, it does give a little reassurance. ofc it doesn't make the pain hurt any less but i still appreciate it and i just hope one day i can come back to this and not feel the pain.
how are you feeling now? im going through the same thing and I literally feel like the world is ending, I don’t know what to do to feel better
The way I could have written this comment. I'm hurting so bad rn, but I wish you the best. I am not afraid of being alone but I am afraid of losing him. He's my best friend 💔💔💔
hey how are you doing now? i am going through literally this exact same thing i hope it gets better it will get better right now i feel hopeless but i still have hope i hope your doing better now please update us if you can
@@yoshamii hii i hope you are doing well or at least get better for you soon! i wanted to say that yes things have gotten a lot better for me mentally. it’s only been two months since the breakup and i feel like i KNOW myself again and decided to appreciate my own presence bc before it was 10x harder. allow yourself to feel emotions, it takes time for the pain to hurt a little less but the more you start focusing on yourself and working on you, the faster the healing process could be! find new hobbies, meet new people, get into new habits, try things outside of your comfort box! good luck ❤️
@eelizabethrosas I hope you doing better we can talk if you want
While i disagree with trying to not cry, i agree with not reminiscing too much, or really at all. Also, "forget the teacher, remember the lesson" is absolutely amazing advice.
definitely don’t hold in crying … I don’t believe said that. If I did, my apologies. I think I said don’t listen to sad music but if you feel the need to cry and let it out then do that but try not to dabble in the sad music thing. I appreciate the support and much love to you❤️
What music would you recommend? If you dont mind me asking @@AskShimon
@@myxchyyuna2292 feel it by d4vd is a pretty good song
@@AskShimonexactly. It’s a nasty rabbits hole. Get over the hard part first. I think the worst is behind me now.
reading these comments makes me feel less alone. it makes me realize that if everyone in this comment section can do it, I can too. everyone can get over it, even if it doesn't feel like it now, I know it'll be okay.
I believe in you! I know you can do it!
@ I needed this 🥹
i’m hurting, i have no energy for anyone and anything. i feel so alone and empty with no sense of direction and all i want is to be with him. to be in his arms, to feel his warmth presence. i don’t want to let him go.. he’s been a light in my life. his presence alone has saved me from a deep point in my life. he means everything to me. i think about him 24/7 and sometimes i forcibly distract myself from processing it. i seek love and friendship, he was my only true friend. don’t have anyone else. i really don’t know what to do..
i am so miserable.
I have no advice to give, but I'm so sorry, boo🥺🥺🫂🫂 You'll get thru this rough patch!
you are not miserable girl. I feel you. just know u are not alone. and u will feel better its just the matter of time. remember that u haven't experienced much better things in life yet. wait for them. I know its hard. much power to you!! :(
I understand. Truly I understand. But you must not run from the pain. You need to face it head on, let it wash over you, and keep moving. Grief is like the ocean, sometimes the waves are violent, sometimes it is completely still. Happiness is also fleeting. So cherish the times that were shared but don’t remain in a place that no longer exists in the present. Your world is so much bigger than you can even imagine. It will take time, and there is no deadline. But you must continue to love yourself the way you love others, even when you don’t feel like it. That is how you will come out the other side without drowning. And I’m saying all this to remind myself as well, because my world just turned upside down too. I am right there with you
@@selxwrld You ain
my bf dumped me a week ago at my most vulnerable tym , i loved him so much and id do anything for him . i begged him so many times to to fix things we experienced a small issue , but he decided to leave me and refused fixing things , i thought maybe maybe i was a problem but i noticed that if he really loved me , he would have done anything and i mean anything to fix our relationship but he didnt that gave me courage to step back a little and focus on my books . i was still grieving our relationship and he had already had a new girlfriend in mind . i was hurt coz i was so loyal to him. i hope my heart heals , i deserve better
@@NokukhanyaNdlovu-s3x ❤️❤️❤️ you absolutely deserve love & respect ❤️ you’re life has meaning & you are worthwhile-no one can ever take that away from you. I hope you find some comfort & peace & know that you are always loved ❤️❤️❤️
Hey, how are you doing we are going through almost the exact same thing he broke up with me 4 days ago I’m in so much pain. I wouldn’t stop expressing to him about the things he didn’t do, he got tired of it and left me and now he follows all the girls he used to follow again even the ones I had doubts on my heart aches I feel like I’m never gonna heal and feel better again
@@joyceballen hey love hope you are well ❤️. Trust me you will heal ,I believe if he loved you so much he wouldn't have left and. Tym for crying over these boys is over,I started loving myself more after he left and he came back crawling after giving him no contact and i tried my best not to think about him, try this you'll feel better soon trust the process ❤️❤️❤️🎀
@@NokukhanyaNdlovu-s3xjust wanted to tell you that you are so strong. I’m going through a breakup right now and your words that he crawled back and u still chose yourself made me so proud of you. Thank u for letting know that time heals. I believe you will meet your person who will be always by your side. Thank u ,love ❤
Same. I was in more of a situationship where I fell for him and we were together everyday talked everyday. All along he had a backup and with her telling me that I mishandled him and it just broke me feeling at fault. I thought we had so much more to work on us to make things official. Now I’m afraid that I’ve lost him for good to another women to where he’ll forget about me. I’ve been grieving so bad first three weeks were painful I couldn’t eat nor sleep. Just pain all over. I’m trying to heal and let go. 😢
The relationship was going through a heavy decline, we broke up last night and I finally cried. I have confidence I can get through this because of you now. Thank you dude.
I almost killed myself yesterday because she broke up with me. She was my everything. Thank you for posting this, it means a lot to me
You matter ❤ keep going. It gets better
I'm sorry to hear this, even though it feels scary and very sad it does get better. I'm almost a year in and I do feel tremendously better than I sis within the first few months.
Try to get some sun, go out with friends, and lightly date when you're ready.
22 year old marriage ended 2 weeks ago. She was my only and best friend. It’s sucks. I feel like my world has wended. But it really has hasn’t. I don’t feel this but I know this. Hang in there. No thoughts of hurting yourself. That’s ridiculous. We will get through this.
I’m glad you’re still here, you’re comment had impact, you’re presence has impact. You matter. You have value. Even if she could not see that❤❤❤
Love this guy fr
My gf broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago. When this video dropped and I saw it, ngl it made my heart sank again. It comes back every now and then. But now, I’m starting to feel a bit better day by day and slowly, I’m starting to get back into drawing. Making art has been one of the few things that made me feel comfort, but i still appreciate reminders like this. So thank you.❤
Jesus can heal you please God loves you believe and pray and he can help you
Please stop with these Jesus comments. He is not a cult. Plus how do you know this person is Christian? You can't force people to believe in a religion. It's a religion. Face reality. Only you can heal yourself. If you want to believe that Jesus will heal you, then that's something YOU should do. Nobody else. Nobody needs to hear about Jesus during their breakup.
how are you feeling?
@@mayajasinski5972 you just had to post this like @ASTR0-90z was just trying to be encouraging and you just hating man. do better bro God bless
I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. He would always compare me to another girl. And since i started talking to him all my friends have been ignoring me. They may be jealous i dont know. All i know is now that im isolated i have more time to focus and learn about me. I trust in Gods plan, and slowly starting to trust myself. ❤
I believe in you
The hardest thing i’m dealing with. Is being alone :/
Same but uh just feeling unlovable and alone for me :D
@@Silent-hill-y4kFor everyone going through this, I want you to know your not alone and this feeling that you have of being sad and more won't last forever have hope that you will feel okay again and even better, I also want you to know that God loves you and there I salvation In the Lord Jesus Christ and peace and love, in God you wil find what true fulfillment and satisfaction is and I pray this for everyone that reads this and around the world and if you feel alone, I think that's okay I feel like we depend a lot on people for our comfort and time but really we should be focusing on God who can fill that emptiness in our heart with his love and joy, and even if you had no on to talk to for a while you won't feel lonely anymore, and God knows that it's bad to be lonely for a long time so he will give you friends that help and uplift you and you to them also
@@Silent-hill-y4kFor everyone going through this, I want you to know your not alone and this feeling that you have of being sad and more won't last forever have hope that you will feel okay again and even better, I also want you to know that God loves you and there I salvation In the Lord Jesus Christ and peace and love, in God you wil find what true fulfillment and satisfaction is and I pray this for everyone that reads this and around the world and if you feel alone, I think that's okay I feel like we depend a lot on people for our comfort and time but really we should be focusing on God who can fill that emptiness in our heart with his love and joy, and even if you had no on to talk to for a while you won't feel lonely anymore, and God knows that it's bad to be lonely for a long time so he will give you friends that help and uplift you and you to them also
Go to the gym there people with the same problems
@@gabisilekubeka5503 how ab you go to the gym
no lies here. i started putting in so much work and loving myself a lot more after i broke up with her. i can’t even recognize who i am at this point. i’ve grown so much and i love it! (ps: if you’re going through a break up, remember it’s a break from the world for you to take yourself back up😉)
@@joelbenjamin5947 thank you for sharing-finding your comment at a time when I definitely needed a reminder of that last part ❤️ here’s to you being your best you & thank you for the encouragement 💕✨
2 days almost 3 have passed and I’m now understanding that it’s real. She ain’t coming back. She ain’t going to magically come back…she’s just not here. She saved me and now that angel is…..gone
I still miss her, it’s been 3 months and I continue to blame myself bc if I didn’t do what I did she wouldn’t have been how she was yk? But it’s hard to accept that we’re all humans and we make mistakes but I have hope and faith that one day we’ll cross paths again. I leave it in Gods hands to bring her back all I can do now is elevate myself
hope u doing aight now big bro
fresh off a breakup man. watching this video is perfect for me. you're saying a lot of the things i can do and i do believe they'll get me back on track. thank you for this video
He used me and told me its a casual relationship and my heart sank. Just when i finally let myself be vulnerable, again I find I am never enough
the timing, i ruined a relationship with someone who truly cared for me. i wish i could go back and fix everything but some things just can’t be fixed. i wish her the best in everything. i didn’t deserve her (update. me and her were able to work things out and have been fixing things, im doing everything in my power to be the best man i can. Just happy i have the chance to show her i can be better)
The same goes for me, I also ruined my own relationship because I was selfish. The best way to fix this is to distance yourself from her and become the best version of yourself and learn from your mistakes. There is no “what ifs”, what is done IS done!
I’m sorry to say this, but you must learn the hard way and suffer, that’s the only way you can grow as a person. You got this jarred, I know you can do this. You will find peace.
If it’s meant to be she will comeback, if not then it’s okay because god has different plans for you.
@@Nirvanzia41 Needed to hear this. Thank you got this . Maybe one day but i need to fix myself. 🙏🏽
I lost mine too, same reasons I suspect. She was so cute. yah anyway bruh, tears come and go, spirit becomes less judgemental and selfish
Smae goes with me bro. I don’t wanna go in depth cuz I know I will break down. She gave me so many chances to change and stop treating her poorly and I never took her seriously. We even went on a lil break for a week to sort things out and even that didn’t work. I wish everyday I could go back and fix it after she broke up with me a week ago. I can’t stand to even look at her at school anymore. It breaks my heart walking past her as a stranger now. I still love her but she fell out of love because I pushed her away by being an asshole
@@darkfoxy4711 I’m sorry to tell you this bro, but you must move on. Your actions spoke louder than words, you are in despair because you have a lot of regrets on those actions you did.
You must learn the hard way, and learn from your mistakes whether you like or not. You can’t go back in the past because what is done is done.
The best thing to do is to improve on yourself and become a better person. You have learned something. Experience.
If you do not learn from those mistakes you committed with your relationship you will be in more despair, and that will mean you haven’t learned anything through your actions.
I believe you will find peace and solution, believe in yourself and become the best version of yourself by going through hardships and growing as a person.
Without despair and suffering there is no growth.
Well, my breakup isn't recent (happened a year ago), but I always struggle getting over such things for a long periods of time. Many thanks, you've saved me a few more years of quiet misery.
i literally just got broken up with yesterday this is crazy timing.
think what i'll do for now is continue to just be positive and work on myself because someone better and who's more deserving of my love will come around. I'll miss her still of course but i ain't letting this hold me back from my growth
How’s it going?
@@SoldMyV8 it's going great actually, I'm pretty much moved on, focusing on my own well being and pursuing my own goals and aspirations in life, thanks for checking in with me g i appreciate it. Take care and God bless 🙌
To everyone here going through this, keep your head up and let’s find something in life that makes sense to us…
It's taken me a year and 8 months to finally move forward. I've been going on nature walks, I did get a guitar to add to my music hobby and I go to the gym. Right now, it's been a balance of doing those things plus times of inner healing. It hasn't been easy but now I can finally give myself what I gave her
No shot, this is the best video timing ever. Thank you
How are things going
I hate that I fucked everything up I just wish she had been more empathetic to what I was going through at the time. I just hope she valued what we had together
i fucked up too, horribly. but i wanted to fix things and get better but i'm just such a broken person, i lost myself in the relationship, i poured too much of myself in the relationship i lost myself and forgot to take care of myself and love myself. then i did the unforgivable because i was confused, i let my emotions take over. i miss what we had
“Forget the teacher remember the lesson” is golden. We lived in the beginning, but down the line he stopped being interested and neglected my heart, i felt broken. He still thought of me, but he never ever showed it. I felt worthless after investing everything into him. Going from lovers and feeling like we were each other’s halves to strangers is harrowing; heartbreaking. I’m learning to refocus around myself after a breakup on top of some recent traumas. You’re a real one
The way my ex broke things off with me just recently destroyed me, she found someone better in about a week time. Things were tough but I still loved her deeply, now she doesn’t love me anymore and it feels like life is over. I know I gotta move forward but I’m stuck in constant state of denial, suffering, emptiness and pain. I can’t hate her despite what she did, I really love her.
I am so sorry to hear this! I hope you feel better soon, sending you lots of love ❤ everything will be fine
im going through the same thing. how are you now?
The hardest thing I’ve experienced so far is all the little things that remind me of him. All the little things we did together and all the gifts he bought me. Everything is just a painful reminder that he’s gone. I needed to see this today. Thank you💌
I’m going thru the same thing. Me and my ex broke up today and I feel like I can’t stop crying. It just annoys me so much because every time I close my eyes and try to sleep I can’t bcs I see him or think about things that’s remind me of him, a part of me still can’t believe that’s we’re done. I just miss him so unbelievably much, it actually pains my heart. I hope things work out for you tho 🫶🏻
What a great time posting this. She broke up with me a week ago and I haven’t been the same since. She was my everything and a part of me still feels missing. I’ve been pursing my passion for Music and skating more now and have become closer with my family and friends over the last week to fill the void
My girlfriend left me on September 27. Even though we both had our differences, even though I was the one who received disrespect from her and didn't say anything for fear of starting a fight or argument, I loved her, I loved her and because of that love I didn't give up on her and the relationship, I always tried to be better and try to help her heal, it wasn't my job but FOR LOVE, I wanted to do it. What hurts the most is that I gave her my body (it was my first time with a woman), a few days before she broke up with me, so now I am dealing with confusing feelings, more than anything, I feel used. I miss her, but I know she hurt me, I just wanted her to get better for herself and because she deserved love, she deserved love.
Had some type of situation ship for like 2 years, I was the one that had to stop it since I realised the effort wasn’t equal and he told me he was on a journey to find himself. Later found out during that time we had texted,and during his self journey, he had a girl, broke my heart twice since she cheated on him wit someone else and he lied. Thanks man for this vid it was pretty much applicable to what I went through. Kat hugs for komfort
My Gf broke up with me 5 hours ago because she thought we should just be friends and she wanted to focus on herself. So stay strong, guys. Also, I'll update this if i get better 💀
I hope you are doing better
Broke up with my wife of 15 years have 2 beautiful girls and now 8 months of loneliness later I’m still just so heartbroken and don’t wanna do anything! It’s hard to move on for me , my family moved on and it just hurts more and makes me not wanna do anything ! I need advice keep making this videos to help ppl like me …
i hope things get better for you! remember you are not alone, im right there with you
@@eelizabethrosas thank you it means a lot , isn’t it easier for women to move on with there life tho? Us men struggle more with things like this and it’s harder for us to move on ! I just want you to know that if you need someone to talk to I’m just one RUclips msg away, let’s get over this pain together with a lil bit of gods help we’ll be good.
@@G.Ramirez86 to be quite honest, im not sure if women get over it easier. this is my first actual heartbreak, so im on this journey for my first time. also, thank you! i appreciate the kind gesture! my youtube msg is always open too! id suggest you finding a hobby that will distract your mind! i’ll be praying for the both of us too 🥺
@@eelizabethrosas well my ex moved on quick so I just feel like women do move on quicker. I’m sorry your dealing with something this painful cause I know it hurts, well maybe we can both help each other cause only god knows why he put our path together on this road we call life, and no need to thank me that’s just who I am. Okay I’ll keep msg’n you cause I need ppl to talk to I have no one lol. Yea ima start hitting the gym and go get some counseling, I will pray that you heal ASAP! 🙏
@@G.Ramirez86 i appreciate the kind words so much! i think its different for everyone when it comes to moving on. i guess we all just heal and figure it all out within time. and thats fine i dont mind! here in the comments lol? and i def think that would help you!
Thank you so much Shimon. I’ve been struggling through my breakup a lot recently and I really needed to hear these truths. Please keep up your great work, you are seriously helping people out here man. I hope for nothing but the absolute best for you bro.
Thank you for helping me . I’m going through it myself and I can’t wait to look back on this when I’m happy again.
I messed up. I miss her so much but I can’t beat myself up. I’m taking things day by day but it’s been tough. I know God won’t put me through anything he knows I can’t handle. I’m accepting reality and bettering myself more than ever now.
I needed this been with an alcholic for 7years and we just broke up for good im in a very empty place, but i Know God is a great God and he will keep me. I also pray he gets the help he needs
@@cynjay8734 I see you & I am inspired by you-thank you for sharing ❤️❤️ your faith will guide you and God has a wonderful plan for you ❤️❤️ and you are very loved ❤️❤️
I appreciate you. I just started my healing process but then a friend of mine came up with an Idea that i should get into another relationship but then i refused because I had a feeling that I need to heal on my own rather than getting into another relationship. Thanks so much for this message😊😊
I’ve been in a state of arrested development since September. Part of that was the girl I was seeing breaking things off but there were a lot of factors. It wasn’t long but it was my first and only so rather than processing it I focused all my energy into school. But because I ignored my emotions for so long, now that school has been over for me I’m working through them now. I feel like I’m better than I’ve been in a while though it could be that I’ve been in the tunnel so long the light seems brighter than it usually is. This seems long and rambling and pointless but this video helped me put words to things I was struggling to express to myself so thank you.
Shimon with the IMPECCABLE timing 😭
Nah literally
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always
Update?
@@SoldMyV8still not better lol 😂 it’ll take time depending on the person
we broke up today. i'll try my best and try to be strong. i loved him and ge loved me. and thars where it ended. im only here because i was going in and out of sleep and needed some voice of realization as i was going into a spiral. thank you.
“stay true to the journey, everything’s gonna be alright”
last Friday i prayed for my relationship to heal and become stronger than ever and the next day we broke up. i was angry at first but after letting tears out and getting blessings i realized my prayer was answered and it’s happened for a reason.
Almost been a month now, she found someone else after 2 weeks and i see them together all the time, it really breaks me everytime i see it
I’m so sorry! I hope you are in a better place now ❤
my bf broke up with me yesterday, it feels so lonely and empty now, I remember him telling me that he loved me and called me beautiful, but after we broke up, he just didn’t look back, it’s all because of my fault, I didn’t text him even if he told me that I didn’t annoy him when I text him first, unfortunately not texting everyday led to a break up, but he did show some red flags, he liked another girl during our relationship together and he wouldn’t give me his account when I gave him mines, I don’t think I will heal, I told my friend "he truly loved me" but she said "if he truly loved you, then why did he left you?" And that made me realize all the things he has done, he was forever "sweet".
For everyone going through this, I want you to know your not alone and this feeling that you have of being sad and more won't last forever have hope that you will feel okay again and even better, I also want you to know that God loves you and there I salvation In the Lord Jesus Christ and peace and love, in God you wil find what true fulfillment and satisfaction is and I pray this for everyone that reads this and around the world and if you feel alone, I think that's okay I feel like we depend a lot on people for our comfort and time but really we should be focusing on God who can fill that emptiness in our heart with his love and joy, and even if you had no on to talk to for a while you won't feel lonely anymore, and God knows that it's bad to be lonely for a long time so he will give you friends that help and uplift you and you to them also
Aw man this comes at the best time ever. Did the same you did, started creating art again, doing self care, changing everything about my life even my job to something more fulfilling soon. Love yourself everybody
My first love just broke my heart for something I cannot control and I really needed this thank you
Brother this is god-sent timing thanks a ton for ur amazing content you have no idea how many people ur helping💕🙏
We broke things off 2 hours ago, I have never felt this empty in my life. This will be a hard process to overcome, but i will find myself. Thank you for this video man.
i coundlt have found you at a better time in my life thank you for making these videos and opoening my eyes you are doing gods work and the world would be lovley place if everyone took the time like you do to make other people see that they are worthy of living thank you for everything you have done and will do for me
For one i just came across your channel today. You’re real genuine my guy and your words are pure. I broke up with my girlfriend about a month ago and this video really told me what i gotta do. Thank you my guy✊🏽
This helped me out a lot after my break up I really appreciate it I was crying like crazy then I calmed down after this video and I feel normal again them bro
im going through a breakup with a friend group and honestly this helped too even if it were in regards to a romantic relationship
Damn... dropping a video like this when I need it most.
Man after losing my relationship of 5 years a few days ago your words are powerful. Much love to you brother
I have yet to experience this, but I really appreciate you preparing me for it. I have recently started to talk to someone, I hope it doesn't happen to me. Have a great day man.
I wasn't really in a relationship but I was talking to this girl from January to March and we decided to end things, but I wanted her back so I confessed I had feelings for her and we agreed to try better this time. For a good 2 weeks I was giving my all, but she was starting to fade away. Eventually she told me she can't do it. I still follow her on everything but she made sure to unfollow me on everything, even my friends. Her friends also unfollowed me, not that it matters, but I still follow all of them bc I'm not the type to shut someone out completely. So its been a month I think and I'm for some reason still not over her? You think I would be because we didn't even date, but I have friends who are in or getting into relationships and it's making me miss her more and more. I'll 1000% support my friends but I'm jealous and kinda wish they would shut up about how great their gf or bf is because it makes me stay up at night and wonder to myself what could have been with her...
Spoke to me deeply and eased my grief thank you so much ❤️❤️✨
Thanks for this talk. even tho these are well known things, but here I am, searching on youtube for videos on how to get through a breakup, because it really feels sucks inside. and somehow, the same words, with the same meaning that I hear from everyone else , felt more impactful coming from you. My eyes even got a bit wet at one point! What I’m trying to say is that I appreciate you sharing this video, it resonated with me more than anything else so far. and of course, I hit like and left a comment, even though you didn’t ask for it in the video. Cheers!
For a young one you articulate yourself so well. Love when you talked about the love songs " wrap it up"
I hope you’ll understand that I’m trying to free myself from RUclips and such. And actually use the advice within myself, aswell as the advice you gave me
I needed this and thank you.... wrote your quote on my whiteboard. "Forget the teacher, remember the lesson." Powerful! Keep this content coming.
I just got broken up with about two weeks ago. We were together for about a year and I loved him literally with my whole heart and after we broke up he told me he stopped loving me months ago. I’m not mad at his loss of feelings I’m just mad at myself for still loving him. this is the first time I’ve ever gone through something like this and it’s been absolute hell. This vid really has made me a little more hopeful. :)
Man, thank you so much for this. It truly is such a process. I'm seeing this as a learning curve as this is my first ever break up. It's hard, but I'm grateful for all that has happened and learning to neither blame them nor me, but to just accept and move on.
First breakup for me too. Ended a little over 3 weeks ago for me. Saw her again 2 days ago to trade clothes and I started to dig myself back in the hole. We got this.
we were forced apart by our parents bc we’re toxic. we both did a lot of shit but we weren’t ready to leave. maybe it was attachment but despite everything i went through with him, the control and manipulation, i wanted it to be him. i can’t imagine seeing him with someone else, n my mom blocked him on everything and spies on my phone to make sure we’re not in contact. i feel like i won’t find someone ever who will treat me right and match my type
Me toooo
I feel so shitty i came from work everyday seen him was with him everyday
For 2 years it hurts so bad
@@JenifferAlmanza-f3r damnn two years, it was 6 months for me. he still secretly contacts me atm and i wonder if i should respond knowing how much he disturbed my peace or choose me. But like if i choose me i know he’ll move on and maybe i will too and we’ll never talk again. I’m stuck on the potential of us 😭
Girlllll I am on the same boat. I’m like spazzing not gonna lie lol. 8 years on dis side and so toxic but i literally don’t know what to do and how to stop being sad. Don’t worry tho god got us, we gonna be good 🩷
She is the first person that I ever gave 100%, i fantasized a future with them, she was my best friend, every moment I thought of her and wanted to spend time with her. And now it is done, and I tried, but I know the right thing to do is let her go, and love the time we had, but it’s hard. So I need to heal, and need to fill the void in myself and get back to my happy loving self, Arlin, I pray for your happiness and success, thank you for our love
We tried a long distance relationship because he said he was fine w it even though I knew he isnt. I wanted it to work out so bad because i promised that it would be worth it to wait for us but he didnt. I asked to fix things, to talk deeply about it but he didnt. Man i wish he understood.
Thank you for this. I’m no stranger to heartbreak, but we can all get better at bouncing back & evolving through the pain… this video is insightful and soothing. Bless your heart. 🙏
This literally popped up after I literally just texted my girl we should be friends. Damn
God Bless
Shimon on that quick timing
Texted? I feel like it is the most brutal way to say goodbye. It's like you never cared that much. The last thing you could do was to at least say it to her face.
@@Martulthis is sadly the world we live in now
She's mine now
I really needed this :( got out of a relationship few days ago don’t miss the relashionship but feel more lonely, I wanted to be friends but idk if he rlly wants to
Woah dawg I didn’t know you blew up like this. I remember watching your “Pornography ruined my life” vid and you ain’t have this many followers. Just wanted to say congrats on the growth and I appreciate your advice it has really helped me grow 😤 God Bless big dawg🙏
That one girl is trying to do the same thing to me again. And you are helping me on the right path
thank you so much you have no idea how much this got my back even if it was for a while .. I hope I can accept letting go
I broke up with her because we were arguing. It took almost 2 months to realize what I lost and I ended up being the heartbroken one in the end. I didn't accept how much I missed her until a couple days ago, and it's been the most pain I've gone through in a long time. I hope everyone heals from their breakups because I didn't know love could hurt this bad.
It just hard to remember the bad things, when you're getting over break up. Because you're missing this person. But, if you would have a chance to go back together it would be the same and you won't be happy. I'm going through the same right now and I can completely understand how are you feeling now. Let's just try to give ourselves the same support that our exes have given for us and we're going to be ok!!
I got cheated on about 2 months ago but I’m doing better for my self.if anyone going through it trust me I know it’s hard but you got to remember they chose to do that so don’t get worked up on it life moves on you should to and yes it will be hard but if you work on yourself and don’t take life for granted you will be much happier
@@Tedros-zy6ch Glad it helped
I don’t know you but I love you brother. Going thru it right now and trying to rediscover my purpose. Thank you for this beautiful message
it kind of just struck me out of nowhere but you were talking about going back to the things you like to do and being urself and it made me think.. what do i even like to do by myself? i work most of the time and on my days off i’d either be with my ex or with my friends.. crazy how you don’t even know urself sometimes
I dumped my boyfriend for loving another girl and it was his best friend which made it even worse I have never been in love like that and I’m glad I watched this video
i just got broken up with 2 nights ago, and it hurts so damn much. right now, it's so hard to get back to myself when i have built who i am with someone who I thought ill end up with in my life. i dont have the energy or capacity to start up again. what's also worse are the regrets and love i still have left. it's so difficult for me to admit that i have so much mistakes that i did in the relationship which hurt him. and i dont think i can forgive myself for doing so (even if i didn't intend to). i miss him so much, he's the only person, one true person in my life. i want to beg for him to stay, to choose and love me again, but there's no one there anymore. he has let go of me and it hurts so much.
now i keep searching on these types of contents as i dont have anything in my mind rn but hurt and sadness, im now so clueless on how to do life again bc i had this established routine with him and now it's gone. thank you for your advices and words of wisdom. idk what ill do now
literally couldn't be more needed rn
Personally I’ve always been had a void not from a breakup just in general i was looking for love it’s not until I got with my girlfriend is when I learned that my void is my own to fill and I can’t have someone else’s love to fill mine and I’m still learning tbh I’m greatful for the person who I’m with hoping things last with her
I love the way you talk ❤ I’m on a healing journey right now❤
You're helping me fill my void bro
I ended my relationship with my gf almost a month ago. I feel I made a big mistake I was so stressed and clouded in my thoughts. She cared about me so much and loved me with every part of her. I don’t think I’ll ever find someone like her again. I just want to see her again. She says we need time. She added nothing but value to my life and I couldn’t see it.
This is what my boyfriend admitted to me before he left me last night, and now im here. I’m trying to understand from his side of things and why he did what he did when he knew that all I did was care and love him so deeply like no one did before. I don’t even know why im replying to this but it was a perfect example of what happened. If you don’t mind me asking, how are things now? I’m not sure how I can get through this.
@@meliakyal8233 it’s really tough. We haven’t talked in 4 weeks. I really wanted to try this again I really did but I don’t think she wants to cause I hurt her so bad. I wanted to say things in person but idk if I’ll ever get that now. She’s probably angry
I messed things up cuz i was scared he'd abandoned me since we're in a long distance relationship. He was the only person that's always patient w me, and i didnt even realize the damage that I've done to him. I promised to him im a changed person now but he's not sure. He said he still wants to be friends and that he doesn't hate me, but he's been acting cold and replies really slow, so idk. Today's his birthday, i just wish him all the best. Wish i can fix things up and that at least we can talk face to face maybe for the last time..
this prolly the best advice i've seen on youtube. thank you bro
Shimon I thank you for the powerful message. You are a very mature young man. Continue to influence everyone but especially young people who want to fill that void with another person or thing rather than understanding that it’s a time to work on ourselves. Blessings to you! 🙏🏼
I know you won’t see this man but I love you bro. You helped me through so much it’s crazy. Yo videos are so relaxing and motivating ❤❤
You’re the best, Shimon.
I just ended a relationship of one year yesterday. It’s sucks cause we were both at fault and couldn’t see a future together. I miss leaving work and calling him to talking every night. But I’m also glad cause I was able to read again. My desire of reading is slowly coming back.
Amazing video in working on healing and good to hear a reminder of what it's all about.
I just got out of a relationship and i am at the point of not even looking at a girl but when watching this video it calmed me down a little but that doesn’t mean I’m quickly going to look for someone else
thank you sm man, my gf broke up with me 2 months ago, and i can t get over her, but today i saw your video and im gonna change, at least i will try to forget her, but i think that s impossible
i ain gon lie you snapped with this video i def needed to hear this
I wish u all the succes in the world !! Ur an awesome human being and we are happy too hear ur thoughts and insight
Thanks man for this I just broke up with my girlfriend yesterday and I stumbled upon this I need to hear this ❤
Thank you! I'm watching your video over and over again.. But it is fresh and it hurts like hell..
i hope he gets to see this video too
Just separated with my wife after 13 years. I wasn’t a good man for a while. We both made a lot of mistakes. Got married at 19 and 20 without knowing what marriage really was. 13 years and 3 kids later we’re splitting. Hardest thing I’ve ever been through.
2 weeks have passed now after 3 years together I'm blocked on everything like I never existed...
i cried during this video, thanks alot dude.
this is so beautiful man, and soo true. Really needed to hear this, thank you!